ALL OF A SUDDEN MEN CARE ABOUT BODY POSITIVITY Ft. Barrett Pall ｜ Drew Afualo ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION 50
Summary
On this episode of the Comment Section Show, Drew and Drew are joined by the one and only Barrett Paul to talk about how they met, how they got started with the podcast, and how they became friends. They also talk about what it's like being a millennial in a male-dominated industry.
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Oh, bummer. That sucks. It's almost like we knew it. He's a bad person?
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Shocking. Hey, everyone, and welcome back to another very special episode of the Comment
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Section Show. Why is this one episode, you may ask? Why is this one special, you may ask?
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And I will tell you why. First, it's our 50th episode. Yay. And second, we have the one and
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the only Barrett Paul. Hi, y'all. Hi, gorgeous. It's so nice to see you again in person. Yes,
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same. Me and Barrett go way back. We do. Way, way back. We grew up together on the app.
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You grew a lot more than me, but you know, that's another story. But yes, I'm an OG. 700K
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is where I started to follow. Yes. You've seen me from the beginning, girl. I'm so proud of you
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from when you were sitting in that car and they just would not let you pop off to sitting into
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that office that you call it. Yeah. Love it. My office, the one and only. I'm so incredibly honored
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and happy to have you here. Thank you, really. Barrett and I talk about it a lot offline,
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but we are some of the only people who get what it feels like to do our very, very niche
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content. This is very, very true. It is so incredibly specific. It is. And the niche is needed. I think
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so. It's been a long time of a certain group of humans, cishet men, being awful to everyone,
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including themselves. Yeah. Including other men. Yeah. Absolutely. And it's, you know,
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I'm a love and light kind of person, but sometimes people need to taste their own medicine. Yeah. And
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I'm the medicine. It's me. It's literally me. I think that's why we were drawn to each other so
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quickly. Yeah. Because we are two sides of the same coin. Absolutely. Maybe very different sides,
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but still. Yeah. I think we're the good cop, bad cop. That's what I would say. It's true. I know
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you're into Zodiacs. Yes. I'm a Pisces, so I have that two fish thing going on. You're like my other
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fish. You're so emotional. That's why. I mean, Avi, clearly. I love that. You know what's so funny?
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When I was talking, I was talking mad shit on Twitter once because I was starting a Capricorn
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hay train. You say this like, I don't know. I literally am a fan. My literal, like, my cross to bear
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is Capricorn hate. However, I ask people like, what's like the sign that you guys get? Like
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immediately when you hear it, you're like, lots of Pisces men. My dad's a Pisces though. So that's
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why my experience with Pisces has only ever been positive. Pisces men to an extent. I haven't
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known every man's sign that I've come across, although I wish I did. But my dad's a Pisces
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and he's wonderful. Look, there is good and bad in everything. I think so. That's just the
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way of the world. Yeah. I also think that realistically, when you break apart gender
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and sexuality, you start to see what works, what doesn't, what's toxic, what's not. And
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this is why I don't really identify with the word man as much as I used to. But, you know,
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at the end of the day, I still like to represent as a healthy man. There you go. Same with like
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the men in my life. I think a lot of times men who hate me, they are constantly like, oh,
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well, you know, that's probably fatherless behavior. You know, they say the same shit
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like, oh, she didn't have a male figure. I actually had like the best male figures in
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my life. That's why I am the way I am today. I think it's a big reason.
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Yeah. You've learned not to take shit. Yeah. And I, unfortunately, a lot of women have been,
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I use this word very specifically, groomed to take shit. Yeah. Well, and it's also another,
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another, it's a testament to, to, I think like what you see, um, and like what you're exposed to.
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So like my, my view of what a real man should be has always been very different from what these men
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act like in the wild, which they're feral, feral, they are, they're disgusting. That's another reason
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why I think you and I kind of took up this mantle a little bit about like attacking men essentially
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for the things that they say, like holding them accountable for the things that they say,
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because I was blown away to see how comfortable some men were platforming their bigotry like that.
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Yes. Blown away, bitch. I can't believe it. When I came onto TikTok, it was during the pandemic.
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I did not have any plans on doing it. Same. Someone was like, you really should do this. Like
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social media is a part of your job already. And then like, you're going to get left behind. And I was
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like, I don't want to get left behind. I'll like check out this thing, see what's going on.
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Yeah. Cause I thought it was a kid's app where people were just like dancing. I thought so too.
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I was like, I'm too old for this. I'm geriatric for this app. If you're geriatric that I am in the
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ground. I am dusty already. But I got on there and like, you know, it's figuring me out very
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quickly. Thought I was a lesbian, which I was like, thank you. I appreciate that. Um, and then I started
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to see the like very obvious misogyny. Yeah. And it was really bad. It's like 20. It's still
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is, but like in 2020, 2021, especially girl. Yes. You couldn't go like two or three swipes
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without seeing someone talk about it or like confront it or anything like that. Totally.
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And I was just like, I, I'm a guy's girl. Like my best friends, my whole life have been
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girls when I was little women as an adult, my best friends, my people. And so like, it's
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very personal for me. Yeah. Um, and I was just shocked that there wasn't like a lot of people
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doing it. And so like, I made one video and I was like, this is just obvious to me. And
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then it went like, and I was like, Oh, okay. I guess this is needed. Yeah. That was, well,
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I think that's another reason why, um, both of us like started to kind of tap this one
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market because it's just unbelievable. Like the things we were talking about it earlier,
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like the things that we have seen on TikTok that we haven't talked about, like there are
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some like, believe it or not, we are very selective with the things we choose to show.
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Exactly. This is where this starts today. It starts here. It's it, we're very, and I'm
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very, very selective. And I know you are too. Cause we've talked about it about what we choose
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to stitch and what we don't, because there are some things that I just truly will. I refuse
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to give a platform to because it's just that horrid. Like you would not even believe some people
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are like, uh, they ask, I'm sure you get this question all the time too. Like, how do you do
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it? Like, how do you like stitch that kind of content all the time? And like, how do you
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not let it affect you? That kind of thing. Yes. And for me, I feel like, well, obviously
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it's affect, it's, it affects you in a way that you're like, that's so horrible. And I
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can't believe people feel that way. But I think for me too, it, it almost like it's, I was
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describing this to my boyfriend literally the other day. I was like, it like validates me
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because I was right. And as a Virgo, I love to be right. So like, I love the fact that
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I was right about how most men are horrible. Yeah. I was right. There you go. Here's proof.
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One thousand percent. And it's crazy too, because I've really done this like case study
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anthropologic looking at the apps. Yeah. And some of these guys don't start off this way
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and then they start to like phase a little bit that way. And the video pops and then they're
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like, I'm going to keep on this train because now I'm getting views and followers. I'm like,
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this isn't going to be lucrative for you. And it doesn't, it never sustains. It doesn't,
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but it's wild to see how quickly they're okay with jumping on the bandwagon. What a bitch.
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Like, like what a bitch thing to do is what I think you have no spine. You're honestly a
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coward. That's what you are. I say that all the time. Like, and I know exactly what you're
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talking about because we see it, you and I see it all the time. Like the way that some
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dudes will be making content about rocks. And then one day they're like, this is why
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I hate Barrett and Drew. Huh? Or just women. Yeah. Just women in general. We really jumped
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there. You have those too though. Like, I can't even, like some dudes, like I, I'm not
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kidding. Their whole niche was like talking about animals. And then one day they just are
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like, I, I hate this bitch. Hey, I hate this fat bitch. And it's like, what? Yep.
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What? Here's a little tip for you terrible men out there. If you hate me and you haven't,
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no one's found out yet, don't, don't let them find out. Once the girls find out, they're
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going to leave you in the dust, bitch. I can promise you that. This is the craziest part
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to me because majority of the men that strongly hate both of us claim they like women. Claim
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it. Allegedly. Allegedly. Yeah. I'm like, if you liked women, you think you might maybe
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smartly, I don't know, smartly even a word as I'm trying to be all smart. It would be
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smart to maybe listen to the people who they trust and are a part of their community and
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maybe not the ones that are going to jail. Oh, bummer. That sucks. It's almost like we
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knew it. Yeah. Oh, he's a bad person. Shocking. What? What? What? What? You're telling me
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someone that encourages you to hit women isn't a good person to women? And admits it online?
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What? What? Girl. It's silly. Go to hell. That's what I always think. I feel the same
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way too about like men who, and I've kind of talked about this also, but men who play
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the f***ing fence. So they'll say things like. You mean libertarians? I mean, yeah, they're
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like, well, see, I don't like what he said, but at the same time. Nope. Stop right there.
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Right. Stop right in your tracks, bitch. You don't like what he said, but you hate what
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I said more. Why? Yeah. And I always say, if you keep going and unpacking it like a little
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Russian doll that it is, at the very center point, you're a bigot. That's what ends up
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being in the center every single time. That's the common thread, bitches. That's the candy
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center to that chocolate, babe. Every single time. Like, and I'm never wrong. Neither of us
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are. And there, and that also operates under the assumption that all men hate me, which
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is just not true. Look, here's proof, proof that not all men hate me. And it's also, and
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even so, like, there are many men who have made content or become mutuals. Like, they've
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made content defending me or they've become mutuals with me because they're talking about
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how they understand, like, why I make content the way that I do. And you're one of the first
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men to, with a platform, to, like, back my messaging too. A thousand percent. Yeah. Again,
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Big Brother vibes for everyone. You, I have, like, just such a fondness too, because I know
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how hard it is. Yeah, literally. I do. And, like, I think people. There's not many creators
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that get it. No. And I think people really take it for granted. And, like, you said something
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once where, like, am I supposed to just be the court gesture, like, all the time where it's
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like, you really put yourself out there in a way. We're going to get serious for a moment.
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That, like, I don't think people truly understand. It comes with dangerous, f***ing crazy people.
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Yeah, it does. And it's one of those things where it's like, the jokes and everything are
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what make it palatable, but the messaging is always serious. And that's why I'm always
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like, if you listen carefully to what it is I'm saying, you'll hear it. Because I don't
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just make jokes. Like, that's part of it. You are so f***ing smart. You are. Like, you
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are. Thank you. Thanks. You guys heard it here first. But that's also another thing
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that I don't feel drawn to prove. Totally. Because I'm going to prove that I'm smart to
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a dude that doesn't respect me as a human. No. Totally. I'm wasting my time. I'm just
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going to tell you you're ugly. There you go. Done. Done. And speaking of ugly, that's going
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to bring us to our topic today. Being a bully online. I'm so glad I'm here for this episode.
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I feel like you've been called a bully too. I'm always called a bully. Oh my gosh. All
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the time. All the time. And like, that drives me insane. I was bullied so bad growing up
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by actual bullies. Really? Every day of my life. Yeah. Through college, people bullied
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me. Really? At NYU, where it's like liberal and like fun and New York. Of all the places.
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Yes. Literally. Yes. And the crazy part for me was seeing it come from like, again, men in
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my own community where I was like, I'm on your team, guys. Like, I'm rooting for you.
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Me and the pygmy girls. I'm like, pour one out for her. She's gone. I can't save them
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all, bitch. Like, I'm trying, but my life rough's getting crowded and there's no room
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for mutiny on this boat. Get the fuck off. We're going down. It's either all of us or
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you. Goodbye. Yeah. Literally. I'm like, it's either you or everybody else. I'm kicking you
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off the island. You know what I mean? Like, that's, that's literally me too. I've said
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that too. I'm like, we're on the same side, girl. I'm fighting for you. I'm fighting for
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everybody. Even the awful men. Like, at the end of the day, I'm still in the understanding
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that like, patriarchy, toxic masculinity, it hurts all of us. It does. It's true. That's
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why I'm just like, why do you not get it? And the way they react to you versus me is so laced
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with misogyny that I'm like, it's so clear and obvious now. Racism. Oh my God. So much.
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That's another reason. So much. Every time I bring that up, they're like, why do you always
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have to bring race? Because it's true. Because it matters. What do you mean why? Like, what
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do you mean? Like, it's the girl, only a white man would say that shit. But that's another
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reason why I feel like you and I are on the same wavelength all the time because we get
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treated, we get treated much differently for the way that we choose to react to bigotry
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as opposed to the bigotry itself, which is something I will never understand. Like, even
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if, okay, let's say you just remove bigotry at all, right? If someone's rude to you or hurts
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you in any way, why are you not allowed to hurt the mech? Whether it's with words or
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whatever it may be. Why, why is that on me to make you feel comfortable for being awful
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There has been no real change in this world through revolution that was not because you
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didn't match their energy and fight fire with fire.
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And I know that's hard for people to hear. And again, I am about positivity and gratitude
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and kindness. Yeah. But we have had enough of the same bullshit and no change. No shit.
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And we're told to like, be nice to them, understand where they're coming from. And I'm like, they
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need to have that mentality on the flip. No, no, seriously. I'm like, well, maybe if you
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came correct in the first place, I wouldn't have had to hurt your feelings. Like I, I don't
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do that to just anybody. Oh, you mean you don't like the way this feels? That's crazy.
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When they call me fat and then I go, okay, well, your nipples are saggy. They're like,
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why would you comment on that body? Why would you do that? What about, what if he had body
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What about all the people watching this that, that identify like him? They know it's not
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If that's the, you know, what's so funny is one time this guy made this horrible video
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about me. Like he made this video about me basically saying like he, he would use my videos
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as torture. Right. And I'm like, okay, weirdo. Like that's your idea of a joke. That's weird.
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And then, um, in the comments they were saying the most like racist, fat phobic, terrible things
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about me. Oh, I see it. He was liking, laughing, kiki all up in the comments. Right. So I saved
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the video. I put it on Twitter and I made fun of him. And I said, cause he had pictures of
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himself. Shocker. When you comment on other people's looks, if I open that profile and I don't
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see Bella Hadid, I'm going to hurt your feelings, bitch. That's just a promise that I've made.
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And everybody knows that about me. This is well into my platform. This is not a secret.
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No. And so I literally talked about, like, I talked about his body the way he talked about
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mine. And then a lot of men were like, what if he has this? What if he has this medical
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condition? What if he has this? Mind you, fast forward. I go, do you, did you guys confirm
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that? Or are you just making that up? And even if he did, what gives him, if I listen,
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make sure your house is clean before you check other people's. You know what I mean?
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Don't, have you ever heard of glass sound? Like living in a glass house and throwing stones?
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People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
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Crazy. So fast forward, like months later, this guy, like, I guess found out, I don't
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know if he just logged off forever and then came back online.
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I mean, you do scare them offline. I love that about you. I just get them deleted.
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He had no idea that, like, these men were saying that about him. Like, oh, I bet you
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he has this medical condition. Like, they were diagnosing him. And he made a video going,
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I don't have that condition. The fact that you guys are saying that is fucked up. Like,
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Yeah. I was like, uno reverse, I guess the argument ate itself, didn't it? As it looks
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like you guys don't actually care about people with that medical condition. You're just trying
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And that's what it is. They don't actually care.
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Not at all. It's about every, like, that's why I said, all of a sudden you guys care about that
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shit. All of a sudden, huh? Like, body positivity to men like that is considered promoting obesity
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until I say that their chest is so concave if I knocked on it, his heart would shoot out
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his back like a front door. Like, literally, the minute I say that, they're all about, what
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about body positivity? What about loving ourselves exactly the way we are?
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And that's the craziest part. Like, you see them have, like, this affinity and, like, kindness
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for each other, but then spin it and throw it at everybody else. You're like, don't you
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As soon as I come for them, they so quickly develop empathy. So quickly. All of a sudden,
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they're like, oh, but what about him? What about his feelings? What about his family? What
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about it? What about it, bitch? What about it? I'm like, oh, I don't care. I don't care
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Yeah. Yeah. Maybe, uh, maybe if he wanted me to care so deeply about his personal seated
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issues, he wouldn't be attacking other people's. Like, and it's like, it's just the most common,
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like, you can, I can do it, but you're not allowed to do it.
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Same. And it also, what enrages me the most is, is I think the way that the way that the
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they pick on such vulnerable people. Yes. And they attack those that didn't say anything
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to them, never commented towards them. Like, we're just online, like having fun and trying
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to find community and like find some joy in like a hard place. Yeah, literally. And then
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when they say that and I comment, they're like, what? So you just into body shaming? That's
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what I always get. And I'm always like, um, it doesn't feel very good to have a stranger
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comment on your physique, does it? Maybe you should remember that next time you do it. Maybe
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you should put that in your notes on your phone. Yeah. Maybe you should like put that on your
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vision board, bitch. Along with growing hair. So. Hey, it's me again. Back to talk to y'all
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Okay, so what we're going to be talking about today is basically being a bully,
00:21:39.680
but most likely it's what it actually is, is holding people accountable for their actions.
00:21:44.340
And standing up for yourself and your community.
00:21:46.340
And helping other people stand up for themselves. Like, that's all me and Barrett do, to be
00:21:53.940
Okay, so for those of you that don't know, what we do here on the comment section is we
00:21:57.400
bring videos that I was tagged in, we bring them here, applicable to our topic, and we
00:22:01.080
kiki and we laugh and we share all the giggles about it.
00:22:04.380
So, this first TikTok, I just give little summaries of them. In this video, a man films a video
00:22:10.360
of himself in his apartment hallway, which has a weird, narrow metal doorway that's still
00:22:20.140
Yeah, I make all the girls that come home with me fit through this, because if they
00:22:24.640
can't fit, they probably shouldn't be coming home with me.
00:22:26.880
You know what's funny is I saw a comment on there and said, on this video, first of
00:22:32.540
all, this guy's getting eaten alive. Talk about someone who wasn't making this kind
00:22:36.700
Exactly. And he had already had, like, a platform.
00:22:40.860
That's essentially what it is. He's also, like, since those videos have blown up and,
00:22:44.720
like, almost all the comments are me. He's been like, yeah, please stitch me. Please
00:22:49.720
stitch me. So, I won't. I don't stitch men who beg me. Get off your knees, bitch, is
00:22:53.580
what I have to say to that. But before that, I saw someone comment and they said, I don't
00:22:57.800
ever have to worry about this, because I actually own my home. I was like, damn, that's a word,
00:23:02.800
bitch. Speak a word, bitch. I love that. What I love, though, is that I think since you and
00:23:08.080
I have, and other people, too, have been kind of making this kind of content, I feel like
00:23:14.020
a lot of times people make fun of them themselves now and don't internalize it, which is the ultimate
00:23:19.720
goal at the end of the day. Exactly. I'm like, once you can do what we do on your
00:23:23.800
own, I'm like, the student has become the teacher. I am here for it. My job here is
00:23:29.160
done. Yes. Like Thanos, I'm like, and now I rest. I retired to a planet with half my face
00:23:34.360
burned off. That's what I'm going to do. The thing about this one specifically, one, he
00:23:39.420
doesn't fit through it himself. Very well. No, he, like, literally is, like, squeezing
00:23:43.720
through. And then, of course, it's because I'm six, too, and I'm like, bring out the
00:23:47.620
measuring tape. Give me both. And the other thing about that one that I thought was particularly
00:23:52.360
funny is he literally stole that joke from another one that I had profiled a couple months
00:23:56.500
ago. Oh, yeah. It's always. It's the regurgitation of awful. It's copy paste. It really is. And
00:24:02.040
then he made the follow up with, like, the scale. The scale, yeah. That's, you're not
00:24:05.540
original, not even a little bit. Fat jokes are not funny. They're not funny. And I feel like
00:24:09.380
because I can say what I want here and not get my video taken down, I'm going to say
00:24:12.200
what I want. He looks like a billy goat that's, like, been spit up, chewed out, and then billy
00:24:17.720
goaded again. Like, it's wild to me how hot these men think they are. And this is part
00:24:24.540
of what I love about being a queer man. Because, like, you know, they go after women and, like,
00:24:28.740
I wouldn't sleep with her. I'm like, we're not trying to sleep with each other either
00:24:31.660
way, but I can tear you apart and you have nothing really to say back to me about my love,
00:24:35.100
so suck it. Even me, like, they would say that to me and I'm like, okay, well. Do you
00:24:40.780
think I want to go home with you? Yeah, you're ugly, so. Yeah. Okay. Love. Love that for
00:24:49.220
us. I guess we're platonic friends for life, aren't we? That's what I always, and then
00:24:53.220
when you say that back, they're like, see, that's messed up, because blah, blah, blah.
00:24:58.320
I thought we were talking about who we're not attracted to. Exactly. I'm not attracted to
00:25:01.000
you. Exactly. Not even a little bit. You didn't have to open your mouth for me to decide that
00:25:04.640
you disgust me. I didn't need to hear anything come out of your mouth. But now that I have,
00:25:08.640
double no. Exclamation point, we're done. Yeah. It's almost like, okay. That's why
00:25:14.540
sometimes when they say, oh, you're so fat, I just go, okay. I mean, my favorites, I just
00:25:19.900
get fag. I'm like, and you told who, what, they didn't know what? You said, who told you?
00:25:24.440
Yeah. Crazy. What? Was it obvious? I didn't know. Thank you for letting me know. Who told
00:25:30.220
you that? Last night, some guy commented on one of my things, literally my video from yesterday,
00:25:35.300
he commented, I feel sorry for the buffet that she's been eating all of, or some shit
00:25:42.020
like that. Like, real tween type shit. And then I just wrote back, is that your mom's
00:25:47.080
name? Oh, is that your mom's name? And he was like, no, I'm talking about, like, explaining
00:25:53.600
it to me. I'm like, oh, for two, bitch. You want to try again? Or no? Swing and I miss,
00:25:57.600
hoe. My favorites went, like, in my little bit more spicy time before I, like, had to
00:26:03.240
think more about what I was saying because of, you know, the moderation and all. One of
00:26:08.160
my favorite ending lines was, like, tell your mom and your dad I say hi. Because, like,
00:26:11.640
I'm into it. Either or, bitch. I'm going to take them all. Exactly. Honestly, I'll take
00:26:14.220
your girl, too. That's what I think all the time. I say that all the time and I mean that
00:26:17.440
shit. I mean that with my whole chest, bitch. I've said to, like, this one guy was telling
00:26:23.980
me, oh, I was posting about a photo shoot I had done or whatever. It was just like a
00:26:28.660
cute little video. Slay. Slay. Don't minimize. It was like a total thing. Yeah. And he was
00:26:35.580
like, I guess they'll give anyone photo shoots nowadays. And I just wrote back, not you.
00:26:41.940
What are you going to say to that? Like, what are you going to say? Like, where's yours
00:26:45.960
then, bitch? Like, if it's so easy and so. I know. Just like, why would they? I saw
00:26:51.420
this guy tweeted about me when I hosted Black Adam. This guy tweeted about me and was like,
00:26:57.040
but he didn't tag me. He just wrote my name. Because they're afraid. Yeah. They are f***ing
00:27:00.600
afraid. I've said this before. You got to think of me like Varys from Game of Thrones. Like,
00:27:06.180
I have little birds everywhere. They are stoned everywhere, bitch. If you talk about me, they're
00:27:09.980
going to find it and they're going to send it to me. Same. Yes. They will send it to
00:27:12.680
me no matter where it is. I once got something sent to me from a
00:27:15.940
Facebook DM, but it was like they were in Japan. Like, they literally found it, sent
00:27:20.900
it to me because they were like trying to send it to me through multiple channels. Girl,
00:27:25.660
I have my little soldiers stationed all over the earth. That's what I'm saying. So I think
00:27:30.400
that he had, someone had sent it to me and he's like, why would they ever let this, this
00:27:35.600
stupid fat bitch do this? And I was like, I don't know, because I f*** your dad. I don't
00:27:41.100
know what you want me to say, bitch. Is your dad not the CEO of Warner Brothers?
00:27:44.180
The projection is just crazy. It's so, and like, once you see it, and this is what I
00:27:48.460
love because I do like to have education in my stuff, as do you. And our approaches are
00:27:52.380
similar. Yeah. Very. Once you see it, you can't not see it. And that's my, like, as you were
00:27:58.400
saying, when your audience, when your followers, I call my little love army. Yeah. When they
00:28:03.080
see it and they can start saying it for themselves, I'm like, we've done our job. Yeah. That's
00:28:06.520
the best way to like repay us for what it is we do. Uh, and all the things that we've
00:28:13.900
had to go through as content creators, especially in this like particular niche, uh, the, the
00:28:19.860
greatest gift you could give me is like understanding that you don't need us. Like someone asked me
00:28:25.860
once, like, what's your greatest fear about doing this for a living? And I was like, other
00:28:29.940
than just general terrible people, I would say I told her, I was like, my fear is that
00:28:35.180
sometimes I think people think they won't be able to do this without me. Yeah. Which
00:28:38.320
is just not true. Yeah. Like you, I've more than equipped y'all with like enough ammo
00:28:45.020
totally to get you started, but more than any, as far as like insulting them back. But as
00:28:50.320
far as like understanding that nothing they say holds any weight should not validate you
00:28:55.000
in any way your validation comes from within and that's it. That's like my biggest, biggest
00:28:59.500
win. That's like the only thing I care about you guys taking away other than like general
00:29:03.360
funnies. Like agreed. I'll give you a few, five standard insults that work on everyone
00:29:07.680
and then every man. And then like from there you can fly my little birdie. I tell everyone
00:29:13.180
I'm like, look, my series and like the little things I've made, like they're not mine. Make
00:29:17.240
your own. I would love to see people make stuff that's like straight guys aren't straight
00:29:20.800
or like any of my little fun series because it's, it's you showing me that it makes sense
00:29:25.440
to you and I want it to feel like a community and I. And empowering.
00:29:29.500
Yes. And it's nice to not feel like you're, I don't want to say carrying it, but like
00:29:33.940
there's a lot of weight on your shoulders, you know?
00:29:36.720
Yeah. Well, and to know that like any, if, if I were to ever like move away from TikTok
00:29:42.700
completely, I'm not saying that's what I'm going to do, but like if that were to ever
00:29:46.820
Don't worry. Papa's not going anywhere anytime soon.
00:29:51.300
But it's more so like it gives you the power and strength to know that you could handle it
00:29:55.320
on your own. And you can very much so if you wanted to, and you could do it on your own.
00:29:58.880
And there's many other creators like us, like Kaylin Eastley, who's so great.
00:30:04.140
But she makes similar content to us too. There's so many creators like us. We didn't invent
00:30:07.460
making fun of men, which we say all the time. It's more so we just made it fun.
00:30:13.440
Yeah. We made it fun. We share a lot of kiki and fun time about it. Okay. So let's get
00:30:18.140
into these comments. So this one says, anyone who's mad at this are the same exact people
00:30:23.040
saying if he's not six feet tall, if he doesn't have this amount of money, if he doesn't look
00:30:27.480
like this hypocritical ass hoes. Who said that? The only people I've ever seen say that
00:30:37.000
They've done street interviews with random drunk girls on the street and they've asked
00:30:42.100
them, would you didn't matter if he was under six feet? And they've got, they go, uh, I
00:30:46.480
mean, yeah, if he's nice, like in the wild bitch, they found women and they're like at
00:30:50.940
their most vulnerable state when they're f***ed up and they don't, they wouldn't remember.
00:30:54.800
They could easily be like, never. I only want, hey, hey, sure. And you know, that's what
00:30:59.460
they're trying to get out of them. Exactly. It's never with pure intention. Never. No, never.
00:31:03.700
Street interviews are rancid. The only person I trust to do those is Chris Clemens. That's
00:31:07.460
it. And I think like with that, like mentality, that is only men passing that down. Like you're
00:31:14.600
not getting that info from women. You're only getting it from men.
00:31:19.780
And I am proudly not six feet tall. I think everyone thinks I am because I used to be a
00:31:23.380
model. And the amount of women that were like, if you played for our team, I'm like,
00:31:28.820
well, little do you know, I, I'm a fair game player. Um, but it's true. Like, again, this
00:31:34.780
is just a narrative that's been passed down by men that like, and I constantly call it
00:31:38.100
out. I'm like, who do you think wants that gym body versus your awful personality? Yeah.
00:31:43.240
Like that's coming from other dudes. That's a male gaze. Well, and it, and it also perpetuates
00:31:47.840
this never listening to women when they say things because women will tell you like as
00:31:53.420
a tall, like for me specifically, I can speak for myself. I'm tall. I'm a tall bitch. So
00:31:57.280
I wanted someone to at least as tall as me because I'm tall. So I want someone tall or taller
00:32:03.320
than me, but I'm the exception. Not many women are as tall as me. So that's why I'm
00:32:08.880
like, you're fine. Like if you're a short King by all means, not only that, but when
00:32:14.120
I was dating, do you think that stopped short dudes from trying to hit my line? No, never
00:32:19.300
because men like that don't give a shit. That's all they are. Yes. I, I only cared
00:32:23.540
because I'm tall. So I was like, well, I would prefer them to be taller than me. I was
00:32:27.280
never like, I would never date someone short. I've never said that. The whole preference
00:32:32.260
thing is just really a smoke screen for bigotry and hate. Truly it is. Especially when you
00:32:37.000
put it out online, like it's one thing in your own personal life. Like, yeah. If
00:32:39.780
you're unpacking it, unpack it privately. Yeah, totally. No one's asked you to come
00:32:43.440
online and tell us what your laundry list of preferences are where you do not match
00:32:46.560
up to those things. Yeah. Not only that, but if you really think about it, why don't
00:32:52.260
women like short men, right? Okay. One side of it could be beauty standards. Who made
00:32:56.460
those? Other men. Okay. Other men are the ones who have said you have to be tall to be
00:33:01.740
considered manly. That's because of y'all. That's one. Two, a lot of times short men
00:33:08.600
are horrible. Totally. Why? Because they have what's called the Napoleon complex. Look
00:33:14.200
it up if you don't know it. It's important. A short man syndrome. That's literally a
00:33:17.960
psychological thing that they have because their toxic masculinity has entrenched them
00:33:23.380
in this hatred towards themselves. Totally. So they act out. And a lot of times they're
00:33:27.880
extremely misogynistic or bigoted in general, or they're just downright terrible. Yes.
00:33:34.420
Does that, does that mean that every man over six feet is not awful? No, not even a little,
00:33:39.580
not even a little bit. But a lot of times if women are like, okay, well if I'm going to,
00:33:43.740
if they're all bad, if they're all trash, I want to date a tall piece of trash. Like if
00:33:49.140
you're all going to be horrible, at least be tall. My whole thing is if they're all
00:33:52.280
horrible, then maybe don't date for a minute. That's what I'm saying. Date yourself. This
00:33:56.080
ring, married myself. Oh, love. Yeah. Look at you. I did a whole thing with Ryan Seacrest
00:34:00.700
about this. It was so funny. He could not grasp it. And I was like, love you, Ryan.
00:34:05.060
Ryan Seacrest, when I did his show, he had to practice my name a few times before I went on
00:34:08.680
air. It's not that hard. It's really not. I mean, it's, it's jarring to look at, but it's
00:34:14.240
pretty phonetically sound like it's said exactly how it looks. So it's off wallow. That's what
00:34:19.440
it is. But I sometimes, yeah, he's nice though. He is super nice. Super nice. Yeah. Good things
00:34:25.040
to say only. But to rewind and go back to what you were just talking about, even the Napoleon
00:34:29.260
complex comes because they feel like they have to compete with other men, which is coming
00:34:32.960
from the men. Yes. That's why I said all roads lead back to Jerusalem, bitch. That's on
00:34:37.360
you. That's true. Take it up with your peers. That's literally why women have those thoughts
00:34:42.240
in the first place. What else did this guy talk about? Money. Again, that's on y'all.
00:34:48.300
Yeah. Like, and also if you're broke, okay, don't be awful. You gotta pick one. You can't
00:34:57.040
have zero dollars and zero personality. You gotta pick one, bitch. It's true. And like,
00:35:01.740
it's not hard to not be awful. It really isn't. It takes more energy, in my opinion, to be awful.
00:35:07.220
I was just going to say, it's a lot harder to be terrible. Yes. It's a lot more taxing
00:35:11.820
to be terrible. It's exhausting. It is. It's so exhausting. And I would know because I'm
00:35:16.560
terrible to men online all the time. We have like touches of what it feels like. And exactly.
00:35:21.100
That's a choice that I make. That's an active choice I'm making. But my factory settings
00:35:25.460
are all like me being nice because not everyone is terrible in my own personal life. Nobody's
00:35:31.420
terrible in my own personal life. So, so annoying. And if he doesn't look like this, well,
00:35:36.900
that's just looks and beauty is subjective. Amen. We talk about that all the time. Beauty
00:35:42.020
is subjective. It's not the same per person. Everybody has a different idea of what they
00:35:45.960
find to be beautiful. Totally. What I find absolutely insane behavior is to comment on what other people
00:35:53.340
find beautiful. Like, for example, if you see like, um, if you see people in love and you're
00:35:59.640
not attracted to one of those people, who gives a shit what you think? That's not your love.
00:36:04.200
You're also single. Redirect the energy. Yeah. Point it towards you. Like, that's why someone's
00:36:10.280
like, I feel bad for him. Whenever I post videos with my boyfriend and then I go, are you in a
00:36:14.760
relationship? And they always go, no. And I go, then feel bad for yourself. That's the craziest
00:36:18.880
part. Like all these dating coaches that are single. I don't get it. Hold on. I want to talk
00:36:23.780
about something. I want to kiki about this. Let's kiki. I'm excited. This like whole like high
00:36:29.420
value man thing. Market, stocks, this, that. Oh my God. The way that they're like number
00:36:35.100
one online dating coach. According to who? Forbes? No? Also, how are all of you the number
00:36:39.780
one dating coach? There can't be that many number ones. There's no way. Oh my gosh.
00:36:43.820
There was this one guy who I did a while ago who was older and he, I think you even saw
00:36:48.540
this. You may have even talked about him. Maybe. I think there was a point where like when
00:36:53.120
one person caught wind, we all kind of caught wind and it wasn't even on purpose. It was just
00:36:56.520
like all of a sudden there they were. Yeah. But he had a book that was like how to be 5% more man
00:37:00.580
or something. And I just died. That was like the end of the video. Just only five. Yeah. That's all
00:37:04.820
you can achieve. Says it all for us. Yeah. Five more percent. What if you're at five? Then you just
00:37:11.240
elevate to 10, I guess. Shit out of luck. Yeah. I don't know. Jeez Louise. I, I also like, no, this,
00:37:16.600
this, this energy, like high value man, this low value woman, this like masculine, this feminine,
00:37:23.920
this. Yeah. It's fake. Yeah. None of that's real. When they talk about high value, this
00:37:29.000
masculine energy, that none of that shit is real. It's not real. None of it's real. You
00:37:33.460
know what's real? Climate change. You know what's real? The economy going south, bitch.
00:37:37.800
You know what's real? Racism. You know what's real? Homophobia. All of those things are real.
00:37:42.620
Those things are real. Focus on the real world. The way that I'm like some of you could literally
00:37:47.640
like, oh my God, I like don't know how you pay bills. How do you pay bills? How do you put
00:37:51.880
on your shoes? I don't get it. How do you feed yourself when you walk around thinking
00:37:54.840
like that all the time? It's, it's just so wild to me how literally the people who aren't
00:37:59.820
going on dates are the ones telling everyone else how they're supposed to get dates. And
00:38:02.880
every time you ask, they go, no, I'm not, no. I mean, not in a relationship currently.
00:38:07.100
What are we talking about then? Like, what are we talking about? And I want you all to remember
00:38:11.080
this too. You should never take advice from someone who doesn't have the life that you
00:38:15.080
want. Amen. Ever. Yes. Don't ever listen to someone. If they don't, if they're not like. Wait,
00:38:20.540
I brought all the flags. Oh, there you go. That deserves a green one. Where's the flag?
00:38:26.180
Beautiful. Look at that. That's what I'm saying. I'm like a collar guard today. If they have,
00:38:30.340
if they have nothing that you want, why are you listening to them? Yeah. Don't internalize
00:38:34.820
it. Don't hold on to it. It's worthless. It truly is. And be mindful of the covertness
00:38:41.320
of some of the misogyny or homophobia. Because again, like, you know, some people start off
00:38:45.580
sounding kind of okay. And then you listen for the full three minute video and you're
00:38:49.840
like, oh, there it was. That's how I feel about the masculine feminine energy video.
00:38:54.600
I can't stand that stuff. I kicked a whole different hornet's nest, bitch, when I did
00:38:58.780
that. Oh my God. The way that the spiritual white girls were like, oh, actually. Gender's
00:39:04.320
a construct. It's a man-made invention. It's not real. Like, it's not, again, speaking of things
00:39:09.420
that are not real. Like, I could sit here and tell you all about the pet dragon I had,
00:39:13.240
but it's not real. It's fake. Both of them hold the exact same weight because they're,
00:39:17.220
yes, they're things that have been created and then like brainwashed into culture. You
00:39:24.340
know what I mean? It's not real. It's not tangible. It's programming to make you hate
00:39:29.160
yourself because when you hate yourself, you are more likely to buy stuff to make yourself
00:39:33.540
feel better. I was going to say, capitalism is a huge part of that too. Exactly. And when
00:39:37.420
you love yourself, you are not as easily duped into buying crap you don't need. Yeah. Or
00:39:43.720
listening to people that don't know what the hell they're talking about. Ding, ding, ding.
00:39:47.480
Which also costs money. Believe it or not, many of these online dating coaches are like,
00:39:52.160
don't forget to buy my book and my bio. Like, girl. Subscribe and follow and all the fun
00:39:57.140
things. It's the biggest scam of all scams. Just like gender is too. Totally. Like, we've
00:40:01.640
all adhered to a gender binary because of colonization and also religion.
00:40:07.100
You see how all those things are linked. Yeah. If you really like, it's honestly kooky if
00:40:13.140
you unpack it and you see how all of it is so closely tied. Like, religion, white supremacy,
00:40:18.940
colonization, racism, homophobia, all of that. Antisemitism, all of it. All of it is so deeply
00:40:24.940
ingrained, especially in American culture, because of colonization. 1000%. So it's like,
00:40:31.640
once you unpack all of it and you understand that none of this is real, like gender is not real
00:40:36.620
in sexuality is a spectrum, you understand you're like, oh, I don't need to be bothered by this
00:40:41.860
because it's not real. One of the most fun things for me recently is my fiance has started to like
00:40:46.160
lean into his own queerness. Oh, I love. Because, you know, we still as men deal with toxic masculinity
00:40:52.300
and thinking we're supposed to be like cis straight men. Yeah. Look a certain way. Yes.
00:40:57.280
Yes. Again, like I'm sitting here in like a lady's thrift store shirt and he has started to
00:41:01.880
really like find his vibe with just like fun clothing because it's fun. It's not gendered.
00:41:08.380
And it's clothing. Yes. Again, it doesn't mean anything. Like when I had Hina on, Hina's a
00:41:14.280
non-binary creator. Hina started talking about how like, I'm not going to congratulate you for
00:41:18.460
wearing a fucking skirt. I'm not going to do that. Like, cause it's a non-gendered piece of
00:41:23.040
clothing and you're not the first person who identifies as a man to wear a skirt. It's not
00:41:28.540
groundbreaking. No, it truly, truly is. Like, good for you, but you're not getting a high five.
00:41:34.040
And you're all, exactly. You're not going to get a pat on the back. And that's what I think too
00:41:37.360
about like bare minimum shit. Like when men say things like, oh. You picked up your own underwear.
00:41:41.800
Good job. It was your underwear on the floor. Yeah. Oh my God. Hold on. That just reminded me of
00:41:45.940
something I got tagged in. Kiki, let's go. We're, we're going to, we're going to keep
00:41:48.500
going. Did you see that video of the girl? Oh, in labor? No, no. But the one, she made
00:41:55.140
marks on her shower. No, I haven't seen this one. Like her tub. Okay. She made marks on
00:41:59.260
her tub where her boyfriend's like cleaning stuff was. So like soap, loofah. Okay. Right.
00:42:05.420
Like, I don't know. I think it was just. See if it like got moved? Yes. Because she said
00:42:09.640
she had a feeling he wasn't using soap in the shower, bitch. So then she goes, have
00:42:17.240
you washed your, like, did you shower? He goes, yeah. And she goes, did you wash
00:42:21.580
yourself? He goes, yeah. And then she goes and she looks in the shower and none of
00:42:25.240
this shit is moved. So you can't see the marks that she made underneath them. He's
00:42:29.080
like laughing and she's laughing and she's going, ha, ha, ha, ha. And he goes, I rinse
00:42:35.800
off with water. What? What? What? Look, I'm a dirty hippie at heart. Like I spent 45 days
00:42:44.800
in the woods hiking. Like I, I can vibe, but there comes a point where you need to clean
00:42:48.920
yourself. Also, why would you like turn on the water and just like dance in the bathroom
00:42:53.360
and then get out with your hair wet from the thing? What are you, a kid learning to brush
00:42:55.800
their teeth? Exactly what I was thinking. What are you insane? You put on an egg timer
00:42:59.040
and you're like, you better brush the whole time you're in there. What? You're doing
00:43:02.160
that to your 30 year old boyfriend? And the fact that people find it funny is kind of
00:43:06.500
heartbreaking for me. It is. It's so sad. Like, because you deserve better. It makes
00:43:12.760
you want to jump off a bridge, bitch. It makes me want to blow up the world because we're
00:43:16.780
doomed. Yeah. What are you, a deer? Why are you bathing like you're, you're in the
00:43:21.620
Himalayas and you have no access to running? Which is a privilege you should be grateful
00:43:25.580
for? Even when you take your dog to the groomer, they use soap, bitch. They use soap to clean
00:43:33.200
them and they're animals who can clean themselves and they still use soap. How are you not using
00:43:39.100
soap in your grown man's ass? How are you not using soap? Again, like dirty hippie vibes
00:43:43.600
over here to some extent. It's just part of being an adult to take care of yourself and
00:43:49.800
it helps you with like longevity and health. Do you have a job? Do you go to work with
00:43:54.760
a stank ass on purpose? Do they though? Do they? I couldn't tell you. Because the amount
00:43:59.100
of women that I see carrying men these days too, I'm like, girl, why are you doing this
00:44:01.800
to yourself? He was wearing basketball shorts and I said, I can only imagine what those
00:44:06.560
smell like, bitch. Oh my God. We all know that locker room. The way it's, I can only, the
00:44:13.860
toxic waste that is in those Chinese. I can't even imagine. I can't imagine. And I can't
00:44:19.400
relate. And I think to myself, that's toxic masculinity. It's gone too far, bitch. It's
00:44:25.340
gone too far. It's like literally toxic. It's like actually to me at that point. That's why
00:44:30.880
I think like at what point does it start to affect me? Because now I have to see. And
00:44:36.300
a lot of people in the comments were like, why are you laughing, girl? And like I was getting
00:44:41.240
like, what's so funny about finding out that your boyfriend hasn't been showering?
00:44:45.980
Unfortunately, it's the coping mechanism of being like, I don't know how to process this
00:44:48.980
any other way. And so I'm going to laugh at this. You share a living space. I know.
00:44:53.500
It's like that story. I think I told it on the show before, but I'm a Virgo. So I repeat
00:44:57.480
stories. I'm so sorry. But like there was one. Don't apologize for being yourself. Don't
00:45:02.240
apologize for being yourself. Oh my God. You're so real for that. There was this one girl
00:45:07.580
that told the story about how like when she was hooking up with this dude, they were
00:45:11.220
dating. And like, obviously when you like have sex, you're naked and he was sitting
00:45:15.740
on her bed. You are? You do it that way? You can be. What? Crazy. You sit like they
00:45:19.660
were naked in her bed and like he was sat up to like, you know, he was sitting on the
00:45:23.440
edge of her bed and then he stood up to get dressed. No. And she said there was poop.
00:45:27.460
No. On her sheets, bitch. No. The way that I would be like, hold on, give me one quick
00:45:33.560
sec, ball those up and then jump out the window holding them. Well, my question is, were
00:45:38.200
they doing something with the butt? Was there butt stuff? No. Or was it just him
00:45:40.860
being dirty? She said that. She said that. She goes, that wasn't, that wasn't me. That
00:45:46.520
was him. Like, and she said the first time she gave it a pass. Why? I don't know. But
00:45:54.100
then she said three more times. Every time he stood up, there was poop on her sheets.
00:46:01.920
Again, queer where, you know, you play with fire, you're going to get burned every now and
00:46:05.760
then. But that's not what the story sounds like. Yeah. And that's why she said she gave
00:46:09.400
him multiple chances. And then she said she asked him and he was like, oh, I don't wash
00:46:15.180
up there because that's gay. That drives me insane. It's gay to take care of your body.
00:46:21.300
Uh huh. You know what's more gay? Being afraid of your own butthole. And I'm convinced this
00:46:25.440
is a big problem of why toxic masculinity is. And I'm about to go on a rant. Men are afraid
00:46:30.380
of their own buttholes. I'm sure. Could you imagine not being aware of all parts of your body,
00:46:35.300
which then leads them to not get prostate checks, which causes cancer? That's that's
00:46:40.320
I mean, that's serious. That's a really good point. But then also, can you can you imagine
00:46:45.480
thinking that it makes you more of a man to have poop in your butt? I can't. I cannot.
00:46:50.360
This is why I honestly it was stuff like this that made the word man really confusing for
00:46:54.820
me because I was like, I don't want to identify like this. I feel you. And it's really why I've
00:46:58.500
had a hard time with that word. And as I come into my own unique manness, which is really
00:47:02.580
more humanist for me. I'm like, OK, I found like my version of it. Yeah. But I feel like
00:47:06.620
there was not a lot of healthy versions of masculinity or male role models growing up.
00:47:10.340
And so like my role models have always been women. I'll tell you what. Poop in the butt.
00:47:14.660
I draw the line. I draw the line up. Poop in the butt. You know, I'm on the sheets. Like,
00:47:18.980
come on. You know, my friend told me she's wax. She's you know what they call it when
00:47:23.600
because believe it or not, some some people go get waxed. Yeah. Have poop in their butt,
00:47:28.340
which is just absolutely. It gives me nightmares. That would stress me out if I was going somewhere
00:47:33.700
public with like someone that wasn't like a close personal partner. I mean, that's the part that
00:47:37.760
blows me. You have poop in your butt. That's fine, I guess, to an extent. But like the fact
00:47:42.280
that, you know, you're going to be Winnie the Pooh and you're going to be squatted over in the most
00:47:46.280
vulnerable position in your life and you have poop in your butt. Girl. But then she said, you know
00:47:50.300
what they call it? What? In the waxing industry. I don't know. There's a term for it. Yeah. I don't know
00:47:54.660
if it's, I mean, let me know. Lay it on me. Let's go. She said they call it pumpkin butt. No.
00:48:02.620
Also, this episode is officially moving the butt. Because you know how like when you carve a pumpkin
00:48:07.840
and you take off the lid, there's like shit. I don't know. This is too far. We've gone too far.
00:48:19.020
Oh, the way I would shoot myself in the head if someone called me a pumpkin butt girl.
00:48:22.400
And it's because I had little like pieces of poop hanging. This is what happens when you put us
00:48:26.840
together. That's all, man. That's literally men like that who are like, that's gay. I don't wash
00:48:31.520
my butt. All of them are a bunch of pumpkin butts. And you know what? That's your journey to take
00:48:36.680
alone. I cannot go with you. I can't. I can't. I'm so sorry. You know, I've done a whole TikTok series
00:48:42.280
about my bidet. Highly encourage people to invest in them. They make ones that are. I've heard lots of
00:48:46.780
good things about bidets. Do you not have one yet? No, I don't. Oh, I found my gift for you. Oh,
00:48:50.580
I love it. A tushy. I've had a tushy for years and before the pandemic. Oh yeah, that's right.
00:48:55.720
And then during the pandemic, they kind of blew up and then they were hard to find. And I was like,
00:48:58.720
people are just getting onto this. Oh, that's right. Because of the toilet paper thing. Yeah. And like,
00:49:02.080
you know, I traveled a lot. I've been everywhere and like, they're very common. So this is. Everywhere
00:49:06.380
but the US. Yeah. So this is what I've really learned is like poop in the butt for men apparently is
00:49:10.260
an American thing. Yeah. Dude. Dude. I wouldn't. Yeah. I wouldn't put it past them. It sounds
00:49:19.100
right. It sounds about right. Yeah. Like just a bunch of pumpkin butts. It's honestly upsetting.
00:49:25.060
I will never forget pumpkin butt. Thank you for that. Thank you for that. You're welcome. Honestly.
00:49:30.980
Woo. Okay. Let's see these last few comments. This one says it's an evil world we live in.
00:49:36.960
He's cold. That's why he's the goat. That's so fucking lame. Cool guys. You guys won't remember.
00:49:41.600
You guys, I can guarantee you won't remember this. Cool. Do you think. This video or anything
00:49:45.220
in like a couple months. Do you think goat is overused at this point? Yeah. I think it's
00:49:49.960
hilarious to use it in ways that are super not necessary. I love. So like if someone makes
00:49:55.020
your coffee real good, you're like, you're the goat. You're so real for that. Thanks. I love
00:49:58.900
how you have taken bro culture and totally flipped it on its own head. Yeah. I love it so much. Yeah. The way that I'm
00:50:04.940
like, you're so real for that. Hey, stay up Kings. You know what I mean? Question. Sure. Has
00:50:09.840
it become accidentally a part of you? Like your normal vernacular now? Cause like my friends
00:50:14.000
and I back in the day with the college other bro is a joke. And then we started doing it
00:50:17.420
seriously. Oh yeah. I what's funny is before I became anybody at all publicly, I was like
00:50:23.520
don't roll your eyes. I famous. I would literally call people bro all the time. I think bro's
00:50:29.580
my sister and I would call it each other that to be funny. Yeah. And like brother
00:50:33.620
and stuff. I love you guys. Now it's like a thing. Now it's like a thing thing. But
00:50:37.480
like, I love that. I think it's, it's really fun when you say it to them cause they hate
00:50:41.200
it. That's, and I love them all about that. That's the best part of it. Yeah. This last
00:50:45.840
comment says if girls can have a preference, so can guys. I guess if you want to have a preference,
00:50:53.940
they prefer to have pumpkin, but that's on them. So add it to the list, I guess. And again,
00:50:58.060
no one's telling you not to have your preferences. We're saying don't be an asshole online and
00:51:02.900
use that as your way to like talk about stuff. That's just mean. Well also and unpack why
00:51:08.360
you have it. Yes. A preference is rooted in something. It's different to be like, I want
00:51:13.440
someone who loves anime, right? That's like a preference that you can't get mad at them
00:51:18.600
for having because if that's an interest they have, they want to have a partner that has a
00:51:21.860
shared interest. Cool. But like when you say, I just, I never want to date a fat person.
00:51:26.900
Why? Totally. That's not a preference. That's, that's a prejudice in those two very different
00:51:33.020
things. It's bigoted and it's rooted in a bigotry of some kind, which is in that case,
00:51:38.800
fat phobia. So like, because that's the thing about that. I made a video about a guy who was
00:51:43.560
like, if I start dating a girl and she gets fat, even if she has kids, I don't want to
00:51:48.620
be with her anymore. I did this one also. Was it the white guys? Yeah. I was thinking of a different
00:51:51.980
guy, but you see how it just, it all, there's so many of them. It repeats over and over and
00:51:55.720
over again. It's the same, it's a never ending song with the same like five things that they
00:51:59.160
say. But in that sense, um, this guy was like, he got upset that people got upset at
00:52:05.680
him. Like he, they get, they get mad and it's like, see, you're so comfortable talking about
00:52:10.760
it, but you're not okay with people reacting negatively to it, which makes no sense. And that's
00:52:16.500
why in one of my videos, I said, if you mean that shit, then stand behind it. That part
00:52:21.620
like, like you're a coward, like on top of that, you're a flip flopper, like pick a side
00:52:25.920
and stay on it, bitch. Like if you're going to say, I hate, I never want to date fat women.
00:52:30.380
And then people are like, well, you're ugly and disgusting and I hate you. And then he's
00:52:33.820
like, why would you hate me? Just because I said, I have a preference just because I have
00:52:37.040
a preference. And then I say, well, I'm not going to date anyone. That's not heavy enough
00:52:41.020
to sit in the front seat of a car. And then they're like, Oh, Oh, so you're, so you're going
00:52:45.820
to get mad at me for things you can control. That's what they always say. Oh, you know,
00:52:50.380
girl, it's, we'll be here all day. That's what I always think. Exactly. We'll be here
00:52:53.960
all day if I gave you the time. And the truth of the matter is it's part of how we're all
00:52:57.660
programmed. It's in all of us. So you have to just go, it's there. Why is it there? How
00:53:04.700
can I do and be better? Because it isn't healthy for me to carry this stuff around and it's hurting
00:53:10.600
me and potentially finding like real love too. Yeah. I always, I always say almost all
00:53:18.860
the people I have dated before the pandemic, the pandemic changed everything I met in real
00:53:22.640
life and I probably wouldn't have swiped yes on them. Yeah. Seeing them in person and getting
00:53:27.200
a vibe and just being more open because you know, you don't know anyone really through
00:53:30.880
this like personified resume with a headshot. Yeah. And it's just like, you're losing out
00:53:36.400
on so many wonderful possibilities. Yeah. And if you really spent enough time unpacking
00:53:42.200
your preferences, you would understand all of these internalized bigoted thoughts and
00:53:48.320
beliefs that you have had and held on to for a long time. And I would know because just like
00:53:53.700
everybody else, I was a pick me at one point. We all have internalized misogyny, racism, homophobia,
00:54:00.120
transphobia, all of that is literally all of us. Yeah. And it's our job as taxpaying,
00:54:05.420
contributing members of society to unpack it and unlearn it. Yes. And then go from there. And
00:54:12.920
then you, you'd be surprised how much happier and more fulfilling your life is. Amen. And you're
00:54:18.040
not holding on to hate. Yes. And I say all the time, like I want you in our love army. I want you
00:54:22.400
to be a part of what we are doing. I want you to feel like you are in a place where you can heal
00:54:27.400
and grow because that is how boring to be this hateful person for the rest of your life. Yeah.
00:54:33.240
We live a long time today. Yeah. And I think too, I've said it, I've said this too, to people like
00:54:38.140
the shit that I say on TikTok, like the jokes that I make, that's not mean. That's not mean that,
00:54:42.980
I mean, it is mean, but it's not me being actually mean. If I was actually going to be mean,
00:54:48.180
it would be me telling all of these dudes who act and believe in these things. I was like,
00:54:53.200
the reason why you act like that is because you are aggressively mediocre in every way, shape and form.
00:54:59.020
Yes. You've never been the star in your own life. You've only ever been a background character.
00:55:03.060
So the only way you feel good about yourself is by attacking people who are the stars in their own
00:55:07.440
lives. It makes you feel good about yourself, but then you're going to live an unfulfilled,
00:55:11.780
normal, mediocre life and you're going to die that way. At best. That's mean. Yes. That's an
00:55:17.120
insult, bitch, because it's true. It's true. And that's what happens when you, that's why I'm like,
00:55:22.280
why do you think everyone who's bigoted is ugly? That's God punishing you. I've been trolled for saying stuff
00:55:27.420
like that. It's true though. That's you heard it from Drew. You're fine. Yeah. I'll say it to
00:55:31.880
your face, bitch. That's why you're ugly because that's why your hairline is ass. That's why your
00:55:36.500
calves and your genetics suck. It's because you're a bad person. The end. And like only drains want to
00:55:43.720
drain you of your fountain energy. Fountains want to hang out with other fountains. Amen. You're only
00:55:49.500
miserable because you don't know how to get yourself to feel a little bit better, which we all want.
00:55:53.820
I want to see you feel better. Yeah. I don't care either way if you feel good or not.
00:55:58.700
You can feel good, bad, indifferent. I don't really give a shit. As long as you don't bring
00:56:02.440
it on TikTok and I have to look at it. And this is where I say, I feel like you have every right
00:56:06.160
to say that because I know people get at you for that stuff, but I'm like, as a woman of color,
00:56:09.760
you deal with so much more that people just don't take into account and it's f***ed up.
00:56:14.480
You will. And I'm, I'm tired of waiting as are most people. We're tired of waiting on you. Like if you
00:56:18.480
want to, if you want to make your own life better, do it on your own time. Uh, in the meantime though,
00:56:24.020
catch these jokes, bitch. That's what I think. If you can catch. If you can. I doubt it though,
00:56:28.980
since you didn't make it off JV in high school. All right. Last video. That's still generous though.
00:56:33.860
Okay. So that's actually the only video we're going to talk about today because we had a key,
00:56:37.640
key fun time. Yeah. We talked too much. I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry at all. Don't be sorry at all.
00:56:42.000
That's the best, the best kinds of episodes. Honestly, the last one I filmed, we didn't even get to the
00:56:45.500
videos. Oh really? We were talking too much. I mean, that would have been easy, but I'm glad we did.
00:56:49.480
Those are always the best kinds of videos. Honestly, they do the best and have the most fun with those
00:56:54.260
because we get to love and have so much fun. Yeah. Thank you so much for coming. Oh my gosh. Thank you
00:56:59.200
so much for having me. Oh my gosh. Are you kidding? I'm obsessed with you. Same. And I like cannot wait
00:57:03.840
to see you continue to crush it and be an even bigger star than you already are. Same. Because you do,
00:57:08.860
you have something very special about you. And I've said this to you before. I'm going to say it again. I'm going to say it on
00:57:12.300
camera. If you don't like it, it's because she's shining so bright that you're blinded. Put on
00:57:17.760
your shades. It's going to be okay. Thank you so much. Thank you all for checking in on this 50th
00:57:22.900
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00:57:28.900
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00:57:33.640
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00:57:43.160
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00:57:47.120
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00:57:52.120
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00:58:13.620
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