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Should You Vote When You Don't Like the Options? | Ron Simmons

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00:00:00.000 Well, good afternoon, everybody, or good morning.
00:00:12.380 I'm Ron Simmons.
00:00:13.540 I'm Allie's dad.
00:00:14.740 And welcome to Papa's Workshop.
00:00:17.340 I know that the last episode, a couple episodes ago, I was here and we did this and I thought
00:00:21.960 it might like it for a little change of scenery.
00:00:24.140 You know, this episode is coming out one week before the third annual Share the Arrows conference.
00:00:31.060 And you've probably heard already, but if you haven't, surprise speaker is going to be Sarah Huckabee Sanders, governor of Arkansas.
00:00:39.020 She is truly a superstar in the conservative public policy world, and we are so glad to have her.
00:00:47.500 I don't know what her future holds, but I think it holds, you know, whatever the Lord wants it to do.
00:00:53.340 I think she's one of those that says, like Charlie told us, send me, right?
00:00:58.340 Send me.
00:00:59.400 And Sarah has been there for that. 0.99
00:01:01.420 And she's doing a great job as governor.
00:01:03.400 I know that you're going to enjoy her.
00:01:04.940 So hopefully you've got your tickets and you've got your airplane tickets or you've got your
00:01:09.480 map out and you know how to drive there.
00:01:11.640 And if you don't have a ticket yet, there's still time to get a few tickets.
00:01:14.540 I don't know how many are left, but there's a few left.
00:01:16.580 And I know that we'd love to see you.
00:01:18.020 I'm going to be around some.
00:01:19.200 I won't be there the whole time.
00:01:20.260 But if you see me and you want to come say hi, I'd love to love to see you and meet you and just get to know you a little bit.
00:01:27.500 So anyway, but today we're going to go over a few things. Obviously, we're going to go with listener questions.
00:01:32.260 We have such great questions every time that I do this episode and I appreciate them.
00:01:36.720 Some of the questions that I'm going to answer today are ones that are emailed to me personally.
00:01:40.620 And I'm not going to mention the people's names, but the subjects they email about are subjects that we get multiple questions on.
00:01:46.820 So I'm going to talk about those in a few minutes. But we'll start today. And I know people get tired of hearing this. I really understand that. But we need to continue to make sure that everybody's up to date on what's going on with Iran. But I need to remind you of a few things. And I ran across an article this week that I wanted to bring up.
00:02:08.280 It's a couple of months old, but I think it was very important.
00:02:11.560 The U.N. ambassador from France.
00:02:14.040 Now, as you know, France is not the most conservative country in the world, and they're not necessarily good buddies with the current administration that we have.
00:02:22.100 But the France's UN ambassador, Jerome Bonifat, warned the UN Security Council in June of 2026 that Iran's nuclear programs is still a serious international threat, pointing to the independent quarterly reports by the International Atomic Energy Agency, IAEA, which we talked about before.
00:02:46.780 He said Iran is the only non-nuclear weapons state, and there are a few countries that have nuclear weapons,
00:02:55.200 but they are the only one that has enriched their uranium to at least 60 percent.
00:03:00.620 And you remember, as I said before a few months ago, that it only takes a few weeks to go from 60 to 90 percent.
00:03:08.420 And 60% is even far more than is needed for civilian nuclear power fuel,
00:03:14.420 which Iran kept saying that's all they're doing.
00:03:17.420 If they keep enriching the 400 kilograms of uranium that we believe they have,
00:03:22.380 they could potentially produce 10 nuclear explosive devices.
00:03:27.040 What's even scarier is that the IAEA has lost track of their uranium since June of 2025.
00:03:34.580 Now, we hope that our bombing got all that earlier this year, but we don't know that for sure because we haven't been able to go in there and check it, and they haven't allowed anybody to come in there and check.
00:03:46.500 In September of 2025, the U.N. Security Council reinstated international restrictions, and it takes the U.N. Security Council made up of five of the main countries, okay?
00:03:57.480 That's like the U.S., China, Russia, France, and England.
00:04:01.500 I think those are the five that are on. 0.94
00:04:03.000 I may be wrong on one of those, but I think that's correct.
00:04:06.900 Because they had repeatedly broken commitments under the 2015 nuclear deal, which was Obama's deal.
00:04:13.520 When we shipped them all that cash on the airplane in exchange for this deal, they've broken that deal.
00:04:19.280 And despite several attempts by Europe and the United States to negotiate another agreement, they have stopped and they've also stopped allowing the IAEA to inspect its most sensitive nuclear facilities.
00:04:32.880 please. I just want to remind you that the reason that we're in this conflict is because we cannot
00:04:39.820 afford for a country that has stated, their leadership has stated they hate us. They want
00:04:46.380 us dead. Death to America. We can't afford for them to have a nuclear weapon. And negotiations 1.00
00:04:51.420 have not worked in the past. So now what we're trying to do is put military and economic pressure
00:04:57.920 on them. How long that's going to last, I thought it would have already been taken care of by now.
00:05:02.880 But one of the things that we've learned is that the leadership in Iran doesn't care about their 0.74
00:05:06.680 own people. They really don't care about their own people. This could be over tomorrow if they
00:05:11.720 would just wake up and come to a reasonable agreement. We would open back up the Strait of
00:05:15.920 Hormuz. We would lift the economic sanctions, but they just are unwilling to do that. So
00:05:21.920 it's really important that we stay the course. And I know we get some questions sometime about,
00:05:29.120 golly, it's really hurting our economy. I get that. I know that you feel that. I really do
00:05:33.780 understand that. I've got kids, adult kids that are trying to raise families, and it's hard on
00:05:38.540 them. I understand that. However, it's not only always just about us right here and now. One of
00:05:44.740 the reasons that we need to stay the course is for our grandkids, your kids, right? What we do
00:05:52.480 now will have a major effect on them. Do you really want Iran to have a nuclear weapon that
00:05:57.680 they could bomb cities in the United States with a nuclear weapon when your kids are trying to grow
00:06:03.180 up and raise their own families? You don't want that. Yeah, it's a little tough on us right now,
00:06:08.000 but we need to stay the course. In fact, one of the questions that came out was that if we
00:06:15.640 effectively dismantle the current leadership in Iran, what steps would the Trump administration
00:06:19.840 need to take to prevent another terrorist regime from taking over? The only way that that's going 0.93
00:06:25.040 to work is, first of all, the people of Iran would have to participate in that and prevent that. 1.00
00:06:30.540 You know, for 2,500 years, as I said, I think on our last time that we got together, 2,500 years, 1.00
00:06:39.840 Iran and Israel were partners. They were allies. And it's only been since the early 70s when the
00:06:48.180 radical Islamic leadership took over that they haven't been allies. So it's not like they've
00:06:53.220 hated each other forever, all right? That has not been the case. But the radical leadership
00:06:58.200 that consists, the mullahs and the Iranian Republican Guard, that really all they want is
00:07:04.040 power. They want power. And remember, power and leadership are always in conflict. If you're a
00:07:11.640 great leader, then you don't abuse your power. But the challenge is people become quote-unquote
00:07:18.780 leaders of nations and companies and things like that. And they let the power go to their head
00:07:24.220 and they become consumed by power and they quit worrying about leadership. And that's
00:07:30.240 obviously what happened in Iran. What we're going to have to do is we're going to have to make sure 0.65
00:07:34.620 that there are inspections, that there are inspections going on related to nuclear weapons,
00:07:39.300 that there are inspections going on to any other restrictions that we put on them. So I just
00:07:44.820 wanted to mention that briefly so that you can understand why it's important to stay the course.
00:07:50.120 We have to stay the course. And it's not pretty. I get it. And I don't like some of the rhetoric
00:07:55.640 that, you know, the current administration uses sometimes, but I certainly support our men and
00:08:01.040 women in uniform that are trying to protect our country. And I support the leadership in
00:08:06.000 the administration that's trying to make the very hard, hard decisions that other presidents in the
00:08:11.660 past have not been willing to do that. What do you think? And I wasn't alive then. Maybe there's
00:08:17.760 somebody listening to this podcast that was alive then. But if you do any history reading, think
00:08:23.060 about going back to World War II. There was a large percentage of the people that did not want
00:08:28.060 us to go into World War II. That was their war. That was Europe's war. That was Germany and France 0.58
00:08:33.380 and England. And we weren't going to be a part of that. Now, behind the scenes, President Roosevelt, 0.95
00:08:39.140 even though publicly he was saying, no, we're not going to go there. We're not going to do that.
00:08:44.020 He was behind the scenes knowing that we were needing to do that. And of course, we were trying
00:08:48.380 to help Britain any way we could during that particular time before we actually got in the
00:08:54.060 war. But aren't you glad we did? Aren't you glad we did? I'm pretty much convinced that if we
00:09:00.460 wouldn't have gotten in that war, that Germany, a lot of people would be speaking German today.
00:09:07.220 and not the Germany we know, but the Nazi regime, the Third Reich, the thousand-year reign.
00:09:15.360 I mean, maybe England could have stuck it out and eventually won, but they were fighting a battle
00:09:21.280 against a much, much larger force. So it's very difficult. And I appreciate what we're doing,
00:09:27.560 even though it certainly has consequences. And one of the consequences could be the midterm.
00:09:33.080 I don't know what's going to happen in the midterm elections. We talked about it last time. I wanted
00:09:36.960 to kind of bring it back up, remind you, remind you that there are some very close races in a lot
00:09:44.380 of the states and we're voting for not a person. We're voting for policy. So you should look at
00:09:51.600 the Democrat Party's policies and the Republican Party's policies, what they stand for. I mean,
00:09:57.540 if you're pro-abortion and you don't mind babies being murdered right up until birth, 0.64
00:10:02.820 then you should vote for Democrats. If you're pro-life and you want to you think every life
00:10:07.720 is important, then you that's that's on the Republican side. All right. Those types of
00:10:14.020 things. If you think that more individual liberty is important, that's Republicans. If you want the
00:10:20.160 government to be more of a nanny state, then that's Democrats. OK. And again, there's a lot
00:10:25.320 of things that they probably agree on, like, you know, maybe in a large part, a lot of them agree
00:10:29.580 on our military. Most of them don't agree on our police force because the Democrats, a lot of them
00:10:36.080 want an open border. And they also want to defund police in some ways. And they want to get rid of
00:10:41.680 our immigration customs and enforcement. Republicans don't want to do that. And all the 0.96
00:10:48.940 polls show that borders are really, really important. So we're going to see what happens
00:10:53.700 in the midterms. Now, a lot of people will say this is an election about Donald Trump. And in
00:10:59.220 some ways, I guess it is that, you know, that there's so much hatred out there for Donald Trump
00:11:04.420 that a lot of the people that are going to polls are voting against him. So whatever he's for,
00:11:08.360 they're against. I understand that. However, what we need to do, if those of you that believe in
00:11:14.420 the conservatism, that believe in pro-life, that believe that we should have borders,
00:11:19.440 we need to make sure that we're getting our friends out in these close states,
00:11:23.680 making sure they're going to vote. And just a reminder, in the Senate, the states are Texas.
00:11:27.980 Texas generally has not been a very close state, but it is a close state this year.
00:11:33.120 There's no question about it that Ken Paxton and James Tallarico are in a neck and neck race.
00:11:39.560 It just depending on which polls you look at, Tallarico is up one or two percent.
00:11:43.900 I just read one today where it's a dead heat. A lot of these polls have margins of error.
00:11:47.980 So if you're up two percent, it's probably more like a dead heat.
00:11:50.840 Need to be up about five percent in order for it to be outside the realm of the margin of error.
00:11:57.480 And so we'll see what, I don't know what's going to happen in that.
00:12:00.120 But I do know that if all the Republicans in Texas go out and vote for Paxton, vote for
00:12:05.380 the policy that he represents, he's a flawed candidate, no question about that.
00:12:09.740 But Tallarico is someone that doesn't believe in hardly anything that you and I believe in. 0.55
00:12:18.080 I mean, he believes in gender mutilation for children on the transgender scenario. 0.70
00:12:25.220 He believes that abortion should be allowed right up to birth. 0.71
00:12:28.920 He thinks that God is six genders.
00:12:32.260 You know, he doesn't like the beef industry.
00:12:34.340 He was a vegan.
00:12:35.180 He's talked about that.
00:12:36.080 He doesn't like school choice.
00:12:38.320 He's never seen a tax bill that he didn't like.
00:12:40.640 So James Tallarico is not a good candidate and will not be a good senator for Texas.
00:12:45.740 Same thing in Michigan.
00:12:46.860 Michigan is Mike Rogers versus the Abdul El-Sayed.
00:12:50.640 El Saeed, so many recordings about how much he hates America and how much he said that, you know, we deserve 9-11, those types of things.
00:13:01.000 And that's a very close race.
00:13:02.880 Mike Rogers should win that race in any normal time, but we don't live in normal time. 0.83
00:13:08.360 So we don't need to assume that, hey, this El Saeed guy is so far out there, there's no way he's going to win.
00:13:14.320 That's not true.
00:13:15.540 That can happen.
00:13:17.200 Ohio is another close race by John Husted and Sherrod Brown.
00:13:20.640 Sherrod Brown's a former senator.
00:13:22.360 That's neck and neck.
00:13:23.780 And so those of you in Ohio, which has been a solid red state for, oh, the past three or four elections, but it's close right now.
00:13:31.740 It is very close.
00:13:32.740 I encourage you to do that.
00:13:33.800 A couple more races.
00:13:35.440 Iowa's a close race between Turek and Henson.
00:13:38.320 Maine, Susan Collins, and Troy Jackson.
00:13:40.600 And, again, he is a super flawed candidate.
00:13:44.080 Very close in that.
00:13:45.800 The Alaska race is close, even though Alaska went overwhelmingly for Trump.
00:13:50.300 That's a very close race.
00:13:51.600 So we need to make sure that we're getting our people that we know and ourselves out there to vote.
00:13:56.380 Early voting in a lot of these states will start within the next couple of weeks.
00:14:00.880 If I'm you, I recommend you go vote early.
00:14:03.940 Some people like to vote on Election Day.
00:14:05.520 That's fine.
00:14:06.480 But you never know what's going to happen.
00:14:08.600 You could have car trouble on Election Day.
00:14:11.020 There could be someone sick in your family you've got to take care of.
00:14:13.820 I would recommend not waiting.
00:14:15.360 If you have the ability to vote early, then go ahead and vote early.
00:14:21.360 There was a question that came about the North Carolina race is also close.
00:14:29.880 And then there was a question that came about the Florida governorship.
00:14:33.960 And the question was, in Florida, I don't like either candidate for governor.
00:14:37.840 And a lot of times we all get in those scenarios, okay?
00:14:40.440 How do I decide who to vote for?
00:14:42.560 Well, again, you're going to vote for policy.
00:14:44.420 The Republican Party's policies, are they better policies than the Democrat Party?
00:14:50.300 Just make it easy like that.
00:14:52.180 And don't worry about the candidate themselves when it gets to the general election.
00:14:57.140 That's what I recommend that you do.
00:15:00.680 So, all right.
00:15:02.700 Now, I wanted to tell you a little bit about an interesting event that I went to this week.
00:15:07.780 And it was a kind of a special thing.
00:15:11.480 my oldest son and I are part of a leadership class with about 75 other people. And the folks
00:15:20.020 that are running it take us to different experiences. Like earlier this year, we had a
00:15:26.580 sit down with the head of Delta Airlines and the head of Ritz-Carlton Hotel talking about,
00:15:31.740 you know, how they operated their businesses and how they started them and their leadership
00:15:36.060 techniques and all those types of things. We also had to sit down with Jack Nicklaus to talk about
00:15:42.740 individual leadership and discipline and those things. Then this recently, though, we sat down
00:15:50.320 to listen for an interview, kind of a panel interview with Condoleezza Rice first, and then
00:15:57.320 President George W. Bush. What an inspiration both of them were, right, and how positive they
00:16:05.580 continue to be about America, even though we're in some tough times. There's no question about that.
00:16:12.240 Dr. Rice talking, and man, she is just one of the smartest people I've ever seen. I mean, she is
00:16:16.880 some kind of bright. Went to, you know, grew up in Birmingham, Alabama, in segregated South. Now,
00:16:22.280 she lived in a segregated, black, middle-class neighborhood. Her mom and dad were college
00:16:28.300 education. Her grandmother, I think she said, her grandmother or her great, one of the, I think it's
00:16:33.660 grandmother, had gotten a PhD in English literature or something like that. It was a
00:16:40.880 very interesting background. And of course, she's also a concert pianist. She started college at age
00:16:47.360 15, is the provost at, or was the provost, may still be, at Stanford University, oversees the
00:16:55.800 Hoover Institute out there, which is a conservative institute that someone like Victor David Hansen's
00:17:00.360 part of, if you've heard of him, of course, was Secretary of State. You know, she said a couple
00:17:05.040 of things. One of the things on leadership, I just wanted to leave you this point on this part of it
00:17:10.280 that I thought was really cool, and that she said, you know, she said, when you're, when you are the
00:17:15.460 one that's in charge, okay, whether this is your family, dads, and moms, or whether this is your
00:17:21.460 business, or whether this is your church organization, when you're the one in charge,
00:17:26.720 you have to be very careful in how you communicate with others like she said look I've got a very
00:17:34.120 quick wit and if I'm around my friends or buddies or whatever you know we can kind of trash talk
00:17:39.560 each other it's pretty fun you know we all do some of that she said but you know when I was
00:17:44.220 teaching classes at Stanford and somebody some student would ask what really most of us would
00:17:50.460 believe was a pretty silly question I had to make sure that I didn't snap back at them with some
00:17:56.120 smarter answer because if I did, yeah, everybody may have giggled during that, but I would have
00:18:01.960 shut down any other questions. People wouldn't want to question me. Same way she said when I was
00:18:05.900 Secretary of State. If you're Secretary of State of the United States and you go, you're the big
00:18:09.980 dog in all of these meetings, right? And so if I treat someone improperly in that because I,
00:18:17.280 you know, just had a smart mouth or quick mouth or something like that, then especially the
00:18:22.040 smaller countries, they're never going to feel comfortable talking to me. And that's not
00:18:26.440 important. She said one thing President Bush always did when he was at these big summits
00:18:32.160 where they would have, you know, small countries and big countries, he would make sure he spent
00:18:36.720 time with the small countries. And that's just the type of person that he was. And when he was
00:18:43.820 speaking to us, when he was speaking to us, you know, he talked about, you know, that he said,
00:18:49.120 There were two things that I wish, you know, that we could have gotten done during our administration.
00:18:54.080 Now, 9-11 obviously sidetracked them and they had to focus on that.
00:18:58.460 But one of the things that he said, he said, you know, immigration policy.
00:19:02.720 He said, now there's, and he thought this was very smart.
00:19:04.660 He said, there's really two parts to immigration policy.
00:19:07.580 One is the border and the other is immigration reform.
00:19:12.180 And we've talked about this.
00:19:13.220 There are people that want to come work here.
00:19:16.240 Especially, let's just take Mexico, for example.
00:19:17.740 There are a lot of people, and we use some of these special work visas for this, that want to come up here and work during our work season, and in the winter, go back home and work down there. 0.72
00:19:28.040 They're not interested in staying up here, okay?
00:19:30.820 But it's hard for them to get a visa to be able to do that.
00:19:34.360 Used to, it wasn't as hard.
00:19:36.600 Same thing on the border.
00:19:38.200 He said, look, President Trump has done a really good job on securing the border, on closing the border.
00:19:42.900 We have to do that.
00:19:43.960 Americans want a border.
00:19:46.240 And he said, we had immigration bills that we think could have handled that, but they just got sidetracked.
00:19:53.500 You know, they got sidetracked in the Senate and didn't get done.
00:19:57.720 And that was disappointing.
00:19:59.100 He also said, if you remember the iconic picture, when he goes down to ground zero after 9-11, within just a couple of days after 9-11, he goes to ground zero.
00:20:10.740 and he said, I'll kind of start talking on my stump speech about how we're going to get past
00:20:16.780 this and da-da-da. He said, honestly, you may not could have heard it, but I got some booze.
00:20:22.440 And what those people wanted to hear, which was all first responders primarily, a lot of them had
00:20:28.820 lost family or friends in those Twin Towers. He said, I threw, in my mind, threw away the stump
00:20:38.540 speech and I said, I want you to know that I hear you and America hears you. And that's what those
00:20:47.560 people wanted to hear is that they were being heard and that we were going to do something about
00:20:51.180 it. And this small invite that I was a part of was a very special time this week. And it really
00:20:57.700 encouraged me because I can get discouraged like everybody else in the way things are going on.
00:21:02.480 And, you know, are we going to get on the other side of this election and our house is going to
00:21:07.100 get more affordable for my kids and grandkids. And, you know, things go through cycles. And
00:21:13.100 President Bush and Dr. Rice reminded us of that. And they are very optimistic. And listen,
00:21:19.420 they still get intel that you and I don't get, of course, right? They still, I'm sure,
00:21:24.920 have some types of security clearances, or at least they have the people there that they know
00:21:29.020 that they can get information that you and I can get. But it was a really great time. If you had
00:21:33.600 the opportunity ever to go hear some people like that statesman, I'd encourage you to do it. I think
00:21:38.820 it'll feel good. Take your kids to it if they're old enough to understand that, especially your
00:21:42.480 teenagers. I think they would really, really enjoy that. All right. A few more things here. Let's go
00:21:48.580 to some listener questions here. I want to go through these as many as I can today before we
00:21:53.660 finish up. Is accepting school choice fun socialism? No. Public schools, in my opinion, are more
00:22:01.080 socialistic than school choice, because if you're in a state that just requires you to go to public
00:22:05.880 school, then you don't have any choice. I mean, the state's telling you what you're going to learn,
00:22:11.880 where you're going to go. That is totalitarianism, in my opinion. We're forced to do that. School
00:22:18.300 choice gives the parents the option. And remember, that's not the government's money. That's your
00:22:23.180 money. That's money that you've paid in taxes over the years that they've been putting in a
00:22:27.900 government-run school. And so, no, don't feel bad about that at all. What can we do about Islam in
00:22:35.840 America? I've got a couple of questions on that. First of all, remember that we live under a
00:22:42.780 constitution, all right? And our constitution guarantees the freedom of religion. And Islam
00:22:48.560 is a religion. So we can't outlaw Islam. I mean, we can't do that under our current constitution.
00:22:55.400 I would never support that. But what we can do is we can make sure that we are monitoring it for radicalism, okay, because that's breaking the law. Terrorism breaks the law, obviously. We can outlaw Sharia law, which we've done in places like Texas and other states.
00:23:11.300 And we can also keep taxing districts. 0.96
00:23:16.840 Like in Texas, we have something called a municipal utility district where essentially a developer can go in there, essentially set up their own city and actually charge taxes and collect money for water, sewer, those types of things.
00:23:30.720 We can, and they've been trying to do that in Texas, and we've been able to stop that so far.
00:23:35.560 We can avoid religious exclusive tax districts, things like that.
00:23:39.980 But we can't stop them from having their religion. 0.96
00:23:43.140 We just can't do that. 0.99
00:23:43.940 What we need to do as Christians is we need to show them, you know, the other side, show
00:23:50.200 them why we believe what we do about Jesus, right?
00:23:53.820 And that happens, all right?
00:23:56.180 We hear about, in fact, I was just hearing the other day, somebody was telling me about
00:24:01.740 two Muslim girls.
00:24:03.840 Oh, this was at a university in Texas. 0.98
00:24:06.920 that's a religious university that for some reason these Muslim girls went there because it was 0.96
00:24:11.320 probably good education on some other fronts, and they've become Christians. Now, their families
00:24:15.140 have disowned them, but the community there is obviously supporting them, and so that's really
00:24:20.060 important as well. All right. Somebody asked about comparing the 529 accounts to the Trump accounts.
00:24:25.960 I've done that already in a previous episode, and they're going to link that episode to
00:24:29.520 the show notes here, so make sure you take a look at that. All right. The other one is,
00:24:36.060 somebody says, my husband regrets that he voted for Trump. And how can I convince him or what can
00:24:42.120 I bring up that might, you know, make him understand? And I get it. He, you know, it costs
00:24:47.340 more to fill their vehicles up. Restaurants prices are higher. But remember, restaurant prices and
00:24:54.040 gasoline prices, all this stuff went up during the Biden years. And yes, it's still gone up a little
00:25:00.320 bit. But remember, I told you last time it's gone up 21 percent during the Biden years. It's gone up
00:25:04.840 about 5% since Trump took over in two years. So we're at a better pace. Now, the Iran war is
00:25:11.440 hurting that, but that will be temporary. I promise you that. I don't know how long. I thought
00:25:16.100 it would have already gotten behind us, but it hasn't. But again, you have to look at a broader
00:25:21.120 picture. It's not just about us right now. Again, we may have to sacrifice a little bit in order for
00:25:27.440 things to be better for our kids going forward. And the other question was, how can I support my
00:25:33.440 a friend who has a kid with special needs. You need the way you can support them the most other
00:25:39.720 than just loving them, being their friend, listening to them because sometimes they may
00:25:43.180 just need to vent. Also, respite care. If you think that you can give that mom or that mom and
00:25:49.000 dad a couple of hours to go out to a dinner and y'all can keep that child if you're capable of
00:25:53.560 doing that, that is a huge help. Most of them don't get any respite care. You know, we're going
00:25:59.940 through with our adult son Daniel right now who has a mild form of autism and that's manageable
00:26:05.540 but he has epilepsy and that has gotten worse in the last year or so for whatever reason we're
00:26:12.500 working on medicine combinations and all sorts of things and that's been difficult it's been
00:26:17.260 difficult on Lisa and I and it's been difficult on him bless his heart he he's a trooper it's
00:26:22.680 unbelievable I mean I was just with him a couple weeks ago and he fell which he does sometimes
00:26:27.320 with these seizures and cracked his collarbone. And, you know, he, he just fights through all of
00:26:32.900 it, but it's difficult. I will tell you. And so encouragement, respite care. Hey, can I,
00:26:38.600 hey, can I, you know, if somebody, if somebody called us said, Hey, can we take Daniel out to
00:26:42.460 dinner? You know, give you guys a couple hours off. That'd be awesome. We love that. All right.
00:26:47.460 But it doesn't happen very much because we feel uncomfortable doing that. So just make sure that
00:26:53.080 you're you're just encouraging them and then you know how do we what do i do with little kids and
00:26:58.600 you know keeping the relationship with my spouse that's a question that we always get and is just
00:27:04.500 i've said this before but make sure that you have a date night make sure you have a day even if
00:27:09.320 you're not spending money if y'all are just going to go drive around town or go sit at the park or
00:27:13.980 just get a get a soda pop or something like that make sure you have a date night i'd like to see
00:27:18.760 you do it once a week, but at least once every other week. Really, really important, okay? Really
00:27:24.440 important. No matter how tired you are, no matter anything, you need to have that date night. And
00:27:29.280 it's not a date night to talk about the kids. Obviously, sometimes you'll do that, but it's a
00:27:34.720 date night for you too. That's what's really important. How do I submit to my husband even
00:27:39.740 when I know he's making the wrong decision? I get those sometimes and kind of related to,
00:27:45.380 hey, I think maybe we ought to move to a more conservative area, but my husband doesn't want
00:27:49.760 to. I think in all of these, obviously, husbands are called upon to cherish their wives. So that
00:27:59.420 means that what their opinions are important, guys, very important. Wives, you're called on
00:28:04.820 to respect your husband and assuming that he's honoring what he's supposed to be doing as well.
00:28:13.380 And so the way you can get, I know that if Lisa needed me to do something when our earlier marriage and what have you before, you know, we've known each other now for almost 50 years.
00:28:23.600 But what Lisa would do, Lisa, she learned early on, she focused on herself.
00:28:31.160 She would bring things up to me for sure.
00:28:33.700 She was never demanding or anything like that.
00:28:36.380 But I knew I didn't, I wanted to please her.
00:28:39.140 I still want to please her.
00:28:40.160 I mean, that's still really, really important to me is pleasing her. And so I could sense that.
00:28:47.960 I think it's OK for you to sit down and have a detailed discussion. Again, I encourage you to
00:28:54.280 all read five love languages because that's really important to understand how your spouse receives
00:29:01.100 love. And that's how you can best learn how to communicate with them. Also think you try to
00:29:06.080 figure out a compromise. One person said, well, maybe we can't move to a more conservative state
00:29:10.800 because the pay differential in what this particular person does is too great, but maybe
00:29:16.240 we can move to a more conservative part of our state. That's a great compromise, okay? That's a
00:29:21.580 very good compromise, and I think it's something that you should talk about. You shouldn't be
00:29:25.340 afraid to talk about difficult things. You have to be able to do that, and sometimes you'll need
00:29:29.980 to get some counseling to help you do that, no question about it, because most of us have
00:29:33.620 different personalities. I'm more outgoing than Lisa is. Lisa's more laid back. So we don't think
00:29:39.440 about things exactly the same way. And over the years, we've had, you know, I think I've talked
00:29:45.360 about this before, when Allie was a teenager, we had some family counseling on some things.
00:29:49.120 I still seek the advice of some of my mentor friends, and I encourage other people to do that
00:29:54.640 as well. Advice on raising a special needs child. We thought that we have to, again, how do we move
00:30:01.760 past the grief of all they can't do. I understand that. And I don't know that that ever goes away
00:30:07.020 a hundred percent. I still, sometimes I'm sad about, you know, things that I know that Daniel
00:30:11.380 won't be able to do or hasn't been able to do yet. We try not to put limits on that. Anytime we've
00:30:15.960 done that, we've been proven wrong because he's always been amazing to us. But I think that,
00:30:21.080 listen, God gave us these special gifts and he gave us the gifts for a reason. And I think we
00:30:25.800 just have to get them to the maximum of their ability. That's what our role is, and make sure
00:30:32.300 that to the extent they can, that we can teach them about Jesus. What should a Christian, what
00:30:38.900 are some ways a Christian dad or husband do to support a new mom? Again, read the five love
00:30:43.360 languages, figure out what her love language is, and do those things. Probably what she wants to
00:30:48.640 do is quality time. That's usually what they would want is quality time. How to deal with in-laws who 1.00
00:30:54.740 don't share faith when a child is involved. I think you have to always respect your in-laws
00:30:58.980 up to the point where you make sure that there's obviously no abuse or anything like that.
00:31:03.920 But I would say respect with boundaries. Our job as parents, one of our jobs as Christian parents
00:31:11.480 is to expose our children to the love of Christ and so that the Holy Spirit can begin working on
00:31:17.080 them and bring them under his umbrella. And I wouldn't allow anything as much as I could that
00:31:25.660 would get in the way of that. All right. Now, some of it's not going to matter, but that's where I
00:31:30.360 would do the boundaries. Here's one. I haven't gotten this question before. This was really
00:31:35.540 pretty interesting. It says, my father-in-law asked my husband to keep his estate and money
00:31:44.780 from the wives. He said, it's not for us to know, but me and my husband tell each other everything
00:31:50.540 so it feels wrong for him to ask that. Am I wrong in thinking that? Well, first of all,
00:31:55.580 that's wrong for the husband, for the dad to do that. All right. That's putting, that automatically
00:32:00.080 puts a strain between his son and daughter-in-law. I mean, that, that sets up a marriage strain right
00:32:06.500 there. Why? I'm not sure why he would do that. Okay. Now, a lot of people, maybe these first
00:32:10.740 generation money. They're afraid that, you know, the wives are going to not respect that and, you
00:32:17.000 know, go off and spend the money or something like that. But as far as you and your husband go,
00:32:23.940 it's perfectly okay for your husband to talk to you about that, right? That's, you don't break
00:32:28.220 that bond. That's why the Bible says that when we grow up and we get married, the husband leaves
00:32:33.680 his mom and dad and clings to his wife, that they become one flesh and one flesh shares with each
00:32:39.340 other. I promise you my right hand knows what my left hand's doing, right? I mean, and so that's
00:32:44.300 the way we are. We come together as one flesh. Is it wrong for him to ask that? Personally, I think
00:32:49.640 it is, but it's his money. It's the way he looks at it. So that's his deal. But you're not wrong
00:32:55.180 for thinking that, okay? Your husband, you and your husband should be able to share those things.
00:32:59.700 No question about it. All right. Should I cash out of life insurance if I have enough other
00:33:04.120 investments? Well, I need to know more about that. So email me a little bit more personally on that.
00:33:09.140 whether you have kids or what your obligations are or what, because here's what you need, okay?
00:33:17.000 You need about 25 times your annual income. What are you going to need to live off of, okay?
00:33:24.600 When you retire, let's say you need $100,000 to live off of when you retire, where you're going
00:33:28.980 to need at least $2.5 million, in my opinion, in the bank, if you want to live off of that and
00:33:33.860 still leave some inheritance. Now, if you want to gradually spend that down to zero, you probably
00:33:38.260 don't need as much. But my number has always been about 25 times what you need. All right. What you
00:33:43.900 need to live off of when you retire, you need to have that set aside. Or maybe some of it, if you
00:33:51.160 have a hundred, if you need a hundred thousand, you get 50,000 from a pension plan or social
00:33:54.960 security. So you only need to have 50,000 from your investments. Then, you know, you don't need
00:34:00.820 as you need, you need about a, oh, would that be a million and a half dollars, something like that.
00:34:05.420 So it varies.
00:34:07.180 So I just need a little bit more information on whether or not it's good to cash out your life insurance policy.
00:34:13.440 How to move forward if you regret a big life choice.
00:34:17.420 If you know, if you can fix it, do it.
00:34:19.240 But if you can't, you have to move ahead because Satan is the one that creates doubt.
00:34:23.280 No question about it.
00:34:24.240 Now, I want to finish up with one thing.
00:34:26.120 I've gone a little bit longer today than I normally want to go in these.
00:34:29.180 But I think I told you guys earlier that I was reading through the Bible this year in a year.
00:34:34.540 Now, I started in April, so I'm not going to be done by December.
00:34:38.220 But one of the things that I'm doing is I got this little notebook, and I am writing down a precept that I read in the chapters I read that day.
00:34:49.380 I write one or two precepts down that spoke to me.
00:34:53.080 And so I'm going to try each couple of weeks to share with you one of those precepts.
00:34:57.200 And the one this week that I wrote down, and I wrote this down back in April, it says,
00:35:01.640 God honors righteous action that carries risk. God honors righteous action that carries risk.
00:35:08.860 And this refers to Luke 19, 12 through 27. And it's the story of where the noble man,
00:35:17.700 in fact, I'm going to read it to you. That'll be the easiest thing. It says,
00:35:20.360 a certain noble man went to a far country to receive for himself a kingdom and to return.
00:35:24.600 So he called 10 of his servants, delivered to them 10 menace, which is money, and said to them,
00:35:31.080 do business until I come back. But the citizens hated him, and they sent a delegation after him
00:35:37.540 saying, we will not have this man to reign over us for whatever reason. And so it was that when
00:35:43.020 he returned, having received the kingdom, he commanded those servants to whom he had given
00:35:47.080 the money to be called to him so that he might know how much every man had gained in trading
00:35:51.660 and doing business. Then came the first, Master, I have earned 10 menas and M-I-N-A-S. And he said
00:35:58.620 to them well done good servant because you were faithful and very little you have authority over
00:36:03.260 10 cities and the second one came master i've earned five likewise you will have over five
00:36:08.280 cities then another came saying master here is your money that you gave me which i have kept put
00:36:13.500 in a handkerchief for i feared you i feared you because you were an austere man you collect what
00:36:18.960 you did not deposit and reap what you did not sow and he said to him out of your own mouth i will 0.99
00:36:24.380 judge you, you wicked servant. You knew that I was an austere man collecting what I did not deposit 0.99
00:36:29.200 and reaping what I did not sow. Why then did you not put my money in the bank that at my coming,
00:36:34.680 I might have collected it with interest? So you can see all three of these servants were probably
00:36:38.880 a little nervous about what to do. These people that worked for him. And, but some of them,
00:36:44.200 two of them said, okay, I'm going to take the risk. All right. And because I think this would
00:36:52.540 be the right thing to do. If I wasn't afraid of the man, this is what I would do. Well, this other
00:36:57.400 guy, he didn't want to take any risk. But what's happened here? The parable here is that God is
00:37:04.820 honoring our dutifulness, our obedience, but sometimes that carries risk. So think about that.
00:37:13.640 But thank you for joining me today. I hope you have a great day. I hope to see a lot of you
00:37:17.180 at Share the Arrows next weekend. Talk to you later.
00:37:22.540 We'll see you next time.