Whatever Podcast - Dating Talk #24

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00:01:04.000 welcome to the whatever dating talk podcast we're coming to you live from isla vista

00:01:17.340 santa barbara county california every tuesday and thursday at 7 p.m pacific i'm your host

00:01:23.500 brian atlas i'm joined by my co-host kiki she's a bit shy uh a few quick announcements before

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00:03:09.660 the american network against labia place d or anal for short we empower women who may feel

00:03:14.980 self-conscious or insecure about their labia you know it's unfortunate right chase that women get

00:03:20.740 shamed if they have a large labia it's incredibly unfortunate brian deeply unfortunate so uh to the

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00:03:32.580 talk you out of getting it okay um hashtag all iban matter in the chat and uh lastly oh wait

00:03:39.780 actually hold on we got a couple more sorry guys any of our regular viewers we need help with uh

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00:03:55.220 you want to bring it back center here eric or actually here we can go ahead and do this i'm a

00:03:59.940 philanthropist if you go to santa barbara city college or ucsb you received any petty alcohol or

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00:04:15.940 happened and you may be selected to have your fine paid for in full by me a man of the people nice there

00:04:22.500 you go so without further ado we're gonna have the guests introduce themselves so please tell us your

00:04:27.220 name age occupation and or school major um my name's emmy i'm 18 i'm a full-time student at sbcc and i'm a

00:04:36.420 communications major hi i'm ari i'm 22 and i just graduated from ucsb with a degree in psych and brain

00:04:44.500 hi i'm a saw i go to sbcc and i'm a full-time student my major is criminology age what is it oh

00:04:52.260 criminology criminology yeah and age 18. my name is jordan i'm 21 i currently go to sbcc and i just

00:05:02.020 switch to a nursing major zach yeah my name is zach uh i'm in the military and um age 22. okay yeah

00:05:14.500 my name is tanner i'm 26 full-time i do executive protection part-time i'm an instrument in the

00:05:20.020 california national guard and own my own firearms training business um as a side gig and i'm a major

00:05:25.860 in general education my name is chase i'm 27 i'm a professional photographer and brand consultant

00:05:32.980 and i'm not in school also what's up entertain me i see you bro and zach what branch of the military

00:05:40.500 uh marine corps okay marine corps yeah simplify okay uh so everyone's instagram is in the description

00:05:48.020 show them some love give them a follow and i want to go around the table once more here so

00:05:53.380 current relationship status longest relationship and are you on a dating app

00:05:58.420 uh so i actually just got out of a two-year relationship um so that was my longest and then

00:06:04.740 i'm on tinder um my longest relationship was a year and a half currently single and i'm on tinder and

00:06:13.220 bumble never been in a relationship currently single and i've never been on any dating apps

00:06:19.300 longest relationship was about two years um i'm currently not on any dating apps and i'm single

00:06:31.300 and longest relationship probably five and a half years and i'm in a relationship now

00:06:37.460 longest relationship was two years and i'm in a relationship not on any dating apps

00:06:42.020 longest relationship was a year and a half currently single was on tinder complete waste of my time

00:06:49.300 not based applied to uh i signed up for there's a new dating app called the right stuff for

00:06:55.060 conservatives i saw that one might be a fed honey pot but uh i signed up for it we'll see we'll see if

00:07:00.820 i get accepted okay and so chase what's up bro on a previous show you mentioned that you were on

00:07:11.780 tinder swiping in norway or what was it sweden it was copenhagen and stockholm okay are you still

00:07:18.260 doing that or have you moved on from i i'm not still doing that it was interesting for like a week

00:07:23.300 and then i got over it sure got it got it you didn't get lucky i'm guessing i did not get lucky

00:07:31.620 so no women got lucky it's true and are any of you have any of you been on seeking arrangements

00:07:38.660 anybody um i did put my email in it one time a really long time ago but nothing came out of it

00:07:44.740 you put your email so like however you sign up created an account yeah what was your username i

00:07:49.460 honestly don't even remember was it like sb bunny 70. i think it was honestly when i was in like high

00:07:55.940 school so i don't really remember high school is that is that the sugar daddy website yeah it's the

00:08:04.260 sugar daddy were you looking for a billionaire sugar daddy i just wanted to see if someone would send

00:08:07.620 it without me having to do anything just like free money no yeah they're like oh what's your number

00:08:12.260 i'm like next never mind so but you didn't get any money no and then on this side of the panel has

00:08:18.340 anybody i've heard zach is currently looking for a sugar daddy on seeking that's that's correct yeah

00:08:25.620 i have no idea what a seeking arrangement it's even is sorry i can't it's like a dating website where

00:08:31.620 you can set up arrangements kind of sugar daddy sugar mama i'm i there's probably like one sugar mama

00:08:39.140 on there probably have you ever been on seeking arrangements i have not that's a lie why why is that a

00:08:44.660 lie no but uh i've thought about recruiting women for the show on like creating an account to recruit

00:08:53.940 women to come on the show because i bet they have a lot to say that would be that'd be interesting i

00:08:59.060 should try someone you should ask her if she wants to come on she doesn't live around here rip okay so

00:09:06.500 last thing real quick going around the panel uh if you're comfortable sharing political orientation

00:09:14.340 and if you identify as a feminist um i'm a registered democrat and i would say i do to an extent identify

00:09:23.700 as a feminist um exactly the same the same actually the same i'm a republican i do not identify as a

00:09:35.140 feminist i'm an independent i do not identify as a feminist i'm a right-wing extremist

00:09:44.420 and i do not identify as a feminist did you uh rush the capital i i did not i also disavow okay

00:09:53.380 he disavows okay good times good times okay so you're a right-wing extremist no but you're you're

00:10:00.020 more i'm i'm you're christian conservative yeah i'm a christian conservative okay and are you which

00:10:04.980 is considered being a right-wing extremist and you're also a raging feminist raging feminist

00:10:10.580 raging feminist okay got it uh for me i'd consider myself center center left and i do not identify as

00:10:17.780 a feminist i consider myself egalitarian so that should be make for an interesting panel so

00:10:23.940 first question i have is uh apparently yesterday it was national boyfriend day so my first question

00:10:33.620 is why are y'all single the men here are trash wow i take offense yes queen i'm kidding let's we should

00:10:43.940 go into that though why why are the men here trash they're cheaters everyone's a cheater here

00:10:48.820 everyone i've not met a single loyal person girls and guys you're bisexual no oh i'm not i'm not

00:10:56.660 i'm just like my friends like i don't know do you live in ivy yeah okay wait but let's come back to

00:11:02.420 you so why are men trash maybe not all men i just haven't really i feel like most men i don't really

00:11:11.380 have like a distinct like oh i like this type of guy like this kind of hair this kind of style whatever

00:11:19.300 um i think like a lot of people that come to santa barbara or just like in this area

00:11:26.500 kind of more having to like have a good time and even if you try to make it more than a good time

00:11:35.220 after like a small period of like maybe a month or two it just kind of crashes down to the same like oh

00:11:41.220 it's not really like in a workout they're not looking for anything serious um that's been my

00:11:48.260 experience and i've lived here this is my third year here so yeah what are you looking for

00:11:55.220 i personally do want a relationship but i don't think right now is the right time

00:12:06.820 if i met the right person then i would if it checks all the boxes then yes what are your boxes

00:12:14.660 that need to be checked um goal oriented ambitious i honestly like a competitive personality like if

00:12:23.860 you're not very competitive i don't know i i like competitive i guess um

00:12:30.580 um i don't oh very family oriented i feel like if people like don't aren't really family oriented i

00:12:41.540 feel like that's kind of a red flag for me just because i'm super family oriented um

00:12:48.500 i don't yeah are there any physical requirements on your list even though i may be like five feet

00:12:56.420 tall nothing less than five five ten that's just like if okay even though i am five feet tall right

00:13:05.140 imagine somebody that's only like five four i would look like i'm in a middle school relationship that

00:13:09.780 like that just looks so weird like r.i.p you know like sorry i'm not gonna make it no gmi that's not

00:13:18.260 gonna work so okay you think that men here are trash and not all men maybe most okay so i want

00:13:29.300 to ask the rest of the women because a few of you seem to uh echo a little bit what she said do you

00:13:36.340 do you agree with that sentiment that men are trash i sure i would say for the most part yeah is

00:13:43.780 this a blanket statement like just generally men are trash yeah just just men here just general

00:13:50.340 men are trash okay yeah why you need to articulate why why are men trash just because they're men

00:13:58.820 honestly just because they're just because they're men i don't know i just feel like they just are

00:14:03.700 most of the time you see how far the termites have spread and how long and well they've dined okay but

00:14:09.300 so why give us some reasons give me some qualities what makes men trash um i would just say like

00:14:16.340 disrespectful selfish for the most part um do you think it's disrespectful to call men trash

00:14:25.780 do you think it's disrespectful i think it's a little bit disrespectful

00:14:30.420 would you think it was would you think it's disrespectful if i said women are trash yes

00:14:34.820 okay there you go so are you respectful would you i i think i am to men yeah except that's that trash

00:14:44.580 statement but what what would make men not trash how can we make men great again in your mind

00:14:52.820 i don't know i think what'd you say i think it's like more of like personal experience like you come

00:14:59.860 across someone who kind of like goes above and beyond sorry like your perspective on people so

00:15:07.620 i think i'd need like a really great man to kind of like be like oh yeah men aren't trash you know

00:15:13.540 do you think you're a great woman no i wouldn't say i'm a great woman but but you'd want a great man

00:15:19.380 no i didn't say that i just said like that's what i would need to like change my perception

00:15:23.620 yeah okay would you say if you met the right guy he would have to prove that he's not trash to you

00:15:27.940 no i think like most of the time when i meet someone i give them the benefit of the doubt

00:15:32.660 like i'm not going to assume automatically they're trash but just like personally over the course of

00:15:37.940 my life my like general consensus would be so far men are trash okay yeah if what if if you met a

00:15:44.660 great guy who changed who was had those qualities that you're describing do you think your experience

00:15:51.380 with that one great guy would change your perception of men in general do you think you'd still

00:15:56.580 consider men trash if you met that one great guy who wasn't trash um i don't know i think if anything

00:16:02.660 it might be skewed a bit i don't know if it'd completely change it but it might get a bit more

00:16:07.700 positive do you have a father yes is he trash um i'd like to not answer that question do you have a

00:16:17.460 brother so that's a yes that's a yes you do you have you don't have a brother no any male cousins

00:16:23.860 or anything uh i have like one but he lives in florida okay yeah so is there room for a lot of

00:16:30.500 improvement in your relationship with your dad and maybe how he treats you yes okay yeah okay do you

00:16:38.260 think so i i used to think that women were trash based on my experiences with some of the women in my

00:16:45.060 family and that was something that took me a while to get over do you think that your perception of

00:16:50.660 men has been colored by your relationship with your dad um i definitely think it could be i haven't like

00:16:58.100 really looked into it that much but like hearing it i'm like yeah probably probably that's fair would

00:17:04.980 it be do you think it would be sexist to say that women are trash would that be a sexist statement

00:17:11.300 no because i do think that there are women that are trash but not well sure there are there are

00:17:18.580 both men and women who are trash but to broadly say that men are trash or women are trash i did correct

00:17:26.420 myself i said the men in santa barbara specifically that's a decent amount of men there not generally

00:17:35.060 speaking because i know a lot of great guys just not in santa barbara well i mean to her point like

00:17:41.380 a lot of the dudes in santa barbara that are in your guys age demographic or complete fuck boys that

00:17:46.340 just want to run through as many chicks as possible aren't looking for relationships

00:17:51.460 seeing seeing a lot of dudes i knew when i was in college break a lot of girls hearts so

00:17:55.140 you know it's a thing here there's lots of guys in santa barbara but there's very few men

00:18:00.420 for sure facts yeah i would say that cheers to that i would say that there's a lot of

00:18:05.860 more pretty women than there are attractive men here as well do you guys agree with that statement

00:18:13.220 yeah yeah yeah there's more pretty women than there are attractive men yeah so you're talking looks

00:18:20.260 yeah looks wise that's interesting because i've i've heard girls on previous podcasts that you've

00:18:25.620 done say there's a lot of attractive guys here well is that because women grade men more harshly

00:18:32.100 when it comes to look than do men grade women harshly i think it's type i think women um i think men grade

00:18:38.500 women harshly like they think it's like a build a woman whenever they want somebody like a girl or

00:18:44.180 something like they want a specific type of body they want specific color hair and it's just something

00:18:51.060 they want to change a person into do you think that they just have like a preference that they'd

00:18:56.260 rather stick to well like is there anything wrong with that there's anything wrong with it it's just

00:19:01.540 um as long as you're like being respectful but when they get to the point where it's disrespectful and

00:19:07.060 rude then it's yeah you're just saying yeah i think in general women grade men far more harshly on

00:19:14.500 physical traits than men grade women so yeah like you said earlier you want a guy that's at least

00:19:20.820 5'10 so pretty much six foot right wait five five like wait i'm small so i don't know i just like

00:19:30.820 i just think me being small and if there's a guy that's maybe five inches taller than me that just

00:19:40.900 looks a little childish because i'm so small do you think it's a little childish to have a height

00:19:48.100 requirement for your dating i'm not saying like well i don't know she's allowed to have a preference

00:19:53.060 i guess yeah there's nothing wrong she's allowed to have her preferences just like we're allowed to

00:19:58.260 have our preferences exactly yeah like how you most likely would want a girl to be a little bit shorter

00:20:03.460 than you or i don't know some people like some people some guys like girls that are around the

00:20:09.060 same height i don't think there's anything wrong with having a preference for height

00:20:15.220 yeah like i would want a taller guy i'm 5'10 so i wouldn't want a dude that's taller than 5'10

00:20:21.700 so wait it's it's okay to have a height preference right i think it's okay yeah i think it's fully okay

00:20:26.500 to have a height preference okay so i have a follow-up question for you would you take issue with a

00:20:31.220 guy who has a weight preference so a guy who says no i don't want to date a woman who weighs more than

00:20:34.980 120 pounds no okay fair enough fair enough but i do want to i do want to talk about the the looks

00:20:42.420 thing so you guys said that it's there are more attractive women than there are attractive men

00:20:50.820 so really quick like of the percentage of men that you see either on a day-to-day basis or on dating apps

00:20:56.580 what percentage of men would you say you find attractive they don't have to be the most

00:21:00.900 attractive but that you would binary say yes or like yes or no this is an attractive person

00:21:07.460 what percentage and we'll start over here with you wait can you say that again

00:21:13.060 okay of the men that you see what percentage of them would you say you find attractive

00:21:18.660 um probably like a little bit below 50 percent a little bit below half that's fair um i think like

00:21:26.260 i don't know it's hard because like to be like find someone attractive is one thing but like to be

00:21:32.660 like attracted to them do you know what i'm saying like there's a total leave that part out of the

00:21:36.580 just physically attractive um like 30 percent okay fair wait can you repeat the question again

00:21:43.780 what we're gonna have to hide the chat if what people keep fucking reading okay what percent of men

00:21:48.980 that you see on a daily basis do you find attractive like but before you answer that

00:21:54.900 um just to address the whole chat thing you guys are free to free to read chat but do try to

00:22:00.660 focus in a little bit on the conversation it's very distracting it's very distracting so if you

00:22:04.580 want glance over but do try to pay more attention to the conversation go ahead um i think like 40

00:22:10.820 percent i honestly think less than 10 percent less than 10 percent i feel like that's the most realistic

00:22:20.100 answer yeah realistically really okay for women in terms of what they find attractive to my preference

00:22:26.180 and like i don't generally like i like i said before like i don't have like one specific type or

00:22:32.260 whatever if there's if you say that you think 50 percent of people are attractive then every other

00:22:40.900 person that you're walking by is attractive and it's like super rare in my day-to-day basis like

00:22:48.340 while i'm at school work hanging out with friends or even like out of the club it's like super rare that

00:22:53.220 i'm like oh my gosh that person is really attractive by the way i just want to make it clear it's it's not

00:23:00.420 this is the most attractive person i'm ever see it's just it's just a binary it's are they

00:23:05.220 attractive that could that could be decently attractive to like whoa showstopper yeah like

00:23:11.700 decently less than 10 percent yeah i would say less than 10 percent and you're you live in isla vista

00:23:18.100 i used no i lived in isla vista last year but i live downtown you go to ucsb or no i go to the cc

00:23:25.060 cc huge upgrade yeah i i could only live here for one year yeah it was good for me

00:23:33.300 okay um and then i'll open it up to the guys here what percentage of women do you guys find

00:23:38.100 attractive start with zach i would say close to less than 10 for me honestly just based on looks

00:23:47.380 alone if over is that what is that we're talking about yeah just on looks alone i would say it's

00:23:51.620 around 10 all right um i would say just like general out anywhere probably like 10 but

00:23:59.060 specifically in santa barbara probably like 25 and there's a lot of attractive people in santa

00:24:03.940 barbara for sure yeah like here in isla vista it's probably like 25 santa barbara at large probably

00:24:09.700 close to like 15 but really wow there's a lot of a lot of hot girls in isla vista i'll tell you that

00:24:15.940 i was gonna say it's like for me like 80 of the women in isla vista i see i think i think are

00:24:21.620 attractive 80 percent well we probably have different you guys have higher standards than i do

00:24:29.940 anyways um so okay we kind of got off track a little bit there so um and i don't know if you

00:24:37.460 guys had anything you wanted to add to the whole looks thing or the men are trash thing if you wanted

00:24:42.020 to continue with that but the original question was we're talking about national boyfriend day

00:24:46.260 which was yesterday so i was asking why you guys are single so i we're gonna just go along here so

00:24:52.580 why are you single because i don't want to be in a relationship right you recently got out of a

00:24:57.060 long-term one right how recently was the did you get dumped a month ago you got dumped yeah why um

00:25:03.940 he thought i cheated on him what's that he thought i cheated on him did you no is that an honest answer

00:25:10.420 yeah why why did he think you cheated on him um um i don't he was just i think he was projecting

00:25:19.620 to be honest were you spending he cheated on me were you spending a little bit too much time with one

00:25:24.020 of your guy friends with one or no well i mean well he got he was i don't know okay maybe yeah but

00:25:32.100 all right go go on like what what was the story um it was just well it was just one of my co-workers

00:25:39.380 but that nothing happened so i can say that but i think he cheated on me before so that's why he

00:25:46.100 broke up with me right you think because he did it because he did what was in his own heart and he

00:25:51.780 projected that onto you yeah and we well he he lives a floor below me now um that's awkward yeah it's it's

00:25:58.900 bad um so i think he he broke up with me because he wanted to be single and he wanted to be in isla

00:26:05.140 vista and be a single man and you know hook up with people okay yeah and you guys were dating for how

00:26:10.180 long again two years two years wow okay and that was you said a month ago that was a month ago yeah

00:26:16.020 can you tilt your mic turn your microphone push it a bit that way perfect perfect um wow okay so

00:26:23.060 gotta show off zach's massive upper body yeah i was trying to talk about my neck mre neck that's

00:26:28.180 what they're dude you have like your neck is the size of two human necks put together yeah look at

00:26:32.500 zach's neck compared to my neck dude this is ridiculous can you flex it a little shit i don't

00:26:39.700 know i was born with a big head so like i gotta i gotta keep it jealous jealous wait so okay

00:26:45.540 you broke up a month ago so have you had a rebound yeah

00:26:51.620 okay good times yeah it's been fun i like being single so why why are you single um i've

00:27:01.060 i know it sounds like super basic i've just been working on myself i was kind of talking to someone

00:27:05.540 um i broke that off earlier this week just because i realized i wasn't really ready for

00:27:10.100 a relationship and i kind of like being by myself right now so just living the life respect to

00:27:16.180 working on yourself thank you there's nothing wrong with that i know it sounds basic but

00:27:20.020 people need that yeah no i agree i don't like being with someone is like great if you're like

00:27:25.540 fully there and in it but like if you're not then like i don't want to put someone through that

00:27:29.860 like i know i'm not ready so yeah i would say it's not basic at all after i went through a pretty

00:27:35.700 heartbreaking breakup when i was 19 i spent years working on myself and i think it's a worthwhile

00:27:42.820 endeavor i think there's this like pressure here in the area to like always be hooking up with people

00:27:46.660 or be in a relationship yeah i think that's toxic so yeah well it's also like like i'm on like

00:27:52.900 dating apps but it's also not something i want to force either like you know like i'm like down to

00:27:57.300 meet people but like i'm not gonna be like oh like i have to have a connection with someone like

00:28:01.060 if it happens it happens like it needs to be natural anyway so yes yeah i agree i'm single

00:28:08.100 because i think it's because everyone like almost all guys are interested in hookup culture and i just

00:28:16.180 don't want to be in hookup culture i don't think that would satisfy me and based yeah i like that very

00:28:24.260 based awesome but wholesome girl but i would be open to if like there's a guy that like you know

00:28:31.540 i'm talking to we're friends first and he's like we have a connection and he does want a relationship

00:28:37.140 and not just a hookup then i'd be interested in that are you talking about the 6'5 basketball player

00:28:42.660 that you talked about last show or the last time you were on what why you don't don't look at

00:28:52.900 were you talking to a 6'5 professional basketball player no i think he's a college player college yes

00:28:59.460 you know what you don't want to talk about that did he see the show no he didn't think about it

00:29:06.500 but i am seeing him soon but yeah you're seeing him soon yes by the way so last show we talked about

00:29:12.260 given that he's 6'5 given that he's a college athlete is he d1 um yes okay so are you okay

00:29:22.100 sharing him with other women i mean we're not in a relationship right now so he can do whatever he

00:29:27.700 wants so you don't care i mean i i do care but i can't do anything because we're not together so but

00:29:35.060 you're seeing him soon yes but you just said you you're not a fan of hookup culture i'm not but like

00:29:39.860 if that's what he wants to do but i can't like really i'm not seeing him as in like we're just

00:29:44.260 going to be talking and talking yeah and hanging out hanging okay why are you single wait hold on

00:29:55.700 real quick you said you've never had a boyfriend never had a boyfriend interesting okay um i think

00:30:04.660 because when i said earlier like my longest relationship was two years the person that i was

00:30:12.100 dating it was kind of like on and off from like eighth grade to like my senior year of high school

00:30:19.220 and i only saw like that one person and then after that i i honestly went celibate for almost two years

00:30:28.900 and then and then i moved to santa barbara

00:30:32.820 uh explored kind of like figured out like i'm not into like one i don't know like i used to only find

00:30:46.420 like one kind of like person attractive or like go for like a typical type but since then like i have

00:30:53.860 definitely grown out of that and like i used to also be on dating apps and stuff but i'm not anymore

00:31:02.980 just because i feel like it's kind of fake in a way i think like the whole swiping thing

00:31:12.100 like people mentioned earlier i don't know like i would never really swipe right a lot of the time like

00:31:20.100 like to like match or anything like it was always like left left left left left left for so long

00:31:25.780 and then i would i don't know every once in a while they'd be like okay this guy's kind of cute

00:31:32.420 and then i would never like meet up with anyone on there and i'm like so i would always like go back

00:31:39.140 and forth with re-downloading it downloading it i don't know i think that i really want to try to

00:31:46.660 meet someone like authentically like in person and kind of have that kind of a thing

00:31:57.620 but i don't know i'm not i don't know it's kind of hard to answer like i just haven't really met

00:32:03.940 somebody just hasn't happened yet no just yeah it just hasn't happened yet no okay

00:32:09.860 should we open this up to the guys why why are you guys single did zach say he was

00:32:17.700 i'm not single oh you're not single i'm not single oh okay yeah and we don't need the answer

00:32:23.700 we don't need that right chase whatever unless you want to answer i mean i'll just say like i'm

00:32:28.180 single because i'm looking for my wife and i've very high standards for what i want in her and uh

00:32:34.020 just haven't found it yet and you because you are waiting until you're still waiting until marriage

00:32:39.060 correct yes i'm still waiting until marriage it hasn't changed in the past six weeks

00:32:44.740 what do the girls think about that he's waiting until marriage thoughts

00:32:50.260 how old are you that 27 27 yeah i wasn't previously waiting until marriage but the events of 2020 changed

00:32:58.500 my mind i'm a christian see a lot of biblical prophecy happening right now i want a very strong

00:33:04.340 christian wife and uh there's not not a lot of christian women in santa barbara and of the

00:33:09.940 small pool that there is haven't found what i'm looking for yet so yeah what do you think about them

00:33:17.300 apples i i don't think there's nothing wrong with that i respect that because like before coming to

00:33:22.740 santa barbara i was waiting until marriage but after a certain something like you know i think

00:33:29.060 i'm gonna go back to that and also wait till marriage and wait for the right person because

00:33:33.780 it's just a waste of time when you're just talking to people or like trying to date people

00:33:38.740 who you know it's not gonna go anywhere yeah you said you were waiting for marriage was that

00:33:43.140 for religious reasons um yes for islam or christianity christianity okay and then you said

00:33:49.700 you're no longer waiting for marriage i wasn't doing when i came here okay and then like i did

00:33:57.700 like some things happened but after that because i was doing it for religion reasons but now i want

00:34:02.980 to do it for myself right yeah keep waiting for marriage yeah okay so like if you find a guy that

00:34:10.580 you're attracted to you're not gonna have sex with him until marriage like doing that's why like

00:34:15.460 before i came to santa barbara i was waiting until marriage and then like when i came here i

00:34:23.060 kind of broke that with somebody but then i'm like it didn't feel like good i don't know how to say

00:34:29.780 it i was just like no there's no connection there so it was just pointless so i'm like i should probably

00:34:34.820 go back to waiting till marriage i think that's the best choice okay let's say you found just like the

00:34:40.740 best dude like you're really attracted to him he's totally husband material but he doesn't want to

00:34:45.460 wait till marriage would you have sex with him before marriage if you wanted to no you'd make him

00:34:52.180 wait if he likes me enough and cares about me enough uh then he should wait it's extremely based

00:34:59.620 based cheers props any thoughts on that brian that comment what uh king king something she was

00:35:11.220 going to hook up with the six five guys she's seeing again soon oh is this true what if that

00:35:16.980 if this uh basketball player you met up with him and he wanted to smash would you still say no

00:35:22.020 yeah like we're just we're just really good friends you know wait but didn't you guys hook up

00:35:30.500 i mean you said it last stream yeah that's what i was talking about that was that was the guy you

00:35:36.180 were talking about it was just not that guy but like another guy after him okay a different six

00:35:42.020 five basketball player no he wasn't like he was just a normal dude that i met and it was just like

00:35:46.420 a one night stand and i didn't like that but with the with my friend um the basketball player it was

00:35:54.100 actually like because we have like a connection and everything yeah but i don't think he's looking

00:35:58.260 for a relationship so we're just gonna keep it like just friends why didn't you like the way that one

00:36:03.300 night stand made you feel because like it's just i think i did it just to kind of for him i don't know

00:36:11.540 because like we there was no chemistry there and we were just like both not in a i wasn't in a good

00:36:18.980 state of mind so i just kind of regretted it yeah yeah it feels cheap when they happen yeah in my

00:36:26.660 experience they do yeah straight up yeah i had i had one or two of those when i was in college and i just

00:36:32.420 felt like dirty afterwards it's not a good feeling feels like empty yeah word okay so

00:36:41.220 i want to do a couple uh super chats here really quick guys and then we'll get into some more

00:36:50.100 questions and we do have some videos to react to so let me see here all right we got uh devon jackson

00:36:57.140 with the ten dollar soup chat i love the smell of misandry in the morning or sorry in the evening

00:37:02.420 rather red flag uh if you guys don't know what misandry is misandry is sort of the uh flip side of

00:37:08.420 misogyny so if misogyny is the hatred and contempt of women misandry misandry is the hatred and contempt

00:37:16.580 of men and i believe this is in response to the men are trash comments so i'll touch on that really

00:37:25.540 quick we'll come back to that really quick and then i'll do a couple soup chats here devon jackson

00:37:30.340 with the subsequent ten dollar soup chat thank you man much appreciate it good to see you back

00:37:34.100 we need a wrap it up button chappelle style tired of all this waffling and not making a point let me

00:37:39.540 see if i got this on my soundboard hold on i got a couple chappelle ones you know what i was thinking

00:37:44.260 about putting it on but um i got okay that's not gonna do it okay um well there you go i might add

00:37:53.060 that to the soundboard devon and glab is la good to see you back man thank you for the ten dollar

00:37:56.980 soup chat chase she wasn't waiting for marriage but she will now after she met you lol she obviously

00:38:02.420 wants to be your wife go we're so back okay apparently um glebas is shipping you two so

00:38:12.980 they he's shipping you guys so okay they're trying to set us up they're trying to set us up

00:38:18.580 yeah right okay so uh so okay i want to really quick i want to touch on the men are trash thing

00:38:25.860 because i don't think we really fully finalized that was it you who said men are trash okay yes but

00:38:32.260 i it was both i said in santa barbara not as i did correct myself this is true we got a location

00:38:40.020 plays a big part it's still i think location does play a big part still kind of a don't you think it's

00:38:45.860 a bit of a sexist thing to say to say men are trash specifically in santa barbara wait do you

00:38:54.500 consider yourself a feminist did you say not fully no i wouldn't say based i i i think that a lot of

00:39:03.140 people get it twisted because it's like i'm not like an activist feminist like i'll go to protests

00:39:10.500 here and there i think that all women should have rights and be able to have an abortion when they

00:39:19.060 want and things like that but do you think we should end women's suffrage

00:39:28.020 okay uh do you know do you know what that is it's it's it's never been asked that question i know

00:39:36.740 it's a super random question it's the right to vote it's it's a funny question because people

00:39:40.180 think it means like suffering and so women will be like yeah i think we should end women's suffrage

00:39:45.620 it's okay so it's supposed to be a trick question yeah exactly um okay but so i guess the whole men

00:39:51.220 are trash thing is that are you guys talking in a dating context are you talking broadly societally

00:39:57.380 society society is that a word that's a good word it's a society i guess i would i don't know like

00:40:06.340 the dating around i don't know dating men are trash culturally like right now in santa barbara

00:40:13.940 okay do you want to come in on this are you talking dating wise are you just saying just all men are

00:40:19.620 trash um i think uh i don't know i guess probably more so dating wise just because i said like if i had a

00:40:26.820 great partner then they can maybe skew my perspectives like my personal experience thus

00:40:31.860 far pretty trash like so it's just easier to like collectively say men okay i guess keep working

00:40:41.060 on yourself become the greatest woman you can be settle for nothing less than a great man i believe

00:40:46.980 you will find him thank you i appreciate that yes you're welcome so and he will change your mind

00:40:52.100 about men fingers crossed wait so okay just to clarify here so you're saying

00:40:56.180 men are trash more so in in the context of a dating in a dating context yeah okay so

00:41:04.340 do you bear some responsibility for the men you've chosen because you've chosen them right so

00:41:11.380 i mean clearly i'm not the best at picking but have you had trash boyfriends

00:41:16.180 they're all watching right now i think pick your words carefully i don't know if it's like

00:41:24.820 i mean honestly like there's been uh like negative parts which i guess comes with any relationship but

00:41:32.100 like i've learned a lot about myself i mean definitely some trauma but it is what it is

00:41:39.380 you've had trash boyfriends your words not mine my words i will i will own them what is what is and

00:41:45.460 maybe we can have all the girls answer this what is one thing that you've done wrong

00:41:51.060 in a relationship heavy hitter um no i'll i'll say um i'm honestly really bad at like

00:41:57.700 confrontation and communication i tend to isolate myself so i know that definitely makes situations

00:42:03.860 worse because if i had just addressed an issue then like it could have been solved but instead

00:42:08.260 i kind of back away and then like things just get worse so yeah i guess hanging out with my co-worker

00:42:17.140 when i'm in a relationship hey i appreciate the honesty yeah um that's it for me on why like if i think men

00:42:25.460 are trash like no like a red flag like a red flag oh what have you done yeah what have you done

00:42:33.460 wrong in a relationship me yeah well she's never had a relationship but i could say maybe i do have

00:42:42.020 some red flags but i think what are your red flags um septum piercing 100 i'm teasing

00:42:51.220 everyone always goes for the piercings i think some of my red flags is that i could be nonchalant

00:42:59.380 sometimes and i guess i should care more because then the other significant other is going to think

00:43:07.220 that i don't care about them or anything sure yeah and one thing you've done wrong in a past relationship

00:43:13.940 i think doing too much like what does that mean like giving too much i'm i'm a too giving person

00:43:23.540 like i will that's not a bad thing i think like to myself it's a bad thing because

00:43:30.580 you let people run you over yeah like i kind of like well i always like at the end of the day like

00:43:35.540 i'm gonna if like somebody's like oh i need this or can you do this for me like for some reason

00:43:40.260 like even if like this person like or a boyfriend or whatever has i don't know i feel like i it's a

00:43:47.780 red flag to always keep giving when it shouldn't be given but i don't think any of your previous

00:43:53.620 partners would say she was too giving like they wouldn't say this is what she did wrong

00:44:00.900 my like ex-boyfriend and i we didn't have a toxic relationship

00:44:05.220 relationship so i don't really know what i would say as a red flag well just one thing you did wrong

00:44:13.860 i mean the relationship ended right so i mean something on maybe not that one but the previous

00:44:21.380 relationship if you can't think of anything no worries no problem moving on devon i want to know

00:44:26.260 what's something you've done wrong in previous relationships brian me yeah me yeah i'm perfect no

00:44:33.220 um um let me see um something i've done wrong

00:44:44.900 refuse to go down on her oh is that is that wrong though i don't think that's wrong

00:44:52.420 if you guys were with a guy who refused to go down on you would you would you be like pissed about that

00:44:56.980 i think it would depend if he's expecting me to give in that situation but won't like isn't willing

00:45:04.340 to go down on me then i'd be pissed but if he's like like i don't want it you don't then i'd be

00:45:09.380 like okay at least it's like mutual so in response to that i want to redirect it to brian brian i know

00:45:16.580 you don't like or want to go down on women do you would you if you're with a girlfriend would you want

00:45:21.620 her to go down on you yep there's a double standard there ladies do you have a problem with that

00:45:28.420 i think you shouldn't expect a girl to go down on him if he won't do the same for the girl

00:45:32.980 i agree or at least try like you know she could teach you was she just like incredibly unhygienic or

00:45:39.220 what that's what it sounds like no i just well okay i have not gone down on a girl since the bush

00:45:45.060 administration oh my god oh my gosh so that's that's like what 2007 2008 it's been a minute

00:45:54.900 was that an intentional joke the bush administration or is that a serious statement

00:45:58.580 well it is a serious statement but it's kind of a pun but no pun intended yeah no pun intended but

00:46:02.900 yes it has been that long just not a fan to be honest you know i think everyone has their sexual

00:46:08.340 boundaries and everyone's free to like certain things and dislike certain things and but i don't

00:46:13.940 think that's something i did wrong in a relationship because i was justified i was righteous in that

00:46:18.340 one but uh so i'm curious for tanner and zach what's something you guys do wrong or have done wrong

00:46:24.820 it's possible for me to do anything wrong no way couldn't be me it's perfect

00:46:29.060 what about that tanner you want to go first i just did um i would say honestly probably i definitely had

00:46:36.900 a problem with communicating at first expecting her to be a certain way and then through a lot of work

00:46:41.780 i definitely have been able to like at least transmit like my like chase said having high

00:46:47.780 standards and everything on how like the woman acts and everything but just definitely communicating

00:46:52.020 that to her because she could have no idea that's probably something i would it's a fair answer i

00:46:57.300 actually want a serious answer out of you um i guess probably being like super brazen you know um just

00:47:04.740 like my way or the highway um just super assertive i guess not very uh empathetic as people would say

00:47:10.900 that's slightly psychopathic oh very psychopathic yeah absolutely yeah just go completely off the

00:47:17.220 walls at the slightest inconvenience not actually but yeah i guess really just like lack of empathy

00:47:22.980 i guess you could say i'm just like my way or the highway it's just absolute so yeah what about you

00:47:28.260 what are your red flags mister mister yeah i i would say i can be insecure to a fault in relationships

00:47:36.020 um insecurity is something that i've struggled with in the past

00:47:42.500 i think other than that i'm pretty much perfect so just kidding but that i'd say that's like the

00:47:48.020 biggest red flag ma'am i would say i'm kind of i'm a shitty texter like i'm slow to respond to

00:47:55.780 texting i don't really like texting so i think my big thing is probably if you want to break down would

00:48:01.300 be communication because i'm a shitty texter in person i'm good i would agree with that texting i

00:48:06.260 just if i'm texting about something serious with with my partner i immediately want to call on that

00:48:12.900 on that topic zach someone's been asking for your next only fans i saw that earlier i was just gonna

00:48:19.940 by the way whatever has acquired onlyfans.com slash whatever so zach if you're down for a collab on

00:48:27.940 the whatever only fans like we'll take a couple snaps after the show let's make it happen let me

00:48:32.340 get a pump first jesus not just right off the bat devon jackson your neck is like perpetually pumped

00:48:37.780 dog it's if this is not pumped i want to see what it is after a pump bro i'll show you dude

00:48:43.700 we got up for my tree trunk neck we got a uh super chat here from davon jackson thank you for the

00:48:49.780 ten dollar super jacket to see you back man uh my name is pronounced davon my bad man i'll get i'll try to

00:48:55.940 remember that by the way love the show chatting for the almighty algorithm hey thank you man much

00:49:00.340 appreciate it yeah shout out to all the uh chat chads yeah and by the way awesome just a reminder

00:49:06.900 here 500 super chat i will shave my beard mustache whatever in any style you want i'll go shave it

00:49:14.980 and i'll keep it for the rest of the show so just just a reminder there guys um so we got a chat here

00:49:20.580 from m1 grand would any of the girls date a guy who legally owned a firearm we can do that one

00:49:26.020 really quick would you date a guy who legally owned a firearm yeah um if it's legally obtained yeah

00:49:34.500 i'm going into law enforcement so i don't mind it you're going into law enforcement yeah

00:49:39.060 a cop um yeah i'm gonna oh shit swat officer oh shit that's awesome so yeah i'm gonna be a cop like

00:49:46.260 i'm gonna be a cop and then something higher hopefully but i wouldn't mind if they have it

00:49:50.740 legally what county would you work in i think back in san diego because i lived in san diego so i

00:49:58.020 would probably either go back there or la okay dago county okay yeah yeah i guess legally obtained yes

00:50:05.700 not illegally okay cool would we did are you looking at us no i was anticipating maybe the

00:50:15.380 women since they're democrats to not be so thrilled yeah i think they all said they were

00:50:20.340 democrats honestly like men who don't own guns is not worth dating them like any man should like train

00:50:24.900 with a gun not worth dating them oh it's also just like in your own home you want to feel safe if

00:50:30.020 anything were to happen so i mean for me personally like i would prefer them not to have a gun i think

00:50:36.260 there's other ways for self-defense than owning a gun but i wouldn't like if i was seeing someone and i was

00:50:41.540 like dating them and they're like oh like i have a firearm and it's like register and everything

00:50:47.300 i'm not gonna break it off because of that but you would prefer maybe i should reframe the question

00:50:52.100 then would you prefer a partner to not have a firearm yeah no no okay

00:51:01.140 i think i'm like trying to i think i'm i don't know what i think i was trying to say yes or no

00:51:08.900 i'm confused now thinking about it too hard yeah i'm thinking about it too hard would you prefer he

00:51:14.100 has one or doesn't have one at this age i'd prefer if he did not have one okay yeah you said

00:51:21.060 you'd prefer a guy who does self-defense using other methods are we talking like with this not like

00:51:25.940 no not like that i just mean like i think a gun is a bit extreme like if like because most people

00:51:31.540 would argue like for a legally obtained firearm in like a circumstance of self-defense like if

00:51:36.100 someone breaks into your home like like most people would argue for that i'm just saying like

00:51:40.660 i personally would prefer a different i don't know let's say you find a great guy

00:51:47.220 this great question is he's coming you find a great guy he wants to marry you you guys get married

00:51:53.940 would you prefer he defends you against home invaders with a gun or with his fists

00:52:01.460 it would depend on what the home invader has in his hands you can't decide that yeah like that is

00:52:06.420 not up you never know or if there's more than one if there's more than one there's five home invaders

00:52:13.540 all of them don't have weapons they're ready to throw down with their fists against your husband

00:52:18.660 would you prefer he has his his hands or a gun hands you don't want he's i don't want them dying

00:52:25.700 if they're just coming into my house what if what if after they kill him they want to rape you

00:52:30.020 wouldn't you want him to have a gun in that instance whoa i didn't know i didn't think they

00:52:33.300 were gonna kill him well i mean they're home invaders if he's gonna fight them just because

00:52:37.140 you invade someone's home doesn't mean you're gonna kill them have you ever been in a fight

00:52:41.380 no have you ever like trained jujitsu or like anything no okay i mean if it's five v one and he's

00:52:47.140 gonna do that if he's defending your home and he only has his fists and he actually wants to

00:52:51.140 defend you against them like they're gonna beat the shit out of him maybe kill him you know you'd

00:52:55.220 want him to have a gun in that kind of situation you want him to be able to protect you to an extent

00:53:00.740 i don't know but like i just you don't want him to protect you that much though to an extent to an

00:53:06.260 extent i just i don't know she wants to be somewhat safe but not totally safe exactly um i don't know i

00:53:13.780 just feel like guns are just a bit extreme they're very extreme there there's a lot of extreme

00:53:21.140 people out there people really yeah but like people just shouldn't have them look i'm i'm pretty biased

00:53:27.380 because like i mean all three of my jobs that i have my own business that i have like i literally

00:53:31.780 train people like how to use firearms and like i'm telling you guys if you want somebody that is

00:53:35.780 like traditional like as a man which you should be like working out training martial art you should be

00:53:40.180 training with firearms just be closer gotcha and um yeah like every man should own a glock and know

00:53:46.500 how to use it really well like i'm telling you if you have a guy who's like on the know-how and

00:53:51.780 everything else because i feel like that's what i have a training business yeah no i think emphasis

00:53:56.820 on that is like it would be different if like the guy you know the man is trained to know how to use a

00:54:03.780 gun registered to have a gun things like that just because i feel like a lot of people can get a gun

00:54:12.180 without it being like registered and things like that okay do you know what that means are you familiar

00:54:20.340 with the california gun registry i'm just saying it's pretty i feel like you know i think it's pretty

00:54:26.500 easy for a lot of people to get a gun just due to all of the school shootings that have been

00:54:33.060 a big thing do you know what steps you have to go through to buy a gun in california

00:54:37.220 no there's a lot there's a lot yeah there's a lot a lot i'm just making a statement it's fair um

00:54:46.340 yeah i think uh i think i think it's a good thing for mentally stable men to own guns and be trained

00:54:56.900 in self-protection and uh and self-defense and i think you would not want your husband squaring up

00:55:04.340 against five dudes solely with his fists the thing is like the likelihood of five people like invading

00:55:10.100 your home is so small i just happened a couple years ago down the road from where i live i live

00:55:16.660 a couple miles away from here yeah but like statistically speaking but i think there's

00:55:22.020 like a million home invasions in the us a year something like that but like how many homes are

00:55:27.060 there in the us like if you like gave a percentage to that it'd probably be pretty low well there's

00:55:31.220 there's there's 300 there's 300 what is it almost 330 million people in america if there's a

00:55:37.540 a million home invasions a year that's like a 0.3 chance and that's that's like a little bit of

00:55:43.940 a high chance yeah but then again how many of those are like five people invading a home so that

00:55:49.780 could just be one story that i was telling you that happened a couple years ago a couple miles away

00:55:54.740 from here there are three invaders each of them had illegally purchased rifles when they did the home

00:55:59.940 invasion so that's a situation when you'd want a gun i just feel like that's such an extreme

00:56:05.140 circumstance though if you want to roll the dice that's your choice i'll roll them then do you just

00:56:10.260 did you say you live in iv here no i used to but i live in the bay now okay because i know when i

00:56:15.540 lived here i lived here for maybe three months and there was home invasions down the block for me

00:56:20.900 almost like every weekend when people would party people would come in and start something with them

00:56:25.540 and then steal their computers and stuff whether it be you know like a homeless person or anything that

00:56:29.780 doesn't have a gun still they're not mentally well so they happen more frequently around here if you

00:56:34.660 guys do live around here did you say you think people in america shouldn't own guns um i think

00:56:40.740 there's like are you in favor of repealing the second amendment

00:56:47.380 i don't i don't really i don't know i'm just not a fan of guns personally i don't it's just too

00:56:52.820 easy to kill someone with that and i think a lot of people abuse the power even if it's legally

00:56:57.940 legally legally obtained wow sorry um so i think there should be less um i don't really know like

00:57:06.660 taking away the second amendment necessarily maybe refining it i don't know what would that look like

00:57:14.100 refining it i do not know maybe yeah just just to try to bring it back to the the dating talk but i do

00:57:21.940 want to plug tanner's business if that's cool yeah yeah totally yeah tanner you have uh you you do

00:57:27.460 firearms training right i do yeah i do fire training in santa barbara it's uh adamas firearms

00:57:32.660 training check it out guys go support if you guys want any uh firearms training here in santa barbara

00:57:37.780 it's spelled a-d-a-m-a-s it is um if you guys just have um even for free if you have questions about

00:57:44.580 firearms gear training anything like that uh dm me on instagram just trained by adamas and i'll answer

00:57:50.500 guys questions for free and help you out logan paul here has a comment tanner would do well in los

00:57:54.900 angeles just being some rich gay dudes um thanks logan paul logan paul okay um do you have a response

00:58:04.100 to that tanner um don't swing that way okay um logan paul with the uh comment there um stifler asks uh

00:58:13.860 ask everyone to write their looks on the scale of one to ten okay uh one to ten

00:58:23.940 a six maybe okay um i'd say an eight eight

00:58:29.860 i would say six to seven depending on the day yeah six eight and a half i'd say seven and a half

00:58:41.540 to eight somewhere in that range six six point nine on a good day so six point nine six point nine on a

00:58:50.260 good day six point nine six nine six point nine nine repeating repeating of course okay okay yeah

00:58:56.740 so okay all right we'll come back to the should we come back to the men are trash thing we didn't

00:59:03.620 really wrap up fully on that well you you guys said it was mostly in the youtube did you guys want to

00:59:08.260 come in on that do you concur that men are trash i used to be really like yeah men are trash i used to

00:59:17.460 be really big on that because of my personal experience i completely know where they're coming

00:59:22.020 from because it's who you've been interacting with and how they've been showing because them as a man

00:59:28.340 they've been putting that front of how they are and we just assume that's like how most men are like

00:59:34.740 they're just disrespectful and trustworthy and they just want to use you but yeah that's just my opinion

00:59:42.500 emmy what do you think um i mean i i used to say the same thing too i used to say men are trash all

00:59:50.740 the time but now i don't i do try not to blanket like all men as trash i yeah well i mean there are

00:59:59.140 like you know people there are guys who are like complete absolute trash um but i try to be i try to be

01:00:06.900 nice like i try to be nice to both they're all genders i don't really want to say all that but

01:00:11.460 there are there are certain people who are pretty bad for sure and i just want to clarify once again

01:00:16.660 do you guys when you say men are trash are you saying it in a dating context are you saying it more

01:00:24.740 generally mine's dating dating okay yeah question for the panel if a girl has a poor relationship with

01:00:31.860 her father do you guys think she's more likely to believe that all men are trash no i feel a bit

01:00:37.220 attacked right now you're not attacked at all the reason i ask is because it's extremely common

01:00:42.340 it's extreme i think i think it was just a joke but it's it's okay sorry well it's an interesting

01:00:47.380 topic of conversation like i think like for dudes like me who had rough relationships with their moms

01:00:52.180 they're probably more likely to think that women are trash for women who had rough relationships with

01:00:57.140 their dads they're probably more likely to think that all men are trash you know i think for people

01:01:03.060 who have like a bad relationship with their dads they won't automatically assume men are trash but

01:01:07.540 they do have that thought in the back of their head like oh what if they're like my dad but i think most

01:01:12.740 girls like they mostly when they say men are trash even if they've never dated them or anything it's just

01:01:18.500 from their friends and their stories of them going through guys they're coming crying to us or like

01:01:22.900 telling us how they've been how they've been treated by them we just like get all like oh

01:01:28.020 my god why are men like this i think it goes back to what tanner was saying there's a lot of boys in

01:01:34.020 santa barbara and not a lot of men if this if this is your sample size for like dudes like this is the

01:01:39.940 worst sample ever for guys here in santa barbara and i mean you also have to think that younger men um

01:01:46.180 there's a lot more at stake for them to settle down young than there is for women um like men they can

01:01:52.820 definitely scale themselves like a lot better when they're older say like late 20s to you know

01:01:57.140 mid 30s um there's a lot less at stake for them to settle down at that point say versus if they're

01:02:02.180 to sell down to women who's like the same age at 22 years old while they're going through college

01:02:05.780 trying to figure themselves out and figure out their income and get all that stuff in line

01:02:11.780 we've got some super chats here devon jackson with the ten dollar soup chat while it's an extremely

01:02:15.700 low chance it only needs to happen once for your life to be over car crashes are statistically not

01:02:20.340 that prevalent you should still wear seat belt every time you drive though i believe this is

01:02:25.140 obviously in reference to our uh firearm discussion here uh davon thank you very much for that we got

01:02:32.420 another one from you damn bro you're you're the new um new mike davis mike davis also this is an

01:02:39.860 extremely good super chat he has a point brian you can't be a 6.9 if you don't go down on girls brian

01:02:45.780 so are you saying that are you saying i'm rated higher because i don't go down on women i i think

01:02:51.860 that's what he's saying that i'm actually a 10 if i don't go down on women davon give us another super

01:02:58.420 chat is it is that what you're telling him he's a 10 or is he saying i'm i'm lower if i don't go down

01:03:05.940 well we were talking about strictly looks too for the ratings yeah but uh anyways anyways all right

01:03:15.780 uh we'll ask we'll ask the girls is it a deal breaker for you if a guy won't go down on you

01:03:24.500 um

01:03:24.900 um oh um seems like a yes i would say i mean okay well if it's if it's like if i'm like in love with

01:03:34.100 the guy no but if it's if it's like a little thing then yeah like i would find someone better

01:03:40.100 okay oh shit okay he came in with the other one uh deal deal breaker for you if the guy won't go

01:03:49.300 down on you like i said i think it depends like if he's expecting me to go down on him but he won't

01:03:54.580 go down on me that would be a deal breaker for me because i don't really think that's fair but if he

01:03:58.740 communicated the beginning and like he's cool not receiving either then it is what it is fair enough

01:04:04.660 same with her like if he expects me to go down on him but he won't do the same for me it's a no-go

01:04:11.940 but also maybe like he's just not comfortable in a relationship or like if you're in a relationship

01:04:16.180 and he doesn't want to go down on you he's just not comfortable yet and he wants to wait then i could

01:04:22.660 wait and also um it's just it's not a deal breaker but it it would be nice because it kind of builds that

01:04:30.740 chemistry like that connection with each like with each other i don't know

01:04:37.780 i don't think it's a deal breaker just because i personally haven't had the greatest experience

01:04:43.860 with that so when somebody is trying to say that they want to do that i'm usually like i don't know

01:04:52.820 just because like just like from my experience like it has been

01:05:01.860 not very good so i if they i'm like please i if you don't want to do that that's fine by me

01:05:10.500 um that's question for the bros why is i don't know question for the bros if a chick won't go

01:05:18.900 down on you guys is that a deal breaker deal breaker like if she wants to be in a relationship

01:05:24.340 with me like why don't you go down on me just red flag no way i have a question though i don't think

01:05:30.580 it's a deal breaker i agree it's not a deal breaker but it's it's not a deal breaker but that that's rough

01:05:40.340 that's rough i have a question for the guys you know so is it a deal breaker in a way like

01:05:48.980 i don't know is it more of a turn off when a girl isn't as experienced at giving head or

01:05:58.500 i don't know that's specifically giving head specifically like giving head like you know if

01:06:03.460 a girl isn't really that experienced in it and you ask her hey like can you give me head and she's

01:06:08.180 like well i'm not really like experienced i don't really know how i feel about that like

01:06:13.140 how would you react i'll say that's a good thing i'll teach her yeah i know what i like yeah i agree

01:06:19.220 with tanner pretty much a good thing yeah i think and i think men are attracted to women who are

01:06:24.340 sexually inexperienced exactly so yeah and if it was if she's got that got got 9 000 and she's like

01:06:33.140 incredible at giving it you kind of have to ask like all right how many how many dudes have you done

01:06:37.540 this too and like like are you just incredibly experienced in this and like i don't know if

01:06:43.860 if she was that might be pretty significant what if she's a natural well that that also happens that

01:06:49.700 also happens and more power to them that's good you know it's a very good thing all right devon

01:06:56.580 jackson is responding here now i'm telling him he's a disappointment out of 10 okay dave on my bad day

01:07:02.340 dave on okay uh what do you think about that brian that i'm a disappointment out of 10

01:07:09.140 yeah not finished okay um i mean it's basically just i have my boundaries and things i like and

01:07:17.380 dislike just everyone's free to have their own preferences and boundaries i think we can be

01:07:22.020 confident brian and dave on do not have a future together yeah wait no i think devon's a man yeah

01:07:29.300 oh so it's still rip still r.i.p in the chat okay rip uh devon jackson with another ten dollar

01:07:37.940 soup chat dude you're fucking legend man uh also separate question i got into a big debate about

01:07:42.500 this for everyone on the panel is sex a need in a relationship and for the women is it fair to keep

01:07:46.740 a man in a sexless monogamous relationship should the guys go first on this one or should we have the

01:07:55.220 girls go first guys go first we can go first sure um i'll go so okay we'll go this way then um

01:08:04.980 yeah sex is absolutely necessary in a relationship um it doesn't have to be on the first date but i

01:08:11.780 think generally speaking like a three three date rule is good three date three dates three times

01:08:18.420 hanging out that's a good rule for that um so yeah uh do you think it would be fair if your woman

01:08:26.020 kept you in a sexless monogamous relationship um i i mean i'd probably break up with her if she

01:08:35.460 if it was a dead bedroom um there might be some extenuating circumstances if they were you know if

01:08:42.260 she was willing up willing to open it up unilaterally so she was still loyal but i could sleep with other

01:08:49.620 women then in those circumstances i'd be okay with it and she was kind of my she was providing me with

01:08:57.060 my uh use my main chick emotional support or whatever but yeah i mean i think kind of sex is

01:09:04.100 very important in relationships so generally speaking yeah that's probably a deal breaker and

01:09:08.420 the relationship's over i think yeah i mean i'm waiting for marriage and when i do get married

01:09:14.820 obviously it's going to be a need i'm not going to live in a sexless marriage that sounds like the

01:09:18.420 worst thing literally on the planet um it also tells us in scripture not to for husbands and wives not

01:09:26.980 to deprive one another of their bodily needs when it comes to sex uh i think that's probably one of

01:09:33.220 those conversations that i'll have with the woman that i want to make my wife before we get married

01:09:38.420 you know to discuss this because like i would go nuts if i was married and like

01:09:44.900 couldn't have sex with my wife for whatever reason she was withholding it like that that would be

01:09:49.220 awful so yeah yeah i mean like primordially um we're attracted to other people because it's like

01:09:55.780 oh like i'd want to make with you you know i'm like appropriate with you so if somebody was like

01:09:59.540 oh i'm not attractive enough to you to like have sex with you then yeah they're like there's nothing

01:10:03.300 really there you know there's no way to stay in a relationship like that it also keeps relationships

01:10:08.100 sorry to interrupt you it keeps relationships really healthy yeah like when a couple is having

01:10:12.740 a lot of sex especially if you're married like that keeps the two of you close for a long time

01:10:17.380 it's a chemistry yeah yeah it's a bond it's a bond that you can't really you know break after you know

01:10:22.340 marriage i feel like especially in marriage it is a necessity but i believe before marriage it's not

01:10:27.540 yeah obviously because in marriage procreation and everything it's one of the greatest things that we

01:10:30.740 can have so amen to that yeah are you a christian i am cheers bro cheers i wish they could blinked that's

01:10:38.900 fine we'll open that up to the the women now um i think it's yeah it's important i think it's important

01:10:49.940 to have sex while you're in a relationship and married um but i feel like i don't know sometimes

01:10:59.380 what is going on out there dude home invasion i don't know can you repeat the question oh it's

01:11:07.300 just this one uh is sex a need in a relationship and is it fair to keep a man in a sexless monogamous

01:11:13.700 relationship so i do think that sex is important in a relationship or marriage but i think depending on

01:11:25.220 what the reason behind why the woman might not wanting sex um like if a woman is on birth control

01:11:35.780 sometimes like women don't have that much of a sex drive and so it's kind of hard to want it as much

01:11:47.300 but you know if you're in a serious relationship i don't think that it should not not be a thing

01:11:52.980 is it fair to keep a man in a sexless monogamous relationship is that fair no okay okay okay so i

01:12:00.740 think sex is not needed and like for marriage yeah it's not needed like for marriage i think yeah you

01:12:07.940 it's important it's that connection and you guys could express each other how you're feeling through

01:12:13.460 sex but before marriage i think you guys could like you could do other things rather than sex if

01:12:20.580 the other person's not comfortable or like they have religious beliefs that they're waiting for marriage

01:12:25.860 so you guys could do other things and then there's always that if you can't have a chemistry without sex

01:12:32.900 or like you guys don't have that connection then you guys shouldn't be together because sex won't

01:12:38.420 always be there i totally agree i think a lot of people end up in marriages that they shouldn't

01:12:43.460 have ended up in because they were having sex before marriage and they fell in love

01:12:47.460 because of the sexual connection and i've spoken i've told these guys that like at my gym there's

01:12:54.100 i've met a bunch of old dudes who got divorced and they like all of them got divorced after that

01:12:59.140 initial physical attraction wore off and then they realized there wasn't really much there in the

01:13:04.100 relationship happens a lot yeah it's all with the boy mentality of like priorities in a relationship

01:13:10.740 you know guys can get really distracted with the woman's looks and the sexual aspect and then when

01:13:15.140 it comes down to who she is as a person that's usually when little boys start losing interest

01:13:20.500 100 agree well said yeah yeah wait you never answered do you think it's okay for a woman to

01:13:25.700 keep a man in a sexless monogamous relationship and like if it's in marriage in marriage no

01:13:31.620 okay cool okay um i do think sex is needed in a relationship i don't think there's

01:13:39.700 a necessary timeline whatever works for the two partners but i think sex is needed to a degree

01:13:45.380 because if if not then it's just more of like a friendship relationship rather than like a romantic

01:13:50.980 relationship um and i don't think it's okay for a woman to keep a man in a sexless sexless monogamous

01:13:58.580 relationship and vice versa any partner should have the right to leave there shouldn't be no keeping so

01:14:06.900 um i'm just going to keep it quick i think sex is extremely important and i think it's needed

01:14:11.700 and i think it's it's definitely not fair for a woman to keep a guy in a relationship if she's not

01:14:16.900 giving that to him we have a uh follows follow-up super chat on that but really quick we have verx here

01:14:22.260 a channel member uh he's asking for body count he wants body count from the panel do you guys want to

01:14:28.580 share a body count what's your body what's your body count emmy i'm gonna say five you're gonna

01:14:34.420 say five okay nine three ten that's personal i'm honestly just not gonna answer that i know you're

01:14:42.980 gonna say the same thing too you guys are both pussies mine's seven you don't know mine's seven

01:14:47.220 multiply it by three and that's the real number okay you've been running through hoes haven't you zack

01:14:53.060 no no okay i don't look like that all right i just think it's personal information that's totally

01:14:58.340 fine can confirm uh so we do have a follow-up here from dave on i can't tell you how many women told

01:15:04.420 me it's not a need or blame the man for her not wanting it but if i say then let him be open on his

01:15:10.340 end i get called a misogynist or that i feel entitled to her body you know what what is interesting

01:15:16.580 about that is that who would you just really quick like who do you think pushes for monogamy

01:15:22.900 more men or women like who's usually the one that's like pushing to be in a committed serious

01:15:29.940 monogamous relationship men or women what's monogamous mean you're not hooking up with anybody

01:15:35.700 else just with that person exclusively seeing one another uh i don't i think i feel like more women

01:15:42.660 than men because you often hear women complain about men are commitment phobic men are not willing

01:15:50.660 to commit but when when men do commit then you sometimes hear women complain about oh he's always

01:15:57.060 he's always all up on me he always wants to have sex but i mean that's kind of like what you bargained

01:16:04.740 for right if if you're gonna be his sole uh person for sexual access then he's obviously gonna want

01:16:12.980 to have sex just with you so i feel like also different people have different sex drives like

01:16:20.740 maybe the guy has more of a sex drive than the woman right but that also depends like on their

01:16:27.140 relationship there can definitely be compromises and stuff so anyways moving on dave on thank you for

01:16:34.260 that uh ten dollar soup chat uh so normally i ask this question earlier a bit earlier on in

01:16:40.500 the show but i'm gonna get to it now so is there anything dating related that you want to get off

01:16:48.260 your chest just to give you a couple prompts maybe you recently had a bad date experience men are

01:16:54.420 pissing you off in some way there's a trend in dating that annoys you or for the side of the table

01:16:59.220 women are annoying you in some way uh anything you want that you want to get off your chest when

01:17:05.380 it comes to dating anything um i'll come if you give me a minute i'll come back sure we can come back to

01:17:11.860 you um i think i mean this is definitely more of a personal thing but if someone's like super duper

01:17:20.500 attentive right in the beginning like constantly like texting me or calling me that puts me off a bit um

01:17:27.060 um but i mean like that's definitely like a personal thing so i don't know if it's like

01:17:31.540 generic problem but i think it's pretty common okay oh no i want a woman obsessed from the jump

01:17:39.220 yeah but all chicks get turned off by double texts dude yeah oh well i don't do that shit but

01:17:46.740 okay so i think it's when they want to hang out every day and like i can't have time to myself like

01:17:54.100 i just want what if i want to sleep i just want to take a nap like you don't have to be there like

01:17:58.900 it's not like i don't love you or anything it's just you can't text me so like i have my phone on

01:18:04.020 do not disturb always and forever i'll never take it off and like if they text me so much and they

01:18:09.540 expect me to respond to their spamming their spamming it's just it makes me like have like i'll get

01:18:17.700 uninterested you respect your space yeah yeah i feel that yeah yeah you're busy right it's like

01:18:26.180 you got shit going on yeah i feel that i think i think both of your guys answers are connected

01:18:31.300 like what it is is i think women if i can speak for you guys you probably want guys that have other

01:18:36.100 stuff going on in their lives you're not the sole center focus of his life you obviously probably

01:18:40.980 want to be important to a guy but you don't want him to be the only thing going on in his life

01:18:46.100 because that probably means he lives a pretty boring life right yeah well also he like it's

01:18:52.580 different when you're in a relationship with someone and you're talking to them more often

01:18:56.100 like you want to genuinely hear about their day and stuff but if you're like just interacting with

01:19:01.300 someone and they're like texting you and then calling you and i'm like i don't even have your

01:19:05.940 number saved yet can you please slow down like that's really annoying many such cases yeah

01:19:11.620 i would need to come back i can't think do you have something um mine would only piggyback off of

01:19:20.580 theirs so it would be kind of repetitive oh okay yeah um by the way i just want to call entertain me out

01:19:26.660 here um entertain me you said that you refuse to super chat until chase comes back and here we are

01:19:37.300 where's it at bro where's that you said it your words i'm you're a man of your word and step up

01:19:41.940 dog step it up step i want to hear something good entertain me i know you got fuego i've seen your

01:19:47.700 comments bro hit us with something good so spice it up dog on this side of the panel is there anything

01:19:54.420 dating related that you guys want to get off your chest maybe a bad date experience just something

01:20:02.260 about dating apps or hookup culture just anything you know i think the sense the overall sense of

01:20:07.780 entitlement that many young women especially here in america have that they can spend like all of

01:20:14.180 their 20s getting just ran through by a million guys and then settle down once they get around 30 and

01:20:20.020 find this amazing dude and everything is going to work out happily ever after i think that's very

01:20:24.180 unrealistic i think it's something i'm not saying this is any of you guys but i it's it's a sentiment a lot

01:20:29.460 of women have i just think it's ridiculous and so toxic and i think it's destroying the west

01:20:35.620 um i guess to piggyback off that is like a big thing do you guys have anything you want to say to

01:20:40.980 that do you agree i do agree because like you have to kind of plan it out like from the start you can't

01:20:50.340 just uh do the hookup culture and do whatever you want and not have any goals or anything and then

01:20:57.220 once you're a certain age you're like oh you want this you want that you want everything like you

01:21:03.460 want the money you want the perfect guy it just won't come to you if you just want you didn't start

01:21:09.540 from the beginning yeah any other responses um i'm just i don't i just i don't really understand that

01:21:22.260 um i'm just like why does it matter if she has like 20 bodies or even more i just i don't i i get it if

01:21:30.020 she has some sort of like std or something but i mean if she doesn't what's the problem so statistics

01:21:37.460 show that the more people someone sleeps with the higher the odds of them getting divorced

01:21:42.500 this is like hard data i personally want how is that correlated to each other i don't understand that

01:21:48.420 because i think it's a couple things i think for one well i know for one when people have sex with

01:21:54.020 one another you release oxytocin okay i think if you're releasing oxytocin with a bunch of different

01:21:59.940 people it's probably going to blunt your response and your pair bonding mechanism like i i was talking

01:22:06.420 with a guy that i know the other day he said he slept with like over 150 women and it's really hard for

01:22:11.940 him to form like a deep connection with women now the statistic for people that have

01:22:18.580 only slept with one person or not slept with anybody at all before they get married their odds

01:22:23.380 of getting a divorce are like five to ten percent so that's a huge difference that's a one in two

01:22:27.780 chance versus like a one in ten or one in one in twenty chance yeah so that's that's one thing and

01:22:32.820 then the other thing too is like i mean i would prefer you know if i'm gonna buy a car i'd prefer

01:22:38.900 to buy a new car rather than a car with 500 000 miles on it you know what i mean yeah yeah and

01:22:44.260 it's i i think it's also reasonable for women to want the same thing you know like once you guys

01:22:49.620 find it more attractive if a guy save himself for you specifically some women like guys with a lot of

01:22:55.540 experience yeah that's that's me personally yeah like you you want a guy who knows his way around a

01:23:00.980 woman's body yeah or it shows him that he's like on the mark or i guess he's like hot on the market

01:23:06.260 before you meet him it's like all these girls want him yeah and then you have him and then it

01:23:10.180 feels a little bit more special it or is it just because it's just because he's more experienced

01:23:16.980 and like i mean i'm i'm still young though that's the thing like i'm just kind of living my life now

01:23:22.020 but as of right now like me at 18 i would rather have someone more experienced i see the problem

01:23:30.100 that i see is like a lot of i know a lot of girls who like they have this expectation that they can

01:23:37.300 like have sex with all the chads when they're in their 20s and then find a chad and settle down with

01:23:41.700 him when they're like around 30 or whatever but all the 30 year old chads don't want you know a woman

01:23:47.620 that's been ran through who's 30 years old they want a younger fresher woman so to speak and

01:23:51.620 it sucks because like a lot of these women end up single because they they had their standards so high

01:23:56.500 but now they can't find a guy who meets those standards and they end up single and childless you

01:24:02.500 know it's a bummer they'll end up with some like just like totally weak dude that's just merely taking

01:24:07.460 what he can get like that's it beta bucks yeah yeah that's my take on it

01:24:15.780 so basically men don't want the town bicycle straight basically men don't want the town bicycle

01:24:21.140 not paying full price with a car with my address we have a big uh we have a big fifty dollar soup

01:24:26.660 chat here davon jackson with the fifty dollar soup chat this is debate entertain me into super chatting

01:24:33.060 for chase chase hashtag chase the chat dog davon jackson absolutely mogging entertain me right now

01:24:40.580 entertain me what do you got bro come on and he started the hashtag hash hashtag in your uh namesake

01:24:49.700 so there you go appreciate that yo thank you for the continuous support we act week after week

01:24:54.500 davon much appreciated do you guys think the expectation that i have is like reasonable

01:24:58.900 she already answered what do you guys think um i don't know i think

01:25:05.540 everyone has a right to pick and choose like how many people they sleep with who they sleep with

01:25:10.740 if you personally are like saving yourself and you want your partner not to have a high number you guys

01:25:16.660 are pretty much on an equal playing field if it was like you're like i'm gonna catch as many as i can

01:25:22.180 but she has to stay low i think that's where it's messed up because you have like different expectations

01:25:26.820 of one another but if you guys are like both on the same playing field i personally don't see a problem

01:25:31.460 with that but i don't think you should like discredit someone just because of like how many

01:25:36.180 people they've accumulated per se understood i think andrew tate would have a lot to say in response to

01:25:44.180 that oh god it says much more about us we don't have to i think we could i think we all know i mean

01:25:50.740 it depends on if they want to hear it we have some other videos to react to too but i don't think

01:25:55.140 everyone's yet had an opportunity to answer your question that you posed to the panel so did anyone

01:26:00.420 else want to come back in on this i honestly like what are you said okay i agree with her too

01:26:07.380 all right so verx thank you for the two gifted uh memberships man much appreciated devon jackson

01:26:14.020 again with the ten dollar soup chat i don't need a woman that has experience i need a woman that

01:26:17.300 matches my effort in the bedroom also imagine thinking who you've allowed into your body has

01:26:22.420 no bearing on who you are as a person facts on both counts agreed it's a great i suppose we could

01:26:31.300 just yes or no ask the panel um does body count matter should body count matter sure

01:26:38.740 i don't think so as long as you're being safe and actually getting tested i don't think so as long

01:26:45.060 as you're being safe and getting tested and being honest with the people that you're sleeping with

01:26:51.940 let's say the guy that you get married to or you meet a guy who you want to get married to but he's

01:26:56.420 he slept with like 200 women would that change your perspective on him make him less desirable

01:27:02.660 i think if like i had gotten married to him and i already built this bond with him and everything

01:27:10.020 else and then that was to be brought up i think like i would not end the relationship because of that

01:27:15.860 okay you wouldn't get divorced because i wouldn't get divorced because of that no um would you ask

01:27:23.780 him his body count beforehand and would that like play a factor into whether or not you'd marry him

01:27:27.700 i personally have never asked any guy their body count in my experience it's usually

01:27:36.500 the other way around um so it's just like i don't know and like i'm pretty like open and honest and

01:27:45.620 like i used to be a sex educator so what's that a sex educator so back in my hometown um

01:27:54.180 prostitute no a sex a sex educator i taught people sex ed i taught people sex ed so in my hometown

01:28:03.940 we didn't have health class we didn't have health class so there was this clinic near my high school

01:28:09.620 and people can like get birth control free condoms get plan b tested for free and i would have this

01:28:15.220 stuff in my backpack right and so people could text me like hey you got plan b i'd go give it to them

01:28:20.420 so you were the condom girl oh yeah you're the condom girl you need a plan b ella whatever they

01:28:27.540 could be like yo jordan hit me up what hometown where's this this is in sonoma county um did you

01:28:34.260 also give them like actual sex education yeah yeah yeah and like people would come up to me and like

01:28:39.060 tell me like what symptoms they had and i would tell them like what most likely it is and then they

01:28:43.700 would just go to the clinic and they can go there confidential without their parents knowing and

01:28:47.620 getting the tested and resources that they needed and i think it's pretty important because my like

01:28:54.420 friends and other cities and stuff there they all have like kids now or something and at a young age

01:29:02.340 so i think uh so okay yeah i'm very open and honest about that kind of stuff do you think body count

01:29:09.860 matters i think body count matters because as long as you're on the same page with the other person but

01:29:15.140 if the other person that believes body count does matter and they have such a high body count and

01:29:19.700 they want somebody who has like under five i think that's just double standards and i personally

01:29:27.700 i do want somebody that has a lower body count and because i wouldn't like shame or hate somebody for

01:29:35.300 having a high body count like you do what you have to do it's your body your choice but that's just my

01:29:40.740 personal like what i believe and what i want what's the maximum body count for your future husband that

01:29:48.900 you'd be okay with i like as long as i think once it hits the double digits it's when it's like that's

01:29:57.700 when he's ran through yeah okay men can't really be ran through

01:30:08.180 please elaborate please elaborate yeah what do you mean how can straight men can't be ran through

01:30:14.100 fair point fair point great point no so true so i do think men who have a promiscuous past to what

01:30:21.780 chase was saying before about how it does it has an impact on both men and women in terms of

01:30:26.020 your ability to pair bond with partner if a guy has slept with 200 women it is going to have some

01:30:33.220 impact on your ability to pair bond but it's not going to be my take on this and i think there might

01:30:40.500 have even been some studies on this it's not going to have as big of an impact on if a man's promiscuous

01:30:46.980 sorry if a man is promiscuous it's not going to have as big of an impact as it will have on if a

01:30:52.100 woman is promiscuous what kind of an impact are you talking about though is that men release less

01:30:57.620 oxytocin than women do when they sleep with someone like the pair bonding chemical in your brain so

01:31:02.660 you're saying so you're saying when if men have a higher body count they're not like when women

01:31:07.780 sleep with more people they're more kind of connected to those people yes okay yeah and uh

01:31:13.300 there's this concept that i think chase very eloquently articulated a few podcasts ago

01:31:21.300 and i mean it's kind of a nerdy term to use but there's this concept of uh imprinting or alpha

01:31:28.340 widow and once the more men you've slept with eventually you're gonna sleep with a top g a

01:31:36.340 fucking really straight up top tier guy legend because here's the thing men are men will sleep

01:31:43.700 down so the trouble women get in is that you can secure sex from a guy who's very high status who's

01:31:51.940 above you in terms of attractiveness he's not going to commit to you but he will sleep with you

01:31:56.660 but when that happens you've now sort of that is your framework for future men so if you start if

01:32:04.980 you're able to sleep with certain tier of men let's say then the men that are actually your on your

01:32:10.900 equivalent level let's just say you're not going to be attracted to them so what would otherwise be

01:32:18.020 your looks equivalent your attractiveness equivalent your socioeconomic equivalent even if it's equal

01:32:24.740 you're no longer going to view that person as a good candidate because you've you've uh what's the

01:32:33.060 term you've you've tasted the uh the better life let's say yeah i know i know a lot of chicks like

01:32:39.220 they were with like some amazing dude at one point in time he broke her heart after the fact they get

01:32:44.420 new relationships they can never stop thinking about that one guy that got away many such cases that's a

01:32:49.700 problem happens it's a thing ari's looking at me like i don't know i've never met that guy so i'm not

01:32:55.940 i don't know once you like you sleep with certain tier certain tier of guy maybe he has some status

01:33:02.820 maybe he's just incredibly good looking maybe he's insanely good in bed you all your future partners

01:33:09.780 you are going to compare exactly to that guy yup and you were shooting outside of your league but

01:33:18.420 like you guys specifically no no just kidding i'm kidding but so the so the more partners a woman has had

01:33:23.700 the more likely that she's she's been with a guy who's just so high high tier because men it's men

01:33:30.660 can't really sleep with a girl outside of their league like it happens but it's very rare it's

01:33:36.740 pretty rare like i think in santa barbara it's pretty common i see a lot of questionable dudes getting with

01:33:42.980 pretty average i mean they might be they might be so men can make themselves attractive in other ways

01:33:48.260 they can make themselves attractive through finances through status so that and there's i mean

01:33:53.780 there's something to be said for charisma too so there are other means with which men can make

01:33:59.140 themselves attractive but uh yeah i want to know another thing i wanted to come off of that it's

01:34:07.460 just like how men date down men can date down but like oh yeah like we honestly as men like we don't

01:34:13.380 really care like what your status is as a woman like you could have any career just as long as

01:34:18.180 like you're respectful and like pretty you know i'm not gonna ask you how much you make or i guess

01:34:22.660 what your status is i think the guys care a lot less about that yeah yeah drake drake will date a

01:34:28.180 baddie who works at chick-fil-a and he's a multi-millionaire one of the highest exactly super high status

01:34:35.220 so that's a good point yeah that's a good point but i mean because i've heard that before

01:34:40.660 and as soon as i've as soon as the first time i've heard that i was just like wow that's really

01:34:44.020 true because i've never really thought about i've actually never heard that before i never really

01:34:49.460 thought of like like my partner's status but i know girls care about the status of their partner

01:34:55.060 a lot more than guys yeah for me personally granted i'm 22 so like the people i've dated are

01:35:00.340 around the same age so like don't have a lot of like work experience as long as you're goal oriented

01:35:06.020 and you are like ambitious that's what matters for me like you might not have a job right now

01:35:11.300 but like you're like this is what i want to do whether it makes a little money or a lot i think

01:35:15.300 that's way more attractive than like having a lot of cash or something yeah i think that's reasonable

01:35:22.740 too yeah because that's a signal that he's probably going to go places be able to take care of you well

01:35:26.980 well i just think it's like a good like i don't like even for me personally like you want even like

01:35:33.540 your friends you know you want them to be doing something like trying to make their life more

01:35:38.100 meaningful not necessarily getting the most money out of something but just like to have a passion in

01:35:43.620 life i think is attractive men need a mission and a purpose and men who don't have a mission or a

01:35:50.580 purpose are often rudderless just getting blown around by the waves of life in my opinion not to get

01:35:57.460 too poetic on you are you i mean i think it can go for like anyone like it doesn't have to just be

01:36:04.580 men but like yeah i think in general it's just unattractive when nobody has when that person

01:36:11.300 doesn't have goals like a man or a woman like you have to have goals you want to build something for

01:36:16.100 yourself even if you don't have money right now which doesn't even matter it's just you want to be

01:36:21.060 happy with your life like you want a career that makes you happy you can't just be you can't depend

01:36:27.380 on other people so yeah so you've never heard that though that i mean i have never really like heard

01:36:34.500 somebody like speak on that before does it make sense um i feel like maybe past generations it kind of

01:36:45.060 makes sense i feel like maybe past generations it kind of makes sense just because a lot of women

01:36:50.500 didn't really have that successful of jobs back then but i feel like now i feel like it's a little

01:36:57.620 bit different um i don't know like because i feel like i'm going to even though like i'm going into

01:37:05.620 nursing like i'm doing something else after that and like i don't know i i feel like a lot more women

01:37:11.700 now have like more purpose to have a more successful job um so it is interesting to hear like

01:37:20.900 that that guys do think of it that way that like it doesn't really matter like what kind of a job she

01:37:27.300 has um but i think it's pretty important yeah so sorry i don't want to cut it off but um do you think

01:37:34.340 like on happiness wise down the road do you think you'll be more happy in like a career or like i guess

01:37:40.420 being a mother what would you find more happiness with with a great guy yeah not with not some

01:37:45.540 loser great guy that can provide you provide for you and protect you and everything like what would

01:37:51.780 bring you more happy like which i would think like i don't need to speak for you guys but i think like

01:37:55.700 coming home to a family would be like probably one of the most happiest things like i'm working for

01:38:00.180 yeah i think i would be happy to like raise my own family at home and stuff but i think like

01:38:06.340 it's a lot to expect from a woman day in and day out and i think like it's important to have your

01:38:11.140 own hobbies and stuff and like have your own hobbies and not be in the house 24 7 i feel like

01:38:18.820 that's really hard um so i think like at least having like even a part-time job or like something

01:38:25.380 like that getting out of the house at some point not she has to only be indoors in the house always

01:38:32.340 you can't leave you can't leave well like even if you're driving somewhere like being i don't know

01:38:35.940 i just feel like i feel like that's like a lot to expect from someone um i don't know i don't do you

01:38:44.260 think it's a lot to expect from a man for him to be working his ass off constantly to provide for

01:38:48.740 the family well what if the woman also wants to what has like a great career we're leaving that out of

01:38:55.380 the equation leaving it out of there do you think it's a lot to expect for a man to be working

01:38:59.300 constantly to provide for his family no that's not a lot to expect from a man but it is a lot

01:39:08.100 to expect from a woman to be spending her time focused i think like women are better at mothering

01:39:14.260 children than men per se but i don't think like it should automatically be something that's not an

01:39:23.460 answer to the question it's it's it's not a lot to expect for a man for him to be busting his ass

01:39:28.100 working constantly to provide for a family but it is a lot to expect from a woman for her to be

01:39:33.700 working hard busting her ass to raise the family that's a lot to expect from a woman i feel like i

01:39:39.860 can kind of say like a little bit of experience just because like i worked in daycare for a long

01:39:44.660 time and i've also worked and had two jobs at the same time so i feel like i have a different opinion on

01:39:50.580 that i don't know they can say what they want sorry we can we can move on from it if you guys want

01:39:58.420 i feel like we won't get anywhere with it i was curious to know what your answer was though does

01:40:03.540 body count matter you never answered right no i think i did am i just an idiot no you did and i

01:40:10.340 agree with what was your answer yeah what was your answer um that it doesn't really matter like as long

01:40:16.020 as like expectations are the same okay yeah okay right yo chat chat there's this chick in the chat

01:40:22.660 called cheese amethyst with these bogus fucking characters talking mad uh one in the chat are we

01:40:31.300 is that a block chat i haven't been reading chat much but she's talking mad chat chat is it a block

01:40:37.300 or what one in the chat if it's a block or two if i let it go um so what did what did she say

01:40:43.940 oh man just she keeps saying i'm smug and condescending but i don't i think you're so

01:40:49.460 smug and condescending you dick i guess so what's wrong with you with the little flannel the most

01:40:55.300 smug guy i've ever met dude my little flannel i have a question what is the seven that you often

01:41:01.940 put on your lapel the the seven yeah what is that um i'm gonna reveal what that means on our 77th

01:41:09.140 show so okay yeah joe j said it's the checkered shirt your checkered shirt is very smug and arrogant

01:41:16.180 dude how dare you i guess okay wow the chat is in favor of keeping her i don't know she's been

01:41:23.860 saying some she's she's saying that i'm getting under your skin well she might be trolling i don't

01:41:28.580 know but she's saying some shit like brian and his uh he wants an 18 year old submissive wife to

01:41:34.340 have ugly children with i'm like okay what so rude pretty rude right so rude um so is that her

01:41:44.980 is that the chick the she's right there yeah right in the corner

01:41:50.420 yeah she's been saying that that was i mean the condescending i don't really care but what she's

01:41:54.420 saying like she's trying to get under your skin she's saying my she knows you're a stud she's saying

01:41:57.700 my 18 year old submissive wife would produce ugly children apparently okay well i mean you do have a

01:42:04.180 preference for 411 beef curtain queens so she might be right dude yeah she might she's still a babe

01:42:10.980 just she's 411 dude okay right still gonna be a babe okay i bet that chick has pronouns in her bio

01:42:16.020 the chick i'm oh the amethyst chick yeah yeah i think she's just trolling i'm not i'm not pressed but

01:42:22.580 411 410 sir 410 411 too tall you're you're five feet right i'm five three oh you're the

01:42:32.180 you're the short one but i'm also wearing shoes that make me a little bit sorry you're too tall for

01:42:35.860 me miss five five feet you're just too tall um okay so let's react to a video we've been meaning to

01:42:42.020 do a video do we have any super chats or eric any no i think we're good on super chats

01:42:47.460 yeah no i don't think so i think we did this one right right yeah we did that wait what which one

01:42:57.780 oh shit sorry i missed this one um yeah someone created oh look at that profile picture

01:43:03.460 dude people uh people have also been asking all neck oriented questions

01:43:08.020 zach what is your next body count how many people has your neck killed uh

01:43:12.100 putin will hear me i don't i can't wait is that that's from your instagram no that's not no that's

01:43:16.500 not me no that's gotta be you say putin will hear you yeah that's another that's another

01:43:21.380 zach snack he's like hey putin's listening are you sure that's not that's not from your instagram

01:43:25.700 that's not my instagram maybe it's photoshopped that's me no i'm kidding oh okay

01:43:31.780 it could no i have no idea who that person is um but thank you for the 10 canadian dollars uh

01:43:36.260 what do the ladies think about hickeys really quick i mean i don't care you can give them i don't

01:43:41.620 care okay i mean now that we're older i'm like it i just think it's kind of weird to have like a

01:43:47.220 badass thing on your neck but like teach their own word i think it's weird when you're like not

01:43:54.580 dating or anything and they give you a hickey like kind of marking you like that's just weird yeah for

01:44:00.340 sure i think that's weird but i also i don't know i also wouldn't want anybody to give me a hickey

01:44:06.580 like on my neck anything below is fine just because like i go to school and work every day

01:44:14.820 so when i was 16 years old there's this there's this girl that uh that i hooked up with one night

01:44:24.100 and she left the largest hickey you could ever imagine on my neck and the very next day my family

01:44:32.020 was buying my car for me and my grandmother had come down to town to do this and i had forgotten

01:44:37.460 that it was happening the next day i walked up to the to the lot at the dealership lot with this just

01:44:43.460 absurd and disrespectful hickey and my dad asked me if i'd been attacked by a vacuum cleaner the night

01:44:48.420 before and my grandma was like what is that and i was like oh like i got hit by something like

01:44:53.860 nothing she was like what the fuck is that yeah they all know 100 yeah my dad was like you dog

01:45:03.620 okay yeah hickeys are terrible oh grace they're awful and apparently way verx came in here oh wait yeah

01:45:10.420 he mentioned blood he mentioned uh blood clots so i guess there's a risk of getting blood clots from

01:45:15.700 hickeys so yeah especially nowadays yeah if a girl starts going for them like yo calm down relax

01:45:23.860 what are you doing is it is it a red flag if somebody does that but you're not like dating

01:45:27.460 her official i don't think it's a red flag if she goes for it the red flag for me is i've had someone

01:45:33.540 ask me to give them one and i'm like that's weird that's kind of that's weird did you ask him why he

01:45:38.100 wanted it i was like he's like can you give me one i was like no i'm not doing that pass on that one

01:45:43.940 just shot down entertain me the clock is ticking entertain me i'm waiting for you entertain me bro

01:45:50.580 you left a comment dude you gotta you gotta be a man of your word my friend okay uh we're gonna

01:45:55.460 react to a video here eric if you can switch over to the video uh first one please

01:46:06.340 heather bought me her list of requirements so let's check them out he must be between 30 and 45

01:46:13.620 financially stable no kids 5 10 or taller no hookups or flings ready to settle down no roommates no

01:46:21.540 smoking must love dessert and can't be anti-sugar what's the deal with the desserts well okay that's

01:46:29.540 a really important one because i'm the founder and ceo of my own frosting company and so it's an

01:46:35.620 all-natural gourmet frosting and so i make a lot of desserts and i do a lot of you know trade shows

01:46:41.380 in making desserts so he has to like dessert if he doesn't like dessert it's totally a deal breaker

01:46:46.980 totally totally a deal breaker okay but there are some more requirements so let's take a look at these

01:46:53.700 must be uh honest reliable sweet and kind quick-witted romantic must love food must pay on the first date

01:47:03.140 no flowers on the first date must be a social drinker and must never wear sweatpants

01:47:08.580 what i mean those are basics why he can't wear sweatpants no the last guy i dated he we fought

01:47:20.500 all the time because he wanted to go to starbucks and sweatpants and go to breakfast and sweatpants and

01:47:26.740 no one should be doing that yeah wow okay well we got some more requirements but we don't have no more room

01:47:35.460 guys let me get one of the pillars over here okay all right here we go let's see must be adventurous

01:47:48.900 must be humble must be spontaneous must be a planner can't be self-centered can't be cocky must love dogs

01:47:57.380 can't own a dog from a breeder can't be jealous of her dog and can't own a cat the hell what

01:48:05.460 you you you can't buy a you can't have a dog from a breeder yeah i mean listen steve there's so many

01:48:15.300 dogs out there that are in need of homes that are shelter dogs and they're really sweet great dogs so

01:48:20.900 any guy that's going to spend a ton of money to buy a purebred dog it just says something about his

01:48:26.500 character i don't like yeah he wants a dog

01:48:31.460 vegan adopt anyways um we're gonna probably come back to that video here in a sec but i want to get

01:48:36.180 your guys's reaction to that i don't know if i should have the girls go first or let the guys go

01:48:41.060 but she's got quite the laundry list there of expectations or demands for a partner what do you

01:48:47.220 guys think about that reasonable unreasonable that gave me a headache to be honest that was that was oh my

01:48:53.540 god that was annoying yeah holy that's what went through my head that was a lot i couldn't even

01:49:01.060 process half of that i really thought the sweatpants thing was weird because i feel like a lot of ladies

01:49:07.860 kind of like a man in sweatpants so that one was weird to see

01:49:14.180 zach thoughts i can just say she's probably not mentally well

01:49:17.460 that's all i can say ridiculous facts she is nowhere near attractive enough to be making all

01:49:23.540 those uh that's a great all those requirements yeah i was that's where i was kind of going with

01:49:29.220 it chase i would just say there's a good reason she's single and she will probably stay that way for a

01:49:34.580 while what do you think bro i mean i i had to get up there for a bit but i've seen the video before so

01:49:43.380 yeah i mean her list is kind of pretty crazy um i don't know eric if you can go ahead and pull it

01:49:49.540 back up your hunter can't own a boat oh wait oh she's stronger there can you uh can you pause it

01:49:55.860 really quick can you uh cannot own a boat can you go back about midway can't be stronger than her

01:50:01.860 either yeah uh her dating pool is going to be so small actually go forward just a little bit

01:50:06.420 it yeah just play it from there she has some more guys man damn glad i'm a dog

01:50:14.900 we're not done yet uh we can get another pillar in fact

01:50:20.740 yeah let's bring all of them in here bring everything i think we noticed it was that

01:50:26.900 i love it wow is this ready i don't know if she's like you for real can't have six pack abs can't

01:50:34.820 have six pack abs can't be too skinny can't have a runner's physique can't be stronger than me can't

01:50:43.540 be can't be obsessed with sports can't be a hunter can't own a boat can't be a gamer can't be materialistic

01:50:53.940 i'm out he can't have any hobbies no hobbies allowed that that would be out can't be materialistic

01:51:01.620 the box what does that mean he can't he can't want anything he can't want to buy things all the time

01:51:08.500 can you talk to my wife probably okay let's keep going

01:51:14.340 uh must respect a gluten must respect a gluten-free diet can't be too close to family and friends

01:51:26.820 must be willing to move someplace warm must love traveling can't can't brag about traveling oh

01:51:34.500 we can go there but you can't tell nobody you shut your mouth what you telling everybody we was in arizona

01:51:43.220 for uh must maintain eye contact can't be a party boy can't be intimidated by me favorite season what

01:51:54.100 favorite season cannot be fall

01:52:00.180 there's more we ran out of pillars

01:52:05.060 he can't love fall so anyways so yeah she's got this pretty exhaustive list of uh i guess things

01:52:13.380 that she's looking for in a partner uh any further reaction on that well i mean i have a list too of

01:52:20.580 what i would oh like in a guy but i mean not that not that long we should do that we'll we'll have

01:52:25.300 we'll go around the table on that we'll come back to that though any further reaction to her

01:52:30.580 crazy list of demands i feel like there's no way that's real like there's just no way that that's

01:52:35.460 her actual list there's just no way she has to be kidding like yeah absurd there's no way yeah

01:52:43.220 i don't understand how a person like that can exist and be serious so she's delusional

01:52:48.420 totally delusional she has a dad or no that's a good question

01:52:56.580 any takes from youtube on that or i just don't know how i think she's like not being serious

01:53:01.940 maybe she's just doing it for like clout clout yeah it could just be television yeah yeah

01:53:07.860 she just wanted to talk about her like sugar frosting business that's why she went on there

01:53:12.180 yeah she's advertising it devon jackson with the ten dollar soup chat entertain me disappeared

01:53:18.580 faster than my dad did when he went to get the milk oh shit okay shots fired at entertain me

01:53:24.260 yeah dude he uh you know i'm gonna try to dig up the comments that he made but he did say that in the

01:53:29.780 previous previous video um is he still in the chat have you guys seen him in the chat i'm not really oh i

01:53:36.020 see him okay entertain me damn bruv okay um davon thank you for the ten dollar soup chat man so you

01:53:44.180 said you have a list of some requirements what what are your standards or expectations or lists of

01:53:52.980 things things that you want in the guy um like are we talking like physical or like attributes or both

01:54:00.420 both yeah it could be physical it could be yeah um physical i have like i have a type and i've stuck

01:54:07.060 to it like yeah there's a trend in all the guys that i've been with um just big big burly men that's

01:54:13.460 my type um but then big burly men yeah like giant giant yeah she knows she knows what my ex is like

01:54:22.340 yeah she likes them big like tall like like scared like hercules like gym like i go to the gym a lot

01:54:28.500 like gym guys they have to have a neck like yeah yeah that's fine exactly um but other than that

01:54:37.460 just um i'm i i'm a very very good communicator um when it comes to my feelings at least so i'm looking

01:54:46.180 for a guy who's not immature and doesn't know how to communicate like that was my ex he didn't really

01:54:52.180 know how to communicate um so i'm just looking for a guy who knows how to communicate and honestly

01:54:56.500 as of right now those are my two main things and so you said a tall guy how tall are you you're five

01:55:01.620 three five three so what is your height limit i don't i don't have a limit but the thing is i've

01:55:07.780 only ever been with guys over uh six one only over six but that's not my choice that's just like that

01:55:14.420 it's just happened it just happens yeah it just happened to be that way okay wait so your green flags

01:55:19.460 are good communicator and built like an absolute tank yeah pretty much okay okay how many dudes do

01:55:26.180 you see that are built like absolute tanks there's barely freaking any there's none so since zach when

01:55:31.700 was the last time you saw one um there's not a lot only him to be honest shame he's taken because

01:55:40.900 you're 18 so i mean most no most 18 year olds are tiny yeah most men in your age cohort are not gonna

01:55:48.740 have been training long enough to reach that level of there's there's there's a little there's like

01:55:54.900 some but not a lot but yeah simoans yeah yeah

01:56:01.940 okay how tall was your last boyfriend six three that's six three and up i think is one percent of the

01:56:08.500 population i think something like yeah or maybe it's three percent i'm six two and i think i'm in

01:56:15.300 the top one percent of you know chase is actually quite a a muscular man can we get a little tricep or

01:56:23.540 you want to you want can we can we see it some of that myren i'm sorry a little bit of that are you

01:56:34.740 are you content no wait can you keep can you keep are you are you content bro yeah i'm good i need a

01:56:41.540 i need a little back massage then i got i got my ice back here um okay so um what are your what's your

01:56:48.740 list of uh um definitely need someone to be funny i like having humorous conversations um i would prefer

01:57:00.420 a man taller than me because i am a tall how tall are you five ten okay yeah with shoes you said

01:57:05.940 you're five times you yes um so with shoes what about not shoes like five nine it depends on the

01:57:12.100 shoe okay and i've i my first boyfriend was shorter than me so for anyone attacking me on that i've i've

01:57:17.780 dived there it just personally i feel more confident down down i've uh felt more confident with a man

01:57:23.780 taller than me um you feel safer not even that it's just like because i mean i'm pretty strong

01:57:31.700 like i go to the gym too it's like how much are you are you gonna give us a tricep oh no no no

01:57:38.100 see the tricep sorry do a little flex give me a bicep i don't even think i can you know it's like

01:57:42.260 not even there but it's hard but i don't want to be like bulky so it's okay it's hard um okay i would

01:57:48.500 like yes holy that's um did you boost the volume on that wait what's the volume oh there we go hold

01:57:57.140 on okay go ahead um i'd like someone to be physically active just because i'm active as

01:58:01.780 well so like share a common interest with that um as long as you're like goal oriented yeah let's talk

01:58:11.380 about like let's add finances to this too because i mean i know you guys are on the younger side so

01:58:16.660 you're probably not overly concerned about how much money guys makes but let's say five years

01:58:22.180 down the line ten years down the line when you're looking for a partner do you have a sense of

01:58:27.540 one how much you think you're going to make and is that going to

01:58:32.820 have an impact on how much you want your partner to make so i want to be like independently

01:58:40.580 financially stable i don't ever want to have to depend on another being um or man i guess

01:58:46.820 um and i would expect the same from them i don't want them to depend on me so i wouldn't want someone

01:58:52.260 to be jobless but i also wouldn't need them to make a shit ton of money because i want to be able

01:58:57.940 to support myself financially too so as long as they're making something to like if something were

01:59:02.900 to happen and we were to break up and we're both okay on our own i think that's more than enough

01:59:07.460 enough i have a question for you yes let's say you find a guy great guy he's officially convinced

01:59:12.660 you not all men are trash okay you guys have a very like deep relationship very trusting relationship

01:59:18.900 and you trust like you trust him a lot like there's no issues there and he wants to make you his wife and

01:59:26.180 he also wants you to stay at home become a mom he brings in enough money to provide for both of you guys

01:59:32.580 there's no question in your mind about whether or not he's going to leave you or anything like that

01:59:35.860 would that be something that you're open to or would you want to remain financially independent

01:59:40.260 against his wishes i think i'd want to remain financially independent i also don't think

01:59:44.500 that i want kids in the future um just the way the world's heading like environmentally don't really

01:59:51.060 know if i want to put a being into that type of thing stop climate change yeah kids one kid at a

01:59:57.300 time just keeping them in wow um i think she was being facetious you're joking right yeah i was joking

02:00:04.740 but um you never know an alavista what you never know an alavista ucsb chicks you know i mean i i did

02:00:11.860 live here but um but i want to don't want to have kids no want to stay financially yeah okay roger that

02:00:19.300 for me about my list um they do have to be taller than me because i am also tall and i want them to

02:00:30.500 be an athlete they have to i play sports i play four of them myself so i'd like my significant other to

02:00:38.180 also be able to play sports so like because for me i think that's also another way of bonding when you

02:00:44.820 guys in your free time you could go play a sport or like if he plays something he could teach you

02:00:50.660 and then you could teach him something too and then what else you have to be funny

02:00:56.980 and if the guy's not funny does he just not have a chance it has to be funny like non-negotiable

02:01:07.540 i think it's because no it's okay you don't have to justify it it's okay

02:01:11.380 i know before i just want to touch on the funny thing so we have we've had two girls so far say

02:01:17.780 that they they want a guy who's funny guys at the table do you care if a girl is funny women aren't

02:01:26.020 funny oh hot day jesus ask my co-workers i'm a jesus i'm a funny i like i like when i have great

02:01:34.740 chemistry with a woman like i like one of the things that i like one of my visions for my marriage

02:01:39.220 is i want to be sitting on my front porch when i'm 80 years old still cracking jokes with my wife

02:01:44.580 and and like i have a pretty dry sense of humor at times and like not all women find my jokes funny

02:01:50.500 and the ones that do find them really funny and i i like that and i want to i want to have some back

02:01:55.620 and forth you know i like that banter i think it's fun so she doesn't have to be like hilarious but

02:02:00.820 like if there's good chemistry there i want that you know yeah well i would say there's a difference

02:02:04.900 between having a sense of humor and being funny i think having a sense of humor is being able to

02:02:11.380 recognize humor whereas to be funny is you you are providing the humor so i think a woman who has a

02:02:19.940 good sense of humor is a good thing is good but so as far as a woman being funny i could care i could

02:02:26.420 care i'll say this i'll second that i don't really care is because what chase you said the chemistry and

02:02:32.020 like laughing together i think that's great but that doesn't mean that she's funny yeah i'll say

02:02:36.100 this my aunt is one of the funniest people i've ever met in my life and i love having conversations

02:02:40.740 with her as a result of that i would like that in a wife someday it's not a deal breaker if she

02:02:44.820 doesn't have it but i would like that in a wife someday they would just have to be able to take my

02:02:49.620 humor you know um like i joke around a lot um like my humor is pretty out there so she'd just have

02:02:55.860 to be able to take my humor is what it really would be take your banter take your humor just like

02:03:00.660 our ancestors did just like our ancestors did it's an inside joke but so you know i don't think i

02:03:06.500 would have a problem i wouldn't have an issue if a woman was funny but honestly i've just never

02:03:14.340 i've never i've never encountered like a genuinely funny woman okay like like women comedians or science

02:03:23.060 fiction it doesn't exist like i've heard women say funny things but like i've never i don't think

02:03:30.900 i've ever categorized a woman as like she is funny you know yeah you know what i mean yeah no i don't

02:03:38.740 find women funny personally because i've never met one that's funny

02:03:45.380 okay going back on the list i just don't even going back on the list i mean she's kind of funny

02:03:52.420 me you think you're funny i think i i can be funny sometimes i think so sometimes

02:03:59.700 but also going back on the list yeah let's not get sidetracked here but um

02:04:04.420 i was also another thing like a green flag is when they're good with kids for like the future you

02:04:10.820 know if you're planning something more and if they're like good with their family family oriented

02:04:16.420 i can't even say okay but you know i feel like good with their family so it's like a green flag wholesome

02:04:23.540 salud

02:04:26.260 yeah i really like somebody that is family oriented like i said before i think it's really important

02:04:31.380 because i take family seriously um i like the competitiveness just like in kind of like sports

02:04:38.500 i've played a lot of sports so i think it's a little bit important for when you have kids

02:04:45.300 that you know that they play sports um i think

02:04:52.740 you know taller than me for sure not five ten to be over five ten five ten and up nothing less i just

02:05:01.140 feel like this okay kids are gonna be small that's no penis size penis size

02:05:09.060 is that is that important to you guys does it matter does size matter to an extent to an extent yeah

02:05:19.300 what's the extent like i don't want to chode but

02:05:21.700 my favorite word i haven't heard that word in so long the mythical chode

02:05:28.500 wider than it is long uh not ari's thing not my thing size size matter to you guys you don't want

02:05:35.940 a tuna can no thanks i think

02:05:40.180 um i should be the last person to answer something like this but i think um we can move on if it's

02:05:49.780 like small like if you can't feel it then like if you can't feel it that's not a good thing yeah you

02:05:59.220 want to be able to feel them yeah i think that's pretty reasonable so i want to ask on the video that

02:06:05.300 we just watched do any of you know a girl like this maybe a friend or an acquaintance where you

02:06:10.980 she's like yo your expectations are way too high no no you don't know any girls that maybe not to

02:06:17.860 that extreme but you're like okay lady relax you're not that attractive no friends like that no okay

02:06:27.060 fair enough okay high demands but she isn't all that herself no okay i have a question for you guys

02:06:35.140 what's something that makes a guy really attractive right off the bat confidence okay

02:06:43.380 that's a good one um i think also just like you were saying like banter just being able to like or

02:06:49.220 like be sarcastic with one another i think that makes someone more attractive okay that and if they

02:06:55.380 have a good smile i think for me if they have a good smile they got me like that's just honestly

02:07:02.180 pretty adventurous because sometimes i find myself being like oh like you know sometimes randomly i

02:07:09.220 want to like drive to lizard's mouth randomly at midnight just to like go up there and sit and look

02:07:13.540 at the stars somebody that can just like always kind of be down for like adventurous type of stuff i

02:07:19.220 think is really fun um and i think i really like that yeah reasonable totally yeah all very common

02:07:28.420 answers which doesn't make it bad just was curious to hear what you guys had to say so i want to ask

02:07:33.140 the guys over here do you guys think that women have unreasonable expectations compared to guys

02:07:40.180 or just in general but sure yeah no you don't think so chase no i i don't think that women have

02:07:48.820 you know sexual standards i don't think so i don't think they do do you

02:07:56.740 i think so not all women but i think a lot of women have unreasonable expectations and standards

02:08:05.940 okay well i think a lot of it it depends like you know if she if she's like you know five foot like

02:08:12.180 built like a bowling ball and wants some dude that's like way tall and then makes a bunch of

02:08:15.780 money and she does nothing with her life and everything then like absolutely not like no way

02:08:20.020 but that goes the same for guys like there's a lot of just like total incels you know that like

02:08:24.500 don't work out have a really shitty job all they do is like you know just like play video games and

02:08:29.060 whatever and they'll expect like a super hot chick and like everything expected to them like even

02:08:33.700 though a woman's like provide for them and everything so it goes both ways it's like a

02:08:36.980 people thing not necessarily just like a one way or the other thing you know yeah i think i think both

02:08:41.140 men and women depending on who can have unreasonable uh expectations is that a game of thrones tattoo

02:08:47.380 on your ankle by the way no that was uh just a random oh it looked like three dragons for some

02:08:53.780 reason no no it's not i was just noticing that um okay i want to bring up have you ever done that

02:08:58.740 calculator it's like you put in your preferences and it's like you know what we actually

02:09:02.500 percentage of men that actually exist on earth that's fit to their needs is like always less

02:09:07.940 than one percent we have it should we do it we can never we can do it let's do it it's called the

02:09:13.460 i've never even heard of eric it's crazy it's you type in like what you want in a man and then it

02:09:18.820 tells you what percentage of the population has those traits and like you go like most women i've

02:09:24.580 seen one like it diminishes yeah because like dudes over six one are already like less

02:09:30.340 than two percent of the population yeah and then having a good career on top of that and whatever

02:09:34.580 else just decreases and decreases the odds and like most women want like a guy that's over six foot

02:09:40.660 who like makes a decent amount of money yeah there's just not a dude and not enough dudes to go around

02:09:45.700 eric if you can just scroll down just a little bit by the way we do not endorse the name

02:09:49.540 male delusion calculator oh that's so funny did you tell him to scroll down until you wouldn't read

02:09:56.180 it yeah we because i didn't see it until you said scroll down too late i didn't see it until you said

02:10:00.900 it whatever does not does not endorse the uh name of this thing web page but um so we're gonna start

02:10:07.380 with emmy first so give us your age range or and by the way maybe we should do this for like

02:10:13.300 like husband material kind of guy you would want to marry um yeah i'm just thinking though because

02:10:18.980 there's like a financial component to this but that you're 18 so like you probably at this point

02:10:23.940 in your life you don't care so do you think we should maybe frame it from we should just do husband

02:10:28.980 material okay sure okay um your ideal guy how old what age range do you what age range like 18 to

02:10:39.060 25 maybe okay and should we exclude married men obviously because we're talking married married

02:10:49.620 people yeah well i mean she might not have an issue same she might not having uh race any

02:10:54.980 minimum height um minimum five ten okay uh exclude obese no i'm into fat guys wait wait actually

02:11:07.780 yeah okay all right um minimum income um uh probably minimum minimum minimum 60k 60k yeah okay

02:11:23.380 all right uh go ahead

02:11:27.380 all right so that's two percent wow of the population but she also had a low age range 18 to 25 that's

02:11:36.420 there's not a lot of dudes with established careers that's true that's true that's true yeah

02:11:40.180 yeah scroll down just a little bit eric just so we can see this cat bags okay aspiring cat lady uh

02:11:47.060 can you pull that drawer open and then you should just scoot her chair back

02:11:56.020 yeah don't touch her you're strong man you got to have him pull out some catnip for emmy what am i

02:12:00.500 looking uh there should be a cat bag uh some oh wait actually you know what never mind sorry i have it

02:12:05.380 over here

02:12:09.300 some questionable things in there a lot of things

02:12:15.140 okay i mean here you go i do have two cats all right that's a meow meow mix for you um future cat

02:12:22.580 lady three out of five okay we're gonna do a wine drinking dog mom we're gonna do this with ari now

02:12:27.700 no it's actually mine's gonna be even less do uh scroll down there we're gonna do a new search

02:12:33.140 just do it okay also when you're doing this think about the fact that you're probably not looking for

02:12:38.020 this guy right now probably gonna be later on down the line he's probably gonna be a little bit older

02:12:44.020 than her suggestion was like you're probably not looking to get married for at least a few years

02:12:48.100 right i don't know it's about your perfect partner you know like ideally someone you can just

02:12:52.180 settle down with yeah so you know you can make the age range older age range okay

02:12:57.380 okay i'll do 25 to 35. and you're 22 right now we're talking yeah okay like projected in the future

02:13:06.420 sure now we're talking so 25 exclude married yes okay yeah uh race you're not interested in polygamy

02:13:14.340 um no um probably prefer white okay um minimum height six foot exclude obese yes

02:13:27.700 minimum income um 60k is good okay

02:13:32.740 play zero point six eight uh so you get four out of five cat bags okay there you go

02:13:40.100 let's go assault world will do you

02:13:43.780 all right um that's so crazy age range less than one percent um that's good 25 to 35

02:13:54.020 exclude married will you date a married married guy okay i don't know why they have that we're talking

02:14:00.980 in the context of marriage or yeah someone you want to marry race and then for race any race okay minimum

02:14:07.860 height um six feet um yes minimum income

02:14:19.460 60k is fine all right you sure

02:14:23.380 i think it's fine well she picked any race okay 1.2 percent of 200 percent higher chance of finding

02:14:32.420 your prince charming okay and then that's so crazy jordan i'm gonna do i'm gonna i'll say

02:14:41.940 27 to 37 and yeah exclude marriage any race minimum height 510.

02:14:52.980 exclude obese yes minimum income i'm gonna say just because

02:15:01.220 i want somebody almost just as successful as the amount of money i'm gonna be making so

02:15:08.500 six figures 100k 800 000 100k 100k the lowest okay 100k

02:15:15.300 making more than that let's go what do we got 0.86 percent of the population damn i think this is

02:15:22.900 off that's i don't know there's no i don't know there's no way i feel like that i don't know there's

02:15:28.020 a lot of dudes out there there's a lot of dude i heard a statistic yesterday the average guy in

02:15:33.860 america is five foot nine inches and 205 pounds it's the average man that's my type

02:15:39.700 every i mean if that's the average there's not many dudes like we're putting in the average woman

02:15:45.780 is five three and 170 pounds oh yeah rip we are we are down bad it's over it's so over dude this is

02:15:59.540 why tall people need to be having as many sons as possible so that there's more tall dudes to go

02:16:04.100 around for the women can we agree to that like yeah yeah i was nodding yes that sounds like some

02:16:15.540 eugenics well dude supply and demand chicks want tall dudes there's not enough tall dudes to go around

02:16:22.020 so there's not enough people procreating there you have it there you have it we're going to react to

02:16:27.220 another video uh it's just going to be the next one there yeah this one

02:16:37.700 y'all this is my question i am a single mom i have a full-time career i work very hard very responsible

02:16:45.460 but i get the typical blonde big boobs tattoos that's how guys kind of see me and you know i have a

02:16:54.500 really huge personality like really big sometimes it's like my mom's like you need a filter but

02:17:01.300 that's just how i am um but i guess my main thing is you know like i'm seriously almost done with dating

02:17:08.180 it's like four years i have not had a date i have never had a guy pick me up from my house and take me

02:17:16.260 on a date in my entire life ever what's your address anyways um so i want to let the guys answer

02:17:27.620 this one first your guys's reaction to that video and i have a take on this but i can let you guys go

02:17:33.700 first i mean no dude wants an unnecessarily loud and fat woman yeah she's got a fupa no way and her

02:17:43.220 who was it her mom said she needs to have a filter there's a lot of a lot of extremely unfiltered

02:17:47.940 women out there that are just popping off at the mouth and it's like all right i don't need that in

02:17:51.940 my life i would say yeah she's like probably won't be the submissive type and i guess like with people

02:17:59.540 with like most guys oh yeah sorry with most guys i feel like looking for like a very like feminine

02:18:05.620 submissive woman i guess is pretty popular among guys and is that not popular with you no no it is

02:18:10.900 with me i'm just don't want to speak for everyone but definitely with her i wouldn't pick her up from

02:18:15.700 her house yeah she's probably like late 30s to like early 40s and like single mom and whatnot it's

02:18:22.900 like late 40s yeah maybe yeah i was being generous yeah so it's like like yeah why would why would you

02:18:29.220 pick her like i would not like no way but she's expecting something to just i wonder i want some

02:18:35.060 woman what'd you say i wonder what her standards are you know probably oh yeah probably right for her

02:18:39.620 her kids exactly unreasonably high i want a woman who brings peace and joy into my life that's the

02:18:44.740 kind of woman that would drive you nuts until the day you die peace is peace is huge yeah i think that's

02:18:52.820 a big thing for men for sure um so yeah i guess my take on it she said that she's single mom works

02:19:00.020 very hard so already some issues there um single mom's like she's already busy with work she's got a kid

02:19:08.900 so is in terms of priority list you're going to be number four number five maybe kids career dog

02:19:16.420 whatever um also with single moms the baby daddy is still involved in the picture probably so there's

02:19:25.860 like that introduces some weirdness into the relationship um there's a potential risk of

02:19:32.500 reconciliation um also as far as single moms like men we don't want to subsidize women's bad decisions

02:19:42.180 the the big thing is is that i'm not saying like just totally shitting on single moms like some

02:19:47.300 some people they they just really like totally got shafted by somebody it's like a sheisty dude and

02:19:51.780 they're in a really horrible situation and it's it's unfortunate for them because some of them might be

02:19:57.060 really really really good people they just got totally shit on and like that sucks but just the

02:20:02.660 reality is like the same thing that if a dude's like five two and is fat and isn't going anywhere

02:20:06.580 with his life and whatnot it's it's kind of the same reality for him it's a shit under the stick

02:20:11.620 this is what it is well here's the thing if you're a single mom and you're looking for a solid a1 dude

02:20:19.060 you can't be coming on to the scene with all these demands i'm boisterous i'm like

02:20:23.380 like super overweight never gonna give you any peace in your life like you gotta you know it's

02:20:30.020 gotta be a good deal for the guy like my my mom when my mom met my stepdad she was a single mom with

02:20:34.740 me and she was like a very feminine like woman with like great energy and like you know it was a lot of

02:20:40.500 fun for my dad and like i don't know very different from like that one very not her yeah very not her

02:20:45.940 yeah one thing i thought was funny about that clip is how she said never i think she said never in

02:20:50.180 her life has she been picked up from her house for a date with a guy which is just sad dude that's

02:20:56.820 sad who's not picking up women where they live for dates man you know i don't do that

02:21:02.020 shit you always call me uber i i like i mean it's not like necessary like i like to i like to

02:21:08.100 pick women up from their house if i'm taking them on a date but if i'm taking a woman on a date i'll

02:21:12.180 either call her an uber or i will ask her if she wants me to pick her up like do you need a ride there

02:21:17.460 it's reasonable that's fair yeah i don't know i i don't like picking what are we talking about

02:21:24.020 first dates here like yeah first date could be i'm not gonna pick her up oh what whoa i'm not

02:21:29.220 picking a hot date i've always picked women up for the first date yeah okay so let me ask you're

02:21:36.180 trying to like meet at the same spot not picking why are you saying because there's like a risk and

02:21:40.660 she might suck and you don't want to put that energy so there's part of that there's part of that like

02:21:44.420 if she's lame then like oh you're kind of her ride you can't just dip you can't just bail like if if

02:21:50.580 she's not feeling it you're not feeling it but also like let me ask you guys a real quick question

02:21:55.140 for the women um if a guy offered to and got if a guy invited you to go to his house vito scaletta

02:22:02.820 said brian likes them to take the bus hey i i have had women take the bus take the bus

02:22:11.220 some guys like to fly women out i tell them to take the train um okay i'm a train ticket i'll

02:22:18.420 get him a train ticket why not i'm a bus pass here's a bus pass here's if they're the town

02:22:23.380 bicycle they can just ride straight to you horse drawn carriage okay but um so would you guys be

02:22:28.580 comfortable like first time ever meeting a guy i mean some girls do this but like maybe you met him

02:22:32.980 on dating app whatever it may be first time meeting him would you be comfortable just going straight to

02:22:37.540 his place no no like first time ever no maybe some of you have done it no what about you

02:22:45.380 well i see like the point that you're making i think first dates it yeah it could be reasonable to

02:22:51.140 not get picked up if you don't really know them or you haven't really been talking for that long of a

02:22:58.180 time um okay so eventually yeah it's like it's pretty nice to get picked up for a date okay so i

02:23:07.860 guess my whole thing is like if a woman's uncomfortable going over to your place just

02:23:12.100 straight up like that then she should also be uncomfortable being picked up in your car at her

02:23:18.580 place like so i mean well so how long have you guys been talking well it's the first it's the first

02:23:25.380 date so it's like like how long have you but for me it's also just another it's like another security

02:23:31.460 thing like i mean just like how women have standards about how they wouldn't want to maybe necessarily

02:23:36.420 go over to guy's house for the first time meeting him like i don't want to go pick up a girl at her

02:23:41.700 place otherwise i'm going to need adamus firearms training because there might be an ambush my man

02:23:48.820 shout out if i'm picking up a check might be an ambush there could be an ambush there probably will

02:23:53.140 be an ambush there will be an ambush there definitely will be he charges very reasonable rates but uh

02:23:58.740 bring a belt fed machine gun with you there yeah it's it's gonna be an assault but um no it's just like

02:24:05.620 like to me i'd much rather meet a girl at the location than pick her up because that's more

02:24:13.380 comfortable for me too understandable i like to vet chicks i don't like asking women out on a date

02:24:19.380 unless i've already vetted them and i know that they don't suck like i like i like to have a little

02:24:23.140 bit of chemistry first i'm not going to waste my time taking a girl out on a date unless i feel some

02:24:27.220 chemistry you know and if that's the case i like to pick them up that's my thing and but so like what

02:24:32.340 what if the date goes back for me in my instance if the date goes bad or it's not going well she's

02:24:37.700 going to be looking to me to drive her home i'm okay with that if the date's not going good i just

02:24:42.260 say i'm done with this and then i drop her off at home because i've had women like torpedo

02:24:48.260 fucking dates and they're like are you gonna drive me home i'm like here's a bus okay no i'm not you're

02:24:54.660 weird i'm not driving you home i'm not i'm not gonna be in a car alone with you and you're being

02:24:59.860 fucking weird nah it's a wrap have you had some really bad dates dude i've had fucking terrible

02:25:05.860 same date experiences just bad yeah yeah what's what nothing terrible what happened on the worst

02:25:12.740 date you ever went on why was it i've just had a lot of bad dates i'll just say that what was the

02:25:18.980 worst date you've been on what happened worst fucking the worst date i've been on i've been on a lot

02:25:24.260 one chick got mad at me on the date because this was back during like the blm riots okay and she was

02:25:33.700 upset that i didn't post a black square oh such a red flag yeah take the train and i'm not like i'm

02:25:41.300 not a i'm not a political guy on my instagram like i don't post overt political shit on my instagram i was

02:25:49.540 like hey what happened to george floyd's terrible but i'm not like i barely post on my personal

02:25:55.140 instagram she's like you should have posted on your brand page i'm like shut up i'm not posting

02:26:02.100 that shit on my fucking company thing so anyways so would it be a red flag to you guys if a guy didn't

02:26:07.620 post a black square i think a lot of times the people who like do post a black square just kind of

02:26:12.900 like oh yeah like i support here's my black square and they never talk about it again they don't really

02:26:17.620 support it like i don't think posting a black square shows that you're supporting it you kind

02:26:22.180 of just want to put yourself out there i agree yeah virtue signal how many people who posted the

02:26:27.700 black square do you think solely did it just for the social acceptance aspect of it it's a virtue

02:26:32.820 signal and like and the pressure and the pressure yeah from their i think a good percentage like what

02:26:37.940 are we talking 80 90 maybe not that high i'd say maybe like 30 40 which i still feel like is a lot

02:26:44.260 given the intensity and like how crucial the movement is like just to put that there and

02:26:48.660 be like okay i'm safe you know fair that was as far as my bad dates go that was a pretty tame

02:26:57.140 situation i don't know untamed just like absolute nuclear meltdown

02:27:04.020 cautionary tale like

02:27:07.940 i don't think i've ever picked a girl actually no i think i have maybe a couple times i've picked a

02:27:13.220 girl up maybe she doesn't have a car for even then i'm like take the bus lady take a bus

02:27:20.740 walk bike i actually used to have an ex-girlfriend bike over to my anyways that's not nice just a

02:27:26.900 true take the bike true gentleman telling women to walk to the date

02:27:32.340 uh i don't know it's just like i don't know i can't think i've had some bad days but i can't really

02:27:38.500 think of uh specifics i mean no i can think of one well she was 30 but okay i didn't pick her up

02:27:47.060 though so there wouldn't it wouldn't have been a scenario where i would have been like oh i feel

02:27:51.220 uncomfortable having to drop her off because do you just want a general bad date i've been on

02:27:57.220 just the worst day you've been on i'm also curious to hear from anybody else see if anybody

02:28:01.460 yeah i had a bad date all right so me and my friends i went with two of my friends they they

02:28:09.140 brought a guy and then i had a guy we're going to the movies we're waiting in line your two friends

02:28:15.700 brought one guy no they brought they both brought one guy for themselves okay so it's like a triple

02:28:20.340 date kind of yeah so one of my friends she leaves with the dude to go to the car you know just them

02:28:26.820 too and then there's just me and my other friend we're waiting in line to get the tickets and this

02:28:32.820 the guy that i'm with right when we get to the window expects me to pay for him like like he

02:28:39.060 doesn't even like he just like he just stands out i'm like because i had i was about to pay for myself

02:28:44.180 because you know and then he just expects me to i'm like i just look at him he's like oh yeah i forgot

02:28:51.140 my wallet and i'm like okay that's completely understandable and but he was lying because

02:28:58.340 i'm friends with his friend and it was just complete bull if he was just honest you know

02:29:04.020 like maybe if he was going to get the snacks or something i would pay for the tickets but he just

02:29:08.420 wanted to pay for everything and i'm like whoa and then after that i kind of like ignore that i'm like

02:29:15.140 okay whatever i'll do it you didn't know it was a lie at that point yeah i didn't know so i just like

02:29:19.380 i got the tickets but the after when my friend um they were done with the car doing their own

02:29:26.260 business he was like saying do you want to go in the car just me and you and i'm like no absolutely

02:29:32.900 not and um and then he's like what about the second date i'm like they won't there won't be a second

02:29:38.740 date oh because he just assumed right after that he we could just hook up and i'm like i'm not into that

02:29:46.420 and there was no chemistry or anything this guy had no moves nothing no moves but i gave him a try

02:29:52.740 like you know like a second chance i'm like you know what let's see if he could redeem himself

02:29:56.580 it just kept going downhill sad no moves no game no money nothing damn rip any other crazy

02:30:06.260 terrible date stories that was like mildly bad i want like nuclear just i have a list here hold on

02:30:13.460 let me see what i'm fucking i've written these down dude hold on hmm there's the beasting betrayal that

02:30:20.660 one that one wasn't terrible habsburg tara jesus i don't know uh i know one comes to mind that is just

02:30:31.060 diabolical don't you yeah oh you have no i'm just guessing for you like there has to be one

02:30:36.420 that comes to mind this guy has probably a number of diabolical dates yeah i don't know if i should

02:30:43.780 i saw on your screen there it says chick spit gum out in my back oh yeah question mark so i invited

02:30:49.860 this girl i have a pool in my house so i invited her over to swim she comes over she's got some gum

02:30:55.380 and like as she's she changed into her bathing suit whatever as she's walking down the pathway

02:31:00.820 she had some gum by the way i've i have trash cans in the house she takes her gum out and just spits

02:31:08.260 it into my yard it's so into the grass and i was like oh my god pick it up that's i was like yeah i

02:31:14.820 said i said hey i told her i was like hey pick that up because that's my yard like yeah i don't want

02:31:22.500 to step in and she's like i'll do it later i'm like no do it right now otherwise you're gonna

02:31:26.500 forget where it was just do it right now yeah just do it now but she didn't want to because i was

02:31:31.300 i mean i was saying i was saying hey that's not that's not acceptable and she's like no no no i'm

02:31:36.740 like listen you need to pick that up right now otherwise you're fucking leaving yeah

02:31:42.260 like it was just disrespectful i would never go over to someone's house and imagine going over to

02:31:47.620 someone's house be in their backyard have some gum and flick it into their yard no i'd be like hey

02:31:51.940 is there a trash can so what did she was well she was very uh combative about it because i was like

02:31:58.340 hey go pick that up she's like no i'm like and i i didn't let it go i was like you need to pick that

02:32:05.300 up pick it up pick it up and it was just like gone to an order did she ever end up picking it up yeah

02:32:09.380 she did pick it up but she's all buttered about it and i was like ready i was pretty much ready to

02:32:13.620 kick her out and then she's like hey i'm sorry who raises these women what the fuck yeah how did the

02:32:20.580 date go after that we fucked oh but no i mean it was just like did you ever talk to her again

02:32:29.620 she she apologized but i was like did you do it was kind of a red flag we we hung out a couple more

02:32:35.220 times but like she was very combative like she would just like start arguments and shit and so

02:32:40.900 like the writing was on the wall from that point on this was maybe our second or third time hanging out

02:32:45.940 so she was just i was very domineering and combative i was expecting you to say that you

02:32:52.340 dated her for two years after that no that was the chick who looked at my phone on the first look

02:32:58.420 through my phone on the first such a five years by the way five years but hold up going back to mine

02:33:03.620 the reason like just because he didn't have no because yours are boring brian okay the reason like

02:33:08.580 it's not because he didn't have like money or games or anything at the end when i said i'm not interested

02:33:12.900 he like got super mad he called my friend a whore and then called me out he called me a whore and he

02:33:19.780 drove away which was embarrassing because he had to pick up his friend that's right next to us he

02:33:24.420 stormed out and had to drive back and pick his friend up so like that's just like what a little

02:33:30.420 tantrum yeah like a tantrum and he had to come back and i'm like that's embarrassing i like how he called

02:33:34.980 you a whore after you refused yeah he got mad like i'm like okay and then how how foolish did he feel

02:33:42.740 when he had to drive back to pick his friend like he wouldn't even look at us he was just like he was

02:33:46.580 just like looking at his steering wheel like he probably felt so dumb his friend was texting him

02:33:51.060 and then he called his friend and said where are you going you're my ride um and we were like dying

02:33:57.700 and they all just ended up leaving and me and my friends we hit the movies without them

02:34:00.740 that's sad that's sad if is the fact that he lied about not having his wallet to manipulate you into

02:34:09.300 paying for everything and then have the gall here's the thing if you want to hook up with a girl on the

02:34:13.860 first date you want to go past like you know second base past that you gotta hit you gotta hit all the

02:34:19.620 marks you can't just miss all of the marks and then expect her to put out for you that's ridiculous

02:34:24.980 yeah what an idiot just take the hell at that point entertain me with the ten dollar soup chat

02:34:31.700 what's up man wow wow hi finally entertain me i now understand your username i was hoping that

02:34:38.820 you would entertain us but that's all you got bro come on dog thank you for the super chat though

02:34:45.940 uh i think we have one more video to react to

02:34:57.380 do you guys have any questions for us like oh yeah actually before the video we're going to wrap

02:35:02.500 up here in maybe 10 15 minutes fine final thought or question

02:35:06.500 if you have if you have a final thought if you have a question for us guys related to dating

02:35:14.740 or just a final thought we've asked you guys so many questions about dating there must be something

02:35:18.980 you want to hear a guy's perspective what have you always wanted to know yeah what is like a turn off

02:35:24.500 for you guys like right on the spot if she's rude to wait staff or retail staff yeah that's a good

02:35:30.820 that's a good one that's a that's pretty bad she doesn't like babies huge turn off yep doesn't want

02:35:39.300 kids yeah i actually i like it if she doesn't want kids really yeah i i don't like i don't like the

02:35:46.900 whole like strong independent woman angle i think like a lot of she says that once yeah like like my

02:35:53.060 my last girlfriend like she never wanted to have kids and like she wanted to be a career woman and all

02:35:56.820 that stuff and within like a month and a half of us dating like she completely changed her mind and

02:36:02.100 she was like basically like i want to have your babies but if a chick is like totally staunch on

02:36:07.860 that for me that's a deal breaker it's not like a red flag as much as it's just like a deal breaker

02:36:12.340 for me personally um i think i think like like extreme ego and pride like i've met a lot of like very

02:36:21.300 i've met a lot of like bitchy women that like think that they're better than everybody

02:36:25.620 i do not like that i don't like that yeah i mean i i'm gonna say like i i do quite a bit like they

02:36:32.100 usually work 50 60 hours a week um in the military have my own business and everything like and in

02:36:37.700 school part-time and like some women that i've met like started dating they're just i guess they get

02:36:43.140 like intimidated by that and they're like oh like i'm not doing all this so like project something on

02:36:47.700 that because like oh like you're doing more than me and i think that's just super weird and total

02:36:51.540 turn off for me and it's a good question it's a good question any other questions this is this

02:36:59.300 is your opportunity this is your opportunity you can think you've ever wanted to know i would say

02:37:02.660 another thing that we touched on earlier is being offended at my humor oh yeah yeah we can't laugh

02:37:07.540 together you're just gonna like and moan about how i'm like unfiltered and

02:37:11.620 and just get offended it's like all right yeah there's no room for conversation i'm always gonna

02:37:15.460 be tiptoeing around like what language you want me to speak it can't be like a social justice warrior

02:37:19.540 type oh that's offensive or whatever yeah no how dare you sack yeah exactly it's like i'm like

02:37:26.020 completely with that i'm like really sarcastic even with friends if they like they get offended

02:37:31.940 or something i just feel like i have to tiptoe around them so i hate that walking around eggshells

02:37:36.340 in the relationship is probably one of the worst things yeah to feel i guess being in one of those

02:37:40.900 relationships is usually really manipulative because you're giving someone the perception that you are

02:37:45.300 some way when you're not that way i feel like in a like in a coveted relationship where you care

02:37:50.660 about someone you want to you know hear what they really think about you know i guess like

02:37:55.620 one of my biggest fears is like having someone like portray who they want me who they like want

02:38:00.660 me to want in them yeah if that makes sense where it's like i'm always begging for just honesty and

02:38:05.380 just communication and everything so i also feel like in a relationship like that you can't fully be

02:38:11.220 yourself exactly and i think in the best relationships the other person loves you for

02:38:15.780 who you truly are they see you for who you truly are and that's what they love authenticity is a must

02:38:21.140 i oh yeah yeah oh sorry i don't want to cut you off but another thing is just it's usually brought

02:38:26.820 because of past relationships the guy will judge them or the guy will like want something that the

02:38:32.580 girl doesn't want and um it's usually the communication aspect of them tiptoeing around like what the dude

02:38:38.500 wants and not like hitting his triggers i guess um it's usually if i'm talking to someone it would

02:38:44.340 usually be like them not communicating or not giving them not giving me their true self and i just find

02:38:50.740 that really i guess in a way manipulative because disingenuous for sure disingenuous yeah disingenuine

02:38:57.940 would be a big red flag for me on your first note about getting bent out of shape over just

02:39:04.420 you saying something your humor and stuff uh i've had two experiences where i've said something in

02:39:10.260 jest and the girl got super bent up out of shape and so i'll tell you really quick one of the examples

02:39:17.460 this kind of not worst date ever but um this is 10 years ago too so this is kind of even before some of

02:39:25.220 the really politically correct stuff started coming about um second time hanging out with a girl we were at

02:39:33.060 my place we we hadn't hooked up yet but it was otherwise going really well and i did something

02:39:38.660 kind of silly or something i think i dropped a bottle or spilled something or something i'm like

02:39:43.460 i think i said um yeah i'm such a retard did she get pissed at that she got furious it was just the

02:39:52.820 whole date was washed i and it's i wasn't saying that about people that were like mentally keep in mind

02:40:01.220 this is 10 years ago right yeah so this is i mean the r word now is much more frowned upon but 10 years

02:40:08.420 ago was kind of like there was a lot more leeway there so she was on the she was trailblazing on

02:40:15.300 that one but uh but no so i said retard the whole torpedoed the whole date she got freaked out like over

02:40:23.220 the me saying calling myself a retard and i was like i mean i get it it's offensive right but it's like

02:40:29.860 like come on relax and so there's other important things to talk about yeah no but like it was

02:40:37.460 it was a wrap when i said right after that yeah it was a wrap it was done no like point of no return

02:40:43.460 and then i dated in more recent history i dated this girl uh this was probably red flag she worked

02:40:50.180 in the hr department of one of these big tech companies in santa barbara

02:40:54.100 never guys never date never again do not date women in hr because hr is the department that's

02:41:04.820 going to be oh you can't say this you can't do that bro you think they don't bring that

02:41:09.220 into relationships don't date chicks in hr human resources um and like she got so offended she got

02:41:16.980 i said something about oh i don't like women with plastic surgery

02:41:19.460 she got so far she didn't even have plastic surgery she's like yeah just i told her i was

02:41:25.860 like i don't like fake boobs like i prefer kind of more natural look she got so fucking bent out of

02:41:30.340 shape about it even though it doesn't apply to her it doesn't even apply to her that's a little weird

02:41:33.940 guaranteed she had that's just a personal preference though you know guaranteed bro it's literally her job

02:41:39.860 to police people's speech like it's like it's the worst possible profession a woman could be in if

02:41:47.060 you were dating her but i really felt like i was walking on eggshells and then i don't know i said

02:41:51.140 something else and she's like whoa and anyway so it's just so someone that's like gonna police

02:41:56.180 your speech i 100 agree with you like that's just a buzz kill like that's not fun you want to be

02:42:01.860 able to turn off it's a yeah yeah as soon as that happens it's everything else is awkward after that

02:42:07.220 you can't be yourself all right i got a question for you guys let's say a guy's really funny but he has

02:42:11.700 a very offensive sense of humor is that like a deal breaker for you guys or no like what do you

02:42:17.860 like just just like like fucked up humor you know not like like overly dark or anything but just like

02:42:23.700 politically incorrect stuff i think to an extent um like today like with the r word like i i won't get

02:42:32.420 mad but i'll be like you shouldn't say that like same with using gay in an offensive way like i'm like

02:42:37.780 you shouldn't say that because it's i don't know it's so over for us sorry it's over so over for us

02:42:46.420 what was your question chase just likes to drop the f-bomb the the other f there's a lot

02:42:54.180 i say a lot of politically i'm kidding i'm kidding i'm kidding i personally don't care because i also

02:42:59.060 could say foul shit so um based salute i mean yeah i just don't like it i'll be like oh you

02:43:09.220 shouldn't say that but i'm not gonna be like oh what the fuck like pop off or anything but that's

02:43:14.020 just your personal preference like how you want what about you two um oh i don't give a

02:43:20.260 shit if you do it you can talk like all you want i'll give you like a little slap on the wrist but

02:43:24.340 nothing is going to come of it okay politically incorrect humor i don't know i definitely there's

02:43:30.980 like certain things that like draw the line um and i'm like uh it's a little

02:43:38.020 it kind of makes me question the person if they're like seeing a lot of

02:43:43.140 like terms that they i don't know i don't think that are like should be said

02:43:46.660 um when talking about certain things um sounds like it's somewhat of a turn off but not a deal

02:43:54.180 breaker it depends i don't really think like i don't know i think it like if it's like a lot of

02:44:02.100 the time i think yeah it's kind of a deal breaker um just because i don't really want to be like be

02:44:08.260 showing that i'm with somebody who like says a lot of things like that out a lot i don't know i don't

02:44:16.980 think that's very attractive would you guys would you guys rate your humor as politically correct or

02:44:26.100 politically incorrect very politically incorrect i think i've tampered mine down because i think people

02:44:33.940 are so easily offended but generally speaking i would say politically incorrect extremely politically

02:44:41.140 incorrect sorry guys extremely yeah behind closed doors extremely politically incorrect out in public

02:44:48.660 i can tone it down yeah that's the thing if you're with your girl and you're like in closed doors

02:44:53.380 thinking like closed you know people can't like hear your guys's banter and like

02:44:56.420 up humor that's that's good but like don't be doing that out in public yeah because then it just

02:45:01.540 embarrasses like it's like sometimes me and my buddies like yeah we'll say some

02:45:06.420 up being in the military you know and then when i come back i'm like i cannot say that in public

02:45:11.300 i mean dude the military is a whole nother it's a different universe like yeah yeah i gotta check

02:45:16.980 myself what you said bra a second ago brian what what were you thinking i don't even remember

02:45:22.580 i don't even remember um so final thought or question did anyone else want to come in i know a few

02:45:28.180 of you wanted a moment to think about it last chance you have something else like ask a question

02:45:34.180 yep okay what do you guys think is your hand okay oh yeah it's okay it's just like a fidget thing i do

02:45:39.860 yeah i've been doing this right but um what do you guys think about like tattoos like i've

02:45:48.900 heard different opinions the less the better i would say the less the better as well yeah do

02:45:56.740 you know i'm not into tattoos yeah it's a red flag to the girls you have a tattoo you have you have a

02:46:04.980 pretty spine spine tattoo any tattoos i have five you have five yeah they're all right here though so i

02:46:12.740 have this one this one this one okay see that's that's the thing like like that's dainty yeah that's

02:46:17.940 different like sometimes like women will have like these huge tattoos up the middle of their

02:46:21.460 chest across their neck the tramp stamp of the 2020s yes the sternum tattoo yeah does anybody here

02:46:28.740 have a sternum tattoo okay good you can see my sternum but it's not there's no tattoo there and do you

02:46:34.500 have tattoos no no tattoos what do you guys think about tattoos on men i like them yeah you know look at

02:46:40.260 this one why is that why is that why are they so hot i think they're hot except i don't like them on

02:46:46.500 their face not on the money maker oh what love so hot yeah so what what is that though why are they

02:46:53.460 so hot i just think it looks so good on them like just it's art on their body does it kind of give

02:47:00.420 off like a bad boy vibe yeah is that i feel like that's like part of what it is like this is a guy

02:47:05.780 i think it feeds into it a little bit it's just it's just sexy in general yeah i think it is

02:47:12.020 pretty attractive so like if a guy has like huge sleeves like that's like big turn on yeah it depends

02:47:17.140 on what it is yeah i think it depends what it is because sometimes like if the tattoo is a little

02:47:22.660 just got a massive naked woman down the side of his arm yay or nay no

02:47:26.340 okay a big hot take for guys is the navel piercing what do you guys think about that

02:47:38.820 i'm not into it the navel the belly button belly button piercing

02:47:43.380 i don't really care that much it's it's kind of i'm gonna think i'm gonna think something about it

02:47:48.420 i'm gonna raise we have navel piercings i'm gonna raise a bit of an eyebrow

02:47:54.900 i i don't dislike it but i'm like and i've never i've like like every single guy i've ever talked

02:48:02.100 to they're like oh like you're so hot i'm like okay thanks yeah no it is hot i think it's hot but

02:48:09.140 you know you know but as far as tattoos go i don't mind tattoos so much um i think

02:48:16.740 it's not a deal breaker i i do think i'd i prefer no tattoos the fewer the better kind of like what

02:48:24.020 you guys said but and it's it's pretty low priority list but i do think if i had to choose i'd prefer

02:48:31.940 less or no tattoos you guys said you want no navel piercings no navel piercings i'd prefer it not why

02:48:39.380 it just looks a little trashy trashy is the word you think she it like to be honest what if it's a flower

02:48:45.460 like what if it's like a little flower thing i don't know like i'm not not my preference it

02:48:51.700 wouldn't be like a total deal breaker but it's not my preference it's just yeah i think it's hot

02:48:56.340 but i do think it also communicates something about the woman what that's a whore that's what i'm getting

02:49:00.900 at it's it says something in so many words i feel like it's just a piercing yeah yeah i mean i don't

02:49:06.500 have one but i would you guys say like a naked woman on a guy's arm says something about them there a

02:49:10.900 little bit i feel like that's totally different ball game it is a bit different yeah

02:49:23.380 i feel like i feel like the naked naked woman down the arm is like the equivalent of like a

02:49:26.900 tramp stamp on a woman's lower back yeah yeah i think if you're trying to make a comparison like

02:49:31.700 maybe like a guy with like one earring yeah that's a little i i personally like jewelry though so like

02:49:37.620 jewelry on a guy i think is cool you know what i will tell you is a deal breaker and a huge red

02:49:41.540 flag is it's your tongue piercing oh yeah oh yeah no way do you have one no i was going to get one

02:49:49.620 yeah she's like no no i mean i i'm not right now we're like pretty you said yeah you said yeah to me

02:49:56.180 it's a deal breaker no way like today absolutely not pretty conservative guys there's probably a lot

02:50:00.900 of i mean see here's the thing right is like like women who have i personally just don't want one but

02:50:06.100 most of the chicks i've met who have them are just like huge whores now granted for you you're

02:50:11.540 saving yourself for marriage so like it's kind of a different thing but like yeah like that's just

02:50:17.780 my preference i i feel like i'm probably we're probably pretty unique i don't know what about

02:50:21.700 you brian is that for tongue piercing um kind of similar it is sort of communicating something

02:50:29.780 about her a little bit so she's going to be like my my she could be totally innocent but i'm going to

02:50:37.940 think she's probably promiscuous that's going to be my my giving a lot of head yes the glock

02:50:45.620 glock or whatever you called it got back nine thousand nine thousand yeah i'm gonna i'm gonna make

02:50:51.380 some assumptions there i could be wrong but that's just going to be my knee-jerk reaction is she's

02:50:57.060 promiscuous so um i don't have some like a tongue piercing actually andrea had a tongue piercing come

02:51:07.060 you know andrea yeah she had i know her personally but i know well you know who she is yeah she had a

02:51:11.380 tongue piercing um i mean

02:51:17.700 i don't know if i'd want to introduce a woman who has a tongue piercing to my parents you know yes you

02:51:23.860 know like to hook up fine like it's not a deal breaker for me but like long-term relationship

02:51:31.140 i don't know i mean probably at least have her take it out when she meets your parents that's a

02:51:35.220 good idea probably can you take them out yeah you can take them out oh you have one i set them

02:51:40.260 not for myself i just like oh you hide it and i meet like some parents whoa it's hidden and i can

02:51:45.620 take that out too did you just put it up in your nose yeah whoa cool cool any other questions anything

02:51:54.260 else um you guys are like later 20s right i'm 22 22 22 26 the chat doesn't believe 27 27 18 no i'm

02:52:07.860 kidding 33 33 33 okay when i would say like when did you start taking like like women a little bit

02:52:17.460 more serious on like finding a relationship 18 no like when i was 18 when i've never been interested

02:52:27.700 in just casual sex and that maybe that makes me not liar but it's never been

02:52:33.220 interesting to me to for me to fuck a girl once yeah i don't know if you've heard that sir mix a

02:52:39.220 lot song baby got back there's a lyric that goes some punks like to hit hit it and quit it i'd rather

02:52:44.340 stay and play so for me i'd much rather if i'm gonna sleep with the girl i i want a continuity there

02:52:50.660 i'm gonna keep seeing her so there's definitely been girls though that i've hooked up with and they

02:52:56.820 just want something casual they want the one-time thing so there have been times where it's only been

02:53:00.900 a one-time thing but overwhelmingly yeah i want a girl has to severely fuck up for me to not want

02:53:07.700 to see her again after i've slept with her yeah so yeah but i think that makes me a bit of a

02:53:14.020 maybe a bit of an outlier i've always valued continuity in seeing a woman for a few reasons

02:53:20.100 but i don't have to get into that now yeah i mean between the ages of like 14 to 19 years old i wanted

02:53:27.620 to hook up with like as many hot girls as i possibly could and then i had a couple of like

02:53:34.740 amazing relationships where i felt like very deeply in love had an incredible connection with

02:53:39.780 the girls and i was like this is where it's at and i also had like one or two one night stands when i

02:53:44.820 was in college and just really didn't like it yeah like for me that like pair bonding process of sex

02:53:49.860 like it happens on a very deep level it's very easy for me to fall in love with a girl if i'm having

02:53:54.420 sex with her and if i don't like her and i have sex with her i just feel like disgusting yeah i just

02:53:58.820 feel disgusting afterwards i'm like why did i just do that that was terrible so yeah when i when i was 19

02:54:04.820 and then uh yeah back in 2020 that was when i got serious about marriage so yeah what about you and

02:54:11.780 for me yeah being at a really young age i got a pretty serious relationship at around 16 and i've

02:54:17.540 always been you know and that i was in that relationship for five and a half years you know

02:54:22.100 so kind of being single like for once as like an adult male was like really weird i definitely had my

02:54:28.500 mind go to other things that aren't important but i you know i just stuck with like who i was you know

02:54:33.940 and how i was raised and then i started taking women more seriously the more they've like i guess

02:54:38.660 proven myself proven to myself because that they're at least like worthy of marriage and want like

02:54:44.660 uh something more with me rather than just you know one night stand because yeah i did work

02:54:48.980 downtown state street for a little bit as a bouncer believe it or not and like just seeing how like

02:54:54.980 the nightlife is and like how yeah girls carry themselves and like how guys carry themselves it

02:54:59.940 just kind of turned me off to all of that because i saw like what people were like in the nightlife

02:55:04.740 kind of like their personality comes out they kind of get you know a little bit more

02:55:09.460 you know they don't hold themselves yeah they're a little bit more out there and it just wasn't

02:55:12.900 attractive to me so i kind of had more private life after i experienced that so i guess i've

02:55:17.300 always taken women seriously but i guess being a single male for once was definitely you know a test

02:55:23.940 and i you know hold my own a little bit um as best as i could but and then kind of getting involved

02:55:29.940 with like a real woman yeah seeing the connection i can have with a real woman definitely made me so

02:55:35.780 you know extremely glad that i've waited for her yeah you know what i mean so i guess that's when i

02:55:40.260 that's my experience personally what about you what was the question again uh when around i would say

02:55:46.900 like around what age did you start kind of taking serious or women more serious and like finding more

02:55:53.300 serious relationships than just like typical like hooking up like 23 or so i'd say

02:56:02.340 yeah that was my question i know me and tanner have had a lot of talks about like

02:56:12.740 i guess the culture in santa barbara that like yeah the way guys carry themselves it kind of just

02:56:16.900 turned us off to being guys like that yeah and whether guys you know turn that way like through bad

02:56:23.460 experiences or later in life you know that's their experience and like you know that's their path but

02:56:28.260 i guess we're you know fortunate to have like each other and guys in our circle that keep us

02:56:32.500 accountable yeah you know what i mean so yeah a lot of the problems that are happening is just because

02:56:37.940 like weak men like the whole all men is trash type thing like it's just because there's a super weak

02:56:42.420 men um yeah big i need to uh i gotta address something in the chat really quick um i'm not gonna i don't

02:56:51.940 want to name any names but guys you know we we don't moderate chat i like to i don't want to do the

02:57:01.300 whole i don't want to ban anyone um but some of the comments in the chat are getting a little bit

02:57:10.180 suspect um so can we guys come on i i don't want to have to moderate the chat but like

02:57:18.580 like some of the stuff is just it's you're you guys are talking about neo-nazi shit you guys are

02:57:24.500 doing like it's it's gonna it's not a good look guys so if we can try to tone it down a little bit

02:57:31.540 um i would appreciate it guys thank you thank you

02:57:36.820 yeah just to be even more direct uh out of respect for brian's channel because we don't want to make him

02:57:42.500 look bad please just keep the neo-nazi symbolism to a minimum thanks rose

02:57:49.540 okay didn't mean to make it awkward there didn't mean to make it awkward there

02:57:53.060 moving on you looked like you had another question you look like you're itching to ask something

02:57:57.620 i don't have anything else that's it you keep you got something yeah you're thinking of something yeah

02:58:02.260 this is like more like and for like a girl when you're i don't know how to say it like when you're

02:58:08.660 getting in bed with a girl like what is like a turn off like what this like if something she does

02:58:14.020 like what something she does so i'm probably kind of unique in this way but like i get a little bit

02:58:21.940 turned off not turned off it's gonna sound up it's also a double standard i get it i don't fully

02:58:29.460 understand my own psychology i i do get why this comes up if a girl will sleep with me on the first date

02:58:34.980 it makes me lose a bit of respect for her because it's like if you'll do it for me that means you

02:58:40.500 either really like me or you'll do that for every guy you go out with and if a girl makes me like wait

02:58:46.420 like at least a few dates you know again i'm saving myself for marriage now but in the past if a girl

02:58:51.860 made me wait a few dates it like massively increased the amount of respect that i had for her

02:58:56.500 so that's one thing for me yeah agreed i would agree with that chase yeah yeah tanner anything he

02:59:07.300 said agreed oh agreed so so the question is turn off like when we're starting to become intimate or

02:59:13.940 like yeah when like what about them like what kind of what he said that's what i was like asking for

02:59:19.220 like what do they do that's like in the bedroom yeah specifically like if you're sleeping with them

02:59:26.500 just generally and just generally yeah that's one thing um one time i took a girl out on a date

02:59:34.180 she didn't do the red flag that i was looking for but i took this girl out on a date and she was like

02:59:38.500 this like like famous fashion model and very beautiful and i thought she might have like a

02:59:44.100 princess complex right because like a lot of girls in the fashion world they think that they're like

02:59:47.860 the center of the universe and uh i i i intentionally wanted to like not go all out on this girl to see

02:59:56.180 like what kind of person she was and if she was like humble and down to earth or if she thought she

03:00:00.580 was like the center of the universe so i took her to a date for a first date to chipotle okay and then

03:00:08.020 i intentionally did not offer to pay for her meal to see how she would respond and she was like i i

03:00:14.260 thought she was gonna be like are you fucking serious like you're not gonna pay for this

03:00:18.340 she was like okay yeah cool and she like didn't care at all if she had freaked out or been like you're

03:00:23.060 gonna take me to chipotle like what that would have been like a huge turn off but she was like

03:00:28.100 super cool with it and uh yeah and i was like that's a quality woman right there well chipotle is

03:00:34.020 good so it is good i mean it's not like date material like maybe you know down the line but

03:00:39.300 like like a lot of guys want to impress a girl on the first date that they take them out on you know

03:00:44.500 so that was that would have been a turn off for sure that's my answer

03:00:48.900 gee i'm trying to think of something that would be like a turn off in the bed besides spitting

03:00:54.820 gum in your yard that's a tough one um talking about their exes on like a first date i'm just

03:01:03.220 like what the fuck's wrong with you like why are you doing that yeah and that's pretty much for any

03:01:08.980 guy in my opinion that's what i think or for anybody like yeah or if the guy's like oh my my ex was

03:01:16.740 crazy i'm like like always bringing it up yeah like out of nowhere too yeah yeah i'm like i'm so

03:01:23.140 glad you're so chill my last girl was crazy i'm like yeah no one was even like saying anything i'm

03:01:27.540 like okay just like they're comparing with their ex that often means too that they're not over them

03:01:34.820 if they're bringing it up early yeah especially like first time like date interacting with them i'm

03:01:41.140 like okay cool like wow you're gonna wait till the second date or the third you just

03:01:46.660 blurt that shit out on the first day just clearly he was so excited probably yeah if a chick isn't

03:01:53.300 enthusiastic that's that's a turn off for me like some girls like you can be in bed with them and

03:02:02.260 even the first time and they're kind of like i don't know on one hand i also it's tough because

03:02:08.020 i also don't like women who are like overly aggressive in the bedroom that's a turn off

03:02:12.820 for me if they're overly aggressive but i do like a woman who's enthusiastic like i never want to

03:02:18.980 if a girl doesn't want to enthusiastically enthusiastically sleep with me i don't want to sleep

03:02:24.740 with her like so if i have to like convince a girl like if there has to be a long-winded conversation

03:02:33.780 like i'm just not like i'm gonna try i'm gonna shoot my shot i'm gonna go for it if she's like

03:02:39.300 no i'm just i'm probably done for the night like that's a wrap yeah if you want to play this coy

03:02:45.620 if you play this coy game of no no no like and you want me to pursue like i'm not doing that

03:02:50.580 shit so one no i'm done i'm gonna get up i'm probably gonna i'm not out i won't even keep

03:02:57.140 making out with a girl like i'm done i'm just turned off because then i'm gonna get turned on

03:03:01.220 and it's just it's a wrap oh yeah so it's just like i'll say too like i've gone on dates with

03:03:09.300 girls that were like bad at making conversation like couldn't hold an interesting conversation

03:03:13.300 that's just like the most boring thing in the world to me i'll just take them home that's why i think

03:03:18.420 like dinner dates are not the best idea like i think if you guys go like to the beach or like

03:03:23.060 go swimming i don't know go do something in a group setting to see how like he or she like acts around

03:03:29.300 her yeah because like sometimes like that yeah because sometimes dinner dates just one-on-one

03:03:33.380 makes somebody like shut down and get nervous or like they hide themselves exactly that's what i was

03:03:38.580 saying earlier like true like yeah colors so you just have to see how they treat you around their friends

03:03:45.140 um yeah yeah i think it's a good idea to like have something to go do ideally that's fun yeah for

03:03:52.340 like the first couple dates like i've enjoyed like taking girls on like hikes or like to like a unique

03:03:57.060 beach spot like because then you're you're doing something and you're having an experience together

03:04:01.620 and that's like you know i think like personally one of my favorites is like mini golfing like for

03:04:06.100 a first date because like kind of competitive you guys also have something else to focus on and like

03:04:09.940 it's easier to make conversation you can make jokes about it it's like it's also a light-hearted

03:04:14.500 environment because like for the first time meeting someone if someone was like oh like do you want to

03:04:18.740 go on a hike and i haven't met them before i'd be like what the fuck like i'd just be scared so i

03:04:24.100 feel like gonna hike to a super remote area you don't know wait but where's there's not even mini

03:04:29.140 golf in santa barbara um i've done one in like the bay and then i've also done i think it's golf and

03:04:36.820 stuff and like ventura that's fucking extra i'm not doing that i taught a girl how to surf on a

03:04:45.220 first date once and that was that was awesome that's a good date but it's extra extra in the

03:04:50.740 sense of it's a lot of work well she also wanted to learn how to surf and that was i've done it i've

03:04:55.940 i've taught i've taught uh girls how to surf but man it's it's a lot of work yeah it's a lot of work

03:05:03.620 you gotta like him it's gotta be worth it you gotta she's gotta be a baddie to to teach him how

03:05:07.940 to surf i always try to take people to the beach like i it's like it's my one favorite spot because

03:05:13.540 i know a lot of people hate the water hate the sand and that's a no that's a deal breaker for me

03:05:18.420 right away if you don't like swimming no that was a deal breaker one time i would say the this one guy

03:05:24.340 that i was talking to like my my first year here in santa barbara he told me he didn't like the beach

03:05:29.700 because he didn't like how the sand felt on his feet i was like such a red flag wait okay is it

03:05:37.300 like a deal breaker if a girl like won't go in the water like she only wants to sit on the towel

03:05:42.100 like the whole time yeah like going in the ocean yeah the ocean here is honestly pretty warm because

03:05:49.300 i'm from like northern california where the water is like below freezing and like i don't think the

03:05:55.540 water here is that cold it gets pretty freaking yeah but i mean like northern california water

03:06:00.740 like you have to like wear the socks and everything else like it's like freezing i mean that's like

03:06:04.660 freezing yeah like like february here you go in it like hurts your face to be in the water yeah but

03:06:10.740 majority of the time here the water isn't really that cold like back in san diego i did night swimming

03:06:16.740 a lot too are you from there yeah okay which part uh towards del mar kind of which which which part

03:06:24.580 did you go to torrey pines uh no i went to mount carmel okay yeah i went to del norte you went to

03:06:29.460 del norte yeah yeah that was like pretty close to me and but like just like if a guy just doesn't

03:06:35.940 want to like i'm not gonna lay down in the sun and get like a heat stroke just like laying it's not

03:06:42.900 fun you have to want to do something like go into water swim i don't know i just lay there yeah

03:06:49.060 yeah yeah i i want i want a girl that can like keep up with me you know like i like to go in the

03:06:54.420 water go surfing go hikes go running like go on adventures and like i've had i've had girlfriends

03:07:00.820 where like if it like got too cold they were like start throwing a fit or like wouldn't want to go in

03:07:05.940 the ocean throw a fit and it's like ah let's go do stuff together you know emmy anything did you want

03:07:12.660 to come in on anything um there's someone in the chat saying they want to hear from you um about

03:07:22.020 the i'm the i'm the i'm the bitch who lays on the towel i don't know how to swim so i'm i'm on the

03:07:27.060 beach i'm on the sand i'm not in the water you don't know how to swim no did you say i'm the bitch on

03:07:32.500 the towel yeah i'm that bitch yeah i am that bitch okay uh so i want to open up to chase i know you had

03:07:41.380 some questions you wanted to ask i mean i had one question i wanted to ask and you shot that

03:07:48.020 shit down bro but if you're open to it i am down to ask you remember what it was it is your final

03:07:54.580 thought or question so go for it out of curiosity would anybody on the panel be interested in dating

03:08:04.740 a trans person is that a deal breaker um are you interested only in biological men i'm i'm i'm just

03:08:21.380 gonna say i wouldn't date a trans person just because just because i am like attracted to like

03:08:26.740 manly men and i i feel like well i don't want to oh i don't want to get like it's okay it's okay

03:08:32.500 you know you're fine i would say that probably 99 of people at least feel the same way yeah no i i

03:08:40.660 think so too i just i don't know that's scary to say it shouldn't be it's a weird world we live in

03:08:47.060 i think i agree i think as long as someone's up front about who they are and like allow me to

03:08:56.660 decide like i don't want to be like blindsided later on because i think like sexual identity

03:09:02.020 is already a difficult thing for a lot of people and like it can confuse someone i think at a young

03:09:06.820 age like if you're like oh like i'm attracted to this person they not really say they are type of

03:09:12.900 thing um so i'd probably say no okay i wouldn't either like it's not like i like i'm hating or

03:09:20.580 anything like i respect them as like who they want to be but i just personally wouldn't can't like

03:09:26.980 wouldn't be comfortable with it yeah i don't i don't think that i would either like totally up to

03:09:33.620 you to decide what you want to you know with your own body and your own preference but i don't think

03:09:39.460 that i would be with somebody that was cool no no no wouldn't no same no absolutely not i would not

03:09:56.100 no why why are you looking at me that way i'm just trying but it could just be also because like i'm

03:10:03.780 like 100 straight like maybe the answer would maybe like those answers could be different with

03:10:10.900 somebody maybe who is bi i'm not sure but i'm very straight so that's just mildly straight yeah very

03:10:20.980 straight your gears look turning off so what's on your mind no nothing's turning no nothing no

03:10:30.500 okay moving on yeah thanks for the answers that that was what i expected to hear from everybody

03:10:37.460 but i was just curious to hear how people would put it good times we're gonna do one more video one more

03:10:43.540 video uh we're gonna do uh do we the who pays i mean we've kind of wait i thought there was uh scroll

03:10:55.940 back up eric i thought i added four wait hold on did i um i don't know maybe we should wrap up do you

03:11:13.060 guys want thoughts chat closing one more video one one or two more video or honestly i haven't

03:11:23.140 heard kiki say anything kiki's been silent i think she's shy like brian said it will i know

03:11:30.900 that's kiki by the way okay so trying to think what was my last thing here that i wanted to uh

03:11:38.260 discuss it was i don't know all i all i know the only thing that comes up for me i want to say

03:11:43.860 respect to you as a christian for saving yourself for your husband wait but that's final thought

03:11:50.420 what what's what's the hang-up bro oh well just offering final thoughts

03:11:57.380 she said she wants to save herself she's had sex yeah but after yeah yeah so oh but i'm saving myself

03:12:02.900 from my wife okay i see i see and then to you i hope that you find a guy who changes your mind

03:12:08.900 on men and just you ever really help the relationship with thank you for all you guys in general too

03:12:15.460 what'd you say for all you guys in general yeah you know yeah obviously i want all of you guys to

03:12:19.140 find the men that you're looking for i hope emmy finds a zach facsimile yeah that is that is similar

03:12:27.140 we need to find a straight-up tank for emmy who do we know do we know anyone chase um

03:12:34.260 i know a few dudes that are tanks are you are you on the prowl most of them have girlfriends

03:12:39.380 and he's like yes i want my tank i want my m1 abrams set me up hit my line and i hope you find

03:12:47.780 your seven foot giant i never said

03:12:52.820 you didn't have to say it we knew by the way last chance guys if you have any last

03:12:56.980 minute questions get your super chats and we do have any questions for us like any other

03:13:01.140 anything else did we did we do the we did body i mean i i could ask questions all night yeah same

03:13:07.540 here but um we do have one here five dollar soup chat that just came in we'll do it just because why

03:13:13.540 not uh what do women think about their boyfriend not wanting them to go to clubs with their friends

03:13:19.220 uh so would you guys have an issue if your boyfriend said hey don't go to the bars don't go to the

03:13:26.340 clubs i don't want you to go to bars and clubs or parties yeah that's controlling red flag yeah

03:13:32.500 red flag i would let them if you have trust in them then you shouldn't be worried about them going

03:13:37.620 to a club no no he has an issue with you going to the club yes um yeah that's a red flag

03:13:43.060 jordan that is your name right yeah okay i finally got i've gotten it correct three hours later um

03:13:56.180 yeah i feel like if there's no trust there then that is like a red flag you should be able to

03:14:02.820 go out with your friends at least every once in a while not saying like every weekend i need to go

03:14:09.540 out with the girls to go to the bar or the club or whatever but how often do you guys go out would

03:14:16.740 you say every weekend thursday through sunday really yeah every week yeah wait hold on i got okay i got

03:14:23.300 looking for that tank i'm totally looking every night so you were in a two-year relationship that

03:14:31.060 ended the month ago yeah were you going out sunday through or sorry thursday through sunday when you

03:14:37.540 were with your boyfriend i was going out with well he broke up with me technically two days after i

03:14:46.900 got here after i moved here bro she was hanging out with her co-worker thursday through sunday

03:14:54.020 well what about back home back home i only went out with him i didn't go out with anyone else okay

03:14:59.860 well besides my co-worker yeah so how often do you guys go out wait you and your co-worker would like

03:15:04.180 go out together no not one-on-one okay but like in a group is he a tank um a little smaller than my

03:15:11.220 than my ex but he was oh jesus still somewhat of a tank though a little all right okay she was

03:15:18.900 eyeballing she's monkey branching for sure i was a monkey branch swinging on over to the next guy

03:15:24.900 um i can see what happened in a different world would you date your co-worker

03:15:28.820 under different circumstances yeah we actually we talked about that yeah yeah yeah there it is

03:15:39.700 and thus ends a two-year relationship okay so all of y'all would have an issue with

03:15:46.980 your guy saying hey i don't want you to go bars and clubs anymore yeah yeah okay guys over here at the

03:15:53.140 table would you have an issue with your girl serious girlfriend going to bars and clubs parties

03:16:01.460 regularly absolutely yeah i would not be dating a woman that was constantly going to bars and clubs

03:16:08.100 did i don't go out regularly though yeah i think there's a big difference between like

03:16:12.180 regularly and just like sometimes like a special occasion maybe like a special occasion different

03:16:17.780 that's yeah i think that's okay regularly throwing on tiny dresses and going out to clubs

03:16:22.660 what about once a week yeah no yeah but like there's definitely girls that they still want to do that

03:16:30.020 shit but they got a boyfriend on the regular like weekly well is she like purpose well yeah i guess

03:16:37.380 that's especially if they're young like in college yeah and it's also weird if it's like

03:16:42.500 like not an invite thing because i feel like at this stage it's like if he people are going out

03:16:47.620 and stuff like why do you have to go out separately like why don't you go together yeah it's a red flag

03:16:54.020 if you're going out by yourself without your significant other i'll give i'll give my take on this so

03:17:00.980 i don't drink much i don't really party i don't go to bars i don't go to clubs so just on that metric

03:17:08.260 alone i don't want to i don't want to date a woman that also does that stuff because it's just like a

03:17:13.860 a mismatch in terms of commonality but the other thing is is it's just different for men and women

03:17:21.860 going out absolutely it's a different experience so i would have a major i'll hook up with a girl

03:17:29.780 that's going to bars and clubs but the moment she says i want something serious one it might not even

03:17:35.220 get to that point if she's like going out to bars and clubs and stuff partying regularly

03:17:40.900 so if a girl says to me brian i want i want to be monogamous with you i'm gonna say okay here you

03:17:47.780 can't go to bars and clubs anymore that's my condition for you getting my commitment

03:17:54.260 you want me as your boyfriend here are my terms so because it for me it's an issue

03:18:00.340 is it an issue because you're concerned that she's looking for other attention or that she's

03:18:06.980 going to get other attention even if she isn't looking for it what's the issue there what's the

03:18:12.020 red flag it's a couple things so she could be totally loyal and have no she could have no intention of

03:18:23.060 hooking up with some other dude while she's at the bar club but the fact of the matter is when you

03:18:27.540 introduce alcohol into situations you introduce her single friends single friends are like pretty

03:18:34.020 much the worst thing for a relationship by the way um you know you just had an argument there's

03:18:43.300 another hot guy like it's just a recipe for infidelity so i don't want to date a woman that puts

03:18:49.700 our relationship at risk and going to bars clubs and parties in my view puts your relationship at risk

03:19:01.060 so i would agree with that by the way by the way i just want to add it's it's not about me controlling

03:19:07.220 the girl you can do whatever you want we're just not gonna we're not going to be in a relationship

03:19:13.380 anymore yeah and i think a lot of guys will like just stay silent not be okay with it and it's kind of

03:19:18.420 like a check in the box for her it's like oh she likes going out with her friends yeah and then

03:19:22.420 also kind of swallow sadness yeah i guess a lot of guys do that now they don't communicate with

03:19:26.260 their girlfriends yeah and also with my experiences downtown like everyone's single in there it doesn't

03:19:31.700 matter and i've seen like like just terrible shit guys will like do to girls when they're just like

03:19:36.180 alone with their friends or they'll get approached it's a recipe for disaster for a girl in a committed

03:19:40.420 relationship so i would say it's a huge red flag and probably in a committed relationship it's not okay

03:19:44.340 with me yeah i mean i'm sure you guys have had heard stories of people cheating like

03:19:50.820 it's more often than not i mean there's alcohol involved it happens oh it was an accident it was

03:19:55.940 a mistake alcohol's involved you're in a party environment so it's just if you're doing that

03:20:02.660 you're putting your i think you're putting your relationship at risk so also it's just different

03:20:09.060 between men and women um as men if we go to a bar or nightclub we're going to stand there the whole

03:20:14.740 night alone if we go out alone for example as a girl if you go to a bar club alone or a party dudes

03:20:21.300 are going to be talking to you dudes are going to be coming up hitting hitting you up trying to buy

03:20:24.980 you drinks whatever it may be as a guy you can just go to a party you can talk to nobody the entire

03:20:32.020 night ain't nobody coming and talk to you so it's kind of a different thing men and women we flirt in

03:20:38.180 different ways women the way you get the way you guys get men is by showing up men we have to

03:20:45.460 proactively go out and approach like we have to go out and do the approach or whatever so yeah

03:20:55.540 girls cut you can come in on this no that makes sense like i think i would be

03:21:01.540 upset if like my significant other was like no you can't go out but i also don't go out regularly

03:21:08.580 so i'd be like okay well like the one time i do want to go out to like celebrate or like go and

03:21:12.420 dance with my friends like you're gonna tell me no what the fuck but i think like it's different if

03:21:16.100 they're going out regularly like i wouldn't want my partner to do that either so yeah i understand that

03:21:22.420 if he says i can't go out then he can't fucking go out either that's how i feel about it i never go

03:21:27.540 out like like with my like with my ex i agree with that yeah yeah with my ex like you can't go out but

03:21:33.780 he goes out partying all the time it's like yo what's yeah that's like that's weird like my ex

03:21:37.780 threw a party and didn't invite me and then the one time i went out with one of my friends he was

03:21:42.500 pissed and did not talk to me for the whole night that's ridiculous yeah i would say it is still

03:21:48.020 even though i don't go out i think it's still different between men and women

03:21:55.060 do you guys all go out you said you don't go out that often not very often no i started to when i

03:22:01.060 came here but like i do stay in sometimes so i just get drained but like right but i go with

03:22:07.140 my girl right here so okay what about you jordan do you go out it's either saturday or thursday

03:22:16.260 depends how much school work and work actual work that i'm doing um but like you go out somewhat

03:22:22.820 regularly somewhat okay yeah are you guys going out to bars clubs parties where are you guys going

03:22:29.620 out i'm either drinking at my house because i like making mixed drinks i like making my friends

03:22:36.900 drink alone no you're talking about talking about going but going out it's state street yeah so the

03:22:43.540 clubs and stuff where do you go out okay so it depends like back in san diego maybe like um once

03:22:53.140 a week or something we would go to a club but since i came here we just go to like the parties

03:22:58.740 that are like down in dp but that's about it yeah okay if i go out it's usually clubs okay what about

03:23:06.100 you and me just parties okay when you guys go out how often do you guys get hit on by guys is it

03:23:12.020 like every time 50 of the time i never but she does all the all the time she you never get that

03:23:17.780 on i know i don't i don't well also like well i don't know or is it just not by the tanks that you

03:23:23.140 want to know by no one by no one okay no you don't get hit on no you know what though i think at times

03:23:28.740 are changing like men are scared to go up to women yeah there is that there is that it's like men are also

03:23:35.460 with dating apps like they don't have to like in the past like if you wanted a girl and you didn't have

03:23:40.900 a girl you had to do it in person but now with social media and dating apps so like

03:23:47.140 men can a lot of men can get by just doing the app thing it sucks on the apps but they can

03:23:51.940 still get women that way so meddlin bones said he doesn't believe you emmy he believes that you

03:23:56.820 get hit on when you go out i maybe i'm just too drunk but i don't i don't okay how often do you get

03:24:03.940 hit on when you go out uh pretty frequently okay like 70 of the time every time a couple times a

03:24:10.900 night uh i would say like at least every time okay almost at least every time my roommates are there

03:24:18.660 just like recording too like okay i'd say pretty frequently almost every time i go out it's funny

03:24:25.140 because when when as guys when we go out it's like not very common for us to get hit on by a girl

03:24:31.060 unless like you know you go out and there's like some thirsty girl and she's like throwing herself

03:24:35.060 at you it's like pretty pretty rare wouldn't you guys say decently super super rare i'm 33 i've i've

03:24:45.380 been hit on like out and about maybe twice two times you guys have probably been that's how much times

03:24:55.460 you guys have been hit on in a night but you also never go out so when i was younger i went out okay

03:25:03.940 a little bit even then though i was not a huge fan of it and i was never a big drinker ever but um

03:25:10.740 yeah i mean but even just like slack girls sliding into my dms like even that like girls really aren't

03:25:18.420 initiating like that how often do guys slide into your guys dms oh a shit ton like what's that how like

03:25:24.420 like a like a shit ton like once a day and you go like multiple times a day how many followers do

03:25:30.740 you have dude she only you only have like three photos on your instagram yeah how many followers

03:25:34.500 do you have only 1400 okay and you're every day yeah how many because i'm on tinder that's why oh and

03:25:40.660 you have your instagram yeah yeah yeah multiple times a day you connected to tinder too are these just

03:25:48.500 like followers you already had uh like mixable but okay multiple times a day mostly from like

03:25:55.860 tiktok too so do you have a big tiktok following um i have like a decent what's your tiktok shout out

03:26:02.900 let's get you some followers how many how many tiktok followers do you have um i have 36k me too yeah

03:26:09.700 omg what are you guys twins damn that's impressive that is impressive for me i can be funny sometimes

03:26:16.980 are you doing the dances really no i i'm so bad at dancing yeah i don't do the dances like i did like

03:26:23.300 cheer but i just can't do tiktok dances i look like i'm just tall i just look weird just throwing my

03:26:28.020 limbs around but i just like post like relatable content or like just i could be funny you know

03:26:36.260 i had a bigger following but then i like couldn't decide on like what content i wanted because i started

03:26:41.300 off with like finding like super cool spots like in my hometown that like no one knew about and then

03:26:48.020 it kind of went to changing to okay forget the tiktok how often are dudes sliding into that's what i

03:26:54.420 wanted to know that's right it's been such a long day um i would say it's only like i would say it's

03:27:03.700 pretty rare just because i don't know i don't really post that much and it's only people i really

03:27:11.700 know it doesn't happen on tiktok that often i i stopped really posting on there either i've kind

03:27:16.900 of i like don't really like go on social media as much these days well that'll do it gotta be in front

03:27:24.340 of people for people to slide in question for you guys though do you like when girls are forward like

03:27:29.060 if they sign gms or like i know like i've had friends who've like written their name and number

03:27:33.860 on a receipt and like given it to like their waiter or like the guy working the cash register do you

03:27:38.820 find that attractive when a girl is forward or are you guys like turned off by it zach do you want to

03:27:43.780 start off i would say that's attractive okay yeah definitely say that's attractive for sure it's not

03:27:48.900 that it's necessarily attractive to me like i wouldn't be more attracted to a girl if she did that

03:27:53.460 that thank you i wouldn't be more attracted to a girl if she did that but like that is a huge

03:28:00.100 green flag for like a successful relationship because the the best relationships i've had

03:28:05.140 were ones where the girl made a move on me first um i don't know why that is but it's just like a

03:28:10.340 pattern i've noticed so it's not like it's more attractive but when it happens and i'm interested in

03:28:16.500 the girl it's like yo we're probably going to do really well you know what i mean okay yeah

03:28:20.340 i like it when women uh initiate like that i think as far as it being i don't know if it's so

03:28:30.020 much like it's not i don't think it makes a girl more attractive but like do i genuinely super

03:28:36.020 appreciate it 100 100 100 um i also think women should shoot their shots more often oh for sure yeah

03:28:43.460 they don't sadly yeah rare it's rare what what's the case i don't shoot my jaw i don't either yeah

03:28:51.940 we can ask them like have you guys have you guys ever i've done it approached a guy or like slid into a

03:28:58.980 dude's dm wait go ahead actually like i like just with i've done it once and were you successful i was

03:29:11.140 but 100 success rate success rate very impressive so i've done it once and it was successful but it's

03:29:19.220 just like i i don't know i like it when a guy does it too because i don't know it's much yeah i'd say

03:29:26.580 i'd say women prefer being initiated upon you want to feel desired and pursued yes yeah it's pretty

03:29:35.620 traditional i think men are starved for feeling wanted oh yeah by their partner it's a big thing

03:29:43.540 like how men are not complimented they're not approached they're not hit on they're not made

03:29:49.460 to feel even sexually desired a lot of the time so yeah i think if you i would say to women if you do

03:29:58.420 whether it's just initiating you know you're approaching him or even on the sexual front like

03:30:06.020 i think guys will really remember that like if you hit on a guy be it in person or something he will

03:30:14.740 probably remember that shit for the rest of his life you probably can't even remember half the dudes who

03:30:20.340 have tried to hit on you you know so it'll make like a really big impact on on a guy i think so

03:30:26.820 yeah yeah i'll say to you on that note like one of my first girlfriends was very good at like

03:30:33.620 expressing her desire for me it felt so good it made the relationship so good and i think that's

03:30:40.180 a lot of things that women are like reluctant to do for any number of reasons sometimes it's because

03:30:45.460 they just don't have a tremendous amount of desire for the guy but like if a woman does have a lot of

03:30:49.700 desire for the guy like you should totally you guys should totally act on that because yeah he's he's

03:30:54.740 right like like a lot of guys don't even like you know really good looking guys like

03:31:01.540 we don't often feel as desired as we are when we're in relationships and it feels very good to receive

03:31:07.140 that so facts yeah so emmy like what was the time that you hit on a guy if ever ever i shoot my shot

03:31:16.180 by looking at them you look and i hope that they come up to me all right it's classic all women

03:31:22.980 so okay you see you see your ideal tank of a man

03:31:28.580 you're just gonna look you're not gonna go up to him you're gonna make an exception right um if it's

03:31:34.740 yeah i would what would you do um okay do it to zach how would you how would you sorry i don't mean

03:31:43.460 i don't have to put you on the spot like that zach's so ready i feel like i feel like if i saw

03:31:47.700 like my ideal type i would see them in the gym so i would go i'm there oh shit you'd approach in

03:31:52.580 the gym yeah okay that takes i would go up to them and just be like oh hey like what are you hitting

03:31:56.580 today like can i work in with you what are you hitting today and he responds if he goes you

03:32:01.940 what do you say i will i will take him with me she's like okay you'll fuck right there on the

03:32:09.620 lifting on the bench yeah since you put it that way if i saw like a dude that's like my like person

03:32:16.900 that i want i would approach them like you know it's like somebody like you desire something what

03:32:23.380 do you say well okay what's your demo let's see it what do you say quick he's walking quick i just

03:32:30.260 go up to him and i just start i make a small conversation maybe if i like their outfit i'll

03:32:35.220 say something about like their clothes or like if their haircut is cute i don't know let's just like

03:32:40.500 something about them that's all oh that'll stick with a man too you compliment his haircut yeah like

03:32:45.860 a haircut i know they like that so boom yeah she's got game she's got game uh let's do the last

03:32:53.220 minute vid do we want to do a video it's getting late what is it what is the video it's like i don't

03:32:59.060 think it's gonna be that skip it i don't think it's gonna well maybe for another another time we're

03:33:04.180 we're running late here um okay so i think that's it we're all caught up on super chats um i'm gonna

03:33:10.180 wrap up here last chance any closing thoughts anything guys any closing questions cool i'm all right

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Whatever Podcast - February 03, 2023

Dating Talk #24

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