Whatever Podcast - SIMP Paid Her Bills On FIRST DATE？! Feminist Until The Check Comes？! ｜ Dating Talk #120

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00:02:07.420 going to have the guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name age and occupation go ahead

00:02:12.220 hi i'm celeste i'm 23 and i go to csun you go to csun okay are you a grad student undergrad undergrad

00:02:21.460 okay what are you studying there marketing marketing okay and you do any content creation or just

00:02:26.600 student right now uh i do a little bit of only fans i just started a little bit of only fans okay

00:02:32.620 is there any reason you glossed over the doing the only fans thing or um because mainly i'm just a

00:02:40.040 student i'm focusing on that more than only fans how long have you been doing only fans i recently

00:02:44.880 started this year uh like last month january two three months ago okay got it what about you my name

00:02:53.020 is nicole i'm 23 i'm a full-time caretaker for my grandmother full-time online student i'm an author

00:02:58.740 and an artist what do you study i'm undecided but as of right now i'm really enjoying political science

00:03:05.960 and journalism okay got it and you said you're an artist what kind of art do you make i do paintings

00:03:12.660 and sketching paintings and sketchings okay what about you my name is mandy i'm 23 and i do only fans

00:03:19.200 all right how long have you been doing that i've been doing only fans for about three to four years

00:03:26.300 three to four years okay got it what about you my name is oksana i'm 45 and i'm a matchmaker

00:03:34.580 a matchmaker okay i think that you're the first you're our first matchmaker so maybe you can weigh

00:03:40.860 in on the what's going on in in uh you know the dating world um and you do you matchmake for men

00:03:48.840 for women for both how does it typically both men and women yeah okay so it has to be opposite

00:03:53.140 gender that's the only type of matchmaking i do okay gotcha because isn't the case that with 1.00

00:03:58.620 some matchmakers they they focus more so on like one gender over the other you know no everybody

00:04:04.160 really needs help men and women you know so it's especially the dating world that is going on right

00:04:10.060 now it's just gotcha yeah we'll get to it i see five hours okay got it what about you hello everyone

00:04:17.300 i'm jana i'm 36 years old i just moved to the usa three months ago so from moscow originally i'm

00:04:24.660 belorussian i have my journalistic background back from moscow but here i'm just going through my

00:04:31.340 transition period and just want to be involved into some volunteering with church so um background you

00:04:39.500 said you're originally from belarus but i lived in moscow for nine years before moving to the usa and

00:04:45.620 you were born in belarus yes gotcha okay and what about you because i detect an accent too are you

00:04:50.060 from kazakhstan so it's former soviet union yeah next to russia and china okay got it the petroleum

00:04:56.860 i heard petroleum is a good lots of yes yes or is it potassium i forgot okay um what about you

00:05:03.660 i'm tara i'm tara and i am 34 years old and i'm a bartender and i'm a licensed uh nurse lpn

00:05:15.800 uh i'm also from florida and yeah okay and so are you you dance if i have that correct are you

00:05:30.700 no dancing used to dance i tried it uh and then didn't didn't are you able to scoot your chair

00:05:39.320 in a little bit is there any room for you to scoot your chair in just so you can get a little closer

00:05:42.560 your your chair mine yeah your chair if you can scoot it in

00:05:48.820 okay got it what about you my name's tessa i'm 20 i am a wrangler and a ranch bronc writer and i'm

00:05:58.460 currently studying at small farms university um doing beef and cattle management okay beef and

00:06:06.120 cattle management yeah okay and you ride horses yes so i compete in rodeos for ranch bronc riding

00:06:14.440 okay do you consider yourself a horse girl uh yeah oh yeah okay all right got it what about you

00:06:23.460 my name is reina zuzunaga i am 21 years old and i work a non-profit as a graphic designer i do

00:06:31.860 freelance and i also work in ministries my faith is the most important part of my life so i do

00:06:38.340 dedicate a lot of my time to that all right welcome everybody welcome so we're going to go around the

00:06:43.000 table once more so what is your current relationship status are you single talking stage

00:06:48.040 situationship friends with benefits relationship married poly cool sex cult if you're single how

00:06:53.200 long have you been single and what's the longest relationship you've ever been in go ahead

00:06:56.340 i've been single for about a year now and the longest relationship i've been in is three years

00:07:04.040 okay longest relationship three years all right uh what about you um i've been single for like three

00:07:10.840 years yeah single for three years longest relationship probably like almost three years

00:07:19.160 can we have you scoot your mic this way just a tad thank you uh you said the longest relationship

00:07:25.260 three years was that the one that ended three years ago um yeah i was a little over three years ago

00:07:30.740 okay got it and it was a three-year relationship correct okay what about you um i've been single for

00:07:36.320 about two years still single longest relationship with like a year and a half five years still

00:07:41.940 single and you've been on the show previously so i don't know if anything's gone down since your

00:07:46.140 previous appearance but maybe we can okay uh what about you i'm married happily uh for nine years

00:07:55.420 and this is my longest relationship for nine years got it is this your first time actually married for

00:08:02.660 it's just been so good you know how many years we've been married seven eight we know each other

00:08:09.060 for nine years um is this your first marriage it is my second marriage second marriage okay got it

00:08:15.220 what about you i'm single uh my last relationships ended maybe about a year ago okay and the longest

00:08:23.780 relationships were nine years nine included five years of marriage you're married for five years okay i've been

00:08:31.740 only only married once once okay all right what about you i'm single and my longest relationship was

00:08:41.160 three years i was engaged how long have you been single

00:08:46.940 almost a year almost a year okay what about you i am not single um my longest relationship was

00:08:59.440 probably two years okay two years so you said not single so are you in a are you in a relationship

00:09:06.220 is it complicated what a relationship relationship how uh how long yet or has this relationship been

00:09:12.600 going on um well i ghosted him for about six months and then we met again randomly at a gas station

00:09:20.920 and we haven't left each other since so that's been about

00:09:24.100 three to four months since we met again at the gas station

00:09:28.620 okay wait so hold on you were seeing him what the initial period of time you're seeing him how long

00:09:36.760 were you seeing him for i one night it was a night it was like a night it was i deleted tinder i hated

00:09:43.780 dating apps and i thought he was just going to be a tinder boy and then we met again off tinder and it

00:09:52.220 was a lot different experience wait so hold on when you did you meet him in person yeah literally once

00:10:00.220 for about three hours off of tinder and i left and i you left i just left i was like i can't do this

00:10:08.180 why it was just very odd interaction we just didn't really hit it off um didn't have a lot of things in

00:10:16.140 common and then in that six months he moved away and went and worked on a ranch and came back and

00:10:25.540 we ended up having a lot more in common and could actually sit down and talk with each other and

00:10:30.400 okay yeah so you did you guys like you hooked up the that first no no nothing like that it was i was

00:10:39.520 awkwardly sitting there so was that more so on him or was it on you that was making it awkward

00:10:45.600 him why is that he took me immediately to go meet his family and all of his parents

00:10:54.060 um it's a little soon yeah and i think it was just very awkward because i have never been on a tinder

00:11:00.400 date that's my one and only tinder date i've ever been on yeah um it was just a very odd experience for

00:11:06.300 me so okay damn okay uh did you know like going like did you when you were going over to meet him 0.51

00:11:19.500 did you know you're gonna meet the parents no not a clue i had no idea so he said wait hold on 0.84

00:11:26.200 where did you meet him like at his house so we met on tinder and he invited me over to his house so

00:11:32.920 you thought it was gonna be a hookup no i thought we were gonna go out to dinner and we were meeting

00:11:37.560 at his house but he wanted to drive okay so i drove to his house it was about like five minutes away

00:11:43.900 from where i was living at the time and then his whole family including brothers sisters grandfather

00:11:49.920 grandmother they all and i was like whoa

00:11:53.420 so you drove to his house and were you gonna drive y'all to the date or he was gonna drive us

00:12:01.600 and so wait you were gonna drive to his house and then he was driving us somewhere what why

00:12:08.020 wouldn't you just meet i mean if he wanted to take his truck he's a truck guy pick you up i'm not sure

00:12:14.580 he i mean he must have known that i think it was an ambush we talk about it all the time and he says

00:12:20.040 it wasn't an ambush but i totally think it was an ambush that he planned for his family to come like

00:12:24.920 just i'm thinking logistically like was his house on the way to the date no no so or his house was on

00:12:32.760 the way to the date mine wasn't so he would go out of the way to pick me up okay so i met him halfway

00:12:38.800 okay that's part of the reason i ghosted him come on now how far did you drive it was it was only like

00:12:46.120 five ten minute drive oh okay you know it was just not that long at all that's that's and i could see

00:12:55.140 why you ghosted him that's a little intense like the first date how are you gonna meet the whole family

00:13:00.300 immediately it was rough like you said one word to him and he's like this is my mom my dad my grandma

00:13:06.740 yeah literally that's like his grandparents were sitting out on the porch dad was in the driveway like

00:13:13.440 working on his truck or something the kids were in the front playing basketball and i was like

00:13:17.860 what am i pulling up into yikes that's uh i would i would have just been out of there i would have just

00:13:26.840 the yeah anyways uh what about you um i'm single i've been single for six months and the longest

00:13:37.500 relationship um i had a boyfriend for like five days but five five days what happened there uh it was long

00:13:46.460 distance he lives in illinois and i live in arizona so it just he came out to visit for the first time

00:13:53.160 and it like we were just like yeah no this is not gonna work okay you you actually sent us pre-show

00:13:59.360 notes on this you said that you met a guy once we had been talking for a week over instagram dm

00:14:03.320 when his plane got rerouted mid-flight to phoenix we talked for months after that he flew out to

00:14:08.340 visit me for a week asked me to be his girlfriend and we broke up four days later yes did you guys

00:14:14.280 did you guys hook up no who broke up with who uh in the end it was me but it was kind of like back

00:14:21.100 and forth for a little bit oh like he wanted to end things and then i didn't and then he did and then

00:14:27.860 okay yeah all right very very complicated here yeah okay got it so um let's see pretty much

00:14:35.760 everyone here is single besides you and you there uh so what does it actually mean to be

00:14:44.680 single um so you said you've been single for a year uh but come on there's a guy in the picture

00:14:51.940 right no it's just me there's just what just me just me yeah there's no guy in the picture

00:14:58.000 there's no guy you're talking to texting with no nothing nothing hooking up with no when's the

00:15:04.680 last time you uh spent time one-on-one romantically with a guy probably like six months ago six months

00:15:12.460 ago yeah stop the cap i don't believe it i don't believe it um okay six months ago do guys dm you

00:15:23.320 on instagram yes you just ignore them all i just ignore it yeah okay are you you're not on any dating

00:15:29.780 apps or anything no i used to be on hinge but not anymore i do i see okay uh okay there's nothing

00:15:37.260 nobody in the picture maybe an ex-boyfriend kind of a little something going on i mean i'm still

00:15:43.480 friends with my ex-boyfriend but we don't talk on a daily basis still friends with your ex yeah okay

00:15:49.980 gee okay i'll come back to that because that might be an interesting conversational thread

00:15:57.780 is it a red flag if somebody is still uh friends with uh an ex so red flag ex um okay so you've

00:16:09.220 not even a date you haven't even gone on a date and because you said you've been single for a year

00:16:14.900 nothing in a year no dates no in a year so you broke up with your guy there's been no rebound there's

00:16:21.500 been nothing no okay all right sure okay i'm not protecting my piece so you're protecting your

00:16:32.660 piece oh that's i mean that's valid um what about you um what was the question oh so yeah yeah so

00:16:39.240 you're you've been single for three years yeah uh are you truly single though yeah maybe there's a

00:16:44.260 guy in the picture sort of you're not official but maybe there's a guy you're seeing no guy no

00:16:50.400 maybe a lady friend no i don't know if you know maybe i should ask is if sometimes people

00:16:55.740 play both sides you got a lady friend maybe i do but oh oh huh i thought you were single 0.80

00:17:04.580 but not romantically well no

00:17:06.620 lady friend of course i don't mean like literally a just a friend no i yeah i have lady friends i thought

00:17:15.840 you meant like guys so you have women that you're dating no women i'm dating no women that

00:17:23.060 you're seeing women that you're tonic friendship no when i say lady friend like i don't literally

00:17:29.600 mean friend i mean like a girl you're romantically sexually interested in no okay

00:17:34.180 lady friends no no when's the last time you were on a date over a year ago over a year ago i'm pretty

00:17:46.480 busy so what about like a sneaky link no anybody get sneaky link come on all right these girls are 1.00

00:17:52.940 just lying this okay so okay you've been single for three years in that three-year period has there

00:18:01.120 been another guy maybe like a friends with benefits a situation ship anything like that

00:18:06.660 um no really not nothing too serious like i'd hang out with like a male friend yeah but

00:18:12.560 i'm pretty picky so pretty picky okay 0.99

00:18:15.520 oh my god damn it 0.97

00:18:17.760 i'm gonna fix that um 0.97

00:18:37.300 uh do you want to answer so what color was the ford truck and was it a stetson or ball cap

00:18:44.080 the that's funny that he knew it was a ford it was a ford it has three different colors on it

00:18:51.140 and it's a square body and it was a stetson not a ball cap i'm wow okay that's impressive that you 0.96

00:18:58.760 know all that that's uh hold on only horse girls would get it holy shit by the way there's just like 1.00

00:19:05.540 marijuana wafting into the fucking studio 0.99

00:19:09.540 it's like i'm getting a uh secondhand high i think um jesus okay um so uh if i'm a little out of it 0.99

00:19:20.740 guys it's because i don't know it's the freaking out from we have the the windows open and it's just 0.90

00:19:25.020 wafting in yeah ucsb just typical shit um hold on i'm trying to fix this um so okay 0.97

00:19:32.160 you said nothing too serious yeah i know 0.99

00:19:35.720 so you got in the past year have you had like a sneaky link friends nothing no so you've been

00:19:41.780 are you saying you've been celibate for the past year yeah over a year have you been celibate for the 0.99

00:19:46.100 past year yeah that's such a lot you're such a liar you're such a liar come on i have been 1.00

00:19:53.760 you're friends with her is it true that's her business that's her she says that and she's 0.99

00:20:00.720 celibate she's so she says here just blink twice if she's lying

00:20:06.520 just do like maybe after the camera goes off of you you can let me know telepathically

00:20:16.600 okay i still can't i'm trying to change the voice here hold on let me just type it one sec hold on

00:20:23.000 one sec guys okay it should be changed it's no longer the japanese woman okay here we got while 0.80

00:20:28.600 we got this one cost times donated 107 dollars brian look into a shepherd's crook for the neck if

00:20:36.840 you don't have already also roller and neck wedge helped me panel chat have a happy thanksgiving oh

00:20:43.640 thank you drink some eggnog spike it with some rum for fun yo thank you uh pc thank you man appreciate

00:20:49.760 it uh i'll look into the uh shepherd's crook thing i'm not sure what that is but um okay there you go uh

00:20:55.600 celibate for more than a year two years three years almost two years two years of celibacy yeah

00:21:03.180 yeah i'm busy with my grandmother so that school other projects yeah sorry

00:21:10.580 you sure yes i'm very sure two years

00:21:15.260 yeah i'm picky like i said i'm healing you know so it's fine

00:21:24.420 okay okay all right all right um

00:21:36.260 have you been on a date maybe not you you did your celibacy is intact but

00:21:42.480 you've been dating no

00:21:45.120 okay all right what about you um it's not shameful to be dated like what the okay go ahead go ahead

00:21:54.420 i go on some dates yeah you know yeah yeah

00:21:58.100 you go on some dates

00:21:59.140 you go on some dates yeah

00:22:01.060 when's the last time you were on a date

00:22:02.880 last night uh

00:22:05.320 beyond last night wasn't it wasn't it man no how do you say your name again mandy just mandy

00:22:10.960 okay okay okay um yeah maybe like uh like a week ago

00:22:15.620 like a week ago like last night like a week ago what if i told you i knew somebody who knows you

00:22:21.460 you were streaming last night you were streaming last night so i okay all right

00:22:25.160 so okay you were on a date uh a week ago uh

00:22:30.680 but you're not currently come on you got a sneaky link come on mandy

00:22:36.100 mandy be honest you got a sneaky link come on okay i wouldn't put that person under a sneaky link

00:22:44.840 because benefits situationship let's call it a situationship how long have you been in this

00:22:51.960 situationship for oh my gosh uh

00:22:55.740 since uh since fourth of july

00:23:01.300 were you on before that i think that was before

00:23:06.300 the yeah i'm pretty sure it was before i'm not sure

00:23:09.380 okay fourth of july so almost six months here um

00:23:13.880 do you want it to become a relationship

00:23:16.820 um we'll see are you guys exclusive yes

00:23:20.560 you're exclusive but he's not your boyfriend

00:23:23.180 but you said you were single but you're exclusive

00:23:25.940 yeah so you wouldn't you wouldn't date other men

00:23:28.720 yeah ergo i don't think you're single

00:23:30.660 because i only like to see one person at a time

00:23:32.940 ergo i don't think you're single then

00:23:35.080 you're only seeing him like if another guy wanted to

00:23:38.620 date you sleep with you you'd say no i'm assuming

00:23:42.480 yeah i would say no you said the last time you hold on you said you went on a date last week though

00:23:46.820 yeah with that person oh with that guy yeah

00:23:49.720 so you went on a date with this guy as recently as a week ago but you're single

00:23:54.640 and you've been seeing him since july 4th and you're exclusive

00:23:57.740 what do you mean he hasn't asked you he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend

00:24:00.760 how often do you guys hang out

00:24:03.020 um a couple times a week

00:24:05.320 when's the last time you saw him

00:24:07.260 um was it a week ago for the date this last weekend

00:24:10.880 sunday uh yes i think so two days ago okay

00:24:16.440 yeah yeah you're not i mean

00:24:20.520 would he be upset if you told a guy that you were single

00:24:26.080 um i don't know it's just it's complicated because like i want to be asked out

00:24:32.900 i'm like i want to get asked to be someone's girlfriend i don't want them to just be like

00:24:37.000 oh so we've been have you asked him to be your boyfriend

00:24:39.520 um no just because we're trying to hold on just a sec 0.95

00:24:42.520 a silly ninja donated 100 dollars 0.98

00:24:44.860 oh my god 0.99

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00:24:52.320 hey it stopped what the hell 0.91

00:24:54.760 uh a silly ninja thank you man that was beautiful that was like some trance music or something 0.97

00:24:59.760 um go ahead uh well I think why didn't you I think the question was why didn't you ask him 0.97

00:25:10.600 we're just seeing how things are going you know but you said you want to you want him to ask you

00:25:16.180 to be serious not like I mean if he asks and it's so you want you want him to take the initiative

00:25:23.780 on yes his end yep yes but do you want a relationship yes with him yes so why not just

00:25:33.060 ask him because we're also just seeing where things are going like yes I would like you've

00:25:37.040 been dating him for five months six months when you've seen where it's going what do you mean

00:25:40.800 because you know life I don't know do you do for your OF do you do solo content BG content just

00:25:50.400 solo content what about you solo content just solo content okay uh oh okay you're gonna get me in

00:26:00.240 trouble why do you shoot content with him no no no no he knows you do OF right okay why don't you don't

00:26:08.000 post him on your IG nope you've been seeing him oh okay so what you're waiting for him yes

00:26:14.440 why are you so conflicted right now you you want me to take that step but it's like I don't know

00:26:23.640 we're also we're just we're getting to know each other and like I'm also like you hang out like

00:26:27.980 multiple times a week yeah for five months yeah and you said you were single yes yeah that sounds like

00:26:37.280 I don't know if it's totally a boyfriend but that sounds like not exactly single oh you tell him

00:26:44.280 that huh you tell him that are you scared that if you have you okay have you asked him hey I want to

00:26:52.480 where's this going have you tried to have that conversation I don't really want to have that

00:26:56.920 conversation yet is it because you know that the answer is going to be oh no I know no no no wait you

00:27:03.780 know that the answer is what that it would be like yeah we want we want to date but right now

00:27:08.620 we're just we're oh so you don't want a relationship no no no oh my god um well if you know what the

00:27:16.840 answer is going to be that he would want to be in a relationship with you but you don't want to yes

00:27:20.940 but like we're still we're like you know like we or you we we've talked about it like we talked

00:27:26.180 about like being exclusive we talked about what okay what was the cost what was the content what was

00:27:31.880 the content of that conversation um well we're only seeing each other um that's okay so you talked

00:27:39.240 about being exclusive yeah oh my it almost sounds like you're in a relationship but just not taking

00:27:46.780 the title or the the what okay okay I don't think you're single you met you might not technically have

00:27:57.980 a boyfriend but I don't know if you're single okay it sounds like a well-developed exclusive

00:28:03.840 situation ship yes okay uh you guys just don't want to give it a title then I guess yeah not yet

00:28:11.080 not yet just we're still seeing how things are going because like being dating like you meet each

00:28:15.660 other's families and you know right during the time that you've been seeing him at any point you

00:28:21.480 said you started seeing him in july early july at any point maybe early on before you had the

00:28:27.620 exclusivity conversation were you dating other people and was he dating other people no so even

00:28:33.400 exclusive for then essentially exclusive yeah I wasn't seeing anybody before um during well a little

00:28:39.660 bit before and then during like talking to him as it was like going to okay I see okay uh you're married

00:28:47.360 so you're single so what does that look like to you right now to me yeah um being single it means

00:28:55.620 I don't have a boyfriend okay so I don't have any anyone who have asked me to be their girlfriend okay

00:29:03.140 so basically I go on dates I love going on dates here because I'm exploring and I'm exploring

00:29:11.140 American dating culture American man and myself as well how I am good alone with go alone with this

00:29:19.300 and so on sure so yeah reminder how long have you been in the u.s three months okay and uh you said

00:29:27.620 you're dating like how uh how many dates would you say you're going on in like a week you know I don't

00:29:32.980 count uh but uh usually it may vary okay it may be it might be two dates for example but my last one

00:29:41.240 happened about uh two weeks ago for example but some I had some weeks when I saw for example three

00:29:49.140 person in a day no no no in a week okay gotcha gotcha gotcha you know okay I see all right and so

00:29:57.260 you said you were when you before you moved here you were in Moscow and before that uh Belarus yeah

00:30:04.160 okay so I'm just curious maybe you can give us like a uh brief comparison when it came to dating in

00:30:11.000 Belarus dating in uh in Russia I assume it's pretty similar between yeah Belarus and Moscow although

00:30:19.240 um compared to here how what were some of the differences you know um I would not say everyone

00:30:28.200 told me and from mass media we all heard probably that there are plenty of differences that you know

00:30:34.340 all this kind of 50 50 culture so equalities equities feminism and all this stuff but in fact I don't

00:30:42.940 see this I see beautiful American men who looks great who has their career who are educated and

00:30:52.080 they all want uh to I don't know to impress a girl to take girl out to take care of a girl to ask where

00:31:00.960 like for example me want to go and so on so but of course you know what I see here that uh man has um

00:31:09.760 lower expectation on girl than uh um men in Moscow what I mean uh that men in Moscow uh are spoiled

00:31:18.240 because there are less men than women statistically okay so and um is this also the case in Belarus too

00:31:25.440 of course yeah in all Slavic countries because of World War II because men dead during the World War II

00:31:32.320 and we uh don't renovate the population of men well you're it's historical aspect you you are 36

00:31:40.800 right yeah right well World War II was 70 plus years ago yeah but population still didn't is it is it

00:31:48.920 still I'm not yeah yeah it's still I'm not educated on this topic but is there still a yeah yeah and our

00:31:54.480 differential yes and our men dead more often than women so we basically have less men well yes Russia

00:32:02.040 is in the midst of a war right now so that could also be contributing factor yeah so our men are

00:32:08.940 spoiled and they have high expectations that ladies should look for example you know a certain way so 1.00

00:32:16.960 in Moscow for example um it's not very common that you will go on a date like more in a casual way so

00:32:24.760 you will dress up to show your best for example here I feel more you know more kind of myself more calm

00:32:32.680 that guys will not tell me or will not show like only jeans or something like that you know here they

00:32:40.340 are very appreciative to wow you make make it up wow you dress up for me I hear it everywhere so and

00:32:48.380 they want to contribute to this quality time together you know for example they ask for like going for

00:32:58.900 dinners or ask for like do you need any help with anything so it's really really cool I love and I'm very

00:33:07.500 excited to go on dates and meeting people here because most of them are very nice I see okay

00:33:13.300 you're very lucky girls here absolutely because you know I heard this stereotype that like man will ask 0.82

00:33:22.380 you to pay or to share the bill or you know he will expect you for example to commute some somewhere

00:33:27.900 by your car but as I'm new here I don't have a car yet so everyone like picked me up and they are very

00:33:35.880 worried about my safety so they're pretty cautious you know they're kind of is it okay if I will pick

00:33:42.260 you up or how you will commute I said yeah okay I just make a picture of your car for my friends like

00:33:47.720 so to be sure that okay okay I understand you it's fine right okay interesting yeah interesting um so are

00:33:55.120 you saying that American men are more gentlemanly than the men that you dated in Moscow or I can say

00:34:05.660 it they eager to be gentlemen and when you a woman allow I allow I'm traditional I'm very traditional I 0.99

00:34:12.580 was a bring in traditional you know model when I allow them to open the door because I'm waiting until

00:34:20.920 they will open the door or you know I'm very appreciative if they arrange something for us

00:34:26.620 I said thank you so much it's like super cool for me okay or if they give me a ride or anything

00:34:33.240 they are very happy I see this happiness in their eyes and say wow wow I was so happy to to meet you

00:34:40.280 or something like that okay yeah I have another question can I just have you tilt your mic down just a

00:34:44.880 little bit like that perfect perfect you said that the men in in Russia or in Belarus they have a lot

00:34:51.600 of expectations what were some of those uh you you mentioned to appear or dress a certain way but were

00:34:58.360 there any other expectations in terms of behavior um actually um no uh in Russia in Belarus it's very

00:35:06.680 common that it's it's even not negotiable uh in mostly cases of course there are exceptions but I'm

00:35:12.900 generalizing of course but there is no any idea possible idea that man will not pay the bill after

00:35:20.080 the dinner so that man will start this discussion or like you know it it's kind of doesn't work like

00:35:27.080 this it's a hundred percent the man pays 99 percent that he will pay whereas here in the U.S. it's a bit

00:35:33.120 more yeah you're not sure I heard that's what you heard yeah although your experience seems to be

00:35:39.800 different just you know just once a man no one asked me to pay no one okay I can say more than a

00:35:47.560 lot of people kind of I did haven't uh dated just a lot a lot of people because I have my transition

00:35:53.560 period I I'm kind of busy with settling down but sure from the people who I dated a lot offered help

00:36:02.620 for example with driving license for example like oh you can use my car you can drive I can teach

00:36:09.680 you driving and you can use my car for driving test or one guy for example bought me groceries

00:36:16.320 you know bought you groceries yes yes yes because I'm in a transition period I can share if you yeah

00:36:25.500 yeah yeah so it was a story yeah I'm on hinge and I love dating apps because maybe I have my

00:36:34.740 journalistic soul and I love reading their profiles about people and you know I create my assumption

00:36:41.040 because as a journalist I met a lot of people and used to kind of make conclusions what the people

00:36:48.000 like and so on and yeah and we met on hinge he asked me to go on date he asked me about his situation

00:36:58.300 and my situation yeah how long I've been here and so on so he was involved into refuge help to refugees

00:37:08.440 and um yeah we met for a coffee uh he told me plenty of stuff where I can get some help or support or get

00:37:16.460 acquainted with people and then he asked me you know I want to help you with anything I can what do

00:37:22.520 you need right now so my car my time is yours right now so I said oh I need to go grocery because I can't

00:37:29.980 afford going every day because I don't have a car so I need to kind of adjust and he said yeah let's go to

00:37:37.000 grocery so I picked groceries I was gonna pay myself but he said no no no I will buy it to you

00:37:43.700 he paid like 41 dollars you know but I feel that if I bought for more he would buy you know sounds like a

00:37:53.900 simp um sounds like a simp but uh wait so you okay you came here three months ago are you uh I heard you

00:38:02.720 said are you a refugee not yet you don't I came here under humanitarian parole I'm in a transition

00:38:09.140 period okay I am waiting for my papers being done and I don't I can't work right now because I'm

00:38:16.140 waiting for papers so yep but so you're you've applied for what is it asylum asylum yeah asylum

00:38:23.420 okay political asylum okay and do they provide I don't I'm not familiar yeah they provide some

00:38:29.040 sort of uh support support do they give you money help you with you know I'm super appreciative to

00:38:35.800 this country because I haven't done to this country anything yet but they already gave me money for food

00:38:42.260 food stamps and like call fresh I'm not sure in in names but like this medical insurance of course

00:38:50.700 so they provide me with like around 300 per month and something extra so you know I'm very

00:38:58.360 appreciative to everything yeah yeah was it like a trek was it a journey to arrive here in the United

00:39:03.980 States yeah exactly it's it's what political asylum seeker is how did you like did you just take a

00:39:10.620 flight from Moscow you know you would like to bring someone here huh no no I'm just curious I'm just

00:39:18.380 curious like because we were you you were in Russia you came here three months ago my understanding I

00:39:24.020 don't know if they've uh they've reduced some of the I'm pretty sure you can't just like I couldn't

00:39:30.360 just go to Russia right now you can I can I thought we're wait I thought isn't there like a travel ban

00:39:36.600 I think I know people who has no I have people who has American passport and they've only American

00:39:44.440 passport a Russian person come here is a better question uh how can Russian person can can someone

00:39:51.280 who's Russian come here to the US yeah I don't know no they can they can why if they have a visa 1.00

00:39:57.120 it's just political questions of course not dating but like I think because of the I thought because

00:40:02.220 of the ongoing war or whatever there were certain restrictions I can share more with you if you're

00:40:07.840 super interested in no I'm just curious yeah if you have a visa you can come and for example my case

00:40:14.200 I came like a political asylum seeker because I'm a journalist and there are some risks you know

00:40:20.420 wait did you go did you when you came here were you in Belarus or were you in no I have been living

00:40:26.280 in Moscow for nine years but I'm a Belarusian citizen I see yeah and are men allowed could a man come

00:40:32.860 here for asylum yes absolutely everyone can come and uh yeah everyone the United States allows yeah

00:40:40.500 if okay interesting yeah absolutely um and I think you're saying a little bit more about uh

00:40:46.740 the expectations of the men in in uh Russia Belarus mm-hmm uh yeah so um they expect uh having a nice lady

00:41:01.320 right right at the at the date nice girl and um probably uh as I heard as well um that they don't expect

00:41:11.560 any intimacy too fast like because I heard I haven't faced it because I'm very traditional person in this

00:41:20.920 care in this um direction but I heard that like American man might be expecting um very fast

00:41:31.160 developing of relationship like third date being together first date or second date it's fine here

00:41:37.820 that's a reasonable timeline yeah I like that I like that timeline that's a good no but do you agree

00:41:43.120 like right it what is it is it true or is it like huh do you expect any intimacy of the first

00:41:50.920 second or third date it's not an expectation but um me personally my view on it is I don't feel

00:41:56.660 that it's necessary to wait some arbitrary arbitrary period of time before being intimate with somebody

00:42:04.220 uh perhaps if she's a virgin it might make sense to wait but absent that I frankly I I'm most of my

00:42:13.280 long-term relationships I've had that we didn't wait long periods of time it was the first second or

00:42:19.160 third date typically that we hooked up I feel I and I wouldn't like I some men might judge women if

00:42:25.620 they hook up too soon me personally I don't there I think there are better indicators of a woman 1.00

00:42:31.160 being potentially promiscuous or having a high body count than the the quickness with which she 1.00

00:42:36.960 gets intimate with you so for me personally it's not I'm fine it can be quick but yeah you know

00:42:44.620 those relationships they over right yeah but just because the relationships ended isn't evidence that the

00:42:51.160 the way we just because we had sex quick doesn't mean that that was necessarily the cause of the

00:42:57.740 relationships not making it the distance yeah the cause is different because you really haven't okay

00:43:03.000 it's going to be longer no I mean uh it's um uh for for the relationship to be successful uh two people

00:43:10.160 have to communicate and discuss absolutely everything yeah they have to create the plan how things are going

00:43:17.180 to be developing in their relationship like run through every possible situation that could go

00:43:22.660 that could happen and they have to really when people are saying get to know one another better

00:43:27.760 you gotta ask yourself a question what are you trying to get to know is it about wasting the time

00:43:33.640 and just stretching the time or is it actually about getting to know something so the sexual aspect

00:43:39.840 I mean there's two ways how you're looking at uh you know getting closer in that respect it's either

00:43:45.880 uh movement of the body physical aspect or is it about making love so making love it is the connection

00:43:53.840 of all of the energies like when you are together you are one channel you are one soul you are connecting

00:44:00.020 that's where you're making love it is not about just having sex it is about making love and that is

00:44:05.420 like the highest level of the relationship you can imagine yeah to get to that level you gotta get to

00:44:11.680 know the person really better yeah that's fine but and and both men and women they are entitled to move

00:44:18.980 however they want if somebody wants to wait that's totally fine uh I have no issues with wanting to wait

00:44:24.000 I think my issue stems more so from if your previous standard with the past 5 10 15 20 25 30 men that

00:44:32.320 you've slept with was I'll sleep with him instantly but then you finally you born again virgin or 0.99

00:44:37.680 whatever now you're changing and now you want to wait until marriage now you want to wait three months

00:44:42.120 I just think that's kind of entirely arbitrary and you didn't have the standard in the past now I feel

00:44:47.160 like you're holding me to a different standard that you held oh Nick we have we have something for

00:44:51.840 this it's the uh the flower cuck thing this is how it feels like uh when

00:44:58.060 so okay it's a little vulgar but so you're the guy with the flowers and the suit but then you've

00:45:06.560 like this is how it feels this is how it feels if it's like okay oh your previous 20 partners you

00:45:14.180 slept with them instantly but I'm the guy who has to wait until marriage and do all these romantic

00:45:19.240 gestures so it's uh that's how I'm not talking about her treating you different than other guys I'm

00:45:24.480 talking about somebody who has already standards in uh you know ingredients but I would argue most

00:45:29.200 most women I would say most women don't move that way they don't move which way they most women it's 1.00

00:45:38.780 not like every single guy I've slept with I waited three months to sleep with him most I'm not saying

00:45:47.480 all women but I'd say most women okay so if somebody has already right standards you know 1.00

00:45:55.580 also Christian values and you know um and it is also in the bible you gotta get involved sexually

00:46:02.160 after um you know after there is a engagement read or there is people who are I think the bible says

00:46:09.880 the no premarital sex at all yes well we're living in the modern world so it is a little bit

00:46:16.360 uh harder to do of course exactly we are living in the modern world so yeah but to engrave

00:46:20.820 standards where people really get to know uh one another and I'm not saying that woman should be 1.00

00:46:26.300 treating you different than the other guys absolutely not I'm talking about the woman who

00:46:30.180 already has the right standards and she treated other people the same way that's totally valid okay and 0.70

00:46:36.040 look even even if you let's say you had a hundred previous sexual partners as a woman and you slept

00:46:42.820 with all of them on the first night it's a hundred percent with that within that woman's um choice to

00:46:50.500 okay my new standard moving forward is I'm not having sex till marriage that's a hundred she's a hundred

00:46:56.180 percent within her right to make that determination however what I'm saying is looking at it from the

00:47:01.300 guy's perspective that's not a woman that I would take seriously that's not a woman that I would wait 0.85

00:47:05.720 for marriage for I'd be like well we have a difference we don't align on you know what

00:47:11.760 we're looking for when it comes to this relationship I wish you well nice meeting you take care um

00:47:17.960 because in in that scenario I feel like I'm a sucker all the other guys like I feel like I would feel

00:47:26.180 like a sucker in that situation I feel like that would cause so much self-doubt in the person because 1.00

00:47:31.420 you've seen the person do this over and over and over yeah and then they come to you and it's like 0.99

00:47:36.900 well what have you just got it all out of your system and now I'm just chopped liver that you 0.75

00:47:40.640 just want to have a conversation with and you know yeah I feel like that would not sexually attracted

00:47:45.200 exactly and then it's just a down spiral that I feel like would affect the rest of the relationship

00:47:50.260 because those first you know couple weeks couple months are so important so then for the rest of the

00:47:56.340 relationship that's gonna be something in the back of your mind am I not sexually appealing to my

00:48:02.220 girlfriend fiancee wife whatever and then that's just you know it's like the snowball effect yes

00:48:07.640 yeah definitely and uh I mean like I said you're you can you've previously had a hundred one night

00:48:16.500 stands and now you want to wait until marriage that's a hundred percent your call but I I'm not I can't

00:48:23.060 take that seriously I wouldn't take that seriously so I just that's not somebody I would wait for so

00:48:29.080 I just yeah typically well yeah typically when you are um connected deeper with the person you're

00:48:36.620 trying to develop relationship with then you will end up in a successful marriage successful relationship

00:48:42.260 and without the divorce I mean there is formula to that but sure yeah yeah I mean look and there there

00:48:49.380 are genuinely women that that throughout most of their life or all their life that has genuinely been

00:48:54.360 their standard for all the men that they've ever been intimate with and I think in that scenario it's

00:49:00.700 valid and I also acknowledge that it women are in this sort of damned if you do damned if you don't 1.00

00:49:04.860 position because there's there's this also corresponding uh if if we as men say well we don't 0.84

00:49:11.160 obviously it would be better for you to cease your promiscuity like if a woman is or was promiscuous 1.00

00:49:17.380 yeah maybe cease being promiscuous but also there are also men who are like well if 0.60

00:49:23.440 if you don't match up with him because if you wait too long to have sex then he might also

00:49:28.600 lose interest so yeah okay or he will take you seriously and propose and get married and you're

00:49:36.640 happily ever asked married people have more sex than single ones it's statistics okay so it's good to be in 1.00

00:49:42.760 the relationship in the marriage well I don't believe in marriage I'm not in favor of marriage

00:49:47.620 but to each their own to each their own I'm not uh I don't believe in marriage I think it's an L for 1.00

00:49:53.380 men but um other men can feel differently about it I have no if other people want to get married

00:49:59.420 that's fine but just be well informed about the risks of uh marriage especially on the uh the financial

00:50:05.680 risks for for men so um okay well let's move on so you're single you said you've been single for a

00:50:12.240 year yeah you got a little sneaky thing going on what's up sneaky sneaky link uh sneaky link

00:50:19.880 no um just trying to date I'm like on six or seven dating apps I'm on a lot of dating apps right now

00:50:31.420 like how many um probably less than 10 okay tinder bumble hinge christian mingle farmers only I think

00:50:41.060 she's on a few of those oh wait yeah sorry you got your boyfriend my bad that's how you guys met um

00:50:47.200 farmers only farmers only um you're on 10 dating apps um hello close close to 10 yeah I lost count

00:50:55.260 uh what list them uh so so okay cupid um uh bumble yep hinge yep is that tinder four okay um

00:51:10.300 there's two foreign ones that I can't even pronounce foreign oh that's right that's right we have some

00:51:17.660 notes here I think uh about this you hold on let me pull up the notes

00:51:21.900 have a thing for asian men yeah yeah good for you good for you uh do you have any in your pre-show

00:51:33.400 notes here you provided a few things I can prompt you if you'd like but you said you have thoughts on

00:51:38.620 asian male and black female desirability politics yeah and you said I believe asian males and black

00:51:45.180 females are experiencing the worst of the dating market and get misjudged quite often yeah 1.00

00:51:51.260 go into that go into that what are your thoughts there well I mean it's already been revealed um with

00:51:58.940 the study that came out um from ok cupid about just who was getting I guess um the most swipes and who

00:52:07.900 was getting the least and it turned out to be uh asian men and black females and um which is kind of

00:52:17.980 surprising um I guess because I mean that's my preference is I like asian men so to me they're

00:52:25.340 like they're great and I'm like I don't know what other um I guess women why other women may not 0.99

00:52:33.900 like I don't know what they're not seeing either

00:52:35.660 yeah not that I'm not gay or anything but if I was I would date asian men okay good yeah so so so I

00:52:46.780 will so so I will say this um wait question um how long have you because you're uh 34 correct yeah

00:52:55.340 for your like has this been an interest when it comes to asian men your whole life or is this something

00:53:00.220 new what tell us about that pretty much uh so well because I was born in Wisconsin and there's like

00:53:09.820 two Asian guys oh okay no no uh so in the 90s where I was at uh in Wisconsin it was like a good 0.99

00:53:16.540 population size of Asians there and um yeah so it was some stuff happening in my household where

00:53:26.060 I just wasn't getting treated well and um I befriended this asian guy who um he basically

00:53:34.940 like let me take shelter at his place and uh was a friend to me um when I was just going through a

00:53:42.540 bunch of stuff and so ever since then I've just always had an attraction to how how old were you

00:53:49.820 um when you were in the you needed shelter yeah I was 14 15 years old

00:54:00.380 yeah yeah yeah yeah and since then you've had a hyper fixation

00:54:09.340 on dating asian men well no no I so I've nothing wrong with that good for you yeah I've I've dated

00:54:15.420 different types it's just that I've always found different types of asians like koreans

00:54:21.580 vietnamese cambodian thai japanese yeah filipino uh yeah actually yeah like you naming yeah you can

00:54:31.740 keep going laos mongolian uh did I get korean did I get korean korean did I get korean chinese

00:54:38.380 Chinese yeah I can't forget not not lost though but um but yeah no I've dated different kinds of guys

00:54:45.500 it's just like um khmer the what khmer did I say it right I don't think so not yet um but yeah I

00:54:56.380 I would say yeah I'm open to all types it's just I've always kind of like I don't know trended back

00:55:02.780 toward asian men have you dated black men

00:55:09.100 updated one one white white guys latino men updated three of which white latino men uh okay so in order

00:55:21.580 from like most to lease uh with the asian guys probably about seven or eight with white guys

00:55:27.900 probably like three black guys one latin men zero okay all right now you said you've dated like eight

00:55:37.820 asian guys yeah okay and so break down the ethnicity I guess uh all the ones you named so

00:55:49.020 all of them except because it could have been like three um korean dudes it could have been three 0.89

00:55:54.860 filipinos so so uh vietnamese uh two two chinese uh two or three korean okay um

00:56:06.860 um then now do you consider indian men asian uh i think they're attractive but i don't you consider 1.00

00:56:21.020 them the same only because like that's fine asian men have said that to me so i'm like okay you know

00:56:28.540 if he if y'all say that you're not the same then okay you know i respect that um now okay you said

00:56:39.420 that you've been in three love triangles involving asian men what do you mean how so what does that

00:56:44.780 mean um like you're dating multiple asian men at the same time no no it happened at different times

00:56:51.340 where um so when i oh hold on just by loxy blues donated 101.11 okasaka what would you say to

00:57:03.180 someone who has almost given up on finding love how does your service reignite that hope

00:57:08.860 well yeah so i would uh find out first what is the reason of uh why the person has given up on love

00:57:25.740 so there is always uh the way we are the way we react to things the way we act there is always deep

00:57:33.660 reason why it is happening so we gotta look in the root of what had caused that and so if the person

00:57:41.580 does want to find love or does want to achieve anything doesn't matter if it is business or the

00:57:47.180 relationship or whatever if they really truly want it we just look at the reason that will help the

00:57:51.980 person to get that um but yeah no matter what we want to achieve in life is absolutely uh absolutely

00:57:58.940 possible if the desire is there so just gotta look inside look at the root gotcha i'm gonna i'm gonna

00:58:06.860 read two chats here while we have them cam h arigato brian hey cam h thank you man uh i think were you

00:58:12.700 trying to trigger this as the japanese voice unfortunately yeah it was uh not it was under the

00:58:17.420 trigger but hey thank you man appreciate it good to see you in the chat uh i think i don't know if you

00:58:21.820 were here last show but uh we missed you man thank you thank you very much appreciate it nick can you pull up

00:58:26.540 twitch really quick guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever drop us a follow drop us a prime sub let

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00:58:37.900 for the prime crone arrows think for the tier one rip a thing for the prime soldier think for the prime

00:58:42.540 mandar think for the prime all right let's see oh and i have one more chat here um actually i'll come

00:58:48.780 back to that one um your love triangle with the asian men yeah so on the dating

00:58:56.220 apps i specify that um i'm pretty much looking for open relationship um and just something simple

00:59:09.260 um i'm not trying to rush into anything serious and so and so yeah i pretty much open myself up to i

00:59:17.020 guess triangles like love triangles um and and so yeah like i'll just i'll be dating a guy and if he

00:59:28.460 has interest in someone sorry um so yeah i'll be dating or talking to a guy and if he has interest in

00:59:37.580 somebody else um yeah i mean it it happens well you said you were in three love triangles yeah three

00:59:45.020 different when you say love triangle does it mean you were dating two men at the same time

00:59:49.260 because i think i love triangle there's are they somewhat related in a triangle no so when i said

00:59:56.780 triangle i've meant um like i'm interested in a guy and then the guy is like interested in someone

01:00:04.460 else so he's basically seeing two two girls oh okay yeah triangle triangle in that way but i'm not

01:00:12.060 seeing i've never seen multiple guys at the same time no but you said you're looking for an open

01:00:16.780 relationship i am i don't get it explain that uh just because i don't i mean just the physics of it

01:00:24.140 alone like i don't physics yeah i mean just like for a woman physics well yeah i mean for a woman it's 0.99

01:00:32.300 like okay like i could say like yeah i'm you know i want to date other guys or whatever but i when i

01:00:40.940 say physics i mean like just to having having that much sexual interaction and being just poke poke like

01:00:47.660 by multiple like no like no no no it's true it's true fair enough fair enough okay so you're saying

01:00:56.540 it wasn't you that was in the triangle insofar as dating multiple people the men that you had been

01:01:02.220 dating the asian men you were dating they were dating other people too yeah okay interesting okay

01:01:09.980 uh let's see what else you also said how asian customs american standards of male attraction and 0.96

01:01:14.220 being rejected based on those standards affects the mental health of asian men is did you want to add

01:01:19.420 a bit on that yeah so um going back to like um the study right and that being exposed and um you know

01:01:30.620 them asian men having trouble with dating um i i think it's due to a few different things um so so one

01:01:39.020 thing is obviously like um cultural um cultural difference right because it's a custom for them to kind

01:01:49.180 of um it's called like saving face is kind of what i've heard um from um a guy who is chinese um basically

01:01:59.980 like just kind of biting their tongue and um fitting in um and just kind of not really standing up for

01:02:09.020 themselves um is how it could be perceived by american women but it's it's very common um in in their culture 0.97

01:02:18.380 and so that's one thing i feel like kind of harms them and then also the standards of attractiveness

01:02:25.740 right is it's also not it's very outside of what their body type is um i think what american women like 1.00

01:02:35.020 um also just women rejecting them based on that right hold on i got an idea yo any asian men watching

01:02:44.300 the show right now send her a dm and by the end of the show we're gonna see how many asian men have 0.62

01:02:49.500 dm'd her okay right your dms are open for asian men is that what that's right i mean you said you

01:02:56.060 like asian men might as well i've got like okay seven apps she's got seven you said ten apps first 1.00

01:03:01.100 off yeah yeah what are they that you're saying you're on an asian dating app is that right yeah what

01:03:05.500 are they called two of um have you do you just like are you like a passport bra what the passport

01:03:12.860 gal no have you been to any asian countries i think we got our first passport gal

01:03:21.020 she's you're what do you know about passport bros that was why i came here

01:03:25.420 wait what nothing no but you're like a passport gal you mean like i like

01:03:34.780 foreign or exotic men is that what you like asian men so i mean maybe that

01:03:40.140 means asian american men well certainly it could mean that but also i mean if you want to

01:03:45.660 you could go to japan oh so i'm not even gonna lie like as soon as i touched down here i opened up my

01:03:53.580 tinder like like i'm in los angeles i heard it was like more there's a good amount there's a good

01:04:00.860 amount here do you is there a way to uh on hinge i'm pretty sure do you pay for the premium so that

01:04:06.460 you can select only matching with asian men uh there's only three of the apps where i'm actually

01:04:12.060 paying for like the special features the other ones i'm not okay but but what of the apps that you do

01:04:17.420 pay for the special features and where it does allow you to filter by ethnicity do you filter

01:04:22.620 specifically for asian men some apps don't allow it but the ones that do yes okay so okay i see um

01:04:31.500 and then you also wrote a portion of asian females should separate from asian males

01:04:35.020 so asian men can be more accessible to different races of women i think they are doing that already

01:04:43.180 though to be honest okay so okay so when i put that there i was kind of hoping there would be certain

01:04:48.780 guests here that you were hoping there would be asian women um well because there there was i guess 1.00

01:04:54.700 like a couple girls in a previous previous podcast who like asian women who did not like asian men and

01:05:01.260 and so that's why you wanted the you wanted madison you wanted the smoke i wanted the beef i really did 0.94

01:05:06.860 oh shit yeah she's she's gone for uh thanksgiving unfortunately uh but yes we have had some women 1.00

01:05:13.500 well we could go around the table uh you guys any racial preferences when it comes to dating we'll go 0.99

01:05:19.740 around the table starting with you i like everybody this girl okay here let me because there look 0.93

01:05:27.900 there's some women that aren't attracted to asian men all right there's women who aren't attracted to

01:05:34.700 any any some women don't like white guys some women don't like uh mexicans some i don't know why

01:05:42.540 some women don't like any race you could put any race do you have a race preference here i'll start 1.00

01:05:49.980 okay i'll start just to maybe ease you guys jesus christ it's like pulling teeth

01:05:55.660 i have a preference for

01:06:02.380 white and asian women how about that i guess that though i like white and asian don't get me wrong 1.00

01:06:10.460 like that meme where it's where are the white women 1.00

01:06:12.700 i have no fucking idea what you're talking about but uh and give me listen but it's not like like 0.98

01:06:20.940 i would date a black girl i would date a latina girl it's not you know but do i have a preference 0.99

01:06:26.220 in that in those two directions yes i do go ahead white men okay there we go there we go all right i 0.94

01:06:32.940 threw myself under the bus a little bit and now okay you prefer white men okay have you dated other

01:06:39.340 racing yeah i've dated like middle eastern middle eastern are you what what's your ethnicity are you

01:06:44.780 latina or are you half mexican half spanish okay got it um have you dated any uh latinos in high

01:06:51.980 school yeah in high school okay black guys one yeah asian guys one i didn't date him but it was like

01:07:01.500 you know a one night stand not a one night stand a two night stand situation a three night how many

01:07:06.860 seven night stand i don't do night stands well seven night stands so you met up with him yeah 0.96

01:07:12.620 i saw him multiple times you had sexual intercourse with him 0.98

01:07:18.140 yes i guess oh my god okay okay go ahead i have a preference for a provider but like 0.99

01:07:23.340 racial preference no okay no racial you have a you have a provider preference okay i want to come back to

01:07:30.540 that um provider preference okay um got it but no racial preference have you dated asian guy i feel

01:07:40.300 i've stated around you know i don't have like a specific preference okay i don't have a preference no

01:07:48.140 preference no what's your current boyfriend ish oh my gosh um he's black and white

01:07:56.540 mixed yeah okay uh your last boyfriend what was he was white your last boyfriend he was white

01:08:05.260 your husband is white yes also kazakhstan no he's american oh he's american okay what about you

01:08:12.380 last boyfriend was middle eastern but living in europe so europe kind of european okay i see what about

01:08:18.460 oh well we know your preferences what about you white white yeah white oh you said that 0.70

01:08:25.180 you said that a little bit too enthusiastically tessa is there something you want to tell us

01:08:34.300 no i mean i like i have dated um white people other than white people other ethnicities of like in

01:08:43.660 high school okay as an adult did you hear how enthusiastic she was white people 0.98

01:08:48.940 okay white white men i don't like women oh okay excuse me what about asian women well not not 0.98

01:08:58.380 romantically but like just women in general are pretty dope but i'm just not romantical i see i see 0.98

01:09:03.180 romantical uh what about you uh last guy did was white um okay but yeah i don't have a preference no

01:09:10.060 preference okay all right so then that would would that still kind of be like nobody's dated i've

01:09:18.780 definitely heard one i well i definitely think it's the case that i think a lot of women even if they 1.00

01:09:25.020 aren't ready to admit it like i do think it's the case that and i've heard it from them so like they say

01:09:30.780 yeah i just don't find asian men attractive they say that not me i didn't say that i think they're 1.00

01:09:35.100 i find it i can support you too because i find asian men attractive and uh i think that they have

01:09:42.940 also all these family values yeah yeah exactly yes okay yeah i understand what so you find you find

01:09:52.540 things attractive about them but have you have you dated no i haven't but i had acquaintances during my

01:09:59.420 university years so uh after asian men uh stop being too shy and get used a little bit to like

01:10:08.940 mates you know university mates they show usually very caring behavior they're nice friends you know

01:10:15.340 they are very good in friendship and deep friendship so but they're shy sometimes and yeah and that that

01:10:21.340 kind of goes back to what i was saying is that um i think that's a cultural custom um you know them

01:10:29.180 just kind of like you know being reserved to for the purpose of getting along and blending in um

01:10:38.540 but yeah i think they also show masculinity in a different way so they may not be like outspoken or

01:10:45.020 vocal but then they'll be like like the provider or um yeah uh family oriented and

01:10:53.100 yeah so so i i think they are attractive and you know show masculine traits they just show it in

01:10:59.580 a different way in actions usually no words but more and then just last thing from our notes here for

01:11:05.260 you you said success and challenges of or you wanted to talk about success and challenges of

01:11:09.500 transitioning from adult industry to professional work environment so you said you used to dance

01:11:14.940 were you doing anything else uh so escorting no um nothing like oh you didn't do uh escorting no sugar

01:11:23.980 daddies sugar daddies be honest okay uh so just the dancing right uh transition from like dancing to

01:11:35.260 bartending to okay um you know taking some of that money and i'm going back to school and

01:11:43.660 um you know getting my my nursing license and so and so yeah i've like transitioned from different like

01:11:51.180 occupations and um you know it's been a lot of emotions along the way because i'm having to

01:11:59.180 pretty much evolve in each step right and so um

01:12:04.220 um so since i got my license i have not done i've literally only worked at one place that was

01:12:14.620 nursing related and then i went right back to bartending and i've been struggling um just trying

01:12:21.740 to um i guess be confident in uh myself right because you know going from bartending here here

01:12:29.740 i'm sorry we just have to move on go ahead what about you uh about the singleness yeah yeah singleness

01:12:37.420 you said you've been single for six months yeah uh not dating anyone not seeing anyone abstinent oh

01:12:45.820 abstinent celibate have you always been celibate yes always always oh so are you you're a virgin yes

01:12:54.220 i am oh so you're waiting until marriage yes i am okay all right and you're a christian um let me see

01:12:59.740 my notes here uh where did it go sorry hold on uh wait did you send us notes hold on it's lost here i can't

01:13:09.820 find it one sec oh reina okay uh let's see uh you okay dating as a christian um okay we'll we'll come

01:13:19.740 to that later um now is it you just haven't found the right guy or you just are 100 percent like i'm

01:13:28.460 waiting until marriage before having it's yeah it's a requirement okay the guy has to have the same 0.95

01:13:35.260 moral standard in that too sure um i don't even like entertain a guy that i see hold that okay oh

01:13:41.580 so we're not talking uh this isn't like even born again virgin like never had sex no someone who like

01:13:49.100 wouldn't hold that same standard like when i mean for you like are you're not a because some people

01:13:54.220 claim like born again virgin but you've just no i'm a i'm a virgin okay cool there you go anybody else

01:14:00.060 here a virgin besides nick he's waiting for the right girl he's waiting for the right girl

01:14:13.660 i already matched them yeah oh there you go oh well nick has a girlfriend so oh yeah so he has 0.98

01:14:21.660 high standards what sorry sorry sorry i'm just kidding nick does that okay uh well damn sorry 0.77

01:14:30.140 here let me do a couple i'm gonna do a couple chats then i've got some some crucial questions

01:14:34.460 coming up some mind-breaking questions that will be interesting okay mike divester went from episode 100

01:14:42.460 to one at one today and brian let me tell you man you're so much better now than then great job man

01:14:48.380 keep it up uh hey dude thank you man yeah uh you know we've done over this is episode 120 uh still

01:14:56.620 not where i want to be you know i obviously like to be uh a little a little quicker on the uptake and

01:15:02.220 sometimes i could articulate my thoughts a little better and sometimes i stutter and whatnot but uh

01:15:06.860 thank you man just trying to improve little by little thank you thank you thank you and then we have

01:15:11.900 here hold on let me pull up these chats over here we have uh here let me pull this one up this came in

01:15:18.220 while ago derrick the trader question for the ladies can you name three things you are willing to give

01:15:24.300 up to obtain and retain the man of your dreams let's start with you go ahead three things you are willing

01:15:36.380 to give up i don't think i necessarily do anything bad i'd be willing to give up like in which sense

01:15:47.740 i'll list a couple and if this resonates with anybody so for example doing only fans

01:15:54.540 doing uh going out to bars clubs parties drinking maybe even posting provocative photos

01:16:03.180 on an instagram uh what are some other things uh

01:16:09.260 i mean to me this is almost obvious like it's almost uh it should be default but not being promiscuous

01:16:17.100 let me ask you would you would you

01:16:25.500 instagram or a husband husband

01:16:29.580 um well considering i'd have to limit myself in certain ways like that just seems like kind of a

01:16:37.660 controlling aspect so i don't know if i'd consider him the man of my dreams if he were asking me to

01:16:42.220 abstain from certain things although there are like promiscuity like you mentioned or like a bikini

01:16:47.020 picture like sure but i don't think that'd be the man of my dreams really abstaining from when you

01:16:53.980 said abstaining from certain things and that being controlling what do you what specific things would

01:16:58.700 you view as that would fall under controlling oh like just saying like you can't do so and so such

01:17:05.500 as give us an example like what you just said oh like you just listed like like going out to clubs

01:17:10.620 and parties and bars yeah what about having an only fans well that's sure i don't do is that controlling

01:17:17.420 though for a guy to not want his girl to no continue or start an only fans i just think that wouldn't

01:17:24.620 probably be the man of the person's dreams probably if he was of your dreams of my dreams yeah

01:17:31.660 personally i don't have one so that's not really like you don't have what an only fan so i wouldn't

01:17:37.740 have a problem with that no but so for you specifically what what things would you view as controlling

01:17:47.340 just having me not like like the things you mentioned like i just want to be the man of my

01:17:52.460 dreams if he was trying to not have me do certain things but which of the because i said stopping

01:17:57.420 stopping being promiscuous perhaps stopping an only fans my general view though is it's probably like

01:18:04.380 it's i think it is generally speaking suboptimal to probably initiate dating someone who does only fans

01:18:11.980 but um that's fine um like i said you just probably wouldn't be the man of my dreams if you're

01:18:19.740 but what what specific things would would it be

01:18:25.820 well i don't do much that's like out of bounds or like whatever like i'm not okay he didn't want

01:18:31.100 you going out to bars and clubs and parties and drinking that's fine like if he'd be there like

01:18:36.140 that's fine well because you said of the things i've listed that'd be controlling but now you said

01:18:41.100 now you're saying it's fine so i feel like compromise and communication make the difference i don't

01:18:48.300 really know how to answer the question other than like but you you specifically said it would be

01:18:52.220 controlling what which of the ones that i listed do you consider to be controlling

01:19:08.860 just controlling like if i just um if he's really just like limiting like i don't know limiting how

01:19:15.340 limit how how would can you try to articulate specifically what a guy could do that you would

01:19:22.860 view that as controlling like prohibiting your friendships or who you could see okay so for

01:19:29.900 example like he didn't want you hanging out with the next boyfriend or male friends oh no well i respect

01:19:34.780 that and i would not find that controlling so of course there's like compromises and communicating

01:19:38.940 and like all that but oh i don't know um okay i just think like an overbearing controlling or like

01:19:44.860 you cannot do this do what but do what articulate what like um like say maybe you had an only fans in

01:19:52.220 the past or something okay and then like you just like communicate basically through it but i don't

01:19:56.540 know i'm just i'm kind of done with this question like well i'm trying to get a straight answer out of

01:20:03.020 you um man of my dreams communicate like communicate okay um here so the the original

01:20:11.900 question was can you name three things you're willing to give up to obtain and retain the man of your

01:20:16.300 dreams clubbing because i don't really do that maybe bikini pictures um okay sure yeah what about you 0.99

01:20:27.500 um would you give up your instagram and your of and your god damn clubbing you didn't even let 0.98

01:20:33.580 me okay maybe there's other things you can think uh i mean like the last time i was on i said how i 0.99

01:20:39.660 gave up my only fans but fucked me over am i allowed to cuss yeah yeah that's fine okay i messed 0.98

01:20:45.100 me up and what messed you up he fucked me over i don't want to cuss um but yeah uh i would give up 0.99

01:20:52.060 my only fans yeah okay um i would give out going to the club and cap cap cap i told you i have i 0.98

01:21:02.460 have i deleted i deleted my only fans and then a week later like you have a week after you delete it

01:21:07.820 you have a week to if you want to restart it again if you like change your mind after that week i found

01:21:14.060 out he was cheating on me with like multiple women and i restarted my stuff again good times

01:21:18.780 good times uh third thing i don't know i don't know just anything i don't know go ahead three

01:21:27.340 things assuming you like if maybe if i was single so uh if he is the man of my dreams then it is

01:21:34.540 accurate estimation that i'm a woman of his dreams so if we are together then we would be discussing

01:21:41.660 what we need to give up for our mutual growth and mutual benefit so whatever it is we're thinking

01:21:51.500 about us so it doesn't have to be three things could be million things you know okay yeah i think i

01:21:57.980 can i could give up everything that would hurt his feelings uh if he would explain it to me and said

01:22:06.060 yeah for example i never met my ex after we broke up for example but if he would have asked me uh no i

01:22:13.980 would not see them what about you i would give up or give him my womb if he's the right guy because i've

01:22:27.500 protected my womb so much um and have waited to get you know have kids um so i'd be willing to

01:22:38.060 have kids if he wanted to

01:22:43.180 okay um what about you um let's pull up her instagram for example my instagram your instagram

01:22:52.140 oh yeah like let's say your boyfriend was like tessa i want this photo and this photo and this

01:22:58.300 photo down would you be down for it or would you yeah i'd have him explain it um obviously and i would

01:23:07.500 expect mutual respect where i could do the same thing with him and be like hey you know i'm not

01:23:12.060 really feeling this photo on your instagram you're getting a lot of go ahead nick um

01:23:17.180 um you know scroll down scroll down if he was like even that top one he took it and he told me

01:23:23.500 he wanted me to post it he's fine with it yes scroll back like this you know maybe the bikini one

01:23:30.060 he's in those as well once you scroll past up he's in it scroll back up scroll back up nick

01:23:36.860 uh by the way the tattoo what's that say shame says shame yes i'm i'm actually curious on that what

01:23:42.620 uh can you what what's the origin story there um i used to struggle a lot with my appearance uh

01:23:51.340 growing up in santa barbara and um wearing pearl snaps and boots and belt buckles is a very odd thing

01:23:59.500 especially going to santa barbara high school um you know it's being the weird horse girl um i felt very

01:24:06.220 shame i felt a lot of shame about it i didn't like where i came from i didn't like you know um

01:24:12.620 that i was the girl with the chickens or you know things like that um and i got it when i was about

01:24:19.980 that tattoo when i was about 17 and i just came to the conclusion where i was like

01:24:26.540 i have that on my body you know now obviously for the rest of my life and when i look at it i remember

01:24:32.060 those times and it just kind of reminds me to get the get the fuck over it you know what i mean i'm 0.66

01:24:36.940 gonna dress how i want i'm gonna look how i want i'm gonna act how i want and i'm not gonna

01:24:41.020 feel shameful about it okay there you go uh do you have an answer to this question um not necessarily

01:24:48.780 i guess the biggest thing that i've like i guess dealt with in my past relationships is i have i'm

01:24:55.820 like friends with guys and okay like that's yeah like if i'm with you like and you don't feel

01:25:01.980 comfortable with me hanging out with a guy friend then like yeah you're like the number one person in

01:25:06.300 my life i don't really mind okay valid valid we have beaten cheeks here what have i missed just

01:25:12.620 got back from colombia and i see this disappointing panel looking of women not even colombian women are 0.99

01:25:17.180 hard up on getting a green card as these eastern european gals do better okay from that's from beat 1.00

01:25:24.220 and cheeks thank you man appreciate it uh we have we have he's being rude don john uh lady in blue how

01:25:34.860 did you meet your husband uh he actually he was a client of my service i was not the matchmaker working

01:25:44.060 with him otherwise he would be married to someone else if it was me uh but he was working with one of our

01:25:51.100 matchmakers when his program ended we went out on a date and um yeah so the results are pretty much

01:26:00.860 guaranteed right i mean delivered yeah he was a client now he has a wife so all good right there

01:26:07.020 you go there you go okay let's see i had some notes here oh i wanted to come back to when we were

01:26:14.620 going around the table about uh racial preferences you said that your preference is for provider

01:26:23.340 now how does that look to you um

01:26:28.860 i think like financial stability like providing financial benefits and um

01:26:36.620 i think like adding um just like a lifestyle like a maintenance of a lifestyle yeah how so

01:26:44.620 like i want to look good so like you know maybe some like fashion money so i'm like you know keep

01:26:51.340 my hair done my nails in your marriage or just if you're just dating the guy i think dating and then

01:26:57.500 leading to marriage yeah sure how how early on would you say you'd want a guy to start providing are you

01:27:03.740 talking like an allowance type of thing like you want an allowance yeah i think that'd be kind of nice

01:27:10.380 okay have you had that with previous partners well you said okay you were been single for three years

01:27:16.700 you were in a three-year relationship in your three-year relationship did you have that well i was

01:27:20.940 provided for yeah by the guy uh how old was the guy well we were young we were like well you must

01:27:29.180 have been in high school like early college okay so maybe 17 to 20 yeah okay so so he was the same age

01:27:35.980 as you yeah okay so he was 17 to 20 and he was providing for you yeah

01:27:43.500 what was the allowance looking like oh it's just like like he just paid for something yeah

01:27:48.940 what would he give you cash for you to pay for it did he give you his card how did it look

01:27:53.420 um well i wasn't like asking for too much and i could kind of you know like i was i work and i take

01:28:00.060 care of myself um but just like for like a now stance um yeah it'd be nice to for a partner for

01:28:07.020 now stance but back then you said he was providing for you to some degree um so i mean what would

01:28:14.300 that look like was he paying for all the dates like if you guys went out to go food get food for

01:28:18.220 example yeah he'd pay for all the dates yeah okay would he buy you gifts uh-huh yeah he would

01:28:26.620 it sounded like if you wanted to get your nails done would he do that yeah anything else that i'm

01:28:33.340 missing other things not really trips yeah how often would you go on trips not very often but

01:28:40.700 like maybe like once a year twice a year can we get this girl an energy drink please um yes please 1.00

01:28:45.420 actually go ahead get her not one of the mood ones though the get the f the i don't know what we have 0.53

01:28:52.460 make sure it's not the mood one though that one's like for sleeping and shit huh get her a cup too 1.00

01:28:57.420 pour it in the cup um you want some nectar that drink no that's a seltzer um i mean uh okay so 0.97

01:29:08.620 he would take you on trips so how much like in a month do you think your

01:29:12.380 boyfriend who was your same age was uh spending on you like a thousand bucks a month maybe um i'd say

01:29:19.660 maybe a little bit less than that probably around that um if you had to estimate 700 500 500 to like

01:29:28.220 800 typically okay but i wasn't really like doing too much at the time or asking for too much at the

01:29:33.260 time like i said but he was spending on the low end he was spending let's say 500 a month

01:29:39.820 i'd say yeah okay and you were dating him for three years hold on doing my math here so that's six

01:29:46.620 that's six thousand a year times three that's eighteen thousand dollars over the course of the

01:29:52.140 relationship that he spent on you i would say i lived with his family so his family was partially

01:29:56.940 like also helping me out at the time like so you lived with his family from the start of the

01:30:04.220 relationship or at what point uh like towards the end towards the end yeah

01:30:08.620 that's fine but he was well okay i mean in any case money originating from his household

01:30:16.220 was being spent on you yeah but i also had a job so i would also you know would also what spend on

01:30:22.460 him or no yeah like i'd get him gifts and stuff and yeah like okay yeah i'd say it's pretty impressed

01:30:29.580 i think that's frankly pretty impressive for an 18 to 20 year old to be spending that amount of money

01:30:35.740 on a girlfriend at that age um so but you said moving forward though you said that you want

01:30:43.900 a provider you'd want all that and more even okay so first date the guy should i assume you the guy

01:30:52.140 should pay for the first date and all future dates pretty much or i would prefer yeah you'd prefer

01:30:57.660 okay and then what what are the other things that you would like and you want these pretty much

01:31:02.300 from the get-go correct um yeah like a guy to start taking care of you yeah i earn money on my

01:31:11.580 sorry hold on just one motorsports donated 100 brian i did not realize we had any hookers on this 1.00

01:31:19.180 show yet here one is ladies do you consider yourself a feminist and how has feminism failed you 1.00

01:31:25.500 um we can go we'll go around the table on that and then we'll come back to the provider thing

01:31:31.500 so do you consider yourself a feminist no yes in the way of like making sure women have equal rights 0.73

01:31:42.060 there are like there's a lot of polarization and like radicalism within feminism especially like 1.00

01:31:47.900 um seen recently and like um but yes a feminist okay you're so you do consider yourself a feminist 1.00

01:31:55.820 and you want equal equality between and that's is it just with rights yes okay what about what about just

01:32:06.300 like societally too yeah you want equality societally yes gender what about gender roles

01:32:14.700 gender roles gender roles i value traditional gender roles uh-huh we'll come sure we'll come back to

01:32:20.860 that go ahead do you consider yourself a feminist i don't but you know just definitely like you know 1.00

01:32:27.340 support the people who are feminists are like equal rights for everyone um because that's what feminism 1.00

01:32:32.460 is about but is it word yeah i'm not sure about that but okay go ahead uh no i praise man uh feminism uh

01:32:44.140 kills man and it's so i don't consider myself a feminist i and person me personally i don't

01:32:54.220 feel that my rights were limited or something like that but i yes that's awesome i'm not a feminist

01:33:03.660 but i i think it's a lot of a fake feminist is kind of sure i don't know if there's a what about you no 1.00

01:33:13.420 not a feminist what about what about you no not at all not okay wow okay i didn't i was hoping we have

01:33:20.620 a few more you're a little outnumbered here but um so you consider yourself a feminist but and in your 1.00

01:33:26.940 pre-show notes and what you've just kind of talked about here you said that you appreciate traditional

01:33:31.420 values so how do you you consider yourself a feminist how do you reconcile being a feminist 0.99

01:33:39.740 but also wanting to it sounds like to me holding men to their traditional gender roles how do you

01:33:47.180 reconcile that not every woman lives the same lifestyle so i think it's important that they have

01:33:51.900 representation and you know say in the matter of how they go about business and that there's equality

01:33:56.860 in the pay equality and vote equality and like and also um um like minimization of sexism as well as

01:34:06.540 like um what is it like harassment in the work industry you know that's but okay you said minimization of

01:34:15.580 sexism don't you think it's a rather sexist position to believe that men should be providers

01:34:21.660 i think that's like a traditional thing but isn't it it to some degree if that's your if you have a

01:34:27.740 expectation on men by virtue of their gender to be providers isn't that sexist

01:34:36.300 why can't like why aren't women capable of equally contributing to a relationship or marriage well i think 1.00

01:34:44.220 they can be and i would absolutely contributing to my household as well but i would just personally

01:34:50.060 like to have a person who that would like to provide for me um i don't really well that's

01:34:56.060 traditional gender roles how does that again how you reconcile being a feminist but wanting traditional 1.00

01:35:01.340 treatment from men wanting men to pay for first dates wanting and it's like i hear from a lot of women

01:35:07.500 who say i want the guy to pay for the first date but after that i'm kind of okay actually if we maybe

01:35:12.540 trade off paying on dates and uh but it sounds like for you you want immediately throughout the

01:35:18.780 entire course of the relationship you want a guy to provide for you you want traditional treatment

01:35:22.860 and it sounds like you want him to pay for your pay your bills you want an allowance you want him to

01:35:26.860 pay for your nails if you go on trips you want him to pay for it probably if you guys were living if

01:35:31.740 you guys were living together would you want him to pay the entire rent yeah okay you had something

01:35:37.420 go ahead um i'm gonna use i feel statements here um speak with your chest go ahead i think what i'm

01:35:46.140 hearing from you is that you'd prefer to keep the money that you have to yourself and have your

01:35:52.620 husband provide um for children you whatever um what i see in that is exactly what was brought up

01:36:00.140 earlier about divorce how men are in a worse position than women when it comes to things like

01:36:04.380 that in marriage um i feel like that's kind of where that was set up where the women are gonna 1.00

01:36:12.220 leave um they're gonna have the money they're gonna have all this stuff you know and even when you were

01:36:18.780 just saying um yes i would like someone to pay for everything pay for my bills pay for my house it was

01:36:26.220 like oh this uh like yeah i would love that but in our reality that's it's you're very contradicting

01:36:36.140 when you speak about these things um you know you say that you know you're a feminist women should 1.00

01:36:43.340 have equal rights if women are having equal white rights they would be paying 50 of a bill on a date 1.00

01:36:49.180 they would be paying a certain percentage and i understand you know um when i was in a relationship

01:36:54.540 where i was splitting rent um i paid a little bit less rent because i made a couple dollars less than

01:36:59.980 him but it was still uh in our you know in our thinking it was still a 50 50 across the board uh

01:37:06.620 he would go buy dog food one week the next week i would go buy dog food um so i just feel like that

01:37:12.380 is a setup for the man where you can get out of it whenever you'd like but the man's gonna be 0.82

01:37:17.740 fucked over in the end that's what i see from it okay i see what you're saying and i don't mean to 0.76

01:37:23.340 like come off as if i wouldn't be contributing anything financially like i'd be happy to also 0.96

01:37:29.020 pay for like trips or like it's the hold on don't walk it back though that's that's how it

01:37:35.020 well okay i mean that's but you said in your past relationship the three-year relationship even a man

01:37:41.340 who is your own age and you were young so i mean he i don't think 18 year olds are exactly like 18

01:37:48.140 especially 18 year old men are not balling out i mean i don't know if he came from a wealthy family

01:37:54.060 or whatever but it sounded you said he was paying 500 a month to and you were living with him so you're

01:37:59.500 living rent free i know this is his parents house but uh for a period of the relationship but 500 a

01:38:05.500 month for like an 18 19 20 year old that's a that's a lot of money that's 18 000 over the course of the

01:38:11.100 relationship um yeah most i would argue like most 18 19 20 year old men and women like your earning

01:38:18.780 potential is exactly the same there's certainly first off i think the wage gap has been debunked

01:38:23.020 but there's there's no there's no case where uh an 18 year old man is has more earning potential at

01:38:29.900 18 than an 18 year old woman i'd actually say it's the reverse women have at a early at a young age women 0.98

01:38:35.260 have certain opportunities i'm not even speaking necessarily sex work here i'm speaking like there's

01:38:39.580 certain uh job opportunities for women that i think actually can pay more in that age range um but 0.90

01:38:47.020 so okay here you you said but you you want traditional values so sounds like you you want

01:38:55.260 the guy to be the provider um let me ask would you you want to get married one day i would like to

01:39:02.220 yeah do you want to have kids okay um when you get married will you take your husband's last name

01:39:07.260 yes they'll take your his last name okay fair that's traditional you don't always hear that from

01:39:13.340 from feminists um is your husband the head of the household yes but i do also um 1.00

01:39:22.700 um yeah yeah he'd be the head of the household okay all right um will you cook and clean yes okay do you

01:39:32.540 want to be oh well do you want to be a stay-at-home wife well yes that's um kind of what i'm hoping

01:39:38.460 for because i also have like my projects like i'm like i write poetry so i'm an author and then i have

01:39:43.420 my art projects and those are things that i can do from home as well as like i'm a caretaker so i'm

01:39:48.380 already nurturing like my grandmother on a daily basis okay yeah so

01:39:53.340 okay all right how strongly do you consider yourself to be a feminist well that's the thing 1.00

01:40:00.780 is there's a lot of polarization but i very much value like the the independence of women and women

01:40:06.780 having their own rights and women having their rights what but do you think women say for example

01:40:15.580 here in the united states uh what is a right that a man that i as a man have that you as a woman does not

01:40:23.340 um we've seen a lot of um equality lately and that's what i mean like the polarization like

01:40:29.900 things um i guess just um equal like that you have that woman well what you you said that you're

01:40:37.020 fighting for women's rights what right do men have in this country that women do not

01:40:46.140 i'm just supporting women's rights i should say which which ones like all of them like making 1.00

01:40:50.460 sure they stay intact how um but you already have yeah that's what i mean like the polarization

01:40:57.340 like yes i'm like a feminist i'm not polarized to where we're already like super limited i think

01:41:02.860 um like the me too movement that's great like making sure women are heard and valid okay you know 1.00

01:41:08.060 stuff like that but so which right are you hoping to keep intact which right which right voting right

01:41:17.420 um do you think like two episodes ago there was a man saying sure yeah vote and i was like which i

01:41:21.980 just which i disagree with which i disagree with yeah um but i think it's i mean that's it's very

01:41:30.220 very very unlikely that the 19th is amendment is going to be repealed i'm aware that's not uh that's not

01:41:39.180 politically what's the word for it uh tenable i don't care if you're a democrat democrat well certainly

01:41:45.980 uh the republicans are not going to repeal the 19th amendment i'm aware um another thing though

01:41:56.460 is like feminism as in representation like in the in politics okay would be nice there's a lot of 0.89

01:42:02.460 controversy with you know um like abortion and like the health maintenance of women and having

01:42:09.100 accessibility to certain things and i think that's something that women could okay so but it's not 0.99

01:42:15.500 clear to me if we're doing so typically when we're talking about equality equality with who equality

01:42:21.980 with what and so when we're talking about women's rights we're comparing them to supposed men's rights

01:42:27.420 so when you're talking about abortion uh men don't have men don't have any reproductive rights at all

01:42:35.020 so it's not clear to me if that's a really a woman's like a a gender inequality in so far as 1.00

01:42:43.020 since men don't have any reproductive rights it's not clear if there's inequality donated one hundred 0.92

01:42:49.500 dollars fan-freaking-tastic horse girl very well said poetic justice men have less rights than women

01:42:57.740 and that is an inescapable fact feminism has failed you how can the patriarchy help you today 1.00

01:43:04.140 i am the official representative of the patriarchy uh welcome uh well okay i got a couple a couple

01:43:10.780 other questions um what do you think about equalizing the draft are you in favor of that sure you're

01:43:17.260 down to get drafted um i think women have a lot of duties here but duties here yeah world war three 0.87

01:43:24.620 around the corner right i personally don't want to be drafted yeah i think most women would not want 1.00

01:43:30.540 to go to war saying traditional values in that aspect and like but equality and stuff that's

01:43:36.540 equality that would be patriarchy wait what about it exactly well speaking of the patriarchy um going

01:43:43.020 around the table uh we need uh we need paper towels uh got a little spill here oh they're right i think

01:43:51.420 they're oh yeah right here here i'll grab it the patriarchy um going around the table uh do you believe

01:44:02.940 in the patriarchy and if so uh what is it um i'm not too educated on the patriarchy to give my opinion so

01:44:14.780 that's okay um we'll see if you see there's like a polarization on every like aspect of politics but um

01:44:28.620 i don't know really well you mentioned patriarchy so you must i assume you must

01:44:33.740 i think believe in it when it comes to like reproductive rights and women um you know taking 0.78

01:44:41.420 care of their body and their business i think women should have the say over that and have 1.00

01:44:46.540 that protected over the patriarchy stance which is mainly in politics um the men are having you know

01:44:54.060 okay so we can get into abortion here in just a sec but do you believe in the patriarchy yeah it's there

01:45:02.380 okay and here well just really quick on the abortion thing then you probably want to say something on this

01:45:08.540 um it's not clear like you do realize like there's actually i i could be i think the stats are there

01:45:17.500 are more women who are pro-life than there are men who are pro-life like 50 of the pro-life movement is

01:45:23.260 women so it's not clear to me if that's evidence of the patriarchy if 50 of women are against abortion

01:45:32.460 i'm not sure if that's evidence of a patriarchy okay i didn't know that well there's a lot of

01:45:38.540 i mean i think i don't know who maybe who here is pro-choice who's pro-life pro-choice who's pro-choice

01:45:46.300 pro-life pro-life pro-life pro-life let's say pro-choice but i would uh want more women 1.00

01:45:54.940 choose pro-life like yeah by their choice you know oh being educated being supported and like okay make

01:46:04.540 their choice to be pro-life um well okay so let's go back to uh okay so what is the patriarchy um

01:46:16.460 like in the workforce the value of men in um positions or having being higher regarded than women

01:46:23.340 in myself what i mean what evidence do you have for that it's can can you expand on that point a little

01:46:33.500 bit um i don't know i'm done with this question you can't be done

01:46:43.980 didn't didn't you get a whole pour yeah well i mean i'm i'm just asking very basic questions like so

01:46:53.980 how is the patriarchy manifesting itself what is it

01:46:58.700 you mentioned workplace so are you talking about i mean i'm not against men like men that's not what i

01:47:03.420 don't know into the mic please i'm not against men it's just like okay patriarchy patriarchy our

01:47:10.860 society is currently like a patriarchy like what so what is but what is that what is a patriarchy

01:47:16.860 male leadership we have male president male leadership so if we if we elected a female

01:47:22.860 president would be would we be in a matriarchy technically yeah okay that's an interesting 1.00

01:47:29.420 sense of what the typically i my sense of what that's just like that's just like okay so

01:47:36.140 okay

01:47:41.820 i have a couple questions on this so i reject that that there's a a patriarchy um i i don't really

01:47:49.660 believe that we're living in the patriarchy if anything i think we live in a gynocentric society

01:47:54.300 where i actually think women are elevated above men in a lot of ways perhaps there's a one there's

01:47:59.740 the one percentage of men that that have the the penultimate or the ultimate positions of

01:48:07.100 authority and power and uh the most uh well-paying jobs but that also you have to look at the other

01:48:13.900 factors too while men occupy the top positions of politics power wealth they also occupy the vast 1.00

01:48:23.580 majority of the lowest positions in society you look at homeless people for example that's 80 men

01:48:30.700 now and then that stat actually shifts those the people who are homeless who are living rough so

01:48:38.060 actually on the street because you can be homeless but have shelter have a car the men that you see on

01:48:42.540 the street 90 of the time it's going to be a man who's who's uh living rough i don't know if that's

01:48:48.060 exact terminology but um living rough i guess you could say uh men are more likely to delete

01:48:53.900 themselves men are more likely to die early men die on average five years earlier than women uh men

01:49:00.220 while they have the best jobs arguably or the best paying jobs they also have the most dangerous and

01:49:06.300 dirty and difficult jobs when the power goes out and it's below freezing at 3 a.m and you need a

01:49:13.420 line man to go fix the electricity or something that's going to be a man going out at 3 a.m in

01:49:19.980 the blistering cold in a snowstorm to go dangerously fix something so men occupy the most dangerous 1.00

01:49:27.740 difficult and dirty jobs look at garbage men yeah who are well paid but you don't see women 1.00

01:49:35.020 chomping at the bit to go be a garbage person i'm not saying i'm a technique like i'm not saying 0.53

01:49:41.340 i'm really against the patriarchy like i you're against it no i'm not okay i i think there's like 0.97

01:49:47.340 there's a lot of value to men and especially in hard positions but men are not the patriarchy

01:49:54.540 no you're okay because but you said the patriarchy is men who occupy the top

01:50:01.100 positions of power that's less than one percent of men so okay so are you saying okay are you saying

01:50:07.180 that generally speaking men are are you talking like there's male privilege

01:50:16.940 there was there was a shift not anymore yeah no there's no more male privilege what was the

01:50:26.460 male privilege yeah is there currently male like do you believe in male privilege

01:50:30.460 when it comes to in certain ways yeah what so what are some examples of a male privilege

01:50:44.140 um a lot of um women not getting justice for a lot of um abuses that's not an example of male

01:50:56.060 privilege that could be an example of alleged female disadvantage but i'm asking for evidence 0.65

01:51:03.180 uh examples of male privilege so because plenty of men don't get justice either yeah yeah okay in

01:51:13.340 various ways if they're a victim of a crime plenty of men don't get justice either yeah i'm not sure if

01:51:17.740 i'm educated enough to continue like this discussion okay that's fine well i i have just a few more

01:51:24.540 questions then we'll move off of male privilege um so would you say that under patriarchy because 1.00

01:51:30.860 you've asserted that we live under patriarchy are women oppressed like do you view that do you think

01:51:36.140 women are oppressed into the mic please um i've i'm again i'm not uh as educated as i'd like to be

01:51:49.980 just because i'm pushing back don't walk back your position but under patriarchy are women oppressed 1.00

01:51:56.620 because you've asserted that there's a patriarchy i deny there's a patriarchy but for the sake of

01:52:01.100 argument i'll i'll uh agree that there's a patriarchy so under the patriarchy under this assumed

01:52:07.020 patriarchy are women oppressed i think there's been a lot of progress and so that's what i mean when

01:52:13.900 i say like i'm not like um like a radical feminist i'm not like polarized uh well i think patriarchy is

01:52:19.900 a rather rather radical proposition is it i think so okay i didn't view it that way well that's why i

01:52:26.220 was asking what your definition of patriarchy was a male leadership like president is which you object

01:52:31.820 to it sounds like no i'm not objecting to it but why then why societal terms patriarchy but it sounds

01:52:38.460 like you object to it no it'd be nice to see a female no but you do object but i but you you it 1.00

01:52:44.700 sounded like from what you've said that you have an issue with it because you feel as if women have 1.00

01:52:51.420 not been able to occupy those roles in society devon jackson donated 100 men have the privilege of

01:52:59.740 fighting working and dying to create a society safe enough for women like you to sit there and 1.00

01:53:05.180 poorly explain why they are oppressing you well put dave on jackson so okay my question is under

01:53:18.700 patriarchy are women oppressed no we've seen a lot of progress so women are no longer oppressed

01:53:25.980 so what are you what are you enough to be saying well what are you you're you're in college right what

01:53:31.260 are your professors brainwashing you with brainwashing me with in journalism the me too

01:53:37.980 movement has been a recent thing that is important and because workplace harassment is a thing and women 1.00

01:53:45.020 should be protected against that um so that would be maybe one far more question but grid one motorsports 0.58

01:53:51.180 donated 100 poetic stupidity has been in university too long and i weep for her future partners the only 0.80

01:53:59.660 success in her future will be had by divorce attorneys if you want a real man become a real woman 1.00

01:54:11.500 you can clap back if you want um do you

01:54:16.220 based i'm trying to find common ground and i'm not like a radical or like polarizing really

01:54:23.340 no but i'm just we're just you used oh did you have something

01:54:30.700 yeah just uh i want to add a little bit to um to this and show probably for you example

01:54:38.700 how kind of kind of patriarchy mr infinity donated 100 dollars i'm just a hard-working average man who

01:54:47.020 makes around 50k a year can matchmaker find me a traditional woman 0.99

01:54:55.260 yes it's a question for me yeah yeah absolutely the it's interesting how you put the question here

01:55:03.580 i'm hard-working average man who makes around 50 000 a year i mean why you feel yourself that you are like

01:55:12.700 not providing enough or uh you are a man who wants to have a family um when woman enters in the

01:55:21.500 relationship uh she's not looking at the guy i mean for me as a matchmaker i never look at the people

01:55:28.300 like who they are i'm looking at them what the potential is when woman enters in the relationship i

01:55:33.420 mean you're not going to be ideal person for uh everyone right away a woman looks in the potential of 1.00

01:55:41.500 who you would be as a partner for a family and how she can help you to achieve even higher things

01:55:49.340 together but again together so uh for the right woman it's always a woman i believe that woman always

01:55:57.580 builds men with a right way she handles herself with a man she can either build her man or crush her man 1.00

01:56:07.740 so building man is um believing in the gratitude being thankful for what he is able to bring to the

01:56:17.660 family doesn't matter how little it is it doesn't matter but believing more and more and more helps

01:56:24.780 man grow so and the family grow so i guess the short uh answer to this question is yes you wanted to go on

01:56:32.860 the patriarchy go ahead yeah i wanted to help with an example and show uh how where men or where women

01:56:39.900 can be oppressed in society i feel here that it's really pro-women society now and or at least that

01:56:49.260 women are very protected here and for example i feel really pity when i see for example in slavic countries

01:56:59.980 men when men divorce or leave family for leaves family for example with kids he just say bye bye

01:57:08.540 it's a good thing if he leaves something but it's up to him in most of cases and he said bye bye to his wife

01:57:17.180 ex-wife and kids for example and go start a new life with new woman with new datings have no has no um

01:57:26.700 no responsibility no responsibility and you are right probably you couldn't find the example in

01:57:32.460 this country right because there are a lot of equalities and rights but from where we are like

01:57:38.060 our backgrounds for example so and i and what is most uh important and sad to see that it's acceptable in

01:57:46.300 society so for example society will not say oh i will not date this guy because he left his family and

01:57:53.980 see their children like barely maybe sometimes maybe don't see it at all so it it's not punished

01:58:00.700 by society so here it's example how women are oppressed but women should grow children mostly on 0.99

01:58:07.660 their own find a new man who will look at them oh my god she has kids maybe now maybe it's too complicated

01:58:13.820 i will go find someone you know a lot of women you remember right more women than men so here is an

01:58:19.580 example yeah to the topic there i would say that society is more patriarchy right okay yeah did you

01:58:29.340 have any further thoughts on the patriarchy discussion no like i said i'm not like polarized or radical so

01:58:35.980 thank you for chiming in because i appreciate that thank you okay last couple questions for you here in

01:58:40.460 this entire um are you oppressed am i oppressed no okay okay all right uh sort of the last thing on

01:58:53.580 this you said that there's a wage gap yes i was listening to a political science lecture on the way here

01:59:01.100 from a professor with a doctoral in political science and she was stating that yes there is still a wealth gap

01:59:08.780 specifically for women of color okay um actually i think we have some information on that nick can you

01:59:17.900 pull up the infographics tab uh i just want to make sure i pull up the right one hold on uh i think it's

01:59:25.900 in the wage tab uh you mentioned huh dropbox podcast infographics

01:59:33.900 there's also hold on i'm just pulling these up on my end so i can see them there's some interesting

01:59:42.220 stats actually comparing men and women um hold up wait wait wait i think it definitely depends on the

01:59:47.660 studies you look at but there was also more evidence within my journalism class and some studies we looked

01:59:51.980 at there your journalism class yes who's probably taught by a feminist liberal woman it's by a man feminist liberal

01:59:59.820 man same same thing no okay well so okay we have uh wait hold on i'm just looking

02:00:08.780 nick can you pull up are you in the wage tab okay can you pull up the gpg 2022 controlled uncontrolled

02:00:19.260 it's the yellow and blue one and then the asian women comparing to 1.00

02:00:24.620 asian women to stochastic decay donated 99 dollars yo what's up sorry i'm late long day writing a

02:00:36.060 poem roses are red black widow's brain is pint-sized she can't make an argument without saying polarized 1.00

02:00:46.140 this has become a gang i don't like it argument it's a discussion and that's why

02:00:51.020 asian women asian women asian women too gdp per capita median income uh and then women out earn 0.99

02:01:01.420 uh and then working hours also those are all at the bottom

02:01:09.740 there's two asian women ones 1.00

02:01:11.980 just grab both while you're at it because i wanted actually we've never really looked at any

02:01:22.460 of the data i just want to look at it do you got it nick can we start looking um yes

02:01:30.940 okay uh just tied us nick for a sec uh so this was released by i believe payscale you can actually go

02:01:41.020 to the payscale website i think it's payscale uncontrolled gender pay gap this opportunity

02:01:46.220 pay gap measures median salary for all men and all women so this is an accounting for hours worked

02:01:51.820 type of job not uh seniority nothing educational achievement if you control for every single variable

02:02:00.860 it comes down to 99 cents a one cent gap

02:02:05.420 okay so that measures the median salary for men and women with the same job and qualifications nick you

02:02:12.700 can show us again are you able to pull up the oh did you have a question nick did you have a question

02:02:20.300 um that's from payscale by the way i'm pretty sure payscale

02:02:25.340 which is not like it's not like some right leaning organization hold on let me pull this up

02:02:32.140 good i would hope that's the case from what we looked at in my journalism class it was like the

02:02:37.660 film industry and contracts signed nick show us to where men to the what industry like film industry

02:02:44.300 contracts signed film industry like movie like how men actors actresses oh they make more than women

02:02:52.380 yes like contracts signed and stuff like that sure oh do you do you think it's do you think it's unfair

02:02:57.340 for example that uh female soccer players or women who are in the wnba do you think it's unfair that 1.00

02:03:04.060 they make less than men who play soccer or men who are in the nba no because i think the audience size

02:03:12.540 is different and it's okay exactly couldn't that be the same also in the entertainment industry

02:03:18.060 like certain actors might work more or um so so i i do know what you're referencing right

02:03:27.100 because uh monique was speaking about it it's kind of similar along the lines of what you're

02:03:33.180 talking about um anybody know who grid one motorsports donated 100 dollars wage gap i wish i could

02:03:43.260 sell pictures of my thumper online and make five figures a month enjoy life on easy mode you do only

02:03:50.220 fans how much do you make um no comment range um no comment but i definitely do agree that like

02:04:00.780 women make more money on only fans than men it's why and is that evidence of sexism um 1.00

02:04:07.420 well i'm not really asking you that back to you i don't know they're asking you or me

02:04:18.060 well also like female models female models greatly out earn their male counterparts is that because of 1.00

02:04:25.900 like sexism is there a matriarchy because female models out there and male models no are male models 1.00

02:04:35.820 like well men do take in porn more than women actually i'm honestly i don't know that because

02:04:43.020 a lot of women watch porn a lot of men watch porn but i know for a fact as a creator myself like

02:04:47.740 women do make more money yes they do but that's in the sex working industry although it does sound like 1.00

02:04:52.700 you said that well for male soccer players female soccer players you don't object to them making 1.00

02:05:01.420 different amounts is that correct no it's appealing to the audience and the audience okay that's

02:05:05.260 fair so that's like i appreciate that that she's in it's like the male audience is the one right 0.87

02:05:11.500 nick let's just just since we have them pulled up just let's blast through um you mentioned women 1.00

02:05:16.540 of color actually asian women are out earning white men holy crap huh hmm uh that's the median weekly 0.99

02:05:27.900 earnings of full-time workers white men versus asian next one nick i think she's talking are you 0.93

02:05:32.060 talking about scroll make it bigger specifically like black women or just women of color oh i i 1.00

02:05:37.020 thought asian women were also women of color i'm just asking to clarify like wait well when you 1.00

02:05:42.460 say women oh that was from the also this next was there another asian women one scroll 0.99

02:05:50.060 median weekly earnings for full asian women versus white men this is the okay all right next what's 0.98

02:05:55.180 the next one we got real gdp per capita and median male income uh so this is comparing the uh is this

02:06:05.500 like a the real gdp per capita and median male income so wait real gdp per capita of median male income

02:06:13.420 i see and then comparing it to men versus women so there's a men are kind of disadvantaged there there

02:06:18.780 hasn't been as similar growth uh next scroll up nick um weighted average of working hours per week

02:06:27.820 single men and women without kids so men work more hours than women next 0.97

02:06:36.860 uh and then this is from pew research center can you put us on the other side nick young women earn at 0.99

02:06:43.260 least as much as young men in 22 you make us smaller uh young women earn at least as much as young men 0.97

02:06:49.420 in 22 us metros so uh oh then i don't know put it is the other one smaller we don't have one of those on the

02:07:01.340 right side oh do we just have the corner show me the corner i guess that's fine uh medium annual earnings of us

02:07:10.220 women as a percent of men's median among full-time year-round workers younger than 30.

02:07:17.820 can you hide us for a second i want to read that thing on the bottom

02:07:21.980 estimates refer to full-time year-round workers aged 16 to 29 who reported positive wage and salary

02:07:27.820 income in the prior 12 months actually there was a woman who recently won the nick if you can google

02:07:32.780 the no nobel peace prize or sorry not not the nobel peace prize it was a nobel economics prize

02:07:38.540 uh a woman debunked the wage gap and said it comes down to women's choice to have a family 0.96

02:07:49.420 um was there another one nick or i think yeah whatever we don't need to pull it up um but uh

02:07:58.140 so my question to you is

02:08:00.220 uh you you mentioned that you want a guy to be a provider correct do you do you think let's

02:08:10.540 let's assume that i'm wrong on the wage gap thing that there's genuinely a wage gap that

02:08:15.260 it's 80 cents to the dollar for men um let's just assume it's true right um 1.00

02:08:21.660 um could we explain away the gap because there are women like you who want traditional treatment 1.00

02:08:32.300 from men and that there's a there's a market pressure there's a a dating pressure that exists

02:08:39.500 on men that does not exist on women for men to be providers and to make money because women have this

02:08:46.060 put a pressure on men to financially succeed whereas there there is no dating pressure

02:08:53.660 mating pressure on women to donate to 99 dollars

02:08:57.340 oksana do you have more women like janna 1.00

02:09:01.900 yes many more so to get back to my my question though could it could the wage gap assuming it's real

02:09:11.100 be explained away by the fact that women put a burden a pressure on men to be providers and that

02:09:18.460 burden does not exist on women ergo because of the mating pressure on men to provide and to make money 1.00

02:09:25.980 and to pay for first dates and to get you gifts and do all these things that explains why there's a

02:09:31.660 wage gap because men are more motivated to make more money because if they don't they're not going 0.84

02:09:37.580 to get a second date with you they're not going to get a first date with you um when it comes to

02:09:42.780 that i would still say women should be making equal pay if they're in the workforce that's but okay 1.00

02:09:48.860 how can you that i i don't think that the two positions can coexist you cannot say i want man to

02:09:58.060 i want men to be a provider but also i want to make the exact because if every single woman makes the 1.00

02:10:04.060 exact same amount as a guy how can you expect a guy to be a provider well the woman can also you 1.00

02:10:11.260 know save up and do other things with the money to invest in the relationship

02:10:17.420 there's many it seems a little bit sexist like against the guy if the woman gets to save all the

02:10:23.500 money if they're making the same and he's paying for everything for her and she's saving it or would

02:10:29.100 she be paying for things for him as well because then that would make it equal right as well and

02:10:33.740 like for so then he wouldn't have to pay for everything so then he wouldn't be providing for

02:10:39.580 you in the way that you're saying because you would be paying for things for him yes i would say it's like

02:10:45.260 a mutually beneficial but sole provider like he's the main provider for the family and for me i just i

02:10:52.860 don't think the demand for and we have equal pay but this demand of like because you we there's been

02:11:02.300 news article nick can you actually google uh women not finding economically attractive partners so 0.92

02:11:13.180 if we elevate the amount of money that women are making if women are and i think it's great if women 1.00

02:11:20.380 are participating in the workforce however women need to start considering 50 50 if y'all want to be 1.00

02:11:29.020 being paid equally you can't you can't have i want perfect equality in society but i want any

02:11:37.420 quality in my romantic life that's what i'm saying people just have their personal preferences and

02:11:43.260 no but it doesn't you cannot you you cannot demand that it just economically i don't think it makes

02:11:51.100 it's it's not feasible if every woman has your standard of i want a guy to be a provider and i would argue 1.00

02:11:57.980 a lot of women do perhaps the majority of women want a male to be a provider you co coincidingly there

02:12:04.620 cannot also be which by the way we have which is i think why there's one of the reasons for the uh

02:12:11.260 break the uh what's it called the uh

02:12:17.100 breaking up of male female relationships uh i don't think both of these things can really coincide

02:12:24.140 you cannot demand tradition in your romantic life of a man being a provider but then also across the

02:12:31.820 board expect equality financially and economically somebody's gonna lose in that scenario

02:12:41.260 here nick pull up the article do you have it um we'll find the um scroll down nick scroll down so

02:12:51.500 i can see some of the article choices um there's a whole bunch here we'll do the independent lack of

02:12:58.460 economically attractive men click it go ahead lack of economically attractive men to blame for decline in

02:13:05.260 marriage rates study suggests so if a bunch of women have this attitude of i need a man who makes as 1.00

02:13:11.660 much as me or more but y'all are high earners now and you're starting to earn more than men there's going

02:13:18.060 to have to be a subset of women that's going to have to be cool with 50 50 gonna be cool with being both of 1.00

02:13:24.300 you are making income even being the sole breadwinner potentially for a woman or out earning the men that's 0.94

02:13:30.220 perfectly fine sure but i guess what i'm trying to say is you cannot really have economically i don't

02:13:37.580 think it's economically feasible and perhaps the chat can weigh in on this you cannot have this demand

02:13:44.700 that women all women across the board make just as much as men do and also expect men to be providers

02:13:51.260 the two i don't think the two mesh i could be hey maybe i'm wrong maybe i have a misunderstanding of

02:14:00.140 economics is it radical to be pro-equality no it's just the it's the contradiction of what you're saying

02:14:09.500 it's the contradiction of expecting a man to buy you things and to give you things pay for first

02:14:15.500 aids pay for subsequent aids you okay so that's just my personal preference that's but it's again

02:14:22.940 how do you reconcile your personal preference of being a feminist believing in gender equality

02:14:28.300 wanting to do away with gender roles but wanting men to pay for first dates because i care about the 1.00

02:14:36.220 equality of the women in society while also upholding traditional values but the the two they can 0.88

02:14:42.460 and so then really they can be parallel so then can i ask you something real quick yeah i respect

02:14:48.220 you as like someone who's coming here um i just definitely we'll come to you donated 100

02:14:56.060 pork's sake equal pay does not equals equal earnings that's true men will work harder jobs

02:15:02.540 work longer hours work in places women will not go stop complaining and enjoy the life men provide 0.99

02:15:09.020 the women they love also really quick on the wage gap thing if there actually was a wage gap corp what 1.00

02:15:14.780 what's the primary goal or motivation of a company or a corporation or a business

02:15:22.620 maximize profit make money right if there actually was a wage gap wouldn't these corporations

02:15:28.700 strictly just hire women and save 20 30 on their payroll it's not possible and you say these companies 0.84

02:15:37.580 would be judged for not equality for everyone you know just oh you hired only women now it's a court

02:15:42.940 time well no but yeah you know well not even that doesn't work like this it will society will not

02:15:47.740 support so it's kind of well no but the reality is if you if you're a if you're a business and you can

02:15:52.540 get away with paying your workforce 20 30 percent less then that would be a very smart business decision

02:16:00.300 exactly to just hire no but exactly but then uh publicity will arise and uh no they will be sued

02:16:07.820 for not allowing men for example get this job for all this stuff you know for ethical ethical point

02:16:14.700 for ethical that's why it's possible that men's rights advocates might litigate that however i would

02:16:19.980 argue it's it's pretty unlikely and also when it comes to equality uh most of these companies like if they had

02:16:27.980 a a boardroom that was 80 women or even 100 women they would view that as equality even though it's 1.00

02:16:35.100 really not it's only inequality if men make up the majority but when women uh if women are over

02:16:43.180 represented in the boardroom or in certain professions there's no qualms with that feminists 1.00

02:16:49.020 aren't out in the streets like we need more male nurses like there's not women are not fighting to get 0.93

02:16:54.940 more men into female dominated jobs they only want to infiltrate male dominated jobs okay do you believe 0.96

02:17:02.300 that if businesses in capitalism society yes could maximize that profit their profit uh wouldn't do it

02:17:12.780 if it would be possible without consequences they've already people are smart they've already done

02:17:19.340 hold on please move on to another topic black widow still finny f though finn fine that's so funny

02:17:27.820 but also though when i was referring to the wage gap i was referring to a specific study that i had

02:17:34.620 listened to in a lecture from a college okay about like in reference to contracts being signed in the

02:17:40.540 film industry i just like okay that's super specific exactly and then you interrogated me and i don't

02:17:46.460 i'm not well educated and versed enough in all the other wage gaps so thank you for pulling up the

02:17:50.460 statistics okay did you have did you want to continue on with your point so um like i was saying

02:17:57.900 as an individual i completely respect you i do have a problem with some things that you're saying i feel

02:18:02.620 like you're very um you get challenged and you take a step back you're not very confident in yourself

02:18:09.580 so i think my question for you is are you looking for a guy to pay everything for you or are you looking

02:18:16.060 to feel lower than that man because i'm hearing a lot about feminism but i'm also hearing a lot about 1.00

02:18:22.780 you wanting a man who is paying for everything he is the provider i feel like that's against feminism 0.99

02:18:30.140 that's just traditional and from what i've heard from a lot of aspects is that traditional is not

02:18:35.340 feminism like you've said that there's there's been a lot of growth since you know when we couldn't vote 1.00

02:18:40.460 whatever one thing or another um so why do you want to go back to the ways of man does everything

02:18:49.420 for me if you're fighting for equality between uh men and women and you know maybe it's something

02:18:55.740 deeper maybe it's a trauma thing that you have like i have no idea uh it just is a very confusing thing

02:19:01.340 for me because what do you want i think women should have rights and um the society that we're in 1.00

02:19:12.540 they have the rights and they're just making sure they maintain the rights which rights i don't know

02:19:17.340 like you know the feminism like i don't because i don't i don't i cannot think of any right hold on 0.70

02:19:25.180 what underscore bw underscore just underscore unwittingly donated 100 admitted is that she

02:19:32.380 wants the absolute domination of men men as slaves that work to pay for everything and then to also 1.00

02:19:39.020 be paid the same which women can use for other things pure slavery era evil i think dude that's kind 0.97

02:19:47.100 of super based like that's super based like i think a lot of men are just like looking at the 0.95

02:19:52.780 prospects romantically and of marriage like you're basically just a pay pig you're a wage slave and 0.55

02:19:58.940 it's uh men are catching on and it's uh milk ain't worth the squeeze 0.94

02:20:09.740 you got interrupted though go ahead oh no i actually i think i was gonna say

02:20:13.340 so again so what right do men have that women do not 1.00

02:20:17.820 the the only thing here i'll help you out the only thing i can think of the only right

02:20:26.860 provided by law for example that men have that women don't is that and this isn't even in some 0.72

02:20:32.860 cities in some areas women do have this right free the titty like some women you can't be topless in 1.00

02:20:39.580 public and you know what i am a feminist on that front i'm in favor if y'all want to take your tops off 1.00

02:20:45.980 and titties out i will fight for you i am the number one feminist at this table 1.00

02:20:53.020 i'm a feminist free the titties free the titties i am a feminist okay that is the one right no it's 1.00

02:21:00.860 true women are so oppressed they can't free the titty it's up okay here hold on let me pull up a chat 0.99

02:21:08.140 we have tim i just want one woman who i will make a lot of babies with who will not leave me not leave 0.93

02:21:15.580 with half of what i own and actually stick around till death will do us part is it possible in this

02:21:20.300 world of dating

02:21:26.780 i don't think it is but uh yeah what can you do what can you do all right here we have uh loma

02:21:33.580 lamb the sky lamb the sky merci beaucoup for the canadian 50 brian the poor girl took an

02:21:39.900 intro to poli sci class and learn some buzzwords you're not getting out more out of her confirm

02:21:45.900 or deny took an intro to poli sci class yeah yeah i'm just like i'm not radical like um

02:21:55.820 i'm just trying to find common ground and um word okay that's fair that's fair it's a bit unfair too

02:22:03.820 because you i feel like i i would have hoped that there were some other feminists at the table so i i hope 1.00

02:22:08.620 you don't feel like you you're getting dog piled or anything or ganged up on but uh yeah good talk

02:22:14.780 good talk i have a question sure for you brian for me so opinion of the man right so uh everybody is

02:22:22.860 talking about how uh it was put on a man the expectations of making money and providing and so

02:22:30.060 on right so would it be um is it possible that man right now they feel like they're trying and trying

02:22:36.860 and trying and they're not getting enough appreciation or recognition uh from the woman

02:22:40.780 for the things that they are doing uh i think in a guy typically by nature mother nature just engraved

02:22:49.180 in man to be providers yeah right to uh to to get that woman to conquer her to the court her to sure 1.00

02:22:58.380 it's engraved in you so right if you are with a woman who values what you are doing what you are

02:23:05.180 providing what you are bringing wouldn't you want to even do more so it's like my point is um i think

02:23:11.500 guys just right now feeling underappreciated like it is expectations are put on them they have to do it

02:23:19.740 but if men would have enough appreciation from the woman from their woman they would try to do more

02:23:27.020 whether it would be coming from their hearts because they know they're coming home where they're

02:23:31.260 appreciated where they're recognized where um they just get all the glory he is the king

02:23:38.780 right yeah well that so it is not the question that men uh feel that there is so much put on them

02:23:45.580 they have to provide they have to do like jump out of their pants to give everything to the woman 0.98

02:23:51.020 it is the question is yes to have the woman by his side who values all this absolutely i think that's a

02:23:57.980 fantastic point you made i think one of the most important things for men is respect and i think

02:24:03.500 a lot of men in their relationships quite frankly do not feel respected by their partners they don't

02:24:09.420 feel respected by women generally and frankly i don't think men feel respected in society so absolutely

02:24:17.660 and i think there's also a component of also entitlement when it comes to like

02:24:23.660 as a woman you can have certain standards and preferences and expectations but if you make it

02:24:31.420 if you a lot of men are perfectly happy paying for first aids they they will they will go to war 0.58

02:24:38.220 with the world to provide for the right woman um but if the woman feels like entitled to it and they 0.57

02:24:45.100 don't put they're not respectful with it and they don't they're not thankful or grateful for for it

02:24:52.060 um a lot of women just again feel entitled to it and uh respect is so important to men that

02:25:03.740 men lose motivation to want to be providers i think because it's not respected exactly and one of the

02:25:12.540 one of the ways it's not respected is you have you'll have men who will do all the right things

02:25:18.540 on the date who will pay for the first date be a gentleman be respectful get her flowers etc etc do

02:25:26.060 all these things and in a lot of ways uh not all women but there are women who will actually look

02:25:31.820 down on that and they'll this comes back to something i think we talked about earlier this

02:25:36.700 sort of double treatment because like for example you'll have a woman who a lot of times in today's 1.00

02:25:44.060 modern dating world romance is no longer required courtship is no longer required so you'll have

02:25:49.660 women you know we live in a college down here a lot there's big hookup culture uh a girl will like 1.00

02:25:56.060 fuck a guy within an hour of meeting and then the guy who does all the right things who's a gentleman 0.92

02:26:03.420 who's nice who takes her out on dates who buys her flowers does all the right things uh he he ends up 0.99

02:26:10.380 losing and he sees the treatment that the guys who never had to put in anything you'll see these 0.99

02:26:16.300 really attractive guys who are kind of bad boys or jerks or assholes or whatever they'll they'll never 0.99

02:26:20.780 pay for a first date and they're like constantly with women they'll see the treatment that they get 1.00

02:26:26.700 and they'll be wondering well i'm doing every thing that i've been told what to do but i don't have 0.99

02:26:34.060 i'm not being rewarded for it so it's like fuck it is he really losing or he is gaining like thanks 0.98

02:26:39.340 god that i am not with this woman and he would be moving on to find the girl who does have the 0.99

02:26:45.500 right standards and who actually has the knowledge what it is to have a build the right relationship

02:26:53.500 so it is uh it's hard to say i mean you can look at like from different angles so it is not really

02:26:58.460 losing it's uh winning yeah it's the opposite from my perspective too it's just having your own standard

02:27:05.820 whatever it is like not pain pain or like whatever it is and just keep trying to find your person no one

02:27:14.460 says that every girl will uh accept your like you know flowers and everything some girls don't want

02:27:21.660 and it's fine with them they want their relationships to be different they can so but if you're a guy and

02:27:28.540 if you want to have mission grid one motorsports donated 100 oksana most u.s men i know will die for

02:27:37.660 fear relationship and go through hell for fear kids while u.s women will trash a relationship because 1.00

02:27:43.900 they are bored and will use the kids against the father well that's really sad that is that's yeah it

02:27:51.260 is it is just absolutely unfortunate i have a 10 year old daughter and um just the things that i hear

02:27:58.540 how other couples uh if things don't work out for them i'm not talking about my clients i'm talking

02:28:03.900 about parents of uh where my child goes to school too and it is uh it is really really scary how people

02:28:11.660 end up damaging themselves and their kids for just i there is no even reason um it's it's just some

02:28:22.780 things in united states is just fantastic country there's so many amazing things so many opportunities that

02:28:28.140 we have here but i think because of the opportunities um we are getting crooked as well

02:28:35.580 because of too many things that are allowed too many things sure fair point fair point by the way did i

02:28:42.060 read the one the one from tim i just want one woman who i'll make a lot of babies with did i read that

02:28:47.420 one yes yeah i just okay i just want to make sure that but we haven't answered probably oh we haven't

02:28:52.860 answered wait we didn't or is it still possible in this world of dating uh i mean i don't know if

02:28:58.220 that was true can you uh can you uh yeah don't don't worry about it anything is possible anything

02:29:03.420 whatever you want is possible it just requires some coaching for both people yes anything is

02:29:09.020 possible anything is possible anything is possible depending how much effort you're willing to put

02:29:13.900 into that to make it happen but anything is true true yeah also last thing on the wage gap i don't think

02:29:20.700 like men aren't going out there trying to occupy the top positions of power and income to oppress 0.98

02:29:28.380 women most men are out there trying to make a ton of money so that they can provide for their girlfriend 0.88

02:29:36.460 their wife and their kids it's not like this actually you know what there's a tape video i kind of

02:29:43.260 there's a tape video let's pull up the tape video nick go find the tape video pull up the tape video nick

02:29:47.980 get that tape video nick get that get the tape video whenever you're ready nick just grab that

02:29:52.460 tape video go to videos oh you got it oh what you got it it's in the tape folder dropbox podcast videos

02:30:01.100 uh let's see it is called let me know when you're you're there nick

02:30:06.700 it's garbage man oppression it's the i think the fourth one over you can pull that up for us pause it

02:30:19.100 get it

02:30:23.180 video tab

02:30:27.100 go ahead this is a big point i want to make because women confuse this very often they talk about the 1.00

02:30:32.700 fact that men have all the power men make all the money men are in charge and we oppress women 1.00

02:30:38.460 let me make something very clear to you okay firstly you're confusing one percent of men with all men

02:30:44.140 the majority of men have no money no power no sex from their wife no chance in court they can't even 0.75

02:30:50.540 keep their house they won't get to see their kids and they don't so most men their life sucks that's the 0.53

02:30:55.740 first thing the second thing when a man gets up at four in the morning to go carry garbage to earn a

02:31:01.420 good wage he ain't thinking i'm gonna do this so i can oppress that because she's broke he's doing

02:31:06.860 it thinking so i can provide for my family so my woman can stay at home and raise my kids and have 1.00

02:31:11.740 nice nails while i'm out here carrying trash you go to a coal mine those dudes are not down there 0.99

02:31:16.620 thinking about oppressing women they're down there thinking about providing for women now i'm not saying

02:31:20.940 that there's not bad apples but in general us men are prepared to take on more to protect you

02:31:26.780 than you would possibly believe and in the modern world they've spun that feminism spun that men make 1.00

02:31:33.180 all the money you women need more money because men make the money and men are in charge and men have 1.00

02:31:36.860 the good jobs men are out here giving up their life for you chicks they're giving up their life for 0.99

02:31:41.980 you and feminism prevents you respecting it 0.98

02:31:44.700 super fucking based boom well put by tate let's go around the table i want to get everyone's 0.98

02:31:53.180 reaction to that your reaction go ahead 0.99

02:31:59.580 one eternity later come on personally i don't like andrew tate but you don't like andrew tate no

02:32:09.260 what's why not um from what i've seen on just social media he's very misogynistic and he's very

02:32:17.020 what misogynistic sorry sorry one more time misogynistic one more time come okay we can move on

02:32:26.940 to the next person no no well hold on it's go ahead do you mean misogynistic okay how so um

02:32:39.020 okay well we don't need to get into that let's just stick to the video i mean your thoughts on

02:32:42.300 the video besides your do you agree with what he says disagree i do agree yeah i think a lot of

02:32:49.500 men do work to provide for their family for their girlfriends for their wives okay i agree with the 0.99

02:32:55.820 video i very much think there's a lot of value in the men that will support and provide for the family

02:33:01.340 and especially to the men who go out and you know pick up trash at four in the morning and do those dirty

02:33:05.820 jobs and those hard jobs mad respect for those men i just also am aware that there's a lot of

02:33:11.500 single mothers and women and families that have been left by men who also then are sole

02:33:17.420 um what is it providers full provider yeah for their family so that's where the importance of

02:33:25.980 wage yeah i um i agree with what he's saying just because you know i grew up with a single father who

02:33:32.060 got up every day at four or five in the morning and he did what he had to do to take care of his

02:33:36.460 two daughters and i respect that insanely and there's some people that you know don't have

02:33:42.860 you know the help so gotta do what he gotta do

02:33:46.700 oh yeah absolutely i agree with uh what he's saying i hear the same things from you know from

02:33:51.980 my clients as well you know it's just uh uh the type of things that men have to go through to just uh

02:33:58.780 get noticed to just get um uh attention yeah i agree as well and uh i would like to highlight

02:34:10.060 his perspective on the video if man would have had respect and love when he's back from this uh

02:34:18.780 throwing trash to his bed with good wife who said thank you so much i was waiting for you till eternity 0.95

02:34:26.620 even though it was just five minutes right or something like that you know and all this stuff 0.92

02:34:31.500 men would not have seen it as a tragedy tragedy or something oppression you know he would feel that he's

02:34:39.740 a hero and uh that he gives this energy back this caring energy back you know that's that's the point

02:34:48.540 your reaction to the video yeah i agree with it

02:34:55.180 i also agree yeah i agree with it yeah okay all right across the board here let's pull up twitch

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02:35:53.660 uh let's see you here oh here last thing on who pays um we'll go around the table on that who should 0.71

02:36:00.220 pay on the first date i think whoever initiates like who wants to take the person on the date first

02:36:06.620 yes okay so whoever asks should pay yeah have you ever asked a guy out on a date i haven't no

02:36:14.540 huh interesting how that works okay i agree with her whoever i should pay yeah have you ever asked a

02:36:20.780 guy out on a date no okay i agree with them and i have asked a guy on a date yeah okay more of all the

02:36:30.860 times that you've been on the first date what's the percentage breakdown of who asks 90 percent of the

02:36:40.060 time the guy i would probably i wouldn't know not even 90 i'd probably say it's like a like a you know

02:36:46.940 i would i probably ask like i probably say like 50 50 because i don't really i don't i'm so because

02:36:52.860 of what i do i'm so scared to go out on dates sometimes because of how people treat me and how

02:36:57.900 people react but so that's why sometimes i'm the one to ask because i'll know i'll feel safe and if

02:37:02.700 i'm okay to ask that person i'm okay to go out with them so i see okay if i ask i obviously paint

02:37:08.300 because you know it was my idea so okay um okay all right uh what about you oh well in traditional

02:37:19.180 world usually man uh pays however it has to come from his desire to do so if the desire is not there

02:37:27.900 then apparently woman is not doing something enough or whatever if he does not have that desire

02:37:34.700 and if he does not have the desire then they shouldn't be they probably should end that date

02:37:41.100 sooner okay i agree i agree i would appreciate if man would pay if the man would ask me to pay or if

02:37:50.140 uh in some couples they ask to pay i would pay i would prefer that the guy pay uh but i have paid

02:38:02.620 before okay i would definitely say whoever initiates it have you asked a guy out yeah oh yeah oh yeah oh

02:38:10.060 yeah oh yeah oh yeah oh yeah i don't know why i affected a canadian accent there but what about you

02:38:20.220 um no i would never expect so that maybe i don't know i would never expect a man to pay on a date but

02:38:26.780 um i've never paid for a date okay okay if a guy asked you out on a date he asked you out and the date

02:38:37.820 comes you know you get like uh you guys go out get a meal nothing super fancy maybe it was like 10 20

02:38:44.380 bucks each and the check comes and he asks or the waiter comes and the waiter says uh he tells the

02:38:50.620 waiter hey i'd like to split we're gonna split will there be a second date

02:38:56.460 if it wasn't communicated before probably not no second date no okay

02:39:08.300 i again agree with what she said yeah i think communicating like hey like are you okay with it

02:39:13.100 or just being like on the jump like oh had it been communicated like sure there could be a second date

02:39:20.060 and um a decision made i don't mind that let's assume that it had not been communicated just you

02:39:27.020 get on you know i assume you guys bring your wallets with you on dates you know you bring your purse or

02:39:31.500 whatever so he's like the waiter comes oh how was the meal oh great great i think we're good to go

02:39:37.340 uh two checks please that's okay yeah i think depending on the way the date goes there may or may not be a

02:39:45.500 second date okay um wait well i'm sorry repeat the question uh it's okay go on a date with a guy he

02:39:54.780 asked you out when the waiter comes he has to get two checks um i wouldn't mind two checks like two

02:40:02.540 chains but two checks it depends on um how they treat me if i wanted to go on a second date i don't

02:40:09.820 really care about splitting check sure let's say the date went well it wasn't like mind-blowing but

02:40:16.860 like in any other circumstance you thought the guy was cool i guess i don't know yeah i'll go on

02:40:23.180 a second date okay all right would there be a second date i would want to know the reason why there is

02:40:29.740 maybe it is something engraved in his family that's what he saw as his parents you know maybe it is that

02:40:34.700 he doesn't like me uh maybe it is uh maybe he's testing whether or not i am you know for the normal

02:40:41.980 i would want to know why so the reason will help me to determine that's fair that's fair what about you

02:40:47.340 that's what i would do too but if he's interesting his personality is interesting i would definitely go

02:40:54.060 on a second date but before we would have had conversation why because it's very interesting maybe

02:41:00.460 he doesn't like me but maybe he has different points of view and then we had a place to discuss

02:41:07.020 and it's cool okay what about you yeah i feel the same way um i probably would not want the second date

02:41:18.860 um i definitely feel the same way i'd probably get a little anxious and be like oh what did i

02:41:23.980 what did i do um is he not feeling me am i not like attractive enough so i'd probably check in

02:41:29.980 and just be like you know hey we didn't you know you were just kind of very nonchalantly like bring

02:41:36.780 two checks you know what i mean i'd kind of just be like so is there a reason behind it are we just

02:41:42.700 you know are we just gonna do the 50 50 because that's completely fine with me too i'm totally fine

02:41:47.340 with that but first meeting someone um i would definitely kind of be like hey what about you yeah like

02:41:57.420 how you were saying earlier it's a man's nature to be a provider so if he wanted to split the bill

02:42:03.260 i would probably be like oh he definitely doesn't like me because he doesn't want to provide for me

02:42:07.740 like if a guy really really likes me he will pursue that he will pursue me in that way because that is

02:42:13.580 a man's nature especially if he asked you yeah 100 and especially if it's a dating process

02:42:19.340 yeah it's not a relationship when you just yeah like yeah in a relationship it's totally completely

02:42:24.540 different but if it's like he asked me out he's seemingly trying to impress me then i don't know

02:42:31.500 like i can pay for my own meal like i don't try to i don't think you should try to impress a girl on a

02:42:37.580 date why not if you really like well i think a lot of women would just view that as like if the guy's 1.00

02:42:43.820 trying to impress you like i think a lot of women like the guy who's actually kind of a bit kind of

02:42:50.300 laid back and not trying to do all this extra what do you like think that like extra is like what is

02:42:58.860 like like what do they have to do to be well when she was specifically saying like impress like that

02:43:03.900 specific uh verbiage or whatever verbiage i don't know if that's the right word there but um

02:43:10.460 i don't think men should be trying to impress women but at least here's my life accepted

02:43:17.420 but that's not i understand what you're saying man supposed to position himself who he is right

02:43:23.660 this is who i am this is my achievements this is my plan this is my because otherwise you guys are

02:43:29.100 expecting women to be mind readers which is uh i mean looking for a psychic is impossible now 0.84

02:43:34.940 psychic women those are my favorites yeah yeah the big thing that women are making mistakes of 1.00

02:43:41.260 is uh like this question that you asked everybody right big thing that women making the mistake they 1.00

02:43:47.740 start coming up with the answers in their own head sure and this is such a creative world we women will 1.00

02:43:54.460 come up with so many pictures with so many ideas i hear sometimes it's like my mind is blowing uh the

02:44:00.140 type of things that women find answers like we come up with those answers instead we should be 1.00

02:44:07.420 asking men we really should be digging in deeper like where exactly it is coming from not to judge on

02:44:14.700 the surface but to really understand where this behavior is coming from sure that's where it's like

02:44:20.540 it opens up the depth of um development of their relationship because the person might express how

02:44:27.420 they were raised that this was engraved in their family or whatever so it opens up totally different

02:44:32.700 levels of communication depth of that communication and women tend to be more emotional on like a 0.99

02:44:38.780 scientific that's you know this is how women run they run more off their emotional basis and so i 1.00

02:44:46.060 completely agree with you if women could just sometimes you know i know for myself if i could just take a 1.00

02:44:52.140 fucking breath sometimes and not feel like oh my gosh he's acting this way you know say with my 0.93

02:44:58.620 boyfriend what's up oh can you scoot your mic more to the corner right here yeah that's 0.99

02:45:09.500 nope nope nope nope just that's fine go ahead okay um for example i know with my boyfriend

02:45:15.900 there's times where he'll say something little and i'll totally take it and i just run with it

02:45:22.380 and i'm like he's he's feeling this way towards me he's feeling this way if i could just take a breath

02:45:26.780 and be like hey what did you mean by that i could avoid all this other drama going on inside of myself

02:45:32.140 and my anger building up towards him you know what i mean so there you have it so okay my i used to

02:45:39.660 have a i've perhaps walked back a little bit my stance on this when it comes to who should pay my 0.83

02:45:46.540 previous stance was across the board you gotta split that shit i've developed a bit more nuance here so

02:45:57.340 here's the nuance if you're trying to min max your dating results with women you should pay for the first 0.97

02:46:04.460 date not out of any tradition or any like it's just if you're trying to maximize your success with

02:46:12.060 any given woman you like your best bet is to pay for the first date some women are fine with splitting 1.00

02:46:18.300 but sometimes you don't always know who that's going to be even women who admit they're cool with

02:46:22.620 splitting maybe aren't cool with splitting women will do this thing where they'll like do the the fake 1.00

02:46:27.740 like oh you want me to get it you want to split and then their wallet's not and then the guy naively

02:46:35.100 takes them up on their offer to split the bill and then the woman holds her offer against him the the

02:46:42.940 woman holds holds it against the man for taking her up on the offer the words that came out of her mouth 0.99

02:46:51.820 and will oh he accepted my offer even though it came out of my mouth i'm not interested anymore

02:46:59.980 there's not gonna be a first date so min max it you know like world of warcraft if you're gonna

02:47:04.220 min max you know obviously like for pve you're gonna roll alliance and then like if you're gonna

02:47:09.100 play like a warrior or rogue you're gonna go you're gonna want to be human because of like the ply plus 1.00

02:47:14.300 five uh mason sword spec like for like you know hit chance and shit because at 60 you know there's like 0.84

02:47:20.220 when you're raiding there's glancing blows if they're 63 like level 63 raid bosses and shit um 0.82

02:47:25.980 you know like you definitely you want to be playing human in world of warcraft classic again that plus

02:47:32.860 plus five to weapon skill for swords and maces you're gonna min max so in that same way like

02:47:39.660 and then also like pvp if you're on the horde you're gonna want to play orc because orc has that 25

02:47:45.020 stun resist which is fucking huge don't now don't get me wrong undead is also very good

02:47:51.340 because of their will of the forsaken like you get fear resistance two minute cooldown or something i 0.96

02:47:56.380 believe on will of the forsaken so that's great against priests and warlocks and who else has fear 1.00

02:48:02.220 warriors have a fear sometimes you know so pvp you can't go wrong with orc and uh undead orc is just

02:48:09.420 like the best like min max for that 25 stun resist i think it's called hardiness you know so just

02:48:15.900 saying but so like min maxing right um you know in dating in dating in dating if you're gonna min max

02:48:23.260 you should pay for the first date however however i will say this if the woman considers herself 1.00

02:48:32.140 to be a feminist to be liberal to be progressive i think you should split the bill in that situation

02:48:39.420 you want traditional treatment you ought to be a traditional woman you got to be true you want 1.00

02:48:45.820 traditional treatment be a traditional woman and the thing is a lot of women who even consider 0.99

02:48:50.940 themselves liberal progressive feminist they want to be modern women while demanding traditional

02:48:56.220 treatment from men which again that's not a fair shake in my view so uh there's that also uh

02:49:04.220 regardless of her politics or if she's traditional non-traditional although i would argue that

02:49:09.420 uh you know prom granted i think like a liberal woman obviously can be non-promiscuous but if 1.00

02:49:16.540 she's promiscuous regardless of her politics or any other uh like if she's dating other men 1.00

02:49:24.380 you don't pay if if she's entertaining other dudes certainly if she's hooking up with other dudes 1.00

02:49:29.340 first off you don't you shouldn't even just go on a date with her but if she is dating other men

02:49:33.980 because we've had women come on the show i've had personal experiences where i've gone on a date

02:49:37.820 with girl and she tells me that she's had three four or five other dates this week i'm like

02:49:43.340 okay i'm not even pursuing you anymore let's i'll talk to you for five more minutes and this date's

02:49:47.580 over um it's just maybe i don't want to pursue your date will be a match be the one okay of course

02:49:55.180 why not why you give up so early i'm not dealing with a girl who's dating like seven other dudes

02:50:01.100 no define dating what is dating like to go out and eat okay like going on dates so a woman for example

02:50:08.300 we had and this is this is an extreme okay so i know most women don't move like this but we did have 1.00

02:50:13.180 a woman on who considered herself she was traditional and conservative political beliefs

02:50:19.820 whatever but she said that she her goal was to go on 50 first dates in 50 days again i know that's

02:50:26.540 a very outlier i know most women are not like that but the the the feeling of that at a lower level is 0.84

02:50:33.900 still kind of the same where if a girl's going say on three or four dates a week with different men

02:50:38.060 i'm the fucking date number five of the week i remember i was once on a date with a girl 0.99

02:50:43.100 she had just downloading a dating app i met her on hinge and she tells me on the date i appreciate 0.96

02:50:48.380 i at least appreciate her honesty she had just downloaded it i was her already her fourth date

02:50:54.700 she'd been on the app for a week she had two dates planned for the weekend i'm thinking what if i like

02:50:59.340 this girl and i want to go on a date with her this weekend again like it was the midweek or whatever

02:51:05.820 i was like what if i want to see you friday saturday oh sorry i got a date no maybe she will like you

02:51:10.700 and she will cancel of course how yeah but a lot of women it's really your position as a man to 0.52

02:51:17.820 to conquer position yourself right to uh conquer it's no it's the position yourself that you are

02:51:23.980 the one that you are yeah but she but a lot of women like even if a woman's interested in you 1.00

02:51:29.180 a lot of people the grass is greener on the other side they want to entertain multiple options a lot

02:51:33.740 of women might say this guy's great but then they might also say this guy's really funny this guy's

02:51:39.020 a provider this guy's good in bed this guy's really hot so they might use different men for different 1.00

02:51:44.620 reasons and the other thing is is just like i don't want to play that game like be properly single

02:51:50.780 like don't be bro you even if we just met if you've hooked up with the guy in recent history you

02:51:56.940 hooked up with the guy last week goodbye see because some guys and this is where i differ from 0.87

02:52:03.580 some of the other people in the space some guys are like oh well promiscuous women like if she's 1.00

02:52:08.220 sleeping with other men you could just like uh what what's the term it's uh recreational use only they 0.97

02:52:13.820 use that this term um they'll just sleep with the girl because but like i don't even want casual sex with 1.00

02:52:20.540 a promiscuous woman because first off i'm not really interested in just like a one-time casual 0.98

02:52:26.460 sex if i sleep if i want to sleep with the girl i want continuity i want to continue seeing her so i 0.75

02:52:32.540 have no interest to know her values to understand if right yeah but i so i have no interest in just

02:52:38.060 sleeping with a girl one time that's a waste of time what's that you're judging you're judging that

02:52:43.500 oh maybe he will sleep with other he will she will sleep with others and so on and so instead of 1.00

02:52:49.020 instead of learning about her instead of saying hey i like of course i judge of course i judge

02:52:55.180 but why instead of it's very important to be judgmental of course no no no not judgmental i

02:53:00.700 think curious about people you know when you're judgmental without lack of information yeah i've

02:53:05.900 lost all my curiosity for a woman as soon as i know she's going on dates with a bunch of other men

02:53:13.580 while talking to me the thing that maybe i'm an outlier here i find it extremely attractive when a

02:53:21.660 woman even very early on initially first meeting her i have her undivided romantic and sexual

02:53:30.220 attention certainly if her sexual attention is divided that's a non-starter i don't want to go on a date with 1.00

02:53:37.500 you i don't want to kiss you i don't want anything with the girl who's has divided sexual attention 0.99

02:53:44.380 exactly romantic same thing with romantic attention the sexual attention i think is far more if her 0.90

02:53:51.900 sexual attention is divided that's no go romantic sexual attention it's not as severe but

02:53:58.540 i want a girl who's exclusively focused on me from the get-go because

02:54:04.460 because and perhaps you women have experienced this well i don't know if it's the same for you

02:54:09.420 know this sorry for interview well i would hope how will you know if you met people uh on hinge you

02:54:15.660 can assume that oh dating apps are disaster dating apps are disaster i don't i gave up on dating apps

02:54:22.460 i don't do i used to do dating apps i've been off them for yeah i think over a year well over a year

02:54:28.380 or something like that no of course but but so just one thing so my experience so i've had

02:54:34.460 experience with women who are super high interest um and i no longer play this game of like chasing 0.95

02:54:41.980 women because i've i've been on both sides of that i have had women who are really fucking high 0.99

02:54:46.940 interest to the point where like if you've never had that like it's it's intoxicating to some degree 0.65

02:54:53.740 um but and i've also had women who like they're kind of on the fence about me and goodbye of course 0.99

02:55:01.660 i'm not going to court i'm not going to court you i'm not going to chase you i like women who 1.00

02:55:07.100 immediately go to bed are like no it's not sure no no it's not even that

02:55:15.180 no it's not even that but for now more than one month no but it's not it's not even no it's but

02:55:23.340 it's not even just it's not even that it's like they're they don't just want to sleep with me quickly

02:55:30.300 but they also like they're fucking ride or die they're all for me romantically too like i really 0.96

02:55:37.260 like this guy that's what i want i've dealt enough with low interest medium interest women i don't want 1.00

02:55:43.340 it if i can if i can get a woman who's high interest that's far more preferable and once 0.99

02:55:48.860 you've had it it's very hard to go from having a woman who's having or throughout the course of 0.98

02:55:55.260 your life having multiple women who have demonstrated very high interest in you and

02:55:59.580 to go back to the girl who's dating multiple men who's on the fence who's i don't deal with

02:56:04.540 fence sitters you're for me or goodbye and that's it okay i got very worked up there

02:56:09.660 okay but she needs to know that she has to be for you right she has to understand who you are 1.00

02:56:15.900 what your values are so in order to increase the chances of quality date now can you close that uh

02:56:21.740 why don't you spend some time to speak with her on the video first and when you go and so you would

02:56:28.140 give her some sort of education what your expectations are yes because we are not mind readers okay we

02:56:34.380 cannot read uh what's on your mind or man's mind impossible yeah so you gotta tell us so we would

02:56:42.460 be able to give it to you right no well actually i mean when i used to do the the dating app thing

02:56:48.300 like when i was on hinge or whatever before i met a girl i'd every single girl i ever went on a date with

02:56:52.940 from any of the dating apps i want to do a phone call and i think i think that's a good strategy for both

02:56:58.300 men and women one because you know everyone can be really fucking clever when they have five minutes to

02:57:03.340 come up with something yeah something to say so um one it's just like it gives both parties and out 0.99

02:57:11.340 so if the vibe i don't like to use that term the vibe whatever the fucking bullshit ass term if the 0.97

02:57:17.820 if the vibe isn't there it gives both like because i don't want to go on a date with a girl that's not 0.98

02:57:23.260 really feeling me and if she's not really feeling me after a phone call then do me a favor save me

02:57:29.100 time from having to go on a date with you just say oh brian i'm not interested i have no issue with

02:57:34.060 that and likewise for me there's been women who i've talked to on the phone i'm like ooh this girl

02:57:38.780 like on text she seems cool but like i can tell she there's something weird with her or and maybe a

02:57:45.420 girl might feel that way about me and she can opt out i can opt out i think it's a really good move

02:57:50.140 it'll save you time because i i'm a very busy person so if i can save myself the trouble of

02:57:56.380 having to actually go on a date by screening out a girl on a phone call video call is better not just

02:58:01.580 i prefer phone calls to be honest i don't know i don't like video calls but um you like surprises

02:58:07.340 i get no i mean she's a cat he's like no that's exactly what i don't want no surprises yeah i'm not

02:58:15.020 too i mean if you get them on the call and it's a woman who picks up and i mean you can you can

02:58:19.580 typically how do you know it's a woman on the phone i mean what do you mean the voice you can tell by

02:58:24.380 the voice yeah yeah but why not video call you can see the way she looks right now the way she sounds

02:58:32.140 right now you can see exactly if it is something that you are interested she can do the same that's

02:58:36.700 for me i mean i don't if somebody wants to do a video call that's probably for most people that's

02:58:41.260 preferable i just me personally i prefer voice calls when i when i was doing the whole dating app

02:58:46.140 thing i do i'd always just do a hey let's call for 10 20 minutes whatever get acquainted first um

02:58:52.860 but that was just me usually because i'd be like doing something like i'd be on i'd be walking and

02:58:57.420 i don't want to be like oh am i in the frame i just want to talk you know and i've i've not had any

02:59:03.740 having had i done a video call i don't think i've had any instances in my own experience that

02:59:11.260 it would have been better to have done a video call than the try because whatever you did

02:59:15.260 apparently is not working so it's time to well it's not no but it's not clear to me if having done

02:59:19.980 the video call would have resulted in of the women that i've met up with from dating apps where i did 0.99

02:59:25.660 a voice call it's not clear to me if having done a video call would have had any other

02:59:33.180 impact the person like when she answers your questions you can see her reaction like you're

02:59:37.820 observing everyone here right yeah how they where they're rolling their eyes and moving their hands

02:59:43.340 whatever sure same thing yeah no that's that's a fair point that's a fair point i just me personally

02:59:47.820 i just even for non-romantic conversations like if i'm doing a business call i actually prefer just

02:59:53.180 voice calls um i don't like video calls now no that's just my own personal thing but i you're you're

02:59:59.740 not wrong i think you're 100 right i think if you if you're inclined no if you're inclined to do a

03:00:05.820 video call do a video call just me personally i prefer voice calls so it's like in my service

03:00:11.820 we have this thing uh virtual speed dating yeah so it's like three minutes but people they see each

03:00:17.020 other they talk to each other so that first impression sure how they uh feel about each other

03:00:22.540 it is uh important you know yeah but definitely like the who pays thing uh

03:00:29.180 uh the what and maybe later maybe later let me get to my notes here we have some notes uh who do i

03:00:39.500 start with let's see uh uh oh yeah the thing i wanted to talk oh going back to like everyone's

03:00:47.820 relationship status at any point or currently have you ever had a roster a roster dating multiple people

03:00:57.180 at the same time no i haven't never i when i was younger i did never crossover when i was younger

03:01:05.980 like 17 18 but now no how big was the roster back then it's probably like three people three okay

03:01:12.300 what about you roster in the past like possible prospects thinking about maybe but like crossover

03:01:18.140 wise no okay no come on be honest be honest i literally told you this earlier i don't like

03:01:25.020 dating people like at the same time it makes me feel weird and i don't have like wait last show i

03:01:30.460 granted it was a long time ago last time you were on it's there was like a guy that you were kind of

03:01:37.180 hooking up with but it sounded like there was maybe some other guys in the picture i could be wrong

03:01:41.580 i could be wrong it was a long time ago no no no uh same guy okay all right uh ever had a roster i did

03:01:49.980 oh yeah i know and angel no uh so it was of course before my um uh before my husband and i was dating

03:02:01.820 actually uh who is the father of my child and this uh uh other guy so okay yeah so my husband he's not

03:02:11.100 father of my child we met when she was already one okay i would define what roster is um because

03:02:21.020 uh i never dated i never had two boyfriends or like um and never had committed relationships with

03:02:28.620 several people but um when for example now uh i date people just to i meet i i call it i meet people

03:02:37.660 right so i don't have anyone i'm not go i never had hooks up hook hooks up hookups you've never

03:02:45.020 had a hookup no never and never nightstand one nightstand never happened i'll know those

03:02:50.140 never russian men are very charming come on no they're very kind of respectful and they

03:02:57.260 waiting for you they are like yeah yeah flowers you know in our culture candies flowers paying for 0.99

03:03:03.900 everything for the day no one asking so they don't wait like when but they could be assholes too yeah 0.93

03:03:11.100 i mean they're of course absolutely absolutely i mean it's just cultural aspect okay so i'm not saying 0.63

03:03:16.380 that like yeah so um no never okay what about you uh no roster but i obviously am open to that

03:03:27.420 because i do open relationship dating so okay what about you ever had a roster no zero i have uh

03:03:37.980 agreement with myself that if i feel the need to be with someone else i shouldn't be with the person

03:03:42.860 that i'm with right now exactly okay whether it's talking to them or you know talking stage

03:03:49.020 situationship whatever and i i tell my partner that i feel the same with them okay all right um i've

03:04:00.300 been like pursued by multiple people at the same time and like been asked out on a first date around

03:04:06.700 the same time but like i would never be exclusive with someone and have like other guys in my phone

03:04:13.340 or anything sure well i don't think that's so much what the roster is it's like prior to establishing

03:04:19.660 exclusivity is it is that the definition of a roster typically i mean obvious because obviously

03:04:28.140 if you're exclusive with somebody it would be considered cheating right whereas a lot of people

03:04:34.460 prior to establishing exclusivity will be dating and or sleeping with multiple people at the same time

03:04:41.900 now i know that's certainly not the case with for you at least when it comes because you know you

03:04:45.740 haven't been intimate with somebody yet but that's my view of it yeah i feel like a roster

03:04:52.300 from what i understand it to be is like before you're exclusive with someone like you're in the

03:04:58.860 talking stage because yeah if you were exclusive with someone then that would be cheating so it's

03:05:03.740 like you're in a talking stage with multiple different guys maybe going out with multiple different guys

03:05:09.340 at once right and being like oh which one is going to like who am i going to pick kind of thing

03:05:15.900 got it uh wait who i wrote down a note here red flag x who was that about was that about you did you

03:05:25.660 have a red flag x was that you i said i was still friends with my oh still friends with the x that's

03:05:32.780 right um okay what what did i want to uh do you think i guess going around the table do you think

03:05:41.340 it's a red flag if your significant other is still friends with their ex if you're not okay with it

03:05:50.460 then yes it's a red flag okay i think it's like do you hear that is that coming from 0.98

03:05:58.860 oh okay what the fuck it's fine don't worry don't worry about it don't worry go ahead um yes i think 0.96

03:06:12.060 it's a red flag because personally me i just i wouldn't like that at all you know okay 0.98

03:06:21.900 uh so the there is a reason why it is x right that means that something didn't work out but i think

03:06:27.820 people should be communicating with access only if there's kids involved um everything else is

03:06:33.500 just x that's it yeah for for me it's same and i would see it's okay if a man are in a good

03:06:41.900 relationship for me it will be a green flag instead of red flag if he has really cool relationships

03:06:47.820 with x and they have kids yeah okay uh can you restate the question okay skip what about you

03:06:57.980 um i i totally agree i think it's a red flag uh there's a reason they're not in your life

03:07:03.340 anymore there's a reason you're not with them every single day you're not pursuing them it's just

03:07:08.940 drama i think if you're still in that area like you said though if there are children involved i think

03:07:14.860 you have a uh a job to stay civil and do that for your children because you two are the ones that

03:07:21.660 decided to have children together exactly yeah i think it's a red flag i would not be okay with

03:07:27.500 that okay all right cool that's it cool okay got that out of here got that out of here okay let me

03:07:37.660 pull up my notes here actually let's do a couple chats since there's been a few people waiting here

03:07:41.500 let me get this one uh actually wait we'll come back to that one uh because we have some others that

03:07:46.460 came in a little uh okay we have papito subatito matchmaker in your experience what are the key

03:07:54.140 factors that lead to long lasting relationships and marriages communication communication is gotta

03:08:01.900 have the communication yeah yeah no matter how strong the chemistry is if sex is good whatever

03:08:06.380 if communication is not there we will get divorced so communication is number one gotta have communication 0.99

03:08:12.940 communication and chemistry those two things communication first we have hop girl in the back 1.00

03:08:19.580 left red shirt you seem like you're a little more masculine than the normal women what is your type 0.99

03:08:26.220 do you go for super masculine men beta beta males or something else hashtag tomboys for the win yeah

03:08:33.580 um i have a thing for cowboys uh for specifically ranch bronc riders which is also what i do in the rodeo

03:08:46.700 um so it's very odd i don't think i search necessarily for masculine non-masculine i definitely think i

03:08:55.820 couldn't date a man say that you painted his nails not you know um but you know a man that will go ride

03:09:10.060 a horse with me and go fishing uh that's someone that i want around for the rest of my life because

03:09:14.700 that's what i'm going to be doing for the rest of my life um so i i don't think it's necessarily masculinity

03:09:21.340 or a man that's more in touch with this feminine side i think it's if you can connect with me on

03:09:26.620 that level of things that i like to do no judgment i'm happy with that okay there you have it there

03:09:34.620 you have it we have nickelodeon here brian's so desperate he gotta find his guests on wish cardi d plus

03:09:43.180 billy eilish teeter andrew tate's criminal record black widow's costume if only they sold brain cells

03:09:51.740 i'm not sure which one's billy eilish i'm not sure which one's there's a lot more people in here

03:09:56.860 than that too so i'd love to know what the rest of us are they need to pay more and tell us please

03:10:01.740 yes please more money come on chop chop yeah which which one is billy eilish and which one's teeter i

03:10:09.740 don't know who that i assume this black widow i've actually been told that i look like billy eilish

03:10:14.780 before but i could see that okay that might i don't really see it but yeah there you go okay

03:10:24.540 all right we have uh david steiner to the matchmaker i'm in my 30s introvert love flannels and 90s grunge

03:10:32.620 i'm looking for a woman less than five feet oh my god this is this is me isn't it uh loves to bow and 1.00

03:10:39.180 has a low body count the larger the labia hashtag blm big labia matter uh what are my chances of

03:10:49.020 finding this special someone well the first question would be uh define what is the special

03:10:55.820 someone i mean just uh less than five feet what what else is there so this guy is talking about me

03:11:03.980 i'm pretty sure in 30s introvert love flannels 90s grunge looking for a woman less than five 1.00

03:11:09.260 feet yes he is explaining you loves to bow and has a low body count and a large large labia blm that

03:11:17.180 would be easy then yeah so i would um absolutely if these desires there like if you would want that

03:11:24.060 yes like you know find special someone right and she doesn't have to like i gotta have a desire so

03:11:30.940 you gotta come with desire let's pull up the bowing video let me show the bow go ahead nick

03:11:39.340 boom huge oh my do you see that bow that's respect i need the bow if there's no bow i can't i can't do it

03:11:48.460 can't do the if there's no bow i can't do it i can't i need a bow i need a bow look how attentive she is

03:11:54.620 oh my i get home my long day of podcasting she's got i don't i don't drink beer i don't drink uh

03:12:01.900 look she's gonna she's gonna i don't know what she's doing to the noodles she's she's uh spinning 1.00

03:12:07.820 the noodles i guess look how attentive oh look look at the bow boom boom you need you need

03:12:16.460 i don't know if it's crazy eyes it looks like attentive eyes she has very attentive eyes i don't

03:12:21.100 know if that's crazy eyes let me ask i'm pretty certain that you would be also very happy to come

03:12:27.580 home to the woman who is dressed up all sexy and honey finally your home let me give you a massage 1.00

03:12:32.620 let me like even without the bow would you settle for the for that picture like i prepared that was 0.98

03:12:38.220 non-negotiable his only with tits and you would not let bow go for a woman who is super attentive and 1.00

03:12:48.060 wants to give you a massage and relax your muscles i see that you are sitting here you know with all 0.97

03:12:52.780 this you know and she would be she would be just making you feel incredible and you would forget 0.98

03:12:58.700 about your work and hold on just a second come back to sports donated one hundred dollars i called

03:13:05.100 the horse girls type from the beginning it is how i called the ford truck and stepson dude is probably 1.00

03:13:11.500 practical with his time and money works six days a week and no more than two beers a day we work seven

03:13:18.460 days a week but yes wow we live where we work so oh you guys uh work at the same place yes okay

03:13:29.100 interesting interesting so you were saying thank you grid one thing i was saying and i'm certain

03:13:34.940 like hundred percent you would let bow go if all the other things were there i'm certain i mean i'm

03:13:41.340 being i'm no i'm being facetious i don't need the bow it's not she's a 10 but she's like is there a

03:13:48.780 chance for you absolutely no this guy was asking i do feel like i could make a good case for ballet

03:13:56.940 i can make a very good case for ballet donated one hundred dollars brian i'm just catching up

03:14:04.300 what the fuck did red top across from brian say miss conant red top say it again i'm 0.99

03:14:11.740 fucking dead those lashes killing brain cells dasvidania beach what is dasvidania 1.00

03:14:19.660 he wants you to say it one more time can you say it one more time no into the mic do it i'm not 1.00

03:14:30.540 saying it again come on come on come on come on okay it was cute it wasn't cute because you guys

03:14:34.460 are making fun of her so i'm actually going to take this one if you guys could really just 0.99

03:14:38.780 fuck off thanks why next question it's not nice let's keep it moving i mean well they did call her a 0.99

03:14:44.460 feminist and she did say that she was not a feminist so incorrect on the last part corrected 0.99

03:14:49.900 her saying hookups you could easily corrected her saying misogynistic it was well okay hold on

03:14:55.420 the way she said it was funny let's not get overly offended it was funny it's not a big deal

03:15:00.780 you don't have to ask me repetitive times well yeah because it was it was the way you were saying it

03:15:06.780 was funny yeah we knew what i was saying huh you knew what i was saying i yes i knew what you were

03:15:11.900 saying but the way you were saying it was funny are you guys really that offended over this can't

03:15:16.940 you guys like i mean it was funny at first when i mispronounced like y'all i i haka jacama

03:15:24.620 there's this guy where are you i love it i don't know how to pronounce some words it was funny the

03:15:30.140 first time when you come on now it's just not funny so oh well that wasn't me that was my super

03:15:34.780 chatter well super chatter if you were biting first so now we're biting back we're saying 0.99

03:15:38.940 fuck off next question oh that just means they have to pay more money to bite back so keep paying 1.00

03:15:44.540 money yeah keep buying keep buying please see but i feel like you're you're blowing out of proportion 1.00

03:15:48.860 whereas you could yeah a little bit okay well if i am you could you could just yeah okay hold on

03:15:55.580 i will i will dictate the pace of the podcast okay relax i think like if you just instead of getting

03:16:03.740 upset about it if you just almost leaned into it like huh let me do it again like that would almost

03:16:09.260 come off better than being like oh no i accidentally mispronounced a word how dare you bring that back

03:16:16.060 up that i mispronounced the word like i i don't falter for mispronoun excuse me bro i stutter over here 0.99

03:16:22.300 too they roast the fuck out of me i fucking stutter i mispronounce shit it's not a big deal i would have 0.98

03:16:28.060 almost like i think the better move would be to lean into it and be like not let me say it one more time 0.99

03:16:33.740 i just she's not you that's she just doesn't want to say it that's it we're not why you don't you

03:16:39.580 okay but why are that's my friend that's what i do yeah but she can speak for herself she said it

03:16:45.660 already i don't want to say it i don't have to say it again you know you i mean you you don't but uh

03:16:50.940 okay you could have just leaned into it but you can make jokes about my accent it's okay yeah okay

03:16:57.420 no problem we're gonna say lots of wrong words apparently i sound like i'm canadian so

03:17:04.140 we're loving it moving on if people don't like it it's okay of course i think what he's trying to

03:17:09.260 do though to be fair is there you haven't really said a lot so i think he's trying to

03:17:15.740 reel you into the conversation a little bit

03:17:17.820 i'll talk i just don't want to say the word again okay all right that's fine that's i think

03:17:23.980 it's also probably a reaction that he's fishing for you know there is this also this thing called

03:17:29.100 the streisand effect it could be possible that we're going to get some more comments

03:17:34.220 about that okay the guy just was wait so uh did you get to finish on this uh

03:17:42.620 i don't remember the bowing yeah uh large labia yeah i mean low body i do believe by the end of

03:17:51.340 this podcast we will fix you are you gonna be like i want a wife and i want to be the best husband in

03:17:58.780 the world and i'm gonna get her and i'm ready and committed and because he's already showed that

03:18:05.100 he's coachable because he started paying for the first date so the hope is there yeah he he's still

03:18:11.900 kind of on the fence but uh yeah listen i'm high maintenance i'm gonna admit it i am high maintenance

03:18:19.180 and you should be absolutely i'm and the woman just has to understand you ladies gotta wine and dine me 1.00

03:18:25.820 i need back massages and bowing yeah you gotta give the instructions to your woman japanese school 1.00

03:18:31.420 girl outfits i need a lot i need a lot from my woman and it's not a lot it's complicated she will 1.00

03:18:37.180 deliver four or five of the items out of 20 from your list you will be already happy and you will be

03:18:42.620 like honey you know what a little tying up is sometimes fun you know never say never

03:18:49.820 what huh what when what about when it comes to you getting tied up no exactly never say never

03:18:55.740 come on now no exactly i i cannot i don't want it no no no no yeah exactly exactly absolutely not

03:19:03.740 by the end of the year brian is married i don't know and you're gonna you're gonna make it happen

03:19:08.860 well you're on the job now you will be happy for the rest of your life i can guarantee you that because

03:19:13.660 i'm gonna be on the top on the top no on the top of your relationship i do prefer yeah right away

03:19:19.740 i know i do you're gonna come to him in his dream i am gonna be guiding your woman i'm gonna be

03:19:25.820 coaching her like look okay girl on top is my favorite position like not talking about you

03:19:31.900 like i do i will create an ideal woman i want to be in control but girl on top like you know it the 1.00

03:19:38.700 minimum effort maximum pleasure i love it it's great it's great and you have access what what

03:19:46.700 it will be like ideal absolutely ideal woman yeah your wife i'm not gonna get married though

03:19:54.540 i don't think i can be well you see to to get all of those uh gifts that i'm just describing here

03:20:01.100 yeah the only thing that requires is the key and key to the garden and the garden yes to the garden 0.91

03:20:09.180 is this a sexual innuendo it is a pussy garden from the garden from the bible what the bible 0.98

03:20:15.180 the garden this garden the titties the secret garden the secret garden yes and the key is the ring 0.97

03:20:24.380 you just put it in there and i've gone to the secret garden before no you haven't got the totally

03:20:30.540 secret that was nothing whatever you had before it was not yes it was not special are you saying i'd

03:20:36.220 like hooked up with like a transgender it takes no i'm saying that it takes it wasn't actually the

03:20:43.420 secret garden it takes a very special woman it was the secret to get man to get the man to the point 1.00

03:20:48.860 that he did i just make it awkward to make to make her donated 100 to red top you know you're very

03:20:58.060 pretty but playing to cool for school isn't attractive for folks that know what they want who's red which 1.00

03:21:04.220 red top her or her nine liner rh which who are we talking about red shirt i feel like that's the

03:21:13.980 when they've referred to me they've said red button up oh girls so i do it sure it's her

03:21:21.900 how is she acting too cool for she's asking for respect can you like elaborate on that uh yeah

03:21:27.500 please elaborate l nine liner 100 more bucks right now 200 200 we're playing double it go ahead go

03:21:38.540 ahead the secret garden or whatever yeah so uh that's it takes a very special woman to make a man 1.00

03:21:49.100 to want to marry her okay to make her kiss for the rest of the life oh i could have a long-term

03:21:58.700 life partner girlfriend whatever but marriage i guess that never there's like you're like a penguin

03:22:05.740 there is a one percent chance i will get married one there's still a chance you see there's still a chance

03:22:12.460 how tall are you i'm 4 11. so he made fun of you for your your your speech but because you're 4 11.

03:22:30.700 red top would you marry me it doesn't even know no oh what 0.99

03:22:47.020 damn damn yo r.i.p's in the chapel is 4 11. i lost it i lost it i fucked it up with the 1.00

03:22:53.580 misogyny thing i was in i was in i was in and then i had to make fun of her because of the 1.00

03:23:02.140 misogyny you didn't have it in the bag but then you lost it i had it in the bag i had it in the bag

03:23:06.380 4 11 by the way boys 4 11 and i you lost it can i redeem do you think i can redeem is there redemption

03:23:13.580 everybody loves a comeback story a redemption arc redemption arc maybe

03:23:19.660 okay okay there's a chance all right all right second day third day loose 0.93

03:23:31.180 pussy energy donated 100 dollars white top 304 your friend can talk for herself oh she can't even 0.96

03:23:39.740 pronounce the words she using against brian learn to speak cash me outside how about that take it 0.97

03:23:47.500 back to 2020 you don't want the smoke but i do what i think that's directed at you do you want

03:23:52.300 to respond to that i didn't want to wait please use his name when responding go ahead oh use his name 0.96

03:23:59.020 say his name oh my god say his name say it loose pussy energy right is that yeah you got it 1.00

03:24:05.580 the energy who said that i didn't want the smoke oh do you want the smoke let's go let's go 1.00

03:24:11.740 mandy moore huh girl yeah mandy um more only fan subscribers kanya 304 is crazy oh that's crazy

03:24:22.060 that's crazy son um lpe what you doing what are you doing what are you doing loose energy 0.99

03:24:28.300 loose pussy energy what are you doing what are you doing brian what were we talking about i don't 0.99

03:24:33.020 even know i'm your hype man what do you think about i'm your hype man about what this loose 1.00

03:24:38.060 pussy energy that's an air through first off 304 is an area code do you know what 304 stands for 0.92

03:24:44.860 no what what does it stand for um i don't know through it's like stands for like like am i correct 0.99

03:24:51.020 me if i'm wrong anybody hey i'm pretty sure she was a prostitution b she was a whore oh girl 304 1.00

03:25:00.540 like you never heard um holy i'm just finding i thought it literally i thought it was an area code 0.98

03:25:05.820 this entire time no 304 means prostate stop i thought it was an area code that no wait what

03:25:13.900 were we talking about before this that's not my area code also listen

03:25:20.140 can i ask you a question is english your second language no it's my first and only language because

03:25:25.500 oh okay okay i was trying to like build commonality because like english is my second language so it's my

03:25:30.540 story you're mixed like messed up french is my first language that's why i'm i i cannot properly

03:25:39.420 form a sentence ever because english is my first sorry french is my first see i can't speak guys

03:25:46.300 english is my second language too can you spit something in french

03:25:49.340 i know hey he's making the comeback would you like to sleep with me tonight

03:26:00.140 and it's from the song yeah i love it no that's why yeah so was it an open question or just

03:26:06.940 citation citing i mean if you what is that word of it's a russian word it's uh

03:26:13.340 uh blyat oh my god he goes what does that mean he goes bad okay what is that what it means a bad 0.99

03:26:20.620 man bad girl bad situation you can use it like whatever it means like yes fuck shit okay i see i 0.99

03:26:28.140 see let me get into my notes here we have notes from some of you guys or sure wait let's do twitch 0.99

03:26:33.420 do we need let's do twitch really quick guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever oh my bad go ahead nick oh

03:26:39.340 can you x out of that down there thank you we have uh i'm trying to remember where i left off

03:26:47.260 did i do hitman thing for the tier one alpha smasher thing for the prime richard oberley

03:26:51.820 thing for the tier one oh i think i already got these my bad duck man think for the prime uh guys

03:26:56.620 go to twitch.tv slash whatever drop us a follow drop us a prime sub if you have one thank you guys

03:27:01.180 thank you all right let me get into my notes here i got to get through these notes hopefully before 0.95

03:27:05.740 the end of the show so okay let's see uh you said that celibacy is underrated oh shit yo ab check 0.80

03:27:19.180 thank you very much man thank you ab check you are a gentleman and a scholar and a legend thank you 0.96

03:27:25.820 man appreciate it in your appreciate notes to us you said celibacy is underrated how so to each

03:27:32.780 their own that's just kind of more of a personal preference but i just um i don't know i feel

03:27:38.300 like there's a lot of unhealed people and um i don't know sexual healing have you heard of that

03:27:45.660 sure sexual healing marvin yeah marvin marvin again no your problem teach their own teach their own

03:27:52.380 so well you've been celibate right you're or you are celibate how long have you been celibate again

03:27:56.700 um over a year over a year yeah okay um wait but you've been single for three years so this was

03:28:08.220 that just like a short-term thing or like a friends with benefits or was it your ex no that's not my

03:28:14.780 ex you didn't recycle i just kind of like did it around a little bit but yeah just like personal

03:28:19.020 personal preference i've just been inside with my grandmother and like you've been inside of your 0.99

03:28:23.100 grandmother donated 100 what the fuck bro chicks don't know how to roll with the punches because 1.00

03:28:29.740 they've never been hit big mouth shouldn't be so eager to experience it to finish the list big mouth 0.99

03:28:36.940 literally melania from smoky bear chest smoky bear what nickelodeon hello i'm so confused i kind of i

03:28:46.780 think i know who he's talking about oh okay thank you nickelodeon i appreciate it appreciate it uh

03:28:56.540 you said you were what with your i've been caring for my grandmother full-time she's 97 so i've just

03:29:02.540 been inside so you've been busy busy care of her yeah yeah and i feel like when you're in a relationship

03:29:08.140 and if you're hooking up you can easily like overlook things because you have that emotional contact uh

03:29:12.300 emotional connection on like a deeper level of intimacy yeah word okay uh okay so question for

03:29:21.980 the whole panel related to celibacy how long do you think you should wait you'd like to wait before

03:29:31.260 having sex with somebody new go ahead i think it just depends when the vibe is right first night i'm with

03:29:40.060 you okay i agree um to each their own i just kind of like to get to know the person a little bit

03:29:48.460 before yeah i wouldn't say there's like a set time let me ask you okay sure sure well you've been

03:29:56.700 celibate for a year let's say uh that super studly soy boy feminist traditional guy he's he's he's feminist 1.00

03:30:09.500 but also super based traditional but also a feminist but also wants to pay for first dates but also 1.00

03:30:17.260 a feminist he comes around and he's like by the way what's your first name again i just have you 1.00

03:30:24.220 written here as yikes because that's yikes that's what i know what's your first name no just call me

03:30:28.220 yikes wait when did she introduce her what i i'd actually prefer yikes just say your first name

03:30:33.500 is it something weird like gertrude opal no nicole but i just like yikes i think i'll call you nicole

03:30:40.700 because yikes why why first off what's the origin story for the yikes oh are you just yikes it's just

03:30:50.300 been my username for a long time how did you get it by the way i feel like you

03:30:53.420 having a phone and like early access to instagram when did you register that because i feel like

03:30:59.020 that would have been well you have y one k yes yeah so but even that i feel like would have been

03:31:05.580 swooped so did you buy it no i did not buy it i got it when i was in like middle school oh okay

03:31:11.100 that's fair oh you've had it for a minute then yeah is that your rapper poet name is yikes

03:31:16.140 oh yeah that's um well do you have a soundcloud by the way i do have a soundcloud but i don't like

03:31:22.140 post anything on it um but on the x app i do have a book club so if anybody wants to join my book club

03:31:28.860 book and poetry at yikes with a one instead of an i poet on the x app oh you guys should join that 0.78

03:31:38.060 shut the fuck oh sorry sorry i didn't mean to press that i'm bad my bad my bad um wait so okay 0.97

03:31:44.540 that's lame no that was unintentional my bad um i i was gonna press a different one but that one 0.99

03:31:50.380 accidentally got pressed uh okay

03:31:56.460 how long do you think you should wait before like you meet this super traditional feminist guy 1.00

03:32:07.500 who's also liberal but traditional

03:32:09.100 how long you gonna okay i'm not going off of like a basis of like those labels but he's also

03:32:17.740 really hot it doesn't really matter to me to be honest looks don't matter to you no not really

03:32:23.420 particularly no only your own i like looking good i'm just i'm just wondering richard donated 100

03:32:31.980 dollars i am ready to subscribe to miss blue to set me up with miss yellow 1.00

03:32:37.820 is one of the best streams ever oh oh unfortunately yeah unfortunately i can't read the uh

03:32:44.540 russian actually wait wait wait i'm gonna do this guy a favor here i'm gonna switch it i'm gonna switch

03:32:50.540 the language to a russian thing so i can and i'll re-trigger it and i'll see if it works go ahead

03:32:57.980 do you want to answer while i do that is there a question in it i don't know it sounds like you're

03:33:02.220 about to answer he wants you

03:33:08.220 come and give me

03:33:13.660 i will give you my love

03:33:16.780 she's ready she's ready to be a wife is it's romantic enough

03:33:19.820 and she's gonna be a perfect perfect wife i richard i'm doing you solid here i'm doing you

03:33:27.100 solid it's gonna be so bad watch all right richard donate 100 dollar of sasha i am ready to subscribe to

03:33:34.620 miss bluetooth set them up with miss yellow brian it is one of the best streamers ever

03:33:41.340 so basically what it says yellow girl you are the sunlight for my for my eyes

03:33:54.860 and my ears everything that you saying is spot on that's so cute thank you so much

03:34:03.820 that was beautiful richard thank you thank you okay if anybody i'm i'm gonna change it to japanese so 0.90

03:34:09.340 somebody drop some japanese shit right now i've changed it to japanese for one message drop a 0.99

03:34:14.220 fucking japanese shit okay not actually a shit you know whatever 1.00

03:34:21.180 um so i'm picky i have standards if they're meeting with standards and there's a relationship 1.00

03:34:28.780 established and they're respectful like sure question the last guy that you hooked up with

03:34:34.380 how long did you wait before hooking up um a while a while so like a week months months

03:34:50.620 months months months okay months uh what about your three-year boyfriend how long did you wait for

03:34:56.780 him months months yeah okay she's got a standard she sticks to it she's very picky how are you picky

03:35:03.180 i'm just curious um well i'd like to get to know the person first like establish a friendship and

03:35:07.980 then see where that goes um oh and yeah oh okay

03:35:16.140 height does height matter you're like short guys tall guys at least like a little bit taller than me

03:35:22.300 well i'll tell you i'm like five six yeah so like wait you're too far from the mic i prefer

03:35:29.020 taller do this scoot the mic this way a little bit scoot into the table because you have plenty

03:35:32.860 of space to scoot into the table okay you prefer taller how tall are you five six what's so what's

03:35:39.740 like bit do you have a bare minimum height like five ten six feet no but i prefer a taller guy

03:35:47.100 okay that's fine that's valid uh okay you're picky wait so hold on

03:35:53.500 guys gotta pay for everything okay all right whatever i'm not gonna get back to the hoot 0.95

03:36:03.580 and the paying shit that's just we dragged that one too long how long do you think you should wait 0.92

03:36:07.100 mandy moore uh mandy sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry 0.98

03:36:14.300 um i said do whatever you want at this point okay um i'm talking about my current status um i'm

03:36:20.860 gonna say like the third date that man is fine third date so fine yeah your current man is fine

03:36:26.780 so fine okay and also shout out to the short kings we love a short king yes for real they will climb

03:36:32.380 this tree climb it how long do you think uh until the point that he knows that i am the one to the

03:36:42.620 point that he is willing to propose uh marriage i try i try to practice that with my husband and it

03:36:50.700 didn't work so he broke me on a week number um on the week number no month number two yeah so but

03:36:59.420 we together we actually spend 24 hours only because we had like two hours each date interesting but

03:37:06.700 but the point until he knows that she is the one yes every woman that i've slept with i knew she was the 1.00

03:37:16.060 one that's why until it didn't work exactly yeah you see you're sitting here still waiting for the

03:37:24.860 you know right person yeah yeah okay good talk what about you i'm very boring here you know

03:37:32.940 because for me um i have no standards i mean in height in eye color in nationality to match as well

03:37:42.300 but i need to build some bond to be very into this person to see that i he can be my future husband

03:37:52.060 you know when i reach this point that this person um kind of spiritually wise

03:38:02.220 yo doc the nable thank you for the gift of 20 memberships thank you thank you man really appreciate

03:38:07.980 your support thank you dude thank you thank you yeah so i never had uh sex on a third date for

03:38:13.660 example i don't i don't judge i think uh everything is cool when it suits to people for me it doesn't

03:38:21.020 like work like this i need to go into this person know his brain usually it was like uh from maybe

03:38:30.380 months and a half to two months something like that sure okay as far as height and skip go ahead what

03:38:41.900 about you um i think i i'd say between two and three months i like to get to know the person and

03:38:51.580 be confident that it's not gonna be a i'm gonna you and i'm gonna block you

03:38:56.380 and while you're waiting for marriage yeah yeah okay all right okay okay i'm trying to find out

03:39:05.740 why do i keep getting scams well i mean it's not the first time that we've gone around the table

03:39:13.340 everybody else is prepared to answer and you've asked me to repeat what the question is because

03:39:18.940 you asked multiple questions you asked about age and you also that's fair but i was going around the

03:39:24.220 table asking how long do you think you should wait for or how long do you like to wait before

03:39:29.740 hooking up with somebody that was the question every single girl here was able to switch to age you ask 0.94

03:39:35.740 different questions yes age yeah they just they just no i asked her about i asked her about height

03:39:43.500 as a clarifying question because she said she was picky related to the question of how long or how long

03:39:49.820 do you like to wait before having sex but then she answered the question she answered the question

03:39:53.980 this girl here answered the question she answered the question so i sometimes if i don't feel

03:39:59.980 particularly inclined to repeat myself i will just skip yeah but that was that was this i'm not trying to

03:40:07.020 be rude but it was the second time that you perhaps even the third time that you asked me to restate the

03:40:12.380 question so it's just like you should try you should be trying to pay attention to the conversation

03:40:24.620 yeah but the the question veered off into a different question but okay well the yes but

03:40:30.220 the original question was and i mean if you were paying attention to what the other girls were saying

03:40:34.460 you could have perhaps tuned in or tapped in to what the question was asking which one did you want me to

03:40:40.380 answer because they're describing the type of guy in terms of only only she really went into that

03:40:48.300 you the last two i've asked they did they did i've asked you sorry you've asked i've asked you to

03:40:56.460 repeat a question and she's trying to do the same thing and she's wondering why you're skipping her you

03:41:00.540 should try to be like you shouldn't have a problem with repeating a question it's i mean it's a little

03:41:05.660 especially if the conversation veers a little bit it's like just that's a fair point that's a

03:41:11.260 way of women our mind is like outer space yeah you guys are one box and all we are look i think we

03:41:20.780 the discussion will win from the terrace i think your answer should also be shorter too because that's why

03:41:27.740 there was that confusion there that's fair that's fair however i would encourage you just because it's the

03:41:32.940 second time that you okay forgot the question please i just ask that you pay attention to the

03:41:38.860 question if you'd like an opportunity opportunity now to answer the question you're welcome to so

03:41:47.420 how long would you do you like to or think you should wait before first having sex with somebody i think 0.52

03:41:53.900 uh there the there's no specific time it just needs to be time to heal from the last relationship and

03:42:02.140 that time varies depending on the person you should never just like do series dating okay sure and if

03:42:09.740 it and if it is the case that there's um interrupting questions where i ask clarifying questions and

03:42:16.860 it's taking a while to get to you i will make it i will make it a point to if you forget what the

03:42:21.420 question is i will i will restate it however i do ask that everybody here at the table try to pay

03:42:27.660 attention to the conversation so that i need not have to constantly repeat myself or ask you guys

03:42:32.700 to speak into the microphone etc okay so um let's see here where were we i think i was going through

03:42:39.260 some of my notes here uh let's see i was doing the massage around no we they answered they answered

03:42:47.660 uh let's see um see i had this written down for cc you're cc right okay i go by cc did you answer our

03:42:58.380 pre-show questions i think i i didn't know oh i have something written here but oh um do you consider

03:43:06.140 yourself traditional yes i do you want me to elaborate sure i i'm from a mexican traditional

03:43:20.780 household so the man's role is to work and the woman does the cleaning watches the kids and i grew

03:43:27.660 up in that and that's kind of how i go on about things okay is there any other do you do you care

03:43:34.860 to like add anything to that any other metrics with which you consider yourself to be traditional or

03:43:43.740 i mean i am traditional where i prefer that the man pays but okay depends on certain circumstances

03:43:50.540 sure okay um i looked at your instagram i don't even know if we can pull it up because because there

03:44:05.340 is a photo on your instagram i don't know if we can pull it up because i feel like the photo is

03:44:09.820 fucking yeah almost tos i'm surprised i don't know there's a photo cc 0.85

03:44:20.060 on your instagram and it's like looking right down main street is it the hawaii one 0.98

03:44:28.140 i'm not sure where the location is but your body positioning is interesting

03:44:33.660 which one are you talking about i i think i know but i i like want there's a beach okay

03:44:42.220 yeah there's a bikini that's my hawaii picture

03:44:46.780 i'm like i'm looking down looking at the photo chat can i i feel like i can't even hold on let me

03:44:54.220 let me ask the chat chat go to her instagram i'm i'm doing you a solid here go go to her instagram

03:44:59.580 go to her instagram and uh pull up her instagram it's in the description you guys will see the

03:45:08.140 photo i'm talking about is it tos would it be tos to pull it up i don't think it's safe for youtube

03:45:15.660 i i genuinely do not chat one in the chat i don't think i don't think it's safe don't do it boys i don't

03:45:25.820 think it's safe to pull up because it's like on the edge i'm like put something over it or no

03:45:33.420 a blur or something i don't know if that's i don't think we can do that i don't think we can do it

03:45:41.340 cake emojis let's just say you're essentially it's a basically a you're in doggy position and it's like 0.97

03:45:50.460 like here's your ass here's the guy taking the maybe it's a chick taking a photo and i'm like 0.98

03:45:57.420 you're looking right down main street and you're wearing granted you're wearing a bikini 1.00

03:46:02.940 is it traditional i don't know i don't know

03:46:10.940 i'm leaning towards no

03:46:14.620 the butt rift on photo they're looking so they know they are looking but chat chat have you pulled

03:46:19.020 it up do you know what i can't pull it up because i i feel like it's probably against youtube tos

03:46:26.220 she's just lifting blank to drop a truck stop fart relax girls do it all the time when they don't 1.00

03:46:31.980 realize the camera's on that's true that one was good that one was good i you know women fart too 1.00

03:46:40.860 thank you lay off brian i you know can you be traditional i mean if i'm in a relationship

03:46:50.620 and someone doesn't like that i would gladly take it down but i'm single

03:46:55.100 okay i'm gonna change it back to brian yeah can i add to that though yeah if so what is a

03:47:13.900 traditional man look to you like what is the definition of a traditional man like a provider

03:47:18.940 okay so like i guess i guess what the chat's kind of saying and how people perceive like

03:47:27.500 traditional men and women like would a traditional man want like before you're even with him like

03:47:35.180 seeing that so many people have seen this picture of you and seen this side of you like

03:47:39.820 would he want that i mean necessarily not but there'll be others that would still want that and

03:47:44.620 want to provide for me she's 4 11. she's 4 11. yeah 4 11. i just think your chances of finding

03:47:53.340 a traditional man that would want to provide for you and i'm not saying there isn't yeah men out

03:47:59.900 there like that um but i think the chances are a lot more slim she is 4 11. i think the chances are

03:48:07.180 more high i mean i have found traditional men that have she's probably 4 10 but she's claiming 4 11. 0.94

03:48:13.180 4 12. he's right okay see i knew guys let's not pretend that men don't like sexuality a beautiful

03:48:22.060 lady that no one wants to be like oh my god no no no i never wanted to be her in like my apartment or 0.99

03:48:30.620 something let's not go like that because we all understand that men of course like sexuality like

03:48:38.460 beauty different types of beauty and well yeah men like some men like this type of beauty or some men

03:48:45.340 like this type of openness and so on so kind of i i think chances for provider i'm sorry higher there

03:48:55.980 than like in different if if um either in city or in either than sure nickelodeon donated 100

03:49:05.580 i got pink eye just looking at that

03:49:11.500 it shows off the goods look it shows off the i think just she's 4 10 just remember that just my point

03:49:17.020 well that's my uh but i i i think it's that's not really what we're talking about i think we're more

03:49:25.500 so just talking about that she said that she's traditional but so what's what's a traditional

03:49:33.500 woman well part of being i my argument would be part of being a traditional woman one of the things

03:49:39.740 would be modesty both in appearance and in demeanor and personality and so

03:49:46.940 having a publicly available for granted i mean you do only fans too but having a publicly on your

03:49:53.340 public instagram page a photo of like this is what you would see if you were hitting it from the

03:50:02.940 back you know like you know what i mean like it's a little it's a nice photo don't get me wrong

03:50:09.020 a but is it tradition does it coincide with being a traditional woman i mean no i don't think so

03:50:18.620 you know but i don't we need to correct the path pull out your phone right now do we allow do we

03:50:25.180 allow the the archive do we allow the archive can we allow the archive or do you gotta delete it

03:50:32.540 should she delete it one hundred dollars excuse me i'm looking but i ain't providing to that lack

03:50:38.540 of modesty i'm looking but i ain't providing to that lack of modesty nine line rh thank you sir

03:50:49.580 that's much appreciated are you down we're gonna we're gonna correct the path are you down to take

03:50:59.100 that photo down right now yeah you'll do it for me you're the best um here i'm gonna pull grid one

03:51:12.460 motorsports donated one hundred dollars if you want a relationship dress act and be about finding a

03:51:19.660 relationship us picks on the web are red flags and at best good for now girls not wife material if you

03:51:26.860 want to be a party hope so but look but there is her choice you know how to appear how to it's just 0.96

03:51:34.700 her risks her chances her life uh it's just more about maybe we're talking about uh kind of not a

03:51:41.980 term like definition i am a traditional woman but more um she leans towards traditional values she

03:51:51.020 doesn't sleep with every each guy uh every each day because some other girls who doesn't look like 1.00

03:51:57.660 like beautifully like this girl can have hooks up every day every day and you will never know

03:52:03.340 and you will never judge them i mean not personally i would judge i'd still no but you but i still judge

03:52:08.940 you personally yes but you're like yeah we don't count on you anymore okay

03:52:13.020 but other guys you know probably they have higher chances but i mean you know sometimes what we see

03:52:22.460 it's kind of not what it is she can be modest but we of course know this sure she leans towards 0.72

03:52:28.780 traditional values she means she wants traditional husbands she wants traditional kids and she doesn't 1.00

03:52:36.060 sleep with everyone i'm more than we don't know that we don't know no no but i mean hypothetically

03:52:42.300 you know what i mean that when you judge that's that is a fair that is actually a very fair argument

03:52:47.580 because there is this sort of i don't know if this is the right word almost dogmatic it's black or

03:52:53.420 white like you have to be a hundred percent traditional in every single regard and if you deviate even 0.99

03:52:59.740 slightly then you are you know i suffer it is a spectrum i guess you could say so and that's

03:53:05.420 something i've that is actually a very good counter argument and you know one that i just let me

03:53:10.220 finish um that is something that i i think i've struggled to combat when it comes to this sort of

03:53:18.140 debate is well clearly like you need not be a hunt if we view being traditional as to some degree a

03:53:26.540 spectrum like maybe you fall like very strongly traditional but in some aspects you might not be

03:53:33.740 totally traditional and that could apply for both men and women um so that is a fair point however

03:53:42.380 the chances however i do think one of the big components of being traditional a very important

03:53:51.180 component let's say using your point she might not be promiscuous and might not sleep with a bunch 1.00

03:53:57.580 of men whatever that's a very desirable thing um and in that dimension she is a traditional woman

03:54:04.140 however i think you have to being traditional is to some degree is the totality of of everything

03:54:10.460 together i think modesty is a big thing when it comes to being traditional so within that paradigm of

03:54:18.780 being traditional i think she's um falling short she's lacking modesty in that regard and she also 1.00

03:54:26.860 we can uh judge uh modesty by uh appearance just only appearance of course there's a lot of factors

03:54:33.820 it's a lot of factors tomorrow she will wear sportwear for you no lashes like this is that true babe 1.00

03:54:40.060 you know exactly you will date her first day you will ask her for a first date you will never she

03:54:47.420 will close her instagram with pictures you will never see it and you will never recognize in her

03:54:52.780 you know someone who is you you will never say oh she's not traditional she's not she's not she just

03:54:58.460 needs a little bit of a guidance what it is to be traditional just oh god she needs yeah a partner 0.89

03:55:03.260 needs to be coachable just guys what do you think about that bowing video you like the bow can i see a bow

03:55:09.020 can you do about really quick no bow maybe later you want to bow from a russian third date maybe about

03:55:16.860 on the third day huh uh okay good talk where were we i forgot where we were i don't remember so

03:55:24.300 traditional woman always says yes so when he says yeah yeah yeah come on all right uh oh so last thing 0.98

03:55:32.620 guys what's what's your instagram again guys good cc ryan guys one in the chat

03:55:39.420 check out her instagram there's one specific photo it's like a red is it a red it's orange it's

03:55:44.300 orange okay is it traditional she says she's a traditional woman but if you look at her instagram

03:55:51.340 is she traditional one in the chat if she's traditional two in the chat if she's not traditional

03:55:57.340 two in the chat if she is not traditional one in the chat

03:56:00.140 i mean they're just looking at me wait did i just flip those did i just did i just

03:56:06.780 i think you got confused confused i'm easily confused two in the chat if it's not traditional

03:56:13.260 one in the chat if it's traditional it's a cliche of course everyone it's very easy to judge from

03:56:19.900 like the first take you know yeah it's easy to judge we all love judging but sometimes we are very

03:56:26.780 mistaken also um i just on that photo you guys all have to leave a comment and it just has to say

03:56:33.980 misogynist okay just say that's the mean that's why i said no don't worry about it okay just don't

03:56:40.140 let him get under your skin seriously just leave a comment just leave a comment brian's a misogynist 0.87

03:56:46.940 or something on on on her post just write brian's a misogynist okay okay all right cool cool cool uh

03:56:54.380 where were we oh okay so we got cc here who we got we have to get to tessa you are a welder

03:57:03.820 animal caretaker welder okay i didn't know that yes i do you're you're cons okay oh sorry yeah i weld

03:57:13.020 too okay you're a conservative traditional uh you have a scorpion tattoo also what's the

03:57:18.780 origin story on the scorpion tattoo um the smaller they are the more poison they have

03:57:24.300 and it's like right here on next to your no it's it's higher up on my stomach so it's on my stomach

03:57:33.260 it's not lower down but it's it's like i it's in the vicinity yeah i wanted it on my stomach and i

03:57:40.460 just didn't like how it looked higher placement so i was like we'll bring it down i see okay uh

03:57:45.900 you said you dated a deadbeat bull rider you were engaged and found out you were cheated on multiple

03:57:52.220 times yes so he was a bull ride bull fighter or bull rider bull rider bull rider he rode bulls

03:57:58.620 yeah he couldn't last eight seconds though so are we still talking about bull riding we're still talking

03:58:03.340 about bull riding okay just wanted to double check um how long did he you know last in other departments

03:58:20.940 i never you don't have to yeah i'm not really sure honestly yeah let's go with that okay i plead the

03:58:28.060 fifth actually related to that is it a deal breaker if a guy

03:58:34.780 is a premature ejaculate that's a first for the whatever podcast why not is it the deal breaker 0.99

03:58:40.540 cc yeah if you're mature fuck if he comes too fast oh my gosh sorry sorry sorry sorry it's good 0.99

03:58:49.260 it's good we'll work on it we'll work on it you just broke his heart 0.99

03:58:52.300 again part two oh dude four ten yeah he's gonna start throwing all right um

03:59:03.660 is it a deal breaker for you nicole nicole nicole into the mic por favor i would just say work on that 0.83

03:59:12.860 like i don't know what what do you mean you don't know of course you know right wouldn't

03:59:22.140 i suppose you would know um that mic is right there for you whenever you get a sec

03:59:28.860 i've had that happen before and i wasn't like good mental it's like i need to be more sarcastic with the

03:59:33.420 talking to oh my god nicole i'm choking sorry god i'll pass this question because of the 0.88

03:59:43.100 premature ejaculation thing like is it a deal breaker no okay that's cool what about 1.00

03:59:49.660 mandy what about you um if you come fast but you eat pussy i'm all with it 1.00

03:59:55.900 okay we can talk about that too um no not a deal breaker it's only i guess i'm trying to 0.99

04:00:08.300 see the positive in uh in people and everything it could mean that he feels very special that the

04:00:14.780 woman he's with is super super special yeah he cannot hold himself like he's ready to marry her 1.00

04:00:20.460 right like the pussy's so good it like he can't it just it's like she's so special yeah the pussies 1.00

04:00:27.020 women should view premature ejaculation not as a deficit in men but really it's it's it's a compliment 1.00

04:00:36.140 that you're that hot you're that sexy the pussies that bomb son exactly 1.00

04:00:42.300 yeah we got to reframe it don't don't yeah it's a compliment it's a compliment ladies yeah everybody will 0.99

04:00:48.780 be saying it's me what about you remember i'm boring and uh if we stop the cap

04:00:59.900 if we if we reach this point when i know when he comes right so it means i spent with him maybe months

04:01:08.540 or two months and so so on so for me it would not be a deal breaker i would like to i would try to

04:01:14.780 understand what's going on like you know maybe we're not too sexy lingerie for him to last longer

04:01:21.100 yeah something like that you know i will not the lingerie makes him last longer exactly that's a new

04:01:26.860 one i haven't heard that no just uh maybe i'm too sexy following up the conversation i see okay yeah

04:01:33.580 yeah yeah yeah okay very sexy for him yeah yeah what okay what about you yeah it would be a deal breaker

04:01:38.460 okay what about you no it wouldn't at all okay i don't think it would be yeah you're like i'm not 0.83

04:01:49.420 very educated you've not had the experience but the thing is like if i'm having sex with someone it's

04:01:57.420 because i'm married to them and so i'm already committed to them regardless so it's something that

04:02:01.900 you you work on together so based that's beautiful um till death do us part yep in sickness

04:02:12.620 anything in sickness and in you wait leave me we all dying and everything and we have a lot of

04:02:19.420 suppliers have any of you guys experienced that like a guy just comes to quick have you guys have you

04:02:27.100 cc yes nicole have you had that experience a guy just a little quick on the yeah yeah yeah yes yeah 1.00

04:02:41.340 okay mandy yes i have okay but you said oh if he eats pussy and makes it okay yes 1.00

04:02:50.460 yes yes here related oh i guess we'll go has it happened to you yeah a lot a lot yeah she got the 1.00

04:02:59.740 bomb pussy i guess okay yeah all the time okay wow all right it's never happened to me i feel like i 0.99

04:03:07.260 got the reverse i'm too uneducated on this topic sometimes i feel like i got the reverse problem like 0.99

04:03:16.460 good okay okay whatever um not always though sometimes i don't know sometimes you know okay

04:03:21.420 whatever um is it deal breaker going off of what mandy over here said if he doesn't go down on you

04:03:29.180 oh no yeah for sure deal breaker yeah rip all right all right peace in chat um it's not going to work

04:03:36.060 out between me and cc unfortunately i do not i'm not a munch i do not do that

04:03:40.700 that's facts that's facts i'm scared i'm kind of scared i'm a little frightened you know apparently 0.99

04:04:01.820 there's uh was it michael douglas he got throat cancer from eating pussy yeah he got throat cancer 0.99

04:04:10.300 from he ate some pussy and that's how he got throat cancer it's a thing you need to choose 1.00

04:04:16.140 there's something in discharge that is not well then it's like the hpv it's like yeah yeah eat a 1.00

04:04:23.020 clean pussy then yeah wipe yourself and then no use some water like take a shower see here's here's the 1.00

04:04:30.540 thing right wait oh did we go around the table on the is it a deal breaker deal breaker for the guy 1.00

04:04:34.620 doesn't yeah go down on you maybe i'm just inexperienced but no based okay she's redeeming 1.00

04:04:41.100 herself no for me yes deal breaker the guy doesn't eat pussy no no 1.00

04:04:57.420 the fifth from what i know from reading the bible it says that once you're married you give your body 0.99

04:05:04.380 fully over to that person that you're with and vice versa so i think that if it's something that

04:05:10.780 i enjoy that my husband should do that for me and

04:05:18.540 so okay we'll find out i guess we will find out yeah they um i know the expression that is like

04:05:26.940 the higher love is the lower kisses are it's in both

04:05:34.860 okay hold on just what you got something go ahead i was gonna say that um i don't know you guys can

04:05:40.060 disagree agree with me whatever you um but i've heard from a lot of women that they can't come from 1.00

04:05:47.100 penetration so that's why they asked for head and it feels very good just like you guys love head we 0.98

04:05:52.300 love head too so i'm the opposite oh well congratulations because damn yeah well see 0.93

04:05:59.340 okay so i'll i'll give my take on this i personally i haven't gone down on a girl since 0.96

04:06:07.820 the bush administration that's 2007 that's great 2008 maybe yeah it's been it's been a long time

04:06:15.020 are you okay they took a lot i wasn't i have not gone down on i did it a couple times

04:06:23.740 it wasn't my thing did they come of course they can't are you sure talking about of course

04:06:31.900 even though even though i did it only a few times i was a artist you see i am an artist 0.99

04:06:39.980 artist artist in any case uh it wasn't for me don't get me wrong love pussy pussy's great just 1.00

04:06:48.380 not my thing however it is my when it comes to female pleasure it is also my view that i want to 1.00

04:06:55.660 make my girl come first before me preferably multiple times if possible and we can do we can

04:07:02.460 achieve this either through hands sex if possible sometimes like you said some women it's difficult 0.95

04:07:10.060 for them to uh come from sex uh so we can employ hands i go to town with hands hands are great got 0.94

04:07:17.580 hands all right all right or toys i'm okay with toys some guys are not okay with toys i don't mind

04:07:23.740 toys makes my job easier makes my job easier and i wanted to come before me is it okay for you if a

04:07:31.820 girl have same uh vision on like a what doing something yeah yeah oral for you yeah yeah if she 1.00

04:07:41.340 has a what if she also had bad experiences or whatever it is she doesn't give you know she does

04:07:47.580 um it's a little it's a little disappointing but it's honestly it's not a deal breaker like if a girl

04:07:53.340 some now there's also the other component though of of like it's a retributive retributive

04:08:00.300 retributive revenge almost thing or a tit for tat thing it's like oh well if you won't do it then

04:08:06.460 i won't do it then that that's a little okay look if i'm if she doesn't want to do it of course i'm not

04:08:13.980 like if she doesn't want to do it that's totally her call but it the one it's like okay she's doing

04:08:20.780 it like out of revenge because i won't do it i kind of feel that's kind of it i feel like there doesn't

04:08:27.260 always have to be a hundred percent reciprocity in every single action or behavior in the same way

04:08:33.500 that she wants a guy to pay for the first date she doesn't reciprocate by then paying for first dates 0.99

04:08:38.620 when it comes to sexual things um just because i want to fuck a girl in the ass doesn't mean she 1.00

04:08:43.580 has to fuck me in the ass you know you know it doesn't have to be exactly you know yeah but maybe 1.00

04:08:49.260 you're a perfect match you know you're the same yeah and there's i've encountered women who some 1.00

04:08:54.780 women don't like getting head they maybe whatever for whatever reason it's not a hundred percent the 1.00

04:09:00.300 deal breaker though if she doesn't want to do it but it's better if she does it's better if she does so

04:09:08.140 word huh okay good talk uh let's see here where oh the bull rider that's how we got derailed

04:09:17.180 you said he was a deadbeat bull rider what made him a deadbeat my dear

04:09:26.060 um he for example he stole my credit card um

04:09:32.300 love at first sight and spent like 600 got me in like deep credit um all of this stuff said he was

04:09:41.980 gonna pay me back never paid me back oh what is that it's sorry back buddy or it's a theracane or

04:09:51.500 something it's for self-theracane theracane it's for massage don't don't get weird with it 0.57

04:09:57.500 it it's not like a sex no no no not you her it's not like a

04:10:07.180 purely innocent gadget the deadbeat how was he um

04:10:14.220 disappearing in the middle of the night to go see other women bringing my dog to meet 1.00

04:10:20.940 my old best friend to fuck her with my dog in the room while i was at home at home sleeping 1.00

04:10:32.300 and i hope this woman is watching this because you know that i hate you what do you want to say 1.00

04:10:35.820 look into that camera right there kaya staple i hate you 1.00

04:10:39.980 why her if it was he because she knew it happened multiple times and i reached out to

04:10:48.540 her after we had gotten engaged and she said oh my god i had no idea i thought you guys were just

04:10:51.900 dating okay what what difference ma'am what difference absolutely

04:10:59.180 wait so hold on just a second um uh i thought he was like because that kind of gangster like if

04:11:06.620 your girlfriend has a dog and you use that dog to like get other chicks that's kind of gangster my 1.00

04:11:13.660 dog is now a trained protection dog because of that situation so she is like solely my dog and

04:11:24.620 i have trained her to like she never is apart from me really right now she's with my mother

04:11:30.540 because she trusts my mother but i will just be like yeah attack so you would take the dog 1.00

04:11:36.540 what what but he did he like use the dog to try to like impress yes like oh check out my dog

04:11:44.300 because it was like dogs right yes i see and and he took it he took it in the middle of the night we

04:11:49.500 weren't living together at this time he came into my house took my dog and went and saw another woman 0.97

04:11:55.580 oh shit yeah so yeah good times yeah good times what so you said he stole your was it your credit card 0.98

04:12:03.660 yes and he how much did he charge on the credit card between 500 and 600 dollars nice good times 0.99

04:12:10.220 when i was 18 like freshly 18 had no idea about a lot of shit that's awesome yeah that's awesome 0.96

04:12:20.700 he was a deadbeat what else um 0.91

04:12:24.540 um he was very like victimizing and manipulative so anything didn't go his way and it was like

04:12:35.180 i'm gonna delete myself okay that's a yikes yeah that's and it was immediately going to that and

04:12:41.580 then turning it around on me when i would um keep in mind i was like madly in love with this kid you

04:12:48.220 know what i mean i would break down doors because he would post a picture of you know like i'm gonna

04:12:54.460 delete myself and so i would come to his house and literally break down a door and then it would just

04:12:59.740 be like uh it's your fault it's from what you said it's from what you did when it could be from anything

04:13:07.100 as little ofs i went to work and i didn't text him for two hours he would show up at my work if i did

04:13:14.540 not speak to him he would go up to my co-workers asking if i had a like a work boyfriend like just 0.88

04:13:20.220 very like things like that very very odd damn that's fucked up now was he like the the threats 0.99

04:13:30.300 of self-deletion was that like a manipulation tool or was it like serious because some people would use 0.95

04:13:36.700 that i think there was one time that it was serious i think there was one time where um it was very

04:13:43.580 serious but i think most of the times it really wasn't uh it would be like a he would make a story

04:13:51.580 that had the same name and as his main story but he'd only add me to it so i was the only person that

04:13:58.220 could see that he was posting that he was going to you know delete himself and then i would come give

04:14:04.460 him the attention that he wanted and it was totally okay like i mean i would even go as far as to he would

04:14:09.820 go as far as to be i would say i don't want to have sex tonight i've had a really long day you know

04:14:14.780 i just want to go to sleep yeah well if you don't do that i'm gonna go tonight and go delete myself or

04:14:21.100 i'm gonna go tonight and go find another woman like things like that and i would like sit there and be 0.99

04:14:26.300 like what

04:14:31.260 yikes it's yikes it's yikes that's uh the man that i have now is amazing though he's nothing like

04:14:38.860 that got a chat here nine line also red button up i'm so glad females like you exist no offense to 1.00

04:14:44.380 any of you other beautiful women yeah yeah i exist fuck yeah my mom gave birth to me let's go 1.00

04:14:53.980 lfg okay shrimp scampi donated 69 hey thank you man oh did they get skipped that's weird uh grow up 0.98

04:15:04.860 take care of your lady if you busted too early also it's quality it's 100 skill when you master it i

04:15:13.980 promise you won't be forgettable eating oh right right yes i think that's towards you i think that's

04:15:19.900 for you that is towards me i take care of my lady in other ways i take care of her in other ways

04:15:26.460 spidey fingers hands the peen you gotta eat it spider you gotta eat it eat it you know what if 1.00

04:15:33.900 eat that pussy maybe if she was maybe if she was a virgin what that's crying are you a virgin no and 1.00

04:15:42.620 you're gonna stick your dick in somebody else and you're not gonna eat their pussy what do you mean 1.00

04:15:45.820 totally different totally different what you're talking about that's crazy but you stick your dick 1.00

04:15:49.180 in women and we have to suck your dick exactly that's exactly what you have to do no thank you 1.00

04:15:58.140 thank you for our taste yes that is that's exactly yes yes i will not deny it 1.00

04:16:04.780 uh good talk

04:16:11.100 okay we have uh jake larson long time listener first time as brian's splenda daddy oh thank you

04:16:20.780 would the last date a man with him there's another one there's another one that he commented saying that

04:16:29.100 it was botched and he said that he was asking if a woman would date a man who owns a gun okay yeah

04:16:34.460 we'll go around the table on this really quick uh starting with you would you date a guy who owns

04:16:38.620 a gun yeah as long as they're not crazy okay true yeah like what she said as long as you're not crazy

04:16:49.820 um as long as it's licensed and it's put away from any like hold like anyone like that is younger or

04:16:56.940 not you know okay in the head yeah what about you uh yeah it just has to be hidden and put away

04:17:03.260 is your husband does he own a gun or uh my husband doesn't uh my former fiancee who is the father of

04:17:09.020 my child he does gotcha what about you i don't know i'm not familiar to this with this culture too

04:17:15.500 much so probably for me it would be time to adjust what we needed to to see how it is because if i if

04:17:22.780 he would be seated next to me with a gun constantly i don't know sure what about you i am a gun owner so

04:17:30.460 yes oh there you have it i am also a gun owner so yes okay what about you uh yeah my family owns guns

04:17:40.380 but there you have it jake larson we have zach jenkins here john jana i'm 38 a former marine and

04:17:50.300 blue-collar man will you marry me propose to me and who knows maybe yes okay he paid a hundred

04:17:58.460 dollars to propose to you right now what do you mean yeah that is here i will i am zach jenkins i'm

04:18:05.500 his proxy i am his agent on behalf of then you need to arrange the ceremony proper ceremony to us you

04:18:13.100 know and to give us will you marry zach jenkins of course but can we have at least a coffee together

04:18:19.980 at least you know like at least start with a coffee okay uh we have lpe here coming in hot 1.00

04:18:27.660 whoa even tomboys like red button top love toxic fuck boys yeah regular nice guys have no chance 1.00

04:18:35.020 hashtag sad my boyfriend is a nice guy and he's shorter than me so yeah they do period loose 1.00

04:18:41.420 pussy energy coming after all the red bitches aren't you yeah he has you just mad you big man 1.00

04:18:48.380 he's had it out for the women in the red tonight uh let's see wait you're how tall are you and how 1.00

04:18:54.940 tall is your boyfriend right now i am five eight and he is he's only like an inch or two shorter than me

04:19:02.620 cool but i can't like when i wear it when i put my boots on for work if he hasn't put on his boots yet

04:19:07.980 it's like a it's like a it's like a yeah well speaking of that we should go around on the height

04:19:14.060 question so how tall are you and do you have like a bare minimum height do you have a height preference

04:19:20.700 you know sometimes we often hear six feet and above so uh what's your height do you have a height

04:19:27.020 preference go ahead i'm 411 and as long as they're taller than me which they should be

04:19:32.060 so like five feet five uh like five two and above okay well that's that's generous uh you said uh

04:19:42.300 how many like boyfriends would you say you've had just like in general short boyfriends no just

04:19:47.980 boyfriends um i've had like three um and three boyfriends how tall were your three boyfriends um

04:19:57.100 usually like five ten six feet i've had a shorter boyfriend that was like five three five four one

04:20:02.220 of them was five okay yeah one was shorter what about you high preference yeah how tall are you in

04:20:08.220 high preference i'm five six and as long as i feel like i'm he's taller than me in heels or at least the

04:20:14.140 same height as me in heels yeah can you scoot your microphone to the very edge of the table thank you

04:20:19.260 what about you i'm five seven and no i don't have a high preference okay how tall is your current

04:20:26.700 guy ding oh um i think we're about the same height it might be like an inch shorter because i know like

04:20:35.100 i get that like those moments where like i'm laying in bed with him and like my feet are past tall

04:20:41.500 bitches now i don't know um yeah it's nice what about you i'm five nine uh my husband's slightly uh taller 1.00

04:20:49.500 than me but uh really the height doesn't really matter everybody sure what about you doesn't really 0.80

04:20:54.540 matter uh i'm five five and like five five is also fine or taller okay what about uh what about you

04:21:02.140 i am five foot four and i prefer a guy between five foot six and five foot nine

04:21:11.740 okay i am five eight and i've never dated a man shorter than me until my relationship now but it's

04:21:19.180 definitely shown me that short kings uh are pretty cool so no no matter anymore there you have it

04:21:26.540 i'm five eight i'm five eight and yeah i prefer someone who's taller than me but my dad's the short

04:21:33.740 king and he's the best man i've ever met in my life so my dad's five five is he shorter than you yeah

04:21:39.660 my dad's five five and my mom's five eight so there you have it folks there you have it let me get through

04:21:45.500 some of my other notes here we have i finally want to get to let's see hold up uh we've did that done

04:21:52.780 that uh huh okay bringing it back to nicole yikes young women should be aware of power dynamics 1.00

04:22:03.660 and intentions when getting involved with men

04:22:09.260 what so what do you mean by that what do you mean by power dynamics

04:22:12.460 um i guess it's just like um more of like naivety in young women and like they can be coerced or 0.97

04:22:23.180 like persuaded into situations that at first may appear okay but then like later on like looking back

04:22:29.420 like it cannot be okay yeah sorry sorry but yeah just um

04:22:34.380 um be careful of like the men trying to play play you you know um so but so when you say power dynamics

04:22:43.740 what are you talking about um like yeah i say i want a provider but then also people who have like the

04:22:50.380 money and stuff will use that as an advantage to try to like manipulate or coerce or you know prey upon

04:22:57.660 naivety with young women i mean couldn't couldn't i just reverse this and women are actually preying 1.00

04:23:03.900 on men with money and using them for their money can i just reverse that you could say that okay

04:23:10.940 also i would argue that i think women are much more socially attuned than men are generally especially

04:23:16.060 even like i think socially women are far more competent than men are especially like you take the

04:23:22.540 average like 20 year old woman compare her to the average 20 year old man she's probably had a lot 1.00

04:23:28.380 more experience when it comes to dating i'd say most not all women but most women can absolutely run 1.00

04:23:34.380 circles around men uh socially so we can also take it from like i think women have a lot of power that is 1.00

04:23:43.180 often times overlooked in a lot of ways okay okay um but it's interesting though that you

04:23:52.220 say that there's this power dynamic of men with money but you also want a guy to be a provider like

04:24:00.860 you said that's your type as a provider guy so on one hand you view it at you want a provider but you

04:24:07.340 also seem to in consider that an unfair power dynamic so how do you reconcile wanting a man with money who can

04:24:17.340 be a provider but so you are you saying you want an unfair power dynamic i'm a little confused

04:24:23.420 just intentionality what does that mean like it depends on what the guy's intentions are what are

04:24:29.980 okay like if he's like not going to follow through or like you know follow the power dynamic of like i

04:24:36.300 have this power and like oh you fell for this facade and then just like that like that happens to young

04:24:42.140 women all the time oh okay i think i so you you mean like a guy who maybe puts on an act like he's

04:24:50.940 got money like the guy from you i'm not sure what um how he puts up that facade and then he kills 0.99

04:24:57.980 women what the fuck well there's one example that's an extreme yeah um 0.98

04:25:06.220 wait so you're saying there are scenarios where men and i i don't think you're wrong where men 0.99

04:25:11.820 will like flex on instagram oh look at my watch look at my fucking supercar but actually that's a 0.95

04:25:19.260 rental actually they're not that maybe they even lie about their job are you kind of talking about 0.83

04:25:25.660 that like men who claim or or men who say well down the road i will provide but never end up providing

04:25:31.100 what do you mean um get this girl another energy drink yes please um

04:25:41.980 like i said like the intentionality and if you're not like coercion happens a lot for like young women 1.00

04:25:47.500 or it can and i think young women specifically like with the whole like sugar baby thing going on you 0.53

04:25:53.500 know trying to influence women to i don't know i just think it's like a kind of i just want to

04:25:59.900 you said the word coercion a couple times i just and i pulled up the definition because i just want

04:26:03.500 to be super sure that we're talking about the same thing here so coercion the practice of persuading

04:26:09.100 someone to do something by using force or threats when you use the word coercion is that what you're

04:26:15.420 talking about i just want to be very precise in the conversation we're having

04:26:19.260 um that might not be the intent of the male but that does come that does tend to happen sometimes

04:26:25.580 so you're taught within the context of the guy being a high earner or being a provider how do you

04:26:33.100 see a guy coercing a woman within this context just preying on young naive women really how how so

04:26:42.620 how so how are the men preying on women oh like um here like let's go on a date

04:26:49.180 like oh like let's build a relationship and then just not following through and i mean that's

04:26:54.700 perfectly fine to is that is not to have a relationship with someone i understand that

04:26:58.300 is that preying on no that's not what i meant i meant like more so like let's go on a trip and

04:27:03.740 then you're stuck and like it's like whatever wait what do you mean go on a trip and then you're stuck

04:27:09.580 never mind no no but you can't talk about it anymore

04:27:12.700 not you're okay you provided these pre-show notes to us in our thing like why this is the

04:27:20.220 whole purpose of a conversation i think attentionality is important and yeah you already said that but i'm

04:27:25.580 asking you mentioned the trip thing look you mentioned the trip thing i'm these are words that

04:27:32.220 came out of your mouth yeah i'm just trying to understand your position that's why i'm asking

04:27:38.540 clarifying questions men can betray themselves as something they're not and then when you are with

04:27:43.340 them they can reveal like true colors like abusive yeah abusive you gotta like talk into the mic yeah

04:27:49.340 okay sorry go ahead but so probably she means abusive behavior you know when manipulators 0.97

04:28:01.100 seeberg donated 100 so are you women only able to be manipulated or coerced by a potential partner 1.00

04:28:09.420 or is it possible you that a narrative perhaps feminism could have manipulated you that's a good 0.99

04:28:15.980 one and to add to seberg also men can be coerced and manipulated by women like this isn't just a gender 0.95

04:28:23.100 one directional unidirectional thing where it's just all men are just doing this to women i think

04:28:29.340 both men and women can be toxic and doing these toxic things but um i'm trying to get at the crux of

04:28:36.460 you seem to be framing this from young women should be aware of power dynamics and intentions when

04:28:41.900 getting involved with men yeah and i think that's not like all cases like there's just like extreme

04:28:48.300 cases but sure absolutely more of a rarity and that was just like okay i didn't really mean to go too

04:28:53.420 in depth on that topic but it was just like something yeah but okay so you're saying like guys not

04:29:00.300 trying to remember precisely what you said like guys not being saying they'll be providers but not

04:29:06.300 actually being providers um kind of no that's not really what i'm referring to because that's like

04:29:13.740 obviously a choice and like communication is like a huge thing but yeah um i'm more of referring to like

04:29:19.980 specifically targeting young women and manipulating them how how

04:29:26.860 you know i know what she's meaning no no no let her answer go ahead 0.60

04:29:30.300 um maybe just like sex trafficking for example sex trafficking well i i have four oh my god 0.99

04:29:43.260 grid one motorsports donated 100 dollars fuck's sake sugar babies are literally women using men for 1.00

04:29:50.860 fear wallets often promising sex with no intention of having it honestly poet university has failed you 0.99

04:29:58.220 please get out of ca and learn do you want to respond to grid one motorsports

04:30:03.180 yeah yeah

04:30:04.140 yeah me too

04:30:04.780 um

04:30:07.020 intentionality

04:30:13.980 intentionality

04:30:16.140 intentionality okay so just to respond to your thing uh obviously sex trafficking is

04:30:20.780 terrible i don't think in general dating dynamics sex trafficking is i don't know

04:30:30.140 what the frequency of sex trafficking is that's a very outlier situation yeah but so but this seems

04:30:39.100 like a more generalized statement you have here young women should be aware of power dynamics 0.72

04:30:44.540 and intentions when getting involved with men also just like the sketchy situations they can

04:30:49.340 end up in basically to be aware of okay but you said so men trying to manipulate young women 0.96

04:30:56.700 how are men manipulating

04:30:58.380 selling dreams like selling dreams okay selling dreams so like what would be an example of selling a dream

04:31:09.260 coercion

04:31:13.180 coercion okay but you can't like making promises like oh if you do this i'm going to fulfill this

04:31:20.140 for you and this and this and then not falling through and that sounds like every relationship in

04:31:25.580 the history of humanity to some degree but that's fine but not but give me an example of that give

04:31:32.780 me an example of that so saying you'll do something but not falling through because i would argue that

04:31:36.780 like most relationships like for example in a relationship in a lot of relationships people

04:31:42.700 probably say i will love you forever right now that's not a legally binding that's not legally binding

04:31:50.220 to say you'll love somebody forever because clearly people say that and they break up implicit

04:31:54.860 underscore in underscore her underscore statement donated one hundred dollars is that if a wmn has sex 0.99

04:32:02.220 w slash mn he owes her a lifetime of resources it's her slavery shit power dynamic and coercion is code 1.00

04:32:10.460 talk for if i fucked him he owes me money if not he tricked me 1.00

04:32:14.380 wow that could be the nail on the head i don't know but you'd say you seem to disagree with this 0.98

04:32:21.420 that's why i'm trying to ask questions so you said it was selling the dream so like how

04:32:29.580 i'm just kind of done with this conversation

04:32:32.700 what i'm even another energy drink like why are you done with the conversation i'm literally like you're

04:32:39.420 sitting there back there bored when i'm not talking to you but when i am talking to you

04:32:44.780 i'm done with this kind of already explained it like intentionality like

04:32:49.340 okay but so what is an example of selling the dream

04:32:53.740 like if you do this this and this you'll be fulfilled like this like um like they're going

04:32:59.500 to tell you up front like my intention with you if you fulfill this then you're going to get this this

04:33:03.580 this and this and like and then not follow through and that's like obviously like the building of a

04:33:08.940 relationship like that's fine but to pray like go ahead finish your sentence go ahead finish your

04:33:16.220 sentence go ahead you were literally in the middle of a sentence and you stopped your sentence go ahead

04:33:24.540 i i need another energy oh my god okay here let me ask you a question 0.99

04:33:29.340 oh look boom he's got the fucking he's got the hookup boom there it is um okay 0.98

04:33:39.020 you guys sharing the energy drink or no i'm just helping thank you okay 0.99

04:33:45.420 okay selling the dream oh my god i have a question go ahead then i'll come back to her it's more

04:33:52.540 question for you um i was gonna ask like are you mostly talking about just like how it is very common

04:33:59.340 where older men go after younger women because they're were you know easily manipulated we're

04:34:07.900 very young we're very um erroneous erroneous that's not why i don't think that's why younger men go or

04:34:16.380 excuse me i don't think that's why younger or excuse me older men go for younger women could it could 0.80

04:34:21.100 it conceivably be that younger women are more physically attractive donated one hundred dollars 0.98

04:34:27.260 brian i'm afraid the girl in black has genital herpes and it's affecting her ability to 1.00

04:34:32.940 communicate we're gonna have to send in the nukes otherwise the plague might spread beyond california 0.99

04:34:38.940 really that's crazy jay butler is our he's a resident troll he's a uh he every single show 0.97

04:34:47.420 he brings up herpes so do not be offended what's the what's the name jay butler jay butler he every 0.88

04:34:55.980 single show he at the end of the show he's got to bring jay butler sounds like one of those dudes

04:35:01.100 that like lives in the desert and like taps to the freaking whatever podcast and sends money

04:35:06.220 because he's so bored he's a urologist well do go to work oh that's crazy

04:35:18.300 yeah we should have just put andrew tate over your bathing suit picture that would have been perfect

04:35:22.700 does andrew state face right there sure um okay so

04:35:32.380 what were you gonna say um that was kind of just like my point it's like i know like it's

04:35:36.620 it's happened to a lot of women in mind so myself included i was very um easily manipulated when i was

04:35:42.220 younger and i dated a guy who was like 23 24 and it was just wait how old were you and how old was

04:35:49.660 he i was like 19 and how old was he he was like 23 24 i don't object to that age no no i'm not saying

04:35:56.220 like those age ranges are bad as long as you're legal do it do whatever you want that's my position

04:36:01.100 at that age growing up before you turn 21 we don't know anything i still don't i'm 23 and i'm still

04:36:07.100 learning so many things i'm still setting up boundaries i'm still thinking my morals but it's

04:36:12.300 like at that young age and at you know do women mature faster than men like most women even out 1.00

04:36:19.580 of their own mouths will say oh these young men my own age are immature they're all just 0.99

04:36:23.660 fuck boys i guess i could say i thought that at that age i was very like 19 boys my age are so 0.99

04:36:30.060 immature yeah i was very like very mature goes both ways i feel like but okay then yeah i i can we can 0.99

04:36:36.380 actually well okay i mean um there's a i mean i but i i just want to because you said that it's

04:36:44.780 men are older men want to be with younger women because they're easier to manipulate 0.95

04:36:50.220 sometimes not all the time i object to that because i feel like we a lot of people always

04:36:55.180 want to pathologize men's preferences standards and boundaries if a man has a preference standard

04:37:00.620 to boundary it's somehow it's either criminal it's controlling it's insecure it's some sort

04:37:09.420 of negative thing nobody bats an eye for when a woman articulates her preferences standards and 1.00

04:37:14.780 boundaries but when a man does it's almost always like oh you again it's going to be pathologized to

04:37:21.820 the point of criminality like oh you must be if you're a 24 year old guy and you date a 19 year old

04:37:28.060 you're basically a p word like come on that's ridiculous no no no no but it's also just like

04:37:32.140 it's just but i i can give you i'm gonna give you i have a list here i'll give you some reasons why 0.97

04:37:37.020 perhaps a an uh older man might want to date a younger woman and keep in mind we're talking about

04:37:43.260 adult women here okay more physically attractive more emotionally available more romantic more energy 1.00

04:37:49.100 and optimistic about the future more time to to live life travel the world before starting a

04:37:53.980 family more fertile less baggage and trauma from past relationships more open to new ideas less

04:38:00.460 stuck in their ways stuck in a job city more agreeable easier to build a life with more grateful

04:38:06.460 and easily satisfied um less likelihood of having children or a psycho ex uh younger parents who could

04:38:14.860 be involved more in raising the children uh and then yeah that's pretty much it there's perhaps some

04:38:20.540 more but oh and no kids no kids usually if they're young yeah typically no kids so and that's a

04:38:28.060 preference i think both men and women like if you're a girl you don't want to date a guy who's got kids

04:38:33.100 that's totally valid the reverse is also valid too so how so i think just going back to you um

04:38:40.140 um how is it i'm trying to remember the exact thread how is it um

04:38:48.860 oh well this is the castic decay donated 99 dollars

04:38:53.020 oh this i was gonna say this dude yes makeup yes

04:38:58.060 cosmetic surgery push-up bras shaping attire selling a dream yes 0.56

04:39:05.420 one a hundred percent like you say that these men sell a dream but you guys sell a dream with your

04:39:12.460 beauty you guys use like he said makeup filters you'll do all kinds cosmetic surgeries you are

04:39:20.780 if if we can agree that men's primary attraction trigger is your physical beauty then if you're

04:39:27.340 wearing makeup and doing all those things that he listed you are basically selling a dream

04:39:31.580 have you had any cosmetic surgery um 0.58

04:39:41.260 yeah that's a yes what do you what lip filler you've had the the titties done 1.00

04:39:50.380 okay isn't that selling the dream you don't actually feel confident like i'm picky like i don't care 0.98

04:39:56.700 like that's just a personal preference what's a personal preference for myself to have fake titties 0.85

04:40:03.660 i think i look good like it's fine you don't want to hear my take on plastic surgery but um 0.96

04:40:14.060 anyways anyways but but okay selling a dream you're talking about men sell the dream but women 1.00

04:40:20.940 you yeah i see how you guys lie about your beauty well you wear like that's the thing of course you

04:40:27.900 are comes with like you wear makeup maybe you use filters maybe you've had other cosmetic procedures

04:40:34.300 lip filler no the lip filler in the past i've tried it once but no that goes away

04:40:39.740 i thought it lingers for a little bit even i don't know whatever um lip filler makeup filters

04:40:45.820 photoshop all these things good light well good lighting is kind of valid whatever but

04:40:52.220 posing specific poses couldn't you argue that this is selling men the dream yeah you can you can argue

04:40:57.900 that that's fine oh okay i you know what we should ban makeup that's fine i like myself natural too

04:41:05.100 okay based um okay so okay here you also said uh the whole sugar daddy thing often leaves a lot of

04:41:12.460 women traumatized is that kind of what you were getting into oh hold on grid one motorsports 1.00

04:41:17.980 donated 100 the copium is strong ignore the fact that women lie makeup slash surgery slash etc and

04:41:27.420 intentionally promise sex and love to sell men a dream they know they will never deliver stop lying to

04:41:33.260 yourself that's facts it's facts grid one motorsports raceway

04:41:53.180 so then i think i have a question um about like kind of this topic because i feel you know i i have the

04:42:01.100 bikini picture with my boyfriend on my instagram i have uh like uh the picture that my boyfriend

04:42:07.740 took of me and wanted me to show off you know um but how i guess how would i put this because i met my

04:42:17.100 boyfriend wearing what i'm wearing now and i would not consider what i'm wearing now like very provocative

04:42:25.020 you know the only thing i've got on my face is mascara and it's from yesterday just like things

04:42:30.300 like that um yeah what i guess my question is what do men find attractive about that because say like

04:42:40.780 my boyfriend he it's not a oh i don't want you to wear that because you know you're showing off your

04:42:49.660 body it's always like a you can wear that because i can fight you know type mentality but for me i'm

04:42:55.260 just this is what i'm comfortable in and he's okay with it but i still get that you know those people

04:43:03.740 that will look or those people that will make comments and then it's you know then people will

04:43:09.100 make the joke oh are you into boys because you know you're looking at her and she's fully clothed

04:43:14.540 but then it goes back to the well don't are men more attracted to traditional women because i'm

04:43:19.900 not saying that i'm necessarily traditional you know i've got tattoos all over my body it's very

04:43:24.220 you know they're out there people can see them but i do cover myself up i wear long sleeves most of the

04:43:31.900 time uh i i i'm very fond of pearl snaps cowboy hats wearing hats uh so then what would make that

04:43:39.100 more desirable for a man based on like say your bikini picture you know what i mean like it's just

04:43:43.900 very it's a very so what is the question exactly like what would make that more desirable and get

04:43:54.780 better attention better attention yes um so say on her on her photo maybe someone like posted was like

04:44:05.260 damn you're so hot i'll wear this and i'll have people tell me i'm hot is that just a different 0.82

04:44:13.900 i don't know i just that that part of it that aspect i don't understand how can we both get 0.99

04:44:22.860 that same attention potentially even from the same type of men or the same men um but then like i'm

04:44:30.860 also you know but then i'm told that i look like a boy and then she's told that she you know what i mean

04:44:35.820 is too provocative i feel like that goes into preference again you know like it's just a personal

04:44:44.220 preference

04:44:47.500 is this a statement or a question no that was a question what what's the difference between us

04:44:52.940 what would make you know like she said you probably already probably is preference what would make me

04:44:57.660 more desirable over her what would make her more desirable over me i mean it's kind of hard to say

04:45:04.220 but i i would some men are totally fine with their girl having provocative or super revealing photos on

04:45:15.260 on instagram um uh there's a lot of simps out there that i think also a lot of men don't realize

04:45:25.500 that they're allowed to have preferences standards and boundaries like i remember at least for me when

04:45:32.860 i was younger it never occurred to me i because i feel like and i got over this fairly quickly but to

04:45:39.580 some degree when i was younger you know i think a lot of men have this temptation to want to pedal

04:45:44.140 pedestalize women and we and because dating tends to be harder for men because it's hard because we

04:45:52.780 don't get generally speaking most men don't women don't initiate on men men have to have the burden

04:46:00.220 of initiation we don't get that sort of attention from women so you know if if you don't have at least 0.98

04:46:07.260 when you're young like a lot of options you don't you're not in a very strong negotiating position to be

04:46:13.980 like i don't want my girl to be you know if if you don't have optionality as a guy it's going to be

04:46:21.500 very hard well not necessarily but it's going to be harder for you to be able to dictate certain

04:46:28.620 terms in the relationship and to be able to really reinforce like reinforce standards preferences and

04:46:36.380 boundaries um now of course there are men who are like very laser focused on precisely what they want

04:46:42.860 and they're not gonna like play around with other chicks and they're just like okay i know exactly what 0.79

04:46:49.740 i want but i do think a lot of men feel like out of necessity they have to accept certain behavior

04:46:55.660 that they otherwise wouldn't because that to some degree beggars can't be choosers yeah um so

04:47:03.420 uh but look there's and i but i do think and men men have been suppressed because of feminism

04:47:10.940 to kind of do away with demanding modesty from women because if we do most men cannot be open and

04:47:20.060 honest with the current social climate because if we do we're going to be met with you're misogynist

04:47:25.500 you're controlling you're insecure blah blah blah you're sexist whatever it's going to be 0.95

04:47:32.140 in the current social climate if we do articulate hmm i'd prefer my girl to not be posting revealing

04:47:38.300 photos on instagram oh well you're just insecure you're controlling you don't get to say what i

04:47:45.660 get to wear blah blah it's going to be so a lot of men aren't going to be open and honest about

04:47:50.300 these preferences so yeah um okay but i do want to get back to you with the sugar daddy thing and

04:47:55.580 that we'll go around the whole table on this so you said that uh let's see

04:47:59.820 uh oh okay the whole sugar daddy thing often leaves a lot of women traumatized i was gonna ask how so 1.00

04:48:08.700 um i don't know i guess that depends on like

04:48:13.420 you know i guess um have you had a experience your own experience i don't want to talk about that but um

04:48:21.260 okay i just think there's been some documentaries recently that have come out that kind of give some

04:48:26.060 sugar babies sugar daddy's not necessarily that but like like i said like that's that's the

04:48:30.380 question though like okay so um which documentary are you referring the tinder swindler or is that

04:48:35.820 what you're talking about no i don't know about that one but okay um i don't know you can do research

04:48:41.100 um but okay well i don't have time to do it right now so that's why i'm leaning on you to try to assist

04:48:47.980 here just young women can fall prey like fall victims being naive like i've mentioned before i don't 1.00

04:48:55.100 really want to take you that's zero accountability you're taking no i completely understand how plenty

04:49:00.380 of women get in that situation but that's what i mean like coercion and like so i'm done having 0.98

04:49:05.820 this conversation and i would like to move on okay you literally provided this as a pre-show

04:49:13.820 we have not talked about sugar daddy this is literally i just brought it up

04:49:19.340 okay and look this is my podcast i'm going to if you like refuse to answer questions i suppose you

04:49:24.860 can but you're not going to dictate the pace and the discussion of this podcast if you don't want

04:49:31.260 to answer i obviously can't force you to answer but please don't tell me that about us moving on

04:49:37.180 because i'm gonna if look again you're just not going to answer questions that's fine

04:49:42.620 so okay can you at least tell me the what the documentary is it's about sugar daddy no not

04:49:47.340 necessarily but like surviving r kelly like stuff like that and what's that have to do with sugar

04:49:51.660 daddies okay that has nothing to do with sugar daddies you said the whole sugar daddy thing

04:49:56.540 often leaves you're like going off into the weeds here in this conversation often leaves a lot of

04:50:01.420 women traumatized i'm asking how so because there's plenty perhaps it might be the case but you're

04:50:06.780 taking agency and accountability away from women plenty of women join seeking arrangements and they're 0.71

04:50:12.940 like see they're actively it's not like they fall upon a sugar daddy they will join seeking to find

04:50:20.860 sugar daddies and it sounds like perhaps that was that you refused to say whether you had a sugar daddy

04:50:26.540 or not but i'm just saying is this off the table for you to talk about sugar daddies this seems like a pretty

04:50:35.340 tame conversation i would just caution young women to be careful of the situations they get themselves

04:50:41.820 in that's okay okay were you coerced into a sugar daddy situation i don't want to talk about that i've

04:50:49.100 already said that so i mean how long were you in it i don't want to talk about that and no it wasn't

04:50:56.140 like i was ever looking for that specific i mean it's going to be very hard to caution young women to

04:51:00.860 avoid these situations if you're not willing to be um forthcoming with your own experience but okay

04:51:08.060 fine you had a sugar daddy situation so that's that's what i mean like um like the coercion part

04:51:15.420 um like you could have intention for one thing and then they might and you like say that and that's

04:51:19.980 what i mean like they'll guise it like a facade can you be a bit more specific no i'll just leave it at

04:51:27.660 that because men have good intentions like i don't want to get personal like i don't you then

04:51:34.060 why did you put it in the question yeah i feel like it's just very contradicting the topic of like

04:51:40.620 you keep scooting your microphone please to the edge of the table women to be cautious like be 1.00

04:51:46.460 protected like be cautious yeah but i'm i'm trying to hear why i'm trying to hear you out i'm trying

04:51:52.540 to hear about your sugar daddy story no so perhaps this could be an example for young women why they

04:51:57.740 should not get involved in these sugar daddy dynamics

04:52:09.100 um you can watch like documentaries like surviving kelly or jeffrey epstein too like these were not that's

04:52:19.100 these are such outlier situations okay well when i think of a sugar daddy when i think of a sugar

04:52:24.060 daddy it's some dude who's like i'll pay you 400 bucks for some feet i'm not thinking like 0.94

04:52:31.100 r kelly's epstein shit like that's all i'm saying i'm not saying like it's like a were you on the 0.93

04:52:37.900 island did you go to the island did you go to the island i'm not going no i'm not going to talk about 0.98

04:52:43.180 that no so you were on the island i'm not going to he was on the island all right whatever bro okay

04:52:47.580 what about um have you ever had a sugar daddy i haven't no you haven't come on there's been a

04:52:53.100 guy who sent you 400 bucks for fee pics or some i mean i've had guys send me money for like lunch

04:52:57.900 is this a rage quit is it a rage quit you she's coming you coming back or okay all right what about

04:53:05.660 you oh sorry go ahead um all my subbies are my sugar daddies okay all right i like just want to follow

04:53:17.260 you now i'll give you a free oh no it's free it's free uh yeah we'll do it in a sec here um sugar daddy

04:53:26.620 ever had a sugar daddy going around the table have you had a sugar daddy no no no no i've been offered

04:53:33.260 money for feet pics but no uh really quick on this we have dg what role does technology play in your

04:53:39.340 match matchmaking service and how do you ensure personal touch is still present where is the

04:53:45.740 question i just read it i i'm sorry i just uh can you read it again please what role does technology

04:53:55.180 play in your matchmaking service and how do you ensure personal touch is still present oh um

04:54:00.140 um it's actually yeah a combination like we have platforms for people to meet like virtual speed

04:54:08.460 dating for example it's one of it's our platform of our service but uh all of the aspects of

04:54:14.940 relationships development they are done by the matchmakers by the coaches because just meeting

04:54:22.780 someone is not going to get you to the successful relationship that's where people get it uh really

04:54:27.820 confused like i'm going to meet my ideal person um just meeting someone is not going to get you to

04:54:33.500 the ideal relationship but all of the components of coaching adjusting yourself couples counseling um

04:54:41.260 you know kind of and peeling yourself like a cabbage opening up your heart and soul and connecting on

04:54:47.660 a deeper level that's what is going to get you to the successful relationship something that we will be

04:54:52.300 working with brian uh okay um okay all right uh okay we have zach jenkins here hold on um wait let me

04:55:08.220 just read this before i pull it up message you on uh okay fine um i'm out in central cali you instantly

04:55:15.340 caught my attention not making the mistake getting beat to the front of the line and miss a chance to get

04:55:19.980 to know you messaged to you on instagram i think this is directed towards you he's who proposed to

04:55:25.980 you he paid more money yes and it's this thank you zach jenkins here the uh 38 former marine this

04:55:34.380 guy thank you zach appreciate it thank you zach all right meet you on my dm uh okay um i had more

04:55:42.540 questions for her i have a few more notes here but uh let me bring it to um let's see oh i really

04:55:48.460 wanted to get into this here let me see here um uh oksana the story of irena and sean do you want

04:55:59.580 to share that i have it written down here but if you want to just yeah so it is uh one of my couples

04:56:04.220 and um so they met at uh my love tour so it is in person events uh that i put together so she flew

04:56:11.340 all the way from ukraine uh he is a former police officer and um uh firefighter so right from the

04:56:19.660 start i knew that they should be together it was like ideal couple uh but irena she felt different 0.76

04:56:26.700 um and so but he is he is a very typical traditional man and uh you know provider and he got the goal and

04:56:36.140 he went for it so uh she went back to ukraine he started writing her letters so she basically told

04:56:43.580 him like there is probably no future but he didn't quit so he started writing her letters every day at

04:56:49.900 uh i guess remember it's either eight or nine in the morning ukrainian time she was getting a letter for

04:56:55.740 from him with no answer he was getting no answer so for 25 days every day he was sending her a letter

04:57:04.060 and she was reading it and then on the day 26 he just didn't write anything and this is the first

04:57:10.220 time he got the letter back where is my letter and so he went to ukraine he proposed to her they're

04:57:17.500 married now the fantastic wonderful uh couple but just that aspect of someone not quitting when they

04:57:25.660 really want something grid one motorsports donated 100 i am spending this hundo to warn men of all ages

04:57:33.260 to not get involved with women who use them for fear wallets and do not pay of models and epstein did

04:57:39.180 not kill himself okay thank you grid one motorsports thank you uh yes that's uh can certainly be a red 0.53

04:57:48.620 flag if somebody was involved in uh sugaring or whatnot so move what i'm confused by the last part

04:57:58.220 continue with your story irena and sean yeah i mean it's it's just the talking about the man who just

04:58:09.500 didn't quit and still was going after someone he felt connection with yeah and so okay i you kind of

04:58:17.900 already told it but basically um they met at one of your events your love tour yeah uh he was really into

04:58:26.620 her she wasn't really into him uh well there was uh lots of things that they would have not lots of

04:58:34.220 several things that they would have to work through in order for their relationship to be absolutely

04:58:39.260 successful uh now irena is telling everyone that you know when oksana tells you that is the one you

04:58:47.020 know just listen to her it's just kind of will make things easier but in your pre-show notes here you

04:58:52.860 said that sean was in love she didn't feel so um she was visiting the usa she went back to ukraine

04:58:59.980 yes without giving him a chance to develop a relationship uh sean who's a traditional man

04:59:04.940 he started writing her letters yeah 9 a.m every single day uh she would receive them in ukraine

04:59:11.580 uh would receive a letter day after day 25 days in a row writing a full letter i'll continue in just a

04:59:18.860 second one hundred dollars redhead asked for talking points from her feminist professor then 1.00

04:59:24.620 forgot to study

04:59:28.700 what thank you nickelodeon appreciate thank you thank you um so okay 26 days uh there was oh

04:59:38.140 she didn't she didn't answer 25 days in a row she never answered him day number 26 when he stopped

04:59:44.700 he didn't send her a letter and she was checking her messages 9 a.m 9 15 that is the story they

04:59:52.220 already told me later sure and then she wrote back where is my letter yep where is my letter yep two

04:59:58.460 months later they were married and they have been married now for six happy years oh wow and you say

05:00:03.660 that's the most romantic story of a man who never gives up well it is i have lots and lots of stories i

05:00:09.900 mean thousands of stories it's just something that uh they're my neighbors they live not far away from

05:00:15.100 me and i just uh we're always you know communicating and just and you also wrote um she's now saying

05:00:21.980 this is the best man in the world and this is the happiest marriage of hers because she had two

05:00:26.620 marriages before that yeah i'm gonna i gotta push back a little bit on this story

05:00:31.900 she clearly was not into him okay i think that's almost stalker it is not about not into him there's

05:00:41.420 things that they didn't respond to work through she didn't respond uh that's the difference of um

05:00:47.180 uh cultural differences you know just we eastern european women they have to be like heavily pursued 1.00

05:00:54.860 disavow disavow it might be true but i'm but it is very much against it uh well yeah very much

05:01:00.780 against this is where it is a little bit higher with the uh with american dating because here uh

05:01:06.220 men are waiting for the woman to give them a signal that it is okay basically no i mean for him to take 0.99

05:01:10.860 not necessarily but like 25 fucking messages in a day without a response because see that's coming 0.97

05:01:17.580 into the territory i think that's playing a game now it is not a game it's a game about his security you 0.99

05:01:23.820 know self-confidence he wanted this lady he took her i think it i mean and this is happy marriage

05:01:32.460 that's fine it might have worked out but i feel like it can and not to play the outlier card because

05:01:37.980 i think this can if this is the social let's put in the feedback well let me just finish let me just

05:01:44.300 finish if this is the social climate the dating climate i do think if like we are teaching like 0.59

05:01:51.580 bro if the girl's not into you like take a fucking hint move on um it does kind of encourage stalking 1.00

05:01:57.580 behavior i think uh that's not good for men that's not good for women like if a girl if i if i was not 0.99

05:02:05.500 responding to a girl for 25 days and she incessantly continued she didn't i would think she's a stalker

05:02:12.700 she didn't tell you no she was just there's more than one way to say no okay well he's he was

05:02:19.260 getting a certain feedback that she wasn't responding yeah but he was getting proud it's

05:02:23.900 the feedback worked out from me from time to time and that he yeah she was opening up it would just

05:02:31.020 take her a little bit she didn't respond to he would write full letters she didn't respond for 25 days

05:02:38.460 if this couple would follow what you are preaching they would not be together and they would not be

05:02:43.580 happy he he might have found a woman who was more oh she's in love with him oh my god this woman she

05:02:49.820 is like you know he is on the pedestal he she should have been in love with him from the get-go love

05:02:56.460 maybe not love but she should have at least reciprocated shown some degree of interest my personal

05:03:01.820 view is like oh she did show him a degree of interest let me say this if you play hard to get

05:03:07.340 you very quickly become hard to want that's my view if a girl is playing this hard to get 1.00

05:03:13.500 bullshit it is not she was not playing hard to get uh there were things that they would have to work 0.81

05:03:20.540 through to build that happy he sent her 25 letters and she did look it's great for them that they're 0.97

05:03:29.100 married and it worked for them that's cool however speaking in generalities i would argue that if you

05:03:35.340 are dealing with whether you're a man or a woman and you're like doing all this and they're not even

05:03:41.180 like they can't even give you a response whether you're a man or a woman move on because you can

05:03:48.060 invest your time and energy so much better in somebody who will match and reciprocate and and actually

05:03:54.620 she was a keeper for him that's hey it worked out you know what there's outliers sometimes things can

05:04:00.300 work out generally speaking though i would argue that it's it's it's much better to just if somebody

05:04:07.100 isn't giving you the same like you just move on your idea of general and my idea of general i mean i have

05:04:15.820 a record of 30 years i mean uh to to prove that my idea works okay because couples that i do put together

05:04:23.820 seems a bit they are together seems a bit simpish i don't know happy but like it's such an l like i

05:04:30.940 and i do hear these stories even in the west of like men who are like yeah she rejected me five times

05:04:37.500 and then um you know she finally came around and you know what's more gangster she 1.00

05:04:44.060 fucking maybe not loved but she was so fucking into me immediately that's way better than oh i had to 1.00

05:04:51.740 convince her and she rejected me five times and oh but i was persistent no i think persistent can 0.98

05:04:59.100 look not always but like i think it's just especially in the current social climate with

05:05:05.100 women exposed like bro persistence is gone if she says like if a girl rejects you it's over it is done 1.00

05:05:13.580 there is no if you have to make the conclusions yourself without any help i understand how frustrating

05:05:19.180 that would be for you because you wouldn't know what's going on in her head now in my situation

05:05:23.900 i am the person who is helping the guys to understand what is going on in her head because

05:05:29.340 they do share with me woman to women connection number one is sean underscore from underscore la donated

05:05:35.980 one hundred dollars asked my wife to go on a date in september she said maybe next year 0.94

05:05:42.540 maybe every week and she said the same our first date was jan 6th we're married five years with two

05:05:50.860 kids now sean that's fantastic good for you it worked however however if you're fine with that that

05:05:59.660 that's cool i never want to be my view is attraction cannot be negotiated she either likes me or she 0.98

05:06:08.460 doesn't if she doesn't like me goodbye it is not about attraction it is not about a girl who says

05:06:15.020 maybe next year if you ask her on a date in september that's a very in my view that's demonstrating a

05:06:21.660 very low level of interest for me i don't chase it is not the worst it is the actions that don't chase

05:06:28.380 actions maybe were completely different otherwise he would not be reading her message that she wants him

05:06:34.620 in her life i don't know words is the one thing actions is totally different i and especially in

05:06:39.740 our culture sure there's and i can't speak to how it is and you said what slavic countries

05:06:46.780 my own advice for men you don't chase low interest women like you never know if they're low interest

05:06:56.460 uh or they just want actions you know to see that probably this hi i like you would you like to go on

05:07:03.580 a date no okay goodbye no no no it doesn't there is no once a girl turns you down look maybe you can

05:07:10.460 be like you can say something witty you know if you ask her on a date be like you know you can maybe

05:07:15.420 make a joke crack a joke give it one other chance maybe but if a girl says no like i okay cool you 0.78

05:07:21.740 don't i don't deal with low interest women i don't play games like this i don't want to play games 1.00

05:07:27.980 with the girl it depends on if the girl i like you do you like me cool let's hang out there is no

05:07:33.740 i'm not gonna play this like why don't you ask the ladies if they would want to be like pursued by the 1.00

05:07:38.700 man and courted uh any girl who's had a stalker will it is my stalker no it's when it is normal

05:07:45.260 guy but he's showing with his actions that he is ready to uh if a guy is attractive enough

05:07:52.780 for a girl to want to be for for a girl to want that guy to be persistent she will already have 1.00

05:07:59.420 deemed him attractive and want to date him there will be no need for his persistence that's my view

05:08:04.860 but you said you want to go around the table on this let's go around the table if you tell a guy no

05:08:09.420 is it can he i don't know how to frame the question i think if he asks a few times sure but when it

05:08:15.420 becomes more than that it's kind of annoying okay what about you um i'm not going to knock

05:08:22.220 persistence but yeah like she said if after like a few times a no is a no like get the hint otherwise

05:08:30.300 like communicate why it's a no and then like if it's still a no like leave it at that okay what about

05:08:37.260 you i'm kind of on like both sides because i've had like stalkers and then i've had guys who are

05:08:43.340 like super persistent no but like that's why he was giving like oh that's stalker vibes but like

05:08:49.340 i've definitely had like an actual stalker and then i've had like guys who were super persistent and

05:08:53.820 no matter how attractive they are they could be like they can break the charts but i'm still probably

05:08:59.260 gonna be like i don't know maybe maybe i don't know look uh it is that some women like persistence 1.00

05:09:06.140 i just generally from a purely time-saving point of view there's plenty of fish in the sea if she's not

05:09:15.340 down for you there's another woman woman who will be it's not worth your time wasting 1.00

05:09:20.220 like i don't know i i try to come at it from an abundance perspective i don't have i don't view women

05:09:27.100 like from a scarcity frame where i'm like oh no if it doesn't work with her like i don't believe in 0.78

05:09:31.500 the one i don't believe in any of that shit granted there are some fantastic women out there that 1.00

05:09:36.220 you know you should make a best effort at trying to get her but if it's a no-go goodbye 0.98

05:09:42.460 peace peace out dog hold on i'll be like this hold up i'll be like peace out peace out you too homie

05:09:50.540 you too homie um but if she says one thing but her actions speak different like i don't like 0.79

05:09:56.940 that either i don't like that either though because it takes actions from you but you like

05:10:03.580 low efforts you know you say i like high effort from women oh exactly that's how it should be that 0.97

05:10:10.700 it should be low come bow for me exactly exactly that's how it works for you show me the bow it's

05:10:17.100 actually much harder uh to be the woman for the relationship that it is for a man to be a man for

05:10:22.620 their relationship i have what i'm confused by that statement uh the way women carry their 1.00

05:10:28.540 relationship and the way they um help their man to be like the best behind every successful man there 0.84

05:10:37.580 is a wise woman right you heard that saying tim cook is gay just saying you okay you take most of 0.98

05:10:44.380 the guys behind every successful there is a wise woman there's a gay man 0.97

05:10:52.380 tim cook it is okay but the majority i don't know where i'm going with that one in majority so fine

05:10:58.380 but for the woman to have that knowledge and energy to make her help men grow i don't disagree with you

05:11:08.860 the core for all of the kids sure to take care of the household to like it is actually a lot of

05:11:15.980 work for the woman but it's well worth it absolutely absolutely i don't i just look i

05:11:20.860 don't like this game thing if i like a girl and she likes me it should be as easy as that brian

05:11:27.340 you're right i do not give my time money or whatever else to somebody who won't or does not

05:11:33.420 seem to want to make time for me period paragraph end of story i'm too important for that because

05:11:41.500 because look again there's definitely like in the couple scenarios there's that guy who chimed in with

05:11:47.340 the the chat um absolutely persistence like can it ultimately lead can the woman see you in the new

05:11:55.100 light sure but like a lot of guys have also had the experience of we get a girl's number we text her

05:12:02.060 and like oh are you free this friday and she's like oh i don't know maybe i'll let you know

05:12:07.980 and it's like that it first off i would argue and i think a lot of girls at this table would agree

05:12:14.140 because i think a lot of women are not going to be upfront about like just wanting to outright reject

05:12:18.780 a guy and there's a few few ways that might manifest for example she might be interested in him but 0.96

05:12:24.620 she's also got a couple other other options on the table so she doesn't necessarily want to commit to

05:12:30.380 him for to go on that date or whatever but it's certainly the case like if a girl gives me the

05:12:38.140 maybe i don't know we'll see

05:12:42.140 ghosted you're done i'm not texting you anymore so you're talking about no but that's not an extreme

05:12:47.500 that's not it's not an extreme it's if it frequently happens to men that if you get a girl's number and

05:12:53.820 you're like hey i'd love to meet you for uh dinner friday 7 p.m she'll be like oh i especially uh i

05:13:02.700 feel like older women are a bit more mature and they'll actually typically avoid giving you and be 1.00

05:13:08.380 not always the case so i've actually encountered a lot of like professional women who are established 1.00

05:13:13.420 in their career late 20s early 30s who will give you this vague ambiguous shit where you don't know where 0.74

05:13:19.260 you stand but definitely when i was in college a lot of women be like oh i don't know i i i got a 1.00

05:13:25.260 test coming up i'll let you know or i like and i'm like i've made the mistake of like following up oh

05:13:32.620 okay well what about next week uh maybe it's like bro she's not interested she's not interested goodbye

05:13:38.380 and say okay you have tests coming up can i help you with something can we study together i mean not 0.87

05:13:43.020 about just that's some shit it's not no if a girl is if a girl is really down for you if she really 0.98

05:13:50.300 likes you she will make time for you she will make time for you a girl who says maybe i i'll let you know 0.99

05:13:57.980 goodbye and she was making time for him she read every letter over and over and over

05:14:03.180 yeah she didn't respond though she didn't respond yeah but she was and she almost lost the letter

05:14:08.700 she didn't lose the guy all i'll say is this all the time he spent on this one girl he could have

05:14:13.260 been pursuing other women getting other leads they are very happy together super happy i see these

05:14:20.780 like stories these like marriage stories of like oh yeah like they're they're doing the toasts or

05:14:26.780 whatever at the what's it called the um reception or whatever and like yeah he i didn't like him at

05:14:35.020 first that's such a fucking disrespectful like uh look well let me just about guys guys also said 0.90

05:14:45.740 like this oh i just wanted to date her just i didn't consider her seriously but then i fell in 0.96

05:14:52.220 in love with her i saw how good she is or something but firstly initially i just her sorry just like right

05:15:00.460 like obviously obviously like you know yeah i've heard a lot of stories and from my friends and

05:15:08.620 no no no i'm not serious about her i'm just there's there's a difference though obviously like love is

05:15:13.580 something that needs to to grow and develop and having these feelings towards a partner you're not

05:15:19.340 instantly going to like be in love with somebody i suppose some people do but you're not instantly going

05:15:25.500 to have like it takes time to develop those strong feelings in that bond but what i'm talking about

05:15:31.100 is a girl who like rejected the guy rejects the guy turns them down she did not reject there is

05:15:37.260 not 100 his letters no that's no i'm not talking about her specifically but in general

05:15:43.020 you hear these stories of like oh no i turned him down like blah blah blah three times and then like

05:15:47.820 oh i finally no man i that's not that's not the kind of relationship that i want with a girl

05:15:53.660 i want her to be down for me from the get-go and she gives you the signals she is giving you the 0.99

05:15:59.340 signals that you are welcome into her life okay i just just gives you the opportunity to uh to put

05:16:07.340 this stand like i think she settled i think she settled he pedestalized her she didn't even respond

05:16:12.380 to him 25 letters that's ridiculous if a girl didn't respond to me after four text messages if you 1.00

05:16:18.940 would have met that couple you would have changed your mind completely they they weren't a couple

05:16:23.500 though it didn't sound like you would have met them now because everybody's looking at them like

05:16:27.980 i want that husband that type of man look i it happened it happened for them but generally speaking

05:16:34.380 my advice to men is just find a high a woman with high interest it's not that much to ask i think uh so i

05:16:41.020 don't know um can i say something yeah go ahead i need to get up for a sec if you guys want to talk 0.86

05:16:45.340 shit about me okay finally um well i've like had experiences too where like i just saw a guy as a 0.57

05:16:52.460 friend and like i didn't like see him romantically i wasn't like initially like attracted to him and 0.78

05:16:59.260 then as he showed more interest and he you know was like hey like like i got you this i know you're

05:17:04.700 having a bad day like i got you this specific thing that you said that you liked one time and then

05:17:09.420 i was like oh wait like maybe like he would be a good partner and then like with this specific guy

05:17:15.580 like i ended up like he was the closest to love i ever was and i didn't even find him attractive at

05:17:21.020 the beginning so through his actions oh yeah here that's what he displayed to you that you matter yes

05:17:28.460 and it means like uh if men as brian says we're talking about you brian

05:17:35.820 yeah yeah it's like lucky me yeah if uh if a guy um of course there are stalkers there are bad

05:17:43.580 situations from men and women of course but you know if a guy don't want to put any efforts to show

05:17:52.060 because you know women fall in love faster we attach faster for guy if he doesn't show any actions

05:18:02.220 any affections any uh you know steps doesn't take he will not fall in love it it will be your

05:18:09.820 situationship that might be somehow will evolve to relationship but actually you will feel that

05:18:16.860 you're in a relationship but guy is not committed so that's why of course you need to consider but

05:18:23.820 in our also culture if a man shows and act and he can it's very romantic stories you know just and it

05:18:33.340 exists but a woman does quite a bit in the relationship it's absolutely must that you know the behavior of the 0.99

05:18:39.740 man always um reflects what the yeah and also a woman is the one who actually makes men act a certain 0.58

05:18:47.420 way yeah right and also here in uh western culture what i've heard um like european american culture

05:18:56.620 men don't take actions uh for many reasons and that's why they getting used to women taking actions 1.00

05:19:05.260 instead of them and then they ended up waiting for the first steps from women like and saying why 0.99

05:19:13.180 she doesn't text me for example in my head man who has prior role to text me just to show his interest

05:19:21.900 to me and like yeah well it's the whole thing about pursuing and like yeah men it's built into their

05:19:29.820 nature to be a pursuer to pursue exactly the woman that's how they're getting attached every animal

05:19:35.740 you ever see like it's just it's nature for the male to seek out to mate these females like and that's

05:19:44.940 just how it is that's just how god made us yeah well even from personal experience with the man i'm with

05:19:51.260 right now like i am head over heels for this guy um and like i said in the beginning we had gone on a

05:19:59.020 tinder date and after that i had just i'd never been on a date dating a web or app before i'd never gone

05:20:06.060 on a date off online and i psyched myself out i was like i don't know anything about him i can't do this

05:20:12.540 just deleted tinder didn't hear from him anything we didn't have any any connection we saw each other at

05:20:19.020 a gas station six months later he had totally cut his hair changed he i mean we both didn't look

05:20:25.420 anything like we had when we first met i had my hair down to my butt i had chopped it off completely

05:20:31.660 and he just walked up to me he said you look like my future wife and i said you look like a man whose

05:20:36.540 number i should get i went to his house and we were like you're the tinder date like both of us were like

05:20:42.940 like you're that that person you know what i mean like his and it was his mom who remembered me his

05:20:49.340 mom was like oh you've been here before you're the you're the girl that ghosted my son i was like

05:20:55.420 i guess you could put it that way you know but so i totally i do i agree with that it's where

05:21:02.060 it just was an awkward time for both of us i was not comfortable with you know meeting on it on tinder

05:21:07.500 whatever and then it was like we got to re-meet each other and re get to know each other and it was

05:21:12.860 it was definitely super super cool yeah and to have a chance to see each other and yeah you know brian

05:21:19.420 mentioned that oh he wrote 25 letters it's what a effort yeah of course it take time it takes time to

05:21:28.220 write emails we consider it we will not underestimate it of course but if just writing emails yeah just super

05:21:36.060 high efforts that men can't can't put yeah into relationship why to consider what he will do more

05:21:44.780 yeah when we will be together there will be more efforts needed you know yeah i so writing a letter

05:21:51.820 it's an action but like it's not yeah but he was i'm sorry i was just saying that i agree with them

05:21:59.980 because any time in the past where i've tried to be the push pursuer it has not turned out well yeah

05:22:07.900 it never turns out well well there is of course elements of like stalkers who people who are sick

05:22:14.700 yeah we're not talking about those we're talking about um men who are not afraid to take actions and

05:22:22.060 women who are absolutely supporting them and patronizing them for what they are doing you know and they are 1.00

05:22:28.380 grateful to men for taking those actions so we're talking about perfect balance right perfect

05:22:35.740 got a question for you here you said how women have to be coached and changed in order for relationships 0.99

05:22:42.380 to be successful it is always a woman who is in the center and core of the man's behavior actions feelings 1.00

05:22:49.740 excuse me um financial growth or all opposite it is a woman who can either create a man or break a man 1.00

05:22:58.140 everything starts with the woman yes it is hard very hard to be a woman for a right relationship

05:23:03.660 that would be successful but that hard work is absolutely worth the full effort and commitment

05:23:10.460 um so my question to you is if and if you want to add anything on that how do women have to be coached 0.99

05:23:15.180 and changed and changed how so so uh first of all i mentioned before that feminism is definitely killing 1.00

05:23:20.940 men uh and this is the result of what is happening around us men are just uh afraid to take actions

05:23:27.340 or whatever they would be sitting and waiting or whatever so uh a woman is the one who um 1.00

05:23:35.180 the way she will put herself with uh with romance she can either build him or she can crush him 0.99

05:23:42.620 so the crushing parts are nagging you're never enough you didn't throw out all the garbage you

05:23:49.420 didn't make enough money or i am uh making more money than you or whatever that is crushing men and so

05:23:56.700 eventually what is going to happen with them uh with this type of attitude uh men is because they need

05:24:03.740 that positive energy they need like that fresh air that's what woman is to men she is fresh air so men if 1.00

05:24:10.540 they're not getting this at home they're going to either go outside try to find it in the way of

05:24:16.060 lovers you know so they will try to get that freshness in somebody who actually recognizes them and believes

05:24:22.060 in them and so on um or his behavior is going to get all screwed up so he might become violent because he

05:24:30.060 needs to prove that he is a man somehow um he needs to like because he needs to feel that he matters

05:24:36.860 now the right attitude of the woman with the man is uh she is supportive uh she believes in him uh she

05:24:46.220 um uh doesn't even matter if she makes more money than him she will never throw it in his face 1.00

05:24:51.420 uh but she will uh believe in her man to achieve whatever uh you know he is the voice provider

05:24:59.100 grid one motorsports donated 100 chasing after a woman in the u.s is a great way to catch a case

05:25:07.020 and a better way to ruin a young man's life women changed the rules now they have to live with it 1.00

05:25:12.620 and put in effort or invest in meow mix so we are not one of the young

05:25:18.300 i had a little bit of i had a little bit of chocolate um we can if you want uh we can't do

05:25:38.940 it during the show just because the boat definitely after the show we'll yeah thank you that was very

05:25:43.020 nice of you by the way to make some uh some cake um thank you grid one motorsports thank you um did

05:25:48.140 you want to finish off yeah so uh the woman she is the one who is the core of how man acts behaves how 0.99

05:25:57.420 he feels even like with the right woman uh man's manhood will go up his finances will go up he is uh

05:26:06.060 absolutely believe and self-esteem and everything is really starts with a woman so when woman

05:26:13.180 sort of not really but when woman uh invests all that in the family kids her man then man typically 1.00

05:26:21.580 like normal man right they would want to because their self-esteem is higher they start making more

05:26:26.620 money they believe in themselves who they will bring all of those gifts and achievement to they will bring

05:26:32.140 it to their woman so that is because they know that this is where he is recognized this is where he's

05:26:39.100 appreciated this is where he is respected this is where he is loved this is where he is um you know

05:26:46.060 he is valued so but this is like a natural course this is how a relationship supposed to be like so yeah

05:26:52.540 it starts with the woman and uh in many cases right now uh because women can make money and everything they 1.00

05:27:01.020 think that this is the strength in reality strength of the woman is in her wisdom she can make all whatever

05:27:07.420 she wants but there has to be like two different women woman of business she is a boss there she 1.00

05:27:12.060 was there she kicks ass yeah woman relationship is woman who believes in her man okay all right uh 0.70

05:27:20.620 i have a couple i think i got some notes for you then i got one or two more questions and i think we'll 0.79

05:27:26.060 wrap up fairly soon so let me see uh you in your pre-show messages to us said as i just moved to the usa

05:27:34.060 i would love to share about my dating experience with american men and i think you hold on let me

05:27:39.260 skip over the parts that you've already said um uh i had a date with a 10 years younger guy he was

05:27:47.420 involved uh he had social services oh you yeah did you tell this sorry i told this no it's fine i told

05:27:55.260 the story but i i didn't mention the ages so okay he was 10 years younger yeah brought his laptop on a

05:28:01.420 date gave you help with uh providing information groceries after that he offered his time for

05:28:09.420 anything i needed i don't have a car yet as i just arrived to the country three months ago so we went

05:28:13.900 for grocery shopping guess what he paid for my groceries even though i was going to pay on my own

05:28:19.820 uh was that have you seen him again or was that a one time yet it was one time and i was thinking like

05:28:26.140 we have 10 years difference you know um it's kind of significant yeah he's 10 years younger you're 36

05:28:33.980 he was 26 26 yes yes yes but he's an amazing guy i was like wow i told him like a bunch of times and

05:28:41.500 we're still in contact so if someone if someone uh would love to meet this beautiful guy amazing guy wait

05:28:49.420 so did he want to go on a second date with you or what happened we texted we texted to him and uh i told him

05:28:55.260 that we can be only friends because i honestly told him because of age difference oh wow hold on yeah

05:29:04.780 wait so you friend zoned him i told him openly i don't say did you tell him this before he

05:29:14.940 um no i didn't tell you the groceries no no no that's his job wait wait wait wait wait wait no

05:29:20.860 that's what he does for work he's a refugee no uh he i thought this was a date no you said you

05:29:27.260 had a date you had a date yeah it was a date it was a date absolutely so he you don't have a car

05:29:32.940 he said i exactly he offered his time anything you needed yeah he you went gross was the grocery

05:29:39.660 shopping was that the first date yes exactly he paid for your groceries um

05:29:44.060 um he did bunch of nice stuff that man like wants to do or he wanted and i appreciated it

05:29:54.460 and we talked with him and we talked several times with him and we are going probably to meet uh to his

05:30:01.740 church but i honestly uh i talked to him and told him that we can be only friends if for example if he

05:30:09.180 would uh invited me because grocery was involved i know that it was triggering you but i'm sure i'm

05:30:15.500 sure i was going to pay for it herself it's fine it's first it's it's kind of first thing and the

05:30:23.420 second thing it might be only dinner for example right we could only eat with him and after that

05:30:29.900 dinner i could say okay we can be only friends or as a lot of women do they ghost guys or for example 0.58

05:30:37.580 like this like this i don't do this i seriously and very openly give a feedback i have a question

05:30:43.260 for you so the first part of the date did you guys meet for coffee coffee just coffee so how soon into

05:30:51.100 the date did you know like just friends i don't know i never uh conclude this until after the date no

05:31:01.020 until sometimes it uh for example in my kind of life uh usually it was like um i always give people

05:31:09.660 chance for example even if uh it wasn't my serious relationships for example uh we met several times

05:31:17.100 i always meet some people like maybe three times something like that and then i can understand uh do i

05:31:24.380 want just to go with them just sure but so you went on one singular date with him yeah he said he'd

05:31:30.860 offer his time for anything you needed yeah on the first date went grocery shopping for you paid for

05:31:37.340 your groceries i don't know maybe that was what 50 100 bucks or something yeah sure he offered it

05:31:41.420 all to get friend zoned exactly you can you can go this is not even in the heart

05:31:52.540 10 years younger wait wait see this buddy what's his name what's his name social services worker

05:31:59.180 what's your name buddy you see this buddy take the red pill take the red pill dude you first date you 0.99

05:32:05.500 paid for groceries bro that's some sim shit you pay for a dinner and it never goes anywhere what 0.97

05:32:11.580 which is the difference but she's gonna introduce him to somebody who actually age suitable for him 0.86

05:32:16.060 and somebody because she actually playing the long game no no so then i have a question for you did you

05:32:22.300 ever feel like you couldn't be in a relationship with him because like you said he helps like refugees or

05:32:29.660 like that that type of thing you said right he's kind of in charge of helping with that and like

05:32:34.860 he he told me that when we met for a coffee he told me that oh you know i'm helping refugees oh

05:32:42.300 into the mic please ah yes yes he told me oh you know i'm open uh i'm helping to the refugees i'm

05:32:48.300 going from my work and i can open and show you what what's going on yeah yes did that ever like

05:32:54.220 make you feel during that date like like what like am i just someone he needs to help like because

05:33:00.780 i know even for me i might be like kind of like oh that's what you do for work no you know i appreciate

05:33:06.300 every nice actions of all the people i meet in life you know when people want to do something uh nice

05:33:14.060 in any ways yeah i always wow thank you i'm very appreciative and in this case he said you know i know

05:33:22.380 maybe what you need and he took off he took out his laptop so it doesn't take him brian it could be

05:33:29.820 only a dinner in the restaurant and people would never see each other so grocery doesn't play 0.93

05:33:34.780 anything it was cheaper than even exactly so you said 41 right 41 dollars so it doesn't count it

05:33:41.820 groceries yeah that is more appreciated by her then you don't take into a restaurant because he got

05:33:49.500 even if her restaurant's more expensive though i feel like she's eating the meal right there in

05:33:54.140 front of him like it's a shared experience whereas if you're just getting groceries it's like here's

05:33:58.700 something that you can benefit from down the road like in any case you friend zoned him he bought you

05:34:05.420 groceries that's a big l yo i want to pull up the chat nick yo chat i want to hear the chat's thoughts

05:34:10.540 is it an l is it an l for the dude to have bought her groceries

05:34:17.740 i think it's an l what is it it's an it's an l even if you continue dating him even if you were

05:34:25.580 even if you were still dating him i think it's still an l to pay for groceries on the first date

05:34:31.580 is it still an l chat l in the chat absolutely now in your point of view brian somewhere back days paying

05:34:39.580 for a dinner the whole dinner was a loose probably i think but now you're paying for a dinner so the guy

05:34:45.420 basically paid for a dinner oh i don't do dinner dates really anymore it depends like but here's

05:34:51.020 the thing you date huh no no but like look here's the thing right like i'm with the right girl i'm

05:34:57.740 prepared to you know yeah to you know i'll handle every i'll take care of everything with the right

05:35:04.380 girl will you get her groceries no because you know some people just very kind and they when they

05:35:10.460 see someone they want to help like if a girl seems like it's in his nature yes i'm i'm myself

05:35:16.060 you know like that i go and helping someone he seemed to be a man who can do something i'll tell

05:35:23.500 you this though when it comes to the chase and all this stuff right i'll tell you this if a girl like

05:35:27.740 let's say she lives in florida or somewhere she lives uh you know somewhere okay she lives in florida 0.79

05:35:34.380 and she demonstrates a very very very high level of interest in me like a girl who shows

05:35:39.900 high level of interest who meets my certain some of my criteria whatever then yeah i'll 0.54

05:35:45.500 shit i'll fly you out what's up i'll fly you out what's up i'll pay for the i'll pay for the date 0.97

05:35:52.060 right but but but if i match with some chick on a dating app and she's probably talking to a bunch 1.00

05:35:59.100 of other dudes i don't i haven't been been able to really vet her that well whatever

05:36:05.020 we can go but it's your choice yeah but it's your choice it's a walk date for you but some other

05:36:10.700 people choosing different things you know the grocery i just think it's i think it's an l to i

05:36:15.740 think good for you but good for you you got some groceries let's go he put there like a really good

05:36:22.300 energy out there and it will come back she friend zoned him despite the fact that what is a friend

05:36:28.860 zone they're still just friends but she's gonna help him to meet somebody who is more age appropriate

05:36:34.860 for him and you know well why go on the date but you why did you go on the date to begin with because

05:36:39.660 i'm very open and he is a tall handsome uh smart guy we talked just uh several times before and i said

05:36:48.940 why no maybe we need to meet i felt really that we have a little in common our uh we go to church

05:36:55.580 for example boss he is a very kind he takes care takes care about his mother for example he told me

05:37:02.380 handsome good-looking provider takes care of his grandma yep yep so why didn't you go for this

05:37:11.260 you know sometimes chemistry or something like that you know of course age gap chemistry so you

05:37:19.180 know and i felt that you just don't think about those things when you're meeting someone and then

05:37:22.940 you're thinking okay 10 years down the road i'm gonna be 46 he's gonna be 36 i'm gonna be an old woman

05:37:29.100 for him you know and i don't want to take the time of a person by trying to meet them again again take

05:37:36.060 advantage probably i saw that he's very kind he may might be helpful and help and again again again

05:37:42.140 so it was inviting me to be clear to be clear yep this is such a red pill you friend zoned you friend

05:37:49.660 zoned a handsome tall good guy who said he was prepared to do anything for you who i sounded maybe

05:37:57.900 he was going to drive you around i don't know who bought you groceries on the first date who was he

05:38:03.340 pleasant on the day was he yes absolutely we talked afterward and you know brian sometimes sometimes

05:38:09.740 give me this red pill because i feel i'm nice i'm nice i'm kind but sometimes guys

05:38:15.260 also don't fall in love with me you know brian and says okay i feel like your friend and i'm like what

05:38:22.140 why but it's like it's life you know it happens it happens and what we can do in this situation is to be

05:38:29.180 honest i would go to a to war for a woman who was attractive short i'm just reversing 1.00

05:38:38.780 would you write her 25 letters i'm reversing the well i would she bought if a girl bought 0.73

05:38:43.980 me groceries bro what's up girl i'm you're mine i can buy you i have food stamps let's go

05:38:49.580 tomorrow tomorrow this will be under the record the on donated 100 why didn't you make him dinner

05:39:02.220 with those groceries melania from this chick's already lost to the western feminists thank you 1.00

05:39:09.020 thank you very much for these compliments maybe i will make him dinner because we still stay in touch

05:39:15.660 you know the point i'm trying to make is that because earlier in the conversation like when

05:39:19.740 we were talking about the you okay nick um earlier in the conversation when you're saying when we were

05:39:25.580 talking about the guy who wrote the 25 letters and like men shouldn't do these romantic gestures

05:39:30.300 here you have a guy who you admit was good looking tall pleasant good personality it sounded like

05:39:36.540 uh cared about his parents cared about family uh was prepared to like be a provider

05:39:41.340 uh went on the first date to buy you groceries which like that's super wholesome i don't know um

05:39:48.460 super cool is it any wonder why men are pulling back and hesitant to do some of these romantic

05:39:58.460 gestures when your friend zoned the dude that did all those nice things so in my head i'm like 0.97

05:40:05.100 like i could do all that shit or or hold on i could just be like come over to my place babe what's up 0.96

05:40:15.500 you know maybe maybe because you know in your case you just i can be nice but i can be not nice so i can 0.98

05:40:22.700 to play i can to choose but in his case it's just you know i'm a man i am a giver i want to help

05:40:31.100 women as well so that like for him to give and help it is engraved it is like it is his joy for her

05:40:41.020 to give and help even whatever whatever she has she doesn't have much but whatever she has it is joy

05:40:46.700 and she will give her last shirt to the one who is in more need so that's just yeah yeah so hearing

05:40:53.660 is a different type of you know that's just now i just think like that's fine i just uh i i can't

05:41:00.780 imagine like doing all that i also like because because you you hear like guys you do look again

05:41:07.500 i don't think men are owed anything just because they spend money on you or they do anything however i

05:41:13.580 i also think if if men are taking actions which are not leading to uh the furtherance of the

05:41:25.340 relationship then men should perhaps start reconsidering whether it's worth it for them

05:41:30.860 to take those actions again so like no maybe if if i pay for a first date i don't feel like i'm

05:41:35.660 entitled to anything i don't feel i think it's really weird no really no if i no i don't feel like

05:41:42.300 like no i'm not entitled to uh because i think that's that's it's it's kind of creepy and weird

05:41:50.700 if a guy's like well i paid for the first date so i'm now entitled to like sex that's that's creepy

05:41:55.900 it's kind of on the edge of almost i don't want to use the word but it's kind of like that's pretty

05:42:01.180 skeezy but if like i was paying for all these dinners doing all these things and then like i'm

05:42:06.540 getting friend zoned what all these good i'm gonna start thinking all right let me

05:42:12.220 just invite these girls over she wanted to pay for those groceries herself he insisted he didn't 1.00

05:42:18.700 let her you're right he's a sim he's a sim he is that was some simpshire you know he's different

05:42:23.820 i'm not saying it's her fault i'm not saying it's your fault it's nobody but it's just he did all these

05:42:28.300 great things and he feels good that he was able to help someone that's why he works in the refugee

05:42:35.500 center and is that where you guys met no okay well here i got some other examples just to move

05:42:40.780 on from that one you said another guy drove 150 miles to meet me in my place he brought many nice

05:42:46.700 gifts and took me to bowling excursion to nevada city and so on was that just a one-time date like

05:42:54.300 you only how many times was that a one-time thing or yes yes yes yes one-time thing bro you guys yeah

05:43:00.380 yo look at me look at me which camera this i'll do this camera i'll do this camera right here

05:43:05.740 y'all are doing way too much hold up i gotta i don't know man that sounds like a lot of work

05:43:12.860 hello bro y'all are doing way too much walk how about the walk try walk have you guys tried to walk

05:43:18.700 uh maybe just i'm motivating i don't know people to do something you know maybe they just want to spend

05:43:25.820 time nicely having a girl who admires them or like because i did i don't demand i don't have least

05:43:34.220 you know what many more do with me we're missing you mandy more mandy more we need you we need you

05:43:39.420 there's a chat there's a chat coming in yeah mandy more there's a chat coming in that's about you 0.98

05:43:45.820 and they got it just kidding okay oh your butt you're such a butt yeah um yeah so i mean i mean 0.98

05:43:54.220 you know it's just in their nature you know i just meet people who are like that who are saying 0.99

05:43:59.980 you know jana let's go with you somewhere let's do this thing let's do this right you know but but

05:44:05.900 look at all these you have a list here another guy flied to you and visited you visited cool place

05:44:10.940 together you went to lake tahoe in yosemite yeah yeah was that a one-time thing and then you never

05:44:15.900 talked one time one time he went to several days because he wanted to see yosemite and he said

05:44:21.500 you know i would love to go there with you here's yeah you know i need these people i don't know i i

05:44:28.620 don't post any list of what i need okay and then you have another one one guy invited me for a cool

05:44:34.540 picnic in the park he prepared everything nice food nice plates blanket and just during the day we were

05:44:39.420 sitting in the nice park that's not as elaborate as you know some of this other 0.96

05:44:43.260 shit not as expensive as this other shit no he bought very nice can i ask you a question though 0.96

05:44:48.140 was that just a one-time date yeah that was one-time date yeah yeah so there's that's four 0.99

05:44:54.460 examples of guys doing the most doing all this extra shit oh all these rooms yeah they enjoyed we 0.91

05:45:04.460 enjoyed conversation and you ask every one of those guys how they feel about uh how it turned 0.93

05:45:10.220 up every one of them will say it was great time it is fantastic and they are grateful okay so that's

05:45:16.860 fine but couldn't like if they had just met you for coffee i mean that it could have also of course

05:45:22.700 absolutely it can be super cool it was theirs idea let's go for a picnic but let me ask you a question

05:45:28.220 like these guys how many dates like this do they need to go on before finding the one because let's

05:45:34.460 say they go on one date a month and one of these guys flew to you and you went to lake tahoe yosemite

05:45:40.060 that's maybe like one thousand two thousand three thousand dollars he does that once a month he's

05:45:45.020 this guy is spending tens of thousands of dollars a month in the pursuit of women in the pursuit like 0.90

05:45:51.500 bro my dude have you tried the beach son have you tried the beach just go to the beach what's up girl

05:45:59.900 you want to go to the beach let's go to the beach there's sand we can touch the sand yes it's good

05:46:04.460 you need you need to bring something look it's good for you you've gone a bunch of that type of

05:46:08.700 gentleman is not well spoken as you are so it is much harder for him to get to talk english is my second

05:46:15.580 language i'm i stumbled over my i'm talking about like he's uh he doesn't have riz he's got no riz

05:46:21.180 you're saying he's got to make up for the lack of riz by doing this it is not easy for him to

05:46:26.380 communicate he doesn't have the experience with women you know no experience almost none i mean if

05:46:32.780 you want to be a little extra and you want go play pool so when you play like go play pool so for him

05:46:38.540 it is actually a good thing it is more like practice of dating and understanding and communication

05:46:44.700 and everything yo you dude spend you guys here i don't know if you're watching probably not but yo

05:46:50.940 i will give you the game guys i will give you the riz i'll give you the riz i'll give you the riz

05:46:59.900 okay i think whatever works what's up i said get rizzy brian i'm the rizzler let's see i don't

05:47:06.860 think we've seen any rizz yet oh i've rizzed do you have you i've done some rizz no balls still 0.98

05:47:11.580 didn't you want to do it no balls no you won't do it right now i'll show you balls balls oh that's 0.99

05:47:15.340 disgusting you don't you don't like balls what's wrong with balls you don't eat so i don't want 0.99

05:47:19.100 to see your balls i wasn't no i wasn't literally i was not literally about to stand up be like 1.00

05:47:24.060 check this out mandy check it your child would love it if you did that they want to they want to 0.99

05:47:34.860 see your balls so badly i don't think so i don't think so i don't think i'm not sure about that uh 0.99

05:47:40.140 okay what what it's under the threshold so okay i took it off um let me see if there's any other 0.98

05:47:55.660 chats here i well okay i think let me see if there's any other notes um i would just say for

05:48:01.500 all those guys good for you that you're you know you got these experiences if they're happy with it

05:48:05.420 hey who am i to judge why they don't happy because if they uh offered they got rejected

05:48:11.180 they offered it but they offered it is what it is though it is not about only you know a show off

05:48:17.820 in front of a woman it's about spending time nicely and you know see how it goes here it's not a perfect 0.99

05:48:25.420 example but like let's say you had let's say you had sex with a guy and then he rejected you after 0.96

05:48:31.260 like he didn't he just fucked you once and then ghosted you if he dated any friends for example if 0.98

05:48:38.220 he dated me two months for example right he told me that we are a boyfriend girlfriend and so on and 0.99

05:48:44.780 so on it will not be possible that he will fuck me once and then say okay bye-bye because uh until 0.92

05:48:51.500 then we will be always already but it's a little different but i imagine like that's perhaps how men 0.97

05:48:57.740 feel that's why i don't have hookups i'm not interested you know sure okay um i'm just curious

05:49:04.860 like why didn't work with any of these guys these guys all did all this extra because i'm looking for

05:49:09.260 my husband the for the person who i would love to spend my life with you know there are cool guys nice

05:49:17.740 guys but you know when you don't feel sometimes you feel kind of that for example with someone you can

05:49:24.380 probably meet uh one more but with one guy we he is out of country for business you know and we can't

05:49:31.020 meet for example i would love to meet again if you will uh invite me you know and something like that so

05:49:37.740 it's it's about feeling who is your person and some of the guys they didn't ask me back for a date which

05:49:44.860 is totally fine you know we're not like money banknote to be loved by everyone you know it's

05:49:52.540 fine was i sad yes i also was that you know like you give me a red pill please you know kind of metaphorical

05:50:00.140 red wait do you have are there like i know you only provided those those few examples but are there

05:50:05.980 other like you don't have to tell me the details but like have you had other experiences similar to

05:50:11.500 those where these guys are you know maybe getting you a gift or taking you on a trip or doing all

05:50:17.260 this extra shit how about asking her if she gives them gifts exactly because she does i does on the 1.00

05:50:23.900 first date i do too you know okay all right she cannot give much so she would uh uh order something 0.98

05:50:32.780 like personalized uh you know thing and so on so it's okay one guy celebrated uh a couple of years

05:50:41.180 let's say several years sobriety oh and i ordered him a cup that's personalized um i don't know it

05:50:52.140 just seems like first date it just seems clear evidence that even if you do all this extra stuff

05:50:59.980 it really doesn't like it it doesn't work it doesn't work that's why you don't do it if you have

05:51:05.340 the end it's just the beginning she just got here she's just trying to figure even understand the

05:51:11.500 culture and you know we need all to see i think um dates or something like that or meeting people

05:51:20.540 just as a time that we spent in a nice atmosphere yeah like with nice people for example you can choose

05:51:28.460 always choose to invite a girl for a dinner or eat alone because you don't want to pay for example

05:51:36.060 right sure so but if it's a good company and uh you're enjoyed why to consider this dinner failed

05:51:45.180 why maybe you will find friend maybe you will find a partner maybe you will find something else you

05:51:51.980 know i think we do put uh too much pressure to this oh i bought her coffee or i bought her a meal oh my

05:52:02.300 god i put such a lot of efforts or no no coffee is cheaper i would you know but you can offer uh this

05:52:09.340 thing and this too and it will not cause any damage in your pocket right or she also can pay and bring coffee 1.00

05:52:16.940 for you the next day for example right so it is just i believe in kindness and exchange energy exchange

05:52:25.260 if we put kind things to people you know they also come up with all these offers let's go there just

05:52:31.980 let's go it doesn't mean that i need to give something back but during these meetings i try to you know

05:52:38.860 to show my appreciation my happiness to talk these people to these people deeply sometimes they share

05:52:46.140 really hard stories to me about their lives and some of my words of support also can be healing

05:52:53.900 we all can be healing to each other that's how i see it you know and sure that look that's fine uh i i

05:53:01.340 can only advise my viewers i can speak about my own experience i just i think it's best to you ought to

05:53:11.900 wait until you're a bit more established in the in the same way that women like to wait for example 1.00

05:53:17.980 to have sex with a man before or they they want to wait to have sex with a man uh to establish 0.54

05:53:25.180 okay are we just seeing each other is this going to be a long-term thing i also think men should perhaps

05:53:31.980 wait to wait a bit before falling into being a provider they didn't they weren't a providers

05:53:42.620 they just for them for them it was natural thing you know for some people go ahead i just um i had a

05:53:49.100 question just kind of i don't know how to face my question but kind of like towards you like how do you

05:53:53.820 expect to not be a provider like at the jump but you expect them to be obsessed and in love with you

05:54:01.660 from the jump oh it's very easy because of my charming right hit the crickets hit the crickets

05:54:10.380 no look again and i am i'm prepared to be with the right woman i'm prepared to be the provider from the

05:54:17.260 jump um also however i will say women who are so into you there are some women who will be so into

05:54:26.380 you have like so uh what's the term they don't need that yeah like plenty of women will like be so 1.00

05:54:35.740 attracted to a guy or just really like fuck with a guy because of his personality or whatever his humor 0.95

05:54:41.340 maybe his status whatever it may be uh they're just happy to be with him and in actuality what i 0.98

05:54:46.940 would argue is is that take for example a guy who's really wealthy or a guy who's really famous i'm not

05:54:53.580 saying like bro i'm a fucking youtuber like like i i don't have a big head about this but like take for 0.97

05:55:00.140 example i'm trying to think of like a male musical artist that like women are really 1.00

05:55:04.700 take like uh who's like a i'm trying to think of a tyler chillard is a big one the weekend i don't

05:55:16.060 know but like i would argue that actually a lot of women like would not have the negotiating power 1.00

05:55:22.700 it's i feel like andrew tate says this way he uses andrew tate uses the example of chris brown now i 0.98

05:55:30.780 don't think chris brown is the ideal example here but like a lot of women will go and fuck chris 1.00

05:55:39.740 brown without any expectation that he'd provide anything a lot of them will probably like go above 0.61

05:55:44.700 and beyond and you can replace chris bound with a more desirable guy i guess um whereas the guy who's

05:55:50.860 making 40k a year they're gonna look to him who's less capable of spending money on them and they're

05:55:58.940 going to expect him to do all the providing and provisioning and blah blah blah but if a guy's

05:56:04.700 high status enough that goes out the window that's when girls will end up becoming simps 1.00

05:56:10.380 so um and i'm in favor of female simping by the way i believe in female simping now 0.97

05:56:18.860 so sorry your your question again was oh okay how do i expect that um i would argue that actually a

05:56:25.980 woman who's okay with you not providing that that's actually a way to screen out for very high 0.96

05:56:32.700 interest women because they will i don't want to use the word tolerate but they're fine with not you

05:56:40.220 not providing they're just so into you for perhaps other reasons and it also weeds out gold diggers too 0.99

05:56:46.860 i think okay nice nice thank you but like if the girl is like don't get me wrong like if i really

05:56:52.700 like the girl and it depends on the dynamics too like if she's a career girl and she's making good

05:57:01.420 money she's making six figures like okay we can do like you can pay your own shit like we're both adults

05:57:07.020 here right but if you know if it happens to be the case that i'm dating somebody who's not quite 0.53

05:57:12.220 you know well well enough along in their career or whatever i'm i'm significantly out earning them

05:57:17.740 then i can take care of it it's not a problem but she's got to be just for me there can't be other 0.62

05:57:23.740 guys in the picture like if if i come here's my view right and i don't know maybe i'm fucking delusional 0.91

05:57:29.020 if i come into your life the other dudes are a wrap first date goodbye the other dudes have to be gone

05:57:36.700 there can't be other dudes in the picture you're offering girls to be your girlfriend on the first 0.56

05:57:41.500 date so you see someone and say now you're my girlfriend that takes a little bit of time

05:57:47.020 okay you see it takes a little bit of takes a little bit of time of course yeah she's got

05:57:51.340 to be in waiting oh in waiting girlfriend's in waiting waiting crying you know oh my god 0.99

05:57:57.580 that's right that's all right that's girlfriend's in waiting yeah these gold diggers are whacked 0.99

05:58:03.980 donated 100 if you say no to a coffee date you're missing the point no one has to get ready for a

05:58:11.180 coffee date and it cuts the money and the makeup latina on the right what do you think latina 1.00

05:58:18.300 i think you i think he's talking to you he's talking to you girl i mean i'm totally fine with

05:58:29.260 a coffee date i rather do that first and be stuck at a dinner with someone i don't vibe with for like

05:58:34.380 two hours word word wait guys we are going to go we're going to do a brief after show 10 minute after

05:58:42.780 show then we're going to wrap up uh hold on let me change the tts threshold has officially been

05:58:48.700 lowered read answer is 20 and up instant tts is 69 and up so if you want to get in any uh oh nick are

05:58:55.820 you oh we don't have maddie here to do the should we just leave it like i like this lighting what's that

05:59:04.220 or maybe we just keep it like this right let's just keep it like this okay that's fine um i believe

05:59:09.580 i changed the thresholds here let me just double check did i did i did i i'm pretty sure it should

05:59:15.020 be changed uh tts is 69 and up read answer is 20 and up we'll go we'll go for a little bit longer

05:59:21.580 then we're going to wrap because it's getting late uh okay i had a couple more notes here oh let's go

05:59:27.180 around the table on this stifler oh wait twitch twitch let's do twitch guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever

05:59:32.940 drop us a follow drop us a prime sub if you have one uh ugly kid 69 thing for the prime major nut 0.96

05:59:39.580 what the fuck think of the prime moonshine thing for the prime sky pirate thing for the prime richard 0.99

05:59:45.100 oberto community sub oh loose pussy energy donated 69 dollars yellow top finessed the 1.00

05:59:52.060 fuck out of that young simp the friend's own simp would like to introduce his friend makarov who cleaned 0.98

05:59:57.820 up an airport to yellow top good luck dasvidania bishes hashtag mw2 modern warfare 2 is that call 0.99

06:00:06.860 of duty what are we talking about loose energy has dropped like 400 during this chat he's got some

06:00:15.980 tight energy yeah yeah loose energy you got some tight energy keep going champagne pop champagne

06:00:23.580 pop i'll do for 500 to say um or should i do 69 690 i don't know i'll do for 500 i said yo it's just

06:00:33.340 jeff weeman i have that's a cute dog bro thank you thank you jeff appreciate it brother um oh wait let

06:00:39.900 me just copy and paste this hold on let me get rid of this oh what hey oh hey where did it go hey there it

06:00:48.300 is hold on okay here we go read answer 20 and up instant tts 69 and up wait weeman oh wait is that

06:00:56.620 this oh i already showed that right okay yeah you can hide that one nick uh let's see here i had a

06:01:02.620 oh okay for yikes for yikes oh jordan donated 69 dollars can we get in its morph in time from the five rangers

06:01:13.820 across from brian oh that's a oh my god holy shit dude wait nick can you just google like power rangers 0.51

06:01:21.660 theme really quick do you guys know oh my gosh they have the colors i love that we got the red where's

06:01:30.060 the pink ranger though she's she's wearing a red top yeah that no yeah we need because we've got red 1.00

06:01:35.580 ranger red black yellow blue white black someone it's morphin time wait how does it go it does yeah

06:01:43.740 it goes wait he's like it's morphin time i'm like okay but he crosses his arms first they go like wait

06:01:51.740 all of the girls here i want all of you at the same time or one by one to say it's morphin time into the

06:01:59.660 mic go it's morphin time what are you doing yes wait go ahead go ahead again wait can i see a video

06:02:09.020 first because i've never seen power rangers just just just do it it's morphin time it's morphin time

06:02:16.380 it's morphin time it's kind of seductive it's morphin time it's morphin time it's morphin time

06:02:22.220 it's morphin time morphin time this is a drug podcast can the girls over here say do i don't know 1.00

06:02:32.380 huh we're not part of the power ranger crew apparently come on huh okay for nicole for yikes

06:02:46.620 oh i saw one of your tweets men almost always want to marry me after the first date i guess

06:02:50.780 that's why i haven't been on one in almost two years yeah yeah um i've dealt with like stalker

06:03:00.220 before good times before and then like yeah um see i'll take a break just um

06:03:09.980 yeah might have wanted to marry me before so like pretty early and i don't know how to feel about that

06:03:15.660 uh no thank you should get the bigger one yeah that one's kind of small brian mentioned events

06:03:28.140 from matchmaker what are these events um yeah tell us about that yeah love tours so it's four or

06:03:35.980 five days events that we do several times a year uh in different parts of united states and where we

06:03:41.180 have uh women flying in and guys flying in from all the different areas and we have um lots of coaching

06:03:50.940 couples building lots of fun lots of yeah big program lots of lots of fun so we do form lots of

06:03:58.060 couples there i need a new privacy screen i don't know if you guys have like for i i just okay so sorry

06:04:03.740 sorry continued sorry sorry sorry sorry is there more um yeah so what's it called what's the name of

06:04:10.060 the company oksana love oksana love yes named after you i've actually it was created when i was 16 years

06:04:16.380 old without even my yeah it was great kind of for me yeah i started that when i was 16. okay so nice

06:04:23.420 um yep so we do create lots of couples uh during those events but it is that lots of work it is fun but

06:04:29.340 it is lots of work for individuals lots of coaching lots of changing yourself and uh you know people

06:04:35.740 end up being happy nice very nice very nice okay let me see oh we have stifler here this is always a

06:04:43.260 good one ask everyone to rate their looks on a scale of one to ten npr radio

06:04:50.700 um okay never mind um oh starting with you and we'll go around the table go ahead

06:04:59.260 sissy cc cc sorry um eight word um i'd say ten yeah there's always room for improvement sure but like

06:05:12.060 i think i think so just to i'm gonna take your words and i'm gonna say them back to you

06:05:33.660 i am a 10 but there's always room for improvement

06:05:41.420 if you're a 10 there is no room for improvement like maybe if you said i'm a nine i think there's

06:05:50.460 room for improvement i just more like upkeep like upkeep yeah

06:05:54.300 okay all right mandy what about you i think i'm like a seven and a half but an eight because i'm

06:06:04.380 funny this is just looks though this is just oh oh then yeah like seven and a half okay sure what about

06:06:11.180 you uh i don't go by outer looks but uh for what the person on the inside so well looks just on looks

06:06:19.660 if you had to i don't know what would you say i don't you want me to i'm not i don't make it a

06:06:23.900 habit to rate the women it's on the show the person who the person that defines the person is who the

06:06:31.260 person on the inside you know so based on the inside and type of person i am it's pretty decent

06:06:40.940 that's not an answer that doesn't yeah thank you thank you thank you for having my back thank you 0.94

06:06:45.900 uh looks on the scale one to ten three no girl you got big boobs you more than a three come on now 1.00

06:06:59.500 okay what about you i put some efforts so seven okay uh six or seven sure yeah i don't really put a 0.91

06:07:09.740 lot of effort in so i'd go with like four or five i just throw clothes on at night okay

06:07:14.300 um yeah like a seven i used to get honestly i i feel like i needed i've needed to revise this

06:07:23.100 answer i've just been in the habit because i always give the same answer every time and um

06:07:28.780 but i've honestly should have revised this answer a lot sooner because this has been going on so i used

06:07:34.780 to say i'm a six maybe a 6.5 on a good day however honestly the truth is i am a stress eater and i've

06:07:43.020 gained some weight i'm getting a little chubby i need to lose some weight it's my face has gotten

06:07:48.060 a little fatter uh i used to say i'm a six i think now i'm a five because i've gained some weight i think

06:07:55.180 i'm a five now and looks um maybe if i lose some weight i can get back to a six maybe a 6.5 if i lose

06:08:03.420 even more so that's how a man answers that question honestly uh yeah i need to lose some weight though um

06:08:16.860 yeah good talk dad bods are nice dad bods are always though no you guys say that but it's not true

06:08:24.460 it's not true it is the truth no but yeah i've needed to uh i've needed to revise i've

06:08:30.940 i need to lose some weight and i need to lose some weight for a while so i'm like a five right

06:08:36.460 i'm a five right now i know six no more you just had to get ready for winter you know and we can't

06:08:42.620 on charisma more than on our look that rules yeah i think actually i think looks are almost more

06:08:50.300 important for a man in some ways no i think i think first thing is always like if they're funny

06:08:57.180 they need to be funny yeah they need to be funny if you are not funny you say that you say that but

06:09:02.540 if he's not physically attractive see my roster and you will know that i'm telling the truth okay

06:09:08.300 all right earlier we were talking about how i got the cap go ahead go ahead that i when i met this guy

06:09:15.580 i didn't find him attractive and then as i got to know him it like changed okay well i'll give you that

06:09:20.780 men are able to make up for their lack of physical appearance in other ways like if they're really funny

06:09:27.340 or they have status or they have money or you know they're bringing something to the table however

06:09:33.740 most men don't have that like most men are not funny most men are not charismatic most men don't

06:09:40.300 have status most men don't have money so yes men can make up for it in other ways but yeah women choose 0.96

06:09:50.700 men who they feel safe with so whatever the point of safety that the man can provide to a woman

06:09:56.860 that's true it's true it's true thank you stifler for that question that was very nice of you

06:10:06.940 what's wrong with it you got a problem with the way i taught why does it sound so good on you 0.96

06:10:11.900 roasted holy shit that was no no no what are you let me read this oh go ahead what that voice sounds 0.99

06:10:19.980 good on me is that like do you have like a kink or something like you want girl girl bye bye you 0.99

06:10:24.700 want to answer the question some girls be like imagine yo chat chat imagine like you're in bed 1.00

06:10:30.700 with a girl right and she's like yo like for dirty talk she's like yo i want you to talk like you're 1.00

06:10:38.540 gay while fucking me and you're like okay like that i would listen no i wouldn't do that shit i 1.00

06:10:48.780 wouldn't do that shit maybe as a joke that might be funny i don't know you sound like you're getting 1.00

06:10:52.380 into it what the new kink discovered all right hey that's my job i'm doing good all right we have 1.00

06:11:01.020 so say g women will bend and break their own rules for the right guy and the majority of good 1.00

06:11:06.540 men that would do anything for them are disregarded the 80 20 rule is very real facts so say g thank

06:11:13.740 you very much for the uh donation thank you big j consider she's from a place where 300 is often the

06:11:20.700 monthly wage and she's on food stamps here do you really think person accepting help in this case is

06:11:26.540 being a gold digger y'all shameless wait yeah you shamed me a little bit i didn't shame i did not shame

06:11:33.900 did not shame well people in the chat i'm more so no it's not i don't think you're a gold digger 0.92

06:11:40.780 if you take up my grocery he offered you dollar is the gold i'm taking this gold okay no i put more

06:11:50.380 in the same way that i want women to have agency and accountability and the perhaps poor decisions

06:11:56.140 they make when it comes to dating i also think men need to have accountability if like for example the

06:12:02.540 like the dudes who spend all this money on only fans and sugar daddies and pay pigs and all this 0.97

06:12:08.700 shit granted look there are some women out there that can be predatory in the way that they move and 1.00

06:12:14.860 try to get these dudes but like ultimately if you bust out your credit card in your wallet that's on you 0.95

06:12:22.060 dude like you need to there's there's two parts there's supply and the demand and if you're creating

06:12:28.700 the demand and if you're feel it's not that hard to just have you have you tried googling boobs have

06:12:35.420 you guys tried that oh you're gonna pay 20 for her of have you tried googling boobs 20 million results 1.00

06:12:42.780 for boobs just saying i could and even my shit if large labia son i can just i'll need to pay for 1.00

06:12:49.100 only fans for that just google that shit mine is free outies but that's not how you make your 1.00

06:12:59.340 money okay hey hey hey click the link in my bio i can't stand you 0.98

06:13:11.020 i was a little slow with it but uh okay last thing here um did you want to talk about

06:13:25.020 you know the the ting no you don't want to talk about it don't want to talk about it

06:13:29.980 you sure you don't want to oh you're talking about round two

06:13:33.900 yeah sorry maybe round two what's her name pickle yes her name's pickle yikes uh

06:13:43.660 i feel like i had another question but i forgot does anybody while i'm trying to jump start my

06:13:49.980 brain here does anyone anyone at the panel here have a final thought or question any anything you

06:13:57.580 guys would like to talk about before we wrap up the show

06:14:05.100 anything i think educating yourself on things you want to talk about is very needed don't just use

06:14:12.540 big words that have been thrown around uh who's this directed to i think we all know

06:14:18.780 um i wanted to keep it a little bit broader but i think you definitely came on the podcast today very

06:14:23.340 uneducated um i think you were very back and forth with yourself i think you have a lot to just think

06:14:28.940 about like not necessarily for everyone around you but maybe in your own self what you actually want

06:14:34.540 out of things and how you actually feel because it seemed like maybe you even were a little confused

06:14:39.980 by yourself um i know i've totally been in that position too where i don't know what i believe i don't

06:14:45.340 know how i feel about myself uh but it definitely felt today uh there was uh some of the things you

06:14:52.300 talked about you were definitely uh under educated about it and just very back and forth and confusing

06:14:58.540 about it you're gonna respond um i agree with i should be more educated on more topics and not

06:15:07.820 just referencing like specifics and if i am then be more forward about that um as i said like yeah i

06:15:13.660 wasn't really prepared for some of the larger more broader questions when i was referring to like specific

06:15:18.780 yeah so so are you saying you want to run it back do a little round two perhaps there's no way you're

06:15:25.420 coming i don't think did i go too hard i think i went to no i don't think so talking to the mic

06:15:32.860 be more prepared and talking the mic talk into the mic so anybody else anybody else got a final

06:15:41.260 thought or uh yeah i can ask a question yeah of course yeah go ahead um i actually i want to know

06:15:47.500 uh from the ladies yeah your single status whoever's single is it a choice or you just put in the

06:15:55.660 situation that you got nobody to date mine's a choice and why because right now i'm more focused on my

06:16:04.940 school and my work so that's what my main focus is right now okay for me um i don't really know how

06:16:15.020 to meet people because i'm not really big on dating apps and i don't go out much like i'm a very much

06:16:19.660 homebody i'm at home caring for my grandmother the full-time student um so it's like where are the good

06:16:24.540 men i don't know i don't know how to meet people my age without like going out to like a club or something

06:16:30.380 which just really isn't my style to be honest like meeting people organically like where do you

06:16:35.660 find men i don't know okay so it is not choice it's just kind of circumstance i don't know based

06:16:43.420 on what everyone else was saying i guess i'm not single so where are the good men where are the good

06:16:50.620 men where are the good men i actually at home asleep yeah they asleep they in bed right now it's past

06:16:57.740 day bedtime they're they're they're sleeping because they got work in the morning my boyfriend's

06:17:00.860 in the car sleeping right now so they're not dropping hundred dollars to like roast women 1.00

06:17:10.300 damn that that was spot on though that was a good one that was a good one i think that is where the 0.92

06:17:16.220 good men are because they're wondering where are all the good women hey support your they're watching 0.99

06:17:22.460 my podcast i really want to hear redhead try to find what oh would we could get into that let's 0.99

06:17:29.820 go fuck it fuck it why not you know we got a bit of time it's been past 10 minutes going around the 1.00

06:17:34.780 table well i think it's directed no we'll go around the table fully on this what is a woman 1.00

06:17:40.700 a woman who is someone who's biologically born as a woman who's sorry i couldn't hear a woman is i

06:17:51.020 don't know a woman whoever refers to himself as a woman is a woman in my opinion

06:17:58.460 so just so i understand a woman is a woman

06:18:03.340 biologically yes if a woman is biologically born as a woman oh okay okay what about you so

06:18:13.900 definition what is a woman like you know there's the biological woman and then there's a lot of 1.00

06:18:18.540 controversy with like transgender and that's i mean to me like that's fine um whatever makes you feel

06:18:25.900 comfortable in your own body and confident yeah do your thing as long as you're not like bothering

06:18:31.260 anybody like you're just being yourself like you do you you know yeah i'm not one to judge like do

06:18:39.500 your thing if that's what you're confident in and that's what you're comfortable being you

06:18:43.740 you do that yeah yeah i might get a bit of a clap back by maybe the comments or like some people at

06:18:50.780 this table but i believe that a woman is anyone who identifies as a woman um it's not biological or

06:18:56.540 anything to me um or maybe to other people but if you identify as a woman then you're a woman in my 0.51

06:19:02.940 eyes if you want to be called a woman then you're a woman can i so so a woman is somebody who identifies

06:19:09.260 as a woman yeah did you have something on that but what does that mean like so yeah what is a woman do 1.00

06:19:17.020 you think that trans women are women um i think biological women are women i think you're wrong 0.64

06:19:22.860 that's what i but but what what defines being a woman and you can't define if you identify just 1.00

06:19:30.060 personally to me i don't want to have to argue my decision but i think if you identify as a woman

06:19:35.500 and you believe that you're a woman then you're a woman that's been plain and simple for my opinion

06:19:39.260 if you think otherwise then that's on you i understand i understand no no sorry sorry i'm 0.83

06:19:43.900 fucking losing my game here i understand but can anybody is there any move can here i don't know can 0.89

06:19:50.140 you guys wait can you guys see the screen is is there what are you doing i'm playing solitaire 0.99

06:19:54.620 i'm playing solitaire is there a move i can make chat is there a fucking move i think i'm trapped 0.99

06:19:59.420 i don't think two of hearts and uh wait what was the i think i'm fucked i don't see a move 0.99

06:20:06.220 it's totally scuffed oh well okay there's no move there's zero move to be 0.98

06:20:12.780 uh did you have sorry did you have um yeah so i understand that that's what you believe in we

06:20:23.500 just disagree on that but having like you can't define something with that thing necessarily you

06:20:32.540 can't say a woman is a woman because what does that mean it means what i just said that's your opinion 1.00

06:20:40.140 i'm not going to argue about it okay what about what about you a woman is love it is care it is

06:20:49.660 nurture um but overall it is love and kindness okay yeah it's beautiful oh he's playing something else

06:21:04.700 now no i'm listening i'm listening bro i'm on some like destiny multitasking i'm listening don't

06:21:13.100 worry i'm listening yeah a woman is a person who has feminine energy uh also who uh share this feminine 1.00

06:21:26.380 loving uh soothing energy and i've never been to any other skin i can't feel for people who feel

06:21:37.180 differently so i can't judge um but i feel also that it's something that been given to you to be a woman

06:21:50.140 for example yeah it's given to you if you okay uh moving on what about uh i think a woman is 1.00

06:22:02.060 like the creator of all human life and um to be a woman means sacrifice 1.00

06:22:10.060 um also to obviously like have children oh my god grid one motorsports donated sixty nine dollars

06:22:20.700 a dude that addresses up as a woman is still a dude and there is no way as a straight header a

06:22:25.340 male i am going to kiss him there is no reason for me to participate in others mental illness 0.99

06:22:30.620 thank you for sharing your perspective grid one thank you where were we i was finished are you sure 1.00

06:22:41.100 yeah okay um i think a woman is someone who was born with a vagina and has the capability to give birth 1.00

06:22:47.580 and have periods um i yeah i mean 2023 woman of the year is someone who has a penis and i think that's 0.99

06:22:58.540 disgusting i think women are beautiful creatures and they should be treated as women and no one should 1.00

06:23:05.900 have the right to take that away from a woman i agree with that and i'd like to expand that more so 1.00

06:23:13.820 than just definitions in the bible it says god created them male and female right so he has created us

06:23:21.900 specifically in two different genders two different it's the same thing sex and gender is the same thing

06:23:28.540 he has created us in this way to complement each other to have different roles in the in a home

06:23:33.740 family in a home family setting he has created us in this way just like we've talked about the whole

06:23:41.180 this whole time that we've been talking together we've talked about the differences between how men

06:23:45.020 and women are in relationships and he's created us this way for a reason and he god does not make mistakes

06:23:54.540 he has not mistakenly put a man's soul in a female's body or vice versa i'm sorry it's okay

06:24:02.140 he he made you that way and he loves you the way that you are he has not created you

06:24:09.660 in the body that you're created as a mistake and that's just yeah okay all right there you have it folks

06:24:19.340 there you have it uh okay hold on where did that oh i think okay we did that from nickelodeon we have

06:24:27.900 oh one question related to that would you for those of you okay i'll just ask the question um would you

06:24:36.300 object to me for example or just any man not wanting to date a transgender woman would you object to that

06:24:45.980 we'll start with you go around the table no i think everyone's allowed to have their own preference

06:24:51.260 yeah everybody's allowed to have their own preference and um yeah that's fine okay you're

06:24:56.540 allowed to have your own preference and i'm glad that you're not dating a trans woman if you don't 1.00

06:25:00.700 want to because i would put them in a very uncomfortable position

06:25:06.380 no i would be sad if i would okay i would be that dig i don't know what that was

06:25:19.420 i would be sad brian if i would have known that you're dating a transgender because our chances are 0.99

06:25:24.620 getting lower and so on and so on but uh yeah of course

06:25:34.380 oh gosh

06:25:37.740 look at the camera and do it

06:25:39.100 this lady is also yeah but but i do believe that adults can do whatever they want and we never 0.99

06:25:53.180 know what kind of pain what kind of suffers what kind of battle people who are changing their sex

06:25:59.180 going through okay sure all right um no yeah if you don't like him you don't like him yeah same

06:26:09.340 all right we have richard jana if a 10-year gap is too young what is too old i saw oxana's answer

06:26:14.940 on her site wow what is too old i'm very open person i don't like me conclusions when i don't know

06:26:23.180 people when i don't know what it will be in my life but as i can assume right now like probably

06:26:31.340 uh 15 years gap in either direction no in either he asked the older direction okay okay but i never know

06:26:44.140 okay okay okay or someone who can still have kids even if it is older and if if they are yes yes if we

06:26:53.900 it's a match if we are like on the same page of course no you never know my parents are 15 years

06:27:01.660 apart yeah they've been married for i know cool marriages for 20 25 years apart and it's cool that's

06:27:08.540 why i'm not telling my husband he's 15 years old yeah yeah we have stochastic decay question for

06:27:14.540 the panel what is a green flag hobby for a man don't skip tara tara tara tara tara tara have you

06:27:22.460 seen true blood yeah okay starting with you what is a green flag hobby for a man i mean someone who's

06:27:34.860 like active and has works out a lot okay uh yeah like um working out pursuing education and like

06:27:43.260 trying to learn new things um business ventures like that that's a great hobby why not word any

06:27:51.020 hobbies that like you can like invest in the future not just like temporary something for like the long

06:27:55.660 run okay you can like work with your partner green flag i'm still trying to figure out what the

06:28:02.460 question is um so i guess uh like he collects pokemon cards could be it could be a gamer that's

06:28:10.860 probably a red flag for most women though no self-improvement attending seminars or whatever 1.00

06:28:15.100 you know okay like furthering education sort of thing or wanting to grow they like yeah continue

06:28:21.820 growing and continue nice yeah yeah what about you for me it would be helping people or impacting

06:28:27.820 others lives gotta have impact pickleball if they love pickleball is they like pickleball if they

06:28:34.380 play pickleball you ought to come to utah yeah why would it matter if a gay man dressed excuse me as 0.82

06:28:42.620 woman felt uncomfortable about a hetero man not wanting to date him how about how uncomfortable a 0.99

06:28:47.500 straight man would feel about finding out finding a penis down under mandy 0.99

06:28:53.740 mandy sorry that was weird that was cringe my bad yeah stop ladies don't get to answer here like the 1.00

06:29:04.940 previous question the girls didn't answer yeah go for it no you don't want to answer grid one you want

06:29:10.780 to just quickly answer as a as a cis woman i don't think that's my place to answer that question sorry all

06:29:17.500 right um green flag hobby uh working out military um knowing some sort of fighting style um

06:29:30.460 things like things like that i think are attractive sweet um i also agree fighting uh like mma

06:29:41.180 specifically because that's what my boyfriend does i think it's the hottest thing ever anyways

06:29:45.260 and um like training courses working with uh animals that's a it's a big thing um yeah okay

06:29:56.220 um yeah working out being like outdoorsy i love a musician but i don't know if that's really a green

06:30:03.260 flag oh you're like that's just a plus just a plus all right sometimes okay all right i think we're all

06:30:12.940 caught up on the chats um go to twitch really quick guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever mods

06:30:18.940 if you can spam it drop us drop us a follow drop us a prime sub uh let's see deadly wave

06:30:25.900 thank for the prime spin cruise thank for the prime man very much appreciated do i raid somebody on

06:30:32.460 twitch i don't know i feel like there's no world of warcraft players right now it's just like

06:30:37.260 uh and i try to raid like people who might actually even acknowledge the raid so there's emaru oh 0.69

06:30:43.500 fucked it yeah i'm not gonna lie like 0.95

06:30:48.460 bruv i what's up emaru how you doing um 0.98

06:30:51.500 there's summit 1g there's s fond but these guys are like i'll have like emaru's got like 18k live

06:31:06.060 s fond 5k live i don't think these guys like do they acknowledge people who raid wait nick can you pull

06:31:11.420 up the chat and then we could like raid i don't know do we raid like a girl streamer but um someone

06:31:18.860 who's playing a new cod some small time random streamer give them okay uh hello hello sheep

06:31:29.100 who do we should i raid somebody no i don't know i feel like the big streamers like if you raid them

06:31:33.580 they're not gonna shout you out area 51. i don't think that they're gonna yeah i don't know uh yeah

06:31:42.140 dude emaru the yeah she's 0.99

06:31:47.500 what's up okay she actually she's kind of my type i'm not gonna lie she is my type um

06:31:55.740 just saying what's up you single what's up someone literally just said about her coming on the show

06:32:00.220 get her on the show i'd be i'd be down to have her on the show you guys sit right here i got a spot for

06:32:05.660 you no i probably put her across for me so we can argue um let's see uh let's see i feel like the

06:32:15.420 thing is though with like big streamers like it's just the reality of the content game or like the

06:32:20.780 social media game most people like if they're much have bigger audience than you like they don't

06:32:26.300 fuck with you unless you have a comparable audience size typically um so yeah it is what it is

06:32:34.060 it is what it is um yo i i'd be super down to have asmund gold on i've tried to invite him dude we'll 1.00

06:32:39.660 fuck in i i asmund gold would be lit asmund gold would be super cool um yeah so okay um i think we're 0.78

06:32:48.380 caught up on chats any fight last chance any final thoughts anybody i feel like i'm forgetting a topic 0.99

06:32:53.900 a thread but whatever i don't know anything less thoughts anybody anybody topic or a shout out

06:33:01.980 yeah if you guys want to uh where can where can the people because a lot of people have been asking

06:33:06.620 about your matchmaking services somebody's curious about it uh you got a website where can they find

06:33:11.820 out more information about that uh yeah sure oh so i yeah we gotta do the twitter video wait we'll do

06:33:19.340 that later though um after if you want something there is in signature or something right

06:33:23.740 so there's yeah uh yeah yeah yeah but do you want to like it's what yeah website is oksana love.com

06:33:29.740 o-k-s-a-n-a-l-o-v-e it's just a harder for yeah yeah sure sure sure uh let's see patrice clip

06:33:40.460 doing oh no we're not gonna do the patrice clip it's late we'll do because i don't want to be click

06:33:46.220 baiting you guys in the title it says i'm getting sued so i'd play a video for you guys oh nick you gotta go

06:33:52.460 bro you gotta go full screen before you uh okay um especially on twitter because there's all kinds 1.00

06:33:59.980 of degenerate on twitter um uh okay go for it have you been saying stupid stuff on the whatever 1.00

06:34:08.540 podcast and now you have to face the harsh backlash of public opinion kind of like this 0.99

06:34:14.220 meet honor i'm anna oh he denies being racist that's not to be racist because of a small lapse in

06:34:20.780 judgment prejudices that exist against me don't exist against you brian and that's why you can't be 0.94

06:34:26.220 racist against a white person and now the internet is laughing at her i hate this girl 1.00

06:34:32.140 we're here to help hi i'm anita man a feminist advocate for inclusivity legal services 0.81

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06:34:44.780 dumb meet christina hi i'm christina she believes men are so superficial men are so superficial but not 0.98

06:34:52.940 without sharing a minor preference of her own would you date a guy that's shorter than you absolutely 0.97

06:34:57.740 not at least six two at least six two yeah i'll tell you five five and now the internet is calling

06:35:03.740 her a hypocrite we understand sometimes the truth comes out but there's no reason why you have to take 0.73

06:35:12.300 responsibility your pastime is humbling men you do work at the strip club so do you humble men there 1.00

06:35:17.340 no i take their money being a feminist is just doing whatever you want to do 1.00

06:35:23.340 daphne and i actually have a point system for height double standard yes at feminist advocates 1.00

06:35:29.260 for inclusivity legal services we don't care about the truth we care about your truth remember it's not

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06:36:04.940 whatever okay um all right guys we're gonna wrap up the show is there anything i'm forgetting nick is 0.98

06:36:11.580 there anything else we wanted to pull up or uh oh did you have something oh yeah uh because uh nectar

06:36:19.180 they like gave us those cases so i wanted to shout them out

06:36:26.220 shout out to my sexy boyfriend that was nice of them to bring if you all want some of the nectar seltzer

06:36:31.500 it's back there okay all right thank thank you thank you nectar typically with it for promotion we do a

06:36:37.020 a little all right okay okay well no they gave so well yeah but i okay all right all right no it's

06:36:45.260 it's fine it's fine um okay so uh was there nick was there anything else yeah no the instagram with

06:36:52.540 the makeup and then the reddit post the red oh no well we'll do those another show okay guys last call

06:36:59.020 hit the like button please on your way out thank you for tuning in tonight you could have been anywhere

06:37:03.500 in the world but you were here with me i very much appreciate that thank you guys let me just

06:37:08.140 double check make sure there's no supers that came in uh no i think we're all good okay guys again uh

06:37:14.220 thank you to everyone who has super chatted donates supports the show oh body count okay it thank you guys

06:37:22.860 okay uh really quick what's your body should body count matter and should should body count matter

06:37:30.300 uh preferably there would not be too many people involved in their you know in the previous

06:37:56.620 relationship sure but of course everybody can kind of change themselves if they want to okay yeah

06:38:05.260 for me the less the better but um i'm undecided on that i don't for me it does matter yeah for me it

06:38:15.660 matters okay so quite a few of you said doesn't matter if body count doesn't matter what's your body

06:38:22.460 count four four okay uh mine's very low but i'm not just not personally disclosing that information

06:38:30.860 and also somebody asked for my instagram it's yikes instead of an i oh whatever

06:38:45.100 wait go ahead go ahead go ahead go ahead what it's no no no go ahead go ahead yeah it's a yikes with a one

06:38:52.460 no no no okay i'm sorry okay okay go go i'm serious i'm serious go ahead no it's okay no no go

06:38:59.100 ahead say it say it no go ahead go ahead one i i promise oh go ahead go ahead go ahead

06:39:04.780 you don't know you don't know do we okay

06:39:19.340 so is it less than 10 yeah less than five i'm just not disclosing that like when i have a partner i'll

06:39:27.660 talk to them about she can't speak into the microphone it's very complicated procedures

06:39:34.620 on a podcast i don't know how to follow instructions

06:39:42.460 go ahead maddie problem with authority sorry mandy mandy oh i'm not answering

06:39:46.780 i plead a bit no do it no do it no do it yes you subscribe to my only fans i'll tell you don't let

06:39:59.500 my bio my instagram bio don't do it do it did you just slurp the 1.00

06:40:06.300 fuck what the fuck okay i'm gonna pretend like you didn't just make my dick go soft 1.00

06:40:18.700 oh good that wasn't me that was this other guy okay i can already tell that i don't like you 1.00

06:40:26.860 damn brian what happened i will rain down on a godly firestorm upon you you're gonna have to call 1.00

06:40:32.700 the fucking united nations and get a fucking binding resolution to keep me from fucking destroying you 1.00

06:40:37.980 i am talking scorched earth motherfucker i will massacre you i will you up 1.00

06:40:46.940 wait do that again no 1.00

06:40:50.140 okay uh come on give us a range less than 10 more than 50. no you you for the bc

06:40:57.420 um more than 50 is crazy more than 50 is crazy she yeah um i'm gonna just say like under under 20. okay

06:41:09.180 fair the one that matters is my husband so one

06:41:15.180 i'll keep it that way yeah what about you i would love it to be a one person so all others is like

06:41:21.580 fails so why to do this close i thought you said it doesn't matter the whole i said the less the

06:41:28.620 better oh okay it was my point is it less than 10 yes listen it's that's it all right what about

06:41:37.340 11. okay yeah what about you four word

06:41:43.180 zero yeah

06:41:49.820 multiply it by three and that's the real number it's still zero well that was for the girl

06:41:55.340 it's still zero but for the rest of the table just saying just saying

06:42:03.180 multiply it by three and that's the real number

06:42:05.020 i don't ask brian i as a man of god i do not reveal that oh no you gotta answer you're getting

06:42:11.660 impressed answer answer answer nope you didn't answer yeah you don't have any reason i don't want

06:42:18.140 to give in the man if you think you were mostly i said under 20. under 20. under 20. under 20. and

06:42:23.900 then now you gotta answer cardie cc answer of course so i will say like the high body count thing like

06:42:31.660 that might be good in some regard like like for dude no no for for a woman not like too high but like

06:42:41.820 mandy mandy mandy but uh women like knowing just being able to like deal with different guys and 0.80

06:42:50.060 then they figure out like oh this is what i like um rather than like not knowing at all you know what i

06:42:56.460 mean because i i dated different types of guys to figure out that i like asian men the most so

06:43:05.100 you gotta do a little shopping depending on the type of relationship also that you are looking for

06:43:09.660 so like for casual something yeah i guess higher body count is better but for the family this guy wins

06:43:15.180 the chat yeah brian how many men have you slept with that's good i like it that's good you win the chat

06:43:21.020 for tonight avkins you get the uh chatter of the uh of the uh night yeah the chatter of the the stream

06:43:31.420 award thank you man uh let's see here okay we're all caught up on everything double checking on

06:43:37.980 everything okay body count we talked about body count okay okay okay thank you to everyone who soup

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Whatever Podcast - November 22, 2023

SIMP Paid Her Bills On FIRST DATE？! Feminist Until The Check Comes？! ｜ Dating Talk #120

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