Talent Vs. Choice, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO181
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Summary
In this episode of The Momfucking Ceeo Project, I talk about why I don't do personal mentorship and why the Entrepreneurs Academy is going to be one of the best places to learn and grow as an entrepreneur.
Transcript
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
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motherfucking ceo guys today is thursday thunder but before we get into thursday thunder a little
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housekeeping as you guys know if you've been listening to the podcast we are doing a testimonial
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favorite spots stay at five star accommodations here at the four seasons st louis and have a great
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time guys submit your testimonials as soon as possible i'm not sure how long we're going to
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run this contest so don't wait for us to see a deadline now before i get into the thing i want
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to talk about i want to tell a story i got a dm last night and uh we recorded this episode yesterday
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and then i text tyler last night i said hey i want to re-record it because i have the story to add to
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uh what what the theme of what we're talking about is and i got this this uh dm from a young man who is
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a big fan of the podcast a big fan of the content um and he was asking me to uh come meet me in st louis
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because he wanted to start a nutritional supplement company uh which is fine you know i'm all four people
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doing what they want to do um he wrote me five or six messages you know and i asked him i said hey
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i said what do you hope to gain by coming to meet me here i was just curious okay uh he writes me back
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man do you know how far i would get if i had you in my corner you know do you know how how good i would
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be do you know how much money i'd make i'd never let you down this that the other blah blah blah okay
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that's all good and fine but let me explain to you the problem with with this sort of thing a i don't
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do personal mentorship at all for anybody and the reason i don't do that is because i don't have the
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fucking time to do it which is why we're creating the academy that we're creating the entrepreneur
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academy why it's going to be invite only why it's going to be highly selective because i am putting
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together the exact information that is in detail on how to run a company how to start a business how
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to do all the things you need to do to be successful and that's what the academy is for
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because i cannot do it one-on-one all right so keep an eye out for that but two you have to
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understand that as an entrepreneur figuring shit out is one of your biggest assets okay this goes
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for any area of life what is more valuable to you me telling you how to do something are you going
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out and figuring it out what lesson is going to sit with you longer what is going to provide more
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benefit for you all right i am not going to appease my own ego by mentoring somebody and then taking
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that whole learning period out of their experience so that they can get ahead faster because here's
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what's going to happen yeah i may be able to help you get ahead faster but the truth of the matter
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is is that you will lose everything that you gain you will not be successful long term because you
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haven't learned the lessons yourself you've been following a map as opposed to learning the hardcore
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lessons and that is not valuable that is not true value so realize that when i say no i won't mentor you
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or no i won't do this that's because i don't want to take the experience of you actually learning these
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skills that you need to learn for the long term away from you i don't want to take that journey away from
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you okay and i'm doing you a fucking favor whether you realize it or not all right now with that being
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said i i get constant emails guys about you know people and this goes right in with this kid's email
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last night people who have these big dreams they have these big goals they have these things that
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they want to accomplish and they say things like this well i wish i had the talent that that person
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has or you know what i wish i i could do what they do or i wish i could do this and you know you see this
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every every now and then uh in society as well you know you see people who are extremely quote unquote
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talented at whatever it is they do you see a professional athlete and you say dude that guy's
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such a talented baseball player you see uh a professional musician and you say man that guy
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is so talented he's so amazing at what he does you know you see uh somebody who creates sculptures
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and you say man that guy's such a talented artist all right and dude people get caught up in this
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mentality of talent all right but what you don't see and what you don't understand is the 25 years
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that musician put into his craft or the 4 000 sculptures that that sculpture made that sucked
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okay you don't see that shit you don't see the 20 years the entrepreneur put in
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you see him driving a nice car living in a nice house and you think he has something that you don't
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well the only thing any of these people have that you don't have is that they have the ability
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to make the correct choices it isn't talent are there talents absolutely are there freaks of nature
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that can you know dunk a basketball when they're five foot two absolutely but the vast majority of this
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earth has the same talent as you and you decide to put yourself on the outside and to put yourself
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in a bad position because you point at the talent instead of recognizing the choice that these people
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made to dedicate themselves to the process for a long fucking time you know why you do that because
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it's fun to point at someone and say wow that guy's got so much talent it's not sexy it's not fun to say
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wow that guy put in so much work to be that good you guys are missing the boat and by doing this guys
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you are negatively affecting your progress and let me explain we hate negative people here right
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all of us listening to this podcast fucking cannot stand the negativity the people who say we can't the
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people who make excuses every single person listen to this podcast right now yes you are the kind of
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person who says oh I fucking can't stand people that make excuses well while you may not be a negative
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Nancy and somebody who makes excuses and somebody who makes negativity part of their daily routine
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when you point out somebody else's quote-unquote talent as opposed to their work ethic you are doing
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the exact same thing you are negatively talking about yourself you are indirectly implying that you
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don't have the skills to do what they do and that might be true right now the reason you don't have
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the skills is because you didn't put in the 20 fucking years you didn't make the day-to-day decisions
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you didn't do the things that needed to be done when you didn't feel like doing them you didn't practice
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when you needed to practice you didn't make calls when you needed to make calls you didn't work out
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when you needed to work out instead you chose the easier routes and that's the difference that's the
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difference between people who do things and people who talk about doing things the people who become
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great at their craft all the people that you're pointing at right now saying oh that guy's such a
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tremendous talent oh that entrepreneur he's such a good businessman yeah you know why he's good because
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he fucked everything up every which way that he possibly could for a long fucking time but he kept
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moving and that's the difference between him and you the difference between him and you is that he's
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making the decision to move forward he's making the decisions he needs to make he's doing the things
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that he thinks are the right thing every day and if they aren't he's learning from them and making
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adjustments you are sitting your fucking ass on the bench pointing at someone saying oh he's so talented
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like a spectator there's no difference between being a spectator and being someone who negatively
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talks about everyone else and creates that negative energy because like I said when you talk about other
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people having things that you don't have which by the way isn't true you are insinuating to your inner
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self that you don't have what it takes you are not believing in yourself and I'm here to tell you guys
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that is complete bullshit you have what it takes you have the opportunity you have the tools you are
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making a choice to not execute the way you need to execute you are choosing to be where you are it's not
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lack of talent it's not lack of ability it's not lack of circumstance it's not lack of opportunity
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it is a fucking choice that you are making to stay where you are because you are choosing to not do
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what needs to be done but Andy I don't know what needs to be done fuck yeah you do it's instinctive
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do what you think is right make your mind up make a decision say you know what I don't actually know but
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I think this is the right thing to do and do that and when you think if it doesn't turn out to be the
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right thing what you thought it was guess what you're going to learn that that wasn't the right
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thing and guess what you're not going to do you're not going to do it again and so you're going to go
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back to where you were you're going to say okay well that didn't work now I think this will probably
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work and you're going to repeat that process about 47 billion fucking times and then guess what's
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going to happen you're going to become educated you're going to become smart you're going to appear
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to be talented to the outside world because you decided to do what needed to be done and you were
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willing to fail and you're willing to learn there is nothing more insulting than saying to a musician
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or a businessman or an athlete that has worked their ass off to become great at what they do
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and is saying man you're so lucky you have this amazing talent think how fucking insulting that is
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man Andy you're so lucky that you're you know you built these companies you're such a talented
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entrepreneur motherfucker that's the furthest thing from the truth I'm just good at not making mistakes
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twice I'm good at choosing to take action I'm not talented I'm not better and neither are any of these
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other guys they're not better than you they're not more talented than you they have the ability and
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understanding that they need to make a choice and that success is a choice and that perspective is a
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choice you know when I was laying on the ground choking on my own blood when I got fucking stabbed in
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Springfield Missouri in 2003 and almost died my face was swollen up to the size of a fucking cantaloupe
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for almost a year okay I have permanent nerve damage in my face I've got scars all over my face
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I didn't look at what I had and say oh I've got this amazing ability to see the positive in the
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situation or I've got this amazing talent to see the positive in the situation no I made a fucking
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choice my choice was I can either be negative about this and let it hinder my development and my
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mentality and my mood and my depression for my entire life and make me miserable or I can choose
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to see the good things that happen I can choose to recognize that everybody remembers me because of
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my scars I could choose to recognize that it taught me a lot of good things about life it taught me a lot
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of good things about acceptance it taught me a lot of good things about perseverance I can choose to say
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it was the best thing that ever happened to me that's not a fucking skill that's not a fucking talent
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that's a fucking choice and your life is a choice your life and what you lead now is a reflection of the
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choices that you have made to this point and nothing more anything else you tell yourself is a bullshit
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excuse quit making excuses quit saying other people have talent quit looking at other people and saying oh
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they have this thing that I don't have and negative speaking to yourself and start understanding that your life
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is a reflection of the choices that you make and that you have the opportunity every fucking day to make the
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right ones that's the difference between you and where you are now and you and where you want to be five years
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from now or when you look at other people and say man they're way ahead of me but they're the same age the
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reason that they're way ahead of you and they're the same age isn't because they're talented it's
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because they've been making better choices for a lot fucking longer than you have quit pointing at