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00:02:01.760 the support today's guest is uh the man that's one way to put it he's the number one life strategist

00:02:10.720 on the globe on earth he's a philanthropist he's an entrepreneur he's a best-selling author

00:02:16.800 um there's there's nothing really that he hasn't done he is an inspiration to many he's worked with

00:02:26.880 some of the most intriguing and successful people on earth um as an advisor to them i feel lucky to get

00:02:35.280 to sit down with him and spend some time today's guest is mr tony robbins

00:02:49.920 yeah man thanks so much dude really really cool great to be with you yeah you too man so many of my

00:03:13.600 friends are fans of yours and that's how i became the fan who got to listen to you and left my tail

00:03:17.280 off here thanks really bring a different color to things it's fantastic yeah i don't know what

00:03:21.440 we're doing a lot of times you know that's you that's when you do your best right yeah i think it

00:03:25.520 is yeah you know what yeah i guess it is man yeah that's true actually it's weird how much you can

00:03:31.520 kind of plan and then but if you can show up with a level of unplanned kind of like spontaneous is

00:03:37.200 always much more funny and much more powerful i think yeah yeah yeah i guess you because you

00:03:41.360 probably because you do so many things i mean even after just seeing and hearing a lot about you online

00:03:46.000 and and just over the years you do so many things to try and fine tune yourself right would you is that

00:03:50.800 a safe safe way to say that yeah i know you know i have certain fundamentals that i want to cover but

00:03:54.800 every time you enter an audience and you got 15 000 people you know and you got to hold them for 12

00:03:59.520 hours a day for five or six days when they wouldn't usually sit for you know a 30 minute you know video or

00:04:05.600 three hour movie so you got to really be able to adapt and feel what's there just like you and

00:04:09.920 adapt and it's got to be funny i mean if all you do is get up and talk for 12 hours you want to kill

00:04:14.080 yourself right so yeah you got to make people laugh you got to move them you got to produce all those

00:04:18.160 things because you know time is so relative like how long is a long time some people think well you

00:04:23.040 know a thousand years some people think two minutes right so a long time is when you're not enjoying

00:04:27.520 yourself you know a minute feels like eternity but if you're fully engaged and you're enjoying

00:04:32.800 everything like 12 hours goes like that yeah so it's it's fun to see the impact you can have with

00:04:37.520 people when you're willing to adapt it was the same every time also you know i'd be bored out of my

00:04:41.600 mind just at your live events you mean yeah yeah yeah that's i mean it's definitely remarkable um

00:04:46.800 yeah i think i was thinking about like like tuning like more just like in your regular life and like

00:04:51.280 you're uh being ready for the day like yes what is that tuning like for you because that's a constant

00:04:57.280 like that that's always evolving like every couple of months now we hear about some new

00:05:01.360 thing or some new method or somebody's you know people are hiding underground for two hours or

00:05:06.160 whatever people are you know there's people like who you know you know won't let their shadow outside

00:05:10.960 for a month and it's supposed to help them process limp or whatever you know so there's there's so many

00:05:15.680 things and um what are some things that that are you that you do or that that really make you feel

00:05:22.000 like uh that didn't feel like snake oil kind of you know yeah well you know some things i do i've been

00:05:26.560 doing for like 20 years like you know i started every day in a cold plunge yeah now it's very

00:05:31.120 popular uh you know ice bath and so forth but i don't there's never a day i look forward to it

00:05:35.680 theo i don't wake up and go i can't wait to freeze my ass off but i to me it's a discipline it's like 0.81

00:05:40.480 training my mind besides the physical benefit you know it doesn't feel good when you go in but you

00:05:43.680 feel amazing coming out yeah because your entire body gets flooded right oh yeah your blood moves

00:05:48.960 but going in it's like i don't negotiate with myself i don't go oh let me see if i'm ready it's like

00:05:53.600 i've trained my brain i say go we go and my home in sun valley i i walk through the snow and get in

00:05:58.480 the river yeah you know that's like you know 41 degrees and i mean it's it's intense but when you

00:06:04.400 train your brain that when i say go go no negotiation then that shows up in every other part of your life

00:06:09.120 so i do that i you know i work out every day obviously i do a 10 minute process it's uh it's not

00:06:14.640 really a meditation because i'm not good at not thinking and i don't know how many people are that have

00:06:18.720 no thoughts but i i do a way to kind of condition my nervous system in my mind it's really simple

00:06:23.520 i do these three pieces three minutes each it's only 10 minutes so if i said 20 minutes people

00:06:28.240 say i don't have time but 10 even if you don't have 10 minutes for your life you don't have a life

00:06:31.200 right yeah so i just do three minutes of what are the emotions that mess people up in the relationship

00:06:36.800 or their business it's usually anger or fear some derivative of those two so the antidote to those

00:06:42.000 is gratitude you can't be angry and grateful simultaneously right you can't be fearful and grateful

00:06:46.720 simultaneously so i train my nervous system by starting every morning i do this process to change

00:06:51.760 my body it's a breathing process and then i think of one at a time a minute each i see and feel

00:06:57.520 something in my life that i'm really grateful for i do little things and big things so you don't have

00:07:01.440 to have a giant thing to be grateful yeah and it's real it's not like i'm seeing it over there it's like

00:07:05.920 i'm experiencing it so it changes your biochemistry so when you say experience and not to interrupt you

00:07:10.240 yeah no i just want because i'll forget what the question is that's the only reason it's like it's like a

00:07:16.240 desperation um yeah so in that moment like because i know what you're talking about i'll make a

00:07:21.200 gratitude list right but sometimes it's like i'm just writing the things down and there's no real

00:07:25.520 connection inside that won't do much and i know it won't do it's like i know this thing gonna help

00:07:29.680 at least i'm doing the practice but i know it's not gonna have like a i can tell even right now it's

00:07:35.440 not gonna help me that much so what are you saying that i that i'm saying i close my eyes you know

00:07:40.800 sometimes if i said think of a time when you rode a roller coaster and you remember it over there like see it over

00:07:45.680 there that's called disassociated but if i get you to imagine being in the front seat and you might

00:07:50.240 tell me oh it's pretty interesting but if i get to go back to actually the moment when you're coming

00:07:54.080 over the edge and then yeah you see even right now you see oh you know so that's what i do with the

00:07:59.440 gratitude i get in my body as if i was then see it and feel and experience it and that creates a

00:08:04.080 biochemical change in your body as opposed to a thought a thought's not enough right yeah so and

00:08:09.440 you do three of those and then i have three minutes of kind of a cleansing of my body that i do

00:08:13.440 mentally and kind of a prayer for others and then i do three minutes of what i call you know

00:08:17.920 three to thrive i think of three things i want to make happen outcomes results and i don't sit

00:08:22.880 there and beg for them or pray for them i see them as done i feel them i celebrate them as done

00:08:27.280 because when your subconscious mind believes it's done it makes it happen so it's kind of programming

00:08:31.920 it and the whole thing only takes 10 minutes if anybody wants to do it they can go to tony robbins.com

00:08:35.760 forward slash priming there's no cost for it and shows you how to do it but we do it with you know

00:08:39.920 20 000 people in a stadium yeah yeah and the energy that you have at the end that's amazing

00:08:44.000 because otherwise you wake up and what do you have the first thing is your phone and your phone has

00:08:47.360 a mixture of things really you know if you have you know like you do a lot of responsibilities and

00:08:51.040 companies and these i look at my fingers oh that's oh it's like it's you you're not in control of your

00:08:56.880 life so i i set my life first i prime what i mean by priming is priming is a psychological principle

00:09:02.720 a lot of times when people feel think something think oh that's my thought but it's been primed by

00:09:07.440 something in the environment i gotta give you an interesting study they did this at harvard they

00:09:11.040 took uh men and women trained them as actors they went out and did this very simple thing

00:09:16.080 they would go out to people and have a cup of coffee and they rehearse doing it the exact way

00:09:19.840 every time they walk up to you they're doing it yeah they're doing it in the mall or someplace else

00:09:24.000 they see you sitting there and they go oh yeah they go excuse me or university campus and they're

00:09:28.400 holding the coffee and they go could you hold this for a second they don't ask they put in your hand

00:09:31.600 they look down so 90 people take it and they reach in their pocket did something with their phone

00:09:36.480 thanks so much that's it walk away well half those people they did that with had hot coffee

00:09:43.120 the other half had cold iced coffee so then 15 minutes later approximately 15 to 20 minutes later

00:09:49.520 somebody comes by and they have this little sheet you know clipboard and they say hey i've got 20

00:09:54.640 dollars if you'll give me 60 seconds of your time would you take 20 seconds to read this little

00:09:59.440 paragraph of a story and then tell me afterwards i have two questions they read the story and they say okay

00:10:05.600 tell me what was this person like how would you describe this character well person that the

00:10:10.080 coffee person you mean no they don't remember the story from the story now it's a new person okay

00:10:14.960 20 bucks most people do it 20 bucks for a minute okay i'll do it some people say i don't need the 20

00:10:18.800 bucks i'll just answer your question oh god this little story it's the same same story for everybody

00:10:22.880 yeah and then they asked them afterwards how would you describe the main character

00:10:26.320 the people that got hot coffee 81 of them say the person is warm and generous

00:10:32.480 when they give them the iced coffee they don't even know it affected them 80 percent one percent

00:10:36.880 difference is variable will say the person is cold or uncaring no way same story that's absolutely true

00:10:42.960 oh my gosh you can do it you can do this with creativity if i said to you make if i talk to an

00:10:47.760 audience i'll say make the sound of what you think of when you think of microsoft and you get

00:10:51.600 make the sound of apple right that's a trillion dollar difference in people's response so they've done

00:10:56.880 creativity tests well that helps people watch a 30 second apple commercial or just look at the apple

00:11:01.440 logo and then look at an ibm commercial or an ibm logo 20 higher score on a creativity test they take

00:11:08.960 right after that for those who just looked at the apple commercial that's it so we can be influenced

00:11:14.480 so powerfully so i decide i want to advertise in my own mind i'm not gonna have somebody else take

00:11:18.240 control and so i prime myself every day i prime my brain so it's in a grateful state it's an

00:11:23.440 anticipatory state it's a moving state because otherwise you get whatever you feel like and i

00:11:27.280 don't know about you there are days i wake up i don't know what city i'm in oh yeah body's gone

00:11:31.440 i forgot three hours sleep on a different time zone so if i didn't reset then it'd be fake i'd be getting

00:11:36.720 up trying to talk to people and i'm not really you can't move people if you're not moved you can't

00:11:40.960 touch people if you're not touched you can't make people laugh it is if it doesn't make you laugh

00:11:44.160 right you know that's true that's really true so i try to make sure i'm in that place

00:11:48.320 every single day and then when you do it every day it trains your nervous system to look for things to be

00:11:52.080 grateful for right then your mind starts to become conditioned because most people is that true

00:11:56.640 that's absolutely true if you don't they're just habits right so if you don't use your mind your

00:12:01.200 mind will use you it's like technology right if you use technology do amazing things or you can

00:12:06.000 let your technology start using you where your whole life is controlled gambling on your phone even

00:12:10.160 yeah for sure and that's just you could be doing anything god it's upsetting um i mean i've been

00:12:16.640 obviously i have blockers on my phone now because obviously i can't you know whatever

00:12:21.920 but um but that's amazing no that's something i don't that we don't think about a lot is like

00:12:26.320 instead of just looking at the world why don't you clean the weapon that you're looking at the

00:12:30.800 world with you know you got um because people think of it this way theo people don't experience life

00:12:36.560 they experience the life they focus on right so right now there's a if you're happy you are

00:12:42.240 deleting all the things you could be pissed off about or frustrated or worried about in the world

00:12:45.680 if you're unhappy you're deleting all the things that are great in your life wow and our brains delete

00:12:50.480 and they distort and they generalize so if you don't direct it you get whatever shows up what's

00:12:55.840 wrong is always available what's wrong in the world it's always available what's right is also available

00:12:59.760 it's just which one you pick and it isn't about positive thinking because i i've never been into

00:13:03.760 positive thinking people think i that's what i do it's not i believe in intelligence and so when

00:13:08.320 you're in a lousy state of mind you treat people poorly you don't perform at the highest level you're

00:13:12.880 not happy when you're in a great state of mind you treat people better perform at a different

00:13:16.560 place and it's one of the reasons the humor is so valuable it changes people's state

00:13:20.560 and then you know all of a sudden they're in a different place they respond in a different

00:13:23.520 place when they're laughing than when they're pissed off yeah so why not train yourself to do that you've

00:13:28.160 trained yourself to find what's entertaining or funny and just about anything is what makes you as

00:13:32.240 good as you are in that area you have developed patterns of how to do it you may not be conscious

00:13:36.160 of them all yeah i don't think i was i don't think they're conscious patterns but i think but

00:13:39.280 you're yeah sometimes sometimes yeah the best part is when my brain will make me laugh and i didn't even have

00:13:45.120 anything to do you know like yeah because after a while conscious yeah you're like and you're like

00:13:49.120 i'll sometimes i'll just bust out laughing i'll be like thank you so much like like my brain like just

00:13:54.400 like does like a little joke for me or something um and this this goes right into something i was

00:13:58.720 thinking about since it's like the new year you know and happy new year to you thank you and um

00:14:03.680 and yeah because people so often say like new year's resolution or they're like but that's doesn't

00:14:08.320 really that's kind of like a one and done it feels almost outdated that idea but how do you

00:14:13.920 change i guess and you just kind of answered i guess like how we change our perspective so like

00:14:18.080 so we change our attitude you know that's really what you need to have a new experience yeah you

00:14:23.520 there's three decisions you're making every moment you're alive your audience can test this out the

00:14:27.920 first one is what are you going to focus on now when i say you make these decisions theo

00:14:31.520 i don't mean you're making them all consciously right so whatever you focus on that's what you feel

00:14:36.560 if you're supposed to meet your boyfriend girlfriend husband wife whoever at seven o'clock you get

00:14:40.000 there at seven they're not there some people are pissed off some people are worried it's the same

00:14:43.920 event if it's 7 30 and they're not there they've not called they not text now what are you feeling

00:14:48.640 some people i'm really pissed off i'm really worried i'm really single yeah i'm really single i'm 0.51

00:14:53.360 it's 8 30 haven't showed up i'm full i didn't wait for the bastard but the point is whether you're 0.77

00:14:58.960 angry or whether you're worried had nothing to do with the event it's the habits of your mind 0.68

00:15:04.400 the person who's worried thinks well maybe they're in a car accident person's pissed off they did it

00:15:09.120 again so the first decision you make is what are you going to focus on and most people have

00:15:13.760 patterns of focus yeah yeah so there's three i'll give you your audience can test out do you tend to

00:15:18.240 focus more on what you have or what's missing what's missing yeah do you tend to focus more on what you

00:15:25.120 can control or what you can't control probably what i can't control because but it's out of desperation

00:15:30.480 because i feel like i have to control everything well that's not a bad thing you can't control

00:15:34.080 everything right it's an illusion but you can influence so much you can control everything in you

00:15:37.360 okay and then the third one do you tend to tend focus more on the past the present or future

00:15:42.000 the past yeah so those three patterns if you do all three of them if you constantly look at what's

00:15:48.240 missing it's hard to ever stay fulfilled or happy yeah so you have to always do something to try to

00:15:53.360 make yourself happy because you're always noticing what's missing that's just where your focus goes

00:15:57.120 there's always something missing there's always something that's not missing there's always something

00:15:59.920 beautiful you focus on what you have you're going to be more fulfilled second one if you focus

00:16:04.960 when you can control what you do it's why you have your own business it's why who you are

00:16:08.720 a lot of people focus on what they can't control it's overwhelming they're stressed out they think

00:16:12.640 of all those things so if you constantly focus on what's missing you can't control and the past

00:16:17.120 which you can't change what that makes is either angry or sad or frustrated or depressed i've you see

00:16:22.800 people all the time that come to me you know groups i just did this thing for stanford where they

00:16:26.800 two years ago and everybody's in covid they came to me because two of their professors came to my seminar for five

00:16:31.440 days both were you know clinically depressed they came back with no depression symptoms

00:16:36.720 they said you know how do you do this i mean do you have any data i said well i got millions of

00:16:41.600 people that did my programs you know they go no like scientific data i said well you want to do a test

00:16:45.680 they said sure i said what do you want to test on and they said depression and i said well i already

00:16:49.920 know what triggers that for anybody you can give them drugs all day long all prozac and zoloft does

00:16:54.640 is numb things but i just got off of mine oh good for you yeah i'm like 17 days off right now so

00:16:59.440 awesome well let's see how it goes let's see how it goes but your two patterns that you just did

00:17:05.600 yeah constantly focus what's missing and the past will make it a little harder for you to be happy

00:17:11.680 on a long-term basis right you crack yourself up so in the moments you change your state but if you

00:17:16.640 want a long-term change all you'd have to do is change the habit it's just a habit of focusing on

00:17:22.080 what you do have like your life is magnificent yeah yeah i gotta i try a lot i just have to make sure

00:17:27.040 i do it has to get conditioned right and then the second one so it's so you don't have to think

00:17:30.720 about it if you think about it doesn't work right because by that time it's too late and then the

00:17:34.000 second one is focusing on what you can control you already do but the past versus the present and

00:17:39.200 the future enjoying the present and building the future just that little pattern change somebody's

00:17:44.640 life do you know how many people are on prozac and so i'll ask in an audience i got 15 20 000 people

00:17:48.880 i say how many of you know someone who's on antidepressants and they're still depressed

00:17:53.360 and 95 of the room raises their hand and the reason is because those drugs numb you but they

00:17:57.760 don't charge the cause as long as you constantly focus on what's missing from my life and constantly

00:18:02.000 look at the past which you can't control and if you're on top of it you're focused on you know what

00:18:06.160 you can't control that's why i got off because i couldn't have any feelings i was trying to like

00:18:10.080 be in relationships and stuff and it's like girls would be like do you like me and i'm like i don't you

00:18:15.680 know like i would literally have to look at like history of stuff like it's almost like i would have to

00:18:21.600 look at my own past for clues right yeah like on how i felt and so because you're being altered

00:18:27.520 right you're being altered and not yeah it was just too it was too hard to get like a real feeling

00:18:30.880 out of myself and so i was like man i gotta have some feelings or i'm not going to be able to make

00:18:34.160 some choices for myself good for you that's really awesome but i want you to know i want you to know

00:18:38.400 how a normal treatment is to put you on antidepressants and therapy or one or the other or both right

00:18:44.480 so i asked the guys at stanford i said you want to study it well what what are the meta studies you

00:18:48.400 when you have multiple studies they give you the averages and they said well the meta studies show

00:18:52.160 that 60 percent of people who take antidepressants and now they know ssrs our eyes don't even work

00:18:57.680 there was a cover of newsweek a year ago in september did you not know this email me i've

00:19:02.720 been thinking for 17 years oh really yeah i don't go look at september of 2022 cover of newsweek

00:19:11.040 says meta studies show the ssrs don't work but we keep selling them right what am i doing but watch

00:19:16.720 this here's the stats 60 don't improve at all 40 of the people improve the average improvement

00:19:22.160 according to meta studies is 50 so they're half as depressed as they were now some people get well

00:19:26.640 but it's a very small percentage so i said you could almost do that with a placebo and the guy laughed

00:19:30.800 and said yeah i said well what's the best study you've ever done the most effective study in science

00:19:35.360 they said there was a study done at john's hopkins about five and a half year five years ago

00:19:40.000 probably me and who what are they from stanford who's johns hopkins johns hopkins hospital has

00:19:45.200 some of the best researchers and so forth and so they did this study and here's what they did

00:19:50.160 they give people psilocybin for a month magic mushrooms and cognitive therapy i said well you

00:19:56.080 ought to get some change out of that because yeah it was the greatest change they've ever seen in the

00:20:00.400 history of psychiatry six weeks after treatment 53 excuse me 54 of the people had no symptoms of

00:20:06.800 depression i have i take four stems and a diet coke i'll talk to my sister for an hour you know

00:20:11.600 so i fully support that sir but unfortunately you're saying there's there's new methods there's

00:20:19.600 new methods but but i said okay that's amazing but i said i think we'll do better but let's see

00:20:24.320 so they did a group they modeled that same drug study did the same thing with me with no drugs i put

00:20:29.600 people in this six-day seminar i have called date with destiny and they picked all the people and put

00:20:33.760 them all that's your annual seminar right yeah it's one of you once a year yeah and what was amazing was

00:20:37.920 the results were so profound that they didn't want to get canceled so they sent the data blind out to 0.98

00:20:42.880 three other organizations before they published it and they published in the journal psychiatry last

00:20:46.320 year results six weeks later with no drugs just six days of rewiring your brain 100 of the people

00:20:53.680 no depression whatsoever even better 17 of the people had suicidal ideation no suicidal ideation here's

00:20:59.520 what's the best part 11 months later they followed up 72 reduction in negative emotions still no

00:21:05.600 depression 52 improvement in positive emotions so when you make a shift in the way you use your

00:21:12.640 brain and it gets conditioned yeah and it does get conditioned so they were studying how it works

00:21:17.920 and so there's a biochemical change that actually happens in the body perspective that's the thing

00:21:21.600 it's like yeah you got to change like yeah instead of just being like i want to have this new year's

00:21:25.840 resolution another rule for myself i need to change the ruler that's right like i needed that's what i need

00:21:31.680 to change but a lot of people times we don't even see that we're the ruler yeah yeah that's a great

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00:23:52.160 bluechew for sponsoring the podcast yeah that's a great great metaphor you know you know like if you

00:23:57.360 wanted to go do a i don't know if you're into racing at all but like a le mans a 24-hour race or

00:24:01.920 baja 1000 you could have a amazing car ferrari it's not going to last you have to re-engineer

00:24:08.640 that car to be able to take on the desert or drive for 24 hours or go to the ones that are in the

00:24:13.920 desert there where they have a pipe so that when you go down it's still going to get the air to the

00:24:17.440 combustion of the engine yeah we have to re-engineer ourselves so the times we're in we're in a time

00:24:21.920 right now it feels like winter where there's more fear than usual yeah it's a season it'll pass

00:24:26.720 do you think that's true i know it's true you study history think of it this way there's patterns

00:24:32.320 because because we see a lot of stuff right like there's so much things going on it's like you know

00:24:36.160 there's all kind of yeah like we all it feels like that's true but it's because it's constantly fed to

00:24:41.280 you right it's hard for me to know if it's true or if it's just well it may be true but it's

00:24:45.760 disproportionate it's like you didn't know 30 years ago there was an aircraft crash in some third

00:24:51.920 for third world country but now you know in 10 seconds in your pocket so you know when people

00:24:57.360 overreact to something you've ever gotten pissed off over something little the reason you overreact

00:25:02.160 is it's not that moment it's that it happened again right somebody did it again right yeah so

00:25:07.520 what i call that stacking so when you stack problem on problem on problem pretty soon your whole biochemistry

00:25:13.360 it's hard to get back but you can also stack the good that's why i do the morning priming so when you

00:25:18.720 stack a good thing on top of a good thing on top of a good thing your whole biochemistry changes and

00:25:23.040 now you see the world through different eyes it's not like you're guaranteed to succeed but your

00:25:27.680 probabilities of pulling it off and enjoying yourself are up about a thousand oh yeah and like i'll go to

00:25:32.640 i go to like a meetings i go to recovery meetings right so um and i notice if i go to a couple in a

00:25:37.840 day dude by friday i'm a good guy you know i'm like hugging people i'm like telling blind people i'm

00:25:46.160 gonna heal them i can't and i'll do this for like 30 seconds on them you know it's like you just feel

00:25:51.760 like but you're right it's but it takes me i have to stack them up and it's like that's right and then

00:25:56.080 it's usually a couple days later that i even i'm like man why do i feel so great it's like oh because

00:26:00.480 i did this work over the past 10 days and what you did there were actually when you really do it

00:26:06.080 strongly like that it creates a biochemical change and that creates a new habit in your nervous system

00:26:11.600 so what notices that in your body like your your your chemistry in your body actually notices

00:26:16.080 you're doing something different here's what they found they they did my work with a top professor

00:26:22.240 who was highly rated at stanford he did my work word for word but he didn't do what i do an event

00:26:27.760 which is change your biochemistry change the way you move you breathe your voice all those things

00:26:32.080 change you he didn't do that he just taught it he got unbelievable results he's a tremendous teacher

00:26:37.040 professor but mine were 300 percent greater because the biochemical change so they followed

00:26:41.920 me for three years that'd be where the 68 000 device that measures heart rate variability they come

00:26:47.200 during every break and take my saliva they took my blood do my blood pressure it was crazy but they

00:26:54.080 did it on several events over three years and they found all these wild things like and this is

00:26:58.320 stanford did it yeah stanford did and what they found was the same group of stanford in partnership with

00:27:02.400 a group that's working like tom brady and some of the greatest athletes and they have this thing they

00:27:06.320 called the uh uh championship biochemistry and so if tom brady is down in the fourth quarter by 10

00:27:12.720 points in the super bowl how does that guy come back and win the reason is because there's a part

00:27:18.000 of him that goes in this state and i do it every time i get on stage but my audience does it as well

00:27:22.560 and they measure it so what happens is testosterone explodes through my body that gives you incredible

00:27:27.760 drive and push and i've got to keep this building going imagine you know 10 000 15 20 000 people

00:27:34.160 i gotta reach the guy at the back for 12 straight hours the level of intensity is amazing playfulness

00:27:39.120 fun but it's still intensity but normally that has a lot of stress with it my cortisol which is the

00:27:44.400 stress hormone drops through the floor same as tom so what you get is total drive it doesn't guarantee

00:27:49.520 success but total drive and not a lot of stress so you're able to stay centered and go so my audience

00:27:55.600 so this amazing thing so they measured me they found it like you know i jump a thousand times in a day

00:28:00.400 on stage and i weighed 290 pounds so every time i jump and come down it's four times your body

00:28:04.960 weight so imagine a thousand pounds of pressure a thousand times in a day so my bone density is

00:28:10.320 you look at it i look like a gorilla underneath it oh yeah you're done because i've done that i've done

00:28:14.080 it for like 40 years right so on the other hand they also saw that you know if you're running with

00:28:18.880 somebody and you can't talk any longer you've gotten to a four of lactic acid i'm in an 18 and still

00:28:24.000 speaking so then they started testing my audiences and they saw it looks like music when i go into these

00:28:29.440 states the audience follows me and they measured it then when covet happened i had all people at home

00:28:36.080 and so we had people in 195 countries so they went to people in 40 countries and measured them in real

00:28:41.280 time as we're doing this now imagine it measuring them over yeah i built this what happened was not

00:28:47.440 zoom but like a larger scale zoom yeah 20 foot high led screens 0.67 highest resolution i built a piece

00:28:53.520 so i can bring people up eric yon from zoom he built the system so instead of a thousand people i could do

00:28:58.320 25 000 i've done a million and a half people in one seminar to give you an idea for four days

00:29:02.560 it's been wild so but when i built this i wanted to figure out how to help people and i was like

00:29:06.960 could it really work through these screens it was just out of necessity because every stadium was

00:29:10.880 closed the governor of california calls me and says march of 2020 we're about to have an event for

00:29:15.280 12 500 people and he goes oh yeah you can only put 100 people in the stadium what are you talking

00:29:20.080 about right it's not gonna work so i was like screw you we'll move to vegas they'll never shut down vegas they

00:29:24.880 shut down vegas like 10 days before we moved 12 500 people there then i went we'll go to texas the

00:29:29.760 governor there told me he'll never be he bent right yeah we'll do it in joe rogan's yard we did it

00:29:35.360 movie theaters for elijah put 10 people we did 1250 movie theaters they shut down the movie theaters

00:29:40.800 so i built the studio so they came and measured the people in all these different countries and what's

00:29:45.920 wild is like we start here at 10 a.m for like a four-day seminar and i have like i just did one for

00:29:51.120 you know 14 000 people and we had about a couple thousand people from australia we're starting at

00:29:56.000 10 a.m it's midnight for them i go 12 to 13 hours so they go from midnight to one in the afternoon

00:30:01.680 for four straight days and nights and we lost one percent of the people good night so they have

00:30:06.480 but their biochemistry is changing the same as mine and so that's why a year later the changes

00:30:11.600 are still there without them ever interacting with me again because people will this last well

00:30:15.360 that's why stanford did the study so that's what the study is so you're saying so when the when

00:30:18.480 the study you were talking about a little bit ago that was they went back to people that had gone

00:30:22.480 to your seminar that's correct and they uh and they measured them and a year later you said

00:30:28.560 something percent of them still had no reduction of 72 percent negative emotions increase of positive

00:30:33.840 emotions 52 percent but now you know people uh since covid we got so used to being home people like

00:30:39.440 why should i have to go to work i don't want to drive to work and people offices want people to come

00:30:43.360 to work there's all these conflicts and there's a lot more people being able to work at home

00:30:46.640 but now if you read the studies people are more unhappy now than they were at the peak of covid

00:30:52.160 because they wanted to be at home but now they feel isolated yeah you know and so what they don't

00:30:56.800 understand is the path of least resistance never makes you happy it's like it does you have to push

00:31:02.880 yourself when people talk about self-esteem i hate this term like so many kids were taught to get a

00:31:07.760 participation trophy for something and they thought i'm gonna build their self-esteem this way people can 1.00

00:31:12.800 tell your whole life you're a piece of crap and your brain can go screw you i'll show you and you 1.00

00:31:17.280 become somebody people your whole life can tell you you're beautiful you're perfect you're the best 1.00

00:31:21.760 and you can still not believe them be depressed about your life and think you're nobody

00:31:25.520 your life self-esteem your self-esteem esteem for yourself is earned by you doing something

00:31:31.120 difficult for you when you do something that's incredibly hard and you push through it your brain

00:31:35.760 starts to have inner pride not fake ego pride right so you're saying none of that other so

00:31:39.840 so that outside of stuff doesn't really matter your self-esteem is truly based on

00:31:43.840 your relationship with yourself yes and your ability to grow i mean what makes people happy

00:31:48.320 progress if you get some big goal you don't see a lot of them in your life right there's one of

00:31:53.440 two responses when you achieve the goal yeah horrible one is is this all there is which a lot of people

00:31:58.320 do after fighting for a goal and this is all there oh yeah but but the other one is let's say oh this is

00:32:03.520 amazing how long does that amazing feeling of achieving your goal last six years a year six months

00:32:10.720 six days six hours what would you say um the actual for me it doesn't last really long i don't feel

00:32:17.360 that kind of stuff very much yeah well also you'd be numb by those drugs right but for most people

00:32:22.000 somewhere between six hours and probably six weeks right so not super long no and so the purpose of

00:32:27.360 life is not just to get your goals your goals or you're getting what you want doesn't make you

00:32:32.000 happy what makes you happy is who you become in pursuit of those goals so the growth the progress even if

00:32:36.960 you don't achieve it yet but you start losing weight or you start building muscle you start

00:32:40.160 making your relationship better or you start to build a business the building the progress is

00:32:45.200 what makes you feel alive because we're all made to either grow or die if your relationship's not

00:32:49.200 growing it's dying if your business is not growing it's dying there's no in between 0.87

00:32:52.320 bullshit that doesn't work so and when you grow you have something to give and what makes people fulfilled

00:32:58.480 is growing and giving sharing it with somebody because there's only so much joy you can have by 1.00

00:33:02.640 yourself drugs alcohol entertainment sex with yourself whatever by yourself there's a limit 0.70

00:33:08.080 to what you can feel that's why whenever something great happens most of us want to tell someone share

00:33:12.960 with somebody we love because when you share it it magnifies it so that's really what we're trying to

00:33:18.000 show people is how to create that kind of progress and a problem in new year's is as you said

00:33:23.120 a resolution is just like what do i want and they don't think about any depth they say it and then here's

00:33:28.000 the problem yeah they don't take it beyond that they have no plan right or it's a very simple

00:33:32.640 plan oh yeah and by february one by the first of february 95 of those things are already broken

00:33:37.600 but what they're really oh yeah is there's like my ears are losing december

00:33:42.000 you know well you need a path and so if you want to make your relationship better your business better

00:33:46.160 your life better it starts with knowing what you want you say what i want why do i want it and what kind

00:33:50.960 of person would i have to be to have that stay and then you got a second step where you got to tell

00:33:55.120 yourself find and tell yourself the truth which is there's a gap between where i am and where i want 0.92

00:34:00.640 to be and don't bullshit yourself don't go i'm i'm a little overweight or i'm fat because i'm big boned 0.98

00:34:06.160 no you're fat because you have poor habits right that's how it works yeah some people yeah i remember 0.99

00:34:10.320 this the people always like he'll grow out of it and i'm like dude he's 34 like my buddy's grandma's

00:34:16.000 like it's just baby fat he'll grow out of it it's like we all have different but it's like he ain't

00:34:20.880 bug you know ronnie ain't growing out the reason i'll grow out of it is you have to see what's

00:34:25.360 causing you to have that gap and it's one of only a couple things either you got fear so you're not

00:34:29.600 taking action or you might have for example uh some limiting beliefs like it never works i've tried

00:34:35.200 everything the good ones are gone so you don't even begin or you might have some emotion gets in

00:34:39.840 the way or a bad habit or maybe just missing the skill like no one's ever taught you how to make

00:34:45.360 money or grow a business or have a great relationship so you're learning on the job and it's painful to learn

00:34:50.560 the job so i've always said find somebody who's extraordinary at something or many people figure

00:34:56.000 out what they're doing and do that it's called modeling instead of reinventing the wheel now you

00:35:00.080 can add yourself to it yeah but modeling gives you the pathway to power and then once you know what

00:35:05.200 you want while you want it you're honest about the gap you come up with a quick plan not a perfect

00:35:09.600 one and you start taking action and then you face your demons you slay your dragons what needs to

00:35:14.080 change like okay i'm never gonna have a relationship if i'm numb all the time so i gotta i gotta change

00:35:18.960 this it's hard but i'm gonna i'm gonna do the hard thing right and when you do the hard thing you get

00:35:22.960 momentum and then what was hard becomes easy after a while and that's really the secret dang gosh i'm

00:35:30.640 gonna need to calculate or even go through that again but but that's okay you know but it's a lot

00:35:36.800 of great information you know i'm talking i talk rapidly because i'm so passionate but you know you

00:35:40.400 take people through it an event where they get to process it and take time through it to give you

00:35:43.680 sense yeah no i appreciate it man i feel like uh it's nice you to share that stuff with this because i know it's

00:35:48.400 stuff that you learned over the years and you know and it's a lot of value in that and that you even

00:35:52.400 taking that time to just share that kind of stuff with us and i know you guys have a program it's uh

00:35:59.280 not the date with destiny but you guys have another program you guys do oh yeah that program started

00:36:04.080 with uh covet because when all the whole world shut down i was like people need this right now how do i

00:36:09.200 help so i built that studio i told you about and i was like okay why don't i do where you don't have

00:36:14.320 travel because they can't why don't make it so there's no money involved and let's just serve

00:36:18.320 as many people as we can and so i put together this three-day immersion of just three hours a day

00:36:23.200 not 12 and i said let's give people an experience where they can really transform the first year we

00:36:27.920 had a half a million people do it last year we had a million half people so we're doing one more this

00:36:32.160 year all at the same time all at the same time wow in 195 countries every country in the world so

00:36:37.840 fantastic so we're doing one this year january 25th through the 27th it's absolutely free there's no

00:36:42.880 charge not partially free um and all the people have to do is they go to it's called time to rise

00:36:47.440 like it's time to change your life right here time to rise summit.com yeah uh january 25th through 27th

00:36:52.640 and it's free it's free for anybody who wants to go and they can bring their friends or family they

00:36:55.600 do it from their house they don't have traveled they go to the office and do it with people around

00:36:59.040 so it's really amazing the results we have had people change their business change their

00:37:02.960 relationship get off drugs i'll tell you one fun example though two years ago there's this guy

00:37:07.520 that was 735 pounds he never would have made it to a seminar he saw it was free

00:37:12.640 he's been in bed he his brother died he got addicted to painkillers oh yeah and then

00:37:17.360 his body just blew up and then he's now had they told me he have to be on an oxygen mask the rest

00:37:22.000 of his life he couldn't get out of bed like a c-pap machine mean yeah well it wasn't c-pap it's pure

00:37:26.160 ongoing oxygen oh that's nice yeah and then secondly he couldn't get out of bed to go to the bathroom

00:37:30.480 he had to be in bed he was naked in bed for five years and 7 or 30 pounds so he watches i brought him up

00:37:37.440 on screen i didn't know he's there he raised his hand digitally so i raised up and i asked him

00:37:41.520 questions so he got so inspired by this yeah he took this little like like clothes hanger bar and

00:37:47.280 just started doing these little exercises and over 90 days i told him i said you get out of that bed

00:37:52.720 make it to the restroom you get out of the restroom and drive a car again which hadn't done in seven

00:37:56.960 years haven't been in seven years and i said i'll fly you to my unleash the power within event for four

00:38:01.360 days you'll walk on fire with me and you'll really shift your life right he's lost 320 pounds he

00:38:08.320 three months later was out of the out of the bed for the first time he drove a car he fell in love

00:38:12.640 with this girl he came to the event walked on fire and now he's like in our we have a network of

00:38:16.960 people because once you come to this event there's people all over the world you become friends with

00:38:20.400 and he's like the superstar of all these people because they can't believe the changes he's made

00:38:24.480 it all happened because he never would have come to an event but because he could do it from home

00:38:28.400 in his bed you could do that it could reach him yeah wow yeah what's something like i noticed like

00:38:34.000 there's been times in my past where it's like i think i didn't want to change because i wanted to

00:38:39.200 keep having an excuse right like i remember even with smoking i remember it was like um part of me

00:38:45.040 didn't want to stop there was a part of me i realized i didn't want to stop smoking because

00:38:49.680 i knew if i stopped i wouldn't and it wasn't like a it was kind of a subconscious part of me yeah

00:38:55.040 but i knew if i stopped i would i wouldn't have something to blame my inefficiency on or my what

00:39:03.200 i just wouldn't have something to blame it's like it gave me something to blame does that make any

00:39:07.440 sense it does because everything we do even things that seem stupid or derogatory we do to meet some

00:39:13.200 needs there's only six needs people have we have a need for comfort or certainty we have a need for

00:39:18.560 variety we have a need to feel significant unique special important everybody has that need we have

00:39:23.440 a need to feel connection and love we have need to grow we have need to contribute beyond

00:39:26.720 ourselves it was just comfort i think yeah it's the comfort and the certainty what you know but

00:39:31.600 there is a fear that everybody has two fears all human beings at some moment feel that they're not

00:39:36.640 enough and to feel like you're not enough for someone whose love you crave makes a person crazy

00:39:41.600 inside for someone who's what i didn't hear that right somebody's whose love you crave the average

00:39:45.360 person you don't care but if it's somebody's love you really want oh yeah so if you feel like you're not

00:39:49.120 enough then you feel like you won't be loved to be worthless and unloved is like psychological death

00:39:55.200 so people drug themselves eat they do anything not to feel that well what are your choices on changing

00:40:00.160 that well you could take on a new project build a podcast build a business do something but you have

00:40:04.240 to take risks to do that and risks you could look like a failure you could fail which might look

00:40:09.440 like you're worthless might look like you're not worthy of love so subconsciously we come up with

00:40:13.760 these ways to adapt so smoking a cigarette comforts you because when you take that big slow breath in

00:40:19.440 and blow it out nice and slow it changes the tempo in your body completely you go from stress 0.92

00:40:25.440 the wild west you can do that same shit without the cigarette yeah but once you're addicted and it 0.93

00:40:30.880 becomes the go-to some people stop smoking then they overeat because overeating puts all the blood in 0.98

00:40:36.000 your stomach and you start to breathe slowly again and feel things and you'll let go so you can get

00:40:41.760 certainty and comfort by those ways or you can do it by working out and developing the sense of

00:40:47.040 strength that makes you certain or you can do the same thing day after day there's so many ways

00:40:51.120 there's positive ways and negative ways but we also need uncertainty we need variety if you if

00:40:55.840 every day you know what's going to happen how it's going to happen you get bored out of your mind

00:40:59.920 but if you have so much variety you don't know what's going to happen people freak out

00:41:02.960 so these needs bounce up against each other and so when people do a behavior like smoking smoking

00:41:07.840 will give you comfort certainty smoking will give you in some people's case variety because

00:41:13.040 you're stressed out now you change your state that feels different it's called variety smoking will

00:41:17.760 give you significance if you think it's cool although today it's a little harder to do that 1.00

00:41:21.360 because most people think you're an idiot we put you in a separate room by yourself yeah they think 0.99

00:41:25.200 you are yeah so but it used to be i'm cool if i smoke and some people say you can't make me not 1.00

00:41:29.760 smoke i'm significant right for some people it's a way to connect with other people who smoke right

00:41:34.000 so when you meet one of those needs you like it when you meet two you're really like when you meet

00:41:39.760 three you get addicted and you get addicted to positive things you get addicted to exercise you

00:41:44.080 get addicted to working out you get addicted to you know growing your business you everyone gets

00:41:49.200 addicted to something if it meets a bunch of your needs it's amazing and in a relationship

00:41:54.800 if a person is certain that you love them and there's always a surprise they say oh i know they love

00:42:01.200 me and we have so many surprises we have so much variety in our life and i feel like the most

00:42:05.920 important person significant and i feel so much love for them and we're growing contributing i'm

00:42:09.840 leaving nobody says that because when your needs are met people stay like whenever i work with couples

00:42:16.160 i work 100 000 couples over the years and they always say one of them always say i gave him or her

00:42:21.440 everything everything except what they needed if you gave them what they needed they wouldn't be leaving

00:42:26.560 do you think we're afraid sometimes to say what we need though too or do you think we even know what we

00:42:30.400 need sometimes most people don't you're absolutely right most people not only don't say it but most

00:42:33.840 people don't even know it they're not even honest to themselves yet right and how do we get that

00:42:37.760 because it almost seems like you're just wandering around in the dark if you don't even know

00:42:44.000 that they there's wiring in the walls you know kind of well there's there's a part of your brain

00:42:48.640 called the reticular activating system big words that scientists usually call it the ras

00:42:53.200 it determines what you notice so there are millions of things you could focus on even in this moment

00:42:57.520 the blood rushing through your ear the heartbeat your clothing touching your skin but you're not

00:43:01.680 thinking about all that right you delete all that you focus on a small number of things the res notices

00:43:07.120 what you are going to focus on so if you get clear on what you want you just say okay and by the way

00:43:12.320 when you say a relationship i don't know what i want i go great describe the relationship from hell

00:43:16.160 what do you don't want tell me everything you know i don't want a person like this i don't want to be

00:43:19.200 like that i don't want to be and that creates energy when they're done with the whole list

00:43:22.720 then i go right the opposite and you have the relationship from heaven or i don't know what i

00:43:26.720 want in a career or job right everything you don't want who do you not want to work with what

00:43:29.760 kind of work you not want to do people get their energy going with that they're okay right

00:43:33.040 the opposite you got the job from heaven so once you know what it is that you really really want

00:43:37.440 now all you got to do is figure out okay what's gotten in the way what what do i need to shift

00:43:42.880 how can i meet my needs in a better way but that's why we do events like this because

00:43:47.200 telling people just go do that in their normal environment it's difficult but when you go into total

00:43:51.520 focus it's like i started say earlier if you if you want to learn a language and you went to high

00:43:55.840 school did you did you take a language foreign language in high school Spanish one and Spanish

00:44:00.240 i think 2000 i don't know what it was and do you speak Spanish well now no our guy didn't even speak

00:44:06.080 our guy was like he got busted for fraud or something but uh i don't know what we learned yeah

00:44:10.160 but i was in there for i was in there yeah i was in there but the reason you don't recall it was

00:44:14.160 because it was a little bit at a time the brain doesn't learn that way the brain learns best by immersion if

00:44:18.080 i said you have the money and the time i'm not going to teach you italian i'm going to drop you 0.98

00:44:22.880 in rome and i'm going to pick you up in 90 days with no teacher oh yeah 90 days later you're speaking

00:44:26.960 italian because you're in it 24 hours a day seeing it feeling experiencing it that's how i teach that's

00:44:31.520 why i do 12 hours for four days that's why it's yeah that's why it's in it's an intense thing or it's

00:44:36.000 a immersion yeah that's why it lasts because that's why it lasts ah wow man yeah it's pretty impressive

00:44:42.400 it's um i think it's just neat to see that even just using your like seminar as an example that um

00:44:50.560 that it takes immersion it takes really some some real commitment i mean even if people are coming

00:44:56.400 for six days or even if people are going to show up for long days on zoom for four days in a row it's

00:45:01.200 like whatever it is it takes some real commitment from ourselves to be able to do those things so i get

00:45:06.320 a lot of people that get dragged there by somebody and they're like oh i'm gonna get out of here at the

00:45:09.280 first break and you know i remember i had a friend of mine who's now a friend of mine he wasn't before

00:45:12.560 but he came with a a client and friend of mine who was a nfl player this guy's a billionaire and he

00:45:17.200 sat down he saw people clapping and moving and stuff because we move the body it's not a rah-rah session

00:45:23.120 it's the change of biochemistry there's a science minor right he goes i'm not gonna do this i'm a

00:45:27.200 billionaire i don't do this crap right and like 30 minutes later he's jumping this is the greatest

00:45:31.760 experience of my life you know so sometimes you have to get in the experience to know what it is and 0.98

00:45:36.720 then when you're in it and it's so enjoyable this change doesn't have to be painful it can be

00:45:40.960 enjoyable but if you don't know what to do and you just do a little bit at a time pretty hard to get

00:45:45.600 a real change but when you go for full immersion that's what happens but you know i still write

00:45:49.920 books and do audios and things like that because you need immersion and then you need some space

00:45:53.920 repetition you need to feed the mind on a regular basis so i like have three things i go i want to feed

00:45:58.000 my mind every day i'm gonna need to read or hear an audio for 20 30 minutes so i'm constantly growing in

00:46:02.960 in some way i want to do immersion even i do this two three times a year i'll go places harder to do

00:46:07.520 now because of who i am but i'll go to the back of the room i'll get somebody one-on-one to coach me

00:46:11.360 about something i did this brain training for example it was like four days and nights to put

00:46:15.600 all these electrodes on your brain to teach you how to go on what's called alpha brain the part of your

00:46:19.120 brain where happiness is a lot easier right so i remember it was like 12 hours a day it was freezing

00:46:24.720 cold in this dark room and you hear these sounds based on your brain's working how to retrain your brain

00:46:30.160 it was hell and i'm like who do i gotta kill to get out of this oh me i'm the one to put myself

00:46:33.440 in this thing but at the end of four days it sounded like you were in Guantanamo Bay it felt

00:46:38.720 kind of like that but after four days didn't you entertain in Guantanamo Bay did i read that you

00:46:42.560 did some shows i did some shows i heard that that's really cool of you to do that it was crazy i can't

00:46:47.760 believe that tell me about that well i'll tell you about it so first of all they have a golf course

00:46:51.360 down there which i didn't even think you don't think like because they're in the they're

00:46:54.720 it's a tropical area right so these people they're down there it's a beautiful area

00:46:59.120 so you go down um i remember the flight we went on to go down there you they have to you have to

00:47:04.640 fly in like this crazy pattern i guess in case like somebody's shooting at you like you have to be able

00:47:09.040 to evade it so you go in this crazy shape and then you see like out of the darkness is just like this

00:47:14.960 it looks like a big diamond ring like lit up just all the outlines of the whole base you know yeah and

00:47:21.280 so we went there there's all these big lizards not a lot of ladies bring your own lady you know or 1.00

00:47:26.880 something or bring you know bring a buddy who's willing to you know say he's a lady you know but 1.00

00:47:33.200 there's some yeah because there's not i think there was i think seven women down there there's 1.00

00:47:37.680 like 1100 soldiers down there though seven women oh that's a brutal environment but they are look 0.53

00:47:44.080 i'll tell you this the first day you might be like i don't think she's my type by the fourth day 0.89

00:47:48.400 you're like that that is damn hillary clune and you get to come home yeah yeah yeah by the four i 0.97

00:47:57.280 mean there's a wedding ring shop there and it is i mean they're all just sitting around like this 0.71

00:48:03.600 yeah it looks like that that collection you have right there there's just but it is that that part

00:48:08.640 is pretty remarkable oh um just uh the beaches they have down there real beautiful you don't hear

00:48:13.360 anything about them though because they're the ones on the military base so did you go to entertain

00:48:16.400 the soldiers the soldiers yeah we got to see some of the troop areas and we got to do like some

00:48:20.880 volleyball with some of the prisoners or whatever but um some of the prisoners that made them wear

00:48:25.520 like they couldn't even see while they're doing the volleyball it was bizarre but yeah we got to play

00:48:29.680 volleyball you play volleyball you can't see that's yeah that's a that's the rules they made for them

00:48:35.200 but uh yeah and that might be another form of torture yeah it may be i don't know what the the

00:48:41.920 the act is or the law is but hopefully they prevented yeah that shouldn't be allowed it

00:48:46.480 was semi-fun i guess but it was yeah but um what was it like yeah that was amazing man just to be able

00:48:52.000 to be down there you know that's why just to be able to go do comedy there it's good of you to go

00:48:55.840 and do the brighten people's spirits there it was fun we got to do a bunch we got to go to go to um

00:49:00.800 uh a lot of the ford operating bases during like the not kuwait but maybe iraq like after that

00:49:07.360 yeah like um bahrain yeah um so you're the modern day bob hope with a little more color we went out

00:49:13.440 there dude i think they call me bobby hopeless but we still show up you know dude i met a gal yeah

00:49:21.440 one time i mean i i got to make out with a girl in a black hawk helicopter in the middle of one but i

00:49:27.600 haven't made out really look i've flown one i was a helicopter pilot it was yeah look i mean

00:49:33.120 neither me or her were that handsome i'll say that um are you sure it was her dude who knows

00:49:39.200 she was one of the seven dun dun dun whatever you got to do man it's the troops you know that's

00:49:44.720 awesome don't ask don't ask i think that's what they're doing now um but no i noticed i mentioned

00:49:53.200 that to you though is it was worth it because in those four days i've rewired my brain to have a

00:49:58.000 different level of happiness so you believe this you you know this you've done it so many times that

00:50:02.560 that that is the key that's the thing it's like you excluded out these other things of like this 0.99

00:50:07.520 is fool's gold this is fool's gold this is fool's gold i've been through plenty of fool's gold right 0.97

00:50:11.360 that's how you get to the good stuff right that's what i'm saying but if you give up if you give up 1.00

00:50:14.720 because something's bullshit most of it's bullshit but then you find those gems that really work and 0.92

00:50:19.120 we find the gems work then you can use them for the rest of your life and then you share them with 0.99

00:50:22.400 other people because you can see it really works you know and then you know then you get the science

00:50:25.920 behind it but in the past i've just got people the results who that is the science right but it's nice

00:50:30.480 now to have science justifying or being able to show people how powerful it is how effective it is

00:50:34.960 but you know it was in the journal of psychiatry last year and all the people thought this is going

00:50:39.520 to spread like crazy not one phone call because they're still selling ssris right so i mean the same

00:50:45.760 people come to me they've always come to me but but nobody from the psychological community on major

00:50:49.840 scale they just a big conference and share the results again and people are fascinated

00:50:53.520 and they this is came up and asked questions but there's too much money in the in the

00:50:56.880 i don't know it's just even money it's just habits this is how they do their their business it's a

00:51:00.560 business right for those people so what do you say to somebody like me then or i mean sorry i'm

00:51:04.480 sitting here so also me but um yeah like who's because there's ways like i know once i right when i

00:51:11.840 weaned off of my medicine right i got the talked i actually didn't talk to my doctor but i've gotten

00:51:16.400 off so many times over the years i felt like i knew what i was doing i did let my close friends

00:51:20.480 know hey i'm getting off my medicine let me know what were you using at the time just uh lexapro i've been

00:51:25.840 taking right and i said let me know if anything seems strange or whatever you know but then i 0.94

00:51:29.920 started more strange than usual yeah yeah yeah dude if i'm just like masturbating at the house dude 0.80

00:51:37.520 yeah that's natural that's normal yeah that's normal behavior right but if i'm pet shopping 0.83

00:51:45.200 you know that's a you need to call you know you're concerned call somebody i'm looking at a dog

00:51:49.680 that's really scary can he fetch oh yeah it's getting weird um but what i'm saying is uh yeah

00:51:57.280 so there but i started running right i knew i said that's great my biggest thing is i don't want to

00:52:02.480 lose this bad this this opportunity to see how i'm feeling because i'm not doing my part of taking

00:52:10.000 care of myself you know i have so much respect for you doing that it's so hard to do but you did the

00:52:13.360 right thing which is what i teach you got to replace it with something you don't stop doing something

00:52:17.120 you replace something else but what you're replacing it with actually changes your biochemistry yeah

00:52:20.720 and i don't want to run but now i'm starting to freaking like it dude i met somebody yesterday 0.94

00:52:24.880 and we got some damn brooks shoes together well that's a good first step yeah literally you're 0.73

00:52:31.120 right but you get the runner's high and it's it's a good eye for you and you're making so it's like 0.98

00:52:35.520 it's not about stopping what you're doing it's about starting something else that's more fulfilling

00:52:39.760 like running what needs does it meet does it make you feel comfortable afterwards you feel certain

00:52:44.080 you're going to feel good when you run 100 you have variety when you run it's like a totally

00:52:47.520 different state yeah sometimes i'll go around the track this way sometimes i'll go around the track 0.94

00:52:50.880 this way okay and do you have sense of significance like shit i'm really changing i'm improving i'm 0.91

00:52:55.680 becoming more some guy the other day like this kind of tough guy was like man you've been out there 0.87

00:53:00.160 for a while that's cool you feel good yeah and do you feel more connected to yourself or god when you're

00:53:05.440 running or the universe or nature or anything like that yeah i feel like i'm able to have some kind of

00:53:09.280 like my brain will have conversations that maybe i've been meaning to have or whatever they just kind of show up

00:53:13.920 while i'm running and do you feel like you're growing by doing this running by getting better

00:53:17.360 um yeah i feel like it's not going to hurt me that's for sure yeah and there may be some form

00:53:22.880 of contribution that'll come out of it because because you feel so much better you'll be able

00:53:26.160 to give more so you meet at least four or five of your needs by running yeah versus the drugs made

00:53:31.120 you feel certain did they make you feel variety um no that was the biggest problem that was boring

00:53:37.680 i don't have any feelings that's the dead did they make you feel significant no no and they make

00:53:42.400 you feel connected no no they make you feel like you're growing no contributing to others

00:53:51.360 no so it met one need but when you get in the habit of it and you're numb it's hard to shift so it's

00:53:57.360 the only reason people shift is they hit a threshold i'll give you the chemistry of transformation you

00:54:01.680 see how it works for you okay like there's five elements that when they're there people transform

00:54:06.160 so the first one that usually happens is satiation satiation means there's nothing wrong but you've

00:54:10.960 been doing the same thing over and over and over again after a while if your favorite meal was

00:54:15.120 steak and lobster and you have it every day three times a day there's gonna be a point where you go

00:54:20.000 like there's nothing wrong with steak and lobster but man i'm satiated right and that makes you look

00:54:24.240 around what what might what might do different but it doesn't usually make you change it just opens your

00:54:28.960 mind to change then you need the second element and that is dissatisfaction now it's not just you're doing

00:54:34.720 it and it's not as good now you're doing it and it doesn't feel good and you start to feel that

00:54:39.200 in the relationship side just like this i don't i don't want to feel this way then that's still not

00:54:43.920 enough that makes you look more for a change that's the second piece of chemistry the third piece of

00:54:48.000 chemistry is now you hit a threshold thresholds like you ever been in a relationship like way too long

00:54:53.920 you know oh yes yeah you knew it was wrong i want to apologize to a couple of women 1.00

00:54:58.960 um yeah but you knew it was wrong you knew it wasn't serving them or serving you but you stayed

00:55:04.560 because it was certain it was hard to change well what if i'm alone i was afraid to say certain things

00:55:10.400 yeah but if you got to the point where the way you stay as you go it'll get better it was better in

00:55:15.440 the past or you jump to the future and say it's better but there's a day we hit a threshold you go

00:55:19.840 it's been painful in the past it's painful today it's gonna be painful forever i'm the f out of here 0.90

00:55:23.760 right that's when people start to change when you hit a threshold you get the fourth piece

00:55:28.080 get an insight and the inside is what's really true and usually figure it out it's not my partner

00:55:32.880 it's not my job it's me what's going on in me and you make a distinction and that creates an opening

00:55:39.520 like there's a chance for you to change your life in that moment you had that when you were here and

00:55:43.040 you couldn't feel anything with this girl you felt dissatisfaction you eventually got to a threshold

00:55:47.680 you finally said wait a second these drugs are just making me numb i gotta do something and

00:55:52.160 you had to jump through the opening because you didn't know what's on the other side there's

00:55:56.080 uncertainty a lot of people go through all that and they get to the opening it only stays open

00:55:59.920 for a few moments if you don't do something with the insight it closes you start all over again you

00:56:05.760 got to go through all the time period of getting satiated and getting dissatisfied again right

00:56:09.840 getting a threshold and some people just never jump through the hole so i used to kick people

00:56:13.520 through the opening yeah yeah i've seen a couple videos yeah where you've done it like whoa so but now

00:56:19.040 all right but now what i do more is i i bring them the opening over and over and get them to jump

00:56:23.760 through so they get the muscle because otherwise it might last a year or two but it's not gonna last

00:56:28.240 forever if you do it you got a chance to make lasting for a long time but you went through that

00:56:32.320 chemistry but very few people do yeah you got dissatisfied enough i'm thinking of some comedy duos

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00:57:53.280 a problem in your life that's a good question it's a real question it has in mind it has at certain periods

00:58:00.960 in my life uh watching porno and everything and watching porno was making me it was ruining my life

00:58:08.880 it was ruining my life man made me feel just so much shame that's what it did

00:58:13.600 well watching pornography has become commonplace today and oftentimes men will use porno to numb the pain

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01:00:43.200 from progressing in life and stuff uh is like shame you know how is how is shame it's almost

01:00:51.040 hard to find first of all people can say you're ashamed to yourself and i could i could say that

01:00:56.320 yeah i'm ashamed of myself but it's really a feeling you have to really and it's so like it's like a it's

01:01:03.760 like a it's so vague kind of if that makes any sense but it feels like like one of the biggest sicknesses

01:01:10.480 of our being shame is one of the most negative emotions because what it does is it shrinks

01:01:16.560 everything in you and it puts you in such a negative state that your energy drops so think

01:01:20.880 it this way when your energy is really low you do very little to change things everything seems

01:01:25.760 impossible you don't respond to other people the same level when you're super high energy you've

01:01:29.920 done whatever it takes you're either excited about your future or you're present or you're

01:01:33.200 working on yourself or you're working out like running and you're that high energy the same

01:01:37.360 problem happened you can laugh at it crack a joke at it yeah and it's easy right so your energy level

01:01:42.960 with certain emotions increase and other emotions goes through the floor and when you beat yourself

01:01:46.720 up or you have shame or anything like that your energy goes down and then it's even harder to change

01:01:51.440 which creates more shame see i said i was going to change i didn't change what's wrong what's wrong

01:01:55.600 with me why can't i do this and then you start building up a story that it's something wrong with you

01:02:00.640 and when i try to explain to people there's nothing wrong with you you're not broken you don't

01:02:04.480 need to be fixed i'm not here to be your guru what you need is there's some patterns some habits

01:02:09.200 and the way you use your mind and your body if we change those habits you'll have a different

01:02:13.440 experience that's all it is but being ashamed will keep you away from that because it'll put

01:02:17.760 the energy so negatively in your body and you're so wiped out that it's like it's impossible right and

01:02:23.680 then when you're in a shame you come up with all these negative beliefs about yourself and once you

01:02:26.960 believe something what do you believe it's true you believe it or not it's true because when you

01:02:31.280 believe something's true you'll find evidence for it yeah like i'll give you a little test look around

01:02:35.440 this room right now and notice everything you can see that's brown okay everything you can find some

01:02:39.680 test look all around both sides you anything you see that's brown people at home look at that in your 0.95

01:02:43.760 own room where you see is brown okay close your eyes okay tell me everything you just saw that was red

01:02:50.000 now obviously you saw a lot more brown didn't you yeah why because you're looking for it open your eyes

01:02:55.040 now look for red look for red anywhere you can find red any place you can find red okay okay did you find

01:03:00.480 more red this time how come because i was looking for red that's right once you develop a belief you

01:03:05.520 find what supports it so watch this you will find stuff that's not even there in order to be successful 0.88

01:03:11.600 i bet you saw some bay shit called it brown just to feel successful did you right over there 0.90

01:03:16.240 i bet you saw some things burgundy called them bread just so you could feel successful 0.98

01:03:19.840 i factored in some of those uh now and later you see what i'm saying if you think you're you're

01:03:23.760 screwed up you're messed up you're gonna find and you're gonna color yourself that way if you think 0.98

01:03:27.840 someone else is a jerk you're gonna if you think they're your friend and they have a bad day they 1.00

01:03:32.080 have bad behavior oh they're having a bad day if you think they're a bad person then it's always 0.99

01:03:37.200 going to be that what was the first part you said of that if you think whether you think it's true

01:03:41.360 whether you think it's not it's going to be true for you in other words whatever you believe is

01:03:44.160 self-evident you reinforce what you believe you found what you were looking for so you got to train

01:03:49.760 yourself to look for something different that's why i do priming and that's why i do immersion

01:03:53.280 because after four or five days of thinking differently seeing differently focusing differently

01:03:57.680 different beliefs you have a different life yeah a different experience but if you do it for a few

01:04:01.760 minutes you know kind of hard to do so that's why i still do events because immersion has so much

01:04:06.240 power but some people do it through an audio they listen to like an audio 30 minutes a day every day

01:04:10.480 and they develop a new set of habits or they do it by exercising or they do reading a book and then they

01:04:15.840 use it right away so there's lots of ways to get there but immersion is the fastest way it is yeah and you and

01:04:21.280 that's the fastest method you use it for yourself too of course yeah yeah it's like going to that

01:04:25.600 class why why am i still doing that it's like because you got to keep growing and every time

01:04:29.040 you make a new insight it stacks on all the other good things you can stack the negative and be

01:04:33.680 overwhelmed or you can stack the positive and feel this tremendous sense of momentum and that's the

01:04:37.600 other secret momentum you're getting momentum right now it sounds like momentum is like you've ever

01:04:43.040 watched a team and they're getting their butt kicked and then somebody suddenly does something

01:04:47.440 magical they steal the ball they do something and boom it creates a spark and then the other team 0.88

01:04:52.320 takes over right momentum shifts everything and momentum comes by doing the right thing over and

01:04:58.000 over and after a while it becomes what you expect to do or another one is certainty you know i work a

01:05:04.080 lot of great athletes those rings are from all you know that's from you know i own some teams like

01:05:08.640 the lafc football club and the golden state warriors on a piece of them the dodgers on a piece of them

01:05:13.280 but i've also coached them all so those are all national championship rings that i've got so i'm

01:05:16.960 really proud of those rings they're a representation of what i was able to build by working with these

01:05:20.960 people but when you look at the people that are the best of the best they have certainty if you see

01:05:25.920 steph curry's you know with the warriors he makes those three three point shots i'm almost half half

01:05:30.800 court right he releases the ball he doesn't wait to go through he turns around and just like he already

01:05:35.440 knows it's in like how does he do that he's a genius well true but where did the genius come from he's been

01:05:40.960 shooting 500 shots a day every single day seven days a week for his entire adult life and most of

01:05:48.800 his teens now think about that he's been in the nba 15 years he's the greatest three-point shooter in

01:05:54.160 the history of the world he made three thousand three hundred and sixty something shots now three

01:05:58.400 point shots no one even close watch this 500 shots a day that's 14 000 shots a month that's 168

01:06:06.880 thousand shots a year that's over 15 years just his professional career that's a lot 2.52 million

01:06:12.640 shots he's taken in practice so that he could make 3 300 and be the greatest in history so people get

01:06:19.360 rewarded in public for what they practice in private yeah um sometimes i have a tough time feeling proud

01:06:26.880 of myself do you know what that you know and i think i've had other people call in our our show that

01:06:31.680 have talked about that you know what do you think it is i don't know i feel like um i almost feel

01:06:39.280 like it's just that there's a disconnect like it doesn't even land on me or i feel like maybe if i

01:06:44.160 feel like i'm proud of myself like if i actually feel proud of myself it'll go against some script

01:06:51.040 that i've always had written or some some thing that was always written inside of me you know it's like

01:06:58.640 it's almost like it wouldn't if i wrote on the wall of myself i'm proud of you it wouldn't even

01:07:03.440 fucking show up on the wall what emotion would you feel if you saw that um like what emotion would i 0.98

01:07:09.040 feel if i saw what i'm proud of myself would you go bullshit would you be pissed off by it would you 1.00

01:07:13.360 be annoyed would you just no i think i feel ashamed of myself for even thinking it that's interesting

01:07:18.320 and it produced an emotion in you just now when you just thought about it i saw that flash in your 0.99

01:07:21.680 eyes it's just a little bit of water oh yeah fluid oh yeah dude fuck we cry on here every week 0.96

01:07:26.480 sorry dude that's beautiful no it's okay but yeah we don't have any we don't have any shame about 0.96

01:07:30.720 that no you shouldn't but i'm saying liquid leaving your body in a public place as long

01:07:34.400 as through your eyes is not a problem yeah that's what i'm talking about huh yeah yeah don't ask don't

01:07:39.840 ask that's right but my point is there's a real anchor for you there so let me explain it to you

01:07:45.760 everybody has what i call an emotional home yeah do you ever watch like a place here and let's say you

01:07:51.760 know where the cyclone happens every two or three years it wipes out everything or a tornado comes

01:07:55.840 through oh yeah and you see these poor people all their stuff's all over the ground and they're 0.99

01:07:59.440 picking it up and you could have a heart of stone not to feel they rebuild two years again it happens

01:08:04.000 again two years later happens again some part of you eventually goes why don't you move you know

01:08:08.400 it's like why don't you know a lot of vietnam's like that it floods new orleans is like that it's

01:08:13.600 so here's why don't they move because it's home it's what they know we have an emotional home

01:08:19.040 we have certain emotions that got built up in your youth i had four fathers i had a mother that was

01:08:24.000 pretty intense and i had a lot of emotions that came out of that experience if i didn't

01:08:28.080 reprogram myself i wouldn't be sitting here with you today because my emotional home was not good

01:08:33.200 feelings that's what i was used to so even though it didn't feel good you go there because it's what

01:08:37.040 you know yeah it's comfortable so yeah it almost like i was deserting myself if i felt good about

01:08:42.480 myself which is crazy i'd almost feel like i was leaving i don't know yeah it's almost like i knew

01:08:48.720 those feelings finish that thought i'm believing what well it's almost like i feel like i know those feelings of

01:08:53.600 not feeling good about myself so well that i would be i don't want to leave them alone because

01:09:00.720 we always had each other and it was like if i leave them

01:09:05.280 you know have you ever have you ever had if i leave them i just i won't i don't know does that

01:09:09.920 make sense though yeah it does you want what if i leave them i'll just be letting them down and

01:09:14.960 they're not even yeah they're not even real but they're to part of me some part of me inside of

01:09:19.920 me i can't even access they're like his brothers that's right they're your home yeah and by the way

01:09:26.320 i i i really appreciate you being so vulnerable because the people watching there seeing that

01:09:30.800 allow them to be vulnerable because you're a role model of that it's because you're funny as

01:09:34.480 shit but to be able to be that vulnerable is beautiful but let me just tell you something 0.94

01:09:38.560 those are not your friends yeah you know and you're not going to abandon those parts of yourself 0.99

01:09:44.000 you're going to find these other parts yourself that need to be in charge that's not to say that you

01:09:47.760 can't have negative emotions or fears or feelings but the ones that don't support you you got to

01:09:52.800 break that pattern and the way you break the pattern first is you start to see you get a new

01:09:57.840 experience if i get you an experience where you feel like you actually felt proud of yourself without

01:10:02.880 those feelings and there was no sense of loss and i did that with you for days and days you'll never

01:10:09.600 go back wow because your brain will go what the f i'm not going back to that 0.98

01:10:13.520 bullshit those weren't my friends it'd be like you know it's like having a friend that beats the 1.00

01:10:17.360 shit out of you every single day and it's like i'm letting them down if i don't want to beat the 0.99

01:10:20.880 shit out of me right it's like oh no i gotta be there for him because i gotta be there so you can 1.00

01:10:25.040 beat the shit out of me that's pretty much what's happening here dude you're like damn here we go again 0.99

01:10:30.800 and so then what happens though is the reason you went for the antidepressants is 0.99

01:10:34.080 it's so overwhelming that numbing at least feels a little less i'd rather see you cry and feel the pain

01:10:39.520 even i want you to feel pain as a brother yeah no i'm grateful to feel it i want it out of my

01:10:43.280 system that's right yeah but the next step for you is drawing a line in the sand of how you

01:10:47.440 really want to feel so i'll have people in an event write down i give them like a minute i go draw a

01:10:51.760 line in the middle write down the left side all the positive emotions you feel in an average week

01:10:56.400 not once a year not once a month the ones you regularly feel whatever good feeling the average

01:11:00.480 emotions in a positive in a positive week awesome so what are some ones you feel in a week in a week

01:11:05.280 i feel at least at least once a week okay any emotion uh positive start with the positive positive

01:11:09.680 hopeful okay um thankful yeah um loving yeah um and uh maybe some pride good and so so the pride's

01:11:22.960 the pride is sneaking in now that's not ego pride that's pride of like you're growing well i'm

01:11:27.040 learning about pride i mean it's like i said it's really hard for me to feel proud of myself you know

01:11:30.480 so stop saying that okay because every time you say that you're rewiring it back into your body over

01:11:35.520 and over it's a story it's like there's an old phrase that says tell a lie big enough tell a

01:11:39.840 lie big enough loud enough and long enough sooner or later people believe it you know who said that

01:11:43.840 hitler oh i think you're gonna say fouchy well same difference

01:11:51.680 we're aligned on that you're a quicker thinker than i am but no so yeah we hear what we're saying

01:11:58.320 the conversation you've said with yourself you've done how many times do you think you've said that

01:12:01.600 said what that you know i'm it's hard for me i you know i say it i say it a lot yeah it's because

01:12:07.840 i think i'm uh yeah it's like having a new story for myself i don't you know part of me is still

01:12:12.960 there's a heavy bit even to my whole new story having a new story even having some success in my

01:12:18.240 life it's almost like some of it feels embarrassing you know and some people feel like you know the word 0.93

01:12:22.560 people use is imposter syndrome it's all bullshit it's just fear that you're not enough we all have 0.93

01:12:26.560 that fear brother yeah i feel that at times i don't feel much now but i'm 63 years old 0.98

01:12:31.440 that i've done a shitload of things for 40 years you know you've got enough patterns yeah i built up

01:12:35.680 new patterns it's like a muscle you know everybody's got the muscle if you use it it grows if you don't

01:12:40.000 use it you lose it right it doesn't ever disappear though it just looks like it's not there but if you

01:12:44.960 demand it you push it beyond what it's comfortable with and that's what you're doing right now you're

01:12:48.720 pushing beyond your comfort you were settling for comfort to try to survive now you're like f that i want 0.99

01:12:56.320 more out of this life you know i'm not going to settle for that shit but then you keep telling 0.99

01:12:59.920 yourself the old story so change your story change your life it sounds overly simplistic but it is 0.98

01:13:04.320 true no i love it i appreciate you saying it yeah yeah i think a lot of this chat has been about that

01:13:09.360 and then but look at the positive emotions you wrote down or you just told me verbally right

01:13:13.040 so you're hopeful you have are you playful or funny or what would be your term around that part

01:13:17.360 of you because i didn't hear that part of you i know it's there no i feel like that part of me

01:13:20.880 became such my work that i haven't had as much free time to be that as i like on your own okay cool

01:13:26.000 well so those are the positives what are the negatives you feel on an average week at least

01:13:29.600 once a week not once a month once a year what are the negative emotions you feel um ugly okay um

01:13:34.800 i feel um incapable angry um and i feel uh disappointing okay so which which of those emotions is most

01:13:49.280 powerful for you uh positive list or the negative list the negative list is more powerful and that's

01:13:56.560 true for most people watch this what's an emotion that if it became the dominant emotion in your life

01:14:02.640 one or two it would get rid of those negatives like they would have any power over you

01:14:07.760 what would be an emotional state would it be like courage or to be playfulness or to be uh

01:14:14.320 let's say joy or would it be you've already got gratitude more gratitude what would be an emotion

01:14:18.800 that's so strong that it would get rid of the disappointment probably love you know there you

01:14:22.880 go and that's that's your core brother i didn't hear you say that on the first one that's all you

01:14:26.640 really want it's probably why you do this podcast probably why you make people laugh

01:14:29.920 me too by the way the only reason i do what i do is i love people i love to see people happy because

01:14:33.840 i was so unhappy myself and i got out of it so i was so grateful it's like i don't it's like you know

01:14:39.360 i feed you know 100 million people a year 100 million meals that's not your charity yeah i've done a billion

01:14:44.320 meals in the last eight years right dude that's almost that's what that's what mcdonald's did

01:14:48.960 isn't it and it was free they're pretty cheap at mcdonald's but dang dude but i did it not because

01:14:54.560 i'm a good person i did it because i grew up and i had no money and no food and when i was 11

01:14:58.880 somebody came and fed us on thanksgiving and i was like that made me believe strangers care

01:15:03.600 strangers care about me and they care about strangers and so i fell in love with people and i want

01:15:06.800 to make people feel happy and i know what it feels like night food i know what it feels like to be

01:15:10.480 absolutely depressed and miserable and saying do i even need to stick around in this life right

01:15:14.480 so i don't want anybody else to feel that so it drove me to find answers not just for me once i

01:15:18.960 found it for me i wanted to help as many people as i can but why do i want to do it because i love love

01:15:23.360 because when you help people that much i mean i have so much love my life it's ridiculous i get stopped on

01:15:27.600 the street every day and people don't come up and say oh i like your show or something come on go you

01:15:31.040 changed my life oh my god i love you tony robbins and i always say no i didn't do it you did it but i'm

01:15:35.280 glad i helped but i love the love that comes from it yeah so we all really want love but we're afraid

01:15:40.320 we're not enough and you my friend you are growing like a weed right now because you're doing things

01:15:45.360 most people never get out of it i'm not blowing smoke your way i'm not a bullshitter no i don't

01:15:48.560 feel i don't feel that man i appreciate you saying it yeah it's the truth it's been but you got it

01:15:52.640 you got to notice your progress and you got you got to stack the good and then you got to stop the

01:15:58.160 old story and the minute you start to say that phrase bullshit that's an old story it's not true

01:16:02.000 anymore yeah i think a part of me is afraid that i'm gonna leave a part of me like um if i you know 0.84

01:16:08.000 if i even if i be successful so let's investigate that for a second like if i be successful i'm

01:16:12.880 gonna leave a part of me behind you know well then you're effed right now because you're already

01:16:16.160 successful you got i don't know how many millions of people i'm sure that watch your podcast you make

01:16:21.680 people laugh all over the world you have people that i think i'm embarrassed sometimes but all those

01:16:26.320 emotions are old habits they're just habits so i understand that and by the way when you feel

01:16:31.360 embarrassed or you feel these negative emotions yeah it also makes you feel for yourself for a

01:16:39.200 little bit so that's the other part you might be afraid of like some people take care about that

01:16:43.600 well like for some i don't know if this is you but some people are so busy trying to make everybody

01:16:46.720 else happy all the time they don't take care of themselves unless it's a big-ass problem and then

01:16:52.880 for the first time even it's a negative feeling at least i'm feeling for myself i'm feeling for me and

01:16:57.040 that might be what you're afraid of losing let's try it for a second here what if i told you you 0.92

01:17:01.360 could go back and feel like shit as much as you want it'll never stop but you don't have to have 0.96

01:17:05.520 that be the predominant emotion of your life that you this need to beat yourself up or be ashamed or 0.98

01:17:14.640 not be too happy that it's an old story that got wired a long time ago and has nothing to do with who

01:17:19.920 you really are but when you keep telling yourself it's like my friend i take care of i'm gonna lose a

01:17:24.240 part of myself no you'll never lose that part there's a part of me that would be a victim very

01:17:29.360 easily i was beat as a child my mom was a beautiful woman i'm not denigrating her when she put but she

01:17:36.080 put alcohol together with prescription drugs she was crazy and i was five one in high school believe 0.99

01:17:41.760 it or not i'm six seven now i don't believe that i tell people the difference is personal growth

01:17:45.840 right but i had a tumor in my brain that made me grow but i was this little guy she would slam my head 1.00

01:17:50.560 against it she'd put liquid soap down my throat because she said i was lying and i wasn't lying

01:17:54.080 and when the person you love most is trying to hurt you you can do a number on your head

01:17:58.800 but i look back now and fortunately i didn't let that stop me and i didn't settle for that i

01:18:05.040 struggled for a long time i look back on it i can honestly tell you if she was the mother i'd hope

01:18:10.480 she'd been like if i was well-fed you really think i'd be trying to feed a bill you know i've done a

01:18:15.200 billion people now i'm trying to feed 100 billion people you think i would be spending my time doing

01:18:18.640 that if i was a well-fed kid i don't think so if she had been the mother i want i wouldn't become

01:18:22.320 the man i'm proud to be yeah so those emotions are not you they were a part of your past they were

01:18:28.400 a pattern it's a pattern of what you do with your body and breathe but it meets some of your needs to

01:18:33.280 feel feel yourself or feel sorry for yourself or feel sad right you follow me it's like a self-pity

01:18:38.560 thing a little bit but what you're really wanting is not self-pity you're wanting self-love

01:18:43.280 you just haven't learned how to give it to yourself my way of doing that is gratitude

01:18:46.880 because when you're grateful love flows naturally is that a common pattern that sometimes because i

01:18:51.040 i noticed over like a couple about two years ago i noticed that i one of my biggest addictions

01:18:55.280 sometimes was self-pity i didn't even realize it i thought i was helping myself by like focusing on

01:19:00.560 myself but really i'd been too i was feeling too pitiful yeah i i didn't it was it was man it was

01:19:07.040 i realized my alcohol was self-pity anytime i also also alcohol is a depressant so what's going to do

01:19:12.480 is low it feels good in the moment but then it lowers your energy and your blood sugar everything

01:19:16.560 right same for self-pity self-pity same thing now your energy think about it self-pity if you're in

01:19:21.200 self-pity right now zero to ten ten is total high energy zero is no energy where are you in self-pity

01:19:26.000 where would you put it oh two yeah where are you when you're feeling excited um where's my energy

01:19:32.480 zero to ten yeah uh my energy when i'm feeling excited is like a nine yeah which one do you want 0.98

01:19:36.800 to be i'd rather be the nine yeah why the fuck why don't you just do that i know yeah i think but i think 0.95

01:19:42.880 you said a lot of it is pattern i think that's the thing and a lot of people i think you don't 0.99

01:19:46.160 notice when you're in self-pity man i had no clue like i was still living a life and it was

01:19:50.080 going well and it was going but there was just a lot of times i was drinking my own self-pity you

01:19:54.960 know and i don't feel like i do it a lot now but there's times where i can fall back into that so if

01:19:59.600 you do just like if you do it's like oh i'm going to self-pity you don't beat yourself up you just got

01:20:04.000 that old pattern i don't do that anymore let's get out and the best way to get out is go for your run

01:20:08.720 do something physical or shift what you're doing or focus on doing something else someone you love

01:20:13.840 any of those things will get you out of your mind because here's the biggest problem

01:20:17.200 all these words you're using are just forms of suffering pain's part of life suffering you've

01:20:23.360 heard is an option it really is an option but what happens is when you focus on yourself there's

01:20:28.480 always suffering there's three things will trigger your sufferer if you think three words lost less

01:20:33.440 never if you think something you did caused you to lose or have less of or never have love

01:20:42.160 or respect or free time or financial freedom or anything yeah i think that's my one i think i feel

01:20:47.760 that something there was something i did that made it that way yes and by the way some people do the

01:20:53.120 opposite and some people do both they look at what other people did what the government did what this

01:20:57.440 person did what some system did something outside themselves that makes them believe they've lost

01:21:01.840 something or will never have something when you think lost less never about yourself the mind

01:21:08.160 you're not your mind right like it's like all the thoughts you ever thought i want to kill this

01:21:12.080 mother f have you ever had that thought yeah i don't do it but i do think but you but you just

01:21:16.080 the key is you don't do it i don't do it do you think that's your thought are you the first person

01:21:20.080 to have that thought no how long do you think that thought's been around probably since the bible i bet

01:21:25.920 probably before yeah right maybe before yeah if i told you a hundred years ago

01:21:30.400 or cain killed abel in the bible that's why i said there yeah that's good but yeah and also

01:21:33.680 there's definitely people killing each other before that but check this out think about this

01:21:37.440 for a second that thought is not your thought you're being used by that thought if i said a

01:21:44.240 hundred years ago there's going to be a little box in your pocket and you can pull it out and you'll

01:21:47.680 be able to touch it and see people on the other side of the earth because there's invisible waves

01:21:51.760 going around the earth and it's going to come in your box you go read between the lines 0.95

01:21:54.800 asshole right it's not going to happen but think about or we're going to fly to the moon and back they used to call the 0.99

01:21:58.720 back they used to call the people who said that lunatics that's where the term comes from people

01:22:02.000 thought we could go to the moon well we've been to the moon and you now have a phone that does those

01:22:05.600 things well thoughts also have been around forever and think of your body is like cable you turn one

01:22:12.720 channel and it brings down a signal of comedy another channel it's a horror picture another channel it's

01:22:19.680 effin drama another channel it's adventure and so when you drop your body of this you get a different

01:22:26.560 channel of what you see feel and tap into then if you're like this or whatever your state is or

01:22:31.760 giggling or laughing and then you get a different channel so the pattern of how we use our

01:22:36.320 body determines what part of the thoughts we tap into but the biggest thing is if you're going to be

01:22:40.880 pissed off or sad at least get a unique thought when you create it don't just copy everybody else

01:22:45.040 every other that ever lived you're just copying it change your body change your life change your story

01:22:50.560 change your life so you've already begun it you've gone through the chemistry of being dissatisfied

01:22:55.520 enough to say i'm not going to do the drugs i'm going to start to run now i'm kind of liking this

01:22:59.600 feeling but then you get pulled back a little bit because it's new your old stuff you know well

01:23:04.800 and so you got to just cut it off and again you could do that through immersion i'd love to have you

01:23:08.960 come and be one of my events and be my guest and just have your own experience but regardless you

01:23:13.760 can still do it on your own just by changing the habit change the habit you change it enough it's like

01:23:17.520 the more you go down a path the more it gets wired they did this at the uc irvine they took monkeys

01:23:23.440 they tape four of their fingers down and then they manually bend their finger like this 10 000

01:23:27.760 times well now they untape the finger of the hands and what does the monkey do all right no kidding

01:23:32.720 well you're not a monkey but many people drive to work the same way every day get on the same subway

01:23:38.000 and one day they're supposed to go a different direction get off at a different off ramp but

01:23:40.880 their brain's so used to it they get off on the wrong off ramp well that's kind of what you're

01:23:44.320 doing you get off on the off ramp of some old pattern and so what you got to do is stop going down

01:23:49.440 that patch or do it stop it stop so what they found by the way you don't have to do 10 000 times

01:23:53.920 imagine they found they could do it with 12 of these instead of 10 000 get the same wiring

01:23:59.440 and the way they did it was they stimulate the pleasure center of the brain so it's like

01:24:04.880 and each time they did it imagine instead of one thread of connection between neurons in the brain

01:24:08.880 nerve cells in the brain one instead when there's joy there or excitement or pleasure you get a

01:24:15.280 thousand of them so they could do 12 and get the result without emotion right get the same result

01:24:20.720 of 10 000 movements right so we wire ourselves like you can so i have control over that you're

01:24:27.200 saying because some people you don't they don't even notice it though that what was amazing to me

01:24:30.720 for years i didn't notice that's what i was doing yeah well that's part of growing right how old are you

01:24:35.040 now may i ask i'm 43 right so you know most people when you're think of it this way zero to 21 is like

01:24:41.600 springtime you don't have to figure anything out you learn you grow things occur you might have

01:24:46.080 problems and upsets but you know it's an interesting life 22 to 42 you're kind of the soldier of society 0.98

01:24:53.200 you go out and test what you've been like i don't know if i believe the shit i was told let me try 0.97

01:24:56.800 this you think by the way you're invincible i'm the president of the united states a multi-billionaire 0.98

01:25:01.200 and have 100 relationships simultaneously and everyone's going to be happy yeah but somewhere around 35

01:25:05.520 or 40 you know 45 you start going you know relationships hard and i'm not very good at this

01:25:10.240 and i'm not a billionaire yet well what's the deal here and so then you have to go on a journey

01:25:14.640 the hero's journey you're being called to go into the unknown and try new things and if you step into

01:25:20.000 the unknown you'll meet new mentors new people you'll learn to slay the dragon you'll become the hero in

01:25:25.120 your own life but ages basically 43 to 63 that's the reaping time of your life this is my rookie year

01:25:32.160 then this is when you're coming brother that's the stage of life by the way people are the most happy

01:25:35.760 yeah right if they're healthy and the very happiest is usually 64 to 84 if they're healthy

01:25:43.120 and people can live to 104 and all those people 120 but each stage has different problems and

01:25:48.480 different opportunities so you're entering your power and it's showing up right you've got a large

01:25:53.200 audience your your humor's become more playful more refined but now you're like i want more i want

01:25:58.160 me to be happy look at you know you know comedians that have killed themselves i mean we can make a long

01:26:03.680 list of people that made everybody happy except themselves when you oh yeah people think of robin

01:26:07.600 williams brody stevens um those are just a few yeah that and there could be a bigger list i'm not

01:26:15.040 good at thinking of luci all those guys oh yeah they go further right yeah you know so if you think

01:26:19.840 about it if you make everybody happy about yourself i always tell people success without fulfillment is the

01:26:26.400 ultimate failure and so you're starting to go look i want to be fulfilled too i don't want to just be

01:26:31.200 successful on the outside i want i want this to be inside me and you're on the path brother the way

01:26:36.880 you get on the path is you decide what you want and you're going to decide i want more than what i had

01:26:40.880 before second step you say okay there's a gap between where i am or where i want to be what's

01:26:46.720 getting in the way is it a fear i need to face is it a habit is it an emotion what is it is it a skill

01:26:53.200 i'm missing i need to get i don't know how to do this so someone's got to show me so i can get better

01:26:57.360 once you have faced that then you get a little plan together and you start taking action not a

01:27:01.680 perfect plan and then you got to slay your dragons you got to make the change you got to okay so i'm

01:27:06.240 not going to do the drugs anymore okay i'm going to run instead and then you get momentum yeah and

01:27:10.720 you're starting to get momentum so now the only thing puts the break on your momentum is those

01:27:15.040 old emotional patterns so you got to go that's not me that's an old pattern f that here's what i'm

01:27:20.880 going to do now and here's the other part though as long as you focus on yourself you suffer see

01:27:27.200 suffering comes from focusing on you wow that's why this is amazing that's why contribution is so

01:27:32.480 valuable because when you're doing something for others you're not thinking about you unless you're

01:27:35.920 trying to do it to get something right and a lot of people had to focus on themselves because it was

01:27:39.440 a survival mechanism me too so they didn't have a choice that's right so some people you don't even

01:27:43.520 realize it your whole life you might be focusing on yourself and you might think well i'm selfish but

01:27:47.040 some of that might be just old habits because you had to focus on yourself to make sure you were

01:27:51.920 okay that's right but then what happens is we don't update our software it'd be like it'd be like

01:27:56.240 using one of those old you know digital or not even digital phones you'd be like what are you doing 0.99

01:28:00.320 you an idiot yeah using a pencil yeah i mean what what are you doing this guy's a pervert yeah 1.00

01:28:07.360 but you it's time to upgrade your software and that's what you're doing you're upgrading your mental 1.00

01:28:11.200 software yeah and there's some law i think there's yeah there's a little bit of sense of loss

01:28:15.040 with letting go of the old software because it felt like home yeah exactly right and it's like i

01:28:20.000 i'm old enough i had one of the first portable phones it was this motorola phone you ever seen

01:28:25.360 it was like a buck a minute it didn't charge for more than 20 minutes yeah we just call the police

01:28:32.080 but i was so proud to have that phone now i meant sting it would call him was he in the police yes

01:28:38.960 if you give the if you give if you've got a phone today they'll give it to you for free as long

01:28:43.040 as long as you got a contract and you got everything on you got 100 000 songs you got

01:28:47.520 access to everything so why would you go back to the old style i kind of miss it okay well go get

01:28:51.760 yourself one of those phones you can go visit it go put it in some part of your house and go visit

01:28:55.680 for a little while if you want to but after a while you get bored with it and you'll move into the new

01:28:59.680 stuff and that's what's happening for you brother yeah once you evolve into something new yeah once you

01:29:03.120 make a change it really does feel good it's just hard to make it sometimes but i'll tell you i'll

01:29:06.400 tell you one more secret for changes to last it has to become your identity let me explain we all

01:29:12.800 have a way of defining ourselves to ourselves so for example if you see lance armstrong right

01:29:18.480 was the greatest biker of all time he gets told that he has cancer not just cancer cancer in his lungs 0.95

01:29:24.640 cancer in his brain and oh yeah in your testicles oh by the way i ride a bike for a living they told

01:29:28.880 he's gonna die but his core belief is i always find the way so he's survived cancer most people don't 0.98

01:29:36.640 he also found a way to win no matter what he broke the rules to do it and that cost his brand

01:29:40.720 and so forth but the same thing that made him healthy actually got him into trouble in the biking

01:29:45.760 side but before he used drugs he was still unbelievable one of the best in the world and guess what

01:29:50.560 he got there because of a belief so you have to have a new identity his identity is i find the way

01:29:55.680 made him healthy so think of it this way if i set the thermostat in this room that i think you'll relate to

01:30:01.200 this let's say 68 degrees okay all right and that's a metaphor for your comfort zone your identity this

01:30:08.720 is you know that's 68 degrees is how much not much money i want but like you know what i'm used to

01:30:13.360 68 degrees is what i'm used to in a relationship it's not it's not what i want but it's okay you

01:30:18.160 know it's pretty good it's what i know you know so think of that as comfort zone now if the temperature

01:30:21.920 drops to 65 64 62 59 all of a sudden the brain the computer goes hey you're a 68 degree or what 0.91

01:30:31.120 are you doing at 59 and i'm sure you've experienced like this is bullshit and they're like boom suddenly 0.91

01:30:35.520 the heaters kick on and you got drive and you go deal with it you go lose the weight or you get off 0.97

01:30:39.200 the drugs you do whatever it is but here's the part that most people understand let's say you get back

01:30:43.760 to where you were and now you get new momentum and you're doing better you go to 69 70 80 89 9 99

01:30:50.560 90 degrees and also the brain goes what the hell you're doing up here you're a 68 degree you're 0.59

01:30:55.120 not a 99 greer and the first thing that happens is the heater stop and you stop growing and then if

01:31:00.400 that's not enough the air conditioners kick on and you start to sabotage yourself to get back to where

01:31:04.560 you believe you are so cigarettes if you used to smoke right so if i came to you today and i offer you

01:31:10.960 a cigarette what would you say yes sir you'd say buddy or nobody no sir no no sir nobody okay you know so

01:31:17.600 why i don't want it yeah why because i don't doesn't make me happy anymore yeah most people

01:31:26.160 have you wouldn't say what brand is it yeah you go no and the reason why is you're no longer a smoker

01:31:32.400 it's not your identity if you thought you're a smoker you might go well what brand is it well

01:31:36.880 maybe i'll have one you know whatever it is right it's like when people tell me you know i'm on day four

01:31:41.360 of not drinking or not smoking i'll go why are you counting so you can tell people how many days you

01:31:45.600 last this time before you go back again it's like when you change your identity i'm not one of

01:31:50.560 those you're not going to do it anymore so you are in the midst of transforming your identity

01:31:56.640 you're in the middle of it right now and you're doing a beautiful job i'm not again blowing smoke

01:32:00.160 i'm not a bullshitter thanks man no but i hope you take it in because you need to own that on your own

01:32:05.440 your own instincts have led you to a place of real progress you're not there yet not where you want to

01:32:11.120 be and by the way when you get wherever there is it won't be enough you'll want to do more because

01:32:14.480 we're all supposed to keep growing that's what makes us happy yeah i want to keep learning i

01:32:18.480 think it's it's important and i like learning about why people feel certain ways yeah that is

01:32:23.600 like uh and so does a lot of our listeners it's important to a lot of us yes um let me tell you

01:32:29.360 why people feel a lot of us we didn't we don't get understanding nobody kind of explains to you

01:32:32.640 what's going on yeah while you're feeling so it gets confusing you know so like yeah i don't know that

01:32:38.480 i'm changing and i'm feeling sad about you know or just that i don't know some of the stuff but

01:32:43.520 let me give you let me give you and your viewers three things because what i spent so many things

01:32:49.200 i will say you got a lot of things though but it's good i'm loving i got i got decades of taking

01:32:54.160 complex things that make them simple because i appreciate complexity is the enemy of execution

01:32:58.480 it's too complex you don't do it right that's exactly what i'm just saying yeah it's too so let me

01:33:01.600 give you three you can think about this for you and your viewers whatever you're feeling right now

01:33:06.000 whether you're pissed off or sad or frustrated or excited or passionate whatever doesn't matter

01:33:10.080 there's only three things that made you feel that way three patterns the first pattern is what

01:33:14.560 you're doing with your body so let me give you an example if i said there's a depressed person

01:33:19.200 behind curtain number one over there and i'll give a hundred thousand dollar donation to your favorite

01:33:22.640 charity i bet you could describe them physically without seeing them depressed person where are their

01:33:27.200 shoulders probably down forward where's their head probably looking like probably maybe something like

01:33:32.880 that's right are they talking loud or quiet it could be probably a little bit subdued maybe

01:33:38.960 that's right fast or slow um probably slow that's right and when they're doing that think about why

01:33:45.440 do you know that because you've practiced this before we all have right yeah but if you take that same

01:33:48.880 person and i do this over and over again and you change what we call their physiology the way they move

01:33:53.520 the way they breathe you put their shoulders back they breathe different it literally changes their

01:33:57.360 biochemistry if you change that as a habit you change the biochemistry on a regular basis

01:34:03.360 better than a drug because you're not dependent upon anything second thing determines how you feel

01:34:07.360 so you're your own drug that's right you're the dealer and the user exactly right so if you're excited

01:34:12.640 what's the body like yeah you're a little more pumped up yeah is your head up or down up yeah where

01:34:17.680 your shoulders they're there they're good yeah they're loose it's a different they're doing what they

01:34:22.960 want that's right is the voice monotone or does it have more variety to it variety that's right

01:34:28.320 right so you think about that you're breathing more full or more shallow more full that's right when

01:34:33.600 you're depressed it's more yeah probably more shallow except for some occasional big ones to get

01:34:38.160 you keep you down there that's right well you let it all out and deflate right yeah yeah so we change

01:34:43.280 your breathing we change your movement change your posture and your entire biochemistry will change

01:34:47.200 that fast but people have habits how they use like there's 37 muscles in your face

01:34:52.480 this is the largest area of unemployment in the country because people do the same facial expression

01:34:56.800 over and over and they feel the same feelings over and over again you change the body you change it

01:35:00.640 all now the second thing you change is what you focus on so example i gave you if you're thinking

01:35:06.480 about oh my god they're not here they're in a car accident you're a worrier if you think they don't 0.84

01:35:11.360 give a shit they did it again you're going to be pissed off so whatever you focus on you feel even if 0.95

01:35:17.520 it's not true you will feel it and then the third one is the language you put to it because words 1.00

01:35:22.960 change meaning so if if i said to you look during the break we have some nutritious snacks the audience

01:35:28.400 goes you know we got some delicious snacks oh interesting just one word change changes the

01:35:33.840 biochemistry it's not the words other people say to you it's also the words you say to yourself

01:35:37.840 that change your biochemistry and it's not just words there's certain phrases that change what you even

01:35:43.360 perceive so i don't know if you've ever had this when you're a kid but i remember you know i finally

01:35:48.080 get to sit down and have dinner and i was responsible for all of making that they're doing it all and then

01:35:52.720 my mom or dad would say could you get the salt just i don't know what the salt is and i'm not lying i

01:35:58.000 don't know the exact gps location of the salt right i don't know what the salt is then you know what

01:36:01.280 the salt is in the kitchen go get the salt i know the salt you go get the salt fine oh my god what

01:36:04.880 am i saying i don't know the salt is i don't know what the salt is it's it's over on the second

01:36:08.560 shelf i open it i don't really look at i don't know what the salt is it's not here my dad walks

01:36:13.360 by reaches right in front of my face and goes what is this you ever had experience like that

01:36:17.440 so here's the question did your eyes see the salt no yes they did but your brain did allow you to

01:36:22.800 perceive it because you hypnotized yourself i over and over again telling the lie to yourself i don't

01:36:27.200 know what the salt is i'm a saltist so it doesn't want to turn you into a liar so it's called a scotoma

01:36:31.360 a blind spot so when you tell me something i don't want to lose those friends of mine from the past 0.95

01:36:35.360 that made me feel like shit and you do it over and over again you can't even see the other option 0.63

01:36:40.320 that's why our language our focus and our physiology the three of them together control if you make a 0.99

01:36:45.840 little change in your body you'll feel a little change in how you feel but for example sound you

01:36:51.520 do you like to sing when no one's around uh not that much i'm not a great singer no i'm not either but

01:36:56.240 when no one's around like in the car great songs something like that sometimes yeah yeah so some people

01:37:00.320 most of us don't sing well so what happens we're in the car we're singing we're rocking we're

01:37:04.400 rapping right you get the spot you're still doing look over the car next to somebody's staring at

01:37:08.960 you you pick up your cell phone and act like you've been talking to somebody or some but what's

01:37:13.040 happened is it makes you feel good to sing because you're using parts of your body you don't normally

01:37:18.080 use they lift it lifts you emotionally and so what happens is that's why even though you don't sound

01:37:22.880 good people like to sing when no one's around but when somebody's around they don't want to sing

01:37:25.600 because i want to be judged yeah right so you can change your focus your language and your

01:37:30.000 physiology wow if you change all three you make a radical change so when we do like a seminar

01:37:34.400 and you have the fire walk the fire walk's just a metaphor for breaking through whatever stops you

01:37:39.120 but when you get in front of 2000 you're burning hot coals you have a state change like all day you

01:37:43.040 might have found really good and they're like oh my i can't do it i can't do it i can't do it and i'll

01:37:45.600 look at them and go i couldn't do it either if i talk like this and put my shoulders like this

01:37:48.800 i say stand tall put your shoulders back scream yes yes scream yes yes yes that's a go and then boom the

01:37:55.440 person who couldn't go 10 seconds ago storms across the fire because what we do is based on

01:38:00.640 the state we're in and you can change your state by the way you move by what you focus on and by

01:38:05.120 the language you use change all three radically again and again you change your life wow so any

01:38:10.160 man thank you so much for thinking about this stuff with us i know that you have before you go we i

01:38:14.160 know you have a book that's coming out the holy grail right yes yes okay if we pivot to that for five

01:38:18.560 minutes sure i'd love to okay yeah so i know it's about finances right and it's about the disparity

01:38:24.400 in the world kind of yeah well or i don't want to i've written three financial books this is the

01:38:28.480 third one of the trilogy the final of the trilogy okay and the first one was money master the game

01:38:33.040 is most uh most read most successful financial book of the last 23 years i'm really proud of it

01:38:37.680 wow but as time went by i wrote that book by interviewing 50 of the smartest financial people

01:38:42.480 in the world and saying how do i take this complex stuff make it so my billionaire clients love it but

01:38:47.280 the average person can really use it it shows you how to go from nothing to where you want to be

01:38:51.520 then i wrote a book called unshakable to prepare people for 2020 i didn't know it was going to be

01:38:55.040 coveted but i knew there was going to be a giant market change ever because because you can predict

01:38:58.800 that it's going to come we don't know when but it's going to come and i wanted people prepared

01:39:02.480 and then now there's so many people unprepared for their financial future that they're in the hole

01:39:08.320 and so in order to get where you want to go you need compounding with a tiny amount of money

01:39:12.560 compounding you can get wherever you want like right you know if you start when you're really young

01:39:16.160 you're 19 you save you have no overhead save 300 bucks a month and you put it you know let's say

01:39:21.360 in the stock market where it's an eight percent return you can go from 17 to 27 you put very

01:39:27.120 little money in right 3 000 bucks a year roughly but that money will grow over time to provide

01:39:33.120 several million dollars if you stopped at 27 years old you start at 28 and do it you got to put money

01:39:39.280 until you're 65 and you'll still have less money that's how compounding works

01:39:42.880 right so it doesn't take a lot but if you could compound with a higher rate of return

01:39:48.160 without taking too much risk because you take too much risk you lose everything right and is that

01:39:52.320 higher rate of return still so it feels like there's not as much it feels very risky these days or it

01:39:56.960 feels like the stock market like it's just a front-facing thing to the public where everything else is

01:40:02.720 done behind the scenes i think that's what a lot of stuff starts to feel like well and there are some

01:40:07.040 truth to that because there used to be 8 000 stocks now there's only 3600 and most of them

01:40:12.800 like in the russell 2000 which is one of the you know the young companies 40 of them aren't even

01:40:17.760 profitable when you look at what's called the s p 500 the list of the top 500 companies in the stock

01:40:22.480 market there that s p lists those are the best ones there's about seven that represent about 80

01:40:27.840 of the profits of what's going on there wow so it's a very small number that has changed over time

01:40:33.280 and we didn't used to people used to in order to protect themselves if you went to financial

01:40:38.000 planner they'd say we'll put this much in stocks and this much in bonds because there's something

01:40:42.000 called correlation or non-correlation when things move in the same direction if you invest in both

01:40:48.400 of them and they both go down you got nothing if they both go up it's nice but when they go down

01:40:52.720 it's a problem so i met with this man ray dalio some of your viewers may have heard of him ray dalio

01:40:58.080 ray dalio he's the greatest hedge fund investor in history he manages almost 200 billion dollars in

01:41:03.040 business oh wow and i interviewed him 14 years ago and became good friends and i asked him a

01:41:07.760 question one time this guy's a genius he literally manages money for countries and he's got the greatest

01:41:12.240 track record like 2008 when everybody when market went down whatever the 38 whatever the number i

01:41:16.560 forget the exact number he was down three percent damn right and by the end of the year he made nine

01:41:21.120 percent good job i mean just brilliant guy so i asked ray i said what is the most important investment

01:41:27.120 principle that the average person or a billionaire would want to know what's made you so successful

01:41:32.000 the most important principle and he didn't even hesitate he goes tony i spent 20 years to figure

01:41:36.480 this out he goes i'm going to tell you the answer and he said it's called the holy grail right he goes

01:41:41.120 the holy grail of investing is to find eight to 12 investments that are not correlated so let me explain

01:41:48.800 stocks are designed to go up and then bonds where they are if stocks go down bonds usually go up

01:41:53.920 but in 2020 they both went down 2008 they both went down and so they don't that doesn't always work

01:41:59.840 and so you've got a lot of risk he said the secret is if you can find eight to 12 investments that are

01:42:04.080 not correlated you reduce your risk 80 percent wow and you increase your upside there is nothing

01:42:09.840 on earth that's more important you're you can try to pick the right stock or the right bond or the

01:42:13.840 right piece of real estate but you're going to be wrong you're going to try and do the right time

01:42:17.040 you're going to be wrong the one thing you can count on is reducing the risk so that you're right

01:42:21.120 more often and he said that that reduces the risk about the most by eight to 12 investments

01:42:24.960 eight to 12 they're not correlated so what are some examples of just places that things wouldn't be

01:42:28.960 correlated well that's why i wrote this book because i got the average person thinks okay

01:42:32.720 well i got stocks and bonds and maybe your reits or real estate and the problem is even reits often

01:42:37.120 will go up and down with the stock market right so i've been around a while i've worked with the best

01:42:41.600 people in the world and i um you know i've done well financially and so i get opportunities at times

01:42:46.880 because i'm well aware of the fact that private equity private real estate private credit

01:42:51.680 are actually much bigger businesses for the last 35 years hear this for everybody okay for the last 35

01:42:58.160 years private equity firms have done better than every stock market in the world on average better

01:43:03.600 than average of all those so of example the s p 500 the one that most people know in the united states

01:43:08.400 that they you know will invest in if you put that that's over the last 35 years has gone up 9.2

01:43:15.600 percent compounded on average per year so you put your money in and it keeps growing it's pretty nice

01:43:20.400 you're doing pretty swell yeah but if you were an average not by the way when i went to interview people

01:43:24.080 for this i interviewed the 13 biggest private equity guys in the world that run 100 billion

01:43:28.560 dollars right who make more money than than god basically the smartest ones in the world so to

01:43:33.360 find out what they're doing because these guys all make like 20 plus per year not 14 and a half

01:43:38.320 so 9.2 versus 14.2 14.2 is the average private equity these are not average that's 50 better per year

01:43:46.800 to grow your finances on let me put that into what people understand when you compound what that means if you

01:43:52.640 put a million dollars 35 years ago in the stock market it's worth 26 million right now it's

01:43:56.560 unbelievable but if you put a million dollars in private equity it's worth 129 million same money

01:44:01.920 same amount of time god yeah so it's like so and so most people know they don't know that much

01:44:07.760 yeah but they know private equity does really well one of the reasons is your money's tied up for five

01:44:12.240 years so if the mark goes up and down they don't have to go sell so when the mark goes down they buy

01:44:16.320 right and they build company buy a company they build it up they make it more valuable and they sell it to

01:44:20.960 another company or they take it public and they when things are good they sell them when things are

01:44:24.400 not they buy so they've got a lot of room and they make money a lot of ways if you put your money into

01:44:30.080 these firms they get two percent of your money every year no matter what for managing it oh they make

01:44:35.200 money or lose it so if they have a billion dollar fund they make 20 million a year for five years they

01:44:39.200 have 100 million dollars guaranteed before they open their mouth then they get 20 of the upside if

01:44:44.640 they help it to grow it's not uncommon for these guys to go from a billion to two billion in five years

01:44:49.680 that means they make 20 percent of that additional billion they make another 200 million dollars they

01:44:53.040 make 300 million dollars on what originally was a billion so when you look at the fords 400 the

01:44:57.600 richest people in the world and you say are they tech guys are they real estate guys no the number

01:45:01.280 one of financial services it's private equity so watch this this is mind-boggling because this

01:45:05.520 sounds like it's all for rich people that's what i want to tell you okay i'm just saying so no and

01:45:09.360 you're right and it has been but here's what's changed congress the house just passed a law

01:45:14.720 bipartisan that said the richest people in the world having access to this is not fair

01:45:21.520 and the argument has been well it's more sophisticated well they came up with a way to

01:45:24.960 do it which is you made a minimum money money building a business you don't know about investing

01:45:29.840 but you get to make these investments if you can get in they passed the law that now says and now

01:45:34.640 house has done it the christmas vacations just come they're coming back and they're going to vote in

01:45:38.480 the senate it looks like it's going to pass there as well you can take a test i can show you a study for

01:45:42.800 you pass the test you get access to these things but there's another problem access because it's

01:45:48.880 like buying an exotic car if you got like a you know one of the new ferraris not not a standard one

01:45:54.080 of you know one of the high-end the ferraris there's a line of people waiting they buy them all just like

01:45:58.480 that so it's not enough that you have money you got to know the right people so these funds you know

01:46:02.880 as i got more money and i was more famous i knew people i could get into some of these funds but i could

01:46:08.240 get a sliver or some i couldn't even get in there already sold out it was like i was so frustrated so one

01:46:12.000 day i'm talking to my friend paul tudor jones is a partner that broke off and started his own

01:46:16.320 business i'm just basically saying this is so frustrating because these opportunities are so

01:46:20.560 huge i've got resources but i can't even get in yeah he said tony i'm gonna tell you a little secret

01:46:25.760 i'll tell you where i put most of my money and i'm leaning forward because this is a big big player

01:46:30.480 right yeah yeah get the shovel huh tell me tell me tell me what it is and he goes there's this company

01:46:35.040 in texas that does something really unique there's a few but they're the best i've seen it's in texas

01:46:39.280 you know normally you hear singapore london new york right oh yeah connecticut he goes yeah he said

01:46:44.960 tony you don't have to fight to become an investor in one of those funds he said when you are an

01:46:51.360 investor in a private equity they call you a limited partner that's the legal name they use for it okay

01:46:55.840 the owner of the fund and private equity just explain what it is really fast it's buying companies

01:47:01.680 that are not public okay which is most companies right and you build it they put money in it they bring

01:47:07.360 a new ceo they build a new team they do a new marketing they make the company stronger

01:47:11.440 and they sell it when you sell a business you get a multiple on the profits okay got it so you're

01:47:15.920 investing in those sorts of things that's private equity that's right and they have funds that invest

01:47:19.280 over a period of time and they do that but they're not open to the public well they're open to the

01:47:23.120 public but usually they're gone if they're really good oh they're really gone they're gone right

01:47:26.720 right away right so he says to me he goes tony you can become an owner in the business itself and

01:47:33.200 all those funds not just own a fund and you can get the same two and twenty like you earn the two

01:47:38.880 percent and twenty you'll make about ten percent on your investment per year as an owner oh wow and

01:47:44.640 you get all the funds past present and future the ones they did was low inflation the ones in high

01:47:48.720 inflation the future ones they want to do i'm like how do you do that he goes i'm gonna introduce

01:47:53.600 you to these guys called cas caz they're based out of houston so i meet this guy it turns out 25 years

01:47:58.720 ago he started his career using my stuff and started this business he's been incredibly successful

01:48:02.880 he's one of the biggest it's called gp stakes you own a general partnership stake you're an

01:48:07.280 owner you get the benefit of an owner and you own all the funds so i now own a piece of 65 different

01:48:13.680 funds they're not little funds they're not billion dollar funds they're 100 billion funds like vista

01:48:17.440 they have 100 billion dollars and they're growing like weeds and i get huge income like i'm an owner

01:48:23.680 and i get the upside like an owner and i get what an investor would get all the same and then you say

01:48:28.560 well why would they do that are they wanting to retire no years ago they used to just get companies

01:48:34.480 and to try to leverage them and sell them for pieces that's old business nobody does anymore

01:48:38.560 they build them but they have to put their own money in too so investors go if you're on the line with me

01:48:44.480 i'm going to invest more so there's a company called bain that after 2008 when people were shaky

01:48:49.360 they said we're going to raise four billion dollars or we're going to put 800 million of our own money in

01:48:53.600 that's kind of the standard now so if you're putting money and you open a new fund every

01:48:57.440 couple years and it's tied up for five years your cash flow can be tight so some they want more money

01:49:02.560 to keep growing so if you know the right people you can do things so now i'm a part of that but

01:49:06.720 anyone can become a part of that although it's ignorance is not bliss right ignorance is poverty

01:49:11.520 knowing this changes the game i'll give you another one so people can learn that in this book

01:49:15.360 yeah i explain exactly how to do it okay and then um another one like all these rings right for years i

01:49:19.840 wanted you know i wanted to be a professional athlete i wasn't good enough so it didn't work

01:49:23.920 out well but then i was like wow i got to work with all these athletes and turn them around so the

01:49:28.160 best in the world you know yeah i get to visit a guy like tom brady go you know work with all these

01:49:32.800 guys you know see what they're like and what they're doing well i started turning these teams around

01:49:37.120 and i started getting the championship rings that i would have but i've got them here from hockey i've got

01:49:41.840 them here from nba i've got them for all these kind of like your dreams came true in this all

01:49:45.520 in a whole different way i mean how many people like michael jordan a few other people have six

01:49:50.320 mvp rings i got six rings anyway especially if it's a man you know unless they're italian

01:49:56.880 you know unless they're 100 italian but they're cherishing me but here's what i'll tell you

01:50:00.400 so then i was like i want to own a sports team you know i finally got enough money to participate

01:50:05.680 and i finally uh you know then they they take a microscope to you for a year to do it it's unbelievable

01:50:10.880 and so i helped build the lafc football club i was one of the original investors in it it's great

01:50:15.520 now there's a new rule that's come about in the last couple years it's specialized and it allows

01:50:20.720 you to buy a piece even a tiny piece of multiple sports teams and be an owner and the reason you

01:50:27.520 want to do it is this sports is not tied to the stock market it's non-correlated stock market goes

01:50:33.040 up or down doesn't affect sports sports have done well during recessions depressions player strikes

01:50:38.560 covid everything they've still done well the return from from major league baseball from the nhl from the

01:50:45.280 nba and from soccer those four spots keeps growing has averaged at 18 percent a year in the last 10

01:50:51.280 years so it's twice as much as the stock market to give you an idea and it's fun but here's the best

01:50:56.960 part they're no longer just putting butts in seats and they have a legal monopoly they can they own that

01:51:03.600 city no one else can compete with them and their fans their word fan comes from fanatics their customers

01:51:09.440 are fanatics multiple generations so my friend peter guber he bought the dodgers with my friend

01:51:15.360 magic johnson and a group of other people and no one had paid he paid two billion dollars to la

01:51:20.160 dodgers two billion no one had paid a billion for a team yet and everybody said it should have been a

01:51:25.120 billion overpaid by a billion so i went to peter and i said peter i know you're no dumb he's my partner

01:51:29.360 in businesses we own sports team together lafc and i said uh you gotta tell me the secret because i know

01:51:34.560 you're not dumb you're not gonna overpay by a billion dollars that's a lot he says to me he goes

01:51:39.120 tony you know he's made 52 academy award-made movies he's a total genius so he said you know 0.91

01:51:44.560 i'm not dumb you're right he goes tell you what i want to leave you in suspense i'm going to make

01:51:49.040 an announcement in two days then you call me come on over and we'll laugh together so sure enough two

01:51:53.600 days later they announced he paid two billion for the team he sold the local tv rights for seven

01:52:00.080 billion dollars and made five billion instantly no way then just for the soccer no that's for

01:52:06.160 football i mean excuse me for the la dodgers oh for the dodgers he sold the right yeah so seven

01:52:10.240 billion now you also when you're on a sports team the nba mlb major league baseball whatever

01:52:15.600 you get a piece of the ad revenue for every single team doesn't matter if you're big or small so

01:52:20.960 his local rights alone made him five billion so you probably saw the the gentleman he just brought

01:52:25.680 on of the show tony yes hey is that his name so hey yeah and he is and i'm so so the amount of

01:52:32.880 money the amount of money is being paid is more than anybody in history wow and how are they doing

01:52:37.680 it well they're doing it because they know that the ad revenue they get from japanese advertising so

01:52:42.960 forth will pay at times many more do you know if you watch television today because of cord cutting

01:52:47.600 nobody wants to watch commercials so 92 of the last 100 top shows are sports because you don't think

01:52:54.880 about making a film for netflix like a series you got to pay actors nightmare all that's called you

01:52:59.440 set up your cameras you shoot it's cheap to do and people are willing to watch because it's live and

01:53:05.040 then they'll watch the ads just like the super bowl right yeah watch all the ads so it that business and

01:53:09.840 they buy the real estate around it they become media moguls so now i own the warriors i own the

01:53:15.920 dodgers i own the red socks i own the pittsburgh penguins because you have a piece in

01:53:19.920 what which i teach in this book it's a piece of these different businesses these sports businesses

01:53:26.000 and it's non-correlated and people can get into that shows you how to do it and you can do a tiny

01:53:30.320 amount small amounts yeah i'll give you one last one bonds you're not probably not very familiar

01:53:35.040 because you haven't done a lot yeah they caught him what did he do

01:53:39.680 oh no what are you talking about no i'm sorry i'm talking about stock stocks from bonds oh sorry yes no

01:53:44.320 problem i was like bonds for years because of low interest rates have given you no return so people

01:53:50.880 taking bigger and bigger risks so back in 2021 you know you're making no money so there's a type of

01:53:56.800 bond that is not very stable it's very risky and they call them high yield bonds they're actually

01:54:01.760 called junk bonds because they're very risky they were paying 3.9 in 2021 before the interest rates

01:54:08.240 rise and people were buying them because there's no other place to get income i was making 9

01:54:14.080 percent on private credit what is private credit yes banks don't loan to a lot of people

01:54:20.720 really high-end businesses 100 million to three billion dollar businesses need money to grow

01:54:25.600 well where do they go they go to private credit now these organizations now loan you money and

01:54:29.920 they usually loaned it you know just a few years ago at like five percent six percent for a loan so

01:54:34.960 banks are borrowing money from people no companies need to borrow money from banks and banks don't do it

01:54:40.560 apple will get their money somebody like that but a lot of businesses won't there's

01:54:43.760 200 000 business in the united states between 100 million and three billion to give you an idea

01:54:48.000 right gigantic they need money so there's become a new market it's these private equity guys loaning

01:54:53.600 them money but they put their own money in it so they don't sell the loan off so they are really

01:54:58.240 picky about who they put in and they build good long-term relationships they have less than a one

01:55:02.720 percent failure rate no bank on earth has that they'd be dreaming about that

01:55:07.360 they're though you know if you i'll give you an example that your audience can relate to if you

01:55:11.440 had a house you had a mortgage that was fixed when interest rates went up you don't care you're

01:55:16.080 still it's only three percent but when you bought a loan on a business is usually a floating rate

01:55:21.680 so when interest rates go it rises up so those same private credit firms that loaned you money at three

01:55:26.720 and a half percent guess what excuse me five or six percent now it's 11 plus the same loan with the

01:55:33.440 same company and you're making twice or three times as much money as before so when people are taking risks

01:55:38.960 to three point nine percent i've got a one percent failure rate and i'm making nine percent now i'm

01:55:43.440 in the high teens on my private credit and i own those firms so i also get the two percent i get the

01:55:49.760 twenty percent and i get the upside on those pieces so those are just three examples i give you seven

01:55:55.120 examples of industries that you can do and show you exactly how to do it and then the second half of

01:56:00.160 the book is these 13 masters of the universe these guys that you know like robert smith who runs vista

01:56:07.920 it's a famous firm 100 billion dollars in business he started with he started with nothing

01:56:12.560 he's uh the wealthiest african-american the united states genius of man i love this oh hell yeah and

01:56:17.680 he he focuses on one industry and software as a service called sass but he knows it so well that

01:56:24.320 he can take a company he already knows what to do with the ceo what to do how to grow it he grows it

01:56:28.960 rapidly he's got a whole system for doing it he grows the business and then he sells it to a bigger

01:56:33.920 company or takes it public his returns i can't quote his returns because you have to ask him

01:56:38.720 about it but they're all above 20 percent for decades wow for decades so think about what that

01:56:43.520 would do to your financial future what would have taken say 10 years to double you can do in three

01:56:47.520 years and so this isn't the only thing you do yeah but it's one of the most important things that

01:56:52.320 most people don't know about and it was never available before now it's available so you're saying

01:56:56.560 because of the new legislation a lot of this stuff is available that's correct and is there

01:57:00.480 downside to it i mean there's risk with everything that's right well least amount of risk compared

01:57:04.880 to bonds less okay but then the second other than say treasuries on the private equity side

01:57:10.320 again since they have your money for a longer period you get a lot larger return but there's less risk

01:57:15.840 the reason there's less risk is because when things drop in the stock market they don't have to sell

01:57:19.680 they go buy then right when things are up they go sell then so they have more room to play within

01:57:25.600 time instead of oh my god what are you gonna do this quarter we're gonna do get the stock up this day

01:57:28.640 they don't have to do that it allows them to make better decisions got it um they had um anyway

01:57:33.680 we give a hundred my last three books i've done this given a hundred percent of of all the profits in

01:57:38.080 the book go to feeding america so while you're helping yourself you'll help people that are really

01:57:42.320 in need as well same for this one the profits are going to that 100 oh that's amazing man thank you

01:57:46.960 that's cool man i uh i eat you know so i know we're all grateful for that you know can i get a copy of

01:57:53.600 the book too of course oh that's sweet man yeah of course um there's like this is my last question

01:57:58.640 so there is we're kind of at a time in the world where i think a lot of people are under a little

01:58:04.800 bit it's a precarious time it feels like right and some of that a lot of uncertainty and some of that may

01:58:10.480 be media influence some of it may not we don't know but there's just a lot going on there's a lot going

01:58:15.840 on and it used to feel like you could leave the world a better place right it used to be something

01:58:21.520 that i think gave people a lot of purpose right yeah like i mean i want to leave the world a better

01:58:26.240 place and i think now there's sometimes feels like the you're the world has gotten it's flared up

01:58:36.720 and we can't do that i'm not saying that's true but it sometimes it feels like that and so i think

01:58:42.000 that caused a lot of people to it really takes away a sense of purpose at a level probably an almost

01:58:47.280 limbic or animal level that we don't even realize yeah what can people do to combat that 0.97

01:58:56.320 the first thing i do is i would cut down my consumption of the news turn off all the things

01:59:00.640 that go on your phone not to become a hermit or something but you got to remember the news people

01:59:05.760 are good people they don't have bad intent but they have to do one thing they're doing their job

01:59:10.720 their job is make more money for the shareholders there's only one way to do that get more of your

01:59:14.720 eyeballs how do you get your eyeballs upset you anger you produce fear if i do those things we all

01:59:20.640 know in journalism they talk if it bleeds it leads right it used to be again a plane crashed in

01:59:26.160 nigeria you didn't know about it now you know about it within seconds so it's there's actually

01:59:30.560 all the studies show there's less violence today but we see everything more magnified right we're also

01:59:36.480 in a stage in kind of history we go through stages i don't want to try to be complex explain the whole thing

01:59:42.560 too but if you study a thousand years of roman history 500 years angle american history we go

01:59:47.520 through 18 20 year cycles where we run an emotion as a culture as a whole doesn't mean you're going

01:59:52.800 to feel that way so in the springtime everybody's optimistic i don't mean physical spring i mean

01:59:57.360 that season right and things grow and it's easy so like after world war ii we went in springtime

02:00:02.480 everybody's like oh thank god it's over everybody had lots of sex that was the baby boom right oh yeah 0.85

02:00:08.080 if you were a veteran you were like you got to have a house for free right no money down

02:00:11.760 nothing it was a cool time for a lot of people not everyone but a lot of people yeah yeah the

02:00:16.640 culture right but then from 1945 to 1963 and 63 were the height of optimism kennedy's the president john

02:00:24.000 f kennedy and he gets assassinated and then robert kennedy and then martin luther king and what happens is

02:00:30.400 we go through a summer time where everything's tested and there's fighting within the country there's

02:00:35.120 it's called summer it's like it happens every 80 years like clockwork i can take you there's a there's a

02:00:39.920 really cool book this is a strauss how generational theory is that it that's it that's it you guys

02:00:43.760 got it so if you read strauss how about generational theory there's there's a book called the fourth

02:00:48.160 turning i interviewed these guys turning fourth turning it's a book worth reading because what you'll

02:00:53.760 be reading about how life is and it's like right now and then they reveal it from 80 years ago from

02:00:59.040 the new york times and then you read another one it's from 160 years ago and you're like this is crazy

02:01:04.400 so it's a cycle that we go through so after we're done with the optimism we get burnt out we go through the

02:01:08.800 summer of tasks then upset then we have another good time we have fall where everything's easy

02:01:13.120 you want a house you have no money we'll give you a loan right my buddy easy easy money right and

02:01:18.080 everything's easy then that's always followed by a winter now some winters are long some are short

02:01:23.760 some are hard some are relatively easy but you never go from fall to spring you've got to go through

02:01:28.160 winter right we're in winter right now so think about it the people that were growing up and

02:01:33.200 try this for size you know most people don't study their history but just take this for a second if you

02:01:37.920 were born in like 1910 what did that mean well world war one was going on while you were growing up

02:01:43.280 so you were protected you didn't go to war you didn't have to face it your family looked out for

02:01:47.040 you it might have been a tough time but you made it through it and we won the war and came home

02:01:51.040 right around that time like now there's a massive technology breakthrough like we're experiencing with

02:01:55.120 ai and so forth what happened we went from nothing to radios televisions cars planes like and the

02:02:03.360 roaring 20s so if you're growing up and you're in that zero to 21 you were born in 1910 you're

02:02:08.000 thinking when i'm 1920 i'm getting a car i'm gonna party and the kids then were looked down on they're

02:02:13.200 called flappers because they were irresponsible very much like older generations often talk about

02:02:17.840 millennials or c generation because millennials are great people but they haven't faced anything

02:02:22.960 really bad they think violence is words right you know chris rock says if you think violence

02:02:26.720 are words no one slapped the out of you on national television that's violence

02:02:29.760 that's a different thing right so but you've never experienced anything you think that's pain

02:02:35.360 is that your idea of pain right so they're right about that but i have no worries these are going

02:02:39.280 to be the heroes millennials and z's are going to be heroes of the future here's how i know it

02:02:42.880 1910 when they turned 19 and they thought they're going to go party what happened it was 1929 and

02:02:49.040 the whole world was upside down suddenly people jumping out of buildings standing in food lines the

02:02:53.200 midwest is a dust bowl stock market crash everything so these people had to get tough they were weak as 0.97

02:02:59.120 shit but they had to get tough because it was required to survive so by the way they do 10 years of 0.98

02:03:04.000 the depression it's not bad every day there were some ups and downs pretty rough times a lot of soup 0.90

02:03:08.960 a soup that's a good one but now they turned 29 it's 1939 and that's when world world ii breaks

02:03:15.200 out and you and i weren't alive then but hitler was taking countries one after it looks like we're

02:03:19.600 going to lose yeah they fought that war and won they became what's known as the great generation

02:03:25.040 the greatest generation because they face these difficult things well at the end of the

02:03:28.880 winter it's springtime at springtime once we got through that then we went through a hot summer

02:03:33.680 think of how the 60s and 70s are so different than the 80s 90s or 2000s yeah and so we go through

02:03:39.520 these cycles so we're in winter right now and winter makes it look much worse than it is but here's the

02:03:44.720 good news about winter it's going to take that younger generation and they're going to become heroes

02:03:48.800 they're smart they're connected they care but they're not as strong as they will be because they

02:03:54.160 haven't it's like lifting weights admit you take a light weight and lift it i don't care how many you do a

02:03:58.560 hundred curls you're not going to get anything yeah you take a weight you can barely lift and do

02:04:02.640 you can only do eight eight curls and your trainer makes you do 11 and you that 11th curl gives you

02:04:07.920 90 of the growth we're going to go through that experience we already are to some extent

02:04:12.800 but what people need is to create a compelling future they need to know that this went no war is

02:04:17.840 forever no economy is forever no you know plant pandemic or planned emicors get addicted to the story

02:04:24.320 don't fall into that's a trap that's right so you also have to have a plan for yourself and you can

02:04:28.720 see that like if you were the universe or god after the night you create the day yeah you know it's

02:04:33.120 like you get bored of it works and that's what makes us grow and winter also gets rid of the weak

02:04:38.640 and strong not only survive but they find a way to thrive when you look at the biggest companies in

02:04:42.720 the world called fortune 1000 80 excuse me 70 of them were developed during a recession or depression

02:04:49.680 wow because when you do well then you're going to do well during all the other seasons so if you

02:04:54.640 start a business right now and it's hard right you do it well like i started my business during the

02:04:58.880 last really tough time which was when interest rates were 18 percent uh they were really that 18

02:05:05.600 i'm not lying today if you people are freaking out going seven percent oh my god i can't get a house

02:05:11.120 try i bought my first house at 18 years old it was 18 you're not gonna make any money at 18 i lost money

02:05:17.600 out of the house it was horrible right but that's what it was in those days but i had to get strong

02:05:22.080 and here i am 46 years later and i've done very well well a lot of other people started when it was

02:05:27.840 easy and they're gone yeah wow so that's good it's a good way to look at it man i think it goes back to

02:05:33.280 what we said in the meeting just talking about perspective you know yes like have a bigger

02:05:37.120 perspective have a bigger perspective have a bigger perspective of what's going on in your own life

02:05:42.160 um man i don't think there's anything else you guys think of anything i think we've spent a lot of your

02:05:46.400 time too and and we're great i really enjoyed this theo yeah me too and i really and listen i

02:05:50.000 loved your humor but i really want to thank you for your vulnerability because i got a lot of

02:05:53.600 people watching you and you're you're leading by example i'm not being perfect i'm not saying you're

02:05:57.760 supposed to i'm not perfect nobody is yeah but you're growing brother and and those emotions you

02:06:02.080 felt you're going to feel those a lot less as you keep on this track pretty soon they won't be

02:06:06.960 something you identify with you it'll be like cigarettes you'll be like i by the way do you feel bad

02:06:11.680 about the cigarettes that you're no longer there with them you've left them behind i don't miss them yeah you're not

02:06:16.080 going to miss those negative emotions yeah it's never like i go like you know go like just you

02:06:20.480 know go visit them hey dude i'm sorry or use a ouija board like to talk to a pack of winston's or

02:06:26.080 something you know yeah i don't do anything like that i'm glad to hear that but thank you man thank

02:06:30.080 you for taking some time and to uh just help us learn about that because i think a lot of my

02:06:34.080 listeners are really similar to me and so i'm grateful for that and i hope they join me because it's

02:06:38.720 free help i've got oh that's january 25th to 27th yeah and um all they gotta do is go to time to

02:06:44.480 rise.com time to rise.com register no cost to it and then it's about three hours a day for three

02:06:49.760 days in a row and you'll be blown away it'll give you a new momentum for your new year dude i'll say

02:06:54.400 this sit in listening to tony is really really interesting even just being here so if this is

02:06:59.600 anything what it's like um at the summit it's cool man so yeah i'm excited about it man january 25th to

02:07:05.360 27th i know my my good friend aaron levee goes has been to a couple of them and um time to rise

02:07:12.960 summit.com and we'll put the link right here below guys yeah we'll put the link everywhere

02:07:16.240 and we'll share it so about a million million half people will do it from all over the country

02:07:19.920 all over the world 195 countries so you'll meet some cool people too online too which is kind of fun

02:07:24.240 oh man well thank you for first of all just learning about stuff over your life but also being willing

02:07:28.720 to share it i think thank you you know when we don't share stuff it's like it keeps things from

02:07:32.640 other people that's right so um it's been i think a lot of people have have been uh helped by that

02:07:38.480 and so thank you so much thank you man it's been great yeah cheers brother now i'm just floating on

02:07:44.400 the breeze and i feel i'm falling like these leaves i must be cornerstone

02:07:53.360 oh but when i reach that ground i'll share this peace of mind i found i can feel it in my bones

02:08:02.000 oh but it's gonna tell you

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