REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Art of Owning Your Life ft. Ryan Michler, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 I can stack them honeys to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:05.000 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.500 What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO.

00:00:19.500 Guys, today we have an awesome show. We have a guest who's actually been on our show before.

00:00:25.420 He is the host of an extremely popular podcast called Order of Man.

00:00:30.740 He's also the author of Sovereignty, which is an amazing book on how to take responsibility for your life.

00:00:37.800 If you've read books like Extreme Ownership and things like that, you're going to love this book.

00:00:43.060 He's a good buddy of mine and I'm going to introduce him right after I get to my buddy, Vanilla Ice.

00:00:51.140 What's going on, dude?

00:00:52.040 I've graduated to buddy status.

00:00:53.980 Yeah. Well, not really.

00:00:55.520 Not really. Okay. You said that.

00:00:57.000 I'm glad you called me on that because you're definitely not my buddy.

00:00:59.680 I'm a minion.

00:01:00.600 Yes.

00:01:01.020 Minion.

00:01:01.420 Of course.

00:01:01.600 Yeah, that's good. No, I'm good, man. Thanks for calling me Vanilla Ice. It's kind of phasing out the other things that you've given me.

00:01:08.180 I still like DJ God.

00:01:10.820 DJ God?

00:01:11.500 Yeah, DJ God.

00:01:13.000 Yeah, that's a good one. I like how you always give the echo.

00:01:15.700 Yeah.

00:01:16.060 That's like signature Andy.

00:01:17.540 Dude, if we don't do the echo, it's not legitimate.

00:01:19.760 That's true.

00:01:20.280 If you're a DJ, you've got to have the echo on.

00:01:22.400 Absolutely. So I am curious with our guest. I mean, he's got a pretty amazing beard going on here.

00:01:28.720 He does.

00:01:29.560 I think you cut it though, didn't you?

00:01:31.240 Yeah.

00:01:31.700 I could tell.

00:01:32.400 I let it go about three inches longer than to bring it up, but I think we started the last podcast just like this too.

00:01:36.960 Did we really?

00:01:37.580 You can't avoid talking about this beard.

00:01:39.220 I know I'm not very original, so no, but-

00:01:42.340 It's hard to miss though.

00:01:43.420 Yeah.

00:01:43.780 As a lot of you probably guessed, because I know you listen to his podcast, which you should,

00:01:48.340 we're here with Ryan Mickler. It's good to see you, man.

00:01:51.020 You too.

00:01:51.600 What's been going on?

00:01:52.480 Just life. Everything's been going on, man. The thing's blown up. The book's doing good.

00:01:56.740 Yeah.

00:01:56.880 You look like a completely different person, which is awesome.

00:01:58.980 Yeah, it's been a while, dude.

00:01:59.980 It has. I think last time I was out here was about a year and a half or so ago.

00:02:03.840 Yeah, I had just started getting my shit together.

00:02:06.140 Yeah, you look good though, man.

00:02:07.460 Thanks, man. I've been hitting it. I'm down about 100 to 110 pounds, depending on the day.

00:02:14.040 For me, dude, I can weigh literally 10 pounds different depending on-

00:02:17.780 Isn't that crazy?

00:02:18.440 If I eat things with a lot of sodium or if I don't drink enough water, it'll be a 10-pound swing.

00:02:24.660 My wife gets pissed at me because she's doing the diet thing right now too. I'll tell her,

00:02:29.580 hey, I'm down three pounds the last couple of days. She's like, what? How do you do that?

00:02:34.680 I'm like, I don't know. I think guys can just do that.

00:02:36.520 Well, the bigger you are, the easier you can fluctuate.

00:02:38.520 That's true. That's true.

00:02:40.820 But yeah, man, it's good. As you know, and you talk about in your book, taking responsibility

00:02:47.280 for whatever area you are is really a practice and discipline. And I think for me, people see

00:02:55.480 the physical change, but the reality is that it's been way better in every other area because

00:03:00.420 it's sharpened that skill, you know what I mean? That discipline skill.

00:03:05.080 Well, what I found is you can't make a decision in a vacuum, right? So if you improve in this area

00:03:09.800 of health, for example, then every other area, because it's the same skill set required here

00:03:13.560 as it is over here in relationships or business or whatever.

00:03:16.060 Dude, which kills me, man, because we're in the fitness industry and I see so many people

00:03:19.840 who have this amazingly fit physique and the rest of their life is shit. Like it's total

00:03:25.160 shit. And I'm just like, bro, you've obviously perfected these skills. All you have to do

00:03:29.980 is apply them over here. You know what I mean? Like that doesn't take a whole lot to figure

00:03:35.100 out. You know what I mean? But I guess it's the same for somebody who's got their business

00:03:39.140 together and their fitness sucks. They don't realize that the same skills can literally be

00:03:43.680 applied over in a different area and you're going to win.

00:03:46.180 I mean that or they get obsessed too, right? Like you, you can take something that's

00:03:49.780 positive and take it over too. Exactly. Dude, fitness is not meant to be, it's not meant

00:03:55.020 to be a fucking profession. It's meant to improve your life so you can do other stuff.

00:03:58.800 That's right. That's what I was going to ask. Do you think in those cases, Andy, is that

00:04:01.540 a case where somebody is living to train rather than training? Dude, I see a lot of people

00:04:05.680 with addiction issues that they're like, they're like at one point you'll see them and they've

00:04:09.620 been, you know, um, a substance abuser or they've been, say they've had some sort of

00:04:15.320 addiction and you see them turn to fitness and literally make it fucking a new,

00:04:19.420 the new addiction. Exactly. You know, and like, dude, there could be worse things that

00:04:22.220 you're addicted to because I think people that have that addictive personality could

00:04:26.300 be addicted in any area, you know? Um, Grant Cardone actually talks about this cause he

00:04:31.620 was talking about the be obsessed or be average. He's like, man, I was screwed up and I just

00:04:35.320 redirected that obsession and you turn into healthy shit, right? Like, so I'm not saying

00:04:39.580 that's a bad thing. I'm just saying I see a lot of that and you know, you could take

00:04:44.340 those people and take that same obsessive nature and turn it into other things that would

00:04:47.960 benefit them even more. Sure. You know what I mean? I don't think there's anything wrong

00:04:50.760 with that when you turn it on to healthy things. I just say, I was simply stating that I observed

00:04:54.800 that. Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah. And it's what do you want to write? Like, like

00:04:58.400 I want other stuff. Like I want to be with my family. I want to hang out with you guys.

00:05:01.820 I want to do other things too. In addition to being at the gym or whatever. One of the interesting

00:05:05.340 things though about fitness, when people become addicted to it, in my experience is that

00:05:09.400 that's all they want to talk about. Well, that's like anything usually. You take an alcoholic,

00:05:14.260 all they want to talk about is going to the bar. You take someone who does cocaine, all

00:05:17.340 they want to talk about is partying all night. You know, what party, what's the next party?

00:05:20.980 What's the next this? I think that, you know, I think that's pretty normal. You know, if

00:05:25.740 you've got somebody who's abusing heroin and they're fucking addicted to heroin, they're

00:05:28.700 talking with their heroin buddies. You just don't hear it. Right. You know what I mean?

00:05:31.580 Right. So I think that's pretty par for the course. Yeah. You know, people get dug into

00:05:34.960 one thing and they're into it. Like, you know, gun people, like they're into guns. Like

00:05:39.220 I know friends, like I like guns, I love them, but they're not my fucking life. That's all

00:05:42.500 I want to talk about. You know what I mean? Like we see this with everything. Um, you

00:05:47.200 know, it's fuck dude. Like for me, cars, like all I ever want to talk about is really cars.

00:05:52.500 Like, yeah, I talk about business shit cause I love it and I'm kind of addicted to that

00:05:56.380 game. But you know, if you get me in a car conversation, I won't fucking shut up. You

00:06:00.980 know what I mean? Like I'll keep going and going and going and going. And, and, um, you

00:06:06.520 know, I think we all have the tendency to get way more involved in things than what we

00:06:11.100 probably should. Right. You know what I mean? Yeah. Good and bad. Or think that other people

00:06:14.620 care about it as much as we do. Yeah. It's like, dude, I don't want to hear about that

00:06:17.600 anymore. Dude, dude, it's, you know, being, you probably get this a lot just because, you

00:06:23.380 know, you're somewhat of a public figure. You've grown your podcast. You're, you're, I mean,

00:06:27.180 fuck dude, it's grown tremendously since you came on the show. You're killing it. And, uh,

00:06:32.380 that's because I came on the show. Of course. It's all me, bro. It has nothing to do

00:06:36.240 with you. Yeah. So, uh, so, um, I think, you know, people will hear you though. People

00:06:46.120 hear me that they like, cause they go overboard with shit. Right. Like they hear me and they

00:06:50.520 hear me, they see, they're trying to like connect. Right. Right. So like they hear a certain

00:06:55.480 thing or this or thing or, and like, I could say it in passing. And then when I meet them,

00:06:59.080 that's what they hang on to and want to talk about. And I'm like, bro, like, let's just not

00:07:04.320 do that. You know what I mean? Let's be fucking normal. I'm a normal motherfucker.

00:07:08.100 Vaughn and I were actually talking about this at lunch is, and I know you guys talk about the

00:07:11.480 Astro Coles, right? And these guys who come up with all the exceptions and all the things

00:07:15.220 I've come to a point where I just block people like that. Dude, I don't, what was your phrase

00:07:18.800 you said today? I liked that phrase. I don't have enough time to tell you everything. I don't

00:07:22.720 mean, dude, dude, I had a lady come on my fucking, uh, post the other day and say, I was,

00:07:31.220 it was a post where I was sitting on the truck with that fucking, uh, revolver.

00:07:34.580 And it said, it said the fucking post was a joke. Oh yeah. On the bottom. I saw that

00:07:39.060 everyone who gets in your way. And then it's just kidding. Don't do that. Yeah. Right at

00:07:43.060 the bottom. It's a fucking joke. And this lady goes, that's a very triggered post considering

00:07:48.920 there's so many mass shootings in America. It's very irresponsible. Some shit like, you

00:07:53.540 know, and you know what, dude, then get the fuck off my page. Right? Like I don't fucking

00:07:57.780 need people like that on my page. And then there are people will be like, when I say something

00:08:01.420 back to them, smart ass or put their comment, they'll DM me and be like, Oh bro, you got

00:08:05.940 to resort to put me on blast. Bro, you got to resort to being a fucking idiot on my page.

00:08:11.460 Like, listen, I understand that I've got a lot of followers and that I should probably

00:08:16.340 behave more mature. But the fact of the matter is I'm just not. And if you fucking dumb, do

00:08:20.700 some dumb shit on my page, I'm going to fucking put you on blast. I'm going to make you look

00:08:24.640 stupid. And you know what? Everybody that follows me, like all of us listening right

00:08:28.360 now are probably going to fucking say you're an idiot too. You know? So like if you're looking

00:08:33.320 for attention and you're looking for somebody to just blast you and get in your DMS and

00:08:37.580 tell you you're a fucking idiot for a week, feel free to comment some dumb shit on my page.

00:08:41.040 I'll put it up in my story and you'll fucking hate your life. You have to change your Instagram.

00:08:46.040 Like, dude, I just don't have time for this shit no more. Like I don't, I'm not going to

00:08:50.580 argue with you. I'm not like, uh, like dude, I fucking saw, I had some people that picture

00:08:55.660 I posted with myself and all the girls a few days ago. Like I had people do two things.

00:09:00.900 One, they're like, Oh, what's your fucking wife think about that? Well, my wife was five

00:09:05.700 fucking feet away. Sorry. I'm not, you know, with some fucking jealous hag who fucking bust

00:09:12.260 my balls about everything. Secondly, I'd have, I have, I had a few people be like, Oh, that's

00:09:17.120 very interesting. You know, where's the diversity? Oh, well, I'm sorry that I took a picture with

00:09:23.980 like nine of my white fucking friends. I'm sorry if that offended you. Okay. One was Japanese.

00:09:28.940 If you think that that fucking reflects the diversity, dude, we're the most diverse fucking

00:09:33.780 company when it comes to fucking who represents our brand and athletes then of any company.

00:09:39.740 And you know what? I don't pick people because of their race. I pick them because of the quality

00:09:45.540 of human. I don't buy in to force diversity. Yeah. I don't buy into it. And people think they're

00:09:51.140 going to fucking guilt me into saying, Oh, well you should have really should I have people

00:09:55.820 just because they have a different color skin on my team. That's the only reason I should have

00:10:00.620 them on my team. That's racist. I don't know what fuck it is. That's racism. You know what I'm

00:10:05.160 saying? Like I don't see people like that. I don't think about people like that. I pick the quality

00:10:10.480 humans who share our core values and could do the best fucking job. And you know what? Coincidentally,

00:10:15.700 we are the most fucking diverse company because I look at it like that. Right. So I don't need you to

00:10:21.260 tell me about diversity. When I take a picture with nine of my wife, I didn't even fucking notice

00:10:25.780 it until people started saying it out. And I'm like, you know what, dude, that right there is

00:10:30.800 the fucking problem. You're making it such an issue with every fucking thing that other people won't

00:10:36.060 listen to your fucking voice. You get what I'm saying? Yeah. It's like people like dude, fucking

00:10:40.760 10 years ago, if you got called a racist, it was like the worst thing ever. Like you would do

00:10:45.280 fucking anything to avoid it. Now it gets thrown around so loosely that people call you racist and

00:10:50.560 you fucking laugh about it. You're like, Oh fuck. Yeah. I'm fucking racist. Clearly. You know what

00:10:54.380 I mean? Like it's a fucking joke now because it's overused. It's thrown around and it's applied to

00:11:00.140 situations where it has nothing to do with relevancy. Right. And we have, we have fucking a

00:11:05.620 situation now where that whole fucking term has now diluted its meaning to where it can't even be

00:11:10.920 effective to make a fucking argument when in cases there really is that situation going on.

00:11:15.280 And dude, well, it's the same thing with that. Uh, the me too movement with the me too movement,

00:11:20.440 which is legitimate with these women that are, that are coming out and been sexually assaulted

00:11:23.880 and there's legitimate cases. And yet there's other women who are abusing that and it takes

00:11:28.260 away from what this really means. That's right. That's right, dude. And, and you know, I don't,

00:11:33.820 I don't really care what people fucking think. Like the people who know me and people who are

00:11:37.940 fucking around my company know how we operate and know that we fucking love and take in people that

00:11:42.420 align with our core values, no matter what the fuck they look like. That's the

00:11:45.240 whole basis of our fucking brand. Okay. But you know, I, the truth is, is I don't buy

00:11:52.580 into forced diversity. I think it's fucking bullshit. I think that the, you should, I think

00:11:56.940 that, do I think that there's people who oppress on racial issues? Absolutely. Sure. There's

00:12:01.380 fucking sure is, but there's far more that don't. And by fucking trying to force that shit

00:12:06.500 into people's fucking face, it gives them a bad taste in their mouth. It's just reality.

00:12:10.840 You know, especially when you're trying to do the right thing and you're doing the right thing.

00:12:14.620 And then you get people that are fucking saying, Oh, where are the fucking black people at in your

00:12:18.660 photo? Well, you know what, motherfucker? They were also standing five fucking feet away. It just so

00:12:23.360 happened that randomly they weren't in the fucking photo. So, so now I've got to fucking worry about

00:12:29.220 what the fuck I do and who I take pictures with. So I got to like, so you're telling me I got to look

00:12:34.900 around and be like, Oh man, there's no fucking black people. I better get some black people in

00:12:38.260 here. Otherwise I'm fucking racist. Right. The fuck out of here. You know what I'm saying?

00:12:42.380 I know what you're saying about that is anybody who makes those comments, what do you think their

00:12:46.140 life is usually like? Yeah. Everything is fucking everything that they fucking have. Those people

00:12:52.040 that make that shit, every fucking art, every bad thing that happens to them, every fucking job they

00:12:57.860 don't get, every promotion they don't get, every fucking traffic ticket they get. It's because of

00:13:03.720 racism. Sure. I didn't get the fucking job because I'm black. I didn't get the fucking job

00:13:08.020 because I'm Asian. I didn't get the job because I'm American Indian. They passed me over for a

00:13:12.580 while. First of all, motherfucker, you know what business people fucking care about money? You know

00:13:17.800 what I, you know how to, you know how much I don't give a fuck about what color it is. Then people's

00:13:24.780 skillset. I want to fucking win. I don't give a fuck if you're an alien, if you could come in and do

00:13:29.760 the job better than everybody else, you're getting fucking paid. Right. And most businesses are like

00:13:34.480 that. You know why? Because there's a certain element of fucking greed and you want to make

00:13:39.080 fucking money. And that's reality. I want to make the most money I can fucking make. And I don't give

00:13:44.020 a fuck what color you are. If you are the best for the job, you're getting a fucking job. And I get

00:13:49.800 it. Not everybody's like that. I get it. It's interesting. You're talking to one in a, you're

00:13:53.700 talking one out of every fucking 1000 people. Right. You know what I'm saying? So when you

00:13:59.120 fucking punish the whole fucking group of people and that people will say, well, Andy, you don't

00:14:03.820 know what it's like to be a minority. You know what? I fucking don't, but I know what it's like

00:14:08.260 to look like a fucking idiot and have people look at the ground when they see your face. Cause it's so

00:14:11.820 fucked up. I know what it's like for people to fucking whisper behind your back. Cause your face is

00:14:16.140 deformed. I know what it's like to fucking get stabbed in the fucking face because a fucking dude

00:14:21.700 called the girl that I was with a fucking nigger. I know what that's like. That's how I got fucking

00:14:27.500 stabbed. And for those motherfuckers to come and call me racist, fuck you. I almost fucking died for

00:14:32.880 that shit. Fuck you. You come on my page and say that shit, you're getting fucking blocked.

00:14:38.480 I paid my fucking price for that. I'm fucking, I am the fucking person who is on everybody's fucking

00:14:44.820 team. Not the person that you yell at about no black people in the fucking picture because I happen to

00:14:50.360 take a picture, picture with a bunch of fucking white people. It's bullshit. And I'm sorry if

00:14:55.140 that offends you, get the fuck off my podcast to get the fuck off my page. It's the truth.

00:14:59.600 So anyway, it just irritated me. You know what I'm saying? I get it. I get it. I got to be

00:15:04.400 conscious of fucking who I take a picture with the fuck out of here. You know what I'm saying?

00:15:09.500 Yeah. I think people are finding, they're just fine. I mean, everything they can be offended

00:15:13.320 about, right? Problem either. It's an everybody problem. It's there's fucking white people like

00:15:17.440 this. There's fucking Asian people. It's not a racially exclusive. Sure. There's just people who

00:15:21.860 will find a fucking problem with everything you do. Yep. 50% of the people who follow you on

00:15:27.500 Instagram, not, not just you, Ryan, but any of you listening, the ones who don't comment, the ones

00:15:32.800 who fucking don't like your shit, but they follow you. You never see them comment. You never see

00:15:36.700 them like your shit until you do something that makes them upset. Right. That's when you hear from

00:15:41.660 them. That's 50% of the people that follow you. They are hoping for you to fuck up so that they

00:15:46.200 can say something. Now, with that being said, I did have a good conversation with a man,

00:15:50.520 one of the men who said that about race and I explained my side of it and he was very

00:15:54.300 fucking civil about it. And we had, you know what? I started following him because I'm like,

00:15:58.340 all right, this guy gets it. He can have a conversation like an adult. Sure. But 90% of

00:16:01.920 the people that are not like that. They're, they're just looking for you to fuck up. They're looking

00:16:06.200 for you to say something. Like I blocked a guy yesterday. He was like, he's like, Oh, in quotes,

00:16:14.480 he's like, I'm Andy. And I got to say fuck so that I could sound manly and be an alpha male.

00:16:18.260 And I'm thinking in my head, I'm like, I'm thinking in my head, I'm like, first off my

00:16:23.080 fucking podcast is called motherfucking CEO. My license plate on my fucking Rolls Royce says MFCEO.

00:16:31.740 If the word fuck bothers you, this may not be the show place for you. Like, I'm sorry that I'm not

00:16:39.200 going to, to curtail who the fuck I am and speak a way that appeases your fucking ears because you

00:16:46.000 don't like the way I talk. I do. Do I talk like this every fucking where I go ever to every,

00:16:51.720 is this how I talk or am I be putting on a show? This is actually kind of light.

00:16:55.660 I mean, this is who the fuck I am. Like you can't curse this good without doing it all the time.

00:17:02.560 I'll tell you what I was upset about your French fry post though, man. That's the one that really got

00:17:06.520 me upset. The French fry? Yeah. Oh yeah. I can't believe you would talk about wanting

00:17:10.000 French fries. Yeah. Over nudes? Oh my gosh. I mean, dude, come on. People are ridiculous.

00:17:14.680 Yeah. Dude, people were upset about that. I know. That's what I'm saying. Wait, there

00:17:19.520 were really people upset about that? Legitimately people upset about that. They're like, dude,

00:17:22.880 what the fuck are you talking about? You know what's funny? All the people that were upset

00:17:25.480 about it, about saying that, about not being nudes, like, oh, it's nudes. Oh, and they get mad.

00:17:30.480 You know what? Those are motherfuckers don't get no nudes. I don't understand. What were they

00:17:34.620 upset about? I can't even concede. What were they upset that you should be at like a higher

00:17:40.180 level of post or something like that? Yeah, they were saying like basically. Oh, it was

00:17:42.760 bathroom humor? Yes, but what they don't understand is that I'm the king of bathroom humor. Like

00:17:48.340 I'm going to tell the fucking most inappropriate jokes to fucking you and my high school principal

00:17:54.940 who is, we went to an all boys Catholic school. He's the most holy dude ever. Guess what?

00:18:00.500 I'm telling him the fucking dirtiest jokes possible. It's just how I roll.

00:18:04.440 Right. You know what I'm saying? He's the second holiest dude ever. And you know what?

00:18:07.240 That motherfucker, he fucking laughs too. They all laugh. Like, dude, it's funny. I'm a

00:18:10.860 fucking regular dude, man. Right. And like, you know what? And it's okay. I thought that

00:18:13.640 meme was funny. It was funny. And just because Gary V doesn't show his personality on his fucking

00:18:17.480 page and just because other guys don't doesn't mean I'm not gonna. Right. Like if I think

00:18:21.560 it's fucking funny, I'm going to fucking post it. You know? I thought it was funny.

00:18:24.880 Dude, I did too. I thought it was great. So, and you know what? Those of you that don't

00:18:29.040 have a sense of humor, you can get the fuck off my page too. By the way, everybody who

00:18:34.760 doesn't have a sense of humor, everybody who's going to fucking make a big deal out of everything,

00:18:39.600 everybody who's going to be an Astro Cole and be the guy who's like, yeah, but if you

00:18:43.360 think about, no shit, it's called fucking context, motherfucker. If you don't understand

00:18:47.300 it, go back to preschool where they teach you what that means. Right. Okay. All of you

00:18:51.600 motherfuckers, get the fuck off my page. I don't care how many followers I have. If that's

00:18:55.340 80% of my followers, then fucking see you. I don't fucking care. I do this for fucking

00:19:00.200 me. I do this because I know that 99% of the people out there aren't going to do anything

00:19:05.340 that I fucking tell them. They're not going to listen to anything I say. They're not going

00:19:08.620 to fucking become anything that I tell them to become. They're just going to shake their

00:19:11.380 head. Yes. The one, there's going to be 1% of people that are going to fucking like

00:19:16.200 I, like I got an email from yesterday, a guy who, uh, he owns a pool company and fucking

00:19:21.640 Houston, Texas telling me how he literally give me numbers. Like, Hey dude, I fucking

00:19:27.360 did 200 grand last year. This year I did a million last year to a million. This year

00:19:32.080 I'm going to do 2.2 million. Wow. And he's like this, you know, I'm doing the work, but

00:19:35.940 dude, I'm going to tell you, this is, this is the shit that I learned from you. That's

00:19:39.060 who I do this for. All the rest of you motherfuckers can fuck off for all I care. I don't really

00:19:43.620 care. I really don't. Isn't that, that's weird. That 1% cause we were, I was talking

00:19:47.360 about this as well. It's always been 1%. I do it for the fucking 1% that's going to

00:19:51.860 do it. Yeah. And the rest, that's why the Academy that I'm doing is fucking application

00:19:56.260 only. I don't want all the motherfuckers who aren't going to do shit. Right. Right. And

00:20:00.400 then at the end being like, Oh, I fucking paid for your course. Bullshit. You do what I

00:20:05.680 fucking tell you, you're going to be wealthy. Right. Period. But you know, that's, I'm going

00:20:11.280 to fucking vet people to make sure they're going to fucking do it. I need evidence that

00:20:14.540 you're going to fucking do it. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway. Well, before you wrap that up, I

00:20:18.760 just got done with court. I had to literally go to court for a fucking stalker today and

00:20:23.500 spend half of my fucking day in court. It was like Jerry Springer. Like it was fucking

00:20:28.560 insane. Like they literally hauled the person off to fucking jail because they threw a fucking

00:20:33.540 fit in the fucking courtroom. Yeah. Or for mental evaluation or whatever. I don't know where

00:20:38.000 the fuck they were going. But all's I know, as I spent half my day dealing with fucked up

00:20:42.480 shit. And right now I don't give a fuck who you are. If you're not fucking down with

00:20:47.000 me, get the fuck off my page. I'm sick of people. You know what I'm saying? Like, dude,

00:20:51.680 if you're not fucking down with how I, what I'm down with, with domination and fucking comp

00:20:56.720 competing and winning and fucking all the shit I talk about, go follow fucking somebody

00:21:01.000 else. There's plenty of fake motherfuckers out there to tell you all the bullshit you want

00:21:04.860 to hear. Yes, sir. You know what I'm saying? Oh yeah. Hey, I'm a fucking entrepreneur.

00:21:08.480 Here's my fucking, here's my rented fucking car. And the, and the, and the Amazon money

00:21:13.400 they buy, right? Yeah. Fuck. Anyway, I know there's going to be a lot of people that are

00:21:18.380 going to be like, dude, you should rent like that more often. And there's gonna be a lot

00:21:20.760 of people being like, Andy, you're better than that. If you're going to send me an email

00:21:23.480 that says you're better than that, you got to fuck off my page too. You know what I'm

00:21:27.060 saying? Cause I ain't better than that. I'm a normal motherfucker, man. I drink fucking

00:21:30.400 beer and whiskey. You know, I like to make a lot of money. I like to drive fast cars.

00:21:34.300 I'm a fucking normal red blood or motherfucker. If you don't like it, fuck you.

00:21:38.820 That's it. I don't fucking care. I really don't.

00:21:42.480 But I think that's probably part of the reason that so many people do connect with you because

00:21:46.940 I think the fake stuff that we see a lot will resonate for a short period of time until people

00:21:51.680 realize it's crap. I'm not going to show you one aspect of it. I'm incapable of that.

00:21:55.280 Like I love Gary, but Gary shows one aspect of himself. And I didn't even talk to him about

00:21:59.360 this. I said, Gary, if you showed your real personality, not saying he's showing fake personality

00:22:04.060 cause he is who he is. But if you showed a little bit more humor or a little bit more,

00:22:08.340 you know, not always Gary, dude, people will fucking resonate with him a lot more. He would

00:22:13.500 reach 10 times as many people. I agree. You know what I'm saying? And I love Gary. I've

00:22:17.260 told him this and I wouldn't say it. I wouldn't say it if I hadn't fucking discussed it with

00:22:21.140 him already. You know? And I think, you know, I'm conscious of who he is and his family and

00:22:26.500 not wanting to show that because dude, that's, it's a liability for him. He's a fucking famous

00:22:30.160 dude. Right. But show a little bit more shit that you're bad at. Show a little bit, show

00:22:35.920 a little bit of goofy shit. You know, let's see your humor a little bit. Like, you know

00:22:39.860 what I mean? Like, dude, people will like, so, so don't always try, like, I'm not talking

00:22:44.420 about just him, but I'm saying I'm never going to be that guy. Right. I don't want to

00:22:47.880 be. I'm not fucking, I don't fucking care to be. I have no interest in being like

00:22:53.360 that. Like, I'm a fucking goofy motherfucker. Like, if you're not down with that too, see

00:22:58.040 you. I don't care. Right. You know what I mean? So I just do people a favor and just

00:23:01.940 block them. When they complain about anything, I fucking block them. I'm going all in on

00:23:05.280 my corniness. Huh? I'm going all in on my corniness. You've, you've lit a fire. You

00:23:09.840 haven't yet? I'm, I'm going, that's a good point, Ryan. I'm already. Oh shit, man. Yeah.

00:23:14.940 You're starting to look like a fucking corn cob.

00:23:17.080 I am starting a little bit. Yeah. I don't even know what that means. Your fucking head

00:23:20.860 looks like a corn kernel. Well, yeah, I need to, I need, I need to shave it. I've been

00:23:23.740 too lazy. Yeah. I got to get back to the, uh, the slick look. What's that have to do

00:23:27.440 with fucking a corn kernel? Are you, do you eat hairy corn kernels? No, I'm saying because

00:23:31.900 I'm, I assume you're talking about the fact that I got a little fuzz growing up here.

00:23:34.940 No. Oh no. But that shit is silver though. It is. Oh yeah. No, it's silver. That's part

00:23:38.980 of it. That's a silver shit. Like that's way more silver than me. Yeah, I know. It's

00:23:41.960 very silver. Oh, you're older than me though. I'm like what? Six years older than

00:23:45.580 you. You're older than me. Yeah. Yeah. I know it's cause I'm so youthful. How old

00:23:49.620 are you? 44. Yeah. You are fucking six years older than me. Yeah. God damn dude, you're

00:23:54.520 old. I am old. Fuck. I am old, but I'm aging like wine. Oh God. Here we go. Let's hear

00:24:02.820 what you were saying. You're going to get corny though. So no, no, I'm going to go in all

00:24:06.240 in. I'm going to embrace everything. All right. Yeah. So let's actually talk about something.

00:24:10.740 I do. But listen, just in the outside chance that we have new people who haven't heard

00:24:16.200 of Ryan, you should probably give you a little two minute spiel. Dude, if you haven't heard

00:24:19.200 of Ryan, go fucking Google. Google this shit. Ryan's a fucking legend. He is a legend.

00:24:23.000 Thank you. Yeah. I appreciate that. You should say a few words about yourself.

00:24:26.060 Bragg. This is my moment right here. Yeah. Well, I started this organization three years

00:24:32.320 ago because I was messed up quite honestly. We talked about that. We've talked about that

00:24:37.720 before as man. I didn't, I didn't have things figured out. I went through a separation with

00:24:40.860 my wife. I blamed her a lot of the time. And, uh, through that process, I learned to take

00:24:46.260 responsibility for my own life and accountability for, from my own stuff. And it's really interesting

00:24:51.300 as I tell that story about the separation specifically, a lot of people will always say

00:24:55.220 things like, Oh, well, it takes two to tango and your wife's this, and she's probably screwing

00:24:59.580 around with other guys. And I'm like, you know, sometimes it doesn't take two. It takes

00:25:05.020 one to be influential tolerated your shit for so long that they are totally justified.

00:25:10.580 Kick you the fuck out. Exactly. And that, you know what? That's where I was at. And what's

00:25:14.360 really interesting is as, as I went on this journey to fix myself, not her, cause I tried

00:25:18.800 that and that didn't work. I tried to manipulate, coerce, do everything I could to win her back.

00:25:23.000 That didn't work. I went to work on myself and she responded to that.

00:25:26.660 Well, it's amazing that whenever you create a great product, people come, right? It's not

00:25:32.340 just in relationships. Exactly. People focus too much on what they're going to try to get

00:25:38.860 versus like, dude, like I get this all the time. I actually just had a message about this. Like

00:25:43.800 I get, I get these young dudes who ask about relationships all the time because let me be

00:25:47.720 real, dude. A lot of you guys who are between the ages of 20 and 25 have no fucking clue about

00:25:53.360 how to talk to people or how to meet women and treat women. Yeah. So I get a, for some reason

00:25:59.080 I get a lot of fucking questions. I don't know why. Cause it's not like I'm out there

00:26:02.420 fucking, you know, putting it out there. Yeah. Right. Yeah. You've gotten quite a few

00:26:05.420 through the for cell effect. About relationships. Right. Like specifically like how to pick up

00:26:10.120 girls. That's where I, when I get most of the ones I've, I've gotten for you, dude, they've

00:26:14.440 all been almost the same thing, man. My, my girlfriend's just not supportive. What should

00:26:18.600 I do? And it's like, dude, like how many times do you have you talked about? Listen, if

00:26:23.500 your girlfriend has to support you and you're having good intentions of what you're

00:26:26.940 doing of what you're like, dude, if you're a shit bag, then she probably shouldn't support

00:26:30.460 you. Right. But you have to have the awareness to know if you're a shit bag or not. If you're

00:26:33.960 not a shit bag and you're doing the right things and you're doing things for your 10

00:26:37.160 year from now self and she's not supporting you cause she wants to go to the movies.

00:26:41.280 And then when you go to the movies, she bitches about how you can't get the large popcorn cause

00:26:45.260 you don't have any fucking money. Guess what? Get fucking rid of her. Right. But there's

00:26:49.140 a difference though too, because here's what I've seen is guys will go out and start

00:26:52.320 a business and they'll say, Oh, my wife doesn't support me in the business. I'm like, dude, you can't

00:26:55.980 even take out the trash when you say you're going to like, why would she put her livelihood

00:27:00.740 and potentially your kids in your hands when you can't do the small shit? Right. That's

00:27:04.480 dude, that's a valid point. Right. You know, I, I, but far more often what I see is guys

00:27:10.480 who are hanging on. People don't really grasp this concept until they're older. Right. Like

00:27:15.820 until you're like mid thirties or at least in your thirties, you can't really understand

00:27:19.520 that people are going to come in and out of your life. Yes. Right. There's phases. It's

00:27:24.340 chapters. Okay. There's nothing wrong with that. Like, that's why, like when you're younger

00:27:28.940 and you break up with a girl, you're like, usually you end up hating her cause you're

00:27:32.540 like, you fucking smashed my dreams and my life and this and that, because you don't

00:27:37.700 realize the perspective, right? You're going to have chapters. You're going to have chapter

00:27:41.200 one. You're going to have chapter two. You're going to have chapter three. Some people have

00:27:45.220 hundreds of chapters, if you know what I'm saying. Okay. But people, all people have

00:27:50.340 chapters. Right. And if you look at relationships as chapters, sometimes when you get to the

00:27:55.440 end of the chapter, what happens? You fucking close the book. Right. It's over. And you

00:27:58.880 move forward to chapter two. And dude, it took me a long time to realize that. Like when

00:28:02.840 I was dating girls in my twenties, like if we would break up, I would, cause like I had

00:28:06.560 built up this huge fucking future in my head. Right. So I'm like, I'm like when we break

00:28:12.420 up, I'm like this whole, my whole life is over. And I don't realize that what I'm doing

00:28:17.160 is actually, I'm throwing something that didn't even exist in the trash and thinking

00:28:22.720 that my whole entire life is this, I'm in love with the idea of it as opposed to what

00:28:27.880 it really is. Right. Or what it could be, the potential of it. And young people tend to

00:28:32.540 do this because they don't have the perspective. And so they hang on to these temporary things,

00:28:37.860 these temporary relationships and let those temporary relationships affect their actions

00:28:43.800 now, which causes them to be unsuccessful 10 years from now. You see what I'm saying?

00:28:49.300 Sure. Yeah. And dude, I see this so much with young dudes, man, because like, let's be real.

00:28:54.160 Like these young dudes, they don't have a lot of experience with girls. They go out, they

00:28:58.680 fuck one chick and they're like, Oh my God, dude, I'm in love. I got my first fucking tail

00:29:03.260 and I'm, I'm fucking marrying her and I'll never get another one again because you went for

00:29:07.580 18 years without getting it. Right. But guys, it's not going to be another 18 years, bro.

00:29:12.340 That's just the way it goes. Our first 18 years or 14 or 15, that seems like a long fucking

00:29:17.240 time. Well, and the other thing too, is you're going to, you're going to continue to learn

00:29:20.580 the lesson until you learn the lesson. Like you have to keep going through it. If you

00:29:24.440 keep finding yourself in the same situation over and over and over again, you haven't learned

00:29:28.400 anything. Right. And what happens when you read a chapter of a book usually, or what you

00:29:32.720 learn something, you learn and then you advance to the next step. Sometimes it takes people

00:29:36.200 four chapters to figure out what it is they learn and what they want. Right. Sometimes it takes

00:29:40.780 people 10 chapters. Sometimes it takes people one chapter, but the reality is, it's different

00:29:45.520 for everybody. And if you hang on to someone who is stifling your ability to do what's good

00:29:50.320 for 10 year from now, you you're in a bad situation because I've seen people ruin fucking big chunks

00:29:56.720 of their life based upon the idea of hanging on to something that should have been temporary.

00:30:00.940 Sure. Yeah. Yeah. That makes sense. Yeah, absolutely. So Ryan, you had this awakening kind

00:30:06.320 of kind of started owning your life. Yeah. And you know, again, to go back is,

00:30:11.220 is she started responding to that. People started responding to that. I started to share my story.

00:30:15.000 And as I did that, um, I, I noticed there was a lot of guys out there that were going through very,

00:30:19.580 very similar things that I did, um, that were not taking responsibility, accountability,

00:30:23.740 ownership of their life. And, uh, I felt like through what I shared with them, gave them permission

00:30:28.800 to do the same thing. And so in, uh, in March of 2015, so just about three years ago, I launched

00:30:34.540 this organization designed to help men become better men, better fathers, husbands, business

00:30:39.420 owners, community leaders. And it's been a really cool ride. And it's cool to get messages from guys

00:30:44.140 and even their wives that, Hey, my husband has completely transformed his life. I don't know

00:30:49.000 what you do in that little quote unquote man club, but it's awesome. Dude, let me ask you this too.

00:30:53.520 Cause like, this is getting a lot of, this is getting a lot of hate lately too. Oh dude,

00:30:58.260 what are you a fucking man guru? You've got a big beard. Yeah, I get that a lot. You know how to

00:31:02.320 be a man? Like, and what's funny about knowing you is that like, dude, it's the fucking complete

00:31:07.120 opposite. You know what I'm saying? I'm on the journey, man. Like, and I tell people like,

00:31:10.540 cause they'll say, well, what makes you qualified? I'm like, I, other than I'm a man and I want to

00:31:15.540 be better at being a man. That's my quote. And I've been through some shit and I learned some shit

00:31:19.200 that made my life better. Right. That's, that's what qualifies me. I don't have a degree. I don't

00:31:23.200 have, you know, you don't even have to believe what I say. Like it's my opinion. But so many people,

00:31:26.960 they see, they see you because you do have a big beard and shit and they think they do this to

00:31:31.080 Waylon too. Like they look at Waylon and they think, you know, Oh, you think you're some sort

00:31:35.660 of alpha male because you have a beard and you fucking shoot guns and you, you like being around

00:31:40.520 woods and shit. Like that has nothing to do with it. Like I know both of you guys real well. And

00:31:45.440 it's funny because it's, it's, it shows people's limited thinking. Like, cause you guys do kind of

00:31:50.140 fit into the stereotype. Of course. You look like fucking Paul Bunyan. Yeah. Well, it's true. And I was

00:31:54.320 considering wearing a flannel shirt today, but I was like, I probably shouldn't do that. Yeah. You'd be like the

00:31:57.380 bounty dude. I wish. Yeah. Anyways. Yeah, it is. And I, and I tell people there's more

00:32:02.440 behind the, them behind the beard. But, uh, yeah. So you were doing so how long have you

00:32:07.240 actually done that? Beards are fucking awesome. Well, I like that's people ask me, why do you

00:32:10.980 have a beard? I like my beard. Yeah. Why do you put your hair that way? I mean, that's

00:32:14.180 right. Right. Right. Cause you like it. Yeah. I'm glad the beards are finally starting to

00:32:17.700 fade away though. It's like, like the true beard guys, they still got them, but everybody that

00:32:22.320 was on the fad, there's a lot of like pretty beards out there. I caught like where they're

00:32:26.240 like overly like done. I'm like, yeah, that's not a beard, man. You know what I mean? Like

00:32:30.400 keep it nice, keep it straight, but it's not supposed to be pretty. Yeah. I hear you. So

00:32:35.300 you were doing the podcast for what, two or three years. And then, and then your experience

00:32:38.920 doing that, I assume is just kind of fed into this new book that you're, you wrote. Yeah.

00:32:42.780 I mean that, that book is, is probably the experiences that I've had over the past, uh, 10 years

00:32:50.320 or so of taking ownership and responsibility of my life. And if you look at sovereignty, you look

00:32:54.380 at what the root word is, reign rule. And that, and that's the purpose you rule over

00:32:58.460 your life. But so many people have given up power and authority over their own lives.

00:33:03.560 They give it to their bosses and their wives and their parents or the economy or the president

00:33:09.600 or my health or whatever reason people come up with and all the excuses they come up with.

00:33:15.020 And when they do that, when they say, Oh, it's because Andy, my boss, isn't doing X, Y,

00:33:19.340 and Z, what they do is they give all the power to Andy instead of maintaining the power to

00:33:24.280 be able to do their own thing, to live their own life and to have their own success.

00:33:27.440 I think most people are afraid of being in control.

00:33:29.900 Oh yeah.

00:33:30.460 Dude, that's why most people want to be led.

00:33:32.140 Right.

00:33:32.580 They don't, they don't, they don't like leaders struggle with this a lot. Like there's certain

00:33:37.520 leaders that have the right mentality about leading that when they first start leading,

00:33:41.620 they have trouble understanding why somebody would listen to them.

00:33:44.160 Sure.

00:33:44.320 But what you have to understand as a leader is that most people need direction. They have to

00:33:49.120 be led. They have to be shown what to do because they haven't put any time in figuring out who

00:33:55.260 the fuck they are.

00:33:56.180 Right.

00:33:56.760 So if that's most people, how would you suggest that most people who aren't maybe natural born

00:34:02.160 leaders, like how can they still exercise sovereignty over their own lives?

00:34:06.400 When you're talking about natural born leaders, I think what, and I'm assuming what you're talking

00:34:10.280 about is leading other people. I'm not talking about leading other people. I'm talking about

00:34:13.380 leading yourself and all that other stuff starts a hundred percent. We call this influence,

00:34:19.020 right? The more that I can control myself and be powerful over myself, the more, and we were

00:34:23.720 talking about this at lunch, the more people, they recognize it and they'll, they'll recognize it

00:34:28.060 and then they'll choose to be influenced by you. So how does someone become a leader? Lead

00:34:34.340 yourself first and let that other stuff take care of yourself.

00:34:36.760 Most in the world. They're the people who exhibit the most discipline in their lives.

00:34:41.580 A hundred percent. You know what I'm saying? They're the people who, when you go to dinner

00:34:44.720 with them and they're on a diet, they don't, they don't make it a big deal and say, Oh,

00:34:48.700 I'm fucking this and this and this. They just say, no, thank you. Right. You know what I mean?

00:34:52.200 Yep. They, it's like, they're, they're making the decisions and it's clear that they're making

00:34:56.880 the decisions. They have the principle and everybody's every, and I made a post about this the other

00:35:01.080 day. It's like, if you're principled only when it's convenient, you're not really principled.

00:35:05.820 Right. And that's what most people do is like, Oh, I'm a diet except for when I'm traveling

00:35:10.340 or I'm going to really hit the gym hard except for when, you know, again, I'm, I'm out of

00:35:14.740 town or I'm going to, they don't make a big deal out of it. Right. They, they don't have

00:35:18.020 to like let the world know about it. No, just go do their business. They just go do their

00:35:20.900 thing. Yep. You know? And that, those are the people that get the most respect because

00:35:24.160 they are leading themselves to the outcome that they want and other people recognize it.

00:35:28.600 It's very easy to recognize. Right. And while you or I might look at somebody and like,

00:35:33.280 I definitely identify it. I'm like, all right, this guy's a fucking, this guy's got his shit

00:35:36.960 together. He's a leader. Other people are mystified by it and they're just like, how do you do

00:35:40.960 that? Yeah. The X factor, right? He's got it. I want to be like him because they sense

00:35:44.720 it. You know what I mean? It's a sense of confidence and belief in yourself that is, is

00:35:49.640 contagious to other people. Sure. Yeah. There's a great quote. Uh, I think that you used to open

00:35:54.640 up one of the chapters and I forget, I think it was about by Emerson, something about

00:35:58.220 self mastery is true freedom. And I think so many people think of discipline and, and

00:36:03.980 you know, holding yourself to certain, um, standards. They almost see that as like a

00:36:08.160 constraining thing. Whereas, whereas, you know, reading your book, you're saying that's not

00:36:12.200 constraining, that's liberating. Well, that's true freedom. It is restraining, but it's imposed

00:36:16.480 limitations, right? Because you, you impose your own restrictions, if you will, for like, for

00:36:21.760 example, food or getting up early, those are your own, uh, parameters that you've created

00:36:27.360 in your life. And because you've chosen them, you are not subjecting yourself to unknown and

00:36:33.300 unexpected consequences of not establishing those parameters. And that's the differences.

00:36:39.540 And I think the quote you're referring to is Aristotle. He says, through discipline comes

00:36:43.340 freedom. Jocko Willink says discipline equals freedom. Same concept. If you can be disciplined,

00:36:48.820 self disciplined, then you will be free to do what it is you decide you want to do, which goes to your

00:36:54.300 point of most people don't know what they want or who they are. And then they're at, they're more at

00:36:58.960 the mercy of their indecision. Yes. You see what I'm saying? And that's how your life ends up a

00:37:04.860 million miles off fucking track from where you just wanted it to be because you're not at the mercy of

00:37:10.420 your actual control and your decisions. You're at the mercy of your indecision, which means what you

00:37:15.460 ultimately are as at the mercy of, of the effects of other people's decisions. Right. Right. Oh,

00:37:21.200 we want to go to dinner. Oh, fuck dude. I can't go to dinner because I don't have the discipline

00:37:25.420 to stick to my program. So now it's so-and-so's fault because I went out and drank 12 beers and

00:37:32.020 ate like shit when I shouldn't have. Right. Right. So now your, your life is literally physically

00:37:37.140 being affected by other people's decisions and your lack of decision. Yeah. And I mean, it's,

00:37:42.760 it's important that we learn to be decisive because if you don't decide and you don't lead

00:37:47.680 yourself, you will be led. Oh, absolutely. Whether you choose to be led or not, or somebody imposes it

00:37:53.620 upon you. I mean, it's even as little as talking about the food thing is like, you know, somebody

00:37:57.500 says, Hey, let's go out to lunch. They say, where do you want to go? I don't know wherever you want

00:38:00.800 to go. No, make a decision. Right. Like I want to go to this restaurant. If somebody has a problem

00:38:04.860 somewhere where I can get this, right. Make a decision, please. Or what do you want to do this weekend?

00:38:09.340 No, like, what do you want to do? Let's go do that. If they have a problem, then they'll

00:38:14.800 figure it out. Most people can't even make that simple decision. It's crazy. It's crazy.

00:38:18.080 The fucking number, the number one argument in relationships is what? Where you want to

00:38:22.480 eat. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I'm sure. Like, I'm sure. Right. You know, like they,

00:38:26.780 like a dude, most men and women both, cause this applies to women too. They can't make a decision

00:38:32.480 as simple as where do you want to eat? Right. And then they wonder why they can't make the big

00:38:35.980 decisions. They'll be like, okay. Then when the decision gets made, okay, I want to go

00:38:39.600 here. No, I don't want to go there. It doesn't sound good. And that, and then it starts a fight.

00:38:42.680 Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Listen, if you don't fucking care, that means we're going

00:38:46.120 where I fucking want to go. Yeah. In my house, that's what that means. Right. You know what

00:38:50.060 I'm saying? Emily and I just got an argument about this. We never argue. Like, dude, there

00:38:54.040 was, where do you want to go? And there was nothing open. And I said, all right, we're going

00:38:57.840 here. She's like, no, I don't want to go there. Well, you know where we went? We went fucking

00:39:00.500 home and we ate whatever the fuck was there. Yeah. I'm not fucking doing it. You know what I mean?

00:39:04.300 Like, dude, I'm not going to fucking sit there and play that game. It's so frustrating. I mean,

00:39:08.160 it really, but then people wonder why, you know, they can't make a big decision or why

00:39:12.380 they can't have a difficult conversation with somebody on a meaningful topic. It's because

00:39:16.520 you can't do the small stuff. Therefore you can't do the big stuff. Right. Right. Yeah,

00:39:19.860 dude. You know, it took me a long time to get comfortable having difficult conversations.

00:39:23.940 That shit doesn't come natural to anybody. Nobody wants to do that. Firing somebody. The first

00:39:28.220 time I fired somebody, I fucking cried. Yeah. Like I got my truck and I fucking cried

00:39:31.980 cause I felt fucking terrible. Yeah. Nobody wants to do that stuff. Now, you know what?

00:39:36.260 I've accepted that if they got fired, it's their fucking fault and that's it. Right. You

00:39:39.840 know what I'm saying? And it's your fault if you don't. That's right. No. And that's where

00:39:43.480 it changed for me. Where it changed for me was when I figured out that if I, if I usually

00:39:49.180 when you have to fire someone, everybody else knows why they should be fired too. And if

00:39:52.720 you don't, your team loses respect. And when I figured that out, I fucking now I'm like,

00:39:56.220 fuck it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You know, and it's better for that individual anyways.

00:40:00.780 Fuck yeah, it is because I'm holding them back from an opportunity they could potentially

00:40:03.640 be great at. Exactly. Doing it. Exactly. You know, and that's, that's usually what I tell

00:40:07.980 them. Not all of them understand it, but they will hopefully at some point. But yeah. Yeah.

00:40:12.120 Ryan, from that moment that you were, you explained that you were kind of sobbing and

00:40:16.220 you looked at the, and I forget if you said that or if I read that in your book, I think

00:40:19.680 I would say sobbing. That doesn't sound like a word I would use. All right. Well, you said

00:40:23.260 you were, you were weeping or you were emotional by yourself when you were separated. Guys

00:40:28.280 with beers don't fucking cry. That's true. I'm sorry. My bad. Well, I didn't have a beard

00:40:32.600 then, so I did cry. So, but in any case you said you basically set up all his books. I

00:40:37.520 am. I read so many. Um, Ryan eats fucking nails and glass. That's right. That's true. Yeah.

00:40:43.500 Never. Um, but you basically made that change, right? You decided that you were going to stop

00:40:48.400 blaming other people, uh, and take personal responsibility. But obviously from that point to now,

00:40:53.260 you learned how to master yourself. Sure. And I would just take us through that process.

00:40:59.800 Like what are the steps to self mastery in your opinion? Man, that's a tough one. And it's

00:41:03.920 like, it doesn't look about it. Well, yeah. Well, part of it is self master. I mean, there's

00:41:08.340 a lot more to it than that, obviously, but pick something, pick anything for me. It happened

00:41:13.160 to be the gym. And so I decided, I remember I came home one night and my boys were tugging on

00:41:19.600 my pant leg and they're like, dad, dad, dad, let's go jump on the trampoline. And I had to

00:41:22.840 look him in the eye and say, sorry guys, I can't like, I literally could not go jump

00:41:27.400 on the trampoline because I was exhausted. And that moment right there was the moment

00:41:31.440 that it changed for me because I had a clear vision to your point, Andy earlier about what

00:41:35.820 I wanted. I want to be around. Like I want to jump on the trampoline with my kids. Right.

00:41:39.860 That was important to me. Right. And so I went into the gym every single day. And I've been

00:41:44.060 doing that for at this point, five, six years. And I've been 90% of the days. That's important.

00:41:50.760 That discipline has led me to be more disciplined in the business, has led me to be more disciplined

00:41:55.160 in my relationship, every single facet of life. So pick something and start being disciplined

00:42:01.220 towards that thing. Do the activities that you know you need to be doing and do it every single

00:42:06.260 day. That to me is the key. If you, if you can do it every single day, that's where you'll start

00:42:11.280 to notice change. It can't be some activity that you have to do on a weekly basis or a monthly basis.

00:42:15.600 It has to be done every single day. That's where you start to develop those patterns and habits.

00:42:20.860 Nice. Nice. I like that you said, know what you want first and then know what kind of life you want.

00:42:25.840 Know what you know what your why is. You do. And that might change. And certainly it does. We talk

00:42:30.440 about chapters, you know, like, am I going to be doing this for 30 years? Probably not. And people

00:42:35.600 say, well, Ryan, what's this going to look like in 10 years? I'm like, I don't even know what I'm

00:42:38.640 having for dinner tonight. Yeah. All that I know is this is what I want right now. And I'm working

00:42:42.480 hard towards. Absolutely. And in a year, there might be some other opportunity there. It might

00:42:47.420 be some other thing, but everything that I'm learning about this business and the way that

00:42:50.780 I run myself is going to translate into whatever else may come up. Exactly. You guys were lamenting

00:42:56.960 people's indecisiveness though, but dude, you know that we get this all the time. People say,

00:43:01.480 man, I have this great work ethic. I'm super passionate, but I just can't decide what to do.

00:43:07.920 Pick one. What do you, what do you tell people like that?

00:43:10.160 Pick something. That's what I say. You know that all the time. You want to be on it? You

00:43:13.340 want me? The honest truth is, is that when people say that, I know the first two things

00:43:17.660 that you said are bullshit. Yeah, that's a good point. Cause that what they're doing

00:43:21.100 is they're fucking taking the, they're taking the mentality or the, the point of, I don't

00:43:28.120 have something to do. And they're using it as an excuse for why I wasted all this potential

00:43:33.360 when it's bullshit. You don't have the fucking potential. If you had a hard work ethic,

00:43:37.460 if you had a fucking drive, if you had all the shit, guess what? You'd find something

00:43:42.320 to fucking do doing it already. Right. It's a good point. And you know what? You would

00:43:45.720 make a fucking decision. A lot of people hide behind that because they're like, I have all

00:43:49.700 the skills, but, but I'm not, I don't know what to do. You would be doing something when

00:43:54.300 I, when I didn't know what to do. Guess what? I did something. Right. Like I fucking did

00:43:59.500 something like, dude, I sold baseball cards. I sold light bulbs door to door. I fucking did

00:44:03.980 internet yellow pages. I fucking sold snow cones. I fucking painted stripes on parking

00:44:08.860 lots. I worked construction. I fucking, uh, dude, I did a ton of things. I did something.

00:44:15.000 Right. You'd be doing something. You know what you know that they don't though, is that

00:44:18.800 I think, and we run into people like this all the time too. They're like, well, what

00:44:21.820 if I start with this? And then in six months I realized this was stupid. I shouldn't have

00:44:25.860 done this. You know that it's better to have done that. No, that's part of the process.

00:44:30.080 Right. You're going to fucking pick, dude, you're going to pick something. Dude, you

00:44:33.760 are going to pick something and guess what? You're going to fucking fail. Right. You're

00:44:37.320 going to fucking fail. You are not hitting a grand slam on day one. You're not getting

00:44:41.980 inducted to the hall of fame and won it fucking in bat. Okay. You're going to strike the fuck

00:44:46.360 out and guess what's going to happen when you strike the fuck out? You're going to learn

00:44:50.060 something. You're going to say, man, I don't want to do that again. Right. And guess

00:44:54.600 what? You're not going to do that again. And then you're going to do that three

00:44:57.380 or four more fucking times where you're going and maybe you do stay like for me the mistakes I

00:45:03.840 make this is why I'm getting into business at a young age is a great idea because you

00:45:09.100 you are going to fuck it up but you don't have any obligations you don't have a family you don't

00:45:15.280 have a house you don't have a mortgage you know so you're you're free to fuck shit up and still

00:45:20.400 keep going you know what I mean it doesn't bury you and um you know so many people spend so much

00:45:27.560 time trying to find the plan that they're not going to fuck up that that they never start

00:45:31.960 anything right you know I'm saying yeah it doesn't exist I mean I can give you an example with the

00:45:36.080 book I get a lot of people now that that books out and they'll say well how do you write a book I'm

00:45:39.600 like what do you mean like you just write like that's how you write a book and I wrote dude go

00:45:44.080 back and listen to the first fucking episodes the first five episodes the msco project they're

00:45:48.580 fucking terrible horrible right I leave them up as an example that I didn't know what the fuck I

00:45:54.220 was doing like honestly a smart person would take those down and redo them in the new format

00:46:00.660 the first 50 episodes but they were so fucking bad you know why I didn't know what the fuck I was

00:46:08.600 doing but you figured it out because you did it like I guess I figured it out I don't know I'm still

00:46:12.880 well you know millions of people would say that you have I don't know like dude to me like I

00:46:18.520 don't come in here thinking I haven't figured out I'm like fuck dude I maybe I don't have figured

00:46:22.000 out but the point is I've learned shit that has gotten to me to get better right exactly I might

00:46:28.060 not have figured out still I'm not fucking I'm not ranked up there with Joe Rogan which is where I

00:46:32.420 want to be you know part of the reason is is because I got some freeloaders that fucking listen

00:46:36.520 and never click subscribe or leave a review or tell a fucking friend but I won't bring that up

00:46:41.340 I love when he talks about the early uh the early podcast because you get in your mind like you

00:46:46.200 imagine Andy in the very first episode going hey guys yeah I'm Andrew and I am the mother

00:46:53.340 I ran in full steam like dude I didn't fucking hold back I still have my first YouTube video

00:46:58.900 up for that same reason I look at it once in a while I'm like dude that is ridiculous dude you

00:47:03.120 know what when I first started recording fucking audio and video and shit I can remember because

00:47:07.260 we had a guy here who worked in our office who was a seasoned uh anchor a news anchor for for many

00:47:13.320 years and he ended up quitting his name was Tim Tealdo really cool dude good guy but I remember

00:47:17.940 like dude he used like he would be like okay we're gonna make a video about this this is before you

00:47:22.520 were even down here at Tyler and uh fucking I'd be like all right so what I gotta say yeah like do I

00:47:29.520 say it like this do I say it like that do I do it like this he's like dude just fucking do it and I'm

00:47:33.980 like I don't know how to do it like I remember when I came last time uh Vaughn gave you a topic for

00:47:40.260 Thursday Thunder yeah and I was sitting here because I think we had just done the podcast

00:47:44.180 or something and he just gave you a topic and you just riffed yeah I was blown away I'm like

00:47:48.720 dude that was awesome but but you had to earn that yeah yeah yeah yeah and now if you listen with

00:47:53.560 two original top first three or four Thursday Thunders you listen one now it's fucking night and

00:47:58.700 day yeah like I don't even have to even like and dude people think those are cut those are fucking

00:48:03.960 not edited those are fucking straight through you know and um but the point is is like dude we all

00:48:09.500 suck when we start something new right like you just have to be willing to suck so many people

00:48:14.340 ruin their whole lives because they're so afraid of sucking at something like dude if you're afraid

00:48:21.140 of sucking at something guess what you are by default going to suck at your whole entire life forever

00:48:26.420 forever you just resigned to yes and you're gonna that's that's the default and you're gonna get to

00:48:31.120 be 80 or 90 or whatever you end up living and you're gonna be like fuck I didn't do anything

00:48:35.940 I didn't have the balls do anything I didn't I couldn't do anything I I fucking I dude I sucked

00:48:41.920 and you're gonna have to deal with that you sucked because you were too big of a pussy to try anything

00:48:45.740 yeah like it's funny because like when when when you walk as a kid you were literally literally fall

00:48:54.580 down a thousand fucking times but not one time do you ever cross your mind like hey maybe fucking

00:49:00.000 walking isn't for me I'm just gonna scoot around my butt you know I'm saying like it doesn't happen

00:49:04.360 right but as we get older like one or two things happen like you you end up being bad at something

00:49:10.320 and like a group of kids makes fun of you right exactly like right and you and or you do something

00:49:15.220 that everybody else seems to get that you don't get and then your teacher or somebody you look up to

00:49:19.640 comes up and says Andy you know what that's just not your fucking thing like it's not your thing

00:49:24.120 and you believe it because you trust the person subscribe to it yeah and you don't want to get laughed at

00:49:28.660 by the kids anymore so you're like you start to believe well there's things that aren't for me

00:49:32.980 and you know what in real life there are things that aren't for you if you're fucking you know

00:49:37.380 five foot tall and you can't dribble a basketball you're probably not going to be LeBron James

00:49:42.100 sure in 20 years or 100 years okay but for most things especially in business you can get pretty

00:49:50.860 fucking good at something with just a little bit of common sense and skill and uh if you if you could

00:49:57.020 touch a hot stove and realize to not touch it again and you're persistent if you have those

00:50:02.820 two skills your ability to fucking not do dumb shit twice and your ability to put time in there's

00:50:09.060 really no limit to how successful you can be yeah you know what I mean but dude because we learn along

00:50:13.560 the way that we're going to get laughed at if we do something stupid or we're going to get made fun

00:50:17.740 of or we believe that certain things just aren't for us we end up not doing anything but to your

00:50:23.980 point about uh setting huge unmanageable goals you're right the five foot one you know skinny

00:50:30.160 unathletic white kid aka me it's not going to become LeBron James but if he dedicates himself

00:50:35.020 to perfecting his shot he's going to get it on the team absolutely he's obsessive he's going to

00:50:39.920 perfecting his shot he's going to be good at some level right he'll be good at high school or he'll be

00:50:45.120 good dude that's exactly right and that's a good point like dude and if you translate that to

00:50:49.800 entrepreneurship not everybody on here is going to be fucking Steve Jobs I certainly am not

00:50:54.120 right I'm not in fucking I'm not going to be fucking Steve Jobs or fucking Warren Buffett or

00:50:58.640 some shit like that like that's not me well it has to be I mean those big those big dreams have

00:51:03.820 to be relevant too right I mean realistic or one thing that's that's not that's not what I'm talking

00:51:07.760 about I'm talking about it's actually going to be relevant do you even want to be LeBron James

00:51:11.160 I fucking know I don't want to be Steve Jobs or fuck dude I don't want to live I don't want to be

00:51:15.800 Gary V exactly you know I'm saying like dude like Gary and I own the same size companies like

00:51:21.240 almost the exact same size and I don't have to fucking do none of the shit that he has to do

00:51:25.820 I don't have to fly over the fucking world I don't have to take 25 meetings a day dude I get up I

00:51:31.480 fucking go to the gym I work out in my fucking local gym nobody fucking bugs me everybody there's

00:51:36.020 cool as fuck you know I'm saying like I work out I go home I fucking change the shower I come to work

00:51:41.620 I hang out with my dudes I make some fucking YouTube videos and a couple fucking podcasts and

00:51:45.740 I get paid a lot when I do decide to go speak I'm cool with that yeah you know what I'm saying I'm

00:51:50.180 not trying to make 40 fucking pieces of content every day and let it consume my life what we want

00:51:54.660 right like it's just not what I want and dude people are like oh dude you need to do this and

00:51:59.680 that and this dude if I wanted to be doing it guess what I'd be fucking doing it right it's

00:52:05.300 purposeful living right you know what I'm saying and like a lot of these guys these entrepreneur

00:52:08.760 gurus out there like I see him doing like because Gary's built a good following with what he's done

00:52:15.200 and he Gary legitimately loves what he does and I respect that right you know I respect anybody that

00:52:20.700 loves what they do and they know what they want and Gary loves what he does I just don't want that

00:52:24.700 right and I see a lot of people out there who have very little experience in anything trying to

00:52:30.160 emulate what that guy does and I'm going to tell you right now you're not going to see those people

00:52:33.500 around in a year from now you know why because they're going to burn the fuck out right you know I'm

00:52:37.440 saying yeah he's a fucking alien dude it's crazy and like it's legitimate too like he's that's not a

00:52:41.960 fucking act he's like that that's what he loves and I see so many people out there being inauthentic

00:52:48.480 and trying to it's such a bad business strategy anyway because like dude you're not leverageable

00:52:53.900 it's not you're not going to you're not going to out Amazon Amazon you're not going to out Gary V

00:52:59.320 Gary V right you know I'm saying exactly you got to find out who the fuck you are and you got to

00:53:03.540 make a purposeful decision to be that and be be that you know what I'm saying and the thing about

00:53:08.520 it too is like dude we see that shit with you and Waylon like oh yeah with dudes dudes who are like

00:53:13.080 all of a sudden they're fucking man coaches right and they fucking try to look like you guys and talk

00:53:17.760 like you guys and although you guys have completely different styles and I respect both of you

00:53:22.120 it's you know uh it's a bad strategy dude that space is fucking filled right you know what I'm saying

00:53:30.140 do it you're do it you're it's going to be not only is it going to be more profitable for you

00:53:33.820 it's just you're going to live a more fulfilled life you're going to be happier exactly dude

00:53:37.600 you know how happy I am that like I could fucking like I can be walking through a casino in Vegas

00:53:43.280 and be fucking shit-faced and people fucking see me and come talk to me and they expect me

00:53:47.800 to be like that you know what I'm saying like I don't have to be like oh my god like that's

00:53:52.220 like clean up yeah like oh shit I better fucking not be me like you know they see me walking

00:53:57.040 through the casino like last time I was there I was walking through uh somewhere with uh

00:54:01.800 with fucking my buddy Ryan we were walking through dude we were both fucking hammered we

00:54:05.020 had been drinking all fucking night and like some dude comes up and he's like Andy what's

00:54:08.640 up bro and I'm like dude like it was like you know I don't have to be like oh shit yeah

00:54:12.940 I'm having fucking fun right everybody knows I do that right it's just you right yeah and

00:54:17.080 like dude you have to that's where the people fuck up right like that's where they fuck

00:54:21.680 up and like like dude like imagine like imagine Oprah Winfrey okay and let's say you know Oprah

00:54:29.700 Winfrey and let's say I don't know anything about Oprah like Lewis knows her and some other

00:54:34.340 guys know her I don't know her never met her but let's say you fucking were walking through

00:54:38.900 a Vegas hotel and you see Oprah Winfrey just fucking hammered oh yeah you'd be like oh my

00:54:43.700 god Oprah was fucking wasted the camera would be out like yeah right yeah you know because she

00:54:49.260 doesn't present herself in that manner and like dude if you're not authentic with who

00:54:53.760 you are eventually you're gonna get fucking caught yeah you know what I mean like eventually

00:54:57.460 you are gonna get fucking put on blast you're gonna we see it with celebrities all the time

00:55:01.460 you know so if you're out there trying to build a personal brand and you're trying to be like

00:55:05.360 what you're doing like let's say you're on a mission to help men be better and then all

00:55:09.200 of a sudden somebody sees you out with another girl I go have an affair right yeah dude you're

00:55:14.760 fucking ruined done right so you better be exactly who the fuck you say you are

00:55:18.960 otherwise you're gonna fucking lose everything eventually you're gonna get caught you know

00:55:23.080 and that's why I don't fucking keep anything from anybody I fucking you know like I said

00:55:28.140 in the beginning of the show it is what it is you don't like it go do your own show and

00:55:32.580 you know it's you know the thing about that too I mean talking about Gary like he's not

00:55:35.720 right or wrong it's just his thing he knows that too right and he says that it's like this

00:55:41.060 is not if this is not for you that I'm not telling you this is the way you need to do

00:55:44.140 it this is the way I do it yeah dude I've heard him say multiple times I'm not

00:55:48.940 trying to to encourage people to be just like me I'm trying to encourage people to be just

00:55:54.560 like them yes and dude that's what that people but people don't get what that means because

00:55:58.580 they haven't figured out who the fuck they are right you know what I mean and ultimately

00:56:03.420 man before you take up responsibility or master fucking anything you've got to make a decision

00:56:08.160 about who you are like on last week's podcast we had Charlie on Charlie fucking talked about

00:56:13.060 creating a character in your mind and then being that character and people hear that and

00:56:18.840 they think well that's being not authentic no it's not that's living with intention that's

00:56:23.160 becoming who you are on purpose right completely different thing people hear fine people hear

00:56:28.260 I'm gonna figure out who I am or I'm gonna go find who I am and and what they actually do

00:56:33.800 is instead of consciously deciding who they are and becoming that they go out and they look for

00:56:38.480 validation from the world to tell them who they should be and then they never feel complete on

00:56:43.640 the inside because they're not being who they want to be they're being what the world tells them they

00:56:48.400 should be or they think they got it they're gonna trip on it at some point like it's just out there

00:56:52.260 I've just gotta find exactly develop well you will you will go out there and find it but what you're

00:56:56.120 gonna find is you're gonna find that you should live a certain way go to school a certain way

00:57:01.180 have so many kids right do this do that and then you're gonna wake up at 45 years old and be

00:57:06.500 fucking miserable yeah that's what you're gonna be if you let the world tell you who you should

00:57:11.360 be and that's not being authentic being authentic is deciding who you're going to be and then being

00:57:17.220 it true yeah 100 yeah 100 and it's good no I was I was just gonna change to a different topic

00:57:24.060 I'm gonna duck out because I got pee okay can you do that so the question I have Ryan is

00:57:28.460 so you talked about sovereignty all right taking control of your life yeah so let's put you in a

00:57:33.940 scenario that you've met somebody who has just had their rock bottom their life is completely out

00:57:38.520 of control sure they said give me the cliff notes give me the five point plan for taking back control

00:57:42.560 of my life what do you tell them well so the the first thing I talk about in sovereignty is the battle

00:57:47.320 that we're fighting and if you're familiar with like the hero's journey for example I had Joseph

00:57:51.220 Campbell like like think about any movie or playwright whatever it may be there's there's this potential

00:57:56.720 hero and that's what he is he's a potential hero and he's got some external battle that he needs to

00:58:01.580 fight and he usually finds some mentor and he goes on this this journey or this voyage to overcome that

00:58:06.720 external battle and all the while there's something internal happening and at the end he resolves the

00:58:11.920 external conflict and the internal conflict right so what I'm talking about when I talk about the battle

00:58:16.980 is yes there are some things that are stacked up against men not denying that but more important than

00:58:21.820 that is the internal battle that we face and everybody faces us in a different way but at the end of the

00:58:27.980 day we become our own worst enemy we self-sabotage uh we we're undisciplined we're weak we're lazy we're

00:58:33.580 immediate gratification so I think the first step to your point that somebody needs to figure out is

00:58:39.120 what is the battle that you're fighting are you lazy okay good now we know but you've got to be real

00:58:45.120 with yourself yes I'm lazy or yes I want something for nothing or yes uh I I've messed up with my

00:58:51.380 relationship which is what I did yes I'm 50 pounds overweight so I need to fix that and I credit Andy for

00:58:57.000 doing what he's done over the past year he figured out what was wrong in his life took ownership of it

00:59:03.700 and then did something about it so you've got to figure out what that internal battle is first

00:59:08.800 because you've got to figure out which journey you're going to go on that's good I love that

00:59:12.160 in addition to laziness I think a lot of people struggle with they don't even know how bitter

00:59:15.640 they've gotten in their life like they're they're they're angry at something something and they just need

00:59:19.840 to let it go or they need to reconcile it or you know just figure out how to redeem it but and I think

00:59:24.580 that takes time too though like if you think about the average person's day I mean think about you

00:59:29.980 you wake up with just enough time to shower maybe grab a quick bite on the way out kiss your wife

00:59:34.880 goodbye pat the kids on the head you go into a job that you're miserable at you got stacks of paperwork

00:59:39.780 up to the ceiling you don't take any lunch breaks you come home have dinner maybe watch your whatever

00:59:45.960 series show you're watching you go to bed you do it all over again like where in your day is there any

00:59:50.420 time for reflection upon what you want no time at all let me let me say something so most people

00:59:57.320 find themselves in that situation at some point right sure like you just subscribe the reason most

01:00:04.080 people never get out of that situation is because they look at it and see how much work there is to

01:00:08.020 be done and so they just keep doing the same thing right you know what's your what's your advice

01:00:14.180 to someone because I know you deal with guys who say this they're like fuck dude I I did what I was

01:00:19.920 told and I did the what I was told the best I could and it's got me to this place where I'm

01:00:25.020 miserable yeah I have a job I hate I'm in a relationship that is almost impossible for me

01:00:30.700 to tolerate I'm I'm unhappy dude you know like I don't make enough money like nothing about my life

01:00:37.860 is the way that I wanted it to be and I legitimately did everything people told me I was supposed to do

01:00:42.820 what do you tell people when they're in that situation well the the first point is who did you listen

01:00:47.760 to and what results are they producing in their lives right when I started in my financial planning

01:00:52.580 practice I had a guy teach me about how to run a financial services industry what I came to realize

01:00:57.560 is he had an unsuccessful financial planning practice right and what that yielded was an

01:01:02.100 unsuccessful financial planning practice in me right so I think what we've got to do is qualify

01:01:06.580 our resources absolutely like you can't just so that's a good step to start right like some people

01:01:13.980 understand that from the get-go yeah that's why I sucked at school because like I fucking look I'd

01:01:19.720 be sitting in school this is some dude teach me about finance or entrepreneurship and wasn't an

01:01:25.320 entrepreneur look and then I see him drive away in a fucking shitbox car right and I'm like now how

01:01:31.020 the fuck does this guy now and people will say well maybe he decides to drive no that's not the case

01:01:35.280 it's not because if he had a choice he would choose something different right and like that so so so I

01:01:41.440 could never listen to people that were never credible like I just couldn't like it's I've

01:01:45.580 never been able to that's why I sucked in school because I'm like why the fuck are you teaching me

01:01:49.460 this shit when you haven't even done it right but what I'm saying is that doesn't come naturally for

01:01:56.160 people so like a lot of people a lot of people just do what they're supposed to do because that's

01:02:00.220 what they were told they were supposed to do follow fucking directions so you know if you have

01:02:05.740 somebody who's come to you and they're they're fucking facing a mountain of adversity and everything

01:02:09.900 in their life they fucking hate how do we get them to fucking wake the fuck up and and and be willing

01:02:16.500 to chip away at all these things that they've created like it's overwhelming right it's like

01:02:21.600 somebody who's 400 fucking pounds and they should weigh 150 pounds right or 700 pounds or 300 pounds

01:02:27.900 and they should weigh 140 or 160 right they're like fuck dude there's so much work to do like I'm never

01:02:36.540 going to get so here's one thing that I've done in my life and it's actually in the book it's called

01:02:40.400 the battle plan and essentially what the battle plan is it's a 90 day planning tool strategy for

01:02:46.420 the way that you're going to live your life and what you're going to accomplish in 90 days not a

01:02:50.300 year not 30 days not longer let's just focus on three months that's the chapter right then we can

01:02:55.840 build the next chapter later next quarter so what we do is we focus on four key areas in each in a 90 day

01:03:01.980 period and you come up with one just one objective that you want to accomplish in each of those four

01:03:08.880 areas so if it's condition which is synonymous with health for example and you say to yourself

01:03:13.260 well I want to go run in 90 days I want to run a spartan race for example cool that's our 90 day

01:03:19.520 objective that's what we're working towards now we got to work backwards into this thing so we work

01:03:24.860 into what we call tactics so what are the three tactics that you can do every single day that will

01:03:30.360 yield that result for you so it might be I'm going to spend 45 to 60 minutes in the gym every single

01:03:36.360 day I'm going to eliminate processed sugars from my diet and I'm going to drink x amount of water and

01:03:43.500 that's going to be the three tactics you are literally now checking those off every single day

01:03:48.380 and you're just going through the motions it will inevitably produce the result that you're after

01:03:53.620 right and that's what we do we do that for condition which is health we do it for calibration

01:03:58.580 which is yourself taking care of yourself we do it for contribution which is the way you add value

01:04:05.120 and and provide in the world as a father or a business owner or whatever it may be and then

01:04:10.980 the last is connection so the relationships you have with a spouse or friends colleagues co-workers

01:04:15.660 whatever it may be so we focus very narrowly four key objectives three tactics to accomplish in the

01:04:22.380 next 90 days yeah and that momentum and that movement it's amazing what people can accomplish in 90

01:04:27.760 days it's crazy you know like I guess what I'm trying the reason I'm bringing this up is like

01:04:32.420 dude I know there's a lot of people out there that like listen to this shit they listen to me and they

01:04:36.080 listen to you and whoever else and they're like yeah but and then they list out all the shit that

01:04:42.480 they got unintentionally right because they weren't living with a plan and they weren't living by

01:04:47.620 deciding who they are if that's you and you're listening to this you have to do it in a phase by phase

01:04:53.780 uh way you know what I'm saying you gotta build a foundation fingers and fucking shit everything's

01:04:59.360 gonna be great but dude you will be surprised that like in 90 days or 180 days that your life can be

01:05:05.620 completely fucking different yeah completely different well we thought you talked about

01:05:09.860 people just can't see the light I mean you talked about Charlie he's taught he you know he's talking

01:05:13.180 about an iron man right it's like well if you've been sitting on the couch for five years you're not

01:05:18.260 gonna go run an iron man in 90 days you could go run a three mile or a 5k right or or 10 miles or

01:05:24.400 you could go fucking run 100 yards today exactly you could go run fucking 200 yards you know what

01:05:30.460 you could do you can walk run a mile walk what you gotta walk run what you gotta run and time it so

01:05:36.580 that you can improve next time you do like dude it's just you know people people have this

01:05:41.720 this nature of taking things and giving it as doomsday scenario like dude there's very few

01:05:49.380 things that you could fucking not recover from right you know what I'm saying like very few is

01:05:53.400 gonna kill you or probably injure you or something like dude there's there's things that you know

01:05:59.020 most things most of your decisions can be undone you know what I mean and replaced with healthy

01:06:05.960 decisions and good decisions for you but I think I and you tell me if you agree or disagree but I

01:06:11.580 think it all starts with figuring out who the fuck you are and deciding who you're gonna be

01:06:15.440 yeah you know what I mean like let's take that out of the fucking way who do you want to be

01:06:20.860 not who do you think you are not who does your mom want you to be not who your dad want you to be

01:06:27.780 not who you're expected to be from your spouse who do you want to be yeah because if you're not that

01:06:33.700 and you don't decide to become that no matter what the fuck paint or how much icing you put on the

01:06:39.820 cake or or whatever you do on the outside isn't going to be the real shit one of the questions I

01:06:44.840 ask myself is who do I need to become right so like is like if I think to myself and I know guys

01:06:51.480 have said this like oh you're going to meet with Andy like I want to be able to do that well in order

01:06:54.920 to meet with guys like Andy you have to become somebody different than you are right now so what

01:07:00.620 does that actual individual look like or I want I want to be a a triathlete or whatever good who do

01:07:07.160 you need to become in order to be that I want to be a successful business owner who do you need to

01:07:10.600 become to be that successful business owner right those are the ways that you start working into who

01:07:15.120 you need to become and what you need to do to be that person that's right and dude if you want to

01:07:19.040 attract people of quality guess what you got to do first you got to you got to be be quality you

01:07:23.120 got to bring the value and that's that goes for your fucking relationships like I see all these

01:07:27.220 dudes out there who like this is the funniest fucking thing to me like guys and a lot of people

01:07:35.080 are going to take this the wrong fucking way but I don't really care because it's fucking truth

01:07:38.220 guys will fucking be like well you know I was with like you know that saying like all that matters is

01:07:46.640 what's in your heart like your mom fucking tells you right that's the biggest crock of shit right

01:07:51.000 that you will ever fucking be told because I'm gonna tell you everything else matters your fucking

01:07:55.980 looks matter how much money you make fucking matters yes what your career is matters what your

01:08:01.000 ambition is matters what your confidence is matters all that shit that your mom told you

01:08:06.660 that didn't fucking matter in relationships actually matters a fucking lot and so when you see like

01:08:12.340 like these extremely beautiful successful driven women that you want to attract and guess what

01:08:20.340 you're living in mom's basement you're never fucking getting them bro and I see these dudes who don't

01:08:25.780 have much shit going on for them like talking about these other girls like oh they're fucking gold

01:08:30.200 diggers and this and that hey motherfucker quality wants to be with quality you know I'm saying and

01:08:35.820 dude a lot of the fucking a lot of the quality that a lot of women bring to the table guess what it is

01:08:40.920 it's fucking looks yeah okay and a lot of girls have more than that but one of the qualities that has

01:08:45.780 been uh desired by men for literally the entire time that man has existed has been beauty well let's talk

01:08:54.800 about the flip side of that too because and this is something I get pushed back on one of the

01:08:59.300 qualities women look for men is power is the ability to provide exactly that's like the that's a real

01:09:04.760 thing so it doesn't matter how fucking you don't have to like go around pretending you're an alpha

01:09:09.980 male but if you're not earning a fucking good living you're not going to attract somebody like

01:09:14.440 you're not getting the fucking highest quality chicks right and a lot of girls are listening

01:09:17.720 right now well the highest quality aren't just the ones that look good I agree but you're still not

01:09:22.200 dating a fucking loser like if you're a girl right now and you're listening and you're let's say

01:09:27.040 you're a fucking five on the one to ten scale it looks wise but you're a 25 on the fucking

01:09:32.320 earning scale and having your shit together and sense of humor you still aren't dating some

01:09:36.760 motherfucker without his shit right no it's just the way it goes so if you want to attract a good

01:09:42.420 product guess what you gotta you gotta become a good fucking product that's right all right now when

01:09:47.220 you're in high school and you're in college that shit doesn't matter as much but when you grow up in

01:09:51.040 the real world guess what it fucking matters you know what I'm saying like dude people people say

01:09:57.000 shit like oh you know that guy that guy the only reason that the girls like that guy is because he's

01:10:03.000 got money and you know what I bet he doesn't fucking care right because he worked his fucking

01:10:07.920 dick off for that fucking right you know there's a lot of ways that we can add value and being

01:10:12.020 financially able to provide for the family but that doesn't mean you could be financially able and

01:10:17.500 be an asshole in every other area like but what I'm saying is like dude people just have a hard

01:10:22.000 time seeing the way that things really are right you know what I mean and well they think it's

01:10:27.340 shallow and it's not it's actually shallow it's built into our fucking genes exactly women want a

01:10:32.620 fucking dude that can protect them that could take care of the fucking family and that they feel

01:10:37.220 safe around okay and all that other shit goes by the wayside like your fucking looks your fucking

01:10:43.120 sense of humor and all that shit that's like the icing right the fundamental thing is that

01:10:47.240 you could take care of a family that you could protect them and provide safety yep on a primal

01:10:51.760 fucking level that's what they're attracted to you know why they're attracted to people who are

01:10:55.400 quote-unquote alpha males because they possess those qualities right that's it yep okay so guys who

01:11:01.920 fucking think like otherwise like they think oh well I'm a really nice guy this is like why are you

01:11:06.980 getting a friend zone because oh I'm a really fucking nice guy well cool women don't care about nice guys

01:11:11.260 they're not they're not fucking sexually turned on by a fucking right quote-unquote nice guy

01:11:14.900 because a nice guy doesn't add value to the relationship or challenge them or do any of

01:11:20.320 the things like dude most women run the fucking shit right they run the world like dude guys do

01:11:24.980 whatever the fuck they say like you know you know what a good dating strategy is don't do what

01:11:30.380 fucking chicks say well they're intrigued by it exactly they don't why the fuck does this guy not

01:11:36.020 beg me for my vagina and every fucking thing that he does this is funny because my wife so my wife and

01:11:41.400 I worked at we both worked at the mall and this was like 16 17 years ago and we we would flirt you

01:11:47.760 know on breaks or whatever and and I asked for her number her phone number she gave me her number

01:11:51.740 and then I went to Hawaii with my buddies for two weeks and she was pissed yeah she's and the re

01:11:57.240 she even says now the reason I was so attracted is because you were the only guy who didn't call

01:12:02.480 me back bro look I fucking tell dudes this all the time they always try to fucking argue with me and

01:12:07.320 girls argue with me too they say oh no this is wrong bullshit this is the fucking way it is yeah

01:12:11.880 you get a number from a chick you don't fucking call her the next day you don't text her you don't

01:12:16.660 fucking call her the next day after that you don't call her for 10 fucking days you don't call her text

01:12:21.360 okay because what's going to happen in that girl's mind is this oh well he's just like every other dude

01:12:27.340 he's you know because every other dude with a hot chick is like fucking texting her blowing her up

01:12:31.900 hey you want to Netflix and chill this and that take her shit put it away for 10 days put it in a

01:12:37.020 fucking safe after 10 days go get the shit out because she's gone through this fucking mental

01:12:41.520 phase of like oh it's probably just like every other dude I'm gonna ignore him this and that

01:12:45.440 then when you don't call she's like well that's weird like with this motherfucker don't gonna call

01:12:49.700 then she's gonna get mad like at like day five or six she'd be like who the fuck does this guy

01:12:53.300 think he is blah blah fuck him then she's gonna forget about it then all of a sudden you're ringing up

01:12:58.600 ring ring ring and guess what she's like well fuck you blah blah blah you don't wait fucking

01:13:02.400 you're like hey I got stuff going on I'm sorry you know blah blah blah and guess what now now she's

01:13:09.740 happy she because it's like a relief like oh you didn't actually blow her off right so dude bikes by

01:13:16.560 having a little bit of fucking patience and just being the opposite of every other motherfucker you

01:13:21.360 can have really good success dating but dude guys don't have it well you know what a lot of guys too

01:13:25.800 they want a lot of guys don't realize that when you're in a dating situation this is a game of

01:13:31.220 chess that what her feelings are what matters not yours they're so quick to be like oh my god you're

01:13:38.000 so beautiful you're so hot oh you're so this you're so that and they come on so fucking strong like

01:13:42.900 every other fucking dude that there's nothing to differentiate you from all the other fucking

01:13:46.380 guys out there right so you're just another dude who's been trying to bang her since she grew

01:13:50.260 titties when she was 12 years old you just filed yourself away in the fucking filing cabinet of dudes

01:13:55.420 that wanted to fuck and you stay there and guess where you get nowhere nowhere so how about this

01:14:01.600 how about be take what other guys do or take all the things that you've you've thought were right

01:14:06.080 your whole entire life and do the fucking opposite of it yeah that's a serious or what everybody else

01:14:10.660 tells you to do right you're like all right and they're like well why why do girls like these guys

01:14:15.560 who are assholes well I'll tell you why because they're complete opposite of you different and there's

01:14:19.780 a million of you right and it's a natural challenge when guys legitimately don't care it's a

01:14:24.760 natural challenge for the girl okay so that's why you see hot girls get an unhealthy relationship

01:14:29.640 over and over and over again because hot girls have dudes lined up that are being fucking the same

01:14:35.940 as every other dude right and so they take the guys who are total jerks and they see them as like oh

01:14:42.740 this guy's different it doesn't matter that he's a jerk he puts off the the the aura of challenge

01:14:48.760 to these women that they're not used to and it's exciting to them all right so if you want to be

01:14:53.520 a fucking good guy and actually still get girls you don't have to be a dick no you don't have to

01:14:57.980 be a dick all you've got to be is a fucking you and be a challenge to them well they want to be

01:15:02.060 fucking challenged well and I don't I don't think even even with that too is is a lot of guys and I

01:15:07.820 did this so I'm speaking from experience yeah made my wife the center of my universe yeah and it

01:15:13.020 messed that's unattractive dude totally yeah it's it's off-putting it's unattractive and frankly

01:15:17.860 that's unattractive for girls too like when girls do it yeah right and and it might feel good to to

01:15:23.360 to be that way for a minute in the beginning but it burns out quick man yeah and what guys will do

01:15:28.040 is they'll forsake their friends forsake all their activities spend all their time because I did this

01:15:32.600 when I got married do we all have done this everybody I figured this out because I fucked it

01:15:36.060 up the most yep you know I'm saying so you've got to make and I know this sounds selfish but this

01:15:40.940 ties into the book as well like you have to be the center of your universe like you have to take care of

01:15:46.240 yourself she's part of that experience right and so is other things that you have going on right

01:15:52.620 and when she's strong independently and you're strong independently you're significantly stronger

01:15:57.300 that's right you have your own shit going on and when you have the time to spend together it's great

01:16:01.160 when you don't we understand because we got our own shit going on right relationships fucking fail

01:16:05.960 because one or the other person or and a lot of times both have nothing else right and that's why

01:16:10.780 they stay in unhealthy situations argue fight call the cops on each other this that and the other

01:16:15.960 and then they try to blame it on romance oh we're just so romantic no you're both fucking losers

01:16:20.440 yeah that's what it is yeah you know life right and like dude you know I'm just I'm just trying to

01:16:28.140 throw a bone to these dudes out there that think that like like their mom was telling the truth oh

01:16:32.440 be a really nice guy you know you know what dude that'll get you that it's okay to be nice right you

01:16:39.420 want to be nice but have a sense of self and be someone who stands up for their beliefs don't agree

01:16:44.760 with everything a girl says because you want to fuck her you know what I'm saying be a fucking

01:16:48.980 challenge be who you are and if you just be who you are unapologetically you'll have success

01:16:53.720 you know I dude I was told growing up you know all that matters is your inside no one fucking doesn't

01:16:59.900 because you know what when I was fat I didn't get laid when I was fucking in shape guess what

01:17:03.580 got fucking laid you know what I mean well it fucking matters it does matter and people want to be

01:17:08.520 with attractive people like don't why why is that controversial yes but people have a hard time

01:17:14.360 fucking they when I say that they think that I'm being a dick or I'm fucking judgmental or I'm

01:17:19.900 fucking shallow like you said no dude you know what I am I'm a fucking realist right you know what I

01:17:26.200 mean and like dude my mom told me all the wrong shit just like she probably told you guys all the

01:17:30.860 wrong shit when it comes to dating yeah you know what it was wrong and that's that so I struggle

01:17:37.500 with fucking girls and I struggle I struggle with that shit I had to learn it the hard way you know

01:17:42.560 so I'm just trying to save some motherfuckers some time like I had to break it down to a fucking science

01:17:46.600 bro I was fat like I wasn't getting fucking I didn't have natural game I was shy I was fat I had

01:17:52.920 to fucking like dissect this shit and be like like it was a chess match you know like all right dude

01:17:57.280 step one is this step two is this you know this I'll do this I was exactly dude no bullshit I was

01:18:03.120 terrified you know dude I figured out this fucking thing dude this is the best thing ever so I figured

01:18:08.540 out this thing like um like I used to be like most guys I was afraid to get fucking shut down by a

01:18:15.020 chick like I wouldn't I wouldn't go talk to girls I figured out two things okay number one the hottest

01:18:20.460 girls get talked to the least okay because everybody else is scared shitless right so if you could

01:18:25.660 conjure up the fucking courage to go up to the best looking girls dude they're way easier to

01:18:29.780 fucking attract than the ones that are like sevens because the ones that are like sevens get hit on

01:18:33.900 all the fucking time because everybody thinks they can get them so I figured that out and dude I've

01:18:39.180 all you know I've always dated pretty girls because of that because I figured out I'm not fucking

01:18:42.720 exceptionally good looking dude you know like but the other thing that I figured out is this is like

01:18:47.500 dude if you want to go up and talk to a girl and you're afraid she's going to shut you down just have a

01:18:51.380 plan if she shuts you down and my plan it was always this one of two things they I would walk

01:18:56.160 you know you're laughing because you know what it is dude it fucking works though so dude like you go

01:19:01.300 up hey how you doing blah blah blah and she fucking snubs you it was like oh like hey look you have

01:19:07.160 like the biggest booger hanging out of your nose and I just wanted to tell you about it like I wasn't

01:19:12.100 like trying to hit on you or anything and they'll be like oh my god oh my god so thank you thank you

01:19:16.340 for telling me that guess what it opens up the door to talk absolutely humor yeah it could they're

01:19:20.880 embarrassed think about it if someone tells you like or you say oh yeah you break down that barrier

01:19:24.760 right you've got a big piece of something in your teeth I could see it from across the room I noticed

01:19:28.660 none of your friends are telling you I just wanted to tell you and then they're like oh they cover

01:19:32.220 their mouth they're like oh my god yeah oh and it breaks down that fucking bitch barrier you know and

01:19:36.620 if you got a plan bro you're in good shape because guess what at the very least you could just walk

01:19:42.520 away and feel good about it and you don't feel embarrassed right so put those two fucking tools in your

01:19:46.740 pocket there you go next time you go talk to a chick and she's a bitch just tell her she's

01:19:50.800 got a big old booger hanging off of her nose and you can walk away free and clear you don't feel

01:19:54.380 like a dick you know dude I swear I use that a thousand fucking times the flip side of that is

01:20:00.120 if you do go up there and you are a good dude and she's a bitch why would you want to talk to her

01:20:04.900 of course right yeah of course of course but the thing is is like you have to understand Vaughn

01:20:09.500 some girls get hit on by so many fucking dudes that it's just like get the fuck away from me

01:20:15.060 yeah you know what I'm saying because they just throw you in the pile so you've got to figure out how to

01:20:18.440 like yeah be different not be in the fucking pile right be different you know yeah yeah yeah

01:20:23.160 anyway dude I want to do like a fucking dating book so bad or a dating fucking podcast so bad

01:20:27.740 let's do a series I know a series I but I don't want you on it because you're terrible no no no I

01:20:32.560 want you think I'm like the big I'm oh god I'm the master who comes oh you're gonna pull some stuff

01:20:37.940 out here you just talk to my old friends talk to my old friends they'll let you know talk to my old

01:20:43.140 friends silent game I used to have so many so many girls that were friends like I had the most

01:20:48.140 girlfriends that's one I had the most dude I'm telling you man like I had to learn the hard way

01:20:55.700 and I made a science out of it I'm not saying I'm the biggest fucking pimp in the world but I tell

01:20:59.040 you this for someone that had natural no natural ability at all I am the most skilled motherfucker

01:21:03.660 on the face in that aspect zero natural ability zero seriously like dude well you don't have to

01:21:11.420 convince I just want to I want to start a dating mastermind like make make dudes fucking pay to

01:21:15.160 get into it like all right and I'll fucking coach you like you know you got a mastermind don't you

01:21:19.080 yeah all right yeah dating mastermind will work right absolutely 100 yeah it would blow up yeah

01:21:24.080 it's like I think we could charge whatever for it too I'm sure because there's dudes that make

01:21:27.960 fucking millions of dollars that have no fucking clue it's astounding to me how many people have

01:21:32.600 like these issues I mean most of it's due to inexperience but it's just crazy to me dude I'll charge

01:21:37.620 one of those fucking I'll have two levels I'll have like the high dollar like it'll be a

01:21:41.300 it'll be depending on like what how much money you make that way everybody can fucking be in

01:21:45.660 you know what I'm saying like if you make a percentage yeah if you make like a million

01:21:48.760 dollars I'm teaching you how to fucking conquer one of the biggest areas of your life that you

01:21:53.460 suck at oh yeah it's worth some money well and it translates to like it's a confidence issue

01:21:58.420 right I mean it really is so if you become confident with women for example you're probably

01:22:02.520 going to be more confident in a board meeting or with a client or a business proposal or whatever

01:22:07.060 maybe no question yeah I think more dudes are scared of women than anything else yeah I would

01:22:12.860 agree with that yeah I would agree I don't think they'll admit it though no I mean like I know guys

01:22:16.820 that are that are like that women naturally like that still are like a ball of nerves around them

01:22:22.300 you know what I mean yeah like dude they're just fucking people yeah it's it's really interesting

01:22:26.280 but you know people get like that too even with uh even with like celebrities and you know you

01:22:31.260 get around and all of a sudden you get retarded like I don't fucking celebrities don't like I've

01:22:35.720 met a number of like big celebrities and like they don't like I just look at him like because

01:22:39.920 that's what they you look shorter than you do in fucking tv you know what I'm saying like I'm not

01:22:43.320 like thinking oh my god there's fucking right whoever that's because you know that's how they want

01:22:47.080 to be talked to they're normal they're normal fucking people and that's how they want to be

01:22:51.340 approached yeah but girls are the same way well right yeah you know like dude that gets me these

01:22:56.240 dudes are like when I come up with this like what's this fucking line that I should

01:22:59.020 motherfucker how about this hey I'm Andy what's your name yeah you know what I'm saying right oh

01:23:04.800 my name's fucking it's just so simple yeah like dude it's so simple and it's like it just takes a

01:23:10.340 little bit of nuts you know what I'm saying yeah and a little bit of backup plan in case they fucking

01:23:14.480 blow you off the booger backup plan yeah throw the booger on them and fucking walk away you know

01:23:19.360 dude I'm telling you that fucking shit saved me because it got me over my fear of like approaching

01:23:24.720 women did it open did so did those women like it probably opened the door though I don't like

01:23:30.600 I'm not gonna say oh yeah fucking you know like but I could tell you this I made a lot of new

01:23:34.880 friends that way yeah I'm sure I just say it that way I'm sure you know and the more friends that

01:23:39.140 you have the opposite sex the more intriguing you are to the opposite sex yeah because they're like

01:23:42.960 what's what's this guy that like all the hot girls are friends with him for yeah and then

01:23:47.120 they're like well he doesn't look gay so maybe I should go find out like okay in Tyler's case

01:23:52.000 they're like fuck well he's gay so that's why he's here a lot of hot friends though that are girls

01:23:57.300 yeah that's because you don't have any game because they shouldn't be your friend they should

01:24:01.960 be your girlfriend what about nothing yeah you're gonna teach me some stuff though right

01:24:07.820 I know I know you're humble enough to learn no I'm not I fucking know it all when it comes to that

01:24:14.080 no I figured Tyler out he's a perfectionist no what that's his that's his beard you got the all

01:24:21.080 these really good looking women around you and you're like eh she's not this or she's not that

01:24:25.740 that's because Tyler's perfect and he expects perfection right well maybe you know I think

01:24:30.580 people I think people's imperfections make them more pretty than fucking their perfections yeah

01:24:34.560 like I've been in the fitness industry where it's like everybody is like a perfect fucking

01:24:38.540 it's the same this and like dude that shit don't do nothing for me like I think people are

01:24:42.600 attractive when they have unique things about them when they're real yeah yeah sure for sure

01:24:48.280 well anyway where can people find your book dude uh order of man.com slash book make it easy

01:24:55.560 all right it's all right there take you to all the links and everything else so yeah it's been

01:24:59.220 cool it's been really cool yeah yeah I'm I'm I'm excited about the book I think uh you know people

01:25:05.140 are really going to get a lot out of it um like I said if you've read extreme ownership you like that

01:25:09.120 book oh yeah this book is definitely something that you should read it's definitely not like a

01:25:12.840 another version but it's along those lines yeah similar similar concepts I love that book extreme

01:25:17.780 ownership I think it's fucking amazing it's a good book I mean he put together a really that

01:25:21.760 that that whole notion and idea will literally transform your life yeah like that's the foundational

01:25:27.440 principle he's a fucking stud man he is yeah I can't wait to have him on the show we don't have

01:25:32.580 a plan to have him on the show but we're it's gonna happen eventually yeah yeah he you need yeah

01:25:36.700 you need to get him in here um he's got his musters and things that he does too which which I'm

01:25:41.160 gonna go cool man yeah dude I've heard I've heard some people have gone to him they fucking love it

01:25:44.840 yeah he they do a good job so he's a perfect example of what I was saying earlier like a quiet

01:25:49.500 confident dude that you can tell is in control of his shit right right right he's got everything

01:25:53.680 under control like he's not you know pushing his stuff on anybody he's like this is what I do right

01:25:58.900 and this is what I believe and this is who I am and his his you sense it so strong that you just

01:26:04.220 naturally you're like damn dude all right I want to be more like that right you know what I mean

01:26:08.280 yeah I mean dude you could feel it through the fucking internet oh yeah you know yeah there's just

01:26:11.700 that's presence there for sure he's also seems like a guy you wouldn't want to fuck with he yeah

01:26:16.280 he the last podcast he was on he invited me to come down and do some jiu-jitsu with him which I'm

01:26:20.940 gonna take him up on fuck yeah and I fully plan on getting my ass kicked yeah I bet but it'll be

01:26:25.700 awesome at the same time have you had him on your show twice really yeah I'll I'll see if I can

01:26:30.220 connect with him to get you guys that'd be awesome for sure I'll shoot I've got his did you do it over

01:26:34.240 skype or you do it in person skype well done with skype okay but I'm sure I mean he travels so yeah

01:26:38.580 but uh yeah I'll I'll reach out another guy I'm gonna get on soon too is et oh yeah you had et on

01:26:43.740 your show no I never have I fucking love I haven't been able to connect with him yet yeah yeah I can

01:26:47.520 make that happen yeah he would be awesome he's uh really good I like him and I like inky johnson I

01:26:51.940 know I know you I I didn't hadn't heard him before you mentioned that no I I found out through you

01:26:57.380 and yeah guy's a stud dude anybody who asks like who's your favorite speaker yeah I was like dude

01:27:02.180 yeah nobody could touch inky dude the guy's a stud I started following him after you mentioned that

01:27:06.800 et's like there's very few guys that I would be like damn dude I don't want to speak right after

01:27:11.460 them oh like I don't want to speak after either one of those guys they're so good like I could I

01:27:16.220 fucking speak after everybody but not them too yeah you know I'm saying they're fucking gifted yeah

01:27:21.040 they are you know are you so when is um what is it uh 10x on is that coming up isn't it yeah like

01:27:26.800 next weekend like oh well if you're listening to this podcast uh it's probably already over yeah but

01:27:32.200 but yeah I'm excited about that that'll be good so speaking of uh of links I actually changed our

01:27:38.520 link to make it easier for those who want to sign up for uh breaking news about the upcoming academy

01:27:42.820 and the frisella files and all that good stuff so if you guys want to sign up if you're not already

01:27:47.740 signed up um it's uh the mfceo.com forward slash sign up you know what dude what that was the that

01:27:56.100 was the roughest like interruption ever I know and people are going to think that Tyler actually

01:28:00.180 edited that in it was so fucking hot like I know but I didn't want to forget it because it's very

01:28:04.420 important like that was like you just like you're starving and there's only like one piece of chicken

01:28:09.260 left in the buffet and you just fucking grabbed it I'm having that yeah well I didn't want to close

01:28:13.900 without without saying that but do you want to tell everybody I know you probably don't but do you

01:28:18.560 want to tell everybody a little bit about the frisella files because we haven't gone

01:28:21.460 oh the frisella files is cool man you know um I like I like trying to do extra stuff for people that

01:28:28.940 are like truly engaged in what we're doing uh so what every once once a week we do a newsletter

01:28:35.200 and it's just uh exclusive to our email subscribers only um and it's practical it's a practical tip

01:28:42.580 of the week basically of what we're it's kind of like a mission like what we're going to work on this

01:28:46.840 week and how we're going to improve this week and it comes out on Mondays uh it gets people you know

01:28:51.700 something to focus on for the week and uh and yeah it's cool I really like doing it man because it's

01:28:56.780 like short it's sweet it's short little videos yeah it's like five five to ten minutes max and

01:29:01.560 it's it's one skill that I'm I'm that you know we're practically like hey guys look we're all on

01:29:07.620 the same team this is what we're going to work on this week and we work on it and uh and dude it's

01:29:12.260 fun man because like response has been crazy dude people love it because uh I think people love it

01:29:17.500 because it makes people feel like hey we're all working on the same thing together you know what I

01:29:21.000 mean like it's fun but the key thing is that you can't get it yeah you gotta yeah plug that email

01:29:26.460 yeah plug it the mfco.com forward slash sign up s-i-g-n-u-p-von's trying to vond see I could

01:29:33.500 teach you a couple things yeah you're trying to beat around the bush yeah you just got to grab that

01:29:37.040 motherfucker by the hair fucking put never mind i'm just saying you gotta be direct that's right

01:29:43.220 you know decisive yeah so plug that again the mfco.com forward slash sign up there you go yes and

01:29:50.920 you get to see the the warehouse too right because your videos in the warehouse yeah which I thought

01:29:55.420 was cool it's cool because i do videos like i don't it's not like one place it's actually

01:29:59.760 literally whatever we're doing that day it's kind of like a little break and we're like all right

01:30:02.840 let's talk about this for 10 minutes so um i dude honestly i think right now that's my favorite

01:30:08.720 thing that we're doing yeah um i think that was my idea the youtube show yeah it was actually

01:30:12.740 your idea no that was a fuck no that was monday mission no it was not so we're gonna do a third

01:30:20.040 podcast the monday mission but dude i don't think we should that's basically the same thing though

01:30:24.220 right yeah but it's but we're keeping exclusive hey are you do you have credit greed i think he's

01:30:29.560 suffering from credit greed i think he is too your credit greed score is fucking low bro

01:30:33.280 wait if your credit greed score was low that would mean good wait yeah that's a good question yeah

01:30:40.760 so we have to decide if you have a high credit greed score it means that that's bad yeah right

01:30:45.480 you should have a low credit greed score did you ever do that no you didn't do that right no this

01:30:49.600 is something we talk about like on partnerships like the reason most partnerships fail is because

01:30:55.860 of credit greed everybody wants to be the guy that gets the car oh yeah instead of just winning

01:31:00.140 in reality yeah just who fucking cares about credit that's right we're here to win right right yeah

01:31:05.560 that's interesting yeah so it's a little something that we came up with definitely uh where did that

01:31:11.040 come from oh when i was talking to live skype with that guy right yeah credit greed i said it in

01:31:15.860 bond's face was like oh my god he literally got a fucking you know how many times he says something

01:31:21.820 i'm like oh i better i'm sure i'm sure all the time that's your job i know yeah i know thankfully

01:31:28.360 your job is to remind me of shit that i say yeah pretty much and then and then pretend it's your idea

01:31:33.100 yeah hey it's kept me employed for the last two or three years that's right it's job security

01:31:37.760 right so i had this idea it's called credit greed and i'm like that sounds really good it's like

01:31:43.820 the opposite of my job my job is to feed him ideas and then let him take a responsibility

01:31:47.740 first of all you gotta have all kinds man you gotta have all kinds what the the ideas that you do i

01:31:53.100 get yelled at for like the fucking idea of the fries or the french fries that was his fucking idea

01:31:57.640 styler i put it up there was that your idea was that your idea what was that other one that got

01:32:02.340 fucking yelled at it was that kid that you put in the video that got bullied and come to find out

01:32:06.780 his mom's like a racist or some shit oh really and i got fucking blasted for i didn't even fucking know

01:32:11.620 you know what's funny i saw you post that and i was like oh no dude i didn't know what was going

01:32:16.460 on i know you didn't yeah i didn't know until like 15 like maybe an hour before well fuck i knew right

01:32:21.840 away when i posted it dude people were pissed and rightfully so after digging into it yeah i mean

01:32:26.580 maybe who knows yeah who knows the truth exactly you know oh man stuff gets so skewed and manipulated

01:32:32.780 like you never know what's going on dude it's because everybody has an agenda very few people are

01:32:37.060 just about the truth right you know what i mean it's like i'm gonna say this so i can get this result

01:32:41.080 so i can get this like or get this share get this many views instead of like there's very few

01:32:46.340 people on the on the internet that are truly selfless and authentic yeah you know what i mean

01:32:50.860 i agree and like dude not everybody like dude and and don't get me wrong like i said this on last

01:32:55.880 week's podcast too like look everybody has their fucking selfish interests right but the key is

01:33:01.580 minimizing the selfish interests like to a point where it's not affecting the design of your product

01:33:08.060 well and if you can align what you're trying to do like i even think like people get after me

01:33:12.040 like bro when you have a fucking mastermind or you have a group right and people pay in it right

01:33:15.640 right that's cool right and do you like getting paid yeah i love it fucking right i do too but

01:33:20.720 that shouldn't affect the quality of the product or the reason that you make a product or your

01:33:26.220 intentions when it comes to creating the product should always stay pure right and if you can master

01:33:30.140 that skill of separating your own personal interests and benefit and then creating content or products or

01:33:37.340 solutions for people without that interest in mind yeah that's the key that's a good point to making

01:33:41.820 a lot of money and that there's alignment in that too like so people get after me like oh way to make

01:33:46.960 money off guys that are struggling i'm like there's there's that's they're not different concepts like

01:33:53.160 like i can make money and help men that are struggling that's right and i can find alignment in that

01:33:59.480 which gives me fulfillment and dude puts money in the bank account my wife makes money off of people

01:34:06.160 being sick right exactly that's what i'm saying what no dude yeah that's what i'm saying no you're

01:34:11.680 right that's crazy or teachers right now dude i've gotten a few messages people that are like

01:34:16.040 you're fucking sellout because you're fucking starting this academy and people are gonna have

01:34:20.280 to fucking pay for blah blah blah yeah motherfucker you're right because you know what i've invested

01:34:24.660 20 fucking years of my life and i'm pretty sure i give out as much free content as anybody and that's

01:34:29.840 not going to change yeah so if i have more that i want to fucking say and i think it's worth

01:34:34.180 money guess what i'm gonna fucking charge money and you know what else if you don't pay for something

01:34:38.340 you don't fucking value it no way so there's not there's there's less chance of adherence

01:34:42.220 because you don't fucking value what the fuck you just paid for or didn't pay for so like if i were

01:34:46.820 to make my academy and say oh dude i'm gonna make it all for free the chances of success actually go

01:34:52.100 down because people don't have any skin in the game right they don't have any um they don't have

01:34:57.540 any self-accountability to following through but you also do a disservice to if you don't charge for it

01:35:03.440 you do a disservice to everybody else who wants to up the level oh dude look because they're

01:35:07.940 surrounded by people who don't or won't invest my shit it ain't gonna be cheap i can tell you that

01:35:12.820 right now it's gonna be fucking expensive and you know why it's gonna be expensive because i know

01:35:15.940 fucking works right and if you go fucking do it you're gonna fucking do well that's it i don't have

01:35:20.460 a problem i don't have a problem justifying my fucking my knowledge worth i've spent 20 fucking

01:35:26.520 years and i think if you look around my life i'm pretty fucking credible with it yeah you know what i'm

01:35:31.080 saying so i don't you know if you want to fucking learn the shit you fucking pay if you don't you

01:35:35.340 listen to the podcast you don't you don't have to do it yeah listen to the podcast or you could take

01:35:40.020 the alternative route and spend 15 years learning what he learned yeah whatever man yeah good point

01:35:44.520 but i think it's just it's interesting how people they're so accustomed to getting free

01:35:48.680 yeah that they expect free you know or they think because the purpose is noble what would you pay

01:35:54.120 dude if i could fucking say to you you're an entrepreneur and you're gonna have to fucking go out

01:35:58.860 for 10 years and you're gonna have to fucking struggle and grind and do all this shit but by

01:36:04.640 going through an academy like mine i could save you seven of those 10 years or five of those 10 years

01:36:09.780 what's that worth yeah i mean it's worth potentially millions of dollars it's worth a hell of a lot more

01:36:15.340 than what it's worth to go to fucking a traditional college yeah oh yeah and my shit's gonna be a lot

01:36:20.040 cheaper than that yeah so let's face it the people who want it to be free are the people that are

01:36:23.540 not gonna do shit they're not gonna act even if they paid for it right even if they paid some low

01:36:27.600 amount for it they still wouldn't do it yeah so yeah all right dude look man yeah all my point is

01:36:33.160 is like you know when you have something of value there's nothing wrong with fucking getting a fair

01:36:36.960 price for it right that's it so people that don't understand that there's there really is all the

01:36:44.360 same shit out there somewhere you just gotta go find it right and yeah find it package it in the

01:36:50.120 way that's actually gonna work understand it right right try it so like all the shit you teach in your

01:36:54.620 groups it's all out there for free right there's nothing new that but it's gonna take you 10 years

01:36:58.920 to go figure it out exactly so it is what it is yep final question ryan let's do it would you like

01:37:04.600 to see a monthly video program of andy myself and andy's brother doing shots and talking yeah well

01:37:12.700 yeah i would like to see that dude i think there should be a monthly video i think there should be a

01:37:18.120 monthly video on youtube and it should be like happy hour with us and guests so like we would

01:37:24.260 have like you that would be cool yeah or have fucking like we can't have ryan come on i mean

01:37:28.760 i don't drink but i would watch you guys drink it would still be fun but my point is is like dude

01:37:34.340 we if we brought him in right and like had a a two-hour show or an hour show of just and then we what

01:37:42.820 we could do we could do for like two hours and then you could edit out like you could edit the

01:37:47.020 fucking good parts because there would be a time while we're getting our buzz that's probably not

01:37:50.500 going to be as cool that would be actually dude i'm telling you because it would open up a whole

01:37:54.480 new conversation who do you think is would be the best of any of our guests like with too much

01:38:00.040 alcohol in them who would be the most entertaining bradley yeah oh yeah for sure yeah yeah bradley

01:38:04.680 although i don't know he's fucking like that anything i was gonna say he could be the opposite yeah

01:38:08.160 no uh dude i'd like to do that with gary oh yeah that'll never happen i know it'll never happen

01:38:14.120 because he's too protective of right but dude i would love to have it with gary like because i

01:38:17.680 think funny i think people would like that they'd be like oh this guy's a normal dude right it's

01:38:21.980 relatable right he is relatable dude gary's a fucking awesome dude like he's he's a good guy it's just

01:38:27.360 like i just wish he would show a little bit more of his himself yeah if that makes sense yeah you

01:38:32.880 know what i mean um he's a fucking funny dude he's got a sense of humor he's fucking i mean dude he's a

01:38:38.580 cool dude um you know i don't know like everybody that we've had would be cool you know you know the

01:38:46.680 one people would hate the most i could tell you who they would hate the most out of all the guests

01:38:50.900 we've had if we sat here and got drunk it would stir the most shit would be sean whalen oh god

01:38:56.180 hands down yeah yeah and sean is not gonna give a fuck what he says no and like not at all half the

01:39:01.660 people are going to hate sean yes i actually fucking think he's hilarious i don't agree with

01:39:05.560 everything he fucking says but i think he's fucking hilarious funny yeah and do you know

01:39:09.420 what's cool about sean is that whatever what he says he believes and he has reasons for believing

01:39:15.200 it yes and so if you fuck convicted about that's right right so even if you don't agree and you get

01:39:20.820 a little argument or a discussion about it you he has the reasons he believes that it's not just

01:39:25.420 because somebody said it somewhere yeah and i respect that he's so he's so polarizing i have

01:39:30.760 people that have reached out to me and do not like me or will not follow me because he's mentored

01:39:36.960 dude i get people that fucking tell me that they're like i can't believe you're fucking friends with

01:39:41.440 sean whalen blah blah sean's cool as fuck yeah he's a cool dude like there's really not many people that

01:39:47.400 i'd rather hang out with like he's fucking cool yeah you know it's funny i'm sorry that his beliefs

01:39:52.820 ruffle your feathers right you know what i mean like dude if you were if you shared your beliefs the way

01:39:58.360 he shares his beliefs you would ruffle fucking feathers too but the reason that you don't is

01:40:02.300 because you won't say what you really believe yeah yeah he and he does i mean he everything he

01:40:06.960 believes he says and he believes that and spending i think it's easy to think that oh he's just you

01:40:12.340 just you know saying whatever but like in spending time like i know you have is like no he believes

01:40:16.840 that stuff like everything that he's got a good reason for it and if you're somebody who like i said i

01:40:21.260 don't agree with everything he says i don't agree with everything anybody says if you if you find

01:40:25.040 yourself agreeing with every single thing somebody says you're a fucking sheep yeah you know and that

01:40:31.040 doesn't mean that you have to like like people you know like dude when you start to get successful

01:40:35.440 you have two kinds of people you have the kind of people who will tell you yes and then you'll have

01:40:39.100 the kind of people who will tell you no just because they think nobody else is telling you no

01:40:43.120 you know what i'm saying so they truly agree with you but because they want to like check you

01:40:48.140 or keep you humble they'll like point that's where the astro calls come in yeah i'm saying

01:40:52.380 they they will say shit like disagree with you just so no one else no one girls do this a lot

01:40:58.680 like when you're dating them no one else no one else will tell you blah blah so i'll fucking tell

01:41:03.580 you like they think and they don't even believe it right exactly it's just like yeah people do that

01:41:08.520 so but the point of what i'm saying is is like dude you shouldn't agree with everything and that

01:41:12.880 doesn't mean you need to attack every like dude when i see some shit that like sean posts i don't agree

01:41:16.840 with guess what i don't do don't like it i don't like it and i don't fucking comment on it right and

01:41:21.000 then i scroll on and then i text them later and i'm like hey bro what do you what about this gun

01:41:24.860 or what about this like i don't even fucking think about it like i know i'm not going to agree with

01:41:29.020 everybody so i don't fucking care right you know what i mean i do happen to agree with most of the

01:41:33.180 shit sean says and whatever you believe and i i say this because there's going to be somebody who's

01:41:38.600 kind of come up with the exception but what whatever you believe is not a threat to me or what i

01:41:43.900 believe no me so so you can believe whatever you want and i'll agree and other things like you know

01:41:48.480 what's fucking funny dude is like when you're somebody like you or me or sean or gary or anybody

01:41:53.460 who puts their fucking shit out there you got people who will uh they will come and they will

01:41:59.740 they make it their point to like disagree with you in the most like abrasive way possible yes that

01:42:06.460 like dude if they like if and if it was in real life they wouldn't even say they wouldn't say anything

01:42:10.820 they wouldn't say anything to you like but on the internet they gotta they write this shit like

01:42:15.400 oh fuck you andy you're a piece of shit because you said you like fucking french fries better than

01:42:20.440 nude pictures you know like i fucking hate you but then i go to their page and i see that they're

01:42:26.120 following me i'm like you're still following me bro like if this made you that mad just leave yes

01:42:31.220 like i don't understand that shit like i have dude i have never one time ever ever ever ever ever

01:42:37.000 ever gone on somebody else's page when i disagreed and fucking commented about it right you know why

01:42:42.920 because dude that's their fucking yard and you know what you know what and you're you know what

01:42:47.900 you can do in your yard anything you want if you want to fucking you could cut your grass whatever

01:42:53.160 you want you cannot cut your grass you could shit in the yard you could piss in the yard i piss in my

01:42:58.760 fucking yard my neighbors think i'm a fucking hoosier you know what because i am you know what i'm

01:43:03.080 saying and in missouri hoosier means redneck so i you know i fucking am and that's me like i'm gonna do

01:43:09.980 whatever the fuck i want in my yard and like that's how i see people's socials like i see i see

01:43:15.480 and you know what the truth is dude because i've had this happen to me a lot somebody will say

01:43:20.800 something like so over the top crazy and i'm like i've gotten it so much now and i'm like damn dude

01:43:25.520 like this guy's having a fucking bad day yeah and i'll dm him and i'll be like bro

01:43:29.380 like i saw that comment like you having a bad day right like and they'll be like yeah fuck you and i'm

01:43:37.200 like hey man like i'm not like trying to be a dick i'm just saying like hey you know you're

01:43:43.700 taking this way too serious and you know what happens every time every fucking time they're

01:43:48.220 like bro you know what sorry i'm sorry yeah i was having a bad fucking day i had a guy message me

01:43:53.000 the other day and he's like he's like your book is 25 bucks and jordan peterson's is 20 and he's a

01:44:01.020 doctor and eric davis is 18 and he's a navy seal and blah blah blah blah about why my book shouldn't

01:44:09.220 be 25 i said cool dude don't buy it or buy the kindle version for nine bucks but i don't know

01:44:14.040 what's going on in your day that makes you think like i have to be the brunt end of this right and

01:44:18.440 he wrote back a couple hours later he's like bro you're right dude i was having a bad day man i'm

01:44:22.740 sorry about that i had another guy do it on a drunk rant one day yeah i got that before too yeah you

01:44:27.780 know what's funny dude is that you you you can maintain all your power with those people by just

01:44:32.600 not caring right like people don't like people don't realize like like when i respond back and

01:44:38.380 i'm a smart ass they're like oh you fucking you must really care no dude i'm like on my end i'm

01:44:43.240 laughing yeah like i'm laughing about this like i'm sitting there you just made this rude comment

01:44:47.800 and you're completely irritated pissed off and i'm sitting there with my friends or with tyler or with

01:44:52.340 emily and we're fucking laughing like i'm laughing about it you know what i mean like

01:44:57.720 they don't realize that like on the back end like it's doesn't i don't care anything like if

01:45:01.840 you follow me cool if you don't follow me i don't care like if you if you decided not follow me that's

01:45:08.200 probably a good idea because you're you're separating yourself from something that irritates you and

01:45:13.440 that's good for you so there's places you can go that you will probably resonate with other people's

01:45:18.740 shit and that's great go do that dude that's great like dude that's great everybody should find

01:45:24.660 what they resonate right and follow that shit but like if you're gonna come on page and be like oh

01:45:28.860 why do you use the f word so much you know why because i fucking like it and that's how i talk

01:45:34.140 and that's what i communicate with and that's my fucking brand so if you can't understand that basic

01:45:40.180 aspect of that you can't question and believe that that may be really how andy talks yeah then you're

01:45:48.180 you're not getting it right like when i say authentic like when i go to christmas dinner

01:45:52.540 and i fucking sit at the table at christmas and people tell me hey andy how's your day

01:45:58.180 there's not probably going to be a sentence that comes out without the word fuck

01:46:02.340 at christmas dinner in front of my grandma and my mom and my fucking whoever whoever happens to be

01:46:07.520 there because i'm comfortable being who i am you know what i mean and if that upsets people i don't

01:46:14.420 know what to do you know oh fine well and you know what though if you you know quote unquote cleaned up

01:46:20.600 your language everybody else everybody else would know that would be other people i don't why are

01:46:25.280 you the old andy the way you used to right you know people complain about that so dude there's

01:46:30.180 always something i know man it is always going to be something yeah that's what it is dude uh i saw

01:46:35.080 this crazy this meme got sent to me and it was a picture i gotta i gotta fucking pull it up because

01:46:40.440 it's really good um somebody sent me this meme uh a while back and it was such a good representation of

01:46:49.580 of how people are um let's see who sent that to me i'm scrolling through my phone

01:46:56.240 it was stormy storm i believe which is a brand ambassador for for storm storm three she sent me

01:47:06.920 this meme and in the top corner it shows a man and a woman on a donkey and it said the caption is

01:47:13.020 these two other people watching them and then the caption uh says two people on a donkey's back poor

01:47:17.540 animal so in the next in the next uh slide it's there the man's on the donkey and the woman's walking

01:47:24.700 it says how cruel he is by letting his wife walk and the next slide she's riding the donkey and he's

01:47:31.700 walking and it says how stupid is he by letting his wife ride on the donkey alone and then on the

01:47:37.640 last on the last slide it shows them both walking next to the donkey and it says fools don't even

01:47:43.400 know how to utilize a donkey right oh that's the world we fucking live in exactly you're never gonna

01:47:48.260 do it fucking never never you know so just do it do it the way you're gonna do it yeah right the only

01:47:53.600 thing i've ever done if i have have not liked enough people's thoughts and ideas on their social

01:47:59.300 anything is just go click that little unfollow button yeah right i've never made a comment or

01:48:04.400 it's like no i don't agree i don't like i'm out me too right like there's shit that irritates me

01:48:10.860 every day i just decide like okay well if you if you irritate me one time i'm like oh that's who they

01:48:17.480 are you know that's what they believe i can respect that right like dude fucking emily sears emily

01:48:22.280 sears is a brand ambassador for first form all right she's got fucking 10 million followers on

01:48:26.960 instagram she's super fucking like over the top feminist right like i have a hard time relating

01:48:31.980 to like some of the shit that she gets all worked up about and i've told her this but you know what

01:48:36.980 i respect it like hey that's her fucking point of view that's her page i don't agree with everything

01:48:41.360 she posts but you know what i respect her and dude half of the shit she posts is hilarious so like

01:48:48.260 when if that level of like not agreeing with her and thinking it was weird or not got to a point

01:48:54.340 where it was like everything she posts guess what i would do i would not follow her just leave

01:48:58.040 right and i wouldn't say hey you fucking suck change your thing for me yeah it's just an arrogant

01:49:03.460 thing to say like oh change your whole fucking opinions for me like dude i actually respect

01:49:07.900 people that have opinions about things right at least they have courage like i might not understand

01:49:12.240 all the feminist stuff and like all the the things they got going on i don't i don't understand it

01:49:17.420 i'll be the first one to admit i'll also be the first one to admit that like i don't really try to

01:49:22.580 understand it because like to me the way how aggressive it is makes it doesn't make sense to

01:49:27.580 me and you know what i might be one of the motherfuckers they talk about like where they

01:49:30.900 say the one thing they like to say is uh not all guys like that's the saying they said so like maybe

01:49:36.700 i'm that guy i'm not all guys i don't fucking know i don't know where to fuck like what i do know

01:49:41.240 is like how would you date a girl like that like like dude we're like everything you would say would be

01:49:46.460 like yeah we're the wrong thing right like i'm the wrong thing because i have a penis like so i

01:49:51.940 don't try to understand it because honestly i don't give a fuck you know what i'm saying but

01:49:55.660 that's her what she's passionate about and that's what she's into and i'm cool with that you know

01:49:59.580 what i mean like i don't i don't have to argue everything like once you let go of like having to

01:50:04.160 be right about everything dude your whole fucking world gets a lot less stressful you know you don't

01:50:08.520 have to be right you can you can be understand people are the way they are they believe what they

01:50:13.260 want to believe you don't have to fucking change their opinion that's what i get like with these

01:50:17.520 motherfuckers on politics like where they spend hours upon hours upon hours upon hours trying to

01:50:23.000 make their fucking point you know why the arguments of politics are so fiery because people are so

01:50:28.380 invested in their position right that no matter what you say you will not change it so why are you

01:50:34.320 fucking spending 50 fucking hours a day arguing with them it is never going to change you're better

01:50:40.100 off saying that's how they believe it like that's their worldview that's what they believe that's

01:50:46.300 been their perspective that's how they grew up and you know what i didn't grow up that same way so

01:50:50.860 i believe different things and you know what we can still have a fucking beer together yep you

01:50:54.820 know what i mean yeah exactly like it's just it's so weird man like it's why i'm just glad i'm like

01:51:00.260 past that point in my life because i used to be like that dude i used to be the guy i had to

01:51:03.700 fucking be right like i had to argue i had i had so much of that in me like if i saw somebody like

01:51:10.060 if somebody said something and i fucking didn't agree i have to like say something back and like

01:51:14.940 go i'd go back and forth on the internet in my own comment section for fucking hours

01:51:19.220 you know what i do now i either ignore it or if it's like something rude i just fucking block them

01:51:24.800 fuck i don't care i always i always just kind of ask in my head like who who when people get like

01:51:29.560 that like who are you trying to convince yeah like are you trying to convince me or yourself or

01:51:33.960 like it's usually yourself it's their self yeah yeah yeah they've got some issues that they're

01:51:38.460 trying to work towards or through or whatever that they have things the way they see right right you

01:51:43.140 know or that i'm not compassionate enough to to whatever come on bro like hey for what i care about

01:51:49.560 the shit i care about in my life i'm doing pretty fucking good yeah you know i'm saying like i don't

01:51:54.000 really care like if you come on my page some fucking rant about whatever it is you care about

01:51:57.520 i'd likely don't give a fuck you know what i'm saying well you'd be talking about it i would be

01:52:02.320 i'd be talking about it it'd be important to me i'd be fucking blah blah blah like dude when people

01:52:08.340 bring these issues to me like i don't fucking care i care about what i care about like just like you

01:52:13.920 care about what you care about and you care about what you care about and you care about putting

01:52:18.360 dude's penises in your mouth and that's cool i don't mind that you he's talking to tyler yeah when

01:52:24.200 you yes it's totally talking to you when you finally fucking admit to everybody you're gay

01:52:28.540 no one's gonna care bro like everybody's gonna be like dude okay we already knew that like you

01:52:33.460 know what i'm saying like dude i'm gonna fuck if somebody's gay or if they're black or i don't care

01:52:37.080 about none of that shit and like you know so tyler when you're when you come out and you're finally

01:52:41.920 out when i'm ready yeah yeah there's a there's a line there's gonna be just as many people around

01:52:45.880 as there is now there's a line in a movie i can't remember a movie and and the guy one one of the

01:52:50.640 friends is gay and he comes out and he tells everybody he's gay and and he like coming out

01:52:54.640 of the closet yeah and they're like and the guys are like we already know that yeah he's like yeah

01:52:57.920 if you weren't gay you'd be a really weird dude dude you know what's funny man and sad at the same

01:53:03.540 time a guy i've known for a long long time is is gay and everybody knows he's gay but he won't say

01:53:09.320 nobody knows oh yeah like we legitimately and it's not tyler like it's a different guy but like dude i want

01:53:14.120 to message him or fucking tell him be like bro it's okay man i know you like the meat popsicle bro

01:53:19.460 it's cool man like you know what i'm saying like i like you know i don't fucking care right

01:53:25.080 nobody really cares it's okay right like dude if you've seriously discriminated somebody because

01:53:30.020 they're gay or because they're fucking black or eight you're a piece of shit like on a different

01:53:34.380 kind of level for sure like it's it's sad to me the society hasn't like grown past that yeah like

01:53:40.180 and you know what's fucked up is that the the fucking 99 of people we suffer the consequences

01:53:46.880 of the one percent of the lowest common denominator right like people who literally are racist right

01:53:52.040 or people who literally are homophobic and then you get the other 99 talking about it

01:53:57.620 and the fucking it gets tarnished we all get tarnished because of the scum yep you know what

01:54:02.400 i'm saying and like it's sad because social media is what brought that to the fucking forefront

01:54:06.680 like i almost feel like if we didn't have social a lot of these issues wouldn't even be fucking

01:54:11.020 issues like i feel like racism issue was much less of an issue 15 years ago than it is today

01:54:15.960 yeah people argue oh well that's because we didn't bring awareness about it no you're bringing

01:54:20.220 awareness to the worst possible scenarios right and and applying it across the norm as the norm

01:54:25.240 it's not the fucking norm right like dude when these fucking things happen like like there's a

01:54:30.160 racially motivated crime or a fucking uh a gender motivated issue or this or that dude 99 of people

01:54:37.960 are like damn dude that's fucked up right nobody argues that it's not it's a we know it's a bad thing

01:54:42.920 we're not right yeah and and you know unfortunately because the internet we all get lumped in this

01:54:47.480 fucking these categories because of what gender we happen to be or where our skin color is or where

01:54:53.400 we fucking grew up and dude it's sad you know what i'm saying like i get i'm gender neutral we

01:54:59.180 know like but dude you know like that's the truth you know what's fucked up dude like my friends

01:55:05.000 that that i'm friends with that are fucking gay like tyler like i make fun of them for being gay

01:55:09.780 like my friends who are black i fucking tell black jokes too and they're fine we fucking joke

01:55:14.540 around like they make fun of me for smelling like fucking baloney and i make fun of them you know

01:55:19.100 for what the black like we we're friends right like it's a fucking joke and like dude people need

01:55:24.980 to calm the fuck down dude like calm down you know what i'm saying like if you're my friend and you're

01:55:30.580 black i'm going to fucking make fun of you because you're black period and it's it's gonna happen so if

01:55:35.400 you're black and we're not friends if you're black and i don't make fun of you and we're not

01:55:39.360 fucking friends you know what i'm saying like if you're gay and i don't make fun of you for being

01:55:42.620 gay and people are like oh my god you're fucking terrible human no i'm not i'm actually the guy

01:55:48.020 who will get stabbed in the fucking face for that motherfucker you know what i mean like i'm a real

01:55:52.180 friend i don't look at fucking race and think oh he's less than me or look at gay people and think oh

01:55:57.040 he's fucking weird or this like dude it is what it is you know and like people are taking things so

01:56:04.720 fucking serious and so it's just fucking sad dude like it's sad how much anxiety and argument and

01:56:10.200 frustration that people have about and they'll say andy you don't understand because you're not a

01:56:14.740 fucking minority motherfucker i understand perfect you know what i'm saying i'm a realist i fucking

01:56:19.700 see what happens i see the real shit that happens you know what i mean i've been in situations where

01:56:24.740 people look at me different and i've lived like that for years at a time having fucking facial

01:56:28.680 disfigurement try working around with your face swollen the size of a fucking grapefruit for three

01:56:32.800 fucking years and scars on it look like freddy krueger got a hold of you and see how people

01:56:36.380 fucking treat you they treat you like shit so i get it but i know as well as anybody that dude just

01:56:41.760 because you're asian or you're black or you're fucking gay that 99 of the time you're getting

01:56:46.740 treated fucking normal you know what i'm saying sure and i think it's a media it's it's a big media

01:56:52.300 issue too because it's sensational right dude it's what to talk about it's what gets views it's what

01:56:56.840 gets views eyeballs attention all that stuff it's sad man because like if i feel like it creates

01:57:02.140 tension and like you can't even tell like dude go watch fucking go watch eddie murphy raw oh yeah

01:57:07.440 or anything by fucking uh um chris rock and or fucking uh dave chappelle but that's why comedians

01:57:15.080 are so valuable because they can say the things that we can't say right yeah dave chappelle is the

01:57:20.620 best thing for racial relations in the world like dude the world needs more dave chappelle because he

01:57:26.480 will make fun of white people he will make everybody black people he fucking makes fun of everybody

01:57:31.220 and you know what it's fucking hilarious right and the reason it's hilarious is because it's

01:57:36.080 based in truth yeah oh yeah i'll know it yep yep and so dude everybody out there who's got a little

01:57:41.040 chip on their shoulder about this or that fucking get rid of it dude you're you're fucking hurting

01:57:45.080 yourself you know anyway dude all over the place with this podcast yes we were but dude it's because

01:57:52.540 what do we talk about today dude it's because it's because we're friends and we're having a

01:57:57.020 conversation you know what i'm saying we're not like there's no agenda here so right dude i love it

01:58:00.880 when you come on the show appreciate it man guys check out his book sovereignty is really really

01:58:05.980 fucking good tell them where they can get it again uh order of man.com book that'll have all the links

01:58:11.360 make sure uh you're supporting ryan and taking care of his podcast listen to the podcast uh ryan's

01:58:17.520 one of the good guys so thanks man appreciate it as always love coming on man talking with you guys

01:58:21.720 yeah me too don't let don't cut your beard next time no i'll leave it i'll i'll grow it out a little

01:58:26.580 longer for you all right guys thanks for the listen we'll talk to you soon

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 27, 2018

The Art of Owning Your Life ft. Ryan Michler, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO217

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