Dating Talk #23
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3 hours and 29 minutes
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179.60867
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156
Summary
In this episode, we have our first guest on the show, Jubilee! We talk about how she was banned from using Bumble and Tinder, and how she dealt with it. We also talk about her experience with being banned from Tinder and Bumble, and what she did to deserve it.
Transcript
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.
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Sempre un'amabile, legge addroviso, impianto in riso e menzognero.
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.
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all labia matter in the chat okay if you want to be on the show or help with the show dm at whatever
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on instagram and also i don't know if you guys noticed we have a vigil here
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can we get some uh candle and skull emojis for our boy mike davis
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i also got him the bbc the big black clock he hasn't been in chat much lately so we need to
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summon him chat we need to summon the great mike davis we need to do a rain dance or some shit
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can we get some rain emojis also in the chat rain emojis like a little rain rain dance what's up
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like crying emojis no like uh like a rain dance or actually not yeah just rain anyways um last thing
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as you guys know i'm a philanthropist so if you go to santa barbara city college or ucsb and you
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received any petty alcohol or party related fines like open container of alcohol under 21 in
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possession of alcohol maybe you were throwing a party got a noise citation dm at whatever on
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on instagram a photo of your citation and story and you may be selected to have your fine paid for in
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full by me anyways we're going to have the guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name
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age occupation and or school major go ahead uh my name is jubilee i'm 19 not in school but i have my
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own business doing nails you do nails yes i do okay cool i'm i'm may i'm 19 i'm a sophomore and i'm a
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so sorry sociology major sophomore at ucsb uh sbcc oh okay cool um i'm vivi and i'm also a sophomore
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at cc but i am a political science major age oh 19 pull the microphone towards you just closer
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towards you a bit perfect go ahead um i'm maddie i am 19 i'm a sophomore at ucsb and what are you
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studying oh i'm undeclared right now okay i'm yazzy i'm 18 i'm a second year ucsb and i'm a psych
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major hi i'm susan um i'm 25 and i go to ucsb i study econ hi my name is luke um i'm 19 i go to
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santa barbara city college and i'm majoring in film and media production rock and roll so everyone's
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instagrams in the description show them some love give them a follow so i want to go around the
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table once more so current relationship status longest relationship and are you on any dating
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apps that includes seeking arrangements go ahead um i'm single my longest relationship was a little
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over a year and i'm banned off tinder and hinge
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wait you're banned off both tinder and hinge what what did you do i didn't do anything
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come on i swear didn't do anything they just banned me off both like are you at the same time
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are you sure i think so i know that i can't do anything about it
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you know i mean i don't know i could have said something or i don't know someone could report
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me i don't know i don't really respond okay okay you so you have no idea what you did i have no idea
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what i did they won't tell me i emailed them both they don't well maybe they didn't communicate to
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you what you did but you know what i don't think i know what i did were you were you posting were
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you nude in any photos i don't think so did you did you get it before you were 18 no no
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were you were you trolling on there no i literally was on it and they they did at the same time because
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they're like they're kind of connected in a way they said i have to get approval from tinder
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to be approved from hinge and i didn't get either huh that's peculiar yeah what so on hinge you know
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the prompts right how recently were you banned like two weeks ago okay do you remember what your
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prompts were like what you wrote for your prompts i don't remember i changed them all was it like
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venmo me no cash app no because that'll get you banned really yeah i'm pretty sure so anyways um i'm
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single the longest relationship i've had is like three months and i'm currently on tinder
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any any other dating apps uh that's literally it okay
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um i'm single right now and my longest relationship was like two and a half years and i have hinge and
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tinder i'm single i've never been in a relationship and i'm on tinder um i'm also very single um
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my longest relationship was like a year and i have tinder because i'm too scared to get anything else
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you're too scared to get anything else what do you mean by that like okay bumble you like choose
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like i don't i'm too indecisive for that it's like not you're too what indecisive no i get what you
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mean how did you see your life so you know yes i know you can yeah yeah but then like you have to
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like if you like if you're indecisive like i am and i'm like i don't know if i want to like swipe
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right or left you know yeah um you can't look at anyone else you can only like you have to choose
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you can't look at anyone else until you choose you know what i mean that's what i hate
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i wish i could like go forward go back yeah i mean even if you got on bumble like yeah you do have
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to send the first message but honestly like most of the women on bumble they just send hey
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i'm gonna forget it because after 24 hours so i match i say hi and that's it
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yeah by the way like i i've heard this from women and i've seen them write it on their profiles on
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other dating apps they say try to come up with something more creative than just hey or how's it
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going but then you've got the soul dating app where women have the power
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90 of them y'all just saying hey so okay so i mean i'd reckon i mean you you can get away with
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you really don't have to so you're saying i should just get it and i should just say hey
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it wouldn't be that uncommon if you want to be lazy with it you'll still have success on bumble even
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even if you're just like hi so i'll look into it hinge is pretty good too hinge is good wait so
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you've also just going back to you you've never had a long-term relationship i've never been in a
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relationship what is the longest concur or period of time that you've seen someone maybe you haven't
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had a boyfriend talking stage like two two weeks a fortnight maybe like two months two months yeah okay
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two months too long and okay so you know the guy yeah okay all right well so then um and did you
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so for that longest situation or whatever situation however you would categorize it who ended that was
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it you or just mutual ghost or it was mutual like it was just like a summer fling i guess so just you
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know like once school starts again it's like oh kind of knew of that going in so sure by the way
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i want to give a shout out to verx in the chat he must have became a member while we weren't live so
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verx thank you for uh your membership on the channel go ahead your turn uh i'm single and the longest
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relationship i've been in it's two years and i'm on hinge rock and roll luke um i'm still single um and
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the longest relationship that i've been in is six months and i'm not on any dating site
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okay good times good times have did any uh so luke is back i think you're here was it
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last thursday yeah last thursday so a week ago yeah so in that period of time
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you get any dms from any ladies i can't lie yeah really and so they said hey i watched that i watched
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the show yeah okay and what happened with erica
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um did y'all link up or not no not really we were gonna go out to ivy but we it was just too packed
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and she wasn't going down so we were like no okay wait so you got what's up i knew erica yeah yeah i
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guess they were like chat was shipping um chat was shipping luke and erica during the whole show so
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um well so you got some dms from girls what like can you share the thirst how i mean
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it was pretty dry it was pretty dry yeah again don't be talking about me
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yeah i don't know it was it was there were like probably three or four that hit me up or i was
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like in iv and they were saying oh my god wait you were on you were on that podcast and i was like yeah
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i didn't know that you would watch the podcast because it would be the weirdest thing and they
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would be drunk off their ass and i was like okay i really don't want to talk to you right now you're just
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spewing shit out of your mouth so you know if you want to talk to me then you know here's my
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information talk to me but if not and this is just going to be some weird little ivy shit ciao
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by the way guys does that does the girl's angle look a little bit overexposed it might be slightly
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you could just be pale it looks it might just be our monitor too it might one in the chat if it looks
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a bit overexposed chase if you can professional photographer does it look a little overexposed
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anyways um so really quick last thing to kind of go around the table on this uh because i do think
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that these this can sort of have a impact a bit on your how you approach dating and how you approach
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men uh would you say that you identify as a feminist just just a yes or no yes yes yes
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i would like to say yes but honestly sometimes i question it
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why um well it's just like like i do support women like 100 but it's just like sometimes like i don't
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really like do as much as other people i guess so i'm like oh like yeah i'll just like let them like
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i support it but i don't really like actively do anything about it so sure i don't think that
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makes you any less like that like yeah i guess that's true like it doesn't but it doesn't make
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me like an active feminist i guess yeah yeah yeah i support it but i think there are some things that
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i don't agree with in in it okay interesting so as the soul as the soul egalitarian at the table
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this should be interesting okay so we're gonna move on to our very first question so yeah
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so before we're gonna do some video reactions and then i have some questions of my own to kind of get
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into but i'd like to start off the show by asking is there anything dating related that you want to get
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off your chest so just to give you a couple prompts maybe you recently had a bad date
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experience a bad relationship experience men are pissing you off in some way dating apps suck
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whatever it may be something that just comes to mind that you want to get off your chest related to
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dating go ahead um i have a story but it wasn't really i met a guy on hinge and we talked for a month
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and he was from australia and i met up with him and he ended up being a dick and then he went to
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the gym and i left i was in la and i traveled i went to la to go see him yeah she doesn't drive either
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so she i took the train and for like two and a half hours met up with him stayed the night and i left
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the next day while he's at the gym while he was at the gym and he didn't know i left i just left and
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yeah but was he was he anticipating that you were gonna spend more time yeah i was supposed to stay
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till wednesday okay so why why did you leave he just got mad when like if i didn't do anything with
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him as in like sexual things he got mad he got mad so you didn't want to hook up yeah but you took a
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train two hours to so you were obviously into him yeah i was you didn't want to talk for like
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over a month before i actually met him like facetime or just yeah we facetime texted everything
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for like that's like seven dates sort of but okay and met up with him he ended up being a dick
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and also okay i see yeah like he was overall just a shitty person okay so everything you were like
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you would have had he not been a dick you probably would have been down to hook up
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but when you show up you arrive yeah he said he was sarcastic but it came off as really really rude
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yeah so you yeah your whole view of him shifted and then you're you lost interest yeah so what was
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he doing that was he he said he was sarcastic but then every single time i would talk he would tell
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me to shut the up and then say he was kidding yeah like literally yeah and then he would shush me
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every single time i was talking because he thought i was yelling and then shut the up
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kind of like that and then laugh and say he was kidding
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kind of like that yeah wow okay he was yeah he had like a really strong accent and it he was australian
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british and australian to a kind of combination of accents were you hanging out with him and his
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boys like his friends he was his first time in america he came to la wait not for me how did you
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meet him hinge hinge yeah wait what i met him on hinge and because he was so when you met him he was
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in australia he put his location in la okay so he was like preemptively trying to get some yeah okay
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yeah yeah and when i got there that's always kind of weird i think the vibes were off i wasn't
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feeling well just anxiety wise and he got mad and so i texted someone else to pick me up and i left
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while he was at the gym and never talked to him after that but so you did you spend the night yeah
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i spent one night and then i just didn't like did y'all cuddle no he didn't really do anything
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he tried he i just kept moving away oh man that's he dm me on tiktok because i blocked him on
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everything else i forgot so he dm me on tiktok did you steal his stuff no oh and you said that kind
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of like you should you thought maybe i should have maybe i should have he got really mad so i left
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damn that's uh yeah he so you were super down but yeah he i was down but just vibes were off when i met
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him and yeah two and a half hour train right yeah yeah i think yeah you know the key to relationships
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commonalities being attractive no convenience is the most important thing yeah if you got to drive
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more than 20 minutes to see your person i'm i'm being a bit facetious but uh i think uh going that
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far out of your way for uh there's plenty of eligible bachelors in in santa barbara so not really
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i get ghosted every single time i meet someone you think they're better in uh in la if you can
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find i'm i'm i can't even think like australians or british like people the same i can't can you just
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pull the cord like so it's uh there you go perfect um wow yeah so okay wait you guys think that you
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guys don't like the men in santa barbara oh i have a story for you yeah we could we could talk a little
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bit about that okay so this is a frat boy so you you get the gist of it which one uh signu um what
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was this gonna be the yeah this is gonna be the next yeah so basically coming back from a party um
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i separated with my friends and he's like hey do you want to go back to the frat house and i was like
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sure like why not and so he gave me a tour of the frat house met some of his brothers they were chill
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we were just sitting on the couch in his room we weren't doing anything this was like just like
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talking chilling like the night was dying down like we didn't really like each other in that way it's
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kind of more of a friendship he gets a call and he puts it on speakerphone so i'm like okay like this
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is weird and i just hear this dude say bro what are you doing right now you want to go smoke some weed
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and he's like oh like this is my friend next door ato is right next to signu right so this is his ato boy
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and he was like oh like i'm sorry like not right now like i'm kind of like with a girl like we're
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just hanging out and he was like oh just bang her and leave and keep in mind this is on speakerphone
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you guys i'm sitting two inches away from this man i heard everything homeboy looks down in his phone
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looks at me and goes i'll call you back and he hangs up and then he's like um are you like getting
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tired and he was like and he was like are you anytime i'm like yeah i'm gonna go back to my
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place and he's like okay cool cool cool so we both leave the frat house at the same time i walk back
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to my place and i see him just walk over to ato knock on the door i see the brother open it and i'm like
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all right so that's my story so basically you're hanging out with the frat guy yep you were had you
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hung out with him before yes i i've hung out with him before we're friends um like just like he invites
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us to parties no we have not hooked up like this but you wanted to you were down until this whole no
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honestly not at all i wait but you were hanging out with him alone uh yeah you were interested in him
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come on oh no not really he was kind of oh it's his friend i can second that i've also met this
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frat guy like he's like the like he was more of the type of guy you go out to party with have a bit
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of fun he gets you into the parties and then you separate she was with me that night she separated
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so we were the four of us were together and then we went back to the frat house she went somewhere else
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so obviously that's why it was just the two of us there and he was like do you want to tour and i was
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like fuck it why not and that's wow like we ended up in his room he's like this is my room like super
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chill and we're just sitting on his couch right and the phone call happened i just felt like are
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you fucking kidding me like the fact that he had it on speaker too and i heard everything like homeboy
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just paused he like looked at me and he's like blinked and he's like i'll call you back bro and then just
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hangs up and i'm like okay do you think that there i mean initially it was the guy on the phone that
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yes said some offensive things so it's you know yeah i'm wondering could the guy in person could
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he have still well you weren't interested allegedly yeah anyways yeah so i mean
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i don't know i just kind of seemed like it worked out i know yeah that's true he went to smoke some
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weed it's true i i think it's just like a funny story that this man was just like just banger and
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leave bro like come on like do you want to smoke some weed like just fuck her and leave and i was like okay
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it was just funny wow i know damn yeah he might do you think he was interested in you
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oh you were there no no she was there i'm guessing i don't think i don't know though just like we were
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sitting on the couch just the two of us and like one of his frat bros like hey bro what's up and he's
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like oh nothing much and you he kind of like oh saw us together so he probably thought like oh they're
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gonna do something or like you know so he left like right away so maybe he's a little interested
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yeah maybe i don't know yeah good times yeah good times luke what do you think about that i mean i
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was just gonna say i don't think that the that's like the dude who was getting the calls fall i
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think that's no it's not no yeah that's not at all fully on his like no bro yeah his bro why do you
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have it like that dude come on did the guy know like that you were in the room yes he said oh i'm
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hanging out with a girl like right now and he was like just banger and leave and you can hear when
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someone's on speaker and yeah yeah i was gonna say when whenever i get a call on him with a girl if i put
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it on speaker it's it's to show her like hey it's just one of my guys calling it's not another girl like
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don't get all upset about yeah yeah but yeah but i would always say like hey i'm with you know
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whoever say what up and then they'll say they'll be like oh shit okay i'm not gonna say any like
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weird shit so right right yeah he she should have said some shit before definitely but that's that's
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not on him in any way that's on his bro yeah i agree i agree ato boys guys oh
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shit shots fired they were both in ato oh one was signu one was ato so the guy that i was with
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on the phone guy on the phone was ato okay the guy i was with signu all right so maybe it's just all
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fratmen so you guys are by the way you guys are invited on the show to clear your name okay so you're
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share your side of the story um so we were talking a bit about you guys said guys in santa barbara suck
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why why do you say that it's it's just hookup culture here like no one's here to date no one's
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here to be like they're just who whose fault is that hookup culture it's not mine okay so i'll really
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quick whose fault is hookup culture a lot of men a lot of men i think a lot of men who controls
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access to sex men or women i think it's like a two percent i think yeah i mean you need two people
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but i mean even not every time who decides when sex happens men or women i get what you mean now it
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is kind of mutual in a way but like i think on average more guys are invested in hookup culture
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than girls are yeah more guys are what invested in hookup culture yeah but i will say it's a mutual
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thing i agree with what you said but i think more guys are into it wait you're are you sure you're
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agreeing on the right thing am i well okay so there's a few things here so i actually think
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more women have access to hookup culture than do men yeah more access but i don't think they played
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into it as much as guys do that's a fair point but so the top 20 of men i would say they have
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access to hookup culture but average dudes they can't like very easily hook up it's quite difficult
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for men to get laid i know what you mean like an average dude whereas like an average chick like
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she could just download tinder boom boom boom super easy get laid yeah but like i don't think that
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they like guys love hookup culture i feel like they love saying that they have hoes they love
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like you know iv guys are dirty like well it comes down to so men and women's sexual strategy is
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different and it comes down to evolutionary reasons like men evolutionary we just want to spread the seed
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because we can just we can impregnate if three women a day but a woman like if you get pregnant that's
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nine months time yeah um obviously i realize most people when they're engaging in sex it's not for
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procreation necessarily but that's still ingrained in us it's hardwired in our evolutionary in our
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evolution in our biology so for men it's just spread the seed and then for women it's let me lock down the
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best man i can get so but going back to what i initially said like so women control access to sex
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so like i could ask like how long has has a guy ever made you wait for sex
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i don't think so no i don't think so no men have have you guys ever made a guy wait for sex oh yeah yes
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i like okay so you guys control access to sex i think men need to be more clear on what they want
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men need to be what more clear on what they want men can't be more clear on what they need to be more
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clear it wouldn't work well if guys okay so if guys were i'll actually i'll let you go bet and i'll
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respond go ahead because some guys they just want to hook up but then they treat a girl like they want
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more i was gonna say the same thing like men need to act accordingly yeah i had i once had a guy take
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me on dates i met his co-workers he treated me like he wanted to be with me and then when he
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said he didn't want anything more than just hooking up can you scoot the microphone a bit to your that
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way thanks so after like weeks so i mean there's two things there one yes nobody's not watching
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there's definitely guys that they're gonna play like they want something serious to get laid
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because i mean the thing is those most men can't be honest about their true intentions because then
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you wouldn't want to fuck with them i mean but i think like the whole point like you should be
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honest like they like i agree with that there's no i can't like that is sneaky links don't go out in
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public and go out to eat and that's just yeah i feel like you don't have to be honest like with your
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words just be honest with your actions like don't be like taking girls out on dates like if you don't
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want to date her like if you just want to hook up with her like do that sometimes like maybe it's
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like a mutual thing and like if they're fine with it that's fine but like if you don't want to date
00:28:53.980
her but you're taking her on dates like that's being dishonest yeah that's what pisses me off most
00:28:59.180
do you think girls do that too though because i feel like a lot of times there's like a guy will take
00:29:03.820
a girl out you know wanting something and she won't like let's say it's just for hookup but
00:29:08.380
she's just friendzoning him and he's she's just you know kind of using him to either be get into
00:29:13.820
clubs or get food or have him buy you clothes or stuff like that i think there's a lot of that too
00:29:20.140
like i'm always straight up there's there are and again there's exceptions right you know i think
00:29:26.060
being straight up with someone is way better but there are people that you know are going to use
00:29:31.420
people with money and a lot of times it's going to be a girl using a his a guy for his money yeah
00:29:36.780
yeah that's way more common foodie calls foodie calls is the thing like girls will just go go out
00:29:42.940
with the guy for free food i actually very recently there's some girl i saw on hinge and she in her bio
00:29:55.100
she said something about i want someone to take me out to dinner and she was like i matched with her to
00:29:59.900
actually invite her on the show and so i was kind of doing the finesse too i guess but she was like
00:30:05.500
really pushing oh i'll come on the show but first can you take me for dinner really pushing for a
00:30:09.420
dinner i'm like are you that pressed for a dinner like but there are definitely um they're definitely
00:30:15.500
uh i think on the guy's side you're going to encounter women that they are not genuinely
00:30:22.860
themselves pursuing something serious uh if they even meet up with you maybe they just want a free
00:30:31.100
dinner some chicks will just they're bored okay they're hungry i guess i'll go out on a date with
00:30:37.340
this dude um and then there i mean there's also a lot of women on hinge that or on dating apps that
00:30:44.300
they're like just they have no intention of even meeting up with the guy ever they just want some
00:30:49.020
validation they're promoting their instagram cash app whatever it is like so i think on both sides
00:30:55.980
there's definitely some that last one's like kind of me yeah you have hold on i felt that but not
00:31:01.740
like intentionally you have your cash app in your no no no i just like i've never met up with anyone
00:31:07.740
on tinder or hinge like how long have you me neither how long have you had dating okay it's not just you
00:31:13.580
it's not just you it's been like a month or two so you the first ever dating app you had was two
00:31:23.980
months ago yeah okay yeah wait so who so reminder just who's been on a dating app okay who's been on a
00:31:33.420
date met someone in person from a dating app okay so yeah i wouldn't say a date but okay fair enough
00:31:41.820
fair enough wait so i i'm trying to remember where we were going with all that um we're talking
00:31:48.300
about like people like people yeah yeah it's okay yeah you were talking about the hookup culture and
00:31:54.700
how yeah it's because mostly on there like everyone just wants to hook up anyways so like why i that's
00:32:01.180
not what i want so you got so what was your original point that you dislike hookup culture yeah i'm
00:32:07.820
trying to remember yeah no i don't like have you ever hooked up with anyone
00:32:11.820
um like from like just in person from an app whatever maybe like fully hooking up i guess
00:32:21.500
one person and like my body count is two so i've hooked up with one person and then the other person
00:32:29.740
was my long-term boyfriend so i don't hook up okay that's fair i met up with someone last week
00:32:36.700
but yeah i mean so as far as uh the whole hookup culture i mean if that i would say that
00:32:54.380
you might not like this but i think women are gonna have to say i'm not gonna have sex with
00:32:58.220
anyone until i'm in a long-term relationship with or sorry not long term but that's a serious
00:33:02.700
relationship because i think i mean if you well i i would also say that there are definitely guys out
00:33:08.780
there if you make them wait they'll wait they'll hook up with you once and then probably ghost you
00:33:14.700
so it's like girls are i i will admit girls are kind of in a damned if you do damned if you don't
00:33:19.660
situation like okay hook up too soon then maybe a guy might judge you for that but then if you wait too
00:33:25.420
long then you're gonna start maybe you're gonna catch feelings for a guy then you hook up and then
00:33:30.700
he got what he wanted and then he's gonna dip too so it's like it's tough for girls i'm not really sure
00:33:36.140
actually kind of what the solution is but i like hung out with people like within the past few weeks
00:33:40.780
like a guy like at night and we're saying we don't do anything they don't try anything and then they
00:33:45.020
ghost me so i'm like they didn't get what they wanted or it's just me yeah i mean i would also say
00:33:51.340
that the other thing too is if you once you hook up with a guy so i think credit to uh credit to uh
00:34:02.700
myron from fresh and fit so i think it's something like as far as each gender's metric for success
00:34:10.780
so a man's job is attaining women obtaining women women's job is to retain
00:34:19.820
so if we can just get laid that's kind of like we've succeeded but for women your your sort of
00:34:26.060
metric of success is retaining the guys that you sleep with so in order to do that like how can you
00:34:31.660
do that if all you're bringing to the table is sex you got to think about okay how can i add value to
00:34:37.180
this guy's life that's where i think a lot of women get in trouble where they get stuck in hookup
00:34:40.860
culture if you're not adding value in some other way besides sex then guys are not gonna take you
00:34:46.620
seriously i want it's why it's hard though because like you've or like so many people like even what
00:34:52.700
you said back before no matter who starts it everyone's still kind of like invested in it now
00:34:56.380
like even taking back how like who perpetrates it so when you actually kind of do want to take a
00:35:00.860
step back and try to find someone who you maybe want to have something long term with it's usually
00:35:05.100
really hard or they have misconceptions going in that it's not going to be long term which i think
00:35:10.780
is what makes it difficult in ivy especially i know what you mean yeah like i feel like everyone
00:35:16.620
says like oh you're dating an ivy guy like no it's the same yeah i also feel like when you're saying
00:35:23.180
that like sometimes it's like retaining a guy like beyond just sex sometimes like the guy does not
00:35:31.420
get like make any effort to get to know like the girl at all like
00:35:40.140
like they're going into it like just for sex and they are like yeah like i said they're not making
00:35:48.940
like any effort beyond that like they're not trying to like talk to you like maybe they'll like text you
00:35:54.380
but it's just to hook up and then like when you actually try and talk about stuff they'll just
00:35:58.940
like change the topic i actually have something like i mean i'm a little disagree on that but
00:36:06.380
because like i've been listening to like what you guys said and i also feel like when it comes to
00:36:10.540
dating app there's a really straightforward solution which is just ask for like what are you looking for
00:36:16.060
you know and like yeah uh you guys also mentioned that if you if guys just want sex they can just
00:36:21.740
like you know we can just go straight into the doom but also like i feel like guys and girls are pretty
00:36:26.460
much the same like our girls who wanted to be treated nicely just like for example like in my personal
00:36:33.580
experience like i will message guy and say like oh what uh what's your what are you looking for and if
00:36:39.340
they're just looking for sex like we will still go on days you know go to a nice dinner and like have a
00:36:44.140
great day and like we will just split the bills and at the end of the day like we will have a great
00:36:48.140
sex so i feel like that's also a plus so one solution i think it will be just just straightforward
00:36:53.820
and ask what they want guys are still gonna lie though if you ask them if you ask like what they're
00:36:58.380
looking for they're still probably because i think most guys if if guys that's the thing if guys say
00:37:03.900
you know what i'm just looking for something really casual i just maybe hook up a couple times
00:37:09.260
i think a lot of women are not if if you're just straight up like that hey do you want to just
00:37:18.220
hook up most women are probably gonna say no some will i think it's very rare some will but
00:37:28.700
i think i mean we could we could ask the table like if a guy just straight up came up to you
00:37:32.540
oh i mean i got a bumble tax as a dtf as long as i got yeah and so what was your response to that
00:37:40.140
i was like down okay i mean it never responded after that i never oh but you never you didn't
00:37:46.620
actually okay but so you said down did he respond to that he said you got a place and then i just
00:37:53.100
never responded what if he was like come over to mine would you it depends on the day depends on the
00:37:59.500
day okay fair enough did you want to continue on your point a bit i don't know okay you okay
00:38:05.660
cool are we all supposed to answer that question what was the question if they text you like dtf or
00:38:12.300
whatever like sure yeah probably yeah i'll say yeah really yeah i wouldn't say first message on a
00:38:20.940
dating app or in person a guy just walks up to you hey do you want to have sex with me okay no never
00:38:26.780
mind hold up i wasn't thinking no a few weeks ago i had a guy walk up to me i don't know him i was
00:38:33.500
i was drunk and he's like want to make out i was like sure i mean i walked away never talked to him
00:38:37.180
after that okay so guy walks up to you at a party and he's just like hey what's up i think you're cute
00:38:44.140
like do you want to hook up tonight i would say no i always say no no i like have a huge fear of
00:38:51.100
rejection so like no i'd feel like it was a joke you you'd have a huge fear of rejection yeah i feel
00:38:56.380
like i just walk away i do that anyway but i'd walk away from that especially fast honestly like
00:39:01.340
if a guy did that it kind of sounds like it was either like a prank or a day no i would think that
00:39:05.820
one of them put it up like they like asked what if he stepped to you and he was
00:39:12.540
he didn't come off like he was joking like it seemed authentic
00:39:21.180
he authentically wants to have sex with you i don't like what's the setting what's the like
00:39:27.420
i authentically think he's joking because i don't know i feel like i just walk away that's my response
00:39:32.620
okay i'm really just depending on my mood yeah right all right luke what would you do a dude no i'm
00:39:39.020
kidding a girl walks up to you and she's like hey do you want to have sex at a party or something
00:39:46.460
are you down it depends it honestly depends genuinely i don't know i i tell all my friends
00:39:52.860
this i'm like if i'm going to ivy i i'm not going there to like find someone to hook up with
00:39:57.980
fuck that i'm there to party i'm there to like like jump around do some stupid shit i don't know
00:40:04.700
have fun out there it doesn't it doesn't have to be like sex all the time so yeah i do think it's
00:40:10.620
i do think it's it's all situational yeah plus i mean where are you going to do it in iv
00:40:16.220
i mean their place your their place yeah their loft
00:40:20.140
they're one twin size bed twin size with like two roommates
00:40:28.860
we're going to do uh we're going to do some soup chats and then we're going to react to a video
00:40:31.820
that is related to this uh topic here so hold on let me pull these up we have uh big chase with the uh
00:40:40.860
11 11 thank you man much appreciate looking forward to hearing some more bass takes from young
00:40:45.260
luke skywalker tonight the bros need him to bring the balance to the force also shout out to brian
00:40:50.380
the goat hey chase thank you for the uh super chat man appreciate the support good to see you
00:40:55.420
in chat man let's get you back on the show chase we got to make it happen man jordan um okay
00:41:07.980
okay i mean yeah just remind you guys ten dollars enough um virgo with the ten dollars
00:41:13.420
super chat there are plenty of good guys in santa barbara the girls are just fighting over the
00:41:16.380
same top ten percent of catches media is to blame because everyone now expects perfection
00:41:22.060
dating was better before socials um do you guys have a response i think it was
00:41:28.380
yeah 100 i mean the best relations i've not say best but like the ones that have gone ish good um
00:41:36.060
um they've been in person so yeah i don't even it's i feel like it's beyond even socials it's just
00:41:43.500
kind of like celebrities in general like you see like all these like edited photos of people who are
00:41:47.900
like stunning and i think whenever you see anybody in real life like if you're too caught up in it
00:41:52.140
you're just not yeah it's just not going to be the same because like you're exposed to like so many
00:41:57.500
people in a day and like i don't know like it's weird on tiktok you can see like stunning people like
00:42:03.340
one after the other and i don't know it's like overwhelming i think also about like dating with
00:42:08.300
socials like for me whenever i'm like texting someone like it just feels so ingenuine like i
00:42:15.020
could be having the exact same conversation to their face and it would be a hundred times different
00:42:21.420
than if i'm just reading it off of my phone like in a snap or in a dm agree with that yeah definitely i
00:42:27.660
mean i think also i my kind of rule for texting is i don't i think texting should be limited to
00:42:35.740
making plans yeah like i don't think you should be having long no first of all i don't have time for
00:42:42.300
having a cop proper conversation over text i mean there could be a little banter here and there
00:42:47.660
like a little bit's okay but having a full because a conversation that would otherwise take an hour to
00:42:53.260
play play out over text message could be accomplished in five minutes in person so just
00:42:58.540
from like a time management person i don't have time to be like constantly texting with somebody
00:43:04.140
so that's a that's a good point also like i'm not trying to get to know you like through text like
00:43:10.700
what are you supposed to like then it just feels like you're writing like some bio or like like or
00:43:16.860
like a resume like oh i do this i do this it's like well you could just talk to them in person and
00:43:21.660
then it'd be like so much more like he'd be able to like talk back or like just jump in and it's just
00:43:27.660
i don't know text like getting to know someone over text is honestly i hate it it's the worst some
00:43:32.620
people are just like shit texters and like actually get out talking like i know so many more people who
00:43:36.860
like cannot talk through text like it's like i refuse to can you give us an example i don't know if you
00:43:43.340
can like recite the conversation but like how would that look to you when someone's a shitty texter is it
00:43:50.060
just slow responses is it just uh basically like super monotone like if you like ask like hey how
00:43:56.380
was your day i don't even want to talk for that long but if you're just going to be like okay oh
00:43:59.820
like one word yeah or like w-y-d-t-n like i can't w-y-d-r-n yeah i don't know i'm just not a big texter
00:44:09.020
anymore i think you can just be so easily misconstrued over text like it's like if i say one one thing i
00:44:15.900
i don't know a prophetic example for this but i'll i'll say something and i'll i'll be meaning
00:44:19.980
to have like a playful or like like happy tone they'll take it as like some weird shit i'm like
00:44:24.060
yeah that's not what i meant whereas if you're actually talking to them face to face you have
00:44:28.140
that physical connection where there's like oh i know what you're saying i can see what you're
00:44:36.220
they send a picture don't say anything yeah yeah i hate that no i'm trying to have a conversation
00:44:42.220
and you don't let me i like snapchat because like i just i always send videos to people like
00:44:47.660
so that our conversations are all videos yeah yeah because i'm like oh this is what i'm doing right
00:44:52.380
now like you know like it's more it's just a lot more many blogs texting yeah i'll use the the voice
00:44:57.660
audio thing sometimes i feel like that's a little bit better but yeah i'm trying to get into that like
00:45:02.780
you can't be funny through text either like sarcasm doesn't work very well for real it can
00:45:07.180
like if you know each other like that yeah yeah if you know each other's humor yeah yeah exactly
00:45:11.740
that's why dating apps i think are so hard too because like i can't tell if you're funny or not
00:45:15.420
through text either it just doesn't come off right good times wait so i do want to go back to the whole
00:45:20.940
like hookup thing for a little bit here so um you guys said it's like really hard to find guys
00:45:27.100
that want something serious is that yeah so do you you guys talked a little bit about
00:45:32.460
asking guys what they're looking for so what are you guys looking for currently
00:45:41.500
honestly i don't even think i'm really like looking anymore if it happens it happens yeah yeah
00:45:46.140
i'm here 100 like i'm not actively like being like oh i need to find a boyfriend but it's just
00:45:51.740
like oh like whatever happens happens i don't trust men
00:45:59.100
from my last relationship yeah it was it's still it's still trash now
00:46:06.780
wait so okay but you so you guys are saying you you don't know what you're looking for i think it's
00:46:12.940
more like we've given up you've given up whatever happens happens mentality it usually happens without
00:46:21.260
me looking for and it goes decent can i get i want to ask you guys would you guys say that you're jaded
00:46:26.060
with dating or men men i don't think so not for me though but i don't know well i mean you said that
00:46:34.540
you've had enough what what was the what did you say you've given up so are you jaded like i
00:46:40.460
i don't know it's okay if you are that's fine i'm just i'm asking i don't know pull the mic closer
00:46:45.340
towards you sorry you're fine adjusting yeah you can scoot in by the way i don't think i have an
00:46:49.500
answer i can't really oh it's okay all good no you're you're good you're good okay i just been
00:46:55.020
from like past relationships i've been turned off from men and dating okay yeah it was a rough one
00:47:03.980
australia guy okay yeah like my last relationship i got cheated on so obviously oh twins um obviously
00:47:13.340
like that kind of like that put me off for like a little bit but yeah i'm not really looking like
00:47:19.980
if it happens it happens yeah okay yeah anybody else want to come in on this i don't know i feel
00:47:26.940
like i'm kind of mentally unstable and i kind of don't want to put someone else for that yeah i'm
00:47:30.940
gonna own up to it i'm like i've like decided this so i would yeah i feel like i you're met hold on
00:47:40.140
you're mentally unstable like so what bipolar bpd what do you got no do you have diagnosis what
00:47:47.100
i have diagnoses yeah actually let's just go around the table what do you what are your diagnosed
00:47:53.420
mental illnesses i'll go first you go first i i have ghosted about five therapists and and a
00:48:04.060
psychiatrist um i have i've only ever gotten diagnosed with depression and anxiety but like
00:48:10.780
i don't really go enough to get more diagnosis okay um for you um depression anxiety panic attacks eds
00:48:22.940
pretty open about it ed eating disorder yeah anybody else any bpd self-diagnosis bipolar okay
00:48:32.780
uh wow okay well thank you guys for the uh honesty there wait so but i i'm an open book about yeah yeah
00:48:41.500
so i mean i guess my question is because you guys were saying well you're tired of hookup culture
00:48:46.780
you but you don't know what you're looking for a lot of trauma a lot of a lot of trauma
00:48:54.780
wait really quick who's jaded i don't know if we really had anyone would anyone consider themselves
00:49:03.180
themselves jaded with dating no okay fine fair enough but so okay as far as going back to what
00:49:11.420
you guys are looking for um i think what you guys are gonna have to do if you want to date a guy that's
00:49:18.460
not gonna just want something super casual if you do want something serious um you're probably gonna
00:49:24.940
have to avoid guys who party yeah oh yeah yeah so if they're going out to ivy if they're partying
00:49:33.180
every weekend yeah i don't know it's not so much uh i think people should be free to party i don't
00:49:39.900
know if it's a red flag it's just they're probably not in a state to they're probably not gonna be
00:49:44.380
a great potential prospect for long-term commitment um yeah so but correspondingly also
00:49:53.340
are you guys willing to stop partying yourself yeah i mean like when i have a guy yeah but i'm not like
00:50:04.620
i'm not like looking for a guy so i'm not gonna like make yeah like when i party like i'm with my
00:50:10.140
friends yeah yeah that's my girlfriends like you know we're having a great time so yeah yeah when
00:50:15.580
i'm going out with parties like i'm just going out with my friends trying to have a good time
00:50:19.660
like with my friends honestly sometimes like guys bring the mood down and i'm like hey like do you
00:50:25.580
want to dip and go somewhere else guys bring the mood down what do you mean like oh well it's just
00:50:30.620
like like if you're trying to have a girl yeah go out with the girls you're pre-gaming pre-gaming
00:50:35.500
with the girls like getting ready with the girls and you're just there for like good music and each
00:50:40.460
other and you're like you're not even like looking to like talk to anyone else like you just want
00:50:46.140
maybe some like good music the environment yeah i've had a guy tell me to get back into the kitchen
00:50:51.660
once that was funny yeah do you guys want to respond to this by the way ssri pussy is best though not
00:50:57.900
gonna lie yeah i think this is tanner he's been on the show sorry go ahead sorry who's speaking i
00:51:05.420
didn't mean to cut you off there what does it say i can't see oh ssri selective serotonin reuptake
00:51:10.860
inhibitor the antidepressant drugs ssri pussy is best though not gonna lie um yeah obviously
00:51:17.580
the singular hookup i had the he was my friend we're still friends but but yeah he told me i was
00:51:24.780
the best so okay baby i mean i don't know wait so okay but so you were saying like going out to the
00:51:31.660
parties and stuff okay so would you uh if you were starting to talk to a guy and you were interested in
00:51:38.540
him and you were angling for a serious committed relationship with him and he said i'm willing to be
00:51:45.500
being monogamous with you but you cannot party anymore would you like what do you pick the guy
00:51:52.060
or do you pick the party you go with them you go with them to the party what if he doesn't want to
00:51:57.100
party then you don't go to the parties yeah if like for you okay yeah yeah like i feel like sorry
00:52:05.660
yeah you go ahead and we'll get to you like honestly like you should just like let me do my own thing but
00:52:10.780
also like know like i'm not going to hook up with other people like there's that level of trust that
00:52:16.460
they should have with you and each other let me ask you a question though so you said in your
00:52:21.740
last relationship you were cheated on correct yes do you know the context of how you were cheated on
00:52:25.900
did it was did he cheat on you at a party yes he met the girl at the party yeah what do you think
00:52:34.300
alcohol was involved yes in his infidelity yeah okay so is it okay so is it fair to say that
00:52:42.540
when you're put in situations where there's alcohol and a bunch of people and drugs and partying that
00:52:50.140
the likelihood of infidelity infidelity is increased honestly yes okay but as like me like i could be
00:52:58.940
drunk off my ass but i'm not like oh my god i'm gonna go hook up with that guy like if when i was
00:53:04.300
in a relationship like obviously i'm not looking to do that but i mean would you do you think that
00:53:09.500
most cheating occurs in situations where there's alcohol involved yes or drugs or drugs yeah go ahead
00:53:15.500
i think yeah but at the end of the day cheaters are gonna cheat like they wanted their if they want
00:53:21.020
to cheat they're gonna do it anyways and that's why when i like actually start talking to someone
00:53:25.260
i like say like i don't care what the you do like you can go out and party or whatever like
00:53:31.100
if you want to cheat though like just break up with me like break up and go with whoever you want
00:53:36.700
like there's just no point in yeah there's no point in me like parenting you policing you
00:53:43.020
yeah like drunk sayings drunk actions are just sober thoughts unless you're blocked out oh yeah
00:53:49.180
yeah so wait i i was going around the table on something did everyone get an opportunity to
00:53:57.820
um i don't remember what it was yeah no so the question was you're starting to see this guy
00:54:06.060
would you stop he's gotta like do that on purpose he's on the stream yeah he's watching
00:54:14.380
the stream so the the question just was you're talking to a guy you're interested in him he's
00:54:22.380
interested in you you you bring up hey i want to take it to the next step i want us to be monogamous
00:54:28.780
i want it to be boyfriend girlfriend whatever and he says yes i'm down but i don't want you to go into
00:54:33.420
bars or bars clubs or parties anymore honestly do you say do you say yes i want to be with you or
00:54:38.940
sorry you're not going to control me i'm going to keep partying i oh did you go no sorry well one
00:54:44.380
i work at a bar so i can't really like stop being at the place i work oh sorry sorry um but also
00:54:52.380
i think i do that like subconsciously like without even like them asking me to like when i was in my
00:54:58.220
long-term relationship like i didn't really go out much like i spent most of my time with him
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um so yeah i would i would not go with the guy i see um i mean i've seen it mainly in like long
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distance relationships where like it's the guy like telling the girl like she cannot go out and
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she is miserable like she like miserable well i wouldn't say miserable that was a little bit of a
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exaggeration i do exaggerate quite a bit but like like all like all her friends are getting ready
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going out going out like in ivy just like having fun and she'll just be like sitting at home like by
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herself and like yeah she has her like boyfriend to talk to i guess but at the same time it's like
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like she can go out with her girlfriends yeah like her roommates like you need to trust her like
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i think i think that honestly if a guy says like you cannot go out then it's a little bit
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of a red flag because it's kind of like he has some trust issues like he doesn't trust me that's a good
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point yeah i agree with that in my last relationship that i was in it was it was really controlling to
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the point where she didn't want me to do anything and i would tell her like listen you know i've been
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cheated on before i know it's fucked up it's kind of the same gig too right not good and if you think
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i'm gonna cheat on you then this is already not gonna work because there's there's no there's no
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trust if i was going to do something which i already have proven that i never would like this would
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already be over there's no and and vice versa that's what i'm expecting as well and one of my i
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actually want to get your guys's opinions on this so one of my friends um is dating this girl and
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they love each other very much they just moved away to college one's in colorado and i think the
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other one is in texas or southern california forget their their like agreement is that they're allowed
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if they they can go out and they can sleep with someone else but but i know i know i know but but
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if they sleep with the same person twice or it gets excessive it's immediately over wait so who who
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propositioned this the guy or the girl the guy oh i think actually i'm actually not 100 100 sure it
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could have been the guy my again my friend i don't see why he would do that because that's not like him
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but i also don't really know the girl so it could have gone either way cheating in general sucks no i
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know i know but their their whole thing is like they want to keep their relationship but they also
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don't want to be controlled by the other person when they're like 200 miles away or more and i have
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the last strings of that like you're just trying to hold it together yeah right okay you just want
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to go other people like you just want to validate that like the guy whatever whoever brought up
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like i want to do this i'm going to allow you to do it too i mean i respect that you want to go do
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that but i don't think you should be together yeah i mean personally i think the extent that that
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that should go to is like you can go to a party you can talk to other people that's what it was
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yeah hooking the whole thing is like if i get drunk and i accidentally fuck up and and sleep with
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someone are you really going to be that mad and and i asked him i'm like dude how would you really
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feel about that like your girl getting dog and it's some like accident he was like well i think it's
00:58:29.500
fine i'm like okay bro you're losing on that one that's a yikes yeah everything it is it really
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hurts someone from experience yeah yeah so just back to the original thing so i don't know if you
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had an opportunity to answer it the whole like if your uh potential future boyfriend's like hey i
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don't want you to go out anymore do you say yes or sorry i'm oh hell no like don't don't restrict
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my freedom i won't restrict yours i'll never ask to go through your phone i don't want anything i don't
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even need your location but you have what i do is what i do okay same i think it really just
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depending on like how further you're in in this relationship and what's the reason that like
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potential boyfriend doesn't want me to go out okay so would you guys be okay with uh your boyfriend
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going to the strip club i i almost went with my last boyfriend he wanted to go and i said sure
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you want to go to he went he went he went by himself or with his friends no oh i got invited
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okay we're gonna go around the table on the question would you have an issue with it
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my ex-boyfriend actually did go to the strip club your last boyfriend yes
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okay you he like it's like hey me and the boys are gonna go to the strip club but like and i was
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like okay why and they're like they just want to check it out like real quick
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and like he sent me like i'm holding like a bunch of ones and i was like okay have fun
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throw some ones for me and honestly like okay this was like a school not a school trip but this was
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like um no this was like a senior trip of high school you know like the summer after senior ended
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everyone goes like on a trip like your class goes on yeah grad yeah something like that so like a lot
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of people are there but i wasn't there so yeah so wait this was like a foreign strip club that they
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went to no no this is hawaii they're like the grad me kawaii yeah yeah okay yeah yeah yeah dude
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what are you what are you guys opinions on that like i was just like oh that's we have a chat here
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for you by the way oh let me see pta you'd be a good soccer mom thank you so much i actually really
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like that i'll ship my kids off wait so thank you but you so you would not have an issue with your
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boyfriend going to the strip okay to be honest i was an idiot i thought he was joking and then
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after that i was like oh he actually went but i like i know he didn't do anything because i'm like
01:01:14.860
i know his friends and like you know they they're too weird to do they're too weird they they dead
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ass were in there for like two minutes i think they said that they were in there for like five
01:01:25.420
minutes and left because it was too hot yeah like that's literally it so like i knew like nothing
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like happened but okay like let's say so and that's that is a scenario that happened but yeah
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would you have an issue with your boyfriend going to the strip club yes okay oh sorry um i feel like
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i guess it kind of depends but like i don't think i'd like encourage it you know like it wouldn't be
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something i'm like yeah for sure but i don't know i don't know i don't think i'd like that you would
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not like it if your boyfriend went to the strip club yeah okay you go ahead i think no but like
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there are some cases where i'd say like if it was okay like maybe if he like let me i mean kind of i
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want to revise the question a little bit let me just ask how often do you guys go out every weekend
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to party about yeah yeah thursday friday saturday friday saturday friday saturday okay
01:02:27.100
so your boyfriend goes to the strip club two times a week no no no no is this like a ritual thing
01:02:35.100
go ahead he's like a regular i mean if he wants to go he can but like sure i don't know why you'd
01:02:39.100
want like like what do you get you got a girl you got a girl already i mean if you want to go see
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like go have fun go throw well like i don't go i don't think i would mind i mean you wouldn't mind okay
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yeah i think it's because where i come from like i just never experienced it like i personally wanted
01:02:52.300
to go and just see what's good yeah sure i want to see magic mike here's another question um would you
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have an issue with a guy paying for another girl's only fans while dating you yeah yes if he was paying
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for a girl's only fans yes okay unless it's like i mean again extreme circumstances like maybe he's just
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like really trying to like support her like he was like supporting her like before we were together
01:03:20.620
and he's just trying to be a good guy get her through college but so you guys all have an issue with that
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but you would still you yourself you want to go out to party and club so but and you guys were kind
01:03:38.700
of talking about i wouldn't want someone to limit me in that way or to control me in that way but i suspect
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you'd want to prevent your boyfriend from doing those things he's paying for it then he's really
01:03:49.020
trying to get it but also like a strip club like you're going for the girls yeah yeah i mean i don't
01:03:55.740
see why else you'd go to a strip club the drinks like a bachelor party yeah i'd be like okay yeah
01:04:02.380
have fun like it was like a group thing and he just got dragged along yeah i mean i would say that
01:04:08.460
the likelihood of a guy going to a strip club and being able to sleep with one of the strippers
01:04:14.060
is lower than a guy coming up to you at a party like part like hooking up with people
01:04:24.220
hooking up with people at bars clubs or parties is fairly common but most customers cannot sleep
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with the strippers yeah but i had a a friend they'll pay for it maybe my ex's friend um was
01:04:37.820
staying with us i lived with max he was staying with us with his girlfriend and while his girlfriend
01:04:42.780
was asleep he snuck off went to a strip club paid a stripper they had sex in her car and he went back
01:04:47.420
to her and acted like nothing yeah a lot of the strippers escort but she he paid yeah right like 400
01:04:52.060
bucks but it's never gonna be another girl that wasn't his girlfriend that they were she was asleep and
01:04:56.940
he just snuck off at my house and just went to yeah definitely a lot of uh dancers a lot of strippers
01:05:03.580
they uh they're not allowed to there they'll they won't sleep with a customer for love but they'll do
01:05:09.180
for money yeah yeah but it's still just go ahead i think the point is well like the point is like
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guys go to strip clubs to look at women and like you don't go to parties for male attention i don't go
01:05:22.540
like i go with my friends like the whole point is like me going with my friends if couldn't you just
01:05:26.380
hang out at someone's house and just drink and watch the bachelor it's not the same though like
01:05:31.100
yeah we do that too but sometimes like going out to the club but so i guess the point i'm trying to
01:05:35.980
make is is that when you guys go out do you guys approach you and hit on you but even when i'm not
01:05:42.700
going out like i'll be walking to freaking the corner store like sure yeah so but but i would say that
01:05:48.620
that whereas you you could go to trader joe's or go about your day there's like maybe a guy will come
01:05:58.060
and talk to you but it's probably less likely than you getting approached at a bar or club or a party
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like it's a foregone conclusion if a girl goes to a party like probably some dude's gonna hit on her
01:06:10.460
try to dance with her or something like that like it's gonna happen
01:06:14.060
and it's it's a very whereas if you're going to trader joe's like the intention there is
01:06:21.180
to go get groceries but if you go to a party the intention there like you're intentionally going
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to a social gathering you go to bar club it's a social gathering people meet each other yeah the
01:06:34.940
attention is to party not to like i mean some people do go to like find someone but the intention is to
01:06:40.060
party with the you're going to see a stripper like your intention is to see like fucking some titties
01:06:49.180
all i want well i guess i'll i'll sort of try to we're going to move on from this soon but what i
01:06:54.700
would say is that part of being in the long-term relationship is closing off your options yeah you
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can't keep your options open when you're in a relationship no so my my position is is that if
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you're going to in the same way that you should probably get off of dating apps if you're in a
01:07:15.820
relationship that would be keeping your options open i think that going to parties bars and clubs
01:07:22.460
is whether whether you have you could be super loyal have no intention of it to some degree it's
01:07:27.820
still sort of like you are keeping your options open if you go to these i disagree i disagree because
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you will but you're you're going to be hit on part part sorry go ahead disagree i have a i mean me and
01:07:42.540
vivi have a friend and she once in a while will come up come out with us she'll come with her boyfriend
01:07:47.580
yeah there recently was a party i don't know if you guys went it was you wear a certain color depending
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on if you're single yeah the red light yeah yeah stop my me me and vivi were green and my friend
01:07:57.420
wore red and that was definitely i mean that that was a different situation of like you're indicating
01:08:01.500
that you're taken or whatever but her personally that's just the one person that comes out with us
01:08:06.620
who's in a relationship she ignores everyone no one ever really comes up to her she's very much in
01:08:11.980
her girl group she doesn't go off to talk to anyone yeah and you reject them like yeah like i have a
01:08:16.780
boyfriend she backs up every time someone tried to talk to come up to us and talk she would back away and
01:08:21.180
kind of hide yeah no i literally would stand in front of her and be like no you would tell people
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like yo back the fuck off like you're not getting anything and should i chat should i do the dream
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world hypothetical scenario here oh shit verx thank you for uh all the gifted memberships unfortunately
01:08:36.540
in stream yard i'm not sure it doesn't i don't think it um allows us to pull it up unfortunately but
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verx let me just acknowledge you and give you a big shout out jesus my hair is
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fucking scuffed hold on guys i have to get a fucking hat
01:08:53.580
uh oh guys do i do the pickle haba one one for the pickle haba world war one guys not world war
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two um or the just the u.s flag hat two for the u.s flag hat um but verx thank you for the uh
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uh gifted memberships man much appreciated you're a legend um where was i okay so i i don't even
01:09:15.980
remember what the ones and twos were the one was the one was the other one luke you're wearing the
01:09:22.780
pickle haba all right can you put it on us eric oh god oh mike davis is in the chat
01:09:33.340
we've got this uh this vigil here for you i don't know if you notice the candles man also we have
01:09:51.260
the bbc the big black clock um if you can just hide that just for a second eric while i just show
01:09:56.940
him the bbc we'll we'll pull it back up um yeah that's uh and it by the way if you note the time
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it's at uh well okay so mike davis good to see you man yeah dude you've been we haven't seen you as
01:10:10.380
frequently in the show so i wanted to do a little vigil for you um can we get some uh he's alive can
01:10:16.780
we get some scandal some scandals some some candles uh for mr mike davis but mike davis thank you
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for the uh soup chat let me just let me do some soup chats right now while i have it ready
01:10:31.260
what's that you feel honored yeah yeah yeah since he's been gone uh mike davis what's good fam just
01:10:36.060
tuning in and don't have time to stick around tonight's lineup looks like a pack of degenerates
01:10:40.060
someone please do community service and handle them from i don't know if he even saw the mike davis
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you're not even acknowledging the i'm not sure brian please donate this money so she can get laser
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tattoo uh my gangsterism with the ten dollar soup chat thank you for the ten dollars covered ones
01:10:57.820
uh do you want to uh fire back yet uh if you want to pay for it go ahead
01:11:06.140
exactly i was tattoo over them yeah there's someone in the chat that was asking for you to do a do a
01:11:11.740
tattoo check yeah tattoo tour i don't know how how many did we say there was like 50 there's like
01:11:17.980
i counted there's almost 50 i counted the other day reading the one i was reading the one on your
01:11:22.300
arm i think that's what's really cool at some point you just let go and move on because no matter
01:11:26.860
how painful it is it's the only way we grow damn wow i fuck with that one i fuck with that one does
01:11:31.980
anyone else have tattoos wow just me i have one too all right four guys can can we just acknowledge how
01:11:40.540
handsome luke looks in the pickle haba it's a good look man thank you i think tilt it down slightly there we go
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okay anyway super chat super chat no i'm kidding yeah let me just get a little flash going
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every total i have the gnarliest tramp stamp it says boner garage jesus okay nice uh luke tron with
01:12:01.500
the ten dollar soup chat is leonardo dicaprio an f-boy we can ask the panel real quick yes or no
01:12:06.780
i don't know much about well i know he gets with younger girls that's all yeah yeah he's like 44 and i think
01:12:13.740
he only uh 25 women yeah i don't know much what a chad okay um so do you guys would you guys date
01:12:23.900
leonardo caprio let me reframe the question when he if he was younger like when he was young leo
01:12:29.900
he's still kind of a babe i think he's not a little out of my age range
01:12:33.340
yeah and like i mean the status is obviously insane is a little high for me but come on leo even
01:12:40.940
the money maybe i don't think so i don't think i would other other guys the same age maybe young leo
01:12:48.540
he's like the age of my dad so no yeah no would you lose oh no you know what i might be
01:12:56.220
gay for pain just saying okay um no i'm kidding uh let's see uh we've got and i think uh okay
01:13:06.700
so oh yeah dream world hypothetical scenario okay okay so that we're going back to the like clubbing
01:13:13.180
thing a little bit here okay so okay i'm gonna create a dream world since let's be honest unless
01:13:22.780
like as a guy you're super famous girls really don't be hitting up guys like this in the example
01:13:27.500
i'm about to provide in the real world like the vast majority of men if they go out to parties clubs
01:13:32.380
or bars get ignored um so this is a hypothetical scenario so would you be okay
01:13:43.100
with your long-term monogamous partner going to a nightclub bar ooh nice voice crack nightclub bar
01:13:49.500
or party type environment where throughout the course of the night he's going to get approached
01:13:53.500
flirted with and sexually pursued by numerous attractive women some of which are more attractive
01:13:58.780
than you and could potentially be a better partner than you these women are buying him drinks getting
01:14:03.980
him drunk and enthusiastically want to sleep with him that night and steal him away from you
01:14:10.220
he's also out with his single male friends his manhole friends who are rallying being a bad influence by
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the way you guys just had an argument earlier on in the day um and yeah so would you be okay with that
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scenario um i mean i actually would honestly yeah if he didn't take like the free drinks and kept on
01:14:39.580
like pushing it you can get approached like like you can't really stop that yeah i don't know so i
01:14:45.500
guess yes yeah i guess it'd be fine as long as he doesn't pursue anything yeah yeah as long as there's
01:14:51.340
there's no actions being taken then yeah so maybe he should drop his friends but yeah
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i say that's yeah you guys wouldn't mind that if nothing actually happens i don't see that level
01:15:01.420
of trust yeah yeah well you we don't know if anything's happening but i mean those those
01:15:07.740
things are occurring as long as the guy isn't taking the action to actually pursue anything that
01:15:11.980
this girl is like either offering or like trying to as long as nothing happens then it's fine yeah but
01:15:18.060
you know you guys don't have any instinct to want to mate guard i mean yeah every girl you're gonna
01:15:24.620
want him to not like be out there like getting approached but like at the end of the day it's
01:15:30.860
gonna happen i believe i have a hot boyfriend some people i mean for me like my first instinct is to
01:15:36.780
be like wait what like what's going on but then like i like take a step back and i'm like oh that's a
01:15:43.500
little much like if i really like the guy like i trust him to not do things even when i'm not there
01:15:51.180
and even when like all this is going on and even if he's drunk like like that shouldn't be an excuse
01:15:59.660
like even when you're drunk like you should still be coherent you should still know what's going on
01:16:05.180
have control over your actions like i'm not that much like i can admit that i'm not really like a
01:16:10.140
hypocrite here i think we've all gotten hit on before yeah and none of us have reciprocated it
01:16:14.220
like if you're if you don't want to yeah i literally i was at the bar the other day and
01:16:19.340
this guy like bought me drinks and i obviously knew that he like wanted to like hook up or something but
01:16:23.900
i just walked away yeah you get your free drink and you walk away yeah i didn't promise him anything
01:16:28.860
but when the top g steps to you you gotta hold back when the top g see that's the thing is that
01:16:36.860
you're putting yourself in because i mean if he doesn't hold back then you break up with him
01:16:42.140
yeah and honestly like at the end of the day like if he's gonna i yeah and i always think like glass
01:16:50.140
half full if there's someone better than me for him like yeah damn i think every man is gonna cheat
01:16:59.100
and oh not sorry you could do everything for a fucking guy and they're gonna cheat from personal
01:17:09.980
experience sorry my nails from personal experience i tell a little personal thing i paid for everything
01:17:17.660
for a guy for an entire year of our relationship and he still cheated multiple times oh my sweet so much
01:17:22.940
yeah you wait you paid for everything yeah everything he ever needed everything and he
01:17:30.780
lived with me and he still cheated multiple times damn you were sent were you simping for him
01:17:37.020
i felt bad for him it was like a pity he moved in after a month because he was homeless
01:17:43.020
and i paid for everything for over a year was he he was homeless when you met practically yeah
01:17:49.740
so you go for homeless men guys in the chat you guys have a chance
01:17:55.660
is this the same one my last ex yeah yeah the one that likes you still no no wait
01:18:03.900
she's breaking out the tea he lives with my mom in colorado wait oh you're right what that's like
01:18:09.260
oh my god what i hope he never sees this but your mother yeah
01:18:15.100
yeah how was she okay with that we broke up on good terms okay we broke up got back together but
01:18:22.620
i mean there's like the main detail that i i don't think i should say but it would make a lot more
01:18:28.540
sense jaws drop every single time i say it i think you should just say it you should say it you should
01:18:35.100
say it oh fuck if he ever find this he's literally gonna fucking kill me um or kill himself i don't
01:18:42.220
know uh he told me he was gay but then cheated on me with multiple women oh i forgot that was the same
01:18:48.700
one wow sounds like a catch eh yeah what a stud yeah that's the reason why she can't go home to see
01:18:56.460
i can't go to i can't go visit my mom because he lives there oh wait you're letting a guy not let
01:19:02.780
you visit your mom bro bro that's your mom that's not his mom yeah she doesn't know the full story
01:19:11.020
because oh man what a dog yeah good times i got money now so i'm chilling
01:19:19.500
i don't worry about that he's broke you're up wait really quick i'm totally changing the subject
01:19:26.060
here have any of you ever had a sugar daddy i'm gonna sugar mom no no no okay i think i have one
01:19:33.020
like in my dms or like they're like the scammers no no no like my friend's sugar daddy like has been
01:19:40.220
texting me but like i i haven't gotten any money from him so it doesn't count i have it yeah got it
01:19:47.020
people make so much money from that sometimes though i get it i don't know i saw a tick tock
01:19:52.460
where this uh guy's like recording his girl's like phone like when they're in bed she's like i'm
01:19:56.300
working she got like six grand from this guy and he's like okay like he's like he's like fine with
01:20:00.700
it i'm just working honey like i've heard of people who get like 500 from like a 30 minute facetime
01:20:07.740
call less than that i had okay there's no one i'm gonna point out here i don't even they're not
01:20:12.620
they're not gonna watch this but like i was with a friend once a couple years ago and like
01:20:17.420
she randomly one night decided to like sell her feet pics oh like randomly and she made like 200
01:20:24.140
bucks in like two seconds just by finding someone randomly and i was like wow i have something to say
01:20:29.100
too i was i was going out to dinner with some friends and one of the girls had just gotten fired
01:20:35.180
from her job so she barely had any money she's like hold on whips out her phone texts like two dudes
01:20:40.940
and asks them hey can you send me like 200 bucks for dinner oh yeah it's crazy i mean there's
01:20:57.740
definitely oh sorry did you want to go ahead you had oh i was gonna say something funny i think my
01:21:02.300
mom might kill me if she watches this say it she's not watching she's watching uh my mom i okay i don't
01:21:09.340
she she's like you should start an only fans for your fee and i'll be your momager i was like
01:21:16.540
like chris jenner yeah chris jenner i was like iconic so every now and then i'll be like mom i'm
01:21:22.860
ready to start my only fans and she's like only feet though oh yeah looking at smarter that way though
01:21:29.020
no connection yeah i was like she's like just keep it like anonymous and i was like how
01:21:33.740
do you want me to promote this your profile picture is just your feet yeah yeah oh i know
01:21:38.300
a girl who sells feet pics in town and i saw a picture of her like sucking her own toe
01:21:45.420
oh and she sells them like that oh i mean she's making money like good for her
01:21:51.260
i'm like yeah but also she has us like fake instagram followers oh oh yeah she needs that
01:21:57.580
money then i know y'all y'all are hilarious in the chat by the way yeah they're funny so
01:22:13.580
oh gosh shout out to josh really quick you got it yeah
01:22:16.060
so i want to go actually we didn't really have a chance for everyone to finish their whole uh
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if you have a what is it something you want to get off your i think we ended on you i think you
01:22:31.100
did give your like get something you wanted to get off your chest about dating i think you did
01:22:35.980
give something right no something you wanted to get off your chest about dating we'll come back to
01:22:41.100
that i just have a question for the panel so okay what does it take for a guy to get you
01:22:53.260
i don't know i'm very much like turned off by a lot of men now
01:22:57.900
like hooking up is not fun for me unless i'm like borderline blackout but um unless you're what
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what wait say that we're gonna get canceled again again if i'm borderline blacked out then maybe
01:23:12.780
oh not a good thing okay that's a case right there
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but sober things are scary for me i can't do a lot of things sober i feel like
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i don't know but okay i guess to answer your question what can i do um
01:23:32.700
that's a hard question what do you let me reframe the question what are your standards
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very low but like do you think that's do you think that's a factor in your pick of men being
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not oh yeah 100 okay yeah that definitely okay it's probably why i get ghosted all the time um very low
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standards oh a guy could literally i guess just being really respectful that's like a big thing
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for me it's really low like that's a really low thing but a lot of guys aren't so i guess i don't
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really have a clear answer to answer that sure but yeah i don't know like take me out on dates like
01:24:13.100
buy me flowers that's like really low yes but like also um just like act interested like you want
01:24:18.940
to get to know me like i don't know like this is a pretty hard question like come back to me on this
01:24:24.460
sounds like a lot of work take you on dates okay come back to me has a guy ever gotten you flowers
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before yes was it like a first date or in a relationship um in a relationship okay yeah did
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you like that he got you flowers okay yeah yeah small but big gesture yeah like flowers okay come
01:24:46.220
back to me come back i gotta think um i don't even know the bars in hell and they still can't reach it
01:24:54.060
they still can't reach it like you just have to be like a genuine person like it has to i feel like
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more so it has to do with like the vibes like if you don't vibe with them like like if i don't vibe with
01:25:06.140
the person if i don't like being around them like i'm not like no matter what they do i don't really
01:25:10.620
think i'm gonna date them so i think that's more what matters the vibe what is the vibe
01:25:18.780
like sometimes you hang out with the person you're like oh like there's i don't like you like there's
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something about you i don't like or whatever so can you i want you to try to elaborate on the vibe okay
01:25:33.020
because i don't know because like i guess with some people like you've met like sometimes you'll
01:25:39.180
meet up with a person you'll be like oh my gosh it's like i've known you forever like i like to be
01:25:43.340
around you like i don't like my energy doesn't get like drained being around you you know okay so
01:25:50.940
it's like somebody could be around at all times sure by the way as far as the standards go you can
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list something physical you can list physical traits you can list personality character traits too so
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if there's a height component if you guys want to date some women have like nine is a good one
01:26:07.580
right now six nine i met a guy who's six nine like recently my co-workers yeah her yeah and he yeah
01:26:15.900
that's a good height yeah being taller is like a guy who's even taller than that he's pushing like seven
01:26:21.660
foot wait okay i want to continue on with that but here's a question is there any either character
01:26:28.540
trait or physical looks related thing that will get you to ignore red flags tattoos and piercings
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so if the guy's tatted yeah yeah you will disregard the red flags will turn like yellow
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yeah yeah yeah it's definitely like height i'm also a sucker for height yeah yeah how tall how tall
01:26:52.620
when you say height how what's your height and how tall are you talking i'm five eight and
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i'm talking maybe like six two or above six foot's not cutting it anymore six two and above yeah okay i
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don't know i don't really i can't like imagine how tall guys are like not great with those numbers so
01:27:16.540
i'm like i don't know i feel like i mean like i'm six no i'm not six i'm five eight six foot's only
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like this much taller than me i'm wait hold on so six foot is not enough it's not well like it's not
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enough to for me to ignore red flags that was the question sure okay yeah i guess i did frame it in
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that way but even just not taking into consideration the whole red flag thing okay is six feet still kind
01:27:45.100
of too short for you no okay fair enough i'm fine with someone like even a little shorter than me
01:27:51.340
i honestly unpopular opinion but and so what about you your height and then i am five one
01:27:59.660
anyone that's taller than me but honestly like okay she's my best friend she's five eight i don't
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want to be i'm with a guy that she can look down at she doesn't want a guy that i don't could beat
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up that she i don't want a guy that she can beat up i see okay yes it's a good baseline
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i'm i'm the standard men out there i'm the standard when they come up to you they have to like i'd be
01:28:25.660
like maddie come here yeah you uh when when you're meeting you actually meet guys at an mma cage and
01:28:33.020
you have them fight her yeah yeah i have to casually walk by yeah in the distance wait what
01:28:39.980
you can see how tall they are i've done this before i have to casually walk by just so she could make
01:28:45.020
sure i didn't i'm sure they gotta meet each other and if she's looking down you're cut off are you
01:28:52.460
wearing heels in this situation no she's wearing flats so okay i'm going barefoot
01:28:58.540
i'm trying to help him out can we get some skulls in the chat for all the short kings okay
01:29:14.140
okay so i i don't i'm i'm i'm someone who was insecure about their height and then realized
01:29:23.260
in the long run it doesn't really matter plus yeah i'm gonna be honest
01:29:28.300
i'm gonna be straight up i could kick almost anyone's ass like yeah i'm not worried about
01:29:33.660
losing in a fight to some fucker especially if he's a little taller than me no dude just
01:29:37.740
fucking go for the ankles it's not that hard go for the dick you just that's off limits uh anything
01:29:45.580
any character traits or physical traits that would have you ignoring red flags i don't know i think
01:29:51.980
all i'd ever really want from a guy is just kind of like because i consider myself kind of ambitious
01:29:55.580
so if you got goals too i mean if you're like set if you have like a path i with that yeah
01:30:01.100
i agree tattoo on the height tattoo yeah okay you said tattoo and height yeah how tall are you i'm
01:30:10.940
five six so six three and above six three and above by the way six three and above that's only one
01:30:18.700
percent of men just letting you guys know i'm fine being single just letting you guys know yeah but i
01:30:23.740
know that was what's yours with girls what's gonna ignore all the red flags so baggage thank you for
01:30:30.300
that ignore all the red flags i don't say all but like some that are so okay again i don't have a
01:30:37.020
height preference i really don't like if if she's like four eight i'm like okay that's like that's
01:30:43.100
like a person yeah i don't know so i guess like five foot is a minimum height but like i don't care if
01:30:51.740
if she's like if she's tall if if she's like six four i don't care okay i will climb a tall tree
01:30:58.460
like i don't know i up there i will climb a tall tree i feel like i'm a tall girl i'm five eight
01:31:04.300
and i sometimes feel like it's sometimes like a hindrance being this tall i feel like especially
01:31:07.980
guys guys don't really want to be around girls they're height it's not just like a girl thing
01:31:11.580
i don't think they get intimidated yeah yeah guys get intimidated by tall women yeah i think so
01:31:19.500
maybe because they think that women have an issue with height i don't i come from like a really tall
01:31:25.420
family so like i think it's just like a preference thing sorry i didn't mean to press that um you
01:31:31.980
know i i think for most guys most guys do not care about height at all no like they'll date a woman
01:31:40.380
who's i'm six feet i'll date a girl who's six five i'll date a woman who's well and i'll i'm about to
01:31:48.300
get into the things that'll make me ignore red flag honestly if her height doesn't start with four
01:31:54.460
she ain't the one four eleven four ten i'm just what i have a cute height legally a dwarf
01:32:05.420
hook it up i know i like seeing i'm sorry you're too tall for me i like i like seeing like six foot
01:32:11.420
five guys with like really short girls for some reason i don't know yeah i think actually the
01:32:16.220
like a mate and maddie type situation oh see there's definitely like some short women so the
01:32:22.140
average female heights five four women who are like five feet no offense um they seem to actually
01:32:28.460
have a hot more of a preference for a guy who's like say six feet no that's true yeah then does
01:32:33.500
then does a woman who's like average height five four five six five eight so uh but yeah as far as
01:32:39.900
red flags that would make me or that things in a woman that would make me ignore six five and homeless
01:32:46.700
is her time yeah six five homeless i'll take it yeah pretty much i would say uh short the short
01:32:54.780
shorter the better she can be a midget i guess a dwarf hey there's sorry maybe that i don't think
01:33:00.700
that's the politically correct term and large labia okay all labia matter guys can get some all
01:33:09.020
all labia matter in the chat guys thank you so um let's see here uh okay stifler ask the ladies
01:33:14.460
to rate themselves on a scale of one to ten okay we can do that go ahead i think seven dude i was
01:33:20.540
gonna say seven too i'd say myself seven so seven rate ourselves yeah yeah your physical appearance
01:33:27.820
we're all tens here but like i don't care okay so you're a ten we're all tens maybe like six point
01:33:43.660
eight nah like a four oh no that's why i said we all have to say we're tens yeah i think i'm a four too
01:33:53.020
like seven oh it was only supposed to be for the ladies no yeah right yourself he's gonna jump
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in i i give myself like six six point nine on a good day trying to kick out
01:34:07.020
and then okay we got logan paul i want to get pegged by andrew tate
01:34:11.020
unpopular opinion i think logan paul's hot how dare you
01:34:15.260
the silence that is unpopular when he doesn't have that like homeless looking yeah yeah when
01:34:23.020
that's off i get your point yeah yeah i mean logan paul i met him before oh you met him yeah like a
01:34:30.140
long time ago you met him a long time ago y'all smashed no no no okay it was like a meet and greet
01:34:38.700
type of oh like vidcon or something no but like in that type of sure sure sure okay i was like 13
01:34:46.780
so i wanted to come back to you because you said come back to me for the standards thing so what are
01:34:51.100
your oh my god i didn't even think of it i was just like agreeing with what they're saying they
01:34:54.380
basically got like everything like that did everyone get to give their standards for a guy
01:34:59.340
yeah because i switched over to the red flag right i do want to bring it back
01:35:03.340
i think it ended off with yazzy right yeah yeah yeah you got yours yeah you got yours i think so
01:35:10.620
did you get to go your standards for is it like for for dating or yeah like what what does it take
01:35:17.820
for a guy to get you your standards it could be physical it could be personality um i feel like i'm
01:35:24.060
just looking for guys that's not going to lower my standard of living so you mean you want a guy who
01:35:30.220
matches you your earnings yeah or like financial wise okay you know because you can be more on the
01:35:37.500
same page and not going to be an issue because i was in your shoes before i got cheated on yeah i pay
01:35:42.780
for a lot of things and you know he still owe me money oh yeah yeah 100 yeah so like i learned from
01:35:48.860
my mistakes i was like i'm not about to do that no more a guy's paying for me all the way next time
01:35:53.900
where can you find women who are simps you know right here
01:36:00.220
it'd be nice right i mean have you it would be nice have you had a proper sim for you
01:36:05.020
like people call me like sugar mom the same way that guys sim for women no no definitely not
01:36:11.900
i i have a friend would you like it though oh i would love it oh my god
01:36:16.540
yeah i i think it'd be fun okay i have a friend that someone asked her like are you friends with
01:36:22.060
jubilee because she gives you stuff oh yeah our friend it's our best friend someone really genuinely
01:36:27.340
went up to her like are you only friends with her because she'll like get you stuff sometimes
01:36:31.180
just because she's my best friend i would get her shit sometimes i would pay for food sometimes
01:36:35.420
i don't know i was nice i'm just a nice person honestly i feel like if a girl just brought like
01:36:41.180
on our second time hanging out just brought me like a three dollar trinket or some bullshit i'd be
01:36:46.940
like holy shit i'd be like super i pulled a tech deck out of my purse i'm like here's your tech deck
01:36:51.980
here just play with it a tech deck yeah i keep a tech deck in my purse wait can we bust no i'm
01:36:56.460
kidding i don't i don't have it here bummer bummer bummer okay so i was on a date with a guy and i
01:37:01.580
gave him a tech deck and he goes on his instagram story just pulling tricks he was real hyped about
01:37:04.940
it he had a great time so we were talking a bit earlier about um sort of hookup culture and you guys
01:37:13.820
wanting guys to be you would you say you wish guys were more up front with you yeah about their
01:37:19.580
intentions yes okay and we sort of went into that eric we're going to pull up a video here if you
01:37:24.860
can go to the videos tab for us all right play the uh let's play the uh scroll up just a bit play
01:37:35.260
the brian asking video did you speak english uh i just thought you were really cute and i want to know
01:37:47.100
if you wanted to have sex no no okay that's quite rude i just thought you're cute and i want to know
01:37:55.180
if you wanted to have sex no no i thought you're really cute and i want to know if you want to have
01:38:02.460
sex with me and i want to know if you want to have sex did you guys speak english yeah are you where you
01:38:11.420
from australia australia australia cool you guys are really cute okay and i want to know if you
01:38:16.700
guys want to have sex do you want to have sex no no no no no i just thought you're cute and i just
01:38:28.540
want to know if you want to have sex i'm just kind of fine my friend no thank you thank you all right
01:38:34.220
night have sex with me are you stupid or i'm a little stupid well you wanna lie on the ground or not
01:38:40.940
right now yes what do you mean lie on the ground then we're gonna slap you very hard yes when i'm on
01:38:48.140
the ground that's not what you're gonna ask a lady no oh i'm not i'm not from around here so i don't know the
01:38:54.780
custom okay uh your guys's reaction to that video by the way that was me oh really yeah
01:39:10.540
i feel like if a guy did that to me personally it would depend on my mood maybe but i would think
01:39:16.780
you're joking like you came up in like a certain tone and you said that to me i'd be like oh you're
01:39:21.660
just joking so okay maybe yes maybe yes maybe in the center of amsterdam like that just maybe yes
01:39:30.780
okay maybe okay go ahead yeah i'd probably say no
01:39:35.820
what are we saying just your reaction your reaction to the video the reaction what would you do in that
01:39:41.260
situation oh if someone did oh i'd say no okay okay or your reaction to the video okay yeah i didn't know
01:39:46.460
what i didn't know um i would say no i mean one reaction i had to that was like there's like a
01:39:53.580
time and place for everything and even if the guy's being extremely nice and just being like hi i thought
01:40:00.300
you were really nice and i'd really like to get to know you like if i'm just like walking around like
01:40:07.100
sometimes i do i don't want to be hit on so like having someone come up to you and be like
01:40:12.460
fuck me right now like i'd be like whoa like no that was in amsterdam you said yeah that was in
01:40:20.540
amsterdam no that's it's like if someone from like europe came over here and they started like asking
01:40:24.620
if i wanted to have sex i'd like think i was getting trafficked or something oh my god
01:40:30.540
i mean probably a lot of people i went up to were they were tourists themselves oh pro i mean i can't
01:40:36.300
did anyone say yes actually one woman i asked 200 women one woman said yes that's a lot wow yeah
01:40:43.900
one wow well you know your ratio yeah i'm telling you it's rough for men okay go ahead no no okay so
01:40:53.740
now you gotta ask him what if a girl went up to you like well we're gonna we're gonna get to that eric if
01:40:59.100
you can play the uh one yep you guys are easy i already know oh i see would you have sex with me
01:41:19.660
this is an idol person by the way you can just kind of lay there and i'll just do my thing
01:41:29.340
i just want to ask you guys if you would be down to have sex with me
01:41:33.500
i will definitely have sex with you like right like literally right now
01:41:37.340
your house is like right over there i'll go with it right now
01:41:39.340
right now are you down yeah why not let me know if this is too forward um if you would have sex with me
01:41:44.220
hold on i'm on the mom can i call you back maybe you'd want to have sex with me
01:41:52.220
yes yeah like right now like literally my house like right over there
01:41:56.700
sure you want to have sex with me are you out of your mind
01:42:00.860
maybe a little bit you've been drinking kind of the best way oh no i'm completely sober
01:42:06.380
you out of your mind in the best kind of way come to my house you want okay you want to have sex with me
01:42:14.220
okay all right ready to go yeah let's go okay i better not be getting robbed right now
01:42:44.940
okay i knew it your guys's reaction to that video
01:42:51.820
i called it i mean every guy's gonna be like yeah i'm down yeah and she's also like really hot
01:42:56.380
yeah so any guy i mean i think any guy anytime like yeah we're gonna right now and i don't
01:43:01.100
care like you put a young leo dicaprio asking us that question yeah i mean so that is a fair point
01:43:07.900
and some comments are saying that to be fair andrea is very attractive she's probably
01:43:12.220
i'd say at least two points above me in terms of our looks equivalent but um i did do it with uh
01:43:19.660
cody meddler we did a version with him i i think he's fairly attractive guy and he asked 100 women
01:43:28.060
zero he got zero and he's a pretty good looking dude really fit so but all right uh so did you get to
01:43:34.940
give your take or your take men are easy yeah that's what i've noticed from that video yeah
01:43:43.340
yeah i mean if she came up to me and asked if i want to have sex with her
01:43:47.660
uh i'd say no but i think i'd like get her like instagram or something so
01:43:55.100
honestly i don't really know what to say i'm just surprised it was like a hundred percent you know
01:43:59.900
yeah yeah so that's what surprised me i mean she she did that that was a sort of a compilation clip
01:44:05.020
she did get some no's but like when we went out and filmed that um i had her because i wanted to
01:44:11.100
get at least some no's she was going up to people like with their girlfriend like couples she went
01:44:17.580
up to a dad so dad a dad yeah did he say yeah no oh did you give your oh i think it's pretty fair
01:44:26.940
like she's hot okay and uh what would you do if andrea uh came up to you and asked you if you wanted
01:44:36.620
that sex what would you do in that situation i think that would be lovely i would just i think
01:44:40.700
i would respectfully say let's go let's do it take her hand lead the way and then you get your organs
01:44:49.500
harvested okay yeah seriously yeah it's i mean i think that's that one guy at the end he was like i
01:44:54.540
better not be getting robbed right now so yeah i mean that's kind of the to bring it back to the
01:45:02.060
conversation about um you know uh what was it so i started i started that sentence guys being up
01:45:10.540
front and yeah so guys being up front so like i mean you've seen the video i would say i was pretty
01:45:17.100
diplomatic and polite about about it you know so if guys were up front like that it's just it's not
01:45:23.980
you need women want a little bit more before so guys are going to play the game and uh
01:45:32.620
so i mean i think it's also like circumstances like it's like like you guys said like when they
01:45:40.300
are like dtf they're like asking you on tinder and stuff like that's different like
01:45:46.700
you could you could do that same scenario like on text like on tinder and you'd probably get
01:45:50.380
like a lot more like we we actually did also do that same experiment on tinder there's so many
01:45:54.860
experiments a lot of experiments also it's a lot easier over text like just like talking over the phone
01:46:01.740
is a lot less intimidating than in person you can also scope out someone's profile like people got
01:46:06.300
years and stuff backed up there actually we luke are we gonna have you do that in the updated version
01:46:14.220
of that yeah yeah guys we're gonna have one in the chat if you want to see luke doing that social
01:46:20.780
experiment and then two in the chat if you want jubilee to do it also okay i'll do it yeah so um
01:46:30.780
okay so i wanna we didn't really get to finish off with the if you have any sort of uh gripe with uh
01:46:39.340
dating anything dating related you want to get off your chest did you got an opportunity to answer
01:46:43.660
that right no i don't like what do you mean so at the very beginning of the show i asked and i wanted
01:46:50.140
to give everyone that on the panel an opportunity to answer this um is there anything dating related you
01:46:55.180
want to get off your chest off your chest recent bad date experience just something general about
01:47:02.060
men general about dating anything i don't think so i don't really like go on dates or like do any of
01:47:09.500
that i'm just you don't go on dates no i just do you just hook up oh well yeah you've only had been
01:47:16.060
with two guys so i feel like i've been like slowly putting in my input in like different places so there's
01:47:23.180
nothing really like major that i feel like i need to put out nothing that bothers you nothing that
01:47:28.540
comes to mind oh ah okay we've discussed with hookup culture um from what i've heard men if they are
01:47:43.900
going to participate in hookup culture need to understand the rules of hookup culture and major issue
01:47:52.860
is condoms guys who are hooking up with like other girls they will try and hit it without a condom and
01:48:03.020
then the girl has to be like can you put one on and sometimes they have to like go make their friend get
01:48:12.140
one and like wait so can you can you clarify a little bit clarify what well so okay you're saying
01:48:23.180
is this a situation that you found yourself in no so you're speaking on behalf of a friend that's
01:48:29.900
told you about this yes i've like heard some stuff okay well i mean it's not surprising to me that men
01:48:35.740
prefer having sex without a condom but so what what what's my issue with that what yeah what is your
01:48:43.260
my issue with that is that with hookup culture like guys are probably hooking up with multiple people at
01:48:49.660
once maybe just like i don't even know but like sorry go ahead continue yeah like they might be hooking
01:48:56.300
up with like multiple people and like like you just need to be safe with that and so like getting
01:49:05.340
tested condoms like like i'm like as a girl like i would want to be safe like i would hope that he
01:49:14.940
would want to be safe as well like i just don't understand like why they would be so reckless about it
01:49:31.820
just so just so i understand you've heard from female friends of yours that because i mean
01:49:39.820
i'm just trying to understand what's going on so they start they are having sex
01:49:45.900
but they're they're not using a condom and then midway through sex the girl's like can you
01:49:51.340
put a condom on now i'm just like before it's like before and okay so before the sex starts yeah
01:49:56.940
and he'll like try to do it without and then when you say try you mean he'll be like uh let's just
01:50:02.700
not yeah like he'll say try to convince her to not yeah okay sure that that's my issue okay
01:50:11.740
that guys don't want to use condoms back or that they're not like guys who are hooking up with
01:50:17.820
multiple like i'm not one to judge people for hooking up like you do whatever you want to each
01:50:23.980
their own but it's like you gotta protection you gotta protect yourself sure practice safe sex yes
01:50:33.020
if nothing else yeah yeah i mean i definitely would say that if as i mean as a guy yes it feels better to
01:50:41.500
have sex without a condom but if you're hooking up with a lot of women probably for your own safety
01:50:49.820
for a few i mean stds and also pregnancy risk probably a smart idea to wear a condom yeah um but
01:51:01.580
i i think both people should be responsible for protection i think like bring a condom to i mean if
01:51:10.780
if like a female condom no well i mean actually you have one wait that's like oh i've never seen
01:51:17.820
one in person this is a uh female condom you know it'd be funny as fuck guys and i've mentioned this
01:51:24.380
in another podcast you're hooking up with the girl right you're hooking up with a girl and she's like
01:51:30.300
do you have a condom and you're like of course babe i got you i'm a i'm a uh responsible individual
01:51:38.140
here you go here you go put it on and then the chick's gonna be like uh what
01:51:52.300
all you babe throw this in really quick yeah get strapped
01:51:55.660
um i actually wanted to comment on that really quick so personally i i'm not a i'm not big on
01:52:10.780
hookup culture again if i'm going to ivy i'm going to ivy to have fun um but you know if one thing leads
01:52:17.020
to another and i'm enjoying myself i'm not going to deny it and there have been people that i want to
01:52:21.340
get with and so i always stay strapped fellas it just it just stays strapped who gives a
01:52:29.100
fuck either you don't use it and great you don't use it or you use it and guess what you still
01:52:34.060
fucking scored bro like it's not that big of a deal relax i'm gonna come in with a hot take here
01:52:40.460
i would i would honestly if i for one night stand i would honestly rather just not even have sex
01:52:51.260
if i have to use a condom oh wow so i'll like say hey i just don't we can do other stuff but i'm
01:52:58.140
probably just gonna be like i don't even wanna well i mean that's like your choice yeah that is your
01:53:01.660
choice yeah yeah i'm not gonna i wouldn't like pressure the girl but it would just be like you
01:53:06.700
know i just don't yeah do you think it's safe to get tested regularly though yes what's that
01:53:11.580
yeah do you get tested regularly like after you whoa i can't even say those words after each partner
01:53:18.540
like do you go get tested again huh what like after each sexual partner like do you go get tested again
01:53:27.580
uh yeah like if it's the end of the relationship i guess if i'm gonna be it's more so if i'm like maybe
01:53:34.220
the relationships ended or there's someone new like if i'm gonna start dating someone new we broke
01:53:41.180
up whatever maybe then then yeah okay but uh yeah i mean like god be even i've tried the thin ones
01:53:48.700
and it's just like there's no going back there's no going back i yeah i can admit that one it's not
01:53:56.700
the same it's better but not safe wait yeah but it's like as safe okay i've heard this like a while
01:54:02.700
ago i feel like like you would give me an honest answer does like an erection feel like if your arm
01:54:07.260
is like fully like like do that like just put your arm out like just like fully extend it
01:54:15.020
we're getting very close to doing a roman salute
01:54:17.740
yeah um show me again it's just like i heard this like when i was younger got some german relatives or
01:54:31.500
something it's like if you fully extend your arm like fully like clench it like all your muscles
01:54:35.660
it feels like it feels like an erection wait can you um do you know that thing where you can you
01:54:40.220
put your elbows no together no guys guys we're trying to protect the girls i appreciate you
01:54:52.060
it was the chat asking they forced me to do it chat you forced me to do it okay um so i don't know how
01:54:58.940
we're we were okay so we're talking about condoms um but yeah i mean definitely i think i think both
01:55:05.340
people should try to be prepped on that but definitely um it's gonna take that for later
01:55:12.780
like yo i don't got one but like hey excuse me i have a condom actually oh really yeah here you go
01:55:20.540
it's on you it's on you tonight you have to like fling it towards them like it's hard
01:55:24.220
yeah the two figures too yeah the two figures just throw it out yeah it's uh yeah imagine though
01:55:31.340
the first the first time with a new girl yes do you have a condom of course babe it's like so
01:55:38.140
aerodynamic too yeah perfect you should get some of the pesticide that they it's really like the
01:55:43.180
one pesticide pesticide there's like you squirt it you mean spermicide oh that's for me
01:55:49.580
pesticides for plants oh god that'll do that that'll yeah that'll be terrible
01:55:55.580
that'll mess double um so just moving along so uh anything dating related you want to get off your
01:56:03.420
chest oh i don't know i think first of all like i'll fully admit it i'm like not very mature so like i
01:56:11.340
think a lot of people aren't and i feel like a lot of the issues that kind of come around with college
01:56:14.700
is because no one's really mature and half the people i know want a relationship and half of them
01:56:19.180
don't and it's always kind of like this in between thing i don't know i just don't really want a
01:56:28.460
well i don't think i can think of anything on top of my loop anything for you um i'm i'm in a weird
01:56:34.700
place i think because you know again i just got out of a relationship so i don't know if i want to
01:56:39.820
jump into anything serious super quick but at the same time like being in a in a fun loving relationship
01:56:48.060
is so amazing and so i'm like i'm torn i don't know it's it's hard and yeah i i don't know i'm just
01:56:57.900
spewing nonsense now but i'm i'm so in between but like what do you look for isn't that the question
01:57:05.500
or no i don't know what pisses you off about girls or women oh yeah oh okay um red flags women red
01:57:12.460
flags anything that just like you just want to get off your chest yeah i mean i've had a pretty
01:57:18.460
good experience with women so no not really must be nice uh-huh yeah i think you guys again all i
01:57:25.260
think everyone says their standards way too high and like you were saying about so was you though
01:57:29.980
saying something about social media okay yeah so i i agree with that 100 i think the fact that we can
01:57:36.780
see these like gorgeous people and compare everyone else to them it's like that's like a one in a
01:57:41.900
hunt like one in a thousand chance that you're gonna actually see someone like that and you know
01:57:47.660
they're probably who knows but because they're so gorgeous they're probably taking advantage of and
01:57:53.260
they can be assholes so and it doesn't matter how gorgeous they are if you're paired with someone
01:58:00.060
every day who's an asshole who's gonna mistreat you it's gonna suck like you can look at them and be
01:58:05.180
like wow she's gorgeous or he's super hot but at the end if he treats you like shit it's like well
01:58:10.620
now i feel shitty you start seeing them as like ugly at one at like some point yeah exactly i feel
01:58:16.060
like three months in is when you really see it i've heard that a lot with like all over social media
01:58:21.260
is the three-month rule the three-month yeah even with friends too like in general that works with
01:58:26.620
people yeah yeah do you know this is brian the three-month rule have you heard of this yeah yeah i'm
01:58:32.380
trying to think i don't know if there's a chris rock joke about this or something but when you're
01:58:35.420
first meeting somebody you're not meeting them you're meeting their representative so people are
01:58:41.900
like gonna be on their best behavior putting their best self forward but then as time goes on i mean
01:58:49.020
some people there's a continuity and they're just fantastic people through and through but then there
01:58:54.300
are definitely people that uh it takes a while to sort of see the madness or they just that's just up
01:59:01.980
front too sometimes so definitely so got a couple more questions for you guys uh
01:59:09.900
when it comes to dating and relationships what do you bring to the table
01:59:17.340
and i want to start over here just since we've been starting over there or at least we can start with
01:59:21.740
you and then move around what do i bring um i think i bring a sense of like security respect and
01:59:29.100
maturity i don't think i'm a lot like people who are just gonna use you know their partner or they're
01:59:37.740
just in it for sex um and i've been with you know immature people and i just it's and i don't know how
01:59:46.700
to like describe immature like they're not forward with how they feel or if they get in if you get in a
01:59:52.140
fight they're so quick to like blame you for it instead of working through it i find it way more
01:59:57.100
comforting to like if there's a problem fix it don't don't let it just linger there and fade away
02:00:03.020
you need to like jump on that and fix it especially if you want to be with that person um and yeah i mean
02:00:10.140
i feel like i'm a responsible person i have a stable income and i'm good looking so i bring all that
02:00:19.100
that and i'm not gonna i don't find myself as one of these fuck boys that are just gonna treat you
02:00:24.540
like shit and then leave you know if i'm if i'm talking to you it's probably gonna be in it for the
02:00:29.820
long run unless like you said i don't get the vibe or i don't fit the vibe with you in which case i'll
02:00:36.060
let you know respectfully like hey i don't think this is gonna work out i just i think you are paired
02:00:40.620
with someone else better than you are with me so i don't think it's gonna work out between us
02:00:46.060
condoms and you're always strapped with uh and i'm always strapped i always email condoms yeah
02:00:52.940
you should sponsor those yes uh passante whatever can can we get the sponsorship guys we've been
02:01:00.860
plugging this shit like a couple shows so yeah and we even if you just want to send us like a thousand
02:01:06.540
of these that'll be cool hand them out yeah we'll hand them out around atlevis goody bags
02:01:10.780
goody the women need it okay uh go ahead um i think like i'm pretty mature so like what i bring
02:01:19.180
is like maturity and in the relationship i feel like it's really important to um you know motivate
02:01:25.740
each other and then to become better and also it is really important to think into different
02:01:31.500
perspectives because at the end of the day you and your partner might be coming from a different
02:01:36.860
background different story think differently so i think being respectful and um think in different
02:01:43.420
perspectives so you can understand what each other are thinking are pretty important as well that is
02:01:48.060
what i think um i don't know i'd like to think i bring like honesty and loyalty and just trust in
02:01:55.660
general and like be a good person but i think some i'm just still working on everything i think i'm
02:02:01.020
like a work in progress so i'm kind of every day i kind of just try to be a better version of myself
02:02:05.100
i think that's what i bring um as i've mentioned before i've never been in a relationship so i don't
02:02:17.740
never been in a relationship oh yeah your longest one was two years or sorry two months
02:02:22.940
yeah just like talking stages so and are you a sophomore ucsb i am okay yeah so i mean but i feel
02:02:30.380
like if i were to i feel like i'm pretty like mature about things i feel like i can be
02:02:39.260
like i mean one big thing i have is like communication so it's like i feel like in a
02:02:45.900
relationship like i'd be pretty easy to talk to like pretty reasonable yeah i think that's something i
02:02:52.540
could bring i feel like i feel like i'm kind of like the textbook girlfriend when i like become a
02:03:01.420
girlfriend you know what i mean i don't know if that makes sense but like how so but like if i'm
02:03:07.740
like really obvious like if i'm actually dating you like we're fully together and official or whatever
02:03:14.060
um like i will i'll go like above and beyond like i'll if you are having a bad day like to bring you
02:03:22.300
shit that makes you feel better like something like to hang out with your family and like actually
02:03:26.860
connect with like not just you but like the whole family yeah yeah like my my ex's family invited me to
02:03:35.420
like family gatherings like even like months after we started dating because because i was just close with them
02:03:42.060
um yeah honestly like like everyone said trust like loyalty communication and like definitely
02:03:51.100
like supportive like i will support you in like school or your job or whatever you know i can agree
02:03:57.660
with vivi i if i'm single i'm single i'm gonna do my own thing but in a relationship i will do anything
02:04:03.420
as i mean to an extent i mean i broke that in the past but i i will i will cook you food i will kind
02:04:10.940
of do anything if you're like i said she's like she said like if you're having a bad day like
02:04:14.780
i would cheer you up i will go out and go get your favorite snacks you could just chill and just do
02:04:20.060
everything but um for me like i started my own business in high school and i've been growing that
02:04:26.860
and i am on that kind of point in my life where if you're not doing something that you're working
02:04:34.780
towards or anything like maturity type um yeah i just i don't know i definitely in that maturity level
02:04:46.220
right now i mean i mean i'm not that old i'm still really young but um i guess that's what i kind of
02:04:52.460
bring a lot of maturity in a lot of ways a lot of security trust um and a lot of loyalty
02:05:00.140
i'd like to add one more thing too by the way i think in a relationship and this is just this is
02:05:07.500
for me i think it should be for a lot of other people i get it if you like the whole clingy you're
02:05:12.140
my person for like forever and always that's great i think in a relationship you are your own person and
02:05:18.540
you're in that relationship to better yourself with that person's like contact and their presence
02:05:25.740
it's not like i'm controlling you all the way if if and like like you guys all said if if if
02:05:33.020
cheaters are gonna cheat like if if you're gonna cheat just let them off the hook that's just just
02:05:38.140
break up with them right there and then um i fully agree with that and i find myself a super loyal person
02:05:45.100
i would never ever do that especially knowing how it feels and so you know you should be your own
02:05:51.740
person and trust that they're gonna support you in whatever you do and as soon as that goes out the
02:05:56.540
window i think the relationship starts to diminish i i can agree if someone doesn't support me
02:06:02.780
it makes me feel really bad i've worked my fucking ass off to get to where i am and if they don't
02:06:07.580
i'm like you don't care about me you're not gonna support my dreams and my career and everything but
02:06:11.820
i'm gonna support you with everything you do yeah but if i don't get the same back i'm not gonna
02:06:15.100
fuck with you anymore like you just it goes down and down like with my feelings towards you
02:06:19.660
if you don't what's your business i do nails nails okay i've been doing it for like a little
02:06:24.700
over two and a half years okay nice got my clientele all that so you would be upset if uh your partner
02:06:31.100
didn't uh support you in terms of your business yeah okay what if i told when you say support what
02:06:38.860
do you mean um if they don't like if i show you my work and you're like oh it's like it's cool or if
02:06:47.580
they don't like you had a really good day of work and you're really excited about it and like you're
02:06:52.140
proud of yourself if they're not proud of you then i don't think that's a good thing can i uh yeah i
02:06:59.020
also so it's like not my business it's my sister's she does like events in town i was talking about it
02:07:05.180
i think before we started the podcast they're like flea markets in town and i feel like
02:07:11.100
i i usually like invite my my close friends and stuff and if i was in a relationship and i invited the
02:07:17.020
person and they didn't come i feel like i say like too much i already know but i would
02:07:25.820
i probably wouldn't like them as much if they like didn't come and support me
02:07:32.940
wait so and you just going back to you so you said that you'd want to tell your partner about
02:07:37.180
like a good day at work so i mean what is a no offense or anything but what is a good day at work
02:07:43.020
doing nails if i i personally like the work that i did i okay like because is there an artistic
02:07:48.780
component oh 100 okay the designs could be really pretty or i had a really good conversation with
02:07:53.820
someone because i built a lot of bonds with my clients and i become friends with them a lot of
02:07:58.140
my really close friends now are because i met them by working and they just make an appointment with me
02:08:03.020
and then i a lot of times i become their friend because of the connection you grow sure but like a lot
02:08:08.460
i've like shown guys like my work and they're like they just either ignore that i like i'll show them
02:08:12.300
a picture or they kind of ignore it just like over text um and they just don't really say anything or
02:08:16.220
like oh my god i'm so proud of you like you're doing really well um especially like i'm 19 and i
02:08:21.260
have my own business and it's going really well nice and it's thank you and if they're not supportive
02:08:26.220
of that and it just doesn't think they're supportive of my career a lot of guys think it's either
02:08:30.940
really cool or really stupid yeah i mean this i think when you're in a relationship with someone
02:08:39.260
you should certainly be supportive of them i think part of that might be related to what it might be
02:08:45.660
related to though is that men don't really care about a woman's career in just let me clarify a bit
02:08:58.940
it doesn't make you more attractive to us if you have a career or you're successful or you're
02:09:04.060
ambitious did you say why no i was just saying okay oh okay yeah yeah so i think for for most men
02:09:10.780
like we like because you might be an outlier but most women don't share their their resources with
02:09:19.100
men the same way that men share their resources with women i know a lot of you are in college so it's
02:09:23.420
like what the fuck you talking about brian but like you're probably finances to you guys probably
02:09:28.700
are not really high on the totem pole yet because most of the guys you're probably interacting with
02:09:34.940
are in college they're not in a career yet but as you do start to get a bit older um you know you
02:09:42.380
hear a lot about women like men with high status so if that could be through a job if they're an athlete
02:09:49.500
musician actor something like that whereas men we do not care it we really care nothing at all about a
02:09:56.940
woman's status whereas women care if a man has status that is can be very attractive it's also
02:10:06.620
kind of hated upon though like i know a lot of women who end up with men who i guess would be
02:10:12.620
considered like lower status or not paid as much it gets more disrespected than if it was actually
02:10:18.220
just a man of a higher status with a woman of a lower status i feel like that's more unusual i feel like
02:10:22.060
a lot of people yeah like trophy wife yeah yeah like the trophy wife trope is seen as super common
02:10:26.780
but you don't really see the other way i feel like it's kind of stigmatized you think it's stigmatized
02:10:31.500
for a woman to be with be with a man who's yeah like if learning less than her or if you even go on
02:10:41.180
like the internet and just see like these really famous influencers with their husbands who just
02:10:45.180
are in the background it's like constantly in the comments it's like why is she with him what is she doing
02:10:49.980
like he's like just doing this and that it's but if you see like a very like ronaldo or something
02:10:55.500
you wouldn't question why he had a girlfriend he's back he's back he's watching round uh sorry go
02:11:03.740
ahead oh like first like a famous celebrity or something like that if it was a male you wouldn't
02:11:07.980
you wouldn't bat an eye if they had like a really attractive younger person who wasn't even a celebrity
02:11:11.900
okay yeah i would say though overwhelmingly like a lot of did you want to come in on this it looked
02:11:20.220
like you were okay it looked like it seems like for women who are high status there are definitely
02:11:27.100
women that will date down but the thing is is as a woman as you start increasing your status and as you
02:11:33.420
start making more money your pool of potential partners tends to shrink because most women
02:11:40.140
don't want to date a guy who's lower status than them or whose uh earning potential is lower than
02:11:47.580
them now again i know you guys are in college so like you haven't probably played too much or wrestled
02:11:53.900
too much with these sort of dynamics but and i know you're an outlier apparently but um i'd say so
02:12:00.860
yeah most most women and if you i think they've done polls on this like most women and you can also do
02:12:05.820
it with uh education attainment most women would want to date a man who is at least as or more
02:12:12.220
educated than she is i think as might be i don't know so if she has a bachelor she wants a guy who has
02:12:20.780
a bachelor's she has a master's i don't know if they they did it for uh grad student like people who
02:12:28.460
have uh graduate level degrees but um post-grad whatever it's called uh so yeah i i feel like
02:12:38.780
with that it's just like finding a partner like you're finding an equal like you want to have someone
02:12:47.100
who has kind of the same like when you were saying with education like you want someone with the same
02:12:54.460
education as you it's more of just seem seeing someone as like an equal instead of like maybe
02:13:03.340
having to like try and explain things to him that he wouldn't understand and that's not saying like
02:13:08.780
you both have to have like engineering degrees in order for that to happen like it can definitely be
02:13:14.780
where maybe like she is some like boss businesswoman but he's out like doing like
02:13:25.660
i don't know maybe he's just like doing something like a little bit less like i don't really i can't
02:13:30.700
think of any examples but it doesn't mean like i feel like it's not it's not so much as something
02:13:38.300
that needs to be put down on paper it's kind of like an everyday kind of thing like she wants to
02:13:42.780
be able to talk to him and not feel like she's talking to someone that isn't matching her
02:13:50.700
like mentally if that makes sense i think men also kind of feel like from what i've talked to
02:13:56.460
i feel like i've met more men who like are more comfortable or prefer taking that like breadwinner
02:14:00.780
position like a lot of guys i've talked to like actually want to engage in that i think for a woman
02:14:06.460
it's more because only recently like in the past hundred years when i've kind of gotten the rights to
02:14:12.140
do whatever so it's kind of always trying to work up on an even playing field versus i think a lot
02:14:15.980
of men still kind of just want to not all of them but a lot too what if yeah do you find a lot of
02:14:22.140
women want to fall into the role of like you know housewife i've actually met quite a few who like
02:14:28.860
actually want to do that especially more like religious people but it's still pretty common i'd say
02:14:34.540
yeah did anybody else want to come in on this oh sorry did did you have more i was just saying
02:14:40.700
in university it's kind of biased because all the girls here are pursuing like a higher education so
02:14:44.380
you wouldn't really find that yeah and obviously like sometimes like girls joke about it like oh it
02:14:51.260
would be so nice to just marry rich and then you don't have to worry about anything but that would be
02:14:56.620
nice it would be nice it's it's the dream but obviously like every time like i say it personally like
02:15:03.260
i mean as a joke like i have my own aspirations what are your aspirations well i mean what are you
02:15:10.540
what are you studying again i'm undeclared okay like i don't have any at the moment but like i do
02:15:15.900
want to have something of my own like if i were to get into a relationship like i personally would not
02:15:23.820
want to just like live off of everything that he's doing and just have like if i want to go grocery
02:15:32.060
shopping hey can i get some money to go grocery shopping like that's not what i mean i just want
02:15:37.500
to come in on this really quick so it's kind of interesting because like you have so traditionally you
02:15:44.620
would have the man providing and it was more traditional so he'd be the head of the household
02:15:50.140
he'd be the lead the leader so to speak and it's interesting to me that
02:15:55.260
women so you could say that women were submissive to their husbands wives were submissive to their
02:16:03.340
husbands but you've traded that by being submissive to an employer you now instead of being submissive
02:16:12.220
to your husband you are now submissive to an employer and your employer is going to ask i would
02:16:17.500
say much more of you than would a husband well i mean wouldn't you also be like submissive to an
02:16:24.860
employer yeah i mean we're all submissive to something no but i'm saying like traditionally if
02:16:29.820
the man if if you were say a stay-at-home you didn't have to go out and labor you didn't have to go out
02:16:35.740
and work you would you would only be submissive to a husband and the kids and the cleaning and the
02:16:44.380
cooking and yeah well i don't think i don't think women should be submissive to their children
02:16:50.060
well they do have to like do everything for them okay fair well you're i i think as a as a mother you
02:16:57.900
have a thought you're in a position of authority over your children yeah yeah hopefully yeah hopefully
02:17:03.580
but uh but no i mean i think it's uh i just want to clarify something i do think it's
02:17:07.820
really i i think it's great that we've have women in the labor pool um i don't want to come off like
02:17:16.300
i'm trying to roll that back or anything um but it does well i don't want to get too far into it but
02:17:24.540
okay oh my dust damn rip um i don't even know where we were going with that but uh yeah i guess to bring
02:17:40.300
okay for me i've dated women who are doctors i've dated attorneys i've dated pharmacists i've dated
02:17:46.700
professors cancer research like just the whole slew right more nurses than i can count
02:17:51.580
um women's careers to me don't make them more attractive like i'm not more attracted to a girl
02:17:56.860
oh you're a doctor whereas i think a lot of women who are maybe a bit older you guys probably are not
02:18:01.500
quite yet in the age maybe hey maybe you're down to date a doctor i don't know but most women like
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who are probably in their mid to late 20s early 30s a doctor would be a catch i don't give a
02:18:15.340
if a woman's a doctor i'll date a barista i'll date a girl that works at chick-fil-a because men
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and women are looking for different things what we're attracted to there's not there's not always
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symmetry and what we find attractive in the opposite sex so um it's great i think it's great
02:18:33.820
make your money like have a career do something do something great um i actually i'm in favor of more
02:18:40.060
women getting into stem i think it'd be wonderful if we had more people researching uh you know
02:18:46.220
illnesses cancers alzheimer's i mean these things are awful and the more manpower
02:18:50.620
woman power i guess in this case we can throw towards these uh uh illnesses and diseases i think
02:18:58.620
would be fantastic but uh from a from a dating point of view it i'm not more attracted to a girl
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because of her career or because of her status or because of her earning potential i just think it's
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like hella interesting though at the end it's like i feel like a lot of women i do know probably they
02:19:17.260
would value that just maybe someone who would provide as well i don't think i think they'd mind
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more or at least i would if like i was dating like a mcdonald's worker not to be mean of mcdonald's
02:19:26.780
workers but like in 20 years i don't know if that's the move but i think men also put i think a lot more
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value on like attractiveness than women do and i think women place a lot more value on like hard work
02:19:39.100
and kind of personality yeah yeah and like ethics morals yeah i think it's just like it's interesting how
02:19:45.100
it's such kind of different in a way in some aspects i personally if i wasn't working it would
02:19:50.140
drive me crazy yeah like i have to be something once i started like making my own business it is
02:19:55.660
i love working it's actually like a lot of people don't like working but since i'm my own boss i make
02:20:00.620
my own schedule i do everything my own it's really fun i make i like i like working with like the girls
02:20:06.220
like meeting new people so if like i like i like to be treated but like if i didn't work and the guy was
02:20:12.380
only making the money i would piss me off yeah because i like what i do yeah by the way i just
02:20:17.260
want to clarify like it's not that i'll date a woman with a career it's not a problem at all it's just
02:20:22.540
to me it's not like if the woman's a doctor versus if she's a phlebotomist making 17 an hour like or
02:20:31.420
she works fast food job i do not like it i don't care if she's got if she's coming into the relationship
02:20:37.900
with a lot of debt then finance is kind of our factor but i mean it's been my experience actually
02:20:43.100
what's really interesting like i've encountered women who i remember once this was years ago i was
02:20:49.580
speaking to a litigation attorney very successful attorney here in santa barbara she was probably
02:20:55.980
making 250 000 a year and one of i don't know why she was so upfront about it but she's like yeah i
02:21:02.220
really want a guy who's going to take me out pay for my stuff i'm like hey
02:21:08.620
you make 250 000 a year like yeah the traditional gender roles are out the window when you're making
02:21:14.460
250 like what you're probably out earning most of the the men who would potentially date you and you
02:21:21.020
you still have this expectation that men i mean i mean everyone wants to be spoiled you know like but
02:21:28.140
but but do men want to be spoiled men can't be spoiled oh yeah yeah no guys would love it men
02:21:33.980
can be spoiled yeah yeah no like they would love like to just get stuff right they would love it but
02:21:39.420
women don't do it yeah we do have you ever bought a guy flowers yeah yeah i used to bring him drinks
02:21:45.020
in the morning starbucks okay well you're your wifey material yeah like like i'm probably i'll i'll pay for
02:21:52.940
first date well we know you're a simp but no but overall i i think if you ask most men like they're
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they're going to uh feel like they have to always be paying for stuff
02:22:12.540
do you like paying for stuff do either of you guys are not willing
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which do men like i'll let luke go and then i'll answer yeah it does because it it it does reassure
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you of your whole like i don't want to say superior or anything because it's not superior already but
02:22:27.820
it's like you know like i'm the i'm the man like i'm the alpha beta beta yeah it's like you're you're
02:22:37.260
you are the one taking care of it you're the one like stepping up really like exceeding expectations
02:22:43.580
even though it's like already expected right before going into it like if you take a girl out
02:22:49.420
the guy is expected to pay that's just a societal standard and you know i'm fine with it i don't
02:22:56.220
really give a shit if a girl pays for my food fucking great just like you guys said again if if
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if a girl spoils me that's that's fantastic you know i'm all for it but you know 90 of the time i'm
02:23:09.260
the one that's asking a girl out and i said this last time too if you ask someone out you should be
02:23:15.420
the one paying for the i agree if a girl asks a guy out she she should pay yeah if i ask a girl out
02:23:23.580
because you are you are taking her out yeah whereas if and again a lot of girls don't take guys out yeah
02:23:29.660
let's go around the table i'll let you continue though have you ever asked well i'm gonna start
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over here have you ever asked a guy out on the date yeah okay no i don't think so no but i also
02:23:41.100
like don't go on dates so no i don't think so i think i have you were blacked out this was one of
02:23:49.500
your blacked out moments that okay yeah so i mean the thing is though like the whole thing with that
02:23:55.340
is just women aren't really asking guys out yeah exactly it's scary i don't know isn't it scary for men
02:24:02.300
too yes yes it's scary both parts and here's here's the interesting thing on that as a woman
02:24:08.780
if you do ask a guy out actually your chances compared to men your chances of getting a positive
02:24:15.980
response are actually very high compared to when a man a guy asks a woman out you you have a much higher
02:24:25.100
likelihood of it being a uh a good reception from the guy if you ask him out whereas like a lot of
02:24:33.740
dudes play number like dudes have to play the number game we get fucking rejected oh i'll say
02:24:39.660
i'll say this like and i brought this up i think on our podcast um when it comes to dating apps for
02:24:45.020
example uh for most men on dating apps i'd say that 80 of men the bottom 80 maybe bottom 70 of
02:24:54.940
men being on the dating app is like playing russian roulette with your self-esteem and every every
02:25:04.700
chamber of the cylinder is loaded so it's a foregone conclusion as a foregone conclusion as a guy
02:25:11.980
here's motorcycle guy again foregone conclusion that uh you're gonna get destroyed on the dating app as
02:25:21.500
a as as a guy from that's most men's experience so um but anyway sorry i didn't mean to cut you off
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there if you want to continue with your uh oh oh um paying i think it was like and you're you're saying
02:25:36.140
oh paying men whoever asked should pay and then you kind of you went into saying if you get asked
02:25:41.900
out but women aren't no yeah yeah um again i'm i'm fine with paying again if it's if if i see there's
02:25:48.380
something going forward with it then i'll be like hey i'll pay but if if yeah it's such a gray area
02:25:56.620
because i want to say you know it should be 50 50 on a date but at the same time i don't know there's
02:26:04.620
something fulfilling about paying for like an expensive dish but then looking back at your bank
02:26:08.540
and being like i always fight for the check i always fight for it but do you always do you win
02:26:14.380
ever she i have or is it like a gesture is it like a she she dates homeless guys
02:26:22.220
she's winning she's winning there you go i will say i don't mind sorry i didn't mean to cut you
02:26:30.220
off by the way if you want to continue if you want to continue i don't i like wouldn't mind 50 50
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because i i get that it's fair but also it is nice having the guy pay yeah like if like i do offer
02:26:42.060
like are you sure and i would 100 be okay with that i'm not going to say it if i'm not okay with
02:26:47.420
it and if he's like yeah and i'll be like okay but if he's like no no like don't worry about it like
02:26:53.580
it's it's nice yeah yeah everyone agree with that so you'd prefer to have the guy pay on the date let
02:27:00.780
me ask so he asks you on the date but the check comes and he says hey let's get separate checks are
02:27:06.540
you going to feel a certain type of way about that uh yeah um i don't think so wait i thought
02:27:13.420
you said you fight for the check though yeah i i guess i mean i rather pay i guess i rather pay for
02:27:19.020
it all and not oh and you'd rather okay i'd rather pay for it all but you're you'll still be interested
02:27:24.460
in the guy yeah even if you pay for it okay i think i said i think you said no wait wait what was
02:27:31.580
the question um yeah sorry guy asks you out yeah you get dinner whatever maybe uh you get dinner and
02:27:38.620
then um he says hey let's uh get separate checks yeah are you gonna feel a certain type of way about
02:27:45.180
that i don't think so you win the mind okay i mean like if he asked me out and asked for separate
02:27:50.700
checks like at the end of the day i mean i'd pay like i don't care but it would just kind of be like
02:27:55.740
um like that's not really what you expected i like wouldn't say no like again i'd be okay with
02:28:04.460
that but then i feel like it is something to consider like it's not an immediate like i'm never
02:28:10.620
gonna hang out with this guy again but it is just something like to consider the fact that he asked
02:28:14.940
you out and then he brought up separate checks yeah yeah especially if you're like going somewhere like
02:28:19.500
chick-fil-a i'm not splitting half it with you if it's somewhere nice maybe yeah wait so if it's
02:28:27.180
cheap you you want him to pay but if it's expensive then you're gonna pay no no no like i'd understand
02:28:34.380
if you if it was cheap and he asked to split it and it was like a 25 meal i'd be like why did you ask
02:28:39.500
me out then if you couldn't afford that but if it's somewhere like very nice and you're having like
02:28:43.500
issues that's fine but i don't know i think you should be aware of your circumstances sometimes
02:28:47.340
because like what if the other person can't afford it i don't know yeah i agree with what you're
02:28:51.980
saying it's really just depending on where we're going and at the same time like i don't mind because
02:28:56.540
i don't really go on dates with the intention of the guy has to pay
02:29:02.460
i've gone to chick-fil-a and just paid i think it's a flex i think it's a flex i you know i i agree
02:29:09.900
with you but as an egalitarian by the way y'all said you were feminists but
02:29:16.700
the definition yeah but when it comes to who should pay on the first date
02:29:23.420
how do you reckon whoever asks who if i asked a guy on a date i would pay for that yes like dead
02:29:29.340
ass why would you ask someone can you go to dinner with me if i'm saying hey do you want to oh you
02:29:33.820
go there you go you started you go okay but okay if you're with a friend
02:29:39.180
if you're with a friend and you're just like hey do you want to grab dinner are you gonna pay
02:29:47.420
for your friend's dinner if you well the friend is different if it's a friend when you're going
02:29:52.540
and knowing it's you pay for yourself or even like you split it or 50 50 if you're splitting what we
02:29:57.580
even do sometimes now is just like i'll take this when you get the next one yeah yeah yeah that's my
02:30:01.900
favorite thing to do i agree with that does this fit with your egalitarian mindset
02:30:10.700
okay i mean so i have a take that pisses both men men and women off on this because here's what
02:30:17.980
you do make a good point luke and yes it is it's not gonna hurt you to pay for the date
02:30:25.820
um it it might have some little benefit um i mean it does put you in a bit more of a leadership
02:30:34.140
position to pay for it and you're demonstrating that you know kind of the provisioning thing
02:30:39.900
providing but oh man i can't do it guys i can't there's a few scenarios where i am willing to pay
02:30:47.820
um but i think i think you should each pay your own bill uh because one foodie calls people are just
02:31:00.460
not people are not going in and i've had these experiences people are not genuinely going on dates
02:31:11.580
with sometimes not all the time but sometimes they're not going in with like a genuine interest
02:31:17.340
sometimes a girl will just be like i guess i'll go i'm kind of bored
02:31:22.780
there will be girls that just want a free meal um that's happened to a lot a lot of dudes like
02:31:28.780
they just want a free meal um to me i don't really to me that doesn't make sense to do that time-wise
02:31:34.940
but i i guess it happens especially if you're i don't do dinner dates by the way but even if it's
02:31:39.740
just for a drink we each get two drinks a glass of wine that's a lot yeah you wait that's expensive
02:31:47.260
yeah drinks are expensive it's like ten dollars a drink i mean but still yeah you can pay you can
02:31:52.620
you can pay your you'll pay for yours i'll pay for mine there was um i mean
02:31:57.740
the the only exception i'll do it and by the way so i'm so if i'm dating women within my
02:32:03.980
age cohort older like say older professional women then yes i'm gonna say hey we're gonna split
02:32:12.940
um but if i'm dating someone younger 18 19 20 21 then i'll pay and if like if i'm in a relationship
02:32:24.220
with her and i say hey i want to go to hawaii let's go i'm gonna pay for the whole thing yes
02:32:29.420
but if i'm dating a litigation attorney we're gonna split that vacation like we're gonna split
02:32:35.340
that up you know but uh if she wants to pay for me though okay yeah there's no i'm waiting for the
02:32:41.500
female simps out there though there's i was i was gonna say something on the first date thing and
02:32:48.460
like i i don't think i've ever taken a girl out to a restaurant on a first date it's always been
02:32:54.540
something fun and interactive like yeah it's so basic yeah it's not even that it's just kind of
02:33:01.020
playing it's awkward yeah it's awkward yeah dinner dates are bad and then you can do dinner you can
02:33:06.540
also kind of see like like if you go to the beach or go on a hike sunset walk exactly it's it's much
02:33:12.780
more interactive number one and intimate and intimate yeah and it's free so you can actually see them
02:33:18.540
without like being like am i just paying for some like foodie thing and then if you like them you can
02:33:23.420
say hey do you want to get something to eat after yeah yeah we'll get ice cream yeah whatever
02:33:30.620
yeah i'd much rather to go like to the beach with someone i'm like a horror movie is it
02:33:35.660
i'm on the first date we got tattoos movies are the worst first date you can't talk to them
02:33:43.260
no no no you're just staring at the screen you're not and you can't talk
02:33:47.340
you're facing you can't get to know him you can't do anything it's yeah i think
02:33:51.340
not for a first day but in general like for yeah yeah yeah yeah but not on the first date
02:33:56.380
not getting to know each other yeah definitely facts okay we got a couple super chats here and
02:34:00.460
then we're going to react to a video and then we'll probably wrap up in that maybe 20 minutes or so
02:34:12.940
um mike dust with the ten dollar soup chat rating for the ladies left to right three six five six
02:34:19.500
five four okay um do you guys want to shoot any shots back at mike dust for his rating or i don't
02:34:25.980
even know which way left is right right from there from the ladies left to right i think it's from
02:34:32.860
here yeah left wait let's take it okay mike dust with the official ten dollar super chat rating thank
02:34:42.780
you man uh okay so i want us to actually before we pull up a video i've got a question for all of us
02:34:51.260
us or i guess you guys okay so would you say this one's a little spicy would you say you're good in
02:34:59.180
bed i've been told okay why i just say specific um i mean there's just one i guess one thing i've been
02:35:15.260
told what i don't know what is it my head game okay i thought i guess that's the one thing i've been
02:35:34.540
called look what is the thing from caller daddy okay um i don't know i don't know you don't know
02:35:49.740
okay maybe you do know yeah yes yes you're like questioning that as you say i don't want to get
02:36:01.260
into details okay a yes is fine yeah i've been told yes so yeah i would say yes based off of what
02:36:10.460
i've been told yeah yeah i don't know like honestly um i mean i think like average i'd say average
02:36:20.300
i think yes piss off the reviews the reviews the yelp reviews you get you get five stars at the end
02:36:29.500
yeah just give them your phone and make them write down like like an in-depth have you guys seen those
02:36:33.420
like google quizzes that you like send them out like like like rate me yeah and they rate they rate
02:36:40.540
it wait you said that you said google forms like google forms it's like i've seen a few like like
02:36:45.580
one out of ten like rate how good i was at kissing or something yeah like how good was i
02:36:49.660
kissing how good was i in bed would you ever would you hook up with me again yes yeah they give you rate
02:36:54.700
like they yeah it's a google form you get a link sent to you guys you guys have received those no
02:37:01.260
like we've seen people do it on the internet yeah like like very people we don't know have done
02:37:06.060
and that's probably like the best reviews because if you're asking your ex they'll probably be like
02:37:09.100
brutally honest yeah something like that i mean the only thing i've ever had a girl fill out is
02:37:14.620
a bdsm questionnaire maybe the rice purity test bdsm test.org are you you know yeah okay have you
02:37:27.100
what can you do you guys want to share your rice purity yeah i don't know so so for those who don't
02:37:32.780
know you can look up rice purity tests and there's i think a hundred questions yeah it's a hundred
02:37:37.500
questions and it ranges from like held hands been seen nude all this to like beast yeah yeah like
02:37:44.300
incest yeah and for every one of them you mark off your your score goes down so yeah depending
02:37:51.580
on what you want a lower score means you've done more but it also means you're more wild i think
02:37:57.020
mine was in like the 30s yeah i think mine was i don't remember like the last time i don't i think
02:38:02.380
mine's like in the 60s or 70s is that high or low so it's like the more you check off if you've done
02:38:10.540
nothing it's a hundred and then each thing you do it loads it so like so like zero is like
02:38:16.380
that's a red flag you've done some shit yeah yeah um i would say just somewhere below 50s won't
02:38:24.700
specify how much i think when mine was like 38 to 45. okay okay i haven't taken you should take it
02:38:37.820
right take it right now it's interesting start the next show with that everyone has to take the
02:38:43.100
recipe it would take a minute but you have to be really honest yeah you cannot lie one thing i've
02:38:49.420
wanted to do is like before the show have the girls take screenshots of their dating profiles
02:38:55.100
and then we do a review oh that would be funny that's a good and then we all go left or right
02:39:03.340
we could do that that could be fun but unfortunately yeah we'd have to set that up uh before the show
02:39:07.900
but uh so related to my last question who do you think that the quality of sex is more important to
02:39:14.300
men or women women women women 100 yeah i feel like both i feel like it's a mutual effort that you
02:39:23.900
gotta put in luke what are you saying it's more important to women yeah okay all right i'm a pillow
02:39:31.500
princess is that just you just lay there hey but she's getting in bed so it's working
02:39:41.740
okay so i guess this is sort of me trying to uh verx thank you very much we'll get to that
02:39:48.700
in a sec but thank you for the ten dollar super chat verx and thank you for the um for some reason
02:39:53.180
super chat or sorry stream yard does not show when people gift um memberships so unfortunately like i'm
02:39:59.500
if i missed any of them i'm sorry guys but uh verx thank you for the ten dollar super chat we'll get
02:40:03.740
to that momentarily um so what shit i sorry i lost my train of thought um
02:40:12.300
is it is it harder is it harder to be good in bed as a man or a woman i think it's harder for a man
02:40:19.740
yeah i think it's harder for men yeah pillow princess
02:40:24.380
um i am i think men yeah yeah girls are always dissatisfied and with sex like women are
02:40:35.180
dissatisfied with sex yeah like yeah all the time like you'll always hear that yes and like guys can
02:40:40.140
never even make them come so it's also like most women can't get off their penetration like it's like
02:40:44.780
scientifically proven yeah like they definitely have to put in more words yeah right or get a toy they
02:40:51.740
they satisfy themselves and then that's kind of it they don't do anything yes wait so
02:40:59.740
i don't know where i want to go with this but okay so do you guys
02:41:09.420
are you guys able to come with no with a partner no no or have you ever because last show we had a
02:41:16.060
girl come on and she was like yep never a guy's never been able to get me off yes but not
02:41:22.460
like it's very rare really yeah like once wow yeah no and you've had you said you'd had like a
02:41:31.980
long-term relationship right okay yeah but no we have the same kind of thing can we wait we'll go
02:41:41.020
around go ahead no you've never orgasmed from a partner no and by the way i just to make something
02:41:48.060
clear it could be even foreplay like uh if he goes down on you fingers nothing nothing nothing wow okay
02:41:56.380
never yes you have yeah okay so you for never and then you rarely yeah wow that blows my mind
02:42:07.260
time okay you guys got to find some better guys yeah a lot of guys they a lot of guys they finish and
02:42:18.220
then they kind of just you're then you're done or they think it takes like three minutes for you
02:42:22.300
yeah yeah it takes a minute it takes a minute i mean some women can come very quick yeah
02:42:33.020
it's not anyone like they actually yeah yeah how do you know yeah like what i mean they could lie
02:42:38.460
why some women a lot of women a lot of women someone you faked it actually i think at least
02:42:45.100
everyone when i've talked to us faked it at least once that's bad you guys shouldn't fake should not
02:42:49.500
fake well i mean like i can tell can they i think they can the guy that's actually made someone
02:42:56.860
yeah yeah if they don't wait but so i just question this is a now a sex therapy show
02:43:03.180
so have you guys but can you guys bring yourself to climax yeah yeah yeah okay no yes no wait no
02:43:13.260
no i don't have you ever no climaxed really ever but have you tried like a self no okay not my thing
02:43:23.580
huh because i would say that you know something that does come up yes like a lot of guys are not
02:43:31.740
doing their job in bed not getting girls to climax but if you can't even get yourself to climax i don't
02:43:38.620
blame them for it like i'm not i don't know but i i would say it would lend itself to a more
02:43:45.900
satisfying sex life and a more satisfying relationship if you could i've thought about
02:43:51.420
it climax wait but and by the way if this is too prodding or too invasive mom if you're watching this
02:44:01.340
do you um have you tried no that's you well what do you like by myself
02:44:14.860
and is it is it just you don't have the the drive or the want or the desire i just like
02:44:21.100
don't really feel better than any man actually i don't know about if you've ever like actually
02:44:26.140
experienced that i don't like there would be you don't know what like exactly what that urge
02:44:29.740
or like whatever yeah yeah maybe yeah just avoid it for the rest of your life and then you'll
02:44:35.740
you'll you'll uh yeah but um yeah that's that's pretty uh i mean that's pretty surprising to me
02:44:43.580
though that wow rip yeah oh yeah guys in the chat for the for the women who have never climaxed with
02:44:51.660
the partner can we get some candle vigil some skulls in the chat can you blow it out it smells
02:44:59.260
uh you don't like the smell i don't know um yeah actually you know what mike davis he he dips so no
02:45:05.260
we can just just blow it out thank you thank you come back mike davis come back yes but um wow that's
02:45:25.020
so next to the video by the way guys going back to the condom thing
02:45:30.540
you know if it'll make you last longer just stay strapped
02:45:34.780
yeah this is like a condom ad better safe than sorry yeah i actually find that condoms
02:45:46.780
never mind never want to finish that sentence but uh yeah i guess uh well also the thing with that i
02:45:54.700
think most women it's very difficult for them to orgasm just just from penetration yeah so
02:46:05.340
uh yeah anyways um okay moving on moving on i thought someone say it was a mental block and i
02:46:10.860
could agree with that a mental block yeah i think it's easier for women when they're more as they
02:46:16.700
become more comfortable with a guy yeah i don't know i have a big old mental block at all so good times
02:46:23.900
those are the best the mental blocks um okay eric can you go ahead and actually hold on just a sec let
02:46:29.820
me highlight a couple of these boom thank you guys for all the interaction in the chat guys much
02:46:36.540
appreciated so uh we're going to react to a video
02:46:41.420
i'm not sure which one i want to oh which one actually sorry eric bring it back we're back
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really quick i wanted to ask okay yes before yeah i want to get the super chat really quick that came
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in sorry about that verx okay so verx body count he's asking for body count so we'll go around the
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table we're asking for body count uh we'll start with you i don't know and i don't want to
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you wait you don't know i don't know it because you're blacked out for all of them or what
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not blacked out before before the it's borderline here pull the microphone sorry um i don't know it
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and i don't really want to share what i thought it might be i will not disclose that information
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i already said my you said two right okay above zero above yeah is it above zero
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seven you know what i should have asked first to have maybe gotten a few more people sorry
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verx they did not want to answer this question i should have asked does body count matter and then
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we should have done this so i'll do this in a reverse order should body count matter
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to an extent okay yeah i'm gonna agree with that yeah you you to an extent yeah to an extent to an
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extent yeah as long as it's not like if it's not like triple digits yeah as long as it's not triple
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okay okay like i don't clean yeah as long as you're like safe about it like you don't know what
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someone did in their past so like i'd say like body count doesn't really matter if they don't like
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let's say there's a guy with like a really high body count like if he doesn't like make it like a flex
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like yeah a personality trait like i feel like it really shouldn't matter yeah that's weird if a
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guy's like oh this is my yeah body count congrats it'd be weird to tell a girl like oh i have a high
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body count i think that'd be not that not a good move it's like a turn off yeah yeah i honestly don't
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care i don't care either i think there is some matter to it yes it is an issue yeah that's it look
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no i think i think if you have a really you have if if you have a high body count what's high for you
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okay like anything this is i think anything over 10 is like okay relax and then anything over 15 is like
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okay you're just a borderline a hoe at that point like you can't hold down a guy for more than like
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two months even if it's just casual sex if it's just casual sex like like revisit hooking up with
02:50:00.380
them if you enjoyed it why do you have to go and seek out a like a hundred different partners
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yeah i mean that goes back to the whole so for men our sexual strategy is to obtain and i think women's
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metric of success when it comes to men is retaining the man but yeah and as far as the
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girl's body counts which they omitted that answer to and they did not want to answer hey
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that's the real number did did everyone i think everyone missed it here i'll do it again that's my
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fault multiply it by three and that's the real number okay if a girl like lies about it i mean
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you guys want to give us ranges i can give a range okay i think yeah yeah go for it
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what i don't know yeah i want to hear it too let's hear the range one through four
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somewhere in there that's not bad at all somewhere in there i mean i could say like one to 50
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is like y'all would never know is it more than 10 no more than 10. yeah okay i appreciate the honesty
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respect all right and you more than 10. no no more than 10. more than five no whoa whoa
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you can't pry it out of me okay okay okay all right um so we're gonna pull up the video uh can
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you pull up the body count video mr angita is it the uh the 19 years i totally just fit that
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so you know what's so attractive about younger women because we a lot of these dudes talk about
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fertility and yeah looks and stuff i don't actually think it's that i think that in the modern era can
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you boost the on the days of old right you'd meet a woman you get married you'd be together whatever
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in the modern world if i meet a girl who's 33 and single i know the amount of dick that's been
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through her before me it's just simply unattractive i don't care how nice you are yeah but you're 33
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years old how many men have fun if i get a 19 year old girl i might be your second or third man
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right i'm gonna be dude number 29 and all the trauma and heartbreak and
02:52:25.420
bullshit they put you through you're gonna try and bring to my door like well my last man cheat
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i don't give a yeah like i don't care like why is that my problem so if you pick up older women
02:52:34.700
you have to accept they've been on the carousel longer they've had more fucking rides more spins
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i don't want that when i see a beautiful young woman i know that she has a very low body count
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and that and and also no no but the truth is women's mentality is absolutely connected to sex if
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a woman sleeps with a bunch of men it's harder to penetrate her mind and make her fall
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it is unattractive too and it's unattractive but if she's like if she's had 30 dudes inside of her
02:52:58.860
she really gonna think you know what this guy's so so so special or she gonna think you know what
02:53:02.140
he talked to me real let's go get a new guy whereas if a woman's only been with a few guys she's much
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more likely to fall in love with you be a better partner except the likelihood of her falling
02:53:08.540
completely in love with you and staying loyal to you and and really believing you're the only man
02:53:12.140
for her after being through so much trauma and so many men and sleeping with so many dudes and having
02:53:16.460
her heart broken and having those memories of her ex and all that crap she's been through
02:53:20.060
is far less likely than meeting a nice young beautiful girl who hasn't been with many men and she goes
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you know what this is the guy i like him every woman who knows this and every man who watches
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just can be honest women fall in love with the person they lose their virginity to or their second
02:53:30.300
or third guy they really remember them they really love them that any woman who slept with 50 dudes
02:53:33.740
she doesn't even remember who most of them are she doesn't care if a woman slept with a bunch of
02:53:36.380
men before you she's less likely to stick it out through a difficult period in a relationship
02:53:39.260
she's more likely to just say you know what new answers new dick that's a pretty good answer
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and that's the truth let me make something clear if i meet a beautiful 30 year old woman i'm not saying
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i won't sleep with her that's pretty fucking old yeah 30 i know what are you crazy i there's been times i was drunk
02:53:52.380
your guys's reaction to the video i just don't like andrew tate at all yeah he really pisses me
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off yeah he really pisses me off maybe he says it's like he needs to be on a watch list your body
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count is high that means you can't be in a good relationship that's basically like what he's saying
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and like you can't be lower in a relationship you can't have a good connection with someone
02:54:14.620
just because your body count is high and then like i feel like like some guys are like oh like she has to
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be really good in bed but her body count can't be like two it can't be more than two yeah they're
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like very hypocritical about it because like your body count is very high based on the way you're
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saying it because he's like yeah i'll fuck her anyways but like yeah andrew tate does have a high
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body yeah yeah it's like it doesn't make sense but but it's okay to address that thing i mean i and we
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sort of already talked about it but i mean it's most men it's pretty hard as a woman to be
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actively bad in bed like you have to up pretty bad to be bad in bed as a woman like most women
02:54:57.740
like most guys even if you're like a pillow princess it's still like it's still gonna feel good for you
02:55:07.420
as a guy i mean as a guy or a girl for the guy oh okay yeah um so and and if the guy knows what he's
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doing he's gonna be able to make it work if he knows how to lead in the bedroom he's he knows how
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to make it work if they could flip you around they could do go for it but yeah if the guy's dominant
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like he knows he knows what he's doing like a guy can take a woman who's a virgin and have great sex
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with her i'm not so sure if the opposite is true if a woman can take a guy who's a virgin and have
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mind-blowing sex the first time they have sex very true so
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what's your reaction to your reaction um honestly it just sounds like he's not into
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girls who knows what she wants like he was like oh like it just seems like he wants
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a younger girl who's still like exploring relationships and like obviously when you're
02:56:06.780
younger he said like 30 maturity you're mature you you'd probably know what you want in a
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relationship at that point and i think he's just butthurt that that's not him i know disregarding
02:56:19.580
everything andrew tate is like a cunt i'm glad i got to use that word yeah he's actually a bad person
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no but that's what i focus on is he literally beat a woman and yeah that's what i was gonna say
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and then he went to romania and was like erroneous erroneous fake news i've seen the video like
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you saw the video the way he was talking to the woman like you don't the way he views cheating pisses
02:56:43.020
me off so much hold on i'll get to that i just want to address the alleged women beating thing so it
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was reported in the media that there's a video that came out where he was i think whipping a girl's
02:56:55.900
ass with a belt or something like that talk yelling saying some stuff uh so that women that woman came
02:57:03.180
out and said hey we're into kinky stuff it was all consensual it was bdsm but okay but so the media i
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mean there was a there was a concerted effort by the media to they were trying to do rapid reputation
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destruction so there's the whole him abusing a woman in that way that that's been debunked
02:57:26.540
she came the woman in the video herself came out and said hey multiple times it was totally
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consensual like we're just into some kinky shit okay that's the trick then oh go ahead before before
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we yeah so even if that was like some kinky shit like i feel like if you speak to a woman in the way
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like i don't know if you've watched the videos but like that was disgusting like even if it's like
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a kink i guess like it's there there are women who are into degradation yeah i get it there's a
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degradation kink so women who are turned on when the guy's like you're a fucking cum dumpster you're
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a whore like all that stuff yeah but not my cup of tea not my cup of tea but he was literally like
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i'm gonna beat the fuck out of you like that's not that's not i mean there's i mean and the beating
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woman thing wasn't even about that video it was about him getting kicked off that big brother or
02:58:16.540
something like that well he got kicked off big brother because of that video no because i thought it
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was because he like punched someone or something on the show it was yeah it was the i'll stand if
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you're right about that then i'm wrong so that's on me but like i don't know i still can't support
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him i was like yeah and then he said there's other i'm sure you can probably find other things to
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criticize him on yeah a lot like the whole just the i'm moving to romania because they persecute men
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less because of the yeah just like sex laws general you can have your that's just like not a good thing
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to say in general like i don't it makes you a bad person like by association of those words yeah
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wait so did someone else want to did you give your take who did you want to give your take on
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the video your reaction to the andrew tape video we just watched oh i think she's a hypocrite i'm just
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asking a lot from a girl um 5xdm wants me to ask ask if they like being choked okay i guess fine
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since we're on the topic would you like to be choked yes yeah no yes yes yes aha uh luke no
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do you actually this is kind of an interesting conversation will you choke a girl yeah but is it
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is it something that the girl asks for or is it something that you kind of enjoy doing
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to be kind of more dominant because honestly i feel it's like i don't really want to do that
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shit like i'll do it if it turns my girl on if it turns her on i'll do it yeah but like it's
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usually the girl that wants yeah it's asking for i mean it's not like i don't know there's no pleasure
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in in guys for it i think there's something weird if you like you're like oh this is so
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i'm choking her out oh okay bro well there's definitely a sadist yeah bdsm yeah all that stuff but
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oh it's kind of interesting i feel like there's a a rough sex meta like yeah and i i'm it's kind
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of i don't know i mean okay okay so i'll just share this for me one of the the whole rough sex thing
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is i love it when a girl will just drag her nails down my back
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no pain i kind of with that like if there's scratch marks on my back i'm i don't like all
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right that's bad that's good i don't know i think that's proof of like passion i don't know yeah
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you know because i also feel like when a girl does that usually means like they're actually
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enjoying themselves yeah and again that's not something i feel like girls like could ask for
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choking but like a guy's not going to be like scratch my back like leave me i mean i don't know
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i beg to differ okay there has there has been well i said corrected
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okay how did we oh andrew tate okay what and so some of you mentioned something about uh
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wait so did you get to go right okay so you guys mentioned something about was it age or something
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like what what was that about he's i just i don't know oh just like the glorification of like younger
03:01:31.100
women yeah he said he said 19 18 19 year olds are more attractive because they've been through less
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dick that's one of the reasons that younger women are more attractive yes that's what he said
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because i think a lot of men care about body count and that's just from look a 30 year old could have a
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body count of 5 and 19 year old could have a body count of 50 but if you're a betting man probably
03:01:53.500
more likely than not younger women are going to have a lower body count older women are going to
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have a higher body count and that 19 year old is going to have more bodies by the time she's 29 than
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when she's 19. so uh that's one of the reasons i think why men and men men value uh
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uh sexual purity in women that can now that could mean virginity but that could also mean
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low body count i mean i get that but like promoting that so actively as you do like he's
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like stating it as fact like this is how it is you're doing this you have trauma i have to deal
03:02:29.020
with it and everything's about what you're causing to him and how you should just view women like that
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and i think that is in and of itself it's really like a toxic mindset and i don't i don't know it's
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kind of sad i feel bad for him wait so it's toxic that he wants a woman with a low body count no you
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can if you want that go for it like you can have that but just the fact he's online just continuously
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spewing this is exactly this is why every man views this and this is why like every younger woman
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should be more should be seen as more desirable it i don't know and he keeps on talking about how
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their trauma affects me because when they're older they have more trauma and it's so much more
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difficult and i don't that's also like extremely fucked up i don't know yeah i feel like it's different
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guys preferring guys preferring girls who have low body counts and guys telling girls that they need
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to have a low body count like it's very it's similar but there's slight differences and it
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seems like andrew tate is telling girls you need to have a low body count i thought didn't you say you
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want men to be up front and to be honest so so we are being he is being very honest he's not sugar
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coating it a lot of men are not going to be i would say most most men have a preference for women
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probably the vast majority of men would have a preference for women with a low body count
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there's a subset of them that would be upfront about that and be willing to share that a lot
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of men are not going to even your guy friends you might ask them they there's a good chance that
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they're not going to be upfront with you about that sort of thing especially a guy who's romantically
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pursuing you he's gonna be like oh it's okay baby i don't care because he doesn't want to say anything
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that could potentially uh tank his uh courtship let's just say yeah well i'm saying if a guy wants
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a girl with a low body count and he and that's something he's like super adamant about go ahead find
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one but telling girls that like like you can do it like girls should be able to do whatever they want
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and so like having guys tell them you can't you cannot have a high body count is different than
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being like i want a girl with a low body count he's presenting it as fact versus opinion and i think
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that's where like the yeah well what is the fact that he's presenting that women who aren't like
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younger are visibly more attractive and they have way more to offer when it comes to that like higher
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body count that's what i meant lower body count i don't okay my last relationship body count was never
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talked about like we never tilt the microphone down towards you slightly there you go perfect um
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body count was never talked about like we never asked each other's it was never a thing that we
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brought up so i don't think it really matters if you're gonna ask about then ask but i don't think
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it's if you really yeah like she said if you really want someone with a little body count go find that
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but if you're attracted to someone you're attracted to someone yeah i mean i i guess i would say this
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earlier on in the conversation you guys said that and i don't want to misquote you so if i am feel free
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to jump in but a lot of you said that you think hookup culture is not such a good thing so how do you
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reconcile having that belief but also he's i mean essentially saying women should have a low body count
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is saying women should not engage in hookup culture because if you engage in hookup culture
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you're having casual sex women should not be promiscuous women he's saying women should not
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be promiscuous women should not have should not have a high body count how do you not have a high
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body count not have into not have indiscriminate sex not have casual sex not engage in hookup culture
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if you i mean if you're just having long-term relationships and valuing long-term relationships
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then more likely than not you're going to have a low body count so i guess my question is how do you
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reconcile saying hookup culture is not this great thing but also he's he's essentially saying don't
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do hookup culture don't have a high body count is it the double standard that you feel like it's
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directed more towards women or go ahead i don't even know if i'm touching on the subject we're
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supposed to be talking about if you want go ahead just come on but um i don't know like you could
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not be in hookup culture and still have okay wait let me rephrase that you could not be in a long-term
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relationship but also not be in hookup culture like my coworker and i talk about this all the time because
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we both kind of like the same views on this but like we're i don't know like we i guess like the
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standards that we have for men makes it so that like we just don't hook up with anyone we don't
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like so our body count doesn't go up and i mean neither of us are in relationships either so and haven't
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been for a while yeah i mean see i don't that's well yeah i mean that's probably we're supposed to
03:07:40.140
well no it's more you you don't have to be in a relationship i mean someone who's never even
03:07:46.540
had a boyfriend ever she might be virgin so and in your case you've alleged body count is two so i
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mean i yeah it's two i'm not doubting it but uh but okay did anyone else want to come in i don't
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know i feel like i'm not the biggest fan of like d platforming in general so but i can like thoroughly
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say i don't like the guy i don't like his opinions but i mean that's just kind of how it is there's
03:08:18.540
always going to be someone online who you're not going to agree with if i don't want to support him
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yeah my prerogative anybody else want to come in on it okay so we're going to wrap up here pretty
03:08:27.660
soon i want to do final thoughts so if you have a final thought or question for someone else someone
03:08:34.940
else on the panel you have some dating advice you want to ask luke he's a dating expert a dating coach
03:08:41.340
um so if you guys have final thought or question for the panel i want to open it up
03:08:46.380
i don't know do you want me to come back to you yeah i think i'm good yeah i don't think i have
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anything to say any any questions final thoughts really more to say i think i've learned that maybe
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i should ask somebody out because my bees are though yeah i did learn that too um body counts i feel like
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girls just you know do you i'm like you only live once yeah yeah i mean do it for the plot
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my my final thought on the whole body count thing and this is why i think it's important to
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not have the highest body count or to sleep around just like whimsically like sleep with whoever the
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fuck you want is because and i said this last week i think there's an energy transfer that happens
03:09:36.780
when you have sex with someone you know you're literally letting somebody inside of you or you're
03:09:41.420
connecting on it like a more spiritual level the most like the most vulnerable you can get with
03:09:45.580
someone exactly so i think the fact that a lot of people go straight to oh this person's attractive
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i'm gonna hook up with them and then they find out oh this is their act the dude's actually a
03:09:55.100
douchebag that tries to take advantage or the girl's a fucking you know total cunt and um it's
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just you should put more thought into it so for me all my the only two people that i've hooked up once
03:10:09.820
with have been friends of mine and i've known them prior to hooking up with them and then the other
03:10:15.900
ones have either been like talking stages to where i'm actually knowing the person or they're actually
03:10:22.060
like relationships so i won't hook up with anyone that i don't know like or have a past with that i
03:10:28.460
know like hey i'm actually getting into like something good like i can actually connect with
03:10:32.220
this human being on a level that isn't just i'm gonna fuck the shit out of her i think a lot of
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people need to go into that and take that into effect on how they view hookup culture because it's
03:10:44.060
so gross and toxic i get what you're saying completely but also like that's not for everyone like
03:10:49.340
not everyone thinks that way no yeah that's fine and like i don't think it's for us to say like they
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need to change i'm not saying that they need to change i'm just saying if you don't want to get
03:10:59.740
thought of as this like hoe by society maybe put some more thought into who you're hooking up with
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and you guys have all said like you've lost hope in men i'm just gonna blame that on your experience
03:11:13.660
with it because i know a lot of my friends who are super respectful and same thing with girls i
03:11:19.340
think guys will give you know shitty raps girls like they're only in it to hook up or whatever same
03:11:23.340
thing with guys that's not the case you're your experiences with guys have just been too shallow
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big tradition i feel like i'm getting some new perspective here yeah right yeah
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beast not all men suck i mean like definitely from my experience all the guys i've either picked or
03:11:45.740
whatever they've also they've been all awful and ruined my lives in many ways but but there definitely
03:11:53.500
are a lot of good ones out there just giving them a chance or letting them come to you they're already
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taken or yeah we were literally talking about this on the way here that like women like it's really
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common how girls are is like we hate all men like that's like a common thing yeah yeah or like all
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men are trash yeah and that's just that's just a joke yeah yeah like chill out like it's just a joke
03:12:15.340
it's just a prank a lot of my friends it's all the guys you pick it's all the guys you pick but it's
03:12:19.100
like i don't know that until i get to know them yeah yeah like you don't know their dicks until you
03:12:24.140
actually get to know them for a while so it's not like you don't know they're dicks like that they
03:12:28.220
are like you don't go after like oh he's a dick i want to go get to like go hang out with him
03:12:36.380
like i mean uh do you guys like bad boys we'll go around the table do you like bad boys
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to a certain extent i guess from my past i guess
03:12:45.580
do you like bad boys why are you looking at that answer the question
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what about you oh my turn okay sorry i mean like yeah to a certain extent but i don't want them to be like
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bad to me like you know you want someone that's like
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closed off to everyone else except for you does that make sense
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uh not really i want you to buy me teddy bears and stuff i mean i used to not anymore
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okay wait so you you said that i'm trying to remember
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what did i say i forgot something about men are terrible or something oh um
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because i don't know my friends always say like oh like they men are awful i think i said like oh my
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god men suck and they're like oh no it's the guys you pick but it's like i don't seek
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these assholes they just end up i end up learning that they're assholes like i don't i'm like oh
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he's an asshole like let me go hang out with him like that's not what i do but there's also a lot
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of good guys out there you just gotta give them a chance sometimes are you attracted to those guys
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though um yeah i'd say i mean but they're not the ones you end up with no are you saying nice guys finish
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last i guess from my from like my past i guess so but like a lot of times they end up they're
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super nice in the beginning and then it just is a decline from there so word word
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word like that happens a lot like they're great and then you really get to know them and then it
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just a decline from there from my experience i hope it gets better from here yeah i really hope for you
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no more homeless men please i'm i'm really trying after this after this i'm really trying and get him
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out of your mom's house get your mom back get your mom back and i just want to come back to two i
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think i heard two of you say this so you said you you feel like you've learned something or you've
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found some insights or something i have like obviously i've lived my life as a woman growing up here
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i hope so um it's kind of nice because i haven't really had like any proper guy friends which is
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probably on me but like it's nice just being able to talk in like a very open setting like this and
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just kind of hear the other perspective even if i don't agree with some stuff it's useful to know
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i don't know it's nice it's interesting yeah appreciate that true yeah i i agree with you yeah i
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mean like maddie and i like we talked to our guy friends about this stuff too and they're pretty open
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about it and we're open with them yeah and like we've just been close what's something that you
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and your guy friends often talk about when we have talked about we talked about a lot of stuff with
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them like they're really close like we have like open minds when we're talking to them like yeah we
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want to hear from a guy we never like judge we're not gonna be like why would you say that we're like
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why do you say yeah like if they say something we're not gonna be like what the
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fuck we're gonna be like interesting what what is an example of like something that they've said
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um maybe what what's their take on body count body cap they don't really care honestly yeah
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they don't care they don't care yeah all right we got maybe it's just a good guy yeah we just got
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the show yeah to be fair shout out connor we chose good guy friends they're like very sweet yeah yeah
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so your guy friends don't care about body count no no chat do you think that's cap hey whoa whoa
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i think i remember them mentioning they prefer low body count okay so they do but like they prefer low
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body count but overall they don't care like if the girl's a nice girl it's not gonna deter them
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i think i think it's more of a thing like like i have some like girlfriends that like have slept
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around with a lot of dudes and i'm like i'm not looking to sleep with you so i really couldn't get
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the loss of a fuck yeah it's it's it's just like a friend like a simply a platonic yeah so you only
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really care about it when it's like you're leading to like a romantic situation yeah okay yes i see
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that because again that's what i'm talking about the whole energy exchange it's like i'm not gonna
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exchange anything with this person it's just gonna be me hanging out with them and my other friend
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group doing whatever we want i'm not gonna hook up with them i'm not gonna like root myself to them
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compared to someone that has rooted themselves to a bunch of assholes or like you know people are
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shitty human beings yeah i just wish i could read a guy's mind i don't know if you uh if i selectively
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want to at the time i just want to know something you want to like choose one to read yeah i'm gonna
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choose one to read their mind yeah also the other thing with the body count so i think there's a bit
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more nuance to it so for a if a guy is just wants to hook up it's probably going to be less of a concern
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but to take you seriously for a long-term relationship for marriage guys are going to
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care about body count a whole lot more so when they say oh body count doesn't matter i mean they
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might just be i mean if i don't know who they are i don't know what they're looking for but a lot of
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guys in college like they kind of just want to hook up so they're probably like yeah it doesn't i'm not
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really tripping too much i'm just trying to hit and quit it like whatever but i mean even for me like
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like i'll i'll come out and say even for a one night stand i'd prefer lower body count
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okay whether that's a realistic scenario that would play out i mean that's another thing but
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yeah so yeah um last question then we're gonna wrap up here and then and then we'll watch a little
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fun little video just as a little cherry on top is it creepy when a guy you're not attracted to
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shoots his shot i wouldn't say not i wouldn't say creepy creepy not creepy i mean they can be
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creepy but i don't they can do it in a creepy way yeah yeah definitely but just the act of shooting
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their shot even if i'm not attracted to them is not creepy okay so like let's say for example a guy
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maybe you're at trader joe's or something or and a guy trader joe's reference
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yeah i mean yeah exactly uh and let's say a guy came up to you maybe he wasn't like the best looking
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guy whatever but you know he's polite he was otherwise polite you just weren't attracted to
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him would you like would you find that kind of creepy no i would literally be like oh my god like
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texting my friends like i just got asked how i like trader joe's like it's okay and they're like
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what did you do and i'm like oh i just said no thanks like i'm not yeah but you would you feel good
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about about it yeah i'm like kind of flattered and sort of or i had a guy i was walking on state
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street it is an ego boost yeah he asked me where macy's was and there was no macy's and i think he
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was just trying to talk to me on state street but like where's paseo nuevo like not upper upper state
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but there is one on yeah yeah but i'm saying like paseo nuevo where like there used to be one at
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paseo yeah yeah but he asked me where macy's was and i was like no more macy's and it got my
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attention from like walking and then he's like oh can i get like your number i was like no he wasn't
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attracted to me right and i just was like oh no no thanks i mean this happened to me like semi
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recently i was just like walking in the mall and this guy came up to me and was like i just saw you
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from over there i just had to introduce myself i i wasn't really that attracted to him but like i
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talked to him for like a little bit he seemed nice but then he was like oh like can i get your number
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and i was like no like i'm about to leave like sorry but it was really nice like meeting you and
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it is a little bit of an ego boost but i mean at least for me i was like respect for shooting
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your shot like i respect you like sorry it didn't work out with me but i do hope it works out with
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someone shooting a shot in person is a lot more scary yeah oh yeah it's a lot of balls oh yeah that's
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for sure sorry i also feel like sometimes i do get uncomfortable though like i don't know maybe
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it's like the setting but also like i have had a lot of creepy guys like do creepy things so like
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i think in general i'm kind of like creeped out by men especially if it's like older men yeah i had
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a guy like kind of follow me around the grocery store okay and he was like in his like 50s yeah
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like definitely dad and he like kept on walking the same aisles with me and then introduced himself
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and then i just ran away wait so hold on you guys said like if it's an older guy like what is the
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oldest as in like a dad yeah like 40 50 what what's the oldest that you guys think you would date
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right now right now sure like hooked up with like a 30 year old yeah i mean i haven't but that's
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like i haven't done that but not but i guess like 25 26 um like 23 24 yeah 23 23 even andrew tate
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like no go no 35 no what about what if he's like do you guys have a celebrity crush yeah it's harry
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styles like yeah miles teller andrew garfield andrew garfield yeah oh my god hold on so okay
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harry styles is miles oh my god i love him harry styles is 28 you'll go for i'll go for harry
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styles i'll do anything for him i think he's like 30 something but i said i would do 30 like chris
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evans who said andrew garfield me oh i love him too he's 39 yeah okay but it's andrew garfield
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there's exceptions there's exceptions okay he does not look 39 he looks like 33. so if a guy
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has status no i know i wouldn't date him i think it's just from watching i think it's just from
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watching all the movies that they've been on and like seeing it's like the way that they hold it
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like it's attractive but it's like a year old by the way you wouldn't date andrew garfield you've also
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i don't know he's had like so much more life experience than me like i feel like i just literally
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i can talk about my childhood and that's it high school a little bit of college
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okay so we are going to react to a final video we got a patrice o'neill clip
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if you can add one up eric i believe it's yeah there you go
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let me ask you a question here's a question see this question okay ladies if you didn't
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have a vagina like say it was a terrible train accident right and the doctor was like we have
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how would you keep your man past you get a two-month guilty i can't leave the
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the bitch right away because she just lost the pussy the train actually
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how would you keep your man past that if you didn't have a vagina eric can you pause it
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uh so go ahead your answer to his question i'd like like sexually is this like
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because just how would you keep your men i love an affection it could be sexually too but
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um you lost your vaginas i love you enough they'll stay terrible train accident yeah
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if a guy loves you enough they'll stay yeah i love affection care but what would you do
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sexually keep your men well however you want to take the i i don't want to influence you
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you're trying to go for no i just i don't want to influence your answer but i just want to know
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how you'd keep it yeah yeah i mean there's other things that don't don't involve a vagina yeah there's
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a lot of things like foreplay and everything i mean i guess there's no foreplay yeah but i mean
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outside of sex like you can just be like a good person like you are already dating before yeah
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yeah no like literally what they're saying like time care like together spend time together
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this person really wants to be with you for their vagina yeah yeah if you break up with someone
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after you leave like you leave them after they don't have a vagina you're i think you're a bad
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especially if it's like a bad accident they were like in a long-term relationship like that's kind
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of and also just like is quality time not enough yeah yes intimacy and that stuff is important but
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there's other ways to do that if you don't have a vagina there's also like pocket pussies
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exactly yeah get creative get creative there's just a hole there's just a hole worth of vagina
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it's soda it's like a barbie doll bottom i mean there's another terrible train accident
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there's one you guys are forgetting there's like a very viable option there's another hole there you go
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yeah there's two you're the belly button you're not the belly button yes there are two but
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and you're what what would you do i want to keep him he wants to leave no but what would you do
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to keep your man you lost you just lost your terrible train that amtrak amtrak derail
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there you go yeah all right they didn't really go for they i don't think they took the bait but
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we'll finish off the clip hey i tried wow nothing you can talk you can talk
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asshole okay great do you see what i'm saying now i've been getting pussybeating the whole show
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right but i give women the opportunity to say i want to make myself worth more but you just classified
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yourself as a series of holes but but you know i'm i'm supposed to teach you special but you're just a bunch
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of holes for yourself no one said learn how to play xbox learn how to play pool tell better stories get
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another that got a pussy to come on in well look whatever all right yeah you guys didn't really take
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take the bait on on that one hey i mean i said some options yeah that's good it was good anyways um
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i think we're gonna wrap up here i know i opened it up to final thoughts i want to one last opportunity
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if anyone had any question you want to ask the panel anything okay cool cool cool luke you got
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i think you got your thing in too right i'm all good okay rock and roll guys so um thanks guys for tuning
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was like i think this was like a really solid panel like yeah i saw a lot of comments that were
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like pretty positive like good energy yeah it was good i think this was like one hater like one
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singular hater like the whole time what was he saying i'm not really reading i don't know his name
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was like hector but he like the whole time he was just bagging on me yeah yeah it's the same thing
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yeah no i i definitely agree like i think the energy for this one is like on the the 7-eleven date
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yeah give everyone a follow on instagram show them some love guys but uh yeah just uh oh we're cool and
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