The Comment Section with Drew Afualo

00:00:00.000 all those men that hate you listening to this you can start over it's okay to be wrong yeah you can

00:00:05.960 unlearn all of that and this and some and as much as you may hate you or me something could have

00:00:12.060 struck a chord and maybe maybe ruminate on that maybe think about that i'm saying hey believe it

00:00:17.500 or not is an emotion and and if i made you feel something you might love me that's what i say ask

00:00:22.380 yourself why what did what did i make you feel why did you feel upset by that i think i'm like

00:00:27.160 it's much more nuanced than you think

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00:01:34.840 welcome back to another episode of the comment section show starring me your fave obviously look

00:01:39.960 at me i'm bts af today i'm so excited and i'm also excited for my guest today it's the one and only

00:01:47.320 victoria paris hello thank you for having me i'm so happy you're here i am stoked the first time i

00:01:55.160 ever saw you i i was trying to think about on the way down here like the first time i ever saw you

00:01:58.440 i think the first time i saw your video that was when you put those giant ice cubes in your

00:02:02.660 bro that was forever ago forever ago i was like tweaking out on way too much adderall i was in school

00:02:09.080 just cracked out and it was a period honestly it was a time it was a time that was an era that was

00:02:15.340 your large ice cube era now you're on to your girl boss era oh yeah always always i i tell my

00:02:22.220 guests this all the time but like obviously i'm a huge fan of everybody i bring on the show but i

00:02:26.100 also like hand pick the topics that i always choose so like i picked being a girl boss that's what we're

00:02:32.000 going to talk about today so what i tell you being a girl boss like what's like the first thing that

00:02:36.300 comes to mind for you uh i think i think a girl boss is somebody who's entrepreneurial i think it's

00:02:41.420 something that you can very much be born with or like acquire and through like either personal

00:02:46.340 experience or work yeah well i also think too like it's also funny because we obviously like to

00:02:51.640 make fun of men here all the time but at the same time uh i think men use the term girl boss to try

00:03:00.320 and like antagonize us yeah or belittle yeah like make us feel stupid right lesser than

00:03:06.060 like they always do but we've found a way to like switch it up so now we use it on i like

00:03:11.960 ironically yeah but also unironically i think they really hate that yeah i mean the idea yeah

00:03:17.120 the idea of an empowered woman is is not a fun one for them yeah and also like taking jokes that

00:03:22.840 they make at our expense yeah and then flipping them oh yeah yeah i mean like all they're all about

00:03:27.660 that all their hate comments all their viewage just grows you yeah you know just like bring it on

00:03:32.400 yeah i've talked about that before because like i get i get hate all the time i'm sure you get hate

00:03:37.660 yeah yeah i get lots of hate primarily men yeah they're my big i mean there's a really thin line

00:03:44.100 between love and hate oh yeah so at this point it's like they love to hate you hate me or are you just

00:03:49.120 my biggest fan you know what i mean yeah yeah i find that i get a lot of hate from women because i'm on

00:03:54.080 like a different side of tiktok than you but it's still like in my personal life in my day-to-day it's men who

00:04:00.440 hate me that meet me in person or men that i try to work with and it's like who are you to show up

00:04:05.260 and like assert so much dominance or take up so much space as a woman and they never expect it oh

00:04:10.480 yeah and then when you open your mouth it's like jarring and abrasive and they are like so turned off

00:04:14.820 by it oh yeah i get that all the time i get that all the time they're like if you were like smaller

00:04:19.920 and quieter i'm like oh yeah what yeah have a man have a career done already got it check bitch you

00:04:26.840 know what i mean period let's check off the list babe i don't need to worry about that so like what

00:04:31.600 would you say was when you first started entering your girl boss era like for real oh my gosh i would

00:04:37.060 say like when i like uh girl boss era for me was before tiktok it was working at a fintech startup

00:04:42.100 and realizing that every single male counterpart at the company was getting paid double me and i was

00:04:46.120 like are you kidding me like this is this you never like obviously we hear about like wage gap and and

00:04:52.120 pay inequality and and it's just like something you know about as a woman and then when you really

00:04:56.520 find out that it's happening to you it is like so like oh my god me yeah like i'm getting paid less

00:05:02.360 than a man that's crazy talk about this but oh my god yeah and i'm like wait yeah i'm asking like my

00:05:07.720 my friends that like are also working in the city and i'm like is this happening to you too and they're

00:05:11.280 like yeah and i'm like bro this isn't okay like this say something like and i and i went up to my boss

00:05:17.040 and i was like this is this is ridiculous like if you're not gonna match our wages like why am i working

00:05:21.740 here do you not respect me or my labor or my work or what i bring to the table yeah and that was

00:05:26.500 like the first time i was like wow yeah girl boss girl boss girl boss like villain origin story

00:05:32.480 it was right there honestly yeah i mean mine was probably working at the nfl yeah i said it before

00:05:38.020 so i could say it again i get all nervous they're gonna like snipe me while i'm sitting here but yeah

00:05:42.280 the nfl was probably like and then they ask you to like come for like a halftime show like in a few

00:05:46.540 years and you're like maybe they will hey listen let me know yeah i'll clear my

00:05:51.500 sketch they'll double all i need is an apology just like it's like one liner say sorry and mean

00:05:56.420 it just tweet it i know literally okay so that i think we have very similar stories in that sense

00:06:03.880 because i worked with all men too yeah so i worked in an all male environment yeah there were some

00:06:09.080 women but not a lot of women yeah and also like when you're someone who has very strong opinions yeah

00:06:14.380 and someone who knows exactly what you want i have a very clear vision i tend to not like that very

00:06:18.820 much yeah you get very defensive yeah like you're gonna take their spot yeah which i will

00:06:23.360 which i can yeah if we didn't girl boss on our own we would have no right we went off and paved our

00:06:30.620 own girl boss way yeah i mean i i just like got to this point where i was like i don't want to work

00:06:34.560 for somebody ever again i want to answer to myself and like i know what's best for me and i know what

00:06:39.160 like skill set i bring to the table and if you're not going to pay me what i'm worth i'm going to go

00:06:42.440 be self-employed there you go that's honestly i applaud you and it's working yeah yeah and it's

00:06:49.040 working yeah and it's way more fulfilling than we ever thought it would be otherwise you know way

00:06:53.940 more stressful than you ever thought it'd be too like oh yeah it comes with it's a whole new wave

00:06:58.200 of like yeah but i mean i would rather this than that same it's a small price to pay i think yeah given

00:07:04.020 the i always tell people the pros far outweigh the cons yeah like considering what we were doing

00:07:09.860 because like before i would i would commute two and a half hours one way sitting in my car yeah and

00:07:15.940 i would just drive to work and i'd be miserable at work and then i'd drive two and a half hours home

00:07:20.100 yeah leave before the sun came up get home when the sun was down yeah i was going insane low-key i i just

00:07:25.880 i just think about like the anxiety i would get whenever i felt like something was off in work and

00:07:29.960 it didn't end from nine to five it like crept into like dinner it crept into the morning before the

00:07:34.600 commute there i was like so stressed out over like what my boss thought or what was happening

00:07:38.560 and i was like yo i'd rather just be stressed out over what i think about myself how much i'm making

00:07:43.860 for myself i know i i made this joke i think i forget i think it might have been with britney

00:07:48.040 when she was on but we were talking about how like it's like you get a new set of problems but they're

00:07:52.520 like much different problems like oh yeah you're like oh i have to film brand deals today that's

00:07:57.140 nothing compared to having to like go to work oh yeah be stressed be depressed while you're at work

00:08:02.640 i was like in my major depression era when i was working yeah five yeah i also felt like i like

00:08:07.320 sacrificed all my personal passions like i couldn't work out i couldn't go running because i was like

00:08:10.800 so consumed by somebody else's like what they needed from me yeah and especially as a woman the the

00:08:16.460 problem with there is a problem with the term girl boss like with as a woman to be a girl boss as we

00:08:24.720 all know it is to work 110 while men are bringing 50 yeah and that is up to be a girl boss is not to

00:08:30.480 work harder than your male counterpart it's to be to know your worth and ask for that yeah and work the

00:08:35.340 exact same amount you don't need to prove any extra or any more to be to have a spot at the

00:08:39.720 table yeah they have to keep the screws a lot tighter than men do yeah and yeah otherwise you're

00:08:45.480 already uh starting from zero and they're starting from 50 yeah yeah and it's like like work twice as

00:08:50.640 hard for less pay and less recognition yeah so when you talk about like the like depression you

00:08:56.500 experience or the commute and like the anxiety it's like i find a lot of men try to relate and i'm like

00:09:01.680 you will never relate to feeling like you always have to give more and always do better and always

00:09:06.160 like yeah also i remember when i was a personal trainer like showing up i interviewed with like

00:09:10.580 makeup and my hair done and they were like oh like hired immediately no experience working in a gym

00:09:15.860 nothing like that i've spoken publicly about working at equinox and how i was hired at age 19 having never

00:09:21.920 lifted a weight in my life i applied for a free internship because i couldn't afford the gym at the

00:09:25.900 time and i just wanted to go to the gym yeah and they were like oh let's hire you full-time as a

00:09:29.960 trainer while you're in college and so i started a trainer yeah like they put me on the floor you

00:09:34.860 don't have to be certified no you don't have to be certified for the first six months so that's

00:09:38.520 you could be in the process of getting certified yeah so they basically put me on the floor to just

00:09:42.520 like thought me out and like put me out on the floor and just be like a hot girl and so when i

00:09:47.260 showed up to world memberships oh yeah or just talk to the older men that's all they wanted

00:09:51.620 and when i would show up to work with no makeup they'd be like you look really tired

00:09:56.140 maybe you should go home early are you okay and i'm like this is my body of work like

00:10:01.700 maybe you should maybe you should take today off yeah no fully fully they like started back on your

00:10:07.340 head and go home yeah no yeah miss miss butterface over here like get the out like i don't give a

00:10:13.180 how good your body is like bring me face or nothing yeah they're like girl it's not given today

00:10:17.460 it's not giving enough it's not giving enough not enough memberships were sold this month so like

00:10:21.760 can you maybe put on some lashes like and i'm like damn you i think i need that i've been that

00:10:27.780 way i actually shockingly enough honestly i'll say this because i i don't give a damn but like

00:10:32.460 when i was in senior in college i was journalism major so i did like a senior capstone doing

00:10:38.020 journalism shit so i was like doing all kinds of programs and like filming myself all the time that

00:10:42.640 was like how i got used to filming myself and editing and all of that and i remember the first

00:10:47.580 time i wore like a full face and i put like a flower in my ear i went to the university of

00:10:52.420 hawaii so like they love that shit wait that's so sick put a say in your ear so i did that i filmed

00:10:57.300 stand-ups like reporting live like that type of shit and when i filmed it i had my professor who was a

00:11:03.620 woman at the time like she literally was going over my work and she told me um the context doesn't

00:11:10.240 really matter as long as you look good she told me all the time she's like you need to look like this

00:11:14.460 every time it really doesn't matter anything else i'm like okay but what about the story like what

00:11:19.120 about what's going on story like does it need she goes none of that really matters if you focus on

00:11:23.900 being pretty then you'll get far in this and that right there made me want to quit i was like i don't

00:11:28.660 want to do that shit i i really hate that i really hate being like targeted for that because yeah it's

00:11:34.880 just yeah growing up makes me angry makes me want to be ugly on purpose literally like me filming

00:11:40.800 videos like like i i i spoke about this um with morgan basically like saying like i never understood

00:11:46.440 like there's that whole like rumor that post malone smells you know and like all these famous people

00:11:50.640 like they get they become super famous and super successful and like kind of like just don't care

00:11:54.480 about their image or like any of that like the way they look and i kind of understand that now because

00:11:59.300 like the my success is not uh determined off how i look and so i stopped showing up and i stopped doing

00:12:05.060 my makeup and i stopped caring for a very long time which made me depressed and not like

00:12:08.600 think i was beautiful yeah because i could like you like literally sit in the toilet and film a

00:12:13.460 video and i do well and then i was like well why does it matter how i look and so i just like gave up

00:12:18.640 on myself for a little bit and that was really hard especially i grew up like in north carolina and my

00:12:24.000 parents were very traditional and they were like if you take care of yourself if you look beautiful

00:12:27.720 if you take care of your body like you will have a husband who will take care of you and now to be

00:12:32.100 like dating women like not like you went a hard left yeah oh yeah no no no no no no any of that

00:12:39.740 as soon as you said that i'm like checked out i'm doing something else yeah and i started to resent

00:12:43.620 like honestly looking good and like doing my hair and my makeup because i just was like that like

00:12:48.500 it's like that oh my gosh it's like that that tiktok i saw where this girl's like i was so against

00:12:54.240 doing makeup because i didn't want to that now i don't know how to do makeup oh i fully don't know how

00:12:58.600 like i genuinely don't know how to do hair or makeup now because i refused to do it when i was

00:13:04.240 younger yeah no like i was i i understand i was so good when i was younger like full bust down like

00:13:09.440 i could do makeup when i was younger now i'm like you give me eyeliner and i'm like oh like i can't

00:13:15.300 and i'm like you know it like i don't care i'm gonna embrace my bare face yeah it's one of those

00:13:19.640 things where it's like you steer one way too hard and that starts to hurt you you steer the other way

00:13:24.420 you're you're going towards patriarchy yeah that's why i strive for like body neutrality

00:13:28.820 and even like neutrality towards my look but then i find that my spectrum of emotions and like

00:13:32.760 enjoying the way i look is very limited like i don't get excited over how i look very often

00:13:36.720 anymore because i have neutrality but i also don't get severely depressed over the way i look anymore

00:13:41.040 yeah it's all give and take i think that's why i i've joked about this before but like obviously

00:13:46.720 when i do stuff like this i'm like full glam yeah pay someone to do this to me yeah but like when i film

00:13:52.160 all my other shit nothing like i don't got anything on my face i'm on the toilet 90 of the

00:13:57.020 time so when they see pictures when i'm like this they're like oh photoshop some people accuse me

00:14:02.420 of getting work done and i was like bitch you just see me like ugly 90 of the time yeah and now you're

00:14:08.800 mad because your dick wiggled a little when you saw what i really like now you're mad because you're

00:14:12.480 like oh wait a second but also like you're so dumb we're thinking that because i'm operating a

00:14:18.140 business at zero expenses i'm sitting on the toilet ripping videos that pay more than you

00:14:23.320 would get in a year so like if you're mad about it like take it up zero overhead zero zero not paying

00:14:30.060 for any hair no makeup pure profits it costs you nothing to do what you do the business is so

00:14:35.460 lucrative and people don't understand that yeah and you are investing into yourself every time you

00:14:38.980 do glam and hair and makeup and i don't even need to invest into the videos that much for them to be

00:14:43.300 successful i'm sorry that you don't understand that like sucks for you i'm sorry they're not

00:14:47.960 paying that and especially okay um having the female experience where you like need to show up

00:14:54.240 and look a certain way yeah to to be taken seriously which is what you experience what i experience like

00:14:59.180 it makes you resent it no truly that's a really good point that's i i say that all the time too about

00:15:04.180 as far as like what it costs to do what i do i mean if your mental health yeah yeah you're calling me

00:15:10.840 ugly period for a check you would too sorry i know literally i i think that all the time too when

00:15:19.300 you do brand deals like i i've even said to i've talked about this before with other creators but

00:15:24.600 i've said i've tweeted about it but i was like honestly like we put out so much content for free

00:15:29.720 like constantly sometimes you're gonna have to watch this ad babe sometimes you're gonna have to watch it

00:15:35.860 and you better like it and you better comment on it yeah that's what i always think is little price to

00:15:40.560 pay i mean like also the thing is is like our job as a content creator like i i view content creation

00:15:45.240 as like developing your own reality show like if you can subsidize content enough to ratio ads people

00:15:50.940 won't care if you're developing 20 videos and can do one ad i think that what you do and what i do is

00:15:55.980 so special that we can do so much of it that it outweighs the ads and there's so little viewage of

00:16:00.300 ads that you can really build a successful business because when you're an artist and it takes months to

00:16:06.720 make one video you can't the ads are so abrupt and so abrasive to yeah to the point where people

00:16:12.340 are like all you do is ads yeah because yeah what what they do takes well what a lot of artists do

00:16:17.860 takes a lot more time than what i do and i'm a personality and i'm super grateful that people

00:16:21.740 love me for me and yeah exactly well and also speaking of like paying influencers like i've seen

00:16:28.180 videos on tiktok before where people are like making fun of like the fact that influencer marketing like

00:16:33.840 people that work in influencer marketing are like trying to convince influencers to do deals for a

00:16:38.060 lot of money meanwhile they're getting paid like 20 an hour or something like that and i've seen it

00:16:44.300 and they're funny because i've been on both sides of that but at the same time i think like agencies save

00:16:50.760 millions of dollars utilizing influencer marketing like they save lots of money paying one person than like

00:16:57.820 buying a billboard for the next three months so like it's all relative to the person but i also think

00:17:03.360 once again you would do it for a check too oh yeah and if you would do the same thing people also

00:17:07.980 don't think about the sheer amount of like recognition like even if an ad doesn't necessarily

00:17:11.500 sell out a product just mentioning the brand name gives like brand recognition and credibility

00:17:15.460 and like the way that if it circulates to a million people and they hear the name of your company it

00:17:20.020 adds value to the brand value added yeah and investing into influencers is always investing into value

00:17:24.820 added not necessarily products sold and people don't understand that and also the huge problem the

00:17:29.280 industry is going through these third parties like um influencer marketing agencies or consulting

00:17:34.700 groups or whatever when brands themselves aren't um apt or equipped to contract out influencers

00:17:40.320 directly yeah and so that's where people who aren't in this industry in the industry don't understand

00:17:45.540 that there are so many layers to get through to get to an influencer to pay them yeah it doesn't

00:17:49.460 just the check doesn't come straight from nike yeah it goes through four other hands yeah and it also

00:17:53.540 doesn't happen overnight oh no like i can't even tell you how long i was on tiktok before i started

00:17:59.160 making livable money bitch like i can't even tell i was doing that shit for free for a long time same

00:18:04.440 same yeah so a lot of time they think like overnight you become a millionaire so whenever you do anything

00:18:09.080 they're like aren't you rich now that's not how it works yeah yeah are you mad about it yeah you are

00:18:15.980 you have to think too when you make more money you acquire more expense oh my god to make more to spend

00:18:19.940 more exactly and you have to to like subsidize your business yeah if you have other expenses to

00:18:25.900 take care of your personal expenses your family's like oh and paying uh uncle sam yeah you forgot

00:18:32.820 about that one yeah and staying on top of your taxes being a law-abiding citizen setting up the

00:18:38.320 business so it's lucrative and everybody gets paid and i get paid and i pay uncle sam yeah come on

00:18:42.720 it's hiring a team oh yeah like i'm sorry like people think anybody can do this and anybody can do

00:18:49.380 this but to do it successfully takes a girl boss yeah it's a period i'm saying to sustain yes yes

00:18:55.340 you gotta be a girl boss to be investing to be saving yeah to be like just just cognitive of

00:19:00.360 money in and out and what the next five years could look like it takes a girl boss yeah and girl boss

00:19:05.400 gender neutral yeah i'm saying it can apply to anybody anybody can be a girl boss that's what i think

00:19:10.900 yeah so like speak that's a great segue into our topic today which is obviously being a girl boss we

00:19:15.600 know very well what it's like to be a girl boss i think we're pretty damn good at it to be honest

00:19:19.580 so here on the comment section for those of you that don't know what we like to do is bring

00:19:24.560 videos that i was tagged in here and then we like to rip them up share some laughs and giggles and talk

00:19:30.400 about the comments also obviously called the comment section so for this first video that we have it's

00:19:35.400 basically i always like to give a breakdown of the video so a girl she basically starts out saying

00:19:40.500 that a girl boss is just someone who owns their own business but then she says like explains that

00:19:45.900 a girl boss is someone who owns their own life more so yeah it's more so has control like both hands on

00:19:50.720 the wheel essentially and then she goes down her eight rules to being a girl boss so if you had to

00:19:58.340 think of like a rule like if you have multiple that's fine too to being a girl boss like what would

00:20:03.860 be your most important rule would you think being articulate i think as a woman like the the grasp of

00:20:08.920 language and be able to paint a picture when you speak is the most important thing because a lot

00:20:12.100 of times you're just summed up to your visual appearance and people are so caught up over

00:20:16.040 what you look like and not what you're saying and being articulate is number one for me that's a that's

00:20:20.920 actually a really good one what about like when it comes to the business the business oh my god being

00:20:26.000 financially literate which again is a tool that most women are not given it's somebody's gonna pay for

00:20:30.400 your husband's gonna pay for everything dad's gonna put you through college which was my experience

00:20:34.560 which i was super privileged for but also then what yeah after that then what

00:20:38.380 uh well then you're on your own oh yeah like nobody nobody ever told like taught me how to

00:20:43.300 how to budget or like balance or like how much you're supposed to be saving how much you should

00:20:48.980 put away for taxes yeah how much you should be like what your expenses should look like yeah that's

00:20:54.460 living within your means number one for a girl boss even when you make really good money always like

00:20:59.980 staying within your means i think a lot of times the allure of a lot of money is to be able to buy a lot

00:21:06.240 of things or expensive things and which is okay you're allowed to do that too it's your money right

00:21:11.040 but at the same time we got to think long term right because everything is fleeting in this life

00:21:16.400 unless you lay down the foundation now yeah whether you're working or you're doing this i think like

00:21:21.660 your job is never guaranteed i think that too oh yeah because when people are like aren't you afraid

00:21:26.320 like what if this comes to an end you could get fired at any point i got fired any job any job is

00:21:30.840 yeah the the the idea of job security is a construct you can be fired any day and also i think like

00:21:37.580 something that we could even be glazing over ourselves is that 50 of americans are in debt

00:21:42.040 you know so like 50 of people in your comment section broke broke broke broke people should

00:21:47.260 never laugh and like we've all been there that's the thing like it's not something to laugh at it's

00:21:52.440 something that we should be given the tools to not be in yeah and if 50 of people are falling into

00:21:57.680 the debt category it's an issue societally or no truly in as a country no literally it's not just

00:22:04.340 like our problem it's the problem that financial literacy is not easily accessible or like easily

00:22:10.160 taught yeah and then i think too you have to also keep in mind that social media is fake a lot of

00:22:15.200 times so when you see people who flex a lot a lot of expensive things like a lot of times it's not

00:22:20.580 real a lot of times those cars those houses a write-off a write-off right off rented right off yeah

00:22:25.820 like they're literally all for looks they're not they're not something they purchase if they did

00:22:30.560 that's a bad move because when you start making big purchases like that with no like thinking about

00:22:35.940 longevity also when it comes to uh like job security like you were saying farce i'm like you think a job's

00:22:42.960 gonna care more about you than you care about you oh yeah like you guide for yourself no truly and when

00:22:47.820 i got fired right yeah right when i got fired i was like so lost at the time because i was like what

00:22:54.320 am i gonna do like i built my whole personality around doing this and this is like a big piece

00:22:58.320 of who i was now what identity yeah and so i was worried so i was thinking i should go back and get

00:23:02.440 another job but then when i started thinking about working for myself because at that time both my

00:23:06.480 parents retired themselves and they're in their 40s good for them so both my parents are retired my

00:23:10.600 sister's full like works for herself too everybody was working for themselves except me when i was at the

00:23:15.380 nfl yeah so i was like do i want to do this or do i want to work for me and literally my mom told me

00:23:19.960 she was like you're never going to work harder for anyone than you will for yourself and i was like

00:23:23.340 that's true yeah so i was like i'd rather work for me very similar i'd rather get fired by myself yeah

00:23:28.140 oh yeah yeah fire myself yeah my dad worked for himself uh so when we were kids my dad worked

00:23:33.780 um in finance and my parents met working in finance um and they were like coding and then my mom was a

00:23:40.240 stay-at-home mom but my dad was working for himself and and being raised by a man who

00:23:44.480 stressed every day over like putting food on the table like taking care of us and like he saw the

00:23:50.200 value of a dollar and he taught us the value of a dollar but but for that not to be the entrepreneurial

00:23:55.600 spirit was passed down to me the financial literacy wasn't it was something i had to fall so many times

00:24:00.460 i mean i had like a hundred dollars in my bank account until it was like 21 same and it was like it

00:24:05.520 was like when is this gonna give when is this gonna change when am i gonna like take control of my life

00:24:09.680 and be financially autonomous and shoot for myself yeah and that's something that like i had to teach

00:24:14.800 myself and fail at multiple times yeah and people go bankrupt people become millionaires multi-millionaires

00:24:20.320 and go bankrupt again like you see it all the time multiple times yeah like yeah it's a learning

00:24:25.140 process and yeah being rich is is nothing if you can't sustain it and even being financially literate

00:24:30.980 is nothing if you can't like live by it yeah i always think too like uh i've seen before like

00:24:35.660 being rich is one thing but being wealthy is another yeah like wealth is what sustains rich

00:24:42.040 is something that's fleeting that could be gone by tomorrow yeah and also you don't take care of it

00:24:45.640 yeah it doesn't like money doesn't buy happiness but it can buy security and that's something that

00:24:50.520 i think a lot of a lot like is the most important thing to finding your identity is security like yeah

00:24:55.640 like a lot of yeah that's a really good point yeah a lot of people like cannot like come like

00:24:59.920 like be open about their sexuality or their gender identity because they don't have the

00:25:04.980 financial autonomy to not answer to somebody like their parents are like i'm gonna kick you out if

00:25:08.580 you're gay yeah and it's like well well well you i'll pay my own rent yeah but like a lot of people

00:25:13.140 don't have the freedom to do that yeah it's not it's not a fix-all solution having money but it is

00:25:19.440 something that alleviates a lot of stress yeah yeah and i think being a girl boss is a one way to get

00:25:24.640 there if you want to get sick so i guess in this video she's basically saying that being a girl boss

00:25:34.760 is all up here more than anything yeah which i think we've kind of elaborated on right yeah we're

00:25:41.140 all on the same page in that sense we're aligned yeah we're aligned we're here so it says uh this

00:25:46.680 first comment says uh hell yes to this definition of a girl boss which is just being i guess being

00:25:52.840 confident in what you want who you are and like what you're gonna do in life yeah which is like

00:25:58.320 freeing for anybody i would say yeah yeah yeah it gives you purpose direction and that makes anybody

00:26:03.660 feel confident yeah go through life confidently i would say yeah i think that being like yeah i agree

00:26:10.220 well put and so this next one says i love this girls supporting girls i i think girls supporting

00:26:18.320 girls is good to an extent um i support women's rights and i also support women's wrong period

00:26:24.280 they can't do anything wrong in my eyes maybe sometimes but most of the time i'm sure it's fine

00:26:29.340 most of the time it's always fine yeah a man breathes wrong and i'm all see told you i told you they're

00:26:34.100 all like this they're all terrible i told you guys but a woman could literally kill somebody and i'm

00:26:38.500 like listen we all make mistakes we can't hold our past against each other how can we ever

00:26:43.280 we learn you know we learn we get back up we have yeah we go bankrupt to make the money back

00:26:50.540 fall down nine times get up ten yeah period that's what i think about but that only applies to women

00:26:54.480 yeah women identifying people okay so for this next video uh this is a man right walking around uh

00:27:03.900 trying not to laugh there's like a remix of i think that uh it's that sound on tiktok that's like

00:27:08.560 california girls by katie perry but it's to the darth vader sound from star wars which i'm pretty

00:27:14.080 sure i'm familiar with and he said uh this is what girl bossing sounds like to me which i guess is kind

00:27:19.880 of funny but since it's a man i'm not gonna laugh openly i'm not gonna laugh publicly but on the

00:27:23.980 inside maybe i chuckled a little bit but i saw this first comment says so basically successful women

00:27:30.380 are villains and a man's eyes cool well yeah yeah yeah i mean not confident men yeah yeah terrible

00:27:36.700 men yeah i think that what constantly gets misconstrued about being a girl boss is that

00:27:42.000 like it's it's like taking from somebody else yeah or like righting the wrongs again giving 110%

00:27:47.040 while men are giving 50 it's not it's empowerment it's sentiment it's yeah it's gender neutral it is

00:27:51.660 something that like you can just like a mindset you strive for it's empowerment like yeah i'm sorry the

00:27:58.080 girls who get it get it and the girls who don't don't like or the guys who don't know

00:28:01.600 yeah literally the girl bosses that don't don't yeah so i i think too yeah that's so true and i also

00:28:08.100 think it's also anytime you do anything that upsets the patriarchy or shakes the table even a little bit

00:28:15.180 they're not gonna like it yeah men who feel like they derive all their power from women directly

00:28:20.680 they're not gonna like anything you do it doesn't matter what you do whether you're whether you're

00:28:24.880 like literally being like a ceo or running like a fortune 500 or you're selling lashes or baked

00:28:31.520 treats it really doesn't matter they're gonna make fun of you no matter what yeah so you might as

00:28:35.200 well do whatever whatever you want yeah i mean like also i think that like a girl boss is not just

00:28:40.420 running your own business like a stay-at-home mom who's like raising children is a girl boss she's

00:28:44.360 working a full-time job i'm sorry that it's not a like a salary job to you like it's it's hard work

00:28:49.740 and it takes it's harder than most salary jobs i would say yeah yeah i've seen i've seen videos

00:28:56.040 of uh women saying like this is a day of me being a stay-at-home mom with six kids just sitting on my

00:29:02.240 lazy ass all day it's literally from dusk till sunset work this bitch is doing nothing but taking care of

00:29:10.060 a lot of it is manual labor no like cleaning back breaking labor oh my gosh cooking like especially

00:29:15.680 when you have multiple children like and each child is different like requires different like

00:29:20.580 needs to be met and having worked in child care like hardest job i ever had most fulfilling job i

00:29:24.820 ever had really yeah i love children i nannied for like since i was 16 i nannied uh all three years

00:29:31.340 like in college in the city for three little boys i nannied for olympic athletes and like just

00:29:36.460 child care is hands-on at all times 110 dialed in and you're like watching out for somebody else's

00:29:43.240 life no like truly you're yeah keeping them alive oh my god in the city i'm like holding them by

00:29:47.440 their shirt i'm like please the cars are coming bro like please don't go to traffic like this is

00:29:51.820 liability no truly but when i was working at like a finance startup i was like on my laptop on my

00:29:58.780 phone with the kids i was like holy shit you don't set this shit on fire oh wait no i didn't know

00:30:04.200 yeah but oh my god child care it paid just as much as as as a child care in the city working

00:30:11.400 in the city is pays very well um for a reason yeah for a reason yeah it's hard work man i think

00:30:18.620 anything women do i also i've made a video about this in the past like a long time ago but like

00:30:23.960 when men make fun of women doing anything entrepreneurial whatever it is i'm talking

00:30:28.000 like tangible shit like if she sells lashes or she does like dip treats or something like whatever

00:30:33.120 is stereotypically a female thing men are so quick to make fun of it as if they don't walk around

00:30:40.100 talking about crypto all the time like something that's not even tangible i'm convinced is monopoly

00:30:47.020 money like i literally once talked about nfts i said don't explain them to me because i don't care

00:30:51.120 don't explain them to me i don't care as far as i know you're just drawing pictures and selling them

00:30:55.320 that's all i hear in my head can we please like talk about how like you know uh men love to like

00:31:00.880 shit on women for cooking and baking and whatever when all the michelin star chefs are men yeah top of

00:31:06.720 the industry is always men yeah all the like really recognizable painters from the past hundred years

00:31:11.660 are men yeah warhols like uh jackson pollock's like women women painting though oh my god that's so

00:31:18.360 funny like that's so cute like yeah that's so but the top of feminine every industry even if it's a

00:31:23.760 feminine industry yeah is is men yeah why y'all wanna y'all want all the profits yet none of the

00:31:29.860 scrutiny like well and then you also think too like how many women did they step on or over on the necks

00:31:35.860 of them no truly to like be the one because who knows like have you heard that thing about how um

00:31:40.960 who was it albert einstein i think his wife was doing most of his work for him behind every strong

00:31:46.640 man is an even stronger woman yeah and you just don't see her is the girl boss yeah behind every

00:31:50.520 man is a girl boss yeah every single time so when i see them talk about like they try to make fun of

00:31:56.620 girls who sell things i'm like at least this bitch is on her grind what are you doing besides posting

00:32:02.780 pictures of yourself on on the internet like all my life i had to fight that type of shit like literally

00:32:08.580 you're like they they were praying on my downfall you're posting pictures of that hundred emoji like

00:32:13.780 water sign fist like the area code from area code oh my god like they're posting that and then she's

00:32:21.060 like oh yeah like i started this business and everyone's like oh how how lame how so incredibly

00:32:26.460 lame oh my god bro like i could get into this so basically like i uh came out as bisexual um have

00:32:32.540 dated men the majority of my life um started this career and dated men in the conception of my career

00:32:41.640 for a bit um and all of them all of them want a girl boss they all want a girl who goes to college

00:32:47.160 and works for herself and is empowered until they actually get a girl boss and then they grow to

00:32:52.980 resent it yeah always they grow to resent that you make more than them yeah that you have say that you

00:32:57.480 have like valid thought process and that you're intelligent and articulate and all the men i dated

00:33:03.300 again this is my experience i can't speak for all men but i will um like they all want a girl boss

00:33:09.480 until they have a girl boss and they resent it they grow to resent it and i'm at this point in my

00:33:12.680 life now with with how empowered i am in my career and how much i love myself that i would never

00:33:17.800 subject myself to that again and even though i am bisexual i do not foresee myself dating a man

00:33:22.760 anytime soon because of how much i respect myself and i cannot that's tea honestly i can't let that

00:33:28.420 energy in honestly that's tea i guarantee you many many many women have very similar stories to that

00:33:36.120 but i've talked about that too like this dichotomy of like well you can't just sit around and like

00:33:41.720 this this fallacy they all have that like women are after their money and i always think well babe

00:33:47.500 like gold digger like you need to have gold first like how can i i can't dig something you don't have

00:33:52.600 like and i also think too women who who seek money from men are very open and upfront about it like it's

00:33:59.400 an exchange of goods at that point it's like a trade-off like he gets to have her because she's hot

00:34:04.240 and she gets money i i don't get the shame behind sex work and also being a gold digger i mean

00:34:08.540 me either uh money that's a girl boss you want to talk about gold digger is a girl

00:34:13.320 she should be because yeah we as women want a seat at the table i'm gonna take every way i can

00:34:19.340 and if it's your money it's not my fault you're easy oh yeah i mean like it's not my fault also

00:34:25.820 like why'd you acquire that currency so you get the hot girl and the cool car and so she wants the

00:34:30.240 same thing literally men with not to defend them but like men with actual money don't give a shit

00:34:35.900 no they don't care they're like gold dig me babe that sounds good to me yeah yeah they're

00:34:40.260 old and lonely and they want the companionship a lot have you heard about like sugar babies sugar

00:34:45.220 babies that's girl bossing too right it is very much so girl bossing yeah and have you heard like

00:34:49.940 sometimes they don't even they don't do anything sexual they literally just like hang out but also

00:34:54.480 like companionship these uh sugar babies or like a lot of them are just like young women or any

00:35:01.120 women period you know how many hours they put into their look their body they are meticulous they

00:35:06.040 bring to the table hours of labor on their personal look so that you will want to invest in them

00:35:11.280 literally they work and you just don't see it it's just so like she looks at you and that's a

00:35:16.500 girl boss if i've ever heard of one period you're literally paying her so she pays attention to you

00:35:21.880 yeah yeah it sounds like you're mad because you got god is what it sounds like it sounds like

00:35:25.600 yeah yeah i mean like the same thing could be said with therapy like you are paying somebody to listen

00:35:31.260 to you and like be observant with you and be there with you this is a form of therapy and sometimes

00:35:35.760 even sex therapy like yeah that's what i'm saying and that's why i think too like they'll say all this

00:35:41.780 shit about how like women you know chase money blah blah blah but then when women make more money

00:35:46.920 they have a problem with that too i'm like you don't win either way like so pressed women can't win for

00:35:51.360 losing so just like be a girl boss is what i say like make more money all the time is what i say

00:35:55.800 who cares my my dad literally like was like my dream is to be a stay-at-home dad like i don't

00:36:02.200 want to work anymore i just want to be at home yeah i want to be at home i want to hang out with my kids

00:36:07.000 i want to clean the house clean the pool like my dad's like such a dad he's like if i could just be

00:36:11.280 here forever that'd be cool with me yeah and my mom would be out girl bossing her way through the world

00:36:15.420 my dad's like that's cool i don't give a shit my boyfriend says the same thing at this point i'm

00:36:20.460 gonna retire him so he's like he's like sounds good to me you let me know you let me know when

00:36:24.960 i don't have to go to work anymore oh my gosh for me it was like living in the city and dating all

00:36:30.660 these men who are like a lot older than me and they paid for everything and it was exactly what

00:36:34.260 my parents wanted for me right and it was it was supposed to be the best thing ever and i just

00:36:37.160 always felt indebted to somebody like i always felt like i owed them something or i wasn't good enough

00:36:41.320 and i had to like oh my god bro i'd be fun i would i would i would be with these guys we wake up in

00:36:47.720 the morning i'm like let me make your bed for you before we go why was i making this man's bed

00:36:51.680 why was i making his bed after i let him she's like we've all grown and changed i had access to

00:36:57.180 this and i'm making your bed i'm not your mother like and they're like oh my god victoria's the best

00:37:01.740 like she makes my bed and she cooks and i'm like oh my god that's so funny like uh is it a philosopher

00:37:08.040 like freud yeah freud would have a field day with that like sometimes they do want a mom oh they

00:37:13.380 always want a mom yeah i'm not a mom no hell no i'm not your mom i was at base off that mug you

00:37:20.360 didn't come out of my cooter that's for sure that's for damn sure you didn't come out of my coochie i'll

00:37:24.920 tell you that much but it was like having to feel like i owed them something always because they were

00:37:28.400 paying or like they were just more like well it's a power dynamic that they're exerting over you too

00:37:32.600 which you don't realize until you're out of it to shift the scales though and to have like dated

00:37:36.660 people who i was more successful then and like could take care of was the most empowering thing i ever did in

00:37:41.000 my life and i understand like wanting to be a sugar mommy now because like to see somebody else

00:37:44.980 succeed on your own dime is like great be like yeah period like i'm making my money work for itself

00:37:49.840 by investing in the person that i'm into is that is your love language gift giving all of them but

00:37:55.220 yeah i love giving gifts and i also like love like i don't know like investing like investing is a

00:38:00.440 passion of mine and investing into the people in my life and seeing their happiness grows my

00:38:04.300 happiness i love that too so like y'all are so mad about gold diggers and sugar babies and sugar

00:38:09.020 mommies like i think it's great like would you if you were one of them though that's what i said

00:38:13.160 if you were a sugar baby like if you could would you yeah and you would and you would do it for a

00:38:18.680 check too is what i say once again we come back to it again i think we also mentioned that uh i guess

00:38:26.400 there was a study done or something like that about why men fear women being in power or positions of

00:38:32.620 power taking over the world that kind of thing and it's because they know at the end of the day

00:38:38.080 that they would get treated the way that they treat us yeah and they just can't have that yeah

00:38:44.300 it's the same thing with racism that's the same thing like oh my gosh that's why they're racist

00:38:47.980 too because they fear the repercussions of what they've done to others for centuries yeah so it's

00:38:53.200 it's the same thing as in that sense but i also think too like one time i did a video about this he's

00:38:58.840 like what if this guy was literally like with his whole chest what if men treated women the exact same

00:39:04.880 way women treated men and i was literally like did you wake up an hour ago like that are you talking

00:39:11.300 about like shit because y'all been doing that like did is this your first day on planet earth

00:39:16.900 i'm so confused have you never met other another human before in your life i am friends with so many

00:39:23.360 trans men in new york city and um having led a life as a female facing individual and transitioning and

00:39:31.640 now uh taking up space as a man is the most jarring experience for a lot of them and seeing like the

00:39:37.760 the shift in the power dynamic and the way you're treated just walking down the street yeah and like

00:39:41.640 the the space you can take up and the things you can say like just hearing their experience is like

00:39:48.240 baffling to me because all these men are speaking from never having walked a day in my shoes yeah a day

00:39:55.900 in any woman's shoes yeah and and and to be close with people who have experienced both sides of it

00:40:01.380 and also the adversity of being trans um wow that's a whole nother layer oh yeah of oppression like yeah

00:40:07.800 yeah and and i think it's i'm like you could equate it to like culture shock it's like it's just

00:40:14.200 completely different i think all the time like what if i didn't have the daily fears i have

00:40:19.980 consistently being a woman like what would my life be like probably really freeing like if i didn't have

00:40:24.820 to worry about locking my car as soon as i got in it going anywhere by myself wearing headphones when

00:40:29.640 i walk out of the house with myself being home alone like letting people know i live i'm home

00:40:34.980 alone sometimes like all that shit would be gone can you imagine like just safety alone the number

00:40:40.640 one comment i get on my videos of me working out or going on runs um they're like how do you feel

00:40:45.600 safe alone how do you wear those big headphones and not fear for your safety how do you live in new

00:40:50.000 york city and not fear for your safety and it's not that i don't fear for my safety i've had my

00:40:55.600 safety compromised so many times that i'm desensitized to it where if it happens it happens

00:40:59.860 what can i really do except fight and um and that's why i work out a lot of times or like that's why i

00:41:05.840 like force myself to be alone a lot of times because i'm like i i won't let anybody let me i won't let

00:41:10.020 anybody strip me of my individualism yeah like the free like it's like almost holding you hostage i don't

00:41:16.460 want to live in fear yeah yeah yeah i i i i have been so lucky to not have like had that happen to

00:41:24.280 me on the street and stuff like that but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen on a daily basis

00:41:28.080 and it does yeah to many women yeah absolutely so i mean if i were them and i was someone who's

00:41:34.240 actively working against women like trying to constantly punch down and oppress them i'd be

00:41:39.580 afraid too if the roles were reversed right and i even said in that in that video uh when i responded

00:41:45.580 to that guy i said why don't we just switch them then and let's see what happens yeah let's see

00:41:49.420 how you feel yeah let's take it for right if you don't think women aren't oppressed these are the

00:41:53.080 same men who say all the time that there is no difference between the way we're treated and the

00:41:57.960 way they're treated they say that constantly yeah so i always think to myself i'm like then what's

00:42:02.680 the problem let's switch at them it's also the same people who like have problems with like

00:42:06.600 affirmative action and try to like sum up like uh minorities in the workplace as diversity

00:42:11.780 hires and it's like wow you are so angry that somebody else can like be at the exact same table

00:42:17.420 as you and look different from you i just can't imagine oh my gosh i think that all the time i

00:42:21.180 always think uh like especially when it comes to like switching up your verbiage like being

00:42:25.620 cognizant of pronouns like things like that using gender neutral terms to just be cognizant of

00:42:30.960 everybody in the room inclusive yeah yeah be so much more inclusive and aware right it's just

00:42:35.040 being aware of it i always think if that's like the biggest issue you have like that's such a hard

00:42:41.340 sell to you you must be constantly being a bigot like you must be oh yeah firing on all the choice

00:42:48.960 it's a choice truly like to be ignorant you must be truly actively trying to oppress people all the

00:42:54.540 fucking time if that's like a huge problem for you you're like that's gonna ruin my everyday

00:42:58.640 like vernacular is it like just like being first off like a lot of these people like don't know

00:43:04.240 they're there there and there's so like you're so oppressed about language when you can't even use

00:43:09.020 the language properly to begin with that is ungendered and that's why we say girl boss is not

00:43:13.380 there's no gender to it no it's like empowerment it's a state of being and also the fact that it's

00:43:18.020 not like woman boss like come on come on you're getting something a crumb well that's why that's why

00:43:23.760 they made it a girl boss they're trying to make it we didn't make girl boss they made girl boss

00:43:27.660 that's what i'm saying and if you have a problem with it it's because of you so we flipped it that's

00:43:31.180 why i said we flipped it uno reversed that's right and i think too like you on you that's a genderless

00:43:37.880 term and so is bitch so i always say oh yeah some people are like why do you call women bitches i call

00:43:42.520 i call i don't i i remember this iced tea tweet did you ever see that no no he's like i don't call

00:43:47.420 uh women bitches i call bitches bitches i know that that's me somebody said to me they're like just

00:43:53.840 because you're bi doesn't mean you can call women bitches and i'm like no we call bitches bitches

00:43:58.440 yeah and i call myself a bitch so that's what i'm saying it's a genderless term in my and most of

00:44:02.700 the time 99 percent of the time i'm calling a man a bitch so but the thing is that again gender is

00:44:07.300 fluid sexuality can be fluid gender is a construct language is a construct language is gendered by us

00:44:12.200 language does not have to be gendered that's why i think that all individuals don't need to be

00:44:16.020 gendered you can be non-binary like let it be that we call bitches bitches and girl bosses

00:44:20.800 girl bosses yeah there's two people in this world a girl boss or a bitch

00:44:24.560 literally it does not matter your gender yeah it doesn't matter you could be one of the other

00:44:31.020 you choose that's that's literally up to you facts okay so this next comment says uh walking from what

00:44:38.800 does it say walking from the scene in a tight dress with a hand on her hip while the world explodes

00:44:43.480 behind her i guess it's like he said this is what girl bossing sounds like to me and that's like it

00:44:48.440 sounds pretty great i know cool i think that was supposed to be a hateful comment but i was like

00:44:53.600 that sounds good to me yeah y'all love top gun it sounds like top gun yeah i was just about to say

00:44:58.640 like something with tom cruise so i was probably thinking of top gun okay and this one says hermione

00:45:03.400 on her way to punch draco i mean period hermione you want to talk about girl boss yeah i was gonna say

00:45:08.880 the brains behind the operation of that entire not enough credit is given where credit is due

00:45:13.840 they were running off her and her alone are you kidding me anyways okay so that's all the videos

00:45:21.780 we have but to sum it up what would you want people to know importantly like is the most important

00:45:27.480 thing about being a girl boss i think that view people as three-dimensional individuals you are not

00:45:32.160 like just how much you make or what you bring to the table physically or the way you sound or what

00:45:36.760 other people think of you you are a three-dimensional individual think complexly think in complexities

00:45:42.680 yeah perfect and then also you could always be a girl boss or you could be a bitch you're a girl

00:45:49.980 boss or you're a bitch which one would you like to be just like that saying that's like you live

00:45:55.040 sometimes you crank that soldier boy sometimes that soldier boy cranks you that's like it's like

00:46:00.160 the same situation i think being a girl boss more than anything is a mentality oh yeah right and then

00:46:06.160 obviously because skill you can acquire you can always teach yourself how to do something you can teach

00:46:10.880 yourself how to be financially literate you teach yourself how to save and all of that stuff if

00:46:14.740 you talk to the right people and learn the right things but like it's all up here you can also like

00:46:19.780 teach yourself not to be a bigot so that's very true that's that do that first yeah yeah yeah first

00:46:25.660 time of being a girl boss unlearn all the bullshit that you were taught when you were brought into

00:46:29.040 this world that's the first work it backwards for me run it backwards yeah start from zero and then

00:46:34.120 build from there and the thing is is that like i think that i saw i've seen tiktoks where people

00:46:38.720 um i saw this tiktok from polo boy do you know polo boy yeah and he was basically saying like he was

00:46:43.940 on this incel side of tiktok for a little bit and it was very convincing to him for a little bit and

00:46:48.200 he's like it was a choice to like find good information and good sentiment and good speakers

00:46:54.100 to listen to you yeah all those men that hate you listening to this you can start over it's okay to be

00:46:59.820 wrong yeah you can unlearn all of that and this and some and as much as you may hate you or me

00:47:06.400 something could have struck a chord and maybe maybe ruminate on that maybe think about that

00:47:10.720 i'm saying hey believe it or not is an emotion and and if i made you feel something you might love me

00:47:16.740 that's what i say ask yourself why what did what did i make you feel why did you feel upset by that

00:47:21.260 i think i'm like it it's much more nuanced than you think yeah it's not my face that upset you

00:47:26.320 although it could be but i think more so it's what i said and on top of that my face upsets you on top

00:47:32.020 i think this just doesn't help when you're already upset of course you're gonna like reach for shit

00:47:38.280 like that but i also think too like uh i've had i've had men message me before and tell me like

00:47:44.740 it's the most backhanded shit because like i used to hate you yeah i used to hate you they'll say like

00:47:50.840 uh i used to really really hate your videos i used to talk so much shit on you but then i started

00:47:56.500 like struck a chord war like literally wore him down to the point where he was watching every single

00:48:01.920 one of my videos and then he's like then i realized i was the problem yeah and i'm like oh

00:48:07.440 it's also like be crazy be careful what you consume because yeah like listening to so much like

00:48:13.400 you know like it can like subconsciously really change you and like if you're consuming one side

00:48:19.900 of the story not the other like listen to women as much as you listen to men and that is the issue

00:48:24.500 is that you are not listening to women no truly and you're with you're listening to men talk about

00:48:29.580 women oh my god from no female experience yeah that's not the same thing i say this so this is

00:48:35.180 just like a very rudimentary way of looking at it but like why would you ask a dude with no bitches

00:48:39.660 how to get bitches you know what i'm saying like why would you ask him yeah he don't know he doesn't

00:48:44.560 know babe he's single divorced alone and bald why would you ask him he doesn't have the words he

00:48:50.800 doesn't have the advice he can't do it for you babe there's no there's not a foot to stand on

00:48:54.920 yeah no truly he's he's operating from the blind leading the blind no like i'm sorry it truly is

00:49:00.780 it's not a good look help yourself help me though and and and on that same note when you do bare

00:49:06.620 minimum shit don't expect to be cheered on by me babe i say that all the time i don't hit women

00:49:13.260 i don't call women bitches why don't girls like me like i'm a nice guy what else you're doing the

00:49:19.640 bare minimum what else what else i can't even tell you like i've had i've had women tell me this um

00:49:25.600 where they're like you should make a video about this guy because like he's he's good and then i go

00:49:31.000 first of all that's not what my platform is well i would hope so considering all the garbage i see on

00:49:36.300 here yeah but i also think like that's not what i build my platform on one and two i go and watch it

00:49:41.220 it's like ladies you shouldn't you shouldn't be ashamed of your stretch marks that's it bitch the

00:49:49.400 the bar is in hell raise it i literally say take that out of there where was the origin of the shame

00:49:54.880 though you men no true like literally it didn't come from me talk to your brothers i say like talk to

00:50:00.920 your peers babe like who made you feel that way this way when i make kite jokes or hairline jokes who made

00:50:07.040 you feel like that's not something you should have a quality you should have you should be big

00:50:11.880 and strong and manly and never cry who made you feel that way not me you did that's why i said

00:50:16.600 look in the mirror and you're so mad over women like being able to express their emotions and cry

00:50:21.820 and like yeah like well is it because you can't and why can't you because what's wrong with that you

00:50:28.260 want you that's that's truly how to be a girl boss you got to be empathetic and open-minded

00:50:32.440 right which are the two main unlearn and relearn and start from somewhere like you can be bad to

00:50:37.460 be good i literally have had to tell women i'm like stop tagging me in this bare minimum ass shit

00:50:42.420 because i'm not making videos but you want me to congratulate a fish for swimming like a literal

00:50:47.480 a literal dude said like i would never hit a woman well i would hope not like you wouldn't want a medal

00:50:53.880 of honor for that treat others the way you want to be treated like are we 10 years old again like i'm

00:50:57.880 sorry it's that's what i'm saying you're gonna treat me like i'm gonna treat you like shit but times a

00:51:00.940 million i'm gonna i'm just gonna have an audience of seven million people to watch it so i hope you're

00:51:05.380 cool i always say every time you say something about me and you and i see it i hope your feelings

00:51:10.560 are made out of vibranium because you're gonna need it bitch that's what i think and at the end

00:51:16.160 of the day that's called being a girl boss period that's what i would say with the girl bitch and

00:51:21.340 we're being a girl while you're doing that we're being a girl boss keep on bitching okay well thank you

00:51:28.900 for coming thank you for having me i'm so happy to have you where can everybody find you uh victoria

00:51:33.500 paris on everything um that's it do you have anything exciting you want to tell everyone about

00:51:38.820 um anything exciting anything exciting it's pride month it sure is happy pride happy for

00:51:47.640 everybody i know it's the first day of pride when we're filming this yeah i don't know when it will

00:51:51.520 go up but it's the first day of pride today yeah happy pride so happy pride you can't be mean to

00:51:55.720 victoria this entire month otherwise it's a hate crime otherwise it's a hate crime that's what that

00:52:01.760 was me all last month i was like you guys can't be mean to me it's pacific islander awareness month

00:52:06.200 i saw somebody do a video basically she was saying that y'all looked alike and somebody was like not

00:52:10.900 you thinking this white woman looks like drew she's latina and they're like first off drew's

00:52:16.060 pacific islander and what do you think i am no literally i was like i was like my i'll love to

00:52:21.100 my latin girlies but i'm not i'm sorry guys i i'm not i'm not latin but i do love y'all i have

00:52:26.680 oh my gosh all the space in the world when i first started i take out my mom's puerto rican

00:52:29.740 and people were like my latinx queen you're all maybe maybe chill with that you're all they're

00:52:36.200 gonna get mad at me yeah it's giving white passing yeah yeah so we'll just leave that yeah

00:52:41.220 well thank you so much for joining us victoria i love you thank you for having me i love you

00:52:47.180 i've been besties forever so since the i think ice cube we've literally been jerking each other

00:52:51.500 off for the longest and this is the first time we've met in real life i know bro the two hardest

00:52:55.940 bitches to pin down literally no truly it's like you want to hang out it's like yeah and then we

00:53:00.540 just yeah i just hit my room i make my videos i've done the same thing we do that all that's why i

00:53:07.120 love you yeah because you get me that's called being a girl boss let me tell you all love

00:53:11.180 thank you all for joining us today on this episode of the comment section show if you want to

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