Whatever Podcast - November 27, 2023

Broke Men Should NOT Date？! She HATES America？! Husband CRASHES Show! ｜ Dating Talk #121

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7 hours and 17 minutes

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200.42328

Word Count

87,660

Sentence Count

53

Misogynist Sentences

411

Hate Speech Sentences

338

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In this episode of the Whatever Dating Talk Podcast, we have our first guest on the show! We are joined by our co-host, Kiki, who is joined by special guest, Holly Treats, who has been a porn star for the past 14 years. We talk about how she got her start in the porn industry, what it's like being an adult film star, and what she's up to now.

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00:02:34.560 description go subscribe without further ado we're going to have the guests introduce themselves so

00:02:38.620 please tell us your name age occupation also uh where are you from go ahead hi my name is holly

00:02:43.780 treats i'm 28 years old and i live in los angeles and i've been a full-time content creator since

00:02:49.360 2015 and now i'm like designing jewelry and doing other stuff too and when you say content creator

00:02:55.420 what kind of content are you making i've been doing some sexy content on only fans for quite some

00:03:00.060 time since 2015 though um premium snapchat and then only fans and then camming like oh so you're

00:03:05.620 an og uh yeah okay okay got it what about you hello my name is carla eli i'm 23 years old and i'm a

00:03:14.100 relationship coach and i live in san diego okay and you kind of uh you've had a couple viral articles

00:03:19.180 on you from there was the new york post the daily wired the mirror the sun all these yeah so we'll get

00:03:27.080 into those a little uh and you've reacted to uh one or two of our videos so we'll get into that go

00:03:32.020 ahead hi i'm kendra lee ryan um i am 32 years old i am from los angeles california and i i'm an adult

00:03:41.560 film star of 14 years and i also now started managing lovely women like holly treats over here

00:03:48.560 okay and you said 14 years you've been involved in that so since you were 18 correct okay you got

00:03:56.200 started at 18 and um you do like you were you doing some dancing you were doing uh porn like

00:04:04.280 that kind of yeah so i started dancing at 18 i started doing um professional films at 21 i've been

00:04:09.780 up for a few awards so it's been fun okay all right what about you hi i'm abigail a i am 22 and i'm from

00:04:18.800 missouri and i'm a personal trainer zuri i detect a little accent so yes uh and you also recently had

00:04:26.700 a little viral moment yes i did on tiktok uh and matt walsh reacted to it we'll we'll check that out

00:04:33.620 a little bit but um yeah welcome hi i'm monica holt swedish bella uh i'm a bikini computator can we have

00:04:41.420 you tilt your microphone up just to town yeah just perfect perfect um i'm a bikini fitness

00:04:46.880 computator um i do only fans um used to be a teacher i'm from sweden i lived here eight years

00:04:55.120 okay age uh i'm 40 40 okay used to be a teacher what did you teach i i used to teach european history

00:05:03.980 and religion history european history okay all right cool what about you hi my name is anna i'm

00:05:12.100 from ukraine i lived in the united states for four years i'm doing acting and e-commerce age 26 26 okay

00:05:20.020 what about you hi my name is gloria calderon i am from new york and i'm a real estate investor

00:05:27.320 age um 31 31 okay welcome thank you uh my name is mason gregoire i am a uh i got crap for this last

00:05:38.020 time time before but i'm a follower of christ primarily um other than that mechanical engineer

00:05:44.020 uh power lifter uh competitive power lifter content creator uh age 27 can we see the like a little

00:05:52.580 like double buy fuck myron holy shit dude and you're also a bodybuilder too right yes yes a little

00:06:01.460 double buy come on let's go uh it's a little hidden but uh maybe i think we can i think we can have a

00:06:08.540 gun show in this table yeah i feel like and you're fitness competitor too yeah oh she okay she got the

00:06:14.580 abs oh damn okay yeah and she just won yeah all right okay oh really thank you yeah i had in and

00:06:21.620 out yesterday what's up you went too i had in and out after my uh my show uh yeah good times okay

00:06:31.120 cool so we're gonna go around the table once more what's everybody's current relationship status so

00:06:36.480 are you single talking stage situationship friends with benefits relationship married poly cool sex

00:06:42.240 cold harem if you're single how long have you been single and what's the longest relationship

00:06:46.820 you've ever been in go ahead so i am currently single and date definitely upgraded my dating game

00:06:55.060 and i'm dating multiple people but very curated and um my my job takes up a lot of my like emotional

00:07:03.500 bandwidth for dating like being on only fans because i'm kind of giving in that energy so

00:07:07.840 i want to reserve my dating life even though i'm single for like

00:07:11.060 being it stuff that's worth it um um and then the my longest relationship was eight years and that

00:07:20.060 was like i got out of that like three years ago and even though we weren't married we were it was

00:07:24.320 like enmeshed so i'm definitely enjoying my freedoms i'm really excited to see what i've done for myself

00:07:30.980 since getting out of that and i'm like not it's it's all been good since then you said you said you

00:07:38.880 guys broke up three years ago yeah i want to say like this is like right before the pandemic it was

00:07:43.140 no it was a little bit after um i think it was like 2020 maybe yeah like right around that yeah okay

00:07:48.180 but we didn't break up because of covid we should have broken up years before covid

00:07:51.260 i see yeah gotcha so you were pretty much from like 18 to 25 26 is yeah the period of the relationship

00:08:00.820 yeah and was that your last relationship was my last like long-term relationship yeah okay so would

00:08:07.300 you say you've been single ish for about three years i kind of like kind of had a wild phase

00:08:12.360 uh right after that relationship yeah i definitely had a rebound dude who was awful like my pete davidson

00:08:18.000 if you will okay and he we went to like swingers resorts and like did a bunch of crazy stuff like fully

00:08:26.760 participated needed to do that for myself and but super not definitely like in a different place now

00:08:34.140 how did you describe it after the breakup you had a was it a crazy phase what did what did you

00:08:38.340 i just got with this guy who was like really like brought like wanted to like

00:08:43.480 just like disturb his own life and like probably wanted to disturb my life too and he was just super

00:08:48.900 chaotic and like trying to have sex with like everything that would move and like really didn't

00:08:53.440 have a type it was more just kind of like any and it honestly like that moves i yeah anything that

00:08:58.580 moves and honestly that's just like really exhausting after a while as a woman to like always feel like

00:09:03.260 every situation could turn into a sexual situation the way this this guy obviously does right so

00:09:08.280 um that was just really exhausting but it was also super fun for like three months so i'm super glad i did

00:09:13.360 that okay yeah gotcha and you said currently you're seeing multiple guys yes currently i'm seeing

00:09:19.680 like i would say three guys and they're all pretty like i want to say like high value men you know

00:09:28.220 what i mean and they're super busy and i'm super busy and no one's really like being like okay this

00:09:34.560 is where we're going you know what i mean but it's also kind of like i don't know it's pretty new for

00:09:39.000 all of them so we're seeing where it goes you said there you consider them high value men i consider

00:09:43.280 them high value what makes them high value um i think that i really like on a sapiosexual level

00:09:49.360 love what they've done with their careers in their lives like as a fan almost kind of like hey i don't

00:09:54.160 really want your job but like that's impressive good job you know what i mean like i really like

00:09:59.000 i don't want that but like i'm impressed that you did that and because for me with what i've built

00:10:04.040 a huge problem that i've that i have that i didn't really honestly know and i'm sure i'm gonna get

00:10:08.920 trolled for this like i didn't know that only fans would change my dating life to the level that it did

00:10:13.160 when i first started because it was way long ago before people were talking about it on podcasts and i

00:10:17.540 was just figuring it out as i went but now i have a bunch of followers and it is weird to date

00:10:21.360 because i have to consider are you trying to use me can you actually benefit my life

00:10:26.140 is this a waste of my time should i just be at home making jewelry and doing my what my graphic

00:10:31.140 design or doing doing camming for for whatever right making at least positive income instead of

00:10:36.240 hanging out with you okay yeah so that's kind of the new issue i have okay so you're currently seeing

00:10:42.680 three guys though i'm currently seeing three guys um two of them don't live in the same state so

00:10:47.040 it's kind of like more long distance and then one of them is in the state but i don't really

00:10:51.760 it's whatever do you consider it because oftentimes you get these terms like roster do you consider it

00:10:56.900 a roster um no because it's not a leaderboard there's not like a you know what i mean it's not

00:11:06.220 like a running leaderboard where everyone's a competition okay yeah how often you said one of

00:11:11.180 them does live in la though yeah how often you're like well we're making it a competition

00:11:15.060 whatever is going to make this a competition

00:11:20.460 that is how i laugh homie no no um so he lives in la how often do you hang out with him

00:11:30.240 man are we really talking about this right now um okay like probably twice a month twice a month

00:11:36.360 yeah okay and what about the two other guys once a month maybe less yeah we're talking in between

00:11:41.500 that it's like are there are there any other people in the picture like that aren't someone

00:11:45.820 just fell off okay if we're gonna call it a roster someone just fell off the roster one of the three

00:11:49.140 no another one another one yeah there was another one he was an actor and he was really cool but

00:11:53.840 um i honestly just like his life's too chaotic for me and i'm kind of like okay i feel really

00:11:58.820 stressed out having to like keep track of what you're up to so i'm just not gonna keep track of what

00:12:03.700 you're up to okay yeah are these guys also seeing like multiple women i would imagine i don't ask

00:12:09.920 but it's because i know okay are you intimately involved with all three yeah having not all

00:12:18.940 together as a group huh not as a group not like a polygamy type of thing but you never know what

00:12:25.680 these conversations are going to turn into but you are you're you're hooking up with all of them

00:12:30.000 yeah basically okay i see are you ever worried that they're kind of just pursuing you for the

00:12:35.380 sex um maybe yes but i mean if she wants that yeah so here's my thing like there's a lot of

00:12:44.600 relief in that because in in the same way that a guy will be like gets a lot of relief and like

00:12:51.160 paying girls to have sex even if he's good looking and what and everyone's like why does he do that

00:12:55.240 you know what i mean it's because there's a lot of pressure that gets taken away when it's kind of

00:13:00.040 like hey these are the bounds in the terms of the relationship if we decide that we want to talk

00:13:03.940 about it beyond that we can but let's keep it really defined and simple for now right and there

00:13:09.000 is kind of a lot of a lot less stress in that for me too when it's like hey i'm not the only girl that

00:13:14.920 you're hooking up with i don't have to decide right now if we're going to get married because i

00:13:18.220 honestly don't want to make that decision in my life right now so so marriage is something that you

00:13:22.120 want eventually i might potentially do want to get married but i'm also not like i know that

00:13:27.360 whatever i do is going to be unconventional as fuck because that's pretty much i've done my whole

00:13:32.000 life so i need to what that my therapist says my objective needs to become very clear on what i want

00:13:39.320 and what my goals are and actually track them out and then basically just like make sure nothing

00:13:45.020 disrupts that and if the right person comes along that is on that vibe then that's good but otherwise

00:13:50.080 i'll just be victim to like okay i'll become whatever you are okay i'll become what you know

00:13:54.840 what i mean i need to just kind of watch my own stuff no that's fair um would it be an acceptable

00:13:59.580 situation for you if you eventually just never found anybody yeah i've thought about that and then

00:14:05.320 right as i thought about the craziest stuff like like i was like really getting low like that you

00:14:10.640 know what i mean like oh maybe i just won't have anybody and i was somewhat okay with it because i'm

00:14:14.000 actually like i have a lot of love in my life like this right but then just recently i was talking

00:14:20.520 to somebody and was like hey so i really want a baby mama but i really don't want a relationship

00:14:27.540 and i really need someone who's gonna be a good mother but who's also gonna know that while we need

00:14:33.640 things to look good and healthy for the kid i i can't be tracked you know what i mean like i don't

00:14:38.960 want to be kept tabs on i don't want it to be a conventional relationship i but we could talk

00:14:43.360 about the terms of that but i know that that's unconventional and that it would be an arrangement

00:14:47.080 and i was like you know what that's actually the only terms in which i would have children

00:14:51.400 and that we'll dive in we'll dive in yeah this is yeah we gotta go to other people yeah go ahead

00:14:57.580 what were you proposing there for a little bit no i'm just kidding oh yeah definitely

00:15:02.220 what do i have to do someone just fell off he's at number four number four you're like so you're uh

00:15:09.380 kidding someone just fell off yeah what about you go ahead happily married how long have you guys

00:15:17.000 been married we've been married for a year and a half going on for two years oh congratulations

00:15:22.880 thank you awesome and it was that or is that your longest relationship yes that you've had or yeah okay

00:15:32.240 someone all right and uh we might have your husband crash the show a little bit later yes a little bit

00:15:41.740 later um all right cool cool that was the phone call can i already pick your team can i already be team

00:15:48.520 you know yeah you can go ahead uh i'm kendra oh i already said that uh yeah relationships oh man this

00:16:00.860 is actually really crappy right now so my ex-fiancee and i just broke up about five six months ago but

00:16:08.320 it's all good it was very toxic yeah oh my god yeah for two years i was paying the bills so and then he

00:16:15.220 took my car but i was paying for and had a mistress for a year so got out of that i've been single for

00:16:22.980 five six months i met a wonderful woman because i'm bisexual pansexual bisexual but it's just like

00:16:29.340 friends with benefits like me and her both need a man's presence but not we haven't been together

00:16:35.600 with a man yet but we both like date other men and then we just hang out we're not really sexually

00:16:40.700 intimate but it's like more of a so with women it's more of like a cuddling comforting like a best

00:16:46.860 friend but you can make out or hang out or kiss or cuddle or not like there's no pressure so it's

00:16:52.700 nice to have that because when it comes to like creating what i create it's very very draining

00:16:58.120 do you consider yourself bi or lesbian i'm assuming bi right but i mean i'm more towards the women

00:17:04.500 than the men but like you just were you just had a fiancee who was a man yes that's my understanding

00:17:10.460 yes i've only had really long long-term relationships with men but i've been with women since i was very

00:17:15.900 young i see okay so you're currently in a situationship with this woman yes i see okay

00:17:22.260 well what was the timeline sorry if i missed it um between uh ending that relationship starting this new

00:17:28.200 one two weeks how long were you guys to get how long were you and your fiancee together uh four

00:17:36.380 years four years okay two of them were long distance and that ended six months ago or yeah july

00:17:42.260 2023 five six months she turned you turned you on into women i was already into women when i met him

00:17:48.640 i was only with women for three and a half years okay not to put her on blast but the girl she's

00:17:53.240 and i was like fucking hot like i'm not i'm i'm more lean towards the male like like i i don't get

00:17:59.560 me wrong i i've done a lot of content with them and i love hooking up with them and i never want to

00:18:03.680 like have that be off the table right but i'm really straight and shit but her girl is hot are you

00:18:09.480 super straight i'm like moderately straight you're not that straight i'm straight i'm straight but i've got

00:18:17.000 a little a little they're not that straight okay all right so okay your current situation ship

00:18:23.160 according to her is mega super hot yeah she's super hot super fun uh she's down to do anything

00:18:29.220 like i'm like let's go to six flags right now let's do it okay so all right got it um and you

00:18:35.860 said but you're also dating some other men too it sounds like i wouldn't say dating sleeping with

00:18:40.680 having sex yes do you have a roster currently yeah what's your roster what's your roster looking

00:18:47.140 like yeah what's some numbers numbers i have i usually have five at all times but i'm down to two

00:18:52.140 right now because they're just getting messy okay they're getting too connected wait two in

00:18:56.740 addition to the woman definitely gonna guess let's do some math here let's do the math they just get

00:19:01.200 obsessive i'm like no so is that like a rotation type of thing kind of it's like if i'm bored

00:19:08.640 who's the closest you know whoever's the closest i'll hit you up and no i'm saying like the roster

00:19:13.060 definition is that like some i don't i've never heard it before it's like basically if you have

00:19:17.880 a bunch of people you're talking to at the same time and then it everyone else defines it differently

00:19:22.280 after that okay but for me it's like and i've had this since i was probably 14 15 like you've had

00:19:27.580 the roster since yeah okay because i don't ever want to get married i don't want kids like even my ex

00:19:32.880 we had a partnership a life partnership clearly not just because you don't want to get married and

00:19:38.860 have kids doesn't necessarily mean that you have to have multiple partners but i mean you're i'm not

00:19:43.340 saying that you yeah can't move that way but but i don't like polygamy either and i don't want my

00:19:48.000 partner with anyone else yes i am selfish yep hold on oh wait double standards i want to

00:19:56.120 yeah so if men can have double standards i can too so you want it open on your end but closed on

00:20:05.120 theirs absolutely but you said your current the current girl you're seeing she's fucking other

00:20:08.460 dudes because it's a dude i can't give her that i can give her something really similar if i strap it

00:20:14.480 on right but i can't give her that real thing okay all right plus i find it hot when a girl's with a

00:20:22.520 guy but i don't okay wait that's wait so your male if you had a male partner you would not want him

00:20:27.900 with women not without me there i'll just watch it but you but you would it'd be okay for you to be

00:20:33.880 with other men when he's not there yes and they're okay with that they have to be or else they're not

00:20:39.040 with me deuces i ain't i ain't taking that deal uh i don't know you're not my type you're a little

00:20:49.780 too white oh she knows what she likes hey i'm fine with people having racial preferences that's

00:20:58.280 totally fine yeah everyone everyone has a preference more for them i guess yeah absolutely

00:21:03.020 good for them absolutely good for them um okay so uh so you roster wise what's the most so you said

00:21:12.680 five is at the normal right now it's three including the woman what's like the most at one time

00:21:19.180 that you've ever been seeing like a baker's dozen what are we talking no probably like five to six

00:21:23.840 oh five to six okay and just going back to you what's the i know you said you currently got three

00:21:27.780 uh what's the most that you know uh roster the biggest roster the biggest roster is it more of an

00:21:34.700 nba team more than nfl team i'm trying to think of talking here the my biggest roster probably

00:21:40.560 happened when i was in high school and it probably like you know what i mean like that's when i did my

00:21:45.460 most damage and then i like got smart and i was like you know what i yes i can do this obviously

00:21:52.100 but i should be smart about when i do this and so in high school yeah you have no idea what a slut i

00:21:58.540 was in high school like this girl saw it for herself so she knows me we can like i had like i had like

00:22:03.060 a threesome with two dudes and got like eiffel towered in high school like on an ecstasy party

00:22:08.800 yeah what what you know what i mean like it's an eiffel tower we were crazy it's you don't want

00:22:15.160 to know it's not i actually do want to know it's a non-bisexual it's a non-bisexual male threesome

00:22:22.420 so there's like a bisexual male threesome and then there's a non-bisexual male threesome so they

00:22:26.360 don't have an interaction yeah they don't they they're more like yeah buddy like i imagine that's

00:22:30.580 like how they feel at what age did you lose your virginity uh 15 15 yeah okay and you said you did

00:22:37.620 most of your damage yeah in high school yeah because i got into a relationship when i was like

00:22:43.780 really yeah yeah so it was like yeah okay and even though he was horrible he definitely like saved me

00:22:50.700 some mileage so whatever i can't also i don't know why i played that one okay um wait so okay

00:23:03.380 oh so how big was your roster in high school i mean probably like i think i probably like had

00:23:13.060 like was in love with probably six dudes at one time and was like maybe one of them will love me

00:23:18.280 all at your high school or different no i was like because i was out partying amongst like all of

00:23:23.360 orange county so yeah we were so we went to high school in orange county what high school can you say

00:23:29.380 i went to university high school which is the same high school that will ferrell is from no he went

00:23:33.720 to irvine no he went to uni they talk about it he started the gecko club at uni and it's like their

00:23:39.820 biggest it's like the best thing they have going for them except for me but they can't talk about

00:23:43.620 me because i have only fans wait what's the best will fair it's me and will ferrell from uni from

00:23:47.960 university high school you and will ferrell had a thing yes no no no we both went to university high

00:23:55.120 school in irvine that's like our graduating class yeah our graduating high school so we're the two

00:23:59.680 coolest things to come out of that cool okay wait so okay um so okay it was a bunch of other high like

00:24:07.000 a bunch of other high school yeah so it was like there's this like culture in orange county where

00:24:10.740 you like make friends from other orange county high schools and everybody goes to these crazy

00:24:14.160 parties all around because it's like a bunch of like rich kids with mansions and their parents

00:24:17.960 like just don't pay attention to them right so they're always gone and so these kids have like

00:24:22.880 parties to make friends and whatever so there's a there's a whole group of people like that so it's

00:24:26.940 like very common to meet a bunch of different people from other high schools and i was just like

00:24:30.300 well this is a great way to make friends let's have sex and like confirm our alliance you know what i

00:24:35.780 mean yeah i mean if there's one way to describe like orange county families it's absentee parents yes

00:24:41.400 yeah and pill poppers and their kids party when they're gone right so it's like if you're an orange

00:24:46.180 county parent just know your kid is absolutely doing bad stuff to you are you from oc i'm not from oc i live

00:24:52.220 an oc oh yeah no so you see it like it's like they have like mercedes-benz and you're like

00:24:56.740 why are you why do you have this car it's wild yeah and they're like drunk drive crashing it it's like

00:25:01.920 no adult supervision exactly go crazy i was upset i got a scion and not a bmw because my family told

00:25:08.860 me i was gonna bmw gosh i got me fun for not having a mercedes yeah that's how it was if you didn't get

00:25:14.080 it you're getting bullied and i'm like what if we don't have the money okay then you get bullied for

00:25:18.200 not having the money good talk streets are hard out there yeah my mom for a call she just looked

00:25:23.160 at me and i went went away i was like what about you i am single yes yes oh yeah we're still in

00:25:31.520 relationship that is all i have so uh single uh how long have you been single um

00:25:38.560 probably about since january almost yeah has okay since january okay uh longest relationship

00:25:52.100 yeah okay um my longest relationship about two years two years okay uh let's see and in that

00:26:00.540 one year period of time but you've been dating though i'm assuming right yes okay yeah i was seeing a guy

00:26:06.620 for about six months of that okay on and off okay got it all right uh what about you uh married

00:26:16.940 been married for six years um my longest relationship in sweden was 11 years met my ex when i was 19

00:26:23.800 uh he was 10 years older um we broke up because it just didn't work um i dated a little bit in

00:26:32.640 between that and then i met my husband i actually slid into his dm you slid into your husband's dm yeah

00:26:38.540 okay uh he thought i was a cam girl or selling glass ray-bans it was either or and uh we were

00:26:46.080 generally hard for men to believe that women will slide into their dms yeah i did that i was like hey

00:26:50.060 you're hot he's like it's usually like a scam or yeah yeah some computer virus or the link is coming

00:26:56.960 exactly exactly just send the link yeah just let's get it over with so we started talking but he was

00:27:01.540 like it was so weird you spoke fluent swedish so he was like i was very confused um so we started

00:27:07.560 talking right and uh he was like so what are you into i was like the butt and he was like yeah and that's

00:27:14.680 oh yeah uh i i misunderstood his question and uh he was like uh i he knew i was the one for him

00:27:25.120 when you mentioned being into butt stuff uh-huh like you pegging no well oh you received well i'm

00:27:35.980 into that too so uh any takers please uh wait what do you mean takers you have a husband yeah the thing

00:27:43.140 is he's not into that right into what the pegging part wait is it you guys got an open marriage yes

00:27:49.760 only for pegging though no so we do we do um what happened was so this is if you marry a guy who

00:27:58.320 who loves women either you let him or you leave him right so either you you're fine with him you know

00:28:06.340 wait so it's like open on his end closed on your end or no i mean if i went to him and said hey babe

00:28:11.680 this is something i really want to do like i met somebody that i really vibe with sexually like

00:28:15.980 would it be fine we would have that discussion i just haven't really met that person yet i'm very

00:28:22.960 particular with my with my men so so wait you guys see other people then well are you guys swingers no

00:28:29.160 well i mean we have had like uh multiple women like in our bedroom uh actually the first time i was

00:28:36.540 i came to america to visit him three days into that visit uh we had a threesome with a lady that

00:28:43.780 was like 62 wait 62 yeah she was hot though she was really good looking no like for real there's

00:28:52.160 some hot gilps out there running around yeah hot take i don't know if there's such a thing as a

00:28:57.540 hot 62 year old no she was she's hot like she was nina hartley who oh never mind who the fuck is

00:29:06.620 that good she was she had like a six pack like she was she was good looking if she wasn't hot i

00:29:13.160 wouldn't go for it to be fair like the best way that a woman can like maintain her beauty is yeah go

00:29:18.260 to the gym yeah so i'm i i feel that but 62 is pushing it yeah she was i thought she was good

00:29:23.920 looking though um i wouldn't have done it if i didn't find her attractive gonna get canceled by

00:29:28.500 all the 62 plus year olds exactly um but yeah so that's up nick on center looks okay are people

00:29:37.880 complaining i'll take a look at it here in a sec um okay but so you guys so so you know what happened

00:29:48.020 was this was like back and forth on how you know we're gonna manage this because he was very open with

00:29:53.640 me from from day one he was like listen this is me i like women i probably won't be like super

00:30:00.900 faithful if that's what you're looking for and i was like i really like him we vibe you know this is

00:30:06.980 awesome and i'm not i'm pretty open when it comes to sexuality i don't really judge anybody like for me

00:30:13.340 it's like stay safe do whatever you want um so i was like back and forth am i comfortable with it we

00:30:18.600 tried it out and i wasn't uncomfortable with it you know i was like you know having threesome is fun

00:30:23.720 it's i'm not i'm not super bi but like i love beautiful women i support them you know we had a

00:30:29.260 good time so wait do you sleep with other men no oh but you're like you're able to sleep with other

00:30:35.300 women yes alone yes okay do you or you just have i mean yes that has happened like for what about him

00:30:42.700 he does he does it yeah sleep with other women yeah without you yeah okay i just don't find that

00:30:48.960 um i'm not a person i'm not jealous i don't i'm pretty alpha so i don't really and if you want to

00:30:56.480 leave me for somebody else i'm not going to stop you you know i'm not going to be like oh please don't

00:31:00.240 leave me i don't give a fuck i'm sorry hold on just to be clear let me just clarify so if your

00:31:05.580 husband were to leave you yeah you wouldn't give a fuck no i don't mean it like that of course i would

00:31:11.140 be upset it would be sad it would be a divorce but it's not like i'm gonna beg somebody to stay

00:31:15.780 with me if you don't love me and you met somebody else i'm not gonna try to keep you because that's

00:31:21.400 that's pathetic and embarrassing for me so okay you know you i mean it's fine we would probably have

00:31:28.020 i'm my like me and my ex everything was fine on the breakup he got upset yeah but after a while

00:31:33.600 you know we solved it so sure what about you uh married four years now and that's my longest

00:31:39.720 relationship you're in a relationship uh four years and it's your longest oh i forgot to ask

00:31:45.960 how long have you been in the u.s for four years oh four years so you met him right away yeah we got

00:31:51.940 married like in three months oh you got married within three months yeah okay i see um okay married

00:31:58.920 within three is he also you said you're ukrainian is he also ukrainian no no he's from texas but he

00:32:04.280 lived in california for like 10 years yeah okay he's from texas he lives in california like for 10

00:32:09.980 years i came to california for business and uh then i stayed okay all right what about you um i am

00:32:19.260 married um my first anniversary was a couple days ago congratulations thank you so one year about one

00:32:27.500 year okay um my longest relationship was about four years it's not with my husband um i did also marry

00:32:34.680 my husband three months after meeting him and i freaking adore him wait so you both got married

00:32:39.920 within three months of yeah so my you two i got married within four months wow okay wait four months

00:32:46.660 three months three months six months so oh okay wow all right so okay i just say like um i the first

00:32:55.380 time like i saw him i i thought i mean he's a great looking guy but um my best one of my best

00:33:01.180 friends like was it was his best friend so there was definitely a good reference you know um and we've

00:33:07.880 had our our ups and downs from getting married so soon without really knowing each other but it's

00:33:14.400 overall been a great experience and i've learned a lot and i've grown a lot as a person so i'm grateful

00:33:18.780 okay and uh you does anybody here have children i do children okay you have just uh one kid two kids

00:33:29.220 i have one daughter she's 12 and that's from your previous i was no that was like from my first

00:33:35.380 relationship i was really young i was 18 when i had her oh you were 18 okay are you wanting more kids

00:33:40.080 oh yeah absolutely okay at least two more okay got it uh all right and uh mason what about you

00:33:48.660 uh yeah um single been single for uh probably a few months now um yeah longest relationship was about

00:33:59.680 a year one year and uh you've been on the show a couple times have you been bombarded with women

00:34:07.700 in your dms wanting to date you uh i i've definitely gotten a few women who are interested

00:34:16.240 yeah yeah talking with any or uh nothing too serious right now okay i mean they're one or two

00:34:24.420 have stuck out but nothing has progressed and since maybe some of the viewers know some of them might

00:34:29.900 not the panel i think here they don't know uh what what are you how are you maneuvering when it

00:34:36.440 comes to the uh the dating world yeah um well so i'm sure you'll get to this eventually but i'm i'm a

00:34:44.060 virgin um i've never had sex uh it's something i'm saving for my wife um yeah it's that's extremely

00:34:51.800 important to me i know uh the statistics when it comes to sex before marriage how it can hurt future

00:34:59.320 relationships uh your ability to bond with other people so i'm saving that for her trying to honor god

00:35:06.160 with that um there are plenty of things i'm oh yeah go for it do you want your the girl you meet to

00:35:13.340 also be a virgin or it doesn't matter um i mean how important is it yeah if i could pick i would

00:35:19.020 rather her be a virgin but it's not wait if you get what no if i if i could pick oh like you could

00:35:25.620 pick if i if i had the choice yeah i i would rather her be a virgin just because i know you have the

00:35:29.980 choice mason you have the choice you got the choice i got the choice your choice yeah indeed yes yes

00:35:35.780 well it's not it's not even that he has the choice i think just in terms of i i think you have the

00:35:41.460 optionality to do it uh because listen you're tall fit handsome smart successful mason you are not

00:35:50.140 settling for a non-virgin i agree i refuse to allow it okay me too and also don't you want to date like

00:35:58.320 like don't you want to be with someone who's also gone through that fundamentally different life

00:36:01.740 experience like that's not a life experience i can relate with at all and that probably is like

00:36:06.000 so many parts of it so it's like i'd imagine you'd want someone who at least understands it

00:36:09.460 right uh understands like waiting for marriage or waiting someone who also waited for marriage even

00:36:14.780 you know what i mean um yeah so yeah like okay speaking ideally yes i would want someone who waited

00:36:20.620 for marriage uh realistically it's not likely gonna happen if if i got you i got you dude okay we're

00:36:27.880 gonna get no no no wait don't you have any nice christian girls that you know hold on yeah i got

00:36:32.440 you got you go ahead you got options i have over a million followers and a lot of my a lot of my

00:36:38.980 girls are virgins who are like waiting for marriage and i was one of those as well so like

00:36:44.420 that's extremely respectable you have options oh you were you also you yeah i waited really yeah good

00:36:51.120 not like born again virgin like no no like oh legit i had a purity ring and everything born again

00:36:56.560 virgin uh no no no no no yeah like do people believe in born again virgins like when yeah there

00:37:02.560 are people who believe in it yeah um generally the people that espouse that are um uh what how do i

00:37:09.360 want to say this they no no no no no no i mean but it's like a it's like a sinning

00:37:16.560 no no no it's more like uh they want to absolve all accountability they don't want to work through

00:37:25.860 the relationship baggage so they want to find somebody who's just going to be like ah i'm just

00:37:30.440 going to ignore all of that because like eventually you gotta you gotta start to work through that okay

00:37:35.900 these are the other guys i've been with these are the connections i've made we got to work through

00:37:40.300 that so that's that's a lot of work and it's not like i'm not willing to go through that

00:37:45.300 but uh it's a lot of work it's a lot of deprogramming that i have to go through with

00:37:50.640 this potential other person yeah you're good bro you don't need you can find a virgin

00:37:55.720 yeah and even no i believe you're out there yeah yeah and if even if you did have to work through it

00:38:01.760 that girl is going to be your dream girl and you wouldn't mind it either he might mind he might

00:38:06.840 mind saying as his godfather as his godfather he's gonna mind i i'm gonna be there i'm your best

00:38:13.460 man okay for your wedding of course yeah it's already determined right it's happening we just

00:38:17.500 met like a couple days ago whatever um the vibe is on bro yeah we felt it we felt it yeah it's

00:38:22.580 no no no like mason you i i will you know what with weddings that they say yeah speak now or forever

00:38:30.280 hold your peace if there anybody objects i don't think that you're standing up i don't think they

00:38:34.000 actually do that shit but i'm gonna stand up be like no she's not the one bro she's not the

00:38:39.320 virgin okay no i'm him how do you know she's not a virgin no hymen no diamond so how did you find

00:38:44.720 that out that's what i want to know and just like uh i don't want to do like fake news uh you can

00:38:51.700 even if your hymen is not intact you can still be a virgin correct yeah but as just a matter of

00:38:57.500 speech uh wait what was the question how do you find out if she's a virgin yeah i was asking you i

00:39:03.980 was implying something oh how do i find out oh my goodness no that went over like are you asking

00:39:10.980 if i would it's what i was implying that you had already been with his wife before he married her

00:39:16.160 is that like prima nocta prima nocta like i get the first i think like back in the 1500s lords

00:39:24.500 would like call dibs on the dudes did you know they like to watch that's totally messed up

00:39:29.040 they had women give birth so they could watch it for their pleasure back then so weird they had

00:39:34.180 nothing so weird they had nothing back then yeah that was their entertainment just like the whole

00:39:39.880 village so they like the power that was the adult industry yeah the fuck yeah 1500s that was a peep

00:39:46.960 show back then when they had nothing people have been degenerate since the beginning of time yeah

00:39:51.160 really since the beginning it used to be worse yeah yeah there we go okay all right well

00:39:58.880 there we go we've gone around the table i want to get into some of my pre-show notes here that some

00:40:03.660 of you guys have uh so kindly provided so i think the first one and there's a lot of things that we

00:40:09.380 have to react to that we have to get to um so we're going to try to move as quickly as possible and

00:40:14.120 try to get through it let's start with um here who are we going to start with i think we're going to

00:40:19.900 start with abigail you did you had this tiktok video it kind of went viral matt walsh from the daily

00:40:27.320 wire reacted to it um why don't we watch the whole thing uh the tiktok we'll watch a short segment

00:40:34.060 from matt matt walsh's thing and uh yeah well whoa oh lovely flattering at least you still look pretty

00:40:42.020 yeah yeah like seriously go ahead nick just came to the realization why i'm single

00:40:52.660 every guy that i'm like oh yeah he's attractive okay this is not supposed to be offensive

00:41:02.120 but i see their wives and they just look like so like

00:41:08.680 you know like not like this just like

00:41:16.720 you know like i pretend my tattoos are gone

00:41:22.360 dude i'm i look crazy like that's why guys don't want to wife me up

00:41:31.000 and i just come to this realization today see

00:41:37.880 i love that or maybe it's because all of them see me eat sushi after i get out of the grocery

00:41:49.240 store in my car with my bare fingers and drink sweet tea

00:41:53.340 guys i thought these men wanted like you know big strong tough girls

00:42:06.700 i don't know i feel like all of them are like like super girly and all these guys are like

00:42:18.400 yeah that's my girl that's just like housewife stuff and i'm over here like i own my own business

00:42:25.040 i'm covered in tattoos i'm a little spazzy but that's okay we embrace it

00:42:31.600 but yeah i i don't think any guy's gonna wife me up because they can't take me seriously

00:42:37.760 and i just realized that

00:42:40.800 damn

00:42:44.560 i have the video froze for a second pause it for a second uh let's read some of the comments

00:42:50.400 nick can you move us over uh nathan says it's the eyelashes for me fake eyelashes are a complete

00:42:58.240 turn off yeah that's just real

00:43:00.000 some things i can see it scroll down a little bit nick whatever on that uh nose ring and what

00:43:09.520 okay i don't like the tooth okay i know i was like dang i'm passed out i don't know what they're

00:43:13.760 saying about nose rings it seems like a lot of people don't like the nose ring that oh maybe harry

00:43:19.440 likes he says a hundred but no i don't know um so you posted this it went viral what what's your

00:43:26.240 take on it going viral and uh well what have you i didn't think it was gonna go viral number one

00:43:32.160 like i just do random like ranting videos in my car sometimes was that pre-gym or post-gym or that

00:43:39.280 was post-gym i could tell it was post-gym my hair and my pump not from the hair but it was more like

00:43:45.040 the arm pump no no well the arm pump but like the general exhaustion that you exuded yeah my brain

00:43:50.880 free yeah the brain freezing and yeah the post-workout yeah i had my sweet tea in my hand

00:43:56.480 yeah i just got done eating sushi in my car so okay yeah so um i don't know i just never thought it

00:44:04.400 was gonna go viral like that but i really do the girls i do see with their husbands are very like

00:44:12.400 you know they're very cutesy they don't have any tattoos they don't have any piercings they don't look

00:44:17.600 like big lifter girls and then the ones that i do see that have like piercings tattoos and lift with

00:44:23.280 their husbands are in an open relationship no offense but they're in an open relationship and

00:44:29.680 they're just like not committed to each other and i just i just never see like you know commitment

00:44:38.320 just one-on-one and just with each other with people that look like me and are at the gym and

00:44:44.160 stuff and that's what i look for and i feel like i've struggled with that a lot because everyone

00:44:48.880 at the gym sees me they don't take me seriously and i want a serious relationship and i feel like

00:44:53.600 it just hasn't been possible for me yet so and you think that's due to your appearance or your

00:44:59.760 demeanor what do you think so and i i my demeanor is very alpha at the gym because i own my own personal

00:45:06.080 training business and if the right guy comes along and he leads the relationship i don't mind like

00:45:14.160 i don't want that alpha attitude at home like i already have to do it at work but guys think i

00:45:19.280 want to do that like at home too and i don't so i'm very misconceived because of what i do and what

00:45:24.800 i look like so are you are you looking for a man that you can submit to or step under and i don't mind

00:45:31.840 letting a man lead if he's going to do it right if he provides for me i'm going to provide yeah given

00:45:36.640 that you find a man who is i could like a man that is you identifies i would put myself under his

00:45:44.400 leadership and i would follow him to the ends of the earth absolutely yeah okay carla you're the

00:45:49.600 the woman's dating coach relationship expert what do you think

00:45:57.280 first of all i do want to say that there you don't have to look a specific way i know that i

00:46:01.760 look a specific way but girl i'm thick and i used to think that too i used to think there's there's

00:46:08.000 no man that's gonna like me the way i am i'm latina i have curves like i i know what i have and i know

00:46:13.360 what i don't have but what i would say is there's someone for everyone and i will admit that there is

00:46:20.880 like this ying and yang when it comes to feminine energy and masculine energy i know that those two terms

00:46:25.520 are overused time and time again and i will say appearances do matter i literally just made a video

00:46:30.880 on like beauty as currency but you're beautiful and you know you go and i feel like you uh you know

00:46:36.880 you you're a business owner i'm a business owner too so it's just like learning how to manage

00:46:42.240 though that feminine energy and presenting it in the right way in the right rooms and putting yourself

00:46:47.440 in the right places so that's like and a lot of people see me at the gym and i present myself in a

00:46:52.640 very almost like you know alpha dominant way because i'm training people i'm taking control of the

00:46:58.400 situation okay can you meet someone outside of the gym or i'm literally there all the time i don't

00:47:04.160 go out i don't i don't do anything would you date a guy who like isn't you know does he have to be

00:47:10.160 a gym guy does he have to be a gym guy yeah he could be like a dad i mean i would prefer it because

00:47:15.120 i'm very heavily involved and i write commonality but you you'd be open to dating a guy with a dad bod

00:47:21.520 for example um yes i have what if you find the dad bods are like better for you like like not maybe

00:47:27.920 the dad bod but like what they do for you in your life i mean would you like i'm open yeah i'm okay

00:47:35.040 you had something yeah i mean i know from myself and the way i look if i wasn't married i'd probably be

00:47:43.280 single as well because i'm very alpha i joke like a dude and i have a deeper voice i was born with this

00:47:51.280 voice so i know i get a lot of for it but that's fine um but i would probably be single just because

00:47:58.960 i'm i'm alpha outwards but i'm submissive to the man i'm with if he has the right energy so

00:48:08.960 you know i i feel you on that because i get that a lot on my instagram and tick tock you know that

00:48:16.640 we don't like muscle oh you have something go ahead well and my most recent ex going into it he

00:48:22.000 was the alpha by the end he was the sub so because of my masculine energy it kind of put him down and

00:48:28.880 he couldn't handle it is that kind of what you just saw as like the end of the relationship was

00:48:34.400 yeah that shift yeah because he couldn't provide for me anymore so i was financially providing i was

00:48:38.480 emotionally providing and i was turned off i was like i'm not doing this anymore okay so i actually help

00:48:44.560 women to kind of not kind of but to learn how to balance those two energies out because it is i

00:48:51.920 mean for myself as well like i was extremely masculine or very independent very dominant but

00:48:57.280 i had to learn how to work through it and it was because i was on survival mode so i speak on survival

00:49:02.880 mode a lot and so when how you were saying how if you're providing all the time it's exhausting

00:49:07.680 and so you really want to look for a a man that can lead and i think all of us are well for at least

00:49:13.920 myself at the time that i was single i was looking for a man that could lead and make me feel safe

00:49:18.080 because it's so easy for a woman to be able to submit to a man when she feels loved safe protected

00:49:24.480 and provided for it's like instinct but to find a man like that it can be very challenging so that's why

00:49:31.600 i'm here and i stepped into the dating market to try to fix it yeah and then and then on top of it

00:49:36.240 like when guys come across girls oh hold on just one second

00:49:43.520 i'm flattered derek do you want to say anything to derek the trader i mean i don't swing that way

00:50:04.560 but uh dang that's a massive compliment anyway i can help were you able to understand through the thick

00:50:11.360 yes japanese accent it should be changed now it should be changes back to the sorry derek the

00:50:16.560 trader i it's uh back to the the british yeah i definitely didn't read the comment i listened to

00:50:21.600 the japanese and was like oh yes i understand yeah you vibed yes you know i vibed yes you know the

00:50:27.680 thing is though i think on the whole like submissive thing whatever i think you said kind of instinctually

00:50:34.960 women want a man to be a leader but there's programming in society typically from feminism

00:50:42.480 which tells women to go be boss babes and to you know you can be that leader well so so i think what

00:50:51.760 you have is despite women women still like on some as you said instinctual level want a leader yet it's

00:50:59.600 not clear to me if granted and i think men are also failing at this too in the sense that there's a

00:51:05.280 lot of men that are not up to par but i also think that even if they do find a man who's up to par a lot

00:51:11.600 of women are not prepared to follow they want to be led but they don't because in order to be led you

00:51:17.600 need to be a follower yeah that's the paradigm so i think a lot of women are not prepared to be followers

00:51:22.880 so well uh i have something to add sure i i i i used to struggle with my balance of feminine and

00:51:31.600 masculine energy because i work a lot and it is super easy to fall you have to get stuff done and

00:51:36.320 it it is hard right but i i've met guys recently where it's like yeah like i have no problem submitting

00:51:43.440 to you i feel safe like whether or not you're having a drink and you say a stupid joke or whatever

00:51:48.480 thing that happens that makes me slightly disrespect you in that moment you're still my leader

00:51:52.880 you know what i mean wait hold on like wait wait so hold on listen we're humans right like a guy if

00:51:58.800 you've heard for example this is like eight years in a relationship thing when you've heard the exact

00:52:03.280 same joke said the same way 30 million times and you have to laugh because he's around his friends

00:52:09.440 or whatever and you don't want it's like he needs his moment to say his joke that you've heard for

00:52:13.120 the 30 millionth time and you can't take away his flowers for that right so it's like stuff like

00:52:17.200 that where you're just like okay you might have done this little thing that like triggered me a

00:52:21.280 little bit but like you know what i mean like you just need to like no i don't know what you

00:52:25.120 mean what do you mean by disrespecting your partner what do you mean no like it's like you might as a

00:52:29.840 woman get the urge sometimes to be like wow i don't like that he did that i want to say something i

00:52:33.840 want to like you know he's trying to like say you're out with your partner and he's trying to like

00:52:39.200 the attention's on him the conversation's on him and you just the wife doesn't like something he does or

00:52:44.160 did or said or moved and she just like makes a face like while he's trying you know that's something

00:52:48.880 i see a lot right just like oh so you're not saying that's like a good thing i'm not saying it's a good

00:52:53.840 thing i'm saying yeah no absolutely okay so i am gonna say i would what i'm noticing a lot on instagram

00:53:00.640 with this whole like because you know things become trends right and i am seeing that a lot of people are

00:53:05.200 getting into this like femininity masculinity like all right i think everyone's getting it wrong it

00:53:10.480 doesn't mean like if you give your husband or boyfriend like a staying face that's not what it

00:53:15.120 means right like for example i am christian and i do go by the bible but a lot of what the bible does

00:53:21.760 say it just makes sense right so basically what it is is when you're going to be submissive it doesn't

00:53:29.760 mean like you don't have a voice it doesn't mean you can't have a business it doesn't mean you can't

00:53:34.960 have alpha energy it's just that so in the like this is i know this in spanish i don't know like

00:53:42.320 the verse because i'm not great at that but it does say that when a woman

00:53:49.280 gets really annoying she'll like destroy her home right so you just have it's not about being submissive

00:53:56.400 of like oh i'm gonna listen to what you say i'm not going to like talk back whatever no it's more of

00:54:01.760 like you just have to analyze and think about how you're gonna direct your home right not putting

00:54:06.720 out difficult energy like yeah i mean yeah you have to understand that men are logical beings

00:54:13.920 we're emotional so that's our balance it's not about like submissive of like and like i think

00:54:18.480 everyone's starting to get it wrong it's just like whatever what we both bring into the into a marriage

00:54:24.000 what it should be into the marriage we're both giving each other what it needs back and forth right

00:54:29.440 we're not logical but we can be smart and kind of lead that way and men are gonna lead in a different

00:54:35.120 way so we can still be leaders yeah i mean it's uh it's better to live on the corner of a roof than

00:54:40.640 a house with a contentious woman yeah thank you or are you is that what proverbs 21 19 uh i think so

00:54:50.640 i think it's phrased differently depending on the it depends on the translation but yeah but i've heard

00:54:56.480 better to live in the desert than with a nagging and quarrelsome yeah that's another one yeah go

00:55:01.200 ahead i think when you go out with your husband and he does something and you just stare at him you

00:55:07.120 you like for me personally i just don't want to take the fight in public i'll do it if i have to it's

00:55:12.640 just i don't want to because it's going to cause it cause a scene and it's embarrassing yeah you should

00:55:16.560 do that shit primarily so i don't i don't think it has to do with you being what are wait so what are

00:55:22.000 these embarrassing things that your husbands and boyfriends are are doing i mean my ex was was

00:55:28.160 like um abusive so he would say things about for example my body i didn't like in front of other

00:55:35.440 people in public yeah in public when we're like hanging out like that's a yikes stuff like that

00:55:41.200 was you know i could take the fight and i could be like well you're fat so yeah i mean i could do it

00:55:48.000 i just chose relationship yes super healthy yeah that's why we were here yeah you had something go

00:55:53.360 ahead yeah my recent ex when he was alpha uh we'd be out out about you know whatever and if there's

00:55:59.920 something he's telling me to do it's like hey come over here stand here but it was a separate

00:56:03.840 different type of voice than like a concern but angry voice i knew to be like don't question him do

00:56:09.840 it follow his word follow his lead and every time it was because he was protecting me from someone

00:56:14.720 on the other side he saw coming at me looking at me so like that type of submission yes a hundred

00:56:20.240 percent yeah i also think that women have gone too extreme with the i'm a boss i don't need anyone

00:56:27.360 it's like but everyone needs someone yes i mean men are just wired to be protectors exactly so they're

00:56:34.000 they they see those threats like that's just what they are donated 100 brain what in the name of all

00:56:41.920 that is holy do you have on don't tell me you've developed some kind of kink with that thing

00:56:48.880 um wait what oh this thing yeah oh this is like a massage tool my back's hurting so it's not like

00:56:56.400 a it does look funny it's not like a uh although this part looks a little phallic i get it but uh

00:57:03.040 are you sure about that hey i've seen a lot of people in the fitness industry use those things

00:57:08.080 what are they called shepherd's crooks yeah i use it exactly yeah you know my back's been bugging me

00:57:12.800 so um all right oh you have something quick then i do want to move on a little bit but go ahead yeah

00:57:17.280 so i i really want to put the place of blame on the public school education so i think that

00:57:23.200 that's it's not women or men's fault i think it's the way that the public school system is ran

00:57:28.960 they're going too far with being a boss babe and things like that that all stems from the public

00:57:32.880 school system and same thing with like men being too feminine hello that's like a big big big thing

00:57:38.880 that i don't see a lot of people talking about but it needs to be addressed that's it okay yeah

00:57:42.720 um and then just coming back to the your video here um you got the septum piercing is it one of those

00:57:50.400 that like no i took it out to get a tighter smaller one because that's what i got it pierced with and i

00:57:55.840 didn't even like it because it was too big for me and i think it did look kind of ridiculous

00:57:59.680 and then like oh sorry i think it did look kind of ridiculous but i ended up taking it out couldn't

00:58:04.400 get a smaller one back in so i just left it out yeah and so since that video when was that like a

00:58:09.360 month or a month ago or something a month or two something like okay have you just been

00:58:15.280 inundated bombarded with a bunch of dms yes from guys because yes how many we talked marriage

00:58:21.840 proposals and everything i had a guy call the gym from florida ask for me to train him and then he sent

00:58:28.080 me a proposal like a marriage proposal like on text i love did you call cops that's cute no did you

00:58:35.280 accept yeah follow up so like how do your dms look did you get like hundreds thousands of dms what are

00:58:42.800 we talking here um i can't even count the ones on instagram they're all like in the oh the hidden

00:58:50.800 scroll scroll scroll i didn't even look for them but when you're bored time for that you have your

00:58:55.760 options you know one thing that i think is interesting so if a woman goes online and makes

00:59:01.600 some woe is me video about dating complains about dating that they get no guys whatever it is uh

00:59:08.320 she's gonna get bombarded with suitors whereas if a guy goes online does the same thing woe is me oh

00:59:13.920 no girls want me blah blah blah um i don't know if as many women would dm him as the reverse which i think

00:59:23.520 is probably not is interesting um grid one donated one hundred dollars for f's sake let's be honest

00:59:33.360 you are too busy mistaking loser bad boys for top g to recognize alpha if you met one so stop looking

00:59:39.840 make yourself worth finding men are hunters be proud can i just ask this person what do you do for a job

00:59:46.880 like what is your motor sports obviously because this has her own business like she's successful

00:59:53.040 she's gorgeous what do you have to offer can i don't really can i say i mean she does she did say

00:59:57.680 that she spends a lot of time at the gym um and sometimes like you just have to like like branch off

01:00:04.400 you know like go into different environments i mean yeah i can speak to this so i mean i i know a lot

01:00:11.520 of elite power lifters and power lifting and just the fitness general industry in general is extremely

01:00:17.680 degenerate so i yeah well i mean like can you like life coach us all i don't know like group

01:00:25.120 right for life coaching group right when i agree with you it's it's it's it's a dark

01:00:31.120 yes i'm an engineer same thing uh mechanical yeah i don't know if that's his

01:00:34.960 i was i was going to add on to that i was going to say you know unfortunately it in the fitness

01:00:41.600 industry and i because i you know i've been working out for eight years um people that most for the

01:00:48.640 most part people that love to work out it's very like because of vanity it's not so much for health

01:00:54.720 you know so a lot there could be a lot of people that are a little bit superficial and that might not

01:00:58.880 be not that i'm saying that it's the case but i i would say i would rather like my husband wasn't

01:01:04.800 like big on working working out he did like it uh but he didn't spend most of his time there you

01:01:09.840 know his his mind was more in like like making money and stuff like that where did you guys meet

01:01:15.040 at through a friend through a friend so i got lucky i i've had like pretty good luck finding good like men

01:01:21.840 um in my life but uh what i was going to say is i do think that it would be better to find someone

01:01:29.520 that's not sorry thank you it would be better maybe to find someone that's not like into the gym

01:01:35.280 and you can like make him because everybody eventually wants to work out they want to look

01:01:39.520 great and you can inspire them so i actually um have dated i mean i went on a few dates with a guy that

01:01:46.960 didn't go to the gym a couple guys that didn't really go to the gym and it was like they didn't

01:01:51.920 understand my life they didn't understand my lifestyle they didn't understand why i ordered the way i did

01:01:56.480 they almost found it kind of embarrassing and it made me feel embarrassed to go out to eat with

01:02:00.880 them and then on top of that like they made me feel like i was almost the man in the relationship

01:02:06.560 because i felt kind of bigger than them and more powerful than them like in my muscles

01:02:11.520 okay i can i can attest to that actually because i compete yeah and so you know when i when you're in a

01:02:18.880 cut you have to be with somebody that understands a cut because the way you become under during a cut

01:02:26.800 i mean if a person doesn't understand the fitness industry he's not going to be able to support

01:02:32.720 you because it's it's a lot of time effort energy you're tired it's it's a heart it's hard but i

01:02:38.160 think you know bodybuilding is extremely difficult but i think you would just need a supporting husband

01:02:42.880 or a partner like i don't think they necessarily need to be in that industry yeah okay so i will say i saw

01:02:48.800 i hung out with her and like we've been through a lot in our friendship because we've been friends for a

01:02:53.200 while too and when she was cutting right before her competition i swear i almost beat your face

01:03:00.560 like i was so mad at you so many times yeah i was just like you are the most obnoxious

01:03:04.800 bitch right now and i can't wait for you to stop this competition i'm so glad it's over you guys

01:03:10.240 but no they're really like they're starving and they're assholes and their testosterone like even

01:03:14.480 for the women because they're like ready to compete and it's like wait are you talking youtube yeah i

01:03:18.400 didn't know her for a really long time too oh you guys have been friends for a long time yeah and so

01:03:21.520 you guys were housemates or living yeah we like when she comes to california she stays with me you

01:03:26.240 guys would get into like fights well i was walking on eggshells because i knew what was going on i was

01:03:30.240 like okay this is just like oh her her fitness thing you know what i mean she's just we're we're

01:03:34.400 in the we're in the final stages like she's gonna be kind of crazy right now okay like yeah i got

01:03:40.400 something for this i got

01:03:46.160 no we don't and then you were yeah we're the best you guys have been defense too yeah well we've

01:03:51.920 quality family guy reference yeah it's all all right let's go to the uh the or there's is there one

01:03:58.000 other tick tock video from abigail oh yes all right let's play it really quick uh go ahead

01:04:03.680 go ahead let's a quick one about matt wallace go ahead and i've come to realization that every

01:04:09.840 single one of my exes after me has went to a girl that is short blonde no tattoos and doesn't lift

01:04:18.160 what's happening i'm not joking every single one of them i'm like so someone tell me

01:04:23.600 preferably a man why you guys go to the complete opposite after i guess a failed relationship but

01:04:30.720 like we're we're still on decent terms like if we seen him i wouldn't be like oh boy no we'd be like

01:04:35.360 hey what's up so yeah ladies put a finger down if every single one of your exes has gone to the

01:04:41.840 opposite version of you every single time you break up and you don't understand why and you just want

01:04:45.280 the men to answer so someone explain to me okay um so all your exes like you're how tall are you

01:04:54.720 six foot you're six foot so all your exes end up with like petite blonde women and yes no tats

01:05:00.640 yeah and they usually don't go to the gym or if they do they just follow them to the gym have you

01:05:06.400 turned anyone gay so funny story oh um i had a ex that i met at the gym a few years back uh he was a

01:05:19.120 great guy really good to me but yeah he sent me this guy to train i'm not going to disclose any names

01:05:25.920 but i found out later down the road that he met this guy on grinder and he pretended to be his friend

01:05:32.800 huh yep and uh they were having sex in our bed of the house we just got together and the guy i was

01:05:42.160 training i ended up training his the guy he was sleeping with at the time he told me and disclosed

01:05:47.440 everything to me and uh the guy i was seeing was actually out on military military training he came

01:05:54.640 back to an empty home i'd left not said anything i was just like hey i know what you've done please

01:06:00.560 don't try to argue with me um he told me everything showed me proof so i'm i'm gonna go

01:06:06.400 i love that he showed you proof that was let's see what do we have here okay oh we have the matt

01:06:11.840 walsh video that's right nick if you can pull up the matt walsh video and you can close out those

01:06:15.520 other tiktoks just this is the last video okay and uh oh so guys matt walsh just reacted to

01:06:25.280 her first video that we already watched so this is in reference to that first video go ahead nick

01:06:30.880 and we're just gonna watch a short segment of it okay yeah go ahead and maybe she thought

01:06:36.000 well this is what men should be attracted to says the culture and so they are but uh but they're not

01:06:40.160 we're not oh like as it turns out uh yes do men prefer feminine women yes oh because we're we're men

01:06:53.280 uh and uh we're not looking for uh you know if you're a heterosexual man you you desire a woman

01:07:07.440 and uh that's a a particular sort of desire that you have because you want to get married you want to

01:07:12.800 have kids you want a family it's all natural desire for human beings to have for men to have

01:07:19.760 um but you don't you don't need a a woman who acts like a man or looks like a man or or you know

01:07:29.200 takes on the mannerisms of a man why would you want that oh okay i mean you have guy friends you

01:07:35.600 hang out with oh but you don't need women to fill that role oh you certainly you can call wheels

01:07:43.760 donated would bella or holly add me on the gram lol of james underscore wheels

01:07:51.520 maybe okay maybe do your best work in my dms and if you get my attention then it's a yes and i'm

01:07:56.880 honestly very easy to impress your reaction to the video to the matt walsh video um i was like

01:08:02.560 kind of taken back a little bit because i see myself as feminine i get that i lived and i

01:08:09.280 yeah i'm but i'm i mean i'm not big i'm tall yeah i still see myself as very feminine you're very

01:08:15.520 kind of like yeah you're super feminine i don't i don't think he's saying that in reaction to because

01:08:21.040 in the video that we reacted to in the video he reacted to you're like well i think that you know

01:08:25.920 i look how i forgot i i don't want to misquote you but you like flexed in the video and i said yeah

01:08:32.160 they want him like this they want him like this you know yeah so i mean i'm still i can be like

01:08:37.520 this with the right guy yeah guys just always see me when i'm out doing my personal training so i look

01:08:44.000 like big scary and strong okay like and then if i go to the grocery store it's usually right after i

01:08:48.960 lift i look big scary and strong and i don't i don't go out yeah so i they don't see me like

01:08:53.680 dressed up and nice or whatever okay but but i feel like for men what's feminine is different for

01:09:00.160 everybody yeah like there are guys who like super curvy women wait can you scoot your mic to the

01:09:05.040 very edge of the table super curvy women with big boobs and everything there are guys who like petite

01:09:11.280 women that don't have any boobs i think it's just you know the preference of sure what you know what

01:09:18.400 you like as a man i don't i have guys that like the way i look and i have guys that say i'm a dude

01:09:24.640 because of my voice and you know having a six-pack and i know i haven't always had that i've weighed

01:09:29.920 180 pounds so i've been curvier so you know yeah sweet tooth thank you for the gifted 20 memberships

01:09:37.280 appreciate it um so i think it's just different for each person what they like and i think if matt

01:09:43.840 watch says we're men we like this no you're a man yes and you like this but yeah like john over there

01:09:51.920 might not i think to be fair to matt i mean i think there is a grain of truth and that men do

01:09:58.800 like feminine women we want someone who's more feminine than us not i'm no i wouldn't go to the

01:10:04.080 extent to say that uh you're like a man because you're not i mean from the limited interaction i've

01:10:09.760 had with you you don't seem to very be very manly seem to be pretty feminine other than working out and

01:10:15.680 being tall like yeah i think those are good qualities so like i i wouldn't count that against

01:10:22.720 you but also i think you're feminine yeah i think you're a feminine lady feminine feminine yeah you're

01:10:28.240 a dashing lass i look a little scary when i'm working out but besides point do you are you a grunter

01:10:34.080 um no but i do oh yeah i lift really heavy so like i go hard i go do the smelling salts i don't do

01:10:41.600 this okay okay okay what's your favorite lift um at the moment my favorite is probably

01:10:50.560 belt squat at the moment nice okay i do lots of belt squats and lunges i am a sucker for lunges

01:10:57.040 i know it sounds crazy but i love lunges yeah usually psychopaths like lunges yeah i was gonna say

01:11:02.240 i need lunges i struggle there you know what like guys uh here okay go ahead go ahead and then we'll

01:11:08.400 go to you i do want to point out too i feel like the new way to put down a girl in 2023 going into

01:11:16.160 2024 is being like oh my god you're so masculine oh my god you're so and you're like masculine energy

01:11:22.000 like i feel like that's almost like a microaggression sometimes where guys will say that just like like

01:11:26.720 sometimes especially when it like seems to be out of nowhere and you're just like wait what did i do

01:11:30.320 to like set you off it's almost like have you been planning on saying this the whole time

01:11:33.520 i mean i mean guys guys guys literally think if they go hold on just a second i'm just called

01:11:39.200 tooth 989 donated 100 dollars see let's go sweet yeah let's go sweet too go ahead um guys online

01:11:48.080 thing that we care if they oh you're masculine you're you're trans i'm like i don't care like really

01:11:55.680 you you you go online you put this energy into my page saying mean things well and on top of it

01:12:01.920 there is a lot of men who like dominant women yes and then the problem is yes oh yeah a lot of

01:12:08.320 men yes actually i'm a professional dom i'm also a professional dom the amount of money i make

01:12:13.920 humiliating men on a daily yeah but they they want to keep that on the dl exactly okay but they don't

01:12:19.200 want it from their partner not always no yeah not always for the most part they don't do you think

01:12:23.520 the majority of men want dominant women um almost every very powerful man i've met which i'm not

01:12:29.200 going to release any names they always want to get dominated wait can can you guys define like

01:12:35.200 dominant what do you mean like we're when it comes to sexual they don't want to be in charge

01:12:40.400 at all haram and they also don't mind doing domesticated work yeah but that's not like a

01:12:47.360 sexual thing i don't think it's like in life well they also like to cater to you no that's another

01:12:52.000 thing i wanted to add right now what we're seeing is like the sassy man era where they also like to i

01:12:57.840 love that they no no there's there's men who in life prefer to have a dominant women so they could

01:13:02.960 do less work that's why there's like this that's why there's like this i was gonna i was gonna say

01:13:07.920 what's your name yours yeah uh tick tock yeah abigail okay i was gonna say um i think it's more of like

01:13:16.240 a dating problem rather than you i think you're very feminine and beautiful and i think any guy would

01:13:21.120 love to date you but i think that we're just in a like dating crisis crisis i agree with that man

01:13:27.520 let's go back to the whole dom thing though what so well i certainly like if there's a you could say

01:13:35.600 there's a lot of men in so far as there's the population of the u.s is what 330 million people

01:13:41.600 certainly there's there can be a lot i would not say that though that the majority of men

01:13:46.320 are into being dominated i would because i know what happens behind closed doors well but that's

01:13:52.640 a you just because there's a lot of men doesn't mean that it's the majority of men well my i don't

01:13:58.800 think it's the majority okay then how about this my experience the majority of the people and it is

01:14:03.600 more than especially the powerful men like you guys have no idea the amount of powerful men that

01:14:09.280 do not want that power especially at home they are tired of it they need a release they cannot deal

01:14:15.600 with it anymore but that's your clientele so i mean yeah it's not my clientele i don't have a

01:14:21.040 clientele like i have i don't do anything like that because i mean like i do professional dom work

01:14:26.480 and i also help people and like gearing what they want what they like why do you object to the me using

01:14:32.000 the term because i don't want people thinking that i'm like a courtesan or something i don't do that

01:14:36.560 what what do you do yes i'm professional dom so you you provide sexual services for money i do not

01:14:44.000 touch them sexually i do not allow them to touch me sexually i do not watch them they receive sexual

01:14:49.440 gratification nope they're submitting they might get off to it later at home in their head but not

01:14:54.880 in front of me right here absolutely not or else they can leave that you're engaged in sex work i

01:14:59.840 mean you can oh absolutely i don't deny that well then so why i'm not i'm not a hooker that's what i'm

01:15:04.800 trying to say i'm not a hooker what's the okay so you don't have sex with them correct yeah no

01:15:10.080 it's not allowed providing some sort of do they unclothe themselves in front of you no they're

01:15:15.520 fully clothed yeah oh i put them in outfits okay do you do you touch do you touch them no not with my

01:15:21.440 hands with tools do you touch them with instruments whips and yep okay um so i mean that is within the

01:15:29.200 per in my that's within the purview of sex work yeah i call myself a sex worker all the time but

01:15:34.400 again i do not want that why do you why do you object to the because i don't want that line crossed

01:15:38.320 that i'm having sex with these people for money i do not do that yeah but an accountant can have a

01:15:42.400 client exactly right so i just want to make it clear because i've had a lot of people misconstrue that

01:15:48.240 and i don't like it you've never you've never done um i will like you've never escorted

01:15:55.680 no you've never okay okay okay okay so relationships where i benefited from them just

01:16:02.080 like sure just like they benefit from me just like any other freaking relationship okay uh let's

01:16:07.520 pull up here let's come back to the video really quick i want to wrap up on that nick if you pull

01:16:10.640 up the youtube video i just wanted to read the comments because there's some interesting comments

01:16:14.880 on the video on the youtube video okay uh scroll down por favor i haven't even read these

01:16:26.160 scroll down can you make it a little bigger nick make a little bigger

01:16:31.920 uh nope that's way too big here that's that's one bigger please okay scroll up so we nick

01:16:41.360 can you scroll up please okay the words she's cute but i wish she had more tattoos and piercings

01:16:47.440 has never been uttered by an emotionally healthy high functioning man ever um speaking as a male that

01:16:53.120 is heavily tattooed and used to work in a tattoo shop i suggest that you never get a tattoo somewhere

01:16:57.120 that can be covered by okay um one thing i realized i want a certain man he'll expect oh one thing i

01:17:02.640 realized at 19 if i want a certain man he'll expect me to be a certain way and i'm grateful that being

01:17:07.600 feminine is amazing and uh that's an interesting one on the on the tattoo front um did you yeah so

01:17:16.320 my my husband is heavily tattooed like heavily and and he says that derrick for trader donated

01:17:23.200 one hundred dollars yeah thank you relationship requires sacrifice what are you ladies willing to

01:17:29.520 give up to obtain and retain the man of your dreams um here derrick what i want to finish this

01:17:37.760 conversational thread we'll come we'll go around the table we'll come back to that i'm writing a note

01:17:42.000 here go ahead with your point um and if i say that i i only have one tattoo and i had it when i was 18

01:17:48.720 stupidity but he's he literally tells me that he doesn't want me to get any tattoos anymore because

01:17:54.720 he says that a beautiful uh sculpture should never be painted on with graffiti a lot of women here at

01:18:03.680 the table are yeah i was like i have one tattoo like that's the same thing and i was like what so

01:18:09.200 do you hate it like he's like no i don't mean like i mean heavily tattooed yeah so that's a personal

01:18:16.000 preference yeah yeah it is yeah but i've heard that from you guys have thoughts on what she just

01:18:20.080 said both of you are quite i think my tattoos are i like to think of them as feminine yeah because i

01:18:25.120 get mine i love tattoos almost like feminine tattoos they're very pretty i have very like leafy and floral

01:18:32.240 and like i think they add i don't know they add character to me i love them and i also think if you

01:18:40.400 vibe and you love each other and you think you know you're good for each other you see past that

01:18:47.200 because i just when you when you grow when you're older you don't go like oh my god she has nice tits

01:18:52.560 we're getting married that's not how it works anymore it's more like you have to have a connection

01:18:56.960 you have to get to know somebody you have to see that you have the same values you know you see things

01:19:02.720 the same way did you have something on the tattoo thing yeah my ex that my recent ex um he had never

01:19:08.640 dating anyone without to dated anyone with tattoos especially heavily tattooed said he never would

01:19:14.560 but we we had a genuine good connection and yeah and on top of it i don't give a flying who likes my

01:19:21.200 tattoos or not they're for me yeah so if you don't like them i most likely don't want to date you anyways

01:19:26.080 that's not my problem that's yours yeah that's fine i mean i think the thing is i think for most

01:19:31.120 men tattoos aren't necessarily a deal breaker but there's never an instance where i think it's a

01:19:39.200 deal maker for a guy like your tattoo artist look there are some granted there there's even that guy

01:19:46.640 in the comments he was like if yeah he's a tattoo artist and he was like yeah i don't get a tattoo

01:19:51.840 of your lady look there's there are some guys who have like a tattoo thing i think they're few and far

01:19:56.960 between but i'd say generally speaking like your tattoos are never going to typically make you more

01:20:03.120 attractive it's either going to be something that's neutral or for like there's definitely

01:20:07.280 some men out there they're going to interpret it in a certain type of way i will limit the dating pool

01:20:12.720 yeah and i would say that i i read something i can't remember what it was something on tattoos but

01:20:18.800 there is something to be said of like people tend to view and this kind of ties into the masculinity

01:20:23.760 femininity discussion that tattoos can be viewed in a somewhat to some degree a masculine way

01:20:29.840 so i mean look and the pain like this piece alone was six hours and i had to sit through it

01:20:35.040 and that's that's fine and dandy again it's my my story is my mom passed when i was 14 i didn't deal

01:20:41.520 with it till i was legally able to so this is what i did i like it you don't like it that's your problem

01:20:48.080 at least i didn't do something worse to my body and i'm not here anymore i'm gonna add something

01:20:54.160 sure go ahead um i think like what you said guys some guys like the tattoo thing well i've ran into

01:21:01.440 a lot of guys that like tattoos but they like the girl for a short time like they look at tattoos like

01:21:08.320 oh she's gonna be fun for a short time and that's been really hard for me too because i'm looking for

01:21:13.040 something serious and a lot of guys see me and they're like oh she must like to have fun for a

01:21:17.680 short time and i think a lot of guys look at tattoos like i like girls with tattoos and then

01:21:22.960 they end up getting married to a girl that does not have any tattoos right yeah yeah i mean in the

01:21:28.560 moment yeah well i mean that's a good point yeah a lot of people most times when people get tattoos

01:21:34.080 it's very in the moment it's a quick decision not saying that yours are like that but generally

01:21:39.840 speaking when i see someone all tatted up or when i've talked to certain people who are tatted up

01:21:44.080 it's very quick decision i just wanted to get a tattoo that day it was something i just felt like

01:21:48.720 doing it seems like it's probably a financially uh irresponsible decision so i evaluate most men

01:21:55.680 will evaluate it that way they're just like so when someone sees a girl who's all tattooed up

01:22:02.720 they're generally thinking they make quick decisions they make irresponsible decisions therefore

01:22:08.560 she's going to make the irresponsible decision to sleep with me yeah so what's the word not

01:22:13.200 spontaneous but it's uh i'm trying to think of the word no no no like somebody who uh rashly makes

01:22:20.160 decisions or does things sporadic reactive no no i'm thinking erratic impulsive impulsive i have bpd

01:22:27.440 that's yes yeah that's the word i have bpd yeah bpd yeah okay so that's one my biggest thing is

01:22:35.040 impulsivity impulsivity impulsivity yeah yeah and impulsivity is can be proxy for the potential risk

01:22:43.200 for infidelity so yeah very true i think there is yeah but that goes forever yeah they're very like

01:22:49.920 ingrained systems in men so when we view women it might not be at the forefront of our mind but it's

01:22:56.080 kind of programmed into us like these things are not great to see yeah not that uh i can look at you and

01:23:02.800 i see your beautiful lady you like to go to the gym you like to take care of yourself that's

01:23:06.320 important to me i think it's important to men in general that you take care of yourself you look

01:23:10.160 good um but then there all are those all other things that we also take into account uh is she

01:23:16.480 impulsive um they probably don't know you very well so maybe they don't know uh that you're not

01:23:22.160 impulsive but a lot of uh the visual cues are saying you might be so it's usually first glance

01:23:29.120 let me just read this chat here derpington christ is king and the lord of lords i'm going to teach my

01:23:33.440 daughter to respect herself and not end up like a 30 foe selling herself to men that don't care

01:23:37.520 about her power lifter dude what's your favorite lift oh bro okay my favorite lift right now is um

01:23:44.400 bench my best lifts deadlift by far um but i have most fun benching okay tattooed missouri chick or

01:23:50.880 whatever are you capable of cooking well also christian virgin dude in missouri chick how many reps of 225

01:23:56.320 pounds you got i'm weak with only 25 blessings question mark um can you cook i can cook very

01:24:02.320 well i love to cook that's a big plus and i bake a lot and i cook a lot and i will cook for the man

01:24:07.520 if he loves to eat all right there you go thank you derpington um whoa oh how many reps of 225 225 on

01:24:15.440 what bench i'm not hitting 225 on bench no that's i'm natural oh wait no did you say yeah what was it

01:24:21.440 you didn't specify generally 225 is bench like like nfl combine is like a bench

01:24:28.880 squat okay we'll just say squat yeah um i think last week i hit 225 for 12 reps

01:24:34.960 gotcha nice that's pretty good that's actually really good i'm just gonna read this okay we got

01:24:38.720 all right we'll move on doc vanabless why do women always think that they know what men should want

01:24:44.400 stop it men like women if you hack hawk loogies burp and curse like a sailor you'll probably attract

01:24:50.400 butch chicks instead of gentlemen are you into that oh yeah well not into burping and all that

01:24:56.240 but like but we never said that we know what you mentioned donated 107 yeah thank you man hey ladies

01:25:04.240 when your only skill is attracting guys it's time to develop another one it ages all girls are the

01:25:11.040 same oh wow okay he's coming with uh all right that's why he's single okay i guess you're single

01:25:18.480 pico stein i mean i'm not only all that i'm a hairdresser i'm a cook i'm a aunt like these

01:25:23.760 people don't they see us as just an object which is fine maybe we show ourselves that way we present

01:25:30.400 ourselves that way that's fine how much does your only fans cost mine yeah ten dollars a month and i

01:25:36.400 don't show anything aren't you objectifying yourself absolutely but aren't you by having a corporate job

01:25:41.040 every day sitting there playing to the man well brian doesn't have a corporate job okay you're

01:25:47.040 still giving your time to somebody else that's fine my opinion when you say but when you say objectifying

01:25:53.040 like you're i think you're talking about something very specific well because it's what everyone's

01:25:57.280 willing to deal with i'm willing to deal with maybe a lot more than someone else here is and that's fine

01:26:02.080 that's what my threshold is at the end of the day everybody's giving their time and their energy to

01:26:07.280 somebody else for money at the end of the day no matter what it is mcdonald's workers starbucks

01:26:12.720 workers car truck divers whatever yeah but not all jobs are created equally absolutely not that's why

01:26:19.120 it's better to be on my side for me for me i will say too like the more money it is typically the more

01:26:25.440 you have to sacrifice to like get it like obviously like only fans and like camming and all that stuff

01:26:31.520 like you have to deal with people in their like weird forms right like you're basically a therapist

01:26:35.600 that's there to reinforce their mental health issues and not you know what i mean as opposed

01:26:39.520 to a therapy a different a real therapist which is designed to help you with your mental health

01:26:42.720 and and that and and that's a weird fucking service lawyers you know what i mean so it's like i don't

01:26:47.440 really want to sit there listening to the things i've had to listen to for hours for like less than

01:26:52.240 a crazy price you know what i mean like i just don't understand why they think we don't know what

01:26:57.280 we're doing like yeah i'm not we're not idiots yeah we know we're fine with it we're gonna just

01:27:03.120 venture into only fans and be like i'm gonna do this oh i have to be naked while like we we're not

01:27:08.880 idiots yeah you guys have agency yeah you guys yeah we know what we're doing and we know what this is

01:27:14.320 and we can choose to do it or not do it but you know and they can have an opinion or not have an

01:27:19.200 opinion like their opinion is like you know dime a dozen you know so it's it's fine to to think that

01:27:27.920 we might be you know not worthy or we might never find a man whatever it is you know but in the end

01:27:35.840 of the day it's we know what we're doing and we know what this is and if we yeah what we sign up

01:27:42.000 for if we didn't want to do it sure we wouldn't yep it's not a must uh we're almost done here with

01:27:48.480 some of the notes on abigail abigail you said i've not had the best dating luck you said your

01:27:53.840 first boyfriend cheated second one was an alcoholic yep third cheated on you with a man you told you

01:28:00.640 already told us about that one uh you said yeah one of your clients at the time was the man he slept

01:28:05.040 with your fourth was long distance yeah uh wasn't terrible but would use scripture as a weapon to

01:28:12.640 manipulate are you are you uh religious at all or not yes oh okay christian okay so he would use

01:28:18.800 scripture to manipulate you how so did he ever use proverbs 21 19 because that's my go-to if i'm

01:28:26.880 trying to manipulate i'm trying to manipulate a lady wait what is it though i don't i've never read

01:28:31.760 the bible which which one clearly what what what's proverbs oh well proverbs 21 19 uh better to

01:28:37.840 live in the desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife no he never used that one on me

01:28:42.240 he if yo if you're watching dude proverbs 21 19 it's my fucking go-to you're a good wife

01:28:48.400 so i can tell you a story and then no yeah give us an example of uh scripture he's weaponized yeah

01:28:55.840 yeah okay go go it's not it's not a great it's not a great story so just brace yourself okay um so one

01:29:01.920 day we were floating and i had uh some peach rings in the pool oh like a river float okay gotcha

01:29:09.280 gotcha gotcha oh okay yeah yeah of course we're in california yeah okay we tube yeah tubing tubing

01:29:15.280 go ahead go ahead i lived in tennessee so yeah i understand it it was good yeah yeah i lived in

01:29:20.400 tennessee i love that place memphis okay anyways guys guys yeah so i had these peach rings and um we

01:29:28.240 were saving ourselves for marriage and uh we came back to the truck and he was trying to get

01:29:36.400 kind of sexual with me and i was like no i don't really feel comfortable with that and we get back

01:29:40.720 to the apartment and he proposed to me with a peach ring and he said um god said it's okay we can have

01:29:47.920 sex now like it's okay like i promise god said it was fine and i was like he's a man of god he was

01:29:53.840 like really trying to tell me it was okay manipulate me and we ended up we ended up oh you did really

01:30:01.040 yeah because he had told me like wow god said it was fine like we're married now and like do you see

01:30:06.400 the the ring on your finger and i'm not letting you off the hook how old were you how old was i yeah this

01:30:18.880 was last last summer okay and you're like we literally were talking about getting married

01:30:24.960 like he was gonna propose well we ended up doing it i told him stop i don't like this i don't feel

01:30:29.120 good we stopped and he goes it's okay because i faked it anyway and i didn't want to actually propose

01:30:34.320 to you oh my god no way yeah and he was long distance so he literally like went home next day

01:30:40.880 and he lived six hours away and i was like i feel disgusting and i feel used it was it was

01:30:46.720 wait you but uh just okay were you a virgin no i wasn't oh but why were you waiting for

01:30:53.840 marriage because it was important to us to both of you yes oh so he wasn't either but we decided

01:30:59.680 to go into the relationship we were like you know what we're gonna restart we're not gonna do this

01:31:04.160 and we weren't like born again virgins but we wanted to respect each other and not have sex

01:31:09.840 until marriage at least that's what i thought he wanted and it ended up going down downhill real

01:31:15.520 quick so how long had you guys been dating we were dating for about eight months then eight months

01:31:21.760 wow that's a long time to hold out i know and i was like we are proposing we literally live long

01:31:26.000 so what are we talking like what bible verses was he there's ezekiel 25 17 psalms 23 4

01:31:32.720 oh he would uh proverbs 16 18 proverbs 24 24 25 24 genesis genesis genesis you go ahead and try to

01:31:41.280 find them i can't quote him how about i got one probably quoted there's there's a bible verse that

01:31:45.840 says that uh if you have that burning desire within you you should get married so it's in like first

01:31:51.680 corinthians i don't think it's 15 i think it is no i think it's no so it's like the uh if you feel

01:31:57.840 that overwhelming attraction for your partner yeah then you should go ahead and get married

01:32:02.400 because that's been awoken in you and you shouldn't sin against your body yeah he was like god he was

01:32:06.400 like god made us one like this is what we're supposed to do like we are one now that i gave

01:32:10.960 you that ring like god told me it was okay and i was like oh he's not a good that's uh no yeah no

01:32:17.600 i think you wanted it too though right well in the moment i really wanted to be like married to him

01:32:24.800 and i wanted to be with him forever and i trusted him like i gave him that trust oh that's so sad so

01:32:30.560 yeah i mean i think do you feel great though that you got away from a guy who would destroy your trust

01:32:36.480 like that like in my opinion i'm kind of like wow you dodged a bullet says thank god you didn't get

01:32:40.240 married to that guy like you know yeah it was hard because like i did let him be that spiritual leader

01:32:45.120 in my life and i was like i was really wanting that and he kind of gave me that good manly affirmation

01:32:50.960 that i wanted and then he just kind of destroyed it so it was really hard for me to like so when

01:32:55.280 you say like a good spiritual leader like how was he what was he doing to show you that he was a good

01:33:01.360 spiritual leader um i mean when we were together we would go to church together be heavily involved

01:33:06.720 in church events we would go to family events together he would we would do devotions every night

01:33:12.960 even if it was over facetime or like in person if we saw each other and uh he bought me devotionals and

01:33:21.040 he would always talk about like getting married and having kids and leading the home and doing

01:33:26.880 those things together as a family and as a whole so wait so like midway through the act you're like

01:33:33.840 no no and then he was like i faked he faked his orgasm no he faked the proposal oh yeah okay okay

01:33:42.400 like he admitted this that he was like i was just doing this so we would have sex that totally went

01:33:47.280 over my head no he didn't finish i didn't do anything and i started i actually like started

01:33:52.560 crying and he was like oh my god what's wrong and i was like i just want you to stop like what's wrong

01:33:57.440 anymore so then you guys broke up like that was it it was no i continued to date him oh you can

01:34:03.920 what what yeah why why did you do that we're not together anymore it only lasted like another month

01:34:10.320 and i was like what i was like i really i actually called him because he was in back at his in his

01:34:14.960 state and i was like um i just don't think this is good for us and i don't think you're in this

01:34:20.640 like right place maturity wise to be with me question for you uh you said for that relationship

01:34:27.120 you were how long ago was that um that ended new year's i mean i told you oh okay and are you

01:34:35.680 you said for that relationship you were saving yourself for marriage or is that your new standard

01:34:40.480 moving forward i would prefer it that way yes well have you had any indiscretions since like have you

01:34:46.640 the guy i was seeing on and off oh yeah with the older man who's your boss he was was your boss

01:34:52.960 yeah uh i own man business now as a trainer but he actually owns the gym back home but you guys were

01:34:59.440 having sex yes we were but your standard is you're saving yourself for marriage that's what i'd prefer

01:35:05.600 yes you'd prefer but what if you met a guy who's doesn't want that but you like him well then he doesn't

01:35:12.000 have the same standards i do but neither did your previous the person that you had sex with

01:35:17.760 she's grown i mean i i wanted it too i won't say that i won't of course i've known him for a very

01:35:23.680 long time so we both we both had been intimate before this year as well i've known him for a very

01:35:34.400 long time as it's called you recycled a body again recycled recycled what is that recycling i know

01:35:43.040 missouri they don't have a good recycling oh yeah you recycled no you you you would have sex with them

01:35:49.520 in the past and you had sex with them again well we never were serious in the past right but then we

01:35:56.240 decided to this time and that was uh okay all right i see okay um i'm trying to think if there's anything

01:36:02.960 else here from your notes um can i ask a question go ahead uh with the the crappy guy peach ring dude

01:36:10.000 do you think by any chance he was already with other women in the middle of that i had a feeling

01:36:15.360 just because he had sent me like scripture about how liars and cheaters would be struck down by god

01:36:21.360 and that i deserved what i got coming for me and i would just and that's right when wait that what

01:36:26.800 struck down liars and cheaters liars and cheaters would be struck down by god and i got what i had coming

01:36:32.480 for me and that was right when we broke up so i was like that doesn't make sense like why do you

01:36:37.760 automatically assume that i'm lying and cheating on you just because i broke things off with you

01:36:42.320 it just didn't make sense to me so the only pieces i could put together is that he was lying and cheating

01:36:47.280 on his end if he had said that to me what's your gut a woman's gut is always right in my opinion

01:36:52.480 what's your girl guts that's what yes yes what is it is it yeah um i don't it's hard because i don't

01:36:59.520 want to view anybody if they had negatively that way absolutely you don't want to put that out

01:37:03.840 absolutely i respect that a lot it says a lot about a woman yeah okay um i'm just gonna move on

01:37:10.080 just because we yeah yeah uh just i'll re-trigger this derrick from derrick the trader donated 100

01:37:16.720 being in a relationship requires sacrifice what are you ladies willing to give up to obtain and

01:37:22.320 retain the man of your dreams we'll go around the table on this starting with you go ahead easy to to

01:37:27.840 keep to obtain and maintain a man of your dreams like as a woman like i believe that you should

01:37:33.440 like you give up part of your freedom and i'm okay with that because that's like the the buy-in for

01:37:38.400 marriage but it's a lot it's a big ask and so it's a big deal okay yeah i would actually disagree with

01:37:43.680 that i always say that marriage set me free uh but what i will say is one thing to give up i guess

01:37:52.160 i think both partners have to give up but something and sacrifice but i think not being as emotional as

01:37:59.600 i would like to be uh being a little bit more logical and not just saying what is on my mind i think that

01:38:05.440 that's what i had to give up being in a relationship but i think that makes sense i i really have a

01:38:11.040 beautiful relationship and it feels like i'm not giving up much yeah um i mean honestly if i found the

01:38:18.800 the right person i wouldn't say i'd do anything for them but we'd have discussions of what made

01:38:24.000 them uncomfortable what things maybe i need to work on in a relationship because i'm still work

01:38:27.680 in progress i have my opinion everyone is but i did recently get diagnosed with my mental condition

01:38:33.280 and being 32 years old not knowing what's wrong with me all these years and finding out i'm realizing

01:38:39.200 i might not be suit for a relationship every time i'm in one i get really mentally ill i'm not okay i'm

01:38:45.840 abusive towards my partner's not like i'm verbally abusive and that's not fair to anyone i should not

01:38:50.080 put them through that yes it was undiagnosed the time but i'm kind of scared to put someone else in

01:38:56.400 that situation because i don't want to bring someone else down that's again that's not fair that's very

01:39:01.040 selfish so i mean if someone can understand and navigate my mental issues i could be there for them

01:39:08.080 in any capacity i'm very loyal i'm very supportive they wanted me to quit sex work absolutely as long as

01:39:13.280 you can pay as much as i can or at least i can still contribute in other manners because i can't

01:39:18.000 not work i have to work yeah so yeah okay so you have to you have to work um i guess you said something

01:39:26.240 right at the end there he has to be making as much as you're making uh like we need to both be

01:39:32.080 contributing the same amount i feel if we're going to do that type of relationship so what if just posing

01:39:37.360 this situation to you what if he's not making as much as okay well what if he just asked that you

01:39:44.640 stop your sex work he's not making as much as you but he's making enough to where you could still

01:39:49.280 comfortably live absolutely yeah absolutely because again my last relationship problem was i was the

01:39:54.480 breadwinner okay and he wasn't working for two years like not even uber and i kept pushing and pushing and

01:40:01.040 pushing yeah so as if you can like i said match me we can figure it out like i would have supported him

01:40:07.280 until the end of time if he was doing housework if he was doing the bare minimum of online jobs

01:40:14.480 7-eleven i would have stuck with him because he was a good man and he treated me well and we had the

01:40:18.800 same views of what we wanted in the future he couldn't do that if you can't put in the same effort

01:40:23.200 i can how am i going to find that attractive and that's your ex right yes correct yes um the same ex who

01:40:29.040 was like alpha and then he became kind of submissive well would you say that maybe he wanted to break

01:40:34.720 up with you but he didn't have the guts to you so he just failed miserably so that you could let him

01:40:39.600 go i wish yeah he was so obsessed i think kind of i tried kicking him out many times and he would not

01:40:46.640 leave yeah from what i'm kind of gathering from the situation i i'm wondering if he stayed for the money

01:40:55.120 no no no probably yeah obviously he stayed for the money since but i kicked him out many times

01:41:00.400 he had other places to go yeah but i think maybe he yeah he stayed for the money obviously but he

01:41:08.560 probably saw a very masculine uh he saw you taking on a very masculine role and he just kind of submitted

01:41:18.480 to that and it emasculated him and with that said he allowed it because he didn't say you know what

01:41:23.680 babe no you're not going to pay for a dang thing i'm going to go out there and find a job and you

01:41:27.920 won't have to worry about it well why would he you like men are men are okay men are smart so one thing

01:41:34.000 that i think a lot of people forget is that a man is extremely toxic men but just men in general

01:41:39.440 humans are all very selfish and that's this is why i always say like ladies always have your boundaries

01:41:44.720 and standards right because they are going to push until you're like no this is it and they are

01:41:49.920 smart in the way they do it and you obviously have a big well i would like to think you have a big heart

01:41:54.880 so he's going and they know when you're in love with them so they're going to push and push and push

01:42:00.240 and push until you say no this is the line and for you you know maybe for you it wasn't the line so he

01:42:05.520 kept pushing and pushing and pushing and you see this happen over and over again and then we learn

01:42:09.360 we're like uh this is the last time it's going to happen then hopefully we don't allow it to happen

01:42:14.480 again absolutely and i agree with you 100 on that i enabled him i do not i take my ownership on this

01:42:21.200 i'm not one that's like oh my god poor me no i messed up on my parts too i was verbally abusive

01:42:27.040 i was not the best partner i could be at the time with that said he had a back problem all the time he

01:42:33.040 couldn't get work because he has a criminal history there was always an excuse and yes i should

01:42:37.280 have just left once the excuses started piling up absolutely freaking like all of the things

01:42:41.760 were there i just you said you were verbally abusive how so i don't believe people want to

01:42:48.480 stay in love i have abandonment issues so um if anyone's experiencing one of the abandonment issues

01:42:53.920 they're never going to believe that you love them or that you genuinely want to be with them so

01:42:57.600 they're going to put like i'm going to push you away i'm going to tell you you don't love me you

01:43:00.720 never did f you and it's not fair and i don't like being that person like that's not who i am

01:43:07.200 so to do it it hurts let's i i want to move on a little bit but i want to get this fully answered

01:43:12.800 from everybody here at the table um so uh what what was it oh yeah willing to give up to obtain

01:43:20.480 and retain the man of your dreams i would give up everything everything everything everything

01:43:27.040 even what what would a woman give up if he was providing and he was a man of my dreams

01:43:35.840 what if he was like you were not allowed to be a personal trainer anymore i would give it up

01:43:40.160 really wow if he can provide yeah what if you couldn't collect pokemon cards anymore oh well

01:43:47.360 if he respects me i thought you were about to say that's where i draw the line that's the line right

01:43:51.040 that's where she draws the line line you're on not giving up my pokemon cards i got a

01:43:55.040 fucking blast oh my gosh i love pokemon cards so keep them forever oh my god so yeah i would

01:44:02.080 seriously uh go ahead go ahead there's only one thing i wouldn't give up it's the gym the rest can go

01:44:09.280 why would i i'm just i don't know why the question's a bit interesting because like

01:44:13.920 why would why would why would so why would the guy want you to give up the gym unless it was like

01:44:21.040 but there's some feeders out there that question comes up a lot actually really it's always like

01:44:27.200 what do you want to give up what what would you give up like that question comes from a lot of

01:44:32.320 guys and i always say what are you going to give up yeah it goes both ways i think i think it's

01:44:38.480 implied guys are going to give up generally lots of time effort money um they're especially

01:44:46.560 initially starting a dating relationship men are typically they they carry the burden

01:44:52.720 um which like yeah yeah they can't they like they're the ones expected to initiate the relationship

01:44:59.120 they're expected to pay for the first date they're expected to provide all of these things

01:45:03.760 um but but to be honest yeah if i find a good man i don't care how much money you make i don't care

01:45:10.640 what you are and what you do i don't go for looks i go for a vibe and i go for a person for the vibe

01:45:17.680 yeah if if i if you know if you're a good person and i see you're a good person and you can take care

01:45:23.120 of me you can protect me you can be there for me and support me i don't care my husband made zero

01:45:28.320 dollars when we met zero dollars he was a musician struggling yeah i didn't care

01:45:34.720 i don't that's that's not important to me but if you're a good person you're good to me and you

01:45:38.800 take care of me well you disagree with that carla don't you i will i will go to the ends of the earth

01:45:44.480 for you i will let us have it i also disagree i will go straight into the into the fires of mount

01:45:51.120 doom yes yes i will all right i love you but i can't wait to hear what she's yeah right yeah

01:45:59.200 i wish i wasn't i wish i could agree with that but the matter of fact is absolutely not a woman

01:46:05.920 loses so even yes a woman loses no matter what i think at the end of the day yeah they're gonna

01:46:11.200 have to put in that sacrifice it's a bare minimum that's a bare bare minimum you could do because we

01:46:20.320 okay for me in my opinion that's a bare minimum a man is expected to provide because that's

01:46:26.880 his role that's his role like if we're gonna go into uh i guess like feminine masculine um

01:46:32.640 um and a what i know and a woman and a woman loses like a woman's time is more valuable as well

01:46:39.600 so for me i guess what i'm giving up because you're giving it up anyway for example i'm married young

01:46:46.240 i'm giving up my beauty my time my fertile years that's what i'm kind of giving up when i got married

01:46:53.440 young but i wanted to feel protected and i need resources because how am i expected to live off

01:46:59.840 of someone that makes zero dollars like no if my dad gave me a specific lifestyle and he gave me that

01:47:06.880 protection and all of that why am i going to marry someone that can't give me that or better like

01:47:13.440 life is already hard i wasn't meant to struggle so uh there was something you said well we have

01:47:19.280 we actually so we have quite a few of your videos that we're going to react to i don't want to dive

01:47:24.000 into some of the talk points yet because i want to maybe save that uh towards a little bit later i do

01:47:28.960 want to try to get through everybody else's thing but uh on the question i do want to i think you answer

01:47:33.840 did you answer do you have an answer for the question if you need me to pull it up i wouldn't define

01:47:38.320 it as a sacrifice because i think if it's your person and you are like pretty much aligned

01:47:43.360 everything can be discussed and you can find a common ground yeah so in my relationship we've

01:47:48.880 been four years together we are very different we've been like fighting in my like on many grounds

01:47:55.520 but the only thing we sacrificed both of us it's only our freedom anything else we just found a common

01:48:02.960 ground on okay what about you i like i was gonna say the same thing i don't think it's sacrifice i think

01:48:08.880 that um there's things that you just naturally want to give up you know once you get into that

01:48:15.200 relationship so it's not really sacrifice to me you know yeah i agree okay so i want to move to my

01:48:23.760 pre-show notes here for holly holly here uh and you said in your pre-show notes and on the show you're

01:48:29.760 you said you're in a dating talking stage with multiple men currently we kind of already went over

01:48:34.160 that you uh let's see you are currently a couple's unicorn yeah is that one of the three people that

01:48:43.200 um i don't really do i wouldn't say they're on the roster that's just more kind of like a wild thing

01:48:48.000 that happens every once in a while yeah so you wrote i'm a couple i'm a couple's unicorn from

01:48:52.240 seeking arrangements and yeah recently went to a sex club and i accidentally ran into a bunch of people

01:48:57.520 i know yeah so for those of for those watching who don't know what that is what is a unicorn a

01:49:03.520 unicorn is kind of like if you're a couple sometimes there's a thing where couples want

01:49:07.840 to have a threesome really bad and it's really hard for them to like or even like give attention

01:49:13.360 like share the attention or whatever and it's hard for couples who want to be together to create that

01:49:19.760 situation in a way that won't threaten the relationship however there are people out there

01:49:23.600 that are kind of like hey i don't want your relationship i am just here for this time right for

01:49:28.240 this moment and so we went to this sex club in la for halloween they were having like a big

01:49:33.760 halloween party um and then i ran into a bunch of people from work and i kind of like didn't really

01:49:39.600 think it through didn't think what through like when i agreed to go to the party i really didn't

01:49:45.840 like think through oh yeah i probably actually will know at least seven people at this party that i

01:49:50.480 like work with how do i feel about them all knowing and then i like my style has always been like well

01:49:56.560 we're doing this now so i'm committing to what i'm doing and i'm not gonna cross over my boundaries

01:50:02.560 but i'm i'm in this right and i'm gonna own it and have as most fun as i can but it was weird

01:50:10.160 wait when you said your work but aren't you i mean you know like i saw other content creators there

01:50:15.200 like other girls with millions of followers being like okay oh hey girl i see you on instagram all the

01:50:20.400 time did any of the people because it's a sex club so like did you hook up with any of the people

01:50:25.760 so this particular sex club i'm not that big of a fan of because it's more of a pro honestly

01:50:32.800 it's more of a performance and a place that you go to watch the performers and the people who

01:50:37.760 probably paid to go there and then definitely people like me like people and i know there's

01:50:42.400 paid performers they're getting paid to perform naked acts i don't want to be doing naked acts

01:50:48.320 for free while someone else is getting paid i'm sorry i'm just not i don't care how fun it is

01:50:51.920 right like i'm just not going to lower myself to that level so for me it's a weird dynamic to go

01:50:56.240 to sex clubs because it's kind of like honestly like once you've seen one you've seen a lot right

01:51:00.560 so i'm kind of like okay you've been to them before yeah i've been to sex clubs before but i have never

01:51:05.200 gone with a couple that i was seeing and then ran into like a bunch of people that i really do people

01:51:10.000 just fuck at the sex club some people do there are people that are just fucking at the sex club there

01:51:14.480 are performers at the sex club that are kind of like there to do things if the normal people

01:51:20.000 aren't and to kind of like i think set the mood but for me it just seems very produced so i don't

01:51:25.280 really ever go to those things planning on having sex but it's still like have you them um i have

01:51:30.000 when i went to like the swingers island that in mexico well i have i have that yeah definitely did

01:51:36.240 it singers island um i've kind of gotten a little bit like well tell us what swingers island is there's

01:51:41.680 a couple resorts in mexico that are like full participation swingers resorts you can go and just

01:51:46.800 be naked you can go and just watch people have sex or you can go and have sex with however many

01:51:52.160 people are there right um i went and participated a little bit i was with this like boyfriend that was

01:51:57.440 my rebound guy participated a little bit yeah like i hooked up with like four guys and their wives so

01:52:02.480 like eight people total and and it was a really cool experience that i wanted to have like i had a lot

01:52:07.600 of specific things where i'm like yeah i want to like check these on my list um and it was cool but

01:52:12.240 since then i'm kind of like okay i don't really need to do that again so like that's that's that

01:52:16.720 that's off the list did you only go to a swinger island once yes it was that one time that one time

01:52:21.440 and then i checked out other clubs but didn't really participate so that's eight people yeah in one in one

01:52:27.760 night um it's like we were it's there how long were you there for we were there for three days and it

01:52:32.480 was for this like event so basically everyone i think was kind of like okay we have this weekend

01:52:37.520 so like to fuck to do whatever there's a lot of people there that are just like watching and kind

01:52:42.160 of like it's not all yeah were you there oh no she's probably been to places yeah yeah so wait you

01:52:48.720 said the first night sorry eight people what about the subsequent days or none none yeah it was like

01:52:56.160 you front-loaded front-loaded and i was like okay cool i'm done front-loaded

01:52:59.840 now i'm just in mexico yeah i was like i don't think i need to have sex for like a while after

01:53:04.320 this like i'm good yeah can i ask something i don't know if it's appropriate or not but i've

01:53:09.280 always wondered how that works when i thought i was close you're fine okay okay um i always wondered

01:53:15.120 how that works when you know like you know when you're having casual sex you want to protect yourself

01:53:18.960 right to not catch something so how do you how does that work when you have to go back and forth

01:53:23.200 between people you use condoms and if they don't i don't really need to fuck them that bad right

01:53:28.640 like so it's kind of like if you're not going to protect yourself up to my standards i don't want

01:53:32.640 your i honestly say no to most people anyway so i'm kind of no i know but i'm saying let's say like

01:53:37.200 there's a guy and he's going between you and another chick i don't do that oh okay that's disgustingly

01:53:42.720 unsanitary i would never do that yeah sometimes what people will do if and the people who do it

01:53:47.840 on camera are tested and everyone knows that there's nothing wrong but honestly i don't want your

01:53:52.720 yeast or bacteria right you know what i mean like whether it's an std or not i just don't

01:53:57.280 want your cooties like not yours but like anyone like well what i when i've had threesomes with my

01:54:04.480 ex-partners we've changed the condoms and then as far as and i know this isn't gonna stop but there's um

01:54:10.640 what's it called spermicide right so he goes into the bathroom washes through that and then he comes

01:54:15.040 back but then that creates the same problem though because it's like we're tested i know but it's

01:54:19.440 chemicals throwing off your floor like i don't want a bad vagina day i guess that that's what it

01:54:23.920 comes down to like and men have no idea what we're talking about but literally like you can

01:54:28.240 like you can just wake up and be like i ate too much sugar this week and i just like don't like

01:54:32.320 it's like you don't even know what it feels like because it's like in between our abs and like our

01:54:35.920 back but it like it just kind of like hurts sometimes you know if you're if you're off the

01:54:39.440 pussy hurts the pussy hurts like you can just feel like the uterus i guess it's like your entire

01:54:44.640 thing but like yeast infections and stuff like that wait what's it called a bad

01:54:48.640 pussy day a bad pussy day right like it's like guys think yeast infections are just these things

01:54:53.440 that we complain about but they're really painful and so i want to go to extreme lengths to avoid

01:54:58.560 them yeah do you have bad penis days no they don't i've had bad hold on bad penis or balls days i i'm just

01:55:06.960 i've had like ball pain yeah yes all day you know no there's like a two-week period where my

01:55:13.120 balls just kind of hurt you know really yeah do you ever talk about this i i saw a doctor and

01:55:18.880 they thought it was okay he said it's fine okay then you guys have bad penis days i think i was

01:55:23.040 yeah you know what happened i was surfing i was surfing and like the the water like hit me and just

01:55:29.360 like oh the right the weird way just parted them like so it's like more of like a bruise yeah it was

01:55:34.160 more bruise yeah it was like triple it was like double overhead yeah it was like a big day because

01:55:39.360 someone punched our vagina like ours happens because like our it's like our acid bases yeah

01:55:46.800 it's like just your ph level you know if you have you ever had allergies and your throat gets itchy

01:55:52.960 or like your ears get like inflamed and you feels like pressure and it's not itchy but it's like pressure

01:55:58.160 you know what i mean it's like that's it it's like hard to describe but it's like when your floor

01:56:03.200 is off it just you feel like not good yeah like yeah and every everyone everyone's different like

01:56:07.760 i had a girlfriend she would if she didn't like wash up like right away after like sex like she would

01:56:14.000 yeah yeah or pee she would get um a uti right away so yeah i have to pee i'm like okay when you when

01:56:21.680 you train a lot at the gym when you train a lot like you know tight clothes at the gym

01:56:28.000 yeah i mean she ain't happy okay it's so easy to upset the princess

01:56:36.560 okay all right so you said that uh wait okay there's a swinger island okay we talked about that

01:56:43.040 you wanted to talk about traditional and transactional relationships or you said i can

01:56:47.360 talk about traditional and transactional relationships all day good and bad i'm also

01:56:51.680 from a culture that still does arranged marriages yeah my mom has been working with this actor's mom

01:56:56.640 al alden alden alden yeah erin reich from oppenheimer and a bunch of stuff to try to get us to go out

01:57:03.760 and neither he and i want to date each other but our moms are hardcore pushing it uh so you mentioned

01:57:09.200 a range of marriages from your culture what i'm jewish okay yeah is that is that a thing for

01:57:14.240 to do in the super orthodox culture it is and i wasn't raised that way however i i'm in la and so

01:57:21.360 sometimes it's like you never know what kind of like background these other moms have where they're

01:57:25.280 kind of like oh wow my son has blue eyes and blonde hair and we want you to make blue eyed

01:57:29.440 and blonde haired babies with him and he's dating a girl who's not jewish and i would like you a

01:57:33.360 lot more for him okay and it's kind of like this weird thing where i'm kind of like okay that's cool

01:57:37.600 but like we're not doing that so uh but it but i it it does make me kind of more woke i guess to

01:57:44.480 like what you go hold on just a sec yo thank you do not protect this is our herpes guy every

01:57:51.600 every herpes every show without symptoms present oh yet another panel full of play grants whoa play

01:57:57.600 grads hello brian this outbreak will be controlled did they realize dude are you making like actual

01:58:03.840 violent threats on youtube three out of like just look at that he just sent the dude this guy is

01:58:09.040 actually promoting terrorism on youtube like more people have herpes than you also know it's the

01:58:17.040 statistics are insane my question i just think it's kind of crazy that jay butler wants to use violence

01:58:22.160 like this like so i have a i'm not sure if he's actually what i have a question who hurt you

01:58:29.600 yeah that's all i want to know that's who hurt you with herpes it's okay dude you

01:58:34.560 have yeah i mean homie obviously has it go to the doctor like and go to the doctor launching

01:58:40.080 missiles no he's a medical yeah what's it he's a medical what jay's but butler's a job yeah yeah

01:58:44.640 he's like a urologist urologist yeah oh so we know him okay but then why are you like causing

01:58:50.800 physical harm to people aren't you supposed to like save lives it's funny that a doctor that is very

01:58:55.520 respected will come on youtube and be a c oh that's you next to me i don't know i think you

01:59:06.160 i didn't i would never go see a doctor he's a big tipper though so the show really appreciates your

01:59:10.880 input thank you he's our resident wait like what herpes i i didn't catch like the uh the call to

01:59:18.160 violence on his part what was it he feels very passionate about the fact that people think that

01:59:23.600 they're safe from herpes with condoms and they're not nobody said that no one says you're safe from

01:59:28.240 herpes yeah accurate we all i can't speak for everyone here i get tested two times two times

01:59:34.880 a month at most if i have partners every new partner i test and i know herpes can't show up

01:59:40.880 right away do you do porn yes you both of you yeah the thing is though is that they my understanding

01:59:46.160 at least for the you guys are in the sfv correct uh san fernando valley that's where a lot of

01:59:51.440 filming is there vegas and miami they don't i my understanding at least here in california

01:59:57.120 it's not requisite that they test for herpes or hpv actually fun fact you can't really test for

02:00:02.000 herpes precisely so they can't test for it on the test so can't you just get it if there's an

02:00:08.720 outbreak absolutely no we've had we've had a girl on the show who's absolutely does porn and she has

02:00:14.320 herpes yeah a lot of almost everyone does yeah but no one will say it they it's like this hidden

02:00:19.440 secret in the industry like because it's still frowned upon in society so because it's still

02:00:23.040 frowned upon in society everybody's afraid to say it even though a cold sore is hsv1 well yeah but

02:00:28.720 there's genital hurt and that's hsv2 and there's also dormant forms of it where you're not passing

02:00:34.320 it on and you can take medicine where you don't yeah but i think it's kind of a bad look yeah it

02:00:39.760 absolutely is i literally go and rants about that no but people are in the industry and they continue to

02:00:44.880 work in the industry despite the fact that they're uh herpes positive yes and they another thing they

02:00:50.640 should do is if you are herpes positive you should be able to have the option to choose to want to

02:00:54.960 work with that person or not yeah and because they do offer that for people who are hiv positive

02:01:00.240 so okay wait so there's people that are still working in porn that are they are undetectable and

02:01:05.360 i do not want to get into that stigma because i'm very strong about that i can't there if you're

02:01:09.920 undetectable you cannot pass it if you're if your levels are under like a certain amount you cannot

02:01:14.960 pass it on i don't want to play with fire well that's that's your choice though i think i'd rather

02:01:20.000 not i have enough problems in my life without getting and that's your choice but there's some

02:01:24.320 people who like me who i do all that research and i'm not saying i go around and i'm like hey do

02:01:29.600 you have hiv let's fuck no but i'm not going to discriminate against you if you're taking care

02:01:33.760 of your body you're working out you're eating right you're not drinking you're not doing drugs

02:01:37.040 i would discriminate i discriminate if you have hiv that's everyone's problem if you have hiv

02:01:41.520 i you know wish you the best i would be really hypocritical to judge somebody else considering

02:01:47.280 everything else i do and isn't there like a pill now yeah what do you do yeah what do you do porn

02:01:51.840 oh okay i thought like i put myself technically at risk every time i film yeah so it'd be really

02:01:56.720 ironic and really freaking like controversial be like you have hiv no oh but i'm gonna go

02:02:02.880 fuck three more guys this week have fun does does the pill um stop you from giving it or from

02:02:09.200 getting it from giving oh no you're talking about prep i don't know prep is where you take it to

02:02:13.120 prevent getting it yes you can well going back to you holly you have a tweet of yours we i'm not

02:02:19.600 gonna pull it up we're not pulling this one up nick is it bad no well you i just saw one of your

02:02:24.560 tweets no no no you just said advice to the men strong feminine women will submit to you as their

02:02:29.360 alpha if you prove to them that you can give them a better life than they can give themselves

02:02:34.000 yeah it's actions not words yeah that is true like i don't want to be told how alpha you are if i can

02:02:40.080 just feel your vibe you don't need to say anything that's kind of i'll just know it's pretty lame to

02:02:45.040 if a guy calls himself alpha i i mean a the guys that i'm going for aren't really running around

02:02:50.000 calling themselves i'm not saying yeah it's like part of the show alpha that because you just

02:02:54.960 present yourself you're respectful you can just feel that it's like granted this yeah exactly you

02:03:00.160 can just feel the male energy and so i truly believe that and honestly like i've met a lot

02:03:04.720 of guys like that so i don't want to hear that it's like not real because it's definitely real

02:03:09.280 that guys are have strong enough male presence that you're just like okay yeah that is true being

02:03:14.800 being alpha is nothing that you as you said it's not something you wear on your t-shirt and be like i'm

02:03:19.680 alpha that's it's something that a woman sends in you and she chooses to submit to that you know to

02:03:28.240 you as as as her man sure okay uh i i mean i had some notes on that so um what's your take on what

02:03:38.080 on what on your tweet well i wonder though like so okay so you're engaged in sex work um do you think

02:03:46.960 that that has been a challenge for you to finding these types of strong good men that you would

02:03:54.960 be prepared to submit to maybe you have i don't know no and oddly this has been something that's

02:04:00.080 kind of been something actually that like you hear guys say but i didn't really think it was true but

02:04:05.120 it's it's true there is this like brand of guy out there that's very that is probably he's not going to

02:04:14.240 be faithful to you right like he's not going to be faithful to you he's probably high performing

02:04:17.840 in every area of his life he's probably doing everything to the most right and with that comes

02:04:23.600 some some things but he might also be a very he might be high performing as being a provider he

02:04:27.920 might be high performing as being a father right he might be high performing and all these other

02:04:32.560 things that it's kind of like hey if i'm gonna be with somebody for the rest of my life like yeah i do

02:04:36.720 want him to be a provider i do want him to be a father i don't necessarily like the person who i'm gonna

02:04:42.240 who i would have kids with like if we broke up that's kind of the requirement like if we broke

02:04:47.040 up i would still want you to be my kid's dad you know what i mean so i'm looking for the guy where

02:04:51.760 it's like regardless of like what happens with us like you you have good genetics right and you're

02:04:57.440 gonna you're gonna give me a great little leader baby one day you know what i mean he's gonna take

02:05:01.680 over the world and then be it you're gonna show up for the kid and you might go out and do stuff

02:05:07.040 right but like my main concerns are that i don't have to be the one being like oh

02:05:10.400 shit back to the salt mines right like back to only fans now that i've had a kid right like i

02:05:14.320 better go like figure it out like no we are not if i ever get pregnant i will know for a fact that

02:05:19.360 i will not have to work and we'll have it terms like wait so when you get pregnant you don't want

02:05:25.840 oh did you have sorry no it was me about the kid thing and alpha okay i'll let her oh yeah that's

02:05:31.680 just my personal opinion because so when you have kids you don't want you want to stop working or

02:05:36.160 i don't want the pressure to i probably will never stop working because i get bored

02:05:40.800 but i like to do things and i like to see my ideas manifest themselves but i don't want this

02:05:46.800 pressure of kind of like okay i have to figure out how to pay rent now while i'm also like dealing with

02:05:52.320 this like maybe like child right that's like you have to take care of like that's a lot of pressure

02:05:57.040 and i know women do it i don't want to be one of those women you said you're currently dating three

02:06:01.440 high value men correct in my opinion but do you want commitment one of them no no one of them

02:06:10.160 it's still super new but i'm kind of like okay you at least like check out and i like

02:06:13.920 the things that i'm looking for about you but it's still super new to say whether or not

02:06:18.960 you know what i mean it's these are like six months long distance like that's not very of seeing

02:06:24.800 each other maybe like three times in between and talk you know it's like i'm still figuring

02:06:28.080 out yeah and just to go back to your tweet you said advice of the men strong feminine women will

02:06:31.600 submit to you as their alpha if you prove to them that you can give them a better life than they can

02:06:36.880 give themselves but it's actions not words so i guess my question is and i don't know if you're

02:06:43.360 speaking more in general terms or is this almost from the lens of since you're involved in sex work

02:06:50.000 um i mean actually it's generally so my mom and dad have been married for like 50 years

02:06:56.160 are they still married yeah they're still married they've been married for 50 years they're

02:06:59.600 amazing right they're really normal people my brother's really normal people i'm i'm the black

02:07:03.840 sheet and i know it and that's kind of why i own it because everybody's like we she's one of us right

02:07:09.120 you know and so but my dad is that alpha man to my mom my mom has not worked this entire time and

02:07:15.440 i know it's a different generation and their boomers and their financial situation was different

02:07:19.840 but like that is my modeling and i'm okay having to give that to myself like i'm okay having to

02:07:25.840 give myself the things that my dad gives my mom but i am looking for a guy to give that to me and

02:07:30.080 in return i will build the amazing fucking home that my mom built sure i've like you know yeah

02:07:34.880 did you have something yeah touch on the kid thing i had actually um a prominent guy a friend a friend

02:07:41.840 of mine we we were discussing stuff and we're discussing a mutual gym a mutual gym friend um that

02:07:48.720 would make half of the girls at the gym pregnant the whole time he would just be like yolo and finishing in

02:07:55.360 them without condoms based and i was like this is um this is very odd to me because that's

02:08:01.760 this wait did he actually wait hold on yeah he literally said fuck it yolo wait literally he got

02:08:07.440 he actually got them pregnant yeah and then had them to do just to be clear i don't think that's

02:08:11.440 high value behavior yeah no no it's not yeah that's that's not it's not my friend we're talking about

02:08:16.480 it's a yeah yeah we were talking about him i was like this is not okay because this is not good he's

02:08:24.240 like well you know if you think about it that way if you see somebody that is a like a high value

02:08:29.280 woman which you can see that she will give you good offspring and he sees himself as a high value

02:08:35.920 man that can produce good offspring why not and i'm like do i have to draw you a picture why not it's

02:08:43.040 like you can't just run around impregnating people yeah as you feel like it and the other thing too

02:08:48.080 unless if you're elon musk or a guy that is rich enough to actually need an error you don't need to do

02:08:52.720 this yeah right so it's like i know for a fact that it's weird like i have this weird maybe i have

02:08:58.160 the same weird sick fantasy that like they do right where i'm like yeah we'll build this little army

02:09:01.840 empire that will like save the world one day yeah you know i don't know or there'll be a superhero or

02:09:06.240 something i i will use my mom powers right to like make sure that this kid is like something amazing

02:09:12.720 and saves the world so it's kind of like i don't want to have kids and settle if it's not like i understand

02:09:16.640 where he comes from though about that like couple being you know good for each other and producing

02:09:22.400 nice children but you can't impregnate every woman you see yeah not every woman is the right

02:09:28.480 person yeah well i mean the the act of having a kid is easy but the act of raising a kid is

02:09:34.560 extremely difficult so uh if you ask a man to be high value to invest in you and okay butler donated

02:09:44.960 100 dustin hoffman and cuba gooding jr are on their way they'll be in hazmat suits and looking

02:09:51.920 to take blood samples so herpes antidote can be created please jay butler you should just like

02:09:57.680 write a show instead of doing all this thank you i'm really excited for that i mean at least he's

02:10:05.760 paying right yeah bring him in got some good storylines i think he's going somewhere with us

02:10:10.800 tell him to contact he's a screenwriter i think also on the side in addition to being beautiful

02:10:16.160 for him yeah in addition to being your urologist well so um you said your parents are still together

02:10:21.760 what do your parents think of of you being involved in sex work so for me it's different because

02:10:27.520 honestly like with the camming and the only fan stuff my brother's a video game designer so and then

02:10:33.760 my dad did marketing and so this is kind of like all and then everyone either does e-commerce or other

02:10:40.080 forms of marketing online so just not really like i know it's different for other people but for us

02:10:45.280 it's kind of like okay this is like not that different than what all the other it is it's

02:10:50.480 pretty different i mean i'm the i'm the hot one too right i mean i have other pretty cousins and stuff

02:10:54.960 but i was the one that decided to be like you know what i'm not scared to put myself out there like

02:10:58.720 this and i wasn't born hot either so it's kind of like it definitely was a conscious choice to try

02:11:04.000 what do you mean you weren't born hot i i wasn't born hot that are you talking about like plastic

02:11:08.080 surgery yeah like i've definitely no not just that though but eating healthier and like learning to

02:11:12.240 do my makeup better like i just like you get better right i'm looking at the girls yeah you

02:11:19.200 definitely there's this like thing that men like in men's minds where it's like youth is beautiful but

02:11:24.080 but the truth is though like you do actually learn how to have better style and like do yourself better

02:11:28.880 and classier and like look better when you're older because you're not green at it well yeah

02:11:33.280 i mean i think as you age you typically over the course of time you become less physically

02:11:40.720 attractive i've had the opposite experience this whole i was way uglier when i was younger

02:11:45.840 i think yeah it was all the way it's not even and i've confirmed wait you're 40 right 40 yes so let me

02:11:53.120 ask you a question are you more physically attractive now at 40 than you were at say 20. i can tell you

02:11:58.560 dude you would not look at me when i was in my 20s i can you show me if i highly doubt that but

02:12:03.920 how about when you're 30 i think are you more attractive i'm more attractive now well i would

02:12:10.080 say i put because i am 40 you you as a woman have to take more care of yourself because you know you get

02:12:16.640 older and you want to stay good looking i'm not saying that i want to look like a 25 year old that's

02:12:22.560 not what i'm saying or 15 year old but i do want to feel comfortable in my own body and i want to feel

02:12:28.320 healthy and good so you you do more for yourself the older you get you you know you eat healthier

02:12:34.400 you work out more maybe you you know you go a little botox you do this you do that we're women

02:12:39.840 and we want to stay pretty maybe also eating fat has a lot to do with it like in high school a lot of

02:12:46.000 girls are going through like weird eating stuff so for me a big reason why i look better now

02:12:50.320 is because i eat a diet that has like a lot of healthy fats and in high school i had this weird like

02:12:55.040 no i'm never gonna eat any fat like i'm a fat-free diet and now my skin is straight up like i look

02:13:00.400 10 years younger now like in high school everyone thought i was 21 and now and now it's like yeah

02:13:05.600 go ahead what do you have all right so in all honesty i think that in their 20s i mean at least

02:13:11.120 on a personal level i definitely think i'm on my in my best shape like i have a curvier body

02:13:15.840 um and i work out whatever um and like you said you do learn to take you know your style i do think we

02:13:22.080 reach a peak i think that that's probably around like your late 30s like and i think from there

02:13:27.680 uh yeah peak at late 30s i'm like no no no i don't think so women yeah and i'm not i'm not

02:13:34.720 disagreeing right i'm saying it's i'm not saying everybody yeah let me just say that i'm saying

02:13:39.440 like i think that that's like our max that we can reach and then we start and we want to know

02:13:44.240 but but oh you think the a woman's peak physical beauty is late 30s i think i think if a woman really

02:13:59.120 takes care of themselves they can really like push their beauty to like you know i mean like

02:14:03.600 i look at jlo and like there was a point in jlo's like 40s where i was like she's hotter than a lot

02:14:09.680 of 20 year olds that i know i mean oh yes i mean like was she hotter at 20 than she was no no no

02:14:15.920 but this is the thing no no no but jlo is just very different because she's always

02:14:20.640 like taking care of herself i'm saying like some women like i know a lot of friends from high school

02:14:26.800 that reached their peak in high school yeah and now also and now i look at them and like you know

02:14:32.880 i'm sorry i don't mean to bash people but like i look at them and they just didn't take care of

02:14:37.440 themselves and they had a beautiful body and now they're they gained a lot of weight you know they

02:14:42.080 just stop caring so i think it's different for every woman but i think that if you really care

02:14:47.440 about your physical appearance and you work out you can you can stay like really pretty hot at like

02:14:53.360 you can yes you can still be attractive okay you can still be oh my gosh we should get hold on stop

02:14:59.200 you can still be attractive at an older age but just the biological reality is

02:15:03.440 you're let's let's take a 40 year old woman she was more physically attractive at 30. she was more

02:15:10.000 physically attractive at 20. okay no can i say something please that's what i'm saying

02:15:17.680 video game design marketing same as sex work monkey playing symbols in that brain tattoos on women

02:15:24.960 showing security attracting men looking for insecure and easy wash top g panel what is a woman

02:15:31.280 wait i don't are you having a manic episode woman can i can i touch on the weight thing though and the

02:15:38.080 aging thing so uh jacama i'll actually fuck it let's just go we'll come back to the aging thing

02:15:46.240 yeah let's let's talk man what is a woman yeah what is a woman

02:15:51.200 we'll go around the table starting with you go ahead oh and yeah i um i do believe that a woman is i i

02:15:56.720 i don't want to get in trouble but i don't believe in picking your your gender at the way people are

02:16:03.040 right now okay and i i support people that are going through whatever they're going through but i

02:16:08.960 do not agree with it and i think that women that god decides who a man and a woman is except for in

02:16:15.200 some really weird situation except for in some really specific situations and where everybody is

02:16:20.880 is very aware of like yeah you've got two dicks like we get it or whatever it is like i don't think

02:16:25.840 that it's too big or whatever it is i don't think it's this big double dicks i think that when there

02:16:31.440 are hermaphrodites it's not it's not this common no yeah that's a that's a yeah we'll go around the

02:16:35.840 what is what is a woman i i honestly don't i don't think i don't i mean a woman is a woman who was

02:16:42.720 born a woman a biological woman i'm just gonna say that yeah okay good yeah honestly same we get periods

02:16:48.960 i'm like yeah um i'm not transphobic but listen if you're not getting a period you're not pushing

02:16:53.680 out a baby you're not dealing with what we are every month you're not a woman it's not the same

02:16:56.800 so retweet but that's how i feel i agree with them a woman is a woman that was born a woman

02:17:04.240 if they draw your blood and it says a woman you're a woman i'm just a human being with double x chromosomes

02:17:10.240 okay all right born a woman that's a woman do you have a answer on this hot take no no yeah yeah born

02:17:18.720 a woman you're a woman god designed male and female yeah wow and uh yeah you ordered it that

02:17:24.080 way the one thing i'd say it's a a woman a woman is an adult human female um okay that back to the

02:17:32.000 age thing though um did was it yeah so for instance i was very skinny very athletic worked out my whole

02:17:38.800 life i was in sports gained a lot of weight at 21 because again i did not deal with my mom's death

02:17:43.840 can i have you tilt the mic so just gonna be straight yeah yeah perfect perfect um so i'll

02:17:48.640 be brutally honest i'm not like first of all i'm not an idiot i'm big i know that i gained about 85

02:17:55.920 pounds um i've just lost 40 pounds on my own because i realized good job thank you i realized that man

02:18:04.000 held me back and now i'm going to the gym i'm working harder i'm eating better so yes i might have

02:18:09.200 been fat as hell in my 20s but my 30s i'm gonna be skinny and i'm gonna look great because i'm gonna

02:18:14.320 put in that work just like you guys are saying yeah it's my choice i'm gonna wake up every day

02:18:18.080 to eat healthier to not drink to not smoke Walmart donated 100 real simple a 40 year old woman who

02:18:27.040 works out and does great makeup can be hotter than the same woman at 20 if gigafat 400 pounds

02:18:33.680 i agree literally nailed it good habits will be hotter literally nailed it so no no no wait i i'm

02:18:41.760 not are you sure you listen to that wait what is it it says it says it can be hotter than the same

02:18:46.320 woman at 20 if she was 400 pounds at 20 yeah 20 so say okay we're taking some extreme scenarios

02:18:57.440 so given so say there's this there is this mythical lady out there who started working out taking

02:19:03.440 care of herself from the age of like five and she was taught by her mom this is how we're gonna do

02:19:08.320 it uh her dad is like in love with her mom and they see like she has the ideal version of parents so

02:19:16.960 she grows up and she's taking care of herself when she hits that age of 19 or 20 she's still taking care

02:19:22.320 of herself she will be more sexually attractive in her 20s than she will be in her 40s not saying that

02:19:28.800 she won't be beautiful in her 40s so like i think comparatively uh for that woman if given that

02:19:36.400 she didn't have a weight problem given all these other factors if everything was held the same she's

02:19:42.000 going to be more attractive when she's 19 20 than when she's in her 40s so what i think this is for men

02:19:49.600 and young women why they're attracted to them is because they know hold that outside 110 donated 100

02:19:58.720 hope you are doing well brian first time yeah thank you man thank you i love you keep up the good work

02:20:05.520 also long live the horde definitely dude long live the horde you know like what are you undead tauren

02:20:11.440 troll orc what what are we talking here thank you very much bright side really appreciate it thank you

02:20:15.600 you thank you thank you so what i think it has to do men wants to put every like they want to put

02:20:21.360 their penis and everything and that has nothing to do with like they want everything animals are off

02:20:27.840 the table no but women they want to impregnate women appliances various household appliances i

02:20:32.720 wouldn't a household appliance and if a woman yeah maybe like a vacuum love couch i might consider like

02:20:39.520 if it's curvy like a curvy love couch i'll give it a crack listen i don't mean it as disrespect at all

02:20:44.720 i i support it that's nature and that is what it is i don't you're literally you have a virgin

02:20:50.400 man sitting across from you by the way what i mean i'm not saying he doesn't have the urge you have

02:20:54.560 the urge of course he's never this man has never wanted to because he's a strong yeah i can i can say

02:21:00.400 safely i have never wanted to have sex with a lamp or other inanimate objects yes but go ahead

02:21:07.200 go ahead anyway continue to have sex with females because they it's a part of you know sure impregnate

02:21:13.680 women and yeah men know that the younger you are the more chance of you having babies and you're

02:21:20.880 fertile and yes that's a yes actually that's a good point yeah that's a great yeah so well that's

02:21:25.760 that's one of the group the reasons why men find uh youthful characteristics attractive because

02:21:32.800 because that's an indicator of fertility me yeah i think oh yeah yeah when i see for example you

02:21:39.520 you're a strong man you're smart you're educated you seem to be a good father which means i would

02:21:46.800 give my vagina to you you'd give the vagina you're married no but i mean i mean hypothetical oh okay

02:21:54.320 because i know you would be a good father and if i was 20 you would be like yeah she would probably

02:22:00.160 have my baby and a virgin wait and a virgin so but you know where i'm where i'm going with this

02:22:05.680 right it's but would you want to date a 19 year old or a 20 year old if you're a guy that's older

02:22:13.760 what would you have in common would you marry a girl in that what would you have in common with a

02:22:19.040 girl like that i have an answer but you go ahead nason yeah well i i don't think there has to be

02:22:23.920 like it depends what you mean by have in common so commonality like i i probably would have a lot

02:22:30.160 of things in common with women who are 19 20 years old you're in the same so like okay well i'm like

02:22:36.480 a 27 so i'm getting up there but yeah yeah exactly but if you're 40 or 45 so 40 45 even then like okay

02:22:44.480 that is that is quite the distance but uh especially as a christian man like as long as we have god in

02:22:52.880 common as long as there are like if we have the same goals if she wants to step behind me in my

02:23:00.160 aspirations if she wants to help me achieve my mission in life yeah i mean i i don't see the

02:23:08.240 problem with dating someone who's significantly younger no do you do so i'll answer that question

02:23:13.200 so you ask what does an older man have in common with a younger woman very much younger i'm not saying

02:23:19.760 young but very much say you're you're 45 and she's 20 okay sure um so

02:23:28.320 it's not about having something in common it's what people find attractive because do you think that

02:23:36.880 is having things in common a high priority for any of you when choosing a partner yes i doubt i highly

02:23:43.920 no for me it is very very important yeah very important i you might say that but i i highly doubt

02:23:50.400 that commonalities for men or women are high on the totem pole when it comes to who you're going to

02:23:59.680 find attractive but if i find a dude attractive and i date him now for like physically attractive right

02:24:07.520 yeah for two months and he's we have nothing in common it's just the sex like i don't build my

02:24:12.960 relationships on sex i just do not because that's not how yeah but you can okay that'll only take you

02:24:19.680 so far kind of like a guy says oh a woman's attractive it's the same thing for us like we don't need just

02:24:24.640 a guy to be a chad for us like we don't need a chad no no no but let me ask okay so have you ever

02:24:31.200 because if commonality is the ultimate or the pen ultimate thing when it comes to deciding if you

02:24:37.680 want to sleep with somebody or have a relationship or marry them i'm sure there's been plenty of men

02:24:43.920 that all of you here have had tons in common with but you didn't want to date them because you didn't

02:24:50.800 find them attractive or they didn't meet some other metric so commonality is frankly irrelevant

02:24:55.600 or very low on the totem pole of what's important for both men and women when it comes to who we

02:25:02.000 decide to partner with disagree now there's certain things there's shared values there's shared values

02:25:07.760 but commonality if a girl doesn't like the same music as me i know i don't i don't mean i don't like

02:25:13.760 chemistry is important and if you have too many differences you will not have chemistry

02:25:17.520 in rhythm with another person you know what i mean it's like i'm not talking about music but

02:25:21.920 okay but what like what do these women like what does a woman have in common like let's say she

02:25:26.960 makes forty thousand dollars a year what does she have in common with a guy who makes one million

02:25:31.600 dollars a year should she not be attracted to him because she doesn't have that commonality with him

02:25:37.520 no i can tell you why that woman is attracted to him because he makes a one million dollar a year

02:25:41.440 and i can tell you why men are attracted to young women because they're beautiful yeah

02:25:45.200 and they're i'm not saying they're not i'm not saying they're not they're more fertile lower body

02:25:50.800 count less past relationship that's not necessarily true i mean i know a lot of young

02:25:55.040 girls that spend their nights at a bar every weekend like young a young woman is more light what can i

02:26:01.520 say like do you i know you're saying in an attract just physical attraction way do you think it's

02:26:07.280 more of like preference because i know that like when i was 20 like i was like very skinny and now like

02:26:13.360 i'm 31 and i have like the curves that like most men like yeah so i think i'm definitely more

02:26:21.280 attractive now i definitely get more attention now um so maybe it's like do you think it's a

02:26:26.080 preference thing that like some guys might like because i know i know guys that like really young girls

02:26:32.160 and i know guys that find it kind of creepy when a girl's like 19 like they don't find that attractive

02:26:36.800 at all so i think it's more of like a preference i mean it's a preference well they truthfully

02:26:42.560 they probably find it creepy because society has tried to pathologize men's innate attraction triggers

02:26:51.280 and preferences uh no because i think also the thing that we're forgetting in this there is

02:26:57.040 actual statistic data that will back this up the birth rate across the board has gone down so having

02:27:03.040 children is clearly not a societal priority as much as it used to be and data will not and you can you

02:27:08.720 can look it up yeah there's a lot of data that will back this so i think that people's preferences

02:27:13.280 will change now that their objectives are clearly changing well no i don't think the birth rate because

02:27:19.200 i'm busy with people who have very different and i think it's literally it's not when it comes to

02:27:24.240 when it comes to men's preference for younger women because for example the fertility argument younger

02:27:28.960 women are more are more fertile uh that's not something that's even necessarily intellectualized by men oh

02:27:35.200 she's young she's more capable of bearing children it could be however like let's say there's a guy who's

02:27:41.920 35 40 and he wants to have a family he wants to have kids he hasn't had that yet he's probably

02:27:49.200 like a 40 year old guy he's probably going to look at a woman in her late 20s early 30s versus

02:27:54.800 a woman closer to his age because a woman who's look women up until mid 40s can still get pregnant but

02:28:02.560 uh your best bet for having a kid is like late or late 20s early 30s well after you hit 35 your

02:28:10.800 chance of getting pregnant starts decreasing uh so how does that play into guys wanting relationships

02:28:16.880 with the 19 year olds well it's kind of like well it's biologically programmed into you because

02:28:21.440 i'm confused though i thought we were talking about attraction yeah i'm really yeah i thought it was

02:28:25.600 an attraction thing i know but but that i'm confused is because of yeah that okay yeah they're

02:28:31.680 attracted to younger women because they know women it's built into a man to find a younger woman

02:28:38.400 attractive generally speaking if women who are in their 35 like 30s and 40s uh

02:28:47.200 they typically nowadays will have squandered their their fertility in singleness yeah so they have

02:28:54.880 wasted their fertility so they've spent all of their 20s partying it up do live in a single

02:28:59.840 lifestyle where they could have been using their fertility and finding a a man who is going to

02:29:06.800 sacrifice himself for them and give them the life that they probably really do want but instead they

02:29:12.880 wasted all that time so when as a man i want to find a woman who is going to give me the best

02:29:19.360 possible chance of having a successful relationship and generally speaking that's going to be with

02:29:25.040 somebody who has less emotional baggage less relationship baggage um and a higher likelihood

02:29:32.000 of fertility yeah i mean i i agree with you yeah i don't think we disagree yeah i i think that's how

02:29:38.160 it is like the guys who are attracted to me are usually like men that are over 50 and usually you know

02:29:45.600 they're divorced or that you know they're they have a kid or you know it's it's not guys that are

02:29:50.960 young yeah i mean there there are i'm not saying they're not i'm just saying majority of guys that

02:29:57.280 are in my group that express oh i would date you or marry you or whatever or usually older they're

02:30:02.800 either divorced or you know separated or whatever i'm fine with that because i'm attracted to the same

02:30:08.400 thing like look here's why men prefer younger women aside from the fertility well i mean i can mention

02:30:14.560 this they're more physically attractive more emotionally available tend to be more romantic

02:30:19.360 they have more energy and up they're more optimistic about the future they have more time to live life

02:30:23.680 travel the world before starting a family they're more fertile less baggage excuse me less baggage and

02:30:28.560 trauma more open to new ideas less stuck in their ways stuck in a job city more agreeable tend to be

02:30:35.600 easier to build a life with um typically also more grateful and easily satisfied whereas a woman who's

02:30:40.800 dated 20 other men who've provided xyz they're gonna be like oh okay but you have a ferrari my

02:30:48.960 ex has a ferrari too usually these women date guys that are usually also divorced maybe have a couple of

02:30:55.200 kids you know older girls don't go for younger guys either you know uh there's i mean yes but

02:31:03.520 some of them do yes but it's not for well men and women are attracted there's not symmetry in what

02:31:08.560 men and women are attracted to we're both attracted to different things um and just to add to the

02:31:13.680 list here uh younger woman's less likely to have children or a psycho x um so yeah i mean i don't

02:31:22.720 disagree it's it's i'm just still kind of perplexed like y'all i mean i didn't get the answer from

02:31:28.560 everybody yeah but you were saying like you think the a woman's peak peak is 39 can be is it can no no

02:31:36.560 for me it is no uh-uh i'm sorry i'm sorry to give you i'm sorry to give you a red pill here

02:31:43.040 you're gonna tell me sorry go ahead i don't i'm not saying that it's like that for everybody

02:31:48.560 this is just for me personally and how i feel can we pull up how i look yeah you actually i think we

02:31:54.160 oh it's fucking it's your instagram yeah you're gonna tell me that a woman like for instance me who

02:31:59.520 was a black um an ugly duckling when i was in my 20s because i gained so much weight and now i've

02:32:04.640 already lost so much that people have drastically noticed that somehow we're not going to get better

02:32:09.680 looking i'm literally walking proof and i'm still working progress i'm not saying i'm perfect i'm

02:32:13.520 not saying i'm skinny but i'm losing it and i see the difference and i feel it from men from women

02:32:18.240 everything okay sure so if i can concede that you might be at a lighter weight however there are just

02:32:27.280 certain biological realities when it comes to for example somebody somebody's skin yeah uh other things

02:32:34.080 when it comes to youth um it's just it's just the reality i i mean i don't know what you looked like

02:32:40.000 when you were younger but like let's say you were just um 130 pounds i was one 108 when i tested for

02:32:48.240 playboy when was that uh 2010 oh and you were what how old then uh 2010 19 wait so are you saying when

02:32:57.440 you were 19 and you weighed 108 pounds and i looked terrible in the face it was like my nose

02:33:03.040 overtook it my face hadn't fully grown into my body so my body looked great so i was always a pretty girl

02:33:08.320 but i did not look facially as pretty as i do now so but okay but men can agree on that that's fine

02:33:14.320 i don't have work done so you're saying when you were 19 and you weighed 108 pounds you're more attractive

02:33:20.800 now at 32 and i mean i this is not a question i'd typically ask but how much do you weigh right now

02:33:28.720 i'm at 170 i was at 218 okay so 19 one months ago okay 19 108 versus 32 170 pounds are you are you

02:33:39.120 making the argument that you're more physically attractive now no oh i'm making that well hold

02:33:43.600 on sorry okay i'm making the argument i'm more physically attractive in the face absolutely but in

02:33:47.840 the body no i mean without seeing pictures it would be hard for me to say you said you did

02:33:51.680 something for playboy yeah i tested you tested yeah do you have i mean i didn't get in i have

02:33:56.480 the photos yeah but i didn't get in the magazine because of my tattoos it's hard to say but i would

02:34:00.880 say that for both men and women you start to age a bit in the face people start getting wrinkles

02:34:04.880 absolutely that's what's gonna happen the skin loses its tautness so i mean i mean i guess you

02:34:11.200 guys i get what you're saying i get what you're saying i was saying just an individual level like

02:34:16.160 you know it's all personal for everyone yeah everyone's different i mean like there's all

02:34:19.520 you know what you can do to like we want to talk about we want to talk about wrinkles like you know

02:34:24.160 i i like had the 11 you know i got botox for the first time in my life this month too so like yeah

02:34:30.640 that's cheating though but there's even men it is it is what it is people leave it wrinkles in their

02:34:35.760 early 20s yeah 30 year old back in like my parents generations like it's it's it's crazy the

02:34:42.480 difference is it's really does we have no but i think you don't have to get ugly what you guys are

02:34:47.200 yeah and a lot of us what you guys are feeling tanning was a big factor on skin let me tell you

02:34:52.800 and the 90s because i used to work at the salons the 90s that went up ever since melanoma and

02:34:57.600 everything it's a big factor really bad for your skin you age okay but we're not saying we're not

02:35:04.160 saying that a woman who's 30 35 40 45 can't be physically attractive that's not what we're saying but

02:35:10.000 you guys are making the argument that women peak in when their physical beauty in their late 30s

02:35:15.760 no that's absolutely not the truth no i think you know what it is no it's not personal no no no

02:35:19.760 it's not personal i think we're just like the board across the board people are more i would argue even

02:35:25.600 both men and women are more physically attractive when they're younger i know there's there's a

02:35:34.320 difference i get what you're saying though i think i personally think i was more physically

02:35:37.840 attractive 10 years ago than i am now i would probably find you more attractive now because

02:35:42.160 you're you're more of a man but no no but he's saying like in a purely like yeah like physical

02:35:48.800 he's saying like you know skin like you're youthful if a guy looks too youthful to me then he's not

02:35:54.960 then i don't really recognize him as my alpha yeah but i think it's different but now i'm understanding

02:35:59.600 what he's saying he's pretty much just saying like the youthful part of our body like we do start age i

02:36:07.280 started noticing like my my youth decrease at like literally exactly when i turned 30 i started

02:36:13.520 seeing like little wrinkles so i do i and i actually understand what you're saying now what i was trying

02:36:18.560 to argue is very different so i think we're both kind of like at this point talking about two separate

02:36:23.520 things yeah did you have something mason what no yeah i i think it goes into so you're saying like

02:36:29.920 you can be attractive to men so you're not very attracted to guys who are very youthful i think

02:36:36.000 that goes into the fact that you're generally not attracted to uh guys who are not mature who are not

02:36:44.560 going to be that alpha dude right so you want a guy who is going to be able to take the lead and that

02:36:50.800 generally increases with age so for men we don't want that we want a woman who is not as experienced so

02:36:58.320 that we can lead them where they don't have all of that emotional baggage that relationship

02:37:03.040 some guys get tired having to lead women yeah yeah well what's that some guys get very exhausted

02:37:10.480 when they have to lead women in a way that they don't want to lead them yeah i'm not saying they

02:37:14.320 don't want to lead them but i'm saying if it's not the way that they like it they don't really prefer

02:37:18.880 it you know you're very attractive men both of you so yeah and i think men don't want to lead

02:37:24.400 subordinate uh insubordinate women yeah yeah yeah and like they don't want to they don't want the

02:37:29.360 not the situation they want right like like you were saying there is like they want the exact thing

02:37:34.720 that they like they if they want you to be a subordinate woman then that is what that guy wants if

02:37:38.640 they want okay these words hold on just to address that like words have to have meaning so if you want

02:37:44.080 a man who's a leader yeah there there's two sides of the coin there in order to lead somebody has to

02:37:50.720 follow yeah so what we have going on i view i think men to some degree lack leadership and women

02:37:58.000 certainly are not prepared to follow right because we're in this new era of like that's what i was

02:38:02.560 gonna say you know i think that a good way instead of following though is the word support you know

02:38:08.160 what i mean like i think that what happens is that you have two kings fighting for a crown

02:38:12.480 you know i do have something then i have to show the bow video so yeah i mean okay if you are a true

02:38:20.080 leader you need somebody that is going to support your mission so like if we're going to take the

02:38:25.200 military as our example there is somebody at the very top of the military making all of the decisions

02:38:31.360 now if the people below me are going against my mission i'm going to kick them out get them out of

02:38:36.480 there they are not helping me support my mission so as a man i want to find a wife who is going to

02:38:42.400 support my mission and if she is constantly take kicking my legs out and going in the opposite

02:38:50.160 direction as me she's not she's not following she's not submitting yeah and well and she's not

02:38:55.600 letting me lead it's not a it's her sacrificing her choice not not choice but her desires in order to

02:39:06.000 support me in my mission it's like you you as a man don't want a woman that you feel you have to

02:39:10.960 push up the hill exactly yeah that's what i was going to say you don't want to push her up the hill

02:39:14.960 if she can't walk up that hill don't fuck her not only that i'm sorry but i feel like it is what it is

02:39:19.120 you know if you can push her up the hill yeah you know like what i mean with that is a man doesn't

02:39:25.760 want to like always try to push her like a man wants exhausting yeah push her no no no no i'm walking you're

02:39:33.840 behind me yeah but what i but to get her up the hill he has to support the thing is a lot of i ain't

02:39:39.920 pushing exactly that's what we want i got you on the leech that's exactly i'm dragging you i'm not

02:39:44.160 pushing i drag that's what i'm a dragger i drag leave them there because for me if you're like

02:39:50.720 it's like a landing on the hill situation no push like i don't push push up i drag drag if i have to

02:39:57.840 drag you by your ankles i'll drag you by the ankles we could put something i'd say hair but you can pick

02:40:01.680 i'm sorry i don't know what the pushing i wanted to say what the problem with the culture now is

02:40:09.280 women want to be so goddamn independent but then when it comes down to being like oh but wait can

02:40:14.160 you go do this for me not only that but i feel like right now what a 21 year old is probably not

02:40:21.040 what a mature man that's looking for a relationship like a serious relationship is like a lot of like

02:40:26.800 21 year old 22 year old are like partying like they don't want to like let go of their freedom

02:40:31.760 like they just want to live that so i think that like it's just something that when you're in in a

02:40:38.640 man and you're mature you kind of don't want to be like with someone too too young maybe somebody that

02:40:43.600 already reached that level of maturity because then you are like you said you're pushing that

02:40:47.360 person or like having and it's a lot of work for a man to have to like drag a woman like you want

02:40:53.360 someone to be supportive especially if you're such a like if you're an entrepreneur and you're

02:40:57.280 focused on your like mission you don't want a woman like dragging you down you know and a lot of young

02:41:02.480 girls can do that especially like i think it's more like back in the days when like our parents were

02:41:07.440 growing up and like there was like you know a very different lifestyle like a 20 year old woman was

02:41:13.440 like a like a wife like a mother you know like that's not a thing anymore so yeah carla go ahead and

02:41:20.800 then i'm gonna move on to another topic so i think that that culture though is kind of reverting

02:41:25.600 itself or because the struggles that i have with my women or the women that i coach and just my

02:41:31.120 community in general they're like i'm feminine i'm giving it up like i want to be submissive i want to

02:41:36.000 find that man to be a leader and they're like slowly not wanting to be that independent woman like

02:41:41.920 they're all waking up and i think now we're in a culture right now in a period where we can't find

02:41:47.760 leaders anymore because i honestly think that it's because the public school system and just the

02:41:52.080 school system and the education system in general um but i think that that version of women wanting

02:41:57.200 to be independent is outdated and the sooner we realize that i think relationships are going to

02:42:01.920 be a lot happier because again i've got married at 22 and i have like i could say i have friends that

02:42:08.720 are married too and they're young so a lot of women are waking up they're like this independent thing

02:42:13.680 that's the that's the scam let's not do that so i think the issue now is like men have to wake up

02:42:20.480 too and they're not waking up fast enough for us ladies i think can i add something to that i think

02:42:27.120 um now that like you know it i i do see that a lot happening but i think that now it's gonna get a

02:42:33.680 little bit hard with men because sex is given so easily so they're they're not forced to commit at

02:42:39.280 this point yeah so yeah that's yeah so it's like it's like these girls are out there and they're

02:42:43.680 really like why am i not getting the right man but it's like why would they commit when everybody

02:42:48.000 else is just like you know having sex with each other that's why i tell my ladies i'm like oh we're

02:42:52.800 not doing that we're smarter than that let's be smarter that like that yeah but they won't do it

02:42:58.400 but other girls are doing it yeah yeah but that's the thing but that's how you can tell a man from a

02:43:02.800 a boy a man is like oh no she's a good one i'm going for that one that's exactly what happened

02:43:07.760 to me yeah but then it's hard to find disagree then it's hard to find these men but but it's like one

02:43:13.360 in a million at this point no no no if you i'll wait i feel like that's maybe i feel like that's

02:43:18.000 limiting she's a virgin how generous of you i'm a nice guy i'm a nice guy that's a limiting belief

02:43:24.800 i think because i mean i grew up with you know wanting to wait until marriage and all the guys that i

02:43:30.640 encounter i've been very blessed with the relationships that i've had they would respect

02:43:35.040 me and i know that there's a lot of men that would respect the woman that respects herself

02:43:38.960 a man is only going to go as far as a woman lets him and i say this time and time again so it's not

02:43:43.680 the only way that we can fix the dating market is if we fix ourselves first yeah so and i and i agree

02:43:48.160 with you that other girls are giving it up easily but that's not our problem our problem is like let's

02:43:51.760 differentiate between a boy and a man a man is going to recognize very fast what wife material is versus

02:43:57.120 just like a you know a fun time yeah yeah the cat's out of the bag though the cat's out okay um

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02:44:28.080 the table really quick on this just to kind of put a cherry on top of the whole uh physical beauty

02:44:33.360 age discussion so are you more attractive now or will you be more attractive physically in 10 years

02:44:41.280 my mindset is that i will be more and more physically attractive every single day and i'm

02:44:46.560 going to figure out a way to do that well you're you're 28 right now so you'll you're saying you'll

02:44:51.200 be more physically attractive at 38. every day is 10 points what about you

02:45:01.280 um i think that well from the women in my life that i've seen i think i'm i'm not at my peak yet

02:45:07.840 because all the women in my life are very beautiful women and they all peaked i think at age 35. so i

02:45:14.720 think i still i'm gonna get better as i age the women peaked at 35. in my life in my family the

02:45:22.800 women peaked at 35 like they got extremely more they were already beautiful but they got more beautiful

02:45:28.400 as they aged at 35. so what you're 23 will you be more attractive physically attractive at 33 or as you

02:45:34.800 are now um i guess i'm i mean i don't know well with the way that things are going right now i think

02:45:43.520 i'm going to be more attractive at 33. what about you i mean i'm going to do everything i can to take

02:45:49.120 care of myself um okay so you're 32 will you be more physically hold on grid one motorsports donated

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02:46:08.720 remember the life you save is your own wow okay grid one motorsports is i think are you talking

02:46:14.400 about the crazy hot matrix yeah i think that's what he's talking about thank you do any of you have

02:46:20.080 a response to grid grid one um we don't care to stalk you guys we have too much to do sorry

02:46:30.800 thank you okay move uh so any so i mean i'm gonna do my best i don't know if i'm gonna look

02:46:37.600 better at 42 no one no one here is gonna know who's gonna look better but i will say i will attract

02:46:43.840 the group i'm going for at that time because that's what i'm gonna do so it doesn't for me it doesn't

02:46:49.440 matter sure maybe maybe not who cares i'm gonna be honest here i'm not planning on getting any botox

02:46:55.280 or doing anything so i'm definitely gonna be looking better now well let me let me double down

02:46:59.200 on what you just said even if you were let's say 10 years into the future you're 32 you go get botox

02:47:05.280 you get lip filler you get plastic surgery you get xyz cosmetic procedure you're still not gonna be

02:47:12.960 more physically attractive like i don't think women women like 50 year old women who get plastic

02:47:20.720 surgery it's not like you look no 25 you look 50 with plastic surgery like your skin looks very

02:47:28.160 like bouncy and youthful when you're young like you you know like when you look on the street you know

02:47:33.120 who's young and who's not sure and me me personally and i don't know mason i'd like for you to weigh in on

02:47:38.960 this i am a natural body supremacist i'm not in favor of plastic surgery i'm not in favor of

02:47:47.600 cosmetic interventions i'm not in favor i i'm frankly this is the hot take i think they'll trigger

02:47:54.000 a lot of people not a big fan of makeup either look a little eyeliner or whatever i don't not a big

02:47:58.080 deal but don't really like makeup either so i'll tell my girl like you don't gotta wear that yeah

02:48:02.720 i'm i don't need that i'm gonna agree with you 100 actually my mom passed from plastic surgery so

02:48:08.800 that's why i won't get it done i'm going to the gym to tighten my stomach i'm hiring miss

02:48:14.160 monica here to help me with that like because i don't want to put my life at risk like that it's

02:48:18.880 not worth it if i have to be have saggy skin or be fat or whatever it is to save my life i will eat

02:48:24.160 as good as i can whatever i can for my internal body and my organs but if i can't control the skin

02:48:29.600 that happened i can't control it i'm not going under a knife for it absolutely not yeah not worth it yeah i

02:48:34.000 mean i i totally agree like i'm 100 natural you guys yeah not like plastic surgery just turns me

02:48:42.000 off i mean it's not a fan not a fan but what if you're like your wife asks for like a mommy makeover

02:48:48.480 like if you have babies if things changed and even you're like i can see it

02:48:54.160 what do you mean a mommy makeover like a mommy makeover like after she has like four

02:48:57.520 because a lot of a lot of women like after pregnancy they have um a lot of extra skin and

02:49:03.840 stretch marks and in order to get rid of like that sagging skin like you have to actually cut it

02:49:10.400 and it does create a lot of insecurity in women um sure um i i mean that i'm not even sure if that

02:49:19.760 would even bother me but if it was like something that was causing like severe

02:49:24.560 concerns with her insecurity like that's certainly something that could be

02:49:30.560 pursued but i would argue the vast majority of women who do have plastic surgery or undergo

02:49:35.200 cosmetic procedures it's not for like to fix a defect it's actually purely for aesthetic and

02:49:41.280 cosmetic reasons but in their minds it no i disagree because like so i before i got my boobs and

02:49:47.520 obviously they're really big looking so it's like makes this point a little weird coming from me okay

02:49:52.800 but um but this was my world and just know that there's women with smaller boobs in between the

02:49:57.680 scale and i stopped wanting to have sex without a shirt on i stopped or without a bra i wanted to

02:50:03.600 like keep my bra on in sex because i was i had like natural d's and i started working out a lot and

02:50:09.600 it's just like you're that's the first thing to go that's like the least the most sacrificial fat you

02:50:14.160 have and so my i i just like had this like i would have good boobs and then i would have not good

02:50:19.920 good boobs and it's like you can only do that so many times before they just stay not good and not

02:50:24.400 what do you mean not good they get like they get saggy like even when you're young like that's okay

02:50:29.600 not after a certain level and then you don't want to take your shirt off so if you never saw your

02:50:34.400 wife whether or not it's in her mind or not if she never wanted to take her bra off in bed with

02:50:39.040 you would that bother you whether you or not it was real or her to lulu well i would try my my goal

02:50:45.360 would be would be to tell her one i don't i think you're beautiful even with your but what if she's

02:50:52.960 dealing with a problem that's like way bigger than it is up to me no it's not it's not you don't dictate

02:50:59.040 the people's psychological sure no but yeah your own self-perception but there is a component of yeah

02:51:04.640 there is a component of like how you think other people perceive you but if so yes it's your own

02:51:11.280 self-perception but also people will also factor in how are other people perceiving me yeah i think

02:51:17.280 if your partner is that the part that bothers you that they're considering how other people are

02:51:20.720 perceiving them other than you no is that the part of the reason no it's not like no no it's not about

02:51:25.280 other people necessarily but i think if your partner is like you know makes you feel good about

02:51:30.160 yourself and they're like like for example like a lot of women lose a lot of breast tissue after

02:51:35.440 breastfeeding so you know boobs get saggy and like if your husband really loves you

02:51:41.840 i'm not gonna get and they'll really and they're utilitarian and like they still find you attractive

02:51:46.800 and they show you that they are like so like attracted to you and turned on by you then like i

02:51:51.360 think that that does help coming from the person that you're having sex with yeah but how okay you're

02:51:56.720 you're talking about your breasts right so like here's my point i would argue unless there's like

02:52:04.160 there are women who for example get uh cancer have breast cancer yes but that's like such a small

02:52:10.240 minority extreme yeah of women who get fake tits my well my sister just had it and her husband was all

02:52:15.840 over her the whole time but so he loves okay so my position is is he loves her when it comes to the

02:52:21.280 plastic surgery plastic surgery i think women are beautiful as they are without the need for

02:52:27.040 undergoing dangerous expensive and frankly unnecessary not medically indicated cosmetic

02:52:32.000 surgery which i honestly think at the end of the day makes women look worse so for example i'd prefer

02:52:38.320 one with a cup or i don't know if this is the most appropriate term but if she was flat i would prefer

02:52:44.400 that over some big giant fake titties give me a little a little belly fat over lipo give me a small ass over

02:52:50.800 a bbl give me a small upper lip over lip fillers basically take any woman with any of these procedures

02:52:57.760 i prefer her however they were before i would prefer them as they were

02:53:04.960 so you might have had i don't it's more about my relationship with myself i don't prefer it sure and

02:53:11.520 i will say that's fine guys be like oh yeah i loved you before and then when i get it done literally

02:53:16.160 people i knew since you know what yeah i see what you meant yeah and i said that about you

02:53:20.400 people eventually buckle and they're like you know what i know like because it is we are programmed

02:53:24.880 to tell people you don't need plastic surgery you do look like that is programming too you know what

02:53:29.040 i mean and so it's like but honestly objectively speaking no prior like nothing else like people

02:53:36.000 who saw me before and after like yeah it looks better like and it does my nose and my boobs yeah

02:53:42.960 your nose does look better no it definitely looks better and the boobs definitely looks better also

02:53:47.040 like confirmation but i i'm not saying i think for example if i had natural a cups and i didn't have

02:53:53.280 to deal with oh i had natural d's and now i have saggy d's in high school you know what i mean like

02:53:57.920 that's really young to be having saggy boobs that's why it bothered me so much but if i just had a

02:54:02.640 cups or even b cups and they were just small i would have kept those i'm gonna put it out there

02:54:07.600 i love big titties i don't have big titties i love big titties the end i don't have to justify to

02:54:13.360 anybody yeah i love big titties i love big titties on myself i love big titties on other people i like

02:54:18.800 titties the end good good congratulations that's that's cool i would just say i like to build my

02:54:24.400 partner up so if my girlfriend came to me or my wife for example asked my opinion on if she should get

02:54:29.520 plastic surgery i would try to do everything in my power to make her feel beautiful as she is

02:54:36.640 and tell her i like her just as she is um and steer her away from what in my view would be a wrong

02:54:45.120 decision um according to you yeah but i think also we face a lot of pressure with social media yeah yeah

02:54:53.440 and you are just one guy and there's a lot of different people most if you ask most men here you

02:54:58.160 have two men here no i get it i get it actually that was a conversation i've been asking a lot

02:55:02.320 that was a conversation my husband and i had coming up here i was like what about a mommy makeover and

02:55:06.640 then we just started talking about it and he's like honestly well we started talking about like

02:55:10.880 before dating and like women you know or very young women getting like no surgery or like getting you

02:55:16.480 know different things done to them he's like i would feel in a way like betrayed because i'm getting

02:55:21.760 you know i'm dating you or like marrying you because i think that you're going to produce those genes with

02:55:26.640 our our children so he's like in that sense i would feel in a way like betrayed and i wouldn't

02:55:31.040 be attracted to that because i want to see who you really are so that was like his point again it's

02:55:35.920 just one in like a billion people so it doesn't um but but i understand what what both what both

02:55:42.800 points are and i think that at that point he also already loves you like in the moment of you going

02:55:47.600 through that process but if you're like single and you like let's say like a single mother right and

02:55:52.240 she's now dating again a guy's not really going to be like oh that's hot you know because it's not

02:55:56.640 from his kid so you know i'm i think that we all should be a little flexible with people i mean you

02:56:00.880 might not like it but wait do you have fake titties do i have fake titties that's a funny question okay so

02:56:08.880 i had my daughter and i breastfed for a year and a half and i had d's so i had to refill because they

02:56:13.680 definitely were not sitting where they used to yeah so did you do fat transfer or um no i so i didn't want to

02:56:20.640 go like i didn't want to cut skin because i did have like big boobs before my daughter um so i went

02:56:26.480 to different surgeons and they and he told me and they told me like i had to like cut skin and go cut

02:56:32.320 my areola or areola and then i went to one doctor and he's like all you have to do is like you have

02:56:37.760 like you have tissue you have everything you just have to refill a little bit and i did do it and it's

02:56:42.160 not something that i'm like i'm not pro um surgery and even like when i got botox this month for the

02:56:49.280 first time i tried to push off as much as i could um because i'm not like into it but i am going to

02:56:56.160 say i do feel a lot better now that i have them um but well in that age i was young so i was in my

02:57:03.920 early 20s when i got them so i did feel better now that i'm in my 30s i can't i will say like i probably

02:57:10.400 wouldn't have gotten it done just because they weren't bad it was more of just an insecurity as a

02:57:16.800 young 20 year old you know yeah mason doesn't like plastic surgery what's up what you got oh

02:57:23.840 sorry go ahead oh you know you go um well it's just also another thing is in la it's really like

02:57:30.640 for those who are from here it's extremely hard to gear away from not getting surgery because there's

02:57:35.840 so much pressure so what's the pressure because pressure uh well i grew up in orange county so if

02:57:40.800 you're from orange county you already know that and if you're not from orange county i will enlighten you

02:57:44.880 three out of four women are plastic surgery done like maybe three and a half out of four

02:57:50.400 it does it's not go check how many plastic surgeons are in newport beach alone failed society

02:57:57.600 and it is a society thing and i'm gonna say like i am latina and in our culture like everybody has

02:58:02.800 the bbls yeah and there's been time like you know i have a butt but that's because i work really hard for

02:58:09.040 it yeah and like the like boobs is a little different because you can't really work out for your boobs

02:58:13.920 but right now like especially like men just kind of get like sucked into like these like

02:58:20.400 big butts and like whatever so women tend to get a little bit i don't know not i'm talking about

02:58:26.080 like our society it's not men it's not men that are pressuring women to getting plastic surgery it's

02:58:33.040 other women that are pressuring women to get plastic surgery most men if you honestly ask most men they

02:58:39.440 don't want women they they don't want women with plastic surgery when it comes to the bbl that thing

02:58:45.440 looks terrible it does i have never seen i have never seen that looks good bbl first off you gotta

02:58:53.040 work for that you gotta work for it work for the beep i have to say personally like i've always liked you

02:59:00.640 got a bbl no should i be honest yes oh i got it not a fan so i got it twice bbls in general so i got it

02:59:08.320 my first time it was the worst surgery i've done for myself and that's why it was horrendous it was

02:59:14.880 horrible and that's why never ever in my life how old were you when you got uh 31 okay i know and we

02:59:23.360 should do we should stand up as men and say we don't like we don't like bbls we should we need

02:59:30.960 to protect our women boycott we need to protect our women from these dangerous and unnecessary

02:59:36.240 surgeries yeah and we need to tell them no you're beautiful as you are and also labiaplasty i'm very

02:59:42.000 much against labiaplasty that's my big one but i can help you are you a lip guy are you a lip bro

02:59:47.280 like a guy that likes lips i like large labia you like i cannot lie i like look this oh is that a

02:59:54.640 thing finally found oh wait is that a thing oh my god i did not know that it hurts so we can't see

03:00:00.560 i'm naturally not very lippy but one of my one of the guys on cam like enlightened me because he was

03:00:06.160 like you have a boring and i was like that is the mentality of guys that like big lips is that they

03:00:12.560 think that the not big lips are boring yeah and that was no no it's not no listen innies are cool

03:00:18.800 too i like innies don't get me wrong by the way hashtag blm big labia matter um that's my non-profit

03:00:23.760 organization listen uh i it's unfortunate because i've definitely encountered a lot of women that feel

03:00:29.200 self-conscious and insecure about their pussy about their labia and i am i'm at the forefront of this

03:00:36.960 movement i want i don't want women chopping up their pussies because i like larger a lot of a lot

03:00:46.160 of men sometimes you feel you got the naughty you got naughty i gotta like i i have a i have my now that

03:00:52.480 i lost your weight it's i heavily like it's hanging down now yeah i was gonna say but i feel insecure

03:00:58.400 but i would never ever touch it your husband's a lucky man i would never ever do anything to my

03:01:04.800 she doesn't know what you don't know what you don't know like a belly button no no no so the

03:01:10.880 vagina it's the pussy kind of like it's your inner vagina so it's the the the labia can i show her a

03:01:16.640 photo it's not mine okay is it the sandwich one i don't know i was just gonna google okay just make

03:01:21.680 sure the camera can't oh yeah i have a privacy screen yeah okay uh yeah you can show but i totally

03:01:26.080 agree i would never ever operate on my vagina but a lot of women do feel insecure about that

03:01:31.280 you know a lot of men would make a woman like that feel insecure i don't think the solution it's

03:01:35.680 wrong it's wrong but that's what men do you know and that's why women get so insecure so i don't

03:01:41.200 think the long-lasting solution to are you guys gay a woman's mental health is immediately cutting

03:01:47.920 stuff off or adding attributes like if we have such a mental health crisis and specifically women who

03:01:54.880 are above the age of 40 abuse antidepressants more than anybody it's horrible so why are we

03:02:00.480 trying to prescribe people changing their bodies adding things taking things away why is there such

03:02:06.640 a focus on instant gratification where maybe you should just accept the accept yourself for the way

03:02:14.160 you are or work on things that you can change so let's go to the gym maybe we should lose some weight

03:02:20.560 there are things you can do that's what i did for my video but what about the boot part like if

03:02:26.240 you're a mom or with like the skin part well yeah so what about that the skin what about the skin

03:02:31.360 like if you if you google it like some women come like they have like such like saggy skin after

03:02:38.240 pregnancy because they just have really bad skin and it's really hard for women to like you know

03:02:42.880 live like that for the rest of her life so i'm not completely opposed to it okay so if it's if

03:02:47.360 it's inhibiting like just google it okay if we're gonna play this thought experiment so if my wife

03:02:53.360 is having discomfort or it is like a nuisance for this thing for this extra skin to be there okay

03:02:59.600 let's talk about this maybe there maybe we can make that change but generally speaking i am gonna

03:03:05.920 want to support my wife i'm gonna want to find her attractive no matter what if she has if she has

03:03:11.600 flat chest if she has very little to offer in the in those specific areas tna i don't really care

03:03:18.960 i know i do get i get what you're saying and i don't agree with plastic surgery but it is hard to

03:03:22.880 be a woman sometimes look how about this how about this but this is such a rare like okay if we grant

03:03:27.680 you like yeah because yes they're having the natural is just an option that you can wake up and have

03:03:31.760 yeah yeah yeah there's the the mommy makeovers if we grant you as men that we're okay with women

03:03:39.360 after having given birth to children and there's excess stomach fat if we're fine with that procedure

03:03:46.480 yeah i think we should make it illegal and ban all the other ones what do you think i do i agree

03:03:51.200 because honestly let's do it let's just leave the charge i'm a dictator can i just say what i do not

03:03:57.840 like what i do not like is once women start deforming themselves because these hips are getting out of

03:04:03.360 control like because of these kim kardashians i'm sorry yeah i really don't like them one thing like

03:04:09.120 it's just getting ridiculous like everyone doesn't even they don't even look like what doesn't

03:04:13.360 they actually look what on the on the mommy makeover the the excess stomach fat i would say like for

03:04:19.120 example people who are obese whether you're a man or a woman and if you're you were previously obese

03:04:24.000 and you lose a bunch of weight yeah you tend to have excess skin yeah i don't i don't think i would

03:04:29.040 object to whether you're a man or woman to that procedure so i think the the mommy makeover where

03:04:35.760 if she has like excess skin i don't think i really object to that i think what i more so object to

03:04:41.840 is when you're otherwise cutting into normal healthy tissue uh to put in plastic like there

03:04:49.280 again there's degrees to to some of these cosmetic procedures like perhaps lip filler is not particularly

03:04:55.840 invasive as compared to like a rhinoplasty as compared to fake tits as compared to lipo as compared to bbl

03:05:01.760 so i think the the the degree the severity the reasons and the uh oh shit i've lost the last one

03:05:11.520 the uh invasiveness uh is is is part of it so yeah and like people get excessive like people become

03:05:18.960 obsessive like go ahead with your point well for like to go back on the how you want it to be illegal

03:05:24.320 my family tried suing the doctors and actually bring a law to stop procedures over three or four at a time

03:05:30.880 because my mom had seven i think at a time it's very wrong but there's no laws against that and

03:05:36.800 that's where we need to change that you know your body there is it just had to happen because it's

03:05:42.400 been 18 it was 18 years ago and we did a malpractice suit we did all of that and a lot of people said

03:05:47.600 hold on with that said this is why i will not get surgery and i will tell every single woman who

03:05:53.040 wants to get surgery what my mom went through and again your body your choice but i lost my goddamn

03:05:58.240 mom when i was 14 that is hard and i will never ever put myself through that even if i'm uncomfortable

03:06:05.520 with my skin guess what deal with it deal with it so so you know what deal with it man the problem is

03:06:11.040 here i think and i see this on instagram all the time because i a lot of my girlfriends have

03:06:18.080 sorry excessive plastic surgery and when i say excessive it's not the scale it has passed i'm fine with the

03:06:24.640 small upper lip ladies yeah you don't need you don't need to be putting that in your lips yeah

03:06:30.000 sorry you know what the problem is the um the online pressure and when i'm talking pressure it's

03:06:36.800 go go bigger go bigger and these are women that maybe don't feel like hundred percent great about

03:06:42.240 themselves you know what i got a solution i got a solution that's why we as men need to tell women

03:06:48.800 that we find your constitution to not undergo these dangerous and unnecessary surgeries

03:06:55.280 i wish it was attractive i think it's attractive i'm attracted to a woman with a strong constitution

03:07:01.840 yeah yes president i will literally support that you're a fucking president yeah oh thank you

03:07:07.920 ryan atlas for president you can be my vp yeah you're a fucking president because i see this constantly

03:07:13.440 and i have friends that have gone up to 10 000 cc's in each boob do you know how much that that is

03:07:19.840 like beyond and i feel like my boobs are too big so i want to decrease them out because because i was

03:07:27.360 like they're uncomfortable they hurt but it's a lot of money and now i have to pay for my mistake you

03:07:32.560 know and that's okay but i just feel like people guys on the internet has to stop this fucking like oh i

03:07:41.440 i wonder how much she'll do i'm i wonder how far she'll go yeah instead of saying stop don't do it

03:07:46.240 anymore like it's too much but they don't and these women are maybe not feeling great about themselves

03:07:51.920 they don't have a partner in the life that supports them and loves them so they trust these men on

03:07:57.040 internet yeah they're like oh they love me so if i do is that what men have you guys had that

03:08:01.040 experience yes like 100 yes 100 i have people in my inbox telling me i will pay you this amount of

03:08:07.760 money if you go bigger bigger i was like that's weird those guys no like i have guys with me too

03:08:12.800 and i'm like i don't don't listen no don't listen yeah it happens very very small minority

03:08:18.080 yeah i i think both men and women have a duty i think we should both be trying to build

03:08:23.840 each other up because yeah i mean look we're we both tend to shame each other's bodies in certain

03:08:29.600 ways like for example like uh the way that men will come i feel like people think i'm almost

03:08:34.720 being facetious about this the way men will shame women if they have a large labia is like you know

03:08:40.240 roast beef right they think she's that's a indicator of sexual promiscuity which i actually know of a

03:08:46.080 woman who's a virgin could have a large labia yeah of course you know roast beef uh arby's wizard

03:08:51.760 sleeve you hear you hear these terms but also women will shame men for you know if a guy has a

03:08:56.640 small name yeah they get a lot of a lot of men get shamed for that we all so i would like us to

03:09:04.720 listen i think we should we can shame people for choices that they make but if there's something

03:09:10.000 out of your control i don't think you should shame somebody for it if somebody has a certain bodily

03:09:15.440 characteristic we shouldn't shame if a woman has small breasts we shouldn't shame her for that man

03:09:20.080 has a small that's why i had plastic surgery because i was bullied to i wanted to commit suicide

03:09:25.600 because i was bullied so badly in school i wish i could have been there for no boobs and i was very

03:09:30.880 tall your small boob and did you have small boobs you had small i had i was a small boobs are great

03:09:35.200 i like small boobs small boobs are great it was i love small boobs what's that small boobs they're

03:09:40.400 beautiful and i had a bump on my nose from a car accident and my um my septum was crooked and

03:09:45.840 destroyed i have a broken nose too so i was so bullied up until like i had my nose fixed

03:09:52.560 it was who bullied you was it other men women it was it was both both okay um in school in high

03:09:57.760 school see i got bullied for my nose too and i just that was that's something that i was just like

03:10:01.600 i'm not doing it yeah yeah then on the internet on tiktok i had a car riding a bike like when i was

03:10:07.200 like oh it was both it was hell it was really hell so you know i just want to say for for any uh

03:10:15.680 women who are watching that there will be a man there are plenty of men who will find you attractive

03:10:22.000 as you are if you're considering getting a plastic surgery if you're considering lip filler or fake

03:10:27.600 tits or lipo bbl whatever labiaplasty whatever it may be there are plenty of men that will find you

03:10:34.400 beautiful that will love you that will want to be in a relationship with you that will get married to

03:10:38.080 you uh without the need for undergoing these surgeries please women don't shame men either

03:10:44.560 nobody yeah we shouldn't be shaming everybody okay yeah all right let me oh the question where this

03:10:49.440 came from was and i want to wrap up on that then we have to get into a whole bunch of other things

03:10:54.400 are you more attractive now or will you be more attractive in 10 years i you think think we left

03:10:59.120 office with you yeah yeah thank you abigail yes i just opened 30 minute conversations about plastic

03:11:06.240 surgery um so are you did you answer the question are you more physically is she did you answer no

03:11:12.240 she did she did oh you answered it what about you are you more physically attractive now or will you

03:11:16.160 be more physically attractive oh no in 10 years no no we're all headed for the same grave yeah no it's

03:11:21.040 not going to get better it's going to get like worse what about you we just don't know how bad i'm not

03:11:25.760 gonna get more attractive in the future but i am more attractive now than i was in my 20s i'm 26. so

03:11:31.920 wait you're more let's say are you more attractive now than in my like when you were like 19 yeah

03:11:38.960 okay um why are you laughing i think i might have a another like two years of like my being the like

03:11:51.200 i guess more attractive um i am gonna say though when i hit 30 and i started seeing like wrinkles

03:11:57.280 coming and i was like okay it's over so i'm probably i'm probably gonna this is definitely

03:12:02.560 the hottest i'll be 10 like in 10 years i'm definitely well okay so you're 31 right yeah

03:12:08.080 were you are you more attractive now than you were at 21. oh yeah absolutely oh my god yeah y'all

03:12:13.360 coping y'all cope just i get i mean i was i was like a pretty girl i just for me on a personal

03:12:19.360 level like i was just skinny i mean i worked out i was but i was very just like like petite it's

03:12:24.160 like pubescent right yeah like i feel i feel like right now i'm in my 30s i hit puberty

03:12:30.160 and i have like like hips and a butt you know like i just i feel more attractive right now i think

03:12:35.680 what it is it's not what it's not whether you feel more attractive no but you're asking me like

03:12:39.920 are more attractive um i mean the beauty okay yeah i mean i won't win on this one all right so we have

03:12:48.480 let me let's go around let's uh oh here we go sorry that this took us a while to get to mr album

03:12:55.440 to the women trying to use j-lo as an example of getting better with age obviously have never

03:12:59.920 seen her earlier works google image search her from in living color money train and in the film

03:13:06.240 enough enough yeah i just know her music videos i just think she's very pretty regardless oh my

03:13:13.440 god did you guys see that movie hustlers not exactly yes like hustlers like let's go back

03:13:18.880 to that no but j-lo was hot obviously i'm not gonna win with these okay no you're not all right

03:13:23.760 we have a disgruntled care bearer question the title about broke men caught my eye so i'd like

03:13:28.000 to pose the question define a broke man for reference i'm in the army where i don't get paid

03:13:32.320 a lot cash wise uh thank you but you have um you're gonna have money later on like you're gonna

03:13:37.840 get that money check after you're out we already know that okay like we know i'm gonna just give

03:13:41.760 him a little love if you put on that army outfit yeah you can be as broke as you want

03:13:48.640 and that's that's monica for you okay okay all right there you go no but what defines a broke man

03:13:55.600 is not necessarily financials either it can be someone who has broke mentality like my ex had broke

03:14:01.920 mentality so it's not always just being financially broke it's the fact that you don't want to work

03:14:06.480 you're putting in your bare minimum even in a relationship even in your own hygiene that's what

03:14:11.360 a broke man is to me because it could be broken or broke and i feel like both go hand in hand i agree

03:14:18.240 fucking oh my god nick i did that on purpose dude um what what so a broke man a broke man isn't just

03:14:27.360 broke because of finances a broke man is also like a mindset like a poor person mindset okay

03:14:32.480 all right let's see here we got some notes here we got more notes i think we wait did we get

03:14:37.920 everything from hold on let me check one sec uh

03:14:45.680 what i'm trying not to have a wardrobe malfunction right now but this dress is just riding up

03:14:50.320 and i'm trying to calmly make it better word i just saw on the screen you got you got legs and

03:14:57.440 no i just think like being you wear you're wearing underwear right i am i have standards of existence

03:15:05.280 i was like oh fuck are we gonna have like a the whole thing flash no not like that it's just more

03:15:10.560 for my own time yeah i get it i get it that would have gotten uh we have some notes here from kendra

03:15:16.720 kendra adult film star s worker a business consultant you said you were with your fiance for

03:15:21.680 four years and three years in we both realized you had f to his good friend 10 years prior

03:15:28.640 oh my god what's the story there was that an issue also for the relationship yeah it definitely

03:15:32.560 became an issue because going into it he was already worried that i had been with his friends um

03:15:37.440 a little bit of a back story he's a entertainer but not in the sex industry he's an actor actor

03:15:42.720 director filmographer all that cinematographer sorry um so i my clientele like whether it's bdsm

03:15:50.320 or content creation they can be his friends and um one day my friend was over and she was talking about

03:15:57.040 uh wrestling and he was like oh my friend x i was like what's his last name and he said it and my head

03:16:06.320 just fell and then he looked at me he's like you fucked him didn't you i was like i was

03:16:10.560 fucking him for a good two years honey but why would you make it obvious i would just keep my

03:16:15.600 mouth quiet because i was with him no i was about to have a ring on my finger i was not gonna lie this

03:16:19.920 man i'm not gonna lie to him if he was gonna invite him to our wedding no yeah and then he shows up i'm

03:16:24.880 like oh yeah like his bachelor party i mean he's gonna find out eventually so why lie there's no reason

03:16:30.640 to lie from the beginning of our relationship i had no reason to lie to him so when he found out he

03:16:35.680 didn't talk to me for a few days but he you know at the end of the day i didn't know him for 10 years

03:16:40.640 prior what are you gonna do be mad at me for something i did 10 years ago i had no you were

03:16:44.560 married at the time homie you were with another woman so yeah i fucked one of his friends i don't

03:16:51.440 know if guys like feel that's a bro code you know but it's hard it's hard to have a bro code when it's

03:16:58.240 like yeah i mean when it happens such a long time ago yeah i don't know how you feel about it

03:17:05.200 it's not my proud moment like if i could go back i wouldn't have done it yeah i didn't know

03:17:10.000 i mean of course i haven't been in that situation yeah but if you would have you been in it with

03:17:14.640 like just kind of having a crush on the same girl as a as one of your friends or kind of like going

03:17:19.680 for the same i would never ever ever date somebody that my friend has dated yeah like that's just

03:17:24.800 yeah but what if you didn't know you kind of yeah that's a thing gosh well like at that point

03:17:30.000 how much friends i am am i with this guy yeah that's what i said yeah because he made it seem

03:17:34.800 such a big deal and all these men that he's talking about talk down to him make fun of him oh i fucked

03:17:40.640 your yeah i think that that's what it is it's more of like like them knowing that they know what you

03:17:47.120 look like underneath yeah like you know while having sex and it was already like he wasn't it's not

03:17:52.720 that he wasn't supportive he just didn't know how to fully comprehend my job so that was already a

03:17:57.760 thing i think that like for men it's really hard for them to even think about us having sex in general

03:18:03.280 with any any past partners unless you're someone who's into that yeah okay unless that okay unless

03:18:08.080 that's the case but when they know that person wait what what was that i mean unless they know that

03:18:14.240 person then it's like now it's like very vivid and they're like thinking about like you and them

03:18:18.960 yeah i mean absolutely with with the women i've dated i'm extremely like with my wife eventually

03:18:25.600 i'm gonna be extremely territorial so well that's why he was so upset yeah so which i understand well

03:18:31.600 it's like i can imagining my woman with another man is just awful so like i i can understand that

03:18:39.760 the aspect of like i know this other guy and now i have to imagine him with you every time that

03:18:49.920 we're potentially gonna have sex or that we're gonna be together that's like i for me i just it's

03:18:56.240 it's super hard to get out of my mind and it's like i think most really masculine men hyper masculine

03:19:02.880 men that's just kind of the case yeah they they don't want to share their woman with anybody

03:19:07.760 yeah and he had his friend had a history of fucking everyone else's wife so like so yeah so

03:19:15.520 my my ex was like dude you fell for his shit too like kind of like what's wrong with you i was like

03:19:20.960 i was fucking 19 and i was desperate like that's really what it was i didn't wait i i have a totally

03:19:25.920 unrelated question to this yes you have a 13 tattoo on your head oh my god please

03:19:30.800 what's that uh friday the 13th you get tattoos for 13 dollars what no yeah so there's one right

03:19:38.320 here it has the room roman numerals right here i was thinking it was no it's not i thought it's

03:19:43.360 part of the game yeah no it says it says um km for my best friend and then s and then 13 so people

03:19:50.560 thought i was in a gang called ms-13 yeah yeah yeah when i went to jail everyone came to jail

03:19:55.040 my mom died when i was 14. you think i don't have trauma and i didn't do

03:20:01.360 shit yeah i went to jail i didn't go to jail wow really lindsey's path is different

03:20:07.920 everyone's path is i did not go to prison

03:20:11.600 tell us about uh did you do any dating in jail how was that every woman wanted to grab my tits

03:20:16.400 what the fuck i wonder not like it's like that in real life been to jail more than once yeah

03:20:22.480 the only the amount of days i've done total in my whole life was like 100 i got a dui so i did 50

03:20:28.160 days straight and then i probation violated which i had my ex's prescription on me not in my name

03:20:33.200 30 days i see okay so if you you know when i tell it's like oh you wish it was harder

03:20:40.640 i do usually i do

03:20:45.120 okay all right i want to earn my credit

03:20:46.880 um we have we have actually a couple of your tweets that we've oh we found

03:20:52.560 i'm off the charts before i was diagnosed diagnosed with what bpd i don't know i'm not

03:20:59.920 sure we will uh we're gonna pull them up we're gonna pull them up there's a cup i think there's

03:21:03.920 just five so go ahead go ahead nick what do we got here now can you make a little bigger please

03:21:08.480 oh kendra lee who in the actual fuck is this person do they realize they are openly saying

03:21:19.440 i'm a virgin and i refuse to admit it or i am repulsive but i'm trying to get beta ducks to

03:21:23.840 like me fucks thank thank god for drew oh god this girl okay uh i'm not on her side anymore by the

03:21:29.920 way i don't like uh she made a hit piece on us um sort of uh keeping that she talks

03:21:34.080 shit keeping us women reminded men like you are balding and alone wow okay you went in on the

03:21:40.160 balding thing next next tab though what's the next one wait did you just did you just double twice

03:21:47.680 what happened there oh i think it just got bigger go back wait that's what she said

03:21:54.560 did are you can you go forward next tab it's me mike uh doesn't matter if you're skinny men use

03:22:00.160 the term fat to bring down any woman because it's an insult to them once we stop letting the word fat

03:22:03.920 come off it so negatively they can't use it against us but hold on you just talked about

03:22:09.200 balding oh yeah why not you're gonna attack me for being fat i'm gonna attack your hairline

03:22:15.200 well was that what happens yeah oh yeah i was being i was being attacked in that thread uh holly was

03:22:20.080 there i was yeah so she's getting attacked in the thread and then everyone made it a weight topic

03:22:24.720 and then it just kind of digressed from there so if you're gonna i don't ever fire first if you fire

03:22:29.680 at me i'm going to verbally hurt i didn't know crap out of it i didn't know that that was that's

03:22:34.480 a part of the problem we have with plastic surgery yeah like if this happens the whole time yeah you

03:22:40.240 know then i was looking in the doctors after all that happened okay all right next uh that's so crazy

03:22:48.000 i have sex with men for money and i get all my wait hold on i'm a porn star i have sex with my with

03:22:53.600 men for money and i get all my bills paid for me and my life partner including a beautiful home and

03:22:57.920 cars sucks they lost everything she should f someone richer like i did oh wait but when you

03:23:04.720 say you have sex with men for money are you talking about i'm a porn star no but you also did say you

03:23:09.280 had sugar daddy so maybe yeah that's oh yeah we could talk about i mean yeah they did buy my car so

03:23:14.160 or he bought my car so yeah uh all right wait somebody you had a sugar daddy buy you a car

03:23:21.360 wait okay let's we'll come there's two more tweets we'll come back to those um who here has had a

03:23:27.360 sugar daddy well i'll just yes or no go around me yes yeah no yeah no no no no no you should say

03:23:38.640 yes come on i i heard no huh what you too no you're not his daddy i mean why would you assume that i had

03:23:48.000 one no because you paused a little bit so i was like oh yeah think about it i'd be a lot richer if

03:23:55.520 i did good okay so sugar daddies how many sugar daddies have you had i i've been honestly it's like

03:24:04.160 a lifestyle thing like i had my first sugar daddy at like 18 years old and then i've kind of like

03:24:11.840 sporadically on and off since then like obviously not during relationships sure yeah okay so and

03:24:19.040 i've had some and honestly my eight year long relationship like part of the spice on this

03:24:22.960 relationship is he was 21 years older than me and taking care of me yeah so in a lot of ways that was

03:24:28.080 a it's kind of started out like that and then it kind of just like oh we're staying together and we're

03:24:35.120 bonding more right or whatever you want to call it right but it kind of my eight year long relationship

03:24:39.840 should have just been a sugar daddy okay interesting interesting would that be considered

03:24:45.040 a sugar daddy if he was your actual like partner that's kind of why i don't consider him a sugar

03:24:50.160 daddy because it was like it's not like hey if i don't get money today for hanging out with you

03:24:55.680 it's yeah because i feel like it's more it wasn't transactional it started that way though yeah um it

03:25:01.280 started so this is how it happened so like he bought me a designer purse like the day after he met me

03:25:07.840 which was like a super grooming move but i was young and didn't know that it was a grooming move

03:25:12.240 right and i was like oh my god i've never had a guy buy me a designer handbag before and then wait

03:25:16.560 why is that grooming no because the way he did it was just kind of like hey i'm about to abuse the

03:25:22.080 fuck out of you for the next like eight years it was very but if you're gonna remember this moment

03:25:25.760 as something that you want to happen wait you know what i mean wait hold on you dated this man for

03:25:30.480 eight years how early into the relationship did you detect that he was abusive um i detected and we had

03:25:37.040 this we're not detected he was we had this crazy fight that i was like this was disproportionate

03:25:42.800 to the situation two weeks in but again i'd know i i also my parents aren't abusive to each other so

03:25:48.640 for me it was really kind of like oh my god i've never seen someone yell at someone like that before

03:25:53.520 and then in my mind because he was like you're a fucking idiot you're literally gonna end up

03:25:59.600 fucking on the streets if you don't fucking learn how to fucking deal with this you stupid

03:26:03.040 bitch like that oh my god he once came after me i heard it right here so i'm very good and he's a

03:26:08.800 bird squawking voice so um he's a bird girls like oh my god that man no you heard it too

03:26:16.640 oh my god this man reign terror is like all of our lives yeah you were with him we hate this man

03:26:22.000 i swear if that man doesn't come out as gay i don't know what yeah like it's like you're either asexual

03:26:28.000 or there's something weird because you just like abusing people and he probably gets off more

03:26:32.640 on stealing money from old ladies than he does from actually having sex he's very flamboyant

03:26:37.520 yeah he's insanity you've never met anybody most people haven't met people like this but but yeah

03:26:42.560 so two weeks in this when he started in and then i remembered having this critical moment in my head

03:26:48.160 where it's like that wasn't right that was weird and then i talked to him thinking okay well we should

03:26:54.160 just we should communicate about this right and i was like hey do you realize that like this what

03:26:58.960 you said was like completely disproportionate to this it's too long to describe the story but it was

03:27:02.960 completely disproportionate yeah and he was like oh well if you hadn't like basically like left the

03:27:08.960 house like this at this time then it wouldn't have turned into a fight and i honestly just believed

03:27:14.080 him because i'd never been yelled at and i was like wow the only way that someone would hate me that

03:27:18.800 much to talk to me like that would must be if i'm that bad he was very abusive yeah and i and i didn't

03:27:24.000 grow up with like a narcissistic family so i didn't like recognize the signs you know what

03:27:28.880 i mean like i was like wow i'm i need this guy like he's helping me like like it was it's just

03:27:34.160 really it's really fucked up what people do and then yeah you stayed with him for eight years i wanted

03:27:39.360 to leave after three but he completely financially enmeshed himself in my life and made it extremely

03:27:44.160 hard to leave so even though we weren't married get breaking up required a divorce and that was part

03:27:50.000 of the plan financial divorce yeah it was that was part of the plan and this is something that

03:27:53.840 doesn't get talked about i'm actually like writing a book about this but like this is something that

03:27:57.520 happens this fine unspoken financial abuse that becomes a way of kind of like house wait how so

03:28:04.960 um people will just you know trap you with debt they'll trap you with assets they'll you know they'll

03:28:10.640 if you try to break up with people they'll follow into the court system to try to create new ways to

03:28:15.360 get in contact you with you when they've exhausted all of the normal ones you know what i mean and

03:28:19.760 this is actually something that the court system's aware of too yeah the court system's super aware of

03:28:24.320 it yeah so it's but it's just not getting talked about a lot because it's a very ambiguous thing

03:28:28.320 right so but yeah wasn't he you said he was uh like 20 years your senior was he successful did he

03:28:34.160 make good money he was a he was an investment banker so it's one of those things where it's like when

03:28:38.080 they get money they get a lot of money but they can also lose it like that and they live very chaotic

03:28:41.920 lives so you could literally have 10 million dollars one day and zero dollars the next day

03:28:46.240 like so it's it's kind of like a false sense it's it's money but not wealth yeah you you mentioned

03:28:51.440 so did you have debts yeah so that was a thing that he did so he gave me the story like hey we're gonna

03:28:57.680 i'm gonna get you a credit card and i'm gonna pay it every month right and we're gonna build your

03:29:01.840 credit sounds great right and so we do that and he's paying everything's going according to plan

03:29:08.880 and then one day we have a fight and it's like okay well you can go pay that on your own then

03:29:13.520 and it's like well you've been racking up a bill on this too right because it wasn't just me being

03:29:18.080 like yeah i'm going shopping it was like this card is like groceries gas like it's it's our life card

03:29:23.200 right and so i was sold the story like i'm gonna build your credit everything's gonna be fine

03:29:28.320 and then the day that they need that to be a tool for them then they're like you know what maybe you

03:29:33.840 should just go pay this fifty thousand dollars of debt that i racked up that i assured you would

03:29:37.920 be you know what i mean it's like not all your own he wasn't paying the statement balance no he did

03:29:42.080 so he would wait until the very last moment to do before it affected my you know before it affected

03:29:46.880 my credit report to pay it but then like within days back up before i could make a decision to like

03:29:51.920 run you know what i mean and so he kept me in this kind of confused state of like being fearful of

03:29:57.440 my financial situation legitimately right you know what i mean and then also trying to myself

03:30:03.520 feel like i had to make a shit ton of money to cover his antics and then being like how do i

03:30:08.080 leave because if i leave basically i have to leave with a hundred thousand dollars worth of debt and by

03:30:12.400 the way i eventually had to make that choice and did leave with a hundred thousand dollars worth of

03:30:15.680 debt because i would never stop unless my fucking left right but that but then you realize wow i could

03:30:21.280 have done this three years earlier if i was gonna get fucked the entire time wait so were you both

03:30:26.560 using this particular credit card yes but it wasn't supposed he wasn't supposed to be it wasn't

03:30:32.400 supposed to be being used the way it was right like i was being told okay this is for like stuff that we

03:30:36.560 actually like is like necessary and then i go in the card and it's like like and he was like buying it

03:30:42.080 wasn't even just shopping it was like bad decisions he was making on behalf of the business that we

03:30:46.960 started together it was just like so much shit but at the end of the day i was holding the bag with

03:30:51.680 this credit card you know what i mean that's kind of what it yeah but where were okay so i have a

03:30:55.760 question how old were you again you were when i was um i was like 19 but okay and you said you

03:31:01.680 have like you have your family my mom and dad actually so my mom and dad when i met him did a

03:31:07.200 very overbearing parent thing and they like ran a background check on him and got a private

03:31:10.880 investigator and basically presented the paperwork and like this guy's really fucking bad wait how early

03:31:16.640 on did that occur like i want like a couple weeks like no a couple wait what did the background

03:31:21.280 check yeah uncover what what did it not because they said that he just seemed to be shady he seemed

03:31:27.040 to be a ghost on paper and that he didn't seem to have a stable job there were just a lot of things

03:31:32.480 that were like this is an elusive individual who doesn't seem to come from anywhere and you continue

03:31:36.800 dating him because i was super young and in my mind i'm like well maybe he's just like some like

03:31:41.520 amazing rich guy and my dad and mom aren't rich like he seems to be which by the way he wasn't actually as

03:31:46.640 rich as he seemed to be but i was too young to even know what people do like that you know i'm

03:31:50.960 like you're you're when you're 19 you have no idea how fucking money works think of the tender swindler

03:31:55.440 tender swindler basically yeah he's like the tender swindler but he did sell me the first two years like

03:32:02.080 really top shelf life right like like it was like what was he doing the shit out of me oh he spoiled

03:32:08.480 the shit because yes for the absolute shit out of me to make me like kind of be like hey i know i'm

03:32:12.880 abusing you and you're crying every day and i like don't let you see your parents but like

03:32:16.560 jesus you're okay you know what i mean yeah like so and i tell you lines to tell your parents about

03:32:22.640 how we're doing when for when you go see them so you don't talk about it on your own yeah you know

03:32:27.120 what i mean like yeah early on in the conversation sounds like a lot of work go ahead yeah you were

03:32:34.000 you guys were saying how uh typically in orange county uh people their parents aren't very present

03:32:40.640 in their lives there might they might be together yeah so i guess in your situation this happened

03:32:46.480 after college well yeah i was already kind of like i'm deciding to do this my mom and dad are trying

03:32:51.360 yeah honestly good parents right like they were trying he wants to know no no like growing up oh

03:32:56.960 growing up did you not have growing up did you not like my mom and dad were up my ass growing up

03:33:01.520 really yeah yeah they were up my ass growing up my brother's like an eagle scout type guy you know what

03:33:07.200 what i mean and i was just sneaking out at night after they went to sleep yeah you know what i mean

03:33:12.720 like yeah yeah i think there is mom and dad i'm okay and nothing bad's happening i think there is

03:33:17.440 a epidemic of one of two situations it's either your parents don't care about what you do and they're

03:33:24.080 just like as long as you're not dead at the end of the day i don't care but there's also this other

03:33:29.360 totally opposite end of the spectrum where they dictate everything that you do their helicopter so yeah so

03:33:34.560 helicopter parents are in other ways extremely unhealthy because they're essentially prolonging

03:33:40.880 your childhood yes so instead of treating you like an adult when like you turn 13 14 like you start

03:33:47.440 getting extra responsibilities but you also get extra freedoms and start training you into the woman you

03:33:54.080 should become they're like i'm gonna still treat you like the six-year-old daughter i had at one point

03:33:59.760 yeah and i will never let you go and so i i definitely i think that's just as damaging as

03:34:06.800 somebody who's like i don't care about my kids whatever they're really just parents that decided

03:34:12.960 to get pregnant one day and are honestly just figuring it out and they are a perfect example that

03:34:18.240 you can my mom and dad went to every parenting class like they like honestly like it's a little like

03:34:23.360 when i hear them talk about how much into parenting they got it's a little bit oh my god currently

03:34:26.800 shut the fuck up like well and but it's but but it just goes to show you like you can't control what

03:34:31.520 your kid does like your kid's gonna grow up and become whoever they're gonna be and you can pro you

03:34:35.600 can honestly do your best but like factors are still gonna happen did your parents and you

03:34:41.200 have conversations throughout your childhood about um you know because i mean i'm coming from as a

03:34:47.120 mother and i you know i was a single mother until i got married and i i do talk to my daughter

03:34:55.760 about you know sex and how to take care of herself i don't drink so like i kind of want to

03:35:00.880 um teach her that that's actually not good for you oh lord so um anyway so i think that

03:35:13.280 it just had to happen when i was talking right all right anyway sorry we're laughing at this uh i know

03:35:19.040 this baby this introduction yeah no they talked to me a lot about it um i think are you asking did

03:35:25.280 they have those talks yeah did they have like the talk because you know the thing is what i what i

03:35:29.760 because i'm i'm seeing it from like a lot of um you know every generation of parents are changing

03:35:37.520 and we're kind of learning from like our our like parents and our grandparents and like stuff like that

03:35:42.080 i feel like i feel like um now i'm starting to understand that you do have to monitor your kids

03:35:49.040 like freedom is okay but you do have to monitor them very well because children will make bad decisions

03:35:54.720 especially when they're surrounded by other like other kids that aren't being monitored so you do have

03:35:59.600 to monitor their friends also like i understand like where you grew up like you know i the communities

03:36:05.680 that have like are wealthier like parents are very absent so like i know me for example i don't

03:36:11.120 want my daughter doesn't go to like a super wealthy area but um i do look at the parents

03:36:16.880 and when i see that a parent is absent my daughter's not allowed to hang out with that person so my mom

03:36:21.760 had a list of friends i wasn't allowed to hang out with too but it's not it's just like you can't

03:36:25.600 it sounds like a bad situation literally every single high school too long on it yeah it's it's not

03:36:31.840 i don't want to let's go back to the sugar daddy situation yeah so so yeah any uh you know you've got

03:36:37.040 some sugar daddies currently you got some i do all right and like i'm curious maybe to keep things a

03:36:42.800 bit more light for both of you let's talk about the the money when it comes to sugar daddies what

03:36:49.200 are we what are we talking here i i don't i don't really like hang out like i don't entertain allowances

03:36:55.760 yeah like it's like allowances and um allowances plus gifts and it's kind of like i mean i want to

03:37:02.800 say it's ten thousand dollars a month but sometimes from just one yeah yeah yeah that's

03:37:08.480 the buy-in that's been that much time yeah yeah absolutely to get your attention i mean otherwise

03:37:14.640 i have a job and i can just do my job right yeah and i'm at a point where no honestly like i

03:37:22.160 it's for me yeah well i'm at a point now where ironically no not my dudes what is my dudes are not

03:37:28.080 simps go back no they're come on wait can you guys tell me what that means i don't know what that

03:37:31.840 means well a simp is someone who basically doesn't care anything except how much they love you and

03:37:36.560 they'll give you every dime that they have and they'll just give you every compliment everything

03:37:39.840 you're their god okay but um um i lost my train of thought oh yeah sugar daddy so me at this point

03:37:47.280 and i know you got no one's gonna believe this i don't give sugar anymore i have money sent you

03:37:52.720 know this my new york guys they don't send me one guy's in a relationship now and that's totally fine

03:37:57.680 he sends me money every month same with a guy in new york they send me money whenever i text

03:38:01.600 same with a couple other people i don't have to give sugar anymore it's gotten to that point i've

03:38:05.760 been doing this for 14 years also technically so they're pay pigs tech they're not pigs pay pigs

03:38:11.600 they're not pay pigs because we had a relationship before we ended it okay so because i've built that

03:38:16.240 connection with them over so many years they care about me they know what i've had happen to me we've

03:38:20.960 hung out without money exchange because i genuinely like them i was dating them so how much do they pay

03:38:25.680 you how much i don't like to disclose that it's a really good amount range give us a range no the

03:38:30.160 couple thousand a month i make over six figures a year without having to lift a finger just that or

03:38:36.640 from without having to lift a finger six figures a month no a year six figures a month one job without

03:38:43.280 having a mom no just off a year just off the sugar daddy just off the sugar daddy but not there's no

03:38:48.720 sugar six figures a year wow life on easy mode life on easy that's insane you put in enough work

03:38:55.920 you don't gotta give the sugar anymore that's insane wow bro these simps holy

03:39:00.560 fuck bro at a new level six wait say it again six figures a year without having to lift a finger

03:39:08.640 i mean there's a lot of i blame the men dude i blame yeah no honestly but think about it imagine

03:39:13.680 a imagine a billionaire guy who has women literally throwing themselves at him pretending that they're

03:39:18.880 getting pregnant all the time to try to nail him down he is paying for the hey these are the terms

03:39:24.320 right you know what i mean i don't want you to be confused about what this relationship is i like

03:39:28.160 you but i don't love you but i do want you to be okay and i don't want your time to be wasted so

03:39:33.360 hang out with me i'll make sure you're okay and not just getting used and different people like

03:39:38.880 want different but she says she doesn't lift a finger these are just men no i have i have lifted

03:39:44.400 fingers i've lifted more than fingers no but you're saying sure and and we could definitely talk about

03:39:49.840 like the past experiences but you say currently yeah you're making six figures a year without

03:39:55.840 having to really do anything yeah just without lifting a finger give give a check-in you know maybe

03:40:00.480 send a photo not even a nude just a thinking of you look at how i look and that's it can i say like a

03:40:07.280 quick funny story i had a tenant and she found her husband's phone and she found out that he was

03:40:13.360 sending money to a woman in dr and when we so she was like can you call she was like she she like

03:40:21.280 called me she was like crying she's like please call this number i'm shaking when i called it was a

03:40:26.160 man of course of course so like because it was a scammer so of course it was a scammer but men are so

03:40:32.480 willing yep to buy the story and pay for it and it's crazy because no i mean yeah because i mean

03:40:38.560 guys it's not a surprise because now guys have ai girlfriends as well like they pay for that they

03:40:43.360 take them on dates with them it's it's not a surprise i'm not surprised granted no one's saying

03:40:49.680 that everyone should go do that we don't necessarily no no everyone's cut from the same cloth they can't

03:40:54.480 handle it and it's fine like i've come to terms with i will probably be single the rest of my life

03:40:58.560 just like my grandmother she's been single for 45 years she's happy oh me me cool it's just like

03:41:05.040 these men spending all this money i i don't get it at at all yeah yeah i don't either i don't think

03:41:15.600 i don't think even the women that do that like do those things even understand it and they're like

03:41:21.280 in relationship with those men i don't think anybody can understand that no unless you're in it

03:41:26.400 you know and it's fine you know i'm i'm not talking for everyone i'm just saying for me

03:41:32.640 i know what works for me works for me i don't give no i'm saying do you understand them why they would

03:41:37.360 spend so much money yeah you do because i've heard the stories that they're going through and you know

03:41:42.400 there's some men whose women whose wives they're not even there emotionally or physically they're just

03:41:47.520 there and they don't want to leave and they both don't want to leave so they just want compassion

03:41:51.440 and it's yes it's fucking sad it makes my heart break i don't want to see a man yes a man's being

03:41:58.560 an emasculated man because of his wife of 20 30 years that's fucking sad leave go make yourself happy

03:42:05.760 don't do what you're doing and i'm not saying i don't support them either because obviously they're

03:42:09.920 paying my bills in the same sentence you it's just not fair to the other woman it's not i've actually

03:42:15.200 heard this so many times so do you think maybe maybe you're yeah you know that it's like they're

03:42:22.400 lonely and even sometimes if they've been they've been married for a long time even in that relationship

03:42:28.080 it's you know they they feel lonely and i think do you think maybe that you're enabling them to

03:42:33.200 continue this no it's not me it'll be somewhere else drive underscore ray underscore massive

03:42:37.440 underscore truck donated 100 chat wants to hear the euro girl talk there's two i think he's not

03:42:45.680 sure because she really does i think it's you what you got for us give us a hot drop a hot take

03:42:50.640 well i never had a sugar daddy i mean if i would be single i'm not against it there we go like

03:42:56.480 okay okay what would be your goal if you had a sugar daddy what's your ultimate goal like a car a

03:43:04.320 house what would it be i would say the like long-term relationship if it makes sense yeah okay so you'd

03:43:13.760 want to turn into an actual relationship yeah like not a relationship with the future i mean in my mind

03:43:20.320 sugar daddy is the person who like gives you gives you like the terms like for example you're just

03:43:29.360 like a lover or like he will never get married and he just gives you gives you like the terms that

03:43:36.720 like hey i will give you like allowance or i will provide you with that that and that yeah but we will

03:43:43.120 never like get married and stuff so i think if i would be lonely i would be fine yeah so i'm just wondering

03:43:49.280 where are all the women who want a dude to to be the the sugar baby i guess i just had that for

03:43:57.680 two years i'm good thank you no like go go find it and i also tried helping him find a sugar mama

03:44:03.280 that's how i worked for his app wow yes i'm like if you're gonna cheat go cheat and get money off of

03:44:08.640 it motherfucker yeah smart i didn't he's like one of the women offered me a car i said why the

03:44:13.360 fuck did you not take that car you idiot oh yeah why not i told him i was like my car's

03:44:18.320 fucked up why don't you get another car for us i i can i can i want to extend my services i will

03:44:24.720 if any women out there want to send me thousands of dollars a month let's get your seeking out

03:44:30.880 there are some guys who probably will yeah i'm okay i'm okay i'm absolutely just send some photos

03:44:37.200 that's fine but i have a i have a thing about that sorry sugar no i mean i misread that he got

03:44:45.600 excited no um what's up what's up what it is is like for example when i met my husband yeah

03:44:51.200 he was a musician yeah so he didn't make a lot of money yeah um i wasn't complaining about that and

03:44:56.960 i wasn't making a lot of money either but i was making more yeah but i am fine i don't care where

03:45:03.440 the money comes from if you're in in a relationship and you like each other like personally for me

03:45:08.720 yeah would it be easier to have somebody taking care of me yes but i'm i'm polish so my mom has

03:45:16.080 always taught me that you should never ask for anybody else's money because it's not your money

03:45:21.440 it's you've not you have not earned that money you have no right to that money so always make your own

03:45:26.960 money as a woman because you should never rely on anybody in a relationship to take care of you

03:45:33.200 because what happens when he leaves yeah you'll be there with nothing what happens when you're in an

03:45:38.960 abusive relationship yeah and that's why i kind of liked that i was the breadwinner because i was like

03:45:43.840 i don't mind my guy not you know being super rich would would it make my life easier yes but it comes

03:45:50.480 with terms that i'm not prepared to accept but that's where the independent culture kind of came in

03:45:55.520 because we were seeing how a lot of during the traditional times women couldn't go to work

03:46:00.080 and but that's where it stemmed from and that's why we're like hyper independent right now so there

03:46:04.080 has to be like some sort of balance and i think that there's like a difference between a traditional

03:46:08.880 man and a provider mindset man yeah yeah let's go back to the tweets we got some more tweets here

03:46:13.360 from our friend kendra we got some tweets oh you're way too interesting i'm not exploited i'm not

03:46:20.480 trafficked by men i actually get paid to beat men up take their money and remind them how worthless they are

03:46:25.280 i don't cater to men they cater to me and if you are a s worker you know that hold on you get paid

03:46:30.640 to beat men up and take their money and remind them how worthless they are what's going on there so

03:46:36.640 fun i was on another really big youtube channel about this actually okay um about my domination like

03:46:43.600 i have uh sorry i is it fin dom is that what it's called um i mean you could put that in my category

03:46:49.280 but i'm more of a domestic terrorist depending on what we're talking about um i'm a domesticated

03:46:57.520 um mistress meaning i like my domesticated subs or slaves okay so i want them to clean my house

03:47:03.280 walk my dogs do my errands take my car out for a wash and you don't do you don't have sex with them

03:47:08.880 correct oh god no they're pathetic but where are the women that will do all this for me

03:47:13.440 an escort go find her no no but i don't but they're paying you but he wants to get paid i want to get

03:47:18.800 paid you can be an escort i want i want just swaths of women who want to pay me to i will give them

03:47:27.520 the privilege that life i will give them the privilege of cleaning my toilet yeah i'm sure

03:47:34.400 i'm sure there's a 19 year old woman waiting just for that feed a lot of those yeah i highly

03:47:40.000 doubt yeah no you just said it you just said it you said that there's a lot of 19 to 20 year old

03:47:45.680 women that are that are ready to date older men because they're more mature and they have a better

03:47:49.680 mindset today i'm saying like you you have no romantic or sexual interest in these men no god no

03:47:57.520 right this is what my mom would say which is basically saying like just men there's some men

03:48:04.560 that like to suffer oh yeah oh shit okay interesting um facts they're masochist and

03:48:11.760 cities and it's really and it's a really sad thing like i mean personally for me like where where are

03:48:19.440 they like mentally like this is this is really sad but i mean i do know one of so one of my sugar

03:48:26.720 daddies who is also a sub of mine he had he had an upbringing with uh older woman who abused him

03:48:35.120 but she abused him domination wise so that's why he comes from that fetish because he feels like he can

03:48:40.320 somehow get the power back even though he's submitting it's don't ask don't ask if you're a

03:48:48.160 sub or you're in the industry you already know what i mean by this it is it's it's like

03:48:53.840 where do we i think boredom also i think boredom no and i'll tell you why so i have a guy i can't

03:49:00.320 say his name on here because like i grew up with no we grew up together yeah we grew up together and

03:49:06.160 this kid is a is from like a very wealthy family and we're the same age it's not like a weird sugar

03:49:10.640 baby thing it's just like i know him kanye and i didn't will fail like originally in school i didn't

03:49:16.080 take him for being a sub but now that we've gotten older and like got back until she's like oh my god

03:49:21.040 i like want you to like yell at me and i want you to like do all this this like degrading stuff to him

03:49:26.720 and i really didn't like take him as that kind of guy but i can tell you this guy has probably only

03:49:32.640 yes men around him yeah and his life is probably very one noted and kind of like good idea sir that

03:49:38.240 sounds great sir and he's like zero variety from that and i think that sometimes these rabbit holes

03:49:43.200 are like wow that's the one thing in my life that i don't have i mean i have you know like yeah i mean

03:49:48.320 jordan melford he was open with it uh and uh he liked both though like and a lot of the times it's

03:49:54.160 not like they just like one right they're like hey i'm having a day where i want to feel this way

03:49:57.920 hey i'm having a day where i want to be with my wife right like it's like you're not like i was gonna

03:50:02.880 say like maybe just get a latina like how you guys wait what latino woman oh yeah because the

03:50:07.760 latinas are spicy they're good oh the bowing video hold on no no no no gentlemen get yourself

03:50:14.800 an asian woman yes oh god i'm gonna get canceled okay i don't know about latinas latinas are spicy

03:50:21.440 yeah uh oh yeah sure let's do the bound of the bowing video let's watch the bowing video

03:50:28.160 oh you can scroll it a little bigger nick yeah switch us over to the other side

03:50:35.760 yep i like that it says register and download

03:50:40.400 boom look at that oh yeah boom huge huge wait watch watch watch look she's

03:50:47.040 attentive oh there's a shirt yep fold it good well done

03:50:52.000 okay all right oh going to the kitchen look at that oh food's ready that's just

03:50:56.320 the food is ready to go boom look at look at the attentiveness look at the oh okay and it's

03:51:01.520 oh i've seen this girl they just did this for the video yeah it's obviously yeah

03:51:06.000 like she's not doing this every day for her man i literally did that for my ex i want to bow look

03:51:12.160 boom look at the bow that's out i'm down to bow down for the bow i literally did that for my

03:51:18.320 the thing go ahead carla go ahead the thing is when you okay this is gonna be super controversial

03:51:25.440 but the thing is like men you think that you want that and like oh yeah i think that you want oh i

03:51:30.800 it's not that i think it's that i know that no no no oh i well i know wait so it happens go ahead

03:51:37.040 go ahead carla go ahead but y'all get so bored yeah you can get bored oh i love boring you get no i love

03:51:44.560 boring oh i love boring listen listen i'm not going to be gaslit here carla no no no i'm

03:51:50.160 you're very convincing you're very convincing coming from a wife yeah i will i will not be

03:51:55.600 gas so my so i give that because i love okay i naturally love doing that for my man like he comes

03:52:03.440 home about who's ready no not to bow no try the bow you give him about try the bow once what are you

03:52:09.200 doing like i like the bell yeah no no he's coming your husband's coming soon he's coming right he's

03:52:13.840 coming perfect perfect so i i like to serve my man like you can ask him i never let him get up like

03:52:19.120 i'm the one like serving him because i i like doing that but there are times there are times

03:52:25.360 there are times where like well what do you want to do today well do you not have anything planned

03:52:29.600 today the moment that i don't have anything planned like either like doing chores going out to the

03:52:33.840 getting groceries doing things he's like but what what else is there to do so it's like there

03:52:39.200 there has to be a type of balance and obviously this is just like my personal experience but again

03:52:44.800 like you think you want that but sometimes there's just things that you get bored and then you there's

03:52:51.440 times that it happens where like men cheat and you and you don't want that to happen so it's like

03:52:56.320 us as well like as me as a wife i'm just like okay how do i keep the balance because

03:53:01.120 boredom is like an actual thing from that you think you want that but you really don't

03:53:06.720 so what do you what are you suggesting hold on what are you suggesting are you suggesting that i'm

03:53:11.040 not that you intentionally stir up drama in the relationship is that what you're saying it's more

03:53:16.880 of like when you do it not because it's a chore but you do it because you love that person and you

03:53:21.120 want to just serve him um because i i do i out of experience myself too like there has been moments

03:53:27.200 where like i just went once as soon as i got married i just wanted to play that role

03:53:30.880 wife and i turned into a maid and i have a business so like and my daughter does dance so

03:53:34.720 like my i was going crazy and it started to get to a point where it wasn't even appreciated anymore

03:53:39.280 because it was like already done i will always his clothes was solid no but if the bow is deep i will

03:53:46.640 always appreciate it it happens it's very natural what's your take go ahead well i think it's all

03:53:51.360 personal because uh i think some guys do not get bored of it some guys really appreciate it and

03:53:57.120 really appreciate the care about them because like i'm four years in the relationship and every

03:54:01.680 single time like i do love to cook like i do i always cook for my husband and uh every single

03:54:06.800 time i cook she's always he's always like surprised and he's always like appreciative yeah yeah and like

03:54:12.480 i said it's a it's a person it's a personal thing and it also like depends on culture so i think maybe

03:54:17.840 both maybe my husband because he did have kind of like a more chaotic growing up like he didn't have what we

03:54:23.040 have now so it's all very new to him and it's it's a beautiful thing like building that together

03:54:28.480 but um i i think yeah it there's no such thing as too submissive there's no such thing listen okay

03:54:38.080 okay listen there's another thing like also men don't just men there's it varies person to person but

03:54:44.560 men who actually respect you they want you to say no they want you to have that boundary because and that

03:54:49.200 means that they can't get away with whatever you want them to do and there's respect and they love

03:54:53.040 that you don't want to doormat but you want like but there's no such thing like no you become there's

03:54:58.880 no such thing as too submissive i would i definitely disagree i think that being submissive to the right

03:55:05.600 man is a beautiful thing and it's it's a beautiful thing to experience and i think men you know deserve

03:55:10.640 that treatment if you know if they treat their woman right of like coming home and they're being you know

03:55:15.120 food made and being you know all those things but the thing is like there are some men that just get

03:55:19.680 bored and it varies a very person person to person there's and then i'll move on go ahead i'm i have

03:55:28.000 a lot of attitude and i'm a spicy person sure but there's nothing more rewarding for me than please my

03:55:33.120 husband you're like i agree that's yeah i that's my love language is to service that that sounded so

03:55:41.280 horrible but i love cooking i love taking care of my husband i love getting him stuff i love

03:55:47.600 popping his pimples i love putting on like i i just i don't like it because that's the way i show

03:55:54.320 love sure and if my husband says he doesn't want to eat my food there's nothing worse for me like

03:56:00.240 swedish meatballs are not it i'm just saying i panic because i feel like i did something wrong

03:56:06.240 as his wife and he's angry on me and this is and that's how he like punishes me it's like either

03:56:12.560 the he doesn't talk to me because he knows i hate it or he doesn't want to eat my food and that drives

03:56:18.480 me insane i don't know like i was like if my wife made me food i'm gonna eat it no matter what i think

03:56:25.520 like yeah she's no i'll tell her i'll tell her if it's dog no no i'll tell her if it's not

03:56:28.880 fucked up the lasagna yeah he won't tell me if it's dog the lasagna was okay i'd rather have

03:56:34.240 you tell me it's dog yeah no i like i'll tell you okay this is not the best are you trying to poison

03:56:39.280 me i would be like you know are you trying to poison me but i'm still gonna eat it because like

03:56:45.440 at the at the end of the day i'm gonna come home i've worked really hard and so i'm supporting my

03:56:52.480 wife so she can do her job which is to take care of the home she she so she can do her job which is

03:56:59.120 to take care of the home absolutely so i'm just gonna chuck the baby oh god okay i'll take it but

03:57:05.600 yeah it's very rewarding yeah actually gonna check exactly you got a good catch yeah ready yeah you're

03:57:12.400 an athlete too you want to try to catch this don't let the baby die wait wait this might wait can

03:57:16.560 i have you hold the microphone hold okay here we go sure yeah okay okay can you throw it's not

03:57:23.120 that far my throws kind of oh boy what's the best i don't know what the best like like football yeah

03:57:32.080 do i give it a do i give it a little twist yeah yeah just do i do a little uh what you know how

03:57:37.760 on the football they give it a little spiral yeah wait did you used to be a quarterback no i used to

03:57:42.160 be a receiver all right i think it's more i'm not going to do a twist i'm going to do

03:57:45.680 a thing okay hold on yeah here we go yeah nice there you go that was beautiful not here with

03:57:50.800 baby all right my baby yes perfect oh you like yes my preference is black men yes okay all right

03:57:57.840 there you have it folks uh let's pull up the is there another tweet is there one more tweet

03:58:02.000 then we gotta get into some of carla's videos i know i haven't wait uh i haven't lost respect

03:58:06.960 for any oh my gosh this is crazy wait this is not wait did you nick are you he's just looking

03:58:15.520 up did you just click a random tweet dude no is there a no what did i say

03:58:23.760 am i going off of people he was talking about like like skeeting on your grandma's

03:58:31.520 and i was like wait i don't even know how we like got there by the way you guys this seems like a call

03:58:36.240 of duty chat room now you know you know how we're talking about how with age we get better my grandma

03:58:42.720 has been working out the gym for a whole year and i have never seen a perkier ass on an old woman

03:58:47.840 her ass went from saggy to up and fat i'm like what the fuck lady get out of the gym she is 82 years

03:58:54.880 old and she has a better ass i am i am all about older people getting in the gym she gave me the

03:58:59.920 motivation to go even more i'm like one of the one of the most amazing videos i've ever seen in my

03:59:05.040 life was some like 93 year old man dead lifting 405 pounds for reps i have a like all right speaking

03:59:13.680 it's kind of going to be ironic since you have that oh here we go all right pull it up oh here we go

03:59:22.080 kendra white people don't have culture omg haha i can't right now what whitey white white people

03:59:29.600 literally stole everything from someone of color to adapt to them stop racist stop next tweet i still

03:59:36.640 stand by that very oh okay it's not racist for black women to humiliate white men god you people

03:59:42.960 need a brain i still stand by that too you stand by that absolutely it's called reparations for your

03:59:47.840 ancestors motherfuckers that's how i feel i don't know if i want to make this conversation about

03:59:53.920 i'm also not fully white so i will put that out there i'm half mexican can you scoot the mic that

03:59:59.360 way a little bit wait so okay

04:00:04.400 white people don't have culture they've stolen everything from another culture so yes maybe britain

04:00:10.160 but america no we've stolen it from everybody else what about europe i just okay europe i meant

04:00:18.080 britain europe sorry no europe europe europeans are white people i'm gonna i'm talking about america

04:00:23.920 are polish do you consider polish people white i'm polish i'm talking about america maybe i should

04:00:30.480 have specified well no but you said white maybe i should have specified it in my tweet but okay but

04:00:35.520 so white people in america came from various european countries some of which for example some

04:00:41.120 of their and who was here first though who was here first the native americans exactly wait so what

04:00:47.680 do you i'm not sure what you stole their land and created our own culture out of it yeah

04:00:54.080 that's what happens everywhere that's how that happens everywhere i mean that's

04:00:57.440 that's just i'm commenting on that that's but you're but no but we're okay you said white people

04:01:04.880 don't have culture i believe in that still

04:01:10.160 that's my opinion okay listen are you talking about cultural appropriation is that what you're

04:01:15.120 talking about kind of i'm talking about that it's also a directed tweet at somebody again it's not

04:01:20.160 something i just thought of no but you say you still stand yes because it was a person who was

04:01:25.360 sitting there calling me racist going off on me with a bunch of slander racist for what because

04:01:31.200 apparently i'm racist for what what did you i don't know i'd love to know that answer well probably

04:01:35.520 that statement in and of itself the white people don't have culture that's literally for white that's

04:01:40.080 against white people if that's racist then they can get fucked well it is it is racist it's racist to

04:01:46.400 white people good hope it is you hope that yes i don't care about people are so goddamn sensitive

04:01:52.880 nowadays get over it okay so would it be okay for so would it be okay to start talking about like

04:01:59.040 spanish people or calling mexicans like certain names or calling black people like are you if

04:02:03.920 you're spanish and you're doing it i just don't i don't like the double standard of like i'm not

04:02:08.720 you could be racist to white people but you can't be racist to black people i think that that's very

04:02:12.800 like she's double standard she's right she's right in your opinion so to my opinion anybody's

04:02:19.120 different anybody's opinion like that's fine this is my opinion i'm standing by it nothing you guys

04:02:23.840 say we're gonna change it so you think white people don't have a right to be respected i think

04:02:28.880 did i say that i did i say that no no no did i say that no no no did i say that listen i'm not white

04:02:35.120 and i and i'm like and i'm not white either i'm super latina i mean you're not latina i'm sorry

04:02:40.320 my last name's alvarez yeah but you're not you don't you don't know my dad either it doesn't matter

04:02:45.200 but you don't you don't walk around with the culture either i don't know what i do outside

04:02:48.960 of here i think you don't know me i'm sorry you have no idea who i am this is a thing though and

04:02:53.280 i don't mean to be disrespectful but i think you're common you don't know me but there's white people

04:02:58.160 here on this table and did i direct that at any one of these people you want to stay no i stand by

04:03:03.200 it yes that's disrespectful america has its own culture cool we have our own culture good for them

04:03:10.480 we're all mixed again this was not directed to anyone this table is directed to a person who is

04:03:14.240 already attacking me no but you said you stand by the statement on its own because i don't have to

04:03:20.720 i'm gonna keep my answer the same it's not gonna change you guys can keep saying what you want it's

04:03:24.160 not gonna change but can you i just object as a white person as the as the representative of the

04:03:30.480 white race the white delegation i object i object to the assertion that white people don't have culture

04:03:38.080 in fact i think white people have created a great many things like country music like i don't know

04:03:44.560 there's just so many things they're beautiful it originated from black people it originated from

04:03:48.640 black people i would like to know why is why i think that nice try yeah yeah vodka okay well there's

04:03:55.520 there's a medium here so because oh this is gonna be so bad but one of the reasons why i decided to

04:04:00.880 marry like a white guy a country man was oh boy because because of the i guess quote unquote i could

04:04:08.240 see like the no culture thing because my cultures have and i'm not saying that i'm against my culture

04:04:13.120 at all but i think that part of the white culture is to be more progressive more open-minded more

04:04:19.680 understanding more open and i loved that openness so much because in my culture you see that there's

04:04:25.600 already so many roles being played and i love my culture i'm not saying that but i wouldn't want to

04:04:29.920 marry into it just be and that's why i married a you know a more accepting country more you know with the

04:04:37.680 american beliefs because my husband does have you know this american belief system of the land of the

04:04:42.560 free what what not um and that's something that i wanted to go into instead of you know my my original

04:04:49.360 mexican culture so i do agree in in a way that that no culture could be its own culture of

04:04:55.200 openness of open-mindedness and maybe you know and and that could this could just be from my own

04:05:01.040 personal beliefs of what i've seen with like white men that they tend to be so well with my experiences

04:05:07.760 you're like oh my gosh like uh what that's amazing that you have parties so often that you guys have

04:05:13.440 posadas that you guys have like this tradition and i love that because in with within when i was dating

04:05:18.880 my own race it was like expected the woman had to do all these things and it's an expectation i think

04:05:22.640 that's that's a great point to make i think america is such a good place to live because

04:05:29.680 it brings all of those people of tons of different races and says you have something to contribute to

04:05:35.360 this great experiment i want to be able to appreciate asian cultures i want to be able to appreciate

04:05:40.560 african cultures i want to be able to appreciate latin american cultures and i want to adopt the things

04:05:45.520 i enjoy about all of those and i can bring it into my own and then i can express that in my own unique

04:05:51.360 way and show that i am a unique individual and i think that's something that has only been promoted

04:05:58.240 in this country yeah i think that's that's one of the many things that makes america the greatest

04:06:02.480 country on earth yeah because we're so mixed i think also sorry i'm i'm from i'm from poland and i was

04:06:08.880 raised super super catholic my parents my mom was a helicopter parent which was not good for me

04:06:16.080 uh but i think a lot of this comes from a lot of countries i know mexico for example catholic

04:06:22.960 there as well so i think when you when you brought up catholic that that is also why you kind of want

04:06:29.280 to get out of it because my mom and my grandparents were so strict i was beat like my mom would beat the

04:06:37.680 living shit out of me because that's that's part of the culture so butler donated one hundred dollars

04:06:45.440 there are studies that show a large number of sex workers induced racism large march

04:06:51.920 really needs to sort her out her own problems before throwing stone from her glass house let me address

04:06:58.240 this first of all i just lost 40 pounds just wait for another two months i'm gonna look way better than

04:07:02.720 you think secondly i'm not throwing any type of stones at a glass house wait what i'm uh let's

04:07:10.000 wait a little bit longer oh we got grid one grid one motorsports donated one hundred dollars okay how

04:07:16.560 is the skill in me me still talking america's culture saved the world's culture back-to-back world war

04:07:22.960 champions back to back world war camps today where tubby can run her money maker listen sweetheart you will

04:07:30.640 never make the money i have you're not sitting here on a podcast because you're so fucking great

04:07:35.440 sit down stay behind your keyboard little warrior we don't care to hear it i don't know mozart was

04:07:40.240 pretty dope i mean the whole herpes thing's a little like outdated again more people have it talking

04:07:46.480 about the fucking her oh no i'm back on the whole cult white people not having a culture thing i mean

04:07:51.520 well and also back to that that's also why i don't date white people i don't agree with their

04:07:56.240 culture i don't agree with their standards wait what do you mean you don't agree you don't date

04:07:59.600 white people because you don't agree with their culture what do you mean i don't i disagree with

04:08:04.080 yes i don't want to be in america i don't want to be an american i don't want to be here i didn't

04:08:06.960 choose to be here what do you mean i didn't choose to get fucking born i didn't choose to be born in

04:08:11.600 america by my own parents well what i actually want to talk a little bit about this mindset because i think

04:08:16.960 this this is not personal okay uh but i think that this type of mindset is also like poison to a lot of

04:08:23.840 younger generations like gen z i'm seeing a lot of them be forget forget what living in a third world

04:08:29.840 country is like and again i i didn't realize this until you know going back to college of how much

04:08:37.200 power the united states has just with the military and how much influence we have and i'd much rather

04:08:42.320 be here and not have to like walk outside my door and there be like fire bombs and or a war zone

04:08:49.760 because you know that that's what it's like in third world countries so i i actually lived in a

04:08:54.000 third world country for all of my high school and uh where did you live if i'm uh i lived in morocco oh

04:09:00.720 um yeah so i did my high school with uh all moroccan guys and uh yeah it's the goal for everybody in

04:09:10.400 the world is to get to america yeah that is like that is the because it is the most opportunity it it will

04:09:17.200 provide them with the best possible life and i think people in america don't understand how

04:09:23.040 good they have yeah yeah and i mean so wait you don't you object to having been born

04:09:29.680 in the u.s i'm confused there's so yes my family is like my mom's side of the family is all in scotland

04:09:35.840 ireland beautiful places beautiful i'll let you guys come in in a sec no i have not been to other

04:09:43.440 countries as much as i wish i have i've been to a few yes but you said you don't date white people

04:09:49.200 because you don't agree with the culture and then you also hold on truth bomb donated 100

04:09:57.360 the reparations argument is such trash africans sold other i know that especially when the reparations

04:10:04.320 argument comes from the commie non-slave state of ca america is the best nation on the planet

04:10:10.320 okay the one the one instance let me just address this the one instance where i think reparations

04:10:15.280 are acceptable is for people who are left-handed well let me say i'm i said i'm left-handed i

04:10:22.480 suffered i suffered for years in the elementary school with the fucking my i think i i deserve

04:10:32.240 reparations my husband from the state and federal government i want reparations as a left-handed

04:10:38.240 person go ahead i was being facetious i thought it was fucking funny that was it i didn't actually

04:10:43.920 mean that goddamn statement i don't mean that it's it's been what over 100 years since black

04:10:49.200 people have been enslaved wait there's no fucking reason forget the reparations thing let's stick to

04:10:53.360 the the you said that you don't date white people because you don't agree with white people's culture

04:10:59.680 yes from the men that i have had pursuing me and their families their backgrounds what they believe in

04:11:05.360 i don't agree with the last guy you wait the last guy you dated was he white nope and but

04:11:13.920 nickelodeon donated 100 every time abigail looks to her right she looks like she's watching someone

04:11:21.600 scratch their ass and smell their finger abby good luck you're adorable kendra are you sure your last name

04:11:29.040 isn't devito do you have a response to nickelodeon no that's just stupid why would i

04:11:36.880 i'm not giving no he doesn't deserve my energy wow sorry nickelodeon davido is a pretty big deal

04:11:42.880 yeah i mean would you would you smash my uncle i don't know if i'd smash but i'd respect you know

04:11:47.760 i don't know if i'd smash him but i'd be like hey you're you're dope what about like just like

04:11:51.520 free hug at least you know bj no no bj just a free hug yeah uh okay i don't express gratitude like

04:12:00.080 that wait so okay before i have you guys come in i know you guys want to come in um i'm just trying

04:12:04.000 to get a little more understanding explanation of the whole white people uh you don't date white

04:12:09.520 people because you don't agree with the white culture and that you don't like that you were born

04:12:13.520 here in the u.s or something um it's honestly i don't like it is that i would i don't want which

04:12:19.360 country would you rather be i don't okay hold on let me get this clear okay because i i donated

04:12:26.080 99 dollars oh i can only imagine how poorly she treated her man marley quinn is ugly inside and out

04:12:34.160 i hope she finds peace one day you have awoken their wrath it seems yeah i must have hurt someone

04:12:40.960 who hurts you oh you guys keep talking um okay go ahead with your point um what what were you

04:12:51.440 asking me okay well you said you don't date white people because you don't agree with white culture

04:12:54.800 and also you i don't want to misquote you but you said you kind of sound like you were displeased that

04:12:59.840 you were born in the u.s so this is the thing i have to take my time to talk sure these are very

04:13:06.640 old tweets and by old i mean a few months ago before i was okay they're they're old but it's

04:13:11.200 you it's not you said you stand by them yes so hold thank you guys okay let me know when i can talk

04:13:17.280 no go ahead go ahead okay you're good go ahead my point being is right now i am not happy with the way

04:13:24.240 america is i'm not happy being here i don't know what other country i want to go to i've looked into a

04:13:29.600 few my point being is i don't like the way the men are being raised here that's come to me and i go to

04:13:35.440 also the ones who i've dated the ones i pursued i don't like it that's my preference if i could

04:13:42.000 move if i could move to canada or somewhere a little bit safer where i could do my homework and

04:13:46.000 i know i want to go there absolutely and i'm trying to by far worse canada's a big elf but where were

04:13:53.440 okay uh i mean if you don't like it here you could you could leave yeah that's my plan once i have all

04:14:00.320 my money saved up and i have you said you make six figures a year without lifting a finger just from

04:14:04.400 that one i take care of my family i have a house i have a car i have a lot of things in my life i

04:14:08.160 have to make that money to live up to my standards i'll let you guys come in after that thing about

04:14:14.000 life today is there are men out there giving those 304 money every month facts you can lose all the

04:14:20.240 weight you think you need to you're an awful person on the inside you should leave us you're literally the

04:14:27.680 only person to ever call me a bad person in my life yeah she's not a bad person in my life i got

04:14:33.120 it i gotta step in like she's really not a bad person nobody guys okay i'm not gonna sit here and

04:14:37.280 say what i do in my free time but what i do is not what bad fucking people do yeah and it has nothing

04:14:41.760 to do with charity work and shit like that so go ahead and fuck yourself you probably don't do a

04:14:45.600 quarter of what i do charity work what do you mean no i said i'm not going to talk about charity work

04:14:49.520 and shit like that other things i do pablo escobar i mean he was very yeah i know oh my god he can't

04:14:55.520 yeah but that's what i'm saying it has nothing to do with that a lot of people speed it up let's

04:14:59.200 let's start with you and then you go ahead so go ahead with your well first of all i wanted to know

04:15:04.720 more why you think that because like america is multinationality country and you mentioned that

04:15:12.880 your relatives from scotland and ireland do you realize that also that those are white people yes

04:15:19.200 like you can say still out of america again i meant when i said that originally it was america

04:15:24.320 okay but america it's internationality country like i'm from ukraine she's from poland she's

04:15:30.080 jewish my family is jewish like my mom's side is jewish latina i mean america it's like mixed

04:15:38.400 there are so many french there are so many german there are so many people i know i'm one of them

04:15:42.560 and i don't want to date somebody in my bracket yeah but they're so they're so different so there's

04:15:46.800 white italian there's white irish there's white germans and they all have their own culture still

04:15:51.920 within the u.s especially for us with poland my family immigrated from poland but like our families

04:15:58.080 are very different and it's like they're they did i mean her mom's not trying to marry her off to eldon

04:16:04.320 like a weird ass yeah it's it's a different culture religion but what i want to say is like there is no

04:16:10.640 country in the world and i've traveled all over europe i'm i was born in poland i lived in poland

04:16:16.640 i lived in sweden i've been all over europe i've been around the world there is no country in the

04:16:23.280 world that lets you do what you can do that you can do here yeah so if you move to sweden making money

04:16:30.960 the way we're making money forget it and they will take half of your income 64 percent wow taxes

04:16:38.320 that's ridiculous straight up they do give you universal health care but they take a lot and

04:16:42.560 it's shit and everyone travels because to norway to go get health care and work to pay for health

04:16:47.840 care and north so yeah it's like you know it is people it i mean i understand america is maybe not

04:16:55.440 great like there are things happening that are maybe not super great but you know what we're

04:17:00.640 we're a huge country and we're mixed and i think if we just you know work together it can be good and

04:17:08.640 the bad things that are happening right now yes they're maybe not super great but you know what i

04:17:14.160 still love it here and i'm so grateful that i had the chance and that america told me that yes you can

04:17:21.040 stay here and work here because the people i have met here are the most amazing people and most

04:17:27.840 amazing friends and family that i could ever wish for so also i mean i'm so sorry

04:17:37.040 um so yeah i'm just grateful to be here the team america world police button i think the reason why

04:17:43.360 it's so pressing and why a lot of people get so like frustrated i think us who like to live in america

04:17:49.360 who love to live in america is because we're seeing social media pull us apart when in reality we

04:17:54.400 agree on this on the fact that we we've seen i guess both sides of the coin of like what the

04:18:00.320 consequences of living in a third world country and when you come to america it's like fresh air

04:18:04.160 a breath of fresh air we always we used to joke about this but um i think it makes sense now whenever

04:18:09.360 we would cross like from tj to the united states you could tell immediately like just on the roads

04:18:14.240 like it's all rocky and like bumpy and scary and then you just like cross the border and it's like

04:18:20.080 grid one motorsports donated one hundred dollars scaling mimi your wallet is not that big keep

04:18:26.480 selling that fat back and you might get there before you run out of people who will buy it i

04:18:31.040 retired at 45 and paid six figures in taxes you're welcome sweetheart do i need to fuck your dad and

04:18:37.840 give him a child he actually loves i will i'll do it i will i just want to point out grid one motorsports

04:18:46.240 it's u apostrophe re i think right did i get you you are yeah but to finish my point to finish my point

04:18:56.080 i think that a lot of us are frustrated especially myself who's like you know a gen z-er and i'm seeing

04:19:01.200 so much poison in these mindsets of like i want to get out of america i'm like have you ever lived in

04:19:05.120 another country that is not america can we stop being so privileged and so ungrateful and entitled

04:19:10.880 so at least for me because my family comes from like they they did they sacrificed to just come

04:19:16.080 here and give me the opportunities that i had i was the first you know first generation i'm sure that

04:19:20.000 there's multiple of us that were first generation so i think that that's why it unravels a lot of like

04:19:25.280 mixed feelings because those who have lived in impoverished countries maybe see how great it is here

04:19:31.120 i think that that has to do a lot with growing up um privileged and i think americans don't

04:19:37.120 understand how privileged they are comparison to the world um and then they victimize themselves

04:19:41.920 what about those who've been homeless and in jails and shit like me i mean listen i'm not gonna talk

04:19:47.920 about my life but i also didn't really grow up with both my parents but you're not the one saying

04:19:52.240 that you don't like america like i am have you ever tried to be homeless in a third world country

04:19:56.800 no because i'm not going there so listen like i i didn't have i didn't i wasn't given the best card

04:20:03.920 like dealt with the best cards in life and i have a very successful business i raised my daughter have

04:20:09.520 her she's a like a full-time down dancer and this is not to glorify myself but i think that the struggles

04:20:14.880 that i've been through in my life is what has brought me to where i am in my life so i cannot i'm sorry but i

04:20:22.080 i had a daughter at 18 years old her father lived in switzerland my mom is not really big help she

04:20:27.760 needs help from me actually so i cannot like feel sorry for somebody if you are functioning like a

04:20:35.280 perfect functioning adult you should not be homeless i'm sorry i just can't yeah i wasn't a perfect

04:20:40.880 functioning adult at the time and to be i was i'm sorry but when you have trauma in your life which i

04:20:45.200 have had too we all have absolutely everyone deals with it differently and you know what i would

04:20:49.760 have loved to know exactly and i did i was 19 years old and i was homeless i am now 32 i have

04:20:56.240 my own house my own car i pay all my own bills so it took me a while but i got there i'm so sorry

04:21:02.000 but auditioning for play hold on but i'm so sorry but auditioning for playboy at the age of 19 was

04:21:07.200 privileged there's so many people i want i wanted that opportunity i would have loved it i've been a

04:21:14.160 model since i was four years old so yeah it is a privilege i worked very hard to get there yeah

04:21:18.320 well since four years old i've been modeling but you're saying that's sorry sorry the yeah the final

04:21:23.600 point and then yeah the issue is is that if you were dealt that garbage hand in any pretty much any

04:21:30.640 other country in the world to say that too yeah you are stuck there for the rest of your life i i know

04:21:36.640 i know many many families that my family personally knows that they are stuck in their garbage life

04:21:44.000 until they die and until their kids die and their kids die and their kids die unless until the king of

04:21:50.960 that country is no longer there it's yeah yeah in sweden when you get a job when you get that job

04:21:58.080 that's where you work until they carry you out in a body bag the end well at least you don't have a

04:22:03.440 war here yeah yeah exactly yeah yeah so we kind of are the point is that there's a lot of

04:22:11.520 opportunity in this country i just have to say there's a lot of opportunity in this country that

04:22:17.200 a lot of people wish they had that we're not taking advantage of so don't victim don't victimize

04:22:21.440 yourself that's it i'm not never was i'm very proud of my accomplishment i'm not talking about you

04:22:28.240 i'm not bashing you i'm talking about american general they don't understand that's why well

04:22:33.360 you took it that way but i wasn't talking to you okay i should have said i'm apologizing i'm sorry

04:22:37.760 i took it that way i saw and i felt that way okay well i'm sorry you felt like that i took some milf

04:22:43.760 sorry sorry sorry sorry i didn't even press that button it's the perfect time i'm sorry i'm sorry

04:22:48.240 you ain't lying though oh i think you ain't lying though she's hot oh sure yeah i'm just saying okay

04:22:57.280 you are yeah you're pretty okay let's pull up twitch then we need to get two things out of the way

04:23:02.800 then we have some videos from carla here and then your husband's gonna join us here in just a sec

04:23:07.680 i'm gonna bust a nut no what what field it's holding a nut oh my god that was out of pocket

04:23:22.080 he was like that was out of pocket he's coming in and he's like wait holding wall

04:23:28.160 all right let's uh pull it up okay guys twitch.tv session with effort drops the follow drop is a

04:23:32.160 prime sub you know uh jfung thing for the prime uh tt12 thing for the prime oh i think i read

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04:23:44.480 that was funny rare terror two thing for the tier one guys twitch.tv slash whatever drop us a follow

04:23:49.120 drops the prime sub yeah fuck it yo follow me on instagram bd underscore atlas i'm let's let's get

04:23:53.120 me to 40 000 followers i never fucking post i don't give a fuck about instagram so um yeah i'm not

04:23:58.000 really too preoccupied with growing the instagram but let's let's you know i should try okay um so

04:24:04.720 hold on let me see here uh oh okay we have okay question for everybody does body count matter starting

04:24:15.200 with you um i wouldn't say body count but hygiene matters like more than body count like hygiene yeah

04:24:28.880 i hygiene's because honestly like i'm sitting there and i'm like okay if you've had sex with like

04:24:34.400 seven girls versus 15 girls is that seven people really that many people in in terms of my insecurities

04:24:42.640 and anxiety and the answer is no but what i am concerned about is my health and safety and so if

04:24:48.480 i'm okay with those things then it's okay yeah well let me actually i'm going to reframe the question

04:24:53.760 do you because i think tip i think women also can care some women do care about male promiscuity or

04:25:00.400 male's body count but i do think this typically stems more so from men's preferences and i do think men

04:25:06.560 tend to be a bit more vocal about wanting this so do you object to men caring about body count do you

04:25:14.720 think it's why should you care it's insecure or what's your i think that if you're like in a situation like

04:25:22.480 you are i think you should absolutely care because you are prioritizing that factor in your life as

04:25:28.160 well but i think that if you're not a virgin then you absolutely like do not have the right to care

04:25:34.080 and i don't oh you don't have the right you don't have the right to care like i i'm sorry like unless

04:25:38.960 if you're putting it up there as your biggest priority to maintain that in your life then then

04:25:44.240 people and also people lie right like okay if it makes you feel better if i've only had sex with three

04:25:49.040 guys in my life yes i've only had sex with three guys in my whole life i'm not you know it's it's

04:25:53.440 one of those things where people just lie yeah well does anybody here agree with what you just said

04:25:57.840 that that sure if you're mason over here who's also a virgin then you're totally entitled to want

04:26:03.920 that in a partner but if you aren't a virgin or you maybe have had a i don't know handful or perhaps

04:26:10.960 plenty of sexual partners that that is somehow that's a hypocritical or a double standard or you should

04:26:17.840 not have that preference for wanting a woman who with a low body count or who's a virgin does anybody

04:26:24.000 agree with with that i feel like i agree to some extent more of like if they're okay for instance if

04:26:31.200 their body counts 50 or 60 but the girl's 30 the guy's 50 the girl's 60 and he's like i don't know

04:26:37.120 about that one it's like dude you can't really like you can't talk on that it should be equal that's

04:26:42.320 where i agree on that um you know the whole miles on a car we're not cars we're not diners let's not

04:26:49.760 do that please we're humans like well it's not like our vaginas get looser over the time no we can

04:26:55.520 actually make it tighter um well i mean in terms of the car thing i mean i think people use analogies

04:27:02.320 frequently uh i mean you're i'm sure you're familiar with them what analogies are right no i'm a complete

04:27:09.040 idiot no i'm not trying to be condescending but like no i'm just being a smart ass no but like

04:27:14.560 an analogy it's a comparison between two things typically for the purpose of explanation or

04:27:19.520 clarification so if a guy uses some car reference or something he's not he's not like doing that to

04:27:26.160 be like women suck i'm comparing you to a car it's just it's a common rhetorical tool used to

04:27:33.200 better clarify or explain absolutely but doesn't it kind of make you think that if a car has been run

04:27:38.560 down to 250 miles you should either trade it in and get a new one or get rid of it isn't that what

04:27:43.600 men and isn't that as a person you think of that when you have a car that's a logical thought that's

04:27:48.400 what we're i personally don't unless you car comparison typically in this exactly but a lot

04:27:52.880 of people do so my point of that is like when a car hits a certain peak get rid of it that's not fair

04:27:57.440 we wouldn't do that to a man you're always okay no i wouldn't do that to a man how about that for me

04:28:04.240 which butler donated one hundred dollars here we go

04:28:09.280 it's okay more herpes oh my god jay butler get me he's obsessed yeah this is why being a sex worker

04:28:17.040 if filthy for fat-faced sally what side effects has the valtrex given you sweetheart if you want

04:28:24.160 me this bad email me kendra lee ryan at protonmail.com i promise i'll fulfill all

04:28:29.360 she'll dom you she'll dom you butler you clearly need it you keep talking to me he's a urologist oh

04:28:35.120 i have a spectrum i don't i don't want to be rude or anything they're the freakiest people i've ever

04:28:39.600 met him as a doctor yeah he don't worry he only sees penises because he's a urologist it doesn't

04:28:45.200 matter you as a doctor shouldn't be talking like that yeah that's really unprofessional yeah he sees

04:28:50.960 a lot of dicks let's give him a pass i don't think i've heard real doctors describe the human body

04:28:56.480 that way because i don't think they think about human body the same listen we all need to blow

04:29:00.720 off steam in our own ways i don't think doctors get this triggered by the human body yeah but he's

04:29:05.280 in his mom's basement yeah he's not a real doctor i think we're i think we're over he's no he plays

04:29:10.800 operation he's a doctor i think we're overthinking girls but like the thing is like you you do risk

04:29:15.520 a lot more to have you know stuff like that when you have a large body count it's just what it is

04:29:21.040 i mean i still i have never someone put this on the table i have never and i know you guys won't

04:29:25.200 believe this either but i have the test to prove it i've never had an std in this industry since

04:29:29.760 turning 18 i had stds in high school with boyfriends that lied to me and cheated on me

04:29:33.920 so i have never been exposed because you've been more responsible but i'm saying like a lot of the

04:29:37.600 times like absolutely it's you're at more of a risk and more people like civilian people that are not in

04:29:43.280 sex work do not get tested after each partner and from what i found out they get tested twice a

04:29:47.680 year with god knows how many papers so i'll address your point so you were saying that what i want to

04:29:52.480 know is like does this wait go sorry well no you were saying that well it's okay if mason over here

04:29:58.560 wants a woman who's a virgin but a guy who's not a virgin or even a guy who maybe is promiscuous

04:30:03.200 himself or has a promiscuous past he doesn't have i think you said shouldn't have the right to have

04:30:09.920 that preference i mean he has the right but i don't really care what he says you object you i don't

04:30:14.880 you have the right to believe whatever you want i really only value your opinion on that versus well

04:30:21.200 you know what i mean so all from well okay so so i mean my response to that is

04:30:26.320 in order for you to desire something in a partner

04:30:31.520 must you also possess said characteristic or trait so here's the thing i think that there's a yin and

04:30:39.440 yang and there's a like a same type energy that you have with people like there's a certain connection

04:30:45.680 where you have where something's the same you don't mean you bond over that thing being the same and

04:30:50.160 you feel camaraderie over it being the same then there's a different kind of a connection

04:30:54.080 that you experience with somebody when they show you something that you're just incapable of doing

04:30:58.320 for yourself you know what i mean and you're just like wow that is totally outside of the wheelhouse of

04:31:04.160 what i know how to do and that's a very different kind of respect when you witness someone doing

04:31:09.360 something that you know inside you can't do and then it's like wow like that's partnership energy if you

04:31:14.160 like it right you know what i mean but maybe you don't like it's like but to address your statement

04:31:18.400 that you made about how okay well if you're a guy and maybe you've had some fun in your youth maybe

04:31:23.280 your body counts up there that that immediately precludes you from wanting a woman who's not

04:31:29.600 promiscuous or who has a low body count or who's a virgin i would argue that there are plenty of things

04:31:35.360 that both men and women want in partners that they themselves do not possess for example a woman who is

04:31:42.560 broke she's not wrong for finding a billionaire attractive even though she's not a billionaire

04:31:49.120 herself it doesn't make her wrong wrong for finding billionaires attractive it's more that just like

04:31:55.040 if someone said that i'd be like yeah have fun with that opinion you know what i mean like i don't

04:31:58.880 respect it you're allowed to have it you know what i mean like i'm stating my perception well okay

04:32:04.720 here's someone else's opinion yeah here's another example short women liking tall men you need

04:32:11.280 not be a tall woman to find tall men attractive so in that way a man who perhaps has a promiscuous

04:32:19.280 past he has a high body count i think he's perfectly fine if he wants to date a woman with a low body

04:32:26.960 count or who's a virgin there's also the the side note or the the the opposite where you have virgins

04:32:32.960 who are i'm sure there's virgins that are interested in super promiscuous women right and it's like wild

04:32:37.600 card it's like really are you sure you could yeah like i think that there's something for

04:32:41.760 everybody right but i i don't i think that we're kind of beyond the phase of like measuring which

04:32:47.440 thing is the most popular life choice for people because clearly people i don't know i think have

04:32:51.200 such divvying men men are not very i will i think men will never be accepting of a of a high body count

04:33:00.400 for the most part because they're just so like like that's my what's your body count babe hold

04:33:06.000 on hold on my body yeah hold on so i i've always been in a relationship so i don't i'm not you have

04:33:12.160 a low body count right yeah like i'm not i don't do one night stands like i've always been in a

04:33:17.200 relationship that's good yeah okay um cat five uh sorry i'm trying to let me let me give you no no i

04:33:27.120 i wasn't searching for your name i was thinking of what the prompt was for the question okay so

04:33:30.880 we're going around the table do you object to men caring about women's body count yeah do you think

04:33:37.920 it's like a lame preference or it's like they're insecure like why who cares you know i think everybody

04:33:44.480 has a right to care about their own opinion with things obviously okay so sure i mean sure i we can

04:33:50.240 all agree that everybody's entitled to their preferences but do you object to the preference

04:33:57.120 no okay what about you wait um i can't speak i didn't get to say oh you didn't answer i thought

04:34:03.040 oh you didn't answer yeah i thought okay sorry sorry i didn't mean to skip yeah okay you you

04:34:09.600 it does matter i think it does matter not so much for the male this is specifically

04:34:14.640 wait am i answering the prompt right what are we answering oh do you object to men caring about

04:34:19.920 a woman's body count okay well the answer that i or the question that i was answering to was like does it

04:34:25.520 matter uh but i i understand why it would matter just because from hearing a lot of women and working

04:34:33.360 with women who have a high body count they come with me like in tears and sobbing because they have

04:34:39.440 a lot of like past trauma with other men so and they've told me before that the men that they're with

04:34:44.480 don't want to work through that with them and unravel that so i absolutely understand why men would

04:34:50.640 want to be with a woman with a low body count because it's in my opinion i think that each body

04:34:57.040 is like oh my god it's each body is like it's it's baggage so i do think that i mean it would be fair

04:35:06.160 but but they also can't shame or judge judge women for it they can have that preference but they

04:35:12.080 shouldn't shame and judge and i think that that's what we're seeing a lot of shame and judging okay

04:35:15.840 um i personally object to it obviously i would um because i don't care about yours so if you care

04:35:26.960 and again i object for my own reasons and these are people i would be pursuing so i'm gonna object to

04:35:33.600 your um judgment of me because why the fuck would i date you anyways if you're just talking about average

04:35:39.760 man that's your prerogative enjoy it but also i like a man who's experienced i don't like men who haven't

04:35:45.440 been around i like promiscuous people that's what i like that's what works for me and for the record

04:35:51.040 i have never had an actual bad relationship every man has been willing to work through all of my trauma

04:35:56.160 all of my issues all of my body numbers it hasn't been an issue but you have to put the work in on

04:36:00.880 both sides that's what it really is so it's gonna be a lot harder but i'm also very fucking picky too

04:36:07.040 so i'm not gonna let my standards go down just because of my job and my body count

04:36:09.920 okay what about you um well i can tell you from my husband's view um my husband has a high body

04:36:17.440 count um and he told me that straight off the bat what's his body count over 200 okay um but he asked

04:36:25.040 me my body count and it matters to him um and i you know i don't have a high body count and i told him

04:36:32.720 i was like okay cool and i asked him like why does it matter to you um and he was just like i just want

04:36:40.880 and know because it's it's a kind of trust thing you know and he also wants wants to know if i'm

04:36:47.840 promiscuous or not or i've having diseases or if i'm actually going to be in a long-term relationship

04:36:55.360 i think that's more important because he was like you know if if you're somebody that jumps around

04:37:01.600 um that means you're kind of not ready to settle down or have a long-term relationship and he wants

04:37:07.360 to have a he wants to be in a relationship he's not interested in this and that he has had a very

04:37:13.280 few long-term relationships only two actually um well so the question is do you object to men um

04:37:19.440 i don't object it because i i understand where they're coming from sure because i'm a person when i

04:37:25.440 ask somebody hey have you have you done this or have you done that it comes from a place of trust

04:37:31.040 and i kind of want to know can i trust you will you hurt me will you jump around and will you find

04:37:36.800 somebody else that you want to be with when you said the body count i thought we will be talking

04:37:41.280 about medical term and like fat and thin people because like english not my first language but then

04:37:47.600 i understood like what you're talking about yeah uh from my personal perspective i cannot objectify

04:37:53.440 but i do think for girls it matter because for me personally every single connection you make is like a

04:37:59.520 spiritual connection and emotional connection and for my husband it matters but i also like respect

04:38:06.480 other opinions and other people and i cannot like put a line like hey like it's matter for everyone

04:38:12.000 or it doesn't matter for everyone okay um yeah i mean i understand why men don't want a woman with

04:38:19.200 a high body count and i'm not judging it i'm not saying it because of that but i do

04:38:22.640 know that like 95 of men care and i think it's more of like you know just men don't want to imagine

04:38:31.760 i think like and this happens a lot like women can forgive cheating men can't right like it just

04:38:37.600 it's just something that's it's just what it is yeah i can't yeah i can't i can never let's not get on to

04:38:44.400 cheating but um so okay you guys gave your answers on that so i'm curious it sounds like

04:38:50.400 you kind of said body count doesn't matter you can we'll go around the table on this

04:38:54.080 what's your body count lady never reveals her secrets i thought it doesn't matter though i'm

04:39:00.160 still a lady and i don't reveal my secrets holly treats i've got i put a lot out there so there's

04:39:05.040 plenty of find other than body count you should put a little more out there i'm not going to because

04:39:10.240 you said well i mean okay we know we can count we know swingers island for on my only fans we know

04:39:15.040 and we can count the swingers island swingers island and then you said in high school there

04:39:21.120 was one hundred dollars if it matters then my body count is three your ability to hide the fact you've

04:39:28.480 been run through by 10 plus guys is as obvious as your ability to hide the fact you can't move your

04:39:33.840 forehead after botox babe i go to the doctor and say please freeze my face thank you for noticing

04:39:41.120 i pay a lot of money your doctor did a really good job he did he did exactly what i told him to do

04:39:45.520 so hey i'm just gonna say amazing i mean i feel like it's if a man doesn't want that in their life

04:39:53.120 like if they don't want to accept a woman like that like i don't think that you should bash a woman for

04:39:56.720 that either like you know and also by the way i don't want so here's the flip side i don't want a

04:40:01.840 man with a low body count because i don't even care about this conversation right like this is a

04:40:06.860 conversation for people with low body counts i don't care and i don't care what your opinion

04:40:11.420 is i don't want to have sex with you like it's like literally like not in my mind right so i'm

04:40:16.300 like so it's one of those things where when people bring up body count it's just kind of like okay have

04:40:21.180 fun in kindergarten i'll talk to you later like it's it's just like i i it's just such a rudimentary

04:40:25.740 conversation no i think it's an important no it's an important conversation i think it's an important

04:40:29.660 conversation but i don't like i don't engage with that mentality you know what i mean like i don't

04:40:37.260 hang around people who are like so in that rabbit hole you know what i mean so i welcome to the

04:40:42.700 whatever yeah i mean guess i guess this is the whatever podcast but it's so i'm having a little

04:40:47.660 bit of a culture shock right now where this is yeah it's a culture shock where i'm just kind of like wow

04:40:53.340 but i i think it's really important because again a lot of women who want to wait until marriage they

04:40:58.220 go into like social media and they see a whole bunch of promiscuity so they're kind of left with

04:41:02.620 this thought of like and this notion of like okay i should be doing the same thing because it's gonna

04:41:06.700 get me that's a specific lifestyle and it's not until they experience all of these things with

04:41:11.340 different men that they're like oh snap i'm empty i'm sad i'm i have like this baggage so it's a very

04:41:16.860 i know that you might not like to engage in this conversation but i'm definitely i think that it's a

04:41:21.020 very important one for at least i know that the women that follow me a lot of them are kind of like

04:41:25.660 hoping and they're like i'm waiting until marriage but i want to know that it's worth it it might be

04:41:29.580 for some women i don't think it's worth it to wait until again again it might be for oh my god the

04:41:34.300 biggest disappointment of your life like it's not like it's like the worst oh my gosh anyway back to

04:41:41.340 your story i well i would like i i think yeah i think statistically shown that people have the best

04:41:50.700 sex lives are people who have been happily married for their whole lives yeah and that's the only

04:41:55.900 partner they've had when you don't have hold on hold on hold on hold on guys one one at a time

04:42:05.500 so i think it's very it's true you that because it's the only person you've been with and then you

04:42:09.180 don't have to matter about size you don't have to it doesn't matter well okay well think about it

04:42:14.380 think about it this way like so you know so intimately this other person you know them exactly what they

04:42:21.020 like how they like it and you're able to provide that for them and it is constantly learning and

04:42:27.260 getting better and better as you age so i think it it's just true that's not true either i don't know

04:42:35.900 it doesn't get better but that's just um but you're i mean but if you're not comparing if you're not

04:42:42.060 comparing them to 20 other people like then you might like it more i am gonna say like what i know now

04:42:48.380 at 31 like i wish that i waited till marriage like i wish somebody like guided me into that direction

04:42:54.540 because something like one of my friends told me her son just got engaged and both of them are virgins

04:43:00.540 and she was like yeah you know i was like it's beautiful that they're getting married so young

04:43:05.340 and she's like yeah you know it's actually beautiful that they don't have anyone to compare themselves

04:43:09.180 to and i that hit me because i was like wow like sometimes we don't love a person and we're like

04:43:15.260 we could be having sex with them and be like ah this is whack because now you're looking at them

04:43:20.140 through your other experiences you know and so i think there's beauty and being with the

04:43:24.380 same person for the rest of your life let's go around the table on the question what's your body

04:43:28.300 count my husband okay one um i into the i will give a sorry i will give a bracket i will not give a

04:43:38.060 number that's fine um i've done about 50 scenes okay and i've had about 50 to 100 private partners okay i

04:43:44.780 became sexually active at 13. okay so that's you know do you want to do that maybe a range type

04:43:50.540 of thing hell no question not with these people who's these who's these people this entire situation

04:43:57.420 hell no i'm not going to put myself on a cross like that in front of you guys i've done

04:44:01.020 on porn continue down the line yeah it's no cross let's respect no i have standards i respect that

04:44:05.980 yeah i respect her boundary let's respect her boundary stop yes the only and also i don't like

04:44:14.060 that question either that question is super offensive and i won't yeah i don't like that

04:44:17.580 question what what question yeah like it's a woman's private business you don't ever ask

04:44:21.900 it's like you don't ask the woman hold on first off you asked earlier is it okay if i ask about your

04:44:27.020 weight why didn't you ask her about that it's the same thing you asked me earlier how much did you

04:44:31.260 how much do you weigh now if that's okay that's my because your guys first off we're on the podcast

04:44:35.660 having a debate and discussion about this i'm just so you guys don't need to like try to do some like

04:44:42.300 uh like uh shaming and guilt like type of thing like if she doesn't want to answer that's totally fine

04:44:48.220 i moved on but then when you decided to give a range i then brought it back to her if she felt more

04:44:53.500 comfortable to give a range if she doesn't want to answer that's totally fine of course i'm

04:44:58.380 always curious when if somebody who states that body count doesn't matter then shouldn't you ought to

04:45:04.860 context i don't feel safe in this situation you don't i don't feel emotionally safe that's why i

04:45:10.220 jumped in i know how she is if she doesn't feel safe i'm gonna protect her that's why i'm not gonna

04:45:14.140 i'm just not gonna open myself to trauma right i don't want to i'm trying to avoid unnecessary

04:45:21.260 trauma in my life so that question thank you please move on we discussed not picking up trauma

04:45:27.820 for no reason as you go with that that's part of it you're you're not obliged to uh answer the

04:45:33.900 question that's totally fine but yeah i don't need the corresponding attitude that comes with your

04:45:38.300 refusal to answer the question if you don't want to answer the question i feel put on the spot right

04:45:43.340 now and i feel like why don't we just move on with this conversation yeah yeah well i'm gonna continue

04:45:47.660 the conversation if you don't want to answer the actual question that's directed at you i don't

04:45:52.220 that's fine however i'm going to continue talking about um hard for us women to talk about this

04:45:59.980 because we are shamed for it we are shamed for our sexuality i'm sorry but not by you i'm not saying

04:46:08.940 i'm not saying this yes but men are discerning just as women are discerning when it comes to who

04:46:13.660 they choose to partner with so just women have preferences standards and stop interrupting just as

04:46:20.780 women have plenty of standards preferences and boundaries so too do men men are allowed to have

04:46:25.740 preferences standards and boundaries when it comes to who they sleep with uh have long-term relationships

04:46:31.180 with and marry and one of those factors that's very important for men is past promiscuity current

04:46:37.100 current promiscuity and body count but there is a difference if you ask a man who's on here if she

04:46:42.460 was a guy and you asked him and he said i had a hundred dudes on here in the comment yeah you're

04:46:48.700 the king yeah there's differences there's differences yes they are but if a woman says she has a 200 she's

04:46:54.860 a whore yeah so that's and i'm not i can tell you why yes but why is it okay for a man so well this is

04:47:02.300 what i'm saying whatever it's she doesn't want to talk about it because she doesn't she doesn't want to

04:47:08.060 you and that's final that's totally cool i don't need the corresponding attitude in any case to answer

04:47:12.540 your question why is there this supposed double standard and so i don't think that it's actually

04:47:19.420 desirable for men to be particularly promiscuous and sleep with a bunch of women my own personal

04:47:24.300 standard is if i sleep with a girl i want there to be continuity i want to continue seeing her so i'm

04:47:29.420 not interested in just going from chick to chick to chick just like but not one night stand one night

04:47:34.060 stand one night stand sure but but i okay but sure but um i don't think it's necessarily like

04:47:43.180 it's not fucking high value or alpha like if you just sleep with a bunch of women and get herpes

04:47:47.580 and you're now bringing herpes to all your future partners that's not you are no no okay so but i can

04:47:53.340 i can explain why this double standard exists and it's primarily because getting sex for women is

04:48:00.220 incredibly easy whereas it's i agree compare comparatively speaking it's much harder for men

04:48:06.140 any woman if she was so inclined could be a slut not every guy can be a slut agreed there are men who

04:48:11.180 significantly struggle with dating getting laid any woman i she can be overweight she can be ugly

04:48:18.380 if she wants to she can be a slut not every guy her male looks equivalent could not easily be a

04:48:24.300 slut i i i don't disagree with you the the issue here is not all men are respectful in the way you

04:48:30.700 are where you actually want to meet somebody and have a connection okay and that's the men that come

04:48:37.580 at us with the attitude yeah but men get shamed for for all kinds of things also they're not i'm not

04:48:43.100 saying they're not i'm absolutely not saying but it's not affecting their insecurities and their

04:48:48.220 confidence the way it affects us let me ask the table question is hookup culture a bad thing

04:48:52.300 yes terrible okay so you cannot have the corresponding belief that hookup culture is a

04:48:57.740 bad thing but we can but but shaming the behavior that that facilitates hookup culture

04:49:06.540 is undesirable shame is a very powerful tool and frankly i think we ought to shame let's say i i'm

04:49:13.180 trying to figure out how i best want to frame this uh we should bring back shaming yeah i'm in favor

04:49:18.380 of shaming i do i do agree with you the thing is what all women are different right all women

04:49:24.140 have gone through different trauma when it comes to relationships and when it comes to sexuality and

04:49:30.940 i think well they have sure yeah sure as well as men have i'm not saying men are not without sexual

04:49:37.820 trauma women and men men don't talk about it which is a shame because i think they should because there

04:49:43.500 is sexual trauma for men as well and it should be discussed but i'm not going any any bad way i'm

04:49:50.220 just trying to say that we want to discuss different things 701 donated 100 kendra this is brian's

04:49:59.260 podcast we understand you are triggered by the question you are the guest be respectful and don't

04:50:05.740 give him that sass while telling him what to do on his show it's called wait am i does he think i'm

04:50:11.420 kendra no it's me i don't know actually well it was you three and then you being like the the

04:50:18.860 sisterhood i mean to this question but it's it's all we're here for a reason to have you to discussions

04:50:23.900 and get there if you found it disrespectful i'm sorry i was just getting i just did yeah and i'm

04:50:29.100 apologizing to you not them because they're the ones paying to talk so go ahead keep paying to talk

04:50:34.620 to us i appreciate it thank you but carla i mean or uh kendra no no well you're carla uh you objected

04:50:41.420 to me asking the this question um perhaps you think it's rude to ask a woman's body count but i mean

04:50:47.500 in one of your videos which we're going to get to here in a sec you say that within the my understanding

04:50:53.020 you advise women within the first three dates to your husband if i recall you found out his credit

04:50:59.500 score his bank statements hell yeah you found out um how much money he had saved yeah yeah okay so if

04:51:07.260 women are able to ask that question i think i didn't ask that question oh well he just shared it

04:51:13.340 okay that's fine he was proud he was proud he was confident okay yeah sure that's fine do you advocate

04:51:18.700 for women asking for that information so usually that's a great question i usually say no i say that a

04:51:25.100 man who's like happy where he's at where like we want to meet men who are at their peak i say they

04:51:30.140 will naturally just show you and you'll if if you are like i'm not showing that well no no i know it

04:51:37.180 depends right it depends it depends and i was in a and it depends what type of woman you have in front

04:51:41.900 of you because you'd be surprised when you find that woman that and like truly like inspires you to

04:51:47.260 be the best man you want to be like you do things that you never thought you would and that's a man in

04:51:52.300 love so uh i actually tell my ladies to not ask to let him kind of like show you because i think it's

04:51:59.100 a little rude and most of the time um provider mindset men are men who are at their peak and

04:52:04.700 extremely confident where they are and they want that woman they want to show them the resources this

04:52:08.860 is what i got is this enough for you because that's what he's saying whenever a man shows you

04:52:12.780 everything he's like is this enough for you can you live within my means can you live within this okay

04:52:17.500 we can come to that later um so i don't i going around the table you said that there were 50 you

04:52:23.740 did 50 scenes and 50 200 in your private life people not men sure what about you okay i'm just gonna

04:52:32.060 say hell yeah let's fucking go okay i don't really care because i respect myself no i used to not really

04:52:38.300 save it by the tts life donated 101 dollars concerning the two 403s if body count is deemed

04:52:46.620 insignificant discussions should be less sensitive sure it's evident that the matter holds importance

04:52:52.700 despite attempts to downplay it filthy filthy that's true that's true if it didn't matter it wouldn't be

04:52:57.900 such a touchy subject go ahead anyway it's 28 i used to not have very good respect for myself when i was

04:53:04.140 younger and i wish i would have gone back in my own and told my younger self respect yourself and

04:53:09.100 it's going to be okay and you'll find someone good so 28 okay well first off i just want to say i

04:53:13.740 appreciate your honesty because uh and for being willing to answer the question because certainly you

04:53:18.300 know there's some people have hesitation when it comes to answering that and i certainly appreciate

04:53:22.700 your candor and forthcomingness with uh answering that question so um yeah yeah respect like honesty

04:53:30.140 yeah always always respect on honesty so yeah it it seems like you've done a lot of like emotional

04:53:36.300 work to work through that absolutely so yeah i think that's it's important and i'm reading the chat

04:53:41.500 here all the chat they're saying like respect yeah exactly respect for the honesty so yeah

04:53:46.700 thank you appreciate it yeah but one question you're currently saving yourself for marriage

04:53:52.060 yeah absolutely but you think you'll like follow through with that you think i would like to

04:53:57.340 i mean if the peace ring didn't happen you would have let's be real yeah i would have yeah i would

04:54:03.260 really like she was led by a good man yeah okay i would i have faith in you you did it okay i mean

04:54:09.420 i know how i have willpower to do it so and was this like was there a because we've heard you know

04:54:14.780 there's these terms was there a phase that oh like a bulk of these yes yes was there a certain like

04:54:24.380 five years well because you're you're 22 correct yeah so was there a phase like were you in college

04:54:31.340 did you go to college no i actually went through firefighting school oh firefight really yes okay

04:54:37.020 yeah it was are you a firefighter um i used to just do volunteering for about four years but um i went

04:54:44.380 through firefighting school right after i got out of high school and it was awesome but the pay wasn't

04:54:50.060 good enough so i decided to branch out and do my own thing but i still go out and see the guys and

04:54:54.860 say hi at the station and stuff so i'm still part of that community okay all right um and uh so

04:55:03.260 tell us about the fate was it was there a phase there was in high school oh it was in high school

04:55:09.020 it was like junior year wait so okay you're 22 so junior year so you were what 17 uh yeah 16 17 right when i

04:55:18.300 got a car pretty much okay yeah i wanted you got the car freedom it lasted about it lasted like a

04:55:25.340 couple months it was like a party phase it wasn't all the it wasn't all the guys in the couple months

04:55:30.460 but i wanted to have fun and see what was out there and i was like no this is not for me by the time you

04:55:35.260 graduated in high school by the time you're 18 if you had to put a number to it do you know how many

04:55:39.500 i would say like 14 probably when i graduated 14 okay 14 when you graduated it was really sporadic

04:55:51.900 i really tried to date people and it's like they would just leave and i do believe like if you give

04:55:58.060 it up quick a guy will almost not respect you and almost leave in a way not necessarily

04:56:02.700 i i don't think so some guys i think all my long-term relationships yeah well i had to learn

04:56:09.820 special you're special i'm a special boy it is true and i know coming from me it's a little ironic

04:56:14.700 but since i got single i've been making everyone wait two to three months and it's worked pretty

04:56:19.260 fucking good well i mean it's for what i need out of it like if you respect your respect yourself

04:56:25.740 people will respect you and that's that's a big part of it and i did not respect myself back then

04:56:31.100 so i i think some men use the whole if she sleeps with a guy too soon sleeps with me too soon i don't

04:56:38.620 respect her thing i i don't really think that that's the best metric for assessing somebody's

04:56:44.460 long-term potential uh me personally i i think that there's much stronger indicators when it comes to

04:56:52.220 long-term compatibility or values or you know potential promiscuity than the rapidity with which

04:57:00.060 somebody sleeps with you because i mean there's my own personal experience most of my long-term

04:57:06.300 relationships um many of which were very healthy and fantastic yeah second date you know second time

04:57:14.540 hanging out um so there's definitely much better metrics not metrics there's much better things that

04:57:21.340 you can look at to assess for potential promiscuity for example i agree with that as well and also i'm just

04:57:26.940 not a big fan of like arbitrarily waiting um so yeah yeah it's just yeah yeah so well yeah it honestly

04:57:36.540 i guess it just depends on like your partner and also their beliefs when you come into a new relationship

04:57:43.100 like you want to respect them so that they respect you as well i mean obviously the last guy i was

04:57:49.980 seeing we decided to have sex and do that as well because we were very we had a lot of strong feelings

04:57:56.380 for each other and sometimes i can get overwhelming and you just you do it and it happens obviously but

04:58:02.540 if i'm with someone that also would want to wait till marriage just like i do if i get into that

04:58:08.540 relationship then i will and i'll respect that okay what about you probably between 25 and 30 okay

04:58:16.460 i'm like i'm 40. respect the honesty thank you um but also i was in a bad place when most of that

04:58:23.180 happened i my mom was super abusive so i just tried to find love wherever i could and i thought that was

04:58:29.100 the right way to do it because if guys want to have sex with me that means i'm worth something you know

04:58:35.260 because of my mom um but yeah i wish do i wish i didn't yeah of course but you know you live and

04:58:42.060 learn and yeah that's the way it is eight i'm not so interesting okay you're still interesting

04:58:49.820 i bet those are the best date of your life baby um so

04:58:56.620 don't i know you're gonna like hate me for this but i don't feel comfortable with talking about

04:59:00.460 stuff like that because i know my husband's watching and i want to respect him that's fine

04:59:03.900 um mason oh yeah uh zero zero the hand okay um yeah all right i think we covered body count pretty

04:59:22.060 much okay we have one thing and then that go that's going to lead us into some of carla's videos here

04:59:27.820 and then we'll get try to get the husband up i reckon uh hold on let me get these let me get these

04:59:32.380 chats in here um oh did i miss shit hold on fuck i think i one of the chats fell off i'm gonna have

04:59:38.780 to double check that while we're checking on that though still trying abigail what's the word six five

04:59:43.980 blue collar 40 acres you can bring me lemonade while i chop wood till the garden and build your home gym

04:59:51.100 how do you feel about homeschooling six kids i'm here for it yay she's here for it we have

04:59:59.580 can we come to the wedding um as long as you don't make a scene we'll be nice okay you can

05:00:05.900 come to the wedding all right i'll bring my boots and my cup i have my guns do it then we have derpington

05:00:11.660 here that accidental button press was accurate though brian definitely a milf and all of a sudden

05:00:17.740 or excuse me in all of the women in this panel she's the most wife material likely

05:00:22.700 wait which likely oh okay i think the milk yeah oh okay yeah yeah thank you guys that's the nickname

05:00:30.700 for the night the milk it took some milf all right we have oh did instant three four

05:00:39.660 i think i thought i don't know why that got triggered my bad my bad my bad okay i'm just

05:00:45.020 double checking because i feel like i missed one of these hold on guys one sec while while i

05:00:50.940 wait so are 403 and 304 interchangeable like does it mean the same thing it's an insult term but does

05:00:56.700 it mean the same thing if they're both and if it's like not the right numbers but can somebody like

05:01:00.860 fill me in yeah it's like their way of basically just being like online troll or whatever they want

05:01:07.420 like it's it's like their their version of like i have no idea yeah because there's so many comments

05:01:11.820 that i just yeah yeah so did i pull up the puffy vegas i'm not totally sure the origination of it

05:01:17.980 but it basically just means evil whore witch on the internet wait guys nick did i pull up the put

05:01:26.460 the puffy vegas one okay you know so hold on guys stop it's a promiscuous woman that's what 304 is

05:01:33.500 okay uh puffy vegas i'm sorry i'm not able to pull it up on screen but this is from puffy vegas thank

05:01:40.300 you man that every woman on the face of the earth referring to the asian video no man will ever get

05:01:46.140 tired of that the reason why you believe that is because your female friends are lying to you

05:01:51.580 in reference to the bowing video i believe thank you puffy vegas i wouldn't i wouldn't get bored

05:01:58.140 she says i'd get bored i wouldn't get bored never get bored every one of my friends that are married

05:02:02.700 yeah no you're wrong sorry they all get bored they all get over it the husbands they all get over it

05:02:09.260 get over the bowing the bowing yeah so that's when the dynamic changes in their relationship

05:02:14.060 and they end up becoming partners they stop being submissive and domination or submissive and dominant

05:02:18.700 are you saying that you have like a swath swaths of married friends that bow very close so yeah

05:02:26.460 they did and then they literally bowed i mean no no they weren't like no but they would do the cooking

05:02:33.660 the cleaning the shoes oh no i everything down to a tee we're talking about literally bowing yeah

05:02:38.540 i'm talking i'm talking like actually like sorry i thought it was the figurative wait abigail can i

05:02:43.420 see a bow a little bow a bow check let's do a bow check just stand up can you stand no you gotta

05:02:49.660 stand up and do stand let me let me see a bow all right let's see let's see the bow

05:02:55.180 check my legs i'm cramping up me too a bow check nice beautiful that's pretty good i give it like

05:03:04.060 a b minus it's good it's good it's left please oh okay you know practice makes perfect practice

05:03:12.780 okay um oh nick can you pull up that one from stifler this is going to lead into our carla videos

05:03:20.220 finally here at the end of the show ask everyone to rate their looks on a scale of one to ten

05:03:26.460 we're gonna go around the table on this starting with you go ahead like me rate my own looks yeah

05:03:31.740 your own physical appearance oh i mean in my mind i'm like an 11 but in these guys minds they're gonna

05:03:37.420 be like that three or four is like a two so it's let's say average five what what no nobody here

05:03:46.300 thinks that i i don't i don't even know what to answer anymore i i'm probably like i'm probably

05:03:52.300 like seven on on like an average day like i feel like i average seven then i can dress myself up

05:03:57.900 all right okay okay all right i was gonna say that i was average too i think i'm an average and just

05:04:06.060 because if i'm average and i can get this life that i have then all the other ladies can have the

05:04:11.260 same thing can they though they can well the women that do work with me and the women that follow me

05:04:17.180 there's so many women who feel less than and i don't want more women to feel less than if i say

05:04:23.020 like i'm an 11 out of 10 i'm a 10 out of 10. i'll just say that i'm average okay what about you it's

05:04:29.260 just appearance just look yeah just appearance i'm a five for just appearance i'm a five for my personality

05:04:34.220 so i'm a 10. i think that's how math works you heard it here first it's called girl math girl math

05:04:39.500 girl math abigail what about you i'm gonna go six okay i still have room to improve everybody does

05:04:46.540 all right okay i'm a solid five oh into the mic i'm a solid five okay all right i would say six

05:04:53.740 okay we got a humble group here yeah my goodness i was gonna say eight oh my god these alarms i'm

05:04:58.700 sorry guys i live on them and it's not birth control because i'm not on it um uh i would say

05:05:04.780 how many um any yeah mason what about you uh i say probably seven and a half eight on a good day

05:05:13.420 okay all right good pump going can we see the double buys again yeah the double buy

05:05:18.620 it's a 12. it's a 12. it's a 12. it's a 12. it's a virgin it's now a 15. you just went up and mark

05:05:26.700 your value baby you get the pq yes wait do we get to rate if we have a pump as well because

05:05:32.620 oh are you saying are you trying to have you got the double buy a leg pump oh i'm all about the leg

05:05:38.860 pump oh my legs my quads oh shit wait what is a butt pump it's like it's when you do it okay so it

05:05:47.420 pumps your muscles it's not like a pump to go in no no no no no no no no no no no no no it's called

05:05:54.060 hard work okay okay you're pumping your butt my abs are popping then i feel like yeah but it's i give

05:06:02.940 i give i used to give myself a six but i've gained a little bit of weight so i've downgraded myself to a

05:06:08.460 five no no i'm getting a little chubby my face is getting a little chubby i need to lose a bit

05:06:14.540 of weight i'm working on it though i'm working on it you know it's stressful life i'm a personal

05:06:19.500 trainer i can help okay we could talk after the show okay we'll talk we'll talk i might be in missouri

05:06:25.820 but i do online as well all right okay all right um okay so uh wait hold on let me just

05:06:34.460 double check we could just pull up the video but i had some actually pre-notes before

05:06:38.380 that um what oh why are you rolling your eyes on the video are you ashamed of your own videos

05:06:46.620 no no it's not that it's not that i'm ashamed i just think i've done a lot of growing since that

05:06:51.500 video because i re-watched and i was like oh my gosh i had a pic misha moment that was like my

05:06:55.740 pic misha moment from the video that you're about to pull me well i have a lot i've we have like 15

05:07:00.860 videos from you line them up i'm not gonna lie we so the uh we we went through like you have like

05:07:07.900 hundreds of tick tocks i do yeah but i've done a lot of growing yeah i've done so no no no you can't

05:07:15.660 walk back you can't walk back your position i'm not i'm not gonna walk back my positions but i

05:07:20.380 definitely i i mean i've been a year and a half married now like i've definitely there's been a lot

05:07:25.660 of maturity and a lot of growth well i've got a ton of notes on all of this so actually wait wait

05:07:31.900 sorry before i'm sorry before we do the video keep um let's look at the news articles because there's

05:07:37.420 some news articles we'll just glance over those really quick nick start with the new york post

05:07:40.940 one i think um just just for some context here for everybody i'm a dating coach there's one thing

05:07:46.940 you must say on the first date uh there's nothing too interesting in this article but scroll down nick can

05:07:51.100 you hit that x on the cox internet yep that yep was engaged to the love of her life in just six

05:08:00.060 months now she wants to help other eligible bachelorettes find their perfect matches the 24

05:08:05.740 year old internet sensation who boasts one million followers on tick tock advises all the single ladies

05:08:11.500 to talk about one crucial thing on their first dates their goals but never their past never the

05:08:17.580 press that's a good one yeah okay like maybe body count would be good not the first i'll explain

05:08:23.980 i'll do it well that's not the most important thing so okay we can next article these are the more

05:08:28.940 the prince of the book excuse me the price of romance i'm a 23 year old relationship coach

05:08:33.740 women are precious investments men who can't afford to pay shouldn't be dating yes now did they

05:08:40.940 misquote you or is this kind of would you consider this like your position yeah that's definitely my

05:08:46.380 position okay well there's one other article nick and then we'll go back to the sun okay so this

05:08:52.540 is the mirror i'm a relationship oh my god jeez i can't speak tonight i'm a relationship expert guys on

05:08:58.300 low salaries shouldn't bother dating and these are pretty uh go back to the sun though we'll pull from

05:09:03.900 that one okay scroll down relationship coast no wait wait up you miss i'm gonna read scroll up

05:09:11.980 a relationship coach insists that women are precious and men who can't afford to pay shouldn't

05:09:17.660 be going on dates carla ellia 23 earns her leaving earns her living teaching women how to find the

05:09:23.500 right man for the life they want she believes being treated right is the bare minimum okay next go down

05:09:29.820 uh keep scrolling okay there's some photos some pretty flowers she said women's time is more

05:09:36.220 precious than men's and they should be treated accordingly lives in san diego um believes women's

05:09:43.580 time is more precious so they should be looking for a romantic partner as a provider claims that many

05:09:48.300 clients struggle to find the perfect man insists the right man to date is one with a provider mindset

05:09:53.500 because they will give their partner the best treatment this includes paying for all their

05:09:57.420 dates before they've entered into a formal relationship and buying them gifts and flowers

05:10:01.500 uh controversially she said men who can't afford a woman shouldn't be dating in the first place

05:10:07.420 because they must add value to a woman's life to be worthy in my experience women are scared of

05:10:11.980 speaking their standards they think there are no men like this out there scroll down a little bit more

05:10:17.340 um to find these men you have to step into the energy of i'm worthy i'm healing and i'm not making

05:10:23.900 decisions from a place of insecurity we shouldn't be treated equal to men we should be treated as women and

05:10:29.020 we're special we should be treated as precious a man needs to understand he has to be in a financial

05:10:33.900 place to invest in a woman we are investments i know i can afford my lifestyle and if someone can

05:10:39.740 can afford and add value to that i would say thank you next um scroll to the very top nick just the very

05:10:45.660 top so just the title of the article um women are precious investments men who can't afford to pay

05:10:53.660 a woman who can't afford to pay for a woman who can't afford to pay for a woman who can't afford to

05:10:58.060 be dating um sometimes with these like tabloid websites they can misrepresent or try to paint

05:11:01.980 it in a certain way that isn't totally accurate so i just want to get it from you like do you

05:11:07.180 co-sign that you is that your position or is there nuance or what what yeah i mean i think that that's

05:11:14.300 why my content kind of goes viral because it's very controversial to say like if you can't afford a woman

05:11:19.100 like don't date in the first place but i think that if we stepped into this mindset of like i'm

05:11:23.980 not going to be with a man that can't afford it i think it'll protect us as women and i think that

05:11:28.860 that's the way that we should be doing it and it also forces men to like get up and do something get

05:11:32.780 up and work and it forces them in a way to like because if we set the bar of like if you can't afford

05:11:38.540 me you can't be with me men would get the like the initiative to want to work and to want to perform

05:11:45.180 the best of their abilities too sure and also i think women just i um there's a lot of women who

05:11:54.060 just think that what you feel is enough and the matter of fact is i'm i don't agree i think that

05:11:59.180 in the beginning of a relationship you should be very logical and think with your head instead of

05:12:02.780 your heart as a relationship matures you can think with both but in the beginning you have to be wise

05:12:08.700 and that's why i always say ladies be wise and i'm not saying that i didn't love my husband when i

05:12:12.540 married him i loved my husband because of the way that he loved me and i think that if we

05:12:20.060 have that standard as like the bare minimum a lot of more women would be happy and a lot

05:12:24.140 of more men would be happy because they would they would feel accomplished and they would feel

05:12:27.580 worthy of and they would be able to attain the women that they so call high value and so do you

05:12:32.700 think that broke men should not date absolutely broke men like financially and mentally sure

05:12:40.540 like it's not just sure well let's let's say it's just financially okay they're otherwise good

05:12:46.620 men but they're not in a good financial place let's say well a good man is gonna be in a in a

05:12:53.820 well i mean i i don't think if you're poor that that makes you a bad person so it depends like if

05:13:02.780 you're 30 and you're saying that i don't agree with that but if you're 21 i think a man if you're 21 18

05:13:08.220 and you're poor i get it but if you're 31 40 and you're still broke there's something wrong with

05:13:12.780 you yeah i i don't necessarily no i i mean looks uh i don't think you're a bad person though i'm not

05:13:21.980 saying you're a bad person but i think that there's something there's some like limiting beliefs and

05:13:25.260 some issues there well i mean some people happen to you know there can be financial ruin that you know

05:13:32.700 some things are out of your control for example you know but again we were we were just saying a

05:13:36.940 little bit ago that america is the best country to live in and like we have i don't disagree with

05:13:40.620 that well yeah but like you know you could be on well i think most people perhaps i'll let this come

05:13:47.020 in derpington 701 donated 100 you're supposed to have that mindset when you're a virgin and not run

05:13:54.940 through in carla's defense she's a virgin i didn't know this but she is she was a virgin before she

05:13:59.900 met her husband so i think that's why they said it because they paid attention that she was a virgin

05:14:03.580 yeah yeah yeah yeah yes so like that and that's that's another reason why i had these standards i

05:14:07.980 was like if i'm gonna date i'm gonna put myself in the dating market you know considering that i've

05:14:12.620 done all and put in the hard work just as yourself you know i i'm expected to be taken care of because

05:14:18.380 i also come from a household where i was nurtured taken care of and i lived in a certain tax bracket

05:14:23.420 right you know and i want the same thing i'm not going to disappoint my parents by them sacrificing

05:14:28.140 you know the life of coming to united states and marrying into someone that can't give me that

05:14:31.420 right and at least to address derpington thing and the whole virginity thing i would certainly argue

05:14:35.740 that women who are virgins are in a much stronger say uh negotiating position and have much more

05:14:42.380 leverage to be demanding certain kinds of treatment so um but to bring it back to the whole broke thing

05:14:49.660 like for example a guy what if he has some sort of uh he's in his 30s and he has some catastrophic

05:14:57.660 medical thing that just wipes out his all his financial savings because of health reasons that's

05:15:04.300 what happened with my ex that's what happened so to me you know like you know so okay so there's so

05:15:11.740 there's different perspectives like if i was married to a man that already like my husband if that happened

05:15:15.900 to my husband i'm gonna fight for my husband but if i was like a boyfriend a girlfriend relationship

05:15:20.220 and that happened to him that is not my like that is it's unfortunate to say but that's not my burden

05:15:26.140 to bear everybody has different standards of course and it's very unfortunate that that happens but

05:15:31.500 like i said it depends on what the woman you know on what the woman wants and everything's okay within

05:15:36.700 a marriage but marriage protects you everything outside of that for me personally it wouldn't be a

05:15:43.340 good investment sure well so okay so you think so oh did we go around the table fully oh so do you think

05:15:50.780 broke men should not date i think you did you get we gave you said they should not i don't think they

05:15:59.340 should you should focus on your other stuff and then dating will be easier and it's just a timing thing

05:16:05.580 um kind of like what you were short short answers yes um even if you're rich before no if you're broke

05:16:12.060 now you should not you can't shouldn't be dating you can't are you investing that at least any of your

05:16:16.460 your money into you that's the main thing that i think about i think that if they have something

05:16:21.260 lined up to provide like in the soon future then it's fine to date if you're broke because like

05:16:26.220 college students they date all the time and they're broke but they have something lined up

05:16:30.620 i've dated one and i mean it is what it is yeah most people in college they don't have money you know

05:16:36.620 i mean i had to provide for a little bit and then and then it was fine after that i mean they provide

05:16:42.620 after that you do what you have to do if you really love someone um i don't know i don't care that

05:16:47.420 much okay okay yeah okay so you'd be fine with i mean broke i'd date i mean yeah okay like i would

05:16:54.540 be fine as well if i'm looking for dating if i'm looking for transaction transaction yeah like we talked

05:17:00.060 about like sugar that is before and if it's like a relationship lined up in the transaction that's one

05:17:04.780 thing but if you're looking for connection this way and dating that's a different thing no no no

05:17:09.500 like my husband was wrong can you scoot your mind this way go ahead go ahead yeah when like when we

05:17:14.300 started dating my husband was broke okay so um i mean i don't think they can't they shouldn't be

05:17:20.540 dating i think that are you married or in a relationship i'm married oh you're married wait

05:17:26.060 yeah oh wait i thought okay because you said you were in a relationship if no i said i'm married no

05:17:33.500 she said she was married really yeah oh i i i wrote that down i just i knew i heard relationship

05:17:39.500 four years but i knew you're married okay so we got married married married wow okay that's

05:17:45.580 new for the whatever whatever podcast we have chronically single people mostly okay uh

05:17:52.620 i feel rushed okay i i get like the point i think that um in the best case scenario men maybe should focus

05:17:59.740 um on their finances before they um pick like their life partners but i don't think it necessarily

05:18:05.580 has to like you know i mean i do believe in building together with your partner too so i mean i should

05:18:12.620 broke men date should broke men date it's just the thing is like how broke though like are they like

05:18:18.060 broke just whatever your sense of broke is oh it's just it's such a weird like like would you accept an

05:18:23.100 ice cream date for the first date i totally would yeah yeah i would yeah no i would accept an ice

05:18:28.460 ice cream date uh-oh best ever uh-oh carla they're turning on you they're turning on you

05:18:34.620 the type of date does not know whether or not he's broke it's more so i agree kind of like hey do you

05:18:39.020 need me to pay every time we go out yes hey are we limited on what we can do because of your income

05:18:44.060 your financial situation and do i have to cover your back yeah so question for carla um what about

05:18:48.780 getting married so broke men shouldn't date should i assume definitely shouldn't get married right

05:18:53.980 no and they're what yeah no wait question what about what about having kids should broke men have

05:19:00.140 kids no that's a tough one you can't i will say there are broke there are men who do the same thing

05:19:09.500 right where it's like they have women taking care of them so i i do think that if there's someone out

05:19:15.020 there that will love you and you guys can help each other then do it because there are broke men

05:19:19.020 getting married to rich women but like quick quick points quick points my my stepdad made

05:19:26.140 sixteen hundred dollars a month but he was the best dad i could ever ask for

05:19:30.940 that's beautiful yeah so i mean it really depends if because my parents i come from a combined like

05:19:36.380 i'm adopted i haven't uh my stepdad adopted me my dad and my mom my mom was a single mother of two

05:19:41.660 and my dad was a single father of one so like it really just depends like if i'm and i've said this

05:19:47.260 before in my videos like if i'm coming into relationship childless i'm expecting for my

05:19:50.780 partner to come into the relationship childless as well yeah but but are you saying like should

05:19:54.620 broke people not why i don't know if it should say broke men or broke people perhaps could be the case

05:20:00.620 both but do you think broke men should not have kids maybe i should i mean they i mean they shouldn't

05:20:07.340 like what shouldn't yeah they shouldn't that poor baby like poor kids what type of life do you want

05:20:12.460 them to be raised that like broke men shouldn't have a lineage period yeah broke men shouldn't have

05:20:17.340 a lineage they shouldn't that's no they shouldn't my dad's yeah my dad's a broke man and he has four

05:20:25.180 kids from four different men should not have a link they shouldn't it's tough to listen to it's tough but

05:20:33.980 think about it but poor does not mean they wouldn't take care of their kids okay the way you do one

05:20:40.780 thing is the way that you do everything i'm not saying like again going back to like if you're 40

05:20:45.980 and you're 45 and you're broke like hello it's a very fine and thin line that we're we're crossing

05:20:51.420 here but i think from all the things that we've seen time and time again single mothers like i just

05:20:56.220 want that suffering to stop and it comes and it stems from broke men they're single well not again

05:21:01.980 not just financially but i want to point out like you guys are both both from orange county right which

05:21:06.860 is a fairly wealthy very affluent area and it sounded like what you guys admit uh said earlier

05:21:12.780 was that a lot of these parents are kind of out of the picture a little bit even though they're very

05:21:18.700 wealthy yeah depending on who you are in orange county sure not everybody i'm not saying all

05:21:23.180 wealthy people are just totally checked out but even being having wealthy parents doesn't mean that

05:21:28.380 they're going to necessarily be good parents oh absolutely not medicine my mom like money is not

05:21:33.260 right before my mom died she was the best mother she was able to be but she had no money i mean i

05:21:40.700 was cooking potatoes for two weeks on my own right like she was broke but she was the best but you

05:21:45.500 saying broke people should not have but she was a mom i'm not saying broke people oh you said broke

05:21:50.060 men you said broke men should not have a lineage and and listen and listen i know i know it is a it's

05:21:56.060 a very hot take but listen again even if you're wealthy or even if you're rich with money doesn't

05:22:00.380 mean that you're really wait wait i have a follow-up question let's say you were the dictator of

05:22:04.700 america would you ban poor men like would you would you ban yes poor men from having children

05:22:18.620 yes i love you so

05:22:21.260 i'll let you guys come in but i have quite a few follow-up questions here so um so do you think

05:22:30.940 do you think if anybody is on any sort of and i'm going to shout out uh andrew wilson from the

05:22:36.060 crucible here because he uh helped he helped me out a little bit with this but do you think if the

05:22:42.700 let's say the man or perhaps even the woman if they're on any sort of government or state assistance

05:22:47.660 that they should not date or have children because they're they're poor and well i mean

05:22:52.380 it's like the veterans get help sure i'm saying like perhaps just someone who's not a veteran

05:23:00.140 i mean i feel like i'm almost it's almost uh redundant to be asking this question because

05:23:04.060 you've already said that uh well no i think okay well first of all i i know that this is going to

05:23:08.860 sound very awful because of the current economy and with inflation i understand all those points and i

05:23:13.420 get it don't walk back no i'm not no no i'm not but the thing is like i also don't want to ignore

05:23:18.300 the fact that what we just stated that america was the best country in the world hold on jackson

05:23:22.940 donated one hundred dollars the one that was lucky enough to be adopted into a wealthy family

05:23:28.380 telling broke men specifically they shouldn't procreate is the irony i needed today who was

05:23:33.580 adopted actually i was adopted oh wow well you said you were adopted no no but he wasn't wealthy though

05:23:39.820 okay so but no but your mom your your mom is your my biological mother but my stepdad adopted me

05:23:46.140 yeah yeah i think but he's just for clarification i don't think you were adopted in the sense that

05:23:50.460 you were an orphan no no no i wasn't an orphan no no no okay and was your family uh your stepdad

05:23:55.820 and your mom were they they weren't wealthy they they grew up to be but again that's what i'm saying

05:24:00.460 like you turned out exactly yeah absolutely despite the fact that it sounds like perhaps your parents

05:24:06.220 weren't like the most financially they weren't but so why ben so no no listen how old was you

05:24:12.300 were you when your stepdad came into your life i was not particularly relevant okay so uh when my first

05:24:20.220 my when my parents met again going to the building thing they weren't making a lot of money like that

05:24:24.860 my mom was on welfare i've lived that life with my mom and then my dad came into the picture two incomes

05:24:31.020 and my dad worked his way up his way up because my mom was like oh i'm not working i'm staying with

05:24:37.020 the kids wait your parents were on welfare no no my parents weren't my parents weren't on welfare my

05:24:41.900 mom was on where welfare okay when my dad came into the picture he made life wait so it's okay for women

05:24:47.660 to be on welfare but not for men to be on so listen but the matter listen the matter of fact is that a lot

05:24:53.100 of men step out of the children's life my mom had to do what she needed to do and that's why i'm saying

05:24:57.740 broke men shouldn't be dating because you you end up with situations i see what you're saying i do see

05:25:02.700 what you're saying but but if you're saying so you said broke men should not have a lineage i feel like

05:25:07.580 if we follow that and again shout out to andrew wilson here from the crucible if we follow that to its

05:25:13.020 logical conclusion um you would eliminate most african-american families and most african-american

05:25:19.660 children and other racial minority groups as they are the ones who are most heavily dependent upon

05:25:24.460 government assistance but i demographically to help i'm literally verbatim i i want to give full

05:25:30.380 credit to andrew wilson here i'm giving full credit i totally agree i'm not i'm not saying that

05:25:34.300 this isn't this isn't a matter of fact but again i i blame the public education system i'm not blaming

05:25:39.340 men at all i don't think it's the man's fault i think that it's the blame is on the public education

05:25:44.620 system and the way that our culture is set up so i and and i do have a lot of compassion again i'm a

05:25:50.060 poc i'm a person of color and if it wasn't for the decisions and the discernment that my mom made

05:25:54.860 for her lineage to be with a man who was a good man he might have been i i don't want to say he was

05:26:00.140 broke at the time but he might have not been making as much money as he is now but he you know he was

05:26:04.860 a wealthy man with his character they got to the point where they were able to raise a family you

05:26:09.740 know sure but like i and again full credits andrew wilson here um saying that you would broke men should

05:26:17.340 not have a lineage broke people should not have children i mean you've the full credit andrew

05:26:23.260 wilson you've just outlined a eugenics program you're a eugenicist well well i think that you

05:26:30.540 just set me up on a on a trap here and i want to take a moment to like gather up my thoughts i'm not

05:26:36.700 saying that broke well i know that i said that broke men shouldn't have a lineage but what i'm saying

05:26:44.140 based off of you know my experience the limited experiences that i had is that if we were more

05:26:51.740 accountable with men to have and to build a life of like success and instead of focusing on dating so

05:26:58.380 early on and they focus on working hard getting good jobs i think that we would have a very different

05:27:03.340 society today so when i say broke men shouldn't have lineage i'm just saying i think that

05:27:09.100 no you said well you did say that they shouldn't have children yes i said that but wait but is it

05:27:17.100 would it be okay for poor men to date poor women

05:27:21.980 i don't know why you're i mean no i'm just like they could do they could do whatever they could do

05:27:27.260 whatever they want but what i'm what i'm saying is like i don't see the benefit i i don't i need to

05:27:34.380 gather up my thoughts i'm sorry i'm sorry no that's fine but okay so um it sounds like it's not okay

05:27:41.260 for a poor man to date a poor woman correct it's not i suppose it's not okay for step in here i don't

05:27:50.300 i don't think it means hold on just a second the undonated 100 should fat stupid and mentally ill women

05:27:58.380 not be allowed children either some rich people are the worst morally some broke people are the

05:28:04.300 most giving kind people that is what is wrong with you no one said yeah no does that mean all

05:28:10.700 does that mean i think i think i think the terms that you use are maybe not the worst i mean not

05:28:16.780 the best so i think let me let me go ahead and rephrase this when i say like broke people i'm not just

05:28:22.460 speaking about financially i'm also speaking about morally and values and character well i think you're

05:28:27.500 shifting the goalposts no no no i've said this since the beginning because you said because you

05:28:32.140 said because you said let's just focus financially and i said okay but what i'm saying here just

05:28:37.740 because you are broke that doesn't necessarily mean you are broken character and also if you're

05:28:43.340 wealthy that also doesn't mean that you're broke that that you're wealthy with but when you say the

05:28:47.740 term broke most people are taking they're not i i you're now adding nuance to it but most people

05:28:53.580 are going to take that from a financial frame yeah i i would say a more apt term to use be like

05:29:01.740 degenerate or something that has to do with well you're shifting okay well yeah well yeah well but

05:29:08.860 i but i want to stay true to my message because i actually promote a lot of like two women who come

05:29:12.860 up to me they're like hey he's not he's not that rich but like he's such an amazing man and he treats

05:29:17.180 me well and so that to them i said i say you can build together there's no problem there because

05:29:22.700 character is always going to override you know money and we have some experiences here where

05:29:27.100 i had the best mom i had the best dad and that's what i'm that's what i'm saying is it

05:29:31.340 okay so let me ask is it okay for a poor woman to date a rich man i mean i

05:29:38.060 why not i mean if she can provide different if she can provide what is being asked is different

05:29:43.820 and if she can provide for him what he's looking for to a t if he's like i want you to be at home

05:29:48.860 cooking looking nice get your nails done i want you to be the perfect woman for me why not i think

05:29:54.620 that your message is more of like in the ideal world men should be financially stable before they

05:30:02.060 start a family right but i think that the words that you chose are a little bit poor and that's why

05:30:07.420 like people are starting to like attack you nobody's attacking her not no like they're on there they

05:30:12.380 like oh yeah yeah don't listen to the peanut so i think i i get i get your point i really do because

05:30:20.220 as a parent i know that i would have loved to give my daughter a much um better life

05:30:26.860 um if i was like financially stable when i had her so i get what you're saying so but okay what about

05:30:32.540 a poor man dating a rich woman is that cool i mean i mean if the woman is you know accepting of that

05:30:38.140 and she wants that why not like i i'm not saying that but you said broke men shouldn't yeah well

05:30:43.100 i think that that's taken out i don't think that that applies here with the question that you're

05:30:46.460 asking oh so i think so broke men just shouldn't date other i know well i think broke broke men

05:30:53.260 shouldn't they should be focused on other things not just like procreating they should be focused on

05:30:58.940 their goals and like mature and working up the corporate ladder trying to find jobs like

05:31:03.180 share your attention yeah couldn't the same thing be said about women absolutely and i say that

05:31:07.900 actually i say that all the time focus on yourself first to find the good partner because

05:31:11.980 a lot of the times we see that women date when they're at a very low vibe and you guys have said

05:31:16.780 it here low vibration when you're like still working on things and then finally when you're at your peak

05:31:22.140 when you feel confident because you've worked through you know all of your traumas uh you know

05:31:26.700 creating your business whatever the case may be once you step into the dating stage again you realize

05:31:31.420 that you have better options because you're happy you're confident and you're in a way like

05:31:35.580 you know you're set free you set yourself free yeah absolutely clarity is important

05:31:41.820 sorry so okay um i just don't you feel it's like a little elitist to say that broke men should not

05:31:51.580 date okay well why or have kids okay but why should they be having kids if they can't financially support

05:31:57.020 them the way a woman can so why should a man be broke and a woman not when she's the one that has the

05:32:02.540 kid for nine months can breastfeed them can literally keep them alive for free but then also

05:32:08.540 has to go on welfare because her man can't step up and take care of the food and can't take care of the

05:32:12.540 diapers and can't take care of the clothes how is that fair why should he be having a baby he can't

05:32:17.500 support i mean i think it's more about broken men yeah um so no no no shifting the goalposts i'm just

05:32:26.140 talking about from my perspective is it mon and daily no but also also i also want to be accountable

05:32:32.140 for the women too because i tell that this is what this is like a protection for them right so they

05:32:36.380 don't have to go through the welfare system so they don't have to go through these things i say don't

05:32:39.660 date broke men yeah so it's in a way it's a protection so we can avoid this from occurring

05:32:44.940 again and again and again and i put more accountability on the woman rather than the men i say

05:32:49.980 you need to build you need to have built enough discernment that's why a lot of women attack me

05:32:54.060 sometimes and i tell them you need to have discernment you need to know your standards

05:32:57.580 your boundaries and you need to be at a at a good place so you can decide with clarity

05:33:01.900 very balanced i don't just keep it just one-sided for men or women it might be a eugenicist position

05:33:08.540 though to say that broke men shouldn't have a lineage i i'm just done seeing single moms on

05:33:15.100 welfare it is a very i live that life all right i won't i won't linger too long on the on on this topic

05:33:20.220 but we let's get into the videos we gotta get into the videos finally let's there's some good

05:33:23.980 we got good ones here oh here's the one okay uh go ahead i'm gonna be honest with you you're not

05:33:30.540 a 10. all right i'm not saying that to be mean but you're not a 10. okay the only way for you to be

05:33:36.060 able to avoid these types of situations in these types of men and these types of conversations

05:33:39.420 is when you recognize your worth and you work on your character because let me ask you something

05:33:42.860 do you think they would dare to ask me something like that do you think challenge accepted would

05:33:47.180 dare to try to include me in a conversation i dare that is so immature and mediocre i dare

05:33:51.500 they wouldn't maybe they would because they have no self-awareness but i need to pay attention to

05:33:55.980 they're not inviting women that are walking online with purpose a lot of the women that

05:33:59.500 they're inviting are still in their self-discovery phase okay pause it really quick to find their

05:34:02.940 place really quick well i just want to say first off we've had plenty of high value women on the

05:34:08.380 show candace owens that was that this was recorded in august sure sure sure plenty of us we've had

05:34:14.940 wonderful women on the show so okay continue nick the world because when they talk about their ideal

05:34:19.660 woman they're speaking about a high valley woman but notice they can't have high valley women in

05:34:23.260 their show because do not entertain those conversations i'm not saying that the ladies

05:34:26.860 that they invited not high valley women i'm simply saying they're still in their self-discovery journey

05:34:30.060 so to avoid all of these bad low effort low class men i need you to armor up with character and worth

05:34:36.380 you helped me when i got through my breakup yeah you helped me wait what i just realized i've seen her

05:34:41.980 she helped me in july wait go ahead it just stopped uh the reason why these men go ahead do you have

05:34:53.580 to reload it is it that's weird uh awkward it's not working it's not loading oh man what a cliffhanger

05:35:07.500 that was good there's so many videos what about uh no just try to reload it i guess

05:35:21.020 oh wait the husband yeah he's still waiting outside you got it okay all of these bad low

05:35:32.460 effort low class men i need you to armor up with character and worth i need you to armor up by

05:35:38.860 being in your discernment and truly living a life with intention and purpose the reason why these men

05:35:42.940 want you to feel less than is because they want access to you they want access to us because we

05:35:46.940 have something that they don't pause pause it erroneous erroneous

05:35:54.380 keep going don't have and if you as a woman have not yet recognized how much worth you have baby

05:35:59.580 girl it's time to do the inner work be such a lady that men would never dare to speak to you in that

05:36:04.140 way because they respect you so much that they know that those conversations are not interesting

05:36:07.900 to you they are not stimulating to you on the contrary they are annoying and mediocre conversations

05:36:11.980 to have the only way you can elevate your experiences is by elevating your standards ladies be wise

05:36:18.060 oh sorry i didn't mean to press that again okay okay

05:36:22.300 so that's in relation to the whole are you a 10 conversation what and you said you said earlier that

05:36:27.820 you kind of change your view on it a little bit but um so i i don't like ask the are you 10 question

05:36:36.220 to like i i didn't to be fair i know what you're gonna no i don't want sorry it's not to make women

05:36:44.220 feel like less than what i want for both men and women is to operate not from delusion but from being

05:36:50.780 realistic and i would say for example confidence right because sometimes people come on the show

05:36:55.660 granted i think everybody here was fairly modest in their answers to the the uh rate yourself on

05:37:01.580 a scale of one to ten question my view with confidence is and we have women that come on

05:37:06.780 say they're 10 and oh i'm just being confident confidence is not thinking you're a 10 when you're

05:37:11.260 not confidence is being fully aware and okay with the fact that whoever the person may be who's on

05:37:17.740 the show that or whoever it is that you're a six now i'm not saying you or anybody else here at the

05:37:22.940 table i'm just saying you're just cool like oh yeah i'm a six cool like i'm happy with myself you

05:37:29.500 know um and one of the major issues that i see in the dating world is you have

05:37:36.540 you have average women do not want average men and you have women who will spend their 20s

05:37:42.780 chasing chad racking up high body counts passing on good men who are actually on their level

05:37:46.380 um and i think a lot of average women would rather be a side chick or casual only with like a really

05:37:53.180 attractive guy than in a relationship with an average guy so it seems to me that average women

05:38:00.780 want above average men average women don't want to date average men so uh if you have women like

05:38:07.980 that woman in the video who thinks she's a 10 in beauty she thinks she's on par with the most beautiful

05:38:13.820 women in the world and i'm not saying she's ugly but she's certainly not a 10 which is what i was

05:38:18.860 trying to say in the video um one of the things that i try to emphasize for both men and women is

05:38:25.580 i already said this you need to be realistic with your own self-assessment of your physical

05:38:31.100 attractiveness physical attractiveness is very important when it comes to dating so if you're delulu

05:38:36.620 if you're delusional and you're oh i'm hot i'm going to be chasing after all these dudes who

05:38:44.940 if if you are not chasing after if you're not interested or pursuing people whether you're a man

05:38:52.700 or a woman that are on a commensurate level to you in terms of your say value on the dating marketplace

05:39:00.060 whether you're a man or a woman you're going to be disappointed and you're not going to find that

05:39:04.140 person for women the way that's for men the way that's going to manifest is they're not going to

05:39:09.180 get any attention from women at all if they're they're constantly trying to shoot way too outside

05:39:13.900 their league and for women the way that's going to look is they're going to be a ton of men that

05:39:18.620 will sleep with you but never give you commitment and that's when women start racking up high body

05:39:23.020 counts and when these men are just using them because i think because the difference between men and women

05:39:28.540 is men will sleep with women of a certain physical attractiveness that they'd never commit to

05:39:35.420 men welcome the easy access to sex so like a girl who and a girl who say like a five she could sleep

05:39:41.820 with a guy who's an eight he's never going to commit to her he might keep her around for a little bit just

05:39:47.500 welcomes the easy access to sex he'll never commit to her though so that's where women can get into

05:39:53.260 trouble if they have a unrealistic self-assessment of their own uh attractiveness yep that was long

05:40:01.100 winded that's actually that was actually a really good point i just have to say no no i completely

05:40:05.420 agree just to add just add one one thing to it is so my view is that typically for a woman to sleep with

05:40:12.140 a man that man has to be at least physically attractive enough for her to be in a relationship

05:40:19.500 with that guy typically women will typically break the rule like let's say a woman doesn't typically

05:40:25.260 have one night stands or casual sex she might break that rule if the guy is like exceptionally

05:40:31.340 physically attractive whereas it tends to be almost the reverse with men so for a man to sleep with a

05:40:36.940 woman she need not be i'll finish it up 99 to be honest i would never date any of you you are too shallow

05:40:44.460 as a person we would never date you either half of us are married can you give me another chance

05:40:50.780 grams i'm like really desperate for your approval can you please like slide into my dms and just try

05:40:54.700 again we're so there you go right yeah oh i lost so so with men like men will sleep with women that

05:41:02.940 they would never be in a relationship with so that's where women and you say women need to be discerning

05:41:09.020 women need to be discerning in terms of am i like shooting a little bit out of my league here because

05:41:15.500 dudes will sleep with women that they would never be in a relation just just off of the looks metric

05:41:21.580 alone men will sleep with women that again they would never consider for a relationship and that's

05:41:27.420 where women can get into trouble where they can get used by men for purely sex so that's i i'm not

05:41:35.500 trying to like dunk on women like oh you're not a 10 i'm like no like have have a realistic

05:41:43.180 self-assessment of your own physical attractiveness that way you can maneuver in the dating marketplace

05:41:48.860 without potentially like chasing after these guys who are just using you just want to use you for sex

05:41:54.620 yeah at the end of the day you're for the guys sure um is that is this a female perception or is

05:42:03.180 this a real thing wait what do you mean i'm gonna do do men is sleeping with women to increase your

05:42:12.780 your street value right so like having sex with one of those hot girls that you would never commit

05:42:18.060 to under your mind whatever it is is the purpose of that to raise self-esteem and then your own street

05:42:23.420 value or is that is that not real is that something that women just think men do wait so you said

05:42:29.900 sleep with the hot girls no no no well the point the point i was no like is the purpose of sleeping

05:42:35.180 with those girls that you don't commit to sex aside right like obviously the sex is a given right you

05:42:39.740 want it because of the sex but in addition to the sex is that like a oh this raises my street value cool

05:42:47.340 so brian's point is that you you tend to sleep or guys will sleep with women who are not

05:42:53.260 as attractive as them like if say i'm a seven and i'll go and sleep with someone who's a five men

05:43:00.220 will typically do that but women will not do the opposite way if she is a women won't do the same

05:43:08.140 so if she's a seven she will not give a five the time of day generally speaking

05:43:13.100 um yeah that's a pretty good rule of thumb certainly for casual sex yeah like for that

05:43:19.420 for hookups so exactly exactly it's not for like relationship considering all the factors

05:43:24.780 yeah so men yeah so men can like in addition to just looks men can bring other things to the table

05:43:30.780 riz personality status uh wealth but so for casual sex women will take typically break their rule for

05:43:40.620 for for who they will sleep with uh the guy has to be like really attractive yeah whereas it's almost

05:43:48.060 the reverse for men they'll like sleep with a girl that they would never be in a relationship with

05:43:53.260 uh but she's not going to be so what happens if it's the other way around though yeah it happens but

05:44:01.420 generally generally what do you mean if it's the other way around just asking i've slept with a lot of

05:44:05.820 ugly guys but they had great dicks oh my gosh the guy who hurt my feelings i was like psycho texting

05:44:10.940 him for years and this guy's not hot but he just like negged me at the right time at the right age

05:44:16.140 and all yes men can make up yeah like you know and it takes like a miracle situation and i would sit

05:44:21.100 there being like wow this guy's not attractive why does this hurt like why am i like this from this

05:44:25.580 but so yeah but what if what if what if the girl is just as hot and it's a hookup yeah that happens

05:44:32.620 yeah but you know well so typically in that situation uh the woman will push the guy away

05:44:40.620 because she thinks i can obtain this caliber of man that's probably out of my reach so say

05:44:48.460 the seven gets with the seven uh generally speaking since she is she has seen that men will

05:44:57.340 reach down and have casual sex with somebody who is less attractive than them

05:45:01.740 well it gives them the false self-confidence that i can get with somebody who's way above me in the

05:45:08.780 attractiveness uh arena when also also you think men get like that too or is that just women get like

05:45:15.340 that like are you saying that's how men get or that's how women get or that's how both get well

05:45:19.660 that's how women get in particular okay so do you men ever get to lulu like that when they like

05:45:24.860 say a guy like gets out of his league somehow and he like bags this girl who's like way out of his league

05:45:29.580 is that does that then make him a little delulu going like does that do you ever maybe not all

05:45:34.220 guys but do you ever see guys like that where they're like oh yeah i'm a 10 now like does that

05:45:37.500 ever happen with guys or is that i think most men get slapped in the face with reality yeah exactly

05:45:42.780 when it comes to maybe it'll like he'll he'll be high on it for like a week or two but eventually it's

05:45:48.860 gonna be like ah yeah but but yeah i do i do agree with you women who like say two tens i'm not saying

05:45:55.820 tens but two sevens they hook up and you know it's all fine and dandy but i do agree women will

05:46:02.140 off yeah and then no it's like you know once you've got that trophy as a woman um move on i don't trust

05:46:11.500 a guy if he's too hot and i know men feel the exact same way about women but it's same same parallel i

05:46:18.220 don't trust a guy who's too hot just like how you don't trust a girl who's too hot well also there's

05:46:22.780 there's nick there's actually they've done some data on this nick if you're able to go into the

05:46:27.100 infographics folder it's um so men and women's assessment of nick are you able to get it uh

05:46:36.940 infographics tab uh oh fuck i'm screwing this up online it's in the infographics tab it's okc new chart

05:46:45.340 um so men and women like perception of male attractiveness versus female attractiveness

05:46:53.020 um men tend to rate women on a bell curve whereas women are pretty harsh judges of uh

05:47:03.180 male physical attractiveness go ahead nick okc new chart

05:47:07.740 all right i would like to respond to everything you said yeah yeah well i'll get you to come in

05:47:13.580 here in just a sec you got the chart nick

05:47:22.060 so perception perception of male attractiveness versus female attractiveness men as rated by women

05:47:28.220 women as rated by men so women are very harsh judges of uh physical attractiveness so oh there's

05:47:35.500 some other really good charts too but i don't there i don't have them saved um

05:47:40.780 shit um oh so we either rate you a one or a five where guys will rate in the middle kind of is that

05:47:49.180 what it's well the bigger thing is that like most women find most men physically unattractive yeah where

05:47:55.660 it's like you're either hot or you're not kind of like that's what that looks like you basically like

05:47:59.660 the vast majority of women think like i think it's something like 80 of men are unattractive

05:48:05.340 and like the vast majority of men will say that 80 percent of women are attractive yeah i think

05:48:11.900 tinder did a um study on that how many men swipe um oh yeah like the top five top 10 percent of men

05:48:20.940 that are getting like all the attention on tinder um oh man there's like some really good websites on

05:48:26.140 this but i i can't recall what they are uh did you wanted to come in yeah so i want to go ahead and

05:48:33.660 start with the first thing that you mentioned about how you were telling this girl not that

05:48:37.420 she that she wasn't a 10 out of 10 but i think that well when i first saw the video a lot of

05:48:42.540 women what that could come on they hated that video no no i was getting dragged yes yes i was

05:48:47.980 getting dragged and so to respond to that i think that they were the woman that said i'm a 10 out of

05:48:51.740 10 she was in survival mode she feels attacked in this in this space and i think we've made it

05:48:56.300 a comfortable space for us to be real with both of you and with the audience that is watching so the

05:49:01.020 first time that i saw that i was like oh my gosh and to be completely honest i didn't know

05:49:04.460 what the whatever podcast was sure until that video and i was like oh my gosh this man is like

05:49:08.860 so rude with telling her this and i was getting a lot of women kind of like coming up to me and

05:49:13.100 telling me hey what do you think about this so i responded to that video without you know really

05:49:17.340 knowing the show this was in august so i didn't know that candace owens was going to be here candace

05:49:21.020 owens i'm i'm like a fan and um i'll get you guys linked up and then um i'm such a huge fan

05:49:26.860 candace owens but anyway and then secondly i completely agree with what you're saying about

05:49:31.660 the delulu is a salulu how that's like a new a new phrase being delulu is a salulu and i tell my

05:49:37.340 ladies uh-uh here we're we're smarter than that i actually built something called the list of threes

05:49:42.460 and i tell them to choose three three physical qualities in a man that they need and not want

05:49:47.820 need because i also agree with you that they're choosing like they're so focused on the physical

05:49:53.020 aspect and that's why they get they they get what they get a lot of women that are not happy

05:49:58.060 and i'm like you need to look past that what is his character and um i think that in response to

05:50:04.460 that video i do agree with you all the way and that's why i'm telling my ladies to armor up with

05:50:08.380 discernment to be smarter that's nice all right here let me go to a couple chats we got some more

05:50:12.060 things to react to kyle kelsey women don't want a guy working 60 to 70 hours and still making six

05:50:16.700 figures know from experience no matter how well you treat them i know form experience what kind of

05:50:22.460 forms spreadsheet excel what are we talking about selfish though like it can happen where they

05:50:27.500 don't like it but for me i would love a man that does it depends like and there's a video where i

05:50:32.460 made like are you capable of being with a wealthy man because a wealthy man is going to be working

05:50:37.180 there's not and that's why i say women have your own life outside of the man so if you're the type to

05:50:41.660 say i'm gonna sacrifice some money to spend more time with a man go all for it quick thing um i i know a

05:50:47.420 lot of men who work like that and i would not be able to be with a man that works that much like

05:50:53.020 i need my man at home i i want to need a man hug yeah okay like i just don't please work from home

05:51:00.540 if you're gonna be sure all right we have puffy biggest every man on earth if a woman asks you

05:51:05.020 how much money she makes she makes leave her and block her she does not like you no woman ever asked

05:51:11.100 chad and tyrone these questions is that a alpha fucks wow i was kind of racist but that's okay

05:51:19.260 what wait what was he made a point to say chad and tyrone and not in that in that he's a black

05:51:26.780 man just saying i is he single yeah uh wait puffy puffy vegas yo are you still in the chat puffy

05:51:35.260 she's single and ready to mingle i mean i'm only mingling so okay there you have it yeah uh let's

05:51:39.980 see or you're not well you got your your lady friend um oh she'll join too oh okay oh puffy you

05:51:45.340 got you want to she's skinny if that's what you're you want a threesome okay my question is for

05:51:49.900 directly for the woman saying broke men should not have children is it okay for somebody to say that

05:51:53.980 overweight women should not have children oh scientifically women should get more over a

05:52:00.220 slightly more like 20 pounds more overweight to have children yeah okay can i speak on this

05:52:06.780 since i am an overweight woman that's not an argument it's it's not like for me like i should

05:52:11.980 probably get a little bit healthier if i was to have a kid because i wasn't that healthy i wasn't

05:52:15.740 eating correctly i was not taking care of my body so if i'm going to put a life in my body i should

05:52:19.740 probably know what i'm eating and putting into them so with that said i might be overweight but i

05:52:24.780 could be eating really healthy so it just depends on your definition of overweight what do you mean

05:52:29.100 like right now for instance i'm still overweight but i don't eat carbs i don't eat sugars i don't eat

05:52:33.420 anything processed so if i was to get pregnant right now which will never happen if i was to

05:52:38.300 get pregnant my child would be really well fed and really well hydrated and taken care of by my

05:52:43.980 nourishment skills all right okay but i am overweight i'm fat i think we should bring the husband he's

05:52:51.900 been waiting he's so patiently he's such a big fan uh we need to pull up another chair and then i think

05:52:59.100 maybe what we do is if you scoot over that way and then we'll just put the chair right next to

05:53:03.340 her yeah my legs are already in pain there's no we see nobody in here hold on let me check if you

05:53:10.540 what uh thin chair would be best thin chair would be best good sirs okay hold on uh

05:53:19.580 uh so uh what do you guys think about um collateralized debt obligations cdo's

05:53:34.300 what do you guys think about cdo's you know like when people get married and then they have to share

05:53:37.740 that out what like what no like you know the whole like financial crisis cdo's collateral collateralized

05:53:44.540 debt obligations no what do you mean like what exact question oh there's something world of

05:53:51.740 warcraft really that i wanted to ask but oh my gosh you can't just drop that on us what is the

05:53:56.780 what's the definition of collateral debt oh i was just being awkward while the world's debt

05:54:02.540 you want to go oh my gosh i'm like dying no he should he should be okay i feel bad for him he's

05:54:08.460 probably freezing he's probably freezing his butt off sorry sorry but what's his dustin right

05:54:12.460 dustin yo dustin i'm sorry dude so question if if anybody here would say i'm a 10 would you

05:54:18.780 would you would you knock that down would you go like hell no you're not a 10 bro put you in your

05:54:24.140 place i would yes with spankies or just spankies yeah i would just say what do you mean no i'm just

05:54:32.060 i wouldn't rate the girl but i'd say no you're not a 10 that's it i'm not trying to be a dick about

05:54:37.100 it but no you're not a 10 so is that your favorite line by chance what's my favorite line

05:54:42.060 that you're not a 10 i've heard you say it more today than anyone else is there anyone that

05:54:45.980 you've seen that is a 10 like is there like that you've seen a person that's a 10 to you i don't

05:54:50.060 think there's such i don't think there's such no you just don't believe in 10s there's nines i

05:54:54.300 guess yeah um i feel like 10 is perfect you know nobody's perfect so i have a lot of a lot of people

05:55:00.380 just like on a like a religious basis don't believe in 10s but like like you know they're

05:55:06.380 like well no it's just uh there there certainly have been women that i've seen that i'm like

05:55:15.500 this woman is amongst the most exceptionally beautiful women i've ever seen there's that

05:55:20.300 but you're never like that's the 110 i finally found her no there's been some i've seen some

05:55:26.380 like my new detail oh no yeah trigger yeah they're perfect yeah some of those ai girls what's

05:55:32.620 there yeah some of the ai girls are unreal literally it's fucking insane watch out and

05:55:37.580 their riz is so they're coming for you so good their riz is getting unhinged they're coming for

05:55:43.500 you guys i have to say like tom cruise is a 10. he's a handsome guy but i don't know if he's a

05:55:50.620 10. isn't he like five foot four he's five seven five seven who's your 10 holy he's my 10 you don't

05:55:57.020 even want to know it's say it say who your 10 is it's controversial as fuck say it davidson uh

05:56:02.860 worse it's worse than that yeah he's cute he's cute she she goes spring break whenever she's horny

05:56:11.740 oh he's spring break spring break no i'm obsessed with spring breakers and j and he it's like his

05:56:18.220 ugliest role like james franco is not hot in this role but for some reason oh yeah wait

05:56:26.780 the husband approaches where is he i can't see him

05:56:32.300 i have to say he-man is a 10 too he's warming up but uh yeah no so oh maybe do you think if you're

05:56:40.060 willing to uh just let him maybe share the mics i'm like do you know i think i'm like no offense

05:56:45.100 but i think yeah i think it's it's no i think it's best for two this yeah just if you can share with

05:56:50.460 him yeah no problem oh my gosh they're both very crocky oh here's the yeah oh i got those in pink too

05:56:57.820 they're coming the black fridays oh my god what was that crocs yeah they're really cute

05:57:05.020 did you see these on the site no i didn't they're so cute i got 100 i paid 100 for them

05:57:09.980 hold on hold on i feel like i have more no well i guess while i wait i can see if i have any other

05:57:14.140 oh no they're crocs uh yeah they got heels on them because i'm trying to be your height that's

05:57:20.380 why good luck i know i'm five too i'm like get me up there uh let me see it okay so uh i'm trying

05:57:28.460 to think um wait uh and maybe we'll get into some of these in the videos are you against 50 50

05:57:37.180 who here's against 50 50. like going 50 50. against it for certain people but for me i won't

05:57:43.820 i won't do it thanks nick yes 50 50. against it i'm against it oh yeah i'm like i'm for and against

05:57:53.580 okay yeah i'm foreign honestly i think the woman should pay for everything

05:57:59.020 of course that's honestly that's like the most that's the most alpha

05:58:02.700 question if you're so fucking alpha okay but what if you're doing nothing that you get to stay

05:58:08.620 home and i get to surf and the woman she has to go out and toil in the fields but how much worth do

05:58:15.340 you think you would feel like i'm not saying how much worth that we anyone see you how worthy do you

05:58:20.460 feel as a person sitting at home for years on end depending on a woman as a man growing up the way

05:58:25.900 you were see this is this is the ultimate level of the societal programming when it comes to

05:58:34.140 elevating elevating being a wage slave over all else i don't think even for both men and women

05:58:43.660 a challenger approaches

05:58:48.380 i don't think that the ultimate

05:58:49.980 the ultimate the ultimate shit what's the term um the ultimate oh my god it's been a long

05:58:57.500 fucking episode i'm saying it really is uh the ultimate sense of purpose is

05:59:05.180 making money or a career or a job like i to me that's not if your wife doesn't care of it you're

05:59:11.180 going to be at home so yeah i'm gonna kick up my feet can i she can come home and cook

05:59:16.300 you'll be divorced like in five seconds we got some great surf spots in santa barbara yeah i'm

05:59:23.580 just gonna surf it's gonna be no i'm being a bit facetious i think i should also say that i'm

05:59:28.780 not against like 70 30 20 80 90. well let's have the husband introduce himself welcome welcome to the

05:59:36.220 show man hey everybody my name is justin can we just have you pop your hat off just cast a bit of

05:59:42.220 oh god if you want throw backwards just the the bill or is it the bill the front part they cast

05:59:47.900 shadow good yes oh man the punk rock sideways happy ass that's how you do it it just casts a bit of

05:59:55.020 shadow on the eyes so oh okay yeah backwards backwards is always backwards

06:00:02.540 okay channel my channel my oh dude let's get in the entertain glasses yes we have some in the studio

06:00:10.060 um okay so tell us a little bit about yourself dustin your uh age i'm uh 25 uh just recently

06:00:17.260 got out of the military am i good with mike yeah yeah um i've been bouncing back and forth trying

06:00:23.740 to learn new skills and jobs and uh i've been in the process for going on the police force for about

06:00:28.780 a year now okay i should be going in in january what what branch of the military were you in i was in the

06:00:34.460 navy in the navy okay thanks for your service man thank you for service amazing were you enlisted or

06:00:39.500 officer enlisted enlisted okay got it and uh i'm trying to think what else had it um so you met carla

06:00:48.700 met carla tell us about uh tell us about the first meeting how did you guys meet uh we actually met on a

06:00:55.180 dating app uh i got real bored with tinder so i switched over to bumble and uh let the girl talk

06:01:01.980 to me first okay uh the good stuff and then uh i actually invited her out for drinks but turns out

06:01:08.540 she's she's allergic to alcohol and that was the first uh green flag that i got from her

06:01:13.900 uh so we went for coffee and uh yeah yeah just uh got some coffee walked out on the beach talked

06:01:22.060 about our life stories and then i was like you you hungry and she went out to denny's with me

06:01:28.220 and i got to meet her family on the first date actually it was uh very impromptu wow okay um

06:01:36.220 and uh so you guys met on bumble it sounded like and actually there's a video on this so why don't

06:01:42.780 we pull up the i think it's the next video here that we have that's how she met her husband okay

06:01:48.860 go ahead and we'll play part three as to how i met my husband from the first coffee meetup i knew that he

06:01:52.780 wasn't one but i didn't mean i was gonna cancel on all my other dates we are believers of rotational

06:01:55.820 dating here and we're single until we're not but what did my husband have to do in order to get my full

06:01:58.860 attention for him to get exclusivity after our coffee meetup he didn't invite me on an actual date and we

06:02:02.460 both knew that we were talking to different people because if you're on the apps you just know you're

06:02:05.500 talking to multiple people but of course my husband wanted another date he was very insistent because

06:02:08.860 he knew he knew that i had option wait again it happened again can you put it it was a bit fast

06:02:17.340 two maybe one point two five x speed um what part three oh my goodness oh my god yo guys go to twitch.tv

06:02:28.700 slash whatever drops to follow drops prime sub if you have one um and be sure to subscribe to

06:02:35.500 mason's only fans account um while you're at it you will be seeing nothing but um yes yes

06:02:42.220 yeah it's just open for you guys think you get nothing from it you guys think he'd make good

06:02:47.020 money on money on oaf he would he would i think you wouldn't be able to deal with how many times

06:02:52.540 they're like can we just see you lose your virginity but the thing is every year every day you're gonna

06:02:56.780 get i will pay you x amount of dollars all day wait wait wait wait wait wait wait holly yeah mason

06:03:07.020 i'd like to broker something here oh my fee's 30 wow she has an only fans you're a virgin yeah

06:03:18.300 could go to vegas you could get married it would be legit totally legal totally yeah totally

06:03:27.820 god i mean but is he jewish is he jewish yeah i gotta say you only fuck you only

06:03:33.660 fuck jewish guys i don't only fuck jewish guys but i only try to marry a jewish guy so

06:03:39.900 and he's saving himself for a very special situation and so would you do it though

06:03:45.500 do you want to join the tribe mason do you want to join the tribe i hate to let you down brian

06:03:50.620 it's not gonna happen yeah i'm kidding it was a good idea though it was a good idea high quality

06:03:56.460 idea to be honest the women in the light aqua marine shirt with the two leaves on her neck is the

06:04:01.340 most beautiful out of all of you wow thank you for that okay thank you grams appreciate it

06:04:07.740 appreciate it nick were you able to get that video gone um yeah go ahead actual date and we

06:04:14.860 both knew that we were talking to different people because if you're on the apps you just know that

06:04:18.460 you're talking to multiple people but of course my husband wanted another date he was very insistent

06:04:22.300 because he knew he knew that i had options but he remembered something he remembered my work

06:04:29.180 schedule he remembered what time i got off he remembered what days i was off so you can bet

06:04:33.740 that this man was asking me if i was busy or if i was free after 6 p.m and he knew my days off i

06:04:37.900 don't know why i told him my days off but he knew because he knew my days off he would always call

06:04:40.860 first dips after our first date i would always receive a text message at 5 45 from this man asking

06:04:46.620 me what are we feeling today chinese sushi italian every single time he wouldn't miss i did have a

06:04:52.300 part-time hostess job my full-time job was managing rental properties let me rephrase that leasing

06:04:57.980 rental properties so i worked on weekends and he was off on weekends but this man took any

06:05:02.860 opportunity to spend time with me so he would always bring me lunch during lunch hours for me

06:05:06.540 anytime i said i'm not available after work he would be like oh but you're available for lunch right

06:05:11.980 what do you want for lunch it was getting spicy and the one thing i loved about this man is that he

06:05:16.060 would do anything in his power to give me what i wanted this one time i mentioned to him that i

06:05:19.660 wanted to go to julian and it's like a small town near san diego but i told him i wanted to go to

06:05:23.740 julian and i was gonna go to julian on my day off and obviously since he was in the military it could

06:05:27.980 take days or weeks to get days off approved i don't know how this man would do it but he would

06:05:33.580 take me wherever i wanted to go get fast approvals just to take me wherever i wanted to go the third

06:05:38.540 date we were eating sushi and he looked at me and he told me you're my wife and i'm your husband and

06:05:43.660 i will prove it to you i have a year to prove it to you that i am your husband how sexy is that like

06:05:48.300 put yourself in my position where you just met this hot sexy southern man who's extremely masculine

06:05:52.060 with a thick accent he's telling you this but you ladies already know that i think talk is cheap so

06:05:56.060 i did not believe him i was like yeah right prove it and well here we are today and because men also

06:06:02.140 have standards he said hey i want to continue pursuing you but this needs to be exclusive so i

06:06:07.340 agreed to exclusivity by this point he had already showed me all his finances his credits for how much

06:06:11.340 money he was making how much money he had saved his plans and everything so i felt like it was safe

06:06:14.380 to be exclusive with him what made him extremely persistent to me was the fact that i had a

06:06:18.540 physical boundary he says that that drove him mad more interested in me because i had standards and

06:06:24.380 if i was willing to protect myself in that way i was going to be able to protect our family and our

06:06:27.260 relationship in the same way points being never lower your standards for anybody you are single until

06:06:32.860 you're not you are single until married ladies be wise period okay so there's a lot there there's a lot

06:06:42.540 there i'm i'm interested in the like single until married thing yeah um my mom used to say it 100

06:06:50.780 so okay so hold on um wait uh you're me wait question so you guys met were you you're out of the

06:07:01.100 military now but you were in the military when you guys had met is that right i was in the military

06:07:04.860 when we met gotcha were you in the barracks or i was living out in town with a couple buddies

06:07:10.620 okay gotcha okay i see um and so is that a pretty accurate assessment of the the meat the first meet

06:07:19.020 oh yeah i think i told her mom first that uh i had a couple years to be on donated 100

06:07:24.940 dollars welcome dude how much do you make are you allowed to have children in your wife's

06:07:33.580 your wife uh do you want to wait baby baby do you think you're under a dictatorship i do not think

06:07:42.060 i'm under a dictatorship i run my household okay uh she just makes the food and uh points me in the

06:07:49.260 right direction okay um classy answer wait uh so i had to ask you a question but it just slipped my

06:07:57.820 mind before that chat came in single until married oh single single until married or no you had asked

06:08:02.780 him some wait hold on i'm trying to remember what the finances credit card and savings oh on the

06:08:09.020 okay yeah yeah so on the third date um oh there's a hold on there's a did you mention like the third date

06:08:16.540 about the finances credit score was that in this video no it wasn't in another one i said that i

06:08:22.300 was exclusive because he had shown me his background okay i must i must have my notes here a little bit

06:08:27.580 out of order no it was it was in that video oh i mentioned it i mentioned it but i didn't say like

06:08:31.900 what happened on the oh but you you mentioned that he on the third date showed you finances credit

06:08:36.380 score how much money he was making how much money he had saved his plans uh so only safe to be exclusive

06:08:41.980 then so no uh for for you or yeah so i think we were both pretty open and we both were rotational

06:08:50.620 dating at the time and i was just the reason why i encourage a lot of women to rotational day and men

06:08:55.660 too and men i encourage both men and women to rotational day is to see you know your options and

06:09:01.020 really get to see who really is putting their best foot forward to win your heart both for both men and

06:09:06.380 women and well justin was just extremely persistent and he spoke my language we both wanted the same

06:09:12.300 thing so i think and because he wanted my full attention i think he knew that finances was a big

06:09:19.660 it was important because we both wanted marriage and in marriage finances is a really big big big hot

06:09:25.580 topic so i think that well the way that i took it he was extremely proud of where he was in his life

06:09:30.300 and he just showed me everything he didn't have anything to hide gotcha and it sounds like you were both

06:09:35.340 doing the rotational dating thing which i sounds like just means dating other people yeah yeah um

06:09:43.660 did you have any issues with that did like that because i mean it seemed like you really really

06:09:48.060 liked her was it to some degree upsetting like that she had she was dating other men or was it you're

06:09:53.420 just like yeah that's how dating is did you kind of accept it well the moment she looked at me and said

06:09:58.220 uh should we be exclusive i said yes yeah let's be exclusive i don't want to see other people this is what i

06:10:04.780 want i knew what i wanted gotcha that was it gotcha but early on when it sounded like perhaps you were

06:10:11.420 you were both upfront with each other that you were doing the rotational dating was that at all

06:10:18.780 well i suppose you were doing it too so maybe you felt like i'm doing it she's doing it is whatever

06:10:23.500 but i mean was it upsetting to hear that she was rotational dating well i knew she wasn't being

06:10:30.220 promiscuous when she was rotational dating so yeah it's not really that big of a deal i knew she

06:10:34.540 wasn't kissing nobody our first date she didn't even kiss me like i how i tried you tried yeah uh

06:10:41.980 i even tried to hold her hand and well actually i i tried to she was walking across the street

06:10:47.260 and i held her hand to keep her from getting run over by a car and she said i'm not holding your hand oh

06:10:53.980 shit okay so so a car's honking at her and wait so did you go for the you went for the grab and she's

06:10:59.420 like oh absolutely okay i knew i knew this was a different breed of woman oh uh i came from a long

06:11:07.500 line of uh this is easy okay next got it okay gotcha and uh were you uh wait hold on wait uh

06:11:19.180 uh because i feel like the whole rotational dating thing like because i didn't know coming

06:11:24.300 on to the show that you had waited until marriage to have sex and that you were virgin so when i

06:11:29.260 think of rotational dating i think like they're sleeping with other people so that i mean i think

06:11:34.620 that's a little certainly gives me a different view on it because i would certainly like i wouldn't even

06:11:40.060 if i was i wouldn't even pursue a girl that was sleeping with other men exactly so that that's

06:11:45.260 why i tell my ladies to rotational date but rotational dating doesn't mean to be intimate

06:11:48.860 i'm like ah spend time with each other like let's go back to how it was where you're just

06:11:52.620 trying to find connection to see if it works out and that's why there's this big thing on like coffee

06:11:56.940 dates but that's why i don't say coffee dates i say coffee meetups so you can get to know you know

06:12:01.340 preview to the movie sure and it's it's a new form of dating like you can get you can talk to multiple

06:12:07.180 men i i want women to talk to multiple men just you know sleeping and kissing that that should be

06:12:11.580 exclusive i talk about girlfriend privileges versus wife privileges you know dating privileges you know

06:12:16.940 versus the other ones and i think men should also have standards did you have something yeah so i

06:12:20.620 definitely agree on that um and when when i got single from my ex we're together 11 years i was 19

06:12:27.900 he was 10 years older when i got out of that marriage relationship well we were engaged i had

06:12:33.580 no idea how to date or what to do i was so young when i met him i i have hardly dated before

06:12:40.060 but i totally agree because me and my my husband now we had a long distance relationship i lived in

06:12:46.380 sweden he lived here so we spend a lot of time just talking on skype and on facetime and texting

06:12:53.900 and i think when you do that you get to know that person so well because you're not scared of like

06:13:00.380 telling that person everything like listen i have debt i have this you know i have this i have that

06:13:05.900 and he was like i i have this and i don't have that but i have this you know so i just think it makes

06:13:11.580 it so much stronger um when you actually have those conversations instead of going on a date and

06:13:18.540 jumping in bed interesting and on the rotational dating thing um i disagree with you a little well

06:13:28.220 you do make some valid points with it however my view is and my own advice to men is uh

06:13:35.340 where i i suppose it comes at a conflict with your advice is that as a guy i want a woman's undivided

06:13:44.540 romantic and sexual attention so once i come into a woman's life i want to be the only guy that she has

06:13:52.300 eyes for immediately like because if even if she's not having sex with those other men if she's talking to

06:14:00.300 the other dudes me personally um and i certainly if men if you have the leverage to do this um i

06:14:07.180 recommend you do it but if she's like a fence sitter like she's oh i don't know if i'm i don't want to

06:14:13.580 be a maybe for a girl like i want immediately that like genuine just immediacy with her uh interest in

06:14:21.420 me and i want it undivided so um what i would say is you have to win it and that's what i tell my ladies

06:14:27.500 win it you have to work for it you have to work for my attention yeah absolutely women lose again

06:14:33.420 i am the table i am the table okay no no we'll get into that yeah absolutely so and i think like

06:14:40.620 my husband got my undivided attention you know after a couple dates because like he won it he won it so i

06:14:47.420 think that it's valid to want that yeah but to you know you you have to win her over because then

06:14:52.700 again like women lose you're she's spending the more time she invests in you she's losing more

06:14:58.940 and if she's not if you're not proposing or you're not suggesting marriage again she loses so i think

06:15:03.660 that it totally valid i totally see why you would want her full attention but you got to earn it boy

06:15:08.460 yeah so uh totally true i just i think you didn't that doesn't that doesn't help anybody that might

06:15:15.500 that might work with women who don't really recognize their worth but women who know their worth and

06:15:19.420 women who like know the type of life that they want it's not going to be well but i think you can

06:15:24.380 i think you can know your worth and still not rotational date like you can go one person at a

06:15:29.820 time i'm only only going to invest time in you okay there's there are these things okay morals don't

06:15:36.380 align whatever i'm not going to see you anymore go to the next person so and i can see that working

06:15:43.420 i don't know about the like having three guys on my roster and i'm gonna let them vie for my

06:15:49.580 attention and the best man wins so i'm gonna it's a super long-term thing though like i don't think

06:15:55.020 they're in this dance for like you know months on end i think it's like a okay like we dated for two

06:16:00.700 months i or for two weeks i figured out after two dates not into it you know what i mean and i think i

06:16:05.180 think if if other men are fine with it that's fine but what i can say for me personally if i come into a

06:16:12.300 woman's life even the first time meeting and she's telling me hey i i've had this i've actually

06:16:19.500 had this happen i went on a date with a girl i met her on hinge i think dating apps are a huge l

06:16:24.060 generally speaking because that's where you often encounter people that are dating multiple people

06:16:29.580 and look i'm it that's kind of the way the dating world is i personally don't think it's a i don't agree

06:16:37.020 with it but uh i went on this date with a girl she had just downloaded the app she told me like oh i

06:16:41.820 just downloaded it this past weekend and i went we went out on wednesday or something and she had

06:16:47.100 told me she'd already been on two dates and that she had three dates planned for the weekend

06:16:51.900 instantly lost interest i was like okay like i'm not gonna be like number three and like this

06:16:59.740 like i'm not interested in that's fine and that's totally yeah and i don't think you object to that

06:17:03.420 but what i'm saying is like if if this whole rotational dating thing um i i don't think like i think in some

06:17:11.500 there's some pros to it but i also think like there are some men if they are aware and i think

06:17:16.540 honesty is very important if you're like saying hey just letting you know like i'm dating other

06:17:21.180 people right now like i think a lot of men are good men are going to be like okay yeah well he was

06:17:26.060 well he was a good man no i'm not saying i'm not i'm not i'm not i understand but let me let me go

06:17:31.500 ahead and address one point so the reason why i say to rotational date to women specifically is because

06:17:35.340 women get attached we're emotional get attached i like women who get attached get attached well i'm

06:17:41.180 the right guy i'm the right guy yeah well here's the thing get attached baby i completely i wish i

06:17:47.340 wish i wish i could say that we could do that and we should do that but the thing is like we've been

06:17:51.020 we've been mistreated and in a way taken advantage of because we've done that before so the solution

06:17:56.460 that i proposed was like why don't you just talk to multiple men you're just talking you're just

06:17:59.740 getting to know each other you could go to a coffee meet up first because women we're emotional

06:18:04.140 beings like the first thing that we want to do is to get to know you even more and what happens

06:18:07.900 you prolong that into two weeks into three months into six months into a year and then there's no

06:18:11.580 ring so to avoid all of that because another thing i coach women who date for marriage i don't coach

06:18:16.380 women who are just dating to mess around so i i think that that's that's the main reason why i suggest

06:18:21.900 that and again it might not be like a cup of tea and that's fine but they're they're still i don't

06:18:26.620 want to tell i you know i i do want to let women know that there are good men who are going to be like

06:18:30.620 okay well she's if she treats me this way that she's not letting me hold her hand she's not

06:18:34.540 kissing me she's not being promiscuous she's getting to know me she's doing that with other

06:18:38.300 men but i think you're like to some degree you're a bit of an outlier like you are because you said

06:18:44.060 you were you're a virgin right and i and i think i already mentioned this is is that if you're a virgin

06:18:49.660 as a woman i think you have far more leverage and negotiating power to actually get that sort of

06:18:55.180 treatment from men but if you're a woman who slept with 20 30 40 guys and you're like okay now my new

06:19:01.660 standard and look as a woman at any given point if you want to change up how you move that's 100

06:19:07.660 your prerogative and men should respect that however well men are going to look at that and

06:19:15.180 just say that's not the type of person i want to date like if a girl for example for me it's like

06:19:20.700 okay you've had you've slept with 30 previous people and now you're coming to me and like you

06:19:26.460 want me to wait three months or six months or till marriage to have sex with you i'm just like okay

06:19:32.540 why do you think we married so fast what's that why do you think we got married so fast for the

06:19:37.580 hello no but i don't know but i think what you mean i know what you mean i know what you mean

06:19:43.580 well i i'm sure you guys got married for other reasons like you care about each other

06:19:47.180 finances uh close personal goals yeah uh the burning fire obviously when sex is not like

06:19:56.060 clouding your judgment you can make those decisions like you you have all of those

06:20:00.220 conversations all the difficult conversations immediately so that you know okay is this person

06:20:05.100 worth my time like i'm going to ask them all of the hard questions so i don't have to waste two years

06:20:10.780 of my life sleeping with this person getting connected with them and then all of a sudden i figure out oh

06:20:15.980 wait you're pro-abortion i'm not okay with that yeah no and and to add to what you were saying

06:20:21.420 about being the outlier to add to what you were saying about being the outlier that's the thing

06:20:26.060 i coach women who are virgin still and who want marriage and it's it's like it's really hard for

06:20:32.140 them and and there's a lot of women who resonate with me because i did the whole thing purity ring

06:20:36.700 like i you know i waited i got married i i gave you know i'm traditional at home and there's a lot of

06:20:42.700 women who want that and that's why i think that my advice goes so you know specifically i cater to

06:20:46.940 those women but they still exist guys so please like i'm asking and urging us to like have specific

06:20:54.220 standards to raise these men up to you know get better but i'm sure you're also i mean you're there's

06:20:59.580 probably women who are watching you who are not virgins who have double digit body counts 10 20 30

06:21:06.460 absolutely and i mean i'm assuming that despite this you're probably still advising these women

06:21:13.340 to yeah because here's the thing so i was raised by a single mom okay so my mom was and i i i love i

06:21:20.780 love my mom but i was raised by a single mom and i saw her get everything she has everything she has

06:21:25.900 a dream the dream life that she wants her own house the dream car she has everything she wants and she

06:21:31.820 was a single mother there it just depends on the type of man that you know it the man that you choose

06:21:37.180 if you choose wisely you get everything but that that's where we're struggling of choosing wisely

06:21:43.660 i do have to say like go back to women being um going on feelings and emotional me personally i don't

06:21:52.220 i don't go a lot on looks of course the first time you see a person yes you i mean you like the way a

06:21:59.180 person looks but i kind of need to interact with the person to see if we have a connection like do

06:22:07.660 we get along can i talk to you can we talk about things and if silence is awkward then maybe we don't

06:22:15.100 really work like i so dating would be important for me to you know go for coffee and talk to these

06:22:23.740 people i mean you can facetime you can do a lot of different things just to get to know each other

06:22:27.900 because you might be hot as fuck but you might be a really not you know and that's totally fine

06:22:34.540 and this i think this is just a difference of approach oh yeah of course yeah my my personal

06:22:39.100 view is i think typically you know i think as a guy my view because i think men should be have much

06:22:47.100 higher standards preferences and boundaries when it comes to this my view is if that you the woman you're

06:22:54.300 pursuing her romantic attention is divided my my view is that i don't she ain't the like yeah i'm not

06:23:03.100 i lose interest yeah i don't like how are like they're supposed to get single to me i don't like

06:23:08.060 yes yes you have you're currently dating okay that makes sense you said you were single you but you said

06:23:13.340 you were single and you're dating three guys and you're like sleeping with all of them i mean it's more

06:23:17.900 it's not i wouldn't the way you make it sound it sounds like okay that's what you said i know but

06:23:23.100 it's not like it's like i saw my friend in new york last month right and then i come back like it's

06:23:29.660 like i'm not i wouldn't date you i wouldn't date you because of that but i'm not trying to date you

06:23:33.980 no i know but i'm saying like i i do i do have to say

06:23:38.540 but we're not interested in your type anyways well i'm just like again no you're cute like

06:23:45.900 on a physical like we are physical basis yeah that's cool physical basis you're great but

06:23:50.780 yeah but i would i mean your genre of a man not you my my genre of a man back to you you mean white

06:23:56.940 you mean white people yeah you're people yeah oh my god i'm white you people you want to bring it

06:24:03.100 back bring it back bring it back so wait what are you saying but you're talking about her she you

06:24:08.860 don't say white white guys i do no she's white she's white so that's why she's laughing about the

06:24:14.300 caliber of men the way that you think we don't agree with your thoughts so we're not gonna date

06:24:19.020 someone that has the same different thoughts i guess what thoughts of mine do you disagree with

06:24:23.820 come on come on let's hear it let's hear it let's hear it just give me one or two or three

06:24:27.740 give it to me i mean well for one you crossed my friend's boundaries so that was oh my god bro

06:24:34.860 i crossed her boundaries yes she said no how many times that that to me that's an indicator of who you

06:24:40.380 are bro this is no no no wait wait wait hold up hold up maybe right now but i know her

06:24:48.220 she's a woman she's gonna be hurt if she got her boundaries crossed the same that's like

06:24:53.100 you gotta get your boundaries crossed and get views and i get it but it is what it is oh my god you

06:24:57.260 guys you guys really want to like no but the way you're framing it is incredibly disingenuous

06:25:01.740 because you're trying to suggest because you're you're trying to say because she said no are you

06:25:07.820 in suggesting that i am a grapist no because of that like no no no that's the way that's the way

06:25:14.860 women use shaming language to try to pathologize men and i'm not it's just a little exactly

06:25:20.780 and she kept saying she didn't want to talk about it she kept saying no there was three other women

06:25:26.140 who had to interject and stop you and you still got mad at all of us okay that's my point is that

06:25:30.940 she said no that's it first off it was not like more like constant no she said no and then i and then

06:25:39.740 i said it like four or five times and then no hold on yes and then stop and then i asked for well what

06:25:45.580 about a range and she said no and then there and then i look i don't recall the exact verbatim back and

06:25:51.260 forth that we had but then we moved on to somebody else and then i went back to her asking if there

06:25:55.900 was some somebody had provided an additional content or i forgot exactly but what's that

06:26:04.220 oh someone had provided range i went back bro it's a conversation about dating like

06:26:09.660 hello and of course i'm gonna put i'm gonna push you an example so i did you're the that's

06:26:14.540 the type of man that we wouldn't date we wouldn't date someone who asked us over and over and over and

06:26:17.980 we said no you're okay that's how we are yeah but you're really like trying to paint it in the

06:26:23.580 most unflattering i'm talking about this situation that's why i brought it up i'm not talking about

06:26:28.220 any other situation i'm talking about this one y'all are so triggered yes because you crossed a

06:26:33.020 boundary yes i'm gonna get triggered i crossed a boundary yes a boundary yes if someone if a woman

06:26:39.820 says no can i just okay no no do you guys chat do you hear what she's doing okay you're trying to

06:26:46.060 paint it in this most unflattering bad light bad faith way as possible if a woman says no you stop

06:26:53.180 you're trying to paint me as like some like some set like a grapist basically because i i asked her

06:27:01.820 a follow-up question and i pushed back a little bit because she said that body count shouldn't matter

06:27:07.340 so of course we're in the midst of a debate and a conversation and you're trying to paint me in this

06:27:12.380 totally egregious way because we're in the middle of a debate and a conversation of course i'm the

06:27:17.500 host of the show i'm gonna push back 100 fuck out of here with that's so with multiple people at the

06:27:23.100 same time your lady parts are literally a sewer at this point what man with any self-respect would

06:27:29.420 want any contact with your herpes infested skin um i'd actually like to add so i just met my

06:27:35.420 so i'm a designer contrary to all this and i just met my interior design hero named melanie rose from

06:27:41.820 how to build a sex room on netflix and you would think this woman who is a famous designer of sex

06:27:47.100 rooms would be very happy to share about what led her to being interested in sex rooms and one would

06:27:52.540 think maybe this lady has her own sex room and this lady has this show got huge on netflix she gets

06:27:58.540 recognized everywhere she's like cute mary poppins type lady and when you ask her so melanie what's in

06:28:04.220 your sex room she responds that's private and i don't share it with anybody yeah she has an entire

06:28:09.580 show called how to build a sex room and this lady will not discuss her sex yeah okay well we are yeah

06:28:14.300 so we are on a podcast where we're talking about dating and dating topics you asked specifically about

06:28:19.100 one thing and wouldn't get off of the body count question though like what is my body count we

06:28:23.260 lived on it for like 30 seconds yeah so it was i can't wait for this okay so it was it was i can't

06:28:29.340 wait to go back it was lingering okay there were a couple of pushing a minute or two but like this

06:28:34.060 is this is part of having a conversation like the conversational like sometimes people are going to

06:28:38.380 push back on what you're saying yeah like i'm like especially if we're having if we're on a platform

06:28:43.180 where we're going to disagree on certain things people are going to push back on what you say

06:28:47.740 so you're allowed to get triggered you're allowed to get offended but you can't accuse the host or

06:28:54.380 whoever is asking you those questions you don't care about me you are you are like there is essay

06:29:02.620 going on you're acting like a grapist stuff like that you can't be making those accusations when you

06:29:08.620 come on to a platform i don't feel like that's not what i was doing i'm not saying obviously we're not

06:29:16.140 conversation he asked me for an example so i gave it i he goes why wouldn't you date um under my umbrella

06:29:23.180 me whatever that was why i wouldn't okay that's fine no it's not fine but the reason i wasn't

06:29:29.340 saying that's what you do to everyone i'm saying that display of behavior for me is a sign and

06:29:34.860 something i would never entertain that's my choice that's my preference i mean yeah but you're trying

06:29:39.980 again you're trying to paint it in the most unflattering bad light then that's how i right but

06:29:45.660 as the as the host of the podcast i have a conversational burden and duty like i'm playing

06:29:50.700 devil's advocate on certain things i'm pushing back like i'm trying to kind of i do dig on this

06:29:57.100 show but like that's part of the format of the show i mean he asked me to sell my virginity

06:30:03.500 to me and also you and just like we were very supportive i won't even appreciate your virginity

06:30:11.340 i'm sorry he did that to you but yeah oh my goodness gracious you i mean appreciate it god

06:30:15.980 damn it i mean you did ask me for my body count when you felt offended by me so i mean oh that's

06:30:20.780 actually a very good point wait who was the one who asked for your body she asked me for my body

06:30:24.940 wow that's actually it's kind of interesting yeah you didn't really answer me either though yeah because

06:30:31.580 i'm not going to speak about my sex life right and that was the point i was trying to make that

06:30:35.500 not all women want to share about their body count so thank you for helping me with that

06:30:40.460 yeah look the the whole the whole thing stems from the reason i pushed back is because you said

06:30:45.260 that body count isn't a big deal it doesn't matter and so like it would occur to me logically and you

06:30:52.060 don't want to answer because of a man maybe i'm seriously dating one of the guys that i'm seeing and

06:30:55.980 maybe he's watching and i don't want him to share i'm just not married so i'm not flexing my husband

06:30:59.260 right it's it's like we all got our reasons go ahead i'm sorry um i just want to touch on that

06:31:04.380 romantic part you said that uh the dating like the wait what um i guess we could come back what

06:31:11.020 yeah i just want to come back to that um being as a woman romantically like involved with other men

06:31:17.100 if she was like dating other men besides you women don't really get romantically involved like that

06:31:24.220 on the get-go they're just seeing guys as friends and seeing maybe there is something there but i

06:31:31.900 personally if i went on a date on the first date i don't get romantically involved in love or like oh

06:31:38.300 my god i'm gonna spend my my time with you and then go to the next guy and say the same thing you know

06:31:43.660 if i meet the right person that's because women have an abundance mindset but when you do like here's

06:31:47.900 the thing right when you encounter women because okay i think most men's experience when it comes

06:31:55.740 to dating women is women naturally have an abundance mindset because women's sexual and romantic

06:32:01.100 optionality is orders of magnitude superior to men's like most men have very few options most men can't

06:32:09.660 be going on like taking like an average girl like we talked about earlier an average girl if she was so

06:32:14.780 inclined could it's very easy for a woman to be a slut but an average girl could have a new date

06:32:21.420 every single day of the week whereas an average guy take dating apps for example he's lucky to get

06:32:27.420 one date a month that's even then that's but that's like a woman has you know she will probably have

06:32:34.780 decency to say no i don't want to sleep with you if if like me personally if i don't feel your vibe or i

06:32:40.940 don't you know get along with you romantically where we you know we have a good time and we vibe

06:32:47.900 yeah i won't sleep with you okay but so just just to finish my point on that so

06:32:53.820 my position as somebody who's had plenty of experience dealing with low interest women kind

06:32:59.660 of fence sitter women women with like medium interest you know fence sitters and also who's had

06:33:07.020 experience with women who have demonstrated very high levels of interest for me there's no going

06:33:13.100 back anymore yeah i'm not dealing with low interest women anymore yeah i've had women who like with

06:33:18.380 really high interest and i mean they're it's very annoying to meet somebody you like and that person

06:33:24.860 it's just like you don't know yeah like it's like i'm on this leg or this what are we doing that's

06:33:31.100 the worst i just stopped talking to a guy who made me feel like i can't tell if you like me or hate me

06:33:35.980 so i'm just gonna stop talking to you because i don't know where i stand in this right yeah so i

06:33:40.620 totally get where you're coming from but unfortunately i think for the vast majority of men because to

06:33:45.660 some degree i because of my you know my my online presence and i think women also feel this because

06:33:52.700 women you'll get contacted by men you never know your social yeah but but like there are definitely

06:33:58.860 women that will pursue you and will demonstrate a really high level of interest so and i've i've

06:34:03.740 even had that before uh i got involved in social media but like there's once you've had that for

06:34:10.620 me there's just i don't i'm not going to deal with low interest women i mean i've met i met guys

06:34:15.900 i think are super attractive and like oh my god this is the hottest dude ever and then you hang out and

06:34:22.300 it's like cringe you know and and the other way around like not the best looking on on a picture

06:34:30.940 but then you hang out and it's like awesome the best ever so you know and just and i know you want

06:34:36.860 to come in here in just a sec carla but my view is there's like this whole thing about and i think

06:34:40.620 carla you actually have a video on this is like playing hard to get or whatever a woman who plays hard

06:34:46.060 to get quickly becomes hard to want so for me like i'm not playing that game oh okay like you're not

06:34:54.540 being we had uh there was this were you on i don't know if you're on that show there was a girl who was

06:34:59.580 like one of the the ladies was talking about how this guy was like total simp and he he'd sent 25 love

06:35:07.020 letters to this woman she never responded and then he stopped and then she's like got back in touch with

06:35:12.540 him oh where's my why'd you stop yeah i was like bro i'm super romantic by the way

06:35:19.740 that women should not women need to be accountable and not do that either how old are you 34 okay so

06:35:25.020 the women that i mainly coach they're in their early 20s right so they're going to be talking to

06:35:29.340 men that are also in their early 20s at the age of 34 you have a lot of more wisdom a lot of more

06:35:34.300 experience and most younger men you know in the dating scene so what i've noticed because this is the

06:35:40.780 way that i've lived all my life and the way that the women in my life have lived it's be hard to

06:35:44.860 get let him win you over be be a lady let him pursue you right and so to some men maybe not you

06:35:52.460 but to the men that i've attracted before they seem to love it and they seem to you know really

06:35:58.620 not just find it entertaining but like oh my gosh like this is i'm working you value what you work for

06:36:03.820 right and so maybe to you and to a lot of people that's not the case because you already kind of like

06:36:08.780 ran out of that because you see it as a game which is totally valid but we also have to go back into

06:36:14.380 the context as to why i say be hard to get again i'm protecting a specific group of women who are

06:36:20.940 you know it's still in you know it's still in high school 17 or you know no no no i know she's 22.

06:36:28.940 but you said you said i wish i could have gone back in time in high school and would have told myself

06:36:33.180 you know xyz so that's who i'm speaking to so in a way i'm protecting these women from putting

06:36:38.940 themselves in unsafe you know relationships what's not well you can you can still be interested in

06:36:45.820 somebody and not play hard to get yeah i'm sorry so like what's hard to get first of all like what's

06:36:51.820 hard to get in your okay so if you're like i'm not going to kiss you until like we're exclusive that's

06:36:57.980 hard to get so you are barring certain things from this man because you're not exclusive so then

06:37:05.580 i'm not going to have sex with you until we're married i think that's being hard to get now if

06:37:11.100 you're refusing to give them attention and like that's how you're playing hard to get i don't want

06:37:17.020 to have i don't want anything to do with that it's hard to get because you don't want to have sex before

06:37:21.580 marriage or so yes or do you just explain it this is my really religious yeah well so yeah i think i'm

06:37:27.740 hard to get because uh i have all of these yeah so i have these boundaries i'm not going to have

06:37:32.780 sex before marriage i it's not a bad thing yeah exactly no yeah i don't think you think it is but

06:37:37.740 yeah there are all of these physical boundaries as well as emotional boundaries that i'll set up

06:37:41.980 and say this only comes with commitment uh in uh being exclusive or in marriage my husband was hard

06:37:49.820 to get by the way yeah and i had to for two years sure and last i mean i do want to move on so

06:37:55.980 we can't linger on this too long yeah my just personal view on being hard to get again i already

06:38:00.060 said it but if a woman plays hard to get she quickly becomes hard to want that's my that's my view you

06:38:07.100 don't want her more just to see if you can no i'm just like i'm just wondering okay she's not she's not

06:38:12.860 really warm to me okay goodbye because some guys i don't want to waste my time guys don't want to feel

06:38:17.500 played either like when guys feel games they just feel like they're going to get played yeah and so when

06:38:22.060 things even if it's not a game and it just reminds them of the game yeah i agree i agree 100 i'm just

06:38:26.940 like i'm very i think i'm very direct i'm very blunt i'm very straightforward i like you you like me

06:38:33.180 cool let's be together i think i think when she means like hard to get is like she's still going to

06:38:37.820 show you interest but you're just not going to get everything all at once i think that's what she

06:38:41.420 means yeah so so what i'm gonna get so like what i do give you know before the exclusivity is like that

06:38:47.820 attention like i'm gonna give you attention i'm gonna save time for you i'm gonna say yes to the dates

06:38:51.340 because that's me showing interest so i'm glad that we established what we think yeah yeah but

06:38:55.020 i think when most people hear hard to get it's usually okay i'm gonna withhold interest yeah and

06:38:59.980 i'm gonna like not respond to them i'll i'll leave leave them on red for like a day oh wait can we pull

06:39:05.900 up next video next video nick if you can get the uh next exactly yeah when no no one here has time to

06:39:12.300 be yeah i don't have time one sec guys go ahead go ahead you could start doing to check if he's husband

06:39:16.860 material or not is by asking this one question if there were a fight to break out in the middle of a

06:39:21.020 grocery store or in the middle of an event what type of man would he be would he be the one to

06:39:25.020 pull out his phone to record or would he be the man to try to fix but so i want to explain

06:39:31.900 i think probably another video video played it's okay just fix it um probably you can you're gonna

06:39:37.100 have to unmute it just to see which other video started playing all randomly um are you by the

06:39:42.380 way you can close out the tabs for all the previous videos because that could be overloading the

06:39:46.140 computer a little bit um yeah yeah um can you pull that one back up let's just see the rest of it

06:39:55.260 this fight and get in between and be the middle man aka he's reactive to a situation like that

06:40:00.060 because tell me why nowadays men instead of helping out the woman who's in danger or anybody that's in

06:40:04.300 danger for that matter instead of helping and being reactive all they do is pull out their phone to post

06:40:08.620 positive i think that's wait question so what would you do in that situation

06:40:15.820 oh yeah uh so i definitely saw this video after she posted it but i'm glad to know that i am looked

06:40:22.860 at as a hero and a savior or uh someone who keeps my wife safe sure uh in certain situations uh if it

06:40:32.300 it it's hard to say what i would do in a situation without being in the situation uh if it's a fight

06:40:38.460 between two men uh is it the best idea to break it up uh it's obviously gonna have to come down to me

06:40:46.460 looking at the situation and seeing if it's even safe for my wife to be there uh if if i should just

06:40:52.700 leave if i should take my wife my kids whoever's with me and go just get out of the situation yeah if

06:41:00.140 i'm directly involved maybe i'll take a video to show the police when they show up because uh

06:41:06.540 maybe that's my best defense against it in in any court uh it all just depends on the situation and

06:41:13.820 i wouldn't say i would jump in and be the hero every time but i would definitely keep my family safe

06:41:19.660 in every situation wait can we play the rest actually let's play the rest i think there's a

06:41:23.260 little more go ahead that's the most attractive thing for me knowing that my husband is gonna go

06:41:28.140 ratchet on someone knowing that my husband is not afraid to protect who he cares about or to protect

06:41:32.540 those that need protecting is another level of sexy oh did it pause again i'd be the one

06:41:39.260 um wait another level of sexy oh wait what my i will be the one filming for the tiktok

06:41:46.540 uh well okay so um let's see do so you think protecting uh whenever a woman is in danger do you

06:41:55.660 think like the husband should give his life i think that's what you say in the video right yeah so when

06:42:01.980 when i was saying well recording that it's it's it was out of frustration from a situation that we saw

06:42:07.980 like a breakout at walmart and there was so you were you both no no no this was my yeah this was

06:42:12.940 my mom so she and she was actually telling me the story i didn't really know and that this is where the

06:42:16.700 idea stemmed stemmed from because she was so terrified so scared and she's like i hated to see all

06:42:22.460 the men just recording like idiots because it was two men there and a guy in in the store was like

06:42:29.420 bullying a special needs kid and a fight broke out and my mom was like i'm glad that guy who was

06:42:35.260 bullying this kid got you know his butt whipped but like everybody in the room or everybody there

06:42:40.860 the mom was yelling help my son help my son and no one stood up everybody was just recording and

06:42:46.700 nobody like tried calling you know number one no one did anything so i was like that's like the one

06:42:50.860 thing that i love about you know my husband if it were me in that situation oh he he you know he

06:42:56.220 doesn't care and not just that but i've seen my husband like in a in a fight or flight zone and

06:43:02.780 he reacts to every situation so well and i don't know if it's because he's in the military and going

06:43:06.380 on to the police force but that is like another level of like sexy i i can't explain being able to

06:43:13.100 feel safe protected by your man and every situation it's hot okay gotcha and you said it sounded like

06:43:19.900 um what about like if it's a first date do you think like you should still the guy should still

06:43:25.820 like protect the woman even like first date yeah like it so that and this and this is the analogy that

06:43:33.020 i use when it comes to this is like a man is a car and the woman is a pedestrian a man has the ability to

06:43:38.300 protect okay a man has a strength and the ability to be able to protect you know his woman in that

06:43:44.700 way so i think if he's going to go out on a date it's like you have to take on the full you have this

06:43:49.660 is how i want men to start thinking about like you have to be willing to acknowledge the responsibility

06:43:54.140 that you're going into this date i see okay so yeah i have a proposal though you you know you

06:43:59.260 say like single until married what about unprotected until married what does that mean

06:44:05.100 like you don't you don't get the no i'm not talking about no no no no no like you know you

06:44:12.860 don't get the man's protection you don't get that like if if you're single until married you don't get

06:44:17.340 my protection until you're out with a girl on a first date just say you're on a first date and um

06:44:25.260 you know you're not married this is just the first date yeah and you're at a coffee shop and something

06:44:30.780 a fight breaks out you as a man regardless if you're protecting her you will step in to no so

06:44:37.980 okay no it's a liability hold on it's a liability my my primary thing would be to

06:44:45.020 what would you protect all the time for no reason god what if they attacked it's a liability

06:44:50.060 yeah this person's liability yeah just but you want their full attention what it what if they

06:44:55.820 attacked her let me finish my point before you guys start interrupting so okay sorry no it wasn't

06:45:01.980 even you um if there's two people fighting and i'm with my girlfriend hey babe grabbing her by the

06:45:10.780 arm let's leave like i don't think it's my job to like intervene because like look you can you can be

06:45:17.980 you can be the hero no no but like you can be the hero but i've seen way too many situations where

06:45:22.940 some poor guy tries to break up a fight the guy swings around knocks him out who knows if there's

06:45:27.580 a weapon involved my personal thing is there's a lot of crazy people out there um so you're logical

06:45:33.260 and smart and you're still putting her forward because you're not being no i'm not saying i just

06:45:38.380 leave like you know but i would i would like to say a scenario so i'm just like yo we need to like if

06:45:43.820 some shit's going down like my prime my primary thing is like yo we got like if i'm assessing the

06:45:49.500 situation yo this is i don't know if they have a weapon okay we gotta we gotta leave let's go

06:45:54.460 absolutely so here's the thing so this also stemmed from another case that i saw it was a recent thing

06:45:59.580 it was i got a lot of hate for it it was like in september where i don't know her last name was

06:46:03.900 alvarez and she got shot and you know she you know but she was in the car with her boyfriend at 12 a.m

06:46:12.380 i don't know doing what nonsense in the car and this random person comes by pulls out you know the

06:46:18.060 the the firearm and this man runs away and leaves her there because he shoots and she's left there

06:46:23.980 injured and instead of being a protector like the way that i say he left her there and to find help

06:46:30.380 and by the time that he came back obviously she was gone and was found uh you know wait no longer

06:46:35.260 here for everybody here what would you guys think is the most based or alpha thing right so you often

06:46:41.420 hear like men like let's say there's a bullet right oh jumping in front of the bullet like for

06:46:45.260 his his girlfriend i kind of think like the most alpha thing is if the man uses i'm i'm kind of memeing

06:46:55.100 here the woman the the man like lets the woman jump in front of the bullet to like save the man or

06:47:00.700 uses the woman as like a meat shield to protect himself this is that way because as the provider

06:47:05.740 as the provider and i feel like i'm more capable of like providing for our kids like if we have kids

06:47:12.700 oh you're like you need i need to survive yeah i need to survive now from a purely alpha point of

06:47:18.140 view like the most fucking alpha thing would be like my survival's number one i can procure

06:47:26.300 i can go procreate with another woman that's the most like it's like sure maybe it's alpha if you'll

06:47:32.780 protect your girlfriend but the most alpha thing if like there's a situation where it's like one or

06:47:37.100 the other one of you has not even like the most fucking alpha thing is so hold on the most alpha

06:47:44.380 thing bro is for you to continue on your survival so you can continue passing on your seed that's

06:47:51.100 fucking alpha you sacrifice your woman for the greater good so that you can continue on find another

06:47:59.260 woman and continue like that's that would be the most out this is the type of broke man that i'm

06:48:03.580 talking to you guys about no that's exactly the fucking alpha no no listen this is this actually

06:48:08.700 happened and that's why i say that's why i say to to women like know who you're with know who you're

06:48:13.340 with because i'm not saying i'm alpha by the way i'm just saying that would be the most alpha thing

06:48:18.140 to sacrifice the woman so you can continue living on so you can either continue protecting and providing

06:48:23.900 for your children and finding a new woman to also impregnate and have seven sons with

06:48:30.700 right i doubt that's in the bible i know i doubt that's in the bible just saying i don't think it's

06:48:37.020 definitely not but but it would be like wouldn't it be but it would be the most alpha it would be the

06:48:43.820 most alpha move like you're so fucking ruthless that your own wife you will sacrifice her to continue

06:48:50.300 it's just straight darwinism i'd say the uh the mongols would agree with you what's that the

06:48:55.020 mongols might agree with you they didn't have really uh but but but there's always the purely

06:48:59.500 most animalistic instinct no but there is there's always this talk about like the alpha male the alpha

06:49:05.180 male will take a bullet for his wife no no no no the alpha male will use his wife as a meat shield

06:49:12.460 so he can continue living like that they probably do it

06:49:16.300 an alpha male will take out his gun deflect the bullet with his own bullets

06:49:20.780 yep and uh there's actually a male podcast host that like freaked out over too much responsibility

06:49:26.860 and had to have his not obviously but like had to have his girlfriend basically go save the entire

06:49:31.500 night that he planned and it was just this very i don't know what's going on help me and she

06:49:34.700 was it sigma is it maybe it's sigma um i'll tell you after but it was just very kind of like oh my god

06:49:41.580 like now obviously guys i'm i'm being kind of exaggerated here this is a bit of hyper i mean

06:49:47.180 i know a guy that you know was dating girls she wanted to have a kid and they had a kid together

06:49:51.820 but he was like to her i'll give you a kid but you'll take care of it

06:49:56.380 buyers i don't know if that's i don't know if that's i don't first off i don't like the whole

06:50:00.380 like alpha beta yeah but it's accurate she she has to take care of the kid she sleeps downstairs

06:50:06.140 with the kid there's like sigma male grind set throwing your wife to the tiger okay i don't

06:50:12.860 know whatever okay um all right uh let's see here let's pull up the or wait did the video just come

06:50:18.380 out is that oh uh just close out the one the husband material check do the next one how to

06:50:28.140 just try it just try see if it works

06:50:29.820 okay you're already in an exclusive relationship should you still date other men no let me go ahead

06:50:38.700 and explain what i need you to do before you get into an exclusive let's just i don't just do next

06:50:43.820 just so we can i want to try to wrap up soon so next one next one next when we say rotational date we

06:50:54.300 are not saying to sleep with them this is why having boundaries is extremely important this is

06:50:59.100 also why i don't want you to get physical with a man the first couple of dates whenever i get asked

06:51:03.420 by all of you if you should disclose that you're talking to multiple men i always say yes only if

06:51:07.260 they ask and the reason why i stress that you need to have class and respect yourself is so that when

06:51:12.060 you tell them that you are talking to multiple men they understand that you're not sleeping around

06:51:16.060 you're not disrespecting yourself you're simply getting to know your options you're dating i don't know

06:51:21.020 about you but intimacy for me was definitely a wife privilege kissing should be a boyfriend

06:51:26.460 privilege holding hands should also be a boyfriend privilege by the way whenever someone doesn't like

06:51:31.500 the emotional dating and talking to multiple men because they need all of your attention they're not

06:51:35.420 good options and they're mature enough because when you're dating you're just dating you're just

06:51:42.300 talking you're spending time together to see if it is going to lead to a relationship here we can always

06:51:47.420 pause it pause pause it um wait so okay first off the background music is epic on that it's like

06:51:53.500 it's like uh uh so wait hold on okay so intimacy is a wife privilege okay yep we got that um so but

06:52:04.540 do you genuinely believe like that someone wanting to date someone who isn't talking to and dating other

06:52:09.020 people they're they're not good options or not mature enough as you said in the video for example

06:52:14.300 so again i think it goes back to background and age um obviously i think that what you do really

06:52:20.780 probably goes into and pours into your dating life so i think that men who aren't so involved

06:52:27.260 in this wouldn't know so much so i feel like i'm speaking to men who might not that are too busy you

06:52:32.380 know working a lot long hours and doing what they need to do that they barely have any time on social

06:52:37.020 media so they wouldn't know because this is for the girls um they wouldn't know all of these things but

06:52:41.900 you do know because you've been exposed to all of this and you know your followers also know as well

06:52:46.780 so i think that for my opinion in my opinion a man who doesn't want to see like you know one of his

06:52:54.140 options like thrive in the dating market i think that they're very in a way i guess selfish wait hold

06:52:59.340 on wait hold on wait it's selfish to not want somebody that you're let me i think it's selfish for you

06:53:09.980 not to want the girl that you're dating to thrive just not to be you said thrive right yeah to thrive

06:53:15.580 well of course yeah i i don't want i want the girl that i'm seeing to what's the opposite of thrive

06:53:22.380 to have a terrible experience in the dating market and i'm here

06:53:33.020 i'm joking a little bit it's not that's not what i'm saying but no i certainly don't want

06:53:37.740 her to be thriving because if she's thriving with the other options then i feel like that diminishes

06:53:44.460 my

06:53:47.420 chance of getting her i guess because you would have to like step up you know step up your game

06:53:52.220 like and that's that's what i'm saying if you but i'm not gonna be the i i feel like here's the thing

06:53:57.500 like there's gonna be and people tend to compartmentalize this both men and women so like

06:54:03.420 for example a woman might have a guy who's like really good in bed but he's broke so like and i'm

06:54:09.980 not i don't think that this is what you're advocating for at all but like you'll have women who will okay

06:54:14.380 he is the provider guy he's this is the emotional support guy here's the guy with a really good

06:54:19.260 personality here's the guy with a really good dick um and so they'll like compartmentalize and

06:54:24.220 shit and so uh i recognize like there are perhaps some dimensions where i'm not like the ultimate

06:54:33.900 like there's always there's always somebody better there's always somebody better right so

06:54:39.900 my concern is if she's thriving in the in her with her other dating options it's just like

06:54:48.140 i don't want you to be thriving no thriving you don't get to thrive you can thrive with me

06:54:52.300 you can thrive with me other men no i don't like you thriving you can't thrive with other men

06:54:57.500 you can thrive with me absolutely and to some i only got eyes for you yeah some women are gonna go for

06:55:03.020 that but other women are gonna be like you know what you do have a point and they're gonna they're

06:55:07.100 gonna do what i suggest and thus far because i am a woman's advocate i think that this is why

06:55:11.660 i say it this way and obviously you stand for for men but it really it really it really just it

06:55:18.060 really just depends i guess okay yeah and uh let me see here so okay oh well when it comes to the

06:55:26.220 rotational dating thing so and again i think it's like you

06:55:32.860 mind you mind you i think the reason why dustin was okay with me rotational dating and he was like

06:55:36.940 okay with it was because i would consider myself being an um i don't want to say like i was spectacular

06:55:42.780 i would i would say like i don't want to my own horn here but i mean i'm i'm educated i had a job

06:55:47.820 i'm bilingual i'm cultured and i'm fun i'm fun to be around and one thing that we didn't discuss

06:55:53.740 was i'm not talking about the past right so one thing that i noticed was whenever you talk to a

06:55:58.140 man on the first like for a meetup and you talk about your dreams together oh my gosh if you're talking

06:56:02.780 to the right man a successful minded man i would assume that both of you guys are successful minded men

06:56:07.500 um you can go blabbing on about about your dreams and not focus so much on the past so that's why i

06:56:13.660 avoid talking about the past on first dates and and again going into this conversation and i you know

06:56:19.420 i've made some notes on stuff um i didn't know that you know you were virgin so that obviously like and

06:56:26.220 because when i think rotational dating i think the way probably most women move is when they're

06:56:32.620 rotational dating they're absolutely kissing the other guys having sex with the other guys i'm not

06:56:39.500 saying all women move like that but there's definitely enough women especially here in

06:56:42.940 california absolutely that are dating sleeping with multiple men to me and granted like i

06:56:51.580 my advice for any guy if that girl is sleeping with another guy that's just a non-starter absolutely

06:56:58.460 and i agree with you yeah and but my standard is a little higher my standard is well if she's even

06:57:03.420 dating other men for me personally that's a non-starter too um because i because i feel like

06:57:09.820 to give at least my view to give the relationship the best chance of flourishing and proceeding

06:57:16.860 there can't be other guys in the picture like once you meet me other guys have to be a wrap

06:57:21.500 preferably you're just proper single when when i come into your life and you come into mine

06:57:26.940 um so yeah and those are your standards and one thing that i want to say is like i'm not speaking

06:57:32.380 to those women those women that are promiscuous i don't i'm not like i'm speaking to the women who

06:57:37.900 are who are wise who are like know how to dominate their emotions and know like what's best for them

06:57:43.020 so this really doesn't apply to women who are extremely promiscuous this really applies to women

06:57:47.100 who are marriage-minded which is very very different wait nick did they have to take off or are they

06:57:51.260 coming back or uh no okay i think they just had to use the bathroom yeah we'll try to wrap up here

06:57:56.780 pretty soon um let's pull up the next video why not we have oh what's this one oh how she met her

06:58:04.860 husband part two go ahead nick parts two as to how i met my now husband so at this point i have two

06:58:10.140 weeks of dates lined up oh the audios can you look at it on the oh okay go ahead keep playing um

06:58:16.380 we're extremely attracted and successful wait start sorry start from the beginning because i was

06:58:19.500 talking i don't want to part two as to how i met my now husband so at this point i have two weeks of

06:58:26.060 dates lined up from the apps and all of them all of them were extremely attracted and successful but

06:58:31.260 anyways the day rolls around where i have a coffee meetup with this guy named dustin prerequisite for

06:58:36.220 me by the way to get a date with me you cannot be from california i was only dating guys wait pause

06:58:40.540 pause pause okay that's it can't be from california oh absolutely absolutely not gotcha um and so you

06:58:48.060 said you had two weeks of lined up dates and they were all attractive and successful guys okay when

06:58:55.100 you say like two weeks of lined up dates would you like so a couple dates a week every single day or it

06:59:01.980 was like uh let's say two weeks and out of those two weeks there was like six five dates six five days

06:59:08.540 okay okay gotcha and i i mean a question for you um is it destin or dustin the wise the why threw me

06:59:17.100 off it dustin dustin gotcha um did that like i think some men can be competitive in the sense like

06:59:25.660 did that light a fire under you like oh okay should i really want to get her because she's got these

06:59:32.300 other as she said two weeks of lined up dates all attractive and successful and so i knew that uh

06:59:38.060 any woman that i went after was going to have options okay uh competitiveness has been around

06:59:43.740 since cavemen there's always a guy with a bigger rock uh sure so it just it lit a fire under me so

06:59:51.180 she didn't really have time to go with out of the dates because every day i would text her and say

06:59:55.020 hey what are we eating tonight yeah yeah okay all right good times good times next one nick

07:00:01.980 oh my god holy fuck i have so many notes holy shit what's up oh my notes what's up yeah yeah um

07:00:15.020 wait question are you down to come back maybe we could hit on absolutely because i feel like this

07:00:20.860 show's gone super late so i've i have i have like literally this could probably if we tried to get

07:00:26.220 through all of them it'd probably be i'm trying to i have one other question for the dating stage

07:00:34.140 should we do it round two do it yeah let's do it i just i know some of the girls here probably it's

07:00:40.140 getting late so i don't want to i'm on new york time too so yeah yeah okay all right yeah let's um

07:00:47.020 well here final thoughts from everybody does anyone have a uh any final thoughts here before we wrap up

07:00:52.540 the show if you can just make it quick go ahead i do have to say i'm really grateful for being on

07:00:57.500 this show because it really helped me um to get perspective on a lot of things when it comes to

07:01:04.060 seeing uh relationships and just in general guys so thank you for that yeah welcome welcome i actually

07:01:13.100 just wanted to thank all of the virgins for sharing like their or the virgins and the low body count people

07:01:19.980 for sharing their um experience because i honestly like really can't i wouldn't be able to even have

07:01:26.140 context for what you're talking about without this conversation so thank you you're welcome are you

07:01:31.340 of course are you talking about him i mean and her too like oh okay yeah yeah like it's just like a

07:01:36.860 like like an entire like way of life that i didn't yeah nick did you say you too oh yeah nick nick's also

07:01:42.300 virgin yeah let's go nick i i real quick i am so in you guys are super all of you are so smart i thought

07:01:51.100 that i was gonna come into a different space but i'm you guys really opened my eyes to some different

07:01:55.900 things and likewise thank you so much for giving perspective on a lot of things i want to say

07:02:01.740 no go ahead go ahead i just want to say thank you everyone i know i'm a firecracker and i fly off the

07:02:06.780 handle it is not just it's not just a facade it's who i am um with that said it's all love i just like

07:02:14.780 to get challenged and i like to challenge people too so i really appreciate you guys listening to

07:02:18.940 me when i apologize wait last question what do you think of white people um i prefer black men thank

07:02:25.900 you very much you're just digging that hole no let me let me just say about that though that was written

07:02:31.740 in response to some people calling me out about my partner don't worry about that what do you think

07:02:35.580 of white people i i don't i don't like white people oh holy yo i keep giving it back if you're

07:02:43.980 going to keep firing white people wait so you don't like white people no that's why i don't like

07:02:54.380 myself no i'm just kidding i love myself oh wow the self-loathing yes yes she's the clayton bigsby of the

07:03:00.060 white people hey you can be a humble wait what do you think of what do you think of men what i think

07:03:06.620 of men there's a reason why i get paid to degrade them for a living sweetheart what is that i do not

07:03:11.900 think highly of most men i'm also bisexual mainly gay so well you can if my mindset is more towards

07:03:21.740 women i'm not gonna have a lot to say towards men because i'm not pursuing them as a partner well

07:03:26.780 shouldn't you even have i feel like because you're not dealing with men well i mean you do deal with

07:03:32.380 or have dealt with men romantically but i i feel like you could almost make a stronger argument if

07:03:37.100 you're not dealing with men romantically then because a lot of there's a lot of conflict in

07:03:45.020 romantic relationships so a lot i i think honestly a lot of the animosity frankly that the genders have

07:03:52.380 for each other stems to some degree from dating and relationships and uh let me reiterate it's

07:03:59.660 the men that are disrespectful the ones that i see all the time that are doing infidelity like

07:04:05.740 completely off the charts the ones that i have dealt with so eight out of ten men that i have dealt

07:04:12.060 with i don't have respect for my ex even though he did me dirty he was an amazing man he did everything

07:04:18.380 to a t because he was amazing man but he was still a great man he loved me he gave me everything he

07:04:24.940 could on not financially that doesn't make him less of a man he became broke two years after we got

07:04:30.460 together and then chose not to work again that's where my quorum quorum was i cannot handle that but

07:04:36.540 he was a great man but i can only handle so much of that unconditional love to where i'm now hurting

07:04:41.660 myself we weren't married to watch men give up yeah like i like love aside i think it's hard to

07:04:47.660 watch anyone give up right so when you're in a relationship with someone and it's turning into

07:04:53.100 a situation rather than something they're just going through i think that's not what we agreed on

07:04:57.820 going in a relationship you agree on something you can't break it up like that it's not fair wait so

07:05:02.140 like if i was to do that to him he wouldn't have liked it wait i have just to reiterate what do you

07:05:08.140 think of america god you went there wow into the mic same answer well we didn't know but restate the

07:05:18.220 answer don't do this to her restate it restate it i love philadelphia go eagles yeah that's where i'm

07:05:24.620 sticking to it were you watching the show oh yeah yeah but but i've been watching the show the whole

07:05:29.820 time oh my god she she's not a big fan of the u.s what do you think about that uh i think it's a

07:05:35.340 privilege to have your own opinion about everything in the u.s indeed congratulations facts for your

07:05:43.180 there's a lot of countries where you couldn't openly talk about your own country lots of

07:05:48.060 countries i've been murdered for such things i do have to say you are harsh but oh i'm harsh no no no no

07:05:55.660 no i am saying this as a good thing oh you are harsh but there are certain things in my life where

07:06:01.500 i needed that bandit just ripped off and you did that for me so thank you so like what i don't want

07:06:07.580 to get into what what it is in my head but it solved a lot of titty things then well no that that was a

07:06:15.500 thing that i wanted that i changed my mind about a long time ago but uh what i mean is like love

07:06:21.340 relationships and so on so on so thank you for that can i actually add to that like i feel like when i first

07:06:27.180 saw you um you had a different energy and right now you have like a completely different energy than

07:06:33.900 when you yes a lot of things um during these hours played out in my phone yeah in your phone yes so

07:06:42.380 thank you for that god bless that's amazing it it helped me a lot yeah that's beautiful i think that

07:06:48.860 a lot of the times like we make this we make decisions because there's no self-awareness in certain

07:06:53.660 things or we don't have good guidance in our especially in our childhood and throughout life

07:06:58.300 and we get influenced by people around us and we don't realize that we're like in a bad environment

07:07:02.460 until we 100 start to share with different types of different types of mind yeah oh wait kendra i got

07:07:08.220 another thing here you had a tweet i don't know i don't know if i already brought this up

07:07:12.380 i really wish men did i read this already i really wish men appreciated when they have a good

07:07:16.460 provider who's a og porn star in their presence willing to spend time with them not even that just

07:07:22.540 the presence of a woman who knows and understands your needs it's hard to find us trust me wait so

07:07:27.980 i really wish men appreciate when they have a good provider so like you so like the woman yeah wait

07:07:34.620 into the mic if you can yes but you said that like very early on in the conversation you said that

07:07:41.980 you were very upset about paying for the paying the bills in your last relationship okay again he sold

07:07:48.860 me a false relationship i went into it thinking he's a multi-millionaire and two years later he's

07:07:54.140 broke on the couch so and it's one thing if he yes he was you can look him up phil tyler

07:08:01.660 freaking famous yes he's a good he's an actor he's great very nice guy but after

07:08:07.420 two years he had medical issues he had constant issues and after so long a woman can only endure so much

07:08:14.220 phil tyler yeah yeah we see you dated you were romantically involved with phil tyler for four

07:08:18.940 years he proposed last year twice beautiful blue sapphire ring everything you can bring him up so we

07:08:26.540 can see please go i don't know if it's i don't know if it's gorgeous he's a great i don't know if i want

07:08:31.340 to do that's his name already he's an actor well if the viewers want to see yeah we're in this too

07:08:38.140 deep yeah we're in too deep in the time to keep up above my head he's a public figure so he's out

07:08:46.780 there probably you're fine yeah some 41 let's go yeah okay all right they're playing soon i yeah

07:08:53.340 if it's like imbd it's public information sounds like white people music it is sounds like white

07:08:57.820 people music 100 oh yeah let's go um wait okay so oh is he hot bring him up yeah he's he's handsome

07:09:08.700 he's pretty handsome he's a decent looking man decent wait so you were you guys in a monogamous

07:09:14.540 relationship mainly and me wait we were in monogamous is this already like publicly known

07:09:19.900 that you guys were dating no we never walked red carpets together only my red carpets he came with

07:09:24.460 oh but no but like i met i was together like i kendra lee ryan has never publicly announced this

07:09:32.220 is the first time i've ever publicly announced my partner ever i had kept it under secret for four

07:09:36.940 four years wait so and how did you characterize him you said great guy he's an amazing man but

07:09:42.540 he's his ambition and i'm my his ambition and me enabling him for so long broke him as a man and

07:09:50.380 because he was broken as a man i couldn't help i'm sure maybe because he was broken as a man i can't

07:09:56.060 fix you you have to do it yourself and if you're not willing to get a job you're not willing to go

07:09:59.340 to therapy and you're not willing to do things that i need you to do that i'm doing then that's

07:10:03.580 not a fair relationship he's kind of a giga chad not gonna lie what's that like a chad but a giga

07:10:09.180 chad meaning he's a really like kind of good looking dude yeah is he wait chad is he i mean there's

07:10:18.140 this like a there's like this there's this photo of him in a in a suit like he kind of looks like

07:10:22.460 a giga chad not gonna lie we're not seeing him should we pull it up this is him right here here

07:10:27.020 fuck nick phil tyler google image search oh wait the mark the one in the suit yeah at the top yep

07:10:34.780 yeah yeah that's kind of come on a giga chat okay i will say in real life he's not really a giga

07:10:41.420 chad whoa whoa he doesn't have the he doesn't wear the mark of the chat you know what i mean

07:10:46.540 put some respect put some respect on phil tyler's name okay i will and i will say i was like not

07:10:52.940 really like because i'm her friend right so my natural inclination it's like hey guys guys guys

07:10:58.140 guys let her talk please yeah so i met them my natural inclination of it is kind of like hey she's

07:11:03.500 my friend i've known her for a while so if this isn't is not on the up and up i'm just not for it yeah

07:11:08.620 um i have my loyalties to her right and so but he is like he's a good-looking guy you really wanted

07:11:14.860 to do a lot it's just like people get into these depressed things right and it's hard to get out

07:11:19.580 and so but i mean honestly like i know i know she is a firecracker and looks different and has tattoos

07:11:25.260 and stuff like that but i've seen this girl pull really hot guys consistently and they're like good

07:11:30.140 guys yeah relationships and have like long-term relationships with them so i know that like she

07:11:34.540 it like it seems a certain way but i've seen it i've seen this happen over and over i've seen

07:11:39.500 you know what i mean like good guys but he but it's you can't co-sign a life like that if it starts

07:11:45.340 kind of going downhill because he's never going to change if you make it comfy for him you know what

07:11:49.340 i mean so it's really not doing anyone a service like yeah just keep doing this right you know what

07:11:53.900 i mean so it was better for everybody but a hundred thousand dollars a year without lifting a finger

07:12:01.100 kind of jealous that's pretty dope when you have to take care of your grandmother's rent on top of

07:12:07.980 all of her bills and your own it's not that much like it's really not especially because my

07:12:12.220 grandmother has broken every one hundred thousand one source of revenue one source guys guys one source

07:12:20.620 of revenue that's that's pretty impressive i mean i like two fingers quite often

07:12:26.140 is that like a i'm just kidding yeah never mind whoa whoa whoa whoa wait okay so you don't like

07:12:39.180 white people you don't like men what do you what about white men wait can you grab the microphone

07:12:46.620 um you don't like white people you don't like men what about like white men do you like them

07:12:52.060 two negatives make a positive not really maybe it cancels each other out so my second relationship

07:12:58.140 wasn't which was not a good one he actually uh physically abused me to the point of almost

07:13:03.340 yeah and he was white he was white and i'm not gonna lie that's probably where i'm sorry sure i'm

07:13:08.380 sorry to hear that happened but like i don't don't you think it's a bit like sexist or racist absolutely

07:13:14.540 absolutely but there's right now that's what i feel comfortable with and if that's what i feel

07:13:17.900 comfortable and safe with and that's how i feel okay there you go and just to also say i don't

07:13:22.060 really hate american white people it's kind of just on my twitter and that was literally so old

07:13:27.420 ago what am i gonna don't walk it back what i wrote no i'm not gonna deny it i still stand by it i

07:13:31.740 wrote it i didn't delete it so clearly i still stand by it but i'm not or what everyone thinks i am

07:13:37.340 so wait do you consider uh really quick i know i know we're gonna wrap so soon guys going around

07:13:43.020 the table really quick do you consider yourself a feminist no no no not really no no nope no

07:13:54.140 negative oh okay yes no no no it's changed now

07:14:02.060 i'm really a woman though a man is my leader and i know that bothers women that's sometimes triggering

07:14:06.860 for women to hear but like i was raised with like good male like like role models that really honestly

07:14:12.380 impressed me and so it's like it i do want my leader to be a man you know what i mean i don't

07:14:16.860 want it to be a woman and it's cool if it is i don't have a problem like a fundamental issue if my

07:14:21.100 if it's like i'm at a job and my leader is a woman but it's like i would kind of like

07:14:25.660 prefer it to be a man and yeah can i say like for the most part when women have like leading roles

07:14:32.140 it's because they live like in a very masculine energy and it's because they've grown up on survival

07:14:36.540 mode and i think that that's why like um it's more of a male role not that we can't do it but

07:14:42.380 it's more of like our dominant yeah they adopt male traits so they're extremely disagreeable they're

07:14:48.220 very driven i've always gotten along with it i got it i got a wrap guys i got a wrap i've kept you guys

07:14:53.820 here for way too long thank you guys this is our this is has been our longest show ever so i think you

07:15:00.940 guys i know it went did you love it did we do a good job for you or did we that's what i need

07:15:06.860 are we too boring did we fuck your life up i don't know if i go there like rate go there rate rate our

07:15:13.740 performance rate one through ten one through ten i'll tell you this it's your turn i'll tell you this

07:15:19.660 i'm gonna i'm gonna just like twist the knife here a little bit do it had you revealed your body

07:15:25.820 count it would have been a ten oh i'm the only ten in this guy's life almost there you go

07:15:32.940 is it at eight and a half now i'm not sure is it a five i'll live with a five i'm a five don't

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