00:05:51.780But when you think about what the parents are going through with their sons and some of their hard stories that they have, it's like a no-brainer for them.
00:06:00.280They're like, my son is losing himself.
00:06:57.880You know, sometimes when I go on like other shows, they're always looking for like some hard story for me to say, like my mom was on drugs and this and that or whatever.
00:07:05.200Like, no, this is why we need those good families, because it produces things like what we're doing now.
00:07:10.880Like I had my grandfathers, my uncles, my stepdad, my mom, my grandma raised in the church, you know, the whole nine.
00:07:17.760I had all those things growing up. And so that's what has molded me into what you see today.
00:07:22.740And so I just try and introduce these things to kids.
00:07:26.180And for me, I did not know that just growing up that other kids didn't have this.
00:07:31.760Our neighborhood was a family. So it wasn't just even my family.
00:07:35.280You had this guy who's a deacon at the church. His name is Deacon Bogan.
00:07:38.900He was behind. He lived behind us and he used to teach us how to cut grass.
00:07:42.700Mr. David down the street taught us how to lay bricks.
00:07:45.580My stepdad taught us how to weld and paint cars.
00:07:47.880And so all the kids from the neighborhood would be there.
00:07:50.780And my stepdad would do Bible study on like Thursday night.
00:07:53.180And so the kids would come over our house. My mom would cook for everybody. I mean, our neighborhood was a family.
00:07:59.400And so that's how I grew up. So I wanted to try and introduce some of these things to other kids because to fund the program,
00:08:05.440when I first started, I was cutting hair and fixing cars and working on houses like I had to become like an all around handyman just to make it work.
00:08:12.960But that's what I had to do because I originally lost my job. And that was God's push for me to do what I'm doing.
00:08:18.540I was driving a forklift and I was working a graveyard shift and apparently I fell asleep one evening and didn't wake up for a while.
00:08:26.580And I still don't remember it to this day, but I lost my job and that's what kind of pushed me into doing what I wanted to do.
00:08:33.000I had been saying it for a while, but I was like, yep, this is it. Let's do it.
00:08:36.520And so I started it and I just kept working. And, you know, we've grown to where we are now.
00:08:41.320And, you know, I'm still not satisfied where we are, but definitely want to continue growing.
00:08:45.420Well, that's the show, everybody. We can leave now. We're all inspired. Bye-bye.
00:08:51.100It's so incredible to me, though. You just described you're about to have a new baby
00:08:56.020and become a father for the first time. And 10 days before that, you've got your wife about to
00:09:03.820pop out a new baby, and you're saying, you know what? I'm going to start helping a bunch of other
00:09:07.060kids. That's not something that would have been in my head. I mean, what inspired you to do that?
00:09:13.740and wait and by the way and your wife going along with that like and she's about to give birth whole
00:09:19.900so she must be queen randall so yes so at that time i was um um they weren't living with us at
00:09:27.820that moment that at that time that we were just doing field trips and different things like that
00:09:31.820they didn't start living with us until like i said 2020 and my son was about one year old um but the
00:09:37.900kids love you know the the boys um you know the kids love my son um and they had a special
00:09:43.900relationship with him too so i got plenty of pictures of them with him as a baby and you know
00:09:48.860a lot of them have come back by and see he's seven years old and they're like this is baby king oh my
00:09:53.340god he was just a little baby and stuff like it's so crazy but uh yes the family has has been a huge
00:10:00.700assistance you know with what we do my family in particular my family is extremely important to
00:10:06.700what i'm trying to do they have spent a lot of time trying to help me even for example 2021
00:10:12.780when we were trying to buy a school building from our local school system uh it didn't work out um
00:10:18.540and i had already had 40 kids signed up for the summer program and uh we originally tried to get
00:10:24.460the kids into a hotel i didn't think about how bad of an idea that was at the time because the kids
00:10:30.860as much as disciplined as they are when i'm not around all that goes out the window sometimes so
00:10:35.900those were new kids i had not had them before and so they were at the hotel like going nuts they
00:10:40.620were like throwing cereal and and throwing ice on each other and knocking on people's doors and
00:10:45.580whatever imagine 40 teenage boys my grandmother calls me and says you bring all those boys over
00:10:49.980my house right now and so i had a school bus that i had just bought and so that was the only way to
00:10:54.860transport them around so we got on the bus we left the hotel went to grandma's house and we had air0.84
00:10:59.660mattresses everywhere whatever and my grandma and me we just got them all wrangled up she would cook0.92
00:11:04.780for them every morning if they wanted to stay up all night and not go to sleep she would make them0.95
00:11:08.220clean up and wash dishes and whatever you know and they love my grandma to this day like that
00:11:13.900whole squad um they it was a very beautiful aggravating great annoying amazing summer so
00:11:21.580we had a good time we did a lot of different things so many field trips we celebrated july
00:11:25.5804th together we did barbecues um we worked on cars we worked on houses i mean that was a
00:11:31.660beautiful experience. But my family is one of the biggest parts of our organization because
00:11:36.580sometimes when I have to fall, they're there to catch me. And that's what matters.
00:11:40.540That is such a great message, you guys. I mean, I want to be adopted into your family, honestly.
00:11:47.380Do you take 50-year-old plus women? Because I love this.
00:11:51.440They would welcome you with open arms.
00:11:53.360Oh, that is so sweet. I bet they would because they're all amazing kids in there. And I love
00:11:59.340that you're um now including women or young ladies i should say into your school i think that's great
00:12:05.900because again they everybody needs these skills they need the confidence they need you know what
00:12:12.080one thing that i know scott loved uh is that manners are so important right so manners are
00:12:18.300a superpower and that's what's like caught scott's attention and um i love how you're teaching them
00:12:24.760make small talk, make eye contact. You know, what do you say? You know, talk to them when there's
00:12:30.480down moments. So yes, you guys, I need a field trip. I need a field trip to Albany, Georgia.
00:12:35.720Come on down. Let's go. So I love that. But I thought what I would play just so everybody can
00:12:42.640get an overview of where you're at now. So King just turned 27, you guys, a few weeks ago. He is
00:12:49.54027. That is just so amazing. All you're accomplishing. I'm imagining people emulating
00:12:57.460what you're doing and just having these schools in every state and then every municipality would
00:13:03.980be amazing. So good ideas are definitely infectious. So I want to play... This is the
00:13:09.840pinned tweet on your X account. So if anybody wants to get the gist of what's happening,
00:13:15.160let's watch this and we'll be back in two minutes back in 2021 the extra boys program was two years
00:13:23.000old it was only me on staff we're operating out of my house we're operating out of my grandma's
00:13:26.700house and we didn't know what to do we got online and said we need to raise seventy thousand dollars
00:13:30.100to buy a new building for our students and we did it we raised seventy thousand dollars in 48 hours
00:13:34.600all because of people like you who have been supporting us who have been sharing who've been
00:13:37.320liking who've been coming and who've been giving but i want to go down the line because we've been
00:13:40.380fundraising since 2021 and we have done everything that we said we were going to do with our funds
00:13:45.160I have just turned 27 years old, and I do a fundraiser every single year for my birthday.
00:13:48.920And since I've turned 27, we're going to raise $270,000 to make things happen.
00:13:52.740King, what are we going to do with that money?
00:13:53.840From what I just showed you, everything we said we're going to do, we make it happen.
00:13:56.240We said we needed to get our building painted to start out because it was quite ugly just to buy it.
00:13:59.360We bought an old office building, so we had to make something work with what we had.
00:14:01.800We ended up getting this building painted.
00:14:07.540People got on our Amazon wish list, and they gave.
00:14:09.200We said we needed to be able to transport our boys everywhere they needed to go.
00:14:11.600we got online and said we need to buy two vans and you all made it happen for us the building
00:14:15.780that we purchased was an old office space it was offices everywhere it wasn't quite adequate for
00:14:19.340after school we needed to be renovated we need to tear all those office spaces out we needed to
00:14:22.480make it feel like an after school program not an office building and we got it done we raised that
00:14:26.260money and we got our building renovated on the inside and the outside we got new flooring new
00:14:29.820lighting new chairs new tables new desk new everything school supplies smart boards etc
00:14:33.580you all donated it right off our amazon wish list why do people keep on giving because we do exactly
00:14:37.600what we say we never had a kitchen space in our facility all that time and we ended up raising
00:14:41.340money to build a kitchen in our facility and here we have it everything that we say we're going to
00:14:45.440do we end up doing it we said we wanted to open a baseball and softball training facility here in
00:14:49.200our southwest georgia area for those kids who couldn't afford to play and those kids who wanted
00:14:52.180some adequate training and we did it and when this program began a long time ago it was just
00:14:59.620me on staff all by myself the expo boys program stands as a non-government funded program that
00:15:04.700pays a livable wage to our staff members so we also have staff members that are happy to come
00:15:08.620to work, that are not worried about how they're going to pay their light bill, that are not
00:15:11.360worried about how they're going to eat. We make sure they're taken care of, and they make sure
00:15:13.900our students are taken care of. And not only that, our program still remains free for all
00:15:17.660participants. We want to make sure our students can eat every single day. We got to make sure
00:15:20.600gas is in the vans. We got to make sure the vans stay maintenance. We got to pay the light bill
00:15:23.760here. We got to pay the internet. We got to make sure the kids are being adequately serviced here.
00:15:26.900And not only that, because we're adding the girls, the girls have asked me in their little
00:15:30.320birthday cards that they wrote to me to make the Expo Girls a permanent thing, and we're going to
00:15:33.780do it. But we're going to need your help. We're going to need your help to make this a permanent
00:15:36.380thing. We're also doing the girls a pageant in December. So in December, we're going to have the
00:15:39.860girls get a chance to have some confidence, to feel pretty, to teach them etiquette, to teach
00:15:43.720them all types of different things that I feel like and my staff feel like young girls need to
00:15:47.200know. But we can't do this without your help. We're raising $270,000 for the Extra Boys and
00:15:51.220the Extra Girls program. You can simply, when you send your donation, put in a memo line who you
00:15:54.540decide that it's for, and we'll make sure that happens. We're going on year eight. We're still
00:15:57.380a little baby program, but we are continuing to make things happen. And if you want to see this
00:16:00.380work continue, go to the Extra Boys dot org slash donate to be able to give to our campaign.
00:16:04.840Delta has already started us off with $10,000, so let's raise the other $260,000 and make this thing happen for our students.
00:16:10.220Thanks so much. Have a blessed one. Peace.
00:16:12.580Yes. And where are you now? Where are you now with the goal?
00:16:17.680We are almost at $65,000. I posted that about a week ago, and so people have been giving.
00:16:23.980And so I'm super excited. I didn't expect it to move that fast, but people are excited about what we're doing.
00:16:29.980And again, just like I mentioned, people love to give because we always share what we're doing.
00:16:34.840And even with the Amazon wish list, people give direct items.
00:16:38.920And so when we get those items, people get to see them in the videos, get to see them in the background or see the new desk they bought or see the baseballs they purchased for us or whatever.
00:16:47.080Like people love to see those things. It makes them feel a part.
00:16:50.020And another thing that I always preach about, too, is I believe in my town of Albany, Georgia.
00:16:57.700And so I get a lot of people asking about me franchising or any of these different things.
00:17:01.260And I've mentioned before, you know, I will try and help people start whatever it is that they're doing, you know, wherever else they can have their own name or whatever.
00:17:08.840But my focus is on my hometown. We have a very, very, very poor community and we have a lot of kids that need help.
00:17:15.700I don't ever want to become one of those Fortune 500 nonprofits. That's what I call it. I don't want to be one of those.
00:17:20.380I want to continue to be grassroots. I want to work in my hometown and become as big as we can in my hometown.
00:17:25.460And like I said, I would love to inspire people to do it elsewhere and try and do what I'm doing.
00:17:31.600And most people, you know, are always asking, how can I get started by starting?
00:17:35.240Just like I mentioned at the beginning, you know, I did this out of my house.
00:17:54.060We serve them five days a week. We feed them every day. It's completely free to them. We don't charge anything. We pick them up from school every day. We give them toiletry items, et cetera, et cetera. And this is through people that just like what we're doing and see what we're doing every single day. And so we try to constantly share and constantly show people what we're doing. But yeah, this is me talking a little bit slower. I can only put three minutes on a video, so I have to speed them up really fast.
00:21:05.320I mean, that, you know, think about it, you guys, like the first time you went to a fancy
00:21:11.960restaurant and maybe you like weren't with your parents or a friend invited you, you're like,
00:21:16.540I don't know what to do. What do I do? So instead of like facing that head on one day, you know,
00:21:22.360just out of the blue, they're prepared. They have an understanding. I love that. Oh,
00:21:27.200and do your kids know all this etiquette? Probably some of it, but I, you know, I don't
00:21:32.520think i've ever like explicitly taught them etiquette or like a finishing school sort of
00:21:36.600thing but i probably should have i um you know i think most people learn from example they learn
00:21:42.440from the people around them and i mean i've said that about parenting is that like i you know
00:21:47.400there's a quote i love i think it might have been my angelou but i could be wrong where she said
00:21:51.220something like or actually i think it was someone else but um the quote was like children have never
00:21:57.800listen to their elders but they've never failed to imitate them it's something like i might be
00:22:03.520paraphrasing a little bit but it's like you need to show them you need to show them and and by your
00:22:08.760example is probably the best way where they just seem to pick it up by osmosis and i've definitely
00:22:12.600seen that in my kids where things that i never taught them explicitly they somehow just absorb
00:22:18.560from watching me and watching their mother and like it's just incredible to see how it happens
00:22:24.460But I think in your case, it is great to explicitly teach those things because, again, a lot of people just don't have good examples to model their behavior after.
00:22:36.020I know they're often struggling or maybe they didn't ever get exposed to those things.
00:22:40.620But, you know, I think it's great to be able to just give people good examples to model their behavior after.
00:22:47.060But another reason, it's another reason why the family is so important.
00:22:51.020You know, like King's saying, like he had the family, the community, the neighborhood, and everybody was just teaching everybody all the time, which I love, King.
00:23:02.080Nowadays, I just see a big helping of everyone wanting an award for doing it alone.
00:23:09.200And to the point now where people are trying to do it alone on purpose and stressing themselves out on purpose, you know, and because now it's cool to have something wrong with you.
00:23:19.860It's cool to be stressed out. It's cool to be depressed. Like people want to post about it.
00:23:23.760People want to post themselves crying. People want to post videos of their kid crying and them looking sad about it.
00:23:28.960And I was like, it's it's a fad now to do it all alone. Meanwhile, you have grandma that could help, aunt that could help, uncles that could help, coaches that could help.
00:23:37.700I know I have my son around men all the time. My oldest sons, they are around me constantly.
00:23:43.940I mean, not just me. I want them to be around other great men because I can't give them everything.
00:23:48.440I don't know everything. And just like you mentioned, you know, a lot of learning for
00:23:51.580children is innate. They're going to learn it just by seeing you. So even with my sons
00:23:56.000participating in the program, I'm constantly fathering my sons in front of the other children
00:24:00.560so they can see what a father is like. And not only that, especially because a lot of them
00:24:05.400haven't experienced a father. So they get to see me father my own sons. I make sure my sons
00:24:09.520participate, but also get on to them. I teach them. I love on them or whatever. So they can
00:24:13.640see that and like, okay, this is probably what I should be doing now. Right now they're maybe not
00:24:17.680just fully paying attention, but they're going to remember as they get older and those core
00:24:22.060memories, they're going to remember all the things that I was teaching my son and your kids,
00:24:26.200they will teach you so much about yourself because they're a reflection of you. So like my son,
00:24:30.280for example, my oldest son, he, you know, has a lot of trouble with just confidence sometime.
00:24:34.260Like even just using sports, I tell people to use sports, not just for learning the sport,
00:24:39.360but learning who your child is in difficult situations. And so sometimes I'll, you know,
00:24:43.840he'll lose his confidence now he's a great player he practices all the time we spend a lot of time
00:24:48.000training or whatever great player but he won't believe in himself sometime even if we know he
00:24:52.960has the capability he'll get scared and not think that he could do it i'm like dude you're killing
00:24:58.000it they wouldn't even have you on the team or even starting if you weren't capable you know but he
00:25:03.200has to believe it on his own but then i'll remember sometimes like how i struggle in those areas and
00:25:08.720literally it's like looking at a mirror i'm like dang he's doing some of the same things i do
00:25:12.320sometime or sometimes i'm afraid to speak up or say something or or stand up in this in this way
00:25:17.600and so he makes me look at myself because he's just mimicking what he's seen his father do sometime
00:25:22.880or even if he hadn't seen me do it directly just our spirits are intertwined so he has that you
00:25:27.600know low self-confidence sometime or or not believing in himself sometime or allowing what
00:25:32.080people have to say about you you know to hinder you sometime and so it'll make you have a mirror
00:25:37.040so now i'm like okay how do i fix that in front of him so he can see me do it and so he can emulate
00:25:42.080what he's seeing from me. So it's not just me telling him, hey, be confident, do better. I
00:25:46.680have to show confidence in ways that he can see. So that way he wants to emulate it. So
00:25:51.340I absolutely love fathering because it teaches me a lot about myself. There's a lot of character
00:25:55.340building there. And everybody knows your oldest child is your experiment almost. You're growing
00:25:59.120up together. That's so cute. And I love what you're saying though, because you're showing
00:26:04.500them how to be a good father. And if you don't see it, you don't know, right? So you might just
00:26:11.900see what you see on TV or in a movie or a video game and TikTok, I should say TikTok, and, you
00:26:18.720know, not the best examples, I can guarantee you. But it's clear that it's also clear that you're
00:26:24.640teaching them a mindset. You're teaching them about, you know, like Jocko Willink would say,
00:26:28.460extreme ownership, but it's like you're empowering them. You're giving them the mindset that I can
00:26:34.760make my life better and I can do these things and I can solve these problems and I can make
00:26:38.900things better and it's the opposite of what you were saying about the victim mindset where it's
00:26:43.300like oh I can't do it everything's so hard other people are keeping me down like that just leaves
00:26:47.980you with nothing and you you feel like you can't ever make anything better and you end up not
00:26:52.760taking action and not making things better and I think it's it's I agree it's like a terrible
00:26:58.600mindset to be in and there does seem to be this division in our society that I hope we can get
00:27:04.040rid of where people are saying oh I'm just you know things are so expensive and I can't do this
00:27:09.180and I can't do that and it's all because of these other people but it just leaves you leaves you
00:27:13.700with nothing and so if you can take ownership and say you know what I'm gonna focus on my own life
00:27:18.940and I'm gonna make it better and I'm not gonna worry about all that other stuff I'm just gonna
00:27:22.000do things that you know make me more capable make the people around me more capable I'm gonna help
00:27:27.200other people and to your point when you help other people you end up learning a lot yourself
00:27:31.260and it's just like a great positive cycle. Right. Right. Absolutely. Lead by example. I love it.
00:27:40.160So this is just a little pivot I spoke to King about before the show, because it's so interesting
00:27:46.800how, you know, people want to be so divisive in this country anymore that they'll even take it to
00:27:54.060whether they would donate to King's school or not. And I thought this was an interesting
00:28:02.460experiment. I actually did something like this once too, King. So I love that you did this.
00:28:07.660Let's listen to what happened here when King Randall made a post about who he was going to
00:28:14.320vote for for president. I made two separate videos before the election. One of the videos
00:28:20.120said I was going to vote for Kamala Harris. The other video said I was going to vote for Donald
00:28:23.580Trump. And I just wanted to see the mixed reactions from people and how people would react
00:28:27.720because I do a lot of work from my hometown, do a lot of work from my community. I work with young
00:28:31.440boys. And I never said who I was voting for. But I made those two videos because I wanted to show
00:28:36.460people how they are in reality. I made the Donald Trump video and I made the Kamala Harris video.
00:28:43.020Under the Kamala Harris video, you definitely had some Trump supporters like, well, we understand
00:28:46.880that you may have a different opinion or whatever, but we still support what you do. Maybe you'll
00:28:50.880wake up one day etc etc you know things like that it wasn't nothing vile with no bad comments or
00:28:55.980nothing i make the donald trump video i got people that unfollowed me i got people saying they can't
00:29:01.440support nothing i do no more i got folk calling me all types of names etc etc but what's crazy is
00:29:08.000all of the the kamala harris supporters have become what they accuse trump supporters of being0.97
00:29:12.900when you say you support donald trump y'all be ready to to kill him y'all ready to to hang to1.00
00:29:18.680burn them at the stake. You call them all types of names. You're unfollowing me. You don't care1.00
00:29:22.180what they're doing for their community. None. If you support Trump, if you, I hate you so much,
00:29:26.640et cetera, et cetera. But all the people under the post, all the Trump supporters, when I said
00:29:30.980I was going to vote for Kamala, it was all love anyway. They was like, well, we still support
00:29:34.640what you're doing. We still going to donate. We still love the work, even though you don't have
00:29:38.280to support Donald Trump, et cetera, et cetera. So I've only received hate from the people that
00:29:42.840call themselves the tolerant side, the side that's supposed to be about love, the side that's
00:29:46.560supposed to that's not about hate but it's crazy because anytime somebody doesn't agree with you
00:29:51.860all you spew is hate all you give is hate so it's funny how everybody who call themselves democrats
00:29:57.460you have turned into what you accuse the republicans of being recently our company softball
00:30:03.040team lost the big game by one run then dale tried to console us with the quote winning isn't
00:30:08.840everything well dale and i are very different i get early payout from bed 365 if my team goes
00:30:16.500zip big, I get paid out instantly, even if they blow the lead later.
00:39:17.360Right. So should we leave our purse just anywhere? Huh? Should we just leave our purse anywhere? No, we should never leave our purse. Because I love the table. So that means your purse was vulnerable. So you got important information in there. You got your ID. You got your license. You got money in there. Your phone. And somebody could take away your whole life and you done left your purse. So should we be leaving our purse anywhere? No.
00:39:43.540Valuable lesson learn right never leave our person. Well, I always keep that person your person most of y'all purses got that strap
00:39:59.620I always keep a check on your purse yeah, I always keep a check on your purse y'all hear me
00:40:06.420family the video you just watched was a part of the extra boys and girls program
00:40:11.860we just now added the girls so we want to make sure that becomes a permanent thing we're doing
00:40:16.120a fundraiser for 270 000 so please go to our website at the extra boys.org slash donate to
00:40:22.960be able to give to our program so we can continue to remain free it operates five days a week we
00:40:27.880are a free program we don't take any government funding we operate exclusively from people who
00:40:32.660like share comment and give like you thank you so much for watching our videos and we look forward
00:40:37.260to you giving to our program thanks so much love it i love it you're like your whole life's in there
00:40:42.740and every woman in this chat was like oh i've been there it is like oh you get like a chill down your
00:40:49.080spine yeah yep i did and another one that i did too i don't know if you'll be able to pull it up
00:40:54.160but these are more uh serious so um we try to again put the kids in real life scenario training
00:41:00.440This is what I learned from my time in the Marine Corps. We got taught things, you know, as far as knowledge, they call it knowledge.
00:41:07.600But we also had to do this thing called practical application. And that means you have to actually apply the knowledge that you learn, you know, sitting down.
00:41:16.460And so for us, we put the girls in situations that can be real and the boys, too, for them to understand things that could possibly happen.
00:41:24.340So, for example, we were getting in the van.
00:41:27.100I told them we were about to go somewhere, and I had this random guy in the driver's seat that they did not know.
00:41:31.880And so they get inside the van, and only the last girl noticed that somebody was new.
00:41:38.100But everybody else is just sitting on the van or whatever like that.
00:41:40.260And so I posted the video, and, you know, basically I told them to get out of the van.
00:41:44.900I was like, you know, just pay attention always.
00:41:46.980I'm like, nobody even paid attention to who the driver was.
00:41:49.860And so some of the comments were like, well, they trust you, so of course they're going to get in the van.
00:41:53.120I said, but that's the point. I said most, you know, statistically speaking, you know, people that harm you are people that, you know, especially like when it comes to sexual abuse or whatever like that.
00:42:01.560It's usually somebody that you trust. And so that was my point.
00:42:04.560You know, never turn off your attention, regardless if it's your mom, dad, me, whatever.
00:42:09.800Keep your attention on as a young lady. You just ask them to introduce the person.
00:42:13.640Just ask who that is. And that's that's important for them to know.
00:42:17.140or or the other day at the restaurant um they were getting on the van again and i had this guy just
00:42:22.340slowly walking toward the van nobody paid any attention nobody looked at him i had one girl
00:42:28.020she looked at him and she like just like was like she was looking scared she didn't know what to do
00:42:32.420but that was a lesson for her too because that's when we say something like you saw there was
00:42:36.420danger but you didn't say anything and i didn't say anything to her i saw her see him but i didn't
00:42:40.100say anything because i wanted to walk all the way through it they were all the way on the van he
00:42:43.780walked all the way close to them and i said this is why it's important as a young lady when you're
00:42:48.740leaving a restaurant when you're leaving a grocery store just take a second just look around before
00:42:52.100you step in the car before you get in the car just take a look you never know somebody could
00:42:55.780be watching i said he was watching you guys all the way from his parking spot he walked all the
00:43:00.660way over here and nobody noticed i mean he was far away too i'm like but this is again you know
00:43:04.980why it's important that we do these things and so now these young ladies will be out and they're
00:43:10.180They're going to remember these little lessons, like making sure who is this driving the vehicle, making sure they're checking their surroundings.
00:43:16.440And they're going to go home and tell their mom, hey, mom, make sure you look around before you get in the car, you know, because just just be safe, you know, because anything could happen.
00:43:23.480So these these little real life scenario training things that we're doing now, which I call practical application.
00:43:29.920They matter because, you know, life is not going to give you a worksheet is going to give you a real test.
00:43:34.220You got to pass it a hundred percent. And I always point out to the men in my life.
00:43:39.820I'm like going through life. Like if we went through the same exact day, going through it as
00:43:44.980a woman is totally different than it is for a man because women are just naturally more vulnerable
00:43:51.080and men are a lot stronger. And so, you know, like I'll always say like, we have like these0.99
00:43:57.060parking situations where, you know, you park in a spot, you get a number, you have to go to the
00:44:02.440meter and put your credit card in the meter for the spot you're in. And I'm like, a guy doesn't
00:44:07.500think about it but i'm like as a woman i'm going to that meter by myself maybe with my wallet in
00:44:13.260my hand i'm paying attention to the thing and my credit card and it's like no that's just like an
00:44:18.900impossible situation like anything could happen so my head's always on a swivel it's we always
00:44:24.980joke it's part that i'm an italian jersey girl but my head is always on a swivel because we are
00:44:30.800marvel yeah that's great that's a great lesson yeah and everything it's so it's so um like even
00:44:37.740again mentioning the restaurant one again because we did a lot at the restaurant that day with the
00:44:42.180girls and you know one of my girls she's always talking trash she's you know my loud talker and1.00
00:44:47.180so i purposely had things done to her at the restaurant just to see what she would do so for1.00
00:44:51.940example you know we brought her wrong food we didn't give her a cup we didn't give her a straw0.96
00:44:56.560we didn't give me utensils but when it was time to say something and speak up for herself she was
00:45:02.920afraid this is the same young lady too that I told you was afraid to say that she saw the guy
00:45:06.180and so she's having to learn that when the rubber hits the road you got to say something you talking
00:45:12.340loud or speaking any other time but when it when it's time to you know speak up for yourself as a
00:45:18.220young lady you want to have that confidence and so it's very important you know we had to wait
00:45:22.420her, you know, be mean to her a little bit and whatever. And she was just like flustered, like,1.00
00:45:26.480oh my God, like this is happening right now. I'm like, it's happening. So you have to fix that.
00:45:30.560She's like, I'm never coming here again. No tip. I'm leaving. Yeah.
00:45:38.260So I want to make sure I get to Eli because I told you Eli just like touched my heart so much
00:45:44.020and I want to play this clip and then we'll finish the time chatting. But I don't know. I just love
00:45:49.640this whole video and you'll you'll give us the update on eli after okay one sec okay
00:46:02.200shake my hand hard eye contact and shake my hand hard good job good job all right
00:46:07.640You want something to write now to show me?
00:46:17.640I'm ready to go visit already. High five.
00:55:23.920I mean, I think, you know, some of the observations I make based on what you were saying was like, first, kids, I think they love learning, you know, they love picking up new skills.
00:55:35.480Like, it's just a natural thing where they're like, wow, that's cool.
00:55:38.820You know, I like to learn these things.
00:55:40.540And, you know, but I agree with you that the incentives matter, too.
00:55:44.140And that's something Scott always talked about because he had like an economics degree and he was always in that kind of mindset of like anything you make harder with friction, you're going to have less of it.
00:55:53.260and anything you make, you know, give an incentive to, it's going to lead to more of that. And
00:55:58.080so I think that's great too. And so, you know, I just applaud everything you're doing. It's
00:56:04.620just really great. Yes, I agree. I appreciate you all. Yeah, no, King, like, I just know,
00:56:10.920like, I'm reading the chat as we're going along and you're just, you know, you're like our,
00:56:15.720our favorite uncle from Georgia now. So.
00:56:18.600So I appreciate how I've been watching the growing of the viewership since we've been on and it's been growing and growing.
00:56:27.860So if you're watching whatever platform you're on, hit the share button, hit the retweet, whatever, however you do it, or copy the link, send it to all your contacts, whatever you need to do.
00:56:36.920But definitely share what's going on here. Like, comment, subscribe, the whole nine.
00:56:41.880You know, you know, the things they always say on the videos.
00:56:44.420As Joe Biden says, you know the thing. Perfect. Yeah. So we have five minutes left with you. We
00:56:54.020want to take every opportunity. So what is some good advice do you think for, let's just say
00:57:01.140fathers right now, something they could start doing today to affect a change in their kids
00:57:08.580or like a neighbor's kid, somebody, what's one thing that they should try?
00:57:16.680For you as a father, get some other men around your son that you trust.
00:57:26.340Have them spend time with other mentors, older people.
00:57:29.140And then also allow your kids to struggle and fail.
00:57:32.380Do give them pain, not physical pain, but mental pain so it molds them.
00:57:38.480So I put my son in situations all the time where it forces him to have to grow.
00:57:42.280It forces him to have to speak up for himself.
00:57:44.840It forces him to have to, you know, speak up with his chest.
00:57:48.380It's very important that you gift your son's mental pain and not in a way where I'm saying abusing them, but in a way where you are challenging them to become better because they're not going to always be a kid.
00:57:59.980They're going to be a young man one day.
00:58:02.080They're going to be a young lady one day.
00:58:03.920So you've got to give them that pain that life is going to give them.
00:58:06.760You don't want them to have to discover it and get punched in the face by life later.
00:58:10.440Have them go through those things now.
00:58:12.080Have them have to speak up for themselves now.
00:58:46.840I've personally seen people who have kids who are like totally disrespectful to the husband or wife or they're shouting at each other or maybe a wife is taking abuse from a husband or vice versa.
00:59:03.680and the kids watch it. So what do you think in a situation like that? Like what, what should
00:59:08.300parents know? Kids are going to do all innate learning for the most part. Again, we can tell
00:59:14.800them things, but most kids are going to listen to stuff from other folks, but from you, they're
00:59:18.600going to watch what you do. They're going to watch everything that you do. I'll give a perfect
00:59:22.280example. One of the moms came to me about her son's attitude and how he acts and the way he
00:59:26.860does things when he's upset. But I remembered that she was upset when she came to tell me about it,
00:59:32.200but she was doing the same thing that he does when he's upset and so I stopped her while she
00:59:37.860was talking I'm like my you see how you're doing this whole thing right here he does the same thing
00:59:42.000he turns his face the same way he moves his head the same way because I have him all the time I'm
00:59:46.340like he's doing what you do and she didn't even pay any attention and when she realized that it
00:59:50.780was like a light bulb went off she's like oh he's watching me he's watching you you can tell him
00:59:55.360this stuff all day but he's gonna watch everything that you do um so they're gonna watch everything
01:00:01.020you do. So it's very important if you're going to be around your children often, please make sure
01:00:04.680you're emulating what you want to see from them because they're going to do innate learning.
01:00:09.480They're going to learn everything that you do from the way you turn your face, from the way you turn
01:00:13.080your head, the way you hold your hands, the way you stand, the way you walk. They're going to watch
01:00:17.400all of it. They're going to mimic it to a T because that's what they are. They're little
01:00:21.220mirrors. Your children are a reflection of you almost every time. And so you want to show them
01:00:26.120as a father or a mother, what they should expect in life is acceptable as a father or mother. So
01:00:36.360if you're, if you're accepting a lot of BS from your partner and you're allowing like abuse to
01:00:43.300happen, or, you know, you're allowing, like, you know, you're seeing your mom be talked to in a
01:00:48.420derogatory way or vice versa, you're, you're showing your kids that that's acceptable for
01:00:53.920you. You can act like that, or you can take that. So they are, they're just like little machines
01:00:59.420watching all the time. And there's nothing worse for a child to witness their parent having any
01:01:05.300kind of hardship or abuse. Like it, it kills a kid in her inner soul. So you have to be careful.
01:01:11.120Oh, and any last message or comment or question?
01:01:15.980I just, I, again, I applaud what you're doing. I think hopefully you'll have a lot more success
01:01:21.600with your fundraising goal and i just think everything you've shown us is a great example
01:01:26.620of what an individual can do to make things better that you know a lot of what's being taught
01:01:31.980in our schools is kind of a terrible example in my opinion from a lot of the things i've heard
01:01:36.200you know the i mean the most extreme one was like i think they they some schools have started
01:01:41.360teaching something called adultism where they're they're literally telling you not to respect your
01:01:46.160parents and, and not to like, like the, it's, you know, like kids have rights to is kind of the
01:01:52.460idea, I guess, but it's like, no, you, you need to follow your, you need to obey your parents.
01:01:57.380You need to respect authority. You need to do that. And they're teaching him the exact opposite
01:02:00.760of that. And, um, government is even worse. So, you know, they're trying to teach you to be
01:02:05.100dependent on them. So I love seeing what you're doing, just making your own community better and
01:02:10.540just making a difference in the world. So thanks for doing it. Thank you. I appreciate it. Most
01:02:14.940definitely. Did you enjoy coming on the Scott Adams school?
01:02:18.860Of course. Glad to be back. Uh, you know, after, uh, Mr. Scott,
01:02:23.160I was on with him and, you know, we texted all the time.
01:02:25.920I texted him all the way, you know, until the end,