Dating Talk #81
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In this episode of Whatever Dating Talk, we have a special guest on the show! We are joined by our co-host, Kiki, and we talk about all things dating and relationships. This episode is brought to you live from Santa Barbara, CA where we are streaming live every sunday at 7pm pacific.
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can't catch the full shows anyways without further ado we're going to have the guests introduce
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themselves so uh please tell us your name age occupation and also where you're from go ahead
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my name is dion i'm 19 i am an entrepreneur and i work at a truck and equipment shop and i'm from
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red bluff norcal did you say your age 19 19 19 okay welcome thank you i'm nikki uh i'm 19 and i'm from
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la i work at a warehouse hi i'm sophia i'm 18 and i'm in school and i live at bakersfield
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sorry to hear that okay what about you my name is tiffany i'm 26 i'm from la and i'm in customer service
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okay hi uh my name is taylor i'm 27 and i work in marketing i'm from la i hope i covered all the
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faces hi my name is kat i'm 24 and i'm from fresno california
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hi i'm gabby i'm 28 i'm a tech recruiter and i'm from la hi i was gonna say i forgot to say i'm a student
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also go ahead hi hi i'm yuki i'm a student at uc berkeley and i'm majoring in physics and math
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age oh i'm 22 22 okay sweet all right and then uh we're gonna go around the table once more so what
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is your current relationship status are you single do you have a friends with benefits talking stage
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situationship relationship and also uh what's your longest relationship or well what what's the longest
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relationship you've ever had and if you are single how long have you been single go ahead i am single
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and um my longest relationship was three years and i've been single for eight months eight months okay
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um i'm currently taken um my longest relationship is just four months
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is that your current relationship uh no it's three your current relationship is three months but
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your longest is four okay what about you i'm single and my longest relationship was one year
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and i've been single for like a couple days a couple days
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uh okay um a couple days yeah so like three days ago you got dumped or what's the situation
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why did he dump you i mean he took me here so like we're like friends
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hold on what you guys wait so was this the one year relationship yeah so your longest relationship
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which was one year ended three days ago but he drove you from bakersfield to here yeah um but you
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guys just broke up we're like it's not like a breakup like we're friends you know like we're really close
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you just said you're single though yeah i mean he told me to say that he he forced you is this like no
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no no uh is this like a pimp blink twice if you're under duress yeah blink twice what's that symbol or
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whatever that the girls do i thought it was it was like in the hand was it not a green finger situation
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oh no yeah is there something you want to tell us sophia what you got going on in this hand right here
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i'm sorry that's what the fuck wait what show that what you have a tattoo on your hand it's a white ink
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yeah it's a white ink tattoo doesn't that like fuck up the sensitivity of your
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hand if you get a tattoo because there's a lot of nerve end anyways no you can you can feel it
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okay i felt it good times rock and roll um so your boyfriend who just dumped was it a mutual thing or
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did you yeah it was a mutual mutual it wasn't really somebody initiated that well it can be
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mutual yeah it was like mutual like we're not necessarily like you know how um breakups are
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because we were like really close we're always with each other and so like now we're just like not
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with the title and we're just like you know we're like just using this to get better and grow
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and like see if something is still there i guess so you're on a break
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because you said you're single yeah i mean he said that i'm single so like he said that you're
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single yeah what what do you think you are um are you still in a relationship
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no but like i'm single so would he drive you to a date no because i wouldn't go on a date yeah but
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you're single so it's plausible that at some point you're going to go on a date with someone new
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you said he drove you here would he drive you to go on a date would you say that you're figuring it
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out i think that he told her to say she's single so he can drop her off and go hook up with another
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girl it's possible because what else would be the reason for that that makes no sense no in my
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opinion no does he know any chicks in isla vista no does he watch the show no he's going and getting
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mango frapped by the beach and he better get me some because those are so good and he's going to
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do that alone he's going to the hotel no because um his cousin and my friend his cousin's girlfriend
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like we're all you know friends and they're coming so do you trust your friend group to like rat on him
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if he starts talking to a chick he's not going to do that how do you know but you guys are broken up
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you guys are both single so so so would you be upset if he hooked up with it's just like
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after like what three days do people just feel the need to go and fuck someone or something not
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not necessarily some people do some some might that situation just sounds like unhealthy and weird
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like a situation ship like i i wouldn't be happy doing that i would never do that um but thank you
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gator we all have our own yeah experiences yeah i mean it's uh typically i mean i think the best way
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to proceed with the breakup is like there needs to be a period of like you're not in contact with them
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so i mean you've you're still hanging out with them yeah you have to set some boundaries you can't just go
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from a year in a relationship to being single but still driving around together like what is that
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are you i'll play devil's advocate three days is really hard to figure out everything separating
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all your stuff i don't know if you guys live together yeah yeah you guys live together you
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gotta separate all your shit you gotta i mean it's not even to that point like didn't you guys talk
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about it like plus you don't know if you're getting back together so then what if you separate all your
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stuff and then you decide oh it's not like a breakup breakup it's like just like separation just a
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little separation that's a breakup just like you guys are done no it's not you don't have to be like
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permanently done my boyfriend told me to come on here and say i'm single i would be hold on closer
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to the mic please go ahead i know if my boyfriend told me to come on here and say i'm single i would
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be super hurt i'd be like excuse me why are you like why do i have to say i'm single well i asked him
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like do you want me to say i'm in a relationship or am i single and he just like was like you choose
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and then he dropped me off and he was just like you can say you're single but you got okay just to
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clarify you guys did have a breakup conversation essentially correct barely barely haven't talked
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like no it's like it was weird um from his point of view he just like
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wants like a little separation and like just like to grow like you know to work that's what he said
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to grow yeah he's gonna be growing with another chick yeah i'm sorry i have bad news for you when i
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told my boyfriend i wanted a separation that was the end of it for good because i was just too
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scared to say like you know i don't know if we can like totally judge her entire situation yeah we
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won't nitpick it too much like 20 20 seconds of meeting you but okay question when did the semi sort
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of breakup conversation happen it was a couple days ago you said yeah do you know what day it was
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was it monday um wait today's tuesday was it it was like i think in the weekend because i was
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saturday on the phone with my friend and was it saturday yeah he was mad okay question so you guys
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had the sort of breakup on saturday between saturday and today tuesday have you guys hooked up no
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no hooking up okay we don't really have sex huh we don't like have sex we don't even even you don't
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do the sex okay what wait even in your relationship you guys didn't have no we have
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oh um since you've broken up you mean no oh just in the past six months it's been a dead bedroom
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yeah kind of i mean why is that we're not super sexually active why is that
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i don't know because you don't want it he doesn't want it you don't have high libido
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you don't have high libido so he's kind of he wants it but you're kind of like not in the mood
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type of shit no sometimes but like not even that i'm not in the type of mood okay but like i don't
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know it's just like our relationship isn't based on sex holy shit oh audio um eric can you just
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is it low oh that's weird that came through super low uh yo swordless thank you for the 50 gifted subs
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on twitch you're a fucking legend dude thank you man um so okay it's been a it was a dead bedroom
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for six months you said i don't want to put words in your mouth that i said six months but
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i mean kinda okay good times yeah that's always fun yeah all right uh well we can come back to that
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uh what about you what's your uh relationship ish i am single very single and um very single very
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single like nothing going on zero a lot of fun um yeah my last relationship was seven months ago we
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were together for two and a half years i think in some of your uh pre-show communications you sent with
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us you said you've you said you've been celibate for seven months yeah since the relationship okay
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so you're very single very yeah very single so there's since your 2.5 year was it yeah relationship
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ended nothing okay why did he dump you um his dad told him he'd get him an apartment out here basically
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so he chose an apartment out in santa barbara instead of our relationship
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oh so he lives here and you live in la yeah well we moved to la together and then we were gonna
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move back here together but his dad didn't like me why is that well i his today's his birthday too so
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happy birthday um america happy birthday america and um what no his it was a weird situation his mom
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died so like the dad didn't like me and it was just a very touchy situation you know so i don't know
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it was just not not a good situation okay it's in your notes here skateboarder dude dumps you out
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of the blue one month later calls you begging to have you back did you take him back no no did not
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do that i told him to have a nice life okay so there's no no nothing coming back i mean
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question for the panel like for the all the girls have you ever had a guy and things or break up with
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you and then within within a couple days or a couple weeks he's hitting you up like i'm babe i
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missed you i made the mistake like has that ever happened to anybody here no nobody sometimes you
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okay um got it okay well we'll continue on what about you or actually wait someone said
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no no okay go ahead what about you okay uh my status like yeah relationship status okay yes yes
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okay so i'm single um and my longest relationship was four years um we lived together and then i've
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been single for damn i lost count probably like two ish years maybe about i'll say sure okay
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and just going back to you so you're saying you're very single so that there's in that
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there's nothing nothing nothing going on dates any dates a couple dates i went on one but i was
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with this guy that i've known since high school um so it was just like we kind of like we never did
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anything we like made out and like hung out and that was it and in high school we haven't done
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anything since then took me out on a date it was nice he hasn't i don't know he just doesn't show
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very much um he doesn't show like it's like he's very interested so i'm just gonna let it be
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oh so this was recently this was kind of recently yeah how recent like a month and a half ago two
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months ago and you haven't heard from him and i mean i've said you went on one date correct yeah
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we like went out to like a mexican restaurant you know something something simple you know nothing
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crazy nothing crazy got some tacos or something exactly nice conversation what about you
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sorry um so i'm it's it's complicated and i don't really feel like expanding on that but my last
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relationship was just shy of five years so complicated but single i'm not look i'm not
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looking for anything but i guess you could say single if you need to put a label on it so but you said
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your longest relationship was five years just shy of five years what um why don't you want to expand
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on why it's complicated just i don't feel like my whole personal life needs to be displayed for a
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bunch of people to watch didn't you request to come on a dating podcast well just because i want to be
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on a dating podcast i can talk about the dating topics but not to expand on my personal life okay
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so just like you don't share your body count ever well i didn't ask for your body count i just asked
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for your relationship but i'm saying there's certain things that you kind of don't want to share
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or that you wouldn't want to share in front of a bunch of people i feel like there's just
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levels of privacy that i'd like to keep okay i'll take a couple guesses nikki i think it sounded
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like you maybe wanted to come in you it sounded like you had a question maybe yeah go for it so you
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still have feelings for him like are you guys still in contact or are you still is it still
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more of a touchy subject that you don't want me to ask questions about we co-parent a dog together
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what kind of dog he's uh what it it's okay so he's an 18 year old blind apple head chihuahua
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that doesn't have any teeth girl what and you can't just thank you for the 10 gifted gator
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because the dog it's and then that's a like a tumultuous
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oh look seven deadly sins donated 100 dogs oh no no seven seven seven seven seven seven seven seven
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seven seven seven seven seven seven it's been happening a lot recently seven seven i can name
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ten bucks i don't think it's seventy seven six trillion seven hundred and seventy seven
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seven hundred and seventy seven seven hundred and seventy seven hundred and seventy seven thousand
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seven hundred and seventy seven while you guys are at it just a reminder if you want to do tts
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okay so it's complicated you're co-parenting a dog yes did you did you both buy the dog together
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no it was your dog no his dog more his dog than my dog who paid for the dog no one that was it
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it was adopted he was found found dog he was he was really um he had a really hard life before he
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came into our hands and our care word okay so can i just make up a story for you you say it's
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complicated you are in a polycule no you're in a polycule there's like seven dudes and like three
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chicks in the polycule it's a it's it's it's very complicated did i did i get that right
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no okay fair enough all right gabby just a little to the left on that one gabby what about you um
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it's also complicated um my longest relationships um my last one was three years and the one
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that i just got out of still sort of am in it is almost going to be three years in september this
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year wait so hold on just you said complicated but the current one wait so i the the
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relationship that i'm not in at the moment but i'm still in contact with my ex uh i broke up with
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him in january oh fuck sorry wrong way that's okay i broke up with him in january dated some other guys
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got back together with him we've been together i broke up with him at the beginning of june
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and we're still in contact if we're gonna get back together it's on me wait so you broke up in june
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yeah so why do you get back with him i love him but there's like really shitty circumstances that i
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have to put up with he's not gonna change move on so like what like what's like the thing that keeps
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ending the relationship like what's like okay yeah this is not it he lives with his mom a little
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closer to the mic please excuse me sorry i have a little throat thing um he lives with his it's not
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and it's not contagious he lives with his mom and it's it's not a big deal but he won't come over to
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my apartment and i initially got back together with him because he would compromise with me to come to
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my apartment but he hasn't but he's a great person just been the deal breaker like the whole time like
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there's nothing to it like there's no pet peeve there's like there's a few other things but for
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the most part like 80 of like what i would see in like a person who i want to marry like he has but
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the circumstances for like the next year because he said that he won't move in with me until august of
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next year are just going to be kind of the same so like what are the standards of the person that
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you want to marry um i mean i'm i'm attracted to him i enjoy his company he has a good job i have a
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good job i can see us like growing together as like parents and getting married um so i see a future
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with him for sure and i spend most of my time with him he just lives with his mom right now and she
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doesn't like me and i don't like going over there why doesn't his mom like you um very early on in
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our relationship she used to talk about his ex-girlfriend a lot and i told him to tell her to
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not do that and then one day we were having lunch and she was showing me like her facebook profile and
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i texted him like hey um your mom was showing you yeah i was like why do you just be like oh well like
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i'm not like comfortable like in a nice way you could have put it i texted him like hey your mom's
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doing this right now he took a screenshot and sent it to his mom why would he do that while i was with
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her and so i was just like okay this is bad so then the mom was like you never come between
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a mother and her son so yeah but then she can have him she's in a relationship where i hope you
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realize that looks bad i don't talk to her because you're in front of her you're texting your
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boyfriend on how you feel about her right in front of her because we had talked and then he's going
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to send her a screenshot on his part that's kind of like okay that's kind of little but why don't
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you just look up and just be like hey i'm not comfortable with that why don't you address the
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feelings that you already feel like why do you just turn around and hide behind your boyfriend
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like well she got mad about it and then after that she just never liked me well i feel like you were
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trying to like make peace with the mom i thought just like maybe like him talking to her like about
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it it would just die down but she just it it escalated even more because it's it's something
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that you have to address with her because you have a problem with her we did not him have a problem
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it just never worked after well she never liked me but you brought that upon yourself though that's
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what i'm trying to tell you yeah did you feel like it like wasn't your place to like tell his mom
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how to talk to i wasn't very close please speak closer into the microphone i i wasn't very close
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with her so it just didn't really like make sense for me to be the one to tell her but when you change
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that connection and actually try to get to know her you're gonna be in her life if you want to get
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married to her son i hope you realize that yeah well if you have a problem with the mom it was three
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years ago i i just didn't really have the confidence to like tell her something like that that's why the
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word petty exists like people are petty and especially as a mom like i know you're gonna
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be in my son's future and you don't want to have a good connection with me the person that birthed
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her like she tries to be nicer to me now but i just like i'm very standoffish of her
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why she's not in the wrong period of just not liking me and being very mean to me so now when i go
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over there i just kind of ignore her well that's only gonna hurt you exactly but it doesn't it doesn't
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make a difference to me at all if she's showing you her and you knew it was his ex and she knew it
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was his ex and you felt some type of way about it and that's the first i would have never known
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about this yeah i mean they're very close he's like a mama's boy so he knows it too so i can say
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that exactly so you should be able to have a good connection with his mom then if he's a mama's boy
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but i feel like his mom is hung up on the ex like his mom but you could always look at a person and
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be like hey i'm not comfortable with that just like the same way you address what you have a problem
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in a relationship you still can do that with another person yeah but communication that mom
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will never let go of it but you can still always have it in consideration if you bring it up she tried
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to have the same connection with me that she had with the ex but after that incident it just never
00:27:24.880
really happened exactly she even called me the ex's name at one point and like he had to correct her
00:27:31.740
like she was acting like i was like her well if it's worth it for you to be with your boyfriend
00:27:39.020
then you should take the steps to get a better relationship with mom if not then why are you still
00:27:44.640
with him because it's just going to be awkward and uncomfortable i 100 agree with you but you're
00:27:48.840
going to have there's power and forgiveness and you're going to have to get over what happened
00:27:51.760
in the past if you want to have a relationship with her and him yeah it takes wait so okay just
00:27:58.060
a point of clarification you're in your messages to us before the show you said you're it's single
00:28:03.340
but complicated is that correct or are you more relationship but complicated i am single because
00:28:10.800
i did break up with him and we have not gotten back together so i hang out with him sure and you
00:28:15.680
said that was wait okay but it's a three-year relationship but you say you you broke up but you
00:28:21.180
continue hanging out three times multiple times a week i go to the gym with him but you broke up with
00:28:26.180
him yes and you said your boyfriend slash ex is a mama's boy lawyer that's the one that i'm living at
00:28:34.080
his mom's at 33 yes he's 33 well you know maybe there's uh you know it's not a big deal it has to
00:28:45.600
it has to do the fact that he won't come to my apartment and that was like a huge compromise
00:28:50.060
that i wanted for us to get back together for you guys to move in you wanted not even just like move
00:28:56.840
in but for him to come to me he never comes to me he always wants to stay at his mom's do you feel
00:29:02.460
like his mom doesn't want him to go over there and that's why he doesn't he's comfortable at his
00:29:07.960
mom's and he also wants to keep his mom company so i have a question for you so do you think this
00:29:14.340
is more that you more so have an issue with his complacency in his current situation more than it
00:29:20.200
is about the mom or anything like that do you think it's just like a stagnant yes situation that
00:29:25.040
you're not really in favor okay because then i can see how you'd have issue with that because then
00:29:28.900
you can't foresee growth together and then that could be an issue it also could be like he already
00:29:33.440
told me a timeline i'll move in with you in a year so like i'm okay fine another year but you need
00:29:39.140
to make the compromises of like coming to stay at my apartment instead of me always going over there
00:29:44.560
and i think that it wouldn't be responsible of him to create or to say or make that commitment
00:29:50.540
without having developed the habit or maybe exercise the muscle of going over and kind of staying
00:29:57.760
at your place and kind of seeing how you guys live together and all that stuff because it's a huge
00:30:02.100
jump to be honest with you he he he will try to make up for it in different types of ways instead
00:30:09.400
of going over to my apartment and just sleeping over because that's what exactly you want so it's
00:30:14.500
it's not like the one thing why don't you try to compromise with him then if he's trying to always
00:30:19.360
trying to compromise with you what have you done back to compromise with him i always go over to his
00:30:24.740
mom's house exactly and i hate his mom i think i'm i'm already doing he's a mama's boy and you're
00:30:30.560
supposed to compromise with him because he's a mama's boy if he's showing you different ways that
00:30:35.760
he cares about you and shows you different affection then you should also compromise with him that's in
00:30:40.140
a relationship one time a week i feel like that's like really doable or at least like even time
00:30:45.660
address it honestly i i think that you should just continue always going over to his house
00:30:50.920
why like that's what i prefer in a relationship like i never want to go to the girl's house like
00:30:55.960
she just always has to come to mind like that's how it should be i think that's kind of disrespectful
00:30:59.720
that you're like that's equality i think no exactly she says it to my face that she hates me
00:31:05.280
bro this is your face these are new developments hold on wait i guess you guys never had it like
00:31:11.740
immigrant parents like that's not like i just hit a speed bump at 20 miles an hour
00:31:15.920
sometimes it's better to just uh find somebody else okay let's uh move on maybe we can touch back
00:31:22.760
on that later uh what about you yuki uh so my situation is kind of complicated a little closer
00:31:28.540
to the mic please so i fell in love with someone and never met in real life oh yeah it's like and i
00:31:36.260
never have like a real life dating experience have you facetimed them like you've seen them over video
00:31:42.900
you know that that's like a real person like you're not getting catfished okay like i facetimed like one
00:31:48.480
time just one time one just one time yeah how long have you guys been together like it's it's like we
00:31:55.160
already like i i was like a placeholder like i said online check and until i know that it's like just
00:32:03.860
it's just i found that he have a girlfriend in real life he you found out that the person that
00:32:10.080
you're talking to at the moment has a girlfriend in real life yeah he's like he's saying like uh
00:32:15.340
okay i have uh having like friend with my ex we like we handled a couple times like like this
00:32:23.160
i don't know about that wait so just just a couple point of points of clarification here
00:32:28.020
so you where did you meet him online correct yeah where like on tinder yeah where does he live
00:32:36.120
did you meet him at world of warcraft near la i think so he he's in la you live in santa barbara
00:32:42.180
correct yeah okay okay so then and did you guys facetime or was it strictly like texting it's like
00:32:48.960
mostly texting like i only face i'm like streaming is did you see his face yeah was it congruent with
00:32:56.780
the picture i think so yeah okay because you seem to meet his girlfriend before you met him in
00:33:02.480
person yeah exactly wait question okay so how long have you known him total as of now like now like
00:33:09.700
half year i think six months and then you said you fell in love with him how quickly did you fall in
00:33:16.720
love with him after meeting him one month two month three months like i never met him into well i mean
00:33:22.020
like meeting him online how long did you said you're in love with him or you're in love with him
00:33:28.440
i like honestly i think i destroyed his life because i said everything to like what he said
00:33:38.380
to his family and his girlfriend because like he was like because he was like uh so right now
00:33:46.940
he had a girlfriend right now and he kept texting me saying he loved me and saying like that i gotta
00:33:53.920
move away from my girlfriend like that and i i know i'm so stupid and i i believe that like here wait
00:34:00.580
i'm gonna have you fix your posture and scoot your chair into the table just because you're sinking
00:34:04.360
behind the mic a little bit okay i i almost can't even digest what you said so yeah so he has a
00:34:11.440
girlfriend and he was saying that like oh he's talking to you right and he's saying like oh i
00:34:17.080
can't like continue this with you because it's affecting my relationship with my ex or my girlfriend
00:34:22.720
at the moment no he's like keep texting me saying he loved me he don't love his girlfriend and you
00:34:28.660
said that you exposed him yeah because i'm like i was like so stupid because i like i would die for him
00:34:35.200
like you would die for him yeah like and you just met him six months and wait so but just i don't
00:34:41.400
know if you answered this at what point after having met him did you fall in love with him
00:34:45.200
two months in three months in like uh just like one month whoa after one month okay have you ever
00:34:50.820
heard of the three month period like no three month period i don't know like that would be a long
00:34:57.020
time for a period to last i mean that's when people really show their like actual emotions you do
00:35:01.900
need to give some time for like travel with the person but i mean spend the night with them at
00:35:08.100
least once you got to know who that is but okay so a couple notes here so so you this was your only
00:35:13.800
boyfriend yeah boyfriend like yeah i think so but like i have like like when i was like 13 over 14
00:35:23.520
i'm i'm doing like either thing but i don't think that counts huh what all your relationships have
00:35:30.560
been e-dating e-dating like online exactly online wait so have you have you ever like gone out with
00:35:39.320
a guy in person ever like i i try to have a date with some some people but like it's just a date and
00:35:46.920
after day we don't talk anymore that's it so it just falls off why why do you think that it is like
00:35:51.940
do you guys like do you talk to him in the day like do you just sit there awkwardly like like what
00:35:57.480
are you like on a first date like are you uncomfortable are you comfortable like you
00:36:02.440
show up well-dressed overdressed like i don't know like i feel like i'm so like nervous at the time
00:36:09.540
like i don't know what i'm supposed to do i was just like sitting there and listen to what he said
00:36:14.720
like that's it that's that's why yeah that's why a date i mean actually i kind of really want to see
00:36:24.980
that i'm not gonna lie you could help her i said some riz class before this so nikki has riz nikki has
00:36:31.400
some riz uh so you're saying that if you were on a date you just feel like you would not know what to
00:36:36.920
say it would just be awkward which is kind of your hesitation but i mean i feel like i mean and you've
00:36:41.860
never really you said you've been on a couple or one or two like like two here in the u.s because
00:36:49.200
you're uh where are you from i'm from china okay so english isn't your first language so perhaps
00:36:53.560
there's a language barrier too that's like i mean unless unless you're going on a date with someone
00:36:58.340
who speaks mandarin or cantonese do you speak mandarin or cantonese mandarin yeah so unless
00:37:02.700
you're going on a date with someone who speaks mandarin you there's like in addition to just
00:37:05.900
being nervous on the first date it's like there's a language barrier too because you you seem actually
00:37:11.200
quite quite good in in uh in english but you're probably not perfectly fluent yeah and i'm just too
00:37:18.980
nervous i don't know how to you could become a nun that's an option that's hard do you feel like
00:37:25.440
that's why online dating is easier for you because there's not that nervousness of that face-to-face
00:37:31.220
interaction exactly and i don't know how to flirt like until i cut the feeling okay and so when
00:37:39.660
you're flirting like what does that look like um is that inappropriate to ask i'm kind of curious as
00:37:44.800
to how you express affection like that is a point because honestly i don't know because rose check
00:37:53.000
that is a point because i never like like really fell in love with someone in your life okay so you
00:37:59.980
don't super know quite yet or you're not very familiar with that part of yourself yet i'm not really
00:38:05.040
familiar have you ever fallen in love before she fell in love with her online boyfriend well but
00:38:11.400
that's this one right now though like before him have you ever fell in love with anybody like honestly
00:38:16.480
in school have like i have like uh some crush yeah but like i don't know how to talk to them like
00:38:25.120
and that's it but it's never been like this powerful like you've never felt this way about anybody else
00:38:31.780
yeah exactly okay wow thank you for sharing so what's the further um you said you have gone
00:38:39.060
maybe a couple times in person on dates is that correct but they didn't go well is that correct
00:38:45.000
you said in person you did go on one or two dates in person is that correct but it didn't go further
00:38:53.820
than the first date is that right okay um so just out of curiosity i mean what's the like what's the
00:39:00.200
furthest that you've gone with a guy uh it's just closer to the mic please let me think maybe just
00:39:08.400
have you like kissed has there been a kiss no it's just no kiss dinner dinner yeah so hibachi what did
00:39:16.700
you get just like mexican food pasta pasta italian yeah okay all right here is like another really
00:39:23.820
interesting thing because like after this date i was asking that guy like show like should we like
00:39:30.380
go to another date and he said like maybe like not like we are not ready much because you asked him
00:39:35.600
yeah but and also i i i pay him half a bill because i think you paid what i pay him half a bill
00:39:44.480
you paid half a bill that's cool that's fine i mean you don't like paying the bill i like that
00:39:50.840
pay for the whole meal actually do it you don't it's just like i felt like okay you want because
00:39:58.120
like uh we went to a date and he found that we are not really good to each other like so i pay him
00:40:05.340
half a bill i mean you should in your instance because you're getting to know the person i mean yeah
00:40:11.540
sure i mean all guys shouldn't be paying the bill it should be equal in some type of way and it's
00:40:17.220
going to be like that in a relationship if that's what you want further on i mean word of advice stay
00:40:23.080
away from e-dating it's not going to help you in any type of way because even if you look at somebody
00:40:27.760
face to face and you can't start a conversation that's a problem with yourself and i don't think
00:40:32.480
you should be dating i think you should just be working on yourself right exactly and just look in
00:40:37.180
the mirror practice you know starting conversation or just making friends and just starting or guy
00:40:42.420
friends and starting conversation with them and that's how you start just by being yourself yeah
00:40:47.280
but eating is not going to get you anywhere i feel that just weirdos and creeps and 45 year olds that
00:40:53.480
say that they like you i'll agree with that advice but did you invite him to go to the date or did he
00:40:58.280
invite you who which the the one that you went on the date with did he invite you or did you invite
00:41:03.400
him he love me then he needs to pay because he's asking for your time i know he's going to disagree
00:41:08.880
but i think especially when it comes to when it comes to like because you're from china right so
00:41:14.920
there's a certain custom or a certain culture around dating right and so typically in those
00:41:19.520
situations are typically in more conservative cultures there's a very uh structured closer to
00:41:25.300
gender sorry there's a very structured gendered role as it comes to that so i can see how you're not
00:41:30.980
really used to that being the case so to be completely honest with you i'm not shocked if
00:41:35.900
you're uncomfortable with having to pay half uh considering where you're from and also what you're
00:41:40.720
used to but i do think that if someone is asking for your time then they need to show that they value
00:41:45.760
your time so i i mean it's just my opinion people can disagree or not but i think that
00:41:51.340
in total that should be the case although you should expect later on in the relationship to maybe
00:41:56.640
split those duties a little bit well you said hold on you said that if somebody is asking for your
00:42:02.120
time then then it should fall on them to pay for the bill however i mean that that's that's
00:42:10.340
convenient but generally speaking men are going to be the ones who are asking for said time yeah
00:42:16.200
due to social what's that females do too right of all the first dates that occur in let's say the
00:42:23.140
past 10 years if you had to assign a percentage men initiating versus women initiating i'd give
00:42:30.500
you 30 70 for a real 30 30 percent of women are initiating dates i'd say 37 i'd say it's 99
00:42:38.060
i'd say 99 of first dates is it's the guy asking for the date 99 your time 99 99 now i'm not really
00:42:49.140
like maybe 90s to 80s like percentage wise okay like 80 20 fine let's say it's 90 let's say it's
00:42:56.160
90 i'm still better than i think it doesn't matter who asked in my traditional opinion if a man is
00:43:02.600
gonna be a gentleman he's gonna pay if he's not gonna pay then that's your sign he's he's not gonna
00:43:08.240
take care of you he's a little boy and in the future disavow disavow when you guys are like
00:43:14.400
get together for longer then yes spoil him buy him whatever buy the dinner buy the bill too yeah
00:43:22.080
but on the first date that's your sign either he's he's a gentleman or he's not i mean disavow
00:43:28.860
like what if if you think about it that deep what if it's like some trans people then who's gonna who's
00:43:36.260
gonna pay for it then but in my traditional opinion if it's a man and a woman a man should pay for
00:43:41.180
for it okay well trans people are like one percent of the population so it's kind of irrelevant but
00:43:45.920
so what what was your point after that though if if it's a date with the man and a woman whoever asked
00:43:51.820
the man should pay why the first date just just well you believe in i i assume you believe in
00:43:57.480
traditional gender roles right yeah but how many women are not traditional i'd say the majority of
00:44:03.840
women are not traditional times are changing like if you guys don't change then what is it like what's
00:44:08.660
the point i i can only speak for myself like if it's some lesbians then i don't know i can't speak
00:44:13.200
for them let's let's stick to heterosexual relationships the man should pay okay because
00:44:18.840
i know that is that is a good point though i'm single in that situation and i'm looking for somebody
00:44:24.000
who can i mean i like to make my own money i've always been very independent i've been financially
00:44:29.520
independent since i was like 14 years old and i like to work i like to do my own thing and provide
00:44:34.900
for myself but i'm also i know i'm looking for somebody who can lead me and that involves like
00:44:42.180
being financially stable and taking that first step yeah let me just clarify if you as a woman you are
00:44:48.800
a traditional woman i don't i don't object to women having a let's say an expectation or a desire
00:44:55.380
for a man to pay on the first date however you must be true for you to have that standard you ought to be
00:45:02.140
a traditional woman if you're not a traditional woman you should not expect men to adhere to their
00:45:06.800
traditional gender roles yeah that that wouldn't make sense at all like if if you're all about
00:45:10.840
feminism and gender equality i'm not i'm not saying you specifically but just people women in general
00:45:15.920
if you're all about feminism and gender equality and you know progressive politics whatever then you
00:45:22.720
cannot recoil at the very idea of gender roles but then expect men to pay because men paying is a
00:45:29.720
gender role no i think there should be different standards i i'm i don't want to be treated like a
00:45:35.300
guy i don't want to be held to guys you know standards just like i'm sure a guy wouldn't want
00:45:40.980
to be treated like a girl held to a girl i think there's differences and they should be treated like
00:45:45.920
that i feel like i should add on to that but in any ways it's kind of similar but i'd say as a guy
00:45:54.320
and you're you're trying to get into a relationship you're trying to have that person till marriage so
00:45:59.580
that do us part you know yada yada yada and i feel like as like a female or another partner you're
00:46:05.440
waiting for like you're trying to share responsibility as in like taking care of a kid financially and like
00:46:11.640
you just want to be stable with that person but on a first date i don't feel like the guy should pay
00:46:17.000
for everything i mean especially if i'm getting to know him if i'm not feeling the date yeah i believe in
00:46:22.960
like split pay but if he's trying to show that he's trying to get into relationship with me if he's
00:46:28.180
trying to move forward and like have that commitment with me i believe that the guy should be paying
00:46:32.920
yeah to show me that he cares women and men they look for different things i know for me i don't look
00:46:39.840
for a i look for a man who can be like a provider and i'm sure men look for a girl who can be loving
00:46:46.720
and nurturing so it's like i'm men don't care about your status if you have like a great career
00:46:54.140
at least i don't think they do so why would they care if i can pay the bill or not that doesn't mean
00:46:58.660
i can't but why would they care on the first date why would the what why would they care on the first
00:47:06.860
date yeah why would why would a man want a woman to pay i feel like if i was a man i would feel
00:47:12.180
so like demasculated if a woman was like oh let me pay the bill i don't think that's what men want
00:47:17.820
but i think what what strikes me as something that's equal is you pay for your food he pays for
00:47:23.020
his okay but if he's hitting on you then he should also be having that initiative and pay my bill like
00:47:30.420
why are you backing out like i would just say for the first date you know maybe don't go to like
00:47:38.320
some crazy restaurant that you're gonna have this giant bill and then when it comes to the end of
00:47:44.040
the meal we're kind of like okay like do we split this do we not yeah maybe just get something simple
00:47:49.600
i would never not even mid-range i mean like i would never want to go somewhere expensive and bougie
00:47:55.200
like i would dating is literally like getting to know somebody collecting data yeah exactly so it's
00:48:01.020
like go on a walk or you know yeah that is true you can have a first date without spending money it
00:48:06.860
doesn't have to be like this super luxurious thing i think there was a bit of a misinterpretation on my
00:48:12.060
point i think it's contingent on who invited who it's not i'm not necessarily talking about
00:48:16.780
specifically gender roles as far as my opinion goes but i do know that a lot of people function
00:48:21.820
with the with those roles and in a lot of other cultures it's very commonly practiced but i think that
00:48:27.580
like to to to to your point if you have traditional if you if you have if you have a traditional outlook
00:48:37.180
or if you expect traditional um followship through through that role then i think that you also have
00:48:43.180
to reciprocate it on the same level i think that you do need to uh make sure that you guys are both
00:48:48.220
on the same page as far as who's going to be doing what but i definitely think that there is
00:48:53.660
a little bit of room to kind of discuss what those terms are the more that you get to know here we
00:48:59.980
actually have a video about this eric can you pull up that miss patch video that's uh oh is that the
00:49:05.500
lady in her car yeah yeah we uh okay go ahead i've never seen this before i've seen it she's like
00:49:15.820
like well i'll watch it's like about little men is it gonna play she wants like a little you might
00:49:24.540
have to be like refresh as a conservative man man but just not be conservative yeah do refresh i'll
00:49:31.260
probably fix it yeah okay i want a man to pay for me and he needs to take me out but he also has to
00:49:39.100
here actually before you play it can we just i want to know one of the saddest real
00:49:45.420
before we play it um just show of hands do you think just uh should the guy pay on the first date
00:49:54.220
raise him high if you think the guy should pay on the first date
00:49:57.820
boom boom yes yes you're like iffy okay everybody here they think okay and then just a follow-up
00:50:04.940
question who here at least like maybe your politics wise considers themselves maybe a bit
00:50:09.820
more on the liberal side believes in gender equality maybe even considers themselves a feminist show of
00:50:15.580
hands you just you two i wouldn't consider myself a feminist well i'm pretty moderate i wouldn't say
00:50:22.620
i'm liberal but i'm like in between okay so you're a feminist in fact i if i recall in our notes you
00:50:28.700
consider yourself a radical feminist oh yeah what what does that mean to be a radical feminist to you
00:50:37.580
well radical i'm about to get clipped i'm scared just go ahead she's gonna get clipped well like
00:50:50.140
i'm just trying to think of how to explain this um i say i'm a radical feminist because like
00:50:56.060
like i agree with a lot of their views and so you want me to like tell you those views or
00:51:04.780
like listing some ideas like or like some so okay well okay okay okay what what's your definition of
00:51:13.020
feminism to start um well to what does it mean to be a feminist and then i suppose you consider
00:51:21.100
yourself a radical feminist so that's another component yeah um like what it means to be a feminist
00:51:27.820
sure well to be a feminist i guess it means for i don't know exactly how to explain this but um so why
00:51:39.420
do you consider yourself a radical feminist give her a chance go ahead because i agree with their values
00:51:44.940
what are the values exactly i mean there's a can you name a value that they have well one thing
00:51:51.820
maybe this is just me but i think porn should be illegal that's fair oh there should that that
00:51:58.700
that is a feminist position sure yeah and um i mean there is kind of like equity that what just one
00:52:05.900
point of clarification on that when you say porn should be illegal do you mean it should be illegal
00:52:10.060
illegal to make illegal to consume what not exist okay what about prostitution should that be illegal
00:52:19.420
now question on the prostitution thing should it be illegal for men should the men be uh prosecuted
00:52:26.860
or should the women be prosecuted assuming it's a woman who's a prostitute well the guy who's fine or
00:52:32.940
the pimp well okay you could be a prostitute not have a pimp i'm saying so there's the prostitute and
00:52:39.820
then there's the okay guy who's okay so like the guy that's buying the prostitute but the prostitute
00:52:45.420
the prostitute it shouldn't be illegal to be a prostitute but it should be illegal to well didn't
00:52:49.980
they do that in nevada i think they've done that in some places they decriminalized it but um zero
00:52:55.900
accountability and so like they're all hoeing now okay but then so you were making some other points
00:53:02.300
too as far as some of the values that you uh believe in related to feminism but um one thing is i kind
00:53:09.500
of do believe the person that's buying like the prostitute should get in trouble more so than the
00:53:15.900
prostitute but except i know the argument of yeah we already got that but what are the other values
00:53:23.100
besides the you said make porn illegal and then i think we have a way that we can jump into this
00:53:30.860
um like i mean i'm kind of into like the equity thing okay anything else i'm trying to think the
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the equity thing um well okay here did you have something yeah so how do you feel about the wage gap
00:53:48.860
do you believe there's a wage gap quote unquote over here yes okay yeah you think that there is a wage
00:53:57.980
gap there is a wage gap why do you think that that is what do you mean why do you i think i'm like
00:54:05.020
ready to i'm ready to jump yeah why do you think that there's a wage gap like why do you what is the
00:54:10.860
reasoning that you think that there is a wage gap like why what what yeah like what what do you think
00:54:18.540
caused the wage gap like the wage gap that you think that there is between men and women what do you
00:54:23.500
think the cause of that is and also do you do you want to tell us what what is the wage gap well it's
00:54:30.860
where women are being paid less for what working in across the board so in in all industry in every
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single industry in every single job you cannot find a single woman who's paid more than a man for
00:54:46.540
example or are you saying on the average um see okay on the wage gap thing yeah i don't know exactly
00:54:56.540
how it works out and everything but you you believe it exists um yeah okay i mean i used to not believe
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it exists so you used to be based but then it still doesn't i'm i'm just gonna say it doesn't
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as a female there should be that line and like that gap as a female you should be working harder like
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like you should have that ideal you should have that ideal image to be like okay these guys are like
00:55:27.340
working harder than me what the am i doing wrong here let me like let me try to help so what how
00:55:32.940
much is the wage gap isn't it like three dollars what three what do you mean three dollars so a man
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makes three dollars and a woman makes one or what do you mean it's like or was it three percent but um
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because there was a article or something on that yeah there's a lot i don't think you know your facts
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straight and i don't think you should be representing something that you don't really have your facts
00:55:55.980
straight and you haven't personally given like a reason or like opinion or i don't even know where
00:56:00.940
you stand or why you stand there i would want to argue back but i i don't even understand what
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you're saying you don't even i'm sorry i'm not trying to knock you i'm just saying that there's
00:56:09.580
no such thing as a wage gap yeah obviously there's like there's female rappers right now that are
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disproving that as we speak there's female nurses female doctors that have more money than guys that's
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already weighed disproven because wait what did you guys mean in wage gap that's what you brought
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up that's what the wages up but you're aware of it and you believe well no okay because are we talking
00:56:32.540
about are we talking about like men dominating things and you know the money thing like are you
00:56:40.140
meaning by wage well she brought it up so if you want to go ahead well okay so i guess like the
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traditional argument that i hear the most is sports you know like oh well women's basketball
00:56:52.940
players don't get paid as much as men basketball players do well there's a reason for that you know
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well i think she needs to explain because feminism isn't like a universal thing there's so many
00:57:08.140
different opinions about it so if she's not even saying what she agrees with or why she believes that
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then we can't just be you know talking but we shouldn't bring up something that you are if you
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aren't representing that like the the wage gap first off it's been illegal to pay women less for the
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same job since 1963 um if it is so prevalent you would see more people getting fined sued and companies
00:57:34.540
shut down also if it was the case for example that you could pay a woman say 30 percent less than a
00:57:39.900
man to do the exact same job companies would exclusively hire women because what what is the
00:57:45.980
primary interest of a business money would you agree primary purpose of a business is to make money so
00:57:57.180
as a business owner or as a corporation if you can save 30 percent on employment by hiring women
00:58:05.580
only then you would do it the fact of the matter is there is no wage gap there's an earnings gap
00:58:12.060
but that's different than a wage gap men earn more overall for the same job for the same job
00:58:18.940
position men and women get paid the same wage but men earn more there's and there's a whole bunch of
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reasons for example women get paid you might say that women get paid 50 15 percent less because they work
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15 percent less men on average work more hours than do women
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and they do harder jobs i think there's kind of a misunderstanding on what the wage gap is for me
00:58:46.620
i think like i'm kind of confused because the last i looked it up the wage gap is like 82 cents per the
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male dollar or something like that that's the unadjusted rate but if you actually adjust it for
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all variabilities it shrinks to like including like all the discrepancies it's like one percent
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it's one percent if you adjust for hours worked and all the sorts of discrepancies and you look
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at racially as well and the the often reported wage gap where it's like 80 it's always changing
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let's say 76 76 or 80 cents to a dollar but that's what that what that stat is is you take
00:59:24.460
all the money women make and you compare it to all the money men make but men and women make different
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decisions when it comes to career we work different hours where there's different professions there's
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seniority there's all kinds of different variables that are uncontrolled for so it shrinks to like one
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percent and you have to ask yourself if there is a discrepancy can you necessarily attribute said
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discrepancy to for example sexism just because a discrepancy exists does not mean that
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it's due to if there's a discrepancy that exists between say men and women is it necessarily because
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of sexism i would say not necessarily it could be but not necessarily definitely possibility and i don't
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think we should negate the fact that that's definitely a possibility but i do think that
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there is a bit of a there's a skewed perspective on what really is the contributing factor to that
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um i'm not the most educated on wage gap per se so i don't feel that i'm the best to
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we're going to move away we're going to move away from the wage gap but i just want to bring it back
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to you here for a little second here um so just maybe two other points when it comes to feminism
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uh do you believe in the patriarchy that's kind of a feminist position you know the answer
01:00:38.380
no do you i'm asking you i don't i don't want to i want to be charitable i don't want to just assume
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that you believe i'd rather just ask you if you believe something or don't believe something
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yeah because i'd like to treat people as individuals and see what they believe or
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don't believe i don't want to just assume you believe well whatever it may be i'm sorry to
01:00:55.020
cut in can we just change the subject because this is a dating podcast and we're clearly not
01:00:58.780
going to get any well it is related it is related to the uh you know who should pay on the first date
01:01:03.820
but anyways i would like to ask the panel something unrelated we're going to continue on this because
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she doesn't know what she's talking about that's why i'm trying to cut in okay that but as a woman
01:01:15.100
with a small business if you have equipment signed up if you're a contractor whatever you are you get
01:01:21.820
on the priority list as a woman owning a business you get like you're first over the men so i don't even
01:01:29.180
know what radical feminism means but i don't agree with the whole age gap thing exactly because it's just
01:01:35.820
not true wage gap wait sorry okay you said age gap that's another conversation uh so you believe
01:01:41.820
in the patriarchy correct yeah okay and then another so just curious what what is your general stance on
01:01:47.500
men i mean what do you think of men like do i hate them no okay i feel sorry for them why is that
01:02:01.260
i mean because like i always see men complaining about women and just like taking this hatred into
01:02:11.660
onto women about how like you know how we have i don't know maybe if we feel upset we have someone
01:02:19.500
that can you know empathize with us and like just these little things and because one thing is like
01:02:26.700
like with men i feel like men male friendships i'm sorry i'm really anxious but um male friendships
01:02:34.780
like most of the time they aren't really anything like they don't have substance you know between
01:02:42.940
male and male you mean yeah okay so do you feel bad for men because you think they have it harder than
01:02:48.300
women no so why do you feel bad for them because there are disadvantages for them as well so then
01:02:57.900
how are you a feminist if you think that men are disadvantaged because we're trying to we're
01:03:03.980
trying to understand you but like you have literally just been dodging the question not answering it like
01:03:09.260
i mean it's okay but your version of feminism what do you stand for yeah feminism doesn't make sense to
01:03:17.500
me please exactly we we're open we're open-minded but we're trying to like really understand
01:03:25.900
um i mean there's like multiple levels there's different types of feminists so what's the radical
01:03:32.220
level yes ezekiel 25 that you believe in one side the path of the righteous man is set on all sides
01:03:40.780
by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men blessed is he who in the name of charity
01:03:46.780
and goodwill shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness nope nope nope nope nope here i'll do it
01:03:53.980
um all right hold on oops what okay thank you thank you ezekiel 25 17 hold on i got just that eric put
01:04:01.740
let's play the verbs um i need to adjust the ezekiel 25 17 donated 100 and i will strike down upon
01:04:12.460
thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers and
01:04:18.540
you will know i am the lord when i lay my vengeance upon thee all right let's play that video eric can
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you pull it up thank you ezekiel 25 17 appreciate it uh go full screen please
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no here you got to go back to her profile and then you have to go find the video
01:04:47.180
wait it's like she's in the car it's there's like here just can you show show because i can't yeah
01:04:52.700
tick tock is whack if you're not logged in um scroll down what no scroll scroll scroll down
01:05:03.180
uh that the the one with the participating in this activity yeah that one do you want to know
01:05:08.300
one of the saddest realizations i recently had uh was that as a liberal wow tick tock so we can't uh can
01:05:22.140
sorry guys we're doing it live okay rush limbaugh oh my
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do you want to know one of the saddest realizations i recently had was that as a liberal woman it is
01:05:42.940
really hard to find a man who is willing to play the more traditional masculine role in the relationship
01:05:50.220
in today's day and age who is not a conservative a man who wants to pay on the first date who wants
01:05:55.900
to open your door who has that want and desire to take care of you and to provide who is not a
01:06:01.660
conservative and obviously as a liberal woman i do want to be respected from independence and i do want
01:06:07.100
to have my own autonomy in the relationship and not be confined or conform to the traditional female
01:06:14.220
homemaker childbearing role and most of the men that i've dated who do have that more natural
01:06:20.700
provider masculinity about them are normally conservative so i don't really know what to do
01:06:25.740
because i don't want to compromise my morals and values just to find a man but am i asking to have my
01:06:32.540
cake and eat it too all right if you can control z those back um i don't know if it's still possible but
01:06:39.260
uh yeah yeah sweet thanks eric um okay so that's somewhat related to what we were talking about
01:06:47.260
before when it comes to who should pay on the first date so this kind of went semi-viral uh basically
01:06:53.740
you have a woman self uh i mean self-identifying as progressive liberal whatever who's like wants like
01:07:01.660
a traditionally masculine man to pay for the first date do all the so let's get everybody's reaction
01:07:06.540
let's go around the table um we're going to start with you and then we'll go around this way any
01:07:10.460
thoughts on on that you you you right here yeah into the mic please um i feel like
01:07:27.980
yeah we'll skip uh what about you gaby um i feel like
01:07:31.580
like every girl wants a guy that's going to be like that um but it's it's becoming less and less
01:07:39.500
apparent in this day and age okay yeah your reaction i feel like she missed the whole
01:07:49.500
well i mean a conservative woman or a traditional woman just because you're the one who's cleaning
01:07:56.380
house or cooking or having the babies that doesn't mean that your opinion or your thoughts are just
01:08:02.460
completely disregarded i'm sure there are many conservative men out there that value their
01:08:07.820
partner's opinion and if you're equal counterparts or if you're good together then you should be able to
01:08:20.780
i got beef i'm not gonna even lie so i'm just gonna i'm just gonna say if you if you are
01:08:33.420
if you want a traditional man and that traditional so that it's likely that that traditional man is
01:08:39.980
gonna want a traditional woman right so if you don't fit that archetype right if you can't satisfy the
01:08:46.380
traditional role right then it it doesn't make sense there's just not a congruency like two plus
01:08:52.780
two is not really equaling four there so like if for example he's he comes to the table right and he's
01:08:58.380
like i would like a woman that is gonna clean cook and do all that stuff right and these are the terms
01:09:05.100
that he's setting for everybody right and so he's very transparent and he's very forthcoming about that
01:09:10.460
and you come and you meet him with i don't want to do that i don't want to do this and i don't like
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that that's just an incompatibility and that has nothing to do with him being a piece of
01:09:19.820
shit i'm sorry is that inexcusable just go ahead i'm sorry okay and that has nothing to do with
01:09:25.820
him or anything like that it's just strictly an incompatibility it means you're looking in the
01:09:30.780
wrong place or you're looking for the wrong one so you might want to reevaluate what you're looking
01:09:35.900
for and maybe be a little bit more uh eye to eye with that because there's just a mismatch there
01:09:41.660
that's all i can say okay what about you yeah the video kind of just gave me a whip flash to be
01:09:47.340
honest with you is she just talking about what i don't know it's just um yeah it was just a lot
01:09:57.180
well okay so she's saying she's like she's basically a progressive woman who is like man these
01:10:02.940
guys in la like i'm so liberal but like i want a guy who's traditional and pays for the first date
01:10:09.820
and does all these more traditional traditionally masculine things but is she if she's not traditional
01:10:17.660
herself you know is it fair for her to be no asking for these sorts of things i don't think anyone's
01:10:24.460
really traditional anymore i mean you can like yeah assume you can be as traditional as you think people
01:10:29.660
you know what traditional is but i don't know if there really is a traditional anymore you know
01:10:33.740
everybody's kind of different and like yeah like what you were saying if you meet on you gotta have
01:10:39.420
you have to meet in the middle in any situation so it's just not gonna work out especially if you
01:10:43.500
have two different viewpoints yeah it just doesn't make sense it's like oil and water like what you
01:10:47.580
think bro like that's crazy what about you sophia your reaction to the video it was kind of prompted by
01:10:53.500
or i think it was prompted by what you said but about what well you well you said you said you're
01:11:00.460
like feminist you're probably more liberal right um but you want the guy to pay on the first date
01:11:07.020
so do you do you resonate with what she said that she wants a conservative man like well i don't think
01:11:15.260
she's not like you know what i mean she wants a liberal soy boy guy to but who will still pay for her
01:11:21.340
date still be like provider still be a protector still be the gentleman open the door etc etc so do
01:11:29.180
you have a reaction to that agree disagree um i just think that she needs to work on herself
01:11:38.300
did you get stones before the show no it's my eye okay then well no it's just that that sounded like
01:11:43.420
a stoner lab it's all good it's legal in california um okay yeah nikki what about you why did you say
01:12:03.020
soy boy it's like when you refer like referencing to her why did you say like soy boy like whatever you
01:12:09.660
said like opening doors paying on first dates like why did you say that i'm just trying to
01:12:15.020
understand why did i say soy boy yeah why did you say it wasn't that heavy it's not heavy but i'm just
01:12:20.460
trying to see how you're thinking i mean like why did you say soy boy why did i say so wait out of every
01:12:26.300
word it's just like yeah i've heard it before i mean i mean yeah but like it's kind of saying like
01:12:32.300
he's saying like he's a wussy like oh like he's paying on the first day so what what is the girl
01:12:37.740
in the video says she wants a liberal she wants a liberal is a liberal somebody who likes soy milk i
01:12:42.620
thought yeah someone it's it's really not a heavy it's just like someone who drinks soy
01:12:48.220
vegetarian it's like often used to like oh i've misunderstood what soy boy was that's what i'm
01:12:52.860
saying it's it's often used to just as as uh to to basically say like a someone a weak guy
01:13:01.340
but why did you reference him as weak for opening doors well we can talk about the semantics of
01:13:05.900
what i said or i didn't say or but i just want to i want to get to know like we're talking right
01:13:11.580
but why why did you think that he's a weak man why are you asking me this question right now
01:13:15.980
because i'm trying to understand where you're coming from in a in a referencing way so you're
01:13:20.860
saying that a man so you're saying that you're a man is a wussy because he pays are you just for
01:13:25.660
the first no i'm just trying to say like where you're coming from so you're saying that a man
01:13:29.900
is not supposed to pay on the first date that's not and then so i'm so that he's a wussy for doing
01:13:35.980
that right no she's saying that she wants she doesn't want like a conservative dude she wants
01:13:41.820
like a pro super progressive liberal guy and i added a little cherry on top like oh maybe maybe a soy
01:13:49.900
boy soy boy so question for you we can have a semantic argument like if if you object so heavily
01:13:57.260
to why i don't but i'm just trying to wonder why did you just use the words you could have just said
01:14:01.660
like oh he's just it's not a caring guy or something like that i mean like that's just normal in a
01:14:06.860
relationship especially if a guy who believes in alpha male and i don't think you're even like
01:14:12.700
projects like the the the red pillars oh let's get into that the red pillars the ones that actually
01:14:18.620
believe in be like you know paying for the first day always paying and everything right that's what
01:14:25.340
justin said he pays i i wasn't really bothered by the soy boy but what did you think about the video
01:14:30.540
i mean in in the video she she needs to change obviously but you know it you need compromise in
01:14:36.940
everything but he's saying that as a guy he's a wussy for paying for the that's not that's literally
01:14:43.820
not what i mean is donated 100 so what is your understanding and your thinking is scientifically
01:14:53.340
correct soy milk has makes men more feminine brixton is scientifically correct it's it's literally like
01:15:01.340
it's it's like a it's like a silly insult yeah so you're okay so not directed at anybody at this
01:15:09.820
table it's just like okay but you could say i think that video that lady has it so backwards
01:15:15.660
it's gotta be satire or something because no she's got a whole channel full of them like she's in her
01:15:22.860
car and her entire channel if you want a man that's gonna be a leader then you have to submit to him you
01:15:28.780
can't exactly so why are you saying that he's a wussy for saying that he's no i'm not i'm not saying
01:15:36.220
i am not saying that you are soy boy if you want to pay for the date i am saying she's she wants a
01:15:43.180
progressive super liberal dude and a nickname and a nickname a semi-derogatory somebody that bends to her
01:15:51.980
will that like everything that she says that he does basically i would say okay soy boy is like
01:15:59.020
the liberal version of redneck you know like you can call somebody like a redneck and you're not
01:16:04.860
talking about like a specific person so does it specifically pertain to like your political
01:16:09.740
standing or like what i don't think so yeah i think it just pertains to the person soy milk
01:16:14.140
i mean give me some steak give me some red meat some raw milk that's what we drink okay
01:16:22.700
like people people who like consume soy probably are more likely to be a bit more liberal people who
01:16:29.820
are vegetarian are more likely to lean a bit more liberal in their politics and that's just been the
01:16:35.420
nickname bro i'm asking that up that's just been i know but where does he bro you are literally derailing
01:16:41.420
the conversation now i'm trying to see where you're standing i've just explained it to you
01:16:45.980
you want you want me to articulate all of my political stances on various political issues yes
01:16:51.980
no that's not going to happen why so you can you're on a talk show you're hosting i'm on a dating talk show
01:16:57.740
i'm on a dating talk show i'm not about to articulate every single one of my political
01:17:02.460
stances whether it be firearms whether it be abortion whether it be whatever political thing it is
01:17:07.980
i'm still the initial question was about uh we're reacting to something dating related yes we are
01:17:16.140
okay so i've i've thoroughly answered your question okay why are you arguing just to argue i'm not
01:17:21.500
arguing just to argue i'm just trying to see where you stand at on my politics i said politically
01:17:25.980
moderate we're face to face i said i'd say i'm politically moderate does that sufficiently answer
01:17:30.220
your question by answering all these questions i've just answered your question okay i'd i'd consider
01:17:34.140
myself politically politically let's move on lovely okay do you want to say to be politically moderate
01:17:40.140
okay go ahead i answered i answered oh you already answered okay rock and roll okay we have a couple
01:17:49.580
chats here that we have to uh get to we have jonathan crouteau hey thank you man forgot to say this
01:17:55.580
last stream but love the pod brian one request destiny versus shapiro also happy independence day
01:18:00.700
everyone hey yo john thank you very much much appreciated thank you for the uh soup chat man
01:18:05.340
you're you're a legend i kefka hey thank you for the 50 that hurts her because it puts him in the bad
01:18:10.860
spot when was this sent oh this was sent uh almost an hour ago for couples out there never put your
01:18:17.020
significant other in a spot like that forcing them to fight their family over you is never a good spot
01:18:22.220
it brings resentment oh shit yo ab check thank you for the uh 20 gifted uh memberships man really
01:18:29.740
appreciate it you're a fucking legend good to see you uh back in chat i haven't seen you in a while
01:18:33.740
man welcome welcome uh thank you so much prometheus venom hey thank you man what about the corn industry
01:18:40.220
actresses get paid more than their male counterparts yeah there's definitely some industries where i think
01:18:44.220
women get paid more i mean in modeling and porn and uh i think in i mean there's other there's
01:18:51.500
certain industries that are more women dominated like nursing and nursing pays very well so
01:18:55.500
um all right and then did we pop this one pull this one up i don't remember but um thank you man
01:19:02.620
appreciate it dude i'd date the fuck out of overalls too i know i'm kind of i'm looking at your overalls
01:19:08.380
right now and i'm still i'm still stunned by them because they're so good they're so good they look
01:19:12.940
good on gabby can you read this one better on the floor uh gabby it is clear his mom is sabotaging
01:19:18.060
your relationship if he cannot cut the proverbial umbilical cord your marriage will struggle take it from a
01:19:24.300
recovering mama's boy okay whoa there you have it he's giving you perspective i've been there i've
01:19:31.580
done that let me give you let me let me tell you what's up like that's what he was all right we have
01:19:36.380
uh on gay tour thank you man please that american flag girl should yell a yeehaw fourth of july uh the
01:19:42.860
most base girl on the panel f feminism and woke crap trump president the most important thing is deus
01:19:48.540
vault um can we get a yeehaw wow that was beautiful well done okay very cool i think we are fully caught
01:19:58.220
up on all that so uh we need to react to is eric in the bathroom or what's okay uh do you know how to
01:20:05.580
pull up a tab yeah uh you're gonna pull up actually just wait until eric we're gonna have to wait until
01:20:10.860
eric's back to do that so um those of you who are single some of you said you were single some of you said
01:20:17.340
it's complicated one of you is in a relationship i believe that's you nikki um those of you who are
01:20:24.460
single what does that really mean oh mad single like single af yeah but like you can people can
01:20:32.700
say they're single and then they're just like hooked up with someone like yeah the night oh that's fair
01:20:36.700
but i think i'm pretty straightforward like i i'm not single meaning i'm not in a relationship
01:20:41.660
like period can you close the door it's getting a little chilly in here thank you man um okay so
01:20:47.900
you're single i'm for me single like really single means like i'm not talking to anybody nothing's
01:20:54.460
going on i'm not like getting dressed for anyone in the bedroom like nothing fun's going on yeah by
01:20:59.740
myself sleeping by myself that's what it means for me so okay yeah you said so you said you've been
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celibate for seven months um and you said you went on one date correct uh so
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what what are you waiting for you think i want i want a long-term like commitment i don't want like
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another two and a half year flings i just had i've had another one before that was another two
01:21:28.540
two and a half years i keep getting in these two and a half year relationships and i hit like that year
01:21:32.380
two and a half year mark and i i don't know what it is if they don't want to grow or if i'm that's
01:21:36.300
when she hits the fan much or what it is but we end up just going our separate ways and it works out
01:21:41.820
for the best to be honest because we probably weren't meant to be together but you know it's
01:21:46.780
always a growing process it's definitely a learning process i feel that's why i'm really single
01:21:53.340
all right you said that's why i'm really single okay uh eric can you pull up we're gonna have the girls
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for those of you who are single we're gonna show you two eligible bachelors who you may be interested
01:22:08.060
in um by the way make sure you can't see the the top portion of their instagrams eric can you pull up
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uh xqc please it's one of the uh instagram tabs okay uh this is felix uh so eric scroll down we're just
01:22:26.780
gonna look at some of his photos he's you know and uh okay there's felix right there he's a he's
01:22:33.420
a very nice guy he's from canada okay he's got a french accent um big fan of the show big fan of the
01:22:40.700
show uh so he's requested that i attempt to set him up with one of the lovely women on the panel tonight
01:22:48.460
so um continue scrolling eric look at that he's a handsome guy yeah he's good looking he's a handsome
01:22:54.060
guy keep scrolling he's sweet yeah you guys like the hair is you know it's sophia what are you
01:22:59.340
thinking is it your type fine um sure sure okay wow that's enthusiastic okay he's not a dog uh we're
01:23:07.420
gonna just go around the table so just around the table would you date felix let's start with you go
01:23:14.460
ahead smash i'm just kidding i'd have to get to know him that was good okay i need to get to know
01:23:21.900
him i just about popped out of my head she was like oh
01:23:30.540
nikki what about you pass pass okay um if i got to know him maybe you would date him you'd go on a
01:23:40.300
date with him yeah okay if you got to know him or you'd go on a date with him then get to know him
01:23:45.420
like you know same thing yeah okay same difference you know okay would your boyfriend drive you to the
01:23:50.220
date oh my god yeah okay good times um what about you pass not not your type not my type okay we should
01:23:59.420
get into types uh after that but after uh this what about you oh you know he's cute how old is he do
01:24:05.900
you know i think he's in his mid-20s i think okay mid-20s okay i mean he's cute it's he's he's an
01:24:13.100
attractive young person i don't i don't know how much we'll have in common but i'm open to
01:24:18.460
he's 27 oh he's same age as me okay yeah i mean why not okay what about you personally i think i pass
01:24:27.740
you would pass okay what about you gabby he's a little bit younger than me and i don't think that
01:24:32.780
he's my type so i'm gonna pass okay um you missed it would you date would you date him yeah
01:24:52.940
okay so what what did you find attractive about him that you said yeah i'm just feel like i need
01:24:58.140
more experience about dating oh okay so she's like i'll take anything bring them on um eric can
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you go back to it can you scroll to the very top nikki she took her advice to heart
01:25:16.700
okay um oh just a reminder uh just if we're doing this put it in the window tab um
01:25:23.820
uh okay so this is felix he's a very popular twitch streamer arguably one of the the most popular
01:25:32.220
streamers he recently got a kick deal which was uh for i think it was a two-year non-exclusive deal
01:25:39.420
for a hundred million dollars those of you who said no does that change the calculus at all for you when
01:25:45.900
it comes to uh if you would date him or not no hundred million dollars to i think it was a two-year
01:25:53.340
deal no no i'm so sorry that's like retire you money you never have to work a day in your life
01:26:00.540
money a million it's not what it used to be a hundred million a hundred million still isn't
01:26:05.180
what are you are you out of your mind are you out of your mind a hundred million dollars isn't
01:26:11.740
what it used to be well it's not what it used to be no i'm not saying it's bad but i'm just saying
01:26:16.780
a hundred million dollars is not what it used to be but it's a lot you could you could burn through
01:26:20.940
a hundred million dollars pretty quick but that's only if you're smart with it hold on how much let
01:26:27.900
me ask you a question how much do you want your significant other to earn bare minimum i mean honestly
01:26:34.700
i like homesteading so so you like making your guy like a house husband no no no no no no no
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wait can you expand on that because i'm not sure i don't think i've heard that term before homesteading
01:26:46.860
100 not enough homesteading is um kind of like when you're self-sufficient and you can grow your own
01:26:53.900
food okay kind of like solar power things like that where do you you you currently live where
01:26:59.500
in fresno fresno okay how what's the average homestead house price in fresno uh to rent or to
01:27:07.740
own do you own your own property currently no okay so i was i would assume you need to buy a land
01:27:12.860
and buy property or construct it how much would that cost you don't just get gifted am i am i just
01:27:20.300
doing it for myself or do i have like um dependents like people that i need to support well
01:27:25.580
because that factors in how much land i need i do want kids yeah okay well depending upon how many
01:27:31.580
kids i want you know the land needs to increase per person a hundred million i think you're just
01:27:41.820
around like obviously a hundred you i'm not saying that you can't do anything with a hundred million
01:27:47.340
dollars i'm just saying it's not let me ask you a question let me ask you a question okay so
01:27:51.420
how much money would you like your partner to make
01:27:59.020
a comfortable amount what is that i don't know a hundred a hundred thousand me personally i don't
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know how much to estimate so i feel like i can't really i'm not like a finance person i'm not a
01:28:11.580
numbers person so i can't like estimate so what's the lifestyle you see yourself like do you see your
01:28:16.780
lifestyle i want to stay home that's that's my idea i don't want to be a girl boss i don't want
01:28:23.260
to do you want to be a stay-at-home mom yeah okay so then hold on hold on hold on hold on so then i'll
01:28:28.380
take what i can so you want to stay at home you want so just to be clear of the household income
01:28:35.020
you want the guy to provide 100 of it correct okay so i mean i can have investments so then well
01:28:40.940
hold on and like i can contribute that way yeah but but you you just said you you haven't really
01:28:45.420
given the much thought how much your potential partner needs to be making however you actually
01:28:50.220
need to give it even more thought because you want your partner to be contributing a hundred
01:28:55.900
percent of the household income okay so how much does that need to be you think
01:29:06.220
six figures you want to put the math around while i think about it
01:29:09.180
how many kids do you want to have uh that is a discussion that i would have to have with my
01:29:18.700
partner probably around two to at least two but i'm open to more okay not like not like a crazy
01:29:29.500
amount i mean i want to be able to like walk when i'm older you know you want to walk when you're
01:29:33.740
older reminder you're you're 24 correct okay what's the i when you're gonna like settle down
01:29:39.100
what's the ideal age of the guy that you'd be looking to marry uh i don't i mean as long as
01:29:44.540
they're not like geriatric that's fine but okay i'm not looking for like a hugh hefner like i want
01:29:50.380
them to like have a pulse okay so and you said you want a homestead so you want to sell not necessarily
01:29:56.300
like a homestead but i want to have like a garden for myself like i still i don't mind being like on the
01:30:01.100
grid and like having power and okay how big of a house do you want square footage i can tell you
01:30:07.820
like bedroom wise yeah sure how many okay so like my my dream house that i have it how about your i
01:30:13.740
your realistic house my realistic that you think you'll get
01:30:19.820
well that depends because my dream house would be a billion dollar house you know
01:30:23.420
my dream house isn't a billion dollar house though my dream house is barely over a million
01:30:28.140
huh my dream house your dream house is barely over a million it's like
01:30:35.180
it's under a million and a half okay but realistically like what so okay how many bedrooms
01:30:42.140
you said you want two kids right at least two at least two but you want more do you want the kids
01:30:46.780
to each have their own bedroom yeah okay do you want a guest when they first start off that's not
01:30:51.740
like super important but yeah eventually yes yes and i want to have a guest room too and then you want
01:30:56.780
a master bedroom i'm assuming so four bedrooms is that i mean if if you want to be like if that's
01:31:02.140
my realistic house then yeah like what's your dream house uh the dream house it's i think it's
01:31:11.660
i think it's eight bedrooms six bathrooms no no no no i think it's maybe seven okay um
01:31:19.100
how many bathrooms thank you how many bathrooms six and you want to stay in california i think it's
01:31:23.180
six and a half do you want to stay in california no okay so you're open to living in uh north dakota
01:31:28.780
maybe not north dakota the house is in georgia the specific house the dream house is in georgia
01:31:35.100
no i've wanted i've wanted i've wanted one house for a long time i've been on zillow needs to sponsor
01:31:41.500
me because i've looked at that house so many times do you want to go on vacations yeah regular
01:31:47.340
vacations maybe what's regular uh let's say twice two three times a year yeah okay international
01:31:53.900
vacations or you'd be okay that doesn't matter okay um cars how many cars do you want two cars
01:32:02.540
i like cars i'm a car person what okay so many cars would you like your household to have uh one for
01:32:10.220
my husband one for me family car okay are you okay with a regular car would you like a luxury car
01:32:19.900
uh i like older cars so like classic cars not like luxury but not like a prius
01:32:27.660
not not something that's new but not something that's like super fancy and extravagant you probably
01:32:32.700
want like a family car to transport your kids around are you going to be doing that in a 1950s chevy
01:32:37.660
i could yeah 1950s chevy okay um keeping all this keeping all this in mind
01:32:46.620
i'm gonna ask again what would your husband's income need to be for him to support a hundred
01:32:55.660
i mean in like dream fairy tale land or like do you want me to like
01:33:02.300
what more realistic yeah i mean i don't know do i want to say like a million dollars
01:33:08.620
realistic a year well i mean to support all that probably you're gonna need more than a million
01:33:14.380
dollars a year but so above minimum wage well yeah definitely above minimum wage but i mean i'm not
01:33:20.220
like picky i don't have like a hard staunch like they need to make this much for me to be happy but this
01:33:27.340
is you just listed out the lifestyle that you want so well yeah but you don't want wants are different
01:33:33.900
there's like wants and then there's like realistic i'm just not even gonna engage with that wait how
01:33:38.540
old are you i'm 24. how much do you make a year i haven't worked in a year
01:33:49.100
how do you do it yeah i'm so curious unless it's like super private and that's not like a thing
01:33:56.140
it's not private no my my ex supported me okay okay and this is the complicated situation okay
01:34:04.620
okay that's not for like lack of me working like there was a time in my life that i had like three
01:34:12.220
jobs and i was going to school at the same time so i know how to work it's not that i don't know how
01:34:17.820
to work i just don't want to but okay this this all stems from like you kind of scoffing at oh 100
01:34:24.300
million dollars it's like no i didn't scoff i don't think that that's a bad amount to have that's a
01:34:29.740
really really really really good amount to have probably more than i'll see in my lifetime but i'll
01:34:35.740
all i said was that 100 million dollars is not what it used to be you know you can say that about
01:34:41.100
any value a dollar isn't what it used to be then why are you coming at me so hard for one little
01:34:47.740
anecdote that i said i think i think it's because 100 million dollars is a very large amount to most
01:34:53.740
i'm not i'm not shitting on 100 million dollars i'll just say that i'm not saying that somebody's a
01:34:58.300
brokey if they have 100 million dollars like that's that's a lot of money that's almost
01:35:03.180
egregious amounts of the fact that you said it i mean i just you know or the way you said it maybe
01:35:08.940
because it's just like it's 100 million well i'm glad i'm glad i could clarify i'm glad i could
01:35:14.060
consciously clarify what i meant by that tyler durden donated 100 oh these came through i see in chat the
01:35:20.460
strongest and smartest men who've ever lived i see all this potential and i cease squandering god damn it
01:35:27.900
an entire generation pumping gas waiting tables slaves with white collars advertising
01:35:34.620
his us chasing cars and clothes okay tyler durden thank you very much for your tts man thank you um
01:35:41.180
okay so like i i will predict that my brother will make more than a hundred million dollars
01:35:47.180
in his lifetime what maybe even yearly is he a crypto guy or no law lawyer litigation okay
01:35:57.420
all right like big law he doesn't do it right now he just got accepted into chicago
01:36:06.300
you're you think your brother's just strictly doing litigation you think he's going to make over a hundred
01:36:11.740
million dollars a year not necessarily just strictly but sorry sorry i mean there's things that you can get
01:36:16.300
into like with big law like corporate law you can do um a clerkship with a judge like things like
01:36:23.660
that like he he has his own plan like i can't speak for him you know he's told me about it a little bit
01:36:27.980
i mean attorneys make good money but like an average well like big law i'm not talking about like small
01:36:35.500
like you know like you just said over a hundred a hundred million dollars in his lifetime that would
01:36:42.220
require him to make millions of dollars a year he's he's a smart smart smart person i'm not i'm not
01:36:52.220
doubting that i'm not doubting that what he means is that most people they have six hundred thousand
01:36:57.500
dollars that's like the most that average people make okay then a guy that makes six hundred thousand
01:37:02.780
dollars then that's fine yes but he's trying to tell you that a hundred you know a hundred million
01:37:09.340
dollars is a lot of i know it's a lot of money i can conceptualize that a hundred million dollars is a
01:37:17.820
massive amount of money but why can't you live off that for the rest of your life
01:37:24.460
okay if my if my husband had a hundred million dollars then yes i would be set for life he would
01:37:29.660
be set for life our kids would be good to go yes so if my husband had a hundred million i'd be happy
01:37:35.820
with him that'd be a great amount to have okay all right we'll move on um so uh i do want to go
01:37:42.220
around the panel here i have a question for all of you uh are you happy with your dating life go ahead
01:37:49.900
well i don't have one but yes well i mean i'm sure there's are you on any dating apps no have you
01:37:56.300
you go on dates do the guys approach you they slide into your dms on instagram no come on no
01:38:02.220
girl are you serious come on yeah i'm serious because you're like like mad pretty right so like
01:38:08.300
it's really hard for me to believe but maybe i shouldn't make assumptions yeah you shouldn't
01:38:12.380
because i live in a really small town oh and everybody in there is like my second cousin somehow
01:38:18.140
so oh i don't go on not a lot of options you don't take your cousins gotcha
01:38:23.580
yeah okay lots of inbreeding i see i see your point i see your point yeah okay uh are you happy with
01:38:31.340
your dating life yes oh there's the fireworks starting okay i don't know if you guys will end
01:38:36.460
up hearing that but uh what about you are you happy with your dating life yeah despite the fact that you
01:38:41.340
just broke up yeah two days ago three days ago yeah you guys are gonna get back together like it's that's
01:38:47.740
the whole point of that like it's not like you know break up it's just so we can kind of like
01:38:53.820
sleep with other people no not even that it's just it's been a year and we just want to see each
01:38:59.580
other grow because we've kind of felt like we've held each other apart in some ways so we just kind
01:39:07.340
of want to stop us stop that i don't know how to word this stop us from doing that and just like
01:39:15.020
take a break and you know figure out ourselves okay you know do what we want to do and like
01:39:23.820
and just grow up so but i mean it's interesting but you said you kind of need this oh hold on
01:39:30.860
oh why is it not hold on i'm gonna have to re-trigger that because the tts didn't come in
01:39:35.420
hold on let's get that one sec i'll re-trigger it i don't know why it didn't maybe it's because there's
01:39:41.260
a curse word in there give it just a sec but um but i mean you're still hanging out with
01:39:47.020
him you're spending time with him as if he's your boyfriend right yeah so like it's not really a
01:39:53.900
break like a break would mean there's like no almost no contact that's usually how healthy breakups
01:40:00.620
oh hold on so what do you want my partner donated 100 and 69 cents thank you okay first off red
01:40:09.020
coat you are a bum you live in a fantasy world clearly reality hasn't checked your butt it will
01:40:14.780
eventually maybe you are just bad at math and finances the lifestyle you want is supported by a
01:40:21.260
six-figure salary yeah you're gonna need a guy who makes it like six figures okay then that's fine
01:40:27.420
i mean i didn't say that i was you know looking for some crazy like rich man that is of course
01:40:34.460
that would be nice to make making six figures puts you in like well i think the top 10 is it
01:40:41.100
okay of income earners well that's what everybody's competing for anyway i think i could be wrong maybe
01:40:46.300
15 huh well that's what everybody's competing for anyway right the top 10 of partners well maybe
01:40:54.380
not there's a difference between what you want and what you're you can get especially what you can
01:40:59.660
get in terms of commitment well i mean i guess i'll come across that bridge when i get to it
01:41:07.260
reality's kicked my ass a couple times i mean i've had some hard things that have happened to me in life
01:41:12.620
but i don't let it dictate my future and what happens from then on out sure that you know what i think we
01:41:20.060
have it should because those are life lessons they're checking you you're supposed to learn
01:41:25.100
from those life lessons because they're only happening to you yeah and you're supposed to
01:41:29.980
learn from it like if it keeps repeating exactly and i think it's less than 10 because when i did the
01:41:35.660
female delusion calculator it said it was one percent for somebody that makes a hundred k a year
01:41:44.780
and i think i put like not obese and like 25 to 35 and here let's pull it up eric can you pull up
01:41:53.020
the uh it's one of the uh i think it's favorited at one of the top things we'll have you do it and
01:41:57.740
then we'll have you do it um uh put a window tab please is there one for women though that like for
01:42:06.140
what guys want in women yeah there is there might be okay um so can you actually mouse wheel scroll up
01:42:11.740
so it's a bit bigger yeah there we go okay so uh we'll start with you so age range uh at least my
01:42:20.620
age so 24. to what uh younger than my dad i would say 40 is okay 24 to 40. okay so you're 24 you'd be
01:42:32.380
fine with a 40 year old guy yeah that's fine okay exclude married
01:42:41.820
has anybody ever watched succession just can well let's try to run through this do you know the
01:42:47.100
dynamic that um marcia and logan have you know like she kind of looks the other way and he
01:42:54.460
kind of does whatever he wants okay so would you be okay with him having a mistress that's a hard
01:42:59.660
question here let's just exclude married let's just exclude married um uh race
01:43:06.620
uh i mean i have a preference but not it's not strictly like i've had mexican boyfriends i've
01:43:16.060
had white boyfriends i've had can we please move things along please i'm so sorry but that's why
01:43:22.300
like it's that's why i'm just like would you would you date with people would you date a white guy
01:43:26.460
black there's options for any color i mean but that's i'm open to like multiple that's one of
01:43:34.060
the options but i'm not open to all colors just some which which would you like to preclude
01:43:39.420
uh i'm not big i'm not like hugely attracted to
01:43:53.100
pull it back eric pull it back so do you want to just say white
01:43:56.860
i mean latinos are white aren't they are latinos white
01:44:00.540
okay but i'm pretty damn white so i'm trying not to be canceled here okay it's fine it's fine
01:44:07.980
people can have preferences okay minimum height uh at least five eight okay guys be quiet over
01:44:15.020
there please okay um exclude obese like are we talking like the sodies sisters that are like 600
01:44:22.860
pounds we don't need the fucking the extra can just please please just no i do not want an obese
01:44:29.980
person okay uh minimum income sounded like was it 100k minimum uh i mean that's the thing like i
01:44:38.940
my husband will worry about finances like i'm not the person to worry about them so in your lifestyle
01:44:44.620
that you imagine in your life in your head how much money do you think my husband will take care of
01:44:51.500
all that like i just want to be i just want to focus on like having the kids oh we don't need
01:44:56.860
we don't need we don't need hold on hold on quiet quiet quiet donated 100 and 69 cents reality kicked
01:45:06.220
your ass really was the new lv bag being sold out a soul crushing defeat in your world or maybe your ex
01:45:14.540
realized you are a bum and with nothing to besides your personality which is about as exciting as box of
01:45:20.300
dead puppies and left you oh well okay bad that's a little mean but i mean i don't have a louis vuitton
01:45:29.660
bag i actually don't have any designer bags i'm a star okay uh let's bring it back uh minimum income
01:45:42.620
60k okay i mean you're the lifestyle you described is not going to be supported okay no she said six
01:45:50.060
six you said 60k let's do 100. okay get a good three digit number okay uh find out okay so the
01:46:00.860
probability you have a 1.1 chance okay uh that's uh yeah that's just white man or white men yeah okay
01:46:12.140
you want to scroll down a little bit okay that's a you have a four out of five cat bag
01:46:22.780
i don't know okay uh did you want to do it too let's do yours i sure all right let's reset everything
01:46:30.300
or actually we don't need to reset i'll change my answers because the last time it was one percent
01:46:34.620
and i want a little bit more than that so i'm going to change my answers from the last time sure that's
01:46:39.340
fine age okay um 20 to 35. okay exclude married any so right now you date a 35 year old yeah okay
01:46:50.620
uh exclude married yeah okay uh race any okay uh minimum height um how tall are you i'm five seven
01:46:58.780
or five six okay so i'd say like five ten five ten and exclude obese all right thank you uh minimum
01:47:06.300
income 100k is good 100k all right so that is 0.75 uh between that age range
01:47:20.220
0.75 that's why i'm so single it's worth a shot here let's just i want to go back really quick
01:47:28.140
no uh do like 30 to 35 i'm just curious because the most most guys who are like 20 and 25
01:47:36.140
are not making 100k you know oh wow that does not help things much to begin with okay there you
01:47:43.820
have it folks uh enjoy the cat food um okay all right there you have it the well hold on can we
01:47:51.580
figure out what what percentage of women we are well i'm sure you know what that's a good idea here
01:48:01.580
we have stifler here stifler says ask the ladies to rate their looks on a scale of one to ten
01:48:07.740
so we're going to go around the table and we're going to start with
01:48:16.060
you go ahead um i say six girl i'm sorry of yourself you mean yeah oh my god okay i so disagree with
01:48:27.420
that okay well if five is average and ten is perfect i'm far from perfect i say six i'm above
01:48:33.420
average nikki what about you i'm 10. nikki's real delusion okay what about sophia what about you um
01:48:42.780
i don't want to rate myself why is that because i don't want to uh okay do you i mean you're not batman
01:48:52.460
like it's just a simple question it's just a pick a number how you feel like right now just on
01:48:59.100
personality okay so let's say five is average would you say you're average looking do you say you're
01:49:03.580
above average looking physical appearance wise it's okay to be honest
01:49:08.940
i'm so confused um me right myself i just don't want to rate myself just pick a number from one to
01:49:24.220
ten like on how you feel in in this exact moment like have you ever played that game like he's a 10
01:49:30.140
but what he wears flip flops have you ever played that game are you playing that game no no i'm just
01:49:35.500
asking have you played that game okay so you have used the rating system before no i like i haven't
01:49:40.940
played that game but oh i saw it all over like tick tock okay but you're familiar with it yeah okay
01:49:48.780
i just don't want to rate myself just a question for you that's that's fine if you don't want to um
01:49:53.820
would you date a guy who's shorter than you i have do you have a height preference how tall are you
01:49:59.660
i'm like five five okay you don't have any high preference like don't care at all about the
01:50:05.180
guy's height don't do you care about the guy's physical appearance is that a factor for you honestly
01:50:11.980
no you don't care at all about physical appearance i mean i've liked some ugly guys yeah okay so in terms
01:50:23.580
of the calculus you do when assessing this is someone i'm attracted to this is somebody who
01:50:28.700
i want to pursue romantically you don't there's zero consideration placed on physical physical
01:50:40.460
i mean sometimes maybe but it's not like i want to date them i just think they're good looking okay
01:50:47.580
so you do acknowledge that some people can be more good looking than others okay and but when it
01:50:53.900
comes to the men that you want to date you don't really doesn't looks doesn't matter at all
01:51:02.140
to a point yeah to a point what do you mean i mean like because like with this what's being said is
01:51:10.140
like what if you know let's say my boyfriend and like he's good looking would that disprove that looks
01:51:16.860
matters or it doesn't matter to me okay we're straying from the question basically how do you
01:51:22.620
feel right now do you feel like a one through ten like on how you feel look wise like
01:51:28.540
yo ab check thanks for the 50 gifted appreciate it man you're a fucking legend oh that's a fit check
01:51:33.420
uh we'll do once we get the ratings then we'll do fit check um
01:51:37.340
i don't think she wants to answer i just i don't want to rate myself okay okay uh tiffany right what about
01:51:44.460
you yeah um six five six five six okay what about you i'd probably say about the same a six okay uh
01:51:51.420
what about you i'm like a seven to an eight okay like a six six seven yuki what about you for me i don't
01:52:04.940
it's really a tough question because i don't know what answer consists by other people so maybe i give
01:52:11.500
myself a zero because i know what my exact never mind a zero yeah comparison that means you're the
01:52:20.380
ugliest one of amongst the ugliest people in the world is that what you're saying like if people
01:52:26.700
considering us i'm i'm really ugly it's fine why do you why do you think that though like you you
01:52:36.060
don't think you're like average you you portray what you believe so if you keep telling yourself
01:52:41.340
that you're ugly you're gonna start thinking oh i'm ugly and i don't equivalent to
01:52:46.460
anybody else like like let me let me tell you like a story it's like a really short story
01:52:54.300
so like i feel like i'm like kind of physically attracted because so first i'm a virgin and i
01:53:01.420
i asked my ex closer to the mic please i asked my ex and my boyfriend because i booked the hotel
01:53:08.300
at the alley like it's really nearby his hometown it's like just like half hour i text him like
01:53:14.860
certain message and i invite him to come over there and he just ignore like like i'm staying in that
01:53:22.940
hotel whole night alone like so i mean hurt your self-esteem exactly yeah honestly that word of advice
01:53:31.180
you don't even need a boyfriend you need confidence you think that you're ugly you already think in
01:53:35.580
some type of way you don't have any type of you know conversation skills so you what do you like
01:53:49.500
maybe like i give myself like five i think no i'm not asking you're racist i'm saying like in your hobby
01:53:56.220
like what do you like to do in your free time like honestly i'm staying in library whole day like
01:54:01.740
like i only study like staying in library like so you study and okay well while you're on your
01:54:07.740
downtime obviously your eyes will hurt why don't you just pick up a hobby of what you like to do
01:54:13.020
you know hobbies differentiate you from different people and because of what you like everybody likes
01:54:18.300
a certain thing and you know lo and behold somebody a guy when they will like the same thing that
01:54:23.100
you like and that you've worked on yourself you just need confidence you just need to like throw
01:54:27.500
dating out the fucking window because you don't need that you think you're ugly why do you think
01:54:32.540
that you just need to look in the mirror and be like okay you need to fix yourself okay well my makeup
01:54:37.660
is kind of like uh it's not looking like the same as everybody else on the screen let me try to work on
01:54:43.420
my makeup and work on my confidence as i'm doing this makeup i'm that bitch i'm this person you know you
01:54:49.340
have to have that mentality that you're up there you know it's okay it's all right take your time
01:55:03.740
take your time did i say something right like no i'm the same way i'm a big crier too like when you
01:55:10.060
get like that emotional heart string that just gets tugged there's like no stopping the water i'm sorry
01:55:16.620
i'm really blind i'm really i was afraid i was gonna cry on here too she was she was hurting
01:55:21.660
from a little bit before but i think she does struggle with her self-esteem for sure i mean i
01:55:27.740
get it i mean it takes so much like a long time to build your self-esteem girl and you know everybody
01:55:35.020
in your lifetime will turn their back on you that's just normal in life that's just everybody's a lesson
01:55:40.380
everybody is just a thought like a real or be in the back of your head you know people that you used
01:55:45.500
to know but be in the back of your head because you thought of it well as a person from suffering
01:55:50.860
you through time you grow to fix yourself you have to grow and learn that okay what am i missing like
01:55:57.980
how how can i be seen like as a human like our purpose is to be seen like by the other person and
01:56:05.660
as a partner if you're looking for one has to see you for who you are not behind the makeup not behind
01:56:17.660
do you want to do you want to tell me about something like
01:56:21.900
did you did you make her cry i i mean i wasn't looking at her so i didn't see the
01:56:27.260
you know it's got emotional that sometimes if you're not aware of them the truth can hurt a
01:56:32.620
little bit i think she was crying from before i don't think yeah she was like crying she was
01:56:37.500
emotional from earlier so i don't think that this was related oh yeah and okay just like all right
01:56:43.980
this up so yeah i mean since you want to interrupt me and stuff like that what about you what's your
01:56:51.340
relationship i think i just my presence made her cry um i've been i've been toxic tonight okay um
01:56:59.260
i'll go i'll go check on her in a sec though and make sure she's okay um uh let's see
01:57:05.420
we've got the super chat here cool slingshot motorsports hey thank you man what is everyone's
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opinion if a guy you're talking to brings you flowers on the first date how long have you been
01:57:14.940
talking that's an l dude don't do that don't bring chicks flowers on the first date that's obviously
01:57:21.100
that's sweet it's not sweet women don't respect it don't do it they're gonna look so this sounds
01:57:27.260
like a little past experience do you want to can we get it i've never i've never brought girl uh
01:57:32.300
i've never brought uh you doing okay yeah okay yeah it's all good it's all good welcome back welcome
01:57:38.780
back here we saved you a seat we saved you a seat okay um no i think uh i've never brought flowers
01:57:47.820
on the first date i just it's all right it's an huh you're single well so because i i don't bring
01:57:54.460
girls flowers on first dates that's because i'm single no no that would make more sense if you're
01:57:59.260
like super against bringing girl flowers and you're you're more likely to be single i think you're more
01:58:03.660
likely to be single if you're the type of guy to bring flowers on the first oh i disagree
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wholeheartedly nah girls don't respect that no girls in today's day and age do not respect that
01:58:13.420
i think you have a skewed perspective and i think you're kind of grouping people because i i very much
01:58:17.740
will break that stereotype right here right now um i don't resonate with that one okay here let's ask
01:58:23.580
the table who here has had a guy on a first date bring you flowers on a first date just you yeah it's
01:58:31.660
nice did he end up being your boyfriend yeah actually actually yes because it happened a
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couple times so there was a there was a couple times where i've actually been brought flowers but
01:58:40.780
the first date that i had was one of my exes yes and we did date for like a year and some change and
01:58:46.780
the the first date he gave you flowers yeah he was really sweet too look some girls will appreciate
01:58:53.740
that but there's a lot of girls can be like so yeah unpack that experience then so like i have
01:58:59.180
i didn't have the experience okay i've never brought girl flowers okay so then where's the
01:59:03.900
where's that coming from exactly it's just like that's not that's not going to be the determining
01:59:09.900
factor of whether a girl is into you or not oh if a girl's into you and even further if a girl's into
01:59:16.620
you if she likes you you don't got to do anything you don't got to pay for the date like you don't
01:59:21.820
got to do anything no that's desperation yeah if she's desperate then she won't do then she'll be
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okay with whatever no if a woman shows interest or the way women show interest is they match your
01:59:32.780
energy right so like it's not about like oh i'm not going to bring her flowers i'm not going to do
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this and i'm not going to do that like i shouldn't have to do anything if a woman's into me that's not
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the case i think you're i think you're describing maybe not super dignified women because if i'm going
01:59:47.820
to if i show interest i at least it's just too much it's extra i don't think i gotta say it's
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fucking extra to bring a girl flowers on the first date it's like way too much investment up
01:59:59.500
front wow i don't think so i think that's stingy actually it's not about money it's not about the
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money it's not about being stingy doesn't have to do with money stingy can be emotional too so i think
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did you were you gonna say something here yeah but like okay i'm just wondering what what do you
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think about if i bring a guy a flower shit if you i i'm down you gonna bring me flowers on it
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first day like honestly like i'm so i'm actually offended you didn't bring me flowers tonight i'm
02:00:27.660
very upset i'm so sorry you should have brought flowers um but uh i mean i think a lot of guys
02:00:34.140
that'd be quite endearing because i mean it's so rare that men receive that sort of treatment from
02:00:39.180
women because like i remember i made like rpg game for my online ex-boyfriend oh yeah that was
02:00:47.260
your online thing though and i buy a star like a star on like like in the universe name use his name
02:00:53.980
oh wait you bought him a star oh but like hey about me anyway i'm so sorry take the star back
02:01:02.700
yeah i'll take it back the star back that's painful girl i'm sorry about that um when i see
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flowers they just make me happy and they're not as materialistic as like a gift or hold on just a
02:01:15.740
refresh donated 100 you should boot or skip the radical feminist she's not contributing anything to
02:01:23.420
the podcast i mean she contributed a bit earlier uh she just didn't want to rate herself which
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we've encountered before some people don't want to do it i suppose it's okay um do you do you want
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to respond to that to what yeah do you feel like you've contributed yeah yeah yeah there's been
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time i said something you said some stuff she said some stuff she's contributed yeah okay all right
02:01:51.500
uh and plus you know we got a full full panel here so there's a lot of a lot of voices um but uh hey
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thank you man for the tts uh but yeah just going back to this one i think flowers don't do that
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shit and i've given flowers to my ex-boyfriend and i just think they're beautiful i like to receive i
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like to give they make you feel pretty i don't know like they're nice that's fine but like you have to
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understand that most i would say most people in today's day and age both both men women but i'd say
02:02:19.980
a little bit more so women are dating multiple people at the same same time they're not traditional
02:02:25.740
people are casually hooking up i'm sure we can all agree there's a hookup culture so my thing as a guy
02:02:30.460
is you reserve this sort of treatment for your girlfriend a girl who is loyal to you a girl who
02:02:37.420
has committed to you a girl who is monogamous with you you do not go out and buy a girl flowers pay for
02:02:43.260
the first date when it's it's plausible that she could be dating three other guys she could be sleeping
02:02:49.100
with another guy not all girls do that however as a guy a lot of people aren't going to be up
02:02:54.140
front about how they're moving in the in the uh sexual marketplace in the dating marketplace
02:02:59.420
so as a as a guy and i suppose as a woman too you kind of have to go in assuming it's possible this
02:03:04.300
person's like sleeping with one two three other people a lot of people move that way maybe not you
02:03:09.500
but maybe you know somebody who is maybe you got girlfriends who you know are moving in that sort
02:03:14.380
of way where they're they got three dudes that they're seeing so as a guy and and this really only
02:03:20.620
falls on men because there's the expectation of men to be paying for the first date to be providing
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to buy a girl flowers so as a guy i'm saying hey you should not do that because you really don't want
02:03:31.660
to cut you don't want to put yourself in a position to be a sucker a sucker is a guy who provides for a
02:03:36.700
girl who's fucking another guy okay and i'm not going to pay for a first date i'm not going to buy
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flowers for a girl who on a first date who fucked a guy last night so this is coming from like a more
02:03:48.140
protective or like a self-preservation space because i think also too do you have any dating
02:03:52.860
experience outside of the american sphere or outside of american culture i mean i've been to
02:03:57.340
europe i've but have you like formally dated like someone outside i mean i've been in europe for short
02:04:02.780
periods of time so i mean i've like like like lightly or really what do you mean like you've like
02:04:08.940
lightly dated or have you seriously with i mean i was in i was in i was in amsterdam for like three
02:04:14.300
weeks so it's like very i yeah i was mostly there working but yeah but it's mostly in the us but i
02:04:20.620
live in the u.s right so but meaning that your exposure to dating is very very american only yeah
02:04:26.700
i can't speak about the dating uh meta in kazakhstan i don't know yeah we won't we won't have to go that
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far because i don't know any of us have that experience but yeah i think that as far as dating
02:04:37.820
especially in other cultures like like the there was i went to i went to what why why bring up other
02:04:45.100
cultures when we're all here and in america we can talk about western cultures okay but a lot of
02:04:49.420
people are immigrants come here from other cultures and bring those dating customs i i have something to
02:04:55.660
say what's up for you if you are scared about you don't want to be a sucker then when you're first
02:05:03.580
talking to a girl you should say from the beginning what are your intentions are you dating to marry
02:05:08.780
or are you just wanting to hook up and then if she's just wanting to hook up then don't bring her
02:05:13.340
flowers don't waste your time doing any of that and it'll be evident too if she says no i'm not trying
02:05:18.780
to waste my time i'm just looking for somebody like serious then yeah flowers are nice i mean and you
02:05:24.060
would know i disagree even even a woman who says she's looking for long-term relationship she could
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still have while people are waiting to find the person that is going to be a they're going to be
02:05:38.620
serious with they could very well have two one two three side pieces they're going on multiple dates a
02:05:43.580
week even unsuspecting ordinary normal women are capable of going on multiple dates a week well it's a
02:05:51.900
possibility but you should just give not expect to return like not you know sorry what you should
02:06:02.700
just be do kind things but not expect anything back like just i mean if you if it makes you feel good to
02:06:11.340
give then give don't expect like for her to only be talking to you and not you know i would be bothered
02:06:17.580
if i was talking to somebody and they had sex with somebody that before but i wouldn't get myself
02:06:23.020
into that situation because i would say from the beginning continue i would say from the beginning
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well i don't know i think i don't i'm too unexperienced to say anything but okay here's the thing is that
02:06:37.980
you can do as much as you can to like try to get bender the offender donated 99 some women can't
02:06:48.700
handle the truth hey man thank you for the tts um you can try to screen a girl as much as you want
02:06:56.540
but the reality is even some very unassuming women who you wouldn't think would be dating multiple guys
02:07:03.420
sleeping with multiple guys they very well maybe okay i know some like shy quiet girls who like are
02:07:12.460
like have really mellow personalities you'd never think that they're promiscuous but they are or like
02:07:18.860
just a normal girl in her mid-20s late in her 30s professional working woman you'd never think it
02:07:25.420
she's going on six states a week and you think and a lot of women are not going to be up front and same
02:07:30.220
with men they're not going to like say yeah by the way i'm dating six people right now because if
02:07:35.420
they tell you that and they're interested in you they know that they're going to potentially lose you
02:07:42.060
like if you're if you're a girl and you're really into a dude and you got a side piece or you got a
02:07:46.220
fuck buddy and there's like a dude martin donated one oh good to see you man it's been a minute
02:07:54.940
welcome back you're cute we're dating now in one week's time a private jet will land in your corn
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board it where those overalls it will be a patriotic pleasure take them off god bless america let's get a
02:08:10.940
yeehaw no come on let's get a yeehaw you did one earlier yeehaw for martin um i feel like that
02:08:19.740
mindset is kind of like a big city mindset because if you move somewhere where there's not all these
02:08:27.180
people and all these are you addressing me or the super chat yeah you okay did do you want to do
02:08:32.220
a yeehaw or no no yo martin thank you very much for the uh tts i'll i'll uh talk to her and see if i
02:08:37.580
could put in a good word for you martin uh by the way w w martin's in the uh chat martin actually
02:08:43.980
saved me from a shark once we were out surfing in malibu have you have you ever been to malibu
02:08:49.980
it's like a really good surf spot we're out surfing right it was like a pretty good day it was like i'd
02:08:53.740
say like chest to head high and he was glassy like super glassy and like we're out there surfing right
02:08:59.980
and a shark comes up and we're we're just like bullshitting like talking about like crypto and
02:09:04.860
you know like dogecoin and and we're just like sitting there bullshitting whatever
02:09:08.940
and like he's he's like a really smart guy like he's a mensa dude so really high iq so he like made
02:09:15.500
millions in crypto in any case we're bullshitting out there on their surfboards a shark comes up
02:09:20.700
starts circling us and he's a like a madman in a good way and so he's like
02:09:28.620
fuck this shark and starts being the shit out of the shark wow yeah so can i set you up with martin
02:09:35.820
well yeah i'll see him in my cornfield next week boom okay go ahead with uh your response um that's
02:09:41.740
just i that i like i said i live in a small town i couldn't imagine going on six dates a week that's
02:09:49.740
just impossible so i think you just have experience being in like this huge city where like even before
02:09:55.820
the show i was riding a scooter down across the block and there's like people making out
02:10:00.540
everywhere couples everywhere and i'm like whoa what is this yeah here well this is this is a college
02:10:05.100
area so then that's your experiences people that are well here to mingle well santa barbara i mean
02:10:11.820
so santa barbara is a smaller city it's like 200 000 ish people so it's not huge
02:10:17.340
that's small compared to like la compared to la it's like i'd say santa barbara is a medium
02:10:25.020
pop city it's not a lot i wouldn't say it's a large population city but it's not a small population
02:10:30.220
city either it's medium population okay yeah where i grew up there was 7 000 in our town okay well you're
02:10:37.420
from the sticks and then i moved you're from the sticks i moved to a bigger town and it has like 14 000
02:10:42.220
and okay that's a lot bigger but yeah i'm sure things are a bit different in the smaller town but
02:10:46.220
um i would never have to worry about a guy sleeping with a whole bunch of different girls and i would
02:10:51.100
say from the beginning like i mean but once you get to a mid-size city like santa barbara we'll move
02:10:57.660
away and it'll be easier for you it'll be better for you sure i mean where everybody knows everybody
02:11:03.100
i you'll have better luck i don't i don't think that's the the total solution because then your pool of
02:11:09.020
potential partners is also greatly diminished also but in any case that you have to understand
02:11:13.900
this is something that men have to be concerned about and women have to be concerned about too if
02:11:18.300
they want long-term relationships you have to be thinking okay is this is this guy going to be
02:11:22.700
committed to me is he going to be monogamous or is he just trying to fuck a bunch of chicks is he
02:11:26.860
just trying to fuck me yeah that's actually true because i know in my town i do know like a couple
02:11:31.820
girls who they just sleep with guys casually and doesn't mean oh well there you go i know what was
02:11:36.700
there you go it goes down in some of those small town shit i don't know but anyways anyways i'm in
02:11:44.860
um a person can just engage with you and show that they care and that you're the only person
02:11:50.860
if that person just doesn't answer your facetime call one day and doesn't tell you why okay that
02:11:56.140
sounds that's a sign that's just like they're doing something they're not supposed to and a person can
02:12:01.420
if they're dedicated to you they would only be dedicated to you especially in a talking stage
02:12:08.300
so even then that's why people will say oh i'm talking to somebody oh it's kind of complicated
02:12:14.220
because they still know they still keep you in mind and but you're addressing them they're like
02:12:19.420
hey i want to talk to you hey i want to feel some type of way with you so how would you know that
02:12:25.100
they're sleeping with six people if you're texting them every single minute and every single
02:12:29.020
second and on the phone with them are you sure you're not high your eyes are like bloodshot
02:12:36.380
me yeah which one one only one one a little more than the other but like
02:12:42.780
they're both pretty good do you want some eye drops 100 we have some eye drops to my new girl
02:12:47.740
i live on a 70 acre farm south of nashville tn i love the country you will never have to worry about
02:12:54.620
money ever again i will be sharing you with my current girlfriend you will love her she's a
02:13:00.780
legit nine and she can teach you english wait who is he talking to you he's talking to you why
02:13:07.580
why does she need to teach me english he wants he's like hitting on you he's asking you to be his
02:13:11.980
girlfriend but i can speak english just fine if you say so no i'm kidding you're good you're good he's
02:13:19.580
trolling yeah he's roasting you oh sophia seems like really uh like she wants to come in and say
02:13:25.340
something here sophia what are your thoughts on things um and stuff and things stuff is interesting
02:13:35.100
indeed it is that's deep sophia you're a philosopher i feel like you're a philosopher you're a really deep
02:13:42.380
individual wait i had a question for you so you said there was a dead bedroom with your current
02:13:48.380
boyfriend who drove you here a dead bath bedroom not a bathroom that would be that would be a dead
02:13:55.820
bathroom would be weird that'd mean you're constipated or some no intimacy oh like there's
02:14:02.380
no sex there's been no sex in your guys's relationship i mean like for a while was it an indica or sativa
02:14:11.500
which one come on it's legal you can say that you smoke some weed it's definitely indica
02:14:16.220
i didn't do you do you smoke weed i used to xanax xanax xanax xanax xanax xanax
02:14:28.540
i i'm prescribed anxiety medication but gabapentin adivan adivan did you take some
02:14:36.540
adivan before the show it doesn't make me like that dude she took a double dose i know how many
02:14:43.180
two milligrams i'm mine's like one milligram like you're hooked on benzos what what are you
02:14:50.380
hooked on benzos no adivan adivan lorazepam it's a benzodiazepam yeah it's a benzo are you hooked on
02:14:57.100
benzos anxiety it's okay it's good to treat how often do you take it every day no it's just as
02:15:04.380
needed as needed yeah because um i'm like on prozac i don't take you're on prozac yeah i mean
02:15:11.340
they can't prozac have an impact on your libido wait so just a point of clarification so there's been
02:15:17.980
no no but i'm not on the prozac anymore at all i never took it but you were prescribed it yeah okay
02:15:25.820
you're prescribed it but okay i don't know why you brought it up but um so but you're saying right
02:15:29.740
now with your boyfriend there's no or there hasn't been any in the past six months i don't know about
02:15:36.860
six months but um should we get your boy where is he where's your boyfriend let's get him on the show
02:15:43.100
where's he at what's his name gert uh bartholomew is that his name what's your boyfriend's name his
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name is kaden kaden wait kaden does he live does he live here i know kaden no are you dating the
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kaden if he told you to say you're single i don't think he's gonna like that you just said his
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name no but i think you just connected the dots it's the medication that's causing no she's only
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taking uh uh advan as needed i i i'm uneducated i don't even know what any of those wait was there
02:16:13.260
something being said about me what do you mean about my eye well i'm literally just looking at you and one
02:16:21.100
of your eyes is a little red it's okay i get red eyes too maybe it's allergies maybe you have
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allergies i'm covering for you here sophia i got you i'm covering it's your allergies it's okay we
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got some benadryl in the back if you want it i'm not high like maybe on the ad event you're high on the
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bro that's that's the one you got a stoner laugh it's okay sophia it's all in good fun here i got
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another guy a good friend of mine that i want to try to hook you guys up with uh eric could you pull up the
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other instagram it's soda it's the other uh instagram tab all right so uh yeah he's got a
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compound bow scroll down green flag okay uh his name is fuck what's it i know his ah shit
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eric do you know who this is i forgot his first name tell him to slide in my dms
02:17:16.380
what's his chance chance chance okay pull it back up are you willing to take a chance okay this is
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chance keep scrolling down scroll down scroll down okay um oh he's got a doll too what the
02:17:29.820
fuck all right scroll down scroll down okay this is uh pull up the picture with the cat
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oh yeah let's look at that one okay that's chance okay uh you can x out of that let's scroll down
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all right this is chance uh just keep scrolling all the way to the bottom how old is he uh i
02:17:55.180
but would you guys date him and we're gonna go around the table here he is 29 he's 29 um so would you date
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him start with you go ahead yes yes damn nicky's going in on the dudes tonight okay i'd have to get
02:18:13.180
the personality but just based off the instagram feed i liked he had pictures outside he had pictures
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with his family so it seems like okay but yes you're you're yes so yes sophia what about you is he your
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type yes do you like the waifu aesthetic with like all the animation he has going on are you an anime
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consumer are you an anime enjoyer do you dabble sometimes did you sneak another ad van or something
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no okay it's all good it's all good but you would date chance i mean like just go on and date him
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are you he's attractive you think he's attractive like you know like meet with him yeah and talk to
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him like i'm just like gonna be his what huh don't worry about it would you date him uh tiffany what
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about you yeah he seems fun he looks fun okay what about you um no no okay what about you no i gotta
02:19:12.540
be so careful with what i say now no i'm kidding um i mean he seems like a good guy he's got a cool
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compound bow so that's sick he's got one of those um he's got pictures with his family obviously he
02:19:25.660
loves animals he seems like a good guy i don't know if he'd want to date me but
02:19:33.260
what about you um i'd say maybe just want to know a little bit more about like what his day-to-day
02:19:38.540
looks like okay yuki what about you you're into the close scoot scoot your chair into the mic or
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into the table i would like to say let's play video game together first
02:19:55.660
wait and just a question so earlier you said you're you're a virgin correct yeah and so like
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nothing like have you held hands with a dude no no no no hands holding no have you kiss
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wait wait hand holding yeah oh hand holding yes kiss no kiss can you scoot your chair into the
02:20:15.420
table so you can get close to the mic please i think he's a girl you kissed a girl yeah and did
02:20:21.020
you like it no it's just a friend she got drunk
02:20:27.180
i think sophia is a benzo addict okay continue yuki i'm just kidding sophia i'm kidding you're not a
02:20:33.500
benzo addict you're just like on the verge of passing out just an out of an addict or what
02:20:38.780
it's okay i've taken i've taken it once or twice i had some anxiety i am me too
02:20:46.140
that cancels out the addiction it's fine it's donated one hundred dollars and sixty nine cents
02:20:52.540
red wine thank you victor beautiful overalls in the words of shore see i'd honor you till the day i die if
02:20:58.060
you want a man who doesn't share and knows how to work on a farm hunt and survive my dms are open
02:21:11.740
why is she sliding in your dms there's nothing for me to say it's not a question
02:21:17.100
excuse me that was a burp or a pickup we have this one also uh i missed most of the pod is the chicken
02:21:23.260
the patriotic overall single she kind of bad question mark dude everyone's trying to get at
02:21:28.300
that they want a little slice of the american pie over there yeah girl uh maybe can you do like one
02:21:35.420
of those slow motion like put your hair down and do like the head wave can you do that yeah do it right
02:21:42.220
now oh we have to do the fit check too okay you do that then we'll do fit check go ahead oh my gosh
02:21:46.620
that's kind of cringy just make it romantic slow-mo pretend it's like an 80s slow-mo like waving the
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i'm gonna cry myself to sleep tonight boom oh the the main the flow oh that's not that's not really
02:22:06.380
what i had in mind there you go that's not really what i had that's cute though okay um lovely okay so
02:22:12.780
now what we're gonna do ab ab gifted 50 subs so we're gonna do a fit check on everybody so everybody
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just stand up and we're gonna you know check take a look at the fit on everybody you can all right
02:22:25.020
and we'll do this side of the table first and then we'll do um then we'll do this side okay all right
02:22:32.220
we have that um what's going on over there okay and then we have this side over here
02:22:45.100
okay cool fixed by the way your hair is kind of can you pull it back um it's just kind of getting
02:22:50.540
into your face it's blocking your face when you're on the mic um okay cool uh fit check boom done sweet
02:22:56.700
everyone can sit back down thank you thank you thank you wow she's just tall she's just
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okay thank you bads and ab for all that okay let me see let me get caught up i think we had uh
02:23:16.140
did we do this one here sophia since you're so bored why don't you read this
02:23:20.940
who said i was bored i literally just heard you say it but go ahead
02:23:27.260
busted go ahead read it um if i can read it into the mic please
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it's blurry i don't have my glasses um here can i have you read it i can i can read it okay so go
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labyrinth of passion okay never mind uh can you read it let me have you be the soup chat in the
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labyrinth labyrinth labyrinth labia of passion it's the entity excluding i think excluding minimal
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emotional intensity who paradoxically controls the most power such a paradox resonates with
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quantum conundrums unifying the strange blend of love scarcity and the potent thrust of relational
02:24:10.060
dominion okay okay that was some deep shit thank you infinite singularity we have another one here
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if you can read it for us part one first day actions should promote authentic self part two
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flowers gifts a typical interest symbol may cloud individuality conclusion thus flowers gifts on first
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dates don't promote authenticity word it's look really quick on the flower thing it's just way too
02:24:39.020
much investment up front it's just like super expensive no it's not about the it's not about the money
02:24:44.860
when when i'm saying investment it just like comes across as like a little too much like i'm sure all
02:24:49.260
of you here can relate like if a guy's like too into you too quick is that not off putting a little bit
02:24:55.100
if he comes on too strong then yeah it's a little depends you're you're scared to like be a simp or
02:25:00.620
something but it's kind it's nice there's nothing it's a gesture it's a gesture more than anything
02:25:05.900
i think that if they're like creepy with the interest it's not about the intensity more than it is
02:25:10.860
the creepiness yeah it's exactly if you're creepy then yeah that's yeah much if you're like you're
02:25:15.500
just going on a first date and you want to be kind then that's great right like for example like if
02:25:19.500
you're if you if you look at women it's not super weird it's when you stare and you look like you're
02:25:24.540
trying to eat them with your eyes that then that becomes too much i think that's always fun
02:25:31.500
all right we have uh yo mayor more thank you for the uh hundred dollar uh super chat really appreciate
02:25:36.060
your patronage man thank you guys so much for uh all the uh support tonight means the world thank
02:25:40.460
you guys uh joe arvison hey thank you for the 50 uh to the lady who rated herself zero or five on the
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left you are very lovely and your soft and spoken kind nature makes you far more desirable than you
02:25:53.180
realize love yourself none of us are perfect but we are perfect for someone that was directed to you
02:25:58.700
that's fine i really appreciate that like like just really appreciate that that's so sweet yeah
02:26:04.140
joe arvison thank you for that much appreciated that was very kind of you uh we got logan mazai okay
02:26:08.940
thank you for the 50 uh all the girls on the panel feel like outcasts all are unique some are slow some
02:26:14.860
are annoying some have unrealistic expectations question how would you feel how would you ladies feel
02:26:21.980
about dating a religious person would you also date a man who owns firearms i got to get up for a sec but
02:26:27.180
if you guys want to talk about that amongst yourselves okay for me they have to be religious
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that's number one is they have to fear god above all and hell yeah i i mean having firearms is also
02:26:42.220
number one like how are you supposed to protect yourself or how are you supposed to
02:26:49.740
just yes 100 yes for me i yeah i forgot to i was like oh my god
02:26:54.540
i'm gonna go um i don't really like a religious person but if he knows like god and his own beliefs
02:27:02.940
and cool like i respect that but um for firearms i mean where i'm from like everybody has it you know
02:27:12.060
even the most richest people have like the purplest livers so
02:27:15.660
um religion like what i do like someone who's really faith driven i mean i went to like private
02:27:26.140
school like private catholic school so like i can understand that and i'm like baptized catholic and
02:27:31.980
whatnot but i don't really practice it now like so you wouldn't be into dating someone who's super
02:27:37.420
religious could but it depends on how super religious they are because some it gets too
02:27:45.740
so it's case by case you know like okay when it's too extreme i just don't it's a bit intense okay yeah
02:27:53.820
and then what about with the firearms um my boyfriend had a firearm so so it doesn't it's not super i
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really don't want a firearm but you do what you want to do and then what about for you um i don't
02:28:08.700
think they have to be religious i feel like spiritual probably a little bit more than religious um
02:28:13.580
because i'm just more of a spiritual person than a religious person um and firearms yeah as long as
02:28:18.700
they know what to do with them then it's all good i'm cool with probably not like an excessive amount
02:28:22.940
of guns in the way that like if you seem like less of an enthusiast and more of like a i like to you
02:28:29.340
know like you do it too much then that's a problem you have like a a closet for guns i mean i just if
02:28:37.500
you if it's too much it's just maybe it's not for me but i don't mind like the one or two or something
02:28:42.860
like that or if you yeah collect or something but i don't know but they be having closets you're like
02:28:48.380
you're not about the closet of them um but i would say religious fine i i i think you need to have
02:28:55.580
some kind of um connection to some kind of spirituality that it'd be like yeah i think
02:29:01.500
it's important to think of not yourself as the biggest thing in the universe so i would say some
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kind of connection to it for sure and would like you uh for me personally i don't mind if they have
02:29:12.460
guns i mean i've gone i've gone shooting before i kind of like guns but um a lot of my family is really
02:29:22.060
really really religious so i think that's the extreme that i would be kind of weary of is like
02:29:28.060
an uh the religious extreme but you know like you guys said as long as it's not like super crazy but
02:29:35.900
at the same time like it just matters what you do with them you know if the gun is in the hands of the
02:29:40.220
right person nobody's gonna get hurt or somebody will or the right person you know what i'm trying to
02:29:46.460
say right sorry just because i was up for a bit um okay with guns when it comes to a partner yes yes
02:29:54.220
was it yes or no for you yes yeah nobody nobody was on the fence when it came to the owning firearms
02:30:01.020
oh okay we just all said as long as it's not like a crazy amount yeah it's not too crazy yeah gabrielle your
02:30:06.540
take on the question um so i grew up catholic and i went to private school from kindergarten
02:30:11.980
just from kindergarten until 12th grade so religion is definitely okay with me um and firearms are
02:30:18.300
okay for safety okay thank you thank you uh yuki what about you i feel like i okay with both other
02:30:28.060
person treat me other person yeah what about guns cool with guns yeah it's fine fine with guns and uh
02:30:36.220
just a question here so um are you you know you've had a little bit of dating experience um you said
02:30:43.740
you're virgin right are you waiting until marriage like are you religious is that why you're waiting
02:30:48.380
or is it sounds more maybe you just haven't found the right guy yet uh i feel like uh
02:30:56.380
um well are you religious uh i'm not not and are you waiting until marriage to have sex or just you
02:31:04.380
just haven't found the right the right guy i feel like i haven't found the right guy okay gotcha so
02:31:11.020
you're just not waiting until marriage got it okay because honestly i don't know what's that i don't
02:31:17.580
know you will know she doesn't doesn't oh she doesn't know i see okay gotcha all right and then we
02:31:24.060
have uh this one here from wait it is wasted a prerequisite these girls are awesome don't shame them
02:31:30.860
cuz 40-ish 100k candidate lol marymore 100 is wasted you mean like wasted to be on the show no
02:31:37.900
actually we we uh don't want people like getting tanked or drunk or high before shows it's uh we've
02:31:46.380
had some bad experiences so um yeah we don't we don't provide alcohol like nothing so water we provide
02:31:52.460
water that's it um maybe i should maybe energy drinks could be helpful you want an energy drink
02:31:57.740
is that is that what's that called when you mix a stimulant you're doing downers is that a speed
02:32:03.580
ball is that what a speedball it's a hillbilly speedball oh you know you know sophia you know
02:32:10.140
what that is because you do speed balls what's his name fuck you know johnny depp's um he's speed
02:32:17.580
balls club club phoenix phoenix oh joaquin joaquin phoenix oh what's his name what's his name he
02:32:26.220
died from that and river phoenix river phoenix he did a r.i.p's yo r.i.p's in the chat for river phoenix
02:32:32.060
and um but it's like coke and heroin i think no that that's two uppers i'm pretty sure no heroine's
02:32:39.900
down yeah yeah i wouldn't know so but yeah he did that and he died can we get her a celsius
02:32:47.340
let's get sophia celsius i want her to be fucking um wired you're not going to sleep tonight you're
02:32:54.060
staying up the whole night get her celsius and on the closet of guns you have to have different guns
02:32:59.260
for different occasions and on the religious and spiritual i feel like um you can pass it to her
02:33:05.260
yeah yeah a vertical relationship is a vertical relationship whether it's with god or you know
02:33:11.340
whatever your higher power is but just kind of some kind of affiliation or some kind of connection
02:33:20.140
go on can you have you ever tried one before guys it's an energy drink energy drink
02:33:28.140
no it's fine no no don't shotgun just you can drink it normally we're just messing with you
02:33:31.980
that sounds like a sticky situation have you ever had a celsius before no it's no so this is your
02:33:40.380
first time it's just an energy drink wait into the mic i got addicted to coffee yeah and it messed up
02:33:49.980
my stomach yeah and good times so i stopped drinking coffee and got off adhd meds listen by the end of
02:33:57.340
this stream sophia by the end of the stream we're gonna get you back addicted to cop to caffeine yeah
02:34:05.020
i don't know okay get started um okay so we what was the other thing we had to do oh we had
02:34:14.300
let me hold on let me just see if we've gone through all of the chats yep we're good on the
02:34:18.220
chatteroos okay oh we weren't yet done going around on how's your love life
02:34:25.580
oh my god i forgot sorry the question was are you happy with your dating life
02:34:34.540
yes i don't know if tiffany did you get to wait can you is there is it possible to scoot a little
02:34:40.620
bit just so you can go let me see it's a little tight maybe we have that okay is that better it's
02:34:44.860
just because it's tough it's tight it's tight um i mean i could use some more fireworks in my
02:34:52.220
love life but honestly no i'm pretty okay with it okay question so you said you've been
02:34:56.300
celibate for seven months like do you have because some people have like a third maybe
02:35:00.700
people here uh have experience with this do you have a three date rule like you're waiting until
02:35:06.300
three dates to hook up you would be open to hooking up sooner or you're kind of holding it off now
02:35:11.180
since you've been celibate for a long time it just depends on the person to be honest with you i think
02:35:16.620
it depends on the connection depends on like if we have a great time together if we don't you know
02:35:20.460
it just really depends on the connection because i wouldn't i think yeah it just depends on the
02:35:25.100
person because if you have a great connection with somebody i don't see why not jumping going full at
02:35:31.900
force with it to be honest with you i don't see a point in stopping that but yeah okay all right
02:35:38.300
good times um so but i mean i assume you're not happy with your dating life right now no i i mean
02:35:46.620
i don't have a date in life yeah it's very neutral i mean i just go to work go home go to the gym
02:35:52.060
you know i'm very i'm a drink your wine person i don't drink i just have any is there a cat i have
02:35:57.420
two cats they're twin cats i know a cat lady i'm already a cat lady hold on just a sec miss overalls
02:36:05.900
i see you let your hair down i can appreciate that you're trying to make yourself more beautiful
02:36:11.500
for me there will be appropriate venues to put your hair back up brian don't be humble your high
02:36:18.300
pitch screaming helped chase the shark off is that the same guy who saved you from the bear or is
02:36:24.700
that a shark right so the other guy who's been sending super chats uh bads underscore exe
02:36:32.220
he saved me from a mountain lion and then there was another person who saved me well what are these
02:36:37.900
situations like listen i'm a i'm an outdoorsy guy i like to surf i like to go on hikes and
02:36:44.220
shit camping so and i i've it happens to be the case that some of my patrons are acquaintances of
02:36:50.940
mine were friends okay so i surf with martin i have i went on a hike with um victor bads exe and
02:37:01.180
mike davis we camped together mike davis is not here tonight yet but maybe he'll tune in we'll see
02:37:07.980
we'll see he's it's a good guy maybe i could get you connected with him oh oh okay well because i mean
02:37:14.940
you said you're very single i'm very i'll put in a good word for you okay oh okay a word it's all
02:37:20.300
good it's good it's all good all right well okay so uh are you happy with your dating life you know
02:37:29.180
i'm pretty satisfied because i've been able to do a lot of like growth and i think that that was kind
02:37:34.700
of the point or that's what i was in dire need of uh post my my last relationship um i had lost a
02:37:42.060
lot of myself so it's been good to to find myself again so that's nice um but i am open to romance
02:37:48.140
because you know i do want to be a wifey someday so i do want to you know have a family and all that
02:37:53.820
stuff at one point but um i i would like it to be with a valuable person uh for me by my definition
02:38:01.420
and hopefully i fulfill their definition of that as well got it by the way is this is this a boring
02:38:05.980
question that's oh no you just are you happy with your love life to get a good temperature
02:38:12.780
yeah i could i could do better ones though um we'll just finish it up are you happy with your
02:38:16.300
dating life yes or no i could be happier could be happier okay what about what about you gabby
02:38:21.740
could be a little happier could be a little happier i mean you do have the semi sort of broke up with
02:38:27.020
your boyfriend who there's issues with the mother that's complicated girl yuki are you happy with your
02:38:35.100
love life right now now i think i just need to wait i just need to wait i really want to meet
02:38:42.620
someone can make me give all of my love and give me a chance to romantic life something okay deserve
02:38:50.700
it yeah i literally want to protect you you're so cute i just like like anybody who breaks yuki's
02:38:57.020
heart has all of us to go through it's on site no i'm just kidding it's violence we're all here to
02:39:05.980
like you you own the firearm no really okay what about you yeah anyone else here sort of firearm owner
02:39:12.460
sort of kind of yeah it's like a gun no but i have i've mingled with those and let me tell you
02:39:18.300
something if you get shot in the pinky toe with them oh yeah they hurt you got hurt you got very bad
02:39:24.140
because what happened was is so my brother he's a nut i love him though he's my best friend
02:39:29.100
but he and i just got a little too overzealous and we was playing too much and i tried to hide
02:39:32.860
from him in the attic and he tagged me in the toe and i was just like never forgive you it was so
02:39:37.420
painful i cried i was 10 also oh yeah did it bleed you know what the toenail is never the same
02:39:45.180
did you lose your toenail after that you know what i didn't lose it from that but i did lose it from
02:39:49.980
stubbing my toe so hard on the corner of my wall it was such an epic profound pain i'll never forget
02:39:58.780
it i know why you have a firearm why i know why why you live in bakersfield you have don't you have
02:40:07.260
to have a firearm in that's valid kind of i live on the good side like oh the good the good side of
02:40:13.660
the baker's field there's like no good side but like you know there's like oil dale and that says
02:40:20.300
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02:41:22.300
we've come to the hour of the podcast where we talk about body count so one of you in your
02:41:28.220
previous messages i think in your messages to uh to us wanted to to speak on body count and tiffany
02:41:34.300
i believe it was you if i have that right uh was it not you maybe oh shit party foul
02:41:49.340
oh is it by me sophia's got a gun she's gonna use it okay she dropped her block okay um yo uh 87
02:42:00.220
thank you for the 10 gifted subs job to miss thank you for the uh 10 gifted subs um i think tiffany
02:42:06.540
you said maybe asking any men on the show why body count matters to them okay and i'm the only one
02:42:12.860
we were we were no but i can i can you know uh and what they were looking for in long-term relationships
02:42:19.020
like what do men look for in a partner well um before we talk a little bit about body count let's
02:42:23.500
go around the table do you guys think that body count matters yes
02:42:32.540
yeah because he needs experience okay so you mean it matters in that direction okay so
02:42:39.900
maybe i should frame it in two different ways do you object to men caring about body count
02:42:44.940
insofar as men preferring women with a low body count
02:42:47.500
and then do you prefer men with more sexually yeah because she says yes she wants a high body
02:42:55.340
a guy who has a high body but i'm saying yes because i think if you have a high body count that
02:42:59.820
shows that you're just kind of messing around and you don't have standards if you're just out here
02:43:04.540
slinging it slanging it slanging that slang okay um so you prefer guy who's more experienced because you
02:43:13.820
want a good sexual experience i imagine and i don't mind i can give you experience i need experience
02:43:19.340
too so when we get married we can get we get practice are you wait are you waiting until marriage
02:43:24.780
i am are you oh i need that for you so i oh born again yeah can i have you just scoot your microphone
02:43:33.660
that way just a tad maybe that's a bit too much but maybe back that yep well done sorry guys ocd kicking
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in here um so not a virgin but you from here on out you're waiting until marriage to have sex yeah
02:43:46.380
so what is it like a bad experience you have i i regret i regret um doing it yeah oh how many
02:43:53.820
is it for the first time what was the body count on that one two two okay so i i've had two boyfriends
02:43:59.660
and um i regret both of them okay i mean that's part of life i mean everything is part of regrets
02:44:07.820
yeah i know that's what i learned from it and from here on out i'm waiting until marriage i mean
02:44:11.340
congratulations from here on out she's waiting until marriage well that's just for me that's not like
02:44:16.700
for um but you know what you want congratulations are you laughing me singing you got a problem with
02:44:22.540
my singing sophia how dare you drink your celsius down what's up sophia what's up what oh you're about
02:44:32.140
to say i think i'll try it okay you you think i have a good voice is what yeah that's what it is
02:44:40.300
okay got it i'm just like i don't know you're charmed by my singing voice yeah you're endeared i don't
02:44:46.380
know what to do like you're oh my god your voice wow you're just so the way wow that celsius really
02:44:54.220
kicked in pound it okay um so okay born again virgin waiting till marriage uh body you care about body
02:45:06.540
count in so far as you want a guy who has sexual experience because you want to be pleased you don't
02:45:11.500
want to be teaching a guy how to you basically yeah you don't want no scrub can you sing that song
02:45:19.020
i feel like nikki has a good singing voice no come on give us a little something i swear i don't
02:45:24.460
do you know that no scrub song though by was it what's that song yeah but you're like no i cannot
02:45:31.500
see you got pipes you but you look like you could though which is crazy you think so yeah let's hear
02:45:37.020
it come on it's okay we won't peer pressure you what about you're like i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm
02:45:41.500
gonna let everybody down i'm not gonna lie i'm gonna let everybody down sophia here's what i want
02:45:47.260
you to do what put you're gonna sing the star spangled banner go it's july 4th let's go oh say oh say can you
02:46:13.020
No, no, no. That was beautiful. I'm, I'm, I have, I was moved. I was moved by that rendition.
02:46:34.660
I wasn't laughing. That was the soundboard. Here's this one.
02:47:01.880
You know what though? There is something to that. Like if you, if you want a behavior to stop.
02:47:09.440
It's something like, like if you tell someone that they have a weird smile, they'll never fucking smile around you ever again.
02:47:16.620
So you should never criticize somebody on something that you want them to, to do.
02:47:21.600
Yeah. If you say to somebody, oh, your smile, like looks weird. Then they're never going to fucking smile around you.
02:47:32.320
Yeah, I don't do that when it happens. It's happened to me too many times, but I'm just like, like, I don't know what the exact saying is. Maybe someone in chat can figure it out. But it's like, do not criticize behaviors that you wish to continue seeing.
02:47:46.820
Something like that. There's like a specific quote on it, but yeah. It was lovely, Sophia. You're talented. You should try out for American Idol.
02:48:11.460
I also, I'm sad that no one has paid money to hate on me.
02:48:21.280
Okay, so chat, she has just opened herself up to some roasting. She wants to be roasted.
02:48:30.480
If you want to roast, she wants, you want to be roasted.
02:48:45.300
Because you're not contributing, but that wasn't even a bad roast.
02:48:52.540
If Luke Bryan looks like Butthead from Beavis and Butthead.
02:48:59.000
Where they do the side-by-side comparison of Luke Bryan and Beavis, or of Butthead?
02:49:06.180
He legitimately, once you see it, you can't unsee it.
02:49:09.460
I haven't, but I want to know what your body count is.
02:49:13.860
Yeah, and we do need to go around the table on the body count thing.
02:49:58.980
You look like the type of person to eat popcorn with a spoon.
02:50:11.840
I mean, you called for the only person who wanted to be roasted.
02:50:49.440
If any of you here who already answered, do you object to men caring about a woman's body
02:50:58.460
Like, if a guy, he has a preference for dating a woman with a low body count?
02:51:05.180
Ms. Overalls, you said virgin, and I told them to fuel the jet A-Sat.
02:51:09.920
And then you said born again, and I canceled the flight.
02:51:13.600
Then you said two bodies, so I multiplied by three.
02:51:17.740
To the rocket scientist, you said your body count is very low.
02:51:49.520
Because they're commenting on what I said, but they haven't even given their answers yet.
02:52:04.500
I'm just saying, let's keep the question going.
02:52:13.180
If you're looking for a virtuous woman, then you care.
02:52:14.980
If you're not looking for a virtuous woman and you don't care about that, then whatever.
02:52:30.880
So you don't object to men caring about body count?
02:52:33.580
It's really up to whatever their values are, to be honest with you.
02:52:37.240
And I can't tell them what they can and can't care about.
02:52:43.440
I think it's just a personal preference of the guy.
02:52:55.460
We should react to an Andrew Tate video because he really hammers home this thing about body
02:53:01.940
Eric, you know our OG clip that we used to play a whole bunch.
02:53:05.780
Um, so we are going to react to a Andrew Tate, um, thing.
02:53:21.300
The amount of time people can tolerate her is directly proportional to amount of cleavage
02:53:53.160
Sophia learned long ago that the amount of time people can tolerate her is directly proportional
02:54:35.420
Did you get liquored up too before the show or was it just the...
02:54:53.580
I'm not trying to cut nobody off, but we never even finished her question about everybody's
02:54:57.460
Only me and her are the only ones who've said anything.
02:55:20.820
I'm not going to get into specifics, because I feel like that's a conversation that you should
02:55:39.620
Multiply it by three, and that's the real number.
02:55:42.960
If you multiply zero by three, that's still zero.
02:55:45.500
It's still zero, so that was for everybody, though.
02:55:48.100
Well, I feel kind of stupid now, because I also think that it's a topic you should say
02:55:52.560
with your partner, but I thought we were all going to answer, so...
02:56:03.940
Why are you going to ask a question, and everybody's going to be like, oh, I won't get
02:56:10.260
I honestly just don't know what the specific is.
02:56:20.420
That's what we're kind of like, what the fuck about?
02:56:30.260
I'm just saying that's a vulnerable question, and we were honest, and nobody else did.
02:56:37.240
Anyone that fucks Sophia should be able to write it off on their taxes as a charitable contribution.
02:56:44.560
Dude, I told you they were going to come for you now.
02:56:47.040
Dude, they're coming out of the woodwork for you.
02:56:54.240
I guess we're just going to dumber down our insults.
02:57:04.120
I was going to say, no matter what they donate, Brian's still getting the money for it.
02:57:11.740
Would you like to go play some video games, Lady Yuki?
02:58:02.720
I'm going to pretend like you didn't just make my dick go soft.
02:58:04.960
Okay, let's thank you, Joe Arvison, for that soup chat.
02:58:29.880
You know what's so attractive about younger women?
02:58:57.080
You know what's so attractive about younger women?
02:59:00.740
Because a lot of these dudes talk about fertility and looks and stuff.
02:59:05.620
I think that in the modern world, in the days of old, right, you'd meet a woman, you'd get married, you'd be together, whatever.
02:59:10.720
In the modern world, if I meet a girl who's 33 and single, I know the amount of dick that's been through her before me is just simply unattractive.
02:59:18.100
I don't care how nice you are, but you're 33 years old.
02:59:22.280
If I got a 19-year-old girl, I might be her second or third man, right?
02:59:26.920
And all the trauma and heartbreak and bullshit they put you through, you're going to try and bring to my door?
02:59:32.140
Like, well, if my last man cheat, I'll give a fuck.
02:59:36.880
So if you pick up older women, you have to accept they've been on the carousel longer.
02:59:44.560
When I see a beautiful young woman, I know that she has a very low body count.
02:59:48.160
And also, no, but the truth is this, women's mentality is absolutely connected to sex.
02:59:54.020
If a woman sleeps with a bunch of men, it's harder to penetrate her mind and make her fall in love with you.
02:59:59.640
But if she's had 30 dudes inside of her, is she really going to think, you know what, this guy's so, so, so special?
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Or is she going to think, you know what, he talked to me really well, he's going to be a new guy?
03:00:07.200
Whereas if a woman's only been with a few guys, she's much more likely to fall in love with you and be a better partner.
03:00:10.440
The likelihood of her falling completely in love with you and staying loyal to you and really believing you're the only man for her after being through so much trauma and so many men and sleeping with so many dudes and having her heart broken and having those memories of her ex and all that crap she's been through is far less likely than meeting a nice, young, beautiful girl who hasn't been with many men.
03:00:27.240
And she goes, you know what, this is the guy, I like him.
03:00:29.580
Every woman who knows this and every man who watches this can be honest.
03:00:31.760
Women fall in love with the person they lose their virginity to or the second or third guy.
03:00:36.180
Any woman who slept with 50 dudes, she doesn't even remember who most of them are.
03:00:38.860
If a woman slept with a bunch of men before you, she's less likely to stick it out through a difficult period in a relationship.
03:00:43.020
She's more likely to just say, you know what, new answers, new day.
03:00:47.820
If I meet a beautiful 30-year-old woman, I'm not saying I won't sleep with her.
03:01:05.140
I feel like the more you attach and detach by having more sexual relationships, it's
03:01:18.380
Wait, Sophia, are you able to scoot into the table a little bit?
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Just, yeah, you're kind of like, no, just like into the table.
03:01:29.820
So, wait, you've never heard of Andrew Tate before?
03:01:32.560
I've seen a couple clips of that guy, but no, I don't know who that is.
03:01:53.780
We need more women like you who care about themselves and have standards.
03:02:06.540
I feel like as a dude, and it should be vice versa.
03:02:13.140
If you go around and you sleep with like 20 dudes, I mean 20 girls, like, and you want
03:02:20.280
a girl with two body counts, and you expect that from the same person, like, that doesn't
03:02:26.940
And then you're going to turn around and be like, oh, women have this much baggage and
03:02:34.340
I mean, it's just whether you choose to take it on or just to throw it away.
03:02:45.040
Because she was taught not to speak to strangers.
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It literally just read it out to you in a robot voice.
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Because she was taught not to speak to strangers.
03:04:11.120
Nikki, I think, was giving her reaction to the Tate clip, right?
03:04:47.300
You guys are looking at each other very romantically, by the way, right now.
03:04:56.960
Anyways, as I was saying, you should be able, as in a relationship, you have to take everybody's trauma, baggage, and previous relationships.
03:05:05.840
And just because a female has more baggage and everything, the higher her body count is, it's just more of a, you're not a real man.
03:05:14.220
Mentally or just any physically, you're not a real man to be able to take on a female with more than 30, 40 body counts.
03:05:28.760
Your reaction to the clip, Sophia, to Andrew Tate.
03:05:31.160
Um, I mean, what you said pretty much sums it up.
03:05:36.620
Like, you know, it's hypocritical for you to have a high body count, but wanting, looking for a girl that's a virgin, you know?
03:05:50.300
And I can understand preferences and, like, whatnot.
03:05:54.660
But it's just the way that it kind of objectifies women and, like, this purity culture as well.
03:06:05.060
You just started from point A, and you didn't even go to point B.
03:06:14.600
Like, we're not even on the same plane, but, like, anyways, what do you think?
03:06:20.820
Um, I think that, because your opinion didn't even line up.
03:06:36.780
Like, where in her sentence seemed like my problem?
03:07:04.960
I did, but I also didn't retain a lot of it, because.
03:07:09.060
You're just staring deep into Sophia's eyes and falling.
03:07:26.240
But can you kind of reiterate, just real quick.
03:07:29.480
Well, it's almost less about body count and more about men having a preference for younger
03:07:33.440
women, because younger women, it's not a guarantee, because a woman who's 30 could have a lower
03:07:41.600
But he's saying, like, well, the woman who's young is less likely to have.
03:07:49.260
And, but, you know, it's even if, like, let's say a woman along her timeline, a woman at
03:07:54.660
19 is going to have fewer bodies than when that same exact woman is 30.
03:08:06.560
Bro, you are zooted, living on another planet, or just an NPC.
03:08:15.700
You are one of the few people that can count their IQ with just their fingers.
03:08:32.080
I've been really supporting you, but that's the one that broke the bat, though.
03:08:47.840
Sophia is a typical brainless airhead skating by life on her looks and tits.
03:08:52.760
She seems like the type to get passed around at frat parties.
03:08:56.140
Well, good for a but not relationship material.
03:09:28.780
Yeah, so basically, essentially, the younger women are less likely to be as, carry as much
03:09:45.440
Because baggage can depend on your family, how you were raised, your trauma from your childhood.
03:09:49.540
That has nothing to do with how many people you have sex with.
03:09:53.760
He's speaking specifically about relationship baggage.
03:09:57.280
And usually, as you get older, you start accruing more and more baggage from relationships
03:10:06.420
There's more opportunity to get fucked over by somebody.
03:10:10.020
I think the sentiment might be factual in this case.
03:10:13.240
I don't necessarily solicit the advice that Andrew Tate is the best advocate for said thing.
03:10:18.780
But I think that the only reason why I have an issue with that, with what he said, is because
03:10:22.600
it gives the flavor of, like, I just want someone that I don't have to, that I can do
03:10:27.860
whatever I want with, and I'm not going to have to deal with someone being smart enough
03:10:31.860
That's the only reason why I feel like I don't really rock with him, because he has a bit
03:10:40.900
So I will give him that, and I'll give respect on that.
03:10:43.180
But I don't think that he's the best of advocates, I'll say.
03:10:47.360
Wait, when did he say anything about not being smart enough?
03:10:54.060
Based on my understanding of him, or based on what I've consumed of him, he has a very...
03:11:00.440
He has a very specific angle, and a very targeted...
03:11:07.360
He has a very angled way of how he discusses certain things, and especially in the relational
03:11:11.840
And he's kind of notorious as being an asshole.
03:11:18.640
I know that he says certain things that are true, and there are some things that I do agree
03:11:22.260
with, unfortunately, because I don't really like to support somebody like him.
03:11:26.080
But he definitely has a bad rap as it comes to discussing matters of women, because he's
03:11:34.180
And I feel like if you have a little body count, you're kind of smart, and if you're
03:11:40.200
sleeping around, that doesn't mean you're smart if you're sleeping around.
03:11:46.380
So I think he would want somebody who is smart.
03:11:57.260
You should watch the long-form content if you're going to make a formed decision on who
03:12:12.240
He's on, he got charged, but he's on house arrest.
03:12:19.320
No, he's not, no, he's just been charged, so it's, uh.
03:12:22.540
They're waiting to, like, you know, what to do with that.
03:12:53.760
Some dude, the past two shows, pretended, like, did this Chili's baby back, baby back,
03:12:59.220
which is from Austin Powers, and I haven't seen that movie since I was a kid, so it's
03:13:03.300
on Netflix, so I went and watched it, so now I'm starting to talk, like, the fuckin' Austin
03:13:14.700
What do you mean I'm not friends with Andrew Tate?
03:13:18.500
No, we actually, we did DM, like, a long time ago, like, a year.
03:13:23.180
This was a year and a half ago, so we were DMing each other, then he got banned on Instagram.
03:13:27.440
I've, he was gonna come, actually be on the show, so you should actually be on the show
03:13:48.020
And so I, like, took that out of it, because it's just, like, as needed.
03:13:50.640
I don't want to have a panic attack on up here, like, you know?
03:14:03.040
What I'm trying to say, though, is that I should have been on the abortion debate.
03:14:09.320
I don't think that would have been a good idea.
03:14:48.380
Are you sure you understand that, like, to be a dear friend, have you met him in person?
03:15:41.440
But I just wanted to say that I should have been on the abortion debate.
03:15:49.900
Bro, there's no way he would have wanted you on his side on the abortion debate.
03:16:10.640
You should have been on the pro-life side arguing against Destiny.
03:16:36.060
You've got to structure this shit a little bit.
03:16:47.500
Sophie underscore is underscore gone as donated $99.
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To get an easy way to move semen from the bed to the toilet.
03:17:35.040
I don't think we should be debating for a while.
03:17:47.200
But honestly, thank you for sending my best friend Brian money, guys.
03:17:54.660
Just like your best friends with Destiny, right?
03:18:00.020
What's it going to take for us to upgrade to dear friends?
03:18:24.660
But I also kind of forgot the clip at the time.
03:18:29.020
I just basically want somebody to argue with me about body count here.
03:18:32.920
I feel like men should not have a double standard for women's body count if they have a high
03:18:39.940
body count because they also will come with baggage if that's what Andrew Tate was saying.
03:18:56.780
He can't expect a virgin or a very low body count if he has like hundreds and hundreds and hundreds.
03:19:03.320
I mean, maybe he can, but like it's going to be a different level.
03:19:13.600
Like compare with like a UCSB college student that you just want to hook up.
03:19:21.760
I would like to date with him compared with like what you're exposed to right now.
03:19:26.220
I would like to compare with, I mean, compare with like a college student and just fuck
03:19:43.640
Who here would, who here would date Andrew Tate?
03:19:52.500
I think that it doesn't really matter for guys as much.
03:20:00.440
Because I know that, well, I think, I don't know, but I think that guys can have sex and
03:20:07.680
just casually and have it not really mean that much.
03:20:11.200
But I think when a girl has sex, it really, it really messes with them.
03:20:16.540
So I feel like if a guy had a high body count, I really wouldn't mind as much.
03:20:20.800
Although it does say something about him, I wouldn't be like, oh no, you know?
03:20:25.880
Like you wouldn't completely dismiss it, but it wouldn't bother you too much?
03:20:29.840
What do you mean that women, like women, and when they have sex, sex?
03:20:35.760
So like new age feminism, it's like, oh, sleep around, you know, like prostitutional,
03:20:43.800
use your looks and your body to get what you want in a transactional relationship.
03:20:49.540
And that's girls acting like guys because that messes with girls to just sleep around.
03:20:55.420
But I think a guy can sleep with somebody and it doesn't really bother them or mean a lot.
03:21:00.900
But I know as a girl, if I sleep with somebody, it's really gonna, it's really gonna hit me.
03:21:06.920
I mean, have you heard of the expression that guys sleep who they like can and girls can sleep
03:21:13.780
whoever they want because us girls are more choosy, picky because we're based off emotionally.
03:21:21.880
But we also have a natural responsibility, right?
03:21:24.860
Like we have a baby making situation, so we can't, we have to also think about that or
03:21:32.480
So we're like sloppy about it with sex, you know?
03:21:34.580
Like guys, when they're horny, it's an instinct and they gotta find a girl.
03:21:41.020
It's, it's, it's a lot, I'll be honest with you.
03:21:46.700
Some, some of the things that I've heard and seen men do for sex in desperation has been
03:21:59.420
Yesterday, I was talking to my friends that are here.
03:22:13.200
I'm going to hold that above you the rest of the show.
03:22:20.420
Like, you know, cause this is what your podcast does to people.
03:22:32.000
Can you skip the microphone closer towards you?
03:22:37.280
And the dudes, of course, were like, guys will do anything for sex.
03:22:44.920
Sophia's pro-life argument, storks are pretty birds.
03:22:48.660
And if they could no longer deliver babies, they would be sad and unemployed.
03:22:53.220
And it increased the wage gap if they are female.
03:23:03.520
Okay, so you're hanging out with Sage and Bartholomew and Cornelius.
03:23:19.360
This guy was like, cause we were talking about like hookup culture.
03:23:23.420
And just dating and all this and like the differences between girls and guys.
03:23:29.580
And the guys, my boyfriend, they were talking about how they know guys who drove like out of the city.
03:24:05.040
So, I've stated that I would not, even if my dream girl is in Ventura, I am not commuting 45 minutes for my dream girl.
03:24:21.080
Otherwise, I don't care if you're a Victoria's Secret model.
03:24:34.420
Well, you don't even do medium distance, it feels like.
03:24:37.320
You only do, like, very much around the corner distance.
03:24:44.680
Like, and I don't, I don't, part of being in a relationship, there has to be, like, I think there has to be a proximity.
03:24:54.180
Yeah, you need to be in person with the person.
03:24:58.160
Well, you could be in person with them 45 minutes away.
03:25:01.960
Because you almost just totally put her on blast.
03:25:06.080
Like, you got really invested in this guy, but there was a distance component, right?
03:25:11.040
Or was he in the same town as you, but it was only online?
03:25:15.460
It's, like, only online, but he's, like, living in LA.
03:25:22.400
Like, I can't, I said, like, I can't fly for you.
03:25:33.660
Bro, a girl offering to fly to you, you don't have to do anything.
03:25:37.560
He just, he probably was, like, I don't know what he was fucking doing.
03:25:46.080
So, honestly, Yuki, my advice to you with that situation is I think it's not, it has nothing
03:25:56.400
Because a dude, because a dude turning down a girl who's prepared to fly to him.
03:26:03.020
I really hope that you find your self-value one day, really.
03:26:07.000
I'm seeing how much it pains you right now, and I really, it sucks to see you, like.
03:26:22.880
Well, I'm trying to say, it wasn't anything that you did.
03:26:25.720
It just sounds like the dude, you know, he, it was, you know, he was, you know.
03:26:30.940
And just take what you can and leave all the negative.
03:26:34.300
And don't fall in love with anybody that isn't going to reciprocate it or not at least meet you in person.
03:26:41.060
We're going to have to talk about this later, Brian.
03:26:45.780
Or if you don't want to talk about it, we don't have to talk about it either.
03:26:48.260
If it makes you uncomfortable, then we can move past this.
03:26:54.000
At the end of the day, when it comes to distance, though, I don't want to do, like, a long-distance thing.
03:27:03.380
Yeah, you completely, like, took out the chunk of meeting the middle chunk of your point.
03:27:08.560
So it's, like, two stories down long-distance or, you know, like, is that too many stairs?
03:27:14.760
Look, I just want to date a girl who lives in my city.
03:27:17.480
You just don't really want to be driving 45 minutes.
03:27:19.980
Yeah, it's just, like, plus it's, like, I don't know if it's, like, I want to see you.
03:27:22.660
If I want to see you tonight, that, if they live far away, like, you kind of have to pre-plan a little bit.
03:27:27.500
But, like, if you're having a bad day, hey, babe, come over.
03:27:32.060
I guess I'm just, like, I'm really devoted to my person.
03:27:39.020
And so, like, for me as a person, nothing gets in my way.
03:27:41.920
If I want to, if I'm loving on you, you're going to have all of it.
03:27:46.820
If that means I have to do whatever, it's whatever.
03:27:52.820
But I see where you're kind of, like, that's a thing for you.
03:27:55.340
Because I wouldn't prefer, like, a long-distance relationship.
03:27:58.560
And I'm not going to elect to be in one, because I don't think I'd like that myself either.
03:28:02.780
Like, out of state or out of country or anything like that.
03:28:06.780
I think it was originally on something Sophia was saying.
03:28:08.860
I was just saying that guys, it's not a relationship.
03:28:12.280
They drive miles and miles away just to have sex with a girl.
03:28:23.380
Because earlier you said that guys should pay for flowers.
03:28:26.080
So it wouldn't be romantic that a guy is willing to spend this time and money to travel and come and see you?
03:28:42.120
Like, it's not like a relationship, like a random girl that lives.
03:29:03.060
You had, like, a really strong grip on that, by the way.
03:29:10.480
When, like, it's a random girl, you know, this guy is horny, so he gotta get that on.
03:29:26.720
Maybe she'd seem as desperate in, like, that sense, but I think you might have took it into
03:29:30.900
the relationship sense of what this situation, like, what happened.
03:29:40.460
And about, I will, that came from when I was talking to my friends with, about hookup culture
03:29:47.100
and, like, the differences between guys and girls and how desperate men are in hookup culture.
03:29:52.760
Like, they lie to, you know, they lie and lie to just hit it.
03:29:58.480
And they just kind of, like, I don't know, they do a lot of stuff.
03:30:03.160
Or not even just that, but, like, they just have sex with anything.
03:30:09.420
So, as a female, have you ever been in a talking stage with, like, multiple different people?
03:30:16.960
No, you just haven't been in a talking stage where you just kind of get to know a person
03:30:24.780
But have you told them things and then you, like, as soon or as later, you're like, oh, yeah, this is not it.
03:30:35.440
So, that's, you don't think that's, like, basically the same level, like.
03:30:43.460
What does that have to do with what I'm saying?
03:30:45.400
I feel like, as a dude, like, a lot of guys, as I said, men can get what they can.
03:30:52.880
Girls can choose who they want to, like, sleep with.
03:30:56.260
Like, us girls, like, we have that advantage to be like, okay, we can pick and choose.
03:31:01.180
Maybe some people don't have that luxury, but it's like that for both genders.
03:31:07.000
It's just that you're talking about an audience of people who would drive, okay, let's say so-and-so, like, however miles to get pussy.
03:31:15.660
But you don't know if they get game or anything like that.
03:31:22.500
Like, she can go risk it all for a dude because she thinks he's cute or she just wants to go hook up with him.
03:31:28.460
Most people would risk it all if their ex just picks up the phone and calls them and be like, hey, come over.
03:31:33.880
A lot of people would drive that 45 minutes to go see their ex again.
03:31:49.200
And a lot of people will go risk that and go do that for their hookup culture with their ex, thinking that they can get something out of it.
03:31:56.880
I think with an ex, it's a little bit different because there's an emotional relationship or emotional connection that has been established.
03:32:03.200
I think the issue is like, or I think what she's trying to say is that there's a certain desperation for someone that you don't have that much investment in and you're just doing it for the purpose of having sex.
03:32:13.640
Because, like, he could have just found someone in five.
03:33:10.100
Miss Overalls, serious question, and topical for July 4th.
03:33:14.620
I'm very patriotic, and I know it's incredibly disrespectful to let an American flag touch the ground.
03:33:21.260
When I take them off, where will you hang your overall?
03:33:52.660
Sophia, you are an awesome person, but hopefully my opinion is one-eighth billion, an eighth
03:34:07.300
He means his opinion is one out of eight billion opinions.
03:34:55.080
But hopefully you understand you're awesome is half.
03:35:11.120
By the way, I just want to say I want, you know, I want to put in a good word here for
03:35:16.440
He actually rescued me from a, it was a raccoon that had rabies.
03:35:26.980
Listen, I just find myself in, listen, I have very, look, I have dainty, dainty hands.
03:35:36.480
So like my homies that are all fucking chads, like, listen, it's just a, it's a matter of
03:35:43.620
Are you going to send the fucking dainty gamer hands guy to deal with a fucking wild animal?
03:35:48.340
Are you going to send a fucking guy who's like got man hands?
03:35:51.860
But it's just like, why are you getting attacked?
03:35:54.000
Like, I don't understand what's happening with that.
03:36:15.020
All right, so, Mayor Moore, he saved me from a fucking rabies infested raccoon.
03:36:19.320
Like, the raccoon was like, literally rabies drooling from the mouth.
03:36:32.480
I want you to respond to the DM while you're driving back to Bakersfield in the car with
03:36:42.580
By Felicia, somewhere, Count Vaughn Count counts each body count with an, uh, uh, uh.
03:37:10.680
By the way, thank you, everybody, for all the soup chats.
03:37:12.400
We really appreciate all your patronage tonight.
03:37:24.680
But, uh, maybe you can link up with, uh, our home girl over here who lives in a 7,000 person
03:37:38.780
Uh, Sawyer, you might, I mean, I don't, you, probably not.
03:37:45.700
We, I'm looking at the, uh, over the threshold.
03:37:48.860
Have you donated, are you donating in Canadian dollars?
03:37:54.040
Uh, Sawyer, tell me your, uh, if you can send another soup chat, Sawyer, Nick, if you
03:38:01.720
Sawyer, what are you super chatting under, or on Streamlabs?
03:38:05.160
What's your username that you're using, or your name that you're trying to super chat
03:38:13.780
Uh, I also play League, Yuki, Ad Visev, or I would be honored to play League together.
03:38:20.500
I was considering traveling the world to find a lady, but some of the ladies you have
03:38:30.560
This is the first time I've seen a comment actually talk nice about women on this.
03:38:36.580
Bro, they talk nice about the women all the time, what are you talking about?
03:39:02.220
And I wake up to you 3.04, you will never get a man.
03:39:09.000
Even though you are married, you're married to a monkey man.
03:39:22.840
But you say you fall asleep listening to the show.
03:39:32.520
And I mean, every single one, when there's only fangirls on here, it's 3.04 this, 3.04
03:39:47.240
I was like, if I were to come on here, would they call me a 3.04?
03:40:05.160
Okay, well you said women are more promiscuous than men.
03:40:20.060
It literally, I think this, oh shoot, I had a brain wrong.
03:40:31.280
Okay, but it said that since the 80s, they counted this, the promiscuous identity of men
03:40:47.540
So in order to be promiscuous, you need to be able to act on, what you're saying is, is
03:40:57.880
Men biologically, because we have testosterone, have a higher sex drive.
03:41:01.840
So you would think that that would lead to men being more promiscuous.
03:41:07.760
The men who are capable of securing casual sex very easily, those men, yes, are promiscuous.
03:41:13.740
However, the difference is, women have more access to being promiscuous.
03:41:17.860
Because it's very easy for women to get laid, whereas it's rather difficult for men to get
03:41:23.360
laid, relatively speaking, comparatively speaking.
03:41:28.920
So there are more women who engage in hookup culture who are promiscuous than there are
03:41:33.880
And this is evidenced by the fact that they've done studies on this, they've done surveys.
03:41:37.780
There are a higher proportion of men between the ages, I believe it's 18 to 29, who in the
03:41:43.220
past year report having, who are either virgins or who have not had any sex in the past year.
03:41:50.540
Oh, so if we're talking about that, if we're talking about facts, men, the reason why they
03:41:54.920
have a higher testosterone most is because, you know, to repopulate, you know, you can
03:42:00.960
A lot of them have multiple different wives and multiple different kids because they have
03:42:05.720
It's normal like that in other different, like, you know, cultures.
03:42:08.440
It might not be just in America, maybe to you, maybe.
03:42:15.920
That's just a, that's just a biological fact of science.
03:42:23.100
You, you, I literally just debunked what you said, but do you have a response?
03:42:27.100
Do you have a response to any of the points I've just made?
03:42:42.340
I do, I do want to have, we, we can come to that, but I do want to have a little back
03:42:45.440
and forth with you on this because you've challenged me on this.
03:42:51.300
I will pull up, I will pull up the study that I'm referencing.
03:43:07.440
And this is, uh, this is done by the, uh, it's a general social survey.
03:43:24.600
It's, uh, young men driving the decline in sex.
03:43:41.120
And what it's going to show is that young men are driving the decline in sex.
03:43:44.880
The share of men and women between the ages of 18 and 30 reporting no sex in the past year.
03:43:51.580
Erica, can you, uh, is so it's, this is 18% of women are reporting no sex.
03:43:58.680
And this is from 2018, no sex in the past year.
03:44:01.160
28% of men are reporting having had no sex in the past year.
03:44:07.440
So, so, so there's 10% more men who are not having sex.
03:44:18.260
So just based off of that alone, I think you can come to the conclusion that women are more promiscuous than men.
03:44:24.840
There are more women who have access to hookup culture.
03:44:32.480
There are men who are like average who can maybe get a girlfriend.
03:45:06.620
A guy that doesn't want to walk to go find his partner.
03:45:09.260
Maybe if you like distance and add a couple more miles to your dating range, it might work
03:45:16.300
So do you think that it's, who has it harder when it comes to getting laid?
03:45:22.620
I'd say men because men kind of throw themselves at women.
03:45:33.780
Well, just because some men throw themselves at other women doesn't mean that other men
03:45:43.040
I mean, just from my town and my high school experience, even the ugly people are getting
03:46:00.560
So on dating apps and dating apps is the primary way that people are now meeting, women swipe
03:46:10.420
So you have to understand, like the vast majority of men are invisible to most women.
03:46:17.060
But if you saw what they were swiping no at, you'd understand.
03:46:25.740
I mean, I'm talking about like in-person meeting.
03:46:28.180
In-person meeting, we know like guys pull more than girls because.
03:46:35.000
I mean, average guys that are funny and actually have a personality and actually have goals
03:46:46.960
Because it's those other things that make you a different person.
03:46:49.580
So you just want to be like every other person.
03:46:55.540
I'm sorry, but I have to drive eight hours home.
03:47:35.000
But listen, I just, I don't know why men think now that they have it so hard.
03:47:40.480
Because when I was growing up in high school and just seeing like party culture and club
03:47:46.340
culture and just like this, you know, just like that's all they did.
03:47:51.160
And seeing like ugly guys, horrible guys, like maybe they aren't super ugly, but they're
03:48:00.300
You know, I would see them getting laid all the time.
03:48:05.240
Um, okay, that's not evidence that, okay, you want evidence, look at the rappers and
03:48:13.460
look at all the famous social media stars that are kind of mid or, and have bagged the
03:48:22.620
So, so you're, so just to be clear, you are, you're, you're talking, by the way, this is
03:48:27.380
not a debate about like, we're not talking strictly about physical appearance.
03:48:30.580
You just referenced men with really high status and who probably make good money.
03:48:38.180
But how many men are famous rappers and musicians?
03:48:42.980
We're talking about for the normal average guy.
03:48:47.220
That's why you have to build something with another person.
03:48:53.460
Like that's why there's always such thing as day ones.
03:48:56.460
People who have stayed down with you when you had nothing and believe in your music career.
03:48:59.980
And until when you're already up on top and now you actually call yourself a rapper, a
03:49:04.900
celebrity, they are with you from that time of point.
03:49:08.760
You're, you're looking at these cases of high status people.
03:49:14.820
You could be that person if you put in the hard work and dedication.
03:49:18.060
You're saying average people because average people limit themselves to their own fantasy,
03:49:25.540
I don't believe or shelter myself in these little shallow thoughts that you have of yourself
03:49:35.300
You keep talking about a problem, but I don't hear any solutions.
03:49:38.080
Like, if you want to like be better in a better situation, put yourself in a better environment.
03:49:45.720
There's so many things that like, you're like, you're the problem of your own thing.
03:49:57.080
I'm not, by the way, just to be clear, I'm not necessarily speaking for me.
03:50:00.420
I'm speaking on the experience on behalf of average or normal guys.
03:50:07.740
If you're not, if you're not, oh, you've been there.
03:50:27.380
Women, you, again, men are invisible to most women.
03:50:30.820
So you're projecting, like, you're only looking at a certain portion of men.
03:50:49.200
And you as a person should turn the world back around and be like, listen, this is me.
03:50:52.500
Like, this is me as a person and confident and being like, oh, I'm not an average person.
03:50:57.400
You literally just put yourself in a whole, like, 80% number.
03:51:02.160
Like, why don't you want to be part of that 5%?
03:51:03.940
You could be part of that 5% if you put that hard work and dedication.
03:51:14.380
The reality is, is that there are normal, average people.
03:52:33.020
Okay, well, one thing I want to say, because I, I understand where you're coming from about,
03:52:37.700
like, you know, men struggling to just even have sex.
03:52:41.120
And one thing that, not just me, but a lot of girls and a lot of people have talked about nowadays,
03:52:49.180
especially, like, with my generation, is that guys are, like, less likely to ask you out on the date.
03:52:58.360
Like, for me, specifically, like, all the dates I've been on, I asked him out, asked them out, you know?
03:53:08.500
Can you, you need to be straight on with the mic, please.
03:53:12.680
Scoot it, like, toward the edge of the table, too.
03:53:26.780
So, I understand your point where men are struggling to get laid, I guess.
03:53:30.980
Well, okay, that was in rebuttal to you saying that men, you wanted to fact-check me,
03:53:34.380
and you said that men are more promiscuous than women.
03:53:39.680
They're not, because they don't have the capability of acting on it.
03:53:46.740
You need to be capable of, men have a higher sex drive, yes.
03:53:51.720
However, men are not as capable as women when it comes to actually acting on that promiscuity.
03:53:58.840
It's very easy for a woman to get sex, where it's difficult for a man to get sex.
03:54:02.500
Any single girl here at this table, it's fucking 11 p.m. on a Tuesday.
03:54:06.660
Like, you could go download Tinder right now, fuck a dude tonight.
03:54:14.280
You cannot just download Tinder and get laid at 11 p.m. as a dude.
03:54:27.960
You think it is because you've had experiences with men who are capable of doing that, who
03:54:35.020
But most men don't have, like, that pull with women.
03:54:43.300
And that's one thing I'm saying, though, is, like, I can empathize for these men because,
03:54:51.220
like I was saying, is one thing I noticed, like, when I was single, that I, these guys
03:54:58.580
that I was talking to, I asked them out on a date, you know.
03:55:01.540
We didn't go to dinner or anything, but we just hung out and talked.
03:55:08.180
Maybe they're scared to ask me first or, you know, I just don't care.
03:55:12.300
And so then I ended up, like, talking to a couple other girls.
03:55:17.440
And, like, then I saw this video about this, about how guys are, like, maybe shy or scared
03:55:25.400
or they just don't like the girl, but to ask girls out now.
03:55:29.800
And it's, like, becoming a thing because I've just noticed this so much, like, this trend.
03:55:35.200
So you're arguing that men are much shyer and it's harder for them to get laid?
03:55:39.180
Well, I don't know why they're not going up to a woman.
03:55:44.040
Because of feminism and Me Too and all that shit?
03:55:47.360
And because women will fucking put men on blast who, like, maybe awkwardly approach them?
03:55:56.380
So if you go up to a girl, his biggest worry is that she's just going to accuse him of a false allegation or something?
03:56:03.960
No, not necessarily, but, like, there's an added layer now with social media.
03:56:07.900
A lot of men are like, oh, there's, like, this, because we've seen what's happened,
03:56:12.300
that, you know, there could be potentially a false accusation.
03:56:16.240
There could be, or he could just be, get socially dragged and say, oh, this creepy guy approached me.
03:56:22.180
He didn't do anything wrong, but, like, oh, he's kind of creepy or whatever.
03:56:27.960
And also, like, women are pretty rude, like, a lot of the times if you approach them in person.
03:56:34.340
Not all the time, but women can be pretty rude.
03:56:36.560
But another thing, like, you know how women can be pretty rude sometimes?
03:56:42.480
Not even just the rude thing, but guys can come off as creepy sometimes, you know?
03:56:47.840
And I'm not saying, oh, if a guy, I dropped my credit card and he gives it back to me,
03:56:53.520
and I'm like, oh, he's such a creep, like, he followed me, you know?
03:56:57.960
I've seen, like, I saw this TikTok of something like that.
03:57:01.060
This girl was, like, screaming because a guy was trying to give her her card back,
03:57:08.320
Oh, well, I mean, there was some video of some woman in a parking lot.
03:57:12.760
In, like, Walmart or something, and she was like, some guy approached her,
03:57:19.100
And then you see, like, you see also those gym TikTok videos
03:57:24.040
and then there's, like, a guy who, like, glances at them for, like, one second,
03:57:36.020
Sometimes they're not even looking in their direction.
03:57:38.040
But, like, so there's, like, this social component now
03:57:41.000
where, like, people are terrified to get, like, fucking exposed on social media.
03:57:49.760
one of the reasons men aren't approaching women in person anymore
03:57:53.280
is they don't really have to because dating apps exist.
03:57:57.460
It's more convenient, so you can just, like, talk to chicks on dating apps.
03:58:03.800
But let's go back to your original point about...
03:58:06.340
You were fact-checking me, saying that men are more promiscuous than women.
03:58:23.080
Like, if you had to take an average, like, who's more likely to have a high body count?
03:58:30.020
No, it's actually more women have high body counts than do men have high body counts.
03:58:36.400
You'll have, like, a small tier of men who have, like, insanely high body counts.
03:58:41.420
And then you'll have a much larger proportion of women who have, like, mid to high body counts.
03:58:45.560
And then you'll have a ton of guys who, like, have low and then, like, or just zero.
03:59:08.120
But why is there a phenomenon where there are men who are incapable, who are involuntarily celibate,
03:59:13.760
who are incapable of getting laid, but that same phenomenon really does not exist for women?
03:59:19.620
Wouldn't that suggest, if men were more promiscuous than women, how can it also be true that there are men who are just incapable of getting laid?
03:59:35.740
You can't say that they don't have a nice body or they just don't have a nice personality.
03:59:40.540
No, because they're on 4chan talking about how much.
03:59:43.480
I doubt you want to be scrolling Instagram and see a dad bod as something that you would get arousal to.
03:59:49.980
So, as a female with ass and titties, that's the first thing that a guy would see before your personality.
03:59:57.740
They don't have that ass and titties to wow a girl to, you know, to be like, oh, okay, like, I'm trying to impress you.
04:00:05.160
Like, you know how nature gives, like, people, like, the peacocks, like, feathers to show the females to, like, for a guy, they don't have that.
04:00:12.240
They have to have a nice body, well, abs, six packs, and stuff like that.
04:00:16.160
But most people overlook the fact, and you just need to work on your personality because that's what it is nowadays because you're communicating.
04:00:24.620
If they have a shitty personality, why would you want to be or place yourself in a room with this person?
04:00:30.100
So, I mean, you can love them with a dad bod, yes, eventually, but would it be an eye catcher?
04:00:38.340
So, average men who are looking, average looking with no money or a below minimum wage type, but will get hard, will be harder to find a female.
04:00:50.560
So, you said that there are things that men can do to, like, level up.
04:00:53.420
Like, they can get, become funny or have a good personality or become successful, and maybe they're not the best looking guy,
04:00:59.960
but they can do things through their personality or ambition or success or money or status to become attractive to women.
04:01:06.860
The difference is that women, you can just be 18 and be attractive or not even be physically attractive and still get, like, insane amounts of dicks.
04:01:17.860
We've had, just to add one thing, we've had women on the show who are, like, below average in physical appearance who,
04:01:24.300
we had one girl say that she had a sex addiction and she was, like, overweight, no offense to her, but she was, she was,
04:01:32.280
I'm just stating the facts here, don't shoot the messenger.
04:01:34.860
She happened to be overweight, she wasn't particularly good looking, I'd say she was, I don't, I'm not going to read her.
04:01:44.820
In any case, look, overweight, not particularly attractive, she was able to sleep with six guys in the night.
04:01:54.300
She slept with six dudes in the night, her body count was 140.
04:01:59.280
Her male looks equivalent would be incapable of doing that exact same thing.
04:02:05.980
But, like, is it women's fault that men are so desperate and horny?
04:02:12.440
Like, that's the thing is I feel like in this argument sometimes, and I'm not saying you're doing this,
04:02:17.740
but some people who do also argue with this, you know, take on what we're doing, is still try to blame it on us, you know?
04:02:27.660
I mean, I don't know if you've seen that before, but it's, like, men are choosing to be easy.
04:02:34.040
They are choosing the low of the low and having sex with her, but yet it's women's fault that they chose that.
04:02:42.020
Honestly, every guy I've known so far that has openly talked about their body all have a bad body.
04:02:49.560
Because I think men, I think generally speaking, men and women, like, we kind of view sex a little bit differently.
04:02:57.000
Women don't prioritize sex the same way that men do.
04:02:59.440
I do want to chime in on that, and the only person that has really got to me, and I have understood, is Rallo, the godfather pill, I love the red pill.
04:03:09.900
It's the age, the party season, or the party theory, where you're 18 to 26.
04:03:16.780
And after that, you're just, no guy would ever want you because you're already high mileage.
04:03:25.620
Like, as a female, like, let's say a guy breaks your heart.
04:03:29.940
There's, like, six other guys in my DM box that are screaming for my attention, so I'm going to go entertain them.
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And what it basically is, is that, like, you understand, like, a fire, you know, if you throw more wood to the fire, the fire will go ablaze.
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But, you know, once a certain, you know, time passes, the fire will slowly die down.
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Like, you know, we're kind of, like, exotic fruit to guys.
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Like, it's, it's, as ugly as I say it sounds like, it's, it's exactly what it is.
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Well, we also have different shortcomings, too.
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I think, like, to kind of piggyback off of what both of you are saying, so I'm not going to deny that for average men,
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and it's maybe more difficult to, to approach women or be successful sexually.
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But I, this is the way that I understand things, is that women are the gatekeepers of sex,
04:04:20.580
So, with that being said, I think that because women are prioritizing romance or love or something a bit more substantial,
04:04:29.080
which is why they have a higher or a more rigorous criteria that you'd have to fit,
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Whereas men, I think, in this current space or in this, I guess, discussion,
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they are only looking for physical satiability.
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So, I think that that has something to do with the reason why we're not seeing eye to eye
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is because we're not looking for the same things.
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It is very true that we are not seeing shit from eye to eye.
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But, honestly, like, you know how women are more emotionally vested when that just happens.
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You put everything in a relationship when that just ends,
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and, you know, you feel like your world is shattering on you,
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and you have, like, this big hole in your heart.
04:05:09.640
And as a female, and you're in your partying years,
04:05:11.660
you feel like you could fill that hole with more bodies,
04:05:14.720
and you think that the more guys that you sleep with, they'll love you for who you are,
04:05:19.740
And it has been proven, but, you know, it's more of, like,
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So, they usually seek comfort in physical affection,
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and what you get out of physical affection is through sex.
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And I would say that, you know, after that one night,
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we as females who are under, you know, people with under 10 body counts,
04:05:44.080
they still get to have that, you know, emotional connection with that person.
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But people who are, like, 10 over will not start losing how to get connections with the guy,
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and they will never see the guy's relationship material.
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I also think that another component to add to this is kind of, like,
04:06:02.880
I think that there is, because there's, like, a discrepancy between what we're looking for,
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I think that there is kind of, like, this, like, projection process that's happening.
04:06:16.420
So, like, I think that it's really frustrating for men to be hit with rejection,
04:06:22.160
because what they're looking for is something that's very, very intimate.
04:06:26.000
And a lot of these behaviors that we see from both men and women
04:06:29.740
are fueled by women having to navigate a new space where,
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because before, women's value was directly derived from how much a man valued them,
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And that was basically just what it was for a long time.
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And so now we're in a different space where we have to find our value,
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and we're navigating this without having it be just our looks or just what we can give physically.
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So I think that that's a new element that we're not really, that we haven't really discussed a lot,
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but I think it really, a lot of these behaviors, both the desperate ones on both ends,
04:07:08.120
I would say it's more like a little sad stage, like the little time period
04:07:11.800
where you are trying to figure yourself out and what to do, like, the next forward.
04:07:16.960
And in those times, a lot of thoughts are in your head of what you can do,
04:07:20.840
what you will do, or what's going to happen in the future.
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And I feel like those people who have been in toxic relationships feel this more,
04:07:29.460
either in the relationship themselves or just in general afterwards,
04:07:33.960
that they can't find that, like, social placing.
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For guys, when you do hurt a guy, they just do, like, go back to the gym, you know,
04:07:41.400
work on themselves, family, and then until they find another female
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or they are more comfortable with themselves to let a female access them emotionally.
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Everyone has their own process with dealing with pain or kind of dealing with heartbreak,
04:07:54.700
and I think that a lot of it has to do with, I guess maybe I'm also kind of putting my own projection on it,
04:07:59.800
because, like, when I got broken up with or whatever, I didn't have to fill a void,
04:08:05.340
but I know that that's how a lot of women feel like they're being valued or loved,
04:08:09.220
because that's what they're seeking, right, is, like, this emotional comfort or something of the sort.
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Anybody here on this side of the table want to weigh in on the conversation?
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Isn't it like the, what's that saying where a lock that can be opened by any key is, like, a useless lock?
04:08:48.140
No, it's just females in general, because us as females have that opening in who we choose to open our legs for.
04:08:56.740
It's not the guys that are trying to force you to have sex with you.
04:09:00.380
It's you choosing to take off your clothes and to have this, like, moment with this person.
04:09:05.820
It's an analogy to call a woman when ran through.
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Yes, because it's your choice to open your legs for these men.
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You have to enter the key inside the lock hole.
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I'm talking about the analogy, and the analogy is to call a woman ran through.
04:09:32.960
So the fun part about Disney, all the females in Disney are hardworking.
04:09:40.820
They don't let the night squad run through them first before they find a prince charming.
04:09:47.480
You think a Disney princess lets the whole kingdom access her?
04:09:51.620
I think Nikki would be really good in a zombie apocalypse, like, if she was your survival
04:10:02.220
Did you drop, Nikki, you dropped something, or?
04:10:06.660
But you would, like, if we formed a zombie survival squad like Nikki, we would have to ask
04:10:18.180
In the zombie apocalypse, we gotta, you know, we need your.
04:10:26.100
I want Yuki on my squad for the zombie apocalypse.
04:10:48.940
I, one last quick thing here with Sophia, because I don't think she's managed to have
04:11:08.520
Sophia, she's a, she's a radical feminist, so that's a yikes.
04:11:14.480
I'm a men's, actually, I'm a men's opportunist.
04:11:30.920
Being a radical feminist and an advocate for men is like diametrically opposed.
04:11:37.660
I just like kind of choose radical feminism because I align with some of their points rather
04:11:57.220
There's one side of feminism where it's like go sex work.
04:12:02.800
It's empowering and you should be able to do whatever you want and nobody should judge
04:12:07.260
And the other side of it is sex work is like predatory and you know, it's the evil men
04:12:15.980
Although now with OnlyFans, it's like they're doing it themselves.
04:12:18.800
Which that's the thing though is even with OnlyFans, like a man made that out.
04:12:24.980
And it's like, you know, he's getting all the money.
04:12:28.300
But what like who, what gender dominates OnlyFans?
04:12:31.380
But that's the thing is, I mean, I don't know if you saw this, but I saw this and it was
04:12:36.200
rampant on social media where when OnlyFans was just kind of first coming out and people
04:12:40.600
were like, oh, like I'm, when I turn 18, I'm going to make an OnlyFans and make a million
04:12:45.080
dollars and like this and that, like it was kind of like preying on young girls that are
04:12:50.400
freshly turned 18 to do OnlyFans and start an OnlyFans and just like romanticizing that.
04:12:58.080
But as a person, you shouldn't fall like under pressure to anybody else's opinions, but yours.
04:13:04.000
What do you guys, what about Charlie Sheen's daughter?
04:13:09.180
Yeah, and she started in OnlyFans and he like got mad.
04:13:14.680
Or Denise Richards, the mom, she was like proud of her and she was like, I'll start my own.
04:13:19.800
Well, I think Denise Richards was kind of wanting to start her own anyway.
04:13:45.820
Yo, thank you for all the super chats tonight, man.
04:13:50.040
Yo, send me a DM on Instagram or an email, brianatwhatever.com.
04:13:56.800
Instagram.com slash whatever because I try to stay in touch with like some of the patrons
04:14:10.400
So, okay, let's pull up the Twitch really quick and then we'll do final thoughts and then
04:14:13.600
we're going to wrap up and then we'll go from there.
04:14:42.300
Okay, before we wrap up here pretty soon, maybe we'll do a short 10, 15-minute aftershow.
04:14:48.040
Anyone final thought before we wrap up here pretty soon?
04:14:59.780
Yeah, it went all over the place at one point and you were Austin Powers.
04:15:05.520
And then we were giggling really hard at one point and I was trying so hard to stifle myself
04:15:18.200
Brixen, I vote to make Hatov and Sophie a regular.
04:15:34.840
I saw the chat say that I was hating on Sophie and I'm not.
04:15:44.100
I mean, happy bitches ain't hating and hating bitches ain't happy.
04:16:16.540
No, they were like, if she knows Diablo and Beavis and Butthead, there's no way she's in
04:16:22.860
So, I can know things from the 80s, like Depeche Mode, and I don't have to be, you know.
04:16:28.480
Yo, chat, should I, speaking of the 80s and 90s, should I bring on the American Gladiators?
04:16:35.000
I don't know if any of you have seen that Netflix documentary.
04:16:37.740
I'm thinking about trying to bring on the Gladiators, the American Gladiators, in any
04:17:00.980
Well, the mic is, like, really blocking your face this entire time.
04:17:16.120
This is the first time I can see the chat, because I don't have my glasses.
04:17:30.740
You can't say something and then not fucking say it.
04:17:42.080
I mean, I know it's, like, you know, I'm giving the look for 3,000, but definitely not.
04:18:02.520
I mean, you didn't do a great job fact-checking me earlier.
04:18:06.680
I still don't agree with you on that whole thing.
04:18:11.940
If you're down to stay a little extra minutes after the show, I'll have you on the after
04:18:16.460
And we can chop it up then since we had a back and forth on that.
04:18:27.940
You're an influencer if you just brag about your lifestyle, your money, or just anything
04:18:32.880
that doesn't influence anybody in any type of way.
04:18:37.420
I mean, yeah, but there's like some people who deserve a platform than other people.
04:18:44.680
No, it's not only white people that are influencers.
04:18:50.260
I want you to look into this camera right here.
04:18:55.780
Look into the camera and be like, hi, my name's Sophia and I'm a racist.
04:19:14.640
There's a lot to unpack and I think that if you have an open mind, I'm definitely down
04:19:18.640
to discuss with you more at a later time though because I got work and it's going to be 2
04:19:26.860
Yeah, we can have you back on the show sometime.
04:19:33.560
I'm going to ask Sophia to join me for the after show.
04:19:44.000
I'm going to have to wait until my broke ass gets my ride to come.
04:19:48.300
Those of you who want to leave out, that's fine, but...
04:19:56.460
Okay, guys, we're going to do a 10-minute after show, 15-minute after show, but I just
04:20:01.800
If any of you are going to tune out after the main show is over, please hit that like
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You could have been anywhere in the world, but you're here with me.
04:20:12.540
Thank you to everyone who super chats, donates, and supports the show.
04:20:17.540
Thank you to all our chat mods, any women who want to be on the show, DM, at whatever.
04:20:34.280
Okay, we'll do types, five minutes, and then we're going to...
04:20:38.800
We also didn't touch on OnlyFans at all, either.
04:21:16.680
Sophia, Sophia, looking into this camera, are you able to, like, touch your elbows together?
04:21:26.640
We want to see your boobs, but we don't want to tell you.
04:21:38.320
Okay, so we're going to go around the table, starting with you.
04:21:46.200
You like white guys, short guys, funny guys, rapper guys, face tattoo guys?
04:22:59.960
I'm a nerdy guy who's also into fitness and loves the outdoors because I'm very outdoorsy
04:23:07.220
They just have to be taller than me, but probably not shorter than 5'5 or 5'6 and work a similar
04:23:15.920
schedule to me because I work like 8 to like 6 during the day.
04:23:22.260
I'd prefer taller, but my last couple relationships...
04:23:39.400
But the last couple people that I've seen have all been shorter than me.
04:24:11.480
Well, I mean, I don't have like a hard, fast preference.
04:24:32.540
I'm cool with anybody that is honest, integral, and has good values.
04:24:40.040
It doesn't hurt if they're like taller than me, which is...
04:24:42.020
I know you're not getting attention right now, Sophia, but maybe just relax for a little bit, okay?
04:24:50.140
If I was 37, I'd have to have a lot of work done to look as good as I look.
04:24:59.620
I know it's hard to not have attention for a few minutes.
04:25:10.600
Being taller doesn't hurt, but it's not required.
04:25:13.000
And then probably someone with good, sturdy hands and good arms.
04:25:26.260
Like, at least they look, like, semi-manicured, and that's fine.
04:25:55.560
You just have to have something going in your life.
04:25:57.500
You have to have some want to, like, have a better life for yourself.
04:26:04.740
I'm 5'2", so you at least have to be taller than me.
04:26:14.900
They have to be comfortable wearing, like, those sweats, pajamas, just everywhere with me.
04:26:29.260
Yeah, dressing is a big, you know, dressing's a big one.
04:27:24.640
Like second marriage, and she had her own business.
04:27:27.780
Like, I think with traditional, like traditional con or whatever the fuck they call it, they've
04:27:32.580
messed it up and warped it so much because, like, a woman, like, okay, the divorce.
04:27:54.620
But just in case they get divorced, the woman, she will be fucked.
04:28:00.140
And so, like, you can be, like, traditional, and you can be a housewife, but also have a
04:28:05.920
plan B. You always will need a plan B. He could die.
04:28:10.300
You know, maybe he didn't even make the will yet.
04:28:13.280
Like, you know, it's just you never know what's going to happen, so don't ever, ever,
04:28:18.160
ever be dependent on one person because something can happen.
04:28:22.780
They can take that away, and you will have nothing.
04:28:25.360
And, you know, and I just think that, like, with the traditional...
04:28:30.500
Are you talking about, like, in the sense of, like, a prenup, or are you talking about,
04:28:36.160
In general, like, okay, because, like, with traditional marriage, like, their marriages
04:28:41.860
and, like, kind of intersects with red pill and all that, but red pill really hates divorce,
04:28:46.520
and I mean, traditional, they do too, but, like, you know, they're...
04:28:50.040
Well, they value families, so they're not super divorce happy.
04:28:52.600
But they're, like, you know, but they aren't, like, how the red pillers are about divorce.
04:29:06.140
Honestly, it's just a whole bunch of guys that, like, are into traditional stuff to a whole
04:29:12.920
Like, they base every female off of body count, off of the way that they see religion is.
04:29:19.020
Like, they take those girls and think, we're all like that, which that's kind of...
04:29:25.380
That's how they, like, loop everybody into one group, and that kind of sucks.
04:29:28.520
Which, that's why, like, I kind of came on here today, because some of the guys in the
04:29:31.820
chat, in Brian's podcast, just the way that, like, one girl will say something, and I'm
04:29:40.180
Like, that would never come out of my mouth, and I don't know any other girls that would do
04:29:44.340
something like that, or talk like that, and I just, like, they take that one girl, and
04:30:01.400
Don't talk about it, be about it, run your hands.
04:30:05.320
I wanted one of those, but I'll stick with this.
04:30:08.100
If I give you one of those, you have to wear it for the rest of the show, which is not...
04:30:24.840
You can wear that one, Nikki, and then Sophia can wear this one.
04:31:04.980
Did you share your type, or did you just start rambling about something?
04:31:14.880
Just want to advocate that my wife is dependent on me on many aspects.
04:31:19.520
I'm the only person she is dependent on financially, emotionally, and many other aspects.
04:31:25.000
I am, however, dependent on only her in my aspects.
04:31:40.700
But I'm not trashing on that, but it's just like some of these traditional family archetypes,
04:31:47.140
it's kind of dangerous for a woman to have a kid, like, you know, in her 20s, never, like,
04:31:58.540
Well, I feel like that's why you've got to choose really carefully, you know?
04:32:03.920
A lot of people have still that, you know, fairytale, like, imagination.
04:32:11.240
So they rush into something that they think is love, but when, like, in most cases, if
04:32:16.660
a guy is providing for you financially in every other case, then he's slowly going to
04:32:21.900
stop losing interest in you if you don't put anything on the table as well.
04:32:34.620
It takes a lot, you know, especially if you are so dependent on this person financially
04:32:39.840
and emotionally as well, since us females emotionally invest too.
04:32:44.080
It's, like, a harder way to just think of a plan B if your person is plan A, plan A all
04:32:51.260
Nikki, I'm not going to lie, you're looking fine in that.
04:32:55.460
I know, she looks like, it fits, and it matches your outfit.
04:33:05.700
Dustin Denton, thank you for the 100, does a 68-inch guy, 38, white guy in California
04:33:10.620
count, own a home out of a lot of age brackets?
04:33:16.020
Are you talking about, like, what are you talking about?
04:33:20.900
No, no, no, that's a height thing, but you don't say your actual height in feet, you say
04:33:24.740
in inches, so it's, like, five, three, five, like, that's very short.
04:33:53.720
I don't know what the balance you're talking about.
04:33:55.660
Do you think that we could round that up and make that a seven?
04:34:03.960
Okay, my type, like, uh, okay, um, I, like, really used to like white guys.
04:34:15.800
It's still there, but, um, then I ended up dating a black guy.
04:34:25.800
Your current boyfriend is the one who's waiting...
04:34:34.220
But, um, also besides that, no, besides that, like, I was like, white guys, white guys,
04:34:40.980
Hey, fuck with the white guy, your credit get right.
04:34:45.720
And then, um, this one guy I met, like, like, funny.
04:34:49.240
I mean, ah, this is kind of, okay, um, yeah, he was Indian, and I really liked him.
04:34:57.080
So, like, I feel like when I have preferences, like, I'm still not too stuck to it.
04:35:13.240
I've written this down because I've got a list, so...
04:35:25.860
If her height doesn't start with four, she ain't the one.
04:35:28.940
I was watching an episode, and I heard you say that.
04:35:40.200
Hey, look, if women like tall men, tall men like short men.
04:35:45.540
For me, it's not, like, that's not a make or break or a deal breaker.
04:35:50.740
Like, so it's not, like, oh, she's got to be short.
04:36:06.220
If I could be totally 100%, I think that, like, it's...
04:36:11.240
Sex is a little more awkward with a taller chick.
04:36:14.300
It's still good, but it's, like, I feel like the puzzle piece...
04:36:23.780
But, like, certain positions are a little more difficult with, like, tall women, whereas,
04:36:27.020
like, a girl who's, like, I'd say anywhere from, like, 5'4 down, it's actually...
04:37:24.980
Like if she wears a bit of eyeliner, if she has earrings, she has a bit of color in her hair,
04:37:29.620
But it's more like the more extreme it becomes, the less attractive it is for me.
04:37:33.740
So, definitely like with plastic surgery, don't like BBL, don't like fake tits, don't like lipo.
04:37:39.840
And for all of these, for example, I'd prefer a girl who's like flat versus a girl with fake tits.
04:37:44.420
Even if she was totally flat before and then she got fake tits, I would have preferred her with flat boobs.
04:37:49.380
You just like her to be natural, as natural as possible, right?
04:37:57.800
What if she had like mommy milkers and they were 100% maddy?
04:38:25.840
Look, it's not, again, it's not a deal breaker, deal maker.
04:38:56.920
I mean, hey, she's speaking to the contrary, Brian.
04:39:20.500
And I'd say, generally speaking, I like more introverted women, kind of nerdy, shy women
04:39:32.120
Yeah, because I feel like I'm more introverted, so I prefer more like calm women.
04:39:39.760
I don't party or go to bars or clubs or anything like that.
04:39:42.480
So, like kind of more mellow chicks, introverted, they're a bit on the shy side, like it.
04:39:48.740
So, how do you think that you're going to meet that then, if you don't go outside or anything
04:40:25.880
You was doing all kinds of math over there, and I was like, that's nuts.
04:40:55.920
Any women who want to be on the show, DM at whatever.
04:41:03.320
We got a good show planned, so be sure to tune in for that.
04:41:11.180
And hang out for a couple minutes afterwards if you want.
04:41:20.400
Can we have a moment of silence for all the soldiers that lost their lives
04:41:26.680
I thought you were about to say something related to like the Spartans,
04:41:43.860
That's not the moment of silence that we were talking about, but.
04:42:06.480
But this has been a very interesting experience.
04:42:50.960
I think, Nikki, if you're down, I'll have you and Sophia join you for the show.
04:43:00.760
I thought that you were Ukrainian at first with your accent.
04:43:03.460
You kind of sounded a little bit like my stepfather.
04:43:38.520
For the record, I'm getting picked up in my own car.
04:43:42.960
Just for the record, I'm getting picked up and it's my car.
04:43:54.060
And so my car is the only car that could make it here.
04:44:10.200
Well, he's mad because he's sitting behind the screen.
04:44:19.240
Uh, so Nikki, I'm going to have you sit in that chair over there.
04:44:25.780
The one far over there where Kathy was sitting on.
04:45:04.160
This is for the audio, and I can go ahead and get that.
04:45:14.160
We're going to get started here in a sec, guys.
04:45:23.160
If you're able to just cut out a little costly,
04:45:50.160
Yeah, I'm just going to head to the phone around.
04:46:22.160
Okay, so hopefully you can hit that Instagram real quick.
04:47:33.160
I feel like this good old American hat does me justice.
04:47:38.160
I just remembered Brian was wearing that earlier.
04:48:03.160
Um, but it's just more of like a, what you really need to work on as a person.
04:48:13.160
And I can't understand like what you were getting at.
04:48:16.160
What I was trying to say was like there was a little blunt.
04:48:39.160
I mean, the guys that she's with are pieces of shit.
04:48:45.160
And I just wanted to tell her to, um, you know, like go out, like go to the grocery
04:48:52.160
And like, you get meaningful relationships through that.
04:48:55.160
But she doesn't really know how to start conversations.
04:49:02.160
I wouldn't say there's a language barrier if you're just trying to go for guys that are
04:49:35.160
Sophia looks like she would be in some, like, shitty Disney something with your hat.
04:49:47.160
I feel like I've been, like, a Demi Lovato thing.
04:50:00.160
Yuki, are you sticking around with the Yaku show?
04:50:09.160
I've been, like, trying to spell my name for, like, the past three clicks.
04:50:23.160
I hope you realize, Yuki, like, I have no bad intentions to you.
04:50:30.160
Like, everything that I'm saying is just from, like, I have experienced myself.
04:50:38.160
They say, like, things that you want to believe.
04:50:41.160
And especially online, you have that, like, tendency to get attached.
04:50:47.160
But also, Yuki, one thing that her and I were talking about was, like, with online, like,
04:50:54.160
Because in a sense, like, I've been on dates with guys that I, like, I knew of, but I never
04:51:09.160
It's just, like, how it's set up and how you, like...
04:51:16.160
And, like, I mean, on the phone texting, between, like, FaceTime and texting, it's,
04:51:21.160
like, two different emotions that you feel at the same time.
04:51:26.160
So, when you get to in person, like, you're both going to be sitting there awkward and
04:51:31.160
But you just need to learn how to break that ice.
04:51:44.160
One thing I was saying, though, is, like, as advice to help, though, is, like, to find
04:51:58.160
You know, like, it could literally be at a grocery store.
04:52:00.160
While you're getting your groceries, the gym, anywhere.
04:52:04.160
And, like, that connection will be ten times more, like, just, like, authentic.
04:52:10.160
Because you've met, you've talked, you have this connection.
04:52:19.160
I feel like I just need, like, to socialize more.
04:52:23.160
I mean, I feel like you should have, like, a video game boyfriend.
04:52:28.160
Because I feel like you're more comfortable with video games, right?
04:52:31.160
Like, so, if you're playing, you feel like you can communicate more while you are, like,
04:52:40.160
I think you should, so you could read the chat.
04:52:49.160
Nikki is in the middle of talking to Yuki and you're like, should I put my glasses on?
04:53:09.160
Okay, we should tell the people watching what happened, like, right before we started the
04:53:19.160
I don't like being disrespected and I don't tolerate that.
04:53:36.160
I come at you guys aggressively, but I'm a nice person, I think.
04:53:40.160
I look ugly with the glasses, so I'm taking them off.
04:54:42.160
Just the way you said that kinda sounded a little...
04:55:03.160
Or we could just say that the patriarchy is awesome.
04:55:06.160
I'm so sorry, but you haven't dropped like actual information.
04:55:12.160
Not in like a weird way, but like an intellectual way.
04:55:44.160
And you're in the car and you grab your prescription of out of it.
04:55:59.160
Like, am I the only one like in this room concerned?
04:57:07.160
So you blacked out from like Bakersfield and me?
04:57:14.160
I was in an induced coma because I was using my anxiety medication as needed.
04:57:48.160
That did not just come at your mouth right now.
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If you're taking more than one, that is multiple.
04:58:19.160
I thought you meant multiple, like different drugs.
04:58:22.160
No, you said that you took multiple pills before it, like...
04:58:27.160
Like, no, I know what you're saying, but I just thought you said...
04:58:40.160
Girl, I'm over here thinking that you actually got in a coma.
04:58:43.160
You have to realize, like, movie stuff happens to me, like...
04:59:06.160
After that fucking train derailment of a podcast.
04:59:10.160
I don't know how many of you guys know I was a Gemini.
04:59:20.160
So, please DM me if you're a June Gemini and tell me your birthday.
04:59:23.160
They all DM me telling me I'm their favorite guest.
04:59:27.160
Of course they're going to be saying that shit.
04:59:30.160
Here, pull your hair back so the audience can see.
04:59:34.160
Of course, bro, they're simping over you all night.
04:59:37.160
She doesn't have her glasses out to see it, so...
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Here, Sophia, pull your hair back so you can get more simps in your fucking DMs.
04:59:47.160
Because you want people to take you seriously for your intellect?
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Also, Brian, I'm a guy, but ID love to be on the show sometime.
05:00:19.160
Yo, Brandon, thank you very much for the after show TTS, man.
05:00:37.160
I want you to show the audience how nurturing you are.
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I'm taking Kiki since he stole my baby and gave it to another person.
05:01:08.160
Okay, I wanted to debate you on this men being more promiscuous thing.
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I mean, there's a lot of opinions in the world.
05:02:16.160
Sofia, your face is kind of being blocked right now.
05:02:18.160
Do you think you could just, like, pull your hair back behind your, like, shoulders, you know?
05:02:51.160
Were you not being mean because none of us were OnlyFans girls?
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Except yesterday, you were nice to them, but...
05:03:04.160
Sometimes I wonder when I watch the clips, but...
05:03:15.160
Like, that sit next to you and you're like, yeah.
05:03:32.160
Okay, but he suggested things that makes other guys that hate women like deadass.
05:03:39.160
They, like, actually were relevant like 20 years ago.
05:04:03.160
Oh, he's saying move your hair so we can get more views, more money.
05:04:08.160
It's so, like, because your face is being blocked by the hair.
05:04:17.160
I'm being objectified right now, and this is a part of the patriarchy that you think doesn't exist.
05:04:30.160
I think you are an intelligent, smart, very, very...
05:04:48.160
Because a lot of people say this stuff about objectification, and then, like, OnlyFans comes
05:04:53.160
around, and Instagram comes around, and motherfuckers be doing that shit to themselves.
05:05:01.160
I hope you realize, like, everybody at the end of the day has a choice to do OnlyFans.
05:05:06.160
That's why a lot of people should knock the people who are doing OnlyFans because...
05:05:16.160
Brian, I want you to at least agree that women are so much more, like, humiliated and degraded
05:05:33.160
Like, no, like, there's this hyper-focus on them, and even your...
05:05:36.160
That more women engage in OnlyFans and porn than do men.
05:05:42.160
Yeah, but women are the ones who run the platform.
05:05:47.160
No, like, guys with their own platforms, and they...
05:05:56.160
Because there's this obsession with OnlyFans girls and, like, humiliating them and...
05:06:02.160
Because it's their decision that they chose to make to do that.
05:06:06.160
You can still knock a politician for being a politician.
05:06:09.160
It's like, it doesn't add up because you should give the same behavior to the men who
05:06:16.160
Well, if one day I do find a guy who does OnlyFans, I'll say the same thing, that he's
05:06:32.160
You wanna, like, commit terrorist acts against...
05:06:44.160
I mean, if I had enough makeup to pick at a house, then...
05:06:49.160
And you have E-D because you watch too much porn.
05:07:01.160
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
05:07:09.160
It could be the porn, but it might not be the porn.
05:07:21.160
You forget that she doesn't have her glasses on.
05:07:28.160
Yeah, but you guys do that shit into the microphone.
05:07:41.160
I mean, honestly, she's just a really nice person that hasn't experienced the harshness
05:07:46.160
of, like, dating, but you've only, like, like, got to that tip of the iceberg of dating.
05:08:04.160
Like, you just have to, like, really love yourself, you know, and don't forget that.
05:08:07.160
Just have a good idea of what your next partner is going to be.
05:08:09.160
And that your worth isn't based on someone else's opinion.
05:08:12.160
I just feel like I used to believe, like, online love bumping, and I take my consequences,
05:08:38.160
So, right now, you have, like, you have one step ahead of majority of everybody.
05:08:42.160
Dude, stop looking at my fucking groin, you pervert.
05:08:44.160
At this moment, it's gonna separate you from average people.
05:08:49.160
Sophia's been fucking objectifying me all night.
05:08:52.160
She's been just fucking looking at my bolt, like, it's so disturbing.
05:08:57.160
That's the only reason why I've been telling you to move your hair, because I feel like
05:09:01.160
you've been objectifying me this entire night, and I'm just giving you a taste of your own
05:09:08.160
You're literally, like, just so misandrist with your, like, objectification of me.
05:09:24.160
I think you guys should just talk it out, go on a date, you know?
05:09:54.160
I mean, have you seen the other job that the woman on this show has?
05:09:58.160
She pretty much sits there and wears the helmet.
05:10:06.160
So you guys, like, would switch off every single episode?
05:10:11.160
So the people who can't spell my name right and keep putting an E in it learn how to spell
05:10:15.160
Nikki, can you read this one from Bruce Billis?
05:10:18.160
Next act seems like she likes to argue before she makes friends.
05:10:43.160
I'm expecting Yuki to say multi-pass any moment now.
05:10:57.160
This is the guy who is super chatting all night and roasting the shit out of-
05:11:00.160
We should go back and play some of the roasts against us if you-
05:11:04.160
I didn't hear anything because every time I saw it, people go, ah!
05:11:13.160
Brian, been trying to keep up shows when I can.
05:11:14.160
Had a massive contract for eight new Apple stores in the southeast with something that
05:11:24.160
It's been a- I think it's been like a- I think your last show was- was it the Gorlock?
05:11:29.160
It was one of like the early ones in like- might have been like late April, early May,
05:11:38.160
I missed you, but hey, uh, congratulations on the, uh, the, uh, big contract and good to
05:11:47.160
Uh, you've been, uh, super supportive for months now.
05:11:52.160
And let's actually, if I can, I'm going to try to play some of the, uh, previous, um,
05:11:59.160
some of the previous, uh, chats that came in or the, uh, what's it called?
05:12:06.160
So, cause Sophia, apparently it's hard of hearing.
05:12:32.160
And apparently you're Catholic and you're pro-life, which threw me off a little bit.
05:12:46.160
Unfortunately, I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to re-trigger some of the soup chats.
05:12:58.160
I'm not really able to re-trigger the soup chats.
05:13:10.160
I think if you weren't here, it could have been better, but...
05:13:24.160
You were like 45 minutes late and I feel like you should have at least apologized.
05:13:28.160
Like you should have been on stream, like apologizing to the viewers.
05:13:35.160
I was like popping fucking Xanax in my car, like doing shit.
05:13:41.160
Guys, that's why we were late is because Sophia was doing drugs.
05:13:55.160
Sophia, if you and Brian don't work out, will you let me take you on a date?
05:14:14.160
You were doing like various speed balls and stuff in your car with your boyfriend who
05:14:21.160
But I was just doing my medication I'm prescribed to because I saved it for this exact reason
05:14:55.160
So you guys get like, so you guys get paranoid like.
05:14:58.160
But like it triggers, it triggers panic attacks for me.
05:15:10.160
Panic attacks and anxiety attacks are the same thing.
05:15:12.160
So for you guys watching, I just gave you free medical advice.
05:15:18.160
Yo, if you're in Canada and you need a drone operator, SkyQuest Drones has all your drone
05:15:25.160
Whether it's real estate, whether it's construction, SkyQuest, I don't know if that's even your
05:15:31.160
business, but I was just giving you a fucking, there you go.
05:15:34.160
I'm available for hire if you need me to promote you.
05:16:01.160
He's getting anxious because even the fucking smell of it can.
05:16:05.160
You were hot boxing your, what kind of car does he have here?
05:16:10.160
He has a Beamer, but it's in the, um, shop right now.
05:16:14.160
So he has like a charger or something like the charger, you know, those nice cars.
05:16:39.160
Guys, I want, I want W's in the chat for Nick because on Sunday, the poor guy got sunburned
05:16:54.160
Apparently it's like some people are susceptible to it.
05:16:58.160
If you get a sunburn, it like does some weird shit with your nerves.
05:17:02.160
And like, bro, Nick was, so Nick, uh, wasn't able to come in on Sunday.
05:17:07.160
I gave him the, uh, I gave him the day off because he was just in a lot of pain.
05:17:16.160
I don't know if it's, he survived is the important thing.
05:17:22.160
So is that like every time you get a sunburn or like?
05:17:26.160
Well, Nick was like, yo, bro, Brian, I got hell's itch.
05:17:29.160
And I'm like, bro, I told you not to sleep with that girl.
05:17:36.160
I ain't heard of that one before hell's itch, huh?
05:17:40.160
There's something going around now, but it's like something to do with sunburns or some
05:17:51.160
It's like a painful, like nonstop severe itch that like, like, it made me hyperventilate
05:18:00.160
Otherwise it's just like, you're like, bro, you got a sunburn.
05:18:20.160
Um, what's the story behind the spider tattoo on the neck?
05:18:25.160
Um, honestly, all my tattoos and especially my neck ones, um, all represent my family.
05:18:32.160
Um, and, um, the bird right here has my grandma's birthday on it.
05:18:38.160
And then here is my mom's name, Wiven, like into the spider webs.
05:18:43.160
And some people think that this is a funny way to hit on me and say, you know, and tie
05:18:49.160
it in with the new Spider-Man movie, which I haven't watched yet.
05:18:52.160
So if you guys try to hit on me, think of a better way to hit on me than ask me just
05:18:59.160
If I've watched the new Spider-Man, don't do that.
05:19:06.160
She's Catholic pro-life independent feminist who looks like a Walmart version of, oh shit.
05:19:13.160
Um, Jenny Ortega and as an ex who drives her around.
05:19:25.160
You just wanted to do a little day trip with your ex-boyfriend.
05:19:29.160
I mean, I had to do my makeup in the car cause we ended up kind of late.
05:19:34.160
But we have like a hotel room and I was like, we're going to come early, go there so I could
05:19:40.160
But I ended up doing in the car and I had to go get leggings from Target and I got dressed
05:19:50.160
It seems my offer to play league with lady Yuki caught on Brian.
05:19:55.160
I wish I could share more insight as a moderately traditional gentleman.
05:19:59.160
Joe, thank you for the, uh, TTS or excuse me, not the stream labs donation.
05:21:59.500
Bro, can you stop motorboating the baby, please?
05:22:07.280
Bro, you've been like doing some weird shit with that baby, bro.
05:22:19.980
Can I like football throw the baby to Nick, you think?
05:23:11.740
I mean, there's like that weird layer on that microwave.
05:23:40.660
And I feel like that in a relationship is kind of fucking hard.
05:23:52.100
And I have to have a guy that takes me, like, down.
05:23:58.020
And, like, I feel like in a relationship, like, as one of the things my partner should learn
05:24:17.080
Can we talk about this when we get home, please?
05:24:18.520
I mean, never finding a guy is not true because I'm currently in a relationship.
05:24:23.580
Is he, like, super, super masculine, would you say?
05:24:44.200
Like, my love language is, like, act of service.
05:24:47.580
So, everything I do is that me showing that person I care.
05:24:55.420
But would you say that you basically need a guy who's, like, so dominant that it's almost
05:25:06.980
Like, he's open and understanding to certain situations.
05:25:09.980
Like, and, like, it's my job to be understanding to him as well.
05:25:15.240
That's, like, what a relationship is supposed to be.
05:25:22.160
I was actually scared after our argument earlier on in the show.
05:25:29.640
I'm gonna bite your head off if you say something.
05:25:43.060
If you say some stupid shit, like, if you say some stupid shit, I'm gonna say something
05:26:00.040
I mean, the only time I said something to you was, like, around, like, 10-ish, 11-ish.
05:26:07.380
Every time I said something, you would be like, no.
05:26:16.680
Especially if we're trying to ask you about your body count.
05:26:25.760
No, I just wouldn't want to say my body count since, like...
05:26:30.180
That's what me and, like, Didi was trying to do.
05:26:54.040
Next time you're on the show, we're going to take...
05:26:55.960
You have to, like, take a photo with a piece of paper that says roast me.
05:27:00.160
Before the show starts, we're going to post it to the subreddit, and then they're going
05:27:37.340
Like, it's supposed to be ADC, so it's AD carry.
05:27:51.780
Oh, I didn't even post on my Instagram while I was going on live here, but...
05:28:33.220
No, um, I asked Destiny because the abortion debate was, like...
05:28:38.940
Honestly, Sophia, you would have got demolished if you were debating Destiny on abortion.
05:28:48.820
On the show, you literally said you would have argued the pro-life side.
05:29:01.940
Destiny, um, Destiny, um, wait, uh, and the big lady that people are talking to me.
05:29:10.960
I was, you know, I was asking Destiny, um, if this place is, like, cold or warm.
05:29:20.900
Because I was, like, picking out the outfit that I'm wearing right now, I was, like, asking him if it was cold in here.
05:29:43.680
We have Asians in here because I'm Filipino and white and black.
05:30:11.760
Well, first off, Yuki, what is your, is that your actual name or is that like a, because
05:30:16.600
I know a lot of people who like, if they're Chinese or if they come to the U.S., they'll
05:30:20.780
just like call themselves like Emily, but that's not their actual name.
05:30:53.200
I always followed you on Instagram like a while ago.
05:31:04.600
And no, it's because people thought you were Kiko.
05:31:13.960
I need to get, I need to get Nikki, Kiko, and then there was this other girl.
05:31:22.960
We were going to have John Zerka on, but I don't.
05:31:45.880
You guys cannot even, he's been on like 10 shows.
05:32:23.120
He's decided to now from here on now, wait until marriage.
05:32:36.000
Cause it's just like one of those languages that even if I casually tell her that she's
05:32:40.320
pretty, I just have to emphasize the emotions that, oh, like, and like other people in
05:32:46.120
our, like that don't speak our language, be like, oh my God, she just said a bad word
05:32:49.740
But in all of actuality, we both know that I just called her pretty, like.
05:33:20.180
Okay, because I had international students at my private school from China.
05:33:24.720
And so I was wondering if, like, you moved here recently or if you're, like, doing that.
05:33:36.740
Honestly, you shouldn't even be in Santa Barbara.
05:33:45.560
Like, those are the areas that I was born in that's, like, Chinese spoken.
05:33:50.100
Like, if you want real, authentic Chinese food, go there.
05:33:53.260
M. Martin says, Nikki, are you as masculine in Chinese?
05:33:58.840
Let's hear you speak to me in Chinese right now.
05:34:23.980
I'll keep the non-Chinese speakers on the chat, please.
05:34:38.380
You better tell your ex to go back to Bakersfield because you're spending the night at Brian's.
05:35:21.500
All I'm saying is if I was dating someone else, do it like how I am, you would have kicked them out.
05:35:32.280
Of you and this girl, she made a face, and you're like, hey, bitch.
05:35:49.180
I don't feel like I might have been a little harsh.
05:35:52.400
I don't feel like I might have been a little harsh.
05:37:09.220
That's the only thing I learned from the lingo.
05:40:34.080
can we pull that pill bottle out of your purse?
05:42:02.040
I am also free to share my opinions about you as well.
05:44:04.540
and my birthday is literally in Gay Pride Month.
05:44:42.540
There's other things that look bigger on YouTube,
05:45:18.040
please explain the story on the dolphin attack,