My Wife Almost Broke Up With Me - AITA? Matt Walsh Decides
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Summary
In this episode, Matt answers a listener's question about limiting the amount of time around family and friends when it comes to family gatherings. Plus, a story about a woman who almost ate meatloaf at a family event.
Transcript
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this is from Aaron says hello Matt my best friend is in a relationship where his girlfriend the
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mother of his child will on occasion accuse him of cheating and become so engulfed with rage that
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she will yell at him call slash facetime him until his phone dies she's also thrown things at him
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and punched scratched and bruised him on multiple occasions all in arguments that in retrospect
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they both admit were meaningless I worry for their soon-to-be three-year-old child to grow up in an
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environment where a parent becomes so overcome with wrath that she resorts to any means to get
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her point across I think it's admirable to want to keep a nuclear family for the sake of the child
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my question is am I the a-hole for wanting to limit my time around them especially her she's told my
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girlfriend lies about me and has asked her to keep information from me on her behalf my girlfriend and
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I are honest to one another so those attempts do not work but my girlfriend has a big heart and
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negative energy can be an emotional strain on her my friend says I'm being rude and excessive for
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telling my girl to not be around her when she doesn't have to while I'm trying to maintain my
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own relationship of course in situations like family get-togethers or a wedding we will attend
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and be cordial but in the event that we want to go out to eat alone I'll ask my girlfriend to politely
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decline no you're not the a-hole you have every right to decide who you want to be around I always
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think it's funny when I get these kinds of questions and um maybe maybe I'm the wrong guy
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to answer them because I'm antisocial so I I never this is not anything that I ever struggle with I
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wish you could see this you're really struggling I never struggle with this idea should I be around
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somebody I don't want to be around no I don't that's one thing if it's a close family member if
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god forbid you're married to someone that you go through a period you don't want to be around them
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uh something like that well then it's like yeah you got now you have to work through that you
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um you can't just uh cut somebody like that out of your life but if it's outside of that
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um if it's someone it's an acquaintance a friend someone you knew a long time ago whatever and
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it's a negative experience to be around them then you're perfectly within your rights
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to limit the time you spend around them I know what I have to do but I don't know if
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I have the strength to do it you don't even have to you don't have to wrestle with it very much
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uh people you know there are people who are just miserable like it sounds like this woman is and
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they want to inflict that on those around them and so your response is I don't want to be around
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that and so you limit that time you spend around them and in fact even with family members that might
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be the case too where they want to inflict their misery on you and so you don't want to be around
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them because of it and that's all on them that's not on you picture if you will the perfect summer
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with juicy burgers the aroma of the food is irresistible your mouth waters as you wait for it
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not happen as in my wife told me that she almost broke up with me while we were dating but four
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anniversaries later and two beautiful kids clearly she did not break up with me the story of my first
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visit to meet her parents came up and she said that that night was almost the end for us because
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her mom made meatloaf and i barely ate any of it i can't stand meatloaf and this was well known by my
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wife at the time and she communicated this to her parents but her mom made it anyway i ate a few bites
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of it and fully ate all the sides but apparently this almost set my wife over the edge but i did not
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choke down and risk the vomit because her mom needed the gratification of me eating her cooked meal
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i responded the fact that i tried the meatloaf at all was supposed to gain me extra points
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since i was very upfront about my dislike of meatloaf and that there's no reason for me to
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extra explain myself since we're just talking about how i was set up to fail but i was asked
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to succeed anyway there's definitely an asshole here is it me for not extra trying to choke down
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more meatloaf or my wife for openly acknowledging it was a spot where i was set up to fail well it's
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definitely you i mean it's you 100 on on so many different levels uh first of all i'm a firm believer
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in you're a guest at somebody's house you eat whatever is put on your plate i don't care what
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it is i don't care if they take their shoe off their foot and put it on your plate and say we're
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eating shoes tonight you eat the damn shoe he's kidding right he's not kidding i've told my kids
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this many times they know whatever's put on your plate you eat it and if we're at somebody's house
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if we're a guest at someone's house and they serve food on your plate it's even more you damn well
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better eat it i don't care what it is and if it's bad if the person doesn't know how to cook well
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then we're all suffering together we are in this together but you eat the food you're also an asshole
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because meatloaf is delicious like what do you mean you don't like meatloaf what kind of man are you
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this is you have fallen for this is a branding thing okay the only problem meatloaf has the reason
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meatloaf has a bad reputation and a lot of kids don't like meatloaf is because of the name like
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meatloaf oh that seems gross at first blush right it's just whoever came up with the name for meatloaf
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didn't spend any time thinking about it and all they they just looked at it and said well it's uh
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looks kind of like a loaf and it's meat so that's meatloaf it i think if we called it some i don't
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even know we could workshop it but like to come up with some come up with some french what is
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meatloaf in french to call it that and uh then i think everybody would agree that obviously
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meatloaf is delicious so you've fallen for anti-meatloaf propaganda um it's very i think
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it is unmanly to not like meatloaf uh it should be you know it's a comfort food it's a classic
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comfort food meatloaf mashed potatoes gravy what kind of man are you that you don't enjoy that kind
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of food and then on the third level you know this is at a time when right you just you just started
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dating you're trying to impress this young lady her mom is making food and you would actually get all
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skimpy and eating and get squeamish oh i don't like that it's i don't like meatloaf sorry do you have a
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vegan substitute a vegan a gluten-free vegan somehow your marriage worked out and you have kids and
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hopefully you you teach them to eat their food unlike you but uh she would have been justified
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in dumping you right then on the spot i think it would have been totally justified so uh unfortunately
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you are the a**hole three times over eat your food okay
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just eat it eat it get yourself an egg and beat it have some more chicken have some more pie
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it doesn't matter if it's boiled or fried just eat it