Whatever Podcast - Addressing DRAMA! Exposing FLAKES! Timcast Mary, Violet, +7 Girls!

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00:02:31.420 channels links in the description before i have the guests introduce themselves uh just a couple things

00:02:37.300 i'd like to address here really quick um the first thing is uh where do i where do i start we had

00:02:43.880 eight flakes today uh so and uh i'm trying to recall how much it was exactly most of them were with 24

00:02:52.000 hours four of them it was like a group of four i don't think i should book that many people at the

00:02:56.560 same time like two minimum two minimum uh bailed like an hour at like 3 p.m or something so i had to

00:03:04.640 send nick and maddie down to the mean streets of i la vista and try to corral some people and maddie

00:03:10.040 was able to get uh her so okay there you go uh so yeah they went to the uh very dangerous streets

00:03:16.520 it's it's like warfare down there people are so you're very brave and she's got a soldier helmet

00:03:22.900 too so yeah um oh so we'll get into it so the first one nick if you can pull up the lip filler

00:03:30.100 excuse guys this happens every show i don't like the ridiculous excuses these people come up with

00:03:36.540 to cancel on the show uh so hey i can't make it because my lips are bruised up from my lip fillers

00:03:44.440 um and and then she sent another one to double down i could barely talk it's really swollen we're

00:03:52.040 going to have to reschedule lol i don't want to look crazy on a show and my brother passed away

00:03:56.140 today too i don't know if i believe that one oh it's kind of like my dog ate my homework type of

00:04:00.540 thing uh not a good day for me so you know first it was the lip filler lip filler is a bigger problem

00:04:07.320 than her brother dying and that was the first excuse she brought up like i would feel like that's

00:04:12.420 jarring like i guess y'all weren't close i i would assume that would be like the go-to my brother

00:04:19.540 passed away but first let me just tell you about my lip fillers okay um and then nick

00:04:23.660 we have the other ones so this is gabby um and the the text up there that i blocked out

00:04:29.880 she sent that at 11 a.m today hey can i bring blank and blank they are well okay um she wanted

00:04:36.980 to bring her two male friends i said unfortunately we're like fully booked up on the panel see all

00:04:41.280 four of you at four today so at 11 a.m she's asking to be on the show conveniently somehow a

00:04:46.880 little bit later she says she's in the er right now so we actually won't be able to make it at four

00:04:51.600 sorry we by the way not just me but all my friends can't make it because i am in the er just

00:04:57.040 me uh next slide please so this is her other friends because we were dming all of them she

00:05:03.880 had and so i asked her are you not coming i have no idea gabby's in the er are you with her yeah she

00:05:08.840 got her last night uh show us the this is a different girl now next one i'm sorry i wish we

00:05:14.300 could but we are with her in the er what's she in the er for she got an allergic reaction from

00:05:18.140 something so hold on one girl is saying that she got injured last night we have this girl saying

00:05:24.560 she has an allergic reaction to something the girl in question is texting us at 11 a.m asking if she

00:05:31.000 could bring two other people on the show so did she get injured last night and she's in the er

00:05:34.940 because she got injured last night or is it because of an allergic reaction or are you just

00:05:38.380 lying because something you don't want to be on the show um in any case uh

00:05:43.500 it's it's frustrating for me because obviously we're trying to run a production but it's what

00:05:49.700 frust what frustrates me even more is we have people who at great cost and time come to be on

00:05:57.740 the show we have mary here flew in you flew in from washington dc i did that's a five plus hour

00:06:05.700 flight you got did you fly in today or yesterday or it was like all day yesterday yeah i mean she

00:06:10.260 spent all day yesterday coming here um that you know the cost of that we have violet here you came

00:06:18.100 from texas you came from la correct you're from la too correct priscilla so we have a lot of people

00:06:24.400 coming out of town to be on the show and then if you take up four seats on the panel it's kind of

00:06:29.740 like look if you don't fuck with the show that's fine but it's very inconsiderate an hour before the

00:06:35.260 show to make up some lie about how you're in the er when we have people who have at great time and

00:06:42.040 expense come to be here and you're potentially like doing that like four people flaking that

00:06:47.900 potentially you know i mean i don't think we'd call off the show but it's just like it can really

00:06:53.120 fuck up with the production so it's not cool um drag them yeah exposed um update on retisha the girl

00:07:00.920 from last stream uh so she actually came with rhino and if you guys didn't catch it i'll give

00:07:06.080 you the brief plot synopsis goes to ucsb studying feminist studies uh apparently she has 170k followers

00:07:12.300 on tiktok i didn't know that anyways halfway through the show i heard a lot loud knock on our door here

00:07:17.920 in our studio um and it's my property manager super cool guy he's just confused and he tells me that

00:07:24.040 downstairs there's a group of girls bothering all the tenants in the building asking if the girl

00:07:31.380 retisha was with any of them and if she was safe and i told him yeah she's here we're doing a show

00:07:38.160 keep in mind there's like 10 people in the studio we're doing it live she told her friends she was

00:07:44.020 coming to do a podcast um she refused to dislike actually like explain what happened essentially what

00:07:52.040 was happening all these girls we have a call box all these girls were on the call box calling every

00:07:55.420 single tenant being like oh my god did somebody abduct retisha so um it was pretty annoying i kind

00:08:03.880 of got upset um and she just refused to tell us what the deal was she tried to play it off like it was

00:08:08.600 an emergency but it wasn't i talked to rhino afterwards there was there was no like family

00:08:12.500 emergency it was just her friends were like actually brain dead like toaster brain i can't it's

00:08:18.880 ridiculous um my my theory is no no emergency no family issues you know i think it's pretty normal

00:08:25.380 for girls to like let a friend know if they're going somewhere hey i'm gonna be here if i don't

00:08:31.460 know if you don't hear from me by 11 p.m i've been murdered or some bullshit like that right safety

00:08:35.800 concern type of thing nothing wrong with that totally valid so i think she told her friend she was going

00:08:40.540 to a podcast i don't know what she told them because she refused to disclose to us what the deal was but

00:08:46.360 i think her friends got overzealous and overprotective overprotective like some main character

00:08:52.080 syndrome shit like oh yeah she definitely got abducted on the live podcast that she went to which

00:08:57.700 is being broadcast live on the internet so her friends must have mistakenly thought because they

00:09:03.360 had not heard from her for a few hours that she must be in danger that she was in some torture dungeon

00:09:09.100 because heaven forbid a grown adult woman stay out past 9 p.m which never in the history of humanity

00:09:15.160 has a grown adult woman stayed out past 9 p.m so uh anyways never happens um so uh retisha and

00:09:22.460 your retisha's ridiculous friends i cordially invite you to come on the podcast and you explain what

00:09:26.820 happened of course you'd probably lie and make something up uh in any case um without further

00:09:33.360 ado we're going to have the guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name age and

00:09:38.620 occupation go ahead i'm violet i'm 23 and i am a documentarian

00:09:47.320 hold up um you're 23 and you're documentarian

00:09:54.240 what are you documenting your descent into madness and chaos and i'm documenting my sexual exploration

00:10:04.540 of myself okay so i think what i said checks out there but uh so you're talking like your only

00:10:11.840 fans basically is that yes okay okay subscribe violet brandani don't subscribe don't do it she

00:10:23.020 doesn't mary doesn't want people to subscribe you want people to okay no you should subscribe to

00:10:26.780 mary's too she's really good there isn't one no not her only van she doesn't have an only van are

00:10:32.100 you requesting mary do a collaboration with you on of that's declined decline sorry violet i'll come

00:10:40.160 on you meet him we all come on together oh tim do you think tim do you think tim pool would

00:10:46.020 sorry sorry violet sorry way no pod

00:10:51.200 okay shut down sorry violet uh what about you go ahead i'm tarnay i'm 32 and i work as a

00:11:01.560 realtor property manager and cosmetologist okay uh you said 32 right yes okay got it and you're

00:11:08.240 from la right yep you do you're a realtor correct yes okay gotcha i work full-time in property

00:11:16.220 management but i have my real estate license got it okay what about you hi i'm jocelyn i'm 18 i'm

00:11:22.120 also from la and i'm a student at spcc oh okay got it what do you study at santa barbara city college

00:11:29.200 politics politics okay all right yeah okay so my goal is not to say anything that's going to hurt my

00:11:35.660 potential future you know today are you want to be already too late it's already too late for that

00:11:41.020 you're on the whatever podcast um do you know what you want to get into do you want to be a lawyer you

00:11:46.800 want to go like be a politician i want to do like campaign managing so i'm like not the actual

00:11:51.240 politician got it okay what about you um i'm sammy i'm 18 i'm from sacramento and i'm also a student

00:11:59.900 at spcc and my major is medicine medicine okay so you want to be a doctor yeah i want to be an er

00:12:05.120 doctor a what an er doctor oh er doctor yes okay maybe treat the flakes you can treat the girls

00:12:11.200 who don't show up we'll check in in 10 years after med school yeah uh what about you my name

00:12:17.260 is chelsea i'm 18 as well and i'm from hollister california and i'm a student here at ucsb

00:12:23.080 what are you studying at ucsb film and media film and media okay do you want to uh get into directing

00:12:29.060 or what do you what do you think i really want to do screenwriting but i'm also leading towards

00:12:33.400 like marketing and pr so have you ever written a screenplay yeah i have actually okay not published

00:12:38.920 or anything but on my free time was it like a short a full-blown no a short a short and yeah

00:12:45.040 i've i really like creative writing so i what was the title of your screenplay i i can't even recall

00:12:51.900 honestly it was a while ago it was a mystery it was a thriller but thriller i don't want to give

00:12:56.960 too many details in case it's out in the world one day right okay what about you um my name is

00:13:01.780 priscilla i'm a college student at university of southern california and i'm currently studying

00:13:06.660 economics and oh i'm almost 25 years old gotcha so 24 yeah i'll be 25 in a little more than a week

00:13:14.040 okay pretty soon then uh mary what about you all right yes my name is mary morgan i am a commentator

00:13:19.760 at tim cast media on a show called pop culture crisis i'm 23 i have been here in the past what is

00:13:27.040 it two times three times before i think uh three times i don't remember now because i almost didn't

00:13:33.700 make it on time today and i'm really glad that i did i'm happy to be back but not everyone can roll

00:13:40.740 out of bed and look flawless like brian does i just want to say that i just want to put that out

00:13:46.660 there don't yeah it was i mean it was just a mix-up because the previous times you had been on our

00:13:51.100 previous time was 7 p.m we switched our time to start a bit earlier and um just a little mix-up

00:13:57.000 there but all good we got you here so uh welcome back mary and uh madison what about you my name

00:14:04.120 is madison i'm 18 years old i work for the whatever podcast i'm a student at santa barbara city college

00:14:10.120 studying business i'm a host at a bar and like other things but okay got it all right we're gonna

00:14:17.160 go around the table once more so what is your current relationship status are you single are you in a

00:14:23.280 talking stage situationship friends with benefits relationship married polycule sex cult harem

00:14:28.700 something else i don't even there's probably other categories if you're single how long have you been

00:14:34.000 single and what's the longest relationship that you've ever been in go ahead i'm single i've been

00:14:39.260 single since i've been an adult single since she's been an adult um you said you've been single for like

00:14:45.480 six years right yes i saw a guy driving your van is that a is that a uh a love interest no that's

00:14:54.380 my photographer we've worked together for six years okay started yeah but it's not it's strictly

00:14:59.980 business there's not an occasional there's an occasional you know for recording and stuff yeah

00:15:06.580 when we're doing content and stuff um but i really trust him and he we work really good together so

00:15:13.700 so do you are you currently making content with him now or no not recently i flew him out for

00:15:19.760 joshua tree to help me out and yeah okay so single for six years did did you get a bunch of dms uh

00:15:28.120 after the show like yeah i got a few a few okay a lot of them were saying don't go back on because

00:15:35.520 you're mean wow exposed what do you think what's your what's your diagnosis violet of you

00:15:43.600 yeah am i mean do you think i'm mean no i think you get frustrated really easily and you need to

00:15:48.360 that's a little bit that's that's a fair assessment like you need a vacation or something or maybe you

00:15:53.740 need to like you get tested somewhere else what's that remember i said maybe move to texas i think

00:15:58.920 you would be happy there no texas is kind of you don't like it you're cali boy i like the weather

00:16:04.500 here i think that's our disconnect you're a cali boy i'm a texas what do you mean what what

00:16:08.940 disconnect cali boys are so cali nobody actually says cali though oh what do they say it's just

00:16:19.360 california okay that's my texas like brain then because i'm not from here i don't know y'all's

00:16:26.040 trends yeah but um yeah you're very um i'm a dickhead i get it it's all good you can just say it yeah no i'm

00:16:34.800 used to dealing with like dickheads more aggressive guys am i am i aggressive yeah but you

00:16:42.460 come off like you're trying to just get someone in a in a little clip you know just to let it go viral

00:16:50.840 and i'm like you get so frustrated whenever it doesn't happen it's so funny but well i think your

00:16:55.580 diagnosis there is wrong i think my frustration doesn't stem from my ability or inability to get

00:17:01.600 some viral clip my frustration stems from the absolute shit show that is running the whatever

00:17:07.140 podcast and dealing with eight flakes every single show dealing with people no showing trying to fill

00:17:12.760 replacements dealing with uh kind of the bullshittery that goes on with having these sorts

00:17:17.240 of conversations uh yeah and all of that like i don't see like nobody else sees so you're the only

00:17:23.180 well they know but i mean whether i get clips or not i don't think that's my primary i could do a

00:17:28.440 podcast as long as it goes smoothly i'm gonna otherwise be happy whether i get a viral clip or

00:17:33.840 not the primary front the primary driving thing when it comes to the perhaps a visible frustration

00:17:39.680 that i sometimes display on this show is primarily related to the complexity of booking essentially 20

00:17:47.420 people week after week months on end and then just also dealing with sometimes the the big the other

00:17:54.180 big personalities that can come on the show who are sometimes disrespectful or rude or don't know

00:17:58.940 how to conduct themselves in a professional podcast would you ever do more of a one-on-one or is that

00:18:03.620 something i've done those i mean i've host i've hosted debates and i've done one-on-one interviews but

00:18:07.820 um for the time being we're just primarily focused on this but i actually pretty soon i'm going to be

00:18:13.400 doing for those of you who are interested i'll be doing a one-on-one interview with a divorce attorney

00:18:17.980 james sexton will be on in about 10 days or so i think so that's going to be a really good one he

00:18:24.440 went crazy viral on the internet so uh will be very interesting to pick his brain uh very experienced

00:18:30.380 new york divorce attorney so that'll be good um have you ever done just like face to camera podcast

00:18:36.920 like you're talking to the camera yeah i don't think i'm interesting enough to pull that off but

00:18:42.180 i would like to know more about you though what's that i want to feminist donated 100

00:18:46.960 hold on retisha here sorry about my friend's last show they were worried i would be exposed to

00:18:54.120 russ and pr problematic ideas so they tried to come save me we much prefer our echo chamber t he also

00:19:02.820 yeah that was interesting she she's welcome to come back on the show though um if she wants to

00:19:19.220 come back on the show she's more than welcome to uh come be on the show i'll have she can explain what

00:19:25.280 happened all right thank you thank you i think that's seven deadly sims um can you uh your

00:19:34.900 relationship status please okay um single for the last three years um my longest was four years

00:19:42.160 sorry you said single for the last seven years correct three sorry sorry clearly i have trouble

00:19:49.040 listening uh three years but you've been what oh my longest relationship was four years four years

00:19:56.280 okay i added three and four and somehow arrived at seven i think i'm dyslexic um so single for three

00:20:02.280 years okay uh and your longest was four so your last relationship was at 29 about when you or ended

00:20:08.520 when you were 29 yeah just about was that the four year no that was three are you canadian no i get

00:20:15.120 that because the way you said i'm from new hampshire ah okay so what you said about i thought that's

00:20:20.380 so funny you're not the first person who would said that to me i'm actually um well i moved here

00:20:24.800 from boston but i grew up in sorry about boston the whole boston thing i'm sorry about that the whole

00:20:30.140 boston thing just sorry about having to live in boston i guess that sounds miserable it's cold as

00:20:36.100 it is cold as hell yeah the summers are really pretty though yeah and the fall is really yeah this time

00:20:42.260 years really you know the winters i love boston winters i want to move to boston it's like yeah

00:20:47.320 the summers but also the winters yeah the winters that's right yeah so you've been single for three

00:20:54.560 years uh so nothing you've been celibate for three years no there's been situationships or yeah i've

00:21:03.680 dated dated yeah okay okay just nothing stuck when's the last time there's like a situationship or

00:21:09.400 talking stage or um maybe like a year or two ago where it like got kind of serious well it seemed

00:21:18.460 like it was gonna go somewhere but okay one sec guys um sorry apparently we're getting reports of

00:21:28.660 lag let me just look into this really quick nick do you have the pop-up you don't have the pop-up

00:21:33.440 chat visible have you seen the reports of the lag starting as soon as seven minutes ago

00:21:40.560 what sorry sorry if there is lag guys i'm not sure exactly why we're getting that um

00:21:48.880 yeah um one in the chat if the lag is better guys one in the chat if the lag is better two in the chat

00:21:56.300 if you're still experiencing lag it's good okay sorry about that guys uh shitty fucking santa barbara

00:22:05.120 internet um so you were saying oh so i was i dated someone a little more seriously like a couple years

00:22:12.820 ago i mean that was like for summer so it wasn't that long i don't really count it sure yeah what about

00:22:20.640 you um i've been single for a couple months now how long was the relationship um like a year a year

00:22:28.840 and a half okay got it and now i'm just in my college girl era college girl era yeah okay um college

00:22:36.500 girl era uh what was your longest relationship ever was it the most recent one yeah and sorry you said

00:22:41.920 how long was that relationship it was like a year year and a half year and a half okay and but now

00:22:47.140 you're in your college girl era so um what what does that mean that just means that i just don't

00:22:53.360 give a fuck you know we're just doing de-gaff yeah don't give a fuck exactly so then when i'm old and

00:22:59.100 i'm like sitting in a actually i don't want to be in a retirement home but you know when i'm old

00:23:04.780 i'm gonna be happy uh you want to be happy yeah so we're happy that i lived life to the fullest

00:23:11.900 so college girl era equals living life to the fullest equals don't want regret when you're in

00:23:19.220 a retirement home okay um i always see those like sad tiktoks of like people asking older people like

00:23:27.580 what do you regret in life and what what do they typically say they say i wish that i had slept with

00:23:33.460 more strangers when i was 18 that's what they always say no i think most of the time it's like

00:23:38.820 about experiences and things like that not taking risks not taking that but i mean so because we're

00:23:45.040 talking within the context of dating you say you're in a college girl era right so college girl i mean

00:23:49.240 does that mean like you know a couple sneaky links doesn't mean kind of you know just kind of having

00:23:54.440 fun guys like if they give me the ick then it's like bye and then they give you the ick it's that

00:24:00.260 should be a song that it should somebody has to freestyle it i can't but you know okay um so

00:24:06.720 currently you've been single for three to four months and that was your previous relationship

00:24:11.640 though was that a monogamous relationship yeah it's not was it kind of because i mean we we hear

00:24:20.780 we hear a lot people are in these on again off again relationships no it was like a good relationship

00:24:26.940 it was a good relationship was an open relationship no it was not open no okay but yeah i mean he's a year

00:24:32.740 older so now he's a frat guy he's doing his thing obviously i'm not going to be with the frat guy

00:24:37.800 like do you know all the stuff that goes on in frat houses no what tell us why don't you inline us

00:24:43.360 what goes on in frat houses um well i mean i don't know if you heard but stsu like all the frats got

00:24:49.540 suspended for like hazing a whole bunch of people at uh san diego state university yeah okay so now like

00:24:56.760 i saw tiktoks of people flying to other states so they could go party because everybody in san

00:25:02.400 diego is just like freaking out that they can't party i mean isn't there like uc san diego but

00:25:07.980 that's like the school of the socially dead apparently is it yeah that's what it's known for okay yeah um

00:25:13.820 so people in who goes to sdsu are flying yeah uh i saw a tiktok of two girls going to boulder

00:25:21.640 to go party okay got it yeah so college girl era that's what i'm talking about uh-oh here we go

00:25:29.480 here we go college girl era equals failure your 20s are for growth besighting a full-grown human

00:25:37.240 and understanding what it means to be an adult it is exactly how you end up 30 and single with a kid

00:25:43.280 from your frat guy wondering why your life sucks do better that is grid one motorsports he's our

00:25:51.100 official commentator is he yeah he's actually uh observing a nascar race right now oh okay i don't

00:25:59.200 know how i knew that but um so okay the college girl era you you don't want to you kind of did you

00:26:06.460 break up with your boyfriend because he is in his frat boy life era is that oh who broke up i guess

00:26:13.320 i broke up with him yeah yeah was it because of that um partly like i just didn't like he would

00:26:20.280 call me sometimes really late at night and stuff like that and i just didn't want to deal with that

00:26:24.180 does he go no he's at sdsu no he's up north oh he's up north yeah okay so i just you know i just i feel

00:26:33.160 like the most important thing to have is like a good peace of mind like a calm state of mind sure

00:26:39.700 and like just having a boyfriend that's in another university doing a whole different thing that's

00:26:45.000 just not the way okay was he just overly clingy no hold on let me just read this sorry mr meatball i

00:26:53.240 think the thing uh if you use certain words it won't read it college girl era equals i believe that's

00:27:00.300 slut era i had a couple different girls say this to me roughly the same age

00:27:05.840 his words don't shoot the messenger his words no i know but i think like most people when

00:27:11.600 like college girl era they're like oh she's just like hooking up with hella guys and i don't really

00:27:17.480 participate in hookup culture and that just means that i'm having fun i'm trying new things

00:27:22.500 good things not like drugs and stuff you know because when i hear when i hear college girl era when i

00:27:28.660 hear trying new things just having fun my translation is just just getting run through by a bunch of

00:27:37.100 dudes like is that no no oh sorry one motorsports donated one hundred dollars sorry no nascar i raced

00:27:46.400 sports cars in lkub and pro racing mostly with portioned master oh mazda wow what's that mazda is

00:27:55.400 it a miata is that a mazda is that your car nick do you drive a 97 miata no but i had a mazda okay

00:28:03.400 no miata is that i don't know a bird what's that a bird we are close to the ocean um so so you're

00:28:14.200 just like kind of having fun you're not super focused on taking anyone like too seriously you're

00:28:18.860 just exactly you don't want to get locked down okay um so but so do you currently like do you

00:28:27.440 have a couple sneaky links or what is that no i mean like i text guys but it's not like i'm like

00:28:35.040 okay i'm gonna go hook up with them be right back you know okay just getting to know people

00:28:39.140 for what to what ends like for what do you want to eventually get a new boyfriend i think it's just

00:28:46.620 because i when i like eventually like marry somebody i want to be like okay i know what

00:28:51.960 i like and what i don't like in a significant other and that's like trait wise like your habits

00:28:58.640 how you you know just stuff like that if you're a good kisser things like that like what things

00:29:05.460 have you experienced so far that are traits you want in your um forever husband i like if i go out

00:29:13.380 and we got a little bit of lag uh according to the chat but it's looking okay online i mean we

00:29:20.000 should uh visual lag hold on i have it on my phone it's doing okay um i think it's good

00:29:30.280 hold on sorry guys one sec uh

00:29:35.900 okay well there's honestly nothing that we can really do i think to adjust the lag nick can you

00:29:45.440 just um one thing we can potentially do is on this screen here like this primary screen there's the

00:29:53.660 youtube tab give us just one sec guys while we work out the lag uh it's that one just pause

00:30:00.400 uh i need you to pause that just pause that that might help okay bring it back you're gonna have

00:30:07.660 to go stream yards close out the uh yeah yeah just f11 yeah yeah okay um go ahead sorry you were saying

00:30:15.460 i don't even remember what i was saying oh good good hold on one sec one sec hold on

00:30:21.360 political campaign girl you can easily practice now they're going in your 304 phase

00:30:29.380 you should get a no f to begin gather funds from simps and then realize in later lonelier years

00:30:36.000 man i fucked up shouldn't have gone to college and got wiped up oh my god

00:30:41.420 he got a lot to say about you he's he's actually i think he is curious if you'd start in of of

00:30:48.320 of only fans oh no i think he's saying you'd be successful

00:30:52.800 i mean my room thanks i guess girl oh because we're roommates yeah we sleep like three roommates

00:31:00.440 yeah that could be a thing is it a double or a triple no no why are you saying this to a couple

00:31:06.240 of 18 year olds like that's honestly kind of weird i started at 18 i'm not trying to groom anyone

00:31:10.920 but i was just that's insane okay okay so back on track what yeah back okay back on track um

00:31:19.400 college girl era yeah just college but so you're just kind of like talking to a couple different

00:31:25.920 guys right now yeah living life so you don't like you there's not is there one who's like your main

00:31:31.020 piece like your main do you have a main i don't have a main do you have one that you have like

00:31:37.380 this one's my favorite and then the other seven are kind of no seven is a lot okay you just talking

00:31:45.860 you can't do more than like four at a time more than can't do more than four at a time yeah have

00:31:51.440 you ever tried five if you were to have a roster do you have a roster i wouldn't say i have a roster

00:31:57.380 it's not like i switch them out and i'm like okay i'm done with this one gotcha so i didn't mean to

00:32:01.140 interrupt you you said but if you have a roster continue with your point yeah like if you were to

00:32:04.480 have a roster why would you want a lot of guys on it i feel like that just takes up so much of your

00:32:08.860 time do you think that you're on their rosters like they have i mean we're in college so probably

00:32:14.840 that's that's the way it rolls yeah it's i that i agree with that probably a lot of dudes have

00:32:21.820 rosters a lot of girls have rosters um but so do you you said max you've dated or seen that one time

00:32:28.560 is four people i would say that's pretty accurate yeah yeah okay yeah i mean she hears

00:32:33.480 i see everything what do you you see in here what do you hear it's nothing bad she just nothing bad

00:32:38.340 no but we're in the same exact room so like i get i see all the guys i meet all of them they're all

00:32:42.900 amazing like they're really sweet yeah they're kind of like they're her hoes they're my friends

00:32:47.920 they're they're your hoes i guess so okay all right uh i mean this is pretty typical like college

00:32:58.520 experience i reckon um so uh you said you don't want to look back when you're in your retirement

00:33:07.240 when you're older and regret all the

00:33:11.180 dudes the college dudes that um i guess uh i don't know i think like my parents just met when

00:33:21.820 they were really young they didn't really date a lot of people yeah and then they're divorced now

00:33:26.760 and i think maybe that could have been avoided if they had gone out with more people and that way

00:33:33.240 they would have been like okay this is what i are we compatible or not because you've been with

00:33:37.060 not been with like literally but talk to so many people that you know if you're somewhat

00:33:41.880 compatible or not like opposites attract i mean i don't really know if that's true or not

00:33:46.560 but some people well i mean it's certainly possible though if they listen to your advice

00:33:53.260 you wouldn't be born right true i mean kind of you know like yeah because it's all a glitch

00:34:02.380 do you think do you think it's necessary to talk to multiple people to know what you want

00:34:09.620 um for me personally yes okay yeah have you found figured it out no i have not figured it out

00:34:21.200 sorry hold on what crimson one thousand nine hundred and ninety seven donated one hundred dollars

00:34:27.620 violet chat ships you and brian oh my god would you date him would you ssd

00:34:33.260 brian bro would you take him to pound town the bone zone brian the boon palace would you tap that

00:34:41.980 australian dollars squat thrusts in the cucumber patch some bedroom acrobatics i can do with some

00:34:49.720 of the acrobatics and cucumbers maybe together i don't know if brian's down for it he seems like

00:34:58.520 he might be well he's asking you would would you he all this other stuff about the s-ing the d and

00:35:08.120 the p and the v maybe that's a bit much he's asking would you date brian i would date you yes

00:35:15.740 you're definitely like i love the beard i love the manliness you'll if i go a little crazy you'll

00:35:21.600 guide me in the right direction i would date you if you go a little crazy i would guide you in the

00:35:25.540 right direction yeah like if i'm you know acting out at a party you'd be like come on

00:35:30.280 i'll come back to the previous chat after this comes through for stem science tech engineer

00:35:37.620 why would you waste your time with extreme bad loans for a useless studies degree that amounts

00:35:44.160 to nothing just work as an assistant or waitress never go to of huge fail honestly they shouldn't

00:35:52.480 even go to college for stem because men are better at stem mary coming with the hot takes

00:35:58.560 that's very controversial does that have to do with like being a pilot too because aren't women

00:36:02.940 pretty good at pilots oh i certainly would feel less safe in a plane i heard that women are really

00:36:07.900 good as a female pilot i don't know about that i don't know you against your own i don't know if

00:36:11.660 andrew tate agrees with that sorry what were you what did you have for mary are you against your

00:36:15.500 own gender like thinking that men are better at stem and no i think men are better at flying planes

00:36:19.940 there are things that men are better at and there are things that women are better at and it just so

00:36:24.960 happens that men have better spatial awareness they just excel more in the sciences than women do which

00:36:34.320 is why there's this artificial push like pushing all of these girls into stem who probably wouldn't be

00:36:40.880 interested in it in the first place if they weren't being pushed into it and then they end up being

00:36:46.960 like the one of like two girls in in their class for like engineering or something and they're not

00:36:53.840 as nearly as likely to be gifted at that compared to guys i just think that's sad honestly as a woman

00:37:01.520 in stem not me personally but other women like if you want to go into stem and constantly having that

00:37:05.720 being told in your head no if you're good at it that's fine but i'm just saying like men are far

00:37:10.540 more likely to be successful successful but i mean like i mean that's like you wouldn't recommend it

00:37:15.780 for most women is what you're saying right like you're not like banning them from doing it but

00:37:20.620 you're saying like yeah yeah i feel like men love building things they're super interested in things

00:37:25.820 and women are really interested like naturally most of the time yeah and women are like interested in

00:37:30.000 people women can do the same thing they're equal yeah yeah equal but different for sure

00:37:35.420 i mean of course they're different one has a penis one has a vagina of course they're fucking different

00:37:39.020 for sure good talk good talk can i just have you move those two cups into the table a little bit

00:37:46.560 more that one too yeah thank you um so okay thank you cheeks for the chat uh crimson was asking

00:37:54.120 what uh would you violet would you date me i said yes yeah i know just are you gonna make me beg for

00:38:00.560 it no no i just got interrupted so it's like a one-sided thing where like she responds

00:38:05.200 but you don't no i'm gonna respond okay i'm gonna respond but i got thank you cheeks thank you

00:38:09.460 cheeks i was trying to respond uh appreciate it man okay oh my god no let me oh my god i'll get to

00:38:17.520 it i'll get to it thank you cheeks women at stem men are better at everything sports oh my god

00:38:22.260 beauty pageants etc beauty pageants 100 hottest women in u.s magazine and a few males did

00:38:31.560 and how does that make you ladies feel dylan mulvaney just won women of the year

00:38:36.500 not a joke wow we're getting into some hot he thinks he's so cool he's just sitting in the youtube

00:38:43.160 channel comments thinking he's like all the shit like commenting this kind of stuff i would not i would

00:38:49.300 not invoke beaten cheeks wrath i know his i know his name is a little bit no i love it you know it might be

00:38:57.000 but he he will come down like a titan yeah and unleash his wrath his fear what's that thing from

00:39:06.100 uh what's that movie 300 pulp fiction oh furious anger and righteous pulp okay wait whatever who

00:39:15.180 thinks pulp fiction is an epic movie like i haven't even watched it i don't get it i i like some

00:39:23.560 tarantino movies but that one it's like i don't gonna start super chatting about how

00:39:27.400 men are better at making movies men are better at understanding movies and it is unironically true

00:39:32.880 but pulp fiction sucks all right mary came to

00:39:36.600 pulp fiction is pretty good though do you like any of his movies

00:39:41.960 of dating podcast by the way tarantino movie

00:39:45.260 oh you don't like any of them no you know what like my family is like that

00:39:50.160 hold on okay hold on you don't like tarantino films i mean i haven't seen all of them i'm not

00:39:55.860 gonna sit here and pretend i have but the ones i've seen no i know what about uh

00:39:59.980 what's the 80s one uh reservoir dogs do you reservoir do you want to like mansplain the movie

00:40:07.760 i'm gonna mansplain i'm gonna mansplain but we got reservoir dogs we have i haven't seen that

00:40:12.440 um we have um inglorious bastards that one is so hard for me to watch

00:40:17.840 is that fear of loathing fear and loathing and las vegas no that's oh no that's not tarantino

00:40:23.940 no that's not tarantino johnny depp was in that that was uh fuck who directed that

00:40:28.160 no that was not tarantino i don't know who i forgot who directed that movie but

00:40:32.360 um there uh jango unchained i've seen that one that's a good one all right all right okay welcome

00:40:41.940 to the whatever film review podcast we have swordless here uh this came in before the show

00:40:47.660 donated 100 dude thank you man have fun and keep it up enjoy the show and don't hold back

00:40:54.140 thank you brother uh he lives overseas so i think he has to send it in uh because it's probably like

00:40:58.920 really late where he is um okay so to finally here i'm gonna pull it crimson's back up here

00:41:04.080 really quick because uh i'll read or conan 19 or i'll just wait conan 19 brian what's wrong with

00:41:10.840 cold weather i live on cape cod massachusetts the bugs traffic and annoying tourists go away

00:41:15.060 snows snow days are great too dude the winters in boston are brutal my friends but if you enjoy it hey

00:41:21.340 uh good for you dude thank and conan i think uh i've seen you before thank you for coming back man

00:41:27.420 appreciate it uh okay let me trigger this again nick you can go ahead and hide that

00:41:31.400 so we can finally address it crimson 1997 donated 100 violet chat ships you and brian would you date

00:41:41.920 him would you ssd p in the v okay would you take him to pound town the bone zone drillville the boone

00:41:50.620 palace would you tap that australian dollars squat thrusts in the cucumber patch some bedroom acrobatics

00:41:58.460 yes

00:42:03.120 this is the third time

00:42:06.260 answered that no but but you gotta understand i keep getting interrupted i keep getting interrupted

00:42:11.700 okay that's three times by the way that you've okay i'm just letting you know three times um

00:42:16.540 you're a very pleasant girl very attractive girl however because you have done porn

00:42:22.940 for that sole reason i would not date you wait i thought that you said you would date a girl who

00:42:30.100 has an of so my previous stance was i would date and i it's i think it's since changed again okay could

00:42:38.100 i be convinced if she's doing like tasteful lingerie stuff maybe so tasteful about it it is artsy when

00:42:47.380 you're doing like lingerie and things generally speaking though i mean if i if i have other options

00:42:54.740 like two girls one has of one doesn't i'm gonna pick the girl who doesn't do other option right

00:43:00.900 exactly and i and i have not dated a girl who does of i've not hooked up with i've not done anything with

00:43:07.040 a girl who has an only fans but so my previous position was well i would date a girl so long as

00:43:12.880 she hasn't done boy girl content that was my previous position people didn't even like that

00:43:17.280 position uh so when i say boy girl like a girl who hasn't had sex on camera with another guy

00:43:23.520 my new position though is pretty much like yeah if only fans even if it's solo content

00:43:30.960 even if it's there's no new i mean i'd have to meet someone pretty amazing but you have done boy

00:43:37.440 girl content are you going to answer my would you rather today i could yeah i forget what it is but

00:43:45.280 um and the thing is violet you're actually a very pleasant person you're very attractive you're five

00:43:51.760 foot you're five feet right yes yeah i like short women so that's good but because you've done adult

00:43:58.960 content i would not date you i'm not saying anything about you seem like a fantastic person but just

00:44:05.680 on that soul metric there's videos of you online on the internet fucking other men

00:44:13.440 i would just i couldn't deal with that in a relationship yeah i understand i mean everyone

00:44:19.680 has their personal preferences i'm not asking anyone to accept me for whatever but um or associate with me

00:44:27.760 but i get it i totally get it having especially because you're kind of an influencer a lot of

00:44:34.160 people know you having your girl out there like hoeing it might be a little stressful

00:44:41.440 not hoeing it but like flashing you know all of that yeah i mean it's just

00:44:48.240 like if if again you're a very pleasant woman you're very attractive however because you have done

00:44:53.840 porn i could not date you even casually i wouldn't even hook up with you i wouldn't even want to have

00:45:00.240 sex with you so my would you rather was would you rather date someone who is has a really high body

00:45:07.840 count but doesn't do sex work or has like a body count of two but does like but does only fans and

00:45:15.120 she's done bg content with other men she has like yeah say her body count is two and then the another

00:45:21.280 girl i see what you're saying 10 or eight they're both they're both undesirable situations but you

00:45:26.080 have to choose one for what for just for the two for the game it's a game you have to continue the

00:45:31.280 human race dialogue yes well the last two i mean the last two humans on earth if she has an only

00:45:37.520 fans but her body counts low i'm gonna tell you i'm probably would take the low body count of

00:45:42.560 girl in that situation if it's the last two people wouldn't you have to do your work and do

00:45:46.880 both of them because you're trying to just get it out there fair point just right yeah and like

00:45:52.080 you need to repopulation comes in so i guess out of the goodness of my heart yeah i will begrudgingly

00:46:00.400 have sex with a hundred body count woman and because i'm a out of the niceness of my heart i would like

00:46:07.360 to repopulate the world so yes i'm sure i get it but okay of the two like the only fans girl with

00:46:13.840 a low body count versus what what's the body count two versus a hundred type of thing oh i was saying

00:46:18.800 like two versus fifteen oh two yeah isn't 15 wait what's a high body count because i really don't

00:46:25.200 know it's getting up there yeah i thought that would be i mean past like that's a tough one not

00:46:30.000 not gonna lie well only fans it doesn't stay in the past you know what's that i mean if you have only

00:46:35.920 fans like pornography doesn't stay in your past because it's gonna live on the internet yeah it's forever

00:46:41.760 yeah and they're otherwise in terms of their physical appearance and their um personality

00:46:49.280 they're comparable these two options oh what about this option oh god she she um all she has to do is

00:46:57.440 take a scan of her body huh and she can make millions you know because they'll they'll make her

00:47:02.560 fuck anything or you know porn everywhere but all she has to do is take a scan and it's ai porn would you

00:47:09.360 be with a girl that did that that did that had an ai version of herself yeah making point there are

00:47:18.480 already girls with i know it's coming like yeah generated yeah yeah like there's a lot of like

00:47:24.640 it's kind of kitty right not i didn't mean kitty but like play around you know like they're playing

00:47:29.360 around with just funny ai porn memes and things like that but it's going in that direction you feel

00:47:36.240 so wait what would i date would i just date a girl who would even associated with it like that

00:47:45.440 well when compared to better options in other words a woman who has done absolutely no kind of sex

00:47:54.480 work only fans anything and i could date a woman who doesn't have that kind of presence on the internet

00:48:00.960 absolutely i would much rather date a woman who doesn't have that presence on the internet

00:48:06.000 but so your question is would i date a woman who's done that no of the ai thing yeah no okay yeah have

00:48:12.720 you seen that there's this black mirror episode i don't know if you guys watched the new season

00:48:17.360 where she sold her rights to they made it was called joan is awful yeah yeah i don't know if anybody in

00:48:26.400 the chat saw that what did you think of that episode i keep asking that what you think of

00:48:31.680 episodes in movies um it was cool i guess it was okay i thought it went off the rails a little bit

00:48:39.360 it was interesting but it wasn't interesting i mean that the older seasons were much better they

00:48:44.480 definitely were yeah san junipero san junipero that's my favorite was pretty bomb that was my favorite one

00:48:50.240 yeah um i liked the most recent the one sorry the sorry chat that were have you guys seen black

00:48:56.240 mirror the the interesting one was the when they were on the spaceship with uh what's that guy from

00:49:00.720 baking bad i like that one uh i don't know his name but he looks like a little matt damon or something

00:49:05.920 grid one motorsports donated 100 here we go lingerie models nurses girls named tiffany and flight

00:49:14.080 attendants are at best good for now girls men keep in the fun zone they are fun but you might get

00:49:20.160 your car keyed or tires slashed corn stars strippers and models are in the no zone

00:49:28.160 what does he have against tiffany's and corn stars tiffany tiffany is kind of a red flag not gonna lie

00:49:34.400 um flight attendants made big red flag yeah huge i used to want to be a flight attendant i thought that

00:49:39.840 would be a really cool way to travel word but you're really just kind of on a plane but uh i

00:49:46.160 don't know did i thoroughly we we should ask the chat so the question was what would you rather okay

00:49:52.720 chat one in the chat if you would rather date a girl who's done only fans and she's done bg boy girl

00:50:00.800 content so she's shot with men there's videos of her having sex with men on the internet but she only has

00:50:06.640 a body count of one or would you date two in the chat if you'd rather date a woman who has a body

00:50:12.000 count of 20 who doesn't have that on the internet someone said wtf why is she only in a bra dude i

00:50:21.760 was wondering the same thing i feel uncomfortable but nobody wanted to mention it i was like

00:50:27.040 is this just okay to wear underwear in public now i saw another person doing that on the street earlier

00:50:32.320 today no but i'm definitely promoting on here so i gotta spice it up a bit it's for promotion

00:50:40.400 there's like a mix it's not like a family event it was aaron paul okay some guys seem to they

00:50:45.760 prefer the higher body count um yeah it's a tough one it's a tough one okay let's move on

00:50:51.600 uh i think i thoroughly uh we were in the circle address address it uh yes we were doing relationship

00:50:59.280 status i think we kind of covered you but let's let's go move on what about you um i have never

00:51:04.800 been in a relationship before okay nor do i really plan on it um just because i have a plan for myself

00:51:10.720 in life sure and as much as um i want a relationship it's just like i like to put myself first um i like

00:51:18.160 to just go with the flow of life and you know if i find some guy along the way awesome but i'm not

00:51:24.000 gonna like force myself to try and be in a relationship okay because then it kind of just

00:51:27.920 like puts my goals down um and i think i'm like important because you know there's only like one of

00:51:34.880 me so wait you think you're important yeah like only one of you what do you mean um in a sense of

00:51:41.600 not just draining myself in like a relationship that just doesn't work i want to find someone who

00:51:46.880 like pushes me towards my goals and like we are on the same path towards like i don't know if i meet

00:51:53.680 someone in medical school it's like oh he's going to medical school too like then it ends up working

00:51:57.840 out but if i meet someone now i know that i'm not going to stay in santa barbara because my parents

00:52:02.000 live in south carolina so i'll probably end up going to south carolina but if i have someone down here

00:52:06.080 it just makes it like really hard so okay so you're not no nothing with guys not really no i mean like

00:52:14.560 i'll i'm not against it like i'll i'll talk to guys like i go to parties and stuff like and if there's

00:52:21.120 guys there i'm like hey and i'm just super honest about it that um i'm just i put myself first and

00:52:28.000 that's kind of it you put okay you said that you don't see yourself in a relationship ever no not

00:52:37.920 ever just um you know it happens when it happens like like you're not looking for it no it'll just

00:52:46.000 come to me you want it to be natural yeah do you have like a age or anything you want to start

00:52:51.040 looking um i don't really care i think like there's a plan for everything in life and you know

00:52:56.160 it'll happen when it happens so i'm not going to rush it i'm not going to force it because then it's

00:53:00.560 just going to be like harder for me so the right guy will come along and then that's a cool way to look

00:53:06.560 at it yeah okay um shit so but do you oh do you want kids yeah you want kids i do want kids yeah do

00:53:16.320 you know by what time 30 35 um i just want to be set in life before i have kids because you know like

00:53:24.240 i was talking about like being an er doctor and that takes 11 years of schooling so probably once i

00:53:30.480 like finish my medical school and stuff um okay so i hope by like 30 once i'm a little established

00:53:38.800 and like i have i can support them is that when you want to be married or when you want to start

00:53:44.720 having children um like i said i don't really i can't see in the future so you know when it happens

00:53:51.840 it happens um and you know what i might not even have kids and i might end up like adopting and like

00:53:57.680 like those are my kids but okay so you're open to adopt yeah yeah no like i'm okay fostering like

00:54:05.600 any of that like i want kids but um it doesn't they don't have to be biological they can just but

00:54:11.680 they're okay yeah but so so but you would also be okay having your own kids yes yeah do you have a

00:54:20.640 preference or like what do you mean how many well sure but also i mean would you prefer to have your

00:54:27.360 own biological kids versus adoption um i mean it really doesn't matter because i mean adopting

00:54:33.120 those kids need a home and you know like sure but i mean it does if your interest is in adoption it

00:54:38.880 does shrink your potential dating pool because that's a potential partner who does want to have kids

00:54:46.080 most people i would say want to have by a lot like their own kids yeah and that's fine i'm not

00:54:50.640 saying there's anything wrong that's yeah it does continue to shrink your potential uh pool of

00:54:56.000 dating options if you want to adopt yeah and i mean that's okay that's their own like personal

00:55:02.080 opinion um that's why i hope to find someone who's open to anything sure um like because my nickname is

00:55:08.480 10 second sammy because i'm like always down for anything like i'm 10 second sammy yeah it's 10 second

00:55:14.480 sammy i'm like i'm down for honestly like anything i'm super cool and you know i'm a very open person

00:55:21.280 like open-minded and stuff i'm open understanding any opinions and i just hope i find a partner like

00:55:26.160 that so you know we might have biological kids and maybe we'll end up adopting it just really depends on

00:55:32.880 the future which i can't see into okay got it um before we have you uh share your uh relationship

00:55:40.480 status i just need to get these chats before they disappear we have not a simp though thank you man

00:55:46.560 appreciate it w violet the only of girl who i would marry i love you violet there you have it

00:55:57.200 all right we have trenton kingsley

00:56:02.720 violet you're great but why don't you put on some clothes i'm waiting for it to get colder and then i'll

00:56:08.080 put on this flannel it's gonna get colder right quick turn on the ac yeah mary's dying i've never

00:56:14.080 seen a nipple around here it's just so sad i might need everyone's got them and you just don't need to

00:56:19.760 show them to everyone that reminds me who cares that reminds me of that scene from meet the parents where

00:56:29.040 um greg and i forgot robert de niro's character they're talking about milking a cat

00:56:35.840 and and the father was like well i have nipples can you milk me i don't know why that popped up

00:56:44.800 he reminds me of my grandpa so much de niro yes i love him okay grandpa vibes are you italian

00:56:52.960 no i i mean i'm half italian half mexican but the grandpa i'm talking about is mexican yeah and

00:56:58.000 robert de niro okay got it all right just the talking and uh we have hector rodriguez i think

00:57:04.800 this is directed towards sammy so sammy if you have a response cats going to be her best friends

00:57:10.560 later in life do you have a response to the cat accusation that's okay you know if my life plan

00:57:17.760 is being alone with cats that is what it is at least i'm a fucking rich-ass doctor like you know like

00:57:24.800 okay if i my life ends up better at being alone then that's how it works out okay got it i love that

00:57:32.880 attitude thank you so what about you um i'm also single and i've been single my whole life single

00:57:41.040 whole life um boyfriend or anything at any point situate any situationships for sure what's the

00:57:48.800 what's the longest period of time that you've been talking not a long time not how long a month

00:57:55.120 one month maybe a couple months couple months okay um i mean you're 18 yeah some people are just

00:58:04.960 getting started on the romance front um do you have a roster a roster no i don't i i mean i snap

00:58:14.400 people but i don't really consider that my roster snap people what do you mean like just like snap back

00:58:19.440 and forth like no i know that but yeah um not talking to anyone so i i feel like if you're kind

00:58:25.280 of like talking you know it then they're considered on the roster and like my mind but yeah no one on

00:58:32.720 no one gotcha well so you three you do you guys all live here in ivy or just in santa barbara i live

00:58:40.320 in santa barbara we live in the same apartment gotcha what do you guys think of the guys in santa

00:58:44.880 barbara sbcc utsb yay nay honestly i don't know yeah be honest yeah super honest i was planning on

00:58:54.720 being honest love it um i well obviously santa barbara is known for being a big party school yeah

00:59:00.640 and um i honestly don't think it's that like there's a lot of parties but they all end at midnight um

00:59:08.480 um i feel like it's not as chaotic as they make it seem if that makes any sense yeah obviously if

00:59:14.880 you find k like you can find chaos anywhere if you're like doing that but how are the guys

00:59:22.160 the guys are mid so the guys are mid mid you mean mid in terms of their physical appearance

00:59:28.800 yeah because i'm not gonna go up and like talk to every single guy that i see the guys are mid yeah

00:59:34.160 here yeah but then i mean i feel like everybody has high expectations for strangers you know sure

00:59:41.760 like you oh yeah you just want to find attractive strangers so like of the guys that you see you go

00:59:47.680 to santa barbara city college right yeah and i think maddie i don't know if you know is it what

00:59:51.920 10 000 20 000 students i have no idea probably in the middle i think it's like 11 000 okay what percent

00:59:59.520 of the guys that when you're at the campus at santa barbara city college what percent of the guys

01:00:04.480 would you say you think you find attractive i can't even say that because i just go to class and

01:00:11.680 then i go back home i live across the street i don't roam around campus that much but i mean you

01:00:18.160 you have classes i assume there's yeah classes are you taking four yeah um like okay let's say from like

01:00:24.080 all the people in my classes i would say i only find like three guys attractive are you in any lecture

01:00:28.720 halls like 200 300 no i feel like lecture halls at the city college are like maybe 60 there's some

01:00:35.680 big ones i'm pretty sure yeah well i mean they're not really that big yeah oh uh well when i went there

01:00:41.120 there was in any case um there's okay well uh what i mean but even just walking from class right

01:00:50.080 yeah so okay you have how many there's you probably have like a hundred other students in all your

01:00:57.280 classes maybe 50 of them are guys i mean you really have to like look for attractive guys you know

01:01:03.920 it's not like you just bump into them okay yeah but then maybe that's how guys feel about you're

01:01:09.520 walking through campus you're going from do you cross the bridge at all i don't even cross the bridge

01:01:15.280 because i don't have you're just on east campus or west campus or yeah okay on one side so i mean

01:01:20.800 and honestly i think it's because i grew up in la and in la there's such a big diversity that it's

01:01:28.240 like here diversity as in like a lot of different ethnicities and here in santa barbara i think we

01:01:35.200 do lack diversity a little i noticed that driving in here and i like drove around the school it's like

01:01:41.440 it's like not a lot of other so you don't want to date white men i don't have anything against white

01:01:47.920 guys i just like in the past i haven't dated white guys and then interest yeah and it's type

01:01:56.160 well if my roommate was back in the room should be like wait can you scoot your mic that way because

01:02:00.480 you're kind of getting no no no scoot it that way um pull it closer to you because it's yeah yeah

01:02:08.400 so um yeah i would say my roommate would say that i don't have a type

01:02:14.240 and i don't think i have a type it's not like i have anything against white guys i just feel like

01:02:20.240 white guys do tend to go for white girls more are you not you're i'm not white you're definitely

01:02:26.800 white though because everyone in this room thought you were white so yeah yeah so what do you i hate

01:02:33.920 to break it to you because you don't have as many oppression points but you like you're white

01:02:37.440 like my race is white but my ethnicity i'm hispanic both of my parents were born and raised in mexico

01:02:44.560 but there's white mexicans yeah so you're white though you have blue eyes and what we're saying

01:02:50.960 fair skin yeah like skin skin color like my race is white but my city isn't you can be like on the

01:02:59.440 when you feel something out you can be white but also be latino i think yeah so like my race my race

01:03:06.960 is white my ethnicity is hispanic or latina like when you go to like mexico and south america you'll

01:03:13.920 see very white people yeah there's white people in mexico like but a lot of people don't think it's like

01:03:19.200 that like when people when i tell people oh like i'm mexican they're like what but speak spanish like

01:03:26.240 i'm i'm a bit confused because there's actually a hold on we'll come back to that all right um

01:03:31.600 motorsports donated 100 k-serious q assuming you avoid cat lady status and a man deems you

01:03:39.360 worthy what do you offer a man other than the obvious sex and are you faithful enough to not

01:03:44.480 cheat on a man that is away working for days or weeks who's this directed to that's towards me

01:03:51.360 because it says cat lady okay but i'm not comfortable answering that so i'm just gonna

01:03:57.120 say you can think what you want to think okay i'm not even sure what the question is i don't

01:04:03.680 i don't really understand but is it the infamous question like what do you bring to the team yeah

01:04:08.080 like what do you bring to the table okay i think like i mean it's a little bit of a loaded question

01:04:12.480 though right yeah um i don't a little bit just like you could say it's a super building herself

01:04:18.960 up to be the person like i'm only 18 i i don't have my life planned out for me like i'm sorry that

01:04:24.080 what i said was controversial that's but it's all good it might change too you know i have a life ahead

01:04:29.440 of me it'll change and stuff is gonna work its way out i literally just turned an adult like five

01:04:36.640 months ago i'm not gonna have everything figured out so you can think i'm an old cat lady or i'm gonna be

01:04:42.240 an old cat lady but that's your own opinion i think he likes you oh wait hi

01:04:48.800 wait what's up are you into uh racing cars at all by chance i would go to see a car race grid one oh

01:04:58.480 my god she does like car guys though oh okay okay grid one not really grid one she does i'm more into

01:05:06.640 hockey guys hockey guys hockey guys they're yeah they're hot wait this is hockey dudes are hot what

01:05:12.880 do you tell like what their teeth are guys like when they're passing by in a car that you think is

01:05:18.480 attractive what do you scream there we go you cat call guys not really oh my god okay okay okay i'll

01:05:25.760 tell you can i go on a little story time because this is a little bit of a rant okay so when we're

01:05:32.320 bored don't i'm not i'm not dumping this is a little story time because one night like me and my roommates

01:05:38.880 were really bored i don't know if you were here for this but my friend was driving her car and they

01:05:44.000 were just rolling down the windows and they were cat calling i was in the front seat and at one point

01:05:48.800 we were driving down and the girl she rolled down the window and goes break up with your girlfriend

01:05:54.720 i unbuckled my seat belt and i hid it because that was me i said that oh my god it scared me so

01:06:00.400 bad he was like he was like fuck you and started running after the car running i pulled my seat back

01:06:05.600 i got under the dashboard i was not for it like i was not i'm not a confrontational person so as soon

01:06:11.440 as he started like coming after us i got under the seat i was hiding so no i don't cat call just

01:06:17.280 just to stop that okay what did he do when he got to the car well he didn't get to us because

01:06:22.400 we drove away oh no no no we didn't no he didn't get to us wait just just so you you said to the

01:06:28.320 no no she said it she said she rolled out this couple this couple arguing um in ivy it was late

01:06:34.320 at night and um the girl looked really miserable and i was like just break up with your boyfriend

01:06:39.520 already and then the guy just started running after the car i thought i was doing her a favor

01:06:43.120 were there guys in the car or was it no it was just all flirt with the guys no no no no no no oh

01:06:49.840 yeah no no i was just telling the girl to break up with the guy yeah no and then i hit

01:06:55.360 i hit i did i guess that i was very anxious i did not like that but you like car guys or no i don't

01:07:02.800 really know where you got that from car hold on we got another one here one motorsports donated

01:07:08.160 100 it was actually for the panel the left side seems to be completely scuffed i am an old married

01:07:15.840 dude so no not i'm sorry it's okay sorry i hope you're happy in your marriage i hope all the best

01:07:23.360 for you gsr id one motorsports so grid one motorsports he's asking what everybody brings to

01:07:30.560 the table uh grid we'll come back to that a little later on the show i'm going to write it down

01:07:34.880 to ask everyone what they bring to the table wait i want to ask you first before we answer that

01:07:43.040 question what do you think women should bring to the table let let's come back to that just because

01:07:49.600 i've been wanting an answer what we will come back to that but we've we have a couple other

01:07:53.920 conversational threads we need to get to and i do want to get everybody's relationship status

01:07:58.480 so grid uh we will come back to that and mary just ask that question again and i'll come to it

01:08:03.040 i do wanted to wrap up our thread on you don't like dating white guys or no it's not that i don't

01:08:12.480 like dating them i just feel like white guys tend to stick to white girls and you are white so but

01:08:19.520 they don't like they look at me they look at me definitely look at you and they see you as white

01:08:27.200 they look at me and they're like oh like you're you're probably mixed like you're not just white

01:08:31.360 no one thinks that she's a vanilla bean i think they're intimidated by you she's a bad

01:08:36.400 bitch yeah they might be but they definitely don't think that you're mixed well they've told me this

01:08:41.840 like multiple white guys have told me this multiple white guys have said multiple white

01:08:47.520 guys i can't vouch for that yeah i can vouch for that what have they said specifically specifically

01:08:53.120 i could tell that you're mixed you're not just white like there's something different is this

01:08:57.600 before wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait okay hold on i'll wait repeat that again

01:09:04.080 that i could tell that you're mixed you're not just white okay they may have said that but did the

01:09:10.960 did they follow that up by saying i'm not going to date you because of that i doubt that yeah they

01:09:18.080 might have made the observation no no they didn't say that but i could see like that's the observation

01:09:24.080 that is made but so you're kind of just assuming that they're not interested in you because you're

01:09:30.080 mixed race when you're not actually mixed race and nobody looks at you thinks that you are yeah i guess

01:09:36.480 so well just because someone makes an observation for example you're an asian woman if i opted not

01:09:44.400 like just because i've observed that somebody is i mean i'm honestly getting a little confused by

01:09:51.120 this myself if you make an observation about somebody in a casual conversation oh if i were to

01:09:56.880 ask are you uh korean are you vietnamese are you chinese what i'm korean korean okay

01:10:01.760 unless unless i explicitly state yeah i don't okay korean women to be fair i did have a specific

01:10:10.480 interaction with a guy where he was like where he was like to be honest i just really like like dumb

01:10:18.480 blonde bitches and i'm like oh okay okay and then he's like and i'm pretty sure this is so

01:10:25.040 stereotypical but he was like since you're mexican because you just said that you probably know how to

01:10:29.520 cook and clean and i just don't think that's wifey material that's wait wait hold on he thinks

01:10:36.400 it's not wifey material that you cook and clean that's a little confused what do i know this

01:10:41.920 i thought i'm so funny this guy sounds like a kid how old is he yeah i don't know it was a guy at a

01:10:52.240 frat party yeah they are probably just young are you sure at shark no well it was a guy at a frat

01:10:58.400 party i don't know there you go yeah that that gave me a headache i know um but okay you think that

01:11:07.680 white guys here in santa barbara don't date because i would actually argue men and actually white men are

01:11:16.000 much more likely to date outside of their race than the reverse um i guess so i mean i don't know

01:11:25.120 it's hard to put it in a nutshell to be honest like it's hard to just say that all white guys are the

01:11:30.640 same i think the only cohort of women that perhaps dates outside their race more so than the other races

01:11:39.200 when it comes to women is asian women otherwise i would argue that white men are much more likely to

01:11:45.360 dates outside their race yeah so i don't i'm a little confused i went to an all-white high school

01:11:53.920 and like nobody was wanted to date me pretty much but but okay just because there is some discrepancy or

01:12:03.440 just because something is happening for example in your case it's not because of your race or your

01:12:11.280 ethnicity you you would need to have some linking no there's links there were links um well i'm half

01:12:18.160 persian so i had like people used to say like the most racist ignorant things but i and here's the other

01:12:27.440 thing though i think people are entitled to have their own preferences like so if you have if you prefer

01:12:32.960 to date white women or you prefer to date asian women or you like latina women that's cool like

01:12:38.960 women women have those same preferences too you ask a lot of women oh i prefer to date so and so like

01:12:44.080 this race i agree and i wouldn't generalize like oh all white guys don't like yeah but it's here's

01:12:50.080 the thing though it's only wrong when white people do it when white people have a preference if white

01:12:57.360 people have a racial preference when it comes to dating that's wrong but it's not wrong for example if

01:13:02.160 um another race especially you think so yeah i don't see it that way but i do hear i think

01:13:09.440 everybody has i i i have heard black men getting flack from black women for dating outside their race

01:13:15.280 i've heard that too i've heard that it's all sides from what i see

01:13:21.760 yeah wait okay so i'm just i'm still trying to wrap my head around this okay so you primarily do you

01:13:27.840 primarily date like latina latino men black guys what are we talking about um my roommates and i

01:13:32.880 have come to the conclusion that i don't have a type that's true oh yeah yeah yeah you do you want

01:13:39.760 to tally it up for us tally it up like i mean i well i went to mostly hispanic high school so i

01:13:46.480 would say most of the guys that i've talked to slash dated are hispanic because that's the majority

01:13:51.440 growing up but santa barbara's not diverse i yeah i think do you guys think it's diverse i think it's

01:13:57.840 pretty i think it's diverse really at least like from what i've experienced well not compared to the

01:14:02.880 rest of southern california yeah definitely yeah is everybody here from california or like yeah oh yeah

01:14:10.880 i mean it depends what kind of diversity we're talking about here but i mean i would say we have a

01:14:16.000 substantial latino population here in santa barbara um we have i granted i think we have a pretty

01:14:22.560 minor uh at least locally i don't know what the case is for the colleges i think the colleges is a

01:14:28.400 bit more but locally i don't think there's a very large black population but um a lot i think a pretty high

01:14:36.160 uh latino population in santa barbara so um we also have a bunch of people coming from like out

01:14:42.400 of the states too to study abroad so i feel like that's but so far you haven't dated any white dudes

01:14:51.120 yeah one one just one okay yeah cool he's nice yeah and he's from alaska yeah is he uh

01:15:03.920 is he what yeah in the room with us right now in spirit i guess in spirit wait isn't he back in

01:15:10.160 alaska yeah he's in alaska right now and so i want to go around the table on this you said

01:15:16.160 that in all your classes you've only seen like three guys who you think are attractive yeah okay

01:15:21.920 got it um what about just are you on dating apps by chance no no dating i don't i don't want to get

01:15:28.560 there don't want to get there they said yes to both they both said they're on dating apps okay i don't

01:15:34.240 know i just feel like you really don't need to be on dating apps to get to know people like

01:15:38.800 if you're social enough and really try to put yourself out there like you'll find guys to talk

01:15:43.360 to well especially in college i think especially in college yeah you have a abundance of uh ways to

01:15:49.760 connect with people while you're in college um so sammy why are you on dating apps if you're not

01:15:56.720 interested in um i think the first time i downloaded hinge was because i needed math homework help

01:16:02.000 i'm not even kidding what like i'm genuinely silly i know i'm not even kidding i could not

01:16:08.480 work it did not and then i deleted it or something no i know i said download check or something no it's

01:16:17.040 okay i just i go to the math lab now i decided to actually like so you're you're not on not right

01:16:23.200 now i did i was for like i think a month when i moved down here but then i was like

01:16:27.200 like you know it's so much easier the personal on and off thing with you though yeah the personal

01:16:32.080 interaction i feel like is a lot easier for me because i'm a very outgoing person yeah so yeah

01:16:38.640 so okay you said you only see most of the guys that you see you're not attracted to you've seen

01:16:44.000 three guys on campus is that like just in your class total you've only seen like three attractive

01:16:49.840 guys yeah in my class okay we'll come back to that energy donated 99 dollars

01:16:54.880 ghost girl brian and ghost girl just because she looks white doesn't mean she is white i mean

01:17:00.800 everyone around you interacts with you thinking that you are a white person in what meaningful

01:17:07.040 way are you not like who's hashtag not pale hashtag free nick number eight um but like when i'm around

01:17:13.360 white people my whole life they were like oh you're a cute little mexican girl and then when i get

01:17:17.840 around mexicans they're like oh you're so white i thought you were white too that's yeah no that's true

01:17:22.880 really that's how i might be looking more white these days but i think in my childhood i probably

01:17:28.480 looked a little more well i guess it's what is the definition don't they say it's a social construct

01:17:32.960 anyway isn't it the social i don't know don't they say that i don't know listen to the experts

01:17:39.120 is this is this the stream where mary reveals she's actually guatemalan no no okay sorry to break it

01:17:48.080 to you um there you have it folks i didn't much european but isn't it the case that there are white

01:17:54.240 hispanics yeah white am i am i wrong i could be wrong i don't know but i feel like there's white

01:17:59.120 in every what's up race i mean every um word country so my question is for everybody here at

01:18:04.720 the panel um either on dating apps or just as you're going about your day those of you who are currently in

01:18:10.000 college and if you want to break it down into those categories feel free what percentage of men do you

01:18:15.840 find attractive we'll start with you violet we'll just go around the table go ahead

01:18:22.080 what percentage of men is like from 35 to 55. wait what you find all men in that age cohort

01:18:31.520 attractive hold on the offender donated no thank you brother good to see you in the chat have you

01:18:36.640 ever dated a guy you thought was white but was mixed race instead

01:18:42.480 um no i don't think so did you see that guy behind you would you date him oh my god

01:18:50.000 is this is this like a actual person because it looks like a fake person it's a real person but

01:18:54.960 ai person right yo rips in the chat for ziz please please rips and he unfortunately passed away

01:19:00.640 a couple years ago so we we have that there is a vigil yeah rips in the chat for ziz please we

01:19:07.360 have that there is a vigil but would you date him is that

01:19:12.640 no he looks a little scary it might be just because like the way the picture is i feel like

01:19:18.240 he needs to be on the table he needs his moment his eyes are intense no yeah a really intense stare

01:19:25.040 okay um go ahead

01:19:32.400 oh yeah so percentage of 35 to 55 like that's probably my main group that i can find a lot

01:19:38.240 of men attractive in there's some bums to weed out it's so it's all all because of age making sure we're

01:19:44.080 not in we're good um no it's good you're fine you're fine okay

01:19:51.120 okay okay you're walking around the street you're you're at a party you're at a club wherever

01:19:58.560 what percentage generally speaking what percentage of men do you find attractive

01:20:02.880 are you on dating apps i just got back allowed on tinder somehow okay allowed yeah because there's a

01:20:10.320 lot of fakes of me and they'll make tinders and yeah oh my god but i would say 75 men of men of like

01:20:19.280 normal men stop the cow so you think you you think 75 men are attractive like if you're not uh

01:20:28.480 diagnosed mentally ill i would say you're normal okay right so you're you find 75 of men attractive

01:20:38.240 so like the homeless guy like on the corner he's not interested probably my mentally ill yeah

01:20:44.560 so are we locking that in is your answer you find 75 of men attractive yes this is her only fans

01:20:53.840 procurement answer but you're a fucking liar you're a fucking what about you do you mean like on the

01:20:59.360 dating apps or just in general you can like you can break it down however you'd like okay um this

01:21:04.960 percent on dating apps this percent just out in the real world go ahead i would say five percent on dating

01:21:12.960 apps and i think it's a higher percentage in the real world like maybe 15 20 15 to 20 yeah okay

01:21:23.360 what about you do you want to break it down to a percentage i'll just say social media because i'm

01:21:28.400 not on dating apps so on social media yeah i think it's harder well there's a lot of catfishes even for

01:21:36.240 guys are you talking about guys who are dming you um because when you say social media are you talking

01:21:41.840 about instagram yeah there's just that's your dating pool is no i'm just saying that there is

01:21:46.800 like random people that just dm me sometimes sure okay and most of the time no those are never

01:21:53.040 attractive the ones how many how many dms do you get in a week would you say in a week no i'm talking

01:22:00.240 about like maybe once or twice a month like it's not that frequent because um my instagram is private

01:22:06.080 so i don't right i don't have lurkers or anything okay yeah so of the how many men have dm'd you 10

01:22:12.960 20 30 40 i can't keep track but we said it's only one to two months so yeah and i've had instagram for

01:22:18.960 like i don't know six years so since high school let's say maybe like 50 guys at most okay yeah most

01:22:28.160 of them i'm hoping they're also high school boys no they're actually most of them are like sugar daddies

01:22:33.360 like fake sugar daddies like okay that's just weird yeah um so okay none none of the guys who

01:22:39.520 dm you on instagram you find attractive no what about just out in person walking around you party

01:22:44.000 right don't you party yeah so like when you go out to ivy you're going to a party yeah there's a ton

01:22:49.120 of people walking around what percentage of the guys that you just see would you say that you'll put

01:22:54.960 it this way it's not like i randomly like bump into it for into attractive people like i have to look

01:23:00.640 around but i'm not saying i'm not saying these are even people that you talk to i'm just saying

01:23:05.760 like you're walking attractive people are walking by maybe 20 of all guys i think they're attractive

01:23:11.280 i'm not sure women even think this way that they're like evaluating yeah i don't think it's

01:23:16.880 a percentage as much as men are evaluating women's attractiveness oh they're definitely evaluating

01:23:21.680 men on a physical attractiveness like rating interactions but just strangers walking by i just

01:23:27.280 well i can remember a woman's face a lot easier than i can remember a man's face

01:23:32.400 because like women stand out more to me than although i'm very attracted to men women are

01:23:39.600 obviously the more like stand out no i'm not okay cool

01:23:49.200 i don't think i'm like in my head rating someone from like one to ten but i i think i'm like admiring

01:23:55.120 their features like if i'm talking to someone i'm sure okay here let's keep this moving go ahead what

01:24:00.480 about you um i would say like 40 but then there's that 10 that like aren't bad looking and then i end

01:24:09.200 up like falling from because i'm kind of a personality person like their personality makes for it in their

01:24:14.640 looks sure and then i'll be like okay this person's actually really cute because they're like really nice

01:24:19.360 but you wouldn't get that off of first glance if that makes sense sure okay what about you um

01:24:25.520 i don't know i don't really think i have a percentage like i grew up in a really small town

01:24:29.520 so like coming here it's kind of like a culture shock well you're on dating apps right yeah but i

01:24:33.520 don't really use it like you've been on it though i've been on it but i just for fun though just for

01:24:37.760 fun like a little game but i don't like it's just it's completely different here and like okay yeah

01:24:43.600 yeah so but you you go out to ivy and party yeah i mean yeah i have a social life so like i need a

01:24:49.920 lot of college you on campus you see guys i assume there's guys in your class like what if you just

01:24:57.040 had to assign like a percentage what percentage of men do you think are attractive um like i would

01:25:03.840 say 40 percent like i would say the same with her yeah 40 percent yeah all right i don't know it's

01:25:08.800 like sorry i'm so sorry it's just it's different here because like this campus is so big and like

01:25:14.960 my classes are so much bigger than they were in like my hometown sure so it's like i don't know it's

01:25:20.640 like a broader group of people and like i'm just used to like the same people you know growing up so

01:25:26.160 what about you i don't think i really have a percentage either because to tell you guys the truth

01:25:30.720 i feel like i don't really go out in the real real world enough to really answer that

01:25:35.920 like i don't are you just a hermit kind of based um so and we haven't quite yet got into your

01:25:45.440 relationship status but um you when you say you don't go out into the world like on the you don't

01:25:51.200 go to bars or clubs or anything like that not really i mean a couple times but like i wouldn't go

01:25:56.720 alone for sure and i it'd have to be like a group of like girlfriends you're just like friends yeah yeah

01:26:01.760 okay um but you're you're currently in college right yeah are you doing your uh what's it called

01:26:11.440 postgraduate no i'm still an undergrad yeah because the thing is um i've taken a few years like on and

01:26:17.120 off between but i i am trying to you know graduate and get my degree okay uh so when you've been on

01:26:25.120 campus you know i'm sure there's guys in your classes you see guys walking around that are around

01:26:30.320 your age well maybe maybe i don't know about that but uh um i haven't paid attention to that

01:26:40.720 that's not what i think about have you been on dating apps at all no no no okay uh do you want

01:26:45.280 to just throw out a percentage out there like of the men that you do see in any context i mean maybe

01:26:50.000 based off of tv shows pretty much all of them are attractive you know because they're actors

01:26:54.080 on tv shows i watch tv shows and i see guys through tv and i think they're all attractive for the most

01:27:01.200 part but i mean you see people in real life i assume right like your classes at all do you think brian

01:27:08.160 is attractive whoa okay okay i've seen your i've seen your like i've seen old photos of you from like

01:27:15.120 maybe 2014. oh i'm sorry i've seen old photos of you from like 2014. there we go okay good and

01:27:24.000 maybe back back then i would have considered you attractive because you didn't have a lot of facial

01:27:27.280 hair but probably not now because of the facial hair yeah i'm not a big fan of beards so maybe okay

01:27:34.480 here scroll down scroll down we'll pull it up uh these scroll down

01:27:38.800 yeah uh these are these are older look yeah i like the clean look what about let's pull up the

01:27:47.680 Lewandowski one the soccer one you did remind me of robert Lewandowski some kid came at me to sign

01:27:54.800 his cleat when i was pretending to be robert Lewandowski um all right so you prefer the soccer

01:28:00.720 look for sure it's like yeah why also i'm i stress eat so i've gained like 20 or 30 pounds so i have a

01:28:06.880 a dad bod right now so my cheeks are chubby so i also love dad bods so okay violet she's just

01:28:15.360 beard she's really trying to get at you contain yourself do you sometimes use the beard as a contour

01:28:22.080 for the face like if they gain weight yes i'm calling i'm trying to yes i am trying to hide my

01:28:29.200 triple chin okay um so okay what wait why are you asking i don't know how that came about i don't know

01:28:36.080 either you're you're asking her if she thought kind of an average like guy like you if you think

01:28:42.240 you're attractive you'll think 75 of the men are attractive right well i'm average looking i do take

01:28:47.840 age into factors so preferably closer to my age haram okay how old are you 34 34 yeah i'm a boomer

01:28:57.280 basically actually millennial but whatever who's keeping track um okay so did you give a percentage

01:29:03.760 image okay i'll say like majority of men are attractive majority unless they have a beard

01:29:11.280 it's all good uh mary what about you what about you it's all good i cannot quantify this i don't know

01:29:16.560 um i think i have blinders on because i'm in a relationship and i don't really care what people

01:29:23.040 look like even before i was in a relationship i was not scanning around in public for potential suitors

01:29:31.760 uh i just don't think about men at that much besides your boyfriend yeah but also before i

01:29:39.840 was in a relationship i just did not think about men that much how did you meet your boyfriend it's

01:29:46.000 too bad she doesn't i don't want to say how i met him well if you don't think about men it's very

01:29:50.800 upsetting then i was just like she doesn't like i'm not like i'm very upset okay like i'm not being

01:29:56.640 men i was just genuinely curious but don't worry about it okay here let's um i don't know i think

01:30:02.800 that attractiveness is like mostly personality when it comes to men do you have desires for men

01:30:07.600 though like you you desire to have a man around right she's got boyfriends yeah and you like having

01:30:14.160 it's not just a man like it can't be any man there's a particular but before you had your particular

01:30:21.840 man did you have desires for me had a particular man oh and to answer the relationship status

01:30:29.440 question i'm in my first relationship right now uh which is obviously the longest one so

01:30:35.920 about a year word okay let me finish on the numerical thing maddie what percentage of men

01:30:41.760 would you find attractive if you were single if i was single not gonna i'm probably like

01:30:47.360 for frankie probably like 10 to 20. okay so you said on dating apps you only find five

01:30:54.080 percent of men attractive because men i mean sometimes people don't take the best pictures

01:31:01.680 or it's like the pictures they post it's like them holding a fish or like something what's wrong

01:31:06.400 with that what's wrong with the fish they're trying to show you that they can provide talent

01:31:10.400 they can hunt it's a thing it's like so i would say like it's primal yeah and an excuse to put a

01:31:17.280 shirtless pic on your profile it's actually so hot to me when men are bad at social media like they

01:31:22.480 have no socials they're just like you know yeah their one picture is like them near a fish because

01:31:29.040 they caught their fish i think that's so hot right i think you're holding like your cat that's kind of

01:31:34.720 cute like when the tick tock guys go ahead like when tick tock guys are doing the videos that a

01:31:43.120 lot of girls do and then you see a guy do it and i'm like oh yeah yeah based violet okay um

01:31:57.040 so you dislike the fish photos but you like guys with cats don't you want a guy who's do you want a

01:32:01.920 masculine man um somewhere in the middle like has feminine and what's in the middle for you i

01:32:09.040 don't mean like i'm not talking about like trans hold on no no no that's not what we're talking

01:32:14.160 about we're talking about physical features or things like that but like okay i don't we're

01:32:18.800 talking about physical or why i don't get it seems like at least 50 of women object to the fish photo

01:32:25.840 can you explain why and does any look it's fine but does any girl here also dislike

01:32:30.320 like the guy holding up a fish it's very common it's like played out i would love to pull up your

01:32:36.320 instagram and see how common your photos are do you or sorry not your instagram your do you have

01:32:41.120 a dating app right now well could you take screenshots of all the photos that are you on hinge uh yeah

01:32:48.480 could you take screenshots of all your photos on hinge send them individually to whatever instagram

01:32:53.920 page we'll pull up your thing and we'll see all the extremely creative and unique photos that you

01:33:00.320 post that certainly no other woman has ever taken you're gonna be sorry it's gonna be like pictures

01:33:05.040 of her doing parkour you don't have yeah i could be up here that's a good point mary they're really

01:33:09.680 just basic selfies oh so it's okay for you to take basic photos but if a guy has a basic life

01:33:14.640 that's that's like that's just an activity brian do you have a fish photo i don't have a fish photo

01:33:20.960 you need to work on that then i'm gonna get a fish photo i don't know i'm just not impressed do you

01:33:25.280 not have a fish me and mary are actually gonna me and mary madison and nick we're gonna do a whatever

01:33:30.240 fishing day here soon probably we can we can work on the photos what were you gonna say go ahead i'm

01:33:36.480 just not impressed by the fish photos it's not my thing but but okay but they have one fish photo

01:33:41.840 what's wrong if they have just one fish photo and a bunch of other regular photos i mean if they had

01:33:45.680 like other nice photos but i usually end up swiping by them but is it is it really the case that like

01:33:50.400 on dating apps every single photo of a guy is a fish photo like normally there's a lot no no no okay

01:33:57.120 just let me properly articulate this i don't think it's the case that every single photo that a guy is

01:34:02.880 posting is a fish photo i'm not saying that i'm sure a lot of guys have fish photos but maybe it's one

01:34:08.560 or two i'm sure they have other photos on their dating profiles that's true but i mean let's be

01:34:15.040 honest we just quickly evaluate the you know the first picture you see and you're just kind of like

01:34:20.400 swiping you know it's not like i don't really like if i don't like the first photo i'm not gonna like

01:34:26.480 dig deeper because there's just so many people on the app so it's like what okay i just don't get

01:34:32.320 the fish photo thing but whatever i feel like i kind of i don't know i feel like some girls don't

01:34:38.240 really like the fish wait the fish photo is weird or you disliking the fish photo are you vegan are

01:34:43.440 you vegan do you not eat fish not that it's just a weird trend that i've noticed you know it's a

01:34:48.720 weird trend is is women on dating apps not including a photo of them without a face filter and without

01:34:55.120 makeup i think that's weird but their ass out okay it's your opinion do you do on your dating app if

01:35:02.320 we were to look if we were to pull it up would there be at least one photo of you with no makeup

01:35:06.080 on and no filter no probably not that's kind of filter that seems a bit more weird that filter but

01:35:12.240 that that seems a bit more weird to me than a guy who has a useful life skill that you're holding

01:35:18.800 up a fish i thought you said everybody has a preference so that's just my preference i mean

01:35:25.600 sure everyone's entitled to their preferences but we can also make criticisms of said

01:35:32.960 i think it's common though because men are proud of things like that you know they're proud of like

01:35:37.600 providing and so it's kind of like pick and choose your battles like it'd be secure just

01:35:42.080 going with it like oh cool fish right i think a lot of times when men post pictures they're posting

01:35:48.400 pictures that would like they'd want to show off to their friends instead of like to attract a woman

01:35:55.200 i feel like if a guy's profile were too curated to the female gaze then you would know he's a hoe

01:36:02.080 true so if if if it's a fish photo like he's grounded he's humble he's looking for something real

01:36:08.560 yeah do you concur i concur okay i concur like in leonardo dicaprio and catch me if you can

01:36:18.240 i concur all right um i don't know where were we i totally forgot uh

01:36:24.720 oh your relationship status did we cover that okay go ahead um yeah i've been pretty much single

01:36:32.880 my entire life single your entire life yeah no boyfriend ever well i guess i've been in a

01:36:39.440 situation ship for like two years on and off but okay no when did when did that end yeah like a month

01:36:46.080 ago a month ago yeah but you said it's on and off well yeah it was two years on and off so it's like

01:36:53.040 two years ago i guess that's when oh wait it ended two years ago no no sorry it started the

01:36:58.800 situation ship started two years ago and then it ended recently but it's been on and off it was

01:37:02.880 like on and off like who how many times would it be was there on and off how many breakups were there

01:37:10.320 uh i don't okay maybe it's not a situation ship honestly i'm like i'm kind of confused

01:37:15.040 about these terms yeah wait what's wrong

01:37:21.440 oh oh oh sorry sorry yeah you're talking go ahead um okay now that i think about i don't even know if

01:37:27.360 would be considered a situation ship but what do you consider a situation ship when we're like

01:37:32.400 almost about to start a relationship isn't that what that leads into the mic like when we're almost

01:37:36.400 about to start a relationship or at least so you thought for two years i mean we were attracted to

01:37:41.680 each other for sure he was attracted to me first and then i grew up um okay probably my lack of like

01:37:49.600 self-esteem is probably the reason why we didn't really like start a relationship

01:37:54.640 how does your how does your lack of self-esteem manifest

01:38:02.800 i definitely would have gave him a chance to be my boyfriend because he wasn't to me first

01:38:08.480 but like i was just kind of afraid of what having your heart broken that too ultimately yeah and but

01:38:17.760 how does your self-esteem man of a lack of self-esteem i just feel like well in general i just feel like i'm

01:38:23.120 not really attractive enough to most men so that's why i didn't really sorry it's complicated i cannot

01:38:30.160 articulate oh thank you but there's one man that was attracted to you you didn't think you were

01:38:35.360 attracted enough to him or i felt like if we were to be in a relationship i wouldn't be good enough for

01:38:41.520 him so that's why i didn't really but was he pursuing a relationship with you i think he was

01:38:49.440 at first and then he probably couldn't handle the fact that i was also going through like some anxiety

01:38:56.720 okay during the time sure i feel like most guys wouldn't be able to handle a woman who has like so

01:39:00.960 much anxiety do you have panic attacks not panic attack but like i do overthink things a lot

01:39:06.320 okay and i don't i don't think a guy would be able to put up with that so i didn't really kind of

01:39:11.360 what what are you doing to work on your anxiety i do um i do like you know therapy through telemedicine

01:39:16.880 once a week through zoom and i just kind of tell are you doing cognitive behavioral therapy um

01:39:22.560 no maybe i should try that but are you seeing somebody who has expertise in panic attacks and anxiety

01:39:28.960 or are you seeing a talk therapist though are you seeing a talk just the talk therapist yeah okay

01:39:35.360 well i i did try to see somebody who specializes in treating anxiety disorders but um are you taking

01:39:43.360 ssris or any uh what's it called uh benzos or anything like that i don't know what those are

01:39:50.000 like ativan lorazepam that's typically on a psychiatric medicine yeah oh no i don't i don't

01:39:56.880 no i don't think i've taken anything like that i mean anxiety can be treated without taking

01:40:02.560 medication but how long have you had anxiety for i think it really peaked wait we're not

01:40:07.440 allowed to talk about this though right it peaked in like 2020 i would say so like the pandemic

01:40:15.200 yeah a lot of people's anxiety peaked then like everyone is just yeah um because i thought we

01:40:21.280 weren't allowed to talk about covet so i was like so you say you have very bad anxiety and that makes

01:40:28.320 it difficult for you to be in relationships with men um how precisely would that manifest

01:40:36.960 i mean he is currently dating someone right now so who's he the the two-year guy yeah

01:40:44.080 so i think that you broke up with a month ago were you in an open is there breaking up in

01:40:48.240 situationships not really i mean were you guys yeah when we're off i guess okay basically what

01:40:54.560 what we would do is like we'd see each other hang out and maybe then a couple months later we'd see

01:41:00.880 each other again it was that kind of thing but it was every couple of months around yeah i remember i

01:41:07.040 kind of like disappeared for a year saying that like i don't i can't really hang out with you because

01:41:11.280 i'm going through stuff so like i kind of like uh we didn't really see each other for a year at one

01:41:16.560 point and then like we slowly started seeing each other again and then but now he has a girlfriend

01:41:20.640 so let me let me i don't think i need to ask some clarifying questions so we can actually get an

01:41:25.280 appropriate timeline so two years ago precisely about two years ago you started talking to this guy

01:41:33.280 correct no it didn't start two years ago okay i am so sorry um i went abroad with i went abroad to

01:41:41.040 spain actually um we were in the same study abroad group okay i first knew him there and then maybe

01:41:47.840 like a year later he reached out to me saying hey let's hang out uh okay so you were in spain

01:41:54.800 i was in spain i met him there because we were part of the same study abroad group and that was

01:41:58.960 the summer of 2021 no it was like beginning of 2020 like right before the pandemic hit oh okay right

01:42:04.960 before the pandemic okay yeah you met him in spain you were we were in the same study abroad okay so

01:42:10.720 you were friends for a little bit before or like we got to know each other i got to know pretty much

01:42:14.720 everyone in that group but then we all kind of just kind of grew apart because of the pandemic so you

01:42:20.080 know we weren't really allowed to go outside or anything like that okay so how soon after meeting

01:42:26.720 him did you guys start dating or hooking up or whatever about a year after that he reached out to me

01:42:32.320 first because um because that's when i had transferred to usc and he saw my like snapchat

01:42:38.640 story and he's like hey let's hang out it's been a while okay so in summer of 2021 is when you

01:42:44.720 started the yeah or more like fall 2021 okay yeah sure like august okay so two years two years ago yeah

01:42:52.400 um how long did you talk until there was the first off because you said there's an on-again off-again

01:43:00.160 relationship yeah so we started talking situationship yeah like we've had intimate moments

01:43:06.000 and then it wasn't until after we got back from vegas that's when um i couldn't really speak to him

01:43:12.160 because i was going through stuff i told him i can't really i'm not really going to be hanging

01:43:16.000 out with you i'm going to disappear from the world that's basically what i said and how was that six

01:43:21.440 months into how soon um after that we he reached out to me again in the summer of 2022 no no no no

01:43:28.560 so you started dating him fall 2021 at what point was the vaguest thing and you guys were

01:43:36.400 like late october around my birthday so you guys had only been kind of linking up for what two two

01:43:41.920 months two months yeah two months two months and then you said i can't see you anymore to him

01:43:46.720 yeah i was going through so i don't want this to be like a therapy session so i don't think i want

01:43:49.680 to go into detail on why you don't need to go into detail so then you guys split up

01:43:53.840 yeah and then did you reach back out to him or he reached back out to you he reached back

01:44:00.320 out to me when around like summer summer okay you get back together yeah we just like we saw each

01:44:08.400 other like once and then 2022 yeah you saw each other one time yeah during the summer of 2022

01:44:15.840 and then you never you stopped seeing each other again yeah because he's also busy the thing is he

01:44:21.440 would go on business trips every couple months or so so it was really hard and like my schedule i was

01:44:26.320 busy at that time too so okay so you saw him one time and then you didn't see him until again until

01:44:34.960 i want to see around november that's when the fifa world cup had started i started posting videos and

01:44:39.520 stuff about that you know and then he reached out to me again and then how long were you guys

01:44:45.600 you saw each other once again and then no no we saw each other a couple times after that and then

01:44:50.240 like he we took a and then we like and then we stopped again because he had to go on a business trip

01:44:54.640 how old is he he's two years younger than i am he's younger than you and he's going on he's a

01:45:00.720 businessman yeah he didn't he didn't go to college okay sure i mean that's fine um so he was

01:45:06.240 going on business trips okay what kind of business you know what that's the thing i'm not

01:45:12.880 entirely sure but i know he also has a family business like i know he's gonna take is he a

01:45:16.560 vietnamese no he's he's latino he's salvadorian was he he was going to sell salvador for his business

01:45:25.760 trip i don't know about you chat but that sounds like a little uh from what i'm perceiving do you

01:45:33.200 think that maybe he thought of it more as a friendship because i feel like guys maybe fwb

01:45:39.200 be attracted to a girl first and if they're like no i don't want to be in a relationship they'll

01:45:42.800 still keep her around keep a friendship with them until they find someone else maybe that's what it

01:45:47.600 was because he he ultimately he did find someone yeah yeah in the end so you said you guys split up

01:45:54.480 again split up i guess i don't know um a month ago how long had you been seeing each other most

01:46:01.680 recently uh the last time i saw him was about a month ago like in september no but okay then did

01:46:07.920 you said a month ago but like how long before because when you say on again off again i'm thinking

01:46:13.200 there's a continuity in how long you're seeing each other so if you broke up a month ago that was in

01:46:18.720 september maybe from june to september like i'm just trying to get a timeline here

01:46:22.960 um okay i don't really like to say break up though because like we've never been in a formal

01:46:26.960 relationship i don't i don't wouldn't consider that like we were we were friends but we were

01:46:31.120 also attracted to attracted on again off again so okay maybe that's the wrong terminology then so you

01:46:37.360 he would just come into your life and well yeah he will he would text me of course he wouldn't just

01:46:41.440 randomly show up and be like hey i'm back but in in none of these off again periods neither one of you

01:46:47.440 would say i no longer want to see you anymore that type of thing no no but earlier you said that

01:46:51.840 you told him you don't want to be with him because you're going through things

01:46:58.320 well i didn't exactly say that but i'm saying like oh i don't really want to see anyone for a

01:47:02.720 while it wasn't just him it was like just everyone like i i just you know wanted to kind of disappear

01:47:08.400 okay so in any case you've been single your whole life you've never been in a relationship you've never

01:47:13.120 had a boyfriend no um besides this guy have there been any other guys no just him just him

01:47:23.600 nothing not even another friends with benefits or another situationship no just him just him yeah

01:47:30.080 okay so from in your 23 is that correct or no sorry 24 24 about to turn 25 okay yeah

01:47:37.040 so 22 to 24 um so why is that so hard to believe

01:47:47.280 i it's not it's just so there's there's been no other guys in the picture you seem a little shocked

01:47:53.200 no okay i lost my virginity at 22 to him i'll put it up yeah um how you knew oh well you knew him for a

01:48:02.560 year and then how quickly after you guys started dating did you guys hook up um like right away

01:48:11.200 pretty much like a couple weeks after a couple weeks after yeah and then

01:48:17.040 and then so the first guy you hooked up with you he pretty much ghosted you or what

01:48:22.640 no he didn't ghost me he did tell me like oh like i'm actually seeing someone right now

01:48:26.160 good times okay um so are you're not on dating apps are you no you are you uh there hasn't been

01:48:36.400 a rebound what do you mean like there's been no other guys no she told you she doesn't go in public

01:48:45.360 i usually stay at home and watch tv shows and watch soccer content that's what i do i'm just putting

01:48:49.360 out there or football i'm gonna call it football not soccer the rest of the world calls it football

01:48:52.880 so well i have some notes here that you provided before the show the craziest story was that you

01:48:57.280 used your dad's backup credit card to book a hotel to meet your friends with benefits aka this guy

01:49:05.120 uh you drove on the freeway for the first time yeah my friend is this like clueless no

01:49:12.560 compared to the average person i did get my driver's license pretty late okay even after

01:49:17.600 getting my driver's license i was never confident enough to drive on the freeway by myself

01:49:22.400 but because i wanted to see him and he wanted to see me i i took the risk and i just drove the

01:49:27.920 freeway without any guidance okay sounds like clueless um you said that your dad found out about

01:49:34.640 the card yeah i was an idiot what happened with your dad because you booked a hotel to meet your

01:49:40.320 friends with benefits why didn't you go to his place or vice versa he said he said his place was not

01:49:45.120 available okay the first okay that was not the first time we hooked up though actually we hooked up

01:49:49.440 before that okay keep going it just startled me i'm sorry um he he paid for the the first round

01:49:58.720 the first hotel like the first time the prostitution what no you're a prostitute i'm not a prostitute oh

01:50:05.360 so sorry i heard he paid for the first round i got confused i'm sorry i i'm hard of hearing

01:50:10.480 that's what did you go to your mind so depressing that women and men are splitting the bill 50 50 on

01:50:17.360 a hotel room to hook yeah he paid for the first hotel and then a couple days later oh couple days

01:50:23.760 later it was a phone it's fine it's so okay stop just pick it up if you need to but yeah he paid for

01:50:29.280 the first time well he paid for the first hotel and then i paid for the second i told him pick up the

01:50:34.480 that wait you lost your wait please okay was it you lost your virginity in a hotel i guess that is

01:50:42.080 that sketchy is that bad was it a motel was it no it was actually super common to lose your virginity

01:50:47.680 in a hotel is it yeah i know a couple people oh you know the stats i guess oh no are there stats on

01:50:52.480 she said you know the stats was it was it a three-star hotel four-star hotel five i think it was like

01:50:57.440 first four-star it was in san denis yeah it was a nice hotel okay all right wait you drove all the

01:51:04.560 way over there yeah for the first time i drove the freeway for the first time does he live with his

01:51:09.520 family was that the problem yeah he does live with his parents actually because he does he does his

01:51:13.680 business with his dad okay i got it but what's the whole situation situation with your dad um well

01:51:20.560 he found out about because he i guess he probably saw the transaction you know i was an idiot i should

01:51:24.640 have known like not to use that but i did it because i wanted to see him but like you know but

01:51:29.200 since it was a second round i wanted i offered to pay for the hotel to book it because i thought it

01:51:34.560 would be fair that way that whole thing sounds like a big mistake no i do think but so your dad

01:51:42.240 came to the hotel no no no oh he found out later he found a couple days later when he actually because

01:51:46.880 he lives in florida he came to california to visit me it was like during parents weekend um he found out

01:51:52.960 about the hotel he was like asking me where is this place and like i was honestly i was it was

01:51:58.080 so awkward i just wanted to get out of the car because i didn't want to explain why i used his

01:52:02.720 credit card and why i spent like almost 120 dollars on it and i i told both my mom and my dad the truth

01:52:10.720 about the whole like card thing and then he got out of the car and like left because he was so upset he

01:52:17.600 started like crying and then my mom was like you need to go follow him and get him back so i tried

01:52:23.280 to i got out of the car as well i told him like i'm sorry like please come back and my dad my dad

01:52:27.840 told me to get lost and then he said he wouldn't come back to la again after what i did when was this

01:52:33.200 a year ago two years ago this is two years ago so and so what did you tell your parents what do you

01:52:38.960 what are the words that come out of your mouth yeah i told them that that i had sex with my friend

01:52:44.960 from spain like i i told them i told you need to go into that much detail

01:52:51.840 i mean that's keeping things i mean i don't really i think going into detail would be like

01:52:55.360 well here's the position that we did no but i mean saying like i met up with this guy yeah

01:53:01.040 oh my god why do you need to like say sorry sorry sorry sorry especially when you're explaining it to

01:53:06.640 like your father we did some kama sutra shit sorry dad i don't think fathers like to think about

01:53:12.400 their daughters no probably not probably i know but i didn't know how was i supposed to lie

01:53:18.000 no you don't need to lie i met up with one of my friends yeah well no they knew my mom knew like she

01:53:23.760 she's not dumb she did your mom drive you to the hotel no i drove myself so like you obviously lost

01:53:30.000 your virginity too that night right yeah so like it was a big deal for you probably and your brain is

01:53:36.160 probably just spitting things out because no no the first time the guy paid for it this is a

01:53:41.360 oh second time second hotel thing uh but it's still the same guy same guy so just so i can

01:53:50.480 recapture what happened second time you're hooking up with a guy you book a you book a hotel

01:53:56.880 your dad i guess it's your dad's credit card or something he sees the statement on his credit card

01:54:02.000 he asks you about it asking you why did you book a hotel you explain to him that you're going to meet

01:54:08.160 your friend fuck buddy i guess and so you tell him that and then he no okay i didn't voluntarily say

01:54:17.840 it my mom asked did you go see a guy because she she kind of knew what was up and i told her yes that's

01:54:21.760 all i said okay i said yes okay and so your dad did he disown you he didn't just own me but he was

01:54:29.040 upset with me for a while what what was he upset by the credit card thing or the fact that you

01:54:34.080 hooked up with the dude that i hooked up with the dude it wasn't the money component

01:54:37.760 no it's just the fact that i hooked up with the dude

01:54:41.520 their armed meatball donated one hundred dollars

01:54:46.320 yeah that's really all we have to say so how long was your dad mad for about like a week week

01:54:53.840 and a half and then he okay i i wrote a really long apology can we text that was a text can we read

01:55:01.040 it oh my god the text what is that too prying is that i have to scroll back all the way just a

01:55:06.000 little because i thought this was supposed to be like a trauma dumping session and that's really what

01:55:09.920 this has felt like i don't think i feel a little bad we're kind of like picking at her yeah dear dad

01:55:15.120 did you write it in is your dad korean yeah both i'm yeah i'm full korean both of my parents

01:55:20.000 speak korean yeah a little bit did you was it in english or was it in it was in english okay just

01:55:26.160 was that racist did i have some no i was asking because if we wanted to read the letter if it's

01:55:33.600 in korean i don't think my audience would understand i think she could translate oh she could she could

01:55:40.560 translate it yeah i could translate it i can like summarize it was a text message or was it a hand

01:55:45.680 written letter no it was a text message text yeah should chat should we read it chat do we read

01:55:50.640 the letter i don't i have to scroll all the way back to two years ago you can look up keywords on

01:55:56.080 the messenger chat do we read the this is starting to be like an invasion of privacy i'm just curious

01:56:01.840 yeah i don't i'm curious are you comfortable with that she's comfortable okay okay okay

01:56:06.240 how could they not id you when you brought the card to the hotel because don't they usually like

01:56:14.560 ask for id yeah how did you how did you i think the desk people were probably racist and because of

01:56:22.080 the the last names they didn't they didn't know that i mean they were they were chinese so

01:56:29.520 oh oh okay whatever i don't um

01:56:38.080 we're gonna move on yeah let's move on super chat about like what do you bring to the table or whatever

01:56:42.960 uh let's get everybody's relationship status uh mary if you can tell us really quick i already did um

01:56:48.640 i'm in my first relationship only relationship is about a year long okay um this is my second

01:56:54.720 relationship relationship it's been about sorry sorry sorry go ahead go ahead go ahead um a little

01:57:02.000 over a year like a year and almost two months what is yo what's up frankie i don't know he watches

01:57:08.400 i don't know why yeah he's the homie okay uh let's do some chats and then we'll get into some of our

01:57:13.520 conversations can i cry a little bit for her i saw the ring is are you guys like engaged here just

01:57:18.080 like a oh it's just a promise that's cute it's really pretty wait nick show the can you show the ring

01:57:22.720 it's really pretty thank you wait why would you guys why would why should she cry for me

01:57:29.040 huh wait what isn't that what you asked he said like oh for her were you pointing at me brian what

01:57:34.880 you know what never mind oh forget it move on move on i'm very confused

01:57:38.480 fuck i can't get the ring off uh-oh wait fuck do you have him he's struggling he is struggling oh

01:57:47.520 fuck okay thank god i put put the ring on to be fucking you're gonna cry i was scared i'm like

01:57:53.600 getting a trip to the er and then you see the flag at the er oh oh my god that's great okay you were

01:58:00.880 telling the truth okay okay let me do uh let me get a couple chats here yeah i literally

01:58:06.160 literally all right let me get a couple chats here uh violet could you read this one for me

01:58:10.640 mary great question when i was single i looked specifically for an ambitious motivated woman

01:58:16.640 that held high standards and good morals married at 35 my wife was 24 that's good 17 years in and

01:58:23.600 super happy waited five years to have our son so when we could afford it yeah that's good that's a

01:58:31.040 great age difference boom thank you the question though what was yo oh by the way ab check thank for

01:58:37.200 the gifted 20 memberships man really appreciate it i don't know why it's not triggering i'll have

01:58:40.720 to check that after the stream uh thank you for the gifted memberships man um can you read this one

01:58:46.240 violet ladies there are two men you are attracted to they have the same physical qualities the same

01:58:53.600 amount of money 170 000 per year and have a good personality however one is a lawyer and one is a

01:58:58.880 plumber which one are you picking interesting question we'll go around the table on that let's start

01:59:02.560 with you violet go ahead i have to choose one yeah i probably go for the oh

01:59:16.560 probably the lawyer they're both very time consuming right

01:59:21.600 my dad's a plumber they make the same amount of money yeah so i wonder which one's going to be away

01:59:26.640 from home more because i do want to have like uh my dad works from 7 to 9 like 7 a.m to 9 p.m your

01:59:31.840 dad's a lawyer no he's a plumber oh plumber yeah he owns his own company because lawyers can have

01:59:36.640 cases and be stressed out and you got to support them through that um i imagine the plumber's job is

01:59:44.960 less time consuming i don't know it's just dirty it seems more like a simple life um

01:59:51.200 lawyer like you might have some yeah just been struggling okay what about you

01:59:58.560 whoever i have the better connection with so yeah but he's is it like is everything the same

02:00:04.960 except for the occupation can you read it one more time hold on basically pretty much ladies there are

02:00:10.720 two men you're attracted to they have the same amount of physical qualities make the same amount

02:00:14.720 of money 170k per year and have a good personality however one is a lawyer and one is a plumber

02:00:20.880 which one are you picking hmm i mean i guess the lawyer because they make more money

02:00:29.040 no they make the same they make oh they make the same yeah so it's literally just choosing between

02:00:34.320 do you want him to be a lawyer or a plumber it's like kind of yes dad i mean obviously there's going

02:00:38.640 to be probably the educational accomplishments of the lawyer he's had to get his jd he's probably done

02:00:44.640 undergrad a plumber he's in the trade so probably didn't you know if education is important to you

02:00:51.280 perhaps and also i think the crux of the question is attorneys typically there's a bit more prestige

02:00:57.600 there's a bit more status there than the plumber not to say that plumbers are fantastic people and

02:01:03.760 they're incredibly important to society that's not what i'm trying to say but yes i think generally

02:01:08.640 speaking lawyers tend to it's a more prestigious job i go with the lawyer okay what about you the

02:01:16.240 plumber you're just saying that because your friend's dad's no because i would be less likely

02:01:23.120 to get divorced good lawyers like to argue a lot okay that's fair what about you i don't do i have

02:01:29.600 to pick one i just don't really feel like it's my place to pick what do you mean it's not your place

02:01:34.160 to pick okay sure lawyer okay let's go with lawyer um i'll go with the person that has similar

02:01:40.080 interests as me that's not really the question though they both have we've we've asked the

02:01:45.600 question two times now everything's the same but that oh they have a good personality you're attracted

02:01:50.880 to both one's a lawyer one's a plumber okay um i don't know one eternity later just choose lawyer

02:02:02.480 or plumber ready go i'll pick the lawyer all right me next yeah yeah go ahead i really uh don't care

02:02:10.720 i think the plumber is more of a self-starter knows more about starting a business could teach kids that

02:02:16.160 the lawyer might have more social connections that would also help the kids it's about the kids

02:02:20.400 i don't know i really don't care okay you have to pick i i just don't care you gotta pick i can't

02:02:27.520 you gotta pick i feel like it's would you rather i would do like eeny meeny miny moe at that point

02:02:32.880 like and then okay who would you end on damn y'all this really isn't that complicated no it's just

02:02:37.840 lawyer or plumber ready go uh i don't know plumber i feel like i'd probably pick the lawyer i don't know

02:02:48.960 i could be wrong about this but i feel like lawyers job positions are a little more consistent and

02:02:56.560 stable i would say people are always gonna have broken yeah exactly i was gonna say like people

02:03:03.040 always need you said last time a lot of corporate guys also being a lawyer might have like moral

02:03:09.120 implications where you have to like defend a criminal i don't know what's wrong with that

02:03:15.040 that's their job yeah it's their job but it just has it has complications when it comes to the

02:03:21.040 ethics so wait you think criminal defense attorneys are immoral no i didn't say that i just said it has

02:03:27.680 ethical complications what but what are the even even a lawyer who knows his client is guilty uh even

02:03:35.840 somebody who it's it's evident that they're guilty they still deserve uh having a there's i'm butchering

02:03:44.000 this but uh you still deserve being represented by attorney who can make sure to protect your rights

02:03:50.640 when it comes to the judicial system and make sure there's there's no uh fuck i'm totally butchering

02:03:56.880 that yeah but if you're defending oj you have to live with that still right as a lawyer i'm okay

02:04:01.440 you're gonna do your job but you still have to live with that works i'm just saying do i want

02:04:04.800 to marry someone who is a criminal defense attorney maybe not the correct answer was lawyer there was

02:04:12.880 a correct answer wait yeah but you could also argue like a criminal defense attorney might also defend

02:04:18.640 somebody who's innocent too i mean people who are criminal defense attorneys have many many clients

02:04:25.520 throughout their entire career some of which you might be guilty some of which you might be innocent

02:04:30.080 so but ultimately oh fuck i can't there's like a precise explanation for this but even if you know

02:04:36.720 that the client is guilty they still deserve a they still deserve adequate and fair legal representation

02:04:45.280 uh through the criminal justice system i i can't so you're saying innocent until proven guilty

02:04:50.560 no i'm not saying that they don't deserve that i'm just saying do i want to be married to

02:04:55.760 the criminal defense attorney maybe not maybe he's more likely to have a relativistic

02:05:03.680 worldview about morality no but i guess what i'm saying even people who are actually guilty of the

02:05:09.600 crimes they commit are deserving of a vigorous legal defense yes but do i want to marry the guy

02:05:17.120 defending them i don't i don't think so i don't but i don't think it's immoral to choose to defend

02:05:23.520 somebody who's guilty of a crime not saying that's okay and he was rare this this is now the legal the

02:05:29.200 whatever legal podcast but um hold on so we have grid one motorsports mary asked earlier that before

02:05:36.400 you got into what women offered men what men looked for in women so i answered oh okay this is this goes

02:05:43.200 back to his previous chat of it was ambition motivation ambitious yeah ambitious motivated woman that

02:05:50.400 held high standards and good morals he said he's married at 35 my wife was 24 17 years in and super

02:05:57.200 happy waited five years to have our son and we could afford it grid one appreciate it let me get the

02:06:01.280 rest of the chats here uh can you read this one violet here for mary and violet mary love you for pop

02:06:09.680 culture crisis and the occasional tim cast irl appearance violet is kind of based and she comments

02:06:15.360 and likes on tim cast posts on ig occasionally pick up on any good cards recently violet go suns

02:06:22.080 um i have not been card shopping lately actually i've been very much into nature

02:06:28.640 so i will let you know um i am sending out my violet card soon by the way if anyone's watching

02:06:33.840 did you have a response at all to uh db heart is it based to like my boss's instagram posts

02:06:41.280 i don't know i don't like them okay all right i wouldn't say i don't particularly care can you

02:06:48.480 read this one violet brian halloween stream panel in the costumes and you are full dr evil cosplay

02:06:55.360 with a bald cap and all stay in character with the whole stream the whole stream are we doing a show

02:07:01.200 on halloween we should we definitely should yo conan thank you man your costume should be holding up a

02:07:08.720 fish um yeah it should it's dr evil but he's cutting dr evil um you're in full dr evil cosplay

02:07:19.120 oh yeah i haven't done the dr evil voice in a minute should i just do the rest of the stream

02:07:23.920 dr evil oh no oh no actually don't actually don't yo hector rodriguez um go ahead violet mexicans come

02:07:34.640 are mixed with oh inappropriate that threw me off mexicans come are mixed and spaniard and native

02:07:47.280 american some of the mexicans have african too i am three percent sub-saharan african congo

02:07:54.720 apparently dope all right we have grass city uh can you read this one violet race and ethnicity are

02:08:04.320 different hispanic latino is an ethnicity white black asians are examples of races the difference

02:08:12.080 is that race is contrived based on how someone looks while ethnicity is tangible identity based

02:08:19.280 on your genetic and or geographic heritage thank you there you have it all right grass city thank you

02:08:26.160 very much this is about a dating anthropo keep going no i'm laughing at him go ahead go ahead

02:08:33.600 anthropology so last one ethnicity has a culture aspect to it while race solely deals with the

02:08:40.800 physical visual observations latino is anyone who is culturally from anywhere in latin america hispanics

02:08:48.000 and spanish descent hispanic is spanish descent sorry i messed up

02:08:53.520 uh thank you grass city appreciate it thank you for clarifying that we are uh appreciate the uh

02:09:00.640 input you know joshberg thank you very much um mary violet supports tim cast with the i am gorilla

02:09:07.200 t-shirt yeah i'm confused i have all of this merch i am also confused because i have no idea what that

02:09:13.920 is it's from uh um alex jones yeah alex jones and he has the i am gorilla shirt from there

02:09:23.520 word word oh was there something we had to react to i'm trying to remember it was the what we bring

02:09:29.360 to the table what we i think that's what yeah i need to get up really quick but if everybody here

02:09:33.680 wants to go around on that so what do you bring to the table in a relationship i wanted to ask you

02:09:40.480 the question i feel like we should have an answer after to bring to the table

02:09:44.880 i when i have a relationship that i want to be in i will bring children love communication

02:09:58.160 um support etc and lots and lots of videos on the internet of you having sex with other men

02:10:08.080 oh yeah there's a few do you bring that to the table too thank you mary my turn um

02:10:18.640 loyalty honesty caring

02:10:24.400 very funny um

02:10:28.400 yeah i feel like i'm like put on the spot i don't know i don't have like brian commentating i'm like

02:10:35.360 do i just answer and move on how would you guys react if like a guy on a date asked you that

02:10:40.160 question face to face though not a super chat i don't know would it be off-putting a little bit

02:10:46.320 i would find it off like first date and you're already asking me that like who are you yeah you

02:10:50.960 just have to wait to find out you know that is a good question like when do you start asking those

02:10:56.240 questions if you're serious you know and you're looking when you start asking those serious

02:11:00.800 questions because obviously it can be very you get to know a person and then you find like genuinely

02:11:06.560 getting to know them what they bring to the table no like i get asking that question like later on in

02:11:11.760 the talking stage but like first date that's like why do you want to know yeah like that's a little

02:11:16.720 i feel like some men that are looking for very serious relationships will ask that question

02:11:21.440 just like ready because they don't want to waste time yeah

02:11:24.000 yeah but what are the things you can look for to like avoid people that aren't going to align with

02:11:32.160 you later down like what's something i can look for on the first date and be like oh that right

02:11:37.920 there you're done you know because i yeah is there anything like that i can look for on a first date

02:11:44.560 you know what i look at if they're nice to like the server who's taking your order like if they say

02:11:50.240 yeah thank you things like that well i feel like some girls have an issue with whoever pays on the

02:11:55.120 first date like did you have a preference last time we asked you that question um i definitely said

02:12:01.600 i wanted him to pay especially just because i am already expecting it and i don't want the awkwardness

02:12:07.680 there i feel like a lot of women will say that it is a turnoff if a guy doesn't pay on the first

02:12:14.240 date so that's like one thing i guess a girl would look for in a man is for them to be paying on

02:12:20.080 dates and things like that but that's a good line we need to finish with yeah we got a little off

02:12:25.600 topic yeah i think there's jocelyn yeah what was the question what you bring to the table oh um honestly

02:12:32.000 i think i'm a really good caregiver like even to my roommates i would be a very good caregiver

02:12:37.840 loyal and just try to have my shit together yeah um i think i'm a really fun like outgoing bubbly person

02:12:46.720 um i'm very random so i i'm funny 10 second sammy right yeah 10 second sammy like it is i'm always

02:12:57.200 doing something i just i personally think that i'm a really awesome person yeah no yeah i kind of agree

02:13:04.560 i'm the same way like i feel like i have like a big sense of humor like when you get to go get to know

02:13:09.200 me but then like also i feel like honesty and loyalty is like like the like bare minimum that

02:13:15.840 anyone could really bring to the table and i feel like you could always build off of that and build

02:13:20.160 branch out you know yeah i like that yeah i think also i i would consider myself loyal if i were to be

02:13:27.360 in a relationship and i think also empathetic like if my future husband is having a hard time i'll be

02:13:33.520 you know i'd be willing to listen to him like say his thoughts so okay okay um i have a really

02:13:41.440 strong desire to be a mother so i definitely want to have a lot of children um i have really strong

02:13:51.280 moral convictions and a coherent worldview i think i'm capable of being an intellectual

02:13:57.520 sparring partner um i'm also saving myself for marriage and i likewise expect someone who values

02:14:08.880 that one motorsports donated 100 why waste time if all a girl can bring is sex a bunch of baggage from

02:14:16.320 failed relationships and a sense of entitlement men that will make good partners want good partners

02:14:23.040 so you need to endeavor to be one was there a question in that sorry uh continue on mary thank

02:14:29.760 you grid one motorsports appreciate it sorry you were saying well i was just saying that um i really

02:14:35.280 value my chastity and i expect that the person i marry also sees that as a valuable thing about me

02:14:43.360 sure i feel like i'm also very loyal and honest i'm a really good caretaker like you said i also plan

02:14:50.560 on being i hope to be a mother obviously so a lot of kids as well i can i'm a really good cook i can

02:14:57.680 clean i am a really good listener etc got it i need to i actually have a video of kind of what i think

02:15:06.960 would be like super based when it comes to uh what i'm looking oh beaten cheeks donated 99

02:15:14.400 ladies on the panel disregard for violet as she is in adult films if a man asks you for your body

02:15:21.920 count on the first date do you think it would be fair for you to ask how big his no no place is i am

02:15:27.760 all for this as i am not asian or white i am all for this i am not asian or white aren't you uh okay um

02:15:36.800 um so to the panel and that we will come we will come back to the what you bring to the table

02:15:41.280 discussion uh his chat was if a guy asks you your body count on the first date do you think it'd be

02:15:50.080 fair for you to ask him how big his wang is his willy his his dong his peen doesn't matter what he's

02:15:59.040 asking that's a super weird thing to ask yeah that's neither we were just talking about how

02:16:06.080 simply asking like what do you bring to the table is a weird question to ask on the first date asking

02:16:10.800 how big your question longest i feel like that's even weirder i feel like asking sexual questions

02:16:17.360 on a first date will literally intend that you are just trying to have sex with someone but hold on

02:16:23.200 madison what but i mean so first date you ask what are you know what i mean but what you know

02:16:32.320 what i mean come on okay whatever what what's up like is that a good question to ask what are your

02:16:38.320 intentions and then you can learn about them because that's what like a dad just to just to address

02:16:43.360 beat and cheeks here he's asking if a man asks you the body count question do you think it would be

02:16:48.560 fair to ask about his women are interested in that information i think it would be fair yeah

02:16:55.520 there's some size queens out there some girls care about they want a giant i mean if you're gonna ask

02:17:01.840 me a personal question i could ask you a personal question so i think it's fair i don't have to answer

02:17:07.600 so like i mean no i'm not asking if you okay i'm not asking if you but do you think it would be fair

02:17:13.440 for a woman to ask about that if a guy's kind of maybe being in your view prying about body count

02:17:20.720 yeah i think it depends like the way it's not that cold violet come on or like the tone no excuses

02:17:26.640 play like a champion rule number 76 no excuses play with the champion i love this flannel okay

02:17:34.240 so yeah it just depends like in the way he's asking i guess the way he's asking you know like

02:17:39.840 the tone yeah i think that matters too he's asking it in a very polite way in as polite a way as

02:17:48.160 possible excuse me miss how many hot dogs have been through the hallway how many peas are in the v

02:17:58.640 oh it also depends on the reaction yeah the reaction that's huge reaction very important yeah what if the

02:18:06.720 reaction's like like damn that was that that's the reaction if it's damn i'd be like what if like

02:18:18.640 he's you tell it to him and like a single tear just starts streaming down his face yeah like i'm too late

02:18:26.480 or what huh no like i feel like you're like hey yo gustavo not because you're latina we'll just that

02:18:35.280 that's what just came to mind okay i'm not i'm not okay that's fine keep going uh

02:18:41.040 my body counts 50 if you said that and just like a single tear just starts streaming down his eye

02:18:50.000 i don't know i wouldn't want to comfort him like um why are you at the end he asked for and why is he

02:18:57.520 gonna cry on the first day yeah he barely knows you never mind point being yeah i don't know what a

02:19:04.240 good reaction would be okay like yeah like would it be like high five like i don't me too i don't get

02:19:12.800 that i think it's actually more appropriate of the two questions i think asking body count on the

02:19:17.920 first date would be more appropriate than asking the guy his yeah most definitely because i think the

02:19:22.000 corresponding question would be a for the girl asking the guy how big his d is would be how tight

02:19:30.320 is your p that that would be like the equivalent question so but i definitely think it's more

02:19:38.400 appropriate to ask body count than about do you do that on first dates i mean i'm i'll usually ask pretty

02:19:44.400 early on because it's important to me so on a first date you're like what yeah you hold up a

02:19:48.880 microphone you're like what's your body count yeah i hold up a microphone because i'm recording the

02:19:53.600 for my new youtube series fuck boy friday is that literally how you execute that question like what's

02:19:58.400 your body no i mean i'll go about it as as graceful a way as possible but yeah that's something i'd like

02:20:05.360 to know early on because if it's a deal breaker for me it's in the same way that you might like people

02:20:10.560 often advise okay you shouldn't talk about politics religion and fuck money i think is the other

02:20:17.200 thing what else is there to talk about well exactly but what i'm saying is i actually think it on the

02:20:21.760 first date unless you're just trying to fuck but i'm not just i have no interest in sleeping with a

02:20:26.320 girl once so perhaps it'd be a good advice if my motivation is to just fuck a girl and not talk to

02:20:32.000 her again or just keep her around for sex uh without having any long-term interest in her then yeah maybe i

02:20:37.360 shouldn't find out what her values are maybe i shouldn't ask what her past sexual experience is

02:20:42.240 but for me those things are important so i'd rather know earlier on than wait till the third date and

02:20:49.120 oh okay there's this major red flag that i could have found out on the first date but we've just wasted

02:20:54.720 a bunch of time so i'd much rather get through with it uh like no early on

02:20:59.680 so i feel like context clues really give you the answer before you even ask anyway yeah

02:21:07.040 so what i would say is the other thing is even if you do ask someone whether it could be man or woman

02:21:13.600 might lie about their past uh their past in general their past sexual experiences so yeah i 100 agree with

02:21:21.360 you there are other indicators that you can look towards to see is this somebody who uh do i you know

02:21:28.880 align with them on our values does this person seem like they were promiscuous in the past

02:21:35.680 there's other indicators you can look for and certainly you should look at those under other

02:21:39.440 indicators too look someone in the eyes and if they have that blank stare yes i think it's called the

02:21:46.880 thousand cock stare what i've never heard that before the thousand cock stare you've seen i'm sure you've

02:21:54.560 seen it it's just that dead in the eyes look that some people have typically women although there are

02:22:00.080 some gay men who also have the thousand cock stare but some people demonstrate that oh

02:22:06.800 i feel like you have a death stare and i mean you're virgin but yeah it doesn't make sense

02:22:13.600 mary has like that aubrey plaza kind of chill

02:22:16.960 like dry not she doesn't have the the thousand death stare but it's like you can tell it's like

02:22:26.400 oh look it's clebus i haven't seen that guy in a fucking year go ahead sorry sorry go ahead

02:22:31.680 go ahead oh i finished writing oh okay i was just saying like your stare looks more pure than like

02:22:36.800 death you know what i mean it's a pure death stare versus a malicious

02:22:41.600 death stare i don't know okay where where were we where were i'm trying to remember where we were

02:22:47.120 here i wanted to ask you what you think women should bring to the table of the video you're talking

02:22:53.360 about you have to show us a video and not answer yourself yeah yeah i think i nick if you're able to

02:22:58.560 pull up the email tab on another tab uh there's a on the very top bar there's a gmail thing pull up

02:23:06.080 the gmail um i sent an instagram link if you can pull that up uh it's a bit i mean it's obviously

02:23:13.760 very exaggerated but that whatever is going on in that relationship is based as fuck um

02:23:20.320 so we're what what do women what should what should women bring to the table uh i think a big thing is

02:23:27.440 peace uh a lot of men we go out into the world especially if you're chasing after like a really

02:23:34.720 successful guy you know a lot of men have stressful lives we don't want our girlfriend to add to that

02:23:43.120 stress so i think it's a very common complaint you hear from men of like girlfriends nagging girlfriends

02:23:50.080 never being satisfied with whatever the situation is so i think one of the biggest things you can bring

02:23:56.000 is peace to a relationship okay follow up then sure what should a woman do to address a real problem

02:24:04.560 in the relationship without disturbing the peace well one i would say and men can also do this too

02:24:14.160 but sometimes you can jump the gun on an issue and sometimes i do think taking time to meditate on

02:24:20.160 something and thinking about is this really an issue is this really going to bother me in two or

02:24:25.360 three days so instead of granted that it is an issue sure okay well i mean my first line of advice

02:24:31.360 would be meditate on a potential major issue for a little bit of time sometimes people like

02:24:37.440 immediately want to if at the slightest grievance want to start an argument and i say sometimes it's

02:24:43.760 best to just pull back be like is this really worth arguing about am i really upset about this or

02:24:50.880 so i think taking a bit of time first but what what would be an example of a legitimate

02:24:56.720 uh issue that a woman encounters that she would bring to her boyfriend or partner or whatever

02:25:03.520 well i guess the context of whether or not they're married definitely matters here okay you expect

02:25:09.760 different things of a husband than of a fiance or of a boyfriend sure um what if it's the uh infamous

02:25:17.840 you know female friends issue

02:25:19.360 oh like what if what if she thinks it's inappropriate for him to hang out with female

02:25:27.440 friends one-on-one and he seemingly sees no issue with it how does she bring this up with him without

02:25:34.240 disturbing the peace of their relationship that men value so much

02:25:41.120 because to me what it sounds like is you're just saying you know if you try to address any problem in

02:25:46.320 a relationship with a guy you're disturbing the peace so you're not adding value that's not what

02:25:51.120 i said that's not what i said um i i want to know sure um certainly there are there are legitimate

02:25:59.760 things that could come up in a relationship that are genuine concerns and those certainly ought to be

02:26:05.920 discussed and talked about and hopefully hopefully both partners can come to an understanding and a

02:26:11.840 resolution whether that's one person having a better understanding both people having a better

02:26:16.560 understanding or you know whether whichever side makes a compromise i think that's fine

02:26:23.760 um but i do think it is often the case you don't often hear husbands complaining or excuse me you

02:26:30.000 don't often hear wives complaining about their nagging husbands you often hear husbands complaining

02:26:35.920 about their nagging wives similarly i mean there's you're a christian right proverbs 21 19 a quarrel

02:26:42.880 it's uh better to live in the desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife there's a reason that you

02:26:49.280 typically hear this as a gendered thing where it's one side it i do think it happens to be the case that

02:26:54.480 typically men generally i think tend to otherwise be happy satisfied with the status quo of a relationship

02:27:02.080 whereas i do think women tend to get bored they tend to there's there's little nitpicky things that

02:27:10.400 look men i think women are just passive so like i think in order to not get in a fight if you're you

02:27:17.680 know trying to tell them like hey this sucks or you're doing this wrong women should try to not

02:27:24.560 like be just passive aggressive and like do you mean passive or passive aggressive passive aggressive like

02:27:31.440 oh just kind of like making little comments letting things build up and then you're like okay this is

02:27:36.240 my pushing breaking point well i think that when women are i i guess okay how do i put this women tend to

02:27:51.680 grab for control in a relationship uh and men make a mistake of being too passive in a relationship

02:28:02.160 like not just in a relationship but in life if you're not examining your yourself and you're not

02:28:09.600 um trying to constantly become a more virtuous person what that looks like for women is like

02:28:15.520 constantly wanting to control everything and because that's not the natural posture of a woman's nature

02:28:22.320 and then for a man that looks like pat being being passive letting things happen to you instead of

02:28:28.880 taking action so that's not the natural posture of what a man should be doing in his life so it's sort

02:28:36.800 of the opposite i mean i've had for example i've had situations where trying to think of an example i've

02:28:47.680 dated a girl and she got upset that i wasn't texting her as frequently as she would like

02:28:55.040 um there's probably other examples i can think of but and then i just ignored it and then two

02:29:03.360 days later she's like oh hey sorry um i was just kind of being emotional like i don't know why i was

02:29:09.760 upset it's like she was able to introspect but a lot of people aren't able to do that i think a lot of

02:29:15.360 women when going about uh protecting your peace in a relationship is to not go about it so aggressively

02:29:23.680 kind of like you said is to take time and actually assess why it is a problem and why it's an issue

02:29:29.280 with you and why it doesn't sit well with you and just going about it very very common one motorsports

02:29:34.960 donated one hundred dollars mary if my wife asked me not to go out with the boys and made legit points

02:29:42.160 i would not go it is simple respect men should be stoic but we often fail at that with the women we

02:29:48.560 love men must be the rock your anger crushes against but does no harm

02:29:53.040 or you could just get a peaceful fucking woman they're like but sometimes there are correct reasons

02:30:03.040 to be angry sure and the higher the stakes get the more likely it is to happen

02:30:10.480 sure i think that the thing though with peace is why it's so important is

02:30:15.920 sometimes you run a really chaotic and stressful dating podcast and you just need to go home and

02:30:24.880 have a home-cooked meal and not have a woman nagging you i i get it right and

02:30:33.680 a quarrelsome woman is enough to upend your life but and also like getting into a bit more of an

02:30:39.040 extreme here if you add mental illness into the picture i'm that could absolutely ruin your life

02:30:45.920 so and perhaps it's like

02:30:51.040 in the same way that we say well loyalty and companionship that's the bare minimum of a

02:30:55.200 relationship i also think it happens to be the case the bare minimum of a relationship is you're

02:30:59.600 not cut like well my my recommendation to men is to not date women with severe mental illness

02:31:05.520 um good idea so i'm talking bipolar bpd any cluster b personality disorders apd bpd as i mentioned hpd

02:31:13.440 npd nickelodeon donated 99 men are tired of arguing with fear wives until they have to accept their

02:31:20.720 wives are right whether they are or not women learn to accept that you're not always right take a time

02:31:27.520 out and come back to the argument and decide is it really worth it nickelodeon yeah thank you man

02:31:33.360 appreciate it um some valuable insights okay so okay um i mean again i'm getting into some

02:31:41.680 i'm trying to think where i want to go with this um did you want to list other things that women

02:31:46.080 should bring to the table other things they can bring to the table peace i mean peace is huge yes

02:31:52.800 i'm not saying that you're quick to like people in relationships are quick to go after each other

02:32:00.000 because they're like life partners and so they're doing everything together and so they're quick to

02:32:05.200 go at each other and be like oh you're just doing it wrong but it's just because they're frustrated or

02:32:09.920 they're going through a stressful time i'm not saying that if i'm dating a girl and there's some sort of

02:32:16.400 issue that she can't bring it to me and we can't resolve that in a perfectly amicable way but and not

02:32:23.440 all women are guilty of this sorry some motorcycles are going by they heard you say that yeah um so

02:32:36.240 sorry guys i don't know if you guys can hear the motorcycles um so what was i what was i saying um

02:32:42.320 um fuck sorry i lost my train of thought uh she can bring an issue up in it that's yeah she can

02:32:48.320 bring an issue up but i do think that there are just and this is more so just avoiding these types

02:32:53.440 of people in general and certainly there are men that can absolutely upend women's lives too

02:32:58.720 you just need to be very careful with who you choose to date and associate with so one of the

02:33:03.600 biggest things i think a woman can bring to the table is peace so basically just essentially being

02:33:09.200 pleasant um but certainly like going into some of those heavier things i mean i'd recommend men

02:33:15.040 and again i think this this is just the bare minimum it's kind of obvious it's kind of self-evident

02:33:19.600 but no alcohol addiction no drug addiction no self-deleting ideation no how about some positive

02:33:28.000 things though like peace is a very positive thing that a woman can bring to okay some other things i want

02:33:33.520 your uh the first time i meet you i want your undivided romantic and sexual attention so a lot

02:33:41.600 of people the way they move they've got they're talking to three people at the same time they're

02:33:45.600 sleeping with two of them when i meet a girl one of the things that you can bring to the table and

02:33:51.040 in years in years past this used to be the bare minimum you can do but it's actually i think it's

02:33:58.640 rather rare today for you to meet a girl and she's not talking to other men she's properly single she's

02:34:07.360 not sleeping with other dudes she didn't just hook up with a guy last week and now she's on a date with

02:34:12.000 you so from the jump i want your undivided romantic and sexual attention um all the other guys all the

02:34:21.760 other guys once you meet me if we go on the first date afterwards it should be a wrap so wait i have

02:34:28.240 a question that's something you can bring to the table for me anyways that a woman should bring sex

02:34:32.720 to the table after our first date no that's not what i said i'm saying a lot of women the way they

02:34:38.080 move is they're talking they've got situationships they've got sneaky links they're talking to a bunch

02:34:42.800 of men i think something that's rare nowadays which i guess at least in the past wasn't rare is

02:34:51.680 not seeing and a bunch of other dudes so i do think that in years past i'm not that might have

02:34:59.680 been the expectation when first meeting somebody that you're not a bunch of other people

02:35:05.280 however due to again i think it is the bare minimum you can bring but it is something a woman

02:35:10.640 can bring to the table if i know a girl isn't sleeping with a bunch of other dudes isn't talking

02:35:15.520 to a bunch of dudes and is actually going to pursue me the same way i'm going to pursue her

02:35:20.400 for a long-term relationship early on that is something that a woman can bring to the table and

02:35:24.880 i would say a lot of women in today's day and age are not bringing what in years past was the bare minimum

02:35:30.960 of undivided romantic and sexual attention see but this was so over complicated by casual sex being

02:35:38.720 introduced into dating because i feel like think about like stereotypes that you have in your head

02:35:44.560 about how people dated in like the 50s and the 60s there were girls who were talking to a lot of guys

02:35:49.920 back when the word talking actually meant you're just talking to them not you're hooking up with a bunch

02:35:54.800 of people and that wasn't a big deal because you were genuinely using dating to get to know people

02:36:00.720 and now seems like the word dating is just used to say i'm you know sleeping sleeping with a bunch of

02:36:11.920 people like it's completely changed the definition of everything and like that over complicates it

02:36:19.120 i don't think that someone should give you their undivided sexual attention uh before marriage and i think

02:36:25.760 that sex outside of marriage and that becoming acceptable in society it's just totally turned

02:36:33.120 everything upside down um and over complicated dating to the point where it's not facilitating

02:36:38.560 people getting into long-lasting relationships but i do think it's fair to say that sexual attention should

02:36:44.960 be in relationships rather than casually um i would say those relationships should be marital relationships

02:36:58.480 but how do you get there i mean you're not just gonna pick up a guy on the street and marry then

02:37:02.560 like what do you you act like how do you get to that marriage if there's no i mean i get it you connect

02:37:10.320 on like a friendship level and all of that but yeah i've known how do you know you want to marry

02:37:15.600 who are married now who waited until marriage and it's a beautiful i believe it i know people too

02:37:20.640 but i'm asking how do you get there like with that what do you mean like do you think that having sex

02:37:28.160 before marriage is like a necessity no but i think that people have sexual desires no matter what and you

02:37:34.880 should go towards that sexual desire why should you automatically gratify all of your desires

02:37:43.280 because you don't want to end up with someone unhappy i mean just because you're satisfying a

02:37:47.360 desire doesn't mean you're you're going against something what you're saying makes no sense i feel

02:37:53.120 like a lot of people that are saving themselves for marriage though are already on the same page with

02:37:57.680 that so they don't feel the need to just have sex before marriage obviously yeah but when they're in the

02:38:03.840 talking stage are they like they actually date talking use the word talking to mean hooking up

02:38:11.360 with people but are they what are they talking about just like values morals the things that exactly you

02:38:17.520 should talk about when you're getting to know someone yeah okay but you know could be anything

02:38:22.480 just not you know how big is your dick okay or whatever those other questions so when you're married

02:38:29.520 you're into that though you're like when you're married you can be freaky with each other and

02:38:33.840 that's fine right that's kind of a bizarre way to describe it but like you have a sexual relationship

02:38:38.720 once there's commitment involved sorry you have a sexual relationship with your spouse once there is

02:38:45.040 commitment involved and they're the only real commitment at least in my world view is marriage and i have

02:38:52.400 such esteem i hold that institution and that sacrament in such high esteem that i don't think anyone

02:39:02.080 should go into it for the wrong reasons okay i definitely see that i was just wondering like

02:39:08.480 what the beginning stages are like for that's just what dating was until very very right but we obviously

02:39:16.000 live in a hypersexual world so it's partly due to people probably hard to because i mean you know

02:39:22.080 i feel like you're pointing at people at the bottom of my fault i'm tired of my fault brian is saying

02:39:28.720 i'm tired of you know going on a first date with someone and not knowing whether they are talking to

02:39:35.040 hooking up with a bunch of other guys i should have a guarantee that we're exclusive but also on the

02:39:42.320 other hand girls don't have the knowledge that this guy they're on a first date with isn't watching

02:39:49.760 videos of other women having sex and doing sexually explicit things on the internet all the time

02:39:56.880 it's equally disturbing at least to me and you're part of perpetrating that problem on the modern

02:40:02.480 dating world like you do take part in that you're not just complicit in it you're right but you're

02:40:07.840 saying you're i'm the reason for that problem is what she said and that's not true part of the

02:40:12.960 reason yeah part of that but i'm also someone who grew up around a man's world it's a man's world and

02:40:20.240 men want sex and why would you call this a man's world it's always been a man's world what does that

02:40:26.000 mean to you i mean you mean it's a patriarchy institutionally like yes institutionally there are

02:40:32.960 men who have ran institutions men actually i think the reason that society is collapsing right now is

02:40:39.680 because we upended the patriarchy you've never lived in a patriarchy i have never lived in a patriarchy

02:40:47.120 everything is falling apart and no one is happy well can't go against you there i guess if that's how

02:40:54.480 you think men had a pretty good system figured out until no yeah for sure but men being the sexual

02:41:02.720 creatures that they are have guided us to a society of hypersexualness i don't see men or women as

02:41:10.480 sexual creatures they they have a faculty of sexuality you can temper it or not okay it's about

02:41:19.760 you don't think men are more sexually like physiologically sure yeah physiologically there

02:41:26.800 is a difference between men and women's sex drives yes um and i think that we have made money

02:41:33.360 do you really blame in the past are you really blaming men's sex drives for the fact that you

02:41:38.320 are not blaming anybody i'm just saying what you said was not right i'm not like the reason for so

02:41:45.600 you're supplying porn but blaming men for the demand i think that porn that's bizarre can be in a good

02:41:51.440 way i don't think porn is like 100 bad i do think that it is 100 bad and i think that the women around

02:41:59.520 here who are not doing porn would feel uncomfortable about their boyfriend subscribing to your only fans

02:42:07.360 okay you don't have to i didn't ask them to but what i'm saying i don't even know what i'm saying

02:42:14.000 anymore actually you can move on okay all right that's fine by me you got a little too complex

02:42:20.880 for me there mary i can tell yeah i'm just a porn star no i'm just an only fans girl i mean that's

02:42:28.400 what you are well i'm not i think that you should try to like something more than my cat fight

02:42:35.840 i definitely do my own thing i'm not like mainstream i think that what you do is so

02:42:41.280 below your dignity and this is just not right for you oh are we is this an intervention for violet

02:42:48.320 let's do it my life decisions yeah i've definitely thought about these things i mean you're not the

02:42:54.080 first person in my life who has said like oh have you thought about this or that i have and i am okay

02:42:59.840 with my life decisions okay we'll find out in 20 years how that works out for you we will

02:43:05.760 we will should we do a reunion episode we should let's see who gets married first mary let's see

02:43:13.840 okay she's currently you're currently engaged aren't you no she's not oh sorry sorry sorry

02:43:18.160 okay i hope i didn't jinx it or anything i don't know wait mary here can you look into that camera

02:43:22.960 right there and propose to your boyfriend or is that is that i don't believe in women proposing to

02:43:27.920 their boyfriends that's gross all right never never mind then all right um okay well oh we speaking

02:43:34.640 of which oh okay oh it's not reading um just because men have more testosterone does not mean men rule

02:43:40.960 anything due to the feminism blank and t ideology the majority of the west is now living in a matriarchy

02:43:47.520 and you can see it before see it before your own eyes the downfall of america it's not okay

02:43:53.280 me wrong where is the where are the mothers it's like it's a gynocracy is really what it is

02:43:58.880 oh gynocentric okay so the men aren't doing what the men should be doing the women aren't doing what

02:44:03.680 the women should be doing where did this come from like it didn't just come a year ago or in 2017

02:44:10.480 when i started doing this where did the hyper you're not the cause i'm not saying that you are but where

02:44:16.160 do you think it kind of like went wrong like the 60s like where do you think seneca falls the seneca

02:44:22.560 falls i would trace it back to the printing press ultimately the printing press but get rid of

02:44:29.280 books the industrial revolution is your answer no no like i mean all of these things are domino effect

02:44:36.560 to where we got feminism which is a political liberation movement for women and if we really

02:44:44.640 want to place the blame on anything it's feminism and it started way before the 60s

02:44:49.040 when do you that is when it really went into a crescendo and took over was it like the 20s like

02:44:54.480 1919 um i mean even go before that seneca falls and i wouldn't consider my also a lot of witchcraft

02:45:03.200 involved in that witchcraft yeah oh shit oh really i'm trying to find the date seneca falls was 1848

02:45:12.800 yeah somewhere but i'm just saying like we would all be in a better position if we were

02:45:18.640 born a century or two ago and i feel confident saying that well like morally just one sec just one

02:45:25.200 sec take to change a light bulb none feminists can't change anything that's what men are for

02:45:32.080 uh i mean they've definitely changed the whole lot um

02:45:38.640 but uh so how many feminists does it take i mean i feel like a light bulb is not the most important

02:45:43.840 issue like who cares if feminists can change a light bulb right now who controls the electrical grid

02:45:50.880 men but like you just said we would be in a better place if we were born a couple centuries ago

02:45:55.360 but we are all essentially all more comfortable than we were a couple centuries ago because of

02:46:00.800 men well we have so many i say that but it's also like men are the reason we have yeah air

02:46:05.360 conditioning lighting everything so it's that's it's a it's something that obviously there's give

02:46:10.160 and take with everything um like yin and yang well i don't know if this is the episode where we're

02:46:17.280 going to debate about the industrial revolution but can everyone just get behind the fact that it was

02:46:22.240 bad i don't know you'll have to ask the rest of the panel on that one like i'm comfortable with

02:46:30.320 living in industrial society and like having air conditioning and running water and all that stuff

02:46:35.520 but if i had never known what i was missing yeah if i had never known what i was missing would i

02:46:40.320 be worse off really i mean i think i would have i like living where i am now like not 200 years ago can

02:46:49.680 you scoot the mic all the way close yeah yeah yeah i like living in this society not society 200 years

02:46:56.560 ago or i'm glad you like it but i just i don't i used to say that i guess people are just forced to

02:47:02.960 be comfortable in this society now because what else do we have to do what else can we do overabundant

02:47:09.120 and all the things that we want but we don't have the things we really need i do feel bad for kids

02:47:13.600 though like playing outside is so important and nobody does that like they should anymore like

02:47:18.400 just going on ipad adventure you know the ipad children are going to inherit the society well

02:47:25.520 since we're talking about dating i don't know how dating is going to look like in the future

02:47:30.160 with these ipad kids it looks terrible already yeah like no i actually didn't have an ipad until like i

02:47:37.520 was in high school and stuff well i will say penicillin is kind of dope just saying but i was

02:47:42.320 walking through best buy the other day and ipads are like 100 now i'm like everybody can get in that

02:47:48.240 oh that might have been like google tablets or something never mind i was like girl mine was like

02:47:54.080 three thousand dollars i feel like these parents just you know sit their kid down with an ipad so they

02:47:59.760 don't have to pay attention to them and i'm not a parent so i can't speak to how difficult it is and

02:48:04.000 i'm sure it is really difficult but i just don't think that is justifiable it's it we don't know

02:48:10.320 the long-term effects and they're probably really bad and i also like okay i wanted to like get this

02:48:16.400 off my chest i was at the airport yesterday and there were two parents that were struggling to wrangle

02:48:22.960 their young daughters onto the plane we were boarding and one was like six years old the other was a

02:48:30.000 toddler and then this mom turns to a younger woman who was seated nearby and she was saying like

02:48:36.640 this is great birth control isn't it and then she just like walked away and me and the younger

02:48:43.040 woman made eye contact like did she really just say that out loud a lot of people joke about that now

02:48:49.200 it's a really i've heard that joke like they joke about misery yeah like i i posted about this because

02:48:54.800 it disturbed me so much and left such a an impression on me and a lot of people were like

02:48:58.560 you'll get it when you have kids they're awful and i just hate the way that they're justifying like

02:49:06.000 dehumanizing children really and like parents are treated so horribly when they travel with kids

02:49:12.080 and our it just feels like our culture hates children at this like if you're gonna go out

02:49:16.720 in public and use your kids as a representation of like how they act and like how that is good birth

02:49:22.720 control then you probably shouldn't be having kids like why have kids in the first place

02:49:26.960 yeah your kids are not like that just because they're kids they're like that because you're

02:49:31.760 complacent you don't discipline your kids there's like a tick tock thing where the lady with a list

02:49:37.120 i don't know if you guys have seen that yeah like every single time there's like a bad video of

02:49:41.120 like children or something like this lady adds it to her list of like reasons to take their birth

02:49:46.320 control and it's just like oh yeah that's what i'm like oh i'll see like this is that's kind of

02:49:52.480 like that's why dating is gonna suck in a few years because people don't even want to have

02:49:56.480 kids anymore people don't even want to be mothers or fathers anymore even sadder is like if they do

02:50:02.240 want to have a family it's so much more difficult these days to actually get there to like

02:50:09.520 finding a long-lasting relationship one that is geared toward marriage is so difficult on its own

02:50:17.840 and then when you get there you can't afford to buy a house anymore you're in real estate you know this

02:50:24.240 you can't even buy a house anymore the cost of living is just insane it's skyrocketing all the time

02:50:30.640 and it's just looking really bleak for people who do want that let alone the problem people not wanting

02:50:36.160 it at all do you think it's just a phase in our society that we're like this or do you think

02:50:43.040 no no i think it's actually going to get worse in our lifetimes yep i would like to say that it's

02:50:48.960 just a phase but it's not so when in 50 years you think it's going to be like i don't think we

02:50:55.440 any of us are going to live to see things um improve on that front that's unfortunate i feel

02:51:02.080 like it might be just just a phase a hookup in our society maybe like that men women are so disconnected

02:51:09.120 um no hopefully not the lead hopefully it has been hundreds of years and then the consequences are

02:51:15.920 going to last hundreds of years too when do you think they oh you already told me that like yeah

02:51:21.840 probably 1990 maybe the west is going to collapse you know what do you think about that do you think

02:51:31.520 it's the end of the world or a hiccup maybe then the patriarchy will come back when when society

02:51:35.680 collapses and scarcity comes back what do y'all think do y'all even think we're going through a hiccup

02:51:42.080 do y'all think it's like better than it ever has been

02:51:44.160 i'm genuinely losing brain cells right now me too i'm gonna be honest i don't know um kind of like

02:51:51.600 going back to the thing though it's like people women don't have to want to have kids like i don't

02:51:56.640 know i feel like you were kind of emphasizing that like women are like you should have kids in the

02:52:01.520 society and that's how we're gonna go back to how it was years ago but did i say that well i just

02:52:06.080 that's what i how i implied it in in what you were saying so you it might have just been something

02:52:10.320 that i caught up on you know i might have picked it up wrong but i'm just saying that women could

02:52:14.240 be so much more than mothers like you don't have to be a mother especially nowadays and that's what

02:52:18.160 they can be so much more than ceos too though oh exactly and it's okay to be a mom if you want to be

02:52:22.960 a mom i think that's totally fine but it's also okay to be a ceo but there's so much more lasting

02:52:29.200 significance but i think what you were saying before is like what if you yeah what are you going to do

02:52:33.440 with the moms who can't have who can't be people who are infertile we're talking about mothers

02:52:37.920 people choose no i actually think it's because they don't want to and that's okay but mary was

02:52:43.520 saying like if these days if you want to have kids it's almost like you're shamed for it and which

02:52:48.800 is like so weird right it goes both ways which is terrible because i feel like one of like

02:52:54.240 the i don't want to say like your only purpose as a woman is to have kids but like one of your

02:53:00.560 best one of the best things you can do naturally is procreate and if that's how you see it of

02:53:05.680 course yeah if that's how you see well i definitely think there's a culture of and this

02:53:09.920 has been going on for a long time of boss babe you don't need no man go make a bunch of money focus

02:53:17.280 on your career spend your 20s focusing on your career have casual sex date a bunch of men figure

02:53:26.160 out what you like rack up a high body count focus on your career then you hit your 30s and then you

02:53:31.920 realize hmm working for some fucking whatever corporation being a wage slave isn't really

02:53:41.280 all it's cracked up to be and it's actually rather stressful and it's actually rather

02:53:45.280 unfulfilling and you have a lot of women who are and look if i'm not saying you if you want to go

02:53:51.360 be a career woman that's fine but i think a lot of career like a lot of women do that and then they

02:53:58.240 reach the finish line they have their amazing career but they don't have a family they don't

02:54:04.000 have kids they're in their mid-30s and then it's some then you maybe have started aging out of even

02:54:11.840 having children and you realize that being some wage slave for for some corporation that doesn't

02:54:19.680 give a fuck about you being submissive to your employer instead of your husband isn't all it's

02:54:24.160 cracked up to be it's not fulfilling to add some nuance to that there's a way to have a career

02:54:30.800 that isn't just being a slave to a corporation sure like you can start a business or or do something

02:54:37.120 you love you know i don't know most people are not going to be able most people are not going to be

02:54:41.360 able to do what they love the the economic reality is that you're probably going to do some and that's

02:54:49.440 fine you don't most people aren't going to be able to do what they they love you're going to do a job

02:54:56.400 that you go to you show up and then you pursue you can pursue your passions on your time off but most

02:55:02.160 people are not going to be doing particularly fulfilling work in my view yeah i mean you have

02:55:09.600 to obviously people have bills you have to live so but there's something honorable about it if a man has

02:55:16.240 a job that isn't his passion but he uses that to provide for a family absolutely that's fine

02:55:21.760 can a woman do that well she can't do five hundred and thirty eight donated one hundred dollars thank

02:55:28.480 you for calling marriage a sacrament roles are indeed inverted and occult feminism is ancient in the

02:55:34.800 theosophical societies transhumanism seems spish kardashev 2-3 civilization with metaverse

02:55:42.480 coom pod i'd rather keep bees and stay offline keep bees and stay offline bone man five three

02:55:51.040 thank you man appreciate it um word i don't know where we were um okay so oh that's right what i want

02:56:01.200 first twitch then we'll pull up the video then i got to move on to other topics yo guys go to twitch.tv

02:56:07.520 slash whatever drops to follow drop us prime so could you uh zoom it out just one yo church

02:56:14.320 okay we have trying thing for the prime monday thing for the prime church thank for the tier one

02:56:19.840 blick thing for the prime dragon thing for the prime jack stones thank you for the uh six months

02:56:25.600 at tier one appreciate it man and then we have the video this is what i think a woman can bring to the

02:56:30.960 table oh nick you're gonna have to put it on oh look i left a comment um now bear in mind bear in mind

02:56:37.120 okay before you click play uh how do i this is an exaggeration but i'm not gonna lie this is

02:56:46.400 fucking based as fuck keep in mind though if you're a guy and you want this you're probably have to be

02:56:51.920 a very high earner go ahead let's play uh the sounds kind of meme like nah no sound just uh yeah just go

02:57:00.080 ahead

02:57:12.400 right great isn't it literally my life isn't this great hold on it gets better this is

02:57:19.120 gets home

02:57:27.280 feeds him too i'm assuming

02:57:30.560 yeah and just play one is it gonna repeat okay no you can keep it look at the fucking bow i want

02:57:37.120 to bow a woman who can bow that's what you can bring to the table a a deep bow not just like a

02:57:41.760 a little head nod i want to bow are you gonna bow back are you gonna bow back is it is that

02:57:48.960 does the guy have to bow back would i have to bow back it's like i think i prefer a dominant one in

02:57:53.920 the relationship i would prefer she doesn't have to stir my noodles by the way i can do that myself

02:57:59.600 but like the the attentiveness the attentiveness that's kind of attractive now i wouldn't i think

02:58:06.560 they're doing the exaggeration there the guy's like flinging his

02:58:09.200 shit in a kind of aggressive way flaying his shoes flinging his shirt i would i like it because

02:58:15.280 i like doing things like that i like to be there i don't think it's an exaggeration i feel like men

02:58:21.680 actually do that do what just just is that what frankie will come home and throw a shirt on the

02:58:28.400 bed and i'll just grab it throw it in the basket like okay i feel like people actually do that

02:58:34.480 question for the chat do you does the guy bow back in that situation does he bow back or i

02:58:38.560 think he just walks in and uh if he respects you he bows back i don't know um

02:58:49.760 that's kind of dope when i'm talking about peace when i'm talking about respect uh

02:58:55.920 hook it up with a bow you know would any of you be down to like bow to your boyfriend as he came home

02:59:00.960 no why would you wait why would you do any of this for a boyfriend instead of a husband is my

02:59:05.120 question the boyfriend could still provide husband material no you should not i'm against that like

02:59:12.240 treating a boyfriend like a husband what incentive does he have can we um you know what we'll have

02:59:17.440 violet demonstrate violet could you um demonstrate a bow for us

02:59:24.160 what the fuck was that why are you doing a double never mind okay roman salute

02:59:30.000 okay okay no that's not is that some ballet shit what are you doing a pirouette which one do you

02:59:36.080 want no a the the blouse just the the bow i mean you don't have to do like that one more time

02:59:47.840 in the video did did she have her hand here

02:59:51.120 here cradling no just put your hands like oh yeah there we go there you gotta do okay demonstrate

02:59:57.280 a bow i feel like that's you you kind of see i think you're doing too much at the hip i think

03:00:03.680 it's got to be a bit more there we go there needs to be a rounding a rounding of the back you were to

03:00:08.880 do it gracefully she looks like a cat throwing up oh yeah that's tick tocks right there you you can

03:00:15.360 sit down okay we've seen enough so okay i don't know i feel like she should hug him the bowing is

03:00:22.480 a little i i'm i'm a big fan of her knees and second as soon as he walks in if that's your man

03:00:30.560 you gotta get on your knees that's a bow okay good times okay let's uh let me get through some

03:00:39.840 of the pre-show notes here so let's see we have uh how do you pronounce your name again

03:00:50.720 terranay terranay yes in your pre-show notes to us you said that you're tired of the narrative

03:00:56.080 that all women want a man to provide for them some women like myself are looking for a genuine

03:01:02.560 connection and believe in equal partnership yeah i feel like it's very hard to find a genuine

03:01:08.800 connection these days sure so you and you but you said you're tired of the narrative that all women

03:01:15.760 want a man to provide for them and you said some women like yourself looking for genuine connection

03:01:22.400 and believe in equal partnership you i'm not getting your words mixed up here that's yeah okay so you

03:01:29.200 don't okay but then and here's where i was a little confused you also wrote that i am traditional in

03:01:36.480 the sense that i feel a man should pay for dates in the courting stages but i am not one to date

03:01:42.320 someone for their income yeah i think just in like the courting stages to me that's just what i've been

03:01:48.960 taught um that's how i've been brought up so i feel like that's what a gentleman does on the first date

03:01:55.360 that they pay um you you said pay for dates though so i assume the first few dates also i'm imagining right

03:02:02.160 i mean if they could pay for the first date that would be nice i mean okay yeah um have you

03:02:09.200 encountered men who don't pay for the first date um

03:02:15.840 i feel like or who split rather yeah yeah who are like oh can we split or and how does that make you

03:02:21.760 feel um i to me i put them in a different category like they're more of a never talk to them ever again

03:02:29.200 category yeah pretty much or i'm just like uh it's just a friend he's just a friend that i put yeah

03:02:34.800 right wouldn't that be like equal partnership though that's well that's where i'm confused

03:02:40.000 with what maddie is saying here because and i my understanding this is just the words that you wrote

03:02:45.200 to us yeah you said you're tired of the narrative that all women want a man to provide for them

03:02:50.960 some women like yourself believe in equal partnership but i'm failing to see how you

03:02:57.120 how do you reconcile both of these statements because they're kind of contradictory you're

03:03:01.680 saying you want an equal partnership but you're also traditional and you feel a man should pay for

03:03:06.160 dates in the courting stages yeah because in relationships i've always been the one to give

03:03:12.080 more into the relationship i've always been the one who's um

03:03:18.960 basically putting more myself into it and i feel like

03:03:22.480 like if someone was to take care of the first date that shows me that maybe they could love the

03:03:28.720 same way that i do because once i'm like

03:03:33.040 getting to know somebody and i really like them i do give a lot of myself to the person when you but

03:03:39.760 are you when you give a lot of yourself are you talking about financially i feel like i have like

03:03:45.440 yeah in some ways emotionally do you feel emotionally financially well i suspect well okay yeah

03:03:54.720 are you do you feel it's you giving more of yourself if you're splitting the bills 50 50

03:04:02.960 have you ever held down a guy like have you ever paid everything i have okay i guess my where i'm

03:04:09.760 confused when you say you feel a man should pay for dates in the courting stages how how long is the

03:04:15.760 courting stage a couple weeks couple months like at least like after i mean i don't know at at least

03:04:21.920 for three dates if the guy could take care of it more often than not of all the different men you've

03:04:28.640 dated more often than not are they though paying for the dates

03:04:32.720 yeah like the first date but and then but then then afterwards they there's been occasions where

03:04:41.200 i where i paid for the yeah when you say that person didn't respect me as much afterwards like

03:04:49.040 they didn't hold me to like the same regard but when you when you say you paid are you saying you

03:04:54.160 paid for your bill or you paid for him too i've paid for the guy too before okay again but what i'm

03:05:01.040 confused is and perhaps you can help me try to reconcile this you said in your show in your

03:05:05.360 pre-show notes to us you believe in equal partnership yet you said that you feel that

03:05:11.120 men should pay for date for dates in the courting stages that doesn't sound equal to me what's

03:05:17.680 what would be equal would be you each you split the bill or you each pay your own bill

03:05:22.240 uh however so you you want you believe in equal partnership

03:05:29.840 except when it comes to paying the bill that's where i'm confused i i'm just saying like for the

03:05:35.920 first few dates i want the man to initiate it um to me when i say equal partnership like i said when

03:05:43.520 i'm in a relationship i usually give so much of myself like financially spiritually emotionally so i feel

03:05:50.720 like that just shows that the man like you know that he's trying to pursue me that he cares you

03:05:56.240 know um that's the best way i can put it to me that's but do you not see how it's a bit contradictory

03:06:06.000 to say that you believe in equal partnership maybe equal partnership isn't the right word to use

03:06:12.160 i mean it's i believe that that's it that determines you know if this person is going to be worth my time

03:06:19.840 because i know when i'm in a relationship that i give so much of myself to the person

03:06:26.160 so do they not give themselves to you too i'm just i mean my last relationship was not

03:06:33.760 the healthiest i've been in a healthy relationship before but the last one was your last was it the

03:06:39.840 four-year relationship um it was three years the last one was three years three okay three years

03:06:46.080 were you paying all the expenses in that relationship a lot of times yeah yeah you were you guys living

03:06:54.800 together mm-hmm were you splitting rent or how did that work was he paying the rent he would pay

03:07:05.440 sometimes but he just wasn't he wasn't contributing like as much as he really did you have conversations

03:07:12.560 about that yes yes it was it he was a toxic individual so you dated him for three years you

03:07:20.320 said mm-hmm you chose to cohabitate and live with and with a toxic individual well what do you like

03:07:28.240 about him um we had a connection we did have a connection you had a connection yeah with a toxic

03:07:36.480 individual that doesn't make a lot of sense to me like what were the traits about him that you've

03:07:41.200 that you liked we had what kept you in that we had a lot of fun together translation he was a bad

03:07:49.520 boy and exciting and he fucked me really well i mean that was that chapter in my life and i'm in a

03:07:58.080 completely different space what do you mean so you agree with what brian just said

03:08:01.840 i mean i was in a different space in my life so what do you mean different space of your life

03:08:08.000 um well at the time it was like i had the choice to either go to this toxic relationship or the

03:08:15.920 alternative was other toxic things other just be by yourself like be single for a little bit have an

03:08:23.920 option at the time i don't want to really get into the details well you had the option but you didn't

03:08:28.640 desire to be alone at that time for whatever reason i didn't have support and i think um that's

03:08:35.680 what yeah sometimes you need like people i was in like an unhealthy relationship where i didn't feel

03:08:42.880 like i had anybody any place to go to like i was out of i didn't feel like i had options how

03:08:51.600 how at what point in your relationship did you guys move in together it was kind of it was early

03:09:00.160 but initially i moved in with him and his mom so like the first yeah but then later on you became

03:09:09.840 like the financial provider his mom passed away so then yeah so then we ended up getting an apartment

03:09:16.320 together okay yeah that's when you started bearing the brunt of most of the expenses yeah like it

03:09:22.080 wasn't i mean if i knew it was going to be that way you know i obviously wouldn't have got into it

03:09:28.400 but you live and you learn i mean that's why it was three years ago and i'm damn you know a lot of

03:09:34.560 the time to heal a lot of women complain about men being assholes and men being toxic yet you find

03:09:41.600 yourselves interestingly enough in long-term cohabitating relationships with the precise men

03:09:47.920 that you categorize as toxic and assholes and jerks and bad boys i think this is because women are

03:09:54.720 attracted to these well it's certainly the case that women are attracted to these kinds of men because

03:09:58.640 they're exciting in one way or another and you a lot of we've had women who come on the show and they

03:10:06.000 say well a guy could be attractive yeah be stable have a good job but he just isn't we didn't feel

03:10:12.320 the click we didn't feel the connection i wouldn't say that's the case with me i just think i was a

03:10:18.000 broken person at the time and i was in a like i said i was in a different place in my life i hadn't healed

03:10:24.400 a lot of parts of me and so that i attracted that person but i don't think i necessarily saw them

03:10:31.360 in the beginning as being like a bad boy i actually thought he was too nice that's literally what i

03:10:37.280 remember my first but too nice and no i mean you don't know somebody until you're with them for a

03:10:43.680 period of time you can't just say after the first day oh yeah this person's like good or bad like i

03:10:49.520 don't know it's just it takes time to get to know someone does it take three years no but there's like

03:10:57.760 there's like deeper circumstances obviously why why i would stay in that situation but like i said

03:11:03.280 i think the biggest thing was i didn't have um a family base or anything can you talk straight into

03:11:10.000 the mic please i didn't feel like i had like a family base or any anyone to fall on so i feel like

03:11:17.280 i stayed in it longer than i should have because i just thought like why am i going to leave this toxic

03:11:23.520 situation to go and be in a more toxic situation because you're addicted to the drama you like the

03:11:29.840 excitement that a toxic relationship brings you was him living with his mom ever a red flag for you

03:11:35.760 or were you just kind of like women a lot of women hold on a lot of women would rather date a toxic guy

03:11:42.160 than a boring guy okay women like that drama that early 20s now i'm in my 30s i'm in a different stage

03:11:48.720 in life people also change have you heard of that like people change yeah people don't stay the same

03:11:54.560 they grow and they evolve and you learn from your mistakes do you not believe in that is that why you

03:11:59.440 care about body count so much i mean we can talk about body yeah i would like to add a little go ahead

03:12:06.320 go ahead sure uh i'm not saying that this applies to you and this relationship but as far as why women

03:12:13.760 get with toxic guys who obviously have a bunch of red flags that they ignore i think sometimes it's

03:12:19.600 actually more of a narcissistic thing that's about yourself uh as the woman thinking um and i'm not

03:12:25.760 saying this from experience at all but from observation thinking i can change him i'm special

03:12:32.000 he'll change for me because i'm just a special unicorn it's rather naive though don't you think of

03:12:37.520 course it is of course it is but it's not just wanting excitement or maybe it's a mix of both but

03:12:43.120 well i think it's more that thing about yourself like i'm the one who's gonna change him because

03:12:49.440 i'm special and i have to prove to myself that i'm special because my parents didn't like that's

03:12:53.920 what this is i think this is a difference between men and women because you often hear women say well

03:12:58.320 i need the click i need the chemistry i need the the lightning i need the uh butterflies i need this

03:13:04.320 ethereal thing that a lot of people cannot actually articulate what they're looking for you often hear

03:13:09.680 women say that they like funny men that they like guys who are exciting and all the all these things

03:13:14.320 you often don't hear men saying at least on the top of their totem pole that they're looking for

03:13:18.800 women who are humorous or funny most men frankly don't care and i think that's why men generally have

03:13:24.480 a uh stronger stronger inclination to pursue women who are would bring them peace women i think a lot of

03:13:32.960 women look to men to be entertainers you want us to be your fun and your entertainment now i don't

03:13:38.880 think that that is what makes a good partner generalizations i mean you're generally you can

03:13:48.480 every every i think i think you ask i think if you ask any woman what they're looking for personality

03:13:55.440 wise from a guy at the very top every single woman would be like i like funny guys i'd like a guy who's

03:14:02.000 funny my view is is that actually a guy who's maybe a bit more dull actually might be the most suitable

03:14:14.160 partner that you can find but you like to be entertained you want that sort of stimulation

03:14:19.120 which is why there's it's not like i'm not pulling this out of my ass women admit it themselves they

03:14:25.040 say they like bad boys and also whether they admit to it or not women constantly constantly complain

03:14:34.000 about men being jerks assholes whatever you pick those men you're attracted to those men you have to

03:14:43.360 have some accountability when it comes to the men that you choose to be in relationships with

03:14:47.120 how often is it the case that you hear a woman say oh he was the he was he was perfect but we didn't

03:14:53.840 have the click well i think a lot of women collapse in their mind the idea of a guy who is uh exciting

03:15:02.720 to be around who excites them who maybe entertains them or makes them laugh um who has a spark with the

03:15:11.440 guy who introduces uncertainty into your life and if you're someone with an insecure attachment

03:15:16.960 style because of your upbringing uh then you're going to be addicted to that uncertainty and

03:15:23.600 not being able to stand on stable ground in a relationship so if there is a guy who is

03:15:29.920 toxic an asshole he's constantly making you question and and testing your your security and

03:15:36.080 women want security so bad in a relationship that if if they have an insecure attachment style they're going

03:15:43.520 to be addicted to that guy who doesn't give it to them sure nick there's actually a video on this in

03:15:50.000 the podcast videos folder it's called boring no chemistry um if you can get that pulled up here uh

03:16:00.320 yeah so i think any emotionally healthy person is able to have an exciting relationship that is also

03:16:06.000 stable and i think that i have something like that personally like i i am excited to spend time with

03:16:13.520 my boyfriend i have fun with him sure and we have a stable relationship in which i'm not constantly

03:16:18.720 questioning myself but i do think there's this expectation on men that we be your perfect

03:16:24.000 entertainers and always like if you want entertainment if you want funny like go watch netflix

03:16:32.960 my role as a partner to you is not to be your entertainment

03:16:38.800 but like i do need some i don't need you to be the most funny person in the world but i need you to

03:16:43.200 be able to take a joke because like a lot of people are sure and i think that is just probably one of my

03:16:50.240 main things just don't be super sensitive but i often hear this complaint from women that oh he's kind

03:16:55.520 of boring boring is not a bad thing at least when i when i'm looking at a woman i want to date if she's

03:17:02.560 kind of now obviously i want to be able to have a conversation with her but if you think that the

03:17:06.880 primary thing men are looking for is a woman's humor i think it's that's very low on the toe for most

03:17:14.240 men here we have this this is related to it wait mute it mute it mute it mute it mute it

03:17:23.040 i don't feel that much chemistry with him he's boring

03:17:25.680 he doesn't trigger my anxious trauma response which i confuse with love that's exactly what i

03:17:32.320 said yep yep pretty much what mary said that's why women like to date toxic men because it keeps

03:17:37.520 them on their toes it's so thrilling to be in a relationship with them they they just excited

03:17:41.680 yeah it's literally basically exciting and so thrilling that but in the healthy to the adrenaline

03:17:47.440 that it gives them but in the healthy sense of it like women do want like actual or at least

03:17:55.040 women should want when they are emotionally stable they should desire romance excitement fun

03:18:02.560 and all of that type of thing like but not confuse it for something else

03:18:07.040 and you say you don't want a toxic guy but when he's too nice it's a red flag

03:18:11.040 i also think people don't give um people enough chances like you meet somebody on the first date

03:18:19.520 and it might not click right away and so like sometimes people just write people off i found

03:18:25.360 that after the third date like nine times out of ten i start to like the person like i see like

03:18:31.200 qualities in them that i like but it's it takes time to like peel back layers and get to know someone

03:18:37.920 this is why you don't swipe left on the guy with the fish pick well gotta get to know well i agree

03:18:44.000 i'm not really into fishing so whatever but but when it comes to the vibe or the click who here in

03:18:51.520 this i put vibe chemistry click in the same realm as love at first sight who here believes that in love

03:18:56.960 at first sight i think we all realize that's kind of bogus um in a certain sense though i i don't know

03:19:04.560 about sight but the fact that you're in someone's physical presence has a lot to do with your

03:19:08.400 attraction to them if you just see a picture of them it's not the same thing i mean there's lust

03:19:12.400 but i mean no not love is this just for dating about or like is this for anything in general

03:19:18.240 well i'm talking about love at first sight yeah but like i think we all agree like a child and they

03:19:22.560 see their child yeah okay yes i'm talking about romantic dating okay in that sense no i don't believe in

03:19:28.560 it yeah i categorize the click in that same thing in the same way that i i think love develops i too

03:19:36.720 also think that that sort of chemistry and click can develop can develop over time a lot of women

03:19:43.280 though want that instantly otherwise they're just going to write off the guy um and typically the men

03:19:49.120 who are able to elicit that vibe that chemistry that click the rainbow the butterflies whatever the

03:19:54.800 electricity the spark all the bullshit terms that are used they're able to elicit it in a lot of

03:20:01.120 other women too that's why a lot of women fall for players because i don't think a lot of women are

03:20:06.080 feeling the click the connection the vibe with maybe a guy who's a bit more introverted a guy who's maybe

03:20:10.400 a bit more maybe he's a little socially awkward you're not fault you're not feeling the click with

03:20:16.400 the socially awkward dude you're falling you're getting the click with the guy who's super

03:20:21.120 confident that dude's probably a player so is any wonder why a lot of women are chasing after these

03:20:26.400 really attractive player dudes who just have that level of experience of eliciting that feeling in

03:20:31.680 women because you're looking for this thing also let me ask you guys here have you ever had the click

03:20:38.320 the connection vibe with a guy only to whether shortly thereafter or maybe a couple weeks couple months

03:20:46.000 down the road realize this person is a terrible person have you ever had that yeah no you've never

03:20:52.960 okay yeah one boyfriend over here okay no you've never had a click or connection with a guy and then

03:21:00.400 turns out he's not that good remember right now yeah i'll try to think of one yeah yeah definitely

03:21:06.800 you've had the click with a guy and then down the road you're like oh this guy no not so much yeah

03:21:11.040 yeah so it's clear that having the clicker connection is not the end-all be-all when it

03:21:17.120 comes to finding a suitable partner what about you i think so no honestly i've also never been in a

03:21:22.400 relationship so i've never you know but maybe you've met a guy who you've got that clicker connection

03:21:27.680 with and then turns out might be a scumbag i mean i have an experience but i i totally understand how

03:21:34.320 like other people have experienced it too so it's not like i'm like saying no it never happens sure so

03:21:39.440 yeah okay all right let me see if we have any chats here do we have chats did i read this one

03:21:45.600 violet can you read this one i tuned in for 10 minutes and i already hear the forbidden word

03:21:50.160 patriarchy i don't really think you flannel have a moral leg to stand on as well as complain about

03:21:56.240 patriarchy when your lifestyle is funded by simps and weak men i wasn't complaining i think i was just

03:22:02.880 making a statement but i definitely love the patriarchy i love she loves she loves patriarchy

03:22:09.520 there yeah yo bad zxc very good to see you back in the chat man it's been a it's been a minute thank

03:22:14.400 you dude uh go ahead if you want to read it errol collins who is that blonde chick to judge anyone

03:22:23.200 she's mad because violet can pull and she can't so who is she to judge anyone violet is not just a porn

03:22:29.840 star she's a very sweet person so i suggest that chick back off love you violet master errol i'll

03:22:36.320 love you master errol um i am very nice but i don't think that's a hard accomplishment wait can you read

03:22:43.520 this one nickelodeon violet can you dig a joke that was the name they gave my nick jr in high school okay

03:22:52.160 do you guys want to come back to this one here um very sweet person well what i will say to that is

03:23:01.040 you are a simp you're brainwashed and hypnotized by pornography and in fact i told violet that her line

03:23:10.080 of work is well below her dignity and she has plenty of other qualities i don't know her very well

03:23:17.040 that are very valuable so thank you mary mary has the best intentions she's she's good and she's

03:23:23.120 good intentions but you're a simp and you should change your ways just like violet errol do you have

03:23:30.560 a response to mary's accusations that you are a simp also why is he called master errol is that yeah

03:23:37.120 he likes to be called master does he have to pay extra does he have to pay extra for he's called master

03:23:41.760 yeah uh do you have to be extra for that okay so i was i was proven correct like he's one of the

03:23:47.920 simps a paying customer yes he's a loyal daddy uh okay uh gross do you want oh no that so also by the

03:24:00.640 way violet is single and i'm not so true that is true i made a bet with mary that we're gonna see who

03:24:08.080 gets married first so mary's mary's in a very committed relationship i have never been in a

03:24:13.680 relationship zero relationships not as an adult i was in a long relationship in high school that

03:24:19.520 doesn't count okay so yeah never been in a relationship mary has been in a very healthy

03:24:25.760 one-year relationship we're gonna she's ahead right now but it's not how you start it's how you finish

03:24:31.040 should we wager do you want to wager on this mary who gets married first how much are you putting

03:24:38.240 wait like actual money yeah we're no no okay i wouldn't bet with you though let's see who gets

03:24:45.360 married first between me and you oh that's easy you're gonna get married first because i'm not

03:24:48.560 gonna get married oh yeah i forgot you don't really like marriage that's sad anti-marriage sourpuss

03:24:54.320 yeah yeah not a fan but well i i don't object to it from like a religious perspective but like a

03:25:01.520 secular marriage is of course people are very yeah people are lollygaggy with it but i love legally

03:25:07.360 speaking the idea of marriage and what it actually is i think you love the idea of having a wedding

03:25:12.800 it's not clear to me if you love the idea i really haven't thought about my wedding ever i i like the

03:25:18.560 idea of being having a live partner eventually though uh okay so i want to bring it to priscilla

03:25:24.960 you said that you wanted to touch on gender roles traditional versus non-traditional what did you have

03:25:30.240 on that oh no like it's pretty simple like um i think it like in an ideal situation like the man

03:25:37.600 should provide and the woman should focus on taking care of their children at least until when they're 18

03:25:42.160 the man should pay for the hotel room yeah yeah actually yeah my mom my mom criticized me on that

03:25:48.960 too she's like at least she's like at least if you're gonna go hook up with a dude who doesn't

03:25:54.640 care about you in the hotel room at least he should pay for it yeah my mom didn't be like oh can't he

03:25:59.280 at least have just paid twice wait no he paid for the first though right he paid for his first man

03:26:05.440 but my mom said that like instead of me paying for the second round he should have paid for the

03:26:09.680 second round as well was there a third was there a third hotel situation no was it hilton marriott

03:26:17.440 ritz okay no one was in san dimas other one was in west covino no not where just like

03:26:23.440 the chain remember the brand hilton has good bed sheets i don't remember um i do have the address but

03:26:29.760 like i don't remember the name i don't know okay so question for you you think it you believe in

03:26:39.040 traditional gender roles yeah i think what do you want to get married i do but like realistically i

03:26:45.360 don't know if i can get married by the time i'm 30 because again i don't really put myself out there

03:26:51.680 and i'm like you said i'm kind of a hermit sure because like i do have anxiety and like i said i

03:26:56.560 think i don't think a guy would want to put up with someone who has anxiety you did say like guys

03:27:00.320 shouldn't date girls with mental illness i think anxiety is borderline mental illness is it not

03:27:04.880 well it depends how it manifests itself and its impact on the relationship um hold on zero

03:27:10.320 who's maxi donated 100 we'll come back to that though what's up brian yeah what's up man thank

03:27:15.440 you thank you recently been watching some of your past streams and this is the first time i'm tuning

03:27:20.720 live at 4 30 a.m in from london thank you what is everyone's longest relationship would love to be on

03:27:27.200 the show next time i'm in la happy to support um so we i'm pretty sure we went over that at the beginning

03:27:32.800 of the show everybody shared their longest relationships we have a lot of people here

03:27:36.320 who haven't been in any real relationships so uh yeah that's pretty much the uh i think one year one

03:27:43.920 year a couple years if i yeah um but hey thank you man thank you for tuning in um how's the weather

03:27:51.920 in london thank you man appreciate it uh so your anxiety you think it's going to be

03:27:57.200 might be difficult for you yeah because of your anxiety i think i need to work on

03:28:00.720 overcoming my anxiety i can fix you but i think it's manageable will you will you marry me priscilla

03:28:06.720 no oh my god you said you didn't want to get married oh well let's yeah what's that about

03:28:12.240 can i see your bow at least and i might reconsider can you can you show us your bow no would you bow

03:28:18.640 though would you do i mean i wouldn't bow like the woman in the video that's kind of base though

03:28:23.520 well like like you were like saying oh she has good posture blah blah blah you're so big like

03:28:27.680 i'm too precise yeah you seem very like yeah like nitpicky about like

03:28:33.280 about the bow can't she just can't she slouch and bow like is that a problem i'm very you got to do

03:28:37.200 like some sort of like i don't know i couldn't get it right yeah exactly i will say i'm very particular

03:28:43.280 about my bows i'm very you had a woman bow to you before is that why you're so particular about it

03:28:48.080 have i had a woman bow to me i probably have to be honest okay but i guess she didn't stick it's

03:28:56.240 it's a rare occurrence i feel but i saw i some one of my viewers thank you i forgot whoever sent it to

03:29:02.240 me sent that to me yesterday and i saw that video obviously it's kind of like they're uh exaggerating

03:29:07.520 the whole scenario a little bit not gonna fucking lie though that's kind of fucking based that's so

03:29:14.960 fucking based word what he posted what does based mean it's just like based in reality it's like

03:29:22.560 that's awesome basically okay that's does it have to be that way can't she just say but can we see

03:29:27.120 your bow can you at least priscilla please show us the bow show us the bow show us the bow

03:29:34.960 submissive housewife let's see it okay

03:29:38.720 like hello like welcome home that was so good i would it should be a little deeper

03:29:48.800 can we get a bit deeper i need a deeper bow because i feel like that was not

03:29:52.240 a respectful why are you trying to get her to show cleavage that's not what i'm doing i'm

03:29:56.480 asking for a bow i didn't get it wow it has nothing to do i know his way no it has nothing to do with

03:30:02.320 cleavage i'm just a fetish a bow fetish i think so how's it the it's not that's respect it's not

03:30:09.760 no that's what i was telling you i don't even think he was well even if he's not intending to

03:30:14.160 do that that's what the chat that's not what i'm intending to do i it's literally you can if you

03:30:18.880 want put on a fucking burka and bow i i'd like to see the appropriate bowing form that's all i'm

03:30:24.400 saying i don't care about the cleavage okay violet and mary i hope not god y'all had to of course

03:30:32.560 y'all had to make it awkward okay what am i supposed to bow again no you don't have to

03:30:36.640 fucking bow again i think i did it more than once already so pathologizing male preferences for bowing

03:30:42.880 it's always male preferences are always pathologized in some way if a guy likes this type of woman or

03:30:48.160 that type of woman or he wants this he's either insecure some way he's misogynist blah blah blah okay

03:30:53.360 whatever um so uh i'm gonna go and work on my vows tonight you need practice okay you need

03:30:59.760 practice i will come back better the two hands up was a bit surprising that's definitely not yeah

03:31:05.200 the double roman salute yeah i was not expecting wait which one i don't even know what i did i was

03:31:10.880 like oh shit okay um so priscilla you said you you're more traditional uh when you get married are you

03:31:16.320 gonna take would you take your husband's last name yeah i would maybe maybe combine my maiden name and my

03:31:22.720 husband's last name okay well what about the kids i think they should take after the father's

03:31:27.520 last name okay yeah okay what if it's like hitler what the fuck i wouldn't go with someone who's like

03:31:34.000 hitler though what if it's just he's a fascist i don't know like they're extremely i wouldn't go for

03:31:39.040 i don't think they would be married if he was really bad yeah no no i mean like if their last name

03:31:43.600 was hitler oh if it was not the guy like he could be a perfectly nice guy but his last name okay yeah i

03:31:48.880 think my children would probably get bullied right get made fun of if his last name was hitler but i

03:31:53.680 don't is there are there like people whose last name is hitler i mean like maybe descendants of the

03:31:58.480 politician but not taking that last name okay yeah great last name traditional gender roles

03:32:09.200 did you have more on that priscilla or was that well i will say that like i am i am despite that like i

03:32:14.400 am pursuing a degree because like for me like i would like to provide for the kids when they're

03:32:18.400 still really young but maybe when they're 18 i want kind of want to like do stuff that i enjoy maybe

03:32:22.800 somehow utilize my degree sure once they're old enough to move out i wanted to touch back in on

03:32:28.640 your anxiety really quick so you said you're still kind of working on the anxiety uh

03:32:35.920 uh yeah and you think that that's going to be a barrier for you to find a partner i think so i i

03:32:45.040 feel like some guys would find that to be a red flag especially if it's like really high because i i on

03:32:50.800 like i said ever since the pandemic it's gone pretty high like it's gotten worse than before and like over

03:32:58.000 i overthink situations and etc i think the right guy is going to be willing to help you though you think

03:33:05.120 you'd be able to grow with you help me overcome that yeah absolutely i would hope so i mean but

03:33:09.120 but i mean you're you're also on a podcast right now so that you're doing pretty good i think yeah

03:33:14.000 yeah i am a fan of this podcast like i i was immersed in it i've been immersed in it for a while

03:33:20.400 oh wow yeah it's very vulnerable which is definitely good thank you yeah i'm trying to get out of my shell

03:33:25.760 more that's why i'm here yeah the fact that you're working on yourself i even made an instagram

03:33:30.720 account to reach out to whatever like i actually don't have instagram good for you but um i made

03:33:36.720 that's brave applications for her that's awesome no instagram she made it just for you ryan the bow was

03:33:44.640 pretty good he's falling but anxiety hey anyway you can overcome anxiety a lot of people just go

03:33:53.760 through phases with anxiety i overcame anxiety i had terrible anxiety maybe it's just when did you

03:33:59.200 have anxiety when i was younger like a young adult i mean i occasionally still have anxiety but i used

03:34:03.840 to have full-blown panic attacks me too but you learned to manage it right yeah uh the weather in

03:34:10.480 london is blank probably bad what is everyone's take on long distance relationships and if you had a

03:34:16.240 boyfriend and he had to move state or country for work would you be open to moving with him if not

03:34:20.720 could you how would you do with a long distance we can only do one question um so um if you had

03:34:28.800 boyfriend let's just do would you do a long distance relationship yes or no

03:34:36.960 uh yes i did it for a year so yes no no yeah yeah if it didn't begin long distance

03:34:46.720 uh only for frankie i would not do a long distance relationship um i just there's plenty of people

03:34:58.880 i mean it it's conceivable that i could have been dating a girl two years in person and she moves away

03:35:06.400 or some shit why isn't and i think nick is laughing because that's the predicament he's in

03:35:10.160 um in any case there's plenty of people locally uh distance i think is a major stressor on

03:35:17.760 relationships what's the point and imagine being in a long distance relationship for like two years

03:35:25.040 you rarely see each other and then it ends like i feel like it's just even more not worth it

03:35:32.160 than because you didn't even get that that time in person with the other person so it's like you were in

03:35:38.160 an isolated relationship so i don't know that's what if you have to go off to war yeah when the

03:35:44.640 draft that's why we should equalize the draft so my girlfriend can let's

03:35:50.480 fucking go equality oh no you're alpha so you're gonna throw her into like the fire like you said

03:35:57.680 oh my god this conference do you have a girlfriend are you single what's your status i'm a man of god

03:36:03.680 i'm dedicated to whoa my nunnery my male your nunnery what wait what that doesn't make any

03:36:11.440 sense that's not answering the question you don't want to say men of god don't man of god don't see

03:36:18.240 other i'm a man of god let's just say that or date what does that mean i'm a man of god are you a priest

03:36:25.840 i do have a bible in here somewhere okay whatever um so i have a bible wow so wait the anxiety how

03:36:35.360 would that man i think i already asked this but i feel like you only gave one answer like what are

03:36:38.560 some of the ways it would come up be a negative in a relationship i think i would just like because

03:36:44.960 you i'm sorry sorry go ahead go ahead no i definitely think it would affect a relationship

03:36:48.400 like because like for me like at one point my anxiety got so bad that like i just cut everyone out of my

03:36:53.440 life and like that would you know in that situation i i probably cut him out of my life

03:36:59.680 or be like well i need to work on myself like that's what i would say are you impulsive impulsive

03:37:05.520 yeah no i don't think so no i don't really have the impulse um but like i overthink things and

03:37:11.520 sometimes like i don't know how how my future partner would be able to handle that if i have so

03:37:15.600 much anxiety because i'm always like what if what if what if huh like would you overthink something

03:37:20.400 with your partner um no no it's just just in life just life in general even small things like give

03:37:26.400 us an example um like what you're wearing today like things like that oh she mentioned cleavage

03:37:33.440 that got me pretty worried oh i don't think we have anything to worry about okay i was like i don't

03:37:38.960 i don't think i have much mine are out like if your boyfriend like went out of the house for a day

03:37:44.080 you'd be overthinking about what he's doing oh i know one of my anxiety is like possibly to getting

03:37:47.840 cheated on because for me i feel like i don't want to like call it the entire world out but i feel

03:37:54.320 like people from this generation tend to cheat more than our parents generations probably yeah and like

03:38:01.760 i feel like you know like hookup culture is like a trend like i think it just gives people an incentive

03:38:06.240 to cheat more so that's why i was dating a girl who dreamed that i cheated about her and then she was

03:38:14.560 upset at me about that i cheated on her in her dream i didn't actually cheat on her but she dreams

03:38:20.800 was she upset at you or just upset i can't believe no she's upset at me she's like why the

03:38:24.640 did you cheat on me in my dream i'm exaggerating i mean she didn't say it that way but she was

03:38:29.760 emotions from your dreams can truly carry on to like reality though because i've definitely woken up

03:38:35.120 from a like a bad dream and been just had a shit day like are you confused when you wake up like

03:38:42.080 what happened what's real like like if i don't know i i don't know a good example but

03:38:48.240 maybe she believed it was prophetic

03:38:53.200 was it did you end up cheating on her no i didn't cheat on her i didn't cheat on her she just dreamed i

03:38:58.320 did yeah and then she's like what the brian how dare you cheat on me in my dream i just know because

03:39:06.400 i feel like in dreams like you actually have a vision of what like it looks like you know what

03:39:11.760 i mean you're talking about like the actual act no not the act but like you feel how it feels to be

03:39:18.240 cheated on and oh yeah it's brutal so what's an example though with your anxiety well i think we're not

03:39:26.080 like we're not a lot about we're not allowed to talk about covid right for me like i'm sure you

03:39:32.080 can go ahead talk about it i'm scared like oh if i like touch my eye with like my dirty hands i'm i'm

03:39:36.240 i get really anxious like oh shoot i just put myself of getting covid like stuff like that like every time

03:39:42.080 because oh yeah you're just building your immunity it's yeah that's why like i like table wash my hands

03:39:49.280 like every like every time i'm surprised you're not masking oh well my mom was like like

03:39:56.320 like urging me to take it off because she's like it's not as rampant as it was before like during

03:40:00.720 2020 and 2021 but wait are you still like worried about covid or time to time yeah like when i'm

03:40:07.440 touching the doorknob and i like accidentally touch my mouth like that kind of stuff brings me it gives

03:40:11.520 me anxiety thinking that oh i just put myself of course you gotta wash i'm with you you should

03:40:15.360 wash your hands after touching yeah i wash my hands too often though and that's something that like

03:40:19.840 how many times a day because i i'm like at least 10 i think i wash my hands at least 10 times a day

03:40:24.480 i wash my hands more than i wash a lot more than that i think like double that like 20 times

03:40:29.280 i feel like it's more ocd than anxiety is it that's definitely ocd but don't they go kind

03:40:34.400 of hand in hand don't they though yes yeah yeah i guess but actually i do have another example okay

03:40:41.680 good like what is it um i couldn't find my phone for like an hour it turns out i had sat on my phone

03:40:47.600 for the longest time and i thought like oh my god what if i get cancer in my rectum wait what are you

03:40:54.160 cancer in your rectum i'm not like i i started freaking out wait why because i sat on my phone

03:41:00.080 the whole time because like there was a time where i couldn't find my phone i sat on my phone it turns

03:41:04.880 out i had sat on it for like an hour and then when i found out that i sat on it i was like oh my god

03:41:10.000 what if i get cancer okay that's like the weirdest thing i've ever heard because i was told that like

03:41:14.720 if you like put your phone too close to your body wait hold on do you not have right now do you not

03:41:20.320 have pockets no but i don't i never put it against my skin yeah i always put my phone in my pockets

03:41:25.680 usually right now you're butt naked sitting on your phone okay are you a hypochondriac i kind of

03:41:31.520 understand that because like i've had like relatives tell me with my my airpods you're gonna get like brain

03:41:37.680 cancer because the sound waves are gonna get in your head and i just like think about that

03:41:41.520 that they say and i'm like okay okay like five but i don't get anxious about that that i don't get

03:41:46.480 like stressed about that or anything but like getting cancer in your rectum because you sat on

03:41:50.720 your phone that's the same you can get cancer from a lot of things that's a little delulu but okay

03:41:56.480 no i'm no but that's what i mean like i don't know i don't think a guy would want to put up with that

03:42:01.360 part of you knows that that's ridiculous yeah like if you're gonna get cancer in your rectum it's

03:42:05.600 gonna happen either way like there's not anything you can do about it can we just google like

03:42:11.120 do cell phones emit like radiation like i think it was proven that it doesn't radiation in pocket i

03:42:21.600 heard like you it's bad if you like sleep really close to your phone or like if you sleep with it

03:42:26.240 under your pillow or because of here let me let me help you out with your anxiety i don't know if you

03:42:30.640 do google because like i'm kind of in some ways stuff on the internet we're just feeding it no

03:42:35.600 no i got it i got it oh god this is from the fda do cell phones pose a health hazard cell phones emit

03:42:42.960 low levels of radio frequency energy a type of non-ionizing radiation the available scientific

03:42:48.320 data on exposure to radio frequency energy show no categorical proof of any adverse biological

03:42:55.120 effects other than tissue heating so if your phone's on your leg it might get a bit warm

03:43:02.080 this is according to the fda i don't and we trust the fda well since when

03:43:08.880 i mean i'm pretty sure cell phones are fine right yeah how do we know

03:43:15.120 you don't ever like put your laptop or your cell phone in the pocket or anything or no i do but i just

03:43:19.440 know that it's it's probably dangerous it's just low levels i can accumulate over time that's

03:43:24.000 dangerous i heard that about the microwave growing up though like don't stand in front

03:43:28.720 of the microwave i was told not to watch the microwave spin it's gonna like give you yeah

03:43:33.680 breast cancer brain i was like oh my god i have to run away while the microwave's going

03:43:38.320 i gotta go so but how how would the example of your rectum cancer with the cell phone thing

03:43:43.520 relate to oh okay difficulty getting a relationship i probably i'd probably freak out in front of my

03:43:50.320 boyfriend saying like oh my god i'm gonna get cancer what do i do here um can do you have your

03:43:54.480 phone on you yeah i do okay just like put on your lap for like 10 seconds no just like i don't want

03:44:01.040 to start freaking out you're gonna trigger her no but this is exposure therapy i mean it was on my

03:44:06.720 hand but like okay but like this isn't therapeutic session though this is therapy all right this is

03:44:11.600 therapy this is exposure therapy um you need to acclimate yourself to the fear in any case though

03:44:18.160 um so okay you've had that phone on your leg you now have leg cancer i guess probably um go ahead

03:44:26.480 show us your anxiety i don't want to know like how would you act i think this is her being anxious

03:44:30.960 already you're trying to force her to do it i'm not making more anxious public space i'm not gonna

03:44:36.400 i'm not because we are out in the public space i'm not gonna just really i i do keep it bottled

03:44:41.920 up though yeah i feel like anxiety is just like an internal thing too you can't really show it you

03:44:45.920 can't like act it out yeah as much as you can't just get like anxiety and ready go no but action but

03:44:53.440 you're saying that due to your anxiety that would make it difficult for you to be in a relationship

03:44:59.920 and i'm asking in what ways would it be difficult and how would it manifest and how would it be

03:45:05.200 difficult well maybe like just letting out my anxiety anxiety out on my partner like well that

03:45:11.280 that's an outward projection of your bugging him about what about like me getting cancer in my rectum

03:45:18.480 like she's constantly overthinking things that he's doing things that she's doing wrong maybe or

03:45:24.560 things that she should be doing like i think it's pretty clear that like she's got a lot of internal

03:45:30.160 dysfunction and that's not really someone it's kind of going back to the topic of peace for being in a

03:45:36.960 healthy relationship if you've got a lot of dysfunction like that like what you need is a

03:45:41.440 guy that is going to be that is willing to be super duper attentive to you and willing to

03:45:46.240 i disagree i disagree because a guy is going to reinforce her frankly um dysfunctional behavior

03:45:57.920 a guy should not a guy should not reinforce your anxiety you can be attentive and not have to reinforce

03:46:04.880 it okay but these these are things that i do think can be addressed

03:46:11.120 like you should not just if you find yourself in an undesirable position in your life as i think

03:46:18.720 you've you have some self-awareness that hmm i don't i don't like that i have anxiety you can take

03:46:26.880 you can there are actionable things that you can do to improve yourself and perhaps change the

03:46:33.920 circumstances that you find yourself in i mean that's what i'm trying to do i'm just saying if she's like

03:46:38.400 like if but i want to work on that first before i'm actually confident enough to like seek a

03:46:43.280 relationship but i mean there's honestly there's a lot of reasons why i'm kind of like hesitant to

03:46:47.680 be in a relationship like what else what else are we talking about here i don't want to say i got

03:46:52.720 bullied but in the past like a couple girls like kind of like shamed me saying that i was gonna die

03:46:57.920 alone and that like that's fucked up and that was that i was gonna be i was still gonna be a virgin

03:47:02.080 at 40 and also actually because of what they said it got to me it made me think like oh maybe i'm just

03:47:06.400 not attractive enough to like be with a life like my forever person so that's like other reasons why

03:47:15.840 like i can't help but like maybe think that they're correct why would they say something like that why

03:47:20.160 would you do we need to do we need to pull up bigger issues like let's pause i don't know i mean

03:47:29.760 i think sometimes also just care about what people think like if they think that i am gonna die alone

03:47:33.760 that i'm just like oh it must be true girl you cannot listen to them there's gonna be people

03:47:38.480 like that so i'm also hesitant to just to like put myself out there in fear of like because if i do get

03:47:43.600 rejected by a guy right then that basically proves your point but how old were you when the was this

03:47:50.000 in person bullying it was kind of in person yeah how old were you i was like like five years ago

03:47:56.720 like 19 almost 20. was it how did you know the girls just random girls on was this online or in

03:48:02.800 person it was in person like i went to uh i went i like um this is like another study abroad program

03:48:08.400 that i went before i met him like the you know the dude that i talked about earlier um we were playing

03:48:14.160 a game actually and then like they ended up saying my name it was it happened while we were like

03:48:21.760 traveling that they said those things it's just awful that it's still stuck with you like you gotta

03:48:28.080 learn to let that thing go anxiety is though yeah things just stick with you but like i have anxiety

03:48:33.120 too and that stuff like that like i don't know if it's because i grew up with seven siblings but you

03:48:37.440 just gotta let that roll off your skin because like if you let it get to your head too much then you

03:48:42.640 become so like infused with what other people say that you're not actually acting yourself actually

03:48:48.880 yeah i just yeah i think sometimes i just care about what people think like so then i start to

03:48:54.240 think that what they're saying is true i don't think people need to figure out all of their problems and

03:48:59.280 become like flawless before going into a relationship i agree with that i hate how people say like yeah

03:49:09.200 when some completely healed then i'll find love it's like you're never totally healed you're healing

03:49:15.760 like you know through life ready is just this nebulous concept that people often use to avoid

03:49:22.800 responsibility to avoid intimacy all sorts of things that's also i mean this is i mean this is kind of

03:49:30.320 pathetic but that's also the reason why i like decided to like why i lost my virginity to the the guy and

03:49:36.400 that was attracted to me just to prove those girls that like no i'm not going to be a virgin at 40 as

03:49:40.640 sad as like as pathetic as it sounds but like like it didn't even have to do i didn't even have yeah

03:49:46.320 like if they hadn't said that i think i would like i would have just waited like i would i would have

03:49:50.400 been okay with waiting but because of what they said because they shamed me for it i i guess gave in

03:49:55.440 to him i mean he was attracted to me so and i felt appreciated for the first time like oh the guy is

03:50:01.520 attracted to me so that's why i was giving i wanted to give him a chance

03:50:08.880 the what the thing you have to write down on your paper oh the thumbnail oh yeah we do have to react

03:50:14.720 to that um well first off it's uh sorry to hear that those girls uh bullied you um no worries but uh

03:50:22.960 i feel like that's the sort of thing that uh you ought to just kind of try to have a thick skin about

03:50:28.720 and i mean we don't know the full context but people say hurtful things and uh i mean

03:50:36.400 yeah i wouldn't it sounds like a therapy session done what's that easier said than done you know

03:50:44.000 sure and i mean i i deal with like negative comments super frequently as i mean mary you

03:50:49.360 probably experienced it being in the content creation space being out there in public violet you

03:50:53.200 too grid one motorsports donated one hundred dollars if the korean girl is being honest she

03:50:59.520 is about the bravest person on the panel to open up still though get out of your head and enjoy your

03:51:05.520 amazing life amen yeah do you have a response to grid one thank you and yes i'm i am being honest no

03:51:11.520 i'm not a liar like these things really happen and that has affected me to this day and i'm slowly

03:51:17.120 working on overcoming that that's why i do therapy once a week i speak with the therapist and like

03:51:21.280 like let everything out instead of just keeping it bottled up all the time what what was the

03:51:26.240 primary precipitating factor of your anxiety if there was one you mentioned it came up during

03:51:33.040 covet was it the covet kind of exacerbated i think aggravated it more like made it worse but i think

03:51:38.720 like i did have some anxiety beforehand before the pandemic even started was there was there a

03:51:44.800 precipitating factor um i can't think at the top of my head i think i'll could you maybe get back to

03:51:52.080 me on that once i like figure out how i have to look back because i feel like it does um it stems all

03:51:56.720 the way back to childhood the way i see it yeah sure yeah then we're gonna really sorry sometimes it's um

03:52:03.840 an imbalance though like in your brain right like it's not just necessarily things externally it's

03:52:11.040 something you might be i mean i think some people are naturally more neurotic but if you have that

03:52:18.480 inclination and your experiences like trigger it that's when it becomes like a life

03:52:27.600 like something that makes your life dysfunctional which it means that it's a

03:52:32.480 like a diagnosed illness i don't think my life is dysfunctional and i have anxiety

03:52:36.960 like everyone has anxiety but like when i take medication for it you're living in a life or

03:52:42.880 death situation when you're just when you're not in fact like having your life threatened like

03:52:49.120 anxiety somewhat is a physiological response that you're being threatened in some way

03:52:54.320 and that you're in danger because your heart is beating you're you're breathing heavily like you

03:52:59.440 feel like you're dying i feel like that's not in most cases anxiety to a lot of people because

03:53:06.000 my anxiety is in like trauma related things because it came from my parents divorced at like four

03:53:12.800 and it's just like things like that certain things trigger my anxiety and make it worse but like

03:53:18.640 i don't think it so there's nothing like physical about it not really it's just all in my head

03:53:25.840 okay i feel like that which is what most mental illnesses is is it's mental it's not like

03:53:30.800 something that's like projected well i was diagnosed with anxiety disorder when i was a child i got over

03:53:37.760 it completely in a few years and i feel like not having physical symptoms of well it's a mental

03:53:46.080 illness there's nothing physical about something it's not consistent with like the diagnostic criteria

03:53:51.440 for a mental illness and like how they define that is that it makes your life dysfunctional like

03:53:58.400 you're not able like it like you can't see like your hands feel weird i mean that happens during panic

03:54:03.920 attacks and it's all just in the head but you feel it physically yeah like yeah i think that's what you

03:54:09.760 mean physically everyone experiences like worry in their head but i don't think that really is the same

03:54:15.520 thing as anxiety no i get where you're coming from but i feel like it's different for everyone

03:54:22.800 like there's no specific like definition of what anxiety is for a person because she may have anxiety

03:54:28.720 about touching a door no i feel like a lot of people are also encouraged to embrace these labels

03:54:34.720 and it's debilitating well you said it was dysfunctional i can't i can't do things because

03:54:40.000 i have have anxiety or i have whatever like disorder but then you're just um kind of leaning

03:54:48.960 on that crutch and not i mean some people can i'm it's awful i personally don't i don't let it hold me

03:54:56.400 back but i just don't think it makes you a dysfunctional person that's like the only thing

03:55:00.560 that i wanted to like like a mental illness is that it does affect your life and and affect your

03:55:05.440 ability to function as an adult dysfunctional would be like you're not operating normally

03:55:11.200 right yeah properly no i get that if the normal state of being is not in an anxious state then

03:55:17.840 you could argue that being in an anxious state is a non-normal state of being yeah i mean i could

03:55:26.480 probably argue this just just i just don't really think it makes you a dysfunctional person but i

03:55:31.840 understand the definition of a mental illness is that it makes you not normally like functioning

03:55:38.640 but yes

03:55:44.640 word word yo guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever drops a follow drops a prime sub uh can you switch

03:55:52.800 it uh blick thing for the prime dragon thing for the prime oh i think maybe you already jack i think

03:55:57.760 i got these kens think for the prime or even think for the prime twitch.tv slash whatever

03:56:01.760 drops a follow in the prime sub we have austin here uh let's see violet can you read this one

03:56:08.320 brian i agree with almost all your opinions except the woman doing the draft i'm a vet and i

03:56:12.560 really don't think women should be in the military in general i also would not want my daughter being

03:56:17.360 forced to see the horrors of war

03:56:21.120 uh

03:56:21.440 very

03:56:24.160 military in general i also would not want my daughter being forced to see the horrors of war

03:56:28.560 well i mean women can be just joking right about the draft yeah no i definitely think women should

03:56:35.040 be drafted 100 okay the problem is though like just in a practical sense our male soldiers are

03:56:40.480 going to be way less competent because their instinct is to protect the women that they see in the

03:56:45.760 battlefield and then everyone loses in that situation but also we like have a sense that women have

03:56:53.200 inherent value men have value based on what they provide well the thing is with the draft there are

03:57:00.640 non-combat positions in the military so i mean true equality would if you can get drafted as a male and

03:57:08.000 be sent to the front line true equality would be you as a female being drafted and sent to the front

03:57:14.320 line however there are certain biological realities when it comes to warfare and combat where it's you can

03:57:20.160 make very strong arguments for why men are more capable frontline soldiers um do you want equality

03:57:26.480 do you like want equality or are you just like trying to tell people that the logical conclusion of

03:57:32.160 equality is like well insane things like women being drafted into war like is that the point

03:57:39.200 you're trying to make or do you like actually want equality like you're being serious

03:57:42.480 i actually well are you trying to make like a philosophical point or are you serious that you

03:57:49.440 like you want equality no in reality in actuality i think if men are subject to military conscription

03:57:59.440 and if we have a push for equality if we live in an equal society then women should also be subject to

03:58:07.520 military conscription but like now we can have a conversation of where those people end up going

03:58:13.360 now we can we could say that for the good of the military we should put uh drafted women in support

03:58:19.920 roles in there's plenty of support roles in the military that are important okay but they shouldn't be in

03:58:28.560 combat they they could be they could be but would it be better for men to be in the wait what are you

03:58:35.200 saying like we have this push for equality like are you saying that you want equality or are you

03:58:40.400 saying like society at large yes kind of being coerced into well the gender equality there is no

03:58:50.160 the the cat's out of the bag the the cat's out of the bag we have the cat's not out of the bag until

03:58:56.960 women and men are the same and they're never going to be right but like inequality will always exist

03:59:03.200 right but when it comes to military conscription

03:59:11.760 women are capable of women are okay women are already able to enroll in the military

03:59:18.160 they're able to uh fill a vast array of roles in the military some women see combat some women are more

03:59:25.680 in support roles ergo you can if you can get drafted as a man and be put in the support role

03:59:33.200 so too should women be be subject to military conscription and be put in the support role

03:59:42.400 that's your personal opinion or are you what i don't know why you're making it yes

03:59:46.800 my position is that when it comes to military are you an egalitarian am i an egalitarian uh yes i

03:59:53.920 am an egalitarian do you believe that men and women are different absolutely yes why would you be

03:59:58.640 not egalitarian that doesn't make sense why should everyone be treated there's there's a difference

04:00:03.440 of course men and women are different but when it comes to when it comes to rights and obligations in

04:00:10.640 the same way for example do you do you think we should uh repeal the 19th amendment yeah okay well

04:00:18.320 i can see why i mean we're never going to i'm being realistic that's never going to happen i'm saying like

04:00:22.880 it would have been better if we never had the 19th amendment that's i'm sure a lot of the girls

04:00:28.240 here appreciate your hot take on on do they know what the 19th amendment is she okay so basically

04:00:34.480 she doesn't want women to vote is what mary's saying here i i disagree i don't want a lot of

04:00:38.640 people to vote but i mean if we're going to start somewhere sure i mean i think that you could be

04:00:44.240 uneducated like that doesn't have anything to do with your gender um i just think that women are

04:00:51.360 heavily influenced by groupthink by emotions collectivism and yeah are easily brainwashed

04:01:00.000 and that's why most of them vote for the left

04:01:07.040 you can respond to her i don't have the energy to do that i'm sorry yeah that's okay i mean i'm

04:01:12.880 just saying you should get back to talking about dating men are more they they have a better ability

04:01:20.640 to the vote on issues that they're emotionally disaffected from i like you guys feel free to

04:01:26.560 rebuttal if you want to provide a rebuttal because they know they're wrong no it's just it's weird it's

04:01:31.600 weird how you categorize women and like you don't put yourself in the shoes of your own gender no of

04:01:37.200 course i'm a woman no but it feels like you're like like you're othering us and it's like we're

04:01:42.480 the others i definitely don't need to do that and let me correct myself i think well obviously i'm a

04:01:48.400 woman obviously i the way you're putting it makes it there's no me without my womanhood and femininity

04:01:56.240 that's that's like innate to me but i think that there are ways uh women can be statistically

04:02:03.600 generalized they have high openness high neuroticism okay um also like better ability

04:02:11.600 to empathize things like that and there are ways that i differ i'm i am low in neuroticism high in

04:02:20.160 disagreeability okay women are high in agreeability like i've noticed these things

04:02:27.920 about myself so when i'm saying like women on the whole i'm making generalizations there are

04:02:32.000 obviously many exceptions but these generalizations are true like women are high in neuroticism high in

04:02:37.840 openness high in agreeability these things affect their voting patterns would they not

04:02:46.000 it's not about just voting though because at the beginning of the podcast you're talking

04:02:49.040 about how women shouldn't be in stem and how women aren't supposed to be like pilots now you're

04:02:53.840 saying that women can't bow the women who are excellent at stem roles should be in stem i'm just

04:03:00.560 saying that's way more rare than finding the men who are excellent in those roles because of the natural

04:03:06.480 differences between the genders i wouldn't even say it's natural it's what do you mean i mean i don't

04:03:13.920 think it has to do anything with biology i think there's a reason to why there isn't a lot of

04:03:18.400 females in stem we're not all like blank slates like there are ways that men are naturally different

04:03:25.600 what's the reason well i think it's even just because females are the caregivers usually to

04:03:31.520 children and things like that and can you pull the microphone close yeah um it's just because

04:03:38.080 we're primarily like caregivers to children and things like and things like that and most of the

04:03:42.560 time you don't have enough time to have a career as to a male i mean if your job is to provide

04:03:49.840 you're gonna have in more than enough time to develop your career compared to when you have to be a

04:03:57.200 caretaker and have a career i think academia and industries are trying to like completely upend those

04:04:05.600 social factors though by making mandatory quotas for women in stem fields and affirmative action

04:04:16.640 and you know all of these things like it's all artificially making up for the fact that men

04:04:22.480 are just naturally inclined toward certain roles and women are not

04:04:26.080 and vice versa and vice versa yeah of course let's bring it back to dating semi kind of sort of but not

04:04:36.000 really um so this is semi kind of sort of dating related has anybody here ever had a stalker

04:04:46.880 like a crazy ex that stalked you anybody anyone so my question is you know oftentimes these stalkers

04:04:58.320 might come up from past relationship experiences past relationships unrequited love that's typically

04:05:07.600 i think oftentimes these stalking situations come from they just won't leave you alone um

04:05:13.680 um i don't know has anyone here ever known like a truly just unhinged crazy person i mean my mom has

04:05:20.640 had a stalker anybody show of hands a friend of mine had a stalker i have a question let's say you had a

04:05:28.400 stalker like a crazy ex that you told him hey stop leave me alone stop contacting me blah blah and they

04:05:33.760 just wouldn't someone who you just cannot reason with you've told them leave me alone they keep trying

04:05:40.320 to contact you calling you whatever let's say they start coming your house whatever that's that can

04:05:48.000 be pretty scary right in that situation and who knows maybe they even try to break in or something

04:05:55.440 i saw a video the other day this crazy ex-boyfriend tried to break into his girlfriend's house

04:05:59.760 um and it was caught on the ring doorbell in that situation would you want a gun to defend yourself i

04:06:06.080 want to start with you and then we'll go around this way um if i didn't have any children then yes

04:06:14.320 okay if you did have children then you wouldn't no okay yeah i think just a lot of things can go wrong

04:06:20.480 when you have children sure what about you um i feel like there's different weapons like a taser or maybe

04:06:30.400 like my stepdad used to keep like a baseball bat for like intruders or whatever that i feel like

04:06:35.040 that's more like a realistic approach than a gun um because baseball bat yeah i i just i just feel

04:06:42.560 like a firearm in a house especially like if you have children or if you have guests or family members

04:06:49.040 i just i'm personally against that so i would go for more like a taser or like something more

04:06:58.640 okay realist not realistic but like for me realistic i guess okay what about you i

04:07:04.640 exactly the same everything that she said wait can i can i ask like a follow-up question okay are you

04:07:10.080 guys saying no because you guys would feel like responsible if something were to happen or because

04:07:16.160 you feel scared to the fact that you just own a gun no i'm not scared of the fact of owning a gun

04:07:23.760 i'd like to revise the question a little bit you know your ex-boyfriend who's now your stalker you know

04:07:28.640 he owns firearms does that change your answer at all oh yeah yeah wait that's kind of crazy okay

04:07:34.240 that like completely changes the question like fire if he brings a gun to my house like if he's breaking

04:07:40.560 in my house with a gun yeah that's a different story but you don't know so that's insane sure in that

04:07:46.640 no but in that situation would you want a gun to oh i wouldn't even i know this man i would have the

04:07:54.080 police like like depending on if like he's already there like and he just breaks in and i'm like oh

04:08:00.640 fuck i'm screwed like he's he's shooting me i'm dead if then i would i would and this is very unrealistic

04:08:09.680 i would own a gun yes but i would never have it get to this point where my ex would be breaking into

04:08:15.840 my house with a gun trying to get at me if that makes sense that that wouldn't really if you have like

04:08:21.920 someone in like you don't really have much of a say when somebody is unhinged and you cannot reason

04:08:31.040 with them well as of right now i can because i don't have an ex so i can't i don't have anyone

04:08:36.640 who's coming after me with a gun no but i'm this is like a what if you don't well my what if is okay

04:08:43.760 um how would you feel if you didn't eat breakfast this morning

04:08:48.400 i would not okay okay what about you um you kind of changed the scenario right yeah um like if my

04:08:56.800 ex-boyfriend had a gun sorry i i almost sorry he could or could not have a gun he's breaking into your

04:09:03.600 house do you do you would you prefer to have a gun to defend yourself um honestly yeah

04:09:09.200 okay mary what about you yes i would for sure yes yes and i'd have a restraining order and i'd

04:09:21.040 probably set up cameras in the house so i would know if he was coming okay yeah all right i have uh

04:09:27.680 we have a couple notes here from let me see violet your favorite first date was at a strip club

04:09:33.840 oh yeah i was like where just in your pre-show notes that you sent us yes my favorite first

04:09:40.880 date was at a strip club um i have fun at strip clubs girls are really nice to me and one time

04:09:48.640 it was a first date and you know you just party you all dance together and yeah last night i went to

04:09:56.640 a strip club too in la and that was really fun but it's a little strip club journey i'm going on

04:10:04.960 just supporting other girls in the industry no i just like to throw them ones and have you been to

04:10:10.640 a male strip club i've never been to a male strip club no i want to go have you no okay i think i feel

04:10:19.280 like if it's bucket list i feel like it's gonna be more of a performance you know going to a male

04:10:24.080 strip club it's like magic mike yeah yeah probably probably but i like to just yeah it's fun going

04:10:32.240 to girls strip clubs because the guys are cheap like they're like hustling out there and the guys

04:10:36.480 aren't throwing any money and so i'm like whatever i'll just show you all do you have and the girls

04:10:41.280 are really nice huh one of those money guns no i need to get one that's a good idea i gotta keep one

04:10:46.480 of those in my van you were also asking how many dates before sleeping with a guy

04:10:52.000 yes so what do you what do you think violet i don't know that's why i was wondering like what

04:10:59.840 when you're dating how many you do i've never really dated well you've had

04:11:06.720 sexual partners right yes but it's always been geared towards my sexual exploring so i'm always

04:11:14.800 just getting people um like my photographer he's someone that i have a close connection with we

04:11:22.800 work together but it's not like we're dating like he's married okay wait whoa whoa wait you're hold

04:11:30.480 this up four hours you're who you sleep with by the way sometimes yeah you sleep with your photographer

04:11:39.520 who is married and i assume his wife knows yes they're in an open relationship because marriage

04:11:43.920 doesn't mean anything anymore that's why i don't want to get married i don't want to get married

04:11:48.480 but it's to you like checkmate mary checkmate mary like just because someone

04:11:55.280 just because people in your neighborhood like don't celebrate christmas doesn't mean you're not

04:11:58.800 going to celebrate it you still have to celebrate your household i celebrate kwanzaa oh oh i'm sorry

04:12:05.440 please i'm so sorry please i'm just okay violet thinking everyone celebrates please be considerate

04:12:10.320 of people's non whatever okay there's other i'm sorry i really didn't mean to offend you

04:12:20.240 what is this about christmas i was just he was saying like oh i'm not going to get married because

04:12:25.600 everybody takes it so because santa's going to take half my presents no i'm just saying like just

04:12:32.080 because everyone else is doing something one way doesn't mean you have to do it the other way

04:12:35.920 obviously everyone kind of knows that mrs claus is going to divorce so uh how long how long should

04:12:41.120 you wait before sleeping with a guy go ahead please let me know um when there's a commitment

04:12:45.680 like you're in a relationship so i mean that just depends how long three months

04:12:50.080 two months it depends okay i don't think there's a number like i don't think there's a number i think it

04:12:56.720 just depends where you are okay yeah yeah it depends on like your comfortability with them

04:13:04.000 if you really trust them i mean go for it um i can't really say much in this topic because i've

04:13:10.560 never dated around or anything like that but i mean i mean you've hooked up with guys right no zero zero

04:13:17.760 zero zero zero did not know yeah congrats oh thanks i guess um no um no i don't really

04:13:28.160 fuck around like that i just kind of put myself first like i was saying we were talking about the

04:13:32.720 whole dating thing um but yeah i don't i don't really know on this aspect i guess it just really

04:13:40.400 depends on the person word what about you depends i just just depends yeah for same i think it just

04:13:49.840 depends definitely not like after the first date here here's a better question what's the fastest

04:13:54.080 that you've ever and i'll know mary if you want to answer the first one the first how long should you

04:13:59.520 wait is it i mean no offense to any of you because you're only saying this since you've had no guidance

04:14:04.480 but like all the that you're saying it's just the confusing everyone makes rules for themselves

04:14:10.240 shit that gets people hurt these days and um leads women into situations where they're giving up

04:14:19.200 their purity to a guy who doesn't actually care about them and isn't willing to commit to them

04:14:24.640 so the only real commitment in my mind is marriage that's uh my perspective also i believe in sacramental

04:14:34.240 marriage as i'm religious which most people don't um so that is when you should have a sexual

04:14:41.440 relationship is when there's a commitment which is marriage but even in marriage like what she was

04:14:45.600 talking about they're married but they have an open relationship which means even though there's

04:14:50.160 a ring that's a wedding marriage that's a joke so your opinion on real marriages is it's a sacrament

04:14:56.160 okay not just a contract or like a roommate situation

04:15:05.040 like that guy and his wife that that's that sounds like people who are like roommates or like friends

04:15:10.160 or something yeah there's definitely a common thing with that obviously open marriages swinging and stuff

04:15:17.280 like that what do you guys think about open marriages and swinging you're wrong you're not

04:15:24.000 most people for me but i don't judge people like if that's what works for them that's you know i don't

04:15:30.640 care in the end it never really works so it would never work for me no it would never work for me wait

04:15:36.080 what's that i was kind of thinking the same thing like obviously i'm around people in those kind of

04:15:40.560 relationships but personally you're currently fucking is in that relation situation right i'm

04:15:46.640 not committed to him he's committed to someone else and that's their relationship what ways he's not

04:15:51.200 really committed to her but they're married i'm not married to him that's their decision so i'm not

04:15:57.200 denying that that's a thing but when i get married i would like to not be in a open relationship

04:16:04.000 but you're i mean you're kind of okay with it right now with your current situation yeah she's

04:16:14.000 okay with it that's her situation and he's okay with it zero self-respect were they married before

04:16:20.160 you met him no so they got married while you were working with him it's open it's open i guess you

04:16:28.880 know do you know it's an open really it's it is an open relationship what about swinging what do

04:16:34.800 you guys think about that like have you ever known anyone to be like a swinger couple probably not okay

04:16:40.640 with swinging what's swinging never known anybody what's the difference between swinging and an open

04:16:46.000 relationship i think swinging you're all participating like together there's like clubs and that's even

04:16:52.320 more and events and stuff yeah it seems very crazy like get a real hobby like yeah yeah i mean if you

04:17:01.840 did that you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place yeah okay what about you what do you

04:17:06.320 think me same like i don't really have an opinion on it like if you can if you want to do it do it

04:17:11.680 it's just up to the person you know i don't i would not so this came up just changing topics here a

04:17:17.440 little bit this came up in a one of our previous shows and uh would you guys object a guy not wanting

04:17:26.800 to date a transgender woman mary chucked in her water object a guy that doesn't want to would you do

04:17:36.480 would you object like do you think it's wrong for a guy to not want to date a transgender woman

04:17:41.360 no no it's a personal opinion it's a personal preference yeah it really depends on who they are

04:17:49.600 like what they want so if a guy was just like yeah i don't date transgender women like that well if

04:17:55.120 that's what they want then i i guess so but they can also be like oh we don't click or maybe they do

04:18:01.440 click and then it's like the thing going back to what we were talking about like it just really

04:18:05.040 depends on how well they like mix with this person no but without even like they just wouldn't even

04:18:11.920 give a transgender woman a chance so there is no opportunity for there to be a click or not

04:18:16.640 it's just that's a then that's just immediate deal that's a personal preference i think this happens

04:18:21.040 like well obviously it's not the same but it happens a lot with girls they're like i can't date

04:18:25.360 guys shorter than six foot or whatever i won't even give them a chance

04:18:28.560 i it's probably a little really big no but no a woman with a dick is a little different

04:18:36.800 i mean i don't know it's a preference too it's all about the preferences i just think she means like

04:18:42.080 having a closed mindset like that kind of like cutting all those people out yeah like i wouldn't

04:18:46.640 even consider it yeah but like so do you object to that though to having the closed mindset of

04:18:52.720 i don't really care but like i'm they're gonna make their own decisions like if they are really

04:18:57.920 against like transgender like dating transgender women so be it like you are inclined to your own

04:19:05.680 personal opinion and you can have that but but your view of it do you think that it's closed-minded or

04:19:13.840 they're not being open because they just off rip they just wouldn't want to date somebody who's

04:19:20.800 transgender i mean i definitely think it's like it's cutting off some of your options like if when

04:19:27.280 people say like you have like a type or whatever i feel like that's really narrowing down the kind

04:19:32.480 of people you can meet because of this thing you have in your head like as a type so i feel like

04:19:37.760 people should just be open for anything and that being one of them is maybe you'll end up finding

04:19:42.800 love with a transgender woman okay just like a guy who refuses to date like a girl with a certain color

04:19:48.720 of hair not a guy who refuses to date guys but they aren't a guy biological males but this is youtube

04:19:57.600 so i can't even say what i really think so never mind um what do you think like do you think it's

04:20:01.680 closed-minded or is it just a valid i mean i think it's valid just how everybody's preferences are valid

04:20:10.080 you know sure no but i i think what i'm trying to get at you acknowledge that people are entitled to

04:20:14.800 having their preferences but do you think it is a superficial preference do you think it's an

04:20:22.800 unfair preference or an unreasonable or maybe a bit more closed-minded no i do think it's valid okay

04:20:29.280 yeah what about you do you have any i don't really have a comment on it i i think it like however you

04:20:34.880 identify with your sexuality too like depends if you i don't know okay i don't really have a comment

04:20:39.920 so you don't you have no issue with a guy who just like would not date a transgender woman

04:20:46.640 yeah i don't i mean i totally understand it's it's it's how you identify with your sexuality too

04:20:52.800 you know because if you're considered straight you know i feel i i don't i'm not very like i don't know

04:20:58.480 a lot so i don't want to like say the wrong thing without knowing you know so i i really just think

04:21:03.520 it's how you identify sure okay for example i would not date a transgender woman i have no problem

04:21:12.560 with transgender people but i would not date a woman a transgender woman yeah i don't care if like

04:21:22.400 there's that's just an immediate no for me do you want to tell us why

04:21:25.120 well i have i have a genitalia preference for one uh what if they have a surgically produced that's

04:21:33.840 it's still it would still sure well it would still be a genitalia preference because that's not a

04:21:40.000 actual vagina well they can get a really realistic i heard it's not it's right no no um also i heard

04:21:48.800 that also i'm attracted to females they have the technology well yeah but i mean the other thing

04:21:56.560 is i'm just attracted to females so uh

04:22:02.960 so yeah good point yeah you can't change into a female you can there's there's some debate over

04:22:12.080 whether you can become a woman you can change into no well well sex is you can't change your sex

04:22:17.920 tell you females isn't even a thing that exists well that we're getting into some interesting

04:22:23.760 territory there so interesting you need to educate yourself here let me do a chat we have

04:22:30.320 seberg people try to sell you on ideas and you'll buy some of these ideas some of the ideas that you

04:22:34.960 have bought are bad the sooner you can realize this the better i believe most mental illnesses are just

04:22:40.480 bad ideas get sold on a better idea damn that's something like poetic philosophical

04:22:46.560 shit thank you seberg appreciate it brother all right we have j man uh violet can you read this

04:22:53.040 okay here we go hey brian any plans on addressing the recent comments made about you by fnf some valid

04:23:00.720 criticisms there even though you slight even though slightly hypocritical maybe making an appearance on

04:23:07.360 their show to clear your name also hi mary sure what was yeah i'll i'll just address it very quickly i

04:23:14.400 what i want to do is actually do a thorough written response maybe i'll do an actual in video response

04:23:20.160 but i i haven't i haven't really perfectly determined what my response would be and be able to precisely

04:23:28.000 articulate all my counter arguments to it um the brief answer would be just as a point of clarity

04:23:37.360 basically um fresh and fit is a very similar podcast to ours they started before us i've repeatedly

04:23:47.040 uh credited them to some degree as inspiration for the show i've had nothing but positive things to say

04:23:53.600 about them i've said um i've shouted them out a whole bunch i've reached out to both mine and fresh to

04:23:59.920 attempt to arrange for a collaboration i have we have some mutual connections that i've i've tried to

04:24:08.880 get an intro that way uh it's been clear to me for a very long time that they're not interested in

04:24:15.040 collaborating which is fine i am not owed a collaboration much in the same way that i do not

04:24:20.400 owe anybody else who reaches out to me to want to collaborate with me i don't have an issue with that

04:24:25.280 uh what i likely suspect is they view me as competition ergo they do not want to compete

04:24:32.640 or excuse me they do not want to collaborate with a competitor in the same way that you might for

04:24:36.640 example say and shout out to length or girff on reddit for this one uh coca-cola may not want to

04:24:43.840 collaborate with pepsi i get it although what i would argue is that when it comes to the digital

04:24:49.040 content creation space it's we're not it's not like a zero-sum game where if i have viewers i'm

04:24:56.560 taking away from their viewers i don't really think that's how it works uh

04:25:02.480 i would compare it to like two musical artists let's say two rap musicians rap musicians frequently

04:25:09.600 collaborate even though they're in the exact same genre they're making the same type of music they're

04:25:15.200 perhaps their lyrical structure is similar they're the instrumentals have uh they're in c major there's

04:25:22.480 all kinds of things where you can find a lot of commonality in music there's there's this complaint

04:25:27.520 that oh well that you know that the podcast is a ripoff or a copy my response to that would be

04:25:36.720 first off nobody has an intellectual property right to a live dating podcast so there's certainly no

04:25:41.920 copyright infringement or intellectual property infringement nobody you cannot trademark an idea

04:25:47.680 um or how now in the same way that for example you're there's allowed to be more than one rapper

04:25:53.760 there's allowed you're allowed to there's allowed to be more than one horror film there's you're allowed

04:25:59.200 to have more than one uh drama you know there's a lot of similarities what i would say is they are not

04:26:09.680 the first to do a podcast they're not the first to do a live podcast they're not the first to do

04:26:13.680 a dating podcast they're not the first to do a dating round table uh they're not the first to talk

04:26:18.640 about these things i would argue that um tim likus patrice o'neil and a couple other people have been

04:26:26.880 talking about this for a long time dating all the way back to the 90s early 2000s tom likus uh when

04:26:32.480 it comes to dating shows you have love line with adam corolla and dr drew dating all the way back to the 90s

04:26:39.120 you have i've seen oprah episodes where they assembled a panel of men and women and talked

04:26:45.440 about dating i've heard about who should pay on first dates there's old retro video you can pull

04:26:50.800 up of oprah actually talking to warren farrell who's a men's rights advocate about who should

04:26:55.280 pay for first dates these conversations have been going on for a very long time before some of these

04:26:59.440 people were even born uh who else you had so patrice o'neil tom likus adam corolla i'm i'm

04:27:06.400 i think i'm missing one you have kevin samuels you have a bunch of people oh uh howard stern has

04:27:11.600 been bringing on random women and talking about dating and relationships for a very long time

04:27:16.160 um we've obviously gathered to some degree inspiration from their show now uh in any case

04:27:25.920 um i don't i if they don't want to collaborate that's fine my issue is when you start

04:27:32.560 i i and i'd rather save this for a proper actual response because we're limited on time here during

04:27:40.800 the show um he said essentially that i'm in it for the money and that and that we don't share the same

04:27:48.080 values because one time i promoted a sex toy uh again i'd rather save my actual rebuttal when i'm

04:27:55.360 when i've actually given it more thought there's a lot of things i can point out and how they choose to

04:28:00.160 conduct themselves that i mean i would say get off your high horse when it comes to

04:28:05.360 your claims of value um also i could also make very compelling arguments of these accusations that

04:28:14.480 that were just in it for the money i'm prepared to show that in a lot of ways you guys have monetized

04:28:21.120 your audience to a far greater degree than i have when it comes to you know our again i don't have an

04:28:27.120 issue with the way they're monetizing i don't have an issue but don't make criticisms of me when it

04:28:31.920 comes to the way i'm monetizing and i could point out some ways that you guys again i don't have an

04:28:38.000 issue with the way they're moving but don't get off your high horse okay uh this this cope about he's

04:28:45.280 just in it for the money i mean my dudes you guys charge a lot of money for some of the products you sell

04:28:51.840 the thing is is that they bill themselves i don't bill myself as a dating coach a guru or an expert

04:28:57.600 i'm just a normal guy that and i talk about dating and relationships i will never bill myself as an

04:29:02.880 expert or a guru or a coach i'm not going to do landing page funnels and charge you guys 500 to buy

04:29:10.080 some product again i don't have that i don't i have no issue with them doing that but if you're going to

04:29:15.760 get on your podcast when i've had nothing but nice things to say about you and essentially attack me

04:29:22.080 the insinuation that you're making with fresh shaking his head like bro this guy's in it for

04:29:26.800 them actually should we i don't know how

04:29:32.720 look um it's just like you cannot sit there and say i'm in it for the money when you guys are charging

04:29:40.000 people thousands of dollars to go to your subscriber milestone parties you're selling a 500

04:29:46.480 course on how to dm girls on instagram you're selling a 700 course on how to be a high value

04:29:51.600 male you are doing live events where you're selling vip tickets we do super chats we do donations

04:29:59.120 there are different triggers for that for us we have memberships we have uh let's see we got merch

04:30:05.600 we have what's the other oh merch memberships super chats donations um i'm trying to think if

04:30:13.760 there's another one that i'm blanking on here what's that oh no that's not they do all of that and

04:30:19.760 more um so i mean it is what it is we're not going to collaborate i've reached out to them and also

04:30:27.520 there's this thing like i've reached out to them to to to extend an olive branch i say and hey

04:30:34.640 let's work together they either just don't respond or it is what it is there's there's a

04:30:38.960 lot of backstory i'm not going to get into all of it but um it's kind of silly because i don't think

04:30:43.680 it's a zero-sum game i think actually it'd be a very mutual mutually beneficial uh collaboration but

04:30:53.120 uh they don't view it in that way look i'm not entitled to a a collab they've they've left me

04:30:59.200 unread they don't respond to me i've i've even just wanted to have a conversation with myron he

04:31:03.840 doesn't want to i'm not all prissy about it i just haven't followed up um i don't have an issue

04:31:09.920 with them not wanting to collaborate but when you go on your show just say you don't want to collaborate

04:31:14.080 because i'm a competitor i get it but don't get off your fucking high horse about oh don't share

04:31:18.960 values bro i'm not going to get into it i don't feel the need to like engage in some beef and there's

04:31:23.360 a lot of things i could say about your guys's values because you're criticizing mine and you're

04:31:32.160 basically accusing me of grifting i mean again there's a lot of things i could say what i would

04:31:36.080 point out is again uh actually fuck it um pull up walter weeks's instagram um i think there might be

04:31:43.120 a tab for it i'm i'm in it for the money um pull it up i'd like to remind you actually go back really

04:31:51.920 quick um so i still drive a car i bought 10 years ago a 20 000 toyota i don't have any bling i

04:32:07.760 wear 20 flannels i wear five dollar black t-shirts i wear sweatpants from costco pull up walter weeks

04:32:14.560 let's talk about the money it's all about the money right uh go down okay scroll down uh click

04:32:24.080 that one with the g-wagon okay life is too short to drive born cars okay x out of that uh he's got

04:32:34.320 scroll up scroll up this one he's got some bling he's got a uh thing i don't know if he has a rolex

04:32:42.960 click on the the green car one here you're gonna have to move us to the other side

04:32:52.560 uh okay is that a lamborghini cool next go down there's another lamborghini there's another

04:33:00.320 lamborghini i don't know how much your next necklace cost but okay scroll down there's a red lamp i assume

04:33:07.280 he owns these right i'm pretty sure he owns these there's you on a private jet scroll down

04:33:13.520 okay click the one with the three cars on the far left here that's your three cars god's plan blessed

04:33:19.760 and highly favored okay scroll down uh up a little bit up the one with the umbrella why do you have an

04:33:27.360 umbrella dude it's sunny you can exhale that scroll down scroll down i'm trying to find where there's a

04:33:36.320 oh this one of him getting off the private jet let's click on that no no no no the private jet

04:33:43.440 scroll down yeah my life is a movie it should be on film flexing with a hundred k

04:33:50.880 that should sound silly two lambos at the same time that should sound litty

04:33:55.280 now bear in mind when myron was saying that i'm in it for the money fresh was shaking his head like

04:34:01.040 and disapproval that i'm just in it for the money i don't know your lifestyle is rather superficial but

04:34:06.560 um pull it back up the instagram

04:34:14.720 oh okay hold on grid one motorsports donated one hundred dollars one st violet get out of ca and go

04:34:22.080 find a tall cool texan to marry you second brian i have some issues with the financial

04:34:27.760 side of the red bill space specifically burr etc and some of the relationship advice they give

04:34:34.160 you show is cool so here is few bucks yo grid one i appreciate the support man thank you thank you

04:34:39.600 um go ahead uh click on the one the next one to lambo

04:34:46.640 yeah money can't buy you happiness but it can buy you lamborghini i think that's the extent of what i

04:34:52.320 i need to show these accusations that i'm in it for the money meanwhile you are sitting across from

04:34:58.640 someone who at least to me appears to very much be in it for the money given the lifestyle that he is

04:35:06.960 trying to sell he has multiple exotic cars bling jewelry etc so i think you ought to look myron you

04:35:16.080 ought to look internally at the people that you have around you before criticizing me for

04:35:20.640 allegedly being in it just for the money that's all i'll have to say about that um so moving on

04:35:32.240 uh let's see and look i'm i don't have anything against any of the like bro whatever uh

04:35:42.320 uh so look i don't have anything against them monetizing but don't sit there and say like it's

04:35:48.800 ridiculous bro okay do you feel better now it's not whether i feel better or not i'm just addressing

04:35:57.760 yeah like letting it out what i don't know what you're trying to get at yeah no i really appreciated

04:36:03.520 it okay i appreciate your guys's patronizing tone with your questioning but um look i've said

04:36:12.000 nothing but positive things about these guys they don't want to collaborate that's fine but it is

04:36:16.880 what it is uh so whatever uh okay i don't know where we were oh yeah we need to do the thumbnail yo

04:36:27.680 shadow think for the prime raven thank guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever drops to follow drops a prime sub

04:36:33.040 um yeah it's just like i don't know man it's uh it's kind of frustrating like um

04:36:47.600 what's that

04:36:51.520 uh

04:36:55.280 i'm just i'm trying to think if there's anything else i wanted to address with the whole fnf thing

04:36:59.200 i'll just say like you guys monetize your audience in a lot of ways i don't have an issue with it but

04:37:05.440 get off your fucking high horse talking about i'm just in it for the money bro you guys charge

04:37:10.480 you guys do your 1 million sub party 550 general admission 1550 for meet and greets this is what

04:37:17.280 you're charging your viewers by the way 2000 i don't have an issue with it but don't say i'm just

04:37:21.600 in it for the money when you guys are fleecing your like doing this to your audience

04:37:25.760 two thousand dollars meet and greet four thousand dollars for a vip experience 5 500 take a scene

04:37:30.960 the studio to experience a live show look i don't have an issue with any of that but like if you're

04:37:35.920 going to criticize me i'm going to defend myself so whatever like it is what it is um you guys have

04:37:41.840 promoted gambling you guys promote penis pills you guys promote i again i don't have an issue with it

04:37:46.960 i did a blue chew i did one or two blue chew promotions too i don't have an issue with it but

04:37:52.160 like you guys promote gambling you guys promote penis pills you guys have done like promotions

04:38:02.080 where girls were naked on your show you have a stripper pull in your show you have girls twerking

04:38:06.000 on you like fuck like this shit about values it's fucking bogus fresh charges a thousand dollars for

04:38:13.040 a 20 minute phone consultation that's three thousand dollars for a one hour phone consultation it's just

04:38:18.880 like whatever man um it is what it is okay so uh there's probably other shit whatever would you

04:38:27.840 ever do collins on this show whatever maybe i don't know i think that would be cool because then they

04:38:33.680 could like make it out to someone and then that someone could answer and then when you hang up you

04:38:38.640 all talk about it yeah that's a good idea you should do blind dates too like set people up

04:38:44.800 i think that would be fun people would be scared let's brainstorm your show right now

04:38:51.280 what's that yeah i'd be down for a blind date yeah um so like this is your job right this is what

04:38:58.560 you do yeah for money why would you feel bad about that no i mean the the reality is anybody who's in

04:39:05.280 the content creation space and says they do it out of the goodness of their heart obviously like i

04:39:10.720 if i if i can advocate for men like these guys say i'm not true red actually oh can you pull up

04:39:15.440 there's a uh a photo it's like a spongebob photo uh this is kind of uh could you use make it smaller

04:39:22.160 the video you're not really red pill brian you're here just for the money men kid yeah yeah um like

04:39:29.440 this is this was from length for girff on reddit like this is what it is like anybody who does content

04:39:35.040 creation like they want again get off your high horse like honestly i come i actually come at

04:39:42.720 this more from a men's rights perspective than a red pill perspective that's a whole nother

04:39:46.160 fucking conversation um shout out like length or gir for that one um but uh anybody who is a content

04:39:54.400 creator who says they're not doing it for the money it's like come on bruv go check out all his

04:40:03.680 exotic cars check out his g-wagon like i don't know whatever dude um so

04:40:14.960 period clearly invested word do y'all watch fashion fit i've seen like a couple episodes

04:40:21.360 or like clips of episodes clips like on instagram all right let's move on let's move on i addressed it

04:40:28.000 it's just like annoying um so okay did you want to talk about body count that sounded like you had

04:40:33.520 an objection to the body count thing i did wait um like men having a preference for body count

04:40:40.000 you did make one offhand comment but i'm not sure what you meant by um

04:40:44.720 i mean to me like body count isn't important personally okay so go around the table on this

04:40:53.760 um how do i feel about body count is that yeah i guess i wasn't really sure okay um yeah i mean from

04:41:06.240 as a girl i feel like for if i'm dating somebody it body count doesn't really matter

04:41:13.840 but yeah i'm i don't know i just feel like the more experience they have that like

04:41:20.240 maybe the better they are i don't really know i can't really talk on that topic seeing that i have

04:41:25.120 zero chris chambers says look at how these chicks are looking at brian and he's not even being emotional

04:41:31.600 this is why we don't express our feelings to women i don't know were they like all but hurt that i was

04:41:37.040 talking about this or was it in response to that i think we just don't understand the context no i was

04:41:41.920 very confused yeah i feel bad of your situation though yeah because like looking at that and seeing

04:41:48.640 you like they're fucked for what they said i don't even know what they said but i'm on your side brian

04:41:54.080 i'm on your side i think if you just keep doing your thing though eventually they're gonna be like

04:41:58.720 dang we should have collabed with him you know what's that just keep doing your thing and eventually

04:42:02.960 they'll be like oh man we totally should have collabed with him no i mean that's just it's pretty

04:42:08.480 clear that's entirely off the table there is well i think that they made their position i don't think

04:42:14.240 they give a fuck to be honest but that's fine i again like it was very it's been clear to me for

04:42:19.840 a very long time that they're not interested in collaborating like for months it's been very clear

04:42:25.040 they don't want to collaborate that's totally cool but like just say you don't want to i'm a competitor

04:42:30.560 you don't want to collaborate but when you start making these accusations about me i feel compelled to

04:42:35.040 defend myself and like if don't throw don't throw rocks and glass is that how's it saying

04:42:43.440 don't throw stones in the glass house like there's a lot of things i could criticize you on

04:42:48.560 along your lines of criticisms of me so it is what it is um i was gonna say it's very clear you put so

04:42:54.400 much time and effort into this and like you probably invested a lot in your equipment and it's clear that

04:43:01.040 you put a lot into it and why shouldn't you get something back from it i mean it's work oh yeah

04:43:06.880 i work 80 hours a week yeah so like what they're saying about um that it's about money i mean but

04:43:13.680 then they're flaunting lamborghinis and jewelry and all this stuff it's like yeah yeah i mean no i work i

04:43:20.640 work very hard i work 70 80 hours a week um my exp i have ten thousand dollars of expenses a month

04:43:28.800 running the show so yes i'm trying to like at least be able to break even on that and you know for a

04:43:38.880 long time we didn't i was a hundred thousand dollars in the red doing the show um and so yeah ten thousand

04:43:47.840 dollars a month in expenses that's a lot so whatever um moving on moving on okay body count

04:43:55.040 whatever i think they already answered yeah yes i think we stopped on her but she's gone oh she did

04:44:01.760 yeah or what she didn't do she yeah we'll go to priscilla oh it's my turn right oh yeah yeah personally

04:44:08.640 i do think it matters and also for both genders i think about i think body count doesn't matter for

04:44:14.080 would you say that it's like the same number for both genders or no i think uh no not exactly the

04:44:20.640 same oh not exactly the same but but i do think it's hypocritical for guys to like shame women for

04:44:27.760 having a high body count if they think they can they can also have a high body count like

04:44:34.400 like they expect women to have a low body count when they when they themselves don't have one like i

04:44:39.280 think that's very hypocritical um you want me to go okay um yeah i agree that body count definitely

04:44:50.240 matters for both men and women it absolutely matters um because it affects your ability to

04:44:57.360 pair bond and have long-term relationships um as someone with a zero body count i would be

04:45:06.720 entitled to expect that out of a partner but i don't um i definitely understand why it's more

04:45:14.960 important to men though um because of the biological differences between men and women

04:45:22.320 um i think that having a high body count for a woman it's definitely more detrimental to her ability to

04:45:33.520 have a long-term relationship than it would be for a man just because they're more able to dissociate

04:45:41.760 sex from intimacy from emotions now that's a bad thing if you do dissociate those two things like men

04:45:49.360 absolutely shouldn't do that um but they're just more able to do that than women are um just based on

04:45:57.200 our biology but um yeah what do you say you were gone oh i i don't care body count yeah no i if a guy

04:46:07.760 were to have like a three-digit body count i definitely would think that's a red flag i would

04:46:12.400 not do a guy 300 is excessive if they're yeah i don't yeah just like that's kind of crazy that's

04:46:19.200 insane even two digits two digits is like yeah even that is it's a lot it's like above average

04:46:26.480 yeah i actually i don't think i answered your question you asked like do you think like

04:46:30.800 or i think no like oh sorry what's your like your friend i think you asked me yeah i was asking you like

04:46:36.560 um if you think so if a high body count for a girl was like three or whatever do you think it would

04:46:42.240 be the same number for a guy too um and i know in my specific case i've only been with one dude yeah

04:46:47.840 so like i'm not gonna like reject a guy if we're having like two body counts simply because it's more

04:46:52.480 than mine i think it depends like does he is has he slept with multiple women because he's dated that

04:46:58.640 many women i can i can get by that to a certain extent but if if it's if he's just hooked up with

04:47:04.400 multiple women then i don't i wouldn't go for someone like that like if he's just doing it i

04:47:09.520 would not date a girl who has a high body count what do you say is high i mean depends on the age

04:47:15.440 but i mean definitely over 10 is high i'm pretty sure preferably this the average for women is like

04:47:22.880 lifetime that's if you're counting all the generations is five the that's some old statistics right

04:47:29.360 it includes the older generations which is why it's lower if you looked at the different age

04:47:33.680 demographics i'm sure younger women have a higher average but for women total lifetime it's five

04:47:39.600 for men total lifetime it's like eight average sure okay yeah that's fair uh yeah high body count

04:47:47.280 obviously it's it's the lower the better you know that's a good answer the lower the better the lower

04:47:54.160 the better i mean five is better than seven three is better than five one's better than three zero's

04:48:01.600 better than one so the lower the better i'd say generally speaking me too you too you prefer a

04:48:09.680 guy with with a low body count or yeah lower because i do know that like when you're hooking up a lot

04:48:16.320 it's taking something out of you every time so i would like to have the maximum emotional capacity

04:48:22.240 i would say if a guy had a past with porn addiction that would be a lot more of a serious

04:48:28.880 concern to me than if he had a body count that's on the higher end interesting that is interesting because

04:48:37.120 at least if if he was hooking up with women he has to still like reckon with them as a human being

04:48:44.240 and interact with them and at least it proves that he had the ability to make them make women like him

04:48:50.480 even for a limited temporary period of time well i think like socializing and going out is good

04:48:56.400 because yeah you have to do that but when it comes to hooking up like if you're horny i would say go

04:49:02.960 masturbate and that's going to be better for you spend more time with yourself and not just hook up with

04:49:07.680 a random person because you're horny i disagree i just think both are are bad and i think

04:49:15.440 women have been shamed out of having a standard in regard to men using pornography and that's really

04:49:22.240 wrong word like oh if you don't if you're not okay with your boyfriend or husband watching

04:49:27.920 pornography you must be insecure like i've seen that so much and they directed at men when they prefer

04:49:33.760 a woman with a lower body count no i would not be okay like if we watched porn together that's fine

04:49:39.280 with me if we watch porn together but if he's in the other room make porn if he's in the other room

04:49:44.640 watching porn though i don't i would think that's like we're not healthy in our relationship men that

04:49:50.240 are your paying customers are the guy who is in a relationship who is watching porn in another how do

04:49:56.640 you know that a lot of them are probably single as well but um just like looking at the numbers like

04:50:03.760 that's definitely true for a big portion of the men who give you money on only fans they're the guy in

04:50:10.320 a relationship who is retreating to pornography instead of having to deal with real intimacy

04:50:18.080 and i think that is destructive extremely destructive to relationships

04:50:22.160 okay porn bad i don't think you guys are going to come to an agreement uh on that but we get it

04:50:29.040 porn bad um i need to get we need to wrap up here pretty soon so fally hey brian thought it was bad

04:50:34.720 excuse me thought it was odd that you have anyone on the panel who's never been in a relationship

04:50:38.560 supposed i assumed you were required to have past relationships to be on the show it's definitely

04:50:43.040 refreshing because i've never been in a relationship either hey fally maybe you should shoot your shot i

04:50:48.320 don't know but um i mean i think people even if you haven't been in a relationship you you can

04:50:53.360 still have dating experience um you still can have opinions and thoughts and i mean you still have

04:50:59.600 preferences and there's still things that can be red flags for you you can have interesting dating

04:51:04.720 experiences or anecdotes so i don't think that would someone's lack of past like proper relationship

04:51:12.240 would preclude someone from coming to be on the show um oh we need to react really quick to the

04:51:19.440 let's do the thumbnail so guys oh what the frick wait hide it really quick um so this was our thumbnail

04:51:26.000 i i forgot to mention this at the beginning of the show i think if you guys recall i mentioned that we

04:51:29.520 had a bunch of girls flake two of the girls in the thumbnail the one on the left and the right uh they

04:51:34.160 flaked out so i wanted to ask to try to reel them into the conversation even they're on the thumbnail

04:51:41.280 but they're not here um one do you guys think that they're wearing too much makeup in these photos

04:51:47.920 nick if you're able to go back do you think this is like too much makeup would you like is this too

04:51:52.400 much makeup when it comes to this is for the chat would you date a girl who wears this much makeup and

04:51:57.280 then uh also let me see what can i criticize here um would you what about the girl in the middle would

04:52:06.400 you date the girl in the middle my brows are so overdone in this picture i'm realizing it

04:52:11.520 i wish i would have brushed them out more that's it's fun and really good yeah so you know they

04:52:19.280 both have the little filter on i'm not a big fan of the filters on this photo uh you know it's a bit

04:52:25.680 you know like the little what's the one with the dots the little freckles the freckles maybe those are

04:52:31.200 real freckles but it might be a filter freckles people get them tattooed on yeah faces these days

04:52:36.960 freckles are nice but like the fake freckles i feel like you're misrepresenting you guys are

04:52:41.680 misrepresenting oh nick we gotta put on at least one of the videos i guess maybe the small one yeah

04:52:46.880 uh so uh chat would you date them i don't know i just kind of they're in the fucking thumbnail so

04:52:52.720 sorry i i they literally flaked an hour well they flaked an hour before the show so no i just i

04:52:58.400 they put them in the thumbnail how can i reel them into the conversation but um me personally

04:53:04.240 i'm not a big fan of makeup so i think they're wearing a little too much makeup i prefer girls

04:53:07.840 who wear no or minimum makeup so yeah i mean at least they're good at it if they're the ones

04:53:14.080 doing their makeup they're really pretty there's so many people out there just don't know what they're

04:53:18.560 doing and they end up looking like a monster me most of my life do you guys uh i'm trying to think

04:53:26.240 here uh trying to think what the example i could give okay last thing i want if you guys last thing

04:53:33.840 what's your type we'll go around the table and then we're gonna wrap on that

04:53:40.080 um i like i guess you could say guy fieri tony soprano type though that's so different those are so

04:53:50.480 different what i want a nice big comfortable man okay who's strong and like very strong in the

04:54:00.000 kitchen sopranos strong in the streets yeah am i supposed to name a celebrity or just like quality

04:54:07.520 how long let me ask you a question let's say your boyfriend he got involved in like a rico case like

04:54:13.120 he was the underboss for uh the de mio crime family and um you know he got uh what's it called

04:54:21.840 there was a rico case against him

04:54:26.160 am i supposed to know what a rico case is what is a rico case a rico case like a rich

04:54:32.480 i don't know rico means rich in spanish racketeering it's uh yeah what it's a acronym rico

04:54:40.320 fuck here let me google it so i know what i what the actual because it's rico acronym it stands for

04:54:50.320 racketeer influenced and corrupt organizations act so he's on trial like it's a rico predicate that's

04:54:56.400 like mob gang activity you said you're like a tony soprano guy so i know but i don't know the

04:55:02.160 technicalities okay um let's say your boyfriend goes your boyfriend or husband goes to prison for

04:55:10.320 uh 10 years do you stay with him or yes you asked that last time i would i forgot okay

04:55:18.560 really yeah that's what if your girl did what's your type what's your type so someone i'm very

04:55:26.800 attracted to um is post malone i just love his personality i think he's just like such a softy

04:55:36.320 he's kind of a gentleman he's funny he's like weird which i love so yeah that's my tip wow um

04:55:44.000 i would say i'm all over the place but like devin booker or liam hemsworth they're all cuties they

04:55:51.840 just have to be like giraffes you know oh giraffes yeah it's all okay long necks

04:55:57.280 yeah um i don't really have one like a type i mean a celebrity that i find hot is like jack hughes

04:56:05.760 who's like a hockey player sure i find him very good looking okay what about you um yeah i don't

04:56:11.360 think i have a type honestly but like my celebrity crush is like young dylan o'brien

04:56:16.080 yeah i don't think i really have a specific type but um like looks it could be looks wise it could

04:56:24.000 be personality well looks like i don't really think i was specific type but um i am attracted

04:56:28.800 to celebrities like johnny depp or kit harrington from game of thrones so okay okay like current

04:56:35.920 johnny depp or young johnny depp both are we talking okay especially when he's younger but yeah

04:56:41.440 wait would you if johnny depp like slid into your dms and he's like what's up would you date him

04:56:47.040 um i don't know i feel like he's too good for me i don't think i would i don't think why would he

04:56:53.840 why would a celebrity do that to an ordinary person if he did if he did i mean you're an attractive woman

04:56:59.360 he yeah sure why not yeah he's not with amber heard court case maybe he wants yeah i felt so bad for

04:57:05.760 i had to go through that don't do that to him no of course don't take a crap in his bed

04:57:14.080 oh yeah yeah i'm not gonna chop off his finger either but he's not too old for you like let's

04:57:18.800 say he was genuinely okay yeah actually no if he was younger then yeah more than likely you would

04:57:23.360 still go for him though yeah because he is a celebrity i'll be honest it's interesting like

04:57:28.880 the whole age gap stuff goes out the window if the guy's attractive enough or he has some sort

04:57:32.800 of celebrity or status i mean as long as he finds me attractive then you're like okay sure

04:57:39.280 that i don't have my ultimate answer is yes it's just really interesting like if we pulled up like

04:57:43.200 chris evans who he's like in his 40s he's married to someone who's like almost 20 years his junior or

04:57:52.400 he got a lot of flack for that he did get flack he did get flack but a lot of people that would

04:57:58.720 object object to like age gaps even like younger women would probably jump at the chance of like

04:58:04.080 dating like a really famous or high status or really attractive older guy so that it's step one

04:58:11.040 be attractive step two don't be unattractive with a lot of things in life um mary your type um i don't

04:58:18.320 think i have a celebrity crush or a physical type he just needs to be taller than me and he needs to be

04:58:24.000 white okay um but as far as personality you know charisma humor the ability to talk to strangers um

04:58:37.840 i don't know be fluent in social situations um smart um morally principled these things madison

04:58:48.800 frankie oh my god all right uh i'll give mine i mean um i'd say uh any race is fine slight

04:58:58.720 preference for white women asian women but i'll date like i'll date a black girl i'll date latino woman

04:59:03.440 like don't really it's not a deal breaker for me slight preference though um short definitely starting

04:59:12.480 with the looks definitely like short petite fun size whatever but i'll date like i'll date a woman

04:59:17.520 taller than me i don't really give a fuck slight preference i'll date a woman who's like six five

04:59:21.520 let's do it let's go sears tower okay um let's see what else um no plastic surgery not a fan of it

04:59:33.280 no fake tits no fake lips no bbl no lipo um i think what about some like tasteful botox

04:59:40.880 i don't tasteful tasteful i just prefer no plastic surgery but again there's degrees to it like if a

04:59:50.320 there's like bbl is pretty intense compared to like a girl who maybe got like a uh rhinoplasty

04:59:59.040 what if a girl was like i will get my breast implants taken out for you or my butt implants taken

05:00:04.960 out for you and she was like a 10 all around and that was the only thing and she's like i'll do that

05:00:09.040 for you do you have a bbl no i don't have a bbl you know that would hurt like that's what the

05:00:14.480 recovery the recovery time is too long i mean i just don't want that yeah i think i'd rather

05:00:20.560 i think i'd rather just i'd be curious what compelled you to get plastic surgery to begin with

05:00:27.200 yeah not not you no no i'm not talking about you i'm just talking like they get plastic surgery

05:00:34.560 because of the patriarchy because of yeah because men's uh it's all men's fault pretty much um man's

05:00:42.240 world no i would say for that it's more like the aesthetics world and i think that women sell that

05:00:49.840 a lot right don't you think women are very into like products buying products and selling products

05:00:56.240 like well i think you can look at like other it's typically like other women that are

05:01:01.360 putting themselves in this light i think that is causing it i mean you look at kim kardashian um

05:01:09.680 that has influenced a whole slew of women to yeah like how many crazy fucking surgery and i think

05:01:18.560 it's the celebrities that we idolize as a society there's a lot of celebrities that don't have plastic

05:01:24.080 surgery but like the kardashians are just everywhere you know what i mean like it's like i don't think

05:01:29.840 they're good role models for women but um i don't think well look again this is some people might

05:01:36.720 call me like simp for this but i do think women are beautiful as they are without the need for

05:01:41.200 undergoing dangerous expensive and otherwise unnecessary not medically indicated cosmetic

05:01:46.960 surgery which at the end of the day i actually think a lot of these procedures make women look worse

05:01:51.840 like i think the lipo belly looks worse i think the weird i don't know if they do something with the hips

05:01:57.360 or something i don't know that looks worse i think bbls look worse so i would much prefer a girl with

05:02:06.720 like small boobs over fake tits i'd prefer a girl with a little pudge a little belly over a girl with lipo

05:02:12.400 give me a small lass over bbl give me some small upper lip over lip fillers uh however take any woman

05:02:19.600 with any of these procedures however they were before i'd prefer them as they were i think most men would

05:02:25.600 agree with that don't you think i think most men prefer women without plastic surgery and who

05:02:30.800 probably wear minimal makeup or no makeup at all i think a lot of women after they get these like

05:02:36.320 surgeries done to like later in life really regret it like look at all the kardashians they're just

05:02:41.840 getting like their filler taken out and their butt shrunk like that's a good point a lot of people take

05:02:50.080 their like breast implants out yeah i know like i have friends who have don't you have scars from that

05:02:56.880 from when you get because sometimes they go around like the areola or the yeah armpit yeah yeah yeah and

05:03:04.080 obviously the biggest one when it comes to plastic surgery is labiaplasty not disavow how would you know

05:03:13.920 if a girl got a labia oh i don't know but it'd be like

05:03:18.960 i'd rather she didn't i've known girls that i've dated and they're like really insecure about it

05:03:24.960 and i try to like be like no it's dope

05:03:30.720 don't don't do it like but what was wrong with it that what did they think was wrong well they thought

05:03:36.560 perhaps there's there's things that they saw like in porn for example oh these girls have these

05:03:43.200 perfect little slit pussies or whatever was it like hanging out yeah like hanging down or whatever and

05:03:52.240 as the leading i'm on the forefront of this movement big labia matter nick if you can pull

05:03:58.720 it up thank you big labia matter blm grassroots movement i'm a trailblazer when it comes to this

05:04:06.080 i don't think women should be shamed if they got large labia it's unfortunate you hear you hear in

05:04:13.840 casual conversations people throwing out these hurtful terms like

05:04:21.440 arby's beef curtains wizard sleeve it's roast beef yeah that's the one that's very upsetting to me it's

05:04:29.360 very upsetting to me a lot of guys like a roast beef sandwich i i do i'm a fan

05:04:36.080 i'm a fan and it hurts me that uh in the sit look i don't think men should be shamed for the

05:04:43.040 genitalia i don't think women should be shamed for their genitalia it's a sad state of affairs that

05:04:47.520 people uh are made to feel insecure about something that's out of their control that's what body

05:04:53.120 positivity is really about it's about things that are out of your control when it comes to your body

05:04:57.600 and um yeah and i'm a fan so my dms are open if you're rocking uh okay but uh i agree don't mutilate

05:05:07.760 your genitals yeah don't do it don't do it don't do it you might like lose feeling too yeah you could

05:05:16.320 you could get botched there's botched and then you lose something else i agree i am also against

05:05:23.520 sex changes wow that came out that was not the topic here oh mutilating genitals i thought that was

05:05:32.400 the topic no a lot of them do go wrong like they haven't perfected those surgeries so a lot of times

05:05:38.720 they do end up with um there's no way to perfect that yeah yep all right cool um any final thought

05:05:49.280 from anybody before we wrap up here yes okay um my favorite quote i just want to share it um

05:05:57.040 no matter how hard the past you can always begin again oh oh is that in reference to body count

05:06:03.600 just in general like the past doesn't matter the past is so hard like if you make mistakes in life you

05:06:11.280 you know make mistakes in relationships or whatever you can always start over and be a new person i love

05:06:18.000 that so like but is your kind of argument is that past past doesn't matter i'm saying that if you

05:06:28.080 want to hit the reset button and you want to start over you want to be a better person you can always

05:06:33.440 start today it's never too late to be a better person yeah yeah i agree i agree with that yeah i agree

05:06:40.880 with that i agree that too um okay thanks violet you i am actually starting a new beginning myself

05:06:50.320 i am beginning a new journey all by myself and you should join me on by the friend danny

05:06:57.040 only fans instagram by the friend danny thank you very much don't do it don't buy the only fans

05:07:03.520 so yeah follow me on instagram at the sunset realtor it's like anybody else anybody else okay

05:07:11.840 wait how do you feel about people shutting themselves out like if you want you to no i'm

05:07:18.720 just saying i mean i wasn't planning to but i'm about to i'm wrapping up here but uh anybody final

05:07:25.600 thought okay uh okay yeah let's wrap i'm tired that's fine all right guys oh twitch really quick

05:07:34.080 twitch.tv slash whatever drop us a follow drop us a prime sub is there anything we're forgetting nick

05:07:37.920 or i think we hit everything i believe so too okay guys um last call please hit the like button on your

05:07:46.720 way out thank you for tuning in tonight you could have been oh i need to shout them out oh shadow thank

05:07:52.000 you for the prime raven thank you for the prime mk i think for the prime i think i got these life

05:07:56.560 let me read this or violet can you read this let's get a social awareness check check up from the ladies

05:08:03.360 how we truly feeling about the show tonight no holding back can't grow from things if there's

05:08:08.720 no true thought backs okay really quick i guess reflect okay go ahead really good show tonight y'all

05:08:17.200 what do i think about the show i think it went well i enjoyed meeting all of you guys and um

05:08:24.640 i think the host was a little tense at moments but he's stressed so i get it um i enjoyed it yeah i also

05:08:33.680 really enjoyed it i think i had like anxiety because i was like oh my god this is going to be on the

05:08:37.760 internet forever but it wasn't too bad yeah oh there was definitely um a lot of eye-opening

05:08:43.760 conversations um i like getting a different perspective from everyone and it's um

05:08:50.400 very interesting to see how other people view an opinion on life so it was a good experience overall

05:08:57.040 yeah i had no idea what i was doing when i walked into this i'm gonna be honest never watched the

05:09:00.880 podcast or anything she got picked up ivy but um but yeah i had fun so yeah um i think i could use this

05:09:07.600 podcast as a stepping stone to overcoming my anxiety because you know i did volunteer to be

05:09:11.920 here i did make a an instagram account just to dm brian to be on this show and i think i'm i think

05:09:18.480 i'm proud of being here what is it iron sharpens iron iron sharpens iron that's it what diamonds are

05:09:25.120 made in the rough i don't know she was trying to be inspirational yeah we're proud of you thank you

05:09:33.600 very proud oh shit i just realized people in the chat are saying we just with the uh rush before

05:09:40.960 the show because we were dealing with all the flakes and stuff and trying to find replacements

05:09:45.200 uh we forgot i'm once the show ends guys i'll add the instagrams to the description it just

05:09:50.080 slipped to my mind we forgot to do it we'll add it after the show um mary final thing whatever yeah um

05:09:57.680 so since this is the what fourth time i've been on this show uh i wanted to say this is one of the

05:10:02.960 best episodes oh that i've been on welcome and it turned into a weirdly um wholesome conversation

05:10:09.680 between all of us which i didn't expect was it in certain moments moments absolutely it was yeah

05:10:17.520 that's not that's not normal for this podcast yeah it was nice to just kind of listen and hear what

05:10:23.360 other people had to say and um yeah i'm gonna be on in the future maybe the near future yep uh you can

05:10:30.720 follow my instagram and twitter mary archived and also subscribe to pop culture crisis on youtube

05:10:37.280 if you want to see more of me same different day i'm just kidding it was a good show it was a good

05:10:46.640 show i feel like i wasn't i wasn't bored shout out chelsea because we just picked her up off the street

05:10:53.120 the mean streets you agree right this was like a better episode than most yeah i feel like

05:10:59.600 for you like i feel like you agreed with more things than you usually do or it was a little

05:11:05.600 more wholesome yeah like you said uh let me just get this from falley east coast here so it probably

05:11:11.040 won't matter girl in the white next to mary do you like starbucks i'll bet i could pumpkin spice up your

05:11:15.520 life okay what does that really mean he's shooting a shot yeah it's cuffing season baby

05:11:25.120 it is cuffing season what do you what do you say to sally no i think i i need to like work on myself

05:11:30.720 first oh you're literally you look like a princess like you're gonna be

05:11:36.880 no a great one you guys are all beautiful too so follow you on instagram too we're gonna have a whole

05:11:42.000 fawning session it's like blank like like i said i made this account just to dm whatever so yeah

05:11:48.720 okay guys last call hit the like button please on your way out thank you for tuning in tonight oh

05:11:52.880 seven's in the chat you could have been anywhere in the world but you're here with me i appreciate

05:11:57.760 that thank you to everyone who so graciously uh super chats donates and supports the show your

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05:12:10.640 to be on the show dm at whatever on instagram we will be live again tuesday at 5 p.m pacific uh

05:12:17.200 we've got a a really good show planned we have some big guests coming uh tuesday 5 p.m so be sure to

05:12:24.080 tune in mary will be back so uh tune in for that and some other really big guests it's going to be

05:12:30.160 tuesday show is going to be it might be one of our super panels like one of those shows that is just

05:12:35.200 it we'll see we'll see you never know anyways guys oh seven's in the chat we will see you next time

05:12:40.720 good night guys later

Whatever Podcast - October 23, 2023

Addressing DRAMA! Exposing FLAKES! Timcast Mary, Violet, +7 Girls! ｜ Dating Talk #111

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