The Comment Section with Drew Afualo

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00:00:11.900 hey y'all and welcome back to another episode of the comment section show starring me

00:00:21.340 your girl your favorite the one and only today i have one of my ogs my a1 since day one

00:00:28.260 dominique robert honestly period i'm so happy to have you the honor is all mine let's start there

00:00:40.340 for those of you who don't know dom was one of the was literally not one of the first person to

00:00:45.140 ever ask me to be on a podcast i did i begged yeah i groveled i said babe please i literally saw your

00:00:53.280 dm and i was like yes immediately yes and that was one of the best episodes i've ever recorded

00:00:58.420 oh that's so sweet the start of rock and roll history start of it all

00:01:02.160 school of rock literally i i was so like it's so full circle my mom was saying that earlier she

00:01:09.940 was like so full circle it is the most full circle moment because now i'm on a casual movie set so

00:01:15.060 don was like i saw i knew yeah she said i knew i know a baddie when i see one i peeped it from the

00:01:22.900 jump yes we both knew and and honestly it's an honor i love you bro dude no because you know i'm

00:01:29.440 obsessed with you same i like stay literally in your comment section like i know i'd be running

00:01:36.220 rampant in that bitch and it's it's crazy because you and i i was just on your podcast like

00:01:41.700 a little more than a year ago yeah look how time flies look it has been 10 years since that last

00:01:48.180 time 100 no really this is our last ride we're over the hill now

00:01:53.680 our reunion our reunion tour yeah truly is normalize a reunion tour i i'm i'm with it honestly i'm with

00:02:02.900 you on that dom is truly an icon of legend on instagram specifically but also she's branched into

00:02:10.560 all the other platforms you know i'm just trying to spread my wings and fly you're so amazing i'm

00:02:15.900 just trying to let my freak flag fly through the wind baby i know and i i truly have so much fun

00:02:24.640 talking to you because you're so funny but you're also so smart and i stand a smart bitch i love me a

00:02:30.680 smart bitch a smarty knows a smarty period and that's why i love talking to you too because you

00:02:36.520 have such nuanced takes on stuff too which i love talking about shit like that with anyone

00:02:41.960 especially a bad bitch a bad bitch who talks her shit i know we haven't even known each other that

00:02:48.780 long but it feels like literally sisterhood from jump like like diapers yeah like we've known each

00:02:54.900 other since then for so long i like edit photos of us like literally i was a big baby were you big

00:03:01.620 oh i was thicky really i was thicky thicky i was like nine pounds or something me too look at that

00:03:07.900 twins i was literally almost 10 pounds i was nine pounds 12 ounces but the craziest thing so i'm like

00:03:14.480 half asian and my mom's 4 11 and i just ripped through her just literally ripped through her like

00:03:21.540 lebron james like popping out of her yeah i was just telling uh someone this too like my mom's 5 3

00:03:28.100 but my dad's 6 6 so yeah my dad's on how big the kids are gonna be my dad's like

00:03:34.400 6 3 6 4 and my mom's 4 11 perfect look at that look at our parents are like i know she loves a

00:03:40.560 tall king do we have the same parents guys guys guys do you have something to tell us the sisterhood

00:03:47.400 of traveling i know i was like i was just telling someone the other day like my sister is literally

00:03:53.340 5 4 my older sister and then i'm six feet tall and then my brother is like six feet and a quarter

00:03:59.640 six one yeah so there's a little jump little wireless raising the bar those three of us we

00:04:05.680 just got taller and taller thank god i thought my brother was gonna be short oh yeah for a minute i

00:04:09.640 was like i'm scared buddy might have to develop a personality really early on short king spring

00:04:15.300 it's kind of trending right now you know what i'm okay with a short king i'm okay with a short

00:04:21.780 king i recently have been dating short kings look at you don't know what that's all about well you're

00:04:27.440 like i would say average size like i'm like five six yeah i was gonna guess five six okay i mean

00:04:34.360 actually i'm like five five and a half but i lie on my dating profiles and say i'm five six yeah round

00:04:39.900 up yeah because i feel like guys who are like five five will be like well i'm five five too so we

00:04:46.020 can be together and i'm like eye level yeah well see i'm a big bitch so i like yeah i need a bigger

00:04:52.400 dude like that's just me personally in my opinion like my boyfriend's tall so yeah he's taller than me

00:04:58.520 so when women or women especially but like when they meet me in public they're like damn bitch you're

00:05:04.540 tall the first time i met you i was like yeah for some reason people think i'm i'm a tiny little

00:05:10.620 girl i don't know why i just thought i didn't think you would be so tall yeah literally everyone's like

00:05:16.880 you are so much taller than i thought you were gonna be i always wear heels or platforms too so that

00:05:20.620 doesn't help yeah but when they when they find out how tall i am they're like if that's how tall you

00:05:24.540 are how tall is your man because he makes me look yeah small he makes you look benny girl i'm like so

00:05:29.060 tiny you look small girl like a little poly pocket pick you up so it's actually a really

00:05:36.780 great transition into what we're going to talk about but before we get into our topic for today

00:05:40.540 for those of you who don't know what we do here on the comment section show is we take videos from

00:05:45.260 tiktok that i've been tagged in we bring them here and i like to say we just rip them up rip them to

00:05:49.300 shreds make fun of them talk our shit you know you know the deal you and i do it privately so we do

00:05:54.360 it privately but now we're about to do it publicly yeah exactly so for this week's topic today we're

00:06:00.520 going to talk about fetishization specifically when it comes to women like men fetishizing women

00:06:07.160 of color or black women or all of the above thank you for calling me in because i've been dying to

00:06:12.620 speak about it okay i've been dying to speak about it i'm so glad because obviously you're you're

00:06:18.200 actually both oh yeah you're a black and a woman of color you're both and i'm a woman of color so here

00:06:22.880 we go we get it no better no better sources to ask than i think the source so when i talk about

00:06:29.320 fetish specifically fetishizing women of color and black women yeah what are your thoughts initially

00:06:33.720 well the definition of a fetish is like the sexual arousal towards um an action or inanimate object

00:06:43.700 yeah and so the weird thing is is when people fetishize like women of color yeah or like any

00:06:52.260 bipoc yeah that's not an inanimate object yeah you know like that's a human being yeah like a sentient

00:06:58.760 person yeah i when i the most common one that people think of that comes to mind or that i think of

00:07:05.380 that's very like stereotypical that i feel like but a little less frequent to see yeah is like those

00:07:11.680 creepy old white guys who are like my nubian chocolate gouda bomb bombshell good like just all these

00:07:21.820 hershey chocolate kiss bar let me eat you up let me take you home let me put you in the freezer at

00:07:28.420 my snickers bar you know what i'm saying like they be saying the crazy i'm like bro bro where'd that

00:07:34.640 shit come from you know what i'm saying they're comparing you to an inanimate object yes but i think

00:07:39.600 the more common one that we see and we are that people are less likely to call out because it's a

00:07:48.260 little more normalized especially on tiktok i see the most on tiktok yeah it's little old golden

00:07:53.220 retriever connor yeah with his little jerry curl perm that he that his mother marissa did in the house

00:08:00.920 and he he takes a tiktok in his bedroom and he goes i love a black queen yeah every other queen

00:08:08.360 dead to me yeah a black queen though she rises and i'm like yeah that's a fetishization it is yeah

00:08:15.140 and it's disguised as like a compliment because it's performative admiration yeah oh yeah that's

00:08:21.660 the perfect like you want the clout of saying that you love black women yeah but if you actually just

00:08:27.400 loved black women you wouldn't need to shout you wouldn't need to say it because you would just

00:08:31.240 have love black women you wouldn't need to tattoo it on your forehead like a sign yeah just in case

00:08:36.700 you guys didn't know exactly this guy you don't even come find me and and they know i think the

00:08:44.920 saddest part of it all is like these guys i'll just label them connors you know this is the best way to

00:08:51.040 put it we all know yeah we know what we're talking about here they know how to prey on the insecurities

00:08:57.460 of women of color yeah and they know that from birth like we're told like you're not equivalent like

00:09:04.860 you aren't the beauty standard like yeah you know like the colonizer set the beauty standard at an

00:09:10.000 early age so we're having to build up our self-confidence and like believe in ourselves

00:09:16.400 and they play on that and they play on that and we've all fallen victim yeah no it's true it's very

00:09:21.600 true especially the biggest thing would be any sort of adhering to any sort of eurocentric beauty

00:09:26.560 standards or whatever it may be like contouring your face to look smaller getting work done to have

00:09:31.940 like a tinier nose a tighter jawline higher cheekbones like things that are not natural to

00:09:36.320 your specific ethnicity yes so like for me like i have a very round face like i have a super round

00:09:42.520 face and all these like shithead dudes with no show by the way i have a show you don't let's remember

00:09:48.360 that let's keep that front of mind okay is they always try to say things like oh like you look so fat

00:09:54.960 you look so whatever like from whatever angle but i just have a round face yeah there's quite literally

00:10:00.720 nothing wrong with that and i said and this round face is paying the bills bitch this round face is

00:10:07.420 in hollywood bitch so where the f*** are you yeah where your ass was at when we would count on all the

00:10:13.880 stacks i would like to know nowhere to be found so yeah exactly but like the the point you made about

00:10:22.340 men who kind of put it on this pedestal as opposed to like you can always tell i can always see right

00:10:28.340 through it especially when they specifically date a certain race like they go out of their way to

00:10:35.480 date a certain way a certain race for whatever reason and them saying like oh i just really like

00:10:40.040 them that's weird it's giving me fetish mama yes and they try and disguise it with like no like i just

00:10:47.560 am really attracted to like these types of features like these kinds of things and i'm like that's a

00:10:52.380 yeah it's giving fetish yeah it's giving me fetish so we agree then so we're on the same page exactly

00:10:58.720 and i think that so many people you know especially women of color yeah who are like younger and like

00:11:06.600 more susceptible and like haven't had as much time to like build up their like confidence and like

00:11:12.200 just believing in themselves and being like yeah like i actually am beautiful despite like what the

00:11:17.380 world has shown or said to me stand up because when i check the comment section then of a man

00:11:25.340 talking about like love a black queen yeah got a buzz cut jack harlow effect all this yeah they in the

00:11:33.300 comment section too being like oh my gosh do you like black girls oh my gosh do you i'm like babe

00:11:40.040 you're all calm we got to be a united front yes i'm like babe i'm embarrassed i'm embarrassed for you

00:11:45.660 it's kind of like for me like i'm i'm someone so like i'm pacific islander so typically speaking

00:11:51.280 the conners don't come knocking on my door yeah never the only times they have is when they thought

00:11:57.200 i was latin and that's a whole nother kind of fetish yes like they literally like oh me gusta like

00:12:03.500 i literally had a dude come to me and starts trying to speak spanish to me i said are you talking to me

00:12:08.040 are you talking i literally was like are you talking to me and he's like yeah like i love i love latinas

00:12:14.560 i go i mean me too but where they at because she ain't here i was like i i'm not latina yeah like

00:12:22.100 it's also it's just the confidence yeah yeah it's audacity no truly like with no fact checking like

00:12:27.960 wouldn't you want to ask me what my name is yes what all your what's your first and last name

00:12:32.760 before before i really run this game first last in uh where'd you grow up yeah your city of origin

00:12:40.000 yeah run me that 23 and me i really want to check something really quick exactly yes i like i think

00:12:46.920 it's uh for for someone people like you know the conners don't really flock to me but um for

00:12:53.740 someone men it's a lot different so like my boyfriend's a someone man handsome objectively speaking

00:13:00.120 good looking dude right the older white women pussy in the wind constantly i i go i'm like i'm just

00:13:08.180 trying to eat the cheesecake factory i don't want to see this don't make me bear witness to this

00:13:12.680 they don't care they don't they'll say the most out-of-pocket shit it's it's it's bizarre if

00:13:19.140 there's one thing an old white woman will do she will not have an ounce of shame that's one thing that

00:13:25.700 none none at all and and it's like uh it's almost like they're operating under this well he's never

00:13:32.300 gonna want to be with me so i'm just gonna i'm just gonna throw it all out there throw my hat in that

00:13:36.840 ring see what happens yes you know what i mean and it's they say the most i don't and it's very

00:13:41.100 it's giving me very much fetish oh yeah it's so creepy almost to where it's like and i think that

00:13:48.260 really ties into the fact where they think well we should be complimented exactly like yeah because

00:13:55.300 the world has you know we say it so i say it so often at least i'm just like yeah i've grown up

00:14:01.860 believing that like you know society's treated me less than because of like how western society

00:14:09.240 and their beauty standards are ran yeah so they're just like well haven't you been complaining about

00:14:14.420 being less than so if i call you a chocolate newbie and queen shouldn't you be shouldn't you be honored

00:14:20.220 yeah shouldn't you be thankful you're telling me you don't like that you're telling me you don't

00:14:24.120 like that isn't that what you you black people have been asking for this whole time and i'm like

00:14:28.440 you're like no no not once have we asked for that never ever have i thought how kind to be

00:14:36.240 compared to a hershey's kiss bar yeah it's not a compliment that's what i always and i think too

00:14:41.260 like for i think this happens for a lot of races too but specifically for samuan men um the fetish

00:14:47.520 revolves around them being so big like big and strong and tall and athletic and it's like uh

00:14:54.100 i've seen women like in college too you know what's the equivalent of a connor less stacy

00:15:00.720 stacy yeah like they they literally um only date polynesian football players because they're like

00:15:07.360 they call them jersey chasers right because they're trying to secure a bag they're trying

00:15:11.220 i mean flip that the other way too like i feel like there were so many girls growing up who were like

00:15:17.740 i just want a little mixed baby oh yeah i just want to yeah like someone's like oh like i just

00:15:24.040 want i want big athletic kids yeah i'm all your genes aren't gonna help with that

00:15:28.400 you gotta get two of us one and two of you that's half a chance maybe that's 50 50 babe

00:15:36.100 i know just the smallest little shabby with like a big dude i've like hardly ever had well no i've been

00:15:41.680 fetishized before but it was more so when they picked the wrong race but even when they did

00:15:46.120 they did find out they'd be like what are you like hawaiian or something and i'd be like no

00:15:50.620 and they're like what are you and i say i'm someone they're like ah same thing but it's not

00:15:56.640 it's just also the disrespect yeah it's truly like a dismissal of your yeah nationality heritage

00:16:02.300 anything whatever you want to call it ethnicity which is like more proof to the fact that you genuinely

00:16:06.580 do not care about yeah the culture of which i hold like yeah literally at all they're just like

00:16:12.360 licking using their eyes yeah they're like town usa that's all this is like what i see your mind

00:16:18.420 that's literally all being like creepy bitches right okay so we're gonna get into this first

00:16:25.320 video that i got tagged in right so i just like to give summaries so this is a white man uh and he's

00:16:32.240 very aware i'm pretty i think i've seen i've definitely seen this video but you probably have

00:16:36.340 too because i saw it go viral but he's very aware of the intricacies of a woman of color's hair

00:16:41.460 routine namely a black woman right so he pulls out like all these like extra bonnets he has like

00:16:46.560 shows like he has silk pillowcases um you know to fight the friction when you sleep and make your hair

00:16:52.920 more manageable in the morning so it's like it's super like he's i think it if i remember correctly

00:16:58.760 he was very like whatever you need queen i got you just like the exact video you were making up

00:17:03.040 whatever you need queen i got you i got you covered so like what's what's your like

00:17:08.960 knee-jerk reaction to that babe first off is giving ran through

00:17:13.820 you a hoe that's what it sounds like you ain't a sally's beauty supplier i have like an emergency

00:17:21.280 kit how you have an emergency but i don't even have an emergency bonnet kit yes like one of those

00:17:25.940 like doomsday and also reparations send me one how he has one of those those doomsday kits but it's

00:17:32.720 just for only for black women it's just bonnets it's just bonnets and leave-in conditioners just

00:17:38.980 for the end of the world that's it but also like doesn't that mean you're specifically dating

00:17:44.280 only black women well and also like once again it goes back to you want the clout yeah

00:17:50.660 of just being like yeah i know what a bonnet is yeah i know it's not a chef's hat i know it's a bonnet

00:17:57.420 like no really because that's how they be acting like that's really how they be acting they're like

00:18:03.220 yeah i'm woke yeah yeah it's like that fake woke shit yeah where it's really it's like a performative

00:18:08.540 admiration yeah and the sad thing is people fall for it they fall for it and you will have a whole

00:18:15.580 entire platform well and then you and then you have people who are not black yeah chiming in and being

00:18:20.820 like this is sweet why do you guys have to ruin everything chiming in on behalf of the people that

00:18:26.960 he's trying to target babe no one was talking to you you're not in the conversation don't put

00:18:31.820 yourself in there don't but they love to do that yeah yeah they love to speak on things that don't

00:18:36.500 apply they love to add themselves to the conversation no and that to me is just like right then and there

00:18:42.620 i'm like if we want to like move forward as a society yeah and just see like these standards and

00:18:49.440 like these beauty standards and i have a very hopeful take towards us growing and becoming better

00:18:56.020 and also like obliterating like those standards that we're seeing today and i think that they're

00:19:01.600 gonna go away because of you know this show and like having these very real conversations about

00:19:06.760 this is actually red flag yeah i'm waving my imaginary red flag in the air and calling it out yeah and

00:19:16.220 yeah and i think like the more active we are about having this conversation and calling it out when we

00:19:21.620 see it yeah it's only just gonna help like educate and prepare people for like yeah this is what you're

00:19:27.120 gonna see yeah because i i'd hope i'd hope that sometimes there's no ill intention when you post stuff

00:19:34.480 like that although sometimes i like i said i think it's just for clicks and views sometimes but sometimes

00:19:40.080 i think that they genuinely believe that that's a compliment in which if someone's got to beat it out of

00:19:45.980 you i will you know what i mean it's gonna be me and tom if i have to beat that out of your head

00:19:50.760 then i will whatever gets you helps you learn to get bad girls club miami so the comments on this

00:19:58.660 video are really funny but like the first one says this is chris evans fault this is right even there

00:20:06.440 chris jaquara morris evans jaquaramarius evans they made him an honorary black person yeah let's stop

00:20:13.960 with that chris jaquarius stop well and i always think you know it's so funny because i know you

00:20:20.220 relate to this too show me the proof dates date a minority bitch take her on that red carpet prove

00:20:28.240 it to me if that's the case prove it captain america listen up if you're watching this it's not enough

00:20:35.500 to flirt with lizzo put your money we want the sex tape no i'm just kidding

00:20:40.720 i'm like put your money with your mouth when they say like oh yeah like like you see them flirting or

00:20:46.560 whatever like what other i forget whether white dudes they be saying that about but like

00:20:50.840 jock carlo oh yeah that's a great one yeah like like right now i'm like show show me the proof

00:20:59.500 i want to see you out with one of them i want to see you out with a black girl any sort of minority

00:21:04.580 girl indigenous girl just anything asian girl you name it minority girl show it to me island

00:21:10.800 we just want to see something like do you ever see like uh like white male celebrities that are like

00:21:17.360 let's just say harry styles for example and someone who's universally loved everybody's like he's so hot

00:21:23.020 i love him i want him blah blah blah do you ever have this conversation with your other minority girlies

00:21:27.720 and you're like i don't know does he date brown bitches though i don't know every day every day

00:21:32.600 i talk about that with my sister all the time i'm on i don't think he's with brown girls it is it's a

00:21:36.900 point of conversation it is but like it's so weird that we even have to wire our brains to just be

00:21:43.400 like is it worth it let me work it you know what i'm saying like we're like i don't know yeah is this

00:21:51.580 worth my fantasy crush because what if he just doesn't date women who look like me yeah i i truly think

00:21:56.860 that all the time oh that's why i said prove it to me prove it so i was a nick jonas girly and i

00:22:02.220 always say too i think i knew deep down that he was down for the brown i think i knew it's

00:22:07.560 minorities it's something about the way that they just it's something there's something it's in the

00:22:15.500 bloodstream or something you can feel it you can it's the same way you can feel it's not that it's

00:22:19.440 not the case it's a vibe yeah it's the same way you can feel it's not the case or if it's like an act

00:22:24.240 like for example

00:22:25.800 channing tatum okay yeah you know what i'm saying like yeah yeah an energy it's an energy yeah like

00:22:35.820 you feel like he is or is not i i feel like he i don't know i don't know yeah he's kind of a

00:22:42.300 question mark he's a question mark but chris chris evans no i'm like what you got a buzz cut once

00:22:48.820 babe you went to the barber shop once a high fade a high top fade one time yeah one time

00:22:55.280 yeah yeah him i i never thought so either no i never thought so either and it was it was that

00:23:00.540 little that video of him and the ones of him flirting with that one really beautiful reporter

00:23:05.600 yes yeah i saw that i'm like it's not enough it that's why i said it's not give me more i need more

00:23:10.860 concrete evidence that is where the that's how the bar is that much on the it's literally it's not

00:23:16.280 even found in hell well see and isn't that isn't that sad because uh we've been conditioned to

00:23:22.320 believe that that's never the case so on the off chance that someone who's like a mainstream celebrity

00:23:27.340 is down and like open to dating women just because he likes him it doesn't really matter but

00:23:32.660 it ends up being a minority woman people are like oh isn't that so sad like people are like

00:23:38.600 i'm so excited yeah but like when they date other white people it's like okay yeah like well yeah it's

00:23:45.080 like expected almost yeah i'm just like okay it's like a shocking twist if that that's not the case

00:23:50.820 yeah i'm like okay i see you right we're rocking with mark because we're all yeah because mark's

00:23:58.740 rocking with us yeah okay this is this next one says y'all gave this non-black person 100k likes for

00:24:05.380 being knee-deep in black business corny was that you from your burner yeah i wasn't gonna say anything but

00:24:13.540 yeah you're all that was me all right fine it was me yeah i was like the jigs up

00:24:17.520 you got me red-handed no seriously wait exactly yeah i'm like first off you're in black people's

00:24:25.400 business yeah shut up and is it even really real is it even really real yeah because if it was real

00:24:34.360 if okay let's paint a picture yeah if i was dating this man uh-huh and like let's just say he actually

00:24:42.180 had those bonnets on deck for me yeah and he was like yeah look at my bonnets like i take care of

00:24:48.980 my girl i would be like put it away delete that i don't want to see i don't want to see it don't come by

00:24:57.680 my house no more i am literally like you have embarrassed me love in front of all these people

00:25:05.200 i'm embarrassed love yeah don't tag me don't tag me remove me from that grid and let me add one

00:25:11.760 more other point yeah what's so funny is you will see these men literally be like bonnet king like

00:25:16.420 whatever i'm gonna call them bonnet kings these bonnet kings will literally be like yeah i love a black

00:25:22.240 woman from infinity to infinity and then you go through the who they follow all white girls i've

00:25:28.120 seen that i've seen that like have you heard of um yitties on tiktok yes so she and she was every

00:25:35.480 time they're like oh i love i love a big girl i love a thick girl whatever and then she goes to their

00:25:39.880 following and they're only following yeah and she's like factor cap that's what she says cap it's cap

00:25:45.360 i'm like yeah it's true that's why like you said performative adoration literally more than

00:25:52.720 anything yeah this next one says not the community bonnet i thought that i thought that too i was

00:26:01.540 like you just be letting people use just use and do you take care of them afterwards or did you buy

00:26:06.320 them all for this video yeah all brand new and then return them after this last one says because a lot

00:26:11.960 of y'all are easy when it comes to white guys well now we've taken a turn yeah now i'm taking a turn

00:26:18.000 who's y'all is our reason y'all and here's the other thing too i think like the biggest thing to

00:26:26.420 acknowledge yeah is like don't place the blame on the black woman in or just any woman of color in

00:26:33.920 the comment section exactly feeding into the attention exactly because think about how we've been

00:26:38.960 treated like i think that all the time too if you know if you neglect someone if you tell them like

00:26:43.960 you i and this is just very real at least from my experience this is just me being very like open

00:26:49.740 and honest like i think a lot of women of color would hate to admit this so i will don't worry y'all

00:26:56.500 i'll do it um but you actually do go through i think very early on for me it was when i was like

00:27:06.200 16 17 grew up in a predominantly white like neighborhood so if there was a guy who was

00:27:13.940 white who did give me minuscule ounce raindrop drop top ounce of attention i would eat that shit up

00:27:22.300 like a sugar cookie because to me i was like finally i'm being validated yeah and it and then it's just

00:27:29.280 like when you become older yeah you start to think for yourself and you have access to like resources

00:27:35.020 and you're able to like see yourself as a beautiful person like yeah you know outside of their

00:27:42.660 outside of their validation outside of what society tells you and like you build up your own self-worth

00:27:49.160 yeah yeah now if someone comes at me with some crazy shit get on my face yeah i don't like you

00:27:55.300 you know and it's true i mean it's it's true for like many many many women i'm sure but especially

00:28:00.820 obviously obviously black women too i can't even imagine but like minority women in general like

00:28:06.440 it we've all been held to the same beauty standard like the men that we've been we've seen growing up

00:28:11.980 that are like the hot ones yeah attracted to or like been told like oh this person's attractive

00:28:17.260 typically speaking they never especially in media end up with women who look like me or you

00:28:23.500 never they always it's giving me hannah montana you know what i mean like hannah montana those are

00:28:29.700 like the women that they always end up with so of course like you think okay well that's the

00:28:34.180 pinnacle of beauty like that's what i should strive for because that's what they're looking for and i

00:28:39.280 like them so exactly and it's just a vicious cycle yeah and this comment's so interesting because it's

00:28:44.300 like but it's really like no but let's like flip the table and really like look to the men who are

00:28:53.360 like why is it that way yeah and it's just like you guys are the ones abusing your power you know

00:28:58.240 it is a power dynamic yeah you know what i'm saying like you hold the privilege to set the standard of

00:29:04.300 beauty yeah you know like it's it's i think you see this probably a lot on tiktok but um this is a

00:29:11.480 little more different and off topic but it's even like the same guys who are like we got to protect

00:29:15.600 this one we've got to protect this one girl like they so then all then it's like you see all the

00:29:21.900 other guys commenting like this is my dream girl this is like yeah so it's just that power dynamic of

00:29:27.940 they set the standard of beauty and what's accepted and in the same vein but obviously not like you said

00:29:34.140 it's kind of off topic like that's why with pick me girls like people are like you should drag women

00:29:40.140 too and i always go why you guys do that enough yeah y'all do that enough for me you don't need

00:29:44.220 my help with that do you i was like you are 25 8 round the clock doing it so you don't need my help

00:29:50.580 with for that one and two like am i ever gonna drag women the same way i drag men no i've said that

00:29:56.220 many times but at the same time i'm not gonna save them you can't save everybody i tried i try girl

00:30:00.660 i try to throw you a life raft i'm on your side we're on your side yeah but at the same time i feel

00:30:05.260 sorry for her because i know why she's like that exactly but unlike me like i've took the steps to

00:30:11.060 unlearn the internalized misogyny that we're all born with and ingrained with when we're raised inside

00:30:16.220 a patriarchal society yes we all have it inside us we just have to work it out yes it's your job to

00:30:20.760 unlearn it exactly yeah just internalized racism and misogyny like both combined and it's it's a daily

00:30:26.860 practice it's literally like hearing those thoughts like you know if you see something and your instant

00:30:32.060 thought is like a misogynistic one it happens yeah yeah for you to like be like wait why did i just

00:30:37.900 think that like you know and you come to the root of like where that belief came from exactly like

00:30:43.500 that's how you put in the work to create like change within yourself yeah because i just think a lot of

00:30:48.600 them don't know where to start yeah exactly and who's always at the root of that problem men always

00:30:55.020 m let me get an m yeah let me get an e e like truly like what does that spell not shit

00:31:02.940 that's like truly like that i was like turns out you're the root of all evil huh

00:31:08.260 we gotta rip it out root and stem you know like truly you gotta rip it out i ripped mine out a long

00:31:14.740 time ago i know you did too some women is still growing inside them yeah it's a it's a virus that's

00:31:20.760 what it does and i and i always think too when you let go of that like for both men and women and

00:31:25.860 everyone else it sets you free when you let it go like a butterfly life will so much be so much

00:31:32.500 easier and happier you'll be more fulfilled they're just it's a win-win like there's peace on your pillow

00:31:39.680 truly truly okay so now we're gonna play a little game okay just kind of break it up a little bit so

00:31:47.180 today we're gonna be playing finding the fetish that's our game for today so i'm gonna ask you

00:31:52.500 some questions and then you can answer it um they either are not fetishizing you or they are

00:31:57.680 fetishizing you okay so this first one says a man you're dating violates your space and touches

00:32:02.920 parts of your body to determine if it's real your hair body etc fetish yeah they're because basically

00:32:11.820 they're treating you like a science experiment as opposed to like i don't know a human yeah human

00:32:18.000 being yeah it's giving fetish it's giving it's just good why would you ever do that what if you

00:32:24.060 started doing that to white people y'all is that real let me touch it yeah let me touch it but you

00:32:28.620 know what's so crazy too just really quick yeah it's usually not like sometimes like you know like

00:32:34.000 it's just like and they have extensions too you know like i'm saying like it white people do that too

00:32:39.340 but it's like different yeah it's different when britney does it i know it's just like it's just so

00:32:46.080 much more i really really hate when people are like it just doesn't look natural duh duh bitch you

00:32:53.040 think i paid you think i paid someone money actual currency to glue tiny pieces of hair to my eyeballs

00:33:00.120 for him to look real what are you nuts i want people to see it from space i want people to see my

00:33:06.500 i want them to hear me blink that's what i want i want it to sound like a wing is flapping like a

00:33:13.760 bald eagle like truly like a turbine on a plane is getting kicked off that's what i want it to sound

00:33:19.100 like every time helicopter chopper just starting same thing with my nails the same thing like how do

00:33:26.520 you do anything with those i don't i started talking with people the worst question like men ask me this a

00:33:32.380 lot which is weird they ask me how do you wipe bidet bitch i just go i don't that's what i'd be

00:33:39.040 telling them i'm like i don't wipe what yeah you wipe why why i go i never i haven't wiped in years

00:33:44.840 so yeah you don't like shit between your ass that's weird it's weird that's weird that you don't like

00:33:50.780 that you should try it sometime honestly they probably do sicko okay so this next question says

00:33:57.480 your significant other mentions an important cultural holiday and is coming up is coming up

00:34:02.780 for you and he wants to participate in it is fetish or not fetish he's asking about a holiday

00:34:09.560 yeah and wants to participate in it they mentioned an important cultural holiday is coming up for you

00:34:14.780 and he wants to participate in it with you

00:34:17.140 it's a slippery slope but i would say i would say not i would say not fetish yeah but it depends on

00:34:25.660 their like you know like their vigor when they're asking like are you trying to attend the cookout

00:34:31.940 yeah or has it been your lifelong dream to see the cookout you know what i'm saying yeah to get an

00:34:37.880 inside look to the one day holy grail yeah electric slide their whole life has led up to this point

00:34:44.460 yeah i think yeah i would say yeah it depends on like how they say it but i don't know i would say

00:34:50.160 that yeah because they're trying to understand you yeah and i honestly i would more so appreciate

00:34:54.960 that yeah like trying to be involved in my culture yeah rather than absolutely but like a frat boy

00:35:01.660 wearing a dashiki at coachella that's not the same thing those are two different things but two very

00:35:08.640 different that's not participating in culture no it's really not it's pro appropriating culture

00:35:13.380 that's what that's called i think that all the time about um non-samoan people getting like samuan

00:35:19.740 tribal tattoos i think that all the time they're like oh it's just uh i just like really like it

00:35:24.900 what do you like about it yeah tell me what do you know about that specifically speak on it yeah

00:35:29.580 let me know educate me since you seem so well versed in samuan tribal than i do exactly i think

00:35:35.520 that oh my god i i literally one time i talked about this on tiktok but i don't really like to drag

00:35:42.220 my samuan brothers a lot sometimes i'd be doing it but that's because they deserve it but i i don't like

00:35:46.960 to do it a lot and it's not very often but the few times that i have sometimes i'll have like white

00:35:52.540 women come in my shit even some white men too but mostly white women they're like actually actually

00:35:59.120 he's not someone actually he's tonguing they'll they tell and i go what are the odds you know and i

00:36:04.800 don't what are the what are the chances what are the chances that you know and i don't this this

00:36:11.540 is the chances real slim huh small and they're like well i'm actually married to a

00:36:16.660 married same thing where they're like i have kids okay and your kids are more qualified to speak on

00:36:25.220 this than you literally your children that came out of yo they are more qualified yeah it's the same

00:36:32.300 thing with men too like they do constantly speaking on things just because they happen to be with

00:36:36.680 someone who's a part of that culture doesn't make you an expert on that culture like normalize like

00:36:42.140 silencing and it's okay if you don't know yeah it's all right you don't have to know everything

00:36:48.440 i think that all the time you don't have silence men you don't have to be the resource for all things

00:36:54.060 like i literally said in my tiktok i said they they literally date or like watch moana once and then

00:36:59.860 they're suddenly the jane goodall of pollination is like they've been studying us as a species for

00:37:04.700 however long and they've done all the math and they're like i've come to the conclusion that you

00:37:08.880 don't know what you're talking about yeah i hate that they're like maui yeah at coachella my boyfriend

00:37:16.020 and i were buying food and someone was like oh my god you know who you guys look like moana and maui

00:37:21.040 and i was like it's funny because we don't yeah that's the hilarious part also you want to talk jokes

00:37:27.300 that's pretty funny i don't even know what i would do yeah i was like you look like her just as much as i do

00:37:34.240 like you and i are probably in the same boat just stop saying shit like that yeah and it's also rude

00:37:40.100 it's rude it's racist it's rude literally racist and also i will add on to that just talk my oh

00:37:46.820 please do everyone always is like and i get it specifically from only white people same you look

00:37:54.480 like lizzo which is the biggest compliment but still yes but it's also just like so you see a fat black

00:38:02.200 woman and the only person you can think of is lizzo but also you don't yeah and i'm just like so like

00:38:08.120 but like i will literally i remember one time i met someone who was like one of my audience like

00:38:14.120 they've been following me for a while yeah and she's like oh my gosh dom i'm like so happy i like ran

00:38:18.820 into you i just want to say you always you just remind me so much of lizzo and i'm like i don't sing

00:38:25.580 i don't dance i'm i'm as far as i'm not even vegan like i'm like i don't there's so many things

00:38:34.100 about me that are not anywhere i wish like you know what i'm saying but it's like even that is

00:38:40.600 like inherently like racist like all black people are just like that's so this or you're that that's

00:38:46.660 like truly so racist like it's there's no in between there there's no wiggle room on that

00:38:52.260 none at all and it happens way too much yeah one time too much like literally multiple times too

00:38:59.260 much like i'm just like that's so that's my psa the the boldness with which they say shit like that

00:39:06.660 yeah in my comment section too they'll be like this reminds me so much of lizzo the comment section is

00:39:14.300 is obviously a rancid play sometimes but in person in person and i'm supposed to take it as a compliment

00:39:21.700 yeah like and if you react poorly they're like oh my god she was so rude to me yeah yeah you just

00:39:27.040 like there's no winning either way there's no winning so i just like i'm a i'm a mess of the job

00:39:33.740 i'm a mess around that's i like everyone turn around i let me find out one of you says that's

00:39:40.660 a dom again let me find out let me find out drop my handle i'm gonna ruin your life i'm just like

00:39:45.220 we're allowed to be individuals and that's okay yeah but that's why i always think um like one time i

00:39:51.660 i i just got sick of it like i got sick especially when i started dating my boyfriend i got sick of

00:39:55.480 them wanna and maui shit so i started genuinely going no we don't and then what do they say they're

00:40:01.480 like no you know because i'm like no i get it because we're both brown and you've never met another

00:40:05.580 someone person in your life but no we don't yeah and then they get so uncomfortable but like what do

00:40:10.580 you want me to say oh my god i do that's crazy that's crazy how'd you know how'd you know oh my god

00:40:17.660 that's so crazy like we we don't look alike like at all i mean i look i look more like moana than he

00:40:24.180 looks like maui i would i'll i'll give you that i'll i'll adhere to that i mean was i her for kids

00:40:30.080 birthday parties for a spell maybe but that's neither here nor there you know what that's called

00:40:34.700 steering into a skid you would do it too for a check and i was unemployed and needed a job so you know

00:40:41.380 what that's neither here nor there we're allowed to do it i'm allowed to do it to myself you know

00:40:47.960 yeah self-inflicted don't worry okay so this last question says it's the third day and you two are

00:40:55.340 looking to finally seal the deal right before they drop and unprompted i've never dated a blank

00:41:00.300 person before get that go go as far as the east is to the west get out my face go to the other side

00:41:08.560 of the country move states move planets don't talk to me go go even if that's true why would

00:41:14.540 you feel the need to broadcast it because you're ghetto that's why you feel the need to say because

00:41:20.220 you're ghetto there's no other explanation like i actually and you know it's so crazy too i don't

00:41:26.220 care i actually that's a crazy part of that whole conversation i don't give one shit yeah like truly

00:41:34.940 not at all but the fact that you felt the need to like tell me tell me why i just don't understand

00:41:41.880 i don't get like someone's gonna get roughed up

00:41:45.200 i know and it's only only white people do it i'm sorry only white people do it like i've dated i've

00:41:54.720 dated other minorities like they never do that they never they never say anything we just like have

00:42:00.060 a mutual understanding understanding for each other because we've both been through it i'm sure

00:42:04.780 so like i oh man i've just never that's that's a doozy that one truly it is uh yeah it's happened

00:42:13.400 yeah it's happened it's true life trauma beds

00:42:19.720 that's it and that's and it's almost like um what do you call it like they're trying to level up

00:42:26.460 you know what i'm saying or also like what do you want me to feed you a bottle and pat you on

00:42:31.120 the back because you you're supposed to be like oh my god really yeah i'm the first i'm the first

00:42:38.020 that's crazy i can't believe you were like i'm the first negro you've dated oh my gosh i'm so honored

00:42:44.580 i can't believe it thank you thank you so get out my bro get out go that's not a medal of honor

00:42:51.100 oh well and that's why i i can't i genuinely can't imagine like only specifically dating for race

00:42:58.460 like like seeking out one specific race and only like this is the this is the one this is the one

00:43:04.580 like being so laser focused on it that's weird i and you know it's so crazy i've had so many people

00:43:11.180 like that's like their dream their dream like not even like it's their lifelong dream yeah and that

00:43:20.980 to me is the craziest part where i'm like that's like bizarre not so bizarre and like that mentally

00:43:28.060 it's severely like there's severe issues with that yeah true like it's like you got problems you got

00:43:34.560 problems it's like the way you it it's like a science experiment you're like what can we create

00:43:41.260 with our dna yeah because they always talk about it's giving me eugenics yes the opposite

00:43:48.160 it's like i i saw this one story once where um it was like it went viral and i didn't talk about it

00:43:57.760 at the time because i was like if i do this i'm gonna go in too hard and i don't want to do that

00:44:01.880 but it was this girl and she was basically talking about she met her now like fiance i'm sure they're

00:44:07.020 married now whatever but her fiance was a samuan football player and she basically starts the story

00:44:13.420 out by saying i've always wanted to be with a samuan man because i want to have football player

00:44:18.560 babies that was the intro to the to the video and she said and her mom my mom was like oh my god you

00:44:24.620 should meet one at school like she went to some big school like a big sec school like big football

00:44:29.540 program whatever and she was like you should date this one like he like checks all the boxes and she

00:44:35.420 tells this whole love story of how they're like oh like now they're together like she's trying to make it

00:44:40.360 like a manifestation yeah i'm all this is giving me fetish like you like this is weird why would

00:44:47.220 you say it like that literally saw it out and and so many and so many other white women in like this

00:44:54.060 is so sweet like this is so cute like this is so sweet this is so cute oh manifestation yeah

00:45:00.560 that's called hunting no literally like literally gathering gathering and not the good kind

00:45:09.680 like the scary kind yeah like it's literally giving

00:45:13.820 what's that movie yeah gosh the it's giving the purge like it's just like hunting and gathering

00:45:22.320 purge style no literally oh yeah i i've had people just be like oh i just want like a sweet little like

00:45:30.200 light-skinned baby you know it's so crazy they'll have that light-skinned baby and that light-skinned

00:45:35.180 baby will look toe up from the flow up like their hair has never been done a day in their life like

00:45:39.500 so it's actually crazy and i'm like if it just so happens okay that you do have a mixed baby

00:45:45.460 there's so much more that comes with that yeah it's like you have to protect that child you have to

00:45:50.020 know how to take care of their hair like yeah know how to create safe spaces for them like

00:45:55.020 give them resources yeah you know what i'm saying i think that's like always the saddest part too

00:46:00.840 it's more so an aesthetic thing that they're thinking about not like the actual responsibility of

00:46:05.840 raising a mixed child instead of and like severe neglect too because it's just like bro if your

00:46:11.040 family members are racist too yeah what about like how do you handle any of that that's wild

00:46:15.580 yeah like none of that was playing a factor or whatever so what we finna do that's why i said

00:46:21.860 like why can't you just date normally like just take like a normal just be a normal person yeah

00:46:27.920 like if you vibe with someone you vibe yeah and then if you and if you get together get together

00:46:31.780 and like if you slay you slay yeah there you go and if you don't you don't you don't there you go

00:46:36.840 you don't need to be a big creeper per that's okay you don't need to be a creeper so for this next

00:46:42.300 video this is actually like a spoof so like he's like playing a character yeah but uh i went to a

00:46:47.840 public school so you know i feel cultured i feel connected you know but for real i love ice cream

00:46:54.060 like i really like ice cream like i love i love the swirl you know like i love me some swirl

00:46:58.580 i ain't got no type no bad women are the only thing that i enjoy how did that did that sound did you

00:47:09.620 like that my favorite music genre no i love all music all music merengue you know what i'm saying

00:47:15.120 like yeah i can't look good i can't look good no but we should get food sometime yeah like i really

00:47:20.220 i like all food like haitian food yo don't get me started yo like i'll eat anything i'll eat ass

00:47:26.600 you know what i mean i want to ask you is like do you think that like men like this have this kind

00:47:33.560 of confidence because part of them believes that women of color specifically minority women in

00:47:39.740 general are like easier to get if they lean into that like try and like reel them in like that

00:47:45.640 one thousand percent they're preying on the insecurities of a vulnerable group yeah and that's

00:47:54.000 the saddest part is it's also enabled too yeah and i think that's the most frustrating part

00:48:00.420 is yes like it's all jokes like we've had that all happen but we're i i've seen people rise

00:48:09.680 the ranks of tiktok yeah making content like this yeah and like for realsies like for realsies not

00:48:16.020 like not like playing a bit like that dude not being like moringa like yeah yeah but like actually

00:48:21.340 being like oh look what i'm eating look what i got look who look what i i know what that is

00:48:27.900 and just praying into the insecurities or pretending to like care about like bits and pieces of yeah

00:48:35.780 that's that's the thing i think too is like you're pretending to care yes or that you have an actual

00:48:40.880 interest in this and that's not the case exactly that makes you a bad person that makes you oh that

00:48:46.280 makes you racist yeah it literally makes you racist

00:48:49.000 racist yeah literally racist and i i feel like when i was like back in my single days back in the

00:48:57.180 day i never got anything i don't think anything related well that's not true i did get some culture

00:49:03.700 based stuff but it was always the wrong one like obviously latin but like they'd guess hawaiian all the

00:49:09.260 time and then i'd be like no and they'd guess like tahitian no wrong again tongan no they're like

00:49:18.100 ah i give up what are you what are you yeah let me know and something too that's um also like extremely

00:49:25.460 targeted is like for samuan women a lot of times they're masculinized like like a lot and i know like

00:49:33.820 you know obviously you can relate to that too but like they're made to be these like big giant women

00:49:40.400 with like huge feet and really strong masculine features like nothing and they always like are

00:49:46.480 you know compare them to big fat dudes like obviously some people are big bones yeah big

00:49:52.140 body bends like all of us i was a nine pound baby same so that's why like i think a lot of times they're

00:49:59.460 like masculinized like that so then sometimes when when men would be like oh what are you and i'd say

00:50:04.180 i'm someone they'd be like no that's not true and i was like why why would you say that because i'm not

00:50:11.140 built like an o-lineman playing for the detroit lions like why would you say that to me because

00:50:15.420 that's literally what they picture and that's so disgusting that's misogynistic it's racist like

00:50:21.040 you name it is a ticket all these boxes yeah or just even like being like palatable to them exactly

00:50:27.040 that's what they're like oh well this is just enough i don't have to i don't have to go too

00:50:30.600 far and i'll have to dip my toe too far yes like it's like i don't have to be fully engulfed like

00:50:35.840 yeah look look look what i'm doing look who i'm talking to yeah yeah they're like i'm still like i'm

00:50:40.620 a nice person i'm did i'm talking to a brown person exactly that's our or they'll say things like oh

00:50:45.340 you know i i don't uh i don't typically go for girls who look like you you ever get one of those

00:50:50.600 yeah and to that i say die in a fire literally choke choke choke immediately literally choke on

00:51:00.680 skittles like choke on something choke on something because i'm just like and and once again like what

00:51:08.340 what would you like me to do with that and i'm saying you know what let's keep that streak going

00:51:11.800 on my face literally g t f o yeah literally you've got out of here you've got to go g t f o you have

00:51:20.480 got to go that's my new chant that's what y'all that's what it meant like that yeah and so in the

00:51:27.560 comments of this uh video obviously our fave dove clark was in here and she said this this is the type

00:51:34.580 of guy or these are the type of guys that always come after me how do i stop it because dove is um

00:51:41.660 she's half black and half indigenous so she's like a twofer because indigenous people are fetishized

00:51:47.540 like crazy oh on both ends of the spectrum but just it's just outlandish honestly it's disgusting no

00:51:55.080 it's like scary yeah like it's in and they're so brazen i that's it's like the boldness where does

00:52:01.740 it come from no but like even to take it one step further with like these fetishes like they can even

00:52:07.380 go like i mean that's what a fetish is yeah you know yeah but it's sexualizing yeah sexualizing

00:52:15.680 like an animate object or an action but they personify it to a person yeah which a that's not

00:52:24.760 a fetish that's like a psychological disorder like i just need people to know that you need help you

00:52:30.020 yeah like truly that right away yeah cure your yes there's a lot of things that need to be cured

00:52:35.780 exorcisms um but i will say like even something as like race play like going into the bedroom like

00:52:45.360 these men are crazy bro these men are crazy

00:52:49.500 like i don't know i mean yeah you're not on the market yeah thank god dude i don't know if i'm

00:53:01.520 built for it hell is hot out there girl not good it's not good yeah but like even when i was like

00:53:09.300 a little bit younger and i feel like tinder was like the big yeah only like major dating app yeah

00:53:15.240 now it's like you know hinge is a little more classy bumbles like classier um there's classier

00:53:21.640 apps it's still a lawless land on tinder it's still the wild wild west and i would have guys like ask me

00:53:30.820 to like shit on them as like a white man be like tell me i'm not shit like ask for reparations like

00:53:38.940 crazy shit like that that they would just like message me on tinder did you just instantly want

00:53:46.740 to lobotomize yourself and i was like mom you're all i wish i could time travel back to before i read

00:53:52.420 this i was like james that was a different person what was that what was that what was that yeah uh

00:53:58.840 it's scary out there but like they're the craziest thing is is like there are people who are so into

00:54:05.100 that i think that's okay i mean i had tinder for a spell right before i met my boyfriend actually

00:54:10.200 well i didn't i met him a long time ago my boyfriend and i went to high school together

00:54:13.860 but we were not high school sweethearts we were arch nemeses i'm just kidding

00:54:17.920 real enemies to lovers arc no but we were cool in high school and then we didn't start dating till

00:54:24.860 after college like both of us i moved back home um so i was on tinder but it was for my my friend

00:54:30.960 was like doing some kind of fun video and she was like have you ever used tinder i was like no

00:54:34.400 so she told me to download it and instant regret horrible it was awful on there and i remember when

00:54:41.600 i moved home and i had just started dating my boyfriend like we went on like a couple dates

00:54:45.400 and we went to like our first actually no our first official date on the way down there he was telling

00:54:52.780 me about his friend he's like oh you gotta you gotta meet my buddy like he's super nice blah blah

00:54:56.620 i almost said his name he's like he's super cool guy and i was like okay cool we go we went to like a

00:55:02.260 fair and while we're there we're like having a good like doing like the kissing booth type shit

00:55:07.820 you know what i mean like playing games and shit so we're like doing all this shit and then uh we

00:55:11.720 just so happened to run into that dude he was telling me about and i was like oh like he was

00:55:17.740 like oh i was just telling her about you like well we did a little meet and greet whatever said bye

00:55:21.480 then the next day he hung out with that dude and that guy goes did you meet her off tinder

00:55:26.140 and he goes who drew and he goes yeah he goes no i've known her forever and he was like oh he goes

00:55:32.080 why he goes i was just curious that's what he says next day after that i'm like on on tinder you know

00:55:37.520 when you you get super liked i don't know how it is now but like they tell you a million times like

00:55:41.460 you have super like you have super like you have to like swipe till you find it yeah tell me why it

00:55:44.820 was him it was that friend and he had no idea that i was like dating my now boyfriend nothing and i and

00:55:52.620 i screenshot it and i sent it to my now boyfriend and i was like is this your friend and he was like

00:55:58.500 oh my god like let please let me tell him he's like i'm literally with him right now can i please

00:56:03.260 tell him he had a plan he just needed the platform he knew he was like please let me tell him please

00:56:11.920 let me tell him and then he told him and he was like you know i don't even like really look like i

00:56:17.480 just like i just swipe blah blah i'm like super like a super like swipe that's an up bib that costs

00:56:23.820 money it does and he told me he's like he pays for tinder and i go

00:56:28.920 like he literally knew that he had super liked me because he recognized me from tinder

00:56:37.200 giving fan behavior and he was so that's all we needed that's all i need he was that's all we

00:56:47.780 ever needed to know and that tells you everything you need to know everything you need and he never

00:56:52.020 wanted to see me again in person like he was truly like so humiliated and i'm like it's really not

00:56:55.980 it's funny like let's all laugh it's funny unless you were being a fetish she unless you were being

00:57:02.000 fetish unless you were being a fetish a fetisher and i was the fetishy yeah the fetish

00:57:09.860 but i was like yeah that's one of my stories from tinder i didn't spend too much time on there thank

00:57:16.040 god oh my god so i started doing well lucky you she must be nice i'm just really happy for you too

00:57:21.260 you guys are very cute together i'm happy that's why i said maybe go back to high school date someone

00:57:29.620 you went to high school with that's what i did absolutely not for context about my high school

00:57:35.800 this is like kind of like how lol like my how big of a joke like this is how suburban and white my high

00:57:43.360 school was yeah there was a guy who drove an f ford f1 350 600 whatever the f they're called super duty

00:57:53.440 yeah with a huge confederate flag on the back of it and he would just drive it into school every

00:57:59.580 morning babe that's not giving me suburban that's giving me podunk southern you would think like i

00:58:06.420 don't even know because it's just it was it was really just the suburbs really but he was just like

00:58:12.160 but then also he was like it's quirky it's quirky it's funny it's funny but he was also unhinged like

00:58:17.720 he drove him he drove a dirt bike through the school and got like suspended okay so he's got lots of

00:58:22.780 other things going on too so so racism's the least of his worries yeah okay like he was like one of

00:58:29.140 the kids that got like went to like kidnapped and like taken to the wilderness oh yeah not saying

00:58:36.620 it's right trauma trauma trauma trauma yeah literally literally love that's trauma for you babe

00:58:42.880 yeah okay this next one says no but for real why are they always pretending they know about my

00:59:01.180 culture like yes tell me more about how much you love nigeria

00:59:05.340 my favorite part is when they pick one thing like the one thing that stands out about your

00:59:13.400 culture whatever it may be so obviously you're half black half filipino yeah okay and so me i'm

00:59:19.340 just someone so like for me it's the rock and the rock only so they're like i go i'm someone and they

00:59:25.480 go like to rock yeah oh my god i love him he's he rocks yes that guy's so cool and i'm like yeah

00:59:32.880 sometimes they'll go do you know him yeah you know what should i call him he's on my speed dial

00:59:38.180 you know what i do i use my coconut phone and i just hit him up i get i go i go hey buddy

00:59:44.520 come on down someone wants to meet you like what the hell you want me to say that

00:59:50.060 like what you want me to say that dude like next time someone does that i'm just gonna call the

00:59:54.780 police you should make a citizen's arrest immediately dial 919 you're like i am making

01:00:00.440 a citizen's arrest so you stay right there you stay right there the law is on their way

01:00:04.880 the cops are on the way don't move a muscle just carrying zip ties around with me i just fully

01:00:11.600 because yeah have they ever done that to you like pick one thing i know i'm sure you obviously but

01:00:17.180 literally what's the thing they pick for you i feel like probably the thing that they pick

01:00:24.520 is i'm trying to think like it's oh if they listen they'll listen to like an artist like they'll be

01:00:35.260 like oh i love little boozy or like some like i used to have they try to go like two steps off

01:00:40.820 the stream so they won't say drake but they'll say someone a little yeah or they'll just like assume

01:00:44.980 that i automatically like listen to rap music or like love certain things yeah and i'm like

01:00:51.580 babe i was emo like i'm like insert picture of me being an emo bitch like i literally had

01:00:58.460 we're not talking gerard way i don't want to talk i don't want to talk babe we're not talking i was

01:01:03.860 like if we're not listening to brendan urie yeah don't tell don't hit me up if there's not a panic

01:01:09.540 at the disco get out my face so it's just like dumb things like that where i'm like

01:01:15.260 i don't know one song yeah one time i was uh one time i was at a party in uh college right and i was

01:01:21.820 talking me and this other dude he was black only two minority people at the party that's cool but

01:01:27.700 we vibe with each other so we're talking right and we're vibing and this white dude comes up to us

01:01:32.340 and he's like he's trying to vibe like he's trying to be like hey guys what's up you know and we're

01:01:37.240 like okay cool like what's up man like and then he he talks to the to the other guy that i was

01:01:42.160 talking to and he goes hey man you listen to rap first thing he says to him strike one right and

01:01:47.540 then he and then he says no not really that's what he says yeah and then he goes you don't listen to

01:01:52.980 any rap like at all really strike two doubling down right then he goes no dude that's not really like

01:01:59.880 my thing he goes really like not even like drake or something you couldn't even pick like one

01:02:06.960 step off you know what i'm saying like like something just one step down from the one black

01:02:10.960 artist he knows besides kanye west so then he says that and then i can't take it anymore so i go why

01:02:16.500 do you keep asking him that is that because he's black i just said it yeah because like let's call

01:02:21.060 it for let's just call a spade a spade yeah he goes what do you mean like he literally freaks

01:02:26.360 he's like why would i ever like blah blah he goes and then he tells me do you know how many do you

01:02:31.240 know how many i could literally tell you how many black people i've met in my life and he goes you

01:02:34.880 know how many that is i go i'm guessing not many since you're keeping count yes what do you have a

01:02:39.440 tally you're like one more today you knock it on your on your whiteboard i'm like black people have

01:02:45.480 a lot of white friends why would you say that to me white people have a few black friends

01:02:51.440 this dude was he was dying he was laughing because i was like why would you it's you know how many i'm

01:02:59.440 guessing not many i'm guessing that number is pretty low i'm guessing one hand it's like that's

01:03:04.000 my guess with you it's so embarrassing it's so mf embarrassing or this this is what used to kill

01:03:13.140 me like in high school i would like show up somewhere and they would like give all my friends

01:03:18.640 hugs and then for whatever reason they would dat me

01:03:21.760 like how you finna give everyone else a hug and then me you finna hit with the

01:03:37.700 i gotta shake your hand johnny like i'm trying to relate to you yeah i'm trying to be on your level

01:03:44.300 next time someone does shake it you should shake it hard like a business yeah handshake like you

01:03:49.260 just seal the deal yeah like good doing business with you shake it around one time i was in a bar

01:03:56.620 with my boyfriend just the two of us we're just vibing having a good time white dude comes up to us

01:04:00.820 arguably both these white men from my last story and this one both from ohio listen something is what

01:04:06.600 it is take it up with your own he literally comes up to us he goes oh like trying to vibe again

01:04:11.360 where are you guys from we're like oh here right because we were at disneyland so we just said we

01:04:15.720 were like we're from orange county he goes no like where are you from you know when they they

01:04:20.520 keep asking the same question we're like well more specifically like riverside county i've made a i've

01:04:26.220 made a solid deal with myself that the longer they ask i've checked in this is all i'm doing i'm never

01:04:33.080 answering your question i'm never giving you the answer you want i'm going to answer you literally

01:04:36.920 every single time i so when people ask me that because i get that a lot too yeah i give them

01:04:42.220 the most uncomfortable answer yeah that literally makes them like cringe inside and i do it too i do

01:04:48.980 not care if the president asked me i would this is literally what i would say so i would be like oh

01:04:53.660 yeah like where are you from yeah i'm just like yeah well my mom's like from the philippines like you

01:04:58.020 know whatever they'd be like oh yeah your dad like are you african i'm like no we honestly probably

01:05:02.880 came off a boat like i literally i'm like yeah probably a boat conversation over yeah and any

01:05:09.120 more questions they're like oh yeah she's like okay okay yeah yeah yeah for sure for sure they

01:05:14.600 start doing that yeah they were sure oh yeah okay i get it yeah i do he was telling me he's like where

01:05:21.700 oh no but like where are you from basically he like wouldn't stop and then he said where are your

01:05:26.520 ancestors from i said these nuts that's where they're from literally have you ever heard from

01:05:32.740 have you ever heard of joe joe mama's house that's where they're from plus i was like i was like

01:05:36.780 if you're asking what ethnicity we are we're we're someone okay because i was just curious

01:05:42.680 don't ask me that bro don't ask me that well have you ever seen moana that's us like literally

01:05:49.280 right okay so just to wrap up we talked a lot about fetishization on both ends of the spectrum

01:05:59.400 both men and women so what would you want to tell the people out there about fetishizing people of

01:06:05.400 color women of color especially i would like to say change starts with you change starts with you

01:06:17.340 i want to speak to the woman that fall victim to the fetishization yeah we've been there and i want to

01:06:26.820 challenge you to find it in yourself find your self-worth that's where it's going to start

01:06:32.920 to build yourself up as a woman of color black woman of color indigenous woman of color build yourself

01:06:40.800 up because society is going to tear you down they're going to tell you you're not good enough

01:06:44.620 they're going to tell you try and put all these labels on you and i just want to let you know that

01:06:49.780 you're bigger than those labels and that you do not have to adhere or accept anything that society

01:06:57.000 tries to put on you stand up stand up to the people that fetishize yeah who have built platforms

01:07:04.620 off fetishizing off of fetishizing stop like literally stop yeah stop feeding into it kind of thing

01:07:11.840 like don't don't let them control you or how you feel about yourself i think the saddest thing is

01:07:17.020 and i'm speaking to those people that do it i think you're missing an incredible opportunity

01:07:23.920 to actually get to learn yeah no exactly because you are like putting them in this weird box that

01:07:31.400 you think exists yeah and it doesn't well and also for all minority people obviously culture is a huge

01:07:37.960 part of who they are but it's not the entirety of their character personality like they have many

01:07:43.600 different facets to them all of which don't solely rely around what ethnicity they are like

01:07:50.480 you can learn in a very respectful way that's very possible yes you can learn and ask questions in a way

01:07:57.560 that doesn't make you a big creeper like you could you could very easily do that it's not that hard

01:08:03.340 and the coolest thing is is there's so many resources you could google's free google is free

01:08:09.940 youtube is free yeah there's so many things for you out there so to those people i say that just

01:08:16.580 quit being the mayor of creep town yeah i say just being be a normal person be normal just date

01:08:22.540 normally be a normal person connect chill be normal foster human connection like a normal human being

01:08:29.060 it's really not that hard it's meant to happen it will happen exactly and it won't happen because you

01:08:33.920 had a bunch of bonnet like yeah or a bunch of info on a culture that you are not a part of like it's

01:08:40.340 not gonna happen because of that it's gonna happen because you're not the worst yeah it's gonna happen

01:08:45.200 because that thank you bonnet king i'm talking to you okay perfect i want to thank tom roberts for

01:08:55.060 coming on my show today thank you so much no thank you i love you so much like i love the term

01:09:02.120 bonnet king i love that term that you've coined today i love that for you tm tm you say tm for

01:09:09.320 dom roberts i love you so much where can everybody find you um you can follow me on instagram at dom

01:09:15.060 roberts instead of an e it's an x or you can find me on tiktok because i post on there sometimes

01:09:20.480 yeah i love that for you um and my handle is dom not a teen mom love that yeah it's a little funny

01:09:29.000 spicy funny a little edgy yeah perfect i love dom so much please go follow her you're incredible

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