The Comment Section with Drew Afualo

00:00:00.000 at the end of the day you and i are girl bosses yeah exactly bosses stay gaslighting and gatekeeping

00:00:05.680 exactly that's all we do every day all day i'm a gemini that's another g

00:00:10.080 hey y'all and welcome back to another episode of the comment section show starring me your

00:00:20.380 favorite girl and i have a bang and it's aap i'm not so you have to comment on my banks and how

00:00:25.260 cute they look otherwise it's a hate crime anyways today we have a very special guest someone i'm so

00:00:31.200 excited to have in studio today the one and only chunky's dead aka melissa ung i'm literally so

00:00:39.180 excited to be here it's like i'm a very like binary it's just like no like i will die for you do you

00:00:44.000 want to start a religion together no like literally like i i'm just like like when you asked me i was

00:00:48.340 just like oh that's cool should i show her the shrine of her that i have in my room with like

00:00:52.380 clippings of like little things and like should i show like all the people that i've already gathered

00:00:55.920 on an island to like worship her like should i tell you the song i wrote about you but i was like

00:00:59.280 let's start let's start slow let's start slow yeah let's just yeah we'll just hang out first

00:01:04.080 well they're speaking of that's a great transition actually into our topic for today okay great which

00:01:09.060 is confident women versus confident men specifically on tiktok and how it manifests

00:01:14.060 you're someone who's extremely confident talks openly about it how do you feel when you see like

00:01:20.000 the difference between the two i guess well yeah it's um like i like it makes me very happy

00:01:25.860 to see confident women because i know that like oh in order to be a confident woman it's like i

00:01:30.000 understand like oh you had to do like all of this unlearning like whatever you went through you have

00:01:34.060 to like unlearn all this like stupid bullshit of like oh like women taking space and then like

00:01:38.840 feeling validation for male approval and like and like and of course like you know everyone has their

00:01:42.900 own trauma with like their family and and like weird bullshit or whatever so i see when i see a

00:01:47.360 confident woman i'm like oh like you're like me you put in the work to like overcome all that shit

00:01:52.200 and now you don't give a f*** about what anyone thinks about you and you're just like confident

00:01:55.900 and liberated and like yeah like for me it's like you know um people are like how are you so confident

00:02:01.420 or whatever but it's not i'm not like i wake up in the mirror every single day and i'm like you're

00:02:05.820 beautiful you're confident like it's not like an arrogance no no it's just like confidence in

00:02:11.940 yourself it doesn't i always say it doesn't pull from anybody else's shine my confidence exactly i

00:02:16.720 mean yeah and like i mean unless it's men i'm taking all of those i'm sucking it out like oh

00:02:21.500 have you seen snowye and the huntsman no but i've seen you charlie sure charlie's there on in that

00:02:27.560 movie okay literally she brings the most young and beautiful women she brings them to her and then

00:02:32.560 she literally rips open their face sucks the youth out and beauty oh my god i do that to only men i love

00:02:37.460 i have this like fantasy of like my clit like enlarging and turning into the three-headed blue

00:02:41.880 eyes white dragon from yugioh and like sucking out men's souls like every time a man or it's like a

00:02:46.080 like an angler fish yes exactly yeah yeah just dangles like i mean they're so easy right it's like

00:02:52.380 they're so easy no they're like literally so easy they're so ran through they're so ran through they

00:02:57.860 genuinely are so easy every time i see men like their version of being confident and this is i mean by

00:03:02.980 terrible men is like being confident on tiktok it's always taking from somebody else it's always

00:03:08.580 like i'm better than you or women which is weird yeah no you want to be prettier than women that's

00:03:13.880 weird like you want to stunt your beauty whatever you perceive to be hot and there's also so much

00:03:19.100 stuff that guys are just like like um like it's so funny they're like like men are so like oh yeah

00:03:24.600 like stupid girls they're just into like crystals and shit like that okay but now i'm gonna go

00:03:29.760 to a sports bar with the boys we're all gonna wear our matching jerseys and a beer and it's totally

00:03:35.040 not gay it's like not weird at all which is it's kind of weird it's a little weird i mean at the end

00:03:40.820 of the day we're all fangirls no literally and i think actually confident men are like are smart

00:03:45.460 enough to be betas like actually confident men like understand their place and they like yeah they're

00:03:51.500 like no i think that like the i think that betas um actually my co-writer for my show dana donnelly

00:03:56.560 she's like an amazing uh another female comedian great friend of mine she always says like the the

00:04:00.620 most alpha guys are betas like they're smart enough to know that alpha the alpha man is just not where

00:04:06.220 it's at yeah it's not a real thing yeah and then there's like um there's like sigma male you know

00:04:10.400 sigma male grind set where they're just you haven't heard of more oh my god yeah so i'll actually

00:04:15.740 so yeah the police there's more than two yeah there used to be two types of men and now there's three

00:04:20.580 whoa what's the third one okay so basically there's like there's like alpha beta like betas i'm like

00:04:25.680 yes this is good like you are a winner you are smart enough to know that you should be a beta that

00:04:31.060 that's what you should be doing like i love beta men so this the sigma male it's like the like

00:04:35.820 oh like i'm a lone wolf it's like the joker basically so they like look up to the joker they're

00:04:41.200 like oh terrifying i'm not like it's like i have all the same qualities of an alpha male but i'm like a

00:04:46.660 lone wolf they're like and they're always like like an underdog like they're like people don't

00:04:50.980 see me as an alpha but i am kind of thing exactly like they don't see me as enough so they see

00:04:55.320 themselves like the joker right where it's just like i'm just like a misunderstood like brooding

00:04:59.460 genius like i'm an evil like that's arguably worse to me no it's for sure it's for sure worse

00:05:06.420 the joker they know what happened in the joker right yeah he murdered a bunch of when they're like

00:05:12.360 that's me yeah i watch the movie and they're like that's so me yeah it's like oh ted bundy

00:05:17.520 yeah he's my man that's like that's so me yeah i know like literally it's just like okay okay cool

00:05:23.060 no but like i think like you know terrifying like these like what so when i see uh to get your

00:05:29.060 original question when i see a confident woman i'm just like wow this is so great because i know

00:05:33.000 that we like i know all the shit that you had to overcome to like get there and then i feel like

00:05:37.400 a solidarity with you versus when i see like an arrogant i mean like like a truly confident man

00:05:43.040 yeah wouldn't be like putting other people down or whatever that's like insecure arrogance yeah

00:05:47.120 like when i see like when men are like shitting on other people i'm like that's the most insecure

00:05:51.960 thing ever truly like i'm like oh you're like literally so insecure yeah um and so and it usually

00:05:57.680 comes out of places just like ignorance or like stupidity and it's just like and it's just like

00:06:01.660 stupid and loud yeah and i'm just like oh my god like why are you exposing yourself like this now

00:06:05.820 i think that all the time like i forgot there was that like one video i saw recently i think

00:06:10.020 like lucas pukas uh like oh i love him yeah he's no he's amazing um and it was like this guy was just

00:06:16.500 like why are women always so horny after sex i saw that i was like who's gonna tell him yeah who's

00:06:23.420 gonna break it's gonna tell him the delusion part is i talk about that a lot on here yeah mostly

00:06:29.560 because i talk about how they'll they'll create fantasies in which they get rejected to justify

00:06:34.880 getting rejected before they actually get rejected uh-huh and that's like a next level type of

00:06:40.900 delusion like the world you have to live in to be like we'll see i would never approach her but even

00:06:45.700 if i did she would say no to me because she probably only dates men with money you got all of that from

00:06:51.040 seeing me in the subway yeah that's like all of your shit in your head and it works like you saw me

00:06:56.180 in best buy and that's what you picked up oh my god can you read minds yeah no like literally like i

00:07:00.840 saw this quote once where it was just like oh like bullying successful women is a coping mechanism

00:07:04.920 for mediocre men no like literally like oh if you look at like any comments i know so like for me

00:07:10.020 like like a lot of times people be like wait how is that woman like smart and good looking and good

00:07:16.960 at this and and i'm just like hello like if you're good at one thing that means you're probably good

00:07:21.440 enough i mean smart enough to be good at like multiple yeah probably yeah and it's like this well

00:07:26.100 it's crazy because women are multifaceted because they're sentient humans they're not exactly like

00:07:31.700 objects yeah not just like testosterone driven like what do i put my head together now

00:07:36.660 i can't put my head together what do you mean yeah i literally i post i i just talked about this

00:07:42.960 with someone the other day but i was talking about how like sometimes when people meet me in real life

00:07:46.860 they're like oh girl you're so pretty which is kind of feels like a read a little bit so i'm like what

00:07:52.480 made you think i wasn't which is strange maybe it's because i don't give a shit what i look like

00:07:55.840 on tiktok well you look very pretty thank you in every aspect of like in every sense well that's

00:08:02.160 what people tell me they're like no i didn't mean it like that but i think they're just like whatever

00:08:05.500 right i think it's just because i'd be filming from the worst angles because i don't really give a

00:08:08.260 shit but that's why i make fun of men why do you look so good in all your videos okay so you're

00:08:13.360 lying no just kidding i'm gonna be a man right now you're lying literally because you look so pretty in

00:08:17.740 real life and you also look so pretty on camera what is she doing there's no woman can i like

00:08:23.060 talked about it where i put a picture like when i post glam pictures from my hair makeup artist like

00:08:27.300 he takes them of me and i post them men lose their minds they're like she got work done she

00:08:34.180 edited this picture it's mostly men which is strange sometimes women say it too but it's mostly

00:08:38.940 men oh no i get that too like makeup versus no makeup you know why you got so mad because you

00:08:44.540 hate me and then you saw a picture that made your peepee wiggle just a little and then you're like

00:08:49.720 oh man now she's good looking too and i hate you well the thing is i think their peepee were i i actually

00:08:56.900 think that they were attracted to you before like they're just mad that they're like a lot of it is

00:09:01.220 just like they're mad because you would literally never like literally no like literally it's like

00:09:06.600 um so because i get all these angry messages from guys i'm taking off my glasses they're not

00:09:10.280 prescription is just to show my diversity and look um mostly i want to show off my my eyeliner

00:09:14.660 eyeliner love that i did underneath my eyes by myself um you know i'm i feel like both of our

00:09:19.460 dms and comment sections are just like just these crazy men being like i hate you so much and it's

00:09:24.600 always like and like i've just never seen um like an attractive guy do that i'm like oh you're like

00:09:30.460 so sad like you just i just made a video about that the other day i said it's funny because i've never

00:09:35.060 seen a man who was good looking that hates me no i've never and i had looking person hate on people

00:09:40.400 in general yeah literally i know so many good looking dudes stitch my videos who really don't

00:09:44.800 care for me but they don't go out of their way to hate me they just don't follow me but they see

00:09:49.060 they stitch in they're like damn that's kind of true i had so many so many dudes yeah stitch my thing

00:09:54.400 which is so funny because they don't need to like they don't need they don't have this like weird

00:09:58.300 like incel anger inside of them that they need to like take out to overcompensate like like i think

00:10:03.280 like it's interesting like as content creators i think everybody who starts their journey of like

00:10:07.900 content creation always has like their emotional relationship with their comments or whatever

00:10:13.560 like everyone has their own way of like dealing with hate like i'm completely desensitized to it

00:10:16.960 at this point like i think um yeah i think you just get to a point where you're just like i've seen

00:10:20.560 everything like um because when i so i first started tiktok like right before the pandemic basically

00:10:25.040 and i remember like i think it was like i don't know maybe like the first maybe like sixes sixish

00:10:30.960 months of me doing content creation because it's like new i was like reading everything like reading

00:10:34.820 every dm and taking everything so personally and getting so like emotionally invested and angry at

00:10:38.720 like all this shit and then um at a certain point i was just like oh like everybody who leaves and then

00:10:43.580 you kind of realize like oh everyone who leaves a hate comment is just a miserable loser it's like

00:10:48.560 they're losing because it's like if you look at every single hate comment it's like okay you either have no

00:10:51.620 profile picture you have like a profile picture of something that's like not related to you at

00:10:55.020 all it's like an anime profile picture yeah or like a whatever those little monsters yeah or

00:10:59.780 you know it's like it's like i don't even like i'm just like dude if you don't have a profile picture

00:11:04.780 or like any content on your thing i'm like you are literally like so what i can't take your opinion

00:11:10.400 seriously yeah i literally said they look like the shit you scrape off the bottom of a ship like oh my

00:11:15.000 god like that's what your face probably looks like no worse someone drew you from memory no for sure

00:11:19.200 no i think it's like that shit and then it was like you know left in nuclear waste for like a certain

00:11:24.040 amount of time then maybe it was like eaten by a bottom feeder and then shot back out again so it

00:11:27.980 was like it's truly like like yeah molten like yeah yeah just like everything that's why i said

00:11:32.720 i'd hate me too if i were you yeah literally literally um and most of that comes from inside

00:11:37.640 that's what makes you not attractive no exactly your bad personality exactly because like attractiveness

00:11:43.240 is like it's like like it's all subjective yeah it is subjective it is no it is completely

00:11:48.080 subjective because like i truly believe that attractiveness is just like i don't know like energy i hate

00:11:52.740 saying like it's energy no but it's like oh like when you see a person it's like you're not focusing

00:11:57.080 on i actually say this where it's like um with like body image too because i think like everybody in the

00:12:02.400 world struggles or has struggled with body image at some point yeah and i think it's because you focus

00:12:06.880 you like you have this perfect image of like what you think a perfect body looks like and you're just

00:12:10.340 nitpicking like oh well my legs don't look like this and but it's like that's just not how

00:12:14.360 attractiveness works it's like no like when you meet a person you kind of like see their full thing

00:12:18.720 it's like yeah energy they're present it's not like it's not yeah it's not like that very

00:12:22.360 multifaceted yeah and they'll never know because they're gonna die alone so for sure no they're

00:12:26.800 gonna die alone jerking off to our videos okay for those of you who don't know here on the comment

00:12:31.640 section show what we like to do is we like to bring videos that i was tagged in bring them here and

00:12:36.580 then we just share all the giggles teehee laughs all of them make fun of it rip it to shreds that's

00:12:41.760 what we always do oh my god i'm so ready okay so this my hands are ready to rip

00:12:44.940 so this first one is a video uh that was made by a man of course so already we're we're setting the

00:12:53.720 foundation it's not good and so in the video it's basically that audio where they're like oh my god

00:12:59.540 no oh no and he says when she starts to realize she's not ugly and guys actually want her oh god

00:13:06.860 so gaslight of the century is what it is uh-huh and i think i think a lot of men especially mediocre men

00:13:14.520 like to make women believe that they could never do it better than them like their looks aren't good

00:13:19.200 enough to land them anyone better than them and that's nothing but a manipulation tactic it's also

00:13:23.080 this thing where it's like men are always just like like you know like men when men write women

00:13:27.400 they're like she was beautiful and she didn't know it she was beautiful and she was completely

00:13:30.900 yeah exactly she was actually hated herself inside and it's just like so it comes from this like

00:13:36.060 really like fucked up thing of like wait like why don't you want the girl you like to feel good

00:13:41.060 about herself oh because you don't care about her you care about what she's doing for you

00:13:44.740 and so she doesn't feel like happy and beautiful or whatever then like you get to from him have her

00:13:50.260 looks and well and it's like a power dynamic i totally it's a dichotomy where they want to be

00:13:54.920 the only source that makes you feel good about yourself and if they aren't that only source then

00:14:00.340 they feel threatened because they're like oh well she's probably going to get it from other dudes

00:14:03.520 or she already has it that's very possible too you can have confidence and not derive it from

00:14:09.980 somebody else but they don't know how to do that because they hate themselves and they also like i

00:14:14.200 feel like men also just don't understand that like not every woman cares about their validation

00:14:20.460 like men always talk like and like you know i feel like you know like whatever i'm a i'm for a

00:14:26.240 living i'm a degenerate oh i go to these things and it's like um like guys here's here's my favorite

00:14:32.760 thing at a party a guy will be like you know what you're actually really funny i actually really

00:14:38.700 like you like hey you i actually like you i know when they're just like you know what like and they

00:14:43.800 and they say it like it's this compliment like them saying they like you as a compliment you know

00:14:48.120 you're welcome by the way yeah and they're just sort of like no they're and they're like hey look i

00:14:51.940 like you and i'm just sort of like am i do you think i give a f*** like i'm so offended like i

00:14:56.860 literally am so offended when a guy's like you know the funny thing too that's the funny thing is a big

00:15:01.160 one they're like i think you're funny yeah okay well so is your dad so yeah and it's and it's also

00:15:06.940 just like oh like what so like and sorry who are you where is your opinion you're pretty funny for a

00:15:13.180 girl oh yeah or oh my god when i was growing up you're hot for an asian oh yeah we're like oh you're

00:15:18.920 i used to get that too for i'm someone so yeah yeah like there's no way why i always say why would

00:15:25.380 you say they're always just sort of like you know what like people like guys so many guys come up to me

00:15:29.020 and they think it's like a compliment they're just sort of like you know what like i don't think

00:15:32.880 any girls are funny but you you're pretty funny actually you make you actually pretty funny and

00:15:38.900 the thing is they always they're always like this they're always like actually actually actually

00:15:42.620 actually actually actually like that is my impression like for real for real literally

00:15:46.540 you're like gee thanks and i'm just like oh that's what the highest of compliments coming from

00:15:52.720 you next okay so these comments on here so the first one is from the guy who made the video

00:15:58.820 of course he said you know what i take it back this is not a joke now i mean it which i think is

00:16:03.940 because he was getting a lot of backlash for it from a lot of women which is also like it's just

00:16:07.700 like why are you like digging yourself deeper into this hole like you already made the video like you

00:16:11.580 could have saved yourself by being like actually i was kidding like and then the fact that he like

00:16:16.980 dug himself even deeper to be like well actually actually you know what i take it back that's that's

00:16:22.060 haters that's what that is the next one says thank you for casually exposing men's manipulation

00:16:27.120 tactics that's what i'm saying that's what i said it's a manipulation tactic to make you feel bad

00:16:31.580 about yourself so you only like receive worth from them yeah which could never be me no could

00:16:37.900 never never be me it's called like negging or something right yeah negging yeah oh my god so

00:16:42.040 like when i was like 14 or whatever i remember like there was this book that was like popular at

00:16:46.040 the incels at my high school it was the game by neil strauss and basically um so it's like a pickup

00:16:50.760 artist exactly yeah so it was like this pickup artist community and then like when i was 14 and

00:16:55.120 like had access to the other and i was like what is this so i would like when i when i was a freshman

00:16:58.360 in high school i would i would look at these like online pickup artists yeah see what they were

00:17:02.140 saying and it was like they were speaking this like crazy nerd language where i was just sort of

00:17:05.780 like yeah like i had like you know i scored three convos with like two tens and like one nine

00:17:10.760 like and then and they and they were and they were like saying shit down to a code like a science

00:17:14.740 yeah it was just sort of like oh yeah like i got a make out in like they were like it was like a

00:17:18.340 thing i got a make out in yeah there's like yo and and like what i said the guys were just like

00:17:23.500 yo yeah like i got three hugs on this intersection today and i was just like ew and it was all just

00:17:29.780 stuff where it was just like here's how to neg women it was just it was just it was literally

00:17:33.200 like honestly if you gotta if you gotta read a book about it you ain't got it no like it's like

00:17:39.360 and and it's like it's crazy throwing the towel buddy who is and then but like there was this

00:17:43.020 whole pickup artist thing i'm i'm sure it's like still going on where like they were oh yeah

00:17:46.200 there's plenty there's plenty expensive programs and guys are like and they like take guys on these

00:17:50.460 like training missions like i literally saw it happening like live so like um so i went to uc

00:17:54.320 berkeley and i remember like i was on campus one day and i see these like guys talking to these girls

00:17:59.460 and i see like someone else filming them or whatever it was like these pickup artist guys and they were

00:18:03.120 just like testing these like terrible pickup lines on and they were saying shit where it's just sort of

00:18:08.340 like oh like um what are you from tennessee because you're the only 10 i see like it was worse it was

00:18:15.960 like that's a good one it was like oh like you know like you like you look really good for someone

00:18:22.840 with that big of a nose or it's just sort of like you know you only you could pull off that nose so

00:18:26.300 it's like a backhanded compliment right they're just nagging oh yeah or it's it's always like the

00:18:30.300 backhanded compliment i wish someone would say that to me when i'm on my lunch break i know right i'm in

00:18:34.700 between class when i'm eating a hot subway sandwich you're gonna come up to me and tell me that

00:18:38.200 yeah like so rude that's so dumb i'll ruin someone's day if that were me yeah especially when i was in

00:18:43.200 college i was a lot meaner in college oh i love that i was unhinged because i had no fear in college

00:18:47.920 which is bad you should always have like a little bit just like a nice little bit of fear

00:18:51.480 i had none in college so i was i was a terror when people were rude to me or i perceived them being

00:18:57.200 rude to me i was a terror no i i fully relate to that i was here for a different reason so like

00:19:01.800 so like i'm bipolar but i didn't know i was bipolar until like my early 20s so back in college i was

00:19:06.100 just like unmedicated bipolar and i was like and so this one time i remember i was a sophomore

00:19:10.060 and it was like i was just walking to campus and i was like really pissed because i was like

00:19:13.740 whatever i was just pissed for no like yeah yeah because like why not like have you seen the world

00:19:19.200 and so like i was like 19 and then i remember this and so i was like i was 19 i was walking to campus

00:19:23.700 i was texting and this guy literally he like he like grabs my phone and just starts running so and

00:19:28.900 and like literally without even like just robbing you yeah he was just robbing me in like broad daylight

00:19:32.840 at like 2 p.m like right next to the berkeley campus and like without missing a beat i remember

00:19:36.880 like it just like happened i like i dropped my backpack i ran after him i was faster than him

00:19:41.820 because i was like bro like you don't know i was like uh like at the time i was having a manic swing

00:19:46.260 so i was like it's like crackhead energy right i was just like i had like i had like crackhead energy

00:19:51.000 and then so literally like i i like ran after him and then i was like clinging on and i actually

00:19:55.960 jumped on his back so i remember i like posted it on facebook because that's when people were still

00:19:59.680 posting on facebook yeah in like what 2012 or whatever um and i was like and i was like yo i just did

00:20:05.880 this thing and everyone was like wait that's like really dangerous are you okay and i was like

00:20:09.020 yeah i never did anything like that you know i can't hey he stole my phone though i got my phone

00:20:15.760 back that's true that was good good for you modern day batman doing vigilante work but for yourself

00:20:20.940 yeah exactly you think you're faster than me bitch like i'm faster than you like i got more trauma than

00:20:24.940 you can okay this next one says it's funny how they always want to play the it's a joke card when

00:20:30.280 they get oh yeah always that's a story of my life they're like it was a joke and you overreacted

00:20:36.000 oh i joke too yeah i can't joke also yeah like gaslighting 101 like literally yeah it was a joke

00:20:42.240 and he took it seriously okay well one of us deleted our video so i'd argue one of you took us

00:20:47.120 way too seriously no no not me no i love um no uh because i i've been following you for like so long

00:20:53.320 and i just love seeing um like no i i think i messaged you like a while back and because like

00:20:58.480 literally like because you're just your laugh brings me so much joy oh like because you have

00:21:02.540 such a like unique and like beautiful laugh and so like um you know because like when i'm like

00:21:06.800 going through it i'm like like i will literally just be like hung over like depressed like going

00:21:10.680 through it and i'll just go to your page and i just start like scrolling and i like instantly i

00:21:14.440 feel better i remember that you did message me yeah i know like because like sweet no i know

00:21:18.220 because i love i'm just like i want to watch drew like rip these people to shreds and also these

00:21:22.320 insults like need to be like like like memorialized yeah no i was just people tell me that all the time

00:21:29.680 to write a book oh i mean of insults i don't know if i could do that i was like no they need to be

00:21:34.240 like i was like there needs to be a whole memorial for them i was like all the i don't all the awards

00:21:38.360 like oscar grant like i'm just like yeah she's just like you're just i wish i wish i could get an

00:21:42.320 egot for insulting people oh my god i'd be goaded already the thing is like i think that you know we

00:21:47.300 live in a society where that can happen very soon right i would hope so like if they had like an

00:21:51.340 oscars for roasting i'm just sort of like okay so like obviously you're like the i hope so i would

00:21:56.900 love that that would be amazing okay so for this next video that we have this is actually i'm just

00:22:02.040 going to describe it for you i'm just going to paint a picture for you it's a beautiful woman she's just

00:22:07.080 doing a transition video where basically she has no makeup and her hair's not done and then the next

00:22:11.440 clip obviously it is that's the whole point of tiktok yep if we're not charlie d'amelio dancing that's

00:22:16.880 what we're doing yep transitions right that's the whole point and obviously all the

00:22:21.180 comments from men were poo poo garbage terrible yeah all the comments like actual diarrhea feces

00:22:27.880 yeah and then all the comments from women were all positive so like for these comments from men they

00:22:33.260 said one said uh makeup can change a life this has to be illegal only makeup damn son what is this

00:22:42.780 and to that i always say show me a picture of your face let me see that mug i want to see what

00:22:48.400 you're rocking with before we start trading insults i would like to see what you're working

00:22:52.960 with they're mad that they're attracted to us yeah truly because they like they're just like i'm mad

00:22:56.800 because i'm attracted to this person but she's more successful than me and she would attract me so

00:22:59.600 i can't take it therefore i'm gonna spend the limited time and energy i have in this one life i

00:23:04.540 have on earth even though i could technically die any day i'm gonna use this limited time of my

00:23:08.420 conscious effort to sit there and type of cum and i'm just sort of like that is some gas station

00:23:13.240 energy there's a gas station around in la called terribles they they live there they don't work there

00:23:18.040 they live there yeah they live at the terribles gas station this is not a promo for them terribles is

00:23:22.620 not this is not sponsored yeah um i mean i don't know i've never been in that gas station because

00:23:27.540 i mean i mean maybe i should it's a it's very self-aware so yeah you know maybe it's maybe but they

00:23:32.400 lack that so would they be at terribles they're like what is self like no like like i remember

00:23:38.160 this oh my god like this one time i was at like this guy once tried to mansplain to me the concept

00:23:43.260 of introspection he was just like he was like yeah like i started doing this thing where it was like

00:23:47.200 you know how you just like you know how you just like do things but then sometimes you can ask

00:23:51.240 yourself why you do them and then maybe and i was just like are you talking about so self-awareness

00:23:56.360 self-awareness i was just like oh like like welcome to like yeah in life i was like oh i

00:24:03.860 remember having that thought at like nine can you imagine like being in your mid-20s and just

00:24:09.200 realizing that you can think about how your words may affect others no like it's just it's yeah you're

00:24:14.800 like oh my god did you know that i could impact others with the things i say and no like yeah that's

00:24:19.860 wild i could hurt them and or like help them yeah they just they're just still like there's just a

00:24:26.020 a layer of like intel like you know you you tell pretty quickly people are like with it or not

00:24:31.380 yeah and i just you know um most of them aren't no exactly yeah i see like a sometimes i'll see

00:24:36.980 like a guy and i'm like wow like he's really funny and then i check his bio and he's like you know

00:24:41.000 like bi or like gay or something and i'm just like yeah because like no straight guy could ever be that

00:24:44.340 funny like yeah i could ever be as funny that's a good point that's a really good point they have a

00:24:49.140 very one-sided view of things yeah or it's like i think you can always kind of tell like any

00:24:53.620 misogynist they're never funny any bigot you're never funny no it's like your humor relies on

00:24:59.340 punching down exactly and being offensive that's the only you're incapable of being funny without

00:25:04.200 doing something like that yeah exactly which i find leads to a lack of intelligence always no

00:25:09.820 totally it's just sort of like oh like you literally can't be generative like you have to

00:25:13.880 like take something and i'm just and it's like from others to be funny yeah none at all like literally

00:25:19.660 no and it's like not novel at all it's just like oh you're just regurgit it's like you're

00:25:24.060 it's the same jokes over and over again yeah it's like and i'm just sort of like oh like i'm sorry i

00:25:29.280 didn't realize you were a single cell organism pre-cum c-section formula well and tomo erectus

00:25:35.320 honestly literally back like to the makeup point i i've said this before men can't tell the difference

00:25:41.020 no like i if i looked like this and i truly like like convinced like i sat down with someone i'm like

00:25:47.020 this is what i woke up looking like like a dude they would be like yeah that makes sense

00:25:51.400 and i have i sat in a chair for two hours this morning to look like this to look normal

00:25:56.160 no like they don't know like whatever that is deemed oh well it's like this thing where like

00:26:00.980 i remember like so when i would do transition videos of like you know like no makeup to makeup

00:26:04.320 people like you know i would get like all those comments like i mean i don't care because i was like

00:26:07.240 engagement um but like um they'll never put that puzzle together either it's all this thing where

00:26:11.960 people were just sort of like all these guys on one of my transitions videos were like wait no one

00:26:16.160 told me she was trans she's trans she has to be trans well to see like that's that's supposed to

00:26:21.060 be offensive yeah because they're a bigot yeah and i've gotten that too but that's because i'm brown

00:26:26.580 and i'm mean so they're they know they they like think it's an insult i'm just sort of like well okay so

00:26:32.320 these next comments from women uh this says your face is flawless with or without makeup your futures

00:26:38.260 are so beautiful okay did not just go from pretty to pretty i'm not trying to simply be nice but

00:26:43.380 you're literally stunning and this last one says oh my god your face and skin so i i've talked about

00:26:49.000 this before but like when men are like oh women post for male validation like if they post whether

00:26:54.320 you're feeling yourself or you're like at the movies men are like oh they're posting this so men will pay

00:26:59.720 attention to them i always say that's not true because women take what other women say about them

00:27:06.500 way more seriously than they do about men it's easy to get men's attention no it's easy no male

00:27:12.400 validation is easy and everywhere and is worthless i wish i said that like i forgot i saw i i saw

00:27:20.380 someone else say it was just like male validation is in abundance and of low value but it was like

00:27:26.100 this thing where i mean i think they did a study like i remember i was learning about it in like high

00:27:29.400 school or college and they did a study of like of like oh like who do women dress for when women are

00:27:34.900 getting dressed up it's like no women dress up to impress other women yeah truly like not well

00:27:39.380 kind of like why men put down women is to impress other men yeah it's not for women oh my god yeah

00:27:45.560 and it's like all of them just like being like dumb together like i like okay so me and um my one of my

00:27:52.580 really good friends dana donnelly we always talk about this we always say like if i see just like a

00:27:56.300 group of like you know straight dudes like all hanging out like whatever they're talking about is wrong

00:28:01.240 i just like if there's a group of like three or more dudes just standing around talking i'm just

00:28:06.340 like whatever you're saying is wrong you know what i do nothing that you could be talking about that's

00:28:10.100 right that's so funny yeah you bring that up because every time i see those groups of dudes like

00:28:14.580 it's like boys night out type type vibes yeah like i literally when i'm with my boyfriend especially i

00:28:21.440 always like say captions that i think they would put on their instagram like i literally i literally put

00:28:26.400 like like up to no good and like double emojis or it's like boys night on a night on the town

00:28:32.800 yeah like what's like the lamest thing they would put on instagram i literally think of instagram

00:28:37.140 captions yeah this is probably what they're putting on their snapchat last night was a movie oh my god

00:28:41.840 no or they're probably it's like i i saw or literally they'll just like or it's like these dudes that do

00:28:46.860 like fake gary v content like fake inspirational oh yeah they post a photo of themselves like this and

00:28:52.340 they're just sort of like yeah you just got to keep up the grind yeah they're like or they're like

00:28:55.800 haters haters will be there all the time that you know don't never let them get to they write this

00:29:01.260 like and i'm like no one's hating on you i'm like you have no fans i literally am like no it's like

00:29:07.040 these guys it's like these guys who are like yeah people are always trying to say i'm like no one

00:29:10.940 like your teacher just told you to put a shirt back on like no one is trying to like you work at la

00:29:14.760 fitness it's really never that yeah no it's just like never that serious yeah i'm just like chill bro

00:29:19.340 okay it's all right you work at circle k you know what life is truly never that serious

00:29:24.480 like you can still well people like us who do content for a living have actual like people who

00:29:31.520 hate us i don't like to call them haters because that implies like some sort of jealousy which i'm

00:29:36.240 sure we have too but it's just people that hate me well just people that hate me genuinely i have a

00:29:42.220 lot of those like i don't know if i would say i mean jealousy could be a factor i think a big part

00:29:47.800 of it is bigotry more than anything true um i almost think yeah yeah yeah no because like um

00:29:53.120 because in my mind i'm just like i i know i feel like a lot of haters are are just jealous and then

00:29:57.320 a lot of haters are just like sad and miserable yeah i agree they're just like one in the same

00:30:01.380 honestly venn diagrams the circle no no exactly it truly is exactly that's just that they're all the

00:30:06.440 same okay so now we're gonna play a game i love it and this is something that's very on brand for you

00:30:14.640 okay so this is do you have uh big dick energy or big clit energy whatever you prefer dealer dealer's

00:30:21.600 choice oh my god big clit energy yeah okay so i'm gonna ask you questions you're gonna give me your

00:30:27.300 honest answer and then we'll decide as an audience whether or not you have big clit energy which i'm

00:30:31.840 sure you do yeah no i'm totally not wearing a clitoral hoodie i totally didn't just make a song

00:30:36.500 called big clit energy there you go go okay so the first one says you turn up at a party but

00:30:41.520 realize no one you know is there yet what do you do oh just meet people just like walk around

00:30:47.740 yeah just walk around be like hey i'm melissa what's up just like socialize like i was gonna

00:30:51.600 say my social anxiety girlies are like could never be me i mean like it depends i really like i really

00:30:58.820 enjoy going into parties where i don't know people i think it's fun more fun yeah no i think like i i

00:31:03.320 just like stimulation in general like i'm a very like yeah put me in like the craziest shit and like

00:31:09.060 yeah um no i think just like walking around and just being like like okay hi people what's up

00:31:14.540 guys yeah yeah it's at coachella and i was like guys can you guess what this is and it was a great

00:31:18.700 conversation starter there you go look at that icebreaker at the game yeah yeah i i would say

00:31:22.600 for sure that's definitely big clit energy for sure okay so this next one says uh new job first day

00:31:29.660 and your boss asks you a question you think you have you have the answer to do you stay silent go for

00:31:35.900 it impress the team and your boss or answer the question but phrase it as a question or sit tight

00:31:41.220 even if you think it's right like don't say anything oh i would just confidently voice my

00:31:44.860 opinion i would just be like this is my answer yeah i'm wrong like that's okay because then i'm wrong

00:31:50.400 like if i'm wrong then i will learn and then it's fine and if you're wrong maybe you gaslight him

00:31:55.320 the end of the day you and i are girl bosses yeah exactly bosses stay gaslighting and gatekeeping

00:32:00.960 exactly that's all we do every day all day i'm a gemini that's another g what's your big three

00:32:06.480 you're a gemini um yeah so gemini sun um my rising is a libra i don't know if i super identify with it

00:32:14.060 but i know that like but someone once was like oh everyone with a rising libra sign is pretty and i

00:32:18.060 was like okay i'll take it i'll take it i'll take it you're okay then yes i do yeah because like um

00:32:21.420 because their whole i think with libras it's like oh they're indecisive i'm not indecisive i'm very

00:32:25.500 like i want tacos now um and then my cancer is a moon which i do oh sorry my moon is a cancer

00:32:32.280 which i do identify with too yeah yeah because like you know when i'm like by myself i'm like

00:32:36.040 in my feels like thinking about shit like listening to like steve lacy and like being like you're you

00:32:40.920 being a gemini makes a lot of sense yeah wait what is your like what is your son i'm a virgo

00:32:45.920 virgo sun cancer moons sagittarius rising really yeah wow yeah we're two opposites low-key

00:32:52.480 yeah and i was just like how we go through life no no like i'm so surprised like i guess i don't

00:32:57.560 know i really like gemini's they get a bad rep but i really like gemini's oh i like them too

00:33:01.980 obviously because i'm i'm very biased i'm just like yeah we're like the fun ones i'm like yeah

00:33:07.080 we're fun and toxic yeah we stay gaslighting i oh i always say well there you go gemini's are very

00:33:11.800 self-aware so they're they're very aware of the things that they do yeah like my favorite thing is

00:33:16.340 like i think manifesting is gaslighting the universe like i've i've been saying love manifesting is just

00:33:21.600 gaslighting the universe because you're just sort of like law of attraction and like i'm just like

00:33:25.760 i'm gonna get this day and because universe is like no i'm like actually universe you're stupid

00:33:29.900 actually like you're actually i love that honestly actually you're in your flop era i say i stay doing

00:33:35.360 that off okay this last one says you're talking with someone at a party and you like them what's

00:33:41.640 your next move i would probably just tell them i like them well i mean typically like i like the the

00:33:47.620 instant that i like see someone who i'm attracted to i'm just sort of like hi i think you're very

00:33:52.000 attractive or i'm just like hi i'm in love with you or hi like i have no problem like expressing my

00:33:56.460 like attraction or like design just sort of like hi like yeah no i'm like i know like literally every

00:34:02.780 time i see someone like attractive on my feet i slide into the dms like instantly like i literally

00:34:07.400 slide into so many people's yeah there you go no i slide into so many people's take the leap you know

00:34:12.520 i can't i can't speak to that but i'm happy for you thank you yeah no i am like i support you i am

00:34:18.520 like i support women's rights and i support women's wrongs yeah but i never support men and that's

00:34:24.180 something you should always oh my god that's i think um you know uh chrissy chepka oh i love her

00:34:29.680 yeah i love her um i love her i did a podcast with her like i don't know like two years ago or

00:34:33.040 something but um i i i follow her twitter her twitter's hilarious she tweeted like i think it's okay

00:34:37.720 when girls lie and i was like yes i agree i agree it's just like i saw it the other day where

00:34:43.120 someone said uh i think only men have red flags yes women it's just quirks yes it's just something

00:34:48.860 fun yeah something fun about their personality i said that's what i'm talking about that's the kind

00:34:52.960 of world i'm living in i am all on board like i just i'm like well i just think that like all men

00:34:58.840 have like a like a brain disability or something because they just don't get it's like a cognitive

00:35:04.520 dissonance yeah it just it just feels like there's something missing missing you know i'm just

00:35:09.040 sort of like that's why i said it's cognitive dissonance more than anything they're just so

00:35:12.440 far removed from other people's perspective i think a lot of times and men are sitting at the

00:35:16.920 top of the world all the time yeah and they also just like don't live in reality you know what i

00:35:20.100 mean it's kind of what you were saying earlier how it's like men think that like they live in this

00:35:24.220 world where women are constantly doing things for men's attention so then when they're like wait but

00:35:28.760 why is she's a girl doing that like i said i didn't like that doesn't she know that men don't like

00:35:33.880 when she does that like it's like people will like the hard concept oh my god no people will

00:35:38.460 comment on my videos like like you know my like male fans or whatever they think they're just like

00:35:42.480 hey melissa like i actually like you better like without this or just sort of like you know just

00:35:46.180 stick to jokes i don't like your music and i'm just sort of like literally who are you like who

00:35:50.940 are you thanks brian like oh you know what i'm gonna take that to to heart like thanks alex i think

00:35:56.320 that every time someone's like you're not even funny none of your jokes are funny blah blah blah i'm like

00:36:00.500 okay 13 followers i always say that yeah because i'm like you know who who is not the person to

00:36:05.860 ask about how to build a following you yeah literally well it's why would i ask you it's

00:36:10.220 like i think the people who give the most advice are usually the people who don't know what they're

00:36:14.200 talking about like people who don't know what they're talking about like they give unsolicited

00:36:17.520 advice yeah a guy who's like you know in his 30s living with his mom is always like giving

00:36:22.920 entrepreneurial advice right he's always just like no no you should do that and so it's like

00:36:26.420 was all these like all these like gross dudes some grant cardone oh my god i remember so like

00:36:30.960 i remember like two years ago um when my like cult was going viral on tiktok like um i like one of

00:36:36.580 the first articles to the new york times came out with like a piece on i was on the front page of

00:36:40.380 new york times and i was like wow this is so amazing um in a good way or a bad way what was that in a

00:36:45.040 good way oh in a good way okay oh yeah yeah i was gonna say were they being like oh no oh no no it

00:36:49.920 was okay basically um they're like uh so like two years ago when my like cult went viral on tiktok

00:36:55.380 like all these news sources covered it and i was on the front page of new york times taylor lorenz

00:36:58.920 who's amazing she wrote it and i remember there's i just remember like i was like talking about on

00:37:03.480 social media and this like guy was like just this like gross dude you would know exactly what he

00:37:08.520 looks like just this gross like i'm picturing it wanna be yeah i have like jesus would wanna be he

00:37:13.220 like sent me this thing and was just like hey melissa like i used to be a really big fan of you but

00:37:17.060 i actually found it really embarrassing that you promoted the new york times because don't you know

00:37:20.340 that the new york times is like and i'm just sort of like you're so jealous right now

00:37:25.080 you wish you had this publicity and at the very end he goes and i wish it was me

00:37:28.660 literally literally i'm just like a lot of words i'm just like that's that's i'm like you i'm like

00:37:33.260 you know what we don't all have it that's what i say all the time when when i make because sometimes

00:37:38.360 i'll make jokes um and dudes will make videos about me and they'll say you know what you know

00:37:44.360 what i don't like like she's not even funny like and her stuff doesn't get taken on my stuff gets

00:37:48.260 taken out all the time like no one ever sees my stuff i'm a that's the most hater shit i've ever

00:37:51.900 heard in my life and i literally always i'm like did you ever consider the fact that maybe you're

00:37:55.720 just not funny yeah like has that thought ever and penetrated that my god or what like like maybe

00:38:01.540 you don't got it bitch literally like men will do like literally everything before they admit that

00:38:06.340 they're incompetent they'll just be like or not talented exactly exactly it'll just be like yeah

00:38:11.520 no it's the algorithm it's because of the yeah yeah it's the algorithm no i like i always make

00:38:15.540 videos when people are like yeah like i'm being shadow banned and i'm just like hello i um

00:38:20.520 uh i used to work for google i was a computer science major i was i worked i was like i was

00:38:27.000 a software engineer for like five years and so i like i'm like oh no i like actually know what i'm

00:38:31.580 talking about and i'm just like yeah you're not shadow banned it's because your content sucks yeah

00:38:36.700 people just don't like you bro yeah it's okay yeah it's like this weird thing we're like oh my god

00:38:42.000 i will never forget i got this one dm like that was so audacious and like i will never forget it so

00:38:47.360 literally it was like this guy who was like it was when i was first blowing up and so i was like

00:38:50.880 actually seeing his dms and he was like always sliding in and then i wasn't replying um or

00:38:55.180 accepting his message and he literally sends me a photo of himself like shirtless and in the message

00:38:59.420 he goes like he goes like hey look at this photo for 10 seconds look at this photo for 10 seconds

00:39:05.040 okay like and he was like because he thought in his brain that if i looked at a photo of him shirtless

00:39:10.820 for 10 seconds that i would reply to him he was like come on man like i'm hot you're hot

00:39:15.100 all he said look at this photo for 10 seconds after a bunch of different like slides and stuff

00:39:18.960 like i feel like witchcraft to me yeah he was like look at this photo for 10 seconds and it was just

00:39:23.760 i almost wanted to reply and be like dude you're not as hot as you think they are it's like this

00:39:27.760 thing where like where i think okay so men always think that they're like way better looking than they

00:39:31.640 are and women always think that they're way uglier than they are because like how society like treats

00:39:35.780 us that's patriarchy yeah i know because it's like you know it's sad you see like all these like

00:39:39.340 you know beautiful women being like well i'd and i'm just like no you look amazing yeah like you're

00:39:43.900 he looks like shit but you look great yeah no seriously i'll stay telling men that even if

00:39:49.120 they look great over 10 seconds as if i was like oh yeah i'm so you know what's funny not to play

00:39:53.800 devil's advocate it worked yeah he got in there didn't he got in there and i'm talking about it

00:39:59.980 now so you know what you're right and the thing is like i'm okay i'm okay with being wrong because

00:40:04.760 i'm a woman and i'm confident and i don't think that being wrong is a reflection of my like being

00:40:09.200 intelligence like all the men online do on that note thank you so much for coming today

00:40:14.540 well that is gonna do it for this episode of the comment section show thank you so much

00:40:20.060 melissa where can everybody find you um uh in the no just kidding okay so basically uh everyone can

00:40:26.480 find me online i'm at chunky's dead on like tiktok and instagram and um apparently reddit and shit

00:40:32.320 so yeah hate me on there yeah thank you so much for joining us for this episode of the comment

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00:41:01.720 to consume it otherwise you're a loser there you go yes you heard it here first thank you so much

00:41:06.300 for joining me today thank you so much to melissa thank you for coming on the show in more ways than

00:41:11.160 one and thank you all for watching bye

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