The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - ALL OF A SUDDEN MEN CARE ABOUT BODY POSITIVITY Ft. Barrett Pall ｜ Drew Afualo ｜ THE COMMENT SECTION 50

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00:01:58.640 trust and are a part of their community and maybe not the ones that are going to jail.

00:02:04.960 Oh, bummer. That sucks. It's almost like we knew it. He's a bad person? 0.97

00:02:11.800 Shocking. Hey, everyone, and welcome back to another very special episode of the Comment

00:02:20.740 Section Show. Why is this one episode, you may ask? Why is this one special, you may ask?

00:02:25.600 And I will tell you why. First, it's our 50th episode. Yay. And second, we have the one and

00:02:30.580 the only Barrett Paul. Hi, y'all. Hi, gorgeous. It's so nice to see you again in person. Yes,

00:02:39.180 same. Me and Barrett go way back. We do. Way, way back. We grew up together on the app.

00:02:44.600 You grew a lot more than me, but you know, that's another story. But yes, I'm an OG. 700K

00:02:49.460 is where I started to follow. Yes. You've seen me from the beginning, girl. I'm so proud of you

00:02:55.480 from when you were sitting in that car and they just would not let you pop off to sitting into

00:03:00.460 that office that you call it. Yeah. Love it. My office, the one and only. I'm so incredibly honored

00:03:06.980 and happy to have you here. Thank you, really. Barrett and I talk about it a lot offline,

00:03:11.660 but we are some of the only people who get what it feels like to do our very, very niche

00:03:16.560 content. This is very, very true. It is so incredibly specific. It is. And the niche is needed. I think

00:03:25.340 so. It's been a long time of a certain group of humans, cishet men, being awful to everyone, 1.00

00:03:32.580 including themselves. Yeah. Including other men. Yeah. Absolutely. And it's, you know, 0.99

00:03:38.340 I'm a love and light kind of person, but sometimes people need to taste their own medicine. Yeah. And

00:03:42.900 I'm the medicine. It's me. It's literally me. I think that's why we were drawn to each other so

00:03:50.640 quickly. Yeah. Because we are two sides of the same coin. Absolutely. Maybe very different sides,

00:03:57.080 but still. Yeah. I think we're the good cop, bad cop. That's what I would say. It's true. I know

00:04:02.020 you're into Zodiacs. Yes. I'm a Pisces, so I have that two fish thing going on. You're like my other

00:04:06.480 fish. You're so emotional. That's why. I mean, Avi, clearly. I love that. You know what's so funny?

00:04:10.860 When I was talking, I was talking mad shit on Twitter once because I was starting a Capricorn 0.99

00:04:16.060 hay train. You say this like, I don't know. I literally am a fan. My literal, like, my cross to bear 0.99

00:04:22.420 is Capricorn hate. However, I ask people like, what's like the sign that you guys get? Like

00:04:28.680 immediately when you hear it, you're like, lots of Pisces men. My dad's a Pisces though. So that's

00:04:34.360 why my experience with Pisces has only ever been positive. Pisces men to an extent. I haven't

00:04:40.840 known every man's sign that I've come across, although I wish I did. But my dad's a Pisces 0.69

00:04:45.000 and he's wonderful. Look, there is good and bad in everything. I think so. That's just the

00:04:49.960 way of the world. Yeah. I also think that realistically, when you break apart gender 0.97

00:04:55.380 and sexuality, you start to see what works, what doesn't, what's toxic, what's not. And

00:05:00.660 this is why I don't really identify with the word man as much as I used to. But, you know,

00:05:05.480 at the end of the day, I still like to represent as a healthy man. There you go. Same with like

00:05:09.960 the men in my life. I think a lot of times men who hate me, they are constantly like, oh,

00:05:15.980 well, you know, that's probably fatherless behavior. You know, they say the same shit 1.00

00:05:20.060 like, oh, she didn't have a male figure. I actually had like the best male figures in 0.99

00:05:24.140 my life. That's why I am the way I am today. I think it's a big reason.

00:05:28.920 Yeah. You've learned not to take shit. Yeah. And I, unfortunately, a lot of women have been, 1.00

00:05:34.440 I use this word very specifically, groomed to take shit. Yeah. Well, and it's also another, 1.00

00:05:38.980 another, it's a testament to, to, I think like what you see, um, and like what you're exposed to.

00:05:45.960 So like my, my view of what a real man should be has always been very different from what these men 0.97

00:05:52.260 act like in the wild, which they're feral, feral, they are, they're disgusting. That's another reason 0.98

00:05:59.200 why I think you and I kind of took up this mantle a little bit about like attacking men essentially

00:06:06.240 for the things that they say, like holding them accountable for the things that they say,

00:06:09.820 because I was blown away to see how comfortable some men were platforming their bigotry like that.

00:06:18.920 Yes. Blown away, bitch. I can't believe it. When I came onto TikTok, it was during the pandemic. 1.00

00:06:25.160 I did not have any plans on doing it. Same. Someone was like, you really should do this. Like

00:06:28.980 social media is a part of your job already. And then like, you're going to get left behind. And I was

00:06:32.040 like, I don't want to get left behind. I'll like check out this thing, see what's going on.

00:06:35.240 Yeah. Cause I thought it was a kid's app where people were just like dancing. I thought so too.

00:06:38.460 I was like, I'm too old for this. I'm geriatric for this app. If you're geriatric that I am in the

00:06:42.920 ground. I am dusty already. But I got on there and like, you know, it's figuring me out very

00:06:50.280 quickly. Thought I was a lesbian, which I was like, thank you. I appreciate that. Um, and then I started

00:06:54.940 to see the like very obvious misogyny. Yeah. And it was really bad. It's like 20. It's still

00:07:05.200 is, but like in 2020, 2021, especially girl. Yes. You couldn't go like two or three swipes

00:07:12.300 without seeing someone talk about it or like confront it or anything like that. Totally.

00:07:17.380 And I was just like, I, I'm a guy's girl. Like my best friends, my whole life have been

00:07:23.560 girls when I was little women as an adult, my best friends, my people. And so like, it's

00:07:28.680 very personal for me. Yeah. Um, and I was just shocked that there wasn't like a lot of people

00:07:33.280 doing it. And so like, I made one video and I was like, this is just obvious to me. And

00:07:36.960 then it went like, and I was like, Oh, okay. I guess this is needed. Yeah. That was, well,

00:07:42.560 I think that's another reason why, um, both of us like started to kind of tap this one

00:07:48.320 market because it's just unbelievable. Like the things we were talking about it earlier,

00:07:54.140 like the things that we have seen on TikTok that we haven't talked about, like there are

00:07:59.460 some like, believe it or not, we are very selective with the things we choose to show.

00:08:04.400 Exactly. This is where this starts today. It starts here. It's it, we're very, and I'm

00:08:08.400 very, very selective. And I know you are too. Cause we've talked about it about what we choose

00:08:12.960 to stitch and what we don't, because there are some things that I just truly will. I refuse

00:08:16.720 to give a platform to because it's just that horrid. Like you would not even believe some people

00:08:23.260 are like, uh, they ask, I'm sure you get this question all the time too. Like, how do you do

00:08:26.980 it? Like, how do you like stitch that kind of content all the time? And like, how do you

00:08:30.880 not let it affect you? That kind of thing. Yes. And for me, I feel like, well, obviously

00:08:36.320 it's affect, it's, it affects you in a way that you're like, that's so horrible. And I

00:08:40.120 can't believe people feel that way. But I think for me too, it, it almost like it's, I was

00:08:47.900 describing this to my boyfriend literally the other day. I was like, it like validates me

00:08:52.200 because I was right. And as a Virgo, I love to be right. So like, I love the fact that

00:08:59.280 I was right about how most men are horrible. Yeah. I was right. There you go. Here's proof. 0.92

00:09:07.000 One thousand percent. And it's crazy too, because I've really done this like case study

00:09:11.480 anthropologic looking at the apps. Yeah. And some of these guys don't start off this way

00:09:16.700 and then they start to like phase a little bit that way. And the video pops and then they're

00:09:21.460 like, I'm going to keep on this train because now I'm getting views and followers. I'm like,

00:09:25.160 this isn't going to be lucrative for you. And it doesn't, it never sustains. It doesn't,

00:09:29.460 but it's wild to see how quickly they're okay with jumping on the bandwagon. What a bitch. 1.00

00:09:34.700 Like, like what a bitch thing to do is what I think you have no spine. You're honestly a 1.00

00:09:39.820 coward. That's what you are. I say that all the time. Like, and I know exactly what you're 1.00

00:09:43.980 talking about because we see it, you and I see it all the time. Like the way that some

00:09:48.360 dudes will be making content about rocks. And then one day they're like, this is why

00:09:53.600 I hate Barrett and Drew. Huh? Or just women. Yeah. Just women in general. We really jumped 1.00

00:09:58.560 there. You have those too though. Like, I can't even, like some dudes, like I, I'm not

00:10:02.480 kidding. Their whole niche was like talking about animals. And then one day they just are

00:10:06.920 like, I, I hate this bitch. Hey, I hate this fat bitch. And it's like, what? Yep. 1.00

00:10:13.160 What? Here's a little tip for you terrible men out there. If you hate me and you haven't,

00:10:17.960 no one's found out yet, don't, don't let them find out. Once the girls find out, they're 1.00

00:10:23.520 going to leave you in the dust, bitch. I can promise you that. This is the craziest part 1.00

00:10:27.340 to me because majority of the men that strongly hate both of us claim they like women. Claim

00:10:34.500 it. Allegedly. Allegedly. Yeah. I'm like, if you liked women, you think you might maybe

00:10:40.040 smartly, I don't know, smartly even a word as I'm trying to be all smart. It would be

00:10:46.020 smart to maybe listen to the people who they trust and are a part of their community and

00:10:52.360 maybe not the ones that are going to jail. Oh, bummer. That sucks. It's almost like we

00:10:59.680 knew it. Yeah. Oh, he's a bad person. Shocking. What? What? What? What? You're telling me

00:11:06.760 someone that encourages you to hit women isn't a good person to women? And admits it online?

00:11:11.560 What? What? Girl. It's silly. Go to hell. That's what I always think. I feel the same

00:11:19.520 way too about like men who, and I've kind of talked about this also, but men who play 0.96

00:11:25.220 the f***ing fence. So they'll say things like. You mean libertarians? I mean, yeah, they're 0.85

00:11:30.160 like, well, see, I don't like what he said, but at the same time. Nope. Stop right there.

00:11:36.720 Right. Stop right in your tracks, bitch. You don't like what he said, but you hate what 1.00

00:11:42.240 I said more. Why? Yeah. And I always say, if you keep going and unpacking it like a little

00:11:47.120 Russian doll that it is, at the very center point, you're a bigot. That's what ends up

00:11:51.620 being in the center every single time. That's the common thread, bitches. That's the candy 1.00

00:11:55.520 center to that chocolate, babe. Every single time. Like, and I'm never wrong. Neither of us

00:12:00.300 are. And there, and that also operates under the assumption that all men hate me, which

00:12:06.200 is just not true. Look, here's proof, proof that not all men hate me. And it's also, and

00:12:13.660 even so, like, there are many men who have made content or become mutuals. Like, they've

00:12:18.720 made content defending me or they've become mutuals with me because they're talking about

00:12:23.180 how they understand, like, why I make content the way that I do. And you're one of the first

00:12:29.700 men to, with a platform, to, like, back my messaging too. A thousand percent. Yeah. Again,

00:12:36.540 Big Brother vibes for everyone. You, I have, like, just such a fondness too, because I know

00:12:41.500 how hard it is. Yeah, literally. I do. And, like, I think people. There's not many creators

00:12:44.980 that get it. No. And I think people really take it for granted. And, like, you said something

00:12:49.720 once where, like, am I supposed to just be the court gesture, like, all the time where it's

00:12:52.860 like, you really put yourself out there in a way. We're going to get serious for a moment.

00:12:56.100 That, like, I don't think people truly understand. It comes with dangerous, f***ing crazy people. 0.99

00:13:01.020 Yeah, it does. And it's one of those things where it's like, the jokes and everything are 0.97

00:13:06.520 what make it palatable, but the messaging is always serious. And that's why I'm always

00:13:10.800 like, if you listen carefully to what it is I'm saying, you'll hear it. Because I don't

00:13:15.460 just make jokes. Like, that's part of it. You are so f***ing smart. You are. Like, you

00:13:20.840 are. Thank you. Thanks. You guys heard it here first. But that's also another thing

00:13:27.880 that I don't feel drawn to prove. Totally. Because I'm going to prove that I'm smart to

00:13:33.860 a dude that doesn't respect me as a human. No. Totally. I'm wasting my time. I'm just

00:13:37.560 going to tell you you're ugly. There you go. Done. Done. And speaking of ugly, that's going 1.00

00:13:42.120 to bring us to our topic today. Being a bully online. I'm so glad I'm here for this episode. 0.86

00:13:46.920 I feel like you've been called a bully too. I'm always called a bully. Oh my gosh. All

00:13:50.040 the time. All the time. And like, that drives me insane. I was bullied so bad growing up

00:13:54.940 by actual bullies. Really? Every day of my life. Yeah. Through college, people bullied

00:14:01.760 me. Really? At NYU, where it's like liberal and like fun and New York. Of all the places.

00:14:08.120 Yes. Literally. Yes. And the crazy part for me was seeing it come from like, again, men in

00:14:14.660 my own community where I was like, I'm on your team, guys. Like, I'm rooting for you.

00:14:18.760 Me and the pygmy girls. I'm like, pour one out for her. She's gone. I can't save them 0.99

00:14:22.660 all, bitch. Like, I'm trying, but my life rough's getting crowded and there's no room 1.00

00:14:27.020 for mutiny on this boat. Get the fuck off. We're going down. It's either all of us or 1.00

00:14:30.500 you. Goodbye. Yeah. Literally. I'm like, it's either you or everybody else. I'm kicking you

00:14:34.540 off the island. You know what I mean? Like, that's, that's literally me too. I've said

00:14:38.380 that too. I'm like, we're on the same side, girl. I'm fighting for you. I'm fighting for

00:14:42.560 everybody. Even the awful men. Like, at the end of the day, I'm still in the understanding

00:14:47.040 that like, patriarchy, toxic masculinity, it hurts all of us. It does. It's true. That's

00:14:52.220 why I'm just like, why do you not get it? And the way they react to you versus me is so laced

00:14:57.060 with misogyny that I'm like, it's so clear and obvious now. Racism. Oh my God. So much.

00:15:01.440 That's another reason. So much. Every time I bring that up, they're like, why do you always

00:15:04.940 have to bring race? Because it's true. Because it matters. What do you mean why? Like, what

00:15:10.340 do you mean? Like, it's the girl, only a white man would say that shit. But that's another 1.00

00:15:15.460 reason why I feel like you and I are on the same wavelength all the time because we get

00:15:21.260 treated, we get treated much differently for the way that we choose to react to bigotry

00:15:25.600 as opposed to the bigotry itself, which is something I will never understand. Like, even

00:15:30.000 if, okay, let's say you just remove bigotry at all, right? If someone's rude to you or hurts

00:15:35.900 you in any way, why are you not allowed to hurt the mech? Whether it's with words or

00:15:41.020 whatever it may be. Why, why is that on me to make you feel comfortable for being awful

00:15:46.120 to me? Huh?

00:15:48.160 There has been no real change in this world through revolution that was not because you

00:15:54.300 didn't match their energy and fight fire with fire.

00:15:56.720 Exactly.

00:15:57.120 And I know that's hard for people to hear. And again, I am about positivity and gratitude

00:16:00.940 and kindness. Yeah. But we have had enough of the same bullshit and no change. No shit.

00:16:07.580 And we're told to like, be nice to them, understand where they're coming from. And I'm like, they 0.99

00:16:11.920 need to have that mentality on the flip. No, no, seriously. I'm like, well, maybe if you

00:16:16.440 came correct in the first place, I wouldn't have had to hurt your feelings. Like I, I don't

00:16:20.540 do that to just anybody. Oh, you mean you don't like the way this feels? That's crazy.

00:16:24.640 Oh my God. Shocking.

00:16:25.460 When they call me fat and then I go, okay, well, your nipples are saggy. They're like, 1.00

00:16:30.960 why would you comment on that body? Why would you do that? What about, what if he had body

00:16:34.860 dysmorphia? What if I did?

00:16:36.880 What about all the people watching this that, that identify like him? They know it's not

00:16:40.900 them. Yeah.

00:16:41.940 Don't worry about them. They're okay.

00:16:43.500 If that's the, you know, what's so funny is one time this guy made this horrible video

00:16:47.320 about me. Like he made this video about me basically saying like he, he would use my videos

00:16:52.100 as torture. Right. And I'm like, okay, weirdo. Like that's your idea of a joke. That's weird.

00:16:56.740 And then, um, in the comments they were saying the most like racist, fat phobic, terrible things 0.97

00:17:02.720 about me. Oh, I see it. He was liking, laughing, kiki all up in the comments. Right. So I saved 0.93

00:17:08.180 the video. I put it on Twitter and I made fun of him. And I said, cause he had pictures of

00:17:13.200 himself. Shocker. When you comment on other people's looks, if I open that profile and I don't

00:17:18.480 see Bella Hadid, I'm going to hurt your feelings, bitch. That's just a promise that I've made. 1.00

00:17:22.800 And everybody knows that about me. This is well into my platform. This is not a secret.

00:17:27.080 No. And so I literally talked about, like, I talked about his body the way he talked about

00:17:31.380 mine. And then a lot of men were like, what if he has this? What if he has this medical

00:17:36.200 condition? What if he has this? Mind you, fast forward. I go, do you, did you guys confirm

00:17:40.680 that? Or are you just making that up? And even if he did, what gives him, if I listen,

00:17:45.580 make sure your house is clean before you check other people's. You know what I mean?

00:17:49.300 Don't, have you ever heard of glass sound? Like living in a glass house and throwing stones?

00:17:53.520 People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. 0.94

00:17:55.180 Crazy. So fast forward, like months later, this guy, like, I guess found out, I don't

00:18:01.080 know if he just logged off forever and then came back online.

00:18:03.560 I mean, you do scare them offline. I love that about you. I just get them deleted.

00:18:08.940 He had no idea that, like, these men were saying that about him. Like, oh, I bet you

00:18:14.080 he has this medical condition. Like, they were diagnosing him. And he made a video going,

00:18:18.500 I don't have that condition. The fact that you guys are saying that is fucked up. Like, 0.99

00:18:22.380 he got really pissed.

00:18:24.460 When they turn on their own?

00:18:25.500 Yeah. I was like, uno reverse, I guess the argument ate itself, didn't it? As it looks

00:18:29.540 like you guys don't actually care about people with that medical condition. You're just trying

00:18:32.860 to find a valid reason to hate me.

00:18:34.520 And that's what it is. They don't actually care.

00:18:36.680 No, not at all.

00:18:37.080 They don't care.

00:18:38.020 Not at all. It's about every, like, that's why I said, all of a sudden you guys care about that

00:18:42.720 shit. All of a sudden, huh? Like, body positivity to men like that is considered promoting obesity 1.00

00:18:50.660 until I say that their chest is so concave if I knocked on it, his heart would shoot out

00:18:56.940 his back like a front door. Like, literally, the minute I say that, they're all about, what

00:19:01.080 about body positivity? What about loving ourselves exactly the way we are?

00:19:05.780 And that's the craziest part. Like, you see them have, like, this affinity and, like, kindness

00:19:11.480 for each other, but then spin it and throw it at everybody else. You're like, don't you

00:19:15.740 get this doesn't add up?

00:19:17.440 As soon as I come for them, they so quickly develop empathy. So quickly. All of a sudden,

00:19:24.720 they're like, oh, but what about him? What about his feelings? What about his family? What

00:19:29.660 about it? What about it, bitch? What about it? I'm like, oh, I don't care. I don't care 1.00

00:19:35.520 about that.

00:19:35.840 And rightfully so.

00:19:36.440 Yeah.

00:19:36.740 Rightfully so.

00:19:37.720 Yeah. Yeah. Maybe, uh, maybe if he wanted me to care so deeply about his personal seated

00:19:42.880 issues, he wouldn't be attacking other people's. Like, and it's like, it's just the most common,

00:19:48.200 like, you can, I can do it, but you're not allowed to do it.

00:19:51.980 Which drives me f***ing crazy.

00:19:54.820 Same. And it also, what enrages me the most is, is I think the way that the way that the

00:19:59.640 they pick on such vulnerable people. Yes. And they attack those that didn't say anything

00:20:05.620 to them, never commented towards them. Like, we're just online, like having fun and trying

00:20:09.340 to find community and like find some joy in like a hard place. Yeah, literally. And then

00:20:14.320 when they say that and I comment, they're like, what? So you just into body shaming? That's

00:20:19.060 what I always get. And I'm always like, um, it doesn't feel very good to have a stranger

00:20:23.720 comment on your physique, does it? Maybe you should remember that next time you do it. Maybe

00:20:28.040 you should put that in your notes on your phone. Yeah. Maybe you should like put that on your

00:20:31.220 vision board, bitch. Along with growing hair. So. Hey, it's me again. Back to talk to y'all 1.00

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00:21:34.480 Okay, so what we're going to be talking about today is basically being a bully,

00:21:39.680 but most likely it's what it actually is, is holding people accountable for their actions.

00:21:44.340 And standing up for yourself and your community.

00:21:46.340 And helping other people stand up for themselves. Like, that's all me and Barrett do, to be

00:21:50.140 honest, which is why we get along so well.

00:21:52.220 It's true.

00:21:53.940 Okay, so for those of you that don't know, what we do here on the comment section is we

00:21:57.400 bring videos that I was tagged in, we bring them here, applicable to our topic, and we

00:22:01.080 kiki and we laugh and we share all the giggles about it.

00:22:03.340 I can't wait.

00:22:04.380 So, this first TikTok, I just give little summaries of them. In this video, a man films a video

00:22:10.360 of himself in his apartment hallway, which has a weird, narrow metal doorway that's still

00:22:15.180 under construction. 0.75

00:22:16.340 Did this video and you got f***ing taken down.

00:22:20.140 Yeah, I make all the girls that come home with me fit through this, because if they 1.00

00:22:24.640 can't fit, they probably shouldn't be coming home with me.

00:22:26.880 You know what's funny is I saw a comment on there and said, on this video, first of

00:22:32.540 all, this guy's getting eaten alive. Talk about someone who wasn't making this kind

00:22:35.420 of content until it popped off.

00:22:36.700 Exactly. And he had already had, like, a platform.

00:22:39.620 Steering into a skid, yeah.

00:22:40.860 That's essentially what it is. He's also, like, since those videos have blown up and,

00:22:44.720 like, almost all the comments are me. He's been like, yeah, please stitch me. Please

00:22:49.720 stitch me. So, I won't. I don't stitch men who beg me. Get off your knees, bitch, is 1.00

00:22:53.580 what I have to say to that. But before that, I saw someone comment and they said, I don't 1.00

00:22:57.800 ever have to worry about this, because I actually own my home. I was like, damn, that's a word, 0.97

00:23:02.800 bitch. Speak a word, bitch. I love that. What I love, though, is that I think since you and 1.00

00:23:08.080 I have, and other people, too, have been kind of making this kind of content, I feel like

00:23:14.020 a lot of times people make fun of them themselves now and don't internalize it, which is the ultimate

00:23:19.720 goal at the end of the day. Exactly. I'm like, once you can do what we do on your

00:23:23.800 own, I'm like, the student has become the teacher. I am here for it. My job here is

00:23:29.160 done. Yes. Like Thanos, I'm like, and now I rest. I retired to a planet with half my face

00:23:34.360 burned off. That's what I'm going to do. The thing about this one specifically, one, he

00:23:39.420 doesn't fit through it himself. Very well. No, he, like, literally is, like, squeezing

00:23:43.720 through. And then, of course, it's because I'm six, too, and I'm like, bring out the

00:23:47.620 measuring tape. Give me both. And the other thing about that one that I thought was particularly

00:23:52.360 funny is he literally stole that joke from another one that I had profiled a couple months

00:23:56.500 ago. Oh, yeah. It's always. It's the regurgitation of awful. It's copy paste. It really is. And

00:24:02.040 then he made the follow up with, like, the scale. The scale, yeah. That's, you're not

00:24:05.540 original, not even a little bit. Fat jokes are not funny. They're not funny. And I feel like

00:24:09.380 because I can say what I want here and not get my video taken down, I'm going to say

00:24:12.200 what I want. He looks like a billy goat that's, like, been spit up, chewed out, and then billy

00:24:17.720 goaded again. Like, it's wild to me how hot these men think they are. And this is part 0.91

00:24:24.540 of what I love about being a queer man. Because, like, you know, they go after women and, like, 1.00

00:24:28.740 I wouldn't sleep with her. I'm like, we're not trying to sleep with each other either

00:24:31.660 way, but I can tear you apart and you have nothing really to say back to me about my love, 1.00

00:24:35.100 so suck it. Even me, like, they would say that to me and I'm like, okay, well. Do you 1.00

00:24:40.780 think I want to go home with you? Yeah, you're ugly, so. Yeah. Okay. Love. Love that for 1.00

00:24:49.220 us. I guess we're platonic friends for life, aren't we? That's what I always, and then

00:24:53.220 when you say that back, they're like, see, that's messed up, because blah, blah, blah.

00:24:58.320 I thought we were talking about who we're not attracted to. Exactly. I'm not attracted to

00:25:01.000 you. Exactly. Not even a little bit. You didn't have to open your mouth for me to decide that

00:25:04.640 you disgust me. I didn't need to hear anything come out of your mouth. But now that I have, 0.99

00:25:08.640 double no. Exclamation point, we're done. Yeah. It's almost like, okay. That's why

00:25:14.540 sometimes when they say, oh, you're so fat, I just go, okay. I mean, my favorites, I just

00:25:19.900 get fag. I'm like, and you told who, what, they didn't know what? You said, who told you? 0.99

00:25:24.440 Yeah. Crazy. What? Was it obvious? I didn't know. Thank you for letting me know. Who told 0.91

00:25:30.220 you that? Last night, some guy commented on one of my things, literally my video from yesterday,

00:25:35.300 he commented, I feel sorry for the buffet that she's been eating all of, or some shit 0.99

00:25:42.020 like that. Like, real tween type shit. And then I just wrote back, is that your mom's 1.00

00:25:47.080 name? Oh, is that your mom's name? And he was like, no, I'm talking about, like, explaining

00:25:53.600 it to me. I'm like, oh, for two, bitch. You want to try again? Or no? Swing and I miss, 1.00

00:25:57.600 hoe. My favorites went, like, in my little bit more spicy time before I, like, had to

00:26:03.240 think more about what I was saying because of, you know, the moderation and all. One of

00:26:08.160 my favorite ending lines was, like, tell your mom and your dad I say hi. Because, like,

00:26:11.640 I'm into it. Either or, bitch. I'm going to take them all. Exactly. Honestly, I'll take 1.00

00:26:14.220 your girl, too. That's what I think all the time. I say that all the time and I mean that

00:26:17.440 shit. I mean that with my whole chest, bitch. I've said to, like, this one guy was telling 1.00

00:26:23.980 me, oh, I was posting about a photo shoot I had done or whatever. It was just like a

00:26:28.660 cute little video. Slay. Slay. Don't minimize. It was like a total thing. Yeah. And he was

00:26:35.580 like, I guess they'll give anyone photo shoots nowadays. And I just wrote back, not you.

00:26:41.940 What are you going to say to that? Like, what are you going to say? Like, where's yours

00:26:45.960 then, bitch? Like, if it's so easy and so. I know. Just like, why would they? I saw 1.00

00:26:51.420 this guy tweeted about me when I hosted Black Adam. This guy tweeted about me and was like,

00:26:57.040 but he didn't tag me. He just wrote my name. Because they're afraid. Yeah. They are f***ing

00:27:00.600 afraid. I've said this before. You got to think of me like Varys from Game of Thrones. Like, 0.72

00:27:06.180 I have little birds everywhere. They are stoned everywhere, bitch. If you talk about me, they're 1.00

00:27:09.980 going to find it and they're going to send it to me. Same. Yes. They will send it to

00:27:12.680 me no matter where it is. I once got something sent to me from a

00:27:15.940 Facebook DM, but it was like they were in Japan. Like, they literally found it, sent

00:27:20.900 it to me because they were like trying to send it to me through multiple channels. Girl,

00:27:25.660 I have my little soldiers stationed all over the earth. That's what I'm saying. So I think

00:27:30.400 that he had, someone had sent it to me and he's like, why would they ever let this, this 1.00

00:27:35.600 stupid fat bitch do this? And I was like, I don't know, because I f*** your dad. I don't 1.00

00:27:41.100 know what you want me to say, bitch. Is your dad not the CEO of Warner Brothers? 1.00

00:27:44.180 The projection is just crazy. It's so, and like, once you see it, and this is what I

00:27:48.460 love because I do like to have education in my stuff, as do you. And our approaches are

00:27:52.380 similar. Yeah. Very. Once you see it, you can't not see it. And that's my, like, as you were

00:27:58.400 saying, when your audience, when your followers, I call my little love army. Yeah. When they

00:28:03.080 see it and they can start saying it for themselves, I'm like, we've done our job. Yeah. That's

00:28:06.520 the best way to like repay us for what it is we do. Uh, and all the things that we've

00:28:13.900 had to go through as content creators, especially in this like particular niche, uh, the, the

00:28:19.860 greatest gift you could give me is like understanding that you don't need us. Like someone asked me

00:28:25.860 once, like, what's your greatest fear about doing this for a living? And I was like, other

00:28:29.940 than just general terrible people, I would say I told her, I was like, my fear is that

00:28:35.180 sometimes I think people think they won't be able to do this without me. Yeah. Which

00:28:38.320 is just not true. Yeah. Like you, I've more than equipped y'all with like enough ammo

00:28:45.020 totally to get you started, but more than any, as far as like insulting them back. But as

00:28:50.320 far as like understanding that nothing they say holds any weight should not validate you

00:28:55.000 in any way your validation comes from within and that's it. That's like my biggest, biggest

00:28:59.500 win. That's like the only thing I care about you guys taking away other than like general

00:29:03.360 funnies. Like agreed. I'll give you a few, five standard insults that work on everyone 0.93

00:29:07.680 and then every man. And then like from there you can fly my little birdie. I tell everyone

00:29:13.180 I'm like, look, my series and like the little things I've made, like they're not mine. Make

00:29:17.240 your own. I would love to see people make stuff that's like straight guys aren't straight

00:29:20.800 or like any of my little fun series because it's, it's you showing me that it makes sense

00:29:25.440 to you and I want it to feel like a community and I. And empowering.

00:29:29.500 Yes. And it's nice to not feel like you're, I don't want to say carrying it, but like

00:29:33.940 there's a lot of weight on your shoulders, you know?

00:29:36.720 Yeah. Well, and to know that like any, if, if I were to ever like move away from TikTok

00:29:42.700 completely, I'm not saying that's what I'm going to do, but like if that were to ever

00:29:45.460 happen.

00:29:45.560 It's okay. We're not going anywhere.

00:29:46.820 Don't worry. Papa's not going anywhere anytime soon.

00:29:51.300 But it's more so like it gives you the power and strength to know that you could handle it

00:29:55.320 on your own. And you can very much so if you wanted to, and you could do it on your own.

00:29:58.880 And there's many other creators like us, like Kaylin Eastley, who's so great.

00:30:02.640 Love.

00:30:02.800 I f***ing love her. 0.56

00:30:03.800 Love.

00:30:04.140 But she makes similar content to us too. There's so many creators like us. We didn't invent

00:30:07.460 making fun of men, which we say all the time. It's more so we just made it fun.

00:30:11.800 Yeah. The giggles.

00:30:13.440 Yeah. We made it fun. We share a lot of kiki and fun time about it. Okay. So let's get

00:30:18.140 into these comments. So this one says, anyone who's mad at this are the same exact people

00:30:23.040 saying if he's not six feet tall, if he doesn't have this amount of money, if he doesn't look 1.00

00:30:27.480 like this hypocritical ass hoes. Who said that? The only people I've ever seen say that 1.00

00:30:33.160 are men. So who?

00:30:35.180 I know. I know.

00:30:37.000 They've done street interviews with random drunk girls on the street and they've asked

00:30:42.100 them, would you didn't matter if he was under six feet? And they've got, they go, uh, I

00:30:46.480 mean, yeah, if he's nice, like in the wild bitch, they found women and they're like at 1.00

00:30:50.940 their most vulnerable state when they're f***ed up and they don't, they wouldn't remember. 0.98

00:30:54.800 They could easily be like, never. I only want, hey, hey, sure. And you know, that's what

00:30:59.460 they're trying to get out of them. Exactly. It's never with pure intention. Never. No, never.

00:31:03.700 Street interviews are rancid. The only person I trust to do those is Chris Clemens. That's

00:31:07.460 it. And I think like with that, like mentality, that is only men passing that down. Like you're

00:31:14.600 not getting that info from women. You're only getting it from men. 0.69

00:31:17.980 A thousand f***ing percent. 0.93

00:31:19.380 Yeah. 0.90

00:31:19.780 And I am proudly not six feet tall. I think everyone thinks I am because I used to be a

00:31:23.380 model. And the amount of women that were like, if you played for our team, I'm like, 0.99

00:31:28.820 well, little do you know, I, I'm a fair game player. Um, but it's true. Like, again, this

00:31:34.780 is just a narrative that's been passed down by men that like, and I constantly call it

00:31:38.100 out. I'm like, who do you think wants that gym body versus your awful personality? Yeah. 0.87

00:31:43.240 Like that's coming from other dudes. That's a male gaze. Well, and it, and it also perpetuates

00:31:47.840 this never listening to women when they say things because women will tell you like as 0.99

00:31:53.420 a tall, like for me specifically, I can speak for myself. I'm tall. I'm a tall bitch. So 1.00

00:31:57.280 I wanted someone to at least as tall as me because I'm tall. So I want someone tall or taller

00:32:03.320 than me, but I'm the exception. Not many women are as tall as me. So that's why I'm 0.54

00:32:08.880 like, you're fine. Like if you're a short King by all means, not only that, but when

00:32:14.120 I was dating, do you think that stopped short dudes from trying to hit my line? No, never

00:32:19.300 because men like that don't give a shit. That's all they are. Yes. I, I only cared 1.00

00:32:23.540 because I'm tall. So I was like, well, I would prefer them to be taller than me. I was

00:32:27.280 never like, I would never date someone short. I've never said that. The whole preference

00:32:32.260 thing is just really a smoke screen for bigotry and hate. Truly it is. Especially when you

00:32:37.000 put it out online, like it's one thing in your own personal life. Like, yeah. If

00:32:39.780 you're unpacking it, unpack it privately. Yeah, totally. No one's asked you to come

00:32:43.440 online and tell us what your laundry list of preferences are where you do not match

00:32:46.560 up to those things. Yeah. Not only that, but if you really think about it, why don't

00:32:52.260 women like short men, right? Okay. One side of it could be beauty standards. Who made 0.94

00:32:56.460 those? Other men. Okay. Other men are the ones who have said you have to be tall to be

00:33:01.740 considered manly. That's because of y'all. That's one. Two, a lot of times short men

00:33:08.600 are horrible. Totally. Why? Because they have what's called the Napoleon complex. Look

00:33:14.200 it up if you don't know it. It's important. A short man syndrome. That's literally a

00:33:17.960 psychological thing that they have because their toxic masculinity has entrenched them

00:33:23.380 in this hatred towards themselves. Totally. So they act out. And a lot of times they're

00:33:27.880 extremely misogynistic or bigoted in general, or they're just downright terrible. Yes. 0.86

00:33:34.420 Does that, does that mean that every man over six feet is not awful? No, not even a little, 0.97

00:33:39.580 not even a little bit. But a lot of times if women are like, okay, well if I'm going to, 1.00

00:33:43.740 if they're all bad, if they're all trash, I want to date a tall piece of trash. Like if 1.00

00:33:49.140 you're all going to be horrible, at least be tall. My whole thing is if they're all

00:33:52.280 horrible, then maybe don't date for a minute. That's what I'm saying. Date yourself. This

00:33:56.080 ring, married myself. Oh, love. Yeah. Look at you. I did a whole thing with Ryan Seacrest

00:34:00.700 about this. It was so funny. He could not grasp it. And I was like, love you, Ryan.

00:34:05.060 Ryan Seacrest, when I did his show, he had to practice my name a few times before I went on

00:34:08.680 air. It's not that hard. It's really not. I mean, it's, it's jarring to look at, but it's

00:34:14.240 pretty phonetically sound like it's said exactly how it looks. So it's off wallow. That's what

00:34:19.440 it is. But I sometimes, yeah, he's nice though. He is super nice. Super nice. Yeah. Good things

00:34:25.040 to say only. But to rewind and go back to what you were just talking about, even the Napoleon

00:34:29.260 complex comes because they feel like they have to compete with other men, which is coming

00:34:32.960 from the men. Yes. That's why I said all roads lead back to Jerusalem, bitch. That's on 1.00

00:34:37.360 you. That's true. Take it up with your peers. That's literally why women have those thoughts 1.00

00:34:42.240 in the first place. What else did this guy talk about? Money. Again, that's on y'all.

00:34:48.300 Yeah. Like, and also if you're broke, okay, don't be awful. You gotta pick one. You can't

00:34:57.040 have zero dollars and zero personality. You gotta pick one, bitch. It's true. And like, 1.00

00:35:01.740 it's not hard to not be awful. It really isn't. It takes more energy, in my opinion, to be awful.

00:35:07.220 I was just going to say, it's a lot harder to be terrible. Yes. It's a lot more taxing

00:35:11.820 to be terrible. It's exhausting. It is. It's so exhausting. And I would know because I'm

00:35:16.560 terrible to men online all the time. We have like touches of what it feels like. And exactly.

00:35:21.100 That's a choice that I make. That's an active choice I'm making. But my factory settings

00:35:25.460 are all like me being nice because not everyone is terrible in my own personal life. Nobody's

00:35:31.420 terrible in my own personal life. So, so annoying. And if he doesn't look like this, well,

00:35:36.900 that's just looks and beauty is subjective. Amen. We talk about that all the time. Beauty

00:35:42.020 is subjective. It's not the same per person. Everybody has a different idea of what they

00:35:45.960 find to be beautiful. Totally. What I find absolutely insane behavior is to comment on what other people

00:35:53.340 find beautiful. Like, for example, if you see like, um, if you see people in love and you're

00:35:59.640 not attracted to one of those people, who gives a shit what you think? That's not your love. 0.98

00:36:04.200 You're also single. Redirect the energy. Yeah. Point it towards you. Like, that's why someone's

00:36:10.280 like, I feel bad for him. Whenever I post videos with my boyfriend and then I go, are you in a

00:36:14.760 relationship? And they always go, no. And I go, then feel bad for yourself. That's the craziest

00:36:18.880 part. Like all these dating coaches that are single. I don't get it. Hold on. I want to talk

00:36:23.780 about something. I want to kiki about this. Let's kiki. I'm excited. This like whole like high

00:36:29.420 value man thing. Market, stocks, this, that. Oh my God. The way that they're like number

00:36:35.100 one online dating coach. According to who? Forbes? No? Also, how are all of you the number

00:36:39.780 one dating coach? There can't be that many number ones. There's no way. Oh my gosh.

00:36:43.820 There was this one guy who I did a while ago who was older and he, I think you even saw

00:36:48.540 this. You may have even talked about him. Maybe. I think there was a point where like when

00:36:53.120 one person caught wind, we all kind of caught wind and it wasn't even on purpose. It was just

00:36:56.520 like all of a sudden there they were. Yeah. But he had a book that was like how to be 5% more man

00:37:00.580 or something. And I just died. That was like the end of the video. Just only five. Yeah. That's all

00:37:04.820 you can achieve. Says it all for us. Yeah. Five more percent. What if you're at five? Then you just

00:37:11.240 elevate to 10, I guess. Shit out of luck. Yeah. I don't know. Jeez Louise. I, I also like, no, this, 1.00

00:37:16.600 this, this energy, like high value man, this low value woman, this like masculine, this feminine,

00:37:23.920 this. Yeah. It's fake. Yeah. None of that's real. When they talk about high value, this

00:37:29.000 masculine energy, that none of that shit is real. It's not real. None of it's real. You 0.99

00:37:33.460 know what's real? Climate change. You know what's real? The economy going south, bitch. 1.00

00:37:37.800 You know what's real? Racism. You know what's real? Homophobia. All of those things are real. 1.00

00:37:42.620 Those things are real. Focus on the real world. The way that I'm like some of you could literally

00:37:47.640 like, oh my God, I like don't know how you pay bills. How do you pay bills? How do you put

00:37:51.880 on your shoes? I don't get it. How do you feed yourself when you walk around thinking

00:37:54.840 like that all the time? It's, it's just so wild to me how literally the people who aren't

00:37:59.820 going on dates are the ones telling everyone else how they're supposed to get dates. And

00:38:02.880 every time you ask, they go, no, I'm not, no. I mean, not in a relationship currently.

00:38:07.100 What are we talking about then? Like, what are we talking about? And I want you all to remember

00:38:11.080 this too. You should never take advice from someone who doesn't have the life that you

00:38:15.080 want. Amen. Ever. Yes. Don't ever listen to someone. If they don't, if they're not like. Wait,

00:38:20.540 I brought all the flags. Oh, there you go. That deserves a green one. Where's the flag?

00:38:26.180 Beautiful. Look at that. That's what I'm saying. I'm like a collar guard today. If they have,

00:38:30.340 if they have nothing that you want, why are you listening to them? Yeah. Don't internalize

00:38:34.820 it. Don't hold on to it. It's worthless. It truly is. And be mindful of the covertness

00:38:41.320 of some of the misogyny or homophobia. Because again, like, you know, some people start off

00:38:45.580 sounding kind of okay. And then you listen for the full three minute video and you're

00:38:49.840 like, oh, there it was. That's how I feel about the masculine feminine energy video. 0.99

00:38:54.600 I can't stand that stuff. I kicked a whole different hornet's nest, bitch, when I did 1.00

00:38:58.780 that. Oh my God. The way that the spiritual white girls were like, oh, actually. Gender's 1.00

00:39:04.320 a construct. It's a man-made invention. It's not real. Like, it's not, again, speaking of things

00:39:09.420 that are not real. Like, I could sit here and tell you all about the pet dragon I had,

00:39:13.240 but it's not real. It's fake. Both of them hold the exact same weight because they're,

00:39:17.220 yes, they're things that have been created and then like brainwashed into culture. You

00:39:24.340 know what I mean? It's not real. It's not tangible. It's programming to make you hate

00:39:29.160 yourself because when you hate yourself, you are more likely to buy stuff to make yourself

00:39:33.540 feel better. I was going to say, capitalism is a huge part of that too. Exactly. And when

00:39:37.420 you love yourself, you are not as easily duped into buying crap you don't need. Yeah. Or

00:39:43.720 listening to people that don't know what the hell they're talking about. Ding, ding, ding.

00:39:47.480 Which also costs money. Believe it or not, many of these online dating coaches are like,

00:39:52.160 don't forget to buy my book and my bio. Like, girl. Subscribe and follow and all the fun

00:39:57.140 things. It's the biggest scam of all scams. Just like gender is too. Totally. Like, we've 1.00

00:40:01.640 all adhered to a gender binary because of colonization and also religion.

00:40:07.100 You see how all those things are linked. Yeah. If you really like, it's honestly kooky if

00:40:13.140 you unpack it and you see how all of it is so closely tied. Like, religion, white supremacy,

00:40:18.940 colonization, racism, homophobia, all of that. Antisemitism, all of it. All of it is so deeply

00:40:24.940 ingrained, especially in American culture, because of colonization. 1000%. So it's like,

00:40:31.640 once you unpack all of it and you understand that none of this is real, like gender is not real

00:40:36.620 in sexuality is a spectrum, you understand you're like, oh, I don't need to be bothered by this

00:40:41.860 because it's not real. One of the most fun things for me recently is my fiance has started to like

00:40:46.160 lean into his own queerness. Oh, I love. Because, you know, we still as men deal with toxic masculinity

00:40:52.300 and thinking we're supposed to be like cis straight men. Yeah. Look a certain way. Yes.

00:40:57.280 Yes. Again, like I'm sitting here in like a lady's thrift store shirt and he has started to

00:41:01.880 really like find his vibe with just like fun clothing because it's fun. It's not gendered.

00:41:08.380 And it's clothing. Yes. Again, it doesn't mean anything. Like when I had Hina on, Hina's a 1.00

00:41:14.280 non-binary creator. Hina started talking about how like, I'm not going to congratulate you for

00:41:18.460 wearing a fucking skirt. I'm not going to do that. Like, cause it's a non-gendered piece of 1.00

00:41:23.040 clothing and you're not the first person who identifies as a man to wear a skirt. It's not

00:41:28.540 groundbreaking. No, it truly, truly is. Like, good for you, but you're not getting a high five.

00:41:34.040 And you're all, exactly. You're not going to get a pat on the back. And that's what I think too

00:41:37.360 about like bare minimum shit. Like when men say things like, oh. You picked up your own underwear. 1.00

00:41:41.800 Good job. It was your underwear on the floor. Yeah. Oh my God. Hold on. That just reminded me of

00:41:45.940 something I got tagged in. Kiki, let's go. We're, we're going to, we're going to keep

00:41:48.500 going. Did you see that video of the girl? Oh, in labor? No, no. But the one, she made

00:41:55.140 marks on her shower. No, I haven't seen this one. Like her tub. Okay. She made marks on

00:41:59.260 her tub where her boyfriend's like cleaning stuff was. So like soap, loofah. Okay. Right.

00:42:05.420 Like, I don't know. I think it was just. See if it like got moved? Yes. Because she said

00:42:09.640 she had a feeling he wasn't using soap in the shower, bitch. So then she goes, have 1.00

00:42:17.240 you washed your, like, did you shower? He goes, yeah. And she goes, did you wash

00:42:21.580 yourself? He goes, yeah. And then she goes and she looks in the shower and none of

00:42:25.240 this shit is moved. So you can't see the marks that she made underneath them. He's 0.99

00:42:29.080 like laughing and she's laughing and she's going, ha, ha, ha, ha. And he goes, I rinse

00:42:35.800 off with water. What? What? What? Look, I'm a dirty hippie at heart. Like I spent 45 days

00:42:44.800 in the woods hiking. Like I, I can vibe, but there comes a point where you need to clean

00:42:48.920 yourself. Also, why would you like turn on the water and just like dance in the bathroom

00:42:53.360 and then get out with your hair wet from the thing? What are you, a kid learning to brush

00:42:55.800 their teeth? Exactly what I was thinking. What are you insane? You put on an egg timer

00:42:59.040 and you're like, you better brush the whole time you're in there. What? You're doing

00:43:02.160 that to your 30 year old boyfriend? And the fact that people find it funny is kind of

00:43:06.500 heartbreaking for me. It is. It's so sad. Like, because you deserve better. It makes

00:43:12.760 you want to jump off a bridge, bitch. It makes me want to blow up the world because we're 1.00

00:43:16.780 doomed. Yeah. What are you, a deer? Why are you bathing like you're, you're in the

00:43:21.620 Himalayas and you have no access to running? Which is a privilege you should be grateful 1.00

00:43:25.580 for? Even when you take your dog to the groomer, they use soap, bitch. They use soap to clean 1.00

00:43:33.200 them and they're animals who can clean themselves and they still use soap. How are you not using

00:43:39.100 soap in your grown man's ass? How are you not using soap? Again, like dirty hippie vibes 1.00

00:43:43.600 over here to some extent. It's just part of being an adult to take care of yourself and

00:43:49.800 it helps you with like longevity and health. Do you have a job? Do you go to work with

00:43:54.760 a stank ass on purpose? Do they though? Do they? I couldn't tell you. Because the amount 1.00

00:43:59.100 of women that I see carrying men these days too, I'm like, girl, why are you doing this 0.97

00:44:01.800 to yourself? He was wearing basketball shorts and I said, I can only imagine what those

00:44:06.560 smell like, bitch. Oh my God. We all know that locker room. The way it's, I can only, the 1.00

00:44:13.860 toxic waste that is in those Chinese. I can't even imagine. I can't imagine. And I can't 1.00

00:44:19.400 relate. And I think to myself, that's toxic masculinity. It's gone too far, bitch. It's 1.00

00:44:25.340 gone too far. It's like literally toxic. It's like actually to me at that point. That's why

00:44:30.880 I think like at what point does it start to affect me? Because now I have to see. And

00:44:36.300 a lot of people in the comments were like, why are you laughing, girl? And like I was getting

00:44:41.240 like, what's so funny about finding out that your boyfriend hasn't been showering?

00:44:45.980 Unfortunately, it's the coping mechanism of being like, I don't know how to process this

00:44:48.980 any other way. And so I'm going to laugh at this. You share a living space. I know.

00:44:53.500 It's like that story. I think I told it on the show before, but I'm a Virgo. So I repeat

00:44:57.480 stories. I'm so sorry. But like there was one. Don't apologize for being yourself. Don't

00:45:02.240 apologize for being yourself. Oh my God. You're so real for that. There was this one girl

00:45:07.580 that told the story about how like when she was hooking up with this dude, they were

00:45:11.220 dating. And like, obviously when you like have sex, you're naked and he was sitting 0.68

00:45:15.740 on her bed. You are? You do it that way? You can be. What? Crazy. You sit like they 0.99

00:45:19.660 were naked in her bed and like he was sat up to like, you know, he was sitting on the

00:45:23.440 edge of her bed and then he stood up to get dressed. No. And she said there was poop.

00:45:27.460 No. On her sheets, bitch. No. The way that I would be like, hold on, give me one quick 1.00

00:45:33.560 sec, ball those up and then jump out the window holding them. Well, my question is, were

00:45:38.200 they doing something with the butt? Was there butt stuff? No. Or was it just him 0.90

00:45:40.860 being dirty? She said that. She said that. She goes, that wasn't, that wasn't me. That 0.81

00:45:46.520 was him. Like, and she said the first time she gave it a pass. Why? I don't know. But

00:45:54.100 then she said three more times. Every time he stood up, there was poop on her sheets. 0.56

00:46:01.920 Again, queer where, you know, you play with fire, you're going to get burned every now and 1.00

00:46:05.760 then. But that's not what the story sounds like. Yeah. And that's why she said she gave

00:46:09.400 him multiple chances. And then she said she asked him and he was like, oh, I don't wash

00:46:15.180 up there because that's gay. That drives me insane. It's gay to take care of your body. 1.00

00:46:21.300 Uh huh. You know what's more gay? Being afraid of your own butthole. And I'm convinced this 1.00

00:46:25.440 is a big problem of why toxic masculinity is. And I'm about to go on a rant. Men are afraid

00:46:30.380 of their own buttholes. I'm sure. Could you imagine not being aware of all parts of your body,

00:46:35.300 which then leads them to not get prostate checks, which causes cancer? That's that's

00:46:40.320 I mean, that's serious. That's a really good point. But then also, can you can you imagine

00:46:45.480 thinking that it makes you more of a man to have poop in your butt? I can't. I cannot. 1.00

00:46:50.360 This is why I honestly it was stuff like this that made the word man really confusing for

00:46:54.820 me because I was like, I don't want to identify like this. I feel you. And it's really why I've

00:46:58.500 had a hard time with that word. And as I come into my own unique manness, which is really

00:47:02.580 more humanist for me. I'm like, OK, I found like my version of it. Yeah. But I feel like

00:47:06.620 there was not a lot of healthy versions of masculinity or male role models growing up.

00:47:10.340 And so like my role models have always been women. I'll tell you what. Poop in the butt. 1.00

00:47:14.660 I draw the line. I draw the line up. Poop in the butt. You know, I'm on the sheets. Like, 1.00

00:47:18.980 come on. You know, my friend told me she's wax. She's you know what they call it when 0.94

00:47:23.600 because believe it or not, some some people go get waxed. Yeah. Have poop in their butt,

00:47:28.340 which is just absolutely. It gives me nightmares. That would stress me out if I was going somewhere 1.00

00:47:33.700 public with like someone that wasn't like a close personal partner. I mean, that's the part that

00:47:37.760 blows me. You have poop in your butt. That's fine, I guess, to an extent. But like the fact 1.00

00:47:42.280 that, you know, you're going to be Winnie the Pooh and you're going to be squatted over in the most 0.99

00:47:46.280 vulnerable position in your life and you have poop in your butt. Girl. But then she said, you know 1.00

00:47:50.300 what they call it? What? In the waxing industry. I don't know. There's a term for it. Yeah. I don't know

00:47:54.660 if it's, I mean, let me know. Lay it on me. Let's go. She said they call it pumpkin butt. No.

00:48:02.620 Also, this episode is officially moving the butt. Because you know how like when you carve a pumpkin 0.94

00:48:07.840 and you take off the lid, there's like shit. I don't know. This is too far. We've gone too far. 0.99

00:48:19.020 Oh, the way I would shoot myself in the head if someone called me a pumpkin butt girl. 0.98

00:48:22.400 And it's because I had little like pieces of poop hanging. This is what happens when you put us 0.99

00:48:26.840 together. That's all, man. That's literally men like that who are like, that's gay. I don't wash 1.00

00:48:31.520 my butt. All of them are a bunch of pumpkin butts. And you know what? That's your journey to take 1.00

00:48:36.680 alone. I cannot go with you. I can't. I can't. I'm so sorry. You know, I've done a whole TikTok series

00:48:42.280 about my bidet. Highly encourage people to invest in them. They make ones that are. I've heard lots of

00:48:46.780 good things about bidets. Do you not have one yet? No, I don't. Oh, I found my gift for you. Oh,

00:48:50.580 I love it. A tushy. I've had a tushy for years and before the pandemic. Oh yeah, that's right.

00:48:55.720 And then during the pandemic, they kind of blew up and then they were hard to find. And I was like,

00:48:58.720 people are just getting onto this. Oh, that's right. Because of the toilet paper thing. Yeah. And like,

00:49:02.080 you know, I traveled a lot. I've been everywhere and like, they're very common. So this is. Everywhere

00:49:06.380 but the US. Yeah. So this is what I've really learned is like poop in the butt for men apparently is

00:49:10.260 an American thing. Yeah. Dude. Dude. I wouldn't. Yeah. I wouldn't put it past them. It sounds 0.99

00:49:19.100 right. It sounds about right. Yeah. Like just a bunch of pumpkin butts. It's honestly upsetting.

00:49:25.060 I will never forget pumpkin butt. Thank you for that. Thank you for that. You're welcome. Honestly.

00:49:30.980 Woo. Okay. Let's see these last few comments. This one says it's an evil world we live in.

00:49:36.960 He's cold. That's why he's the goat. That's so fucking lame. Cool guys. You guys won't remember. 0.99

00:49:41.600 You guys, I can guarantee you won't remember this. Cool. Do you think. This video or anything

00:49:45.220 in like a couple months. Do you think goat is overused at this point? Yeah. I think it's

00:49:49.960 hilarious to use it in ways that are super not necessary. I love. So like if someone makes

00:49:55.020 your coffee real good, you're like, you're the goat. You're so real for that. Thanks. I love

00:49:58.900 how you have taken bro culture and totally flipped it on its own head. Yeah. I love it so much. Yeah. The way that I'm

00:50:04.940 like, you're so real for that. Hey, stay up Kings. You know what I mean? Question. Sure. Has

00:50:09.840 it become accidentally a part of you? Like your normal vernacular now? Cause like my friends

00:50:14.000 and I back in the day with the college other bro is a joke. And then we started doing it

00:50:17.420 seriously. Oh yeah. I what's funny is before I became anybody at all publicly, I was like

00:50:23.520 don't roll your eyes. I famous. I would literally call people bro all the time. I think bro's

00:50:29.580 my sister and I would call it each other that to be funny. Yeah. And like brother

00:50:33.620 and stuff. I love you guys. Now it's like a thing. Now it's like a thing thing. But

00:50:37.480 like, I love that. I think it's, it's really fun when you say it to them cause they hate

00:50:41.200 it. That's, and I love them all about that. That's the best part of it. Yeah. This last

00:50:45.840 comment says if girls can have a preference, so can guys. I guess if you want to have a preference,

00:50:53.940 they prefer to have pumpkin, but that's on them. So add it to the list, I guess. And again,

00:50:58.060 no one's telling you not to have your preferences. We're saying don't be an asshole online and 1.00

00:51:02.900 use that as your way to like talk about stuff. That's just mean. Well also and unpack why 1.00

00:51:08.360 you have it. Yes. A preference is rooted in something. It's different to be like, I want

00:51:13.440 someone who loves anime, right? That's like a preference that you can't get mad at them

00:51:18.600 for having because if that's an interest they have, they want to have a partner that has a

00:51:21.860 shared interest. Cool. But like when you say, I just, I never want to date a fat person.

00:51:26.900 Why? Totally. That's not a preference. That's, that's a prejudice in those two very different

00:51:33.020 things. It's bigoted and it's rooted in a bigotry of some kind, which is in that case,

00:51:38.800 fat phobia. So like, because that's the thing about that. I made a video about a guy who was

00:51:43.560 like, if I start dating a girl and she gets fat, even if she has kids, I don't want to

00:51:48.620 be with her anymore. I did this one also. Was it the white guys? Yeah. I was thinking of a different

00:51:51.980 guy, but you see how it just, it all, there's so many of them. It repeats over and over and

00:51:55.720 over again. It's the same, it's a never ending song with the same like five things that they

00:51:59.160 say. But in that sense, um, this guy was like, he got upset that people got upset at

00:52:05.680 him. Like he, they get, they get mad and it's like, see, you're so comfortable talking about

00:52:10.760 it, but you're not okay with people reacting negatively to it, which makes no sense. And that's

00:52:16.500 why in one of my videos, I said, if you mean that shit, then stand behind it. That part 1.00

00:52:21.620 like, like you're a coward, like on top of that, you're a flip flopper, like pick a side 1.00

00:52:25.920 and stay on it, bitch. Like if you're going to say, I hate, I never want to date fat women. 1.00

00:52:30.380 And then people are like, well, you're ugly and disgusting and I hate you. And then he's 1.00

00:52:33.820 like, why would you hate me? Just because I said, I have a preference just because I have

00:52:37.040 a preference. And then I say, well, I'm not going to date anyone. That's not heavy enough

00:52:41.020 to sit in the front seat of a car. And then they're like, Oh, Oh, so you're, so you're going

00:52:45.820 to get mad at me for things you can control. That's what they always say. Oh, you know,

00:52:50.380 girl, it's, we'll be here all day. That's what I always think. Exactly. We'll be here

00:52:53.960 all day if I gave you the time. And the truth of the matter is it's part of how we're all

00:52:57.660 programmed. It's in all of us. So you have to just go, it's there. Why is it there? How

00:53:04.700 can I do and be better? Because it isn't healthy for me to carry this stuff around and it's hurting

00:53:10.600 me and potentially finding like real love too. Yeah. I always, I always say almost all

00:53:18.860 the people I have dated before the pandemic, the pandemic changed everything I met in real

00:53:22.640 life and I probably wouldn't have swiped yes on them. Yeah. Seeing them in person and getting

00:53:27.200 a vibe and just being more open because you know, you don't know anyone really through

00:53:30.880 this like personified resume with a headshot. Yeah. And it's just like, you're losing out

00:53:36.400 on so many wonderful possibilities. Yeah. And if you really spent enough time unpacking

00:53:42.200 your preferences, you would understand all of these internalized bigoted thoughts and

00:53:48.320 beliefs that you have had and held on to for a long time. And I would know because just like

00:53:53.700 everybody else, I was a pick me at one point. We all have internalized misogyny, racism, homophobia,

00:54:00.120 transphobia, all of that is literally all of us. Yeah. And it's our job as taxpaying,

00:54:05.420 contributing members of society to unpack it and unlearn it. Yes. And then go from there. And

00:54:12.920 then you, you'd be surprised how much happier and more fulfilling your life is. Amen. And you're

00:54:18.040 not holding on to hate. Yes. And I say all the time, like I want you in our love army. I want you

00:54:22.400 to be a part of what we are doing. I want you to feel like you are in a place where you can heal

00:54:27.400 and grow because that is how boring to be this hateful person for the rest of your life. Yeah.

00:54:33.240 We live a long time today. Yeah. And I think too, I've said it, I've said this too, to people like

00:54:38.140 the shit that I say on TikTok, like the jokes that I make, that's not mean. That's not mean that, 0.99

00:54:42.980 I mean, it is mean, but it's not me being actually mean. If I was actually going to be mean,

00:54:48.180 it would be me telling all of these dudes who act and believe in these things. I was like,

00:54:53.200 the reason why you act like that is because you are aggressively mediocre in every way, shape and form.

00:54:59.020 Yes. You've never been the star in your own life. You've only ever been a background character.

00:55:03.060 So the only way you feel good about yourself is by attacking people who are the stars in their own

00:55:07.440 lives. It makes you feel good about yourself, but then you're going to live an unfulfilled,

00:55:11.780 normal, mediocre life and you're going to die that way. At best. That's mean. Yes. That's an

00:55:17.120 insult, bitch, because it's true. It's true. And that's what happens when you, that's why I'm like, 1.00

00:55:22.280 why do you think everyone who's bigoted is ugly? That's God punishing you. I've been trolled for saying stuff

00:55:27.420 like that. It's true though. That's you heard it from Drew. You're fine. Yeah. I'll say it to

00:55:31.880 your face, bitch. That's why you're ugly because that's why your hairline is ass. That's why your 1.00

00:55:36.500 calves and your genetics suck. It's because you're a bad person. The end. And like only drains want to 1.00

00:55:43.720 drain you of your fountain energy. Fountains want to hang out with other fountains. Amen. You're only

00:55:49.500 miserable because you don't know how to get yourself to feel a little bit better, which we all want.

00:55:53.820 I want to see you feel better. Yeah. I don't care either way if you feel good or not.

00:55:58.700 You can feel good, bad, indifferent. I don't really give a shit. As long as you don't bring 0.99

00:56:02.440 it on TikTok and I have to look at it. And this is where I say, I feel like you have every right

00:56:06.160 to say that because I know people get at you for that stuff, but I'm like, as a woman of color, 0.85

00:56:09.760 you deal with so much more that people just don't take into account and it's f***ed up. 0.88

00:56:14.480 You will. And I'm, I'm tired of waiting as are most people. We're tired of waiting on you. Like if you

00:56:18.480 want to, if you want to make your own life better, do it on your own time. Uh, in the meantime though,

00:56:24.020 catch these jokes, bitch. That's what I think. If you can catch. If you can. I doubt it though, 1.00

00:56:28.980 since you didn't make it off JV in high school. All right. Last video. That's still generous though.

00:56:33.860 Okay. So that's actually the only video we're going to talk about today because we had a key,

00:56:37.640 key fun time. Yeah. We talked too much. I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry at all. Don't be sorry at all.

00:56:42.000 That's the best, the best kinds of episodes. Honestly, the last one I filmed, we didn't even get to the

00:56:45.500 videos. Oh really? We were talking too much. I mean, that would have been easy, but I'm glad we did.

00:56:49.480 Those are always the best kinds of videos. Honestly, they do the best and have the most fun with those

00:56:54.260 because we get to love and have so much fun. Yeah. Thank you so much for coming. Oh my gosh. Thank you

00:56:59.200 so much for having me. Oh my gosh. Are you kidding? I'm obsessed with you. Same. And I like cannot wait

00:57:03.840 to see you continue to crush it and be an even bigger star than you already are. Same. Because you do,

00:57:08.860 you have something very special about you. And I've said this to you before. I'm going to say it again. I'm going to say it on

00:57:12.300 camera. If you don't like it, it's because she's shining so bright that you're blinded. Put on

00:57:17.760 your shades. It's going to be okay. Thank you so much. Thank you all for checking in on this 50th

00:57:22.900 episode of the comment section show. Make sure y'all go check out and follow and be obsessed with

00:57:28.900 everything Barrett is doing as am I. Where can everybody find you? You can find me at Barrett,

00:57:33.640 B-A-R-E-T-T, Paul, P-A-L-L on everything. That's it. Love. Absolutely love. Please go follow Barrett.

00:57:39.520 Please go join his love army. I'm obsessed with him. You're in it. Everything he does.

00:57:43.160 Absolutely. I want everyone else to join too. Yes, please come on. We're recruiting. We always

00:57:47.120 are. Yes. Please come join and make sure you follow and like everything Barrett does because

00:57:52.120 he's flawless and amazing and I adore him. And thank you all for joining us on this episode

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00:58:04.660 You can also stream every episode on every streaming platform that you can stream podcasts from.

00:58:09.080 So Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon, all that stuff. You know where to find me, bitch. 1.00

00:58:13.620 But I will see you next week. Happy 50 episodes. 0.99

00:58:16.120 And I'll see you later. Bye.

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