REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Key To Ultimate Happiness, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO313

00:00:00.400 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.220 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host,

00:00:16.720 and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome. 0.99

00:00:22.080 This is a personal development, success, kick-ass in all areas of life podcast.

00:00:27.480 We don't charge anything for this, okay? We've been the number one podcast in the business

00:00:34.620 category consistently for a long, long time, thanks to our awesome listeners. By the way,

00:00:41.460 that's you. And we do this out of service. This is an obligation project. This is something that

00:00:49.860 a long time ago, my man, the pastor of disaster, who's sitting right in front of me,

00:00:55.480 and I decided that it was something that we needed to do. For a long, long time, I didn't realize

00:01:02.440 how much misinformation was out there until I actually got in the personal development space 0.98

00:01:06.740 and saw the amount of bullshit that was being spewed by people who quite honestly don't know 0.98

00:01:11.040 anything about what they are talking about. So what we cover here, guys, is basically everything 0.98

00:01:16.100 that has to do with you being better. And today is no different. But like I said, we don't ask for

00:01:22.320 money. I don't sell ads. I can make seven figures a year selling ads on this motherfucker. But I don't

00:01:27.220 because that's not why I started. I didn't start it to make money. I started it to provide value.

00:01:33.520 And with that being said, I ask, and this is our little thing that we have, if you get value out

00:01:40.000 of the podcast, which I'm pretty sure you will, that you share it. That's all. Friday night,

00:01:45.800 you go out with your friends. Saturday, hanging out. The topic of wanting to do better,

00:01:50.540 wanting to be better, comes up, whatever. Dude, just shoot him a little reference for the

00:01:54.820 MFCEO project. Now, with that being said, I just mentioned my man, the pastor of disaster.

00:02:01.720 He is here sitting right in front of me in the fucking flesh. What's up, dude? 0.99

00:02:07.360 A lot of stuff is up. We just got back from the Arte Syndicate Summit and there's a lot going on.

00:02:13.500 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, and I know that, you know, we didn't talk about this before when we were

00:02:20.380 chatting about this episode, but there's been a lot going on in your life too, man. I don't know

00:02:24.800 that everybody knows just the horrific stuff you've been through in the last couple of weeks. 0.94

00:02:30.980 No, but I noticed yesterday in my snaps that my beard has gotten twice as fucking gray in the last 0.96

00:02:36.600 two weeks. I hadn't noticed that, but I'm, you know, I'm in no judge position of judgment. 0.91

00:02:41.500 Yeah. Like in two weeks, dude, it went gray. Yeah. Yeah. And, and, uh, man, uh, you should

00:02:49.320 tell the story. You know, it's not the right time, man. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Um,

00:02:54.240 yeah. Still a little raw. Yeah. We had, uh, we had a, an incident in my family. Um, it looks like

00:03:04.300 everything's going to turn out okay. Uh, but it was just really, really, really bad. Yeah. Um, so,

00:03:10.800 and I'll, I'll talk about it when the time's right, but it's definitely been something that,

00:03:16.300 uh, it's been hard. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Um, we, back in church, we had those

00:03:24.940 things that when you didn't necessarily, when you needed prayer, but you didn't necessarily

00:03:27.800 want to share the details, you just said, I have an unspoken prayer request. Yeah. That's

00:03:31.680 pretty much it. That's it. And, uh, you know, the truth is brother, um,

00:03:35.800 you know me as good as anybody and you know that I'm a spiritual dude. You know, a lot of people

00:03:43.520 don't realize that. Um, I think they think I'm just some loud mouth dude who fucking loves money 0.99

00:03:49.360 and shit. And you know, I am those things, but, but, uh, you know, the one thing I'm very in tune 0.99

00:03:54.500 with is, um, is spirituality and, and, uh, I'm a huge believer in God. Um, there's no way I could

00:04:01.880 be where I'm at without him. Uh, and I know some people hear that and they think, Oh, well,

00:04:07.900 I don't believe in that level. It really doesn't matter if you believe in it or not. It's like

00:04:11.800 gravity. You know what I'm saying? Like you could fucking say, I don't believe in gravity,

00:04:16.080 but you jump off the fucking building, you're going to feel it. So, um, so I don't try to push 0.99

00:04:21.060 it on people. I guess that's kind of where I come from. You know, I have my own beliefs. I respect

00:04:25.260 other people's beliefs. And I think it's important for people to discover those beliefs without it

00:04:31.700 being shoved down their throat. You get what I'm saying? Like, I feel like a lot of religion

00:04:35.560 just shoves it down your throat. And that's what causes people to really question it later because

00:04:40.380 they're like, Hey, why didn't I, where, where are my beliefs? I wasn't, you know, like they didn't

00:04:46.740 come to the conclusion on their own. And I guess, um, that's something I've had the good fortune to be

00:04:52.380 able to do because I've just had so many things that cannot be explained. Um, you know what I think is

00:04:59.200 the absolute best principle for sharing your faith with anybody, make a friend, make a sale.

00:05:06.380 Yeah. Right. Like let them know you first. Like, yeah. Like I really, I literally think that that's

00:05:11.100 the, that's the best way. Um, is that become friends with somebody, respect them, provide value

00:05:17.220 for them. And then when the conversation comes up, you say, Hey, would you mind if I shared some of

00:05:23.720 my thoughts? Yeah. Sure. And that's how I like, you know, that's how I think most people respond to

00:05:28.460 that. You know what I mean? Cause most people, I feel like believe in something. They're just not

00:05:33.440 sure what they believe in. But, uh, but getting back to the unspoken prayers where I'm going with

00:05:39.800 this, you know, I, I, I reached out to a couple really close friends that, that I know are very,

00:05:46.000 um, close with, with, with God and with their, with their beliefs. And, uh, dude, I asked them

00:05:53.740 to pray. And for the first time in my life, I led prayers in front of people. You know what I'm

00:05:58.060 saying? Yeah. In front of 700 people. And then, you know, I heard about that. Yeah. And then,

00:06:02.600 dude, you know what? The day after the second time I did it, um, the person I was praying for

00:06:11.360 woke up from their coma. That's awesome. You know what I'm saying? So it's in, and that's

00:06:16.140 like six days ahead of when they were supposed to. That's awesome. So it's just, there's just,

00:06:20.120 it's been a lot to digest. I've been doing a lot of thinking, man. You know what I'm saying? And,

00:06:24.400 uh, um, if people are watching me right now and they're like, why the fuck did Andy's beard turn 0.98

00:06:28.720 gray? Uh, I'm hoping it goes back, but, but, uh, no man, it's been a Sean Connery. Yeah. I'm just 0.82

00:06:35.900 not ready for that. Yeah. No, I'm not ready for that old man life. Yeah. That silver Fox life, 1.00

00:06:40.240 you know? Um, although I will say of all the, uh, the age, what is that? The age app?

00:06:46.440 Yeah. The literally the only person that I thought looked good was you. Yeah, dude. Yeah. It was

00:06:50.420 weird. I thought you looked really good. Like I was like, man, he looks really awesome. He looks

00:06:54.340 like a Sean Connery. You look like a most interesting man in the world. I mean, kind of

00:06:58.720 that kind of guy. They made up for that first 30 years. Like a dumb ass. So I felt, you know,

00:07:03.980 I got some hope for being a, being a silver Fox, but yeah, you know, like, um, you know,

00:07:09.900 there's always more to what's going on than people realize and people don't realize that

00:07:13.660 in social. And you know, when you say, when you say, I mean, I, if I fucking explain what's 0.76

00:07:23.240 gone on in the last two weeks, not just with that situation, but with the other ones that

00:07:26.700 have happened with it, people think I'm lying, you know, like they would think I was making

00:07:30.580 it up. It's been a, it's been a test. Yeah. There's no question. Yeah. So, um, but everything

00:07:37.560 seems to be going the right direction again. And, uh, we're getting the momentum on the

00:07:40.860 good side again. And, you know, I told Ed, I was talking to Ed, I'm like, look, man, you

00:07:45.240 know, I haven't had a bad streak in fucking years. Yeah. You know what I mean? So the 0.98

00:07:49.080 reality is, is, and this has nothing to do with business, by the way, like people are

00:07:52.800 probably thinking, Oh, he's talking about his company. No, it hasn't absolutely nothing

00:07:56.420 to do with business. Business is fucking crushing. Right. Um, more, way more personal and 0.98

00:08:01.940 family stuff. Uh, it does seem like there's been just a handful of crazy stuff, bro. Yeah.

00:08:09.960 It's, you don't even know it all. No, I don't know. My ex, my ex fucking lifting partner who

00:08:14.440 I lived with for five years was murdered on Wednesday. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? 0.99

00:08:19.900 Like, it's just another thing on top of all this shit. Yeah. You know, he was shot backing 1.00

00:08:24.460 out of a driveway. Like, and they don't, nobody even knows why around St. Louis. Yeah. And

00:08:28.480 Cahokia and like, dude, I'm just, it's just like, what the fuck is going on? Right. Crazy 0.99

00:08:32.980 stuff. But I told Ed, uh, and this dude was a good dude too, man. You know what I'm saying?

00:08:38.680 Like he was a good friend of mine and, um, just, uh, it's just been one of those, one of those

00:08:46.540 periods. And, uh, you know, sometimes all you can do is throw your hands up and say, what

00:08:55.860 the fuck? You know, like, and that's kind of where I've been and I've been careful not 0.99

00:09:00.020 to get too down on any of this shit because the truth is, is I have, I haven't had a bad 0.94

00:09:05.680 streak in a long time. And, uh, you know, sometimes you're just do. Yeah. And sometimes bad shit 0.99

00:09:11.560 just happens. And sometimes literally there's no, there's no success formula. Correct. There's 0.98

00:09:15.900 no, like literally you just have to endure. Yeah. And that's just have to endure. And, and,

00:09:20.260 and that's, that's what this is. And I'm aware of that. Which I mean, and I, this sounds like

00:09:25.540 a really cheesy transition, but how much you think 75 hard helped you with that? Um, a trillion

00:09:31.400 percent. Like dude, a trillion percent. Um, I don't know if that's actual percent, but no,

00:09:39.180 no, it is. But I mean, uh, you know, sometimes we make the mistake of, we have such, such a tight

00:09:45.860 core of, um, loyal listeners that are here every time that's, I think sometimes we make

00:09:51.100 the mistake of thinking that everybody knows what we're talking about. Yeah. So like what

00:09:53.940 in cliff notes, what would you say? 75 hard is, um, dude, 75 hard is the ultimate mental

00:10:02.160 toughness program. I think that's ever been developed, especially to my knowledge. Um, I

00:10:09.360 couldn't even begin to tell you the benefits that it's done for me. I mean, it did everything.

00:10:13.600 I, so dude, people don't understand. They think I just made this shit up out of one, 0.98

00:10:17.460 you know, Oh, I just made it up. Like that's not really how it went. Right. You know, 75 hard is a 0.99

00:10:23.400 culmination of 20 plus years of trying to figure this out. What, what makes people tougher than

00:10:29.860 other people? What makes people more resilient? What makes people have more grit? How do they have

00:10:34.760 more mental toughness? How do you actually develop it? Um, how do you develop confidence? How do you

00:10:40.420 develop self-esteem? Because if you listen to the real world, man, you know, all these knuckleheads 0.96

00:10:46.660 out there are just telling people they should have those things. Well, that's like saying, Hey,

00:10:50.280 you should just be a fucking billionaire. You know what I'm saying? Like it doesn't. Yeah. Okay. 1.00

00:10:54.860 That's cool. But now what, you know? And, um, the course on being happy point. Number one,

00:11:00.220 choose to be happy. Oh, well, thanks. Like, thanks. Really appreciate that.

00:11:04.200 Yeah. So that's, and really dude, I'm glad you brought that up because really what 75 hard

00:11:09.260 is, is a program that teaches you what makes you happy. Okay. And how to be happy. And

00:11:16.080 so it's kind of like a disguise program, right? Like a lot of people think it's like a body

00:11:23.120 transformation. A lot of people think it's just mental toughness, which it is. It is designed

00:11:27.380 to be mental toughness, but really what it is, is it's a happiness program. It's a program

00:11:32.300 that teaches you how to be happy with yourself, how to be comfortable with yourself. You can't

00:11:38.020 be happy with yourself unless you're living to the standard that, you know, you can live

00:11:43.160 to meaning that discipline is in direct proportion to your happiness. And what that means is, is

00:11:50.440 when your discipline is exercised at the highest amount, you're also going to be happy. Now

00:11:55.020 that's counterproductive because most people think of happy as easy. It's a synonymous thing,

00:12:00.680 right? When you say, Hey, I want to be happy. Most people think of like that time where they

00:12:05.780 were sitting on the beach with a fucking Corona, right? Or whatever, like, you know, relaxing with 0.98

00:12:10.100 a lemonade on the front porch. I'm happy. Well, yes, that's a moment that you're happy. But what

00:12:15.780 we're talking about is how to be happy the majority of the time, you know? And I think people misjudge

00:12:21.860 their, their happiness because they still have down times. So meaning like you have a bad day.

00:12:29.700 And so you go home and you're like, Oh my God, this isn't making me happy. No motherfucker. You 1.00

00:12:34.580 had a bad day, right? Like happiness is rated on an individual event scale. Meaning when I go home

00:12:42.700 and see my Charlie bear and she's shaken and she tinkles a little bit. Cause she's so happy to see

00:12:47.720 me. My happiness is a level 10, right? You can't get any happier, right? Right. So the goal shouldn't

00:12:53.480 be to look at your, the scope of your life over a hundred years or 50 years or 30 years and say,

00:13:01.660 I'm not happy. It should be understanding what happiness really is, which is what happiness really

00:13:06.760 is, is the culmination of a lot of high moments, right? So you should be trying to maximize those

00:13:12.360 moments as many times as you can throughout a day, knowing that you're not always going to have

00:13:17.960 a level 10, like it's impossible. And if you did always have a level 10, how would you appreciate

00:13:23.540 happiness at all? Because it would just become the norm, right? You see what I'm saying? So a lot of

00:13:29.120 people have misjudged their idea of what truly makes them happy because they're listening to these 1.00

00:13:33.440 fucking dumb fucks out there on the internet or on good morning America or wherever these people are. 1.00

00:13:38.460 And by the way, might not be good morning America's generalization. I don't watch that 1.00

00:13:42.960 show, right? I'm just talking shit. But my point is, is everywhere we turn, we have these, um, 1.00

00:13:49.600 we have these people say like pretending that they live these fucking spiritual high level, 0.98

00:13:56.580 happy lives and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And this is fucking bullshit, man. It's just bullshit. 1.00

00:14:02.640 Really? What makes you happy is you being present in the present moment and understanding 0.99

00:14:08.060 that this, like when I go home and see my dog, that's a level 10, right? When I do this other

00:14:14.280 thing, when I train weight with waste, I'm happy. Okay. So the goal is to produce as many of those

00:14:20.820 events throughout the course of the day, knowing that you're still going to have to deal with shit 0.99

00:14:24.220 that is uncomfortable. Absolutely. Right. Um, and so what it really equates to, if you really break 0.99

00:14:31.280 it down is that the level of exercise, uh, that the level of discipline that you exercise is in

00:14:37.560 direct proportion to your happiness. Okay. So if you have, if your discipline goes down, your happiness

00:14:43.020 is going to go down. So if your discipline goes up, your happiness is going to go up. A lot of people

00:14:50.500 never recognize this because they literally have never ever exercised any discipline at all. Right.

00:14:58.160 Right. Right. And so their idea of discipline is more like, Oh, this is going to hurt. This is

00:15:03.320 going to suck. I don't want to do this. I'd rather lay on the TV couch and watch TV, which makes you 0.97

00:15:08.020 unhappy. You just don't realize it. So easiness is unhappiness. Difficulty will equal happiness,

00:15:15.800 but you've got to be willing to go through it first. Yeah. You know? And that's something I think

00:15:20.060 that's something I never put together until I went through the program. You know what I mean?

00:15:25.280 Yeah. And like, dude, people will pay fucking millions of dollars for the secret to happiness, 0.94

00:15:31.020 but, but they don't want to know the answer because the answer is you're going to have to 1.00

00:15:34.600 do shit. You don't like, right. You're going to have to do shit that whenever you get done with, 0.99

00:15:38.380 you're going to be able to look in the mirror and be like, dude, I'm proud of you motherfucker. 1.00

00:15:41.340 Yep. You know what I'm saying? Yep. And that's the key. So what came to my mind was you, 1.00

00:15:46.220 you know, we touched on spirituality earlier. People choose a particular faith because ultimately

00:15:52.020 they think it will make them what? You just said it. Happier. Happy, right? Yeah. So what

00:15:58.820 most people I don't think realize is that the three metaphors or the three word pictures that

00:16:05.540 are used most frequently in the New Testament, um, to, to kind of communicate what the life of faith

00:16:13.000 is all about are three things, athlete, soldier, and farmer. What do all three of those things have

00:16:20.780 in common? You've got to fucking do hard work to be great at them. You've got to do hard work to 0.98

00:16:24.900 succeed. You've got to have discipline. That's right. You've got to have determination. You've

00:16:28.580 got to never give up. And you know, when it comes to an athlete, I mean, you're going to have to put

00:16:34.560 yourself through grueling practice in order to win. Yeah. As a farmer, you're going to have to go

00:16:40.080 day in and day out. Hardest, hardest life there is. Hardest life there is. You're going to, in order

00:16:46.040 to reap the harvest. There's no way you can do it without that. And then like, obviously with the

00:16:50.460 soldier, something we've said on this podcast all the time, life is not a playground. It's a

00:16:55.320 battleground. Right. And, and, and to be happy, you have to fight for happiness. That's right. And in order

00:17:01.540 to do that, you got to, like you said, you got to be mentally tough. You got to be disciplined,

00:17:04.500 bro. And the whole fucking world thinks that there's like, if you say that, like if we just 0.99

00:17:08.420 fucking got on good morning America and said what we just said, 80% of the motherfuckers watching 1.00

00:17:13.220 will argue with it. Yeah. And, but you know what? 80%, a hundred percent of those 80% are miserable 1.00

00:17:18.180 as fuck. Yeah. And they're trying to deny the truth. Right. They're trying to say, well, that's not 1.00

00:17:24.740 what makes me happy. Well, that's not what blah, blah. Look, motherfucker, we're all wired pretty

00:17:28.780 much the same. Yeah. 99% the same. Yeah. You can think you're this way or that way, however 1.00

00:17:33.460 you want to think. The truth is, is we respond pretty much the same way to most things. And

00:17:38.440 I'm going to tell you, if you go out and accomplish some shit that you didn't think you could do 0.99

00:17:43.260 or that you maybe thought you could do, but weren't sure. And you accomplish it, your happiness 0.98

00:17:48.360 is going to go up. Right. And the more you can do that, the more happiness you're going to

00:17:52.840 have. Absolutely. That's the truth. Absolutely. You know, and that's why people who are in

00:17:57.220 middle class right now, because, because we have a situation right now where there's really

00:18:04.940 not a lot of hope, right? This is why entrepreneurship is becoming such a real thing because there's

00:18:10.240 very few companies out there that are looking to actually build brands anymore to, to provide

00:18:17.100 lucrative careers for people. So what you have is a bunch of individual people selling a bunch

00:18:22.560 of shit and people are coming out of college with this promise of, you know, Oh, we're going 0.98

00:18:28.640 to go out and do this or that, or I'm going to have this job and it's going to, dude, people 1.00

00:18:32.100 are getting out of college with $150,000 of fucking student loan debt, getting a $50,000 0.95

00:18:37.160 a year job. They can't even pay the motherfucking note on. Right. Dude, how can you get excited 1.00

00:18:41.140 about that? You can't. Yeah. It's hopeless. That's why you have politicians taking advantage

00:18:46.360 of it saying, Hey, let's just pay off everybody's student loan. And dude, and you can't do

00:18:49.620 it. It's mathematically impossible. So the point is, is that, you know, when you don't

00:18:55.780 have hope and you don't have belief and you don't have anything to go for, you'd be fucking 0.98

00:19:01.420 miserable. And I truly believe that the mental health crisis that's going on in America right 0.99

00:19:05.960 now is a result of the lack of hope and the lack of careers and a lack of problems to be

00:19:13.560 solved for those middle-class people. Yeah. You know what I mean? Absolutely. So, I mean,

00:19:19.000 I believe that the real, the real gold in this podcast very often is, is making subtle

00:19:24.520 distinctions. And, you know, since you, I mean, we're just kind of, we're kind of rolling

00:19:28.820 with this topic. So I'm going to, I'm going to take it a step further. So you posted, I

00:19:32.640 don't know if it was yesterday. My brain has just been fried lately, but you posted like

00:19:37.200 a before and after and you did, you basically said on the left-hand side, it was a guy that

00:19:42.140 was kind of out of shape. Um, but you said that, uh, it was you and it, you said, you

00:19:47.360 know, this guy had, you know, fake confidence, doubt, et cetera, et cetera. And then you had

00:19:52.740 the after, which was you in shape, but it was, it wasn't just you in shape. It was you post

00:19:58.300 75 hard. Right.

00:20:00.220 And, and what I thought was really interesting, cause you, you know, we've talked about these

00:20:04.540 things for the last three years. I mean, you've had plenty of reasons over the last, you know,

00:20:11.420 15 years to be confident and to not doubt yourself. Um, you've had, you've racked up

00:20:17.480 accomplishments, but the way that I interpreted that, that post was you were saying that there's

00:20:22.520 a, there's a reality and there's a substance to your confidence now that in some ways you

00:20:27.480 haven't had before. So kind of old Andy versus new Andy. So talk to me about that because I

00:20:32.700 think that, I think that distinction, I mean, I've, let's put it this way without it, without

00:20:38.500 going into detail, we've met a lot of people over the last three years who from the world's

00:20:43.000 perspective are incredibly successful people. And yet there is a very, very, very common

00:20:50.460 theme, which is deep down they're insecure.

00:20:53.780 Yeah. They feel like a fraud or they, or they're, or they're, they lack confidence. So tell

00:20:57.900 me about why that is because they've never truly proven to themselves what they're capable

00:21:01.800 of. Yeah. That's the truth.

00:21:03.280 So, yeah. So tell me, talk, talk about that old, you know, fuck man. I mean, 1.00

00:21:09.400 dude, really what it comes down to is, is are you judging yourself based upon

00:21:16.420 society, social construct, or are you judging yourself based upon what you know to be true

00:21:23.920 about yourself? Okay. So in 2016, I was 300 plus pounds. Everybody, most people know that

00:21:32.160 I was actually at my high. I was like three 50 when I started on, uh, when I started getting

00:21:38.820 serious about fitness again, I was three 30. I think I lost like 20 pounds. Um, dude, by

00:21:48.440 all society construct, I was a fucking successful dude. Right. I had all the shit. I was making 0.98

00:21:54.900 tons of money. I got these companies, I got this podcast. I'm doing all this crazy shit,

00:22:00.360 right. Going around the world, speaking to everybody, even as a fat motherfucker, I was 1.00

00:22:04.180 doing that. So by all means, I mean, what, what are you going to say? Right. You know what 0.99

00:22:11.040 I'm saying? Like who cares if you have a little extra pounds, right? Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. I got

00:22:14.440 everything else. Right. But the truth was, is that I wasn't happy. I wasn't fulfilled. I wasn't

00:22:21.960 disciplined. I wasn't operating at my highest level. I was getting by. I was bullshitting. I was

00:22:27.760 bullshitting myself. You know what I mean? And, um, I mean, it's laughable now. Tyler and I watched a

00:22:35.040 video from when I spoke like in 2015, when I was like seriously fucking overweight and I'm sitting 0.98

00:22:40.320 there talking about getting shit done and blah, blah, blah. And it's like, dude, you're 0.90

00:22:44.520 fucking like, you're ridiculous. You know what I mean? And it made me sick to even see 1.00

00:22:48.940 that shit. Oh yeah. Tyler said I projected a lot of my anger. Yeah. I mean, I guess so. 1.00

00:22:56.800 Yeah, of course, dude. I mean, dude, it's not fun to be fat. Yeah. I don't give a fuck

00:23:01.580 what anybody says. They can talk about the fucking body positivity shit all they want. It's 1.00

00:23:05.420 bullshit. It just is. Cause I know what it's like. And no matter how much you tell yourself 1.00

00:23:09.380 you're beautiful, no matter how much you tell yourself, you love yourself, no matter

00:23:12.400 how much you tell yourself this, that, the other, it's a lie. It's a fucking lie. And 1.00

00:23:17.340 I'm not some skinny dude who's never struggled with his weights and you're telling you this,

00:23:21.060 you know, when you got to wear the same outfit for a year straight, cause none of your other

00:23:24.820 clothes fit, you don't feel good. When you don't, when you, when you go to fucking Nordstrom's 0.97

00:23:29.580 or Macy's, wherever you buy clothes at and nothing fits, you don't feel good. When you got 0.97

00:23:34.520 to go to a swimming pool and you fucking don't want to get in the pool or you don't even 0.98

00:23:38.120 go because there is a pool, you don't feel good. That's reality. Nobody fucking feels 0.98

00:23:44.040 good when they're like that. It's reality. And not only that, you're not healthy. You're 0.99

00:23:48.220 not setting the right example. You're not doing what you need to be doing. You're not

00:23:52.100 being an example for your family, your friends, and dude, you're living way below your potential.

00:23:57.200 And you know what? If that's for you, good. But this probably isn't the fucking show for

00:24:02.280 you to listen to. You know what I'm saying? Like if you could be happy that way, good. 0.99

00:24:06.500 I think you're full of shit, but go do it. I'll stay out of your business. You stay 1.00

00:24:11.020 out of mine. But the truth is for me, I wasn't willing to accept that. You know, we're here

00:24:16.880 for a short time. I got a lot of shit I want to do and I knew I had to change. And, um, 0.98

00:24:21.860 when I came up with the 75 heart concept, you know, where really I went from being, you know,

00:24:28.360 I, I, you know, I went from losing most of the weight to going from just like a guy who lost

00:24:34.180 a bunch of weight into back, back into a real athlete. Um, those are all the principles

00:24:39.720 that I learned that have built the things that I've had in the past. You know what I

00:24:43.780 mean? And, uh, I just really got back to combining them all together. Cause those are all little

00:24:47.540 habits that I did along the way that I had never really combined into a program. And, um,

00:24:54.800 and so we came up with the 75 heart concept and, uh, dude, it's been crazy. Like I have guys

00:25:00.480 who have done iron mans and fucking all kinds of shit. And they're like, dude, there ain't nothing 0.99

00:25:06.160 like this. And you know, that's, that's cool. So tell me again, like what you mean by old me

00:25:14.180 and new me. Cause like I said, from the outside perspective, not withstanding the weight, people

00:25:20.800 said Andy's successful. So other than just dropping weight, how are you different now?

00:25:26.380 Well, I think I got there. I got to where I was at that point on, on just pure one to win,

00:25:35.120 you know what I'm saying? And, um, I would say skill and talent, but it's not that it's

00:25:40.540 just, I just grinded it out cause that's what I wanted. And I left everything else where it

00:25:44.460 was. I didn't care about anything else. It was one dimensional. Uh, so I think the biggest

00:25:48.440 thing, the difference is, is, you know, I've learned how to master, master myself now by cultivating

00:25:55.300 the mental toughness that, that I, that I currently have, you know, right now I'm in a

00:26:02.560 different zone than I was three, four, 10 years ago. And a lot of it has to do with what

00:26:08.140 I did over the last, you know, four or five months. Um, you know, the biggest thing that

00:26:13.720 I think that, like I talked about the social construct, I think the biggest thing that for

00:26:19.220 me was learning that, that my success is, has nothing to do with anybody else. Um, when

00:26:26.540 you can realize that and stop comparing yourself and start comparing you to you, uh, not just

00:26:32.540 like in a mean way, like where people say, Oh, it's you versus you. Most people don't know

00:26:36.060 what the fuck that means. You know what I mean? I mean, in a real, a real way, like you're saying, 0.98

00:26:41.600 all right, a year ago I was this person. Now I'm this person. And a year from now I'm going

00:26:46.240 to be this person. Success is going to take care of itself, right? So if you master, if

00:26:51.420 you master yourself, you're gonna be able to master anything. Think about the decisions

00:26:55.280 that we make. The only reason that we don't, the only reason that anybody here that's listening

00:27:00.020 right now isn't where they want to be is because they talk themselves out of it. At some point

00:27:03.820 along the way, it got hard, it got difficult, it got too stressful. It got to a point where

00:27:09.800 they weren't happy doing this at this time. And what'd they do? They quit. All right.

00:27:14.540 And that's why, you know, we talk ourselves out of it. So you have to realize it's not about doing

00:27:18.640 better than other people. It's about the pursuit of the fulfillment of your own true potentials.

00:27:23.880 What I've been talking about for the whole time we've been doing this podcast, you know,

00:27:27.820 it's learning how to master yourself so you could become better today than you were yesterday,

00:27:33.900 than you were six months ago, than you were five years ago. Right. And, um, when you,

00:27:40.860 when you commit to that pursuit, now you're in a position where you create the most happiness

00:27:45.140 because you understand that fulfillment of potential is a sliding scale. So there's always

00:27:50.760 more to achieve. There's always more to gain. There's always more hard shit to do and problems

00:27:55.060 to be solved. And if you look at your happiness and tie it to those things, you have unlimited 0.97

00:28:00.340 happiness. Right. Yeah. So yeah, go ahead. I mean, that's, that's what, you know, I think a lot of

00:28:06.920 people have discovered through this program is that, dude, that's, what's going to create the

00:28:10.700 confidence. That's what's going to create the grit. That's, what's going to create the belief

00:28:14.740 in themselves and, uh, eliminate the doubts that they might have about themselves. I think people

00:28:20.320 are very much getting into tune with this. Uh, I know people that have completed this program.

00:28:27.560 I mean, you've seen what people say. I mean, everybody's saying the same shit does exactly what 0.98

00:28:33.140 I tell people it's going to do. Right. Um, and the interesting thing is, is that the minute they 0.99

00:28:39.060 stop, they start to regress. Right. You know what I mean? Right. So let's, let's talk about that

00:28:44.940 because dude, I've noticed that not only have you gone on a higher level, but I've also noticed that

00:28:52.560 when you do have off days, your rebounding is a lot quicker and like you, you just, you just don't

00:29:00.140 go into funks. Like, right. Like you have in the past. Right. Right. Disappear for a week. Yeah.

00:29:04.260 Right. Exactly. And I mean, I'm just going to keep it real here after, uh, you know, after doing

00:29:09.340 pretty well, my last three, three or four weeks, I've just sucked. Yeah. Absolutely sucked. And I 0.80

00:29:14.920 think the hardest thing for me, and I think other people have liked that or like this, you have that,

00:29:20.500 you have that success. And then you're like, well, why did I stop hitting, hitting the weights? Why did I

00:29:25.680 start eating like crap? Why did I start eating a bunch of Skittles? You know? And, and, and, and 0.99

00:29:30.160 here's where it's insidious. And you've got to, you've got to speak to this because I know I'm not

00:29:34.440 the only one. After having success and returning to that crap, you're like, oh, I must not be legit. 0.98

00:29:41.620 I must be a fraud. You know? Here's the dark secret of 75 hard that I don't talk about. 0.99

00:29:48.620 Um, if you don't fucking follow through to make you worse. Yeah. That's the problem. Yeah. Okay. So if 0.98

00:29:54.880 you're going to commit, you got to fucking do it. Yeah. If you fucking quit, you're going to be 0.99

00:29:59.080 worse. You'd be worse than you were the day you started. Because you'll say I was up on that level. 1.00

00:30:03.220 Why did I return to where I am? Yep. Yeah. And that's, that's, that's the dark secret of 75

00:30:08.220 hard. So if you're going to fucking do it, do it. If you're not going to do it, let it go in one 0.99

00:30:13.540 ear and out the other. So what, what would, what would you say to people who have, who, who obviously

00:30:19.160 don't want to spend the rest of their lives wallowing and they better fucking finish the program. 0.85

00:30:24.080 Yeah. Like dude, it's, it's what it is. So what's happened here psychologically is you 0.97

00:30:29.680 tested yourself. You failed the test. You're beating yourself up and now you think you're

00:30:34.380 not good enough. Yeah. And that's just not true. Right. So you just got to find some way

00:30:38.200 to grind it out. And dude, at the end of that 75 days, you're going to raise your hands

00:30:42.140 like you were fucking Rocky on the top of the steps, dude. And you're going to say, damn 1.00

00:30:45.100 dude. Yeah. That was the best thing I ever did. Yeah. So yeah. It makes sense. It's, it's a 1.00

00:30:50.080 big risk to take and do that challenge because a lot, a lot of people, you know, I don't even

00:30:56.360 like calling it a challenge. It's a program. Right. The reason, I'll get to this in a minute.

00:31:05.600 People are not paying it the respect that it's due because they're looking at it like it's 0.98

00:31:11.980 some sort of internet fucking challenge. Right. Like the 10 year challenge or some bullshit. 0.99

00:31:16.440 This shit will fuck you up if you don't finish it. Right. That's the reality. And if you don't 1.00

00:31:22.180 make it a lifestyle. Yeah. It's going to be that. Yeah. So open this box with caution. Yeah. Because

00:31:29.080 once you're in it, you're aware it's like taking that fucking pill in the matrix, you know, all 0.99

00:31:33.980 of a sudden, now, you know, now all of a sudden you're in tune. Now all of a sudden you don't 0.99

00:31:39.720 finish and you're like, fuck. Right. I'm not as good as I thought. I'm not like them. I fucking, 1.00

00:31:45.600 you know, and dude, it could cause, it could cause some issues. Yeah. Well, and it's interesting 0.99

00:31:51.000 just to provide a little teaser here without going into too much detail. Um, there's some

00:31:56.860 resources that you're going to be sharing in the next year related to 75 hard year. And

00:32:02.020 well, you know what I mean? I'm trying to, no, no, what, uh, but, but the, if I'm not mistaken,

00:32:10.540 one of the very first lessons is get ready for the magnitude of what you're about to do

00:32:14.760 to hit you. Yeah. But I think in, in part of that, part of your lesson on that, um, and

00:32:19.480 guys, you're, you're definitely want to get this. Um, part of your lesson is, is that you

00:32:24.080 want to choose really huge goals because even though the fall can be lethal, when you set

00:32:31.540 your heart on something that really demands every part of you, every part of you will level

00:32:36.740 up, you know, and that's, that's the whole point of 75 hard. I think you're right. I

00:32:40.780 mean, we're, we're focusing on the negative, which is that if you, if you don't follow through,

00:32:44.800 you're going to fall hard. But, but the whole point is it really is a huge, a huge thing

00:32:49.600 to try to accomplish. And it's going to have radical transformation. Absolutely. Yeah. But

00:32:54.480 only if you give it what the respect it's due, right? You know, guys, I had these people

00:32:59.140 who have done bodybuilding shows before and they're like, dude, I've dieted for 16 weeks

00:33:02.920 before. I've dieted for 20 weeks. I've dieted for six months. It ain't the same. There's

00:33:06.860 no rest days. There's no fucking cheat meals. There's no high calorie days. There's no fucking 0.99

00:33:11.520 like it's a fucking grind. Okay. It is not the same thing. I've dieted for fucking bodybuilding 0.99

00:33:17.460 too. It's not the, it's not comparable. Yeah. You know, it's interesting too, man, because 0.99

00:33:24.100 as you guys know, I started over today and that's the reason I started over today is because

00:33:28.160 I told Daryl, who's in the RTA syndicate, we were, we were having a talk. He said, dude,

00:33:33.260 I need to get my shit together. And I said, all right. I said, are you serious? And he's 0.99

00:33:37.020 like, yeah. I'm like, all right, well, I'll fucking do it with you. And he's like, what 0.99

00:33:40.240 do you mean? And I'm like, it means I will do it with you. I'll start over again and do

00:33:44.460 every fucking 75 days with you. Because when you're grinding, I'll grind. When you're tired, 0.99

00:33:50.260 I'll be tired. When you don't want to eat that shit, guess what? I don't eat that shit. 1.00

00:33:53.280 And I care about Daryl. I think he's, he reminds me a lot of where I was back whenever 1.00

00:33:58.400 I started this journey and dude, he's a very successful dude. You look at his life and you

00:34:04.380 could say, why does it matter, dude? He's got everything that you could ever imagine,

00:34:09.360 but he knows that he's leaving shit on the table. And that's something him and I have 0.99

00:34:13.680 talked about. In fact, he talked about it right in front of the whole group at RTA, which

00:34:18.340 was super cool. But yeah, you know, the point is, is like this shit will change you. You 1.00

00:34:25.960 know what I mean? And not just in a little way. And a lot of people right now are probably

00:34:29.520 like, Oh dude, I get it. No, you don't get it. You don't get it unless you fucking did

00:34:34.180 it. Right. That's the truth. So, um, Tyler's Tyler's in. You're in. All right. I'm in. 1.00

00:34:43.340 How much better are you? I'm in. All right, dude. Yeah. No fucking up. No, I'm not.

00:34:47.960 I'm going to, I'm going to do it. Yeah. I'm going to do it, dude. It's, it's completely

00:34:53.620 life changing. And, um, you know, people don't understand it, but it's really actually pretty

00:34:59.140 simple how it works. Um, you know, it forces you to do shit that is uncomfortable on a daily 0.93

00:35:05.100 basis. That's not convenient on a daily basis that could be pushed off till tomorrow on a 0.99

00:35:11.080 daily basis. That's where the value is because it teaches you to stop, do what the fuck you're 0.99

00:35:17.260 supposed to do and then do everything else. Okay. So what happens when you're taking care 0.99

00:35:23.020 of the equipment that handles everything else, everything else gets better. Right. You know

00:35:27.400 what I'm saying? Right. And our equipment is our mind and our body and our soul and all

00:35:31.800 of the things that even though they're very simple and 75 hard, those are the things that

00:35:36.100 it, that it, that it fixes. Yeah. You know, it's not going to fix it forever. You're not

00:35:40.660 going to be changed forever, but what's going to happen is, huh? No, no, no. You could easily

00:35:46.900 go right back where you were. You adopt the same habits, but here's where I was getting

00:35:50.100 at 75 days, a long fucking time. Everybody likes to talk about, Oh, in 21 days, it's a 0.98

00:35:55.920 fucking habit. No, it isn't. It is not. I do. It's not 21 days ain't shit. They tell 0.99

00:36:01.700 you that shit because there's some bullshit research done from fucking 1947 on it. The truth 1.00

00:36:07.820 is, is it takes longer. Right. It's just reality. Well, and just the nature of life

00:36:11.860 like, you know, the last day that you have to stop working on yourself when you die, when

00:36:17.160 you die, dude, like it's, it's like that in faith. It's like that in, in success. It's

00:36:21.620 like that in everything. So here's the thing. There's never an arrival. Listen to this

00:36:24.180 though. So fucking during those 75 days, you're going to have birthdays, nights out, life 0.99

00:36:31.280 shit, traveling. Dude, I went to Vegas three times my first fucking 75 days. You know what 1.00

00:36:36.480 I mean? You're going to have these situations that make it even harder. That's the fucking

00:36:41.680 point. A lot of people right now are probably thinking, Oh, I'll start after labor day. 0.99

00:36:45.880 That's your fucking problem. Right. That's the problem. That's why you need this because 1.00

00:36:51.280 it should be no issue for you to say, dude, I'm fucking doing this and it doesn't matter 0.97

00:36:56.000 what's going to happen. You know, like that's what people don't understand. If you wait for 0.97

00:37:02.220 the right time, it's never going to be the right time. Right. Right. Yeah. So, um, and

00:37:07.760 that comes down to, you know, the, I think the aspect that is the most important about

00:37:11.280 the program, which is it forces you to have a zero tolerance and zero compromise or deviation

00:37:16.420 policy. Like these are my fucking things I'm doing and everything else I do is second to 0.98

00:37:23.740 that. That's reality. And people right now are thinking, well, that's easy for you to say 0.99

00:37:28.220 you don't have fucking kids. No, you're right. I got about 200 motherfucking kids. Right. 1.00

00:37:33.580 So come live a day in my fucking shoes and we'll talk about who's busier. Right. You 1.00

00:37:37.580 know, it's not a competition about how hard it is for so-and-so. This is hard for anybody.

00:37:42.500 Doesn't matter if you're single with no kids and no nothing, or you got fucking seven kids. 0.97

00:37:47.620 And by the way, I've got people who have done this program with seven, eight, nine kids. 0.99

00:37:52.240 You know what I'm saying? Huh? Oh yeah. Fucking dude. Miguel's doing it. He's got like 47

00:38:00.520 kids, you know? He does. So it's true. Uh, but my point is, is that like, I don't know what

00:38:10.060 my fucking, well, no, I'll tell you just something that popped into my head is that, um, this is 0.82

00:38:16.080 in my opinion, the ultimate counter-cultural program because everything in our country, 0.99

00:38:22.280 in our culture right now is geared towards getting easy. Well that, and it's geared toward

00:38:26.100 how I feel. Yeah. If you make me feel bad, I'm offended. If you say something that makes

00:38:31.380 me feel, uh, uh, you know, bad about myself, I'm offended. Everything is feelings, feelings,

00:38:36.940 feelings, feelings. Uh, we want to live a life of rainbows and unicorns. We want all that,

00:38:41.260 you know, we just want satisfaction. We want the world to be, you know, a playground and

00:38:45.820 literally 75 heart is saying, you know, feelings aren't bad. You want good feelings toward life,

00:38:51.740 but you can't be ruled by them. You can't, you can't let your whole life situation be dependent

00:38:57.880 on how you feel. And you can't decide that you want to do something or not do something based

00:39:02.140 on how you feel. And what 75 heart does is basically say that you're going to plow through.

00:39:07.320 Who do you know that doesn't live their life that way?

00:39:11.260 Honestly. Uh, well, I mean, outside of present company and

00:39:16.460 Well, that's what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. The vast majority of, of, of humans

00:39:22.120 live with that. They live with that mentality. Yeah. What's going to be easy? What's going to make

00:39:27.360 me feel good? What's their instant gratification society, dude? Right. But the truth is happiness

00:39:32.380 comes from delayed gratification. That's the truth. It's the truth. Yeah. You could fight it. You

00:39:38.260 could argue it. You could bitch about it. You could cry about it. But just like I said 0.99

00:39:42.600 about gravity, you jump off the building, you're going to splat on the ground. Right.

00:39:46.900 You know? So it doesn't really matter if you don't like it. It's just the way things are

00:39:51.060 set up. Right. So, sorry.

00:39:54.780 No, I, I, I would, I would actually argue too that there are other aspects of your life

00:39:58.700 that delayed gratification is a reason for success. Like when you talk about creating loyalty

00:40:03.200 and in customers and here I'm going more into business than self, self improvement. It's

00:40:07.060 all the same. But loyalty, right. It's either you, either you view a customer as a transaction

00:40:11.020 and you have to upsell them right now, get satisfaction, get your money. Or you say, you

00:40:16.020 know what? I'm going to value this person. I'm going to invest in a lifelong relationship.

00:40:20.360 And if I don't get my money now, it's fine. And you know what? I'm going to trust the process.

00:40:24.100 And that's hard to do when you don't have any money. It is. I understand that. Yeah. I understand

00:40:27.900 that. But if you want to have money long term, that's the situation you've got to

00:40:31.820 adopt. Yeah. You know? Yeah. So it's, it's, it's all, it's all related. It's all intertwined.

00:40:39.480 You know, a lot of people are sitting here, right? They're saying, Oh dude, but why are

00:40:42.940 we talking about making money? No, we are talking about making fucking money. You just don't 0.99

00:40:46.660 get it. Right. You know what I mean? Yeah. If so, if the person is transformed, the profit

00:40:51.700 comes. That's right. Yeah. You take care of the machine, the machine produces more shit.

00:40:55.540 Yeah. You're the machine, your muscles, your brain, your body, your soul, your thought 1.00

00:40:59.560 process. That's the machine. When you have a well oiled machine that's taken care of

00:41:03.880 and maintained properly, guess what? You're going to produce bigger, more, better shit 1.00

00:41:09.260 for you and for your family and for everybody around you. And guess what happens when everybody 1.00

00:41:14.040 around you starts performing at a higher level? Make more money. Everything grows. They

00:41:18.820 grow, you grow, the business grows, et cetera, et cetera. So people are, they're not really relating

00:41:25.900 this. You know, every time I wanted to quit 75 hard, you know what the fuck I said to 0.98

00:41:29.680 myself? I said, dude, do you want to be broke? You want to be fucking broke or you want to 0.98

00:41:34.280 be a billionaire? I want to be a fucking billionaire. Right. So guess what I'm going to do? I'll do 1.00

00:41:38.800 my fucking workout. Right. I'm not going to eat that peanut butter. I'm not going to order 1.00

00:41:42.060 that pizza. You know what I mean? Yeah. No, I know what you mean. I would also add, do you

00:41:45.820 want to be dead? Yeah. Right. Yeah. Because I mean, you, you, you and I both at times struggle 0.99

00:41:50.700 with depression and different things. I mean, if you weren't disciplined and you just let

00:41:54.340 yourself go, is it possible that you would go into such despair that you would take your

00:41:58.680 own life? I've struggled with my whole life. Yeah. You know, and, and honestly, um, I'm,

00:42:03.880 I, I really want to see Daryl through this, but the truth is the real truth is, is that

00:42:09.240 yes, I want to see Daryl win this, but I need it right now too, dude. I've been going through

00:42:12.820 some shit, you know what I'm saying? And I need it and it is what it is. Yeah. So I've invented 0.98

00:42:19.140 this program as a tool to go back to, to get yourself back on the right track. You know what

00:42:24.000 I mean? And sometimes circumstances are going to be hard. Sometimes bad shit's going to

00:42:27.980 happen. That's out of your control. Sometimes five or six bad things are going to happen 1.00

00:42:32.500 in a fucking two week program and a two week span. And you're not going to know what the 0.99

00:42:36.020 fuck is going on. And guess what? You can return to, you can return to this program and it can 0.99

00:42:40.420 help you reset your momentum. And that's the point of it. You know what I mean? Yeah, absolutely.

00:42:44.760 Good stuff, man. So, um, fuck, I don't know. What are we even supposed to talk about? 1.00

00:42:49.860 Did we have a whole nother, a whole nother concept to talk about? I think we were going

00:42:54.280 to talk about you are enough. Oh yeah. Have we ever said that on the show? I don't

00:43:00.780 really think we have. I get it. I get it. I get it. Why people say it? I get it. But

00:43:05.400 I just do too. Yeah, I do. I do too. But it's just. I almost feel like the people that need

00:43:11.820 to hear that are actually the. That's correct. Yes. I agree. The people that are actually

00:43:16.520 working hard. Yes. They need to be told, listen, you're doing okay. But what happens

00:43:20.520 is, and this is the same reason I don't talk about luck. Is there luck? Fuck yeah, there's

00:43:25.320 luck. Is it a good strategy to bank on luck? No. That's what most people do. You are enough. 1.00

00:43:34.080 Proper statement. Everybody's enough. Yeah. But that means you're capable. You're good enough.

00:43:40.200 You're, you're, if you apply yourself, you can do well. That's what you are enough means.

00:43:45.540 It doesn't mean sit on your ass and eat fucking Cheetos and talk about the high school football 1.00

00:43:52.320 game in 1984 and be like, dude, I did it. I'm enough. And think you're qualified to be 1.00

00:43:57.400 on the front cover of a magazine or something. Yeah. Get the fuck out of here, man. You're

00:44:00.480 just a fucking loser with some Cheetos. You know, you ain't enough. You're living way below. 1.00

00:44:05.060 How can you say you're enough if you're, if you're leaving 10 fucking million percent on 0.98

00:44:09.500 the table, right? Cause most people are, most people are living at that 1% that out of a hundred. 0.96

00:44:17.180 And I don't mean that in a good way. You talk about success. A lot of people talk about the

00:44:20.420 1%. I'm talking about the 1% that most people are in, which is the bottom 1%. And they have

00:44:28.280 another 99% available to them that they choose not to use because it's going to require some sweat.

00:44:33.840 It's going to require some work. It's going to require some uncomfortable shit. It's going to 0.99

00:44:38.160 require some uncomfortable conversations, but they leave it there. You know what I'm saying?

00:44:43.620 And they choose to live that way. And then they bitch about it. I can't respect that. Now, 0.97

00:44:48.380 if you choose to live eating fucking Cheetos and that's really what makes you happy and you're 1.00

00:44:51.920 okay being a fat motherfucker on the couch watching fucking TV, which you're not, but let's just say 1.00

00:44:57.640 you were good. Be happy, bro. But again, this ain't the place for you. Right. You know what I mean? 1.00

00:45:04.640 So I, I'm not trying to push my fucking system of happiness onto people. I just know that this 0.98

00:45:10.820 shit works. Right. Right. So this, uh, this is probably, I'm guessing the last episode that we will, 1.00

00:45:17.460 uh, tell people about the review contest, right? Cause I think we're, I think we're, uh, wrapping up.

00:45:22.660 So guys, we are having an MFCO review contest. If you, uh, if you listen to us and you want to

00:45:31.700 tell people about us and have a chance to come out and hang with Andy in St. Louis and, uh, all you

00:45:38.220 have to do is basically, I'm drawing a blank. What do they have to do? They have to go on iTunes,

00:45:42.420 leave a review, screenshot it and email it to me. Vaughn at Andy for solid.com. Yep. Yep. So that's

00:45:49.660 cool. We got that going on. Yeah. So we'll, we'll probably announce that what next week

00:45:53.740 or so. Do we actually cover anything of value in this podcast? Cause I feel like we just

00:45:57.640 talked about shit. Well, I think that's kind of what we've been doing for the last three 0.99

00:46:01.320 years, but it actually all always turns out really pretty, pretty good. I don't know.

00:46:06.920 I hope you guys got value here. Like, you know, the truth is guys, the real challenge is coming

00:46:11.800 up with titles. So, but like, I would just like to leave people with a thought, you know,

00:46:19.980 and recognize that you're probably out there searching for happiness and you're probably 0.95

00:46:24.080 wondering why the fuck it's so hard to find. And you're probably thinking after I get this, 0.97

00:46:28.880 I'll be happy. After I make this X amount of dollars, I'll be happy. After I get this car

00:46:33.920 or this, or this money or this raise, or I have this kid or I do this, you're saying I'll

00:46:38.800 be happy, but you won't. You just won't. There's nothing out there that can make you happy except

00:46:44.120 you and your relationship with you. And that's going to come down to you forcing your weaker

00:46:50.460 self, your bitch voice to do the shit that you know you're supposed to do. And when you 1.00

00:46:56.040 can reprogram your mind to do the things and be disciplined on a consistent basis, your happiness

00:47:02.080 is going to go up and it's going to stay up. As long as you practice that discipline, the

00:47:06.540 minute you stopped practicing it, it's going to come down. And you just have to understand

00:47:10.560 that, that, that reality and that correlation. When you're not happy, it's because you're

00:47:15.360 not practicing what you could be practicing. And I think if you sat there and think about

00:47:19.220 it, you'll realize that to be the truth. The moments when your happiness are the moments

00:47:23.540 whenever you're putting out as much discipline that you need to put out to accomplish the things

00:47:28.440 that you told yourself you will accomplish. That's why, like when you miss your kid's football

00:47:33.820 game, after you told him that you were going to be there, you feel like such a piece of 1.00

00:47:36.960 shit. All right. This is all related. It's about honoring your word. It's about honoring 1.00

00:47:41.500 your promises to yourself. If you can't honor your promises to yourself, who, who, who's

00:47:47.200 going to have self-esteem? Who's going to feel good about who they are? Who's going to have

00:47:51.120 confidence? Why, why would you have confidence in someone who lies to you? You see what I'm

00:47:55.700 saying? And that's where the mastery comes from. Think how powerful someone can be.

00:48:01.060 And by the way, I don't fucking charge for this. Like I'm saying a sales pitch. This 0.96

00:48:04.960 is something that we do, you know, we just have going on and I just happened to start

00:48:10.420 it. So we, again, so we're talking about it, but, um, I think if people could just grasp

00:48:17.980 the idea of when they exercise discipline, their happiness goes up. And if they could admit

00:48:24.520 that to themselves, they'd be a lot happier just becoming aware of that concept. Because

00:48:28.960 dude, when we're, when we're in that like low zone where we're not happy, it feels really 0.99

00:48:33.020 good to be lazy as fuck. You know, the right thing to do feels like you should stay in bed 0.99

00:48:41.400 or like you should miss that workout because you're exhausted or you're mentally burnt out

00:48:45.920 or, but that's the sign that you need to do this. That's the sign that you need to move

00:48:51.220 and go do what it is. That's your body and your mind telling you, Hey, motherfucker, you 1.00

00:48:56.040 need to go. You ever slept in longer than what you were supposed to, and then woke up 1.00

00:49:00.140 feeling super anxious about it. Oh yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like even if you had

00:49:03.920 nothing to do, I don't slip in too much, but just say, even if you had nothing to do and

00:49:08.780 you woke up, let's say you feel like you get up early. What time do you get up lately?

00:49:13.140 Four 45. So what's late for you? Seven. Late is seven. All right. Yeah. So you wake up at

00:49:17.340 seven o'clock and you're like, Holy shit. You feel like you just missed three hours of your 0.98

00:49:22.840 life. Right. And you have anxiety, but that anxiety isn't coming from what you missed.

00:49:27.920 It's coming from, you know, you should have got before. Right. And you're not honoring

00:49:31.900 that promise. Right. Yeah, absolutely. So when we lower, when we keep our promises to

00:49:36.920 ourselves, our anxiety goes down, our worry goes down, our happiness goes up, our depression

00:49:41.600 goes down. All right. People have to understand this. Otherwise they're going to keep listening

00:49:47.180 to all these dumb fucks online about, you know, give yourself affirmations. Dude, look, I'm 1.00

00:49:52.780 hard on affirmations too. The reason I'm hard on affirmations isn't because they definitely

00:49:57.100 don't work. It's because people don't use them properly. Like when you wake up in the

00:50:01.800 morning on time and you're ready to go and you say, yeah, dude, I'm a bad motherfucker. 1.00

00:50:08.020 I'm going to get out there and kick the world's ass today. That's one thing. All right. But 1.00

00:50:11.720 it's another thing to sleep into a fucking one o'clock and get up and say, dude, I'm a bad 1.00

00:50:15.040 motherfucker. I'm going to go out there and kick the world's ass today. Like no one gives a 1.00

00:50:17.520 fuck. You're full of shit. Right. You're just a liar and you're lying to yourself. You're 1.00

00:50:21.300 not a bad motherfucker. You're fucking lazy as fuck. And you're trying to fix it by throwing 1.00

00:50:25.300 this fucking lipstick on the pig, which ain't never going to fix anything. So, you know, 1.00

00:50:29.800 and that's why I'm so passionate about this program is because it really changes people

00:50:33.680 and it gives people a real solution to what seems to be the big problem in society right

00:50:38.000 now, which is I'm not happy and I don't know why. You know? Well, I know why. Because

00:50:43.500 you're lying to yourself 24 hours a day. You're a loser. Yeah. That's the truth. 1.00

00:50:46.100 And as you pointed out, that's not a derogative. That's like literally you're losing. You're

00:50:50.620 a loser. When I say loser, I don't even, I'm not, dude, I'm not talking about how much 1.00

00:50:55.160 money you have. I'm not talking about what kind of house you live in, what kind of car 0.97

00:50:58.380 you drive, what kind of this, that, the other. You know what I'm talking about is I'm talking

00:51:02.000 about someone who can keep a fucking promise to themselves. And if you can't, you are a fucking 1.00

00:51:06.000 loser. You need to fix it. Right. That's the truth. Right. And people don't like hearing 1.00

00:51:10.060 that, but you know what? They probably don't like a lot of the shit that I say. So. Probably 0.99

00:51:14.240 not. It is what it is. Yeah. Good stuff, man. I don't know. So you're in for real?

00:51:19.120 I'm in. I'm going to do it. And you're in too? All right. Yeah. You serious? I need

00:51:25.700 to. Yeah, bro. You do. I'll die if I don't. Like seriously. You'll feel, dude, look. Like,

00:51:30.380 all right. I need to. I'm glad you're doing it. No, I'm going to do it. I'm going to start

00:51:33.040 tomorrow. All right. I'm not going to start. I might eat. So here's what happens. I might

00:51:36.880 eat like five packages of Skittles tonight. That's all right. All right. Here's what

00:51:40.140 happens. Here's what happens, bro. First of all, let's, let's give a little credit where

00:51:45.800 it's due. You've been doing fucking awesome. Dude, you look like a different human. I'm 0.92

00:51:50.400 not sure if I still do. I'm really down on myself. Three, three, three weeks. It's amazing

00:51:54.560 what you can lose in three weeks. No, but it comes right back. That's the thing you got

00:51:57.300 to understand. Yeah. You go, you go back to the gym for four or five days. You'll be right

00:52:00.780 where you were. But here's the thing about, here's the thing about this. And this is what

00:52:05.360 happened to you. And this is what happens to a lot of people on the program. They get

00:52:08.080 a false sense of confidence. Okay. Cause they get into 10, like you quit on like 11 days.

00:52:12.840 I think nine or 11 days you get in it and you're like, okay, I get it. And they think

00:52:18.200 they got it. Okay. This is the problem. How many people do you know, read a book a halfway

00:52:24.180 through and they're like, I get it and quit reading a lot of people. Right. Not me, but

00:52:27.820 I almost have like an obsession. I got to finish me too. Yeah. Okay. But I used to be the other

00:52:31.920 guy. Yeah. 2016 Andy, I was the guy who read half the book and said, Oh, I got it.

00:52:36.820 Yeah. Right. But what you realize is that you really don't get it because if you go back

00:52:44.820 and read some of those books that you fucking quit on, you're going to figure out that you 0.90

00:52:48.100 were completely wrong about what you assume that book to be about. Right. You know what 0.98

00:52:51.520 I mean? And that's your life. That's what you have to understand. Yeah. So you can do the

00:52:56.740 program for 10 days or 20 days or fucking 40 days. And I've had guys tell me like, dude, 0.96

00:53:01.440 I've had guys who DM me literally every day on 40 days in, I get it, man. Like, I don't really

00:53:07.140 like, no, you don't know. You will not get it until you're done because there's so many different

00:53:11.820 little mental things that happened literally on a day by day basis that you have to go through the

00:53:19.100 process. And anybody who tells you that they felt the same on day 75 as they felt on day 50. In fact,

00:53:25.460 you won't even have someone to tell you that. Yeah. I don't think I've heard anybody. And we've

00:53:28.380 interviewed quite a few people about that. No, we've interviewed dozens of people. By the way,

00:53:32.620 if you want to be interviewed and you've completed 75 hard, um, yeah. Email Tyler at

00:53:38.480 Andy for seller.com. That's Tyler at Andy for seller.com because we're putting together a pretty

00:53:42.660 cool project. Um, and we'd like you guys to be involved in it. So that's, that's it. I think

00:53:50.300 I don't even know what the fuck I just said, bro. I don't either. I really don't, but it feels good 0.99

00:53:54.500 that I said it. Yeah. Yeah. So, um, if you want to know more about the program guys, the

00:53:59.640 original podcast is a 75 hard, uh, winning the war with yourself, uh, tactical guide to

00:54:06.800 winning the war with yourself. I think it's March 6th was the episode. Um, you go back

00:54:12.060 and listen to that. Uh, since then, you know, I've completed it and I've done phase one.

00:54:16.360 Um, and I'm starting over with 75 hard right now and that's really what's going on. Yeah.

00:54:24.040 Fuck man. I like, don't, I don't know what else to say. There's nothing else to say today. 1.00

00:54:29.260 Maybe tomorrow. All right. All right. Take it easy guys. All right. See you guys.

00:54:32.140 Bye.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 28, 2019

The Key To Ultimate Happiness, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO313

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