REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 12, 2017


Talent Vs. Choice, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO181


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In this episode of The Momfucking Ceeo Project, I talk about why I don't do personal mentorship and why the Entrepreneurs Academy is going to be one of the best places to learn and grow as an entrepreneur.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
00:00:14.220 motherfucking ceo guys today is thursday thunder but before we get into thursday thunder a little 0.85
00:00:19.140 housekeeping as you guys know if you've been listening to the podcast we are doing a testimonial
00:00:23.500 contest testimonials are to be less than one minute long video testimonials with the link
00:00:30.160 emailed to testimonials at the mf ceo.com again that's testimonials at the mf ceo.com the prize
00:00:38.960 the prize is a trip to st louis and we're going to pick five people to come to st louis hang out get
00:00:48.040 their questions answered get on the podcast hang out do some fun shit go out to eat at one of my 0.86
00:00:52.980 favorite spots stay at five star accommodations here at the four seasons st louis and have a great
00:00:57.700 time guys submit your testimonials as soon as possible i'm not sure how long we're going to
00:01:03.980 run this contest so don't wait for us to see a deadline now before i get into the thing i want
00:01:12.980 to talk about i want to tell a story i got a dm last night and uh we recorded this episode yesterday
00:01:22.900 and then i text tyler last night i said hey i want to re-record it because i have the story to add to
00:01:28.840 uh what what the theme of what we're talking about is and i got this this uh dm from a young man who is
00:01:37.660 a big fan of the podcast a big fan of the content um and he was asking me to uh come meet me in st louis
00:01:46.760 because he wanted to start a nutritional supplement company uh which is fine you know i'm all four people
00:01:52.560 doing what they want to do um he wrote me five or six messages you know and i asked him i said hey
00:02:00.920 i said what do you hope to gain by coming to meet me here i was just curious okay uh he writes me back
00:02:08.840 man do you know how far i would get if i had you in my corner you know do you know how how good i would
00:02:15.820 be do you know how much money i'd make i'd never let you down this that the other blah blah blah okay
00:02:21.260 that's all good and fine but let me explain to you the problem with with this sort of thing a i don't
00:02:26.800 do personal mentorship at all for anybody and the reason i don't do that is because i don't have the
00:02:33.080 fucking time to do it which is why we're creating the academy that we're creating the entrepreneur
00:02:37.440 academy why it's going to be invite only why it's going to be highly selective because i am putting
00:02:42.900 together the exact information that is in detail on how to run a company how to start a business how
00:02:49.420 to do all the things you need to do to be successful and that's what the academy is for
00:02:53.300 because i cannot do it one-on-one all right so keep an eye out for that but two you have to
00:03:00.040 understand that as an entrepreneur figuring shit out is one of your biggest assets okay this goes
00:03:08.180 for any area of life what is more valuable to you me telling you how to do something are you going
00:03:14.760 out and figuring it out what lesson is going to sit with you longer what is going to provide more
00:03:19.860 benefit for you all right i am not going to appease my own ego by mentoring somebody and then taking
00:03:28.060 that whole learning period out of their experience so that they can get ahead faster because here's
00:03:36.360 what's going to happen yeah i may be able to help you get ahead faster but the truth of the matter
00:03:40.380 is is that you will lose everything that you gain you will not be successful long term because you
00:03:47.480 haven't learned the lessons yourself you've been following a map as opposed to learning the hardcore
00:03:52.460 lessons and that is not valuable that is not true value so realize that when i say no i won't mentor you
00:04:00.180 or no i won't do this that's because i don't want to take the experience of you actually learning these
00:04:07.260 skills that you need to learn for the long term away from you i don't want to take that journey away from
00:04:13.160 you okay and i'm doing you a fucking favor whether you realize it or not all right now with that being 0.95
00:04:19.320 said i i get constant emails guys about you know people and this goes right in with this kid's email
00:04:27.180 last night people who have these big dreams they have these big goals they have these things that
00:04:31.640 they want to accomplish and they say things like this well i wish i had the talent that that person
00:04:38.880 has or you know what i wish i i could do what they do or i wish i could do this and you know you see this
00:04:45.800 every every now and then uh in society as well you know you see people who are extremely quote unquote
00:04:52.260 talented at whatever it is they do you see a professional athlete and you say dude that guy's
00:04:58.640 such a talented baseball player you see uh a professional musician and you say man that guy
00:05:04.920 is so talented he's so amazing at what he does you know you see uh somebody who creates sculptures
00:05:12.220 and you say man that guy's such a talented artist all right and dude people get caught up in this
00:05:18.680 mentality of talent all right but what you don't see and what you don't understand is the 25 years
00:05:27.800 that musician put into his craft or the 4 000 sculptures that that sculpture made that sucked
00:05:34.700 okay you don't see that shit you don't see the 20 years the entrepreneur put in 0.79
00:05:41.940 you see him driving a nice car living in a nice house and you think he has something that you don't
00:05:48.660 well the only thing any of these people have that you don't have is that they have the ability
00:05:54.880 to make the correct choices it isn't talent are there talents absolutely are there freaks of nature
00:06:03.100 that can you know dunk a basketball when they're five foot two absolutely but the vast majority of this
00:06:11.860 earth has the same talent as you and you decide to put yourself on the outside and to put yourself
00:06:22.240 in a bad position because you point at the talent instead of recognizing the choice that these people
00:06:30.060 made to dedicate themselves to the process for a long fucking time you know why you do that because 0.95
00:06:37.060 it's fun to point at someone and say wow that guy's got so much talent it's not sexy it's not fun to say
00:06:44.320 wow that guy put in so much work to be that good you guys are missing the boat and by doing this guys
00:06:51.560 you are negatively affecting your progress and let me explain we hate negative people here right
00:06:58.620 all of us listening to this podcast fucking cannot stand the negativity the people who say we can't the 0.89
00:07:05.180 people who make excuses every single person listen to this podcast right now yes you are the kind of
00:07:11.500 person who says oh I fucking can't stand people that make excuses well while you may not be a negative 0.98
00:07:18.060 Nancy and somebody who makes excuses and somebody who makes negativity part of their daily routine
00:07:23.320 when you point out somebody else's quote-unquote talent as opposed to their work ethic you are doing
00:07:32.560 the exact same thing you are negatively talking about yourself you are indirectly implying that you
00:07:40.560 don't have the skills to do what they do and that might be true right now the reason you don't have
00:07:47.740 the skills is because you didn't put in the 20 fucking years you didn't make the day-to-day decisions 0.96
00:07:52.520 you didn't do the things that needed to be done when you didn't feel like doing them you didn't practice
00:07:57.560 when you needed to practice you didn't make calls when you needed to make calls you didn't work out
00:08:02.760 when you needed to work out instead you chose the easier routes and that's the difference that's the
00:08:08.140 difference between people who do things and people who talk about doing things the people who become
00:08:13.680 great at their craft all the people that you're pointing at right now saying oh that guy's such a
00:08:19.080 tremendous talent oh that entrepreneur he's such a good businessman yeah you know why he's good because
00:08:25.020 he fucked everything up every which way that he possibly could for a long fucking time but he kept 0.99
00:08:31.060 moving and that's the difference between him and you the difference between him and you is that he's
00:08:36.200 making the decision to move forward he's making the decisions he needs to make he's doing the things
00:08:41.060 that he thinks are the right thing every day and if they aren't he's learning from them and making
00:08:46.060 adjustments you are sitting your fucking ass on the bench pointing at someone saying oh he's so talented 0.99
00:08:53.820 like a spectator there's no difference between being a spectator and being someone who negatively
00:09:00.160 talks about everyone else and creates that negative energy because like I said when you talk about other
00:09:07.920 people having things that you don't have which by the way isn't true you are insinuating to your inner
00:09:14.080 self that you don't have what it takes you are not believing in yourself and I'm here to tell you guys
00:09:20.500 that is complete bullshit you have what it takes you have the opportunity you have the tools you are 0.82
00:09:28.920 making a choice to not execute the way you need to execute you are choosing to be where you are it's not
00:09:38.740 lack of talent it's not lack of ability it's not lack of circumstance it's not lack of opportunity
00:09:44.680 it is a fucking choice that you are making to stay where you are because you are choosing to not do 0.92
00:09:52.160 what needs to be done but Andy I don't know what needs to be done fuck yeah you do it's instinctive
00:09:58.400 do what you think is right make your mind up make a decision say you know what I don't actually know but
00:10:05.140 I think this is the right thing to do and do that and when you think if it doesn't turn out to be the
00:10:11.060 right thing what you thought it was guess what you're going to learn that that wasn't the right
00:10:16.040 thing and guess what you're not going to do you're not going to do it again and so you're going to go
00:10:19.880 back to where you were you're going to say okay well that didn't work now I think this will probably
00:10:24.460 work and you're going to repeat that process about 47 billion fucking times and then guess what's 0.92
00:10:31.100 going to happen you're going to become educated you're going to become smart you're going to appear
00:10:35.960 to be talented to the outside world because you decided to do what needed to be done and you were
00:10:44.100 willing to fail and you're willing to learn there is nothing more insulting than saying to a musician
00:10:50.680 or a businessman or an athlete that has worked their ass off to become great at what they do
00:10:57.740 and is saying man you're so lucky you have this amazing talent think how fucking insulting that is 0.96
00:11:03.580 man Andy you're so lucky that you're you know you built these companies you're such a talented
00:11:08.020 entrepreneur motherfucker that's the furthest thing from the truth I'm just good at not making mistakes
00:11:16.060 twice I'm good at choosing to take action I'm not talented I'm not better and neither are any of these
00:11:25.780 other guys they're not better than you they're not more talented than you they have the ability and
00:11:32.960 understanding that they need to make a choice and that success is a choice and that perspective is a
00:11:39.240 choice you know when I was laying on the ground choking on my own blood when I got fucking stabbed in 0.72
00:11:47.220 Springfield Missouri in 2003 and almost died my face was swollen up to the size of a fucking cantaloupe 0.98
00:11:54.820 for almost a year okay I have permanent nerve damage in my face I've got scars all over my face
00:12:02.760 I didn't look at what I had and say oh I've got this amazing ability to see the positive in the
00:12:08.720 situation or I've got this amazing talent to see the positive in the situation no I made a fucking 0.92
00:12:15.700 choice my choice was I can either be negative about this and let it hinder my development and my
00:12:22.060 mentality and my mood and my depression for my entire life and make me miserable or I can choose
00:12:29.380 to see the good things that happen I can choose to recognize that everybody remembers me because of
00:12:36.740 my scars I could choose to recognize that it taught me a lot of good things about life it taught me a lot
00:12:45.380 of good things about acceptance it taught me a lot of good things about perseverance I can choose to say
00:12:52.020 it was the best thing that ever happened to me that's not a fucking skill that's not a fucking talent 0.95
00:12:56.940 that's a fucking choice and your life is a choice your life and what you lead now is a reflection of the 0.93
00:13:07.360 choices that you have made to this point and nothing more anything else you tell yourself is a bullshit 0.76
00:13:14.160 excuse quit making excuses quit saying other people have talent quit looking at other people and saying oh
00:13:24.320 they have this thing that I don't have and negative speaking to yourself and start understanding that your life
00:13:32.180 is a reflection of the choices that you make and that you have the opportunity every fucking day to make the 0.82
00:13:40.140 right ones that's the difference between you and where you are now and you and where you want to be five years
00:13:47.180 from now or when you look at other people and say man they're way ahead of me but they're the same age the
00:13:52.140 reason that they're way ahead of you and they're the same age isn't because they're talented it's
00:13:56.240 because they've been making better choices for a lot fucking longer than you have quit pointing at 0.92
00:14:01.660 talent and start thinking about choices
00:14:04.960 you