Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 1408 ｜ We Need to Talk About Homecoming Dresses. Christian Moms： What’s Going On？

00:00:00.000 I don't think all of the dresses that we wore in high school back in my day were perfectly

00:00:05.280 modest by any means. That doesn't make it okay. The homecoming dresses to now are at like a whole

00:00:10.260 new level. It is as short, tight, and as low as possible. Is it just impossible to say no? Is it

00:00:15.820 the worst thing in the world for your daughter to look different than her peers? Looking lovely and 0.97

00:00:20.000 feminine and radiant can be glorifying to God. But if the point of an outfit is to draw eyes to

00:00:25.780 anything other than the face or the overall beauty of a woman's presence, then it's not 0.73

00:00:30.360 an outfit that a Christian woman should wear, whether she is a teenager, whether she's an adult. 1.00

00:00:47.860 Hey y'all, welcome to Relatable. Happy Wednesday. Hope everyone is having a wonderful week. 0.69

00:00:53.220 while I am a 37 and a half weeks pregnant y'all. And I am entering into the stage that I enter

00:00:59.600 into every pregnancy. And that is one of hibernation. That is one where I just want to

00:01:04.660 hide from the world, not because the world did anything wrong, but just because when you get 0.88

00:01:10.620 this pregnant, it's just one, it's just a lot. It's just a lot to go out in public. It's you're 0.97

00:01:15.960 slow, you're tired, you're hot, no matter what the weather is outside. And it actually is hot

00:01:21.760 where I am. So that makes it worse. And you know, people just, they say things. And at this point,

00:01:27.720 I'm not even offended by it. It's more offensive when you're like, say 22 weeks pregnant and you

00:01:33.540 get comments about how far along you are. And if you're carrying one or two, and are you having a

00:01:38.260 baby any day? But at this point you say, you hear things and you're like, yeah, you know, I get it.

00:01:44.720 Like I get it. Someone said something to me. It was a guy at church and he was like, well,

00:01:51.040 I'm just gonna, um, I'm just gonna turn you on your side and roll you down a hill. And I was

00:01:55.860 like, you know what? That would be more efficient. That's fine. That would be a lot faster than what

00:02:00.320 I'm doing right now, which is waddling. Some sweet woman, older woman opened the door for me 1.00

00:02:05.260 the other day and she said, well, it looks like you're about to give birth any minute. And I'm 1.00

00:02:09.840 like, I really hope so. I don't even get offended by the comments anymore because I do feel very

00:02:15.460 large, very in charge. And I feel like people can hear me coming with my waddling and my stomping.

00:02:22.580 And so very soon, very soon I will have a maternity break, which I am looking forward

00:02:27.960 to, but don't worry. We have been working very hard on the relatable team to have lots of fresh

00:02:33.540 and wonderful content for you. As I am taking a break, giving birth to this baby and just enjoying

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00:02:46.900 you'll still be able to get your fill of relatable, even when I'm on maternity leave,

00:02:50.560 and I will be able to enter full hibernation mode very soon. All right. I also just want to say

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00:03:49.380 the link to the wait list in the description of this episode. I've gotten so many questions about

00:03:54.820 this app, what its functions will be. Is it appropriate for teenagers? Who is it actually

00:04:00.980 for? You know, does it go to perimenopause and menopause and all of that? There are so many

00:04:05.240 wonderful questions. And instead of taking the time to answer them all right now, we are going

00:04:09.420 to have an FAQ on the Anna Kate Instagram that I'll also probably be sharing on my own page

00:04:15.200 this week, because you guys have wonderful questions that we want to make sure that you

00:04:19.760 have all of the information for, but I just wanted a place. I wanted a home for Christian

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00:04:34.280 you're trying to conceive or not, whether you are pregnant, whether you are postpartum, like it

00:04:39.060 should just be an app where you feel peace. You feel connection to your creator first and foremost,

00:04:44.840 but also to other Christians and also to the body that God created to do amazing things.

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00:05:00.980 together. Okay. One more thing before we get into all of today's stuff, I have a free press debate

00:05:07.340 that's coming out tonight and it is on Paramount and YouTube, the free press YouTube, as well as

00:05:12.980 on Paramount. If you have the Paramount app, you can watch it. And this was a debate about

00:05:19.940 feminism. And you guys like, no, you, I like debates. I love debates when it comes to particular

00:05:25.740 topics. I'm not the kind of person that's like, I'll debate any time, any day, any topic. It's

00:05:31.660 not that it's only kind of the lane that I feel very, um, strongly about and the topics that I

00:05:38.940 feel like I can very clearly speak to within the realm of feminism. You've got debates about

00:05:43.860 abortion. You've got debates about gender, gender roles, also economic impact, equality,

00:05:49.360 and things like that. I debated a young woman. I think she's Gen Z named Deja Fox. And I loved it.

00:05:56.460 I enjoyed the experience. You guys know I'm not afraid to go up against really anyone when it

00:06:02.740 comes to the subjects that I'm confident about. And that's why I loved the Jubilee Surrounded

00:06:07.940 experience so much. It was such a challenge, but I just felt emboldened every second of that three

00:06:15.140 hour debate. And, um, I felt the same way about this. Like I, I really enjoyed it. And I was so

00:06:20.240 thankful to be able to effectively make the case, uh, for my position on these issues. I will just

00:06:27.920 say, and you'll be able to see this when you watch it tonight or whenever you're able to watch it,

00:06:33.280 it was not an unbiased debate, like the moderator, how she framed her questions

00:06:38.240 and the time that she allotted to each of us was very biased. It was very obvious that her

00:06:44.320 underpinnings are progressive. She almost couldn't even help herself and the words that she chose,

00:06:49.300 how she framed the questions, what she said. I mean, you'll be able to see how much I got

00:06:54.340 interrupted over and over again by both my opponent and the moderator and how much I let my

00:07:02.160 opponent talk because I really do believe in respect and debates. I want the other person

00:07:07.160 to be able to make their case. I think it's really a cheap shot when you're always trying

00:07:10.740 to interject and talk over the other person because you don't like what they have to say,

00:07:14.560 I think that shows intellectual weakness. And I never want to, I never want to demonstrate that.

00:07:19.420 And so you'll be able to see it was two against one. The moderator even says at one point, Oh,

00:07:24.580 this is just a conversation between me and Deja. I'll let you in. I'm like, yeah, anytime now,

00:07:29.720 that's great. Um, so you'll be able to see that it's not really a surprise to me that when you're

00:07:35.520 a conservative in this realm, you're just not going to get fair and equal treatment. So I'm

00:07:40.200 not complaining about it, but you should just know, like I actually did expect better and expect

00:07:45.320 more out of the moderation when it comes to this particular platform in the, in, in this particular

00:07:51.060 debate. And I just, I didn't get that. It was your traditional liberal moderator, liberal opponent

00:07:56.240 against one conservative, but I was out there y'all I represented us. And so make sure you go

00:08:02.260 watch it, comment, support, all of that good stuff. All right, that's it. That's all the

00:08:06.600 administrative things. Now let's get into the things that we have to talk about today. So we've

00:08:12.240 got quite the convergence of things going on right now. And I happen to see all of these things and

00:08:17.520 think about all of these things separately. And at first didn't even connect them when I was

00:08:21.700 thinking through the things we wanted to discuss today, but they do kind of all have a through

00:08:26.220 line of how women see our sexuality and how we present our bodies and the messages that we hear

00:08:36.280 also about sexuality in our bodies. And of course, one of the most influential podcasts

00:08:41.920 about female sexuality is call her daddy, Alex Cooper, the very famous host of call her daddy

00:08:48.340 had a Cornell feminist professor, Kate Mann on recently to discuss the Cornell seven case.

00:08:53.780 Now, if you don't remember what happened with the Cornell seven, you can go back and listen

00:08:57.120 to last week's episode. We covered it thoroughly. So we'll break down what Cooper and her guests

00:09:02.140 said, what they got wrong and just the glaring hypocrisy in Alex Cooper of all people, even

00:09:07.600 discussing something like this. And then we've got comedian Shane Gillis. He is in hot water right

00:09:12.580 now because he made a joke in his SNL opening monologue this weekend about how women dress at

00:09:19.240 the gym. So was this joke actually offensive? Now it's crass and I would never defend something like

00:09:25.520 that. That's obviously not my style, but deeper than that, like, does he actually have a point?

00:09:32.140 Or is the outrage overblown? Also, just get ready. Just buckle up. Okay. You got to make it to the

00:09:38.880 end because I know, I know that the last section of this is going to be the spiciest and possibly 1.00

00:09:44.720 the most offensive. It's not my desire to be offensive, but I want to say something that I 1.00

00:09:50.340 think is really necessary to say about homecoming season and the dresses that many moms, in

00:09:56.620 particular Christian moms that I see on Instagram are choosing or allowing for their daughters.

00:10:03.620 Like what is going on? Why does modesty and dignity and loveliness when it comes to how 0.99

00:10:11.040 our teens dress not apparently matter anymore? It's just crazy. So we'll get into all of this,

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00:11:25.660 Okay. So why do we talk about call her daddy? Call her daddy is obviously a secular progressive

00:11:32.060 so-called sex positive. Although I have, you know, I take issue with that phrase because I

00:11:39.380 actually think it's body negative because how they talk about sex really hurts the body and

00:11:44.420 it hurts women. So why are we talking about it? We're talking about it because it is the third

00:11:48.860 most listened to podcast among women behind the Joe Rogan experience, which is interesting

00:11:53.180 and crime junkie. All right. So you wonder why women are so anxious today. Why are we so 1.00

00:11:58.660 oppressed? Because you are listening to a podcast about hooking up and a podcast about murders.

00:12:05.600 Like if those are the two things that your mind is consuming, you're not going to be happy 0.95

00:12:10.000 because you're paranoid and degenerate. Paranoid, degenerate people don't lead happy lives. 0.84

00:12:16.200 Approximately 70% of the listeners of Call Her Daddy are women. I'm actually like very concerned 0.88

00:12:22.280 about the 30% of men who are watching Call Her Daddy. What's going on? More than three quarters

00:12:27.160 are under 35. Okay. So in this particular demographic, under 35 women, this is the number

00:12:34.720 one podcast. And over the years, she's had this podcast for a long time. You know, she used to

00:12:40.640 co-host it and now she hosts it by herself. And she's had some notable people on. People will

00:12:46.580 offend her by saying she doesn't talk just about sex anymore. She had Kamala Harris on. So she's a 1.00

00:12:52.740 serious podcaster. Okay. The questions she asks are not serious. Like we're not going to pretend

00:12:58.340 like she is an intellectual force of nature or anything like that. She is a sex podcaster and 0.96

00:13:04.920 she still does talk about extremely, extremely crass and degrading, objectifying sexual things 0.85

00:13:12.320 consistently on her podcast and has desensitized her very young, vulnerable audience to anything

00:13:19.820 to do with sex. I mean, there is no dignity, no modesty, nothing left to the imagination

00:13:26.520 on this podcast that she has hosted for years now. Okay. And I would say she has really

00:13:31.340 led the charge. Like she walked Alex Cooper walks. So Bonnie blue could run. Like she is the one who

00:13:38.120 has kind of created this space for, yes, empowerment for women means that we need to be as sexualized 1.00

00:13:46.440 as possible, as promiscuous as possible to take back our power. The truth is, is that Call Her 1.00

00:13:52.320 Daddy encourages Cornell 7 behavior. It does. That is the irony of this. In her preaching,

00:13:59.500 as you will see, about consent and about the importance of healthy sexual behavior,

00:14:05.360 like if we look at the sexual experimentation and exploitation that has been promoted by Call Her

00:14:11.660 Daddy over the years, like the very first episode of this show talks about group sex, okay? Trigger 0.65

00:14:18.620 warning, we're going to be talking about things that are very explicit. Talks about group sex.

00:14:23.480 She's had multiple episodes devoted to the topic since about sexting and oral sex and all different 0.99

00:14:30.520 kinds of sex that I will not talk about, about having, uh, threesomes and multiple sexual 0.92

00:14:37.060 partners simultaneously, consecutively, all of this. Okay. So this has been her shtick for a

00:14:43.340 long time. Any form of sex is okay. Now I'm not saying that she has condoned rape or sexual

00:14:50.580 assault, but when your sexual morality is a consent only model, things get very complicated,

00:14:59.220 very fast because at the end of the day, all you have is a, he said, she said, you don't have any

00:15:04.860 kind of moral standard of what's right. What's wrong. If degradation is okay. If objectification

00:15:09.640 is okay. If pain is okay. If exploitation is okay. As long as just someone manages a feeble,

00:15:16.820 yes. Well then we're in a very complex situation that leaves everyone extremely vulnerable to

00:15:23.120 either being assaulted or being accused of being assaulted, no matter what the intentions were.

00:15:28.560 And no matter what actually happened, what I think is interesting, terrible, but interesting

00:15:33.600 is that Jane Doe, her information identity has been revealed since all of this kind of

00:15:39.960 blew up online.

00:15:41.300 People found her Instagram and found, this is from a journalist on X, that she doesn't

00:15:47.520 follow very many people on Instagram, but one of the people that she does follow is

00:15:51.920 Alex Cooper.

00:15:53.020 Now, I can't tell how long she's been following Alex Cooper, but based on what she was saying,

00:15:58.560 based on the text messages that we read last week that have been revealed to journalists

00:16:02.820 reported on by journalists, her saying she's super open-minded, none of the sex stuff was

00:16:08.460 illegal, that she enjoyed it, that she wanted to do it again, at least with two of the other

00:16:13.400 guys, that the PyFIs, her sorority, were giving her a hard time, but they shouldn't give her a

00:16:18.740 hard time. You can see the echoing of Alex Cooper's worldview in how this girl talks.

00:16:26.080 And undoubtedly that led her to the situation, despite no matter what you think about what

00:16:31.780 actually went down in this room and how much consent was given the initial agreement to

00:16:39.900 walk into this kind of situation absolutely was inspired by Alex Cooper and her worldview.

00:16:46.860 Okay.

00:16:47.700 So Alex Cooper though, she has this professor on Kate Mann to talk about the Cornell seven 1.00

00:16:54.960 case and to talk about rape culture and how awful this thing is and to give a deeper look at what

00:17:01.300 actually happened with this investigation. Um, man says all kinds of things that I think are just

00:17:07.740 worth responding to because they might seem small or interpretation of how things went down,

00:17:14.820 but this is what pushes a particular narrative. And just because a narrative sounds compassionate

00:17:20.020 or sounds mostly right or mostly good, doesn't mean that we should go along with it because

00:17:24.820 when we're dealing with accusations and we're dealing with image bearers of God that are

00:17:29.520 accusing or being accused, the truth really matters. It matters to God. And so it matters

00:17:33.760 to us. So man kind of constructs this case, this professor by saying, basically Cornell,

00:17:39.400 let these guys do what they wanted to do and they weren't sufficiently punished. So maybe that

00:17:44.360 speaks to some kind of corruption due to the, to the patriarchy. I'm kind of reading in between

00:17:48.740 lines, but it doesn't take that much deductive reasoning to understand that that is the picture

00:17:53.140 that they're trying to paint, Sot 7. But maybe an even bigger problem is they condensed hours

00:17:59.380 of her testimony, including the statement, I am 100% confident I was raped. They deleted that

00:18:07.020 from her statement and condensed it into a mere six pages, which they then gave to the Tompkins

00:18:12.240 County DA, who then did nothing on that basis. So they elided her saying, I was raped from her 0.81

00:18:20.700 testimony. Isn't that shocking? Okay. See, this is how just pay attention to how things can be 0.92

00:18:27.200 presented fractionally and sound really compelling. Okay. There are some other podcasters out there in

00:18:34.000 the world that do things like this. They present something that is technically true. You hear it

00:18:38.820 out of context. You don't even know everything else. And you think, obviously that is evidence

00:18:42.820 of corruption. Someone will listen to this podcast and they'll say, wow, I am educated on what

00:18:48.460 happened because they listened to someone who has professor in her title. This is not the entire

00:18:54.580 truth. It is true that in the six page summary from campus police, that her quote that was

00:19:01.320 reported by the New York times in the full investigation, I can say with a hundred percent

00:19:06.040 confidence, I was raped that it was not included. But remember that six page summary of the 120

00:19:12.900 20 page transcript of the full investigation was agreed to, was signed off on by Jane Doe herself.

00:19:21.780 She reviewed a draft. She made 20 handwritten notes and corrections. They took those notes

00:19:27.360 and corrections. They sent her back a final version. This is according to the New York

00:19:31.440 Times. She signed off on the final version. As we talked about last week, her own advocates were

00:19:37.400 like, Hey, like we just want to double check to make sure. Do you want us to look over it again?

00:19:41.480 are you good with how this all sounds? Do you feel that it's accurate? She said that she was

00:19:45.420 confident in it, that she was confident in the six page summary by campus police that was given

00:19:50.560 to the DA. Now you could ask why, but why did they take out that statement that was in the

00:19:56.820 fuller transcript of that? She was a hundred percent confident that she was raped. I'm not

00:20:01.760 sure. And I also don't know that it matters. The whole assumption of why they were sending this to

00:20:07.000 the DA was that she was accusing these men of rape. Like, I don't think the DA was confused

00:20:12.380 about that. They understood that that's the allegation that is being made. And that is why

00:20:17.100 they are getting this report from Cornell. What difference would it make if they included the

00:20:21.880 quote of her saying that again, that was the entire underlying presupposition here. That was

00:20:27.180 why they were getting this document. It's also very common to condense an extremely long interview

00:20:34.360 into a shorter statement. That's just standard practice for law enforcement. So there wasn't

00:20:39.720 anything there per se that was sketchy. Now she goes on to say, but the campus also didn't do

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00:21:51.720 so here is professor mann saying that cornell just did not do enough in this investigation

00:22:01.340 and then they expel two students so that's good but five of the seven are left free to graduate

00:22:09.280 and it is very hard for me to understand admittedly not privy to all of the ins and

00:22:14.980 outs of the internal investigation because none of us are but it is hard for me to understand why

00:22:20.160 Jane Doe ends up dropping out and not getting her tuition refunded while five of the seven men who

00:22:28.420 she alleged attacked her are left free to graduate with a Cornell degree. Okay. So again, partly true

00:22:36.620 here. Two of these seven men who are accused of being involved in what she called, what Jane Doe

00:22:42.820 called a sexual assault were expelled. And they were expelled because they were found responsible

00:22:49.520 by the disciplinary panel at Cornell of exploiting her for allowing for her sexual assault, even

00:22:55.640 being responsible for sexual assault. I do think it's important to note though, that those two

00:23:00.400 students who were expelled because they were found responsible for those actions were never

00:23:04.660 found guilty of any crime in a criminal court. Again, I'm not saying one way or the other,

00:23:09.980 whether that exonerates them completely, but I do think it's important. Like, okay,

00:23:14.040 if you raped someone and you committed sexual assault, then you should go to prison. And so 0.99

00:23:19.760 there's some kind of discrepancy there. Either Cornell did too much because they were afraid

00:23:24.000 and they were like, we don't want the blowback. We want to be able to say that we took this

00:23:27.220 seriously. Or the DA just didn't do enough. The DA of course, defense themselves saying they did

00:23:33.600 everything that they possibly could and didn't find enough evidence. You could also say maybe

00:23:37.680 there's some discrepancy between what Cornell calls a sexual assault and what New York law

00:23:41.860 calls a sexual assault. So Cornell did what they could. The DA did what they could. That's also a

00:23:46.620 possibility. There are lots of possibilities beyond Cornell is just corrupt and wanted to

00:23:50.920 protect rapists. According to the court documents he filed in Tompkins County, New York Supreme Court

00:23:57.300 in March, one of the other students who were punished. So this is one of one of the people

00:24:03.100 who's included in the seven, but not one of the ones who got expelled. Um, he said that he was

00:24:09.620 punished by the university. He had to have a no contact order with Jane Doe. He had to do a few 0.72

00:24:16.160 other things, including write a paper. He said that he was punished, but he, that, that he never

00:24:22.340 actually committed any of the infractions that he was accused of, that he says he never even

00:24:28.500 saw her naked. He never saw her in distress. His infraction was receiving the terrible text message

00:24:36.080 or a terrible message in the Snapchat fraternity group chat that said free P word. He says that

00:24:41.740 he came in to check on Jane Doe to make sure that everything was okay. According to CBS,

00:24:46.800 his testimony says that he was in the room for five minutes, that he, again, didn't see her do

00:24:51.380 drugs or high or anything, didn't even see her naked, asked her if she was okay. He said that

00:24:57.120 she responded, I'm good. It says that she did not seem inebriated at all. Again, that is his

00:25:02.740 testimony and the disciplinary panel did not find him responsible for sexual assault or sexual,

00:25:09.220 um, for sexual exploitation. The one accusation that Jane Doe gave about this guy was that he

00:25:17.360 snorted ketamine off of her body, but the investigation actually found no evidence of that.

00:25:22.260 Uh, he got a drug test. They took a hair follicle to test for ketamine and that came back negative.

00:25:28.980 so he has appealed this decision because he's like look there was no evidence of what i was

00:25:35.080 accused of and yet i was still punished by the university so when you see people saying oh they

00:25:41.160 were made to write a paper they were made to write a paper well actually it is possible that even that

00:25:47.260 punishment was too much for some of the people involved and by the way two of them were expelled

00:25:54.040 Um, so I think it's actually more, more troubling or at least more of a question.

00:26:00.260 Like if someone can be punished for attempted sexual exploitation, but not proven sexual

00:26:06.440 exploitation for just like walking into a room after receiving a text, like, is there

00:26:10.960 actually any due process going on here? 0.96

00:26:13.760 Now, man also says this professor, um, that we just have to believe women.

00:26:19.560 We just have to believe Jane Doe sought nine.

00:26:22.800 Well, so what we see in this particular case, if her allegations are true, and again, I am just going to state candidly for the record, I believe Jane Doe.

00:26:35.380 So if what she alleges is true, those seven men acted in a way that was just irredeemably entitled.

00:26:44.820 They acted like they were utterly entitled to take what they wanted from her, not because I think they were all that interested in her as a human being, but because they wanted to show off to each other and get points in an intramasculine hierarchy.

00:27:02.620 Okay, like that is such a stretch.

00:27:05.300 We don't know anything about this.

00:27:07.260 I mean, we just don't know anything about what actually went down in that room.

00:27:12.120 we have her conflicting testimony, which conflicts with itself, as we talked about

00:27:16.740 thoroughly last week. And then we have the men's testimony, which in some cases conflicts with what

00:27:21.080 she said. We have a, he said, she said situation, and we are believing Jane Doe because she's a

00:27:25.960 woman, but you'll see she even had just there says, I believe Jane Doe. And then the very

00:27:30.300 next sentence that she says, if what she alleges is true, why does she say that? Why doesn't she

00:27:35.360 just say, well, this happened and that is so terrible because you don't really know. I mean,

00:27:42.940 the question is, which Jane Doe do you believe? At first she said that nothing happened. Nothing

00:27:48.180 went wrong. She texted this to a man. She said, I'm getting heat from these Pi-Fi girls. As I said

00:27:54.700 earlier, I really liked being with you and Matt. None of the sexual stuff was illegal. Anything

00:28:00.380 else anyone has to say about the gangbang, you, is out of their jurisdiction. I don't think that

00:28:07.340 we should feel any shame for the part, our body, our choice. Okay. So she's very emphatic about

00:28:15.100 this. It wasn't until she got disinvited from the Halloween party and her roommate started being

00:28:19.580 like, uh, that actually doesn't sound cool. Maybe you weren't really consenting. Her reputation

00:28:24.160 started getting trashed that she ended up going to the campus police weeks after the incident 0.96

00:28:28.340 happen. You can try to justify or like excuse all of that by saying this is a sexual trauma response,

00:28:34.360 but that's a guess on your part. We just don't know. And it's a guess on this professor's part

00:28:39.060 too, but all of this creates this long narrative. Now here's what something that they said that I

00:28:46.500 thought was especially egregious that rape accusations, they don't actually ruin the guy's

00:28:53.040 life sought 10. I've seen a lot of women on social media saying, you know, I, I did think about that 0.83

00:28:58.740 before I came forward because I'm like, oh my God, could this ruin his life? The answer is usually

00:29:03.660 no, it actually probably won't ruin his life. Unfortunately, he'll be fine. He'll be fine.

00:29:10.840 Okay. What? I mean, you should, whenever you are thinking about accusing someone of something,

00:29:16.820 one, you need to ask yourself, is this 100% true? Am I completely confident that this is true,

00:29:22.840 that every single person that I'm involving in this and accusing of this actually did what I

00:29:27.780 claim to the best of my knowledge. Now we're all finite, fallible people and our memories can fail

00:29:32.860 us, but to the best of my knowledge, is this the absolute truth? Am I acting out of a desire for

00:29:39.360 justice based on truth or am I acting out of shame? Am I acting out of vengeance? Am I acting

00:29:44.140 out of, you know, wanting attention, affirmation, things like that. Those are all totally fine

00:29:48.840 things to ask yourself. Someone shouldn't hesitate to bring forward an accusation just because

00:29:53.980 they're afraid of hurting the accused feelings. Certainly not, but you should be really testing

00:29:59.420 the veracity of your claim before you go forward and make this accusation because false accusations

00:30:04.960 are a big deal. And if someone is falsely accused of rape and then they are found guilty of that

00:30:10.540 rape, yes, of course that ruins that person's life. It's going to go on their record. Not only,

00:30:15.680 I mean, of course, these guys got expelled and maybe that was a justifiable punishment for those

00:30:21.580 two guys. We don't really know. But if they were found guilty in a court of law, you go to prison,

00:30:26.580 it's on your record. Of course, that has the possibility of ruining someone's life. Absolutely.

00:30:33.900 The families of the accused are also reportedly receiving death threats. An attorney for one of

00:30:38.480 the accused told the Washington Post that his client's mother had received death threats,

00:30:42.560 said that he and his, that his legal partner, the attorney and his legal partner had also received

00:30:49.760 death threats. He additionally reported that his client had been publicly accosted in October

00:30:55.140 because remember the campus, the campus newspaper, and then all of social media started exposing

00:31:02.060 these guys, their faces, their names, in some cases, their addresses. One guy in another city

00:31:08.280 who had nothing to do with Cornell, who happened to share the name with one of the people being

00:31:12.900 accused, started getting threats and harassment and things like that. That's what happens online.

00:31:18.600 That's called mob justice, which is not actually justice at all. That's why God set up a system of

00:31:24.480 laws and a system of due process where both the accused and the accuser have rights because mob

00:31:29.920 justice is injustice. Mob justice led to Jesus's crucifixion. That is what mob justice looks like

00:31:37.220 when you decide someone's guilt based on the demands of what angry people in the crowd say.

00:31:42.200 Now, obviously that is an earthly simplification of Jesus' crucifixion, which was the fulfillment

00:31:47.520 of prophecy and Jesus gave himself up for us. But you understand like that is the most gruesome

00:31:53.460 example of mob justice being carried out in history and it's still happening today. Um,

00:32:00.660 And so this is what happens when you have someone who simply, well, she wants to virtue

00:32:07.680 signal in some ways, of course, she wants to present herself as moral, as good as having

00:32:13.160 these moral constraints and moral boundaries, even as she, Alex Cooper, is the one who has

00:32:19.220 pushed those moral boundaries to the point of them not even existing in our peripheral

00:32:23.740 vision anymore. 0.89

00:32:25.280 And now she wants people to look around at the moral boundaries that she claims to have

00:32:29.080 have always set up and say, oh yeah, Alex Cooper is actually a good person. That's what she's doing

00:32:33.940 here. She has created the culture where women feel empowered to do things like this. But then 1.00

00:32:39.500 when a woman feels a real sense of shame because of her behavior, you know, she possibly, this is

00:32:46.900 one theory about what happened. She runs with accusations. Now, as I said last week, and I think

00:32:52.720 is really important, if I were talking to Jane Doe, I would speak to her lovingly and gently

00:32:57.480 and compassionately, but truthfully to tell her that she is worth a lot more than what she has

00:33:03.400 degraded herself to be. Those young men are worth a lot more than what they have degraded themselves

00:33:08.140 to be, but all of them who were actually involved committed sins. I don't know if they committed

00:33:14.980 crimes, but they committed sins. And that is even more deadly because of what it not only does to

00:33:21.780 your body, but also does to your soul. And Alex Cooper, you are also made in God's image and you

00:33:29.100 are worth more than what you are selling yourself as. And you are worth more than this degrading

00:33:36.380 message that you have been feeding to women for so long. So don't come back now and act like you 0.96

00:33:41.300 are like the white knight saving women out of this very, very morally debased culture that you

00:33:49.680 have helped create for this generation. All right. Now we have some more outrage. We've got people 0.52

00:33:56.380 who are very angry at comedian Shane Gillis for talking about women and their own responsibility

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00:35:14.220 Okay. Speaking of getting our protein in and getting stronger, Shane Gillis has some comments

00:35:20.280 to make about what women wear to the gym. Now, let me tell you, obviously we're going to bleep

00:35:24.700 out the stuff. This is crass and I do not endorse crassness. I don't think it's a good thing,

00:35:30.660 but I need to give you context of what he actually said. So you understand like why people are so

00:35:35.380 upset at Shane Gillis right now. Stop three. Also, I haven't been to the gym in so long.

00:35:39.940 I didn't know women just dress like now. 1.00

00:35:44.140 Look, I'm sorry. 0.99

00:35:45.080 There's no other way to describe.

00:35:47.140 Have you seen it?

00:35:48.000 I've seen it.

00:35:48.480 The shorts.

00:35:50.040 Have you seen the shorts?

00:35:51.600 Those neon, they're like the only,

00:35:53.380 they're like artificial bait colored.

00:35:56.420 The wrinkles go like around the cheeks

00:35:59.640 and all combine at the.

00:36:05.020 And don't look, you're not allowed to look.

00:36:06.760 okay so obviously gross but the reason it's gross to hear him say that is because it's true

00:36:14.940 like is because that is actually not even a little bit of an exaggeration that's actually

00:36:21.520 like a nice and dignified way to describe what a lot of women wear to the gym the description

00:36:26.580 of those shorts is actually completely accurate now uh there is a um there's an actor he was on

00:36:36.140 shits creek i'm sorry that's their last name i'm not cussing dan levy he posted on instagram that

00:36:42.640 he was speechless that something like that can exist on live national television not that the 0.90

00:36:48.280 shorts exist in public but that someone can talk about it in public except for women wearing short

00:36:54.500 shorts to the gym does not make them it makes the men calling them misogynists there's a difference

00:37:05.640 there. By the way, I've seen more men's nipples at the gym than I've ever seen women showing 0.97

00:37:14.940 their bodies off. But I'm speechless that something like that can exist on live national 0.97

00:37:25.960 television. Okay. I also don't think that men should show their nipples at gyms. Does

00:37:32.380 that help? Was that good? Because I think that's also gross. I also don't think that we should be

00:37:37.500 calling women or men any name like that. I don't like that word that Shane Gillis used that we

00:37:42.580 bleeped out. I don't think it's good. I'm not justifying calling anyone that. But I think that

00:37:49.420 the outrage about saying something that is obviously true is crazy. You've got country

00:37:54.480 singer Maren Morris. She's posted a picture of herself giving Shane Gillis the finger of me being

00:38:01.640 at the gym, leave my gym short wedgie out of it. Okay. Former SNL star Ego in Wandom says that,

00:38:11.620 um, posted a photo of herself at the gym wearing shorts saying bleep reporting for duty, 0.88

00:38:19.300 getting my 30 grams of protein in after hoeing. Okay. So people were obviously upset about this, 0.95

00:38:26.660 calling him a massaginist. Here's my take on it. You probably know because I have a gym

00:38:31.420 close rant that I posted on social media a couple of years ago that starts to recirculate and go

00:38:36.220 revival every few months. So here I am to say it again, the same eight words. I do not consent to

00:38:43.000 seeing your butt. Okay. I don't consent to seeing your butt. I don't agree with how Shane Gillis 0.99

00:38:48.600 said it, but it is actually true. And it's just ironic because the sex culture in the modern West

00:38:55.040 is as long as everyone consents, it's all okay. Well, I reject the consent only standard of

00:39:00.320 sexual morality, as I've said, that's the bare minimum. But is it not interesting that when it

00:39:06.960 comes to everyone being subjected to mostly naked bodies and public spaces, that we are told that

00:39:12.000 consent is not part of the equation, like discomfort with or objection to you or your

00:39:17.000 child seeing someone's butt crack in other intimate areas is completely dismissed as being

00:39:22.340 prudish and controlling. But like, I'm not asking for a burka here. I'm just asking for some decency, 0.94

00:39:29.020 like from, for some respect for yourself and for others, just wear clothes, not underwear.

00:39:35.140 Like, is that so crazy? And if you want to know what I mean even more specifically and why I will

00:39:42.680 tell you and give you the biblical perspective in just a second, but I am also going to be even

00:39:49.120 more offensive, probably even more offensive than Shane Gillis and what I am about to say. 0.99

00:39:54.080 the problem of this, of women just showing their body so flagrantly without any understanding of 0.91

00:40:02.140 like what context is okay to wear certain clothes and not wear certain clothes is not just a problem 1.00

00:40:08.740 at the gym. And we're not just talking about secular liberal feminists flailing their body 0.98

00:40:15.240 parts all around. What I'm about to get into is going to offend some moms out there. And that's 1.00

00:40:20.000 not my intention to offend. I would not say this if I didn't think that it was necessary.

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00:41:57.880 there we are Hillary Clinton and me for lifestyle pitter patter okay my question is why do I see 0.99

00:42:18.920 Christian moms posting their teen daughters going to homecoming in dresses that barely cover their 1.00

00:42:23.820 bodies. Like, can someone tell me that I'm going to talk about this like as gently and as truthfully 0.94

00:42:31.620 and as biblically as I possibly can, not like Shane Gillis, but we're kind of like pointing

00:42:36.520 to the same problem. And when you've got secular people pointing to this problem of like,

00:42:40.760 why aren't women covering up their bodies at all in public? Okay. We've really got an issue 0.96

00:42:45.820 and Christians need to be leading the way and leading by example. And like what it looks like

00:42:50.440 to be dignified and lovely. And I really just kind of want to know, am I not understanding

00:42:56.160 something? Because I am talking about like Christian moms that I see on Instagram posting

00:43:02.920 things that are so scant. And this is obviously a big problem because Christian school policies

00:43:08.840 for homecoming dresses are changing. Um, apparently this was an issue at a Christian

00:43:15.060 school in Colorado because back in 2022, they started requiring girls to send photos of their

00:43:20.040 dresses front and back to be reviewed by female staff members. Now these rules were pushed back 0.99

00:43:25.600 on with the Colorado school, starting a petition that received 553 signatures to get rid of the

00:43:30.260 rules, citing they were being objectified. Now, again, this is a Christian school in Colorado.

00:43:35.080 Okay. A Christian school in Colorado, the parents and the students at this Christian school were

00:43:39.160 saying, no, you can't give us these rules that say that our dresses have to be a particular kind

00:43:45.940 of modest. Now, remember the reviewers who were reviewing these dresses to make sure they

00:43:50.820 aligned with the rules were females. Okay. Like I would get it. That would be gross and weird. 1.00

00:43:55.180 If you had a bunch of like male teachers and the principal, like looking at pictures of these

00:43:59.840 teenage girls, yeah, that would be really weird. But the reviewers were female to see 0.70

00:44:03.400 if the dresses were going to be appropriate. I don't see anything wrong with that. And by the

00:44:08.340 way, you're not forced to go to the school. This is a Christian school who I'm sure says up front,

00:44:12.840 hey, we have Christian values. If you don't believe in these Christian values, then there

00:44:16.200 is a public school right around the corner. You agree to that when you send your kids to 0.60

00:44:20.100 Christian schools that you're going to abide by these Christian principles. And so the fact that

00:44:24.300 they had over 550 signatures on this petition is crazy. There was a Catholic school in Nevada

00:44:30.860 that adopted new rules in 2023 requiring homecoming dresses to be ankle or floor length

00:44:36.340 instead of the previous mid-thigh length. The Nevada school also had students writing

00:44:42.300 petitions and emailing and talking to the deans to voice their displeasure with the new rules.

00:44:47.180 Now, maybe you disagree with that particular rule, but I also understand a school having to

00:44:51.860 just draw the line somewhere. I doubt this Catholic school is saying that you could never

00:44:55.960 show your leg at all for fear that you will be immodest, but you do just kind of have to say,

00:45:01.260 if you are an institution, okay, this is what the rule has to be. And I just find it strange that

00:45:07.500 when you have people opting for schools that are Catholic, that are Christian, evangelical,

00:45:12.380 whatever, and suddenly they try to enforce those values that the parents balk, that the

00:45:18.340 students freak out. All right. So we are in this, we are in this culture war. And I think

00:45:26.400 Christians seem to be on the wrong side. Now I have been a teenage girl. I don't think all of 1.00

00:45:33.780 the dresses that we wore in high school back in my day were perfectly modest by any means,

00:45:39.760 but also that doesn't make it okay. And also wearing short and tight things was not the trend

00:45:46.620 back in the 2010s. There might've been other ways that they weren't as modest as possible,

00:45:51.000 but the homecoming dresses to now are at like a whole new level. It is as short,

00:45:55.600 tight, and as low as possible. There is no distinction I see between Christian families 1.00

00:46:00.680 posting on Instagram and like the non-Christian public school, uh, public school families that 0.96

00:46:07.120 you see, like when you're out, you know, eating dinner and they're like taking pictures, it's all 0.99

00:46:12.240 the same. They all look the same. So what is going on? Is it just impossible to say no? Is it the

00:46:18.380 worst thing in the world for your daughter to look different than her peers? In fact, if your 0.97

00:46:22.880 Christian daughter dresses exactly the same as all of her non-Christian friends, is that probably 0.99

00:46:28.580 just not great. I am not someone who thinks that women, young or old, need to wear a burlap sack 0.95

00:46:34.420 or that they should be ashamed of the female form or that they shouldn't put effort into

00:46:38.320 looking beautiful. That is not me. Looking lovely and feminine and radiant can be glorifying to God.

00:46:44.900 But if the point of an outfit is to draw eyes to anything other than the face or the overall 0.99

00:46:50.140 beauty of a woman's presence, then it's not an outfit that a Christian woman should wear, 0.88

00:46:54.700 whether she is a teenager, whether she's an adult, if the point of the outfit, okay, 0.83

00:47:00.260 regardless of the intention of the person wearing it, if the point of the outfit, regardless of the

00:47:04.980 intention of the person wearing it is to draw eyes to private parts, then a Christian woman 0.99

00:47:09.140 shouldn't be wearing it. Now you can say, well, which I know I'll get male lust isn't a woman's 1.00

00:47:15.240 problem. Men should just have self-control. Jesus said that the man should pluck his eye out before 1.00

00:47:20.500 lessing after a woman. And all of that is technically true. But to dismiss the importance 1.00

00:47:25.860 of modesty by saying, well, that's a male less problem. That's none of our business. It's to

00:47:29.900 miss the point entirely. It's to miss the point of the gospel. Actually, it's to miss the point

00:47:34.460 of Jesus's message. Jesus says this to the Pharisees in Mark 12, when they ask him what

00:47:40.140 the greatest commandment is, he says, the Lord, our God, the Lord is one, and you shall love the

00:47:45.100 Lord, your God with all of your heart and with all of your soul, with all of your mind, with all of

00:47:48.960 your strength. The second is this. You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other

00:47:53.880 commandment greater than these. Now, what does it mean to love God? How do we do it? So he says,

00:48:00.400 you got to love God first. That's the most important thing. Then you got to love your

00:48:03.620 neighbor. What does it mean to love God? Jesus tells us in John 14, 15, if you love me, you will

00:48:09.140 keep my commandments. If you love me, you will obey me. What are these commandments? Romans 13,

00:48:15.180 9 tells us for the commandments, you shall not commit adultery. You shall not murder. You shall

00:48:19.680 not steal. You shall not covet. And any other commandment are summed up in this word. You shall

00:48:25.100 love your neighbor as yourself. And so you have this kind of reciprocal relationship between the

00:48:32.020 first commandment that Jesus says is so important. And the second commandment that Jesus says is so

00:48:36.640 important. Galatians 5, 14 says this for the whole law is fulfilled in one word. You shall love your

00:48:42.600 neighbor as yourself. James 2.8, if you really fulfill the royal law, according to scripture,

00:48:48.520 you shall love your neighbor as yourself. You are doing well. Now the world will say today

00:48:52.820 that loving someone is just affirming them. That loving someone is just telling them that what

00:48:59.020 they're doing is great, no matter what their behavior is, no matter what their choices are.

00:49:02.880 But again, we can't do that. First John 4.8 tells us God is love and Jesus is God. We read that in

00:49:09.500 John one. And he tells us what it means to love God, to keep his commandments. What are the

00:49:14.360 commandments? Love your neighbor as yourself. How do you love your neighbor as yourself by loving

00:49:19.480 the Lord, your God and keeping his command? It's a reciprocal cyclical kind of relationship between

00:49:25.780 the first and the second commandment. So we need to then define our terms because what does this

00:49:29.880 actually mean? If God is love first John four, eight, then he gets to define it. First Corinthians

00:49:35.360 13, he defines it beautifully for us in so many words, but there's one particular verse that I

00:49:41.120 want to point out. And first Corinthians 13 starts with verse three, or it's one particular segment.

00:49:46.980 I should say, if I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not

00:49:51.980 love God through Paul says, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind. Love does not envy or boast.

00:49:57.080 It is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist in its own way. It is not irritable or resentful.

00:50:02.160 It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

00:50:05.920 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

00:50:09.860 So love does not insist on its own way.

00:50:13.700 It does not rejoice at wrongdoing.

00:50:16.580 So I always think about these two things when people tell us that, you know, affirming all

00:50:21.000 different kinds of sin is loving or just being nice to people is loving, but love never rejoices

00:50:27.320 in wrongdoing.

00:50:28.040 Love never insists on its own way.

00:50:30.760 How does this relate to what we're talking about? Wearing something intentionally provocative is not

00:50:36.820 loving your neighbor. It's distracting. It's tempting. It conveys a message of narcissism

00:50:42.700 and invites objectification. Immodesty is not an excuse for lust. I am not saying that.

00:50:48.880 It does not alleviate the responsibility of the person lusting, but lust also doesn't

00:50:53.440 alleviate the responsibility of someone dressing deliberately scantily. Both the person displaying

00:50:59.920 their body and the person lusting after the body are sinning. I believe as far as is reasonable

00:51:06.060 and as far as it depends on us, we need to make it more difficult, not easier for people around

00:51:12.840 us to sin. Now that's not just in how we dress. That is also in how we drive and how we talk,

00:51:19.460 how we treat other people. I think being a peacemaker is more than just avoiding

00:51:23.020 unnecessary conflict. I think it's also as much as we can avoiding causing unnecessary strife

00:51:30.280 and struggle in the minds and the hearts of others, especially fellow Christians.

00:51:35.400 Matthew 18, six says this, Jesus issues a stern, he issues a stern warning, um, causing other,

00:51:42.360 about causing other people to sin. He says, if anyone causes one of these little ones,

00:51:47.040 those who believe in me to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung 0.79

00:51:52.040 around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. Now, a lot of times we refer to this

00:51:56.540 verse when we're talking about people who pray upon children, which may be applicable to that.

00:52:01.060 Obviously that is awful and wrong, but the little ones that Jesus is talking about here is not

00:52:05.920 talking about literal children. He is actually talking about his followers, Christians. And we

00:52:10.200 know that because if you back up just a few verses, he says in verses three through four, 0.99

00:52:14.840 truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom

00:52:19.140 of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child, he had a child in the midst of them,

00:52:23.880 is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Okay. So he is talking about Christians becoming like

00:52:30.800 children and then referring to us as little ones, those who are disciples of Jesus, following Jesus. 0.81

00:52:35.340 If you tempt one of these little ones to sin, it'd be better for you to be thrown into the ocean with 0.77

00:52:40.760 a big rock tied to your neck. That's how serious it is. So specifically for Christian moms, I think

00:52:46.380 we have to ask ourselves, like, is your daughter's dress making it more difficult or easier for her

00:52:51.620 date to sin? And in that way, is she sinning? Are you paying money for your child to sin and to

00:52:58.640 facilitate the sin of others? If so, is that loving to your daughter, to the boys in her class?

00:53:05.440 And I know people want to know, well, what qualifies? What qualifies? What set of rules

00:53:10.520 do you have that qualifies as modest? Well, I don't have a set of rules and neither does the

00:53:16.280 Bible. I think we have to go to the principles of what the Bible says and then apply that with

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00:54:20.760 Allie. First Timothy 2.9 says, likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable 0.51

00:54:31.840 apparel with modesty and self-control. And maybe you're thinking, well, gosh, just more

00:54:37.060 subjective adjectives. Like what does that even mean? Let's not pretend to not know what that

00:54:42.520 means. If you were to picture someone dressing in a way that is described as controlled,

00:54:47.880 respectable, and modest, would you choose a strapless dress that covers two inches of your 0.95

00:54:53.500 legs or scrunched up spandex being eaten by your butt cheeks? Probably not. Like when it comes to 0.66

00:54:59.660 doing what we want to do, we just need to be really honest with ourselves because we have

00:55:02.860 all done this. When it comes to doing what we want to do, suddenly we act like we don't know

00:55:08.620 what words mean. When it comes to doing what we want to do, suddenly we start arguing about

00:55:13.580 technicalities and calling everything legalism. But well, what is really meant by that? Like I

00:55:19.440 need just a particular number that tells me exactly what modesty looks like. No, I think we

00:55:25.100 know. If I use the words, for example, lovely, radiant, respectable, dignified to describe a

00:55:32.820 homecoming dress, what would you envision? If I use the words sexy and sassy to describe one,

00:55:38.520 what do you envision? Now, is what your daughter wearing closer to the first or to the second?

00:55:45.120 Also, we can talk about practicality, like if we really want to get down to the nitty gritty of it.

00:55:50.100 And this might sound ridiculous to those of you who like have not seen this, this like group of

00:55:55.300 homecoming going teens, either on social media and real life. But like, these are real questions

00:56:00.200 that I think parents should be asking, especially Christian parents. It's kind of like, duh, 1.00

00:56:05.120 but I don't know that all Christian parents are. Can she sit down without someone seeing up her

00:56:10.680 dress? Can she bend over without someone seeing up her dress? Can she lean over without someone 1.00

00:56:15.100 seeing down her dress? Can she dance and move comfortably without fear of exposing her private 0.99

00:56:19.320 parts? Like it sounds ridiculous, but these are base level questions that we should be asking

00:56:24.480 ourselves about our own clothing. Yes. But especially about our children's clothing.

00:56:29.600 It really, at the end of the day, comes down to love. Like, are we willing to love our children

00:56:35.780 enough to say no, to protect them? Because your child, I mean, maybe she is mature enough to

00:56:41.500 understand like why modesty and dignity is important. Why that kind of self-respect and

00:56:46.500 love of God and love of neighbor should emanate from what she wears, but maybe she's not quite

00:56:52.580 there yet. And that is why she has been given to you to steward. This does not mean shaming her for

00:56:59.520 her body. This does not mean alleviating the responsibility of those who might objectify her,

00:57:04.180 no matter what she's wearing. It is allowing her to with you envision what biblical loveliness

00:57:12.800 looks like, because I think that is really the kind of dignity that we need to all convey in

00:57:18.860 what we are wearing. And just because her friends are all wearing the sparkly skin, tight, low cut

00:57:25.860 short stuff, doesn't mean that she has to. I mean, we know that we aren't to conform to the pattern 0.97

00:57:31.740 of this world. We're to be renewed in the spirit of our minds. And at this time, when things are

00:57:37.800 so formative like this, you only have a few years left. You have a very, very small window where

00:57:44.300 you have authority over your child and you have the ability to just say no. Yes, I know she's

00:57:50.420 going to think you're crazy. She's going to think you're strict. She might, you know, pitch a fit. 0.92

00:57:55.680 She might push back on you, but you are still the parent. You are not her friend. You are her

00:58:01.260 parent. And there are things, yes, that my parents told me, no, that I thought was so ridiculous and 0.99

00:58:05.740 that I hated at the time. And of course I look back and I'm like, wow, I'm so thankful. Who knows

00:58:10.560 what that protected me from. I didn't have the foresight and the ability to see that then,

00:58:14.500 but my parents did because they had 30 years on me. You do too. That is your responsibility. And

00:58:20.760 so I'm not, I know people will say, Oh, that's pharisaical. That's judgmental. It's not that

00:58:25.280 look, I've been a teen girl. I know what that's like. And I also understand that the objectification

00:58:31.500 is amplified today through social media in a way that it wasn't when I was a teenager.

00:58:35.560 and it's not protecting your daughter one bit to allow her to wear things that barely cover her

00:58:40.760 body for not only her date and her friends and her school to see, but also thousands of people

00:58:46.500 online. That is a form of exploitation and Christians should take no part in that. 0.99

00:58:51.220 All right. That's all we've got time for today. We will be back here on Friday. 1.00

00:59:05.560 Thank you.

Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - October 14, 2026

Ep 1408 ｜ We Need to Talk About Homecoming Dresses. Christian Moms： What’s Going On？

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