REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Tools I Use, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 what's up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am

00:00:15.380 well you know the rest hey i'm here with my co-host von the von kohler von the impaler von

00:00:22.040 diesel von jovi starting defense place at the table yes i taught von a new quote from one of

00:00:28.860 my favorite movies i'm gonna go watch the movie i haven't seen the program yeah he didn't even know

00:00:33.120 he had to google it yeah well i posted on facebook i asked everybody what one of their favorite scenes

00:00:37.880 of all time was and andy just all caps wrote starting defense place at the table so i had

00:00:43.280 to look it up on and everybody knew what it meant except yeah yeah pretty much what's that tell you

00:00:46.940 yes uh that i'm behind on 90s movies about football that's right yeah the one of the greatest sports

00:00:53.400 movies ever yeah terrible but in an awesome way that's right as you said it is it's like one of

00:00:59.080 those movies that you it's on and you watch it but and then you're done you're like why did i watch

00:01:03.200 that that reminds me of the conversation we had like a couple years ago where you said you had

00:01:06.880 watched pacific rim like 12 times dude was it good you said pacific rim still comes on and i still

00:01:13.260 fucking watch it i can't help it resident evil resident evil all of them do you do the same one

00:01:18.180 with that yeah i can't help it what is it about those movies that your phrase was great though

00:01:22.580 terrible but in an awesome way yeah yeah everybody knows what that means when it comes to movies like

00:01:27.440 there's certain movies that are just terrible and you watch them anyway yeah resident evil all of them

00:01:33.180 fall into that category yeah i don't know what it is about those movies i can't even explain it emily

00:01:38.320 tries to like understand what it is i can't explain it to her yeah for me and i'm gonna get a bunch of

00:01:43.440 abuse for this but for me that's karate kid three it's a terrible movie but i really enjoy watching

00:01:49.440 it yeah but i'm older i got into karate kids yeah yeah they were like just they were before your time

00:01:54.380 before my time yeah like you know like yeah like right before my time yeah and then they ruined it

00:01:59.800 and had like another karate kid where it was a girl that was just what do you hate girls no but

00:02:04.980 what are you discriminating a little bit are you racist yeah well it's hillary swing racist vaughn i just

00:02:08.820 can't i hate girls and i am a girl that's that's that's sexist kelsey yeah we better write a letter

00:02:14.960 or throw a protest it's true anyway guys here's the deal we're gonna talk about some practical tools

00:02:23.440 some nuts and bolts um a lot of you guys have asked me what tools i use on a daily basis

00:02:30.380 to get the most out of life how to stay productive and it's a great question and i'm happy to answer it

00:02:36.180 because at the end of the day success and entrepreneurship um and moving forward comes

00:02:42.380 down to practicality people like to throw around words like vision and motivation and efficiency

00:02:48.500 and a lot of these abstract concepts that some that these guys use fly straight over people's heads

00:02:55.640 including mine um you know some of these dudes you know i have to that i know personally i have to

00:03:01.420 stop them and ask them like what the fuck are you talking about you know what i'm saying like

00:03:04.940 they're using terms that you know i'm a regular dude man yeah i'm not extremely intelligent i'm

00:03:11.260 just a normal dude who knows how to fucking get shit done and this is what i want to teach you

00:03:17.440 guys today you know for for all of us listening that aren't fucking geniuses um we'll just use the

00:03:23.260 hammer and nails and our fucking tool belt to get shit done we don't have to talk about these abstract

00:03:26.760 concepts talk about how smart we are okay we're gonna get down to the nuts and bolts how can you get

00:03:32.560 shit done and that's what i want to talk to you guys about today and uh guys we talked a little

00:03:37.800 bit before the uh recording how we're going to structure this and we decided that what i think

00:03:42.660 we're going to do is we're going to take a common topic of success you know some key buzzword that

00:03:48.000 people use all the time we're going to throw that out there and i'm going to kind of pick a

00:03:51.200 goal or two under each one of those uh topics and then andy's just going to break down his

00:03:56.640 strategies and and share his tools cool yeah man all right i think a lot of these will probably

00:04:01.600 overlap a little bit but i it makes sense to me because it's so so fundamental you're going to say

00:04:07.380 something yeah it's just you know it's a little bit frustrating to me the approach that some of i

00:04:12.380 you know i guess i would say my peers in this entrepreneur motivation space take because i feel

00:04:18.380 like a lot of them could get could become way more helpful if they were if they were more um

00:04:25.700 willing to not try and sound like they know everything do you get what i'm saying like you

00:04:32.680 know when you use big words big phrases and these concepts and all these you know fucking terms that

00:04:39.000 shit is hard for people to follow you know our goal like when i say our goal like i'm talking about

00:04:43.460 myself and my peers in this space of entrepreneurship motivation uh self-help if you will right personal

00:04:50.480 development our responsibility is to be effective it's not about us sounding smarter us you know

00:04:57.960 trying to pretend like we're smarter than this or we know these big fucking things you know like half

00:05:02.760 the shit these motherfuckers say i don't even know what the fuck they mean right if i don't know what

00:05:06.300 they mean i know that most of these motherfuckers don't know what it means right you know because i'm in

00:05:10.320 this so the purpose of today's podcast is to sort of take some of these concepts that might be

00:05:17.520 confusing and break them down into like practical how to uh you know situations that you can

00:05:26.100 implement or how to tools so to speak how that you can implement into your daily routine to help you

00:05:32.000 move forward absolutely i i was just thinking as you were talking about some sometime in the mid

00:05:37.360 90s i was at the movie theater and this teenage kid came out of seeing the matrix yeah he's like

00:05:41.460 dude you gotta see that movie and i said why and he goes it's the most incredible movie it just blows

00:05:46.640 your mind i go what's it about he goes i have no idea right and that's kind of like what a lot of

00:05:52.240 people they come away from from different speakers and they're like man that guy was awesome

00:05:56.080 okay so what did you learn i don't know and that's and that's the problem right like that's

00:06:01.880 that's the issue okay yeah there's a lot of people out there that can deliver in such a way and i'm

00:06:07.440 one of them i'm dude i will flat out say it i could go up on stage and talk about nothing and the people

00:06:14.180 are going to walk out and say holy fuck that was awesome but that's because i know how to deliver

00:06:17.420 right and it's my authentic delivery but i to me that cheapens the whole process right you know i feel

00:06:25.300 like as a speaker as as a person who does uh educating on these subjects you have an obligation

00:06:32.280 to make sure that you bring it down to the person's level i mean you've seen me speak with with other

00:06:37.360 people where i've stopped other people in there right you know i've said hey wait this person clearly

00:06:43.060 doesn't understand what the fuck you're saying and i broke it down right because dude that's your

00:06:46.760 obligation that person paid a price to come see you they need to leave with some useful information

00:06:51.700 right it does no good to anyone except your own ego to go up there and pretend like you're jesus

00:06:56.900 right right you follow what i'm saying absolutely and i so so a lot of people give me shit because

00:07:02.020 of how plain spoken that i am i don't know and and most people that follow the show love it but some

00:07:07.320 people you know i've had comments like from from some some peers they're like dude you know the way

00:07:13.180 you present yourself blah blah blah and they're kind of critical about it and it's like look dude

00:07:16.780 i feel like that's how most people communicate you know i feel like when i go to a bar i go to

00:07:23.400 a restaurant and we're getting real and we're getting to be friendly and we're having a couple

00:07:26.840 drinks the conversation always turns into something as the way that i speak you know what i mean it's a

00:07:32.560 friendly uh you know you talk shit um it's just a it's a more casual way of communicating and i feel

00:07:39.220 people just like relate to that because that's how they speak right and so trying to smarten it up

00:07:44.000 doesn't do anybody any favors when you're trying to educate someone right you know absolutely and

00:07:48.100 wouldn't you agree that a lot of people i mean definitely this is true the people that that

00:07:52.040 listen to the show but a lot of people are genuinely nice people and when and when they hear speakers

00:07:57.520 that are like way over their heads they assume something's wrong with them yes you know look yeah

00:08:02.240 that's what i'm trying to say like there is shit that other speakers say that i honestly like i have

00:08:07.520 to text them and ask them what the fuck they're talking about like guys i'm friends with like hey what do

00:08:11.800 you mean by this because i don't get it right you know what i mean yeah absolutely and and i'm not

00:08:16.400 ashamed to say that right you know i'm a smart motherfucker dude honestly like like at school

00:08:21.280 i'd got d's but like when i tested out you know i did great i was at the very very top you know but

00:08:27.420 i i just i guess what i'm saying is is like this whole space is

00:08:34.980 not about us it's about sharing practicalities that people can walk away with and use and i don't

00:08:44.460 see that happening a lot i see that happening i see here's what i see happening a lot go up on stage

00:08:50.240 act like you're jesus and then hey buy my program when you want to learn the tools right so that's

00:08:55.480 what we're going to do is we're going to fucking give you the tools right in a plain english way right

00:08:59.800 so you always say you have to know the what before you know the how and the how obviously is

00:09:05.420 getting stuff done accomplishing things the what is you're talking about seeing what it is you want

00:09:10.780 to accomplish and we know that all of the rightly all of the the the guys that really know what

00:09:15.800 they're talking about say that what is supremely important is having a vision for the kind of life

00:09:20.960 you want to live and what you want to accomplish so that's the first topic if you're okay with that

00:09:24.940 yeah let's talk about vision that's how do you maintain that that's a great place to start well

00:09:28.880 let's talk about how to develop that first of all because i talked to a lot of people man i talked to

00:09:33.180 one of my own guys yesterday about something as simple as what kind of car he wanted to drive in

00:09:38.260 the future he's like well i don't know and i'm like well then you ain't ever gonna fucking what do you

00:09:42.140 think's gonna happen you're gonna keep driving the same truck that you've been driving for 15 years

00:09:46.460 and that's okay if that's what you want right but what i'm saying is is you have to develop a vision

00:09:51.560 and most people don't take the time to do that and when they when they do take the time to do that

00:09:57.160 they limit themselves and so let's cover both those aspects number one you've got to fucking

00:10:02.320 develop a vision for what you want your life to be like all right um that means you have to think

00:10:07.940 about what kind of house you want to live in what kind of car you want to drive uh you know what kind

00:10:12.840 of money you want to make uh what kind of family you want to have all right not just material things

00:10:18.480 but all things you know what kind of service you want to do what kind of um impact you want to make

00:10:23.660 through philanthropy all right you need to think about all those things all right and most people

00:10:28.500 don't take the time to even do that and that's why most people get caught in the uh you know the

00:10:34.740 average joe cycle of life you know go to school get the list you know go to school get married have

00:10:39.940 kids get a huge debt be forced to work by that debt that's the american way just so you guys know

00:10:46.020 okay the american way is not you know they say the america dream okay there is the america dream but

00:10:51.500 the american way goes like this go to school get married have kids getting a fuckload of debt and

00:10:57.780 be forced to work which is really no different than fucking slavery it's another form all right tie

00:11:01.940 people to something that they can't get away from so they're forced to do this and that's because the

00:11:07.080 economy needs worker bees all right there's no worker bees guess what no fucking work gets done

00:11:11.420 that's the american way all right so be aware of that first of all but when we talk about vision

00:11:17.580 you know our whole lives we're taught we're taught different things conflicting things when you're

00:11:24.220 little you're what your parents tell you oh johnny you could be anything you want you want to be an

00:11:28.580 astronaut yeah you could be an astronaut blah blah blah you get to be about seven years old and you go

00:11:33.120 to school and you say yeah i'm gonna be an astronaut what happens the kids make fun of you and they say

00:11:37.440 you're not gonna fucking be an astronaut you know what percentage of people in the world become

00:11:41.000 astronauts yeah start telling you the facts right like you know how many people i want to be a

00:11:45.300 professional baseball player you know you know how how hard that is to do and then and then eventually

00:11:49.700 like you go home and you're like well fucking tommy at school said that you know you can't do that

00:11:54.900 and then your parents say well you know he's right actually you know you need to be realistic with your

00:11:59.320 goals and what happens so then we start limiting our own goals our own visions our own beliefs for

00:12:05.700 ourself and a lot of that has to do with sadly a lot of parents do that because they're afraid of their

00:12:13.960 kid actually surpassing them in life okay so what they do is they set their standards on their own

00:12:19.400 children um and they say things like you know uh i want the best for my kid i want them to be better

00:12:25.820 than me blah blah blah and i want them to have a better life than i had but whenever they come to

00:12:31.480 teaching their kids what is obtainable in life they're teaching them that what they need to do is go to

00:12:39.240 school get a job you know do the same basic job they do and make the same kind of money they make

00:12:44.000 and if you do that you're a success so on one hand they're saying one thing on another hand they're

00:12:47.840 saying another thing and at the end of the day we don't know what the fuck to do and i think everybody

00:12:53.000 can relate to that you know growing up i think it also comes from the parents often not knowing

00:12:57.580 what to tell their kid on how to reach their goals no question right they're they're totally limited

00:13:02.880 on their perspective so there's no way there's no way if you've never made a cake before that you

00:13:08.000 could fucking direct somebody how to make a cake right right so there's a lot of things in play

00:13:13.820 here that that keep people from having a vision right but a great place to start is just to say

00:13:22.500 hey what would my ideal life look like and the two tools that i use uh for practicality sake on

00:13:30.140 creating a vision are a vision board all right and if you don't know what that is google it it's a

00:13:35.980 board that you put pictures of shit that you want on it all right i've got one in my office

00:13:40.720 uh and and i need to update it i just had a meeting with my team here recently about updating my vision

00:13:45.900 board and theirs as well because i've accomplished everything in my vision board um and then i use uh

00:13:52.100 i use the the last you know five ten minutes before i go to sleep to actually visualize what i want my

00:13:57.920 life to be like all right and so what i do is i close my eyes and i try to see myself doing the

00:14:04.160 things that i want to be doing um you know in my ideal life and and so when you close your eyes

00:14:11.100 it's not like oh i see you know for me like five six seven eight years ago it was you know my vision

00:14:17.720 board had a picture of a lamborghini and then had a picture of a private jet and then a picture of uh

00:14:22.080 you know a nice house and like you know all the the shit that people want right and uh

00:14:27.880 for the record there's a make a vision board.com if people want to check that out it looks like it's

00:14:34.540 a good resource or you can just get on pinterest because everything's on pinterest oh yeah there you

00:14:38.580 go so so i had all this stuff on my vision board and so when i would visualize at night i don't

00:14:43.600 visualize the stuff i visualize me living my life with that kind of lifestyle so for me what i used to

00:14:51.820 visualize and this is i started this back in 2006 7 when i had no money i was making 695 dollars a

00:14:58.980 month and i had over 65 000 in credit card debt um i started visualizing myself driving up to the

00:15:05.180 airport uh in a lamborghini and getting to the airplane and the door going up you know because

00:15:12.120 lamborghini's got vertical doors and me being able to see like the inside of the car and like really try

00:15:17.740 to see what the experience was like and then i would like look out the door and i would see the

00:15:23.320 plane and then i would walk over to the plane i could see like the chrome rails of the steps like

00:15:28.280 i try to really truly visualize it and i would visualize that same dream over and over again when

00:15:35.340 i had no reason to really believe that that was going to be happening and guess what i do that on a

00:15:40.460 regular basis now so forgive me for being too detailed but do you have a set time that you do that

00:15:45.540 yeah right before i go to bed right before you go to bed yeah so not in the morning you do it before

00:15:48.720 you go to bed in the hopes that maybe you'll dream about it i guess i don't know it's just something

00:15:52.840 i picked up yeah and uh and then the other dream that i had was speaking in front of people which at

00:15:59.360 that time i didn't even want to speak i never spoke i didn't i didn't know anything about speaking

00:16:05.160 so i had no reason to you know even dream that or have that vision but i would visualize myself

00:16:13.060 on stage speaking to people and then people clapping and cheering and shit like that and

00:16:16.900 now not even 10 years later that those two things are like reality for me right all right and there's

00:16:23.680 tons of um quantophysical metaphysical evidence scientific evidence on things like the law of

00:16:30.400 attraction that i'm not going to get into right now but you know the point is is you have to have

00:16:34.800 a vision you have to have a vision that you stick to and you have to try to see it in reality on a

00:16:39.500 consistent basis and most people never even take that first step of even creating a vision they

00:16:44.740 just take what life's given to them you know they they might their vision might extend to this point

00:16:51.880 like they're driving down the road and they see a car they like and they're like oh that's cool

00:16:54.760 and then they think about it for a few days and then that's it right and then it goes away you know

00:17:00.220 what i mean absolutely yeah and that's the extent of the you have to realize like and and you know i'm

00:17:05.380 going to get some people that are going to fucking argue with me but you know real world that real

00:17:09.400 world evidence to me is more than whatever scientific evidence you can provide and there's

00:17:13.500 a lot of faith that has to be given to this but i believe it and if you choose not to believe it

00:17:18.600 that's fine but i believe it works for me it's done a lot for me um you know there's only 10 percent

00:17:25.940 of the brain that the human brain that is used and that's for cognitive and involuntary function

00:17:31.280 all right but there's electrical impulses all through the rest of your brain that nobody knows

00:17:35.300 what the fuck they're for okay so what do you think those are for 90 of your brain is used for

00:17:41.060 nothing but there's activity going on right you know what i'm saying yeah i mean there's so much

00:17:45.500 we just don't know right exactly we have no clue and the point is is that you know if you get to start

00:17:50.880 reading in this law of attraction and visualization and all these things you start to realize that you

00:17:55.800 know what there's a good probability that there's a lot of shit going on on on the other side of your

00:18:00.620 brain when it comes to visualization uh attracting things uh you know all these things that these

00:18:07.460 books talk about and everybody likes to throw the secret out there the secret's a fucking terrible

00:18:12.220 book to be completely honest um it's like it's like not even an appetizer for what the law of

00:18:17.980 attraction really is there's a lot of other better books out there but um there there's just so much

00:18:27.380 i've had so much happen to me and and there's so many people that will say that i don't know one

00:18:32.960 successful person that doesn't use visualization that doesn't use some sort of vision board or goal

00:18:38.620 board or and and use this and do there's a reason those people have the shit they have right you know

00:18:43.700 it's because they're utilizing parts of the brain that science hasn't caught up to yet right well i think

00:18:47.920 a part of like that secret in quotes is that the secret is common sense if you don't think about your

00:18:54.420 goals or put your visions in front of you every single day you're not going to think about them

00:18:57.920 you're not going to work on them you're not going to do them right but just you know what i'm trying

00:19:02.040 to get at is there's practical manuals out there of how to utilize the law of attraction yeah um there's

00:19:06.960 also scientific evidence out there that it works you know i've read probably 30 books on it uh it's

00:19:13.600 pretty substantial the information available and everybody like when you say the law of attraction

00:19:18.600 everybody says oh the secret and it's like bro if that's all you read yeah you don't fucking get it

00:19:23.680 yeah you know what i mean you know why i think there's huge truth in what you're saying is because

00:19:27.280 if you think about it this is kind of a weird way to arrive at the conclusion but think about when

00:19:32.000 things go wrong with the brain so like think about people who are autistic they can they can perform

00:19:38.260 incredible feats of you know like if you've ever seen the movie rain man like you and i couldn't

00:19:42.900 comprehend like you their ability to count and and to memorize and that sort of thing and then when the

00:19:48.740 when the brain malfunctions and people see hallucinations well if it can do that when it's

00:19:54.160 going wrong then there has to be at some point look man you know what i'm saying like there has to be

00:19:59.120 some some point which humans are going to figure out how to do that the problem with it is is that

00:20:02.940 there's it's such a fluffy subject and like people hear it and they're like that sounds like total

00:20:07.900 bullshit right like and that's that's a problem i have with the secret too is because the secret makes

00:20:12.240 it sound like you're going to close your eyes think of an elephant and a fucking elephant's going to

00:20:16.340 i was about to say just the name of the book kind of makes it sound it's corny as fuck mystical thing

00:20:21.180 but it was interesting enough for me to do my research and that's right that's what i did and

00:20:26.140 i'm going to tell you right now it's a real thing it's it's a super extremely valuable tool visualization

00:20:31.660 um and and you have to practice it on a daily basis so you know get yourself a vision board um and learn

00:20:39.500 how to visualize now let me say this before you move forward with that tool a lot of people fuck this

00:20:45.840 up because what they do is instead of actually putting what they really want on their vision

00:20:50.440 board they limit themselves and say well here i am i'm working at burger king you know i really want

00:20:57.400 a ferrari but because i'm working at burger king i'm going to put a fucking uh mustang on the fucking

00:21:03.340 on the on my vision board right get it right you can't do that you can't think about the how here

00:21:08.840 this is just pure pure like what the fuck you really want right and you have to unlimit your

00:21:14.200 brain and like dude if you think it would be cool to have a 50 million dollar fucking yacht dude put

00:21:19.940 one of those motherfuckers up there you know what i mean don't think like hey i'm working it you know

00:21:25.600 here and i'll never be able to afford that on this salary so i'm going to put this up there

00:21:29.100 when you do that you're you're not only consciously you're subconsciously limiting your whole entire

00:21:33.960 life so that would be my only like warning to this make sure that you're visualizing and dreaming

00:21:42.420 on an unlimited scope this this time is not for the how this is for the what right okay right and

00:21:49.920 going back to to repeat something you said earlier make sure it's what you want not what you think other

00:21:56.060 people want even if like you know you use the example of the ferrari and maybe what somebody wants

00:22:02.460 is not the ferrari like even though that's the iconic yeah maybe it's something else but i think

00:22:06.880 but the point vaughn is that most people never even have that conversation with themselves right

00:22:10.580 they don't even have a conversation what do i really want right they a lot of people dream about

00:22:15.880 what they think they should want and that's what they dream about and you know what that's not a bad

00:22:21.560 thing if you don't know what the fuck you want and you start dreaming about shit that you think you're

00:22:24.940 supposed to want but it's still big shit eventually you're going to get in a position where you're going to

00:22:29.640 be able to be like all right well i don't sometimes you know you got to have what you don't want to

00:22:33.220 realize what you want so i don't know that's a terrible thing you know it's it's all about

00:22:37.980 learning and progressing you know there's been plenty of things i thought i wanted that i found

00:22:41.600 out that i really didn't want um after i had them you know so i i think that's okay i just think that

00:22:48.040 you know it's important to sit down and have the conversation with yourself about what you want

00:22:52.900 because if you don't go out and try to think about what you want and visualize what you want you're

00:22:56.480 going to end up with whatever you get gifted to you by default which is going to be a big pile of

00:23:01.560 poop that's it yeah you know you're going to get what's just go for things it goes for people too

00:23:07.200 like the kind of people you want in your life you know there's like a significant other that you want

00:23:11.700 to be a companion in your journey like what that person would look like like their characteristics and

00:23:16.640 right everything 100 yourself with yeah so along with that number two is motivation and as you know

00:23:23.720 everybody's passion for something comes and goes um the question that i would say i mean you've

00:23:29.060 talked about how you are naturally internally motivated but obviously i know in talking to you

00:23:34.120 that there are practical tools that you use to keep your motivation stoked or to move on even in those

00:23:41.020 days like you've called them the tombstone days even in those days where you don't feel like going on

00:23:45.160 so well first thing first thing people need to understand is that you know i'm no different than

00:23:52.600 anybody else i mean yes i run at a very high intensity at a very high motor um when i'm hot

00:24:00.220 probably as high as anybody out there you know what i mean as intense as anybody out there uh when i'm

00:24:07.020 hot but you know what not always hot just like you're not always hot and there are days and months

00:24:12.300 weeks at a time where i feel like i don't want to do shit that's the truth okay um that is you know

00:24:21.220 a lot of people see me personally or these other motivated people from the outside and they think

00:24:26.040 that they're always that way and some of them will tell you that they're always that way and they're

00:24:30.520 full of shit i've not met one person out there that doesn't go through the ebb and flow of motivation

00:24:35.480 sometimes we just have it and sometimes we don't all right but the difference between people who

00:24:43.400 make it and people who don't make it is what you do in the time that you don't okay it's not it's

00:24:49.880 easy to do the things you need to do whenever you have it when you have that fucking fire and you have

00:24:55.100 the intensity and you have the will to win and you have all the intangibles of success working for you

00:25:00.660 you know the hunger the intensity the fire the will to win those are the intangibles you can't

00:25:05.680 teach that shit when you have that shit working in your favor it's easy to fucking go out and do what

00:25:10.640 you need to do anybody does it we all do it every single person when they feel great they go out and

00:25:15.940 they do the right stuff just a fact of human nature the difference is what you do when you don't feel

00:25:22.020 like doing it okay and that comes down to cultivating discipline and cultivating habits all right

00:25:27.900 you have to create a habit of forcing yourself through the motions okay and this is important

00:25:36.380 for two reasons one when you force yourself through the motions you're being productive even though

00:25:41.600 you know you don't feel like it all right which means in a competitive atmosphere which most of life

00:25:47.700 is you're moving ahead of the people that are sitting on their ass because most people don't have

00:25:53.260 discipline to move forward when they don't feel like it all right so you're let's say ebb and flow

00:25:57.420 50% motivation 50% not feeling like doing anything that means you're 50% ahead of somebody at any

00:26:03.220 given time because you cultivated that point all right so in business is extremely important you got

00:26:08.360 to go do the things you want that you have to do even when you don't feel like doing it huge key to

00:26:12.500 success all right number two the reason this is important is because motivation comes through motion

00:26:18.000 all right you can when you move you create momentum which is going to create motion all right or i'm

00:26:27.300 sorry motivation all right so you're it's just like when you go for a run everybody here has gone for a

00:26:33.400 run or exercised when they don't feel like it all right when you first start dude your feet are heavy

00:26:38.640 they feel like shit you don't want to move five minutes in you're feeling okay 10 minutes in you feel

00:26:44.380 great and you're like fuck yeah i'm glad i did this right and then the rest of your day is turned

00:26:48.840 around so you have to realize that to get through the ebbs and flows of motivation in life the key

00:26:55.040 to get back into that hot zone is by forcing yourself through the motions and giving that momentum to work

00:27:00.600 for you does that make sense makes a ton of sense yeah so like you could develop that motion and and that

00:27:06.500 momentum by just going through the motions and forcing yourself and it doesn't take long it doesn't take

00:27:11.840 like you know uh this extremely long period of time to make that happen most people it takes an

00:27:19.580 extremely long time to get the momentum back because they don't force themselves through the

00:27:23.300 motion so a key to having higher motivation all the time is that when you're feeling low and you feel

00:27:28.060 like shit go through the motions to get the momentum to work for you and you come back out of that

00:27:31.820 naturally much more quickly right follow you're not starting from the beginning every single time

00:27:37.020 and you're not even more discouraged even though you're motivated no because at the end of the day

00:27:41.860 the the results you're producing you're winning all the time even because even when you don't feel

00:27:47.400 like it because you've made a habit out of doing the things you need to do when you don't want to do

00:27:50.500 it the result is still the same so if you're measuring results you know you're still getting

00:27:55.600 the result even when you don't feel like it you get what i'm saying yeah and it may not feel like

00:27:59.960 as good of a result but when you compare the baseline of every other person on earth when

00:28:06.900 they're not doing shit and they're sitting on the couch eating fucking doritos watching the walking

00:28:11.600 dead and you're out busting your ass even though you don't feel like it dude you're still winning

00:28:16.600 right right it's a huge deal so when you talk about creating habits and and getting certain actions

00:28:24.840 in motion let me use this analogy you tell me if i'm understanding you better or accurately so

00:28:30.900 obviously in in a game situation in in let's just pick basketball there are always situations in a

00:28:37.080 game where coaches have set plays so if we have a certain circumstance we say okay guys we're going

00:28:42.040 to call set play that you've practiced you're you've perfected and you know that all of the things

00:28:46.920 being equal it should work is that kind of kind of what you're saying when you talk about look

00:28:51.760 creating this is something this is something that i learned from tony robbins um if you don't listen

00:28:56.900 to his his information and you haven't studied his his product that dude's the og i mean he is the

00:29:03.400 fucking original gangster when it comes to motivation i love tony robbins he's a fucking genius

00:29:08.620 he he's he's the guy period okay um

00:29:13.620 his thing has always and and always has been get up in the morning and go exercise okay and i i believe

00:29:24.220 that because dude when you get up and you go do 30 45 minutes of exercise whether it be a walk and

00:29:30.800 do when you walk don't walk like a fucking pussy i'm talking about walking and get some sweat going

00:29:35.280 yeah put some effort into the walk yeah yeah you know what i mean like dude i see some people walk and

00:29:39.300 they're just walking like they're at the fucking mall yeah power walk dude walk with some fucking

00:29:43.840 intent do a hike type thing yeah you know what i'm saying yes get some sweat going you know what i

00:29:49.440 mean you don't have to run i don't run you don't have to run dude i've lost 60 pounds this year i

00:29:53.920 haven't fucking run one time you know why because i hate running i hate it when i was in high school

00:29:58.600 playing sports running was a punishment and i always got in trouble so i always always had to run

00:30:03.580 yeah so i fucking hate running you can get great results by by walking with a purpose all right so

00:30:10.860 so yes call a set play get your fucking ass out of bed put on your fucking shoes and heel toe that

00:30:17.840 motherfucker for 45 minutes okay and you'd be amazed at how quickly your day develops momentum

00:30:24.320 all right you're up you're moving you're sweating you come back to the house and you're like fuck yeah

00:30:29.740 dude i'm ready to kick ass okay that's an example of a tool that you can use and not only is it going

00:30:36.060 to help you with momentum you're going to physically improve over time which is going to you know

00:30:41.860 help your life in every way possible you know so we could talk about all these tools for creating

00:30:49.100 momentum but you know that's where also the power list comes into play consistently executing your

00:30:56.160 your your critical tasks um which we talked about and kill it every day if you haven't listened to

00:31:00.740 that go back and listen to it uh but yeah man you know you've got to create motivation out of thin air

00:31:07.020 sometimes and the people who win know how to do that and the way they do that is by going through

00:31:11.640 the motions even when they don't feel like doing it it's discipline no i love the emphasis on uh

00:31:17.360 on just getting up and moving yeah so we covered efficiency but we're also kind of covering

00:31:22.620 discipline along with that uh so i can skip ahead probably to the next one or did because you kind

00:31:27.960 of touched on efficiency and discipline together you want me to skip ahead to the next one yeah okay

00:31:32.720 so the next one is just learning you you tell everybody you know it's important for success to

00:31:37.520 be learned learning something new every day okay so i guess i everybody knows you're a big book reader

00:31:44.720 right but just generally speaking give it you know okay what's the school of andy all right look

00:31:48.980 learning is a mentality it's a character trait it's not something you practice it's something that

00:31:58.180 you become a student okay and what i mean by that and we talked about this recently i don't remember

00:32:04.460 which on which podcast but what i mean by that is that when you become a student of life you're

00:32:12.660 always learning you're always picking up this here or that there all right and we talked about

00:32:19.120 there's passive learning there's active learning and you need to be working on both active learning

00:32:24.440 would be things like reading 10 pages of a book per day uh not not not uh you know dungeons and

00:32:31.440 dragons i'm talking about a book you could fucking like you know educational book right on the topic

00:32:36.520 of whatever it is you're trying to learn um you know or reading for an hour a day or half an hour

00:32:43.180 a day every day all right that's active learning um listening to a podcast active learning um then

00:32:51.040 there's passive learning and passive learning would be learning from the situations and circumstances

00:32:54.880 that happen to you on a daily basis you know you meet someone uh they say something or or spark an

00:33:03.160 idea and you're like fuck that's a great idea and you put make a little note right um i was at lunch

00:33:09.260 with a friend yesterday we were just having casual friend lunch and he said you know man what this

00:33:14.140 would be cool if you put a little note and we start talking about this this uh idea that had to do with

00:33:19.900 some with a business that wasn't even one of my businesses and i'm like and i i automatically took

00:33:24.720 that idea and put it in perspective to my company and i came up with a great idea right so my point is

00:33:32.140 like you've got to be in the mindset to pick things up along the way um you know great idea most of the

00:33:39.840 great ideas that we've had as a company uh and me no not you and in the history of of our company

00:33:47.900 have come from just little things that have happened along the way that we were listening you have to

00:33:53.140 be listening you know and that's what i mean by being a student is you know whether you're at a

00:33:58.560 restaurant or a wedding reception or a barbecue or you're at a beach or whatever it is that you do

00:34:04.760 outside of work pay attention you know pay attention to the conversations you have pay attention

00:34:09.980 to what people say pay attention to people's actions you know we use the example of uh you know

00:34:16.120 waiters going the extra mile and doing extra things that could spark service ideas for your company

00:34:22.700 or uh how to create extra wow factor i'm just go rolling here because i'm so used to this mentality

00:34:30.400 it's it's just who i am right character trait like i'm a fucking student right so i i'd love to drive

00:34:37.340 home this point because and i know not everybody in our in our uh in our audience is religious so

00:34:43.120 so bear with me as i quote a bible verse right now and then i'll and then i'll explain but there's a

00:34:47.740 bible verse in the old testament that says the heavens declare the glory of god the sky proclaims the work

00:34:51.880 of his hands day after day they pour forth speech night after night they display knowledge there is

00:34:57.200 no speech or language where their their voice is not heard and that's the bible's way of saying

00:35:01.940 the universe is always talking there it's always sending out messages you gotta listen you gotta

00:35:07.420 listen yeah you gotta listen and and that's what i mean you know learning and all like one of our

00:35:12.380 core values here at the company is always be learning and that that's what that means it doesn't mean

00:35:17.600 just read a book right now it does mean read a book but that's not all it means right you should

00:35:23.500 always be reading a book every fucking day you should be reading a minimum of 10 pages or 30 minutes

00:35:28.900 okay every day you know uh but that's not all it means it means that you have to listen you have to

00:35:35.720 open up your brain and you have to become a student and that also goes along with staying humble like you

00:35:41.160 don't know everything so pay attention to what everybody has to offer you that little old lady at the

00:35:45.380 grocery store that is annoying and runs her cart down the middle of the fucking aisle that you want

00:35:49.200 to punch in the face right she probably knows a lot of shit that you don't fucking know right that you

00:35:54.900 could learn from her so why not strike up a conversation for 10 minutes you know right people don't do that

00:36:00.840 shit they they instead they let their ego get in the way of their ability to learn by

00:36:06.460 unconsciously and sometimes consciously ranking themselves in society in certain ways you know hey there

00:36:14.540 there's the guy that the butcher you know i'm making a hundred grand there's the butcher guy he's

00:36:19.020 cutting my fucking my ham right i can't you know this guy's a this guy all he could do is cut ham

00:36:24.240 how the fuck do you know that you don't know what that guy knows right you know what i mean i think

00:36:29.560 it's important that you know to like you said always be learning i think there's a lot of people that they

00:36:34.560 may go to work every day and they feel like they really killed it at work they really did everything

00:36:38.880 they were supposed to but then they go home and they like sit on the couch and they don't try to

00:36:43.320 get any benefit outside of no it's that's what i'm saying it's a character trait right it's not

00:36:49.180 this is not like um hey go do this this is develop a value and a character trait within you right to

00:36:55.340 always be absorbing and i feel like every successful person that i know has that trait and they can

00:37:02.360 they consistently listen far more than they speak right and believe it or not because most of the

00:37:09.020 people listening to this are used to me talking i actually do listen far more than i speak right

00:37:14.740 and you can form those habits like instead of going home and you know practicing sitting on the

00:37:20.080 couch and turning on netflix practice going home sitting on the couch and opening up your book and

00:37:23.700 reading those 10 pages dude all you got to do that should be in your critical tasks list on your power

00:37:28.160 list that should for years that was in there for me read 10 pages of a book right 10 pages it becomes

00:37:34.160 habit you don't have to think about it you just do it exactly something you said earlier that um when

00:37:39.020 you were talking about right at the beginning of the podcast when we were talking about how sometimes

00:37:42.600 success and motivation gurus they talk about things and we had no idea what they were talking about

00:37:46.820 and you said you know sometimes with some of my peers i'll actually say to them what do you mean

00:37:52.800 what do you mean what are you talking about and that goes back to not just listening but

00:37:56.320 something i know you do a lot which is feel free to ask questions dude don't be embarrassed

00:38:01.880 i text gary the other day and i'm gonna say you know i love gary okay he's a good guy gary

00:38:07.780 vaynerchuk is who i'm talking about i text him the other day and i he made a video on emotional

00:38:12.760 intelligence versus iq and he calls it eq versus iq and he you know gary likes to use fancy words

00:38:20.000 sometimes he just does and um and gary is so fucking smart that he doesn't realize that people

00:38:27.620 he's talking over a lot of people and so i had to text him i'm like what the fuck are you talking

00:38:32.380 about emotionally intelligent like i don't know what that means bro and i like i've shared the

00:38:37.320 stage with you right you know what i mean like and and you know we had a little conversation he

00:38:43.280 clarified it and but the point of the matter is is that be humble enough to ask a question right

00:38:49.400 you know what i mean a lot of people don't want to ask a question because they don't want to feel

00:38:52.980 like they're stupid you know it's like when you're in you know sixth grade and you don't want to be

00:38:57.500 the guy asking a question but realize that you know or let's say high school right right you know

00:39:03.260 all the kids make fun of you for for asking the question right when they have when they have the

00:39:07.500 same question not only that where the fuck are those motherfuckers now yeah right exactly you know

00:39:11.380 peaked in high school because really if they didn't if if you don't yeah people who don't ask

00:39:16.560 questions aren't concerned about getting better man they're just concerned about looking good right and

00:39:20.060 and and it's okay to ask things like that like if you you know he's talking about emotional

00:39:26.020 intelligence i don't know what the fuck he's talking about right right right well it's the

00:39:30.460 old saying that's true there are no stupid questions only stupid people yeah he's like he's like well it

00:39:34.800 needs to be you know we're we're talking about empathy and this and that and i'm like okay well i know

00:39:38.860 what those words mean right you know but what does this mean right right no that's a good point

00:39:43.880 all right number uh well i don't know what number it is but we're on the next next one which is

00:39:48.460 criticism and obviously this is something that anybody who's committed themselves to success is

00:39:53.220 going to deal with um how do you push on past criticism and i know that there are two types

00:39:58.300 of criticism there's internal and external and in some ways the external is the harder one excuse me

00:40:03.360 i'm sorry i was gonna say the internal one's the harder one no there's more than two types okay you've

00:40:07.260 got it you've got let's let's talk about you've got two types and then subcategories of those types

00:40:12.280 you have constructive criticism and then you have just bullshit criticism all right or quote-unquote

00:40:19.140 hate right all right then under those you have internal constructive criticism okay and then you

00:40:26.500 have internal i guess it would be destructive criticism right okay quote-unquote hate right um

00:40:33.620 you have to be able to be aware enough to identify and the difference between the two and you have to

00:40:40.040 be humble enough to admit the difference because sometimes people will work constructive criticism

00:40:44.740 in such a way that it sounds like they're attacking you but in reality what they're saying is probably

00:40:50.600 true or could be true and if you dismiss it as them hating you're missing opportunity to improve

00:40:57.000 you know so you have to walk a very fine line when it comes to criticism you have to be aware

00:41:02.940 to recognize what type each one is does let's say for example somebody comes at you really hard on

00:41:11.920 facebook and says oh andy you know what fuck you you're you're a piece of shit blah blah blah blah

00:41:17.960 blah you know fuck you and your whole family i think that's funny like how i handle that is i laugh

00:41:23.860 right and i make a smart ass comment back right like because i i'm usually gonna i'm like the floyd mayweather

00:41:29.700 or the fucking internet like you're not gonna fucking beat me in a comment war right all right

00:41:33.660 i i will be i've seen people try and i actually enjoy i'm undefeated dude no no no i know you're

00:41:39.420 undefeated but i i enjoy watching i enjoy watching the wake on the on the yeah like you're not dude if

00:41:45.780 you're gonna troll me you're better off trolling someone else yeah because i'm gonna fucking make

00:41:48.860 you look silly but that's how i deal with the destructive bullshit criticism now real criticism like

00:41:55.720 so now now here's the thing sometimes people will it'll sound like they're attacking you and they

00:42:01.860 are but they also have a point and you have to be able to push through them attacking you and absorb

00:42:09.100 that point to be to improve okay and so in that situation you know what and like let's say it's a

00:42:14.860 disgruntled customer somebody who has a real point i will try to reconcile that situation with that person

00:42:22.100 first and foremost and say hey listen um i totally understand where you're coming from i get that

00:42:27.000 you know i see you're upset you know i didn't mean to upset you uh and you make a good point i take

00:42:32.660 that into consideration and that's all people want they want to be taken into consideration now

00:42:38.080 sometimes people will make constructive criticism that doesn't mean that it's right

00:42:42.380 right so you also have to know yourself and know who you are know what track you're on and what way

00:42:47.880 you're going and sometimes people are making things that they think are right but they aren't right for

00:42:52.400 you so there's a lot of things to take into play here you know it'd be real easy for me to sit here

00:42:57.800 and say oh criticism fuck all the haters that's what everybody says online but if you're that kind of

00:43:04.080 person and you dismiss everybody as a quote-unquote hater that criticizes you you're missing a huge

00:43:08.980 opportunity to improve so you have to be listening it goes back to what we talked about with learning

00:43:13.180 you've got to be listening and you've got to be aware and you've got to be able to absorb um you

00:43:19.160 know what you can use and you throw the rest of the trash like for example if someone comes at you

00:43:24.100 hard and they're mean to you and they say some rude shit but they also have a good point i'm thankful

00:43:28.540 that person made that comment and i take the part that i can use and i take the rest of it and i wash

00:43:33.580 it off my shoulders and i don't care i'm just about to say you can't let everything else that they say

00:43:38.380 wear on you because then then you're hating on yourself you're missing you're trying to make it like

00:43:42.880 it's true you're missing an opportunity to make an advocate there because what that person is really

00:43:50.200 saying is i care enough about you to be pissed off about this so that you will improve exactly

00:43:56.180 and a lot of people just take the hurt of that statement and not listen to what you have exactly

00:44:00.320 and they get defensive it depends on who it's coming from and their reason for doing so and if

00:44:04.580 you can look at that and be completely honest with yourself and say yeah you know i need some

00:44:08.700 development in this area take that and work on it right you have to use everything that's

00:44:12.760 offered to you you know when it comes to success and and that's one thing i think people especially

00:44:18.420 the now the thing is like fuck all the haters i mean how many t-shirts have i seen this week that

00:44:23.320 new companies say fuck the haters or whatever whatever right now it's like come on dude right

00:44:27.600 you know but but let's move on to a different sort of criticism real quick is also can i get you to

00:44:33.640 clarify something real quick with it so you talked about the kind of criticism that is well-meaning but

00:44:38.760 really ultimately not right for you so that presupposes though that a person has a pretty

00:44:44.600 good understanding of who they are as as people you know and i know we've talked about the over

00:44:49.980 overuse of the word self-awareness but i mean

00:44:52.920 in practical terms how did you get to know yourself better to where you knew dude that's just experience

00:45:01.100 yeah i mean i still there's still times where i'm like man i wonder if that guy has a really good

00:45:08.740 point or or not you know i consider the point you've just got to make a decision you know most people

00:45:14.000 can't do that that's the problem they most people are so caught up on their internal criticism that

00:45:20.560 when external criticism comes at them they like crumble because they're already so fragile on the

00:45:25.400 inside if you're going to be great and this is this is a conversation about something else that i

00:45:31.560 have often you know the word ego if you're going to be great at something you have to have a fucking

00:45:37.040 ego okay and i'm not saying you have to have a fucking giant ego or overinflated ego but you've

00:45:43.560 got to value yourself and you've got to think you're pretty badass and there's nothing wrong with

00:45:47.060 that there's nothing wrong with that you should think you're badass but you shouldn't think you're

00:45:52.100 so badass that you're better than everybody right and you have to develop you know an attitude of

00:45:59.360 confidence an attitude uh of belief in yourself and most people sadly never get to that point

00:46:07.900 and so when when external criticism comes their way i mean i see people on facebook that get two three

00:46:14.440 four likes a post and one person disagrees with them and they're making like a gigantic post on the

00:46:20.020 internet about you know this big passive aggressive posts about people certain people in quotes who

00:46:27.620 say certain things and it's like dude are you that fucking fragile yeah like let's be real man like

00:46:33.200 you think warren buffett fuck gives a fuck what people say about him or bill gates is bill gates on the

00:46:38.160 internet writing these big fucking posts about certain people who make certain comments and it's

00:46:43.640 i mean dude no you know that's not how successful people act and a way to build that up just like in

00:46:48.780 your snapchat which i really enjoyed it was either i think it was yesterday whenever you were saying

00:46:53.220 to fulfill those things and feel that way about yourself you have to make promises to yourself

00:46:57.780 and keep them yeah you have to be able to prove to yourself that you are who you say you are and who

00:47:02.640 you want to be right you have to you just have to put in the work for that or else you're not gonna

00:47:06.360 have that confidence and i talk about that all the time you have to earn the right to have that

00:47:09.440 confidence you have to earn the right to feel good you got to earn the right to have self-esteem

00:47:13.140 and those things are earned by doing work that you tell yourself you're gonna do that's it right

00:47:19.360 right so we're gonna go into the last point here in just a second guys but if you would like the uh

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00:49:45.120 column excuse me right on the right column there will be a place where you can sign up and do that

00:49:49.600 and like i said we've got some really really cool stuff coming up in the next couple months

00:49:53.140 let's get move on yeah so the final point is adversity okay and this is obviously a huge

00:49:59.460 topic in success and uh it it dawned on me you know we were talking about this the other day andy

00:50:04.540 is that a lot of we've gotten a lot of new listeners and some of them might not be familiar

00:50:10.620 with the story that you told in the very first episode i don't know if you want to tell the whole

00:50:14.300 story but i thought it would be kind of cool if you just kind of give the the cliff notes of that

00:50:18.040 story and then talked about how you practically have learned to use adversity um well that yeah

00:50:25.160 i could do that but let me say this first everybody thinks their situation is the hardest situation

00:50:32.360 okay they have this belief that's ingrained into them that they are different i'm different okay i

00:50:40.120 my situation yeah but it's the yeah but syndrome yeah i get that but and then they fill in the blank

00:50:46.820 with whatever it is they think is so fucking hard about their life let me tell you something your life

00:50:51.620 is not that fucking hard okay you make it hard by telling yourself this bullshit of oh i understand

00:50:58.540 what you're saying but and then fill in the blank right all right so quit with the fucking yeah but

00:51:04.360 your life is not that hard it just isn't there's a million other fucking people out there who have

00:51:11.000 done what it is that you want to do with harder circumstances than you have had that's a fact of

00:51:17.000 life including myself there's many many people out there who have done way way way more than me

00:51:21.880 a million times more than me in life that have had a much harder time okay that's a fact so when

00:51:27.540 you're telling yourself oh my dad left when i was seven my mom spanked me with a wooden spoon

00:51:35.460 fuck your shit no one gives a shit it doesn't matter okay you have to move past that and use

00:51:43.220 those things as as a tool to move forward and what you're what vaughn's talking about which a lot of

00:51:48.640 you guys may or may not know is when i was uh in college in 2003 i got attacked uh and stabbed in the

00:51:56.040 face and in the back and i had 160 stitches in my face um i almost died i'm not gonna tell the

00:52:03.640 whole story if you want to hear the whole story go back listen to the first podcast um and you know

00:52:10.540 i went from being you know a normal looking dude uh to looking like the dude from the movie mask

00:52:17.300 rocky with your face swollen up the size of a fucking grapefruit all right and everybody knows that

00:52:24.160 feeling uh what right or wrong you know when you see somebody who's very disabled or handicapped

00:52:30.640 and your first uh reaction is like look away because you want to feel like you're staring

00:52:34.720 well no one fucking looked at me in the eye for probably two years i would go to the grocery store

00:52:40.460 i would try to check out the lady checking me out would look at the fucking floor okay don't fucking

00:52:45.920 do that by the way because it's rude as fuck and it does hurt and people notice it all right i worked

00:52:50.900 retail i worked the counter the reaction of what i would get would be one of two things the person

00:52:55.520 wouldn't look at me or they would look right at you and be like jesus what happened to your fucking face

00:53:00.680 all right and my face was fucked up uh when i say swollen the size of a grapefruit i mean it for over a

00:53:08.400 year all right uh went through massive depression you know thought about suicide and all these other

00:53:14.760 things and you know all the shit that you know people go through when they have a traumatic injury

00:53:18.480 and um you know when you go from you know a good looking young man to having your face totally

00:53:29.440 fucked up when you're 23 years old in the prime of your life it fucks with you okay um there's a

00:53:36.420 number of lessons to be learned here i mean i could talk about perspective i could talk about adversity

00:53:42.700 uh but i want to stay on the track of adversity you know that was a really hard time for me

00:53:53.260 to the point where you know i was literally thinking uh you know a lot of people say oh

00:53:59.160 let's think about suicide no i was fucking really thinking about it you know what i mean not not just

00:54:03.840 the the fad of people trying to get attention and um you know it was just it was bad and

00:54:14.420 my face had these fucking massive scars still do today i don't have any nerve i don't have any

00:54:19.400 nerve feeling in the left side of my face and uh you know it was just rough man and

00:54:27.540 a few years went by and i started to get better and things went better and a few things happened

00:54:33.640 to help change my perspective for the better um but one thing in particular

00:54:38.380 happened and we would chris and i were in business we only had one store at the time and we would go

00:54:44.520 to these giant trade shows like the arno classic the mr olympia uh the europa shows the big trade shows

00:54:51.020 and we would meet people and um you know before the stat before i got stabbed you know we would

00:54:59.140 meet people and then you would meet them again the next year and they would act like they didn't

00:55:01.720 meet you like because they didn't remember you after that happened what started happening was

00:55:06.420 everybody remember me because of my fucking face because i had these giant scars of it oh you know

00:55:12.560 andy from uh supplement super stores and they're like oh no yeah dude the guy with the scars on his

00:55:17.160 face oh yeah yeah yeah all right and so i started to see that there was a benefit to what had happened

00:55:24.240 i was very memorable and so i could go around make introductions and meet people and they would

00:55:29.420 always remember me always because of that and so i started to use um what had happened as something

00:55:37.620 that was actually good for our business and now it's to the point where you know people draw pictures

00:55:44.940 of me from the project from the mfco project like fans and they put my scars on there and they'll say

00:55:51.160 dude your fucking scars are badass yeah you know and it's become this like character trait of my

00:55:57.420 personality and i've just it's something that at the time i would have never been able to imagine

00:56:04.040 but my point in telling this story and if you like i said if you want to hear the whole story go

00:56:08.560 listen to the first podcast but the point of of this is that successful people know how to take

00:56:14.880 their adversities and turn them into assets they know how to take punches in the fucking face

00:56:19.480 and use that same energy to go with the flow and and move in the right direction to where it benefits

00:56:26.780 them all right so no matter what your situation whether it be uh you know personal situation financial

00:56:34.660 situation uh it doesn't matter your adversity the things that are happening to you and are frustrating

00:56:42.700 you and are you perceive them as holding you back are in reality probably the same things that are

00:56:49.060 gonna that could be used to move and propel you forward if you just stopped feeling sorry for

00:56:55.160 yourself and stop making excuses for yourself and looked at it from a non-emotional viewpoint and just

00:57:01.920 said all right well how can i fucking use this to move forward and people get so caught up in their

00:57:07.040 own story in their own pity in their own fucking bullshit you know and their own you know now

00:57:13.340 attention has become the thing everybody wants because of social media you know um you know

00:57:20.000 attention deficit disorder used to mean like like you got to take fucking riddle into focus like i feel

00:57:24.940 like attention deficit disorder is like something everybody has now if they don't get enough likes

00:57:28.320 on their fucking instagram right you know but the point is is that if you can get over all that shit

00:57:35.020 and look at what is going on in your life from a non-emotional viewpoint i'm pretty sure there's a

00:57:40.060 way for you to benefit from the bad things that happen to you and i think all successful people have

00:57:46.900 the ability to pivot on situations that are perceived to be bad and turn them into things that are good

00:57:53.920 and i you know there's people listening right now who are saying oh andy but you don't know what it's

00:58:00.100 like to blah blah blah well no that thinking that you're having right now is what's causing you to not

00:58:04.980 fucking move because you're stuck in your own world you're stuck in your own head and the world is so

00:58:09.080 much bigger than the situation that you're going through most likely nobody gives a fuck yeah you

00:58:13.840 know what i mean like when i used to i used to walk through the grocery store and nobody would look at

00:58:17.440 me it wasn't because they thought i was disgusting it was because they didn't want to feel like they

00:58:20.680 were staring it wasn't that because they hated my face it was because they didn't want to make me feel

00:58:24.600 bad which inadvertently made me feel bad right dude most people honestly don't give a fuck

00:58:30.120 like they don't they don't they just don't care so the fact that you think everybody cares about

00:58:35.200 whatever hardship just shows how big your fucking ego is don't give a fuck so get over yourself

00:58:40.900 figure out how to use whatever it is that's happened to you as a you know dude i mean i've got friends

00:58:47.780 derrick wyda you know my friend casey mitchell those dudes lost legs in afghanistan and iraq lost their

00:58:54.620 fucking legs okay uh both of them making a huge positive impact in society you know both of them

00:59:01.840 still struggle they both still struggle every day but you know what they chose to take what has

00:59:07.180 happened to them where they could have just become this you know they could have sat in a va hospital

00:59:13.080 in a wheelchair and everybody would have felt sorry for them and went by every day and said oh man thanks

00:59:17.000 for your service and your sacrifice right and that would be their life but they chose differently you

00:59:21.980 know what they chose to do they chose to fucking use their story as as a asset to move them forward

00:59:28.320 and i can tell you right now neither one of them would be as popular as they are if they both if they

00:59:33.000 have both their fucking legs that's the truth so even in that case it's an asset for them right and i

00:59:39.340 don't think either one of them would tell you any different right you know so you have to learn how to

00:59:45.440 use your negativity your negativity as a perceived emotion you know what i mean you've got to learn

00:59:53.620 how to things that use the things that you perceive to be bad and negative and frustrating and hard

00:59:58.240 and learn how if they if maybe maybe you didn't lose a leg but maybe you were abused or maybe you had

01:00:03.700 uh you know a disease that you overcame you have to be able to share that story and use

01:00:11.040 that to forge your strength to move forward you know maybe whatever's happened to you isn't something

01:00:16.940 that everybody could see and it's not a story in itself like my face or like casey's and derrick's

01:00:23.600 legs or a million other people but maybe it's something that has happened to you that um you can't

01:00:32.260 externalize but you need to internalize the strength and the assets that it's creating on the inside for

01:00:39.080 you to move forward in a positive direction does it make sense absolutely so it's not always about

01:00:43.800 like oh you need to tell your story maybe you don't need to tell your story but you need to tell

01:00:47.340 you need to be able to take what has happened to you and let those things forge you to become stronger

01:00:57.500 you know what i mean it's not it's not a situation where

01:01:01.660 life just comes and beats the shit out of you and just continues to beat on you and beat on you and

01:01:07.720 beat on you no bad things are going to happen that's a fact of life they happen to everybody

01:01:11.600 it's your choice how you react to them that is going to define the rest of your life yeah i want

01:01:17.960 to re-emphasize that months ago when we talked about this and we were talking about this topic and and and

01:01:22.000 what we're going to talk about in the book what you were going to share in the book i specifically

01:01:26.380 asked you so what are you going to tell people in terms of developing this ability to see the good

01:01:32.780 and the bad and to and to turn an asset excuse me turn adversity into an asset and and i will never

01:01:39.480 forget your answer you said vaughn it's not an ability it's a choice because the good is there

01:01:45.320 you just have to choose it right well it's just like bringing it into the point from earlier even

01:01:50.060 though that's the thing that i really admire about like either in your situation and derrick and casey's

01:01:54.580 situation like i'm sure they dealed with the same kind of suicidal thoughts that you thought of and

01:02:00.040 you know i know for a fact yeah i've talked to them both about it and going back into earlier even

01:02:04.980 though they didn't feel like continuing every day you didn't feel like continuing every day you had

01:02:09.300 scars on your face that you didn't even know how to deal with personally and you still got behind

01:02:13.300 that counter at the retail store every day i mean dude look you just did it sometimes you gotta do it

01:02:19.740 yeah you gotta fucking eat man because you can't make it worse on yourself i mean you just you got

01:02:24.400 to keep moving forward no but you know people tend to glorify their own adversity

01:02:29.800 because it creates attention you know they like to tell their story there's two different kinds

01:02:34.940 of people that like to tell their story there's there's people that tell their story and then at

01:02:38.340 the end of it they say guess what i'm not a fucking bitch and and all this shit bad happened to me and

01:02:44.040 i still went out and i'm doing this this and this and so can you and then there and then at the end

01:02:48.140 there's the other person at the end of their story that says send me a hundred dollars on my gofundme

01:02:54.060 page and and uh you know feel sorry for me you know what i mean and that's that's the two kinds

01:03:00.300 of people you know if you're a pity seeking uh sympathy seeking and all this shit that you know

01:03:06.440 that you're doing dude you're only selling yourself short you're gonna end up being broke you're gonna

01:03:10.280 be miserable you're ruining your whole life so if you don't know how to take adversity

01:03:16.360 whatever that is to you and use it to your advantage you're missing out on a gigantic skill

01:03:21.480 a gigantic practical skill that can help you be successful so i'm looking back over our notes here

01:03:28.560 and i've got uh so just to recap dream board get in the dream board is vision board vision excuse me

01:03:34.340 visit vision board nightly visualization nightly visualization get in motion you know in terms of the

01:03:40.340 motivation just move uh in terms of uh learning we're talking about listening and asking questions

01:03:47.240 i'm actually active and passive learning active and passive learning for criticism your actual

01:03:52.100 nut and bolt uh tool for for criticism was just at just be aware being aware being aware is it is it

01:03:58.380 is it constructive is it destructive is it internal is it external can you use it how do you use it

01:04:04.140 right and then the final thing guys was just choose to see the good and the bad choose to use

01:04:09.020 adversity as an advantage and let the bad things that come your way serve their purpose all right

01:04:16.340 bad things are happening they're gonna happen bad shit's gonna happen to me today i can learn from

01:04:21.360 every single bad thing it goes back to the learning principle we talked about if you're a student if

01:04:25.700 you're a person of uh the mindset that i'm always learning bad things aren't necessarily bad things they're

01:04:32.720 just lessons and you have to understand that mindset so many people are just whiny crybaby little

01:04:38.360 fucking babies that the bad shit they don't ever look at bad shit as a lesson they look at bad

01:04:45.060 shit as bad shit successful people look at adversity quote unquote bad shit as an opportunity to learn

01:04:51.720 and you know what you learn you learn not to do whatever caused that shit again it's that simple

01:04:57.180 so dude you've got to get out of your own way on some of these things i would say 90 of success is

01:05:02.380 getting out of your own fucking way you know and there's really not much more to it you know you

01:05:11.080 could sit here and say all you want but most people stand in their own way they make excuses

01:05:15.540 it's not just excuses like oh i don't feel like doing that it's these internal excuses like you know

01:05:21.020 oh well you know that would be great but my mom comes from a long line of uh hairdressers and

01:05:28.280 because of that you know i could never be an astronaut the fuck does that even mean seriously

01:05:34.120 but that's what people tell themselves that's my dad and his grandpa and his grandpa grandpa were

01:05:39.960 all carpenters but you know what i want to be a ceo one day but i can't because they were all

01:05:45.240 carpenters the fuck are you talking about that's how stupid you sound when you're making these internal

01:05:50.500 excuses you could do whatever you want you just got to learn how to practically execute on it on a daily

01:05:56.400 basis to the point where you're moving forward and if you want to learn more about practicality and

01:06:01.780 more about how to use tools go back and listen to kill it everyday episode and it's a very very

01:06:06.720 effective episode on practicality yeah so guys look that's it for today appreciate you guys listening

01:06:13.120 like i said please bring me one person that's all i want you know i'm not going to charge you a dollar

01:06:18.760 i'm not going to charge you a hundred dollars bring me a motherfucker to listen to this podcast

01:06:22.560 and i'll see you next time

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 26, 2016

The Tools I Use, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO79

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