My Roommate Peed On The Kitchen Floor - Am I The A＊＊hole？ Matt Walsh Decides
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Summary
Who's the a hole and who's the good one? Matt and Matt discuss the quandaries that have been sent in to them and give their thoughts on them. Who's the real a hole? What are the good ones? And what are the bad ones?
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we're gonna go and take a look at some am i the a-hole quandaries that have been sent our way
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and it's been a few weeks since we've had a chance to answer these so we'll start with cat who says
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hi matt i've listened to you for a long time i appreciate your ability to articulate sound
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judgment i began to follow you when i read the article you wrote after bruce jenner came out as
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caitlin absolutely perfect i was hoping to get your take on a situation that's still a little
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contentious in my marriage my husband's an avid fantasy football player he typically wins a decent
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amount of money while doing so we've only been married a short while so in the past he's always
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kept his winnings for himself however we have a son together plus he has a daughter from a previous
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relationship and we have some debt this year when he won his fantasy football money since i managed
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the finances i asked him to put the money in savings or put it towards some of the debt he said it was
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his money that he won it and that it was extra he and i have a different definition of extra extra to
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me would be cash that isn't needed elsewhere since we do need it elsewhere it isn't extra he spent most
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of the money on a vr gaming system we got into a huge fight because i was upset that he bought it
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i accused him of being selfish and only thinking of himself i shouldn't have been so harsh with my
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words but at the same time i believe as a man as a leader of our home he should be uh concerned
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about finances and want to give to his family before himself he accused me of only caring about money
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which is not true but i do manage the finances i don't like managing the finances but truthfully
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he can't be trusted uh he came from a poor town in new mexico his father died when he was very young
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so from his perspective he says he struggled his whole life he knows what it's like and he will
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manage but those don't seem like words of wisdom to me if he knows what it is like to struggle then
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he should do everything in his power to avoid said struggle for his kids so who uh who's the who's the
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a-hole is what you're asking well the good news is that you uh you probably won't be surprised to
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learn this you are not the first married couple to have uh a dispute about something like this
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about money money right this is one of those things where i am only getting one side of the story
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i'm guessing if i were to talk to him he would probably fill me in on some details that you've
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left out and not because you're trying to be dishonest but because you you you know we're all
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biased in our own favor naturally but based on what you've told me i would say you're not the a-hole
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and i would give two reasons one is that in a functioning marriage in a healthy marriage
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there's no such thing as well this is my money this is just mine money has to be shared like it
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just has to be in a marriage that's how you have to see it and once you start playing this game of
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this is all mine you're headed to a dark place and it's like nothing good can come of it you have
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to have the attitude of this is our money it's for the family family family family which doesn't mean
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that as a member of a marriage you can't spend some money quote on yourself and buy some things
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that you want to buy for yourself but it should all go to the same place the same bank accounts
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that you all have access to uh nobody's hiding money no one's keeping it off in some you know
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locked away so the other person can't you can't access it i think once you start going down that
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path it's just not nothing good comes of it and i also think you're right about the the vr thing too
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i i just like people know that i'm not uh i'm not a video game fan myself i don't play them but
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with the vr thing that goes another to another level right because now you're talking about
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those uh like a headset so now now you you know you you you're completely removing yourself from
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your physical environment what's what's the moderate amount what's the correct amount of putting on a vr
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headset as an adult and a father in your home maybe there's a you can practice moderation with
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something like that too but you'd have to really really really limit your time and already the
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financial investment you're spending hundreds of dollars when you've got these other financial
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obligations you have to meet that already tells you that this is not a moderate thing so i'm going to
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blocking the sidewalk in my neighborhood there are full adults living in my home at the moment full adults
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as opposed to half adults myself and my husband my brother and my sister-in-law my brother and
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sister-in-law are both in college and work jobs my husband and i also have full-time jobs thus we have
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four cars that are necessary for all of us to function in society the hoa has a rule that if
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you park on the street you'll get ticketed or towed we've received multiple tickets from doing this so
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instead at night when we're all home one of us parks in the garage and three park in the driveway which
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causes one of the cars to block the sidewalk now there's a state regulation that asks no one to block
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sidewalks for any reason i believe it's the disability act however it's not enforced and
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there's no one in my area of the neighborhood who's in a wheelchair or anything like that
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however my neighbors are extremely annoyed that we blocked the sidewalk at night it first began
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with them sending pictures to hoa and those photos being sent to my landlord by the hoa then they left
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a note on my windshield saying that it is absurd that we blocked the sidewalk and that the whole street
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asks us to stop yesterday they tagged my husband and i in a facebook post that reminds people
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in the neighborhood not to block the sidewalk with a caption that says please read this i was shocked
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by this because i've never even met these people so i have no idea how they know our names after we
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didn't respond one of them waited for my sister-in-law to come home so they could yell at her to stop
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parking on the street she says that a child almost got hit by a car recently and that old people have
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to walk around our cars are we the holes for blocking our sidewalk when we truly are not given any
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other option no no and look you're doing it at night right so you're putting you're putting uh you're
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parking the cars like that at night you don't have any other option what else are you supposed to do it's
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it's it's not actually affecting anybody else and so these are our neighbors that are looking for a
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problem and getting annoyed by something that doesn't affect them in the slightest you need to
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calm down it also jumps out at me that you said that your your neighbors don't know your name and
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i'll admit i've been guilty of this but it used to be that you know it used to be kind of like unthinkable
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that you would live in a neighborhood and you wouldn't even know the names of the people who live
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around you but now it's pretty common like you'll live in a neighborhood you live there for years and not
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even know anyone around you you never talk to them and so that's bad enough the only time they
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take an interest in you is to complain about how you park your car now they're the holes for sure
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finally from alia says i'm the newest roommate in a college house with three other girls and being in
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college i know that people are going to drink on the weekends but one of my roommates came home one
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night so drunk that she relieved herself on the kitchen floor i reached out to my landlord to try
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getting her kicked out because she refused to clean it okay and i was forced to clean it the next
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morning am i the a-hole for trying to get this girl who has been at the house the longest evicted
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since i'm the newest tenant at this house um no are you are you even considering the possibility that
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you might be in the wrong on this one so you are on your hands and knees on the kitchen floor cleaning
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up someone else's urine i'm assuming it was urine and you want the person who peed on the floor like
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a dog kicked that out and you're thinking yourself you might be in the wrong no you're 100 in the right
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the part that blows my mind i mean the whole thing leaving yourself on the kitchen floor is already
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disgusting but she refused to clean it how did that conversation work hello
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she's so drunk i assume you you went up to her right this is some kind of conversation where you
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said can you urinated all over the kitchen floor can you clean it please and she said no i wouldn't
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want to live with this person for sanitation reasons but also just because this is someone who's mentally
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unstable i don't find this funny anymore it never was supposed to be and uh given the reaction the
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next like she sobers up the next day and refuses to clean it that blows my mind so no you are uh
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relieved of that moral burden i guess everybody was during this segment it's always fun we can do that