REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 28, 2016


Your Situation Is Not Unique, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO80

Topics
unique situations and success
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Warren Buffett
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Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

173.53

Word count

1,318

Sentence count

—

Harmful content

Misogyny

3

sentences flagged

Toxicity

48

sentences flagged

Hate speech

23

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode of the MfCODE PROJECT, Andy and I dive deep into the concept of being a "special little delicate flower" and why it's so common and so wrong. We talk about why you're not unique, and why you need to learn to stop trying to be a "one-of-a-kind, delicate flower."

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
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00:00:00.000 hey guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the motherfucking 0.91
00:00:15.580 ceo guys today is thursday thunder you know what that means we're gonna bring the heat 0.99
00:00:20.940 we're gonna burn your little pussy up and then we're gonna let you go do some work all right 1.00
00:00:24.780 guys here's the thing i touched on this topic the other day in one of our longer episodes 0.99
00:00:30.780 but i wanted to dedicate a whole thursday thunder to it because it's so common and so wrong i get
00:00:37.980 this literally all the time hey andy can you give me some special advices for accomplishing my goals 0.97
00:00:44.800 and dreams because you see my situation is really unique no stop right there you're not fucking 0.98
00:00:53.200 unique okay here's the reality of that situation you don't really think your situation is unique 0.90
00:00:59.320 you think you are unique you think you are a one-of-a-kind special little delicate flower
00:01:06.340 that's unlike the rest of the world that doesn't need to do the work required you're looking to
00:01:11.680 cut the corner you're looking to the fastest easiest way you think that somebody like me or somebody else
00:01:18.000 who's an influencer is going to have this secret little recipe for you that you could just skip
00:01:23.180 out on all the hard shit and become successful or you're thinking the opposite that your situation 0.99
00:01:28.800 is so unique that no matter what you do doesn't work and you think i'm gonna have the fucking answer 1.00
00:01:35.880 for you okay you think you are unique and that's the fucking problem you think you've won some cosmic 0.99
00:01:42.600 lottery that grants you the right to do nothing and get everything okay you think you've been blessed 1.00
00:01:48.380 by the fairy godmother of half asses with an unlimited supply of sweet smelling excuses and it's 1.00
00:01:54.280 fucking bullshit you guys are not unique and i don't give a fuck who you are i don't care where 1.00
00:02:00.340 you're from i don't care what color you are i don't care what your socio-economic uh situation is 1.00
00:02:07.060 you could be damn sure that there's been people that have come before you and will come after you
00:02:13.140 with situations that are the same as yours and more difficult that will succeed past where you're
00:02:19.360 going so let me drop some facts on you when it comes to this everybody has to follow the rules of
00:02:25.420 success everybody who wants to be successful has to develop a vision everybody who has been successful
00:02:32.140 has set and kept goals everybody who has been successful has done the things they don't feel like
00:02:39.060 doing over and over and over again okay everybody has to work hard everybody has certain disadvantages
00:02:47.560 your disadvantages may not be the same as someone else and that might be where you're like trying to
00:02:52.980 tell yourself you're the special flower but i'm gonna tell you right now whatever it is that is
00:02:58.120 holding you back mentally or holding you back physically or making you think that your situation is
00:03:03.160 different could actually probably be your strength if you learn how to flip that and play that the right
00:03:08.600 the right way a couple weeks ago i talked about my friends casey mitchell and derrick wyda who both
00:03:14.200 have lost legs serving this country they've used those disadvantages that most people will cry
00:03:19.940 whine and bitch about to become social media celebrities and people who inspire through their struggle 0.96
00:03:27.280 that's what you have to understand guys your your strength will always come from your struggle 0.97
00:03:32.960 no matter what i don't care what it is i don't care what you perceive it to be
00:03:38.480 there is a way to take your struggle and parlay that into a strength okay everybody has negative
00:03:45.300 people in their lives everybody has quote-unquote haters most of the time if you follow me you know
00:03:50.960 that i will tell you that the biggest hater resides in your own brain because most of us are so conditioned
00:03:57.400 to think negatively of ourselves that we don't recognize that people aren't actually saying these things 1.00
00:04:03.940 that we're imagining in our fucking brains which makes you the biggest hater of you and how much 0.98
00:04:09.680 fucking sense does that make but let's talk about real haters okay do we have people that criticize us 0.99
00:04:15.240 yeah we do all of us do do we have people that don't like our fucking haircut or our clothes or the car 0.99
00:04:21.840 we drive or the lifestyle we live yeah we do but you know what the minute that you bow to all these 0.98
00:04:30.100 people's expectations to try to appease everybody you become irrelevant you become vanilla you become
00:04:36.280 invisible and you end up living a life that is of no significance to appease these people that aren't 0.87
00:04:42.600 going to fucking matter to you in five years from now how much sense does that make okay we all have 0.89
00:04:49.820 this in our lives this is not exclusive to you and this is where you know feeling special or feeling 0.98
00:04:56.740 like your situation is unique or feeling like you're this delicate little flower or a special case
00:05:02.480 it's ridiculous guys look the rules of success apply to everybody you know everybody has to learn
00:05:09.440 how to power through setbacks and learn from failures everybody has to face adversity all right 0.64
00:05:16.040 it's hard for all of us all of us have uh struggles all of us have uh you know things that are hard
00:05:23.760 but you have to understand that those things are the things where our strength come from the struggles
00:05:29.000 develop our strengths the failures create the lessons and knowledge that's what allows us to 0.99
00:05:35.160 ultimately succeed and when you guys cry and whine and pout about all this shit you're missing the 0.99
00:05:39.600 fucking point of what success is all about it's a fucking journey that you are on and everything 0.99
00:05:45.180 that's coming into your life everything that's coming into your vision everything that's affecting 0.99
00:05:49.220 you negatively positively is all creating what's ultimately going to become this fucking force 0.97
00:05:54.060 that allows you to be successful in life all right so quit thinking you're some special secret that 0.97
00:06:00.520 needs a customized plan from somebody to be successful to overcome your unique little one-of-a-kind
00:06:06.620 pussified situation because you don't you need to realize that there's just plenty of other people out 0.98
00:06:12.640 there who have a situation that's as difficult or more difficult than yours that are getting shit done 0.99
00:06:18.560 on a daily fucking basis okay if you really think you're some kind of special little case the only 0.99
00:06:25.460 thing that's truly unique about you is how uniquely fucked up you are and you're thinking what does that 1.00
00:06:31.220 say about your fucking ego that you think you're the only one that has to endure all this shit it 1.00
00:06:36.100 ain't as fucking easy for any of us it's not been easy for me it's not been easy for fucking bill gates 1.00
00:06:41.140 it's not been easy for fucking warren buffett it's not been easy for every mother drive down the 0.97
00:06:45.580 fucking street and look at the number of businesses out there you think it's been fucking easy for any 0.98
00:06:49.780 of them if you think that you're some special case that you can't go out and execute and do the same 0.99
00:06:57.180 things that need to be done for that these people have done or that you get to skip the process or skip 1.00
00:07:02.240 you know the hardships or get around all this shit with some secret how big is your fucking ego 0.99
00:07:07.300 you need to humble yourself you're no different you're no special you're no you're no more or 1.00
00:07:13.700 less than anybody else okay stop making excuses get the fuck out there and get shit done 0.99
00:07:20.300 shit uh-huh okay what's up 1.00
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00:07:27.260 shit uh-huh okay 1.00
00:07:29.400 they can't 1.00
00:07:30.000 shit uh-huh okay what's up 1.00
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