The Key To Ultimate Happiness, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO313
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In this episode of the MFCEO Project, we sit down with my man, the Pastor of Disaster, and talk about a lot of stuff. We talk about how he has been through a lot in his life and how God has been with him through it all.
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I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
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Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
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What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host,
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and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome.
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This is a personal development, success, kick-ass in all areas of life podcast.
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We don't charge anything for this, okay? We've been the number one podcast in the business
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category consistently for a long, long time, thanks to our awesome listeners. By the way,
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that's you. And we do this out of service. This is an obligation project. This is something that
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a long time ago, my man, the pastor of disaster, who's sitting right in front of me,
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and I decided that it was something that we needed to do. For a long, long time, I didn't realize
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how much misinformation was out there until I actually got in the personal development space
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and saw the amount of bullshit that was being spewed by people who quite honestly don't know
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anything about what they are talking about. So what we cover here, guys, is basically everything
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that has to do with you being better. And today is no different. But like I said, we don't ask for
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money. I don't sell ads. I can make seven figures a year selling ads on this motherfucker. But I don't
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because that's not why I started. I didn't start it to make money. I started it to provide value.
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And with that being said, I ask, and this is our little thing that we have, if you get value out
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of the podcast, which I'm pretty sure you will, that you share it. That's all. Friday night,
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you go out with your friends. Saturday, hanging out. The topic of wanting to do better,
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wanting to be better, comes up, whatever. Dude, just shoot him a little reference for the
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MFCEO project. Now, with that being said, I just mentioned my man, the pastor of disaster.
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He is here sitting right in front of me in the fucking flesh. What's up, dude?
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A lot of stuff is up. We just got back from the Arte Syndicate Summit and there's a lot going on.
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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, and I know that, you know, we didn't talk about this before when we were
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chatting about this episode, but there's been a lot going on in your life too, man. I don't know
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that everybody knows just the horrific stuff you've been through in the last couple of weeks.
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No, but I noticed yesterday in my snaps that my beard has gotten twice as fucking gray in the last
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two weeks. I hadn't noticed that, but I'm, you know, I'm in no judge position of judgment.
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Yeah. Like in two weeks, dude, it went gray. Yeah. Yeah. And, and, uh, man, uh, you should
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tell the story. You know, it's not the right time, man. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Um,
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yeah. Still a little raw. Yeah. We had, uh, we had a, an incident in my family. Um, it looks like
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everything's going to turn out okay. Uh, but it was just really, really, really bad. Yeah. Um, so,
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and I'll, I'll talk about it when the time's right, but it's definitely been something that,
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uh, it's been hard. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Um, we, back in church, we had those
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things that when you didn't necessarily, when you needed prayer, but you didn't necessarily
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want to share the details, you just said, I have an unspoken prayer request. Yeah. That's
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pretty much it. That's it. And, uh, you know, the truth is brother, um,
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you know me as good as anybody and you know that I'm a spiritual dude. You know, a lot of people
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don't realize that. Um, I think they think I'm just some loud mouth dude who fucking loves money
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and shit. And you know, I am those things, but, but, uh, you know, the one thing I'm very in tune
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with is, um, is spirituality and, and, uh, I'm a huge believer in God. Um, there's no way I could
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be where I'm at without him. Uh, and I know some people hear that and they think, Oh, well,
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I don't believe in that level. It really doesn't matter if you believe in it or not. It's like
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gravity. You know what I'm saying? Like you could fucking say, I don't believe in gravity,
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but you jump off the fucking building, you're going to feel it. So, um, so I don't try to push
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it on people. I guess that's kind of where I come from. You know, I have my own beliefs. I respect
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other people's beliefs. And I think it's important for people to discover those beliefs without it
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being shoved down their throat. You get what I'm saying? Like, I feel like a lot of religion
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just shoves it down your throat. And that's what causes people to really question it later because
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they're like, Hey, why didn't I, where, where are my beliefs? I wasn't, you know, like they didn't
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come to the conclusion on their own. And I guess, um, that's something I've had the good fortune to be
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able to do because I've just had so many things that cannot be explained. Um, you know what I think is
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the absolute best principle for sharing your faith with anybody, make a friend, make a sale.
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Yeah. Right. Like let them know you first. Like, yeah. Like I really, I literally think that that's
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the, that's the best way. Um, is that become friends with somebody, respect them, provide value
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for them. And then when the conversation comes up, you say, Hey, would you mind if I shared some of
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my thoughts? Yeah. Sure. And that's how I like, you know, that's how I think most people respond to
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that. You know what I mean? Cause most people, I feel like believe in something. They're just not
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sure what they believe in. But, uh, but getting back to the unspoken prayers where I'm going with
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this, you know, I, I, I reached out to a couple really close friends that, that I know are very,
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um, close with, with, with God and with their, with their beliefs. And, uh, dude, I asked them
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to pray. And for the first time in my life, I led prayers in front of people. You know what I'm
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saying? Yeah. In front of 700 people. And then, you know, I heard about that. Yeah. And then,
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dude, you know what? The day after the second time I did it, um, the person I was praying for
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woke up from their coma. That's awesome. You know what I'm saying? So it's in, and that's
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like six days ahead of when they were supposed to. That's awesome. So it's just, there's just,
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it's been a lot to digest. I've been doing a lot of thinking, man. You know what I'm saying? And,
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uh, um, if people are watching me right now and they're like, why the fuck did Andy's beard turn
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gray? Uh, I'm hoping it goes back, but, but, uh, no man, it's been a Sean Connery. Yeah. I'm just
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not ready for that. Yeah. No, I'm not ready for that old man life. Yeah. That silver Fox life,
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you know? Um, although I will say of all the, uh, the age, what is that? The age app?
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Yeah. The literally the only person that I thought looked good was you. Yeah, dude. Yeah. It was
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weird. I thought you looked really good. Like I was like, man, he looks really awesome. He looks
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like a Sean Connery. You look like a most interesting man in the world. I mean, kind of
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that kind of guy. They made up for that first 30 years. Like a dumb ass. So I felt, you know,
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I got some hope for being a, being a silver Fox, but yeah, you know, like, um, you know,
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there's always more to what's going on than people realize and people don't realize that
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in social. And you know, when you say, when you say, I mean, I, if I fucking explain what's
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gone on in the last two weeks, not just with that situation, but with the other ones that
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have happened with it, people think I'm lying, you know, like they would think I was making
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it up. It's been a, it's been a test. Yeah. There's no question. Yeah. So, um, but everything
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seems to be going the right direction again. And, uh, we're getting the momentum on the
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good side again. And, you know, I told Ed, I was talking to Ed, I'm like, look, man, you
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know, I haven't had a bad streak in fucking years. Yeah. You know what I mean? So the
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reality is, is, and this has nothing to do with business, by the way, like people are
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probably thinking, Oh, he's talking about his company. No, it hasn't absolutely nothing
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to do with business. Business is fucking crushing. Right. Um, more, way more personal and
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family stuff. Uh, it does seem like there's been just a handful of crazy stuff, bro. Yeah.
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It's, you don't even know it all. No, I don't know. My ex, my ex fucking lifting partner who
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I lived with for five years was murdered on Wednesday. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?
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Like, it's just another thing on top of all this shit. Yeah. You know, he was shot backing
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out of a driveway. Like, and they don't, nobody even knows why around St. Louis. Yeah. And
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Cahokia and like, dude, I'm just, it's just like, what the fuck is going on? Right. Crazy
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stuff. But I told Ed, uh, and this dude was a good dude too, man. You know what I'm saying?
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Like he was a good friend of mine and, um, just, uh, it's just been one of those, one of those
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periods. And, uh, you know, sometimes all you can do is throw your hands up and say, what
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the fuck? You know, like, and that's kind of where I've been and I've been careful not
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to get too down on any of this shit because the truth is, is I have, I haven't had a bad
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streak in a long time. And, uh, you know, sometimes you're just do. Yeah. And sometimes bad shit
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just happens. And sometimes literally there's no, there's no success formula. Correct. There's
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no, like literally you just have to endure. Yeah. And that's just have to endure. And, and,
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and that's, that's what this is. And I'm aware of that. Which I mean, and I, this sounds like
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a really cheesy transition, but how much you think 75 hard helped you with that? Um, a trillion
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percent. Like dude, a trillion percent. Um, I don't know if that's actual percent, but no,
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no, it is. But I mean, uh, you know, sometimes we make the mistake of, we have such, such a tight
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core of, um, loyal listeners that are here every time that's, I think sometimes we make
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the mistake of thinking that everybody knows what we're talking about. Yeah. So like what
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in cliff notes, what would you say? 75 hard is, um, dude, 75 hard is the ultimate mental
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toughness program. I think that's ever been developed, especially to my knowledge. Um, I
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couldn't even begin to tell you the benefits that it's done for me. I mean, it did everything.
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I, so dude, people don't understand. They think I just made this shit up out of one,
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you know, Oh, I just made it up. Like that's not really how it went. Right. You know, 75 hard is a
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culmination of 20 plus years of trying to figure this out. What, what makes people tougher than
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other people? What makes people more resilient? What makes people have more grit? How do they have
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more mental toughness? How do you actually develop it? Um, how do you develop confidence? How do you
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develop self-esteem? Because if you listen to the real world, man, you know, all these knuckleheads
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out there are just telling people they should have those things. Well, that's like saying, Hey,
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you should just be a fucking billionaire. You know what I'm saying? Like it doesn't. Yeah. Okay.
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That's cool. But now what, you know? And, um, the course on being happy point. Number one,
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choose to be happy. Oh, well, thanks. Like, thanks. Really appreciate that.
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Yeah. So that's, and really dude, I'm glad you brought that up because really what 75 hard
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is, is a program that teaches you what makes you happy. Okay. And how to be happy. And
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so it's kind of like a disguise program, right? Like a lot of people think it's like a body
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transformation. A lot of people think it's just mental toughness, which it is. It is designed
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to be mental toughness, but really what it is, is it's a happiness program. It's a program
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that teaches you how to be happy with yourself, how to be comfortable with yourself. You can't
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be happy with yourself unless you're living to the standard that, you know, you can live
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to meaning that discipline is in direct proportion to your happiness. And what that means is, is
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when your discipline is exercised at the highest amount, you're also going to be happy. Now
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that's counterproductive because most people think of happy as easy. It's a synonymous thing,
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right? When you say, Hey, I want to be happy. Most people think of like that time where they
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were sitting on the beach with a fucking Corona, right? Or whatever, like, you know, relaxing with
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a lemonade on the front porch. I'm happy. Well, yes, that's a moment that you're happy. But what
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we're talking about is how to be happy the majority of the time, you know? And I think people misjudge
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their, their happiness because they still have down times. So meaning like you have a bad day.
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And so you go home and you're like, Oh my God, this isn't making me happy. No motherfucker. You
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had a bad day, right? Like happiness is rated on an individual event scale. Meaning when I go home
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and see my Charlie bear and she's shaken and she tinkles a little bit. Cause she's so happy to see
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me. My happiness is a level 10, right? You can't get any happier, right? Right. So the goal shouldn't
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be to look at your, the scope of your life over a hundred years or 50 years or 30 years and say,
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I'm not happy. It should be understanding what happiness really is, which is what happiness really
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is, is the culmination of a lot of high moments, right? So you should be trying to maximize those
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moments as many times as you can throughout a day, knowing that you're not always going to have
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a level 10, like it's impossible. And if you did always have a level 10, how would you appreciate
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happiness at all? Because it would just become the norm, right? You see what I'm saying? So a lot of
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people have misjudged their idea of what truly makes them happy because they're listening to these
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fucking dumb fucks out there on the internet or on good morning America or wherever these people are.
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And by the way, might not be good morning America's generalization. I don't watch that
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show, right? I'm just talking shit. But my point is, is everywhere we turn, we have these, um,
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we have these people say like pretending that they live these fucking spiritual high level,
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happy lives and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And this is fucking bullshit, man. It's just bullshit.
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Really? What makes you happy is you being present in the present moment and understanding
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that this, like when I go home and see my dog, that's a level 10, right? When I do this other
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thing, when I train weight with waste, I'm happy. Okay. So the goal is to produce as many of those
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events throughout the course of the day, knowing that you're still going to have to deal with shit
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that is uncomfortable. Absolutely. Right. Um, and so what it really equates to, if you really break
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it down is that the level of exercise, uh, that the level of discipline that you exercise is in
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direct proportion to your happiness. Okay. So if you have, if your discipline goes down, your happiness
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is going to go down. So if your discipline goes up, your happiness is going to go up. A lot of people
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never recognize this because they literally have never ever exercised any discipline at all. Right.
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Right. Right. And so their idea of discipline is more like, Oh, this is going to hurt. This is
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going to suck. I don't want to do this. I'd rather lay on the TV couch and watch TV, which makes you
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unhappy. You just don't realize it. So easiness is unhappiness. Difficulty will equal happiness,
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but you've got to be willing to go through it first. Yeah. You know? And that's something I think
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that's something I never put together until I went through the program. You know what I mean?
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Yeah. And like, dude, people will pay fucking millions of dollars for the secret to happiness,
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but, but they don't want to know the answer because the answer is you're going to have to
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do shit. You don't like, right. You're going to have to do shit that whenever you get done with,
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you're going to be able to look in the mirror and be like, dude, I'm proud of you motherfucker.
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Yep. You know what I'm saying? Yep. And that's the key. So what came to my mind was you,
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you know, we touched on spirituality earlier. People choose a particular faith because ultimately
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they think it will make them what? You just said it. Happier. Happy, right? Yeah. So what
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most people I don't think realize is that the three metaphors or the three word pictures that
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are used most frequently in the New Testament, um, to, to kind of communicate what the life of faith
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is all about are three things, athlete, soldier, and farmer. What do all three of those things have
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in common? You've got to fucking do hard work to be great at them. You've got to do hard work to
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succeed. You've got to have discipline. That's right. You've got to have determination. You've
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got to never give up. And you know, when it comes to an athlete, I mean, you're going to have to put
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yourself through grueling practice in order to win. Yeah. As a farmer, you're going to have to go
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day in and day out. Hardest, hardest life there is. Hardest life there is. You're going to, in order
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to reap the harvest. There's no way you can do it without that. And then like, obviously with the
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soldier, something we've said on this podcast all the time, life is not a playground. It's a
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battleground. Right. And, and, and to be happy, you have to fight for happiness. That's right. And in order
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to do that, you got to, like you said, you got to be mentally tough. You got to be disciplined,
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bro. And the whole fucking world thinks that there's like, if you say that, like if we just
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fucking got on good morning America and said what we just said, 80% of the motherfuckers watching
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will argue with it. Yeah. And, but you know what? 80%, a hundred percent of those 80% are miserable
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as fuck. Yeah. And they're trying to deny the truth. Right. They're trying to say, well, that's not
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what makes me happy. Well, that's not what blah, blah. Look, motherfucker, we're all wired pretty
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much the same. Yeah. 99% the same. Yeah. You can think you're this way or that way, however
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you want to think. The truth is, is we respond pretty much the same way to most things. And
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I'm going to tell you, if you go out and accomplish some shit that you didn't think you could do
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or that you maybe thought you could do, but weren't sure. And you accomplish it, your happiness
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is going to go up. Right. And the more you can do that, the more happiness you're going to
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have. Absolutely. That's the truth. Absolutely. You know, and that's why people who are in
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middle class right now, because, because we have a situation right now where there's really
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not a lot of hope, right? This is why entrepreneurship is becoming such a real thing because there's
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very few companies out there that are looking to actually build brands anymore to, to provide
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lucrative careers for people. So what you have is a bunch of individual people selling a bunch
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of shit and people are coming out of college with this promise of, you know, Oh, we're going
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to go out and do this or that, or I'm going to have this job and it's going to, dude, people
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are getting out of college with $150,000 of fucking student loan debt, getting a $50,000
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a year job. They can't even pay the motherfucking note on. Right. Dude, how can you get excited
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about that? You can't. Yeah. It's hopeless. That's why you have politicians taking advantage
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of it saying, Hey, let's just pay off everybody's student loan. And dude, and you can't do
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it. It's mathematically impossible. So the point is, is that, you know, when you don't
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have hope and you don't have belief and you don't have anything to go for, you'd be fucking
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miserable. And I truly believe that the mental health crisis that's going on in America right
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now is a result of the lack of hope and the lack of careers and a lack of problems to be
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solved for those middle-class people. Yeah. You know what I mean? Absolutely. So, I mean,
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I believe that the real, the real gold in this podcast very often is, is making subtle
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distinctions. And, you know, since you, I mean, we're just kind of, we're kind of rolling
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with this topic. So I'm going to, I'm going to take it a step further. So you posted, I
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don't know if it was yesterday. My brain has just been fried lately, but you posted like
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a before and after and you did, you basically said on the left-hand side, it was a guy that
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was kind of out of shape. Um, but you said that, uh, it was you and it, you said, you
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know, this guy had, you know, fake confidence, doubt, et cetera, et cetera. And then you had
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the after, which was you in shape, but it was, it wasn't just you in shape. It was you post
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And, and what I thought was really interesting, cause you, you know, we've talked about these
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things for the last three years. I mean, you've had plenty of reasons over the last, you know,
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15 years to be confident and to not doubt yourself. Um, you've had, you've racked up
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accomplishments, but the way that I interpreted that, that post was you were saying that there's
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a, there's a reality and there's a substance to your confidence now that in some ways you
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haven't had before. So kind of old Andy versus new Andy. So talk to me about that because I
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think that, I think that distinction, I mean, I've, let's put it this way without it, without
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going into detail, we've met a lot of people over the last three years who from the world's
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perspective are incredibly successful people. And yet there is a very, very, very common
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Yeah. They feel like a fraud or they, or they're, or they're, they lack confidence. So tell
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me about why that is because they've never truly proven to themselves what they're capable
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So, yeah. So tell me, talk, talk about that old, you know, fuck man. I mean,
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dude, really what it comes down to is, is are you judging yourself based upon
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society, social construct, or are you judging yourself based upon what you know to be true
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about yourself? Okay. So in 2016, I was 300 plus pounds. Everybody, most people know that
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I was actually at my high. I was like three 50 when I started on, uh, when I started getting
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serious about fitness again, I was three 30. I think I lost like 20 pounds. Um, dude, by
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all society construct, I was a fucking successful dude. Right. I had all the shit. I was making
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tons of money. I got these companies, I got this podcast. I'm doing all this crazy shit,
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right. Going around the world, speaking to everybody, even as a fat motherfucker, I was
00:22:04.180
doing that. So by all means, I mean, what, what are you going to say? Right. You know what
00:22:11.040
I'm saying? Like who cares if you have a little extra pounds, right? Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. I got
00:22:14.440
everything else. Right. But the truth was, is that I wasn't happy. I wasn't fulfilled. I wasn't
00:22:21.960
disciplined. I wasn't operating at my highest level. I was getting by. I was bullshitting. I was
00:22:27.760
bullshitting myself. You know what I mean? And, um, I mean, it's laughable now. Tyler and I watched a
00:22:35.040
video from when I spoke like in 2015, when I was like seriously fucking overweight and I'm sitting
00:22:40.320
there talking about getting shit done and blah, blah, blah. And it's like, dude, you're
00:22:44.520
fucking like, you're ridiculous. You know what I mean? And it made me sick to even see
00:22:48.940
that shit. Oh yeah. Tyler said I projected a lot of my anger. Yeah. I mean, I guess so.
00:22:56.800
Yeah, of course, dude. I mean, dude, it's not fun to be fat. Yeah. I don't give a fuck
00:23:01.580
what anybody says. They can talk about the fucking body positivity shit all they want. It's
00:23:05.420
bullshit. It just is. Cause I know what it's like. And no matter how much you tell yourself
00:23:09.380
you're beautiful, no matter how much you tell yourself, you love yourself, no matter
00:23:12.400
how much you tell yourself this, that, the other, it's a lie. It's a fucking lie. And
00:23:17.340
I'm not some skinny dude who's never struggled with his weights and you're telling you this,
00:23:21.060
you know, when you got to wear the same outfit for a year straight, cause none of your other
00:23:24.820
clothes fit, you don't feel good. When you don't, when you, when you go to fucking Nordstrom's
00:23:29.580
or Macy's, wherever you buy clothes at and nothing fits, you don't feel good. When you got
00:23:34.520
to go to a swimming pool and you fucking don't want to get in the pool or you don't even
00:23:38.120
go because there is a pool, you don't feel good. That's reality. Nobody fucking feels
00:23:44.040
good when they're like that. It's reality. And not only that, you're not healthy. You're
00:23:48.220
not setting the right example. You're not doing what you need to be doing. You're not
00:23:52.100
being an example for your family, your friends, and dude, you're living way below your potential.
00:23:57.200
And you know what? If that's for you, good. But this probably isn't the fucking show for
00:24:02.280
you to listen to. You know what I'm saying? Like if you could be happy that way, good.
00:24:06.500
I think you're full of shit, but go do it. I'll stay out of your business. You stay
00:24:11.020
out of mine. But the truth is for me, I wasn't willing to accept that. You know, we're here
00:24:16.880
for a short time. I got a lot of shit I want to do and I knew I had to change. And, um,
00:24:21.860
when I came up with the 75 heart concept, you know, where really I went from being, you know,
00:24:28.360
I, I, you know, I went from losing most of the weight to going from just like a guy who lost
00:24:34.180
a bunch of weight into back, back into a real athlete. Um, those are all the principles
00:24:39.720
that I learned that have built the things that I've had in the past. You know what I
00:24:43.780
mean? And, uh, I just really got back to combining them all together. Cause those are all little
00:24:47.540
habits that I did along the way that I had never really combined into a program. And, um,
00:24:54.800
and so we came up with the 75 heart concept and, uh, dude, it's been crazy. Like I have guys
00:25:00.480
who have done iron mans and fucking all kinds of shit. And they're like, dude, there ain't nothing
00:25:06.160
like this. And you know, that's, that's cool. So tell me again, like what you mean by old me
00:25:14.180
and new me. Cause like I said, from the outside perspective, not withstanding the weight, people
00:25:20.800
said Andy's successful. So other than just dropping weight, how are you different now?
00:25:26.380
Well, I think I got there. I got to where I was at that point on, on just pure one to win,
00:25:35.120
you know what I'm saying? And, um, I would say skill and talent, but it's not that it's
00:25:40.540
just, I just grinded it out cause that's what I wanted. And I left everything else where it
00:25:44.460
was. I didn't care about anything else. It was one dimensional. Uh, so I think the biggest
00:25:48.440
thing, the difference is, is, you know, I've learned how to master, master myself now by cultivating
00:25:55.300
the mental toughness that, that I, that I currently have, you know, right now I'm in a
00:26:02.560
different zone than I was three, four, 10 years ago. And a lot of it has to do with what
00:26:08.140
I did over the last, you know, four or five months. Um, you know, the biggest thing that
00:26:13.720
I think that, like I talked about the social construct, I think the biggest thing that for
00:26:19.220
me was learning that, that my success is, has nothing to do with anybody else. Um, when
00:26:26.540
you can realize that and stop comparing yourself and start comparing you to you, uh, not just
00:26:32.540
like in a mean way, like where people say, Oh, it's you versus you. Most people don't know
00:26:36.060
what the fuck that means. You know what I mean? I mean, in a real, a real way, like you're saying,
00:26:41.600
all right, a year ago I was this person. Now I'm this person. And a year from now I'm going
00:26:46.240
to be this person. Success is going to take care of itself, right? So if you master, if
00:26:51.420
you master yourself, you're gonna be able to master anything. Think about the decisions
00:26:55.280
that we make. The only reason that we don't, the only reason that anybody here that's listening
00:27:00.020
right now isn't where they want to be is because they talk themselves out of it. At some point
00:27:03.820
along the way, it got hard, it got difficult, it got too stressful. It got to a point where
00:27:09.800
they weren't happy doing this at this time. And what'd they do? They quit. All right.
00:27:14.540
And that's why, you know, we talk ourselves out of it. So you have to realize it's not about doing
00:27:18.640
better than other people. It's about the pursuit of the fulfillment of your own true potentials.
00:27:23.880
What I've been talking about for the whole time we've been doing this podcast, you know,
00:27:27.820
it's learning how to master yourself so you could become better today than you were yesterday,
00:27:33.900
than you were six months ago, than you were five years ago. Right. And, um, when you,
00:27:40.860
when you commit to that pursuit, now you're in a position where you create the most happiness
00:27:45.140
because you understand that fulfillment of potential is a sliding scale. So there's always
00:27:50.760
more to achieve. There's always more to gain. There's always more hard shit to do and problems
00:27:55.060
to be solved. And if you look at your happiness and tie it to those things, you have unlimited
00:28:00.340
happiness. Right. Yeah. So yeah, go ahead. I mean, that's, that's what, you know, I think a lot of
00:28:06.920
people have discovered through this program is that, dude, that's, what's going to create the
00:28:10.700
confidence. That's what's going to create the grit. That's, what's going to create the belief
00:28:14.740
in themselves and, uh, eliminate the doubts that they might have about themselves. I think people
00:28:20.320
are very much getting into tune with this. Uh, I know people that have completed this program.
00:28:27.560
I mean, you've seen what people say. I mean, everybody's saying the same shit does exactly what
00:28:33.140
I tell people it's going to do. Right. Um, and the interesting thing is, is that the minute they
00:28:39.060
stop, they start to regress. Right. You know what I mean? Right. So let's, let's talk about that
00:28:44.940
because dude, I've noticed that not only have you gone on a higher level, but I've also noticed that
00:28:52.560
when you do have off days, your rebounding is a lot quicker and like you, you just, you just don't
00:29:00.140
go into funks. Like, right. Like you have in the past. Right. Right. Disappear for a week. Yeah.
00:29:04.260
Right. Exactly. And I mean, I'm just going to keep it real here after, uh, you know, after doing
00:29:09.340
pretty well, my last three, three or four weeks, I've just sucked. Yeah. Absolutely sucked. And I
00:29:14.920
think the hardest thing for me, and I think other people have liked that or like this, you have that,
00:29:20.500
you have that success. And then you're like, well, why did I stop hitting, hitting the weights? Why did I
00:29:25.680
start eating like crap? Why did I start eating a bunch of Skittles? You know? And, and, and, and
00:29:30.160
here's where it's insidious. And you've got to, you've got to speak to this because I know I'm not
00:29:34.440
the only one. After having success and returning to that crap, you're like, oh, I must not be legit.
00:29:41.620
I must be a fraud. You know? Here's the dark secret of 75 hard that I don't talk about.
00:29:48.620
Um, if you don't fucking follow through to make you worse. Yeah. That's the problem. Yeah. Okay. So if
00:29:54.880
you're going to commit, you got to fucking do it. Yeah. If you fucking quit, you're going to be
00:29:59.080
worse. You'd be worse than you were the day you started. Because you'll say I was up on that level.
00:30:03.220
Why did I return to where I am? Yep. Yeah. And that's, that's, that's the dark secret of 75
00:30:08.220
hard. So if you're going to fucking do it, do it. If you're not going to do it, let it go in one
00:30:13.540
ear and out the other. So what, what would, what would you say to people who have, who, who obviously
00:30:19.160
don't want to spend the rest of their lives wallowing and they better fucking finish the program.
00:30:24.080
Yeah. Like dude, it's, it's what it is. So what's happened here psychologically is you
00:30:29.680
tested yourself. You failed the test. You're beating yourself up and now you think you're
00:30:34.380
not good enough. Yeah. And that's just not true. Right. So you just got to find some way
00:30:38.200
to grind it out. And dude, at the end of that 75 days, you're going to raise your hands
00:30:42.140
like you were fucking Rocky on the top of the steps, dude. And you're going to say, damn
00:30:45.100
dude. Yeah. That was the best thing I ever did. Yeah. So yeah. It makes sense. It's, it's a
00:30:50.080
big risk to take and do that challenge because a lot, a lot of people, you know, I don't even
00:30:56.360
like calling it a challenge. It's a program. Right. The reason, I'll get to this in a minute.
00:31:05.600
People are not paying it the respect that it's due because they're looking at it like it's
00:31:11.980
some sort of internet fucking challenge. Right. Like the 10 year challenge or some bullshit.
00:31:16.440
This shit will fuck you up if you don't finish it. Right. That's the reality. And if you don't
00:31:22.180
make it a lifestyle. Yeah. It's going to be that. Yeah. So open this box with caution. Yeah. Because
00:31:29.080
once you're in it, you're aware it's like taking that fucking pill in the matrix, you know, all
00:31:33.980
of a sudden, now, you know, now all of a sudden you're in tune. Now all of a sudden you don't
00:31:39.720
finish and you're like, fuck. Right. I'm not as good as I thought. I'm not like them. I fucking,
00:31:45.600
you know, and dude, it could cause, it could cause some issues. Yeah. Well, and it's interesting
00:31:51.000
just to provide a little teaser here without going into too much detail. Um, there's some
00:31:56.860
resources that you're going to be sharing in the next year related to 75 hard year. And
00:32:02.020
well, you know what I mean? I'm trying to, no, no, what, uh, but, but the, if I'm not mistaken,
00:32:10.540
one of the very first lessons is get ready for the magnitude of what you're about to do
00:32:14.760
to hit you. Yeah. But I think in, in part of that, part of your lesson on that, um, and
00:32:19.480
guys, you're, you're definitely want to get this. Um, part of your lesson is, is that you
00:32:24.080
want to choose really huge goals because even though the fall can be lethal, when you set
00:32:31.540
your heart on something that really demands every part of you, every part of you will level
00:32:36.740
up, you know, and that's, that's the whole point of 75 hard. I think you're right. I
00:32:40.780
mean, we're, we're focusing on the negative, which is that if you, if you don't follow through,
00:32:44.800
you're going to fall hard. But, but the whole point is it really is a huge, a huge thing
00:32:49.600
to try to accomplish. And it's going to have radical transformation. Absolutely. Yeah. But
00:32:54.480
only if you give it what the respect it's due, right? You know, guys, I had these people
00:32:59.140
who have done bodybuilding shows before and they're like, dude, I've dieted for 16 weeks
00:33:02.920
before. I've dieted for 20 weeks. I've dieted for six months. It ain't the same. There's
00:33:06.860
no rest days. There's no fucking cheat meals. There's no high calorie days. There's no fucking
00:33:11.520
like it's a fucking grind. Okay. It is not the same thing. I've dieted for fucking bodybuilding
00:33:17.460
too. It's not the, it's not comparable. Yeah. You know, it's interesting too, man, because
00:33:24.100
as you guys know, I started over today and that's the reason I started over today is because
00:33:28.160
I told Daryl, who's in the RTA syndicate, we were, we were having a talk. He said, dude,
00:33:33.260
I need to get my shit together. And I said, all right. I said, are you serious? And he's
00:33:37.020
like, yeah. I'm like, all right, well, I'll fucking do it with you. And he's like, what
00:33:40.240
do you mean? And I'm like, it means I will do it with you. I'll start over again and do
00:33:44.460
every fucking 75 days with you. Because when you're grinding, I'll grind. When you're tired,
00:33:50.260
I'll be tired. When you don't want to eat that shit, guess what? I don't eat that shit.
00:33:53.280
And I care about Daryl. I think he's, he reminds me a lot of where I was back whenever
00:33:58.400
I started this journey and dude, he's a very successful dude. You look at his life and you
00:34:04.380
could say, why does it matter, dude? He's got everything that you could ever imagine,
00:34:09.360
but he knows that he's leaving shit on the table. And that's something him and I have
00:34:13.680
talked about. In fact, he talked about it right in front of the whole group at RTA, which
00:34:18.340
was super cool. But yeah, you know, the point is, is like this shit will change you. You
00:34:25.960
know what I mean? And not just in a little way. And a lot of people right now are probably
00:34:29.520
like, Oh dude, I get it. No, you don't get it. You don't get it unless you fucking did
00:34:34.180
it. Right. That's the truth. So, um, Tyler's Tyler's in. You're in. All right. I'm in.
00:34:43.340
How much better are you? I'm in. All right, dude. Yeah. No fucking up. No, I'm not.
00:34:47.960
I'm going to, I'm going to do it. Yeah. I'm going to do it, dude. It's, it's completely
00:34:53.620
life changing. And, um, you know, people don't understand it, but it's really actually pretty
00:34:59.140
simple how it works. Um, you know, it forces you to do shit that is uncomfortable on a daily
00:35:05.100
basis. That's not convenient on a daily basis that could be pushed off till tomorrow on a
00:35:11.080
daily basis. That's where the value is because it teaches you to stop, do what the fuck you're
00:35:17.260
supposed to do and then do everything else. Okay. So what happens when you're taking care
00:35:23.020
of the equipment that handles everything else, everything else gets better. Right. You know
00:35:27.400
what I'm saying? Right. And our equipment is our mind and our body and our soul and all
00:35:31.800
of the things that even though they're very simple and 75 hard, those are the things that
00:35:36.100
it, that it, that it fixes. Yeah. You know, it's not going to fix it forever. You're not
00:35:40.660
going to be changed forever, but what's going to happen is, huh? No, no, no. You could easily
00:35:46.900
go right back where you were. You adopt the same habits, but here's where I was getting
00:35:50.100
at 75 days, a long fucking time. Everybody likes to talk about, Oh, in 21 days, it's a
00:35:55.920
fucking habit. No, it isn't. It is not. I do. It's not 21 days ain't shit. They tell
00:36:01.700
you that shit because there's some bullshit research done from fucking 1947 on it. The truth
00:36:07.820
is, is it takes longer. Right. It's just reality. Well, and just the nature of life
00:36:11.860
like, you know, the last day that you have to stop working on yourself when you die, when
00:36:17.160
you die, dude, like it's, it's like that in faith. It's like that in, in success. It's
00:36:21.620
like that in everything. So here's the thing. There's never an arrival. Listen to this
00:36:24.180
though. So fucking during those 75 days, you're going to have birthdays, nights out, life
00:36:31.280
shit, traveling. Dude, I went to Vegas three times my first fucking 75 days. You know what
00:36:36.480
I mean? You're going to have these situations that make it even harder. That's the fucking
00:36:41.680
point. A lot of people right now are probably thinking, Oh, I'll start after labor day.
00:36:45.880
That's your fucking problem. Right. That's the problem. That's why you need this because
00:36:51.280
it should be no issue for you to say, dude, I'm fucking doing this and it doesn't matter
00:36:56.000
what's going to happen. You know, like that's what people don't understand. If you wait for
00:37:02.220
the right time, it's never going to be the right time. Right. Right. Yeah. So, um, and
00:37:07.760
that comes down to, you know, the, I think the aspect that is the most important about
00:37:11.280
the program, which is it forces you to have a zero tolerance and zero compromise or deviation
00:37:16.420
policy. Like these are my fucking things I'm doing and everything else I do is second to
00:37:23.740
that. That's reality. And people right now are thinking, well, that's easy for you to say
00:37:28.220
you don't have fucking kids. No, you're right. I got about 200 motherfucking kids. Right.
00:37:33.580
So come live a day in my fucking shoes and we'll talk about who's busier. Right. You
00:37:37.580
know, it's not a competition about how hard it is for so-and-so. This is hard for anybody.
00:37:42.500
Doesn't matter if you're single with no kids and no nothing, or you got fucking seven kids.
00:37:47.620
And by the way, I've got people who have done this program with seven, eight, nine kids.
00:37:52.240
You know what I'm saying? Huh? Oh yeah. Fucking dude. Miguel's doing it. He's got like 47
00:38:00.520
kids, you know? He does. So it's true. Uh, but my point is, is that like, I don't know what
00:38:10.060
my fucking, well, no, I'll tell you just something that popped into my head is that, um, this is
00:38:16.080
in my opinion, the ultimate counter-cultural program because everything in our country,
00:38:22.280
in our culture right now is geared towards getting easy. Well that, and it's geared toward
00:38:26.100
how I feel. Yeah. If you make me feel bad, I'm offended. If you say something that makes
00:38:31.380
me feel, uh, uh, you know, bad about myself, I'm offended. Everything is feelings, feelings,
00:38:36.940
feelings, feelings. Uh, we want to live a life of rainbows and unicorns. We want all that,
00:38:41.260
you know, we just want satisfaction. We want the world to be, you know, a playground and
00:38:45.820
literally 75 heart is saying, you know, feelings aren't bad. You want good feelings toward life,
00:38:51.740
but you can't be ruled by them. You can't, you can't let your whole life situation be dependent
00:38:57.880
on how you feel. And you can't decide that you want to do something or not do something based
00:39:02.140
on how you feel. And what 75 heart does is basically say that you're going to plow through.
00:39:07.320
Who do you know that doesn't live their life that way?
00:39:11.260
Honestly. Uh, well, I mean, outside of present company and
00:39:16.460
Well, that's what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. The vast majority of, of, of humans
00:39:22.120
live with that. They live with that mentality. Yeah. What's going to be easy? What's going to make
00:39:27.360
me feel good? What's their instant gratification society, dude? Right. But the truth is happiness
00:39:32.380
comes from delayed gratification. That's the truth. It's the truth. Yeah. You could fight it. You
00:39:38.260
could argue it. You could bitch about it. You could cry about it. But just like I said
00:39:42.600
about gravity, you jump off the building, you're going to splat on the ground. Right.
00:39:46.900
You know? So it doesn't really matter if you don't like it. It's just the way things are
00:39:54.780
No, I, I, I would, I would actually argue too that there are other aspects of your life
00:39:58.700
that delayed gratification is a reason for success. Like when you talk about creating loyalty
00:40:03.200
and in customers and here I'm going more into business than self, self improvement. It's
00:40:07.060
all the same. But loyalty, right. It's either you, either you view a customer as a transaction
00:40:11.020
and you have to upsell them right now, get satisfaction, get your money. Or you say, you
00:40:16.020
know what? I'm going to value this person. I'm going to invest in a lifelong relationship.
00:40:20.360
And if I don't get my money now, it's fine. And you know what? I'm going to trust the process.
00:40:24.100
And that's hard to do when you don't have any money. It is. I understand that. Yeah. I understand
00:40:27.900
that. But if you want to have money long term, that's the situation you've got to
00:40:31.820
adopt. Yeah. You know? Yeah. So it's, it's, it's all, it's all related. It's all intertwined.
00:40:39.480
You know, a lot of people are sitting here, right? They're saying, Oh dude, but why are
00:40:42.940
we talking about making money? No, we are talking about making fucking money. You just don't
00:40:46.660
get it. Right. You know what I mean? Yeah. If so, if the person is transformed, the profit
00:40:51.700
comes. That's right. Yeah. You take care of the machine, the machine produces more shit.
00:40:55.540
Yeah. You're the machine, your muscles, your brain, your body, your soul, your thought
00:40:59.560
process. That's the machine. When you have a well oiled machine that's taken care of
00:41:03.880
and maintained properly, guess what? You're going to produce bigger, more, better shit
00:41:09.260
for you and for your family and for everybody around you. And guess what happens when everybody
00:41:14.040
around you starts performing at a higher level? Make more money. Everything grows. They
00:41:18.820
grow, you grow, the business grows, et cetera, et cetera. So people are, they're not really relating
00:41:25.900
this. You know, every time I wanted to quit 75 hard, you know what the fuck I said to
00:41:29.680
myself? I said, dude, do you want to be broke? You want to be fucking broke or you want to
00:41:34.280
be a billionaire? I want to be a fucking billionaire. Right. So guess what I'm going to do? I'll do
00:41:38.800
my fucking workout. Right. I'm not going to eat that peanut butter. I'm not going to order
00:41:42.060
that pizza. You know what I mean? Yeah. No, I know what you mean. I would also add, do you
00:41:45.820
want to be dead? Yeah. Right. Yeah. Because I mean, you, you, you and I both at times struggle
00:41:50.700
with depression and different things. I mean, if you weren't disciplined and you just let
00:41:54.340
yourself go, is it possible that you would go into such despair that you would take your
00:41:58.680
own life? I've struggled with my whole life. Yeah. You know, and, and honestly, um, I'm,
00:42:03.880
I, I really want to see Daryl through this, but the truth is the real truth is, is that
00:42:09.240
yes, I want to see Daryl win this, but I need it right now too, dude. I've been going through
00:42:12.820
some shit, you know what I'm saying? And I need it and it is what it is. Yeah. So I've invented
00:42:19.140
this program as a tool to go back to, to get yourself back on the right track. You know what
00:42:24.000
I mean? And sometimes circumstances are going to be hard. Sometimes bad shit's going to
00:42:27.980
happen. That's out of your control. Sometimes five or six bad things are going to happen
00:42:32.500
in a fucking two week program and a two week span. And you're not going to know what the
00:42:36.020
fuck is going on. And guess what? You can return to, you can return to this program and it can
00:42:40.420
help you reset your momentum. And that's the point of it. You know what I mean? Yeah, absolutely.
00:42:44.760
Good stuff, man. So, um, fuck, I don't know. What are we even supposed to talk about?
00:42:49.860
Did we have a whole nother, a whole nother concept to talk about? I think we were going
00:42:54.280
to talk about you are enough. Oh yeah. Have we ever said that on the show? I don't
00:43:00.780
really think we have. I get it. I get it. I get it. Why people say it? I get it. But
00:43:05.400
I just do too. Yeah, I do. I do too. But it's just. I almost feel like the people that need
00:43:11.820
to hear that are actually the. That's correct. Yes. I agree. The people that are actually
00:43:16.520
working hard. Yes. They need to be told, listen, you're doing okay. But what happens
00:43:20.520
is, and this is the same reason I don't talk about luck. Is there luck? Fuck yeah, there's
00:43:25.320
luck. Is it a good strategy to bank on luck? No. That's what most people do. You are enough.
00:43:34.080
Proper statement. Everybody's enough. Yeah. But that means you're capable. You're good enough.
00:43:40.200
You're, you're, if you apply yourself, you can do well. That's what you are enough means.
00:43:45.540
It doesn't mean sit on your ass and eat fucking Cheetos and talk about the high school football
00:43:52.320
game in 1984 and be like, dude, I did it. I'm enough. And think you're qualified to be
00:43:57.400
on the front cover of a magazine or something. Yeah. Get the fuck out of here, man. You're
00:44:00.480
just a fucking loser with some Cheetos. You know, you ain't enough. You're living way below.
00:44:05.060
How can you say you're enough if you're, if you're leaving 10 fucking million percent on
00:44:09.500
the table, right? Cause most people are, most people are living at that 1% that out of a hundred.
00:44:17.180
And I don't mean that in a good way. You talk about success. A lot of people talk about the
00:44:20.420
1%. I'm talking about the 1% that most people are in, which is the bottom 1%. And they have
00:44:28.280
another 99% available to them that they choose not to use because it's going to require some sweat.
00:44:33.840
It's going to require some work. It's going to require some uncomfortable shit. It's going to
00:44:38.160
require some uncomfortable conversations, but they leave it there. You know what I'm saying?
00:44:43.620
And they choose to live that way. And then they bitch about it. I can't respect that. Now,
00:44:48.380
if you choose to live eating fucking Cheetos and that's really what makes you happy and you're
00:44:51.920
okay being a fat motherfucker on the couch watching fucking TV, which you're not, but let's just say
00:44:57.640
you were good. Be happy, bro. But again, this ain't the place for you. Right. You know what I mean?
00:45:04.640
So I, I'm not trying to push my fucking system of happiness onto people. I just know that this
00:45:10.820
shit works. Right. Right. So this, uh, this is probably, I'm guessing the last episode that we will,
00:45:17.460
uh, tell people about the review contest, right? Cause I think we're, I think we're, uh, wrapping up.
00:45:22.660
So guys, we are having an MFCO review contest. If you, uh, if you listen to us and you want to
00:45:31.700
tell people about us and have a chance to come out and hang with Andy in St. Louis and, uh, all you
00:45:38.220
have to do is basically, I'm drawing a blank. What do they have to do? They have to go on iTunes,
00:45:42.420
leave a review, screenshot it and email it to me. Vaughn at Andy for solid.com. Yep. Yep. So that's
00:45:49.660
cool. We got that going on. Yeah. So we'll, we'll probably announce that what next week
00:45:53.740
or so. Do we actually cover anything of value in this podcast? Cause I feel like we just
00:45:57.640
talked about shit. Well, I think that's kind of what we've been doing for the last three
00:46:01.320
years, but it actually all always turns out really pretty, pretty good. I don't know.
00:46:06.920
I hope you guys got value here. Like, you know, the truth is guys, the real challenge is coming
00:46:11.800
up with titles. So, but like, I would just like to leave people with a thought, you know,
00:46:19.980
and recognize that you're probably out there searching for happiness and you're probably
00:46:24.080
wondering why the fuck it's so hard to find. And you're probably thinking after I get this,
00:46:28.880
I'll be happy. After I make this X amount of dollars, I'll be happy. After I get this car
00:46:33.920
or this, or this money or this raise, or I have this kid or I do this, you're saying I'll
00:46:38.800
be happy, but you won't. You just won't. There's nothing out there that can make you happy except
00:46:44.120
you and your relationship with you. And that's going to come down to you forcing your weaker
00:46:50.460
self, your bitch voice to do the shit that you know you're supposed to do. And when you
00:46:56.040
can reprogram your mind to do the things and be disciplined on a consistent basis, your happiness
00:47:02.080
is going to go up and it's going to stay up. As long as you practice that discipline, the
00:47:06.540
minute you stopped practicing it, it's going to come down. And you just have to understand
00:47:10.560
that, that, that reality and that correlation. When you're not happy, it's because you're
00:47:15.360
not practicing what you could be practicing. And I think if you sat there and think about
00:47:19.220
it, you'll realize that to be the truth. The moments when your happiness are the moments
00:47:23.540
whenever you're putting out as much discipline that you need to put out to accomplish the things
00:47:28.440
that you told yourself you will accomplish. That's why, like when you miss your kid's football
00:47:33.820
game, after you told him that you were going to be there, you feel like such a piece of
00:47:36.960
shit. All right. This is all related. It's about honoring your word. It's about honoring
00:47:41.500
your promises to yourself. If you can't honor your promises to yourself, who, who, who's
00:47:47.200
going to have self-esteem? Who's going to feel good about who they are? Who's going to have
00:47:51.120
confidence? Why, why would you have confidence in someone who lies to you? You see what I'm
00:47:55.700
saying? And that's where the mastery comes from. Think how powerful someone can be.
00:48:01.060
And by the way, I don't fucking charge for this. Like I'm saying a sales pitch. This
00:48:04.960
is something that we do, you know, we just have going on and I just happened to start
00:48:10.420
it. So we, again, so we're talking about it, but, um, I think if people could just grasp
00:48:17.980
the idea of when they exercise discipline, their happiness goes up. And if they could admit
00:48:24.520
that to themselves, they'd be a lot happier just becoming aware of that concept. Because
00:48:28.960
dude, when we're, when we're in that like low zone where we're not happy, it feels really
00:48:33.020
good to be lazy as fuck. You know, the right thing to do feels like you should stay in bed
00:48:41.400
or like you should miss that workout because you're exhausted or you're mentally burnt out
00:48:45.920
or, but that's the sign that you need to do this. That's the sign that you need to move
00:48:51.220
and go do what it is. That's your body and your mind telling you, Hey, motherfucker, you
00:48:56.040
need to go. You ever slept in longer than what you were supposed to, and then woke up
00:49:00.140
feeling super anxious about it. Oh yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like even if you had
00:49:03.920
nothing to do, I don't slip in too much, but just say, even if you had nothing to do and
00:49:08.780
you woke up, let's say you feel like you get up early. What time do you get up lately?
00:49:13.140
Four 45. So what's late for you? Seven. Late is seven. All right. Yeah. So you wake up at
00:49:17.340
seven o'clock and you're like, Holy shit. You feel like you just missed three hours of your
00:49:22.840
life. Right. And you have anxiety, but that anxiety isn't coming from what you missed.
00:49:27.920
It's coming from, you know, you should have got before. Right. And you're not honoring
00:49:31.900
that promise. Right. Yeah, absolutely. So when we lower, when we keep our promises to
00:49:36.920
ourselves, our anxiety goes down, our worry goes down, our happiness goes up, our depression
00:49:41.600
goes down. All right. People have to understand this. Otherwise they're going to keep listening
00:49:47.180
to all these dumb fucks online about, you know, give yourself affirmations. Dude, look, I'm
00:49:52.780
hard on affirmations too. The reason I'm hard on affirmations isn't because they definitely
00:49:57.100
don't work. It's because people don't use them properly. Like when you wake up in the
00:50:01.800
morning on time and you're ready to go and you say, yeah, dude, I'm a bad motherfucker.
00:50:08.020
I'm going to get out there and kick the world's ass today. That's one thing. All right. But
00:50:11.720
it's another thing to sleep into a fucking one o'clock and get up and say, dude, I'm a bad
00:50:15.040
motherfucker. I'm going to go out there and kick the world's ass today. Like no one gives a
00:50:17.520
fuck. You're full of shit. Right. You're just a liar and you're lying to yourself. You're
00:50:21.300
not a bad motherfucker. You're fucking lazy as fuck. And you're trying to fix it by throwing
00:50:25.300
this fucking lipstick on the pig, which ain't never going to fix anything. So, you know,
00:50:29.800
and that's why I'm so passionate about this program is because it really changes people
00:50:33.680
and it gives people a real solution to what seems to be the big problem in society right
00:50:38.000
now, which is I'm not happy and I don't know why. You know? Well, I know why. Because
00:50:43.500
you're lying to yourself 24 hours a day. You're a loser. Yeah. That's the truth.
00:50:46.100
And as you pointed out, that's not a derogative. That's like literally you're losing. You're
00:50:50.620
a loser. When I say loser, I don't even, I'm not, dude, I'm not talking about how much
00:50:55.160
money you have. I'm not talking about what kind of house you live in, what kind of car
00:50:58.380
you drive, what kind of this, that, the other. You know what I'm talking about is I'm talking
00:51:02.000
about someone who can keep a fucking promise to themselves. And if you can't, you are a fucking
00:51:06.000
loser. You need to fix it. Right. That's the truth. Right. And people don't like hearing
00:51:10.060
that, but you know what? They probably don't like a lot of the shit that I say. So. Probably
00:51:14.240
not. It is what it is. Yeah. Good stuff, man. I don't know. So you're in for real?
00:51:19.120
I'm in. I'm going to do it. And you're in too? All right. Yeah. You serious? I need
00:51:25.700
to. Yeah, bro. You do. I'll die if I don't. Like seriously. You'll feel, dude, look. Like,
00:51:30.380
all right. I need to. I'm glad you're doing it. No, I'm going to do it. I'm going to start
00:51:33.040
tomorrow. All right. I'm not going to start. I might eat. So here's what happens. I might
00:51:36.880
eat like five packages of Skittles tonight. That's all right. All right. Here's what
00:51:40.140
happens. Here's what happens, bro. First of all, let's, let's give a little credit where
00:51:45.800
it's due. You've been doing fucking awesome. Dude, you look like a different human. I'm
00:51:50.400
not sure if I still do. I'm really down on myself. Three, three, three weeks. It's amazing
00:51:54.560
what you can lose in three weeks. No, but it comes right back. That's the thing you got
00:51:57.300
to understand. Yeah. You go, you go back to the gym for four or five days. You'll be right
00:52:00.780
where you were. But here's the thing about, here's the thing about this. And this is what
00:52:05.360
happened to you. And this is what happens to a lot of people on the program. They get
00:52:08.080
a false sense of confidence. Okay. Cause they get into 10, like you quit on like 11 days.
00:52:12.840
I think nine or 11 days you get in it and you're like, okay, I get it. And they think
00:52:18.200
they got it. Okay. This is the problem. How many people do you know, read a book a halfway
00:52:24.180
through and they're like, I get it and quit reading a lot of people. Right. Not me, but
00:52:27.820
I almost have like an obsession. I got to finish me too. Yeah. Okay. But I used to be the other
00:52:31.920
guy. Yeah. 2016 Andy, I was the guy who read half the book and said, Oh, I got it.
00:52:36.820
Yeah. Right. But what you realize is that you really don't get it because if you go back
00:52:44.820
and read some of those books that you fucking quit on, you're going to figure out that you
00:52:48.100
were completely wrong about what you assume that book to be about. Right. You know what
00:52:51.520
I mean? And that's your life. That's what you have to understand. Yeah. So you can do the
00:52:56.740
program for 10 days or 20 days or fucking 40 days. And I've had guys tell me like, dude,
00:53:01.440
I've had guys who DM me literally every day on 40 days in, I get it, man. Like, I don't really
00:53:07.140
like, no, you don't know. You will not get it until you're done because there's so many different
00:53:11.820
little mental things that happened literally on a day by day basis that you have to go through the
00:53:19.100
process. And anybody who tells you that they felt the same on day 75 as they felt on day 50. In fact,
00:53:25.460
you won't even have someone to tell you that. Yeah. I don't think I've heard anybody. And we've
00:53:28.380
interviewed quite a few people about that. No, we've interviewed dozens of people. By the way,
00:53:32.620
if you want to be interviewed and you've completed 75 hard, um, yeah. Email Tyler at
00:53:38.480
Andy for seller.com. That's Tyler at Andy for seller.com because we're putting together a pretty
00:53:42.660
cool project. Um, and we'd like you guys to be involved in it. So that's, that's it. I think
00:53:50.300
I don't even know what the fuck I just said, bro. I don't either. I really don't, but it feels good
00:53:54.500
that I said it. Yeah. Yeah. So, um, if you want to know more about the program guys, the
00:53:59.640
original podcast is a 75 hard, uh, winning the war with yourself, uh, tactical guide to
00:54:06.800
winning the war with yourself. I think it's March 6th was the episode. Um, you go back
00:54:12.060
and listen to that. Uh, since then, you know, I've completed it and I've done phase one.
00:54:16.360
Um, and I'm starting over with 75 hard right now and that's really what's going on. Yeah.
00:54:24.040
Fuck man. I like, don't, I don't know what else to say. There's nothing else to say today.
00:54:29.260
Maybe tomorrow. All right. All right. Take it easy guys. All right. See you guys.