Your Situation Is Not Unique, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO80
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Summary
In this episode of the MfCODE PROJECT, Andy and I dive deep into the concept of being a "special little delicate flower" and why it's so common and so wrong. We talk about why you're not unique, and why you need to learn to stop trying to be a "one-of-a-kind, delicate flower."
Transcript
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hey guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the motherfucking
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ceo guys today is thursday thunder you know what that means we're gonna bring the heat
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we're gonna burn your little pussy up and then we're gonna let you go do some work all right
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guys here's the thing i touched on this topic the other day in one of our longer episodes
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but i wanted to dedicate a whole thursday thunder to it because it's so common and so wrong i get
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this literally all the time hey andy can you give me some special advices for accomplishing my goals
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and dreams because you see my situation is really unique no stop right there you're not fucking
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unique okay here's the reality of that situation you don't really think your situation is unique
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you think you are unique you think you are a one-of-a-kind special little delicate flower
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that's unlike the rest of the world that doesn't need to do the work required you're looking to
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cut the corner you're looking to the fastest easiest way you think that somebody like me or somebody else
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who's an influencer is going to have this secret little recipe for you that you could just skip
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out on all the hard shit and become successful or you're thinking the opposite that your situation
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is so unique that no matter what you do doesn't work and you think i'm gonna have the fucking answer
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for you okay you think you are unique and that's the fucking problem you think you've won some cosmic
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lottery that grants you the right to do nothing and get everything okay you think you've been blessed
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by the fairy godmother of half asses with an unlimited supply of sweet smelling excuses and it's
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fucking bullshit you guys are not unique and i don't give a fuck who you are i don't care where
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you're from i don't care what color you are i don't care what your socio-economic uh situation is
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you could be damn sure that there's been people that have come before you and will come after you
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with situations that are the same as yours and more difficult that will succeed past where you're
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going so let me drop some facts on you when it comes to this everybody has to follow the rules of
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success everybody who wants to be successful has to develop a vision everybody who has been successful
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has set and kept goals everybody who has been successful has done the things they don't feel like
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doing over and over and over again okay everybody has to work hard everybody has certain disadvantages
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your disadvantages may not be the same as someone else and that might be where you're like trying to
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tell yourself you're the special flower but i'm gonna tell you right now whatever it is that is
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holding you back mentally or holding you back physically or making you think that your situation is
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different could actually probably be your strength if you learn how to flip that and play that the right
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the right way a couple weeks ago i talked about my friends casey mitchell and derrick wyda who both
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have lost legs serving this country they've used those disadvantages that most people will cry
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whine and bitch about to become social media celebrities and people who inspire through their struggle
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that's what you have to understand guys your your strength will always come from your struggle
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no matter what i don't care what it is i don't care what you perceive it to be
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there is a way to take your struggle and parlay that into a strength okay everybody has negative
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people in their lives everybody has quote-unquote haters most of the time if you follow me you know
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that i will tell you that the biggest hater resides in your own brain because most of us are so conditioned
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to think negatively of ourselves that we don't recognize that people aren't actually saying these things
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that we're imagining in our fucking brains which makes you the biggest hater of you and how much
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fucking sense does that make but let's talk about real haters okay do we have people that criticize us
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yeah we do all of us do do we have people that don't like our fucking haircut or our clothes or the car
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we drive or the lifestyle we live yeah we do but you know what the minute that you bow to all these
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people's expectations to try to appease everybody you become irrelevant you become vanilla you become
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invisible and you end up living a life that is of no significance to appease these people that aren't
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going to fucking matter to you in five years from now how much sense does that make okay we all have
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this in our lives this is not exclusive to you and this is where you know feeling special or feeling
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like your situation is unique or feeling like you're this delicate little flower or a special case
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it's ridiculous guys look the rules of success apply to everybody you know everybody has to learn
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how to power through setbacks and learn from failures everybody has to face adversity all right
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it's hard for all of us all of us have uh struggles all of us have uh you know things that are hard
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but you have to understand that those things are the things where our strength come from the struggles
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develop our strengths the failures create the lessons and knowledge that's what allows us to
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ultimately succeed and when you guys cry and whine and pout about all this shit you're missing the
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fucking point of what success is all about it's a fucking journey that you are on and everything
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that's coming into your life everything that's coming into your vision everything that's affecting
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you negatively positively is all creating what's ultimately going to become this fucking force
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that allows you to be successful in life all right so quit thinking you're some special secret that
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needs a customized plan from somebody to be successful to overcome your unique little one-of-a-kind
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pussified situation because you don't you need to realize that there's just plenty of other people out
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there who have a situation that's as difficult or more difficult than yours that are getting shit done
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on a daily fucking basis okay if you really think you're some kind of special little case the only
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thing that's truly unique about you is how uniquely fucked up you are and you're thinking what does that
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say about your fucking ego that you think you're the only one that has to endure all this shit it
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ain't as fucking easy for any of us it's not been easy for me it's not been easy for fucking bill gates
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it's not been easy for fucking warren buffett it's not been easy for every mother drive down the
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fucking street and look at the number of businesses out there you think it's been fucking easy for any
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of them if you think that you're some special case that you can't go out and execute and do the same
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things that need to be done for that these people have done or that you get to skip the process or skip
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you know the hardships or get around all this shit with some secret how big is your fucking ego
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you need to humble yourself you're no different you're no special you're no you're no more or
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less than anybody else okay stop making excuses get the fuck out there and get shit done