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00:02:44.900 have the lovely guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name age and occupation go ahead

00:02:50.100 hi i'm gabby fay i'm 27 years old i'm a model singer songwriter and tiktoker and uh for the modeling do

00:03:00.100 you what are some of the companies you work for i looked on your instagram and you've worked for some

00:03:03.520 like very legitimate like big brand companies yeah so i've worked a bunch i've worked for um

00:03:10.020 nike calvin klein youth to the people tommy hill figure target um tj maxx uh swimsuits for all

00:03:20.000 fruit of the loom lane bryant uh and a few others i can't think of them right now but yeah just a lot

00:03:27.260 of major brands that's that's wild how long have you been uh modeling for probably the past eight

00:03:32.980 years oh wow okay and uh so are you like i'm trying to who's like the you like the heidi klum of

00:03:42.600 i wish size models because that's a lot that's a lot of big brands yeah i i know right i'm like

00:03:49.580 really grateful that i got to work with so many uh awesome brands um but i wouldn't say heidi klum

00:03:56.400 yet hopefully one of these days i'll get up there you know um i feel like those girls like my goal would

00:04:01.920 be like to um because i've walked new york fashion week every year for the past eight years but i

00:04:06.100 want to do like a walk for milan fashion week paris fashion week london fashion week when they stop

00:04:10.940 being fat phobic that'll happen so like right now i'm just kind of doing what i can wait who's who's

00:04:16.120 they which is that london fashion week there yeah you don't really see plus they're not down with the

00:04:20.560 plus size women yet not really not yet is it mostly just a u.s thing so far i think so i think u.s is

00:04:25.600 just more progressing and um plus size modeling than europe right now have you done any gigs

00:04:32.420 internationally outside the u.s yes um i i flew out to montreal and i they only speak french i didn't

00:04:38.180 realize that and so like i'm on set everybody's picking and pulling apart from like my outfit my

00:04:42.820 hair my makeup and they're only speaking french i'm like trying to figure out what they're saying

00:04:46.660 and i'm also like learning french too but like not that great um that was for youth to the people

00:04:51.040 as a skincare brand uh it was really a cool experience i felt like like hillary no i felt

00:04:56.280 like liz mcguire in the liz mcguire movie where she's like in italy and like everybody's speaking

00:04:59.520 a different language on set that's how about but it was pretty cool okay awesome awesome uh what about

00:05:04.460 you hi uh my name's misty i'm gonna be 28 forever and i'm also a model and i'm an actor wait what do

00:05:11.900 you mean 28 forever what 28 forever take it how you want to take it so are you actually 28 or

00:05:18.260 forever she's she's 28 forever yeah so you're like like 55 okay i'm 28 forever 28 okay maybe we'll

00:05:29.180 get into that later what about you hi i am jasmine and i am 25 and i work in marketing specializing in

00:05:36.520 social and social media most likely well i focus more on the non-profit sector gotcha uh madison if

00:05:43.080 you want to intro yourself hello my name is madison i'm 18 years old i currently work for the whatever

00:05:49.980 podcast i'm a host at a bar as well as a student in college i go to santa parma city college and i'm

00:05:56.580 studying business accounting can you uh turn your head that way just so they can see your hat

00:06:01.740 so wait your last name is what vu so you're madison vu yeah but the hat she's wearing it's from dragon

00:06:11.640 ball z there was a character called majin boo so it's interesting because now you're madison vu

00:06:16.800 maybe you're madison i don't know what character i don't even know dragon ball z maybe we'll

00:06:22.120 okay well i'll show you photo i'll show you photo later okay um and by the way guys we were gonna

00:06:27.100 we were planning on having two other people here at the panel but they no showed it is what it is um

00:06:33.760 it would have been nice if they said hey we can't make it but just it was just a straight up

00:06:38.180 no show so smaller more intimate panel tonight but we have a lot to react to so um we're gonna go

00:06:43.740 around the table once more so what is your current relationship status so are you single are you in

00:06:50.440 a relationship are you in a talking stage are you uh in a situationship are you in a sex cult

00:06:57.980 polycule uh are you part of a harem whatever it may be uh so also if you're single how long have

00:07:07.780 you been single and what's the longest relationship you've ever been in go ahead so i'm single i've

00:07:12.240 been single for years i can't even remember the last time i was in a serious relationship but i've

00:07:16.080 been like i you know obviously i have a roster of men that i date from time to time maybe i'll do

00:07:20.640 like a one month three month stint sorry nick it's it's muted the audio sorry continue oh no it's okay

00:07:26.220 um so i like i've been dating uh for the past few years but i haven't been in a serious relationship

00:07:31.600 for a few years so i would say just single and dating and yeah trying to find love gotcha let me

00:07:39.480 just yo ftg thank you very much for the uh for some reason our audio is muted there but thank you very

00:07:45.300 much for the gifted memberships um so single for a very long time yeah when was your last relationship

00:07:51.600 oh there it is i don't know what happened ftg thank you very much for the gifted 50 memberships

00:07:55.780 um single oh gosh i feel like maybe it's been about five six years something like that gotcha

00:08:03.740 and you said what was your longest relationship um hmm i would say two years two years got it

00:08:11.080 okay uh in in the you said you've been single for about five years has there been there's been like

00:08:19.360 maybe a thing oh yeah but i don't count like i don't count like a month a month here a couple

00:08:25.520 months there i don't really like situationship type shit i i don't know yeah i guess you could say that

00:08:30.260 like there yeah so gotcha okay what about you i am currently single um i've been single for a few

00:08:38.680 years as well okay um uh longest relationship longest relationship um i think it was probably about

00:08:49.120 seven five seven years on and off on and off again five to seven years yeah how many times was

00:08:57.040 it on and off like a lot a lot it turned into long distance started like good and then it turned

00:09:01.580 long distance and so long distance um some people have trouble with sure fidelity because you hear

00:09:08.840 stories of people who are in long distance or sorry not long distance well it was long distance but

00:09:12.560 in on again off again relationships and it can range anywhere from oh we were on again off again a

00:09:17.880 couple times to like people breaking up every week you know was it like that no it was more like i

00:09:24.260 mean like i really he was my first love and i'm pretty sure i was his and then when i moved i think

00:09:28.440 it probably broke his heart so he went rogue um and so it was just like continual not trust like i'd go

00:09:34.880 there for christmas he'd come visit me but like yeah i mean okay so like you broke up how many times do

00:09:42.100 you think you know when you're young like that it's kind of you're toxic so you don't i don't know that i

00:09:46.400 can count that just like it's over and then babe like why didn't you call me so okay i've you know

00:09:51.600 come a long way gotcha how old were you when when we first i was like 16 i was 16 we were first loves

00:10:00.060 and good times i learned a lot i learned a lot i was toxic what about you yeah so i've been i am single

00:10:08.380 i've been single for 11 years the last time i had a relationship i was 14 and my longest relationship

00:10:16.340 was six months and it was with my first boyfriend when i was 13 okay and in your pre-show notes to us

00:10:24.480 you said that uh you are you consider yourself religious yes yes i do have a relationship with god

00:10:33.060 okay and i exercise my faith in law so that definitely plays a factor in dating gotcha and

00:10:37.960 so are you um what's your situation like right now like dating well yeah you you said like hold on

00:10:47.800 sorry i i it's been a shit show before the show guys because we we a couple people bailed uh in your

00:10:54.260 pre-show information you said that you are waiting until marriage to have sex is that correct yeah to

00:10:59.680 have sex yes i'm waiting to a marriage okay but i am willing to date now gotcha for marriage okay

00:11:05.720 yeah with the goal to get married okay gotcha but so you you've never been intimate with a guy

00:11:11.620 never never never i'm a virgin okay gotcha and i've been single for 11 years and i haven't even been

00:11:18.280 pursued so i've never been even i've never been asked out within 11 years within 11 years 11 years

00:11:24.200 yeah usually um when i was okay so i've always been big my whole life except when i was a little

00:11:30.560 kid the first time that i lost a lot of weight i was 13 and that was when i got a lot of attention

00:11:36.400 from guys it was a whole world like a whole different world for me and that's when i had my

00:11:41.420 first boyfriend and then when he broke my heart and you know we did it for six months i ended up

00:11:46.320 hoeing around and i had like a bunch of boyfriends back to back a lot of drama um but then when i gained

00:11:52.520 weight like all of that kind of left and when i was in high school and i was 16 i lost a couple like

00:11:59.100 weight again and that's when i noticed that guys would become interested in me and then once i gained

00:12:04.740 weight there's like no game so yeah that's kind of how it's been right now got it okay madison your

00:12:12.300 situation i'm in a lovely relationship um for about a year now a little over a year this is my

00:12:21.560 longest relationship so are you engaged no it's just it's just a promise

00:12:27.040 what is the promise for uh to be with each other forever that's i hear that a lot okay never mind

00:12:38.620 let me keep my thoughts myself a lot of people don't really wear promise rings anymore so it's

00:12:43.100 cool to see you wear one wait no actually just go ahead yeah i want to hear what you had to say

00:12:46.360 well okay because like i several people that i know that i've done the promise ring um thing i i

00:12:53.520 think it's sweet when they tell me that but then they end up breaking up and it's like well how much

00:12:58.720 that promise really mean i feel like the real promise is um signing your name on a marriage

00:13:03.580 certificate where you can't just easily walk away and then leave me with like a useless very very

00:13:08.500 true and eventually we plan on getting oh yeah what's the difference between a promise ring and

00:13:13.120 a future fdg thank you very much i think it's for a lot of people who um just can't get married yet or

00:13:21.460 feel like they're too young to get married or if anything other else is like going on in their lives

00:13:26.080 where they feel like they shouldn't be married at the moment and like promise rings kind of solidify it

00:13:32.940 into getting married in the future hopefully fdg thank you so much for the uh gifted 50 memberships

00:13:39.240 uh i think that gets us over to the 5 000 mark so uh thank you very much i think we've unlocked

00:13:46.460 the maximum emotes so thank you very much f d g a true giga chad um going back to you really quick

00:13:55.760 in your pre-show notes so you said that you got into a fight because of your first breakup when you

00:14:00.160 were very young you said you yes we're dating a guy at 13 you got arrested what happened yes let

00:14:05.460 me explain so i got my i had my first boyfriend when i was 13 we dated for six months he broke up

00:14:11.740 with me and i was very heartbroken and i had a lot of game like i had a lot i don't really don't know

00:14:18.980 what other words he did than game but i had a lot of um guys like wanting to be with me and and all

00:14:23.880 that stuff and one of my best friends at the time she had an off and on again boyfriend and back then

00:14:28.880 we would send notes this was in middle school and he sent me notes saying that he wants to be with me

00:14:34.560 and i was like you're literally like on and off again with my best friend i was like that's not

00:14:38.600 gonna happen so i gave the note to my best friend and she was very upset and in the note it said

00:14:44.580 everything his hand handwriting and everything that he wants to be with me and stuff um and she

00:14:49.380 basically ended up talking to him and he ended up like telling her lies that i'm the one that i'm the

00:14:55.300 one who wrote the notes and that's not the case and she basically just wanted to fight me because

00:15:00.500 she was upset that the men that she loved or boy that she loved because we were middle school

00:15:06.140 liked me and we um we ended up like i ended up going to the counselors talk to you know i was a

00:15:13.020 goody girl no nerd all that stuff i'm like i'm not gonna fight you're my best friend we're not

00:15:17.040 gonna do this so i talked to the counselor at school she literally brought both of us in a room

00:15:23.280 we talked it out and leaving that room she literally told me she's like hey jasmine i know we work things

00:15:28.460 out but don't let anyone know and i was like i was kind of caught off guard and i was like okay

00:15:32.640 whatever i'm gonna move on and then later on they were they told me we were in recess or the i guess

00:15:38.980 lunch time they told me to go this girl told me to go somewhere and i followed her and she was

00:15:44.000 there gathered with so many people um to fight me and we kind of fought and i see that as self-defense

00:15:49.400 i didn't want to fight and i got arrested because it was such an intense fight like she arranged

00:15:53.820 everything everyone was even the nerdy people that don't care about fights they were right there so

00:15:58.840 i couldn't get out of it we fought um i got arrested she got arrested for this ordinary conduct

00:16:04.520 we got suspended for three days i had court homework and just i just had a lot of when you have a lot

00:16:11.200 of boys coming after you there are certain girls that hate on you and another interesting t i'm not

00:16:16.500 sure you guys know her but her name is jelena ojeda she's a very very successful like influencer

00:16:22.100 model she also went to my middle school and she also had a lot of guys after her so those three days

00:16:28.160 that i was suspended they also jumped her so like if you're a girl who a lot of guys like they're gonna

00:16:34.580 come after you and like fight and do all that stuff so you know when i did gain weight and like

00:16:41.220 i say my game left it was a little bit relieved because i didn't have that drama yeah i didn't

00:16:46.880 have the drama from the girls anymore um wait what were you arrested for so i was arrested for

00:16:54.400 i was arrested for extraordinary conduct did you go to juvie or they just so i was with the cop and

00:17:01.980 she told me that she was like you have great records you have one of the highest gpas this is

00:17:08.920 unlike you and i was like yeah i was self-defense and she was like so i'm not gonna take you but i

00:17:13.760 should but i'm not gonna take you because of your good records so i'm but i'm still gonna have a

00:17:18.400 record like an arrest record on your account and stuff like that but she basically told me that she

00:17:23.580 could have taken me but she had the choice to take me or not like warning she gave you a warning

00:17:29.240 basically yeah she gave me a warning but even after that fight she did say that if i get in

00:17:33.120 another fight on campus ground that i will definitely be arrested and go and i got into

00:17:38.460 two other fights but outside of campus so it didn't count so did you did you fuck her up or what was it

00:17:44.520 who won the fight so that's an interesting question i honestly think okay so let me explain so

00:17:51.120 she was here i was here she ended up hitting me first so i fought and then everyone was coming

00:17:57.480 towards us and we both of us tripped we fell everyone else fell so there was a bunch of other

00:18:02.980 people on the ground so when the teachers came to see who was fighting they literally picked up people

00:18:07.860 from their hairs they suspended other people too because they picked up one of my friends from her

00:18:12.440 with her hair she started cursing at the teacher teacher got mad that girl got suspended too so it was

00:18:18.140 literally like everyone was on the floor like everyone started to like you know it was a disaster and then

00:18:24.120 me and her were basically on the floor and then i was trying to get on top for her and i was trying

00:18:28.680 to hit her and i did get some hits then and that's when the teacher knew who was the one that was

00:18:32.900 fighting because i still tried to fight okay fat bastard donated 100 get in my belly i want my baby

00:18:40.460 back baby back baby back baby back baby back baby back yes baby back ribs chili's baby back ribs

00:18:50.400 what's up nick i said when you get a chance to check this yeah but nick don't interrupt a tts man come on

00:18:57.580 okay all right um okay so sorry uh

00:19:04.120 single single single

00:19:07.520 but come on there's some guy you guys there's come on there's some guys in the picture right come on

00:19:17.260 i told you i had a roster but no one i'm taking seriously right now you got a roster yeah when you

00:19:22.500 say roster though what do you what does that mean it means that uh there are men that i am

00:19:27.580 entertaining that i allow to entertain me for the time being until someone uh is seriously pursuing

00:19:33.940 me and putting in that effort and taking me on dates and planning dates and things like that

00:19:37.880 um they're you know they stay on the roster and like the one who's putting more effort they get

00:19:42.660 bumped to like number one and the one who's putting less effort they you know bump to they fall off

00:19:47.860 so and then sometimes i have to get rid of my whole roster and start from new start from scratch

00:19:53.080 and you know it's exhausting but it's work how so currently and do do you have a roster too or i don't

00:20:00.460 know that i would call it that i look at it slightly different you got a bench is there a bench i mean

00:20:05.360 i don't even think about it like that right like i i won't like keep them if i'm not gonna pursue them

00:20:11.620 for a long-term relationship okay so like if i've already found that this not working they're gonna fall

00:20:16.160 off quickly i'm not just gonna keep them to entertain them okay what would you call it then

00:20:21.380 what do you call it i mean like it's i'm either dating them or i'm not dating them like where

00:20:25.600 they're talking and we're not talking do you have a do you have like a main piece kind of and some

00:20:28.740 side pieces i have men who are attempting to show what they have to persuade me to say yes or no

00:20:36.060 okay um but i mean yeah that's probably what it is and when i when one of them makes sense then i

00:20:43.940 will be going forward with that gotcha and i mean you already told us but yeah i can nothing like

00:20:49.800 you've got it's been 11 years come on some guy i can explain a little bit more so let me let me

00:20:56.020 first i'll come back to that really quick but so you have a roster uh what's the roster looking like

00:21:02.180 you got right now how many how many dudes are on the roster hold on oh no don't make your count

00:21:08.120 i have to because you know it's a new week it's a new day i got you we're doing some math here

00:21:13.500 i would say like a safe number is five safe numbers five okay okay yeah are you like entertaining all

00:21:22.080 five at like the same time around you think yeah do they know about each other they don't know

00:21:28.720 they have to know that they're not the only people dating you they i don't think that they

00:21:32.700 would continue on you're on tiktok saying that yeah but the guys i date aren't on tiktok they're

00:21:36.500 like not spending their time on the internet or on social media the guys i date they don't like

00:21:39.880 social media they're just like they're about work they're about their business like they don't live

00:21:43.640 on the internet i do they live on in real life are they also spending time with other women are they

00:21:50.240 they probably are i assume that they are you know until we get to a place where we've both agreed

00:21:55.080 that like this is serious and you need to drop your roster because i'm gonna drop my roster if

00:21:59.660 i know it's serious you know for sure how often so that you said that's about five guys on the

00:22:05.060 roster currently is it is it more is it less because no it's around i mean around five around

00:22:12.440 five so it could be six could be four yeah but it's not like i'm talking to each of them every day

00:22:16.440 or i'm seeing them every day it's kind of like they're in the vicinity and if they you know call me on

00:22:21.500 friday night i'll be like okay let me see i'm gonna schedule jay on saturday and josh on friday

00:22:28.560 like yeah put them in the calendar i'm a busy woman i can't like take time like you know so

00:22:33.580 yeah um i schedule them out and then i schedule them out and then you know less and like let's say

00:22:39.200 in a week or a fortnight of the five how many would you say you schedule in a fortnight

00:22:47.400 what's a fortnight oh 14 days yeah oh and in two in two weeks i'm being kind of extra with the

00:22:52.880 fortnight no it was nice thank you four score and seven years ago i would probably say i would

00:22:59.020 like a realistically two per weekend two per so you could do like you might do a friday saturday

00:23:05.400 yeah so bobby on friday yeah cornelius on saturday his name is cornelius what's that whose name is

00:23:13.340 cornelius you know i'm sure there's a cornelius in the group chat like fortnight and your cornelius

00:23:17.660 what's next don't sleep on cornelius okay they got they put it down okay okay um if you want i know

00:23:25.320 a guy who i could link you up with his name is cornelius no way yes i swear single yeah is he smart

00:23:32.140 yeah he's but he's like kind of he grew up very like in a very isolated community okay because i like

00:23:39.180 what normal person okay i shouldn't i don't i don't want to throw him under the bus but like

00:23:42.480 so he's not on the internet no he doesn't have any exactly my favorite types doesn't have any

00:23:47.840 social media and he he like grew up in a very rural area with like super traditional parents

00:23:53.860 very he's like uh how do you how do you explain it he's he's he's a gentle giant oh i love gentle

00:24:02.960 giants they're my face so if you want i could put in a word yeah tell cornelius i said hello

00:24:10.020 question though on the whole cornelius thing like you know do you think that there's just certain

00:24:16.360 names like and i'm getting a little intimate here that you know in the middle of some bedroom fun

00:24:22.300 you can't be talking dirty if they got a weird name do you know what i mean i'm with it i'm with

00:24:26.700 it too like oh cornelius like i just i couldn't imagine myself like whisk like pulling a girl's hair

00:24:33.680 whispering into her ear and being like oh gertrude you know what i mean gertrude for short that's

00:24:38.900 cute super attracted to her she was like just the hottest thing to you you you would scream that name

00:24:43.460 i would scream gertrude yeah you would oh my god i might just i might just not even use a name i

00:24:49.300 might have to use oh yeah a nickname for the battle bad girl yeah i just have to call her a girl or

00:24:56.100 something oh god you got pet names that's cute yeah there we go um so five on the roster and how

00:25:02.240 long do is it uh kind of some come and go so like a guy will fall off the roster then you

00:25:09.320 replace or yeah okay yeah because i feel like um i mean like i said sometimes it's zero like if i have

00:25:16.360 a busy week and i just don't have the time then i'm just not going to entertain anybody and then

00:25:20.440 sometimes it could be like 10 like it just depends on like i guess this the influx of people that i

00:25:26.940 just happen to like meet or match with that week and i'm like starting to talk to you and all of that

00:25:32.340 so i guess yeah it just depends on that you said sometimes it might be 10 so let's say in like a

00:25:37.080 week period or like a fortnight let's do fortnight let's do fortnight what what is the most amount of

00:25:43.000 say dates that you've been on with different people in a fortnight 10 10 yeah so that'd be

00:25:51.640 what five a week or something yeah like monday through friday okay but that's if i have like impressive

00:25:57.620 that's if i have time and energy it's a lot of energy to give to people yeah dating oh my gosh i've

00:26:03.360 i'd be i call myself a dating guru because i do this so often at this point like sometimes i do it

00:26:08.480 just for the experience just for the plot because i just like i'm so exhausted with dating like when

00:26:14.100 you're trying to find the one you go through all of these ups and downs and roller coasters i'm like

00:26:18.760 let's just see let's do it for the plot let's see what happens and i'll like start experimenting be

00:26:23.220 like this is a guy that i would never go for let's see how this works maybe maybe i'm picking the wrong

00:26:27.240 ones maybe i just need to try something completely different from my type you know so yeah well you

00:26:32.760 definitely are a dating guru because i mean your tiktok you definitely speak a lot about

00:26:36.580 dating and we actually have a few that we're going to react to during the show get into those

00:26:42.720 earlier and you've gone viral a couple times you had a few that went very very viral so we'll

00:26:47.460 definitely react to those and we'll uh we'll have a discussion uh just a little few more questions so

00:26:54.080 when it comes to the the uh the roster um how many like first dates and this is for everybody here

00:27:00.960 on the panel we'll go around the table how many first dates total do you think you've been on your

00:27:05.420 entire life countless lost count have you i lost count are you talking about like a proper date or

00:27:13.360 just like like let's say i mean well if we're talking proper date how do you categorize what

00:27:17.880 a proper date is you spend money on me okay i would say just first because some people might

00:27:24.900 have like a meeting they might meet someone but yeah with a romantic subtext but it's not oh you

00:27:31.600 wouldn't categorize as date okay we went we went on a walk type of thing or we you know what is what

00:27:37.000 is what is that what is a walk yeah like i've had guys do that and i feel like i know some women

00:27:41.960 don't like a walk i mean i tried it in one of my experiments it was terrible never did again never

00:27:46.160 again i think we saw that tiktok actually it was a beach walk was it and then i've had one of those

00:27:50.780 too a beach walk is how i found my boyfriend oh that's sweet but i mean was that you guys met

00:27:55.680 online and decided to go no we met um pretty organically so that's when you have the organic

00:28:00.440 that adds something to the relationship when you're meeting someone online online them doing

00:28:04.900 the most low effort thing they could possibly do is such a turnoff really yeah i mean of course

00:28:09.940 because that's what you're going to put to any part of the relationship and i'm not on there just

00:28:13.140 for a hookup so your amount of effort is going to then lead to what your seriousness of the dating

00:28:17.580 game is going to be yeah i get that are you guys like all looking for something serious

00:28:22.300 oh i want to be yes i want to pop out a kid in the next year and a half maybe two oh okay

00:28:27.120 yeah i'm on that type of time i wanted to be married yesterday

00:28:30.760 but uh do you have an estimate like how many first dates let's say maybe 20 first meets with

00:28:41.140 i would say 200 200 oh my gosh girl i did a lot can i ask you for the plot i can't say yes to

00:28:48.420 everybody about your roster so how what are the cons of having a roster because you said you said

00:28:56.260 that you get exhausted so don't you think there should be a moment or time where maybe you shouldn't

00:29:01.600 have a roster and just focus on one that's what she said yeah i feel like when i was younger i used

00:29:06.220 to do that i i did focus on one at a time but uh i realized that i was wasting so much my time and

00:29:13.860 you know like when you're a woman you only have certain amount of time that you can you know

00:29:18.500 certain amount of time to have like have a find a husband get married have kids all these things so

00:29:23.920 i got to a point where i was wasting like three to six months on a guy who was literally not ever

00:29:29.420 going to be marriage material your husband material but i wasted all that time because i thought i was

00:29:33.140 going to dedicate all of my time and energy to this one person it was going to work out and then i

00:29:38.500 realized maybe i should have scaled it back a bit and see what he's about and see what kind of person

00:29:42.960 he is in the effort that he's making before i kind of went all in so i think that's when i started

00:29:47.140 the roster life because now i'm splitting my energy and i'm not like breaking my heart over and over

00:29:53.080 again every three to six month stint so that's why that's the logic behind the roster that's how

00:29:58.200 men date also men oh yeah talking to many men men talk to multiple women let me not speak about all

00:30:03.440 men i saw you roll your eyes but in general no it wasn't an eye roll it was more of a uh eyebrow raise

00:30:09.960 definitely not all men not all men no but like in general i think the way that you guys look or

00:30:16.180 seek out relationships as a whole is by nature differently just biologically what we're made to do

00:30:22.000 did you have more on that yes so when you have a roster do you feel like you're the one who's

00:30:28.540 wearing the pants or you're the one pursuing them or how does that work because i feel like the guy

00:30:33.580 should be pursuing us great um so how does that work with you well i only have yeah i that's a

00:30:39.040 great question i only have a roster because multiple guys are pursuing me like multiple guys are asking

00:30:44.100 for my time like they're like hey are you available friday well i gotta check because

00:30:48.340 bobby joe and moe like texted me too and they also want my time so i feel like the roster kind of just got

00:30:54.880 built around the interest and like if i have so many people like wanting my time they're probably not

00:31:00.900 all worth my time but i don't know that yet so and i don't want to say like no because i said yes

00:31:06.440 to this one guy i'd be like well i have two hours scheduled on thursday night at 7 p.m are you down

00:31:12.040 like and just kind of schedule them out that way okay and do you like go on dates with them or are you

00:31:17.480 just like okay oh yeah i don't and that's another thing too i feel like i'm so traditional i'm so like

00:31:23.200 you know you gotta take me out on a date like let's let's do dinner let's do movie let's do roller

00:31:29.220 skating like let's do an activity um for me to really get an idea of who you are as a person

00:31:35.200 especially in public i think a lot of a lot especially online guys like a lot of guys will

00:31:41.140 you know be like hey what i never met them like hey how are you hey how are you um why don't you

00:31:47.520 come to my house for a dinner i can cook you dinner and we can watch a movie at my house it's like sir

00:31:52.480 do you want to get robbed because you don't know me you don't know if i'm gonna set you up like you

00:31:57.160 you just don't know and you're so comfortable inviting a strange woman from the internet

00:32:01.120 to your home and a lot of that a lot of guys feel that way on dating apps so i'm just like i'm not

00:32:07.960 about that life i'm very like i want to be careful and she i mean i want to just piggyback on her saying

00:32:13.760 the rob thing like men i've commented something someone else had said that oh you know why was

00:32:18.920 she gonna go and get she's gonna rob the guy but it's like where we're coming from is as a woman

00:32:23.460 anytime you invite us over to your house what goes through our minds is you could drug us and

00:32:27.620 you could do you know anything you could do anything and so we have to take that into account

00:32:32.900 when we say yes to anything and that's even in public so it's almost like a privilege that a man

00:32:39.080 gets to be able to say come over to my house and he's not even giving a second thought that you

00:32:43.920 could be robbed you know that anything that could happen to you but we think that immediately

00:32:47.740 that is very true can i just have you tilt your microphone down like this yeah just perfect um

00:32:56.380 so okay just going back to the uh how many first dates question do you how many first dates do you

00:33:01.700 think you've been on i thought it was i thought i was doing good by saying 20 but you said ever in

00:33:06.220 my life i don't know maybe oh yeah maybe like maybe 50 not a whole lot okay and then well i dated

00:33:13.460 during middle school right but you said in 11 years you haven't even been like approached no

00:33:19.020 really yeah you just you just stay at home all the time like guys don't no so i feel like one of the

00:33:25.960 major things that i encounter is getting friend zoned a lot i've had a lot of crushes and i kind of let

00:33:32.780 them know like you know i give them my attention but they just never make a move what's your type

00:33:37.560 like what if you're just going after the wrong type of dude well i mean i'm not with i mean i don't

00:33:46.400 date i don't i don't have like online apps maybe that can help but uh and i guess in when i was in

00:33:53.920 college i had opportunities to date but i only met like three types of guy the first type of guy is

00:33:59.000 that one guy that's already in a committed relationship once he graduates he's gonna get

00:34:02.720 married they're already planning their wedding the second type of guy he's like oh no i want to go to

00:34:07.000 medical school i don't want to date nobody i don't want to commit the third type of guy is like i

00:34:11.280 want to like hoe around so it was kind of hard for me to date during college and right now i'm not

00:34:16.040 really surrounded by a lot of guys and the guys that i am surrounded with they're already like married

00:34:21.260 so i feel like my surroundings has something to do with it too yeah that's a factor because i i know

00:34:28.200 because i've lived in the city for the past decade so like i think uh there's more like opportunity

00:34:33.280 and a lot more influx of people when you live in a city versus the suburbs but i feel like when i go

00:34:39.220 like to ohio for example like visit family whatever and i'll swipe out there i feel like i do meet

00:34:45.360 great guys with great mindsets that want to like get to know me for real and want to take me out and

00:34:50.740 things like that and i feel like i do get some good quality guys out there it's just not a lot of

00:34:56.460 options and it's like it's just hard to like meet in the middle i guess with that but and i think

00:35:01.760 environment exactly and i meet a lot of traditional men so a lot of them at this age already married

00:35:06.780 so yeah it's just i guess i'm i'm 25 so i'm kind of that in the middle age and just kind of seeing

00:35:14.500 what's out there but i feel like maybe i should be putting in some more work in dating but i just

00:35:20.580 don't want to go online and i'm great at meeting people i'm great at meeting guys i'm a huge extrovert

00:35:26.500 out you know and but they just never make a move and you're gorgeous so they're bugging like

00:35:33.700 yeah you gotta put yourself in places where you're gonna be approached by men where is that let me

00:35:38.560 know it depends what kind of man that you want right yeah i mean often maybe a red like a bar

00:35:43.240 someplace like do you want a religious man as well i heard you were religious right yeah so he does have

00:35:49.040 to have a relationship with god you know god has to be number one i can be number two um but he

00:35:54.080 yeah he definitely needs to have a relationship with god he needs to have self-control like all

00:35:59.300 those virtues a lot of christian people look for do you go to a church where there's a single men

00:36:03.760 i do yeah okay okay good yeah like like i like i said before i am around a lot of people just haven't

00:36:11.640 been approached okay yeah i don't know sorry hold on my god is your new student donated 100 dollars

00:36:17.580 well well well to all the fat phobic jerks in the chat you shouldn't make fun of fat people

00:36:23.620 they've got enough on their plates already ladies bro be nice ignore them be the bigger person

00:36:30.460 do you guys have a response i just i think he's so sweet thank you so much all right thank you

00:36:36.160 we have enough on our plates okay there you have it i get it you guys uh have a good uh

00:36:43.780 taking it on the chin i guess i mean he spent money to do that so that's nice thank you

00:36:48.580 i love when a man spends money on me so thank you so uh first thing first thing for today uh

00:36:54.600 we are going to react to an article nick if you could pull up the article uh or it's just it's a

00:37:01.200 photo then we go to the article should be the first thing uh can you hide us really quick

00:37:06.260 just hide us so this is an article plus sized women admit they aren't attracted to overweight men

00:37:12.960 and nick if you could tap over oh my god facts so this is the article whisper.com nick if you can

00:37:19.120 just scroll down um actually scroll back up i'll just read it can you uh mouse wheel control up so

00:37:24.540 make it a little bigger yeah that's good as a plus sized woman there's this expectation that you

00:37:28.960 should only date overweight men okay you can show us on the right side um but what if you aren't

00:37:34.380 attracted to plus sized men uh sorry these women open up about dealing with the stigma of being

00:37:43.220 plus sized and refusing to settle and date overweight men from dealing with harsh criticisms to feelings

00:37:48.280 of guilt for their preferences find out what they had to say in all these and excuse me in these tell

00:37:52.460 all confessions scroll down i'll just read the first one uh sometimes i feel guilty because i'm not

00:37:57.360 attracted to bigger guys even though i'm plus size myself i find it rare to find a big guy that takes

00:38:02.300 care of his appearance and hygiene the way i do scroll down i'll just do read one more i'm a plus

00:38:07.220 sized woman but i'm not attracted to big guys i get a lot of hate and criticism for it but i can't help

00:38:11.900 that i like average to muscular type types so on that topic do you guys have a reaction to that and

00:38:17.620 also just what's your type do you like bigger guys you like plus size men or i have an immediate

00:38:22.780 reaction even in sorry just even in like when they're writing she says settle for a plus size

00:38:27.740 person they're assuming just because that you like someone who's not plus size that then you're

00:38:32.740 settling for someone who is plus size that's already like a negative connotation you can be attracted to

00:38:38.240 whatever you are attracted to without putting another thing down like when i'm talking to a

00:38:42.940 man and usually the men i talk to yeah they're fit bodied men i'm attracted to athletic men i was

00:38:47.200 athletic growing up my entire life i was also like 212 as a competitive figure skater beating girls who

00:38:51.900 were much smaller than me so i'm always attracted to things that i do i like to run every day i like

00:38:56.120 to work out i like to work out um and so i'm attracted to men that are like that and and i feel

00:39:03.320 like it's okay to just like what you like because they're obviously still attracted to me too with

00:39:07.820 their shape you just gotta like what you like getting where you fit in yeah i feel like for me um i

00:39:14.320 don't really have a type i because i really am attracted to um a man that i uh like on an intellectual

00:39:21.000 like mental emotional like all the other things you would connect with a human being with i feel

00:39:26.520 like i'm more attracted to that versus their looks and when i think about like plus size guys and like

00:39:33.180 athletic guys or fit guys i can only really speak from like my experience and it feels like the guys

00:39:39.260 that come after me or the guys that are like showing interest are like gym bros like super fit super

00:39:46.440 athletic yeah they all are in my dm like there's like coming at me and i'm just like well that's

00:39:51.900 weird so i'm i guess i tend to date more like either tall skinny lanky athletic or you know just fit

00:39:59.700 body types because those are the ones who are talking to me i haven't yet like really had a plus

00:40:06.240 like many plus size guys kind of show interest in me i did date maybe one or two or i went on a couple

00:40:12.380 dates with one or two so i'm not opposed to it i'm just kind of whatever is offered like whatever

00:40:18.340 is i'm pursuing is i guess is what i'm paying attention to and the comment about their hygiene

00:40:23.840 not being good i've dated two really fit guys with six packs and they stunk and i'm just like so it's

00:40:31.320 really just not the plus size people i think like there's some smelly guys out there and they're fit so

00:40:38.020 and you have to understand a lot of plus size people also don't necessarily have confidence in

00:40:42.440 themselves so where they won't judge themselves they'll be okay to judge someone else usually that

00:40:46.440 kind of thing is projection it's what they're feeling on their inside so for that person with

00:40:50.680 those plus size women to then degrade what they also are at the same time it seems like just a

00:40:55.020 little bit of self-hate and boost your you know your self-esteem and that kind of thing will be said

00:40:59.740 right so for you it sounds like you would have no problem dating a plus size guy but the guys that

00:41:06.340 are coming to you that are hitting on you you there's been a few plus size guys but it sounds

00:41:12.040 like it's mostly you getting like just kind of regular size even fit guys you know so yeah so with

00:41:19.340 me i like to i'm attracted to guys that i they can inspire me so kind of what the article said i agree

00:41:28.560 i as a plus size girl wouldn't date someone who's plus size um because why is that because i want a

00:41:36.240 guy who i can look at and admire and be like oh you know like i would like to be that way you're i

00:41:42.840 would like to date someone who's fit obviously because i want them to be strong and you know all

00:41:46.640 this stuff but yeah i guess it kind of seems hypocritical because some people are like well

00:41:51.040 you're plus size should date someone who's plus size or you should at least consider it and it's

00:41:54.860 like yeah but you know we are we have our preferences and i would like to date someone who is

00:41:59.780 fit because i can admire them they can also help me improve in my fitness journey because i truly believe

00:42:05.860 that when you're in a relationship with someone you two influence each other so much and i will

00:42:11.220 like someone who can kind of help me in an area that maybe i'm struggling in but what if you're

00:42:15.280 with a guy who's fit and he likes you because you're plus size and then you are inspired so much by him

00:42:19.700 that you lose weight and then he becomes unattracted to you oh interesting well i would she has to stay

00:42:27.520 i'm gonna tell you right now that usually the men who are talking to me they prefer me oh yes same

00:42:31.820 they prefer me they prefer my body type they might mess with something other but there i mean

00:42:35.580 if they're watching they know yeah like and teach their own like i've got a best friend who's very

00:42:39.940 very thin and like her husband loves the crap out of her so it's just kind of like so do you think

00:42:44.400 that's like a fetish almost like i think it depends how you look at it right you can just genuinely be

00:42:49.100 attracted to something like this without fetishizing it right right um so i think it depends it's how the

00:42:54.620 person talks to you how they treat you you can usually tell yeah if they're really quick to be

00:42:58.260 handsy with you usually it's a fetishized thing if it's a short quick thing or something they don't want to

00:43:02.480 take during the daytime not real dates that's why someone like me will require something that's

00:43:07.500 you know you're proving that this is not just some sort of fetish yeah but i mean

00:43:11.180 because what what you said what makes me think it might be a fetish is like if they were to lose

00:43:17.000 attraction for you if you were to lose some weight that's to me is kind of like they i mean i would

00:43:22.720 hope that they like obviously physical attraction is important but i would hope that they i mean i like

00:43:27.120 you for that's gonna be the guy though like is he kind of a douchebag because he can do the same

00:43:30.920 thing to his wife who was thin when he met her and then get her pregnant and now she's got gained

00:43:34.920 some weight and now he's lost attraction to her nothing wrong with him right because she changed

00:43:38.400 from when he met her is that something you've encountered though like you started losing weight

00:43:43.180 and the guy started i've not encountered someone just like i've got respectfully adult personality so

00:43:48.540 you're gonna fall in love with me but um if you did decide i have had men who've been like they

00:43:53.260 wanted to like feed me i like to work out i'm i mean i do like my sweet things but it's not something i

00:43:57.380 gorge on wait they like to like but like in a just like a normal sort of way because there's

00:44:02.600 some like weird you know it was weird it was a little weird what's it called feederism so they

00:44:07.680 like they like they get off they get hard if they see you watch you eat yeah he wanted if you guys

00:44:12.960 i'm not big enough for that i gotta be twice myself i was my size and i'm talking about feederism

00:44:18.380 have you experienced that well he wanted to feed me cookies yeah he wanted me to he wanted like he was

00:44:22.640 like i want to eat cookies i want you to eat cookies like and that's my favorite food got you eat it

00:44:26.580 like yeah let me see you let me see you eat yeah and i've had guys see like people i don't want to

00:44:30.440 take you out to eat let's eat together and i'm like at the same time like you got to eat and like i do

00:44:34.200 like nice food like but i don't feel like they're but are you saying it's something beyond because i'm

00:44:39.700 obviously like it's for anybody a like a dinner date that's a pretty normal thing but was it

00:44:44.580 going beyond that to like he wants you to like stuff your face i mean like we didn't get that far

00:44:50.640 rate because i'm not going to sit there and do that for you like respectfully that's a little

00:44:54.000 too far for me um but yeah i mean like when he expressed himself it seemed like that could be

00:44:59.400 the way that maybe it could go but i'm not gonna like i've just been mean for so long that i don't

00:45:06.020 necessarily want to be unhealthy like i know certain things about certain foods and so i don't i want to

00:45:11.580 go crazy like i do like cookies but i've got to be kind of particular about that story with the witch

00:45:16.900 is it hansel and gretel where they eat the house where no wait where like the the witch or something

00:45:23.220 was trying to feed them to get them fat yeah that was hansel and gretel she caught them they were

00:45:27.660 eating the house and then she was like kept in the thing and she was trying to fill their bones and

00:45:31.280 they were giving her the the chicken bones to feel and they she didn't think they were skinny enough

00:45:34.960 oh and then they eventually pushed her in the stove that's a really old story i'm 28 okay

00:45:39.160 yeah of course of course uh well can answer the question she asked me so i feel like someone who

00:45:46.980 i want to be with someone who also would support my health journey so even if they love me how i am

00:45:53.300 right now if i was to become healthier hopefully they can also love that version of me and if they

00:45:58.460 don't and they break up with me awesome i saved myself yeah okay yeah i think that is kind of weird

00:46:04.040 though like why would you only want to be with me if i'm at this certain size there are people like

00:46:09.260 that but but it's the same way when we when she said earlier that the guys who date uh thin women

00:46:14.140 if they were to gain weight they're like sorry charlie i'm out of here so like she hurt her body also

00:46:20.220 changed from like thin to fat and then yeah because the woman's body does fluctuate like when i think

00:46:26.760 about when i'm my future husband like i know that the kind of man that i want he's probably going to

00:46:30.920 expect a certain something from me so every day whatever i presented to him to get him i want to

00:46:35.560 continue to give that to him while we're married so i want to continue to look good every day i want

00:46:39.140 to continue to do my hair i want to continue to care about myself and i want to present i don't

00:46:42.600 want to let myself go just because and so here's the thing and like and i'm not going to attack you

00:46:46.680 but when i'm when you say that you um aspire to be him or you look up to him that's in a way saying

00:46:51.880 that you don't like what you have right now and you told me already you hit the gym so you're not an

00:46:56.480 example of someone who's being unhealthy right but you're in your mind have told yourself that

00:47:00.540 because the way you look it is unhealthy because i aspire to be something that is like him

00:47:04.780 and what i say what i just challenge you to do that maybe just love what you got and then it

00:47:10.460 doesn't matter where you fit before that that's when the personality you know what i mean because

00:47:14.060 yeah i get i get your point but i i was still like like it's like it's like for example you have a

00:47:19.820 business and you have a mentor who maybe has already done it better than you and you kind of look at

00:47:25.260 them you know like that type of relationship um that's kind of what i'm looking at so question

00:47:30.380 question to kind of bring it back here so you said you are just not attracted to men who are plus size

00:47:36.060 is that correct correct but you've been single for 11 years never have you rejected plus size men

00:47:47.020 like have they because you said you haven't even been no no i haven't even approached so but like if a

00:47:52.540 a plus guy's uh an otherwise nice plus size guy stepped to you and he said hey i'd like to

00:47:57.660 take you out whatever would you turn them down look everyone physical attraction is obviously

00:48:02.780 important in a relationship if you're just happens to be the case you're not attracted to plus size

00:48:06.380 men hey it is what it is but would you turn a guy down like would i turn a guy down yeah yes

00:48:14.060 wouldn't even give him a chance hey look i get you got to be physically attracted to the person but

00:48:18.380 i would say yes but at the end of the day when that happens you never know if there's something

00:48:23.580 else that sparks yeah you know like you just i feel like i can't be too close-minded um but i kind of

00:48:31.020 understand what you're saying at least give them a chance um i just would be if you're not attracted

00:48:36.140 to them i mean yeah i would just like someone who i can go to a gym with and work out and if they're

00:48:39.980 like okay i don't want to be like that i hate going to gym i'm not active i don't want to do that

00:48:44.460 then that's like okay well well plus-sized men just like we are plus-sized and work out

00:48:48.540 could do that yeah that's what i'm saying like if they're they might be plus-sized but if they're

00:48:52.540 still like taking care of themselves going to a gym then yeah okay we can work something out

00:48:58.220 but if it's someone who is like struggling with it and they don't want to go to gym they

00:49:04.060 you know kind of like eating disorders or something like that like would would you view it as settling

00:49:09.660 for a plus-sized guy do you view it like if you were okay i guess i'll date like would you view that

00:49:17.020 as settling for you me i'm not saying it is but is that how you would view it how i would view it no

00:49:26.060 no no no i wouldn't view it that way like you're not settling for this you say you're not attracted to

00:49:31.260 plus-sized men so i'm trying like i am well i'm not but i feel like there can always be an exception

00:49:39.740 i don't want to say never it's kind of like the quote never say never is there any plus-sized guy

00:49:44.140 that you can think of that you're like hey i'd date him like do you think a celebrity musician

00:49:49.020 no nobody i'm trying to think a lot of more i think it also depends what your definition is

00:49:53.980 is a plus size because there's like bigger taller guys like because you have to you have to be clean

00:49:59.500 and look good and and look you know what i mean you can't be like i don't care about how i walk out

00:50:04.460 of the house and you're just like in the same t-shirt seven days like seven days a week you know

00:50:08.460 exactly i feel like you have to take care of yourself goes back to healthy lifestyle

00:50:11.500 what about jonah hill jonah hill lost a lot of weight i don't know uh excuse me he's really dope

00:50:17.020 like older jonah hill like younger i guess his facial hair is always off to me and i don't like

00:50:22.620 that let me can you google a photo of jonah hill super bad i met him like shortly after that actually

00:50:28.780 oh yeah and i was like 28 by the way yeah and i was like oh my god i'm such a big fan he was like

00:50:33.500 really thank you what's your name and i was like misty marine he was like nice to meet you okay i was

00:50:37.340 like you too and then i was like here's your table oh you were you a server at the time i was i was

00:50:41.420 hostess isn't he like five six what's that isn't he like five six is he a short guy i don't know

00:50:46.300 no he was about my height i'm five seven and a half okay so he was five six can you control mouse

00:50:51.980 wheel up make it make it all everything bigger and like he makes a lot of money right uh scroll down

00:50:58.060 scroll down uh that's good that's good uh would you go for jonah hill he looks like he's 12 here i

00:51:04.220 would i would french i would be his friend so hard i would same as her i would definitely be friends so

00:51:10.940 like but like factor in factor in now obviously he's actually lost some weight from this but

00:51:15.500 this was a very big movie when it came out so i don't know if like are we he looks like he's 16

00:51:20.060 would you date him if you had a time traveling machine just like you have to factor in so okay

00:51:26.060 let's say would you date not just a guy who looks like this but jonah hill actor no i have wealthy

00:51:33.740 funny he seems like a funny guy he's a jewish guy no uh so is that a no for the whole

00:51:40.700 table that's not a no for me i went on a date with a jewish guy that was he was much taller but

00:51:46.060 he was larger but he treated me like a princess so sweet i wanted to like him but jonah hill though

00:51:51.100 he had he was similar to jonah hill looking okay so you would go for jonah i'm not saying i wouldn't

00:51:55.340 necessarily go for jonah hill but if jonah hill stepped up to the plate and gave like here's the

00:51:59.180 thing just if i if i'm treated the right way i'm going to fall in love with your looks because i've

00:52:03.580 fallen in love with broke people before and and if i can fall in love with just your inside and

00:52:10.780 your heart because that's all you really had then i think that i can fall in love with the other side

00:52:15.500 of it gotcha um would you go for the jonah hill he looks like he's 12 he looks like he's five six

00:52:24.300 i i'm not attracted to him not because of his size necessarily just because of like his upkeep i don't

00:52:29.420 like um i don't like the way he dresses i don't really like the personality that i get from him

00:52:35.100 i don't like his vibe and i'm not saying he's like a bad person i'm just saying it he doesn't give me

00:52:39.820 a vibe that i feel like i would vibe with so i would say no based on that based on the side and then also

00:52:44.540 it just like looks wise he just reminds me of like kid brother type deal like i'm not attracted

00:52:50.060 to him because he looks very young to me okay what about i want to google some other photos because

00:52:56.300 i'm gonna try to set you up with somebody okay uh let's see here can you google who's the who's

00:53:01.820 that uh dj khaled yes he's yeah there's a thing can we get some dj khaled make you feel like a princess

00:53:09.020 you will sit on gold toilets he's a big boy uh scroll down let's see if we can get a photo scroll

00:53:14.460 down but he doesn't okay there we go that's good you can pull up the photo of him the he's a big boy

00:53:21.020 okay okay um what do you think about dj khaled he's dj khaled what's his thing his wife is a little

00:53:29.580 slim right uh i'm pretty sure do you go for dj khaled no not yes if he believed in going down on

00:53:39.660 women which he does not he's made it very public really yeah so i think that that is very um triple

00:53:46.940 co-sign oh you're not a fan of no i just can't you don't also i was co-signing her you also don't

00:53:52.300 like do you like big love oh i co-sign dj khaled so you don't go down on women you don't believe that

00:53:58.140 that's a hard no that's a red flag sorry i can't do it what is that what does that mean yeah it looks

00:54:05.260 like you're preparing to eat the meal yeah no i don't it's uh no you know not a fan not a fan not a

00:54:11.420 fan we can get into it later if you want it feels selfish because men always want that so it's like

00:54:17.100 no his facial hair is nice let me see let's find one more guy um i'm trying to think of like a uh

00:54:23.340 i like the guy that goes no young young man broke you know yeah oh okay i got it

00:54:30.940 i don't think he's patrice o'neil patrice o'neil nick find patrice i don't know i haven't seen him in a

00:54:35.900 get patrice we need patrice up on here we need patrice do you guys think like what's that one

00:54:41.100 comedian's name he's really funny and he's kind of cute steve harvey no no so this is patrice o'neil

00:54:48.780 guys r.i.p is in the chat for patrice nick scroll down a little bit let's see if we can get a proper

00:54:53.980 scroll down we got a photo he's a bigger guy a little bit but i don't know if we're gonna find it

00:55:00.220 uh uh scroll down yeah these aren't the best how about ice cube ice cube is chubby uh is he oh

00:55:11.900 what i mean he lost weight now but back in his head just really quick patrice o'neil you go for

00:55:16.860 patrice wait for him the guy we just showed you no what oh you go for ice cube though what about um

00:55:23.500 no wait no what okay you're picky you're picky i guess here's the thing i love how you're asking

00:55:30.620 me these questions because it's making me really think stuff that i really haven't thought out i

00:55:35.260 feel like when okay you're asking me if i would take someone who's plus size yeah i feel like i would if

00:55:43.420 they're they have good habits or healthy habits you know for example because there's some people you

00:55:50.700 know i don't want to stereotype or anything but there's some people that i've met a couple um

00:55:55.980 that are big and they are pretty lazy they don't want to go to the gym and sometimes those habits

00:56:01.740 can rub on me so do you go to the gym i do believe it or not i do and so that's one of my concerns is

00:56:09.180 like when you are dating someone whether they're whatever size they are their habits is going to

00:56:13.660 influence you and i truly believe that probably that's why maybe in my mind i wouldn't necessarily date

00:56:19.420 someone who is plus size and isn't and maybe just doesn't care about their they're like going to

00:56:25.340 having a healthy lifestyle right because it could still be big and but have a healthy lifestyle have

00:56:29.740 been thin and they have not when working out it always was me yeah someone that's motivated yeah

00:56:35.180 someone who's motivated and can go to the gym with me and yeah so i guess to answer your question i

00:56:40.540 maybe would date someone who's plus size but would i automatically be attracted to them probably not okay

00:56:46.780 what can you um can you think of a guy who you think that you are attracted to maybe like a musician

00:56:57.580 athlete actor that you think like that's the kind of guy you would go for that you are attracted to

00:57:04.540 can i think realistically you know i mean realistically i would date like a i don't know

00:57:10.300 uh drake i love him that's drake her dms are open he's so hot can we set that up i think he's dating

00:57:18.460 somebody drake is cute drake okay what about um he's always dating somebody he's always any other

00:57:25.100 guys any actors you could think of like oh okay i think i could like i could get him i think uh i don't

00:57:30.620 know his name but he was uh one of the lead actresses for the vampire diaries oh he and summerholder

00:57:38.140 the one that plays stephan or the one i'm talking about stephan i said no damien damien is the one

00:57:45.420 darker hair yeah it's in summerholder can we see a picture of them yeah okay i like guys actually

00:57:50.620 he's really really attractive ian is was in one of my favorite movies it's uh an old movie the rules

00:57:55.900 of attraction uh james van der beek jessica jessica be all tons of uh i think i've seen it

00:58:02.060 old like came out in early 2000s but were they brother and sister wait maybe i'm thinking of

00:58:08.380 something else probably something else um ian summerholder uh yeah if you can find him

00:58:14.300 he's in his 40s though i think and he still looks great in his 40s so not necessarily him it was the

00:58:19.660 other guy that was supposed to be his brother oh the one on the right yeah top oh so you're talking

00:58:23.820 about yeah interesting yeah click it nick click it so you do you think that like kind of is he's he's

00:58:31.020 he's on your looks level like he's your looks equivalent looks match like that's the kind of

00:58:34.940 guy that you're yes okay i don't think i can grab one like that but you never know i mean yeah do

00:58:40.780 you think that a lot of more plus-sized women get more attention than plus-sized men

00:58:47.100 yes i feel like bbws or big beautiful woman i feel like some people sexualize them and here's the

00:58:54.540 other thing i don't think bbws represent all big girls yeah because if like you have to be big in the

00:59:00.060 right places to be considered beautiful to those type of people like you need to have big boobs

00:59:04.460 big hips big thighs but somehow have a tiny waist and a fat tummy that's what most people like think

00:59:10.620 of when they think about bbw i think about bbl bbw usually is like size like yeah 20 up and you're

00:59:20.300 it doesn't it's not curvy so the way i mean i'm talking from plus size model standards but it usually is

00:59:25.500 curve and then plus size and then you'd be bbw after that which is size 20 and up have you ever

00:59:31.100 slid into any dms i am no never slid okay okay because maybe that could be a metric like whose

00:59:37.980 dms have you slid into masego oh i love masego i'd be sliding i'm his hands too when i go to a show i'll be

00:59:43.900 like masego no you dare i love him brian can i ask a question yeah would you ever date a plus size

00:59:52.060 girl or have you when we're talking plus size what are we talking there anything here anything

00:59:58.220 any sizes one of us like some of these or one of us you don't have to say who or like our size

01:00:03.180 that's enough i'm gonna i'm gonna say no yeah i promise you listen i just disagree i just know

01:00:11.900 that you want someone slimmer listen i'm not like a greek god i i've been uh see when i'm stressed a

01:00:17.660 lot some people turn to alcohol some people turn to smoking i i stress eat so i kind of got a little

01:00:23.100 dad bod right now it's not yeah i'm not like i got a little dad bod so i'm not like over here like oh

01:00:28.940 i need a uh i'm not like a greek god over here fucking chiseled out of marble but uh i need to

01:00:35.900 lose about 10 or 20 pounds but what you are it doesn't matter what you're attracted to so you

01:00:39.180 don't have to like you know like we're just asking what you would go he's attracted to like

01:00:43.420 more petite woman i have a i have a wide range of first well okay men have very wide ranges i have a

01:00:49.660 wide range and yeah i think that's the case actually men men have a pretty wide range when it comes to

01:00:55.020 body types it is irritating but you know it's crazy though i think like because i think what

01:01:01.340 it takes for a guy to be deemed physically attractive and we can certainly have conversation

01:01:05.580 of well do men care more about looks than women but but i think like the the yeah what women find

01:01:13.900 physically attractive purely physically attractive i do think it's a bit narrower excuse me narrower than

01:01:20.060 what men will find attractive because like men will find like a pretty like super thin girl

01:01:25.660 attractive all the way to like you got thick and you got guys who like bbws whereas there's definitely

01:01:30.380 women who like plus size men but i think like if we're talking about what people will find attractive

01:01:36.940 i think for some i think most women wouldn't find like an untrained skinny guy attractive a lot of my

01:01:45.660 thinner friends really like dad bods like you're not even like as dad as they can get like i could

01:01:50.860 get more dad bod yeah i'm like a little bit dad i'm working on it guys i'm working like love they

01:01:56.140 love that yeah that's why i say it just really what whatever you're into and that's like you got to go

01:02:00.460 out there like confidence with it because you can pull i think part of the reason why you may not be

01:02:04.780 polling is because of the doubts you have in yourself because that's what my issue or she's just super

01:02:09.500 picky i mean she can be super picky but she can get she can get what she wants you you can get what you

01:02:14.620 want and you're not in california i think that's true but she's been single for 11 years but that's

01:02:18.460 what i'm telling you i think it's got to be realistic so i blame the guys the guys are making

01:02:23.180 moves the guys are not making the moves the guys i don't know probably i can do something i don't

01:02:28.620 know i honestly don't know we only have control of ourselves i have to get over that hump yeah we can

01:02:32.220 only do what we did yeah yeah we have to you have to get to a point where you believe that you deserve

01:02:36.460 that when you just said he's cute but i don't think i could pull him you need to get at a point where

01:02:40.780 he's cute and i and i could pull him well i feel like if i if i had that mindset and delulu i feel

01:02:46.380 like i would have to be the one pursuing them and i don't really what about like a starter a starter

01:02:53.180 conversation like hey i like that shirt you're wearing where'd you get this channel like just

01:02:57.340 and i do that like i do that but i just always get they always just see me as a friend because i don't

01:03:03.180 think a lot of them see me physically attractive i think what she was saying though like you have to put

01:03:07.180 yourself in the right places to be approached by the men that you want to be approached by as well

01:03:12.060 you know and you have to have that thought that i'm am what they want because the minute you say

01:03:17.260 i'm not what they want your your energy is that and of course not if you're like i am what they

01:03:22.300 want literally delulu i am what they want all the men want to talk to me all the men and just like

01:03:26.940 that energy alone will make men attracted to you because they're seeing the confidence in you

01:03:31.420 because at the end of the day just like he says there is a wide range there i can literally go back

01:03:35.660 home to seattle and i'm i'm i might be like whatever level i'm here i'm a seattle 10 easy

01:03:40.860 because even if a girl is looking really beautiful with standard society and beauty i've got more

01:03:44.780 confidence in the way i dress and carry myself already i'm pulling see it what's a seattle 10

01:03:50.700 that's a good question is that like a jeff bezos it's like okay so i mean in la everyone's beautiful

01:03:56.140 everyone's going there to work and so if you're really pretty you're going to be an actor or a model

01:03:59.820 where in other places you can be really pretty and just work for like google okay all right seattle

01:04:05.500 we just attract a lot of people okay i wonder what like a uh and like a uh chattanooga 10 is

01:04:15.020 where's that tennessee tennessee you are you're you're a 10 and 10 tennessee for sure i'm a i'm a 10

01:04:20.620 yeah i think as long as you're not posting photos on your dating profile with like a big fish

01:04:26.940 then you would be a 10 you're not you don't like the fish photos because like when you're in places

01:04:31.260 like tennessee and you're swiping through a dating app it's like every guy has a big fish like i

01:04:37.660 caught this big fish i'm a man what are you compensating you'll look stupid because every

01:04:43.100 single guy i'm just like no no a lot of girls are not fan of the fish but doesn't that show that he's

01:04:49.420 he's like in a zombie apocalypse right gabby gabby gabby listen listen wouldn't you want like it's

01:04:55.820 plausible that within the next five years ten years there's like a zombie apocalypse wouldn't

01:05:01.420 you want your man to be able to fish when we get to you said you're traditional i will seek out the

01:05:06.380 fish men the fish man if you're by the zombie apocalypse but but right now you want like a

01:05:11.100 more urban guy who doesn't know how to fish you know what you make a lot of sense there maybe i

01:05:16.700 should use the fish i'm changing your mind on the you are i feel like on social media too a lot of the

01:05:21.340 guys that post those fish pictures are guys who don't post much on instagram at all okay aren't

01:05:27.500 really on social media they don't really get how that works to me okay that's fair you're right

01:05:32.300 reconsider the fish i'm gonna reconsider reconsider the guys with the fish photos yeah i will swipe

01:05:37.580 right on the next fish picture i have a photo like that i i don't okay do you fish i want to learn

01:05:44.860 but i'm slacking in that area of expertise but to go back to what you were saying also tuscaloosa

01:05:53.740 10 what am i yeah well that'd be a 10 in tuscaloosa alabama okay just one i've never been i don't know

01:06:01.260 uh so you were asking me brian would you date a uh

01:06:07.020 a plus and then you asked what here's what's weird this is gonna sound weird as fuck uh say it

01:06:17.820 like i would cut okay

01:06:22.460 for some bro okay i feel like don't get me wrong so generally i would say my type is probably more

01:06:27.740 like on the petite side honestly i'm trying to get with a dwarf do any of you know a dwarf

01:06:31.900 by chance like a little person i don't think you're supposed to say that well i think it's

01:06:36.140 dwarf or little person is yeah okay yeah both of them like a midget you can't say no go you can't

01:06:41.580 so we all just said it we did not me for the purpose of saying not to say it i think it's

01:06:46.940 although she does have a point because well okay i think dwarf is cute but i don't know i'm not a

01:06:51.260 little person my understanding well dwarf used to be it like the m word no the m word oh yeah yeah

01:06:58.220 i don't want to say it just you know i got a lot of dwarf followers so so they're okay with that if

01:07:04.540 they're okay with that i'm understanding is dwarf is okay but now it's it's called the uh euphemism

01:07:09.740 treadmill so they'll what happens is there's a new word that gets introduced that's more pc but then

01:07:16.300 like through usage over time it starts to actually become offensive so it's kind of like where uh i think

01:07:23.340 there were it was for example with retard right oh retard was a new term used that was deemed to

01:07:31.420 be politically correct and appropriate to use but that books over time yeah over time it became

01:07:36.060 derogatory so now we've come up with other words and then probably eventually those other replacement

01:07:41.580 words will be deemed yeah i agree so it's like it's like using the word fat and then going like bbw

01:07:49.020 you know because fat could be offensive but is it nope no i love the word fat really words have as

01:07:55.820 much meaning as you give them so if you're going to sit there and say that you can say that about

01:07:59.340 anything okay if word fat it's it's offensive then i'm offended by it you could do the same thing with

01:08:03.500 black you can do the same thing with woman you can do it with any word you want to so if you take away

01:08:07.580 the negative connotation of the word it no longer has that connotation yeah so fat that is but if

01:08:13.980 someone insulted you like they they called you you're fat i would assume that was the education

01:08:19.580 level that's all you could think of to say about me is what you verbally what you see physically

01:08:24.460 that's then hahaha you win like going about my day because i get paid to be gotcha but let's say

01:08:30.380 they weren't using it in an insulting way they were just trying to think like if they referred to you

01:08:37.660 like in they weren't trying to offend you they're just saying oh she's a

01:08:41.340 like not in an insulting way but they're she's like oh she's a fat girl is that offensive

01:08:47.820 not to me some people are some people might be upset but i'm not i feel like fat has a definition

01:08:52.860 and i'm very logical if i fit that definition then i'm fat okay so you got thick skin you got

01:08:58.780 thick skin yeah i feel like that the term fat in the last like three years i feel like have has gone

01:09:05.020 a little bit more like acceptable because when i was younger you call me fat i'm ready to fight you

01:09:10.060 know like like now i don't feel like it's an offensive term anymore to me anyways although

01:09:15.740 at least in the groups that i'm in it's not really offensive i agree with you yeah i'm the same with

01:09:20.140 you so to answer your question finally uh generally speaking i would say yes i do prefer kind of petite

01:09:25.820 women like 4 11 but again my range look when it comes to height though okay let's talk height really

01:09:34.140 quick i'll date a girl who's 4 10 i'll date a woman who's six taller than me six foot five so you're

01:09:39.500 very flexible i'm pretty height wise very flexible um i'll date thin i'll date thick i don't know if

01:09:46.700 thick women are attracted to me though because i feel like most women want to like they don't want

01:09:51.340 to feel smaller than the guy and i could be wrong but i feel like most women like there's some women

01:09:57.660 who are thick or just maybe more muscular and they got like big legs some women got bigger legs than me

01:10:04.140 and they're like i don't think they want to fuck with me because i got i got these chicken legs

01:10:10.060 right now we're supposed to have bigger i know we're supposed to have bigger legs i have bigger

01:10:14.300 legs than everybody i've dated no one's beat me in the leg department oh well okay you never know

01:10:19.420 but okay to finally answer your question for some reason okay god okay am i gonna get i don't know if

01:10:24.860 i'm gonna get canceled okay kind of chubby asian women you know what i mean we went again chubby just

01:10:30.940 saying yeah a lot of them are short so i give a pass to wait is that a fetish or like no it's not

01:10:38.220 a fetish just like how is it not no not even a preference it's not like i'm zeroing in on chubby

01:10:43.420 asian women but okay okay why not you're open to it i don't mind a little chub i don't mind a little

01:10:49.340 chub i would say a little but honestly most my the girls i've dated that have not been but like

01:10:53.980 you know and i'm a little more flexible if she's got a large labia let me just say that okay all

01:11:00.060 right moving on here yeah do you find there's consistency with women's body types and their

01:11:04.540 labias i don't think it's tied to our body type i don't think so either i'm just wondering if you

01:11:09.340 felt if you felt that way just like for for penis size it's not it's not it's not but uh

01:11:17.500 she said what's a penis and have a tiny little i took anatomy class

01:11:27.820 all right okay so uh we need to react to some videos here i'm trying to recall where we where we

01:11:35.100 oh one last person nick if you're able to google um chris farley he was a hilarious comedian in the

01:11:42.780 90s i think he was on snl he passed away in the is it the 90s early 2000s i would totally i had a

01:11:50.300 crush on him when i was little i love that man i actually have a couple of soundboard he was hilarious

01:11:57.180 and tommy boy i was obsessed with tommy boy yeah love it would you go for chris farley

01:12:07.420 see and obviously we're just it's just by appearance right because i don't even know him

01:12:15.500 or he will die no my answer is no you wouldn't no date chris farley no

01:12:23.580 what do you uh without knowing anything about him if he just came up to me and was like yeah

01:12:31.020 let's go on a date um probably not that's how i'm seeing it oh like if i don't know i really like his

01:12:36.620 vibe like his energy like look at like the brightness behind his eyes his big beautiful

01:12:41.820 smile his chubby rosy cheeks like i love that yes i love santa

01:12:46.860 oh for sure santa fetish not me hitting up the malls for santa claus this this christmas

01:12:55.660 not the people online asking if he broke santa okay all right there you have it let's uh let's

01:13:02.140 do one of the videos we're gonna skip over one we're gonna watch uh the video from gabby here

01:13:09.340 uh and this is i think the one that went the most viral i mean i had a few there's a few there's

01:13:15.260 definitely a few oh there's me why do they not start you off like that i expect a man to pay for

01:13:23.340 the date yes the whole entire date that includes my uber to the date and my uber back to my house

01:13:30.140 if you are a man that i'm interested in i want to see that you can provide for me i want to see that

01:13:35.900 you can afford an uber ride i want to see that you can afford a nice dinner date like can you afford

01:13:41.420 basic things because if you can't afford dinner and an uber my transportation you certainly can't

01:13:47.100 afford kids you certainly can't afford a house you certainly can't afford my bills and i got bills to

01:13:52.860 pay okay period period i totally agree period i drive when you say you have bills to pay what do you

01:14:03.820 mean i pay my own rent i have a part i have two apartments on my own two apartments same city or

01:14:10.540 different no one in new york one in l.a okay um yeah like light bills and then not even that like

01:14:16.220 i need to get my nails done i get my hair done i need to get my feet done just maintenance bills any

01:14:22.140 yeah like brazilian waxes like i have things to pay for and like if i'm gonna be dating you like

01:14:28.060 fork it over like and and is that something that you are more i mean it sounds like from the get-go

01:14:35.740 first date right in he should be paying yes get you an uber for the date um pay for the first date

01:14:44.540 etc um he does he have to get an uber can he pick you up he can pick me up but there are a lot of them

01:14:49.820 have said i'll just send you an uber because they don't want to drive okay and you're but so you're

01:14:53.420 fine with either he sends you an uber pays for it or picks you up yeah okay and then has to pay for

01:14:58.380 the first date and then i assume like second date third date yeah continue paying um and so currently

01:15:03.660 you said you got about five guys on your roster are they all when you're going on a date with them

01:15:07.660 or when you did go on the first date they're paying getting you the uber is that yeah well i mean last

01:15:14.140 night i went on a third date with this guy and he always picks me up so um he picked me up last night

01:15:20.700 went to a movie you know got some popcorn slushies and then he dropped me back and that was our date

01:15:26.220 okay and he paid for it everything now the video that we just reacted to went super viral i know you

01:15:31.820 said there's a bunch of other ones that uh you've had a bunch that went viral and we we actually we

01:15:37.980 got a few so we're gonna we're gonna try we're gonna try to get through all of them oh not yet not

01:15:41.740 not yet not yet not yet not yet um so um can i comment on that video so your question i'll be

01:15:51.020 right back okay your comment was basically saying that men should pay for the date yeah right i think

01:15:57.500 i've heard brian said before that he disagrees with that i'm not sure probably could cure the air

01:16:02.620 but i totally agree um because i mean i always see dating as the man needs to be doing an investment in

01:16:10.300 his love in his love life right if you're not willing to pay for the date and invest in your

01:16:14.940 love life even if it falls through then you're not willing to invest in things that really matter in

01:16:20.060 the long run so that's why i really believe that when i go on a date they need to be the ones paying

01:16:25.020 because you're dating you know if i want if i want to pay then i'll just go with the friend

01:16:30.300 like what's the difference right and i feel like a lot of women these days they're like oh let me be nice

01:16:35.340 and let me try to pay for half and he'll respect me more be friends he don't respect you more like

01:16:40.220 you're just wasting your money and your time at this point yeah make you less and like are men are

01:16:44.540 men ever shy in trying to push your boundaries and trying to get you to go further than you want to

01:16:49.900 go when you're dating them no they're not shy about that because they know what they want they

01:16:53.980 know what they're investing in this for exactly and it's like okay so if they're not shy about it i'm

01:16:59.020 not gonna be shy about it i feel like i feel like a little bit different of a perspective because

01:17:03.980 i'm younger i don't expect a guy to have the money to pay like being the age that i am like

01:17:09.500 i don't expect them to have the money to pay for everything that i need like i absolutely think a

01:17:14.780 man should pay on a date maybe i don't know i just think first date it doesn't matter that much to me

01:17:20.540 because i if i were the guy in that situation i wouldn't want to just blow money for it to fall

01:17:26.540 through i think time is worth investing in but not money those same men though when you're on that

01:17:34.540 date have no problem asking you to come over and asking you to give up your business so i mean you

01:17:40.860 go on this walk park date and then they ask you to come over and now what they've gotten exactly what

01:17:45.100 they've wanted of you and you've received what not anything except for requests well i got i mean but

01:17:51.420 isn't i mean my view of sex it's an equal value exchange it's not it's for men we receive sex is

01:17:58.060 for men especially when they when you just said they don't want to go down you don't want to go

01:18:01.820 down on a woman then what is she really getting like she's gonna come are you sure she'll be like

01:18:09.100 oh yeah and be like girl i was so upset he didn't even finish like i don't know i just feel like men

01:18:16.860 benefit more from sex than women do yes women women can enjoy sex for sure erroneous women can

01:18:24.620 enjoy sex but the men are benefiting from sex for sure disagree disagree first okay we can talk about

01:18:32.060 the orgasm gap so it certainly is the case that okay well we can get into details but there is the

01:18:38.620 argument that men are more likely to org especially if it's like a casual encounter that men are more

01:18:44.860 likely to climax under those circumstances than the woman is uh however i would say my counter to

01:18:52.860 that would be women are multi-orgasmic so if a guy comes once some some women they be coming like three

01:19:00.700 four or five times so now they're the it's really interesting though i feel like men's climax or orgasm

01:19:07.820 response is very almost typical i mean there's some variants but it's pretty i mean whereas for women

01:19:15.820 it's getting a girl to climax from one woman to the next could be very different like some women can

01:19:22.700 come like real like insane and they're multi-orgasmic they come in 10 seconds they can keep coming and then

01:19:28.540 other women it can take a long while and then there's some women who despite best efforts even themselves

01:19:34.860 there's some women that if they're masturbating or whatever they just have a really difficult time

01:19:39.740 or they can't even make themselves climax which is i think for men is pretty unheard of so but what's

01:19:47.020 the majority what do you mean of women of women what's what's more seen than i think i mean at least i'm

01:19:54.220 from my experience it's certainly they struggle i i would say i would say when i'm talking about like

01:20:00.060 women who are super multi-orgasmic and come really quick that's pretty low percentage okay probably

01:20:05.020 less than 10 but i mean women that can come i'd say that's i mean 80 i want to say at least in my

01:20:14.940 experience like i'm i've got a pretty good track record of you have a lot of experience i'm not saying

01:20:19.980 that but i'm a i'm a man of god but like i'll say this like my my whole thing with sex even if it's

01:20:30.460 i'm not really interested in casual sex like i don't like uh one night stands like if i sleep with

01:20:37.020 a girl i want there to be a continuity i want to continue seeing her because otherwise for me it's

01:20:40.940 a waste of time what's the point um okay so my experience though is sorry i lost my train of thought

01:20:49.420 we're talking about so if you're very experienced we're talking about sex yeah oh yeah i mean

01:20:54.140 experienced oh no so what i was gonna say is like my whole thing is i want to make the girl come before

01:20:59.340 me that's important for sure yeah i like to make her come before me so whether that's hands toys

01:21:05.340 whatever i feel like no one's really taking into account the reason why we have sex like this is why

01:21:10.380 it's like such a point thing it's not just the pleasure right like procreation yeah procreation

01:21:14.460 that's the reason why sex happens right and so let's say we take the risk and we do have sex the

01:21:18.860 only person who has to deal with it once the condom breaks is me like you can choose to be

01:21:22.620 there or not be there you can choose to be part of me taking the day after or not if i decide to

01:21:25.980 have the kid you can choose to be part of it and i no matter what once i let you enter me i'm

01:21:30.300 now obligated and i'm thinking about that from the very moment that i even agreed to be around you

01:21:34.940 because it you know it can it can happen now that i'm around you and so i feel like that's what i

01:21:39.500 feel like a lot of people are not taking into account you said they're talking about sex who's it good

01:21:42.540 for who's it not for at the end of the day the only person who has to worry about at the end of the day

01:21:46.140 is me the person with the uterus i i agree with you on the point of pregnancy obviously that's

01:21:51.340 something exclusively exclusively that women would could potentially encounter from a sexual encounter

01:21:57.900 but what if we're talking like let's assume the context here is you know there's not a there's not

01:22:03.900 obviously well every time there's a risk yes but let's say like the intention is not to get pregnant

01:22:09.180 maybe the woman's on birth control who's really intending to get pregnant that's the point

01:22:12.460 that's the point that's the point if we're talking about we don't we don't not think about

01:22:16.780 that but if we're talking about you know because there's often this trope of well

01:22:23.420 the only men are getting value from sex in the form of pleasure but like what i was trying to what

01:22:29.260 i was trying to argue there is that well actually women also get the pleasure too i agree with that

01:22:35.260 pleasure for sure but she was talking about the benefit yes you know what i mean you guys can get

01:22:40.380 that and be satisfied we don't get that and just be satisfied we get that and want more i'm not

01:22:43.900 satisfied with just that with the nut no yeah i want my bills and plus i don't even want you know

01:22:48.780 what nothing makes me hornier i want money nothing makes me hornier than you hold on wait wait can

01:22:54.300 you just repeat that one more time repeat that just repeat that okay you want sex i want money

01:23:00.540 i think there's a term for that hold on wow what is that prostitution no oh i'm not having sex for

01:23:11.020 money guys to be clear i'm not having sex for money you know what i feel like one of the reasons why

01:23:16.380 women some some women want like you know money is because of that consequence that women can yes

01:23:22.620 endure yes there's a risk like she said yes you know we can have sex but i would be the one getting

01:23:27.740 pregnant there's more consequence for women that is why for a woman we also get satisfied if you

01:23:32.780 bring money and for sure support that you know so it's not only in the bedroom it's what's done

01:23:38.140 outside of the bedroom as well it's more actually i mean for a woman yeah like i can literally get

01:23:43.020 horny if you have bought me dinner for sure you want to make me come pay my rent pay my bills that

01:23:48.060 nothing makes me more than you taking care of me treat me like a big-ass baby and i will be so ready to

01:23:55.180 like hug and kiss and be around you like i gave a guy a whole conversation for an hour the other day

01:24:00.060 because they bought me like dinner and i was like i i think i might like him now think of how many

01:24:05.100 women are struggling he's treating me right i think i might like him now

01:24:10.940 if he's watching you know thank you think of how many met uh women are struggling in their

01:24:16.620 relationship right now and they're so exhausted so tired so overworked yeah and then like all you

01:24:21.820 can hear the guy say is like she doesn't want to have sex anymore she doesn't want to do this

01:24:25.100 she doesn't want to do that like duh because you're broke ass like why would she why would

01:24:29.740 she oh sorry i wasn't saying that why would she even be turned on at that point yeah bring some flowers

01:24:34.700 home it's real quick fix wait nick let me control the uh center zoom okay you can you can go here but

01:24:39.900 let me do the center zoom um so okay hold on there's a lot there's a lot there um so okay you're saying

01:24:47.580 that women today they're they're overworked they're tired they're taking care of the house

01:24:52.460 freaking exhausted we take care of ourselves they don't have time we used to live at home

01:24:55.740 and then her parents would find us someone there'd be a dowry okay and then we'd be sent off to live

01:24:59.820 with him now are you saying i don't get a dowry should we go back to the to patriarchy i'm not

01:25:05.500 saying we should go back to anything we live in a patriarchy let's not take it away from right now

01:25:11.820 we definitely still live in a patriarchy do do we yeah we do i have that same conversation with

01:25:15.420 someone in the sauna ridiculous i don't think i don't think there's any any any public school in

01:25:22.300 the country we're definitely in a patriotic society go to social like a social that's where they taught

01:25:26.300 us that we lived in a patriotic society that's yeah but where's the where's the proof um the fact

01:25:31.420 that men make more money than women in any job that they get is the same that's not false that's not

01:25:36.060 false i literally work in acting where the men make more money doing the same job that i do when

01:25:41.020 they make it to a certain level absolutely okay now we're getting into that but that's just a fact

01:25:45.980 you can walk around with your shirt off i've got to wear a bra i know that is actually actually on on

01:25:51.180 that thing i think well okay we're hitting on a lot of points here the wage gap the wage gap's been

01:25:56.300 debunked when it comes to the shirt thing that is actually the only rights that i can think of that

01:26:01.980 we don't have over women we don't sexualize men the same way that men sexualize women you can

01:26:06.300 walk by we demonize male sexuality i mean you can say you you can walk by a group of women

01:26:12.860 and they're not gonna be like hey baby oh look at you take your shirt off the chances of us doing

01:26:18.700 i mean i'm sorry i'm sorry for albuquerque 10 or where are you from alabama 10 that's probably hard

01:26:23.900 for you but generally men can walk by a group of women without those women cat calling them when

01:26:28.940 that's not something that we necessarily have or feeling safe walking to our car i'm pretty sure you

01:26:32.940 do where i have to wear i have to bring some sort of like spray something we have to protect

01:26:37.340 ourselves we have to think about going to your house are we going to be okay like those are things

01:26:41.020 that you don't have to think about which shows us but the way the way you you feel just because you

01:26:45.980 feel unsafe as a as a woman doesn't mean that you actually are unsafe the reality is if you look at

01:26:51.820 crime statistics men are more likely to be victims of violent crime but other men that oh that's my

01:26:57.740 point well that's victim blaming but it that's not victim blaming it is because what does the

01:27:01.900 gender of the perpetrator have to do with what you're still victimized regardless of the the

01:27:06.460 gender of the perpetrator i'll be right back okay she's gonna be right back um just go that way if

01:27:12.780 you can so men are creating so at the end of the day the fact that we we can't like we have less

01:27:18.940 upper body strength and we've got there's we're made differently us being able to protect ourselves

01:27:23.340 against those predators is different than you being able to protect yourself against your predator so

01:27:27.500 the fact of you being scared to walk to your car in the middle of night is just going to be

01:27:31.100 different because you know if someone comes up to you even if you might still be victimized by a man

01:27:35.100 the fact of you getting hurt or being able to scare them off is a higher chance percentage than it is

01:27:38.700 for me i'm not sure about that i mean like that's not about sure it's not sure not sure a man's gonna

01:27:45.020 look at you and me i promise you he's gonna choose me to try to overcome than you well you i mean

01:27:50.940 i'm not trying to make a comparison here but like you might be more physically imposing than i am i

01:27:58.620 promise you i can probably run faster than you but at the end of the day he's going to

01:28:01.820 don't know about the running part but i might um but what i'm saying we do a race after the show

01:28:06.220 i mean i can do a nice jog yeah um but what my point is is that there i mean you can you can argue

01:28:12.940 the the opposite side what is it called devil's advocate but at the end of the day a man's gonna

01:28:17.260 come after her before he's gonna come after her and that's just the that's just the rule they're

01:28:20.780 gonna come after you they're coming to come after me before they come after you because

01:28:23.660 you prefer you provide a little bit of threat me i don't provide a lot of threat

01:28:27.820 i feel like if you look if you look vulnerable let me respond i actually disagree because there's

01:28:32.380 there's actually a a thing where even among like okay take criminals for example the people that would

01:28:37.740 victimize you don't get me wrong like when it comes to mugging like for some people who would be

01:28:43.740 inclined to mug somebody the gender of the person might not be a factor but there is certainly a

01:28:48.620 thing when it comes to criminals for example like you look at prisons right look at jails

01:28:53.580 who are the most reviled people in prisons and jails people who tend to target uh people that

01:29:00.460 are deemed as weaker let's say so men who abuse women and men who abuse child are going to be victims

01:29:08.460 in a prison setting but a guy who beats on another man is not going to be uh there's not

01:29:13.740 there's not a stigma attached to a man who beats on another man but as a man if you beat on a woman

01:29:18.220 then then you're gonna get you're gonna get uh well also in a public setting let's say you and

01:29:24.140 me are in like a bar type environment like a nightlife type environment where there's a lot of people

01:29:28.140 around if a guy starts whooping on me nobody's gonna intervene on my my behalf but most women if

01:29:34.540 a guy starts whooping on a woman other totally random stranger men will intervene on that woman's

01:29:40.140 behalf and white knight basically and protect her free bodyguards so women have free bodyguards i mean you can

01:29:46.140 say that but that's that's like a hearsay right because i've literally physically seen a man beating

01:29:51.580 on a woman and people just standing i was the only person to stand up and do something so i feel like

01:29:55.660 the what ifs about a bar and this that sort of thing is a little bit difficult but the fact that

01:29:59.180 you're saying that a man in jail will then be victimized in jail because he decided to pick on

01:30:03.260 the weaker race you're already proving my point that was the weaker thing to go after which is why he's

01:30:08.700 he's now victimized in jail because he decided to go after something that he knew could not stand up

01:30:13.260 against him not you but me and that's the reason why he then in jail is looked down on because it's

01:30:17.900 like you should have gone against a man because that would have been fair and the fact that you

01:30:21.020 went against something that's weaker means that you're a piece of right but there's this concept

01:30:25.660 like that okay men are taught should never hit a woman blah blah blah etc etc and that's going to

01:30:32.780 provide you certain privileges like for example if i walk up to a guy and i just you know let's say it's

01:30:38.780 a bar nightclub type environment and i call him a bitch i might get fucking slapped but like women

01:30:45.100 you have a lot more leeway like you're going to have to antagonize a guy significantly for him to

01:30:50.620 get violent with you i don't feel like that i mean it just depends i think i think it depends on who

01:30:54.620 you're around and well obviously depends on the guy but yeah but i would say also look you mentioned

01:31:00.300 this scenario where there was a woman who's getting beat on by a guy and there there's a concept of a

01:31:05.500 bystander yeah certainly for both men and women when when you're witness to something there's a

01:31:10.620 bystander effect bystander effect but i would say i've seen like a lot of situations where if a guy

01:31:17.260 like were to put his hands on a girl and there's a crowd like there's people around there's a lot

01:31:22.620 of guys that are going to intervene and they're going to that guy up they're going to

01:31:27.740 right but so that's why it's a patriarch society they see already that they have the hierarchy

01:31:32.220 didn't they try to save something that's weaker i feel that's a benefit though you have free

01:31:36.540 bodyguards you can say it's a benefit but it's due to the patriarchy well there is no patriarchy i

01:31:40.940 reject this idea that there's a patriarchy i think i think there's two factors here is is the culture

01:31:46.540 right like men are supposed to protect women and what men can fight within each other and the other

01:31:51.980 thing too is also like biology like the physique of someone like we actually have videos on because

01:31:57.580 here's the thing when i you know if a girl is scrapping with another girl whatever if a guy's

01:32:02.700 fighting with another guy whatever but if it's a man laying hands on a woman yeah that's they're

01:32:07.500 they're attacking the man right or if it's a woman slapping the man they're like okay good girl like

01:32:12.620 he deserved it so i don't think anybody i feel like exactly so i feel like it's those two factors is

01:32:19.100 usually women are more vulnerable here's what i have to say like that's why us as women we need to

01:32:24.620 have wisdom and be like what can i do and you kind of talked about it you have stuff right you have

01:32:28.780 your tools you know some women carry which i think is great and some women get like self-defense

01:32:34.460 classes martial arts like you need to equip yourself and stop like putting yourself and make yourself

01:32:38.620 very vulnerable and and that's empowering so yeah well just this is we're kind of getting a little bit

01:32:45.420 away from dating but just on the whole like violence thing nick if you can pull up in the dropbox

01:32:49.740 podcast videos folder there's two videos i want to react to very very quick if you can get those

01:32:55.020 going for us um let me know when you're in the folder and i'll tell you which one it is there's

01:32:59.740 two of them uh and this is really just to uh kind of articulate the point that again it's not always

01:33:06.140 it's not a guarantee that if a man is beating on women other men will intervene but it's like a very

01:33:10.540 common phenomenon um you got do you have it nick wait what do you are you in the i just feel like

01:33:20.700 that proves my point look it's dropbox podcast videos the fact that that's like so that proves my

01:33:31.100 point nick come on then can you do it okay minimize minimize obs click the click the folder click

01:33:45.260 sorry guys hold on okay go to okay

01:33:51.020 so dropbox podcast videos

01:33:52.860 let me know when you're there uh so we have white knights one and white knights two that's the

01:34:04.060 that's the title what love that and i love seeing that when people actually do stand as a type of

01:34:09.500 person i am try to stop violence well here's the thing in these scenarios actually the women are the

01:34:14.460 instigators and even in those contexts it can be even in those contexts if a man tries to defend

01:34:19.580 themselves that's why my recommendation for men even if you're like you would have a claim of

01:34:24.700 self-defense if a woman's beating on you you need to like just get away you need to get out of that

01:34:29.180 situation because if there's other people around even if you're in a genuine legitimate valid

01:34:35.020 self-defense situation if there's other men around and you they only see the component of you

01:34:39.820 trying to defend yourself be careful you're gonna get fucking curb stomped so yeah um

01:34:43.820 um okay so high school i don't want to see a fight so go ahead play it can you go up

01:34:51.020 make it a little bigger yeah no that's wait wait no it is a girl she's in a hijab okay play it just

01:34:56.380 move the cursor please is there audio on this okay so the you got two girls kind of bullying is there

01:35:03.980 audio on this yeah okay i can hear it it's a little hard to hear i wonder what he said in class can you

01:35:10.060 go all the way so she look he's backing up one more one more he he doesn't want any she's shoving

01:35:18.940 him he's backing up he probably said some in class i mean hold on let's just watch this

01:35:26.940 he's backing up not a threat he's backing up she's pursuing

01:35:31.420 she slaps him he's hits her self-defense there's two girls at 2v1 he's defending himself

01:35:41.900 now watch

01:35:47.260 there's the football guys

01:35:51.900 now there's a teacher there but if that had continued he probably like those dudes came and

01:36:00.140 intervened probably let's not go off of what we don't know i mean i looking at the situation i

01:36:05.500 was in high school too that kid looked like he's used to being bullied and he just got frustrated

01:36:10.140 and punched her because if the football guys were just right there just to come in in action about

01:36:15.020 to beat him up they probably already didn't like that kid anyways because he looks kind of nerdy and

01:36:18.460 they probably like wanted a reason to beat him up anyways they're probably this is a valid reason to

01:36:22.540 beat him up let's get him here's another one nick can you play white knights too i don't think it's

01:36:26.140 okay for violence by the way well yeah i agree you shouldn't hit anybody so this girl grabs his

01:36:31.580 backpack but what did she what did he say to her like girls don't just do for nothing

01:36:36.620 and now he he defends he defended himself and now he's getting yeah that's crazy i hate fights

01:36:51.340 that's ghetto oh that's ghetto

01:36:55.020 it did he live this is a lot

01:37:04.140 what do you mean you can't see what they're doing to him this is

01:37:08.860 dude he's on the ground i don't see blood oh he's like all delirious oh god

01:37:16.620 i can't tell if he's

01:37:17.500 he looks a little wobbly on his legs um in any case look i i know that's a little different than

01:37:28.460 normal conversation but like this idea that you know i mean i was trying to basically articulate

01:37:34.460 my point that just because you feel a certain way when it comes to safety i think men are old and it's

01:37:40.140 backed up by the crime statistics like men are more likely to be victims of violent crime men save men

01:37:45.820 from them and men save women from them it's not women who save them it still shows the power that

01:37:50.300 you have wait what do you mean well you're saying that the men are the ones men are the ones that are

01:37:54.780 doing the the um like intervene oh and the men are the one doing the crimes and you're saying men are

01:38:00.700 the ones that intervene right and they're doing it to men and women you still got out of three of

01:38:05.340 those it's still men men men so it's what i'm failing to okay so what i'm saying basically is

01:38:12.060 if it the way the reason why i'm saying it's a patriarchal society is because if it was women

01:38:16.620 who could intervene and save the woman from being beat up by men or women that could intervene and

01:38:20.700 save the men for being bit by other men then maybe we could say there's some sort of equality there

01:38:24.300 but it's men who've got to step in both times to save that person so even though they're the ones

01:38:28.300 causing the the the tiff they're also the ones that have to save so that's still the way you've got

01:38:33.900 the power that's the power is being able to determine who does and who does not get beat up well i mean

01:38:38.380 there's just a biological basis for that too but that is that's what society we live in yeah but

01:38:42.620 it's not i don't think it's inequality it just happened it's just biological reality i just said

01:38:47.180 you said it's not like i said it's a patriarchal society which means you guys hold the forefront

01:38:51.180 in our society here's the i'm i'm sort of failing to see that but what's okay you said what is the

01:38:57.020 patriarchy let's go there what's the patriarchy what do you mean by that exactly what you use the

01:39:02.300 term patriarchy what is i said patriotic society okay what is a patriarchal society when i think of

01:39:07.260 that i think of men holding um the hierarchy and far as jobs they get to make the decisions

01:39:13.100 they get to um feel safe or be accepted in most places that they go um disagree with with that and

01:39:21.340 being able to like make laws i mean we're slowly starting to integrate that but having just the

01:39:26.460 say of like how our society goes well you know what's interesting kind of tying this back into dating

01:39:32.300 on one hand you have women who want men to lead you want men to pay for the first date you

01:39:37.100 want men to be the providers in a relationship but then you also complain that men

01:39:45.420 alleged supposedly when it's been debunked the wage gap oh but it's so unfortunate that men earn more

01:39:50.780 than than women and it's so unfortunate that men have these leadership positions even though these are

01:39:57.260 characteristics and traits that women desire and demand that men have i don't mind it don't mind what i don't

01:40:03.820 mind it like i'm me saying that men make more even if it's been debunked my experience that you know

01:40:11.660 the places that i've been they have had the hierarchy and jobs and money and and things and i don't mind

01:40:17.660 it because for me i i find a different place for me like i don't need to be the breadwinner of the

01:40:22.460 family so i don't mind that well then but but you said how important it was that a guy have his money

01:40:28.860 right you were kind of saying you know you're not interested you don't like broke men for example

01:40:33.660 so wouldn't this mating pressure that women create make it more likely for men to want to rise to the

01:40:42.140 highest levels of industry and corporations and try to make the most money because there's this pressure

01:40:47.980 on men that doesn't exist on women because most men most men they're not like looking at a woman and

01:40:53.660 really thinking whoa i really hope like she's a super successful like high earner that's not

01:41:00.140 it's a plus i suppose but i don't think for most men you're the money that you bring to a relationship

01:41:05.660 is going to really be a factor in how attractive he finds you sometimes it's a negative right like

01:41:11.980 i've dated men where my money had made them feel some sort of way jealous and they would actually

01:41:16.140 how how is it that we can complain well oh men make more money than women which i'm to me isn't

01:41:21.580 entirely clear uh men make more money than women men are in higher positions of government and in

01:41:28.780 business they you know they're more likely to be ceos and be in boardrooms etc but then also women

01:41:35.100 say well when i have kids i want to step back and i want to be provided for and i want men to pay for

01:41:40.060 first dates and i won't date a broke guy but you don't often hear men saying like having qualms with

01:41:45.340 dating a broke woman so wouldn't it make sense and there's a lot i think there's a lot of other

01:41:49.420 factors that i could articulate but if there's a mating pressure that women impose on men to be

01:41:55.420 financially successful wouldn't it make sense that men yeah would yeah pressure has always always

01:42:00.940 been there it's not like a time when it's not like we're in a place right now where we're trying to

01:42:04.380 take that pressure off but we're still also pressured you guys have a pressure to to provide

01:42:09.260 we have a we have a pressure to be alchemists you know what i mean and then we're not even women if

01:42:14.620 we don't have babies like you know it's like and that's not something i believe but that's

01:42:18.300 sometimes how we're treated but i don't think the two things can code coexist you can't demand

01:42:24.220 that men be the sole breadwinners of families but also demand like well we want equality in

01:42:29.100 the workplace i never i think that i hear what you're saying but if a woman is to do the same

01:42:35.340 job as a man i think that she should be paid the same however they are though however if a man is

01:42:40.540 doing construction work and you've got him next to a woman if you guys are both hired construction to

01:42:44.460 both do some shoveling you're going to be getting twice as much work done in this she is getting

01:42:49.180 so per what you're doing what you're working you deserve to be paid oh that that's how i feel okay

01:42:55.980 so i don't feel like you guys deserve the same rate same wage for doing different jobs even though

01:42:59.980 you're in the same wage gap is justified i don't i'm not saying i didn't say it was a problem i wasn't

01:43:05.020 complaining about it i was just stating a fact because i there's going to be a wage gap between me

01:43:08.940 and my future husband you mean he's going to make several several thousands more than me well are you do

01:43:14.220 you are you a high earner i don't a high earner like are you hiring not in california i'm grateful

01:43:21.260 to like live off of like my modeling acting sure alone i own my own business and i'm able to self

01:43:27.340 like take care of myself gotcha okay um well you made a great point brian i agree with you usually

01:43:34.300 the guys in leadership they're the ones that have families yeah yeah and they strive to be and they

01:43:39.980 strive to be in leadership they want to be in leadership they want to get promotions because they want to be

01:43:43.580 able to provide more for the and that's why they're married what you said is a great point well i've

01:43:48.220 seen these articles where where they're saying a lot of women are not finding economically attractive

01:43:55.580 partners yes but then you'll also say well i want equality in the workplace and i feel like those two

01:44:04.460 things are like if if we're gonna have equality in the workplace then you might struggle to find

01:44:13.180 men who are on your level financially i feel like that's like a i mean not every woman's gonna agree

01:44:17.980 with that stance because not every woman wants to be married and have kids some want to be career

01:44:21.740 women for the rest of their lives like that's fine so i feel like for them they yeah they want to get

01:44:25.740 paid equal or more because they're they're relying on themselves they're not relying on a man for money

01:44:30.460 uh but if you're a woman who wants a family you want to be able to have the luxury of staying home

01:44:35.660 with your babies versus having to go to work and leaving your kids with strangers and things like

01:44:39.820 that so like i feel like there's different women for different things and what they want

01:44:44.060 sure yep sure um so okay question for all of you what does a guy need to make

01:44:52.380 bare minimum to get you me happy

01:44:54.620 bare minimum i would say 100 000 after taxes i prefer 200 000 and up um but i would say after

01:45:04.780 taxes bring home like 100k so bare minimum 100 100 000 prep but more preferably 200 000 after taxes

01:45:14.060 what about for you uh he's got to be able to afford a house and a family in the current city that he

01:45:18.860 resides okay are you in la i'm sorry or do you live in la i do live in la okay

01:45:24.540 would you like to settle down in la you think i mean i'm going to go where the life takes me

01:45:30.780 i'm currently you know where the wind carries like pocahontas um but um you know i'm living in la now

01:45:36.780 so in la to be able to have a house and a family yeah you're looking at six figures 200 000 but i mean

01:45:43.020 i do kind of like nerdy guys oh a little bit of autism is kind of hot it's okay all right um just a

01:45:49.820 little bit asperger's guys her dms are open just a little sprinkle all right listen those are smart

01:45:54.300 guys yeah they are don't don't sleep on the uh you know i think i'm actually a little uh

01:46:01.420 i might be i think i might be a little autistic another another you're already spoken for there

01:46:05.660 was a little person outside they were asking about you so we have all right uh what about

01:46:10.300 you bare minimum when it comes to income for your husband future husband i would say hopefully 80k

01:46:17.420 and more okay 80k plus yeah i care more about the lifestyle i don't want to have a mansion like

01:46:23.900 i i'm i this is how i see it like where do you live by the way i live in arizona arizona okay yeah

01:46:29.740 like phoenix yes phoenix arizona okay party yeah so sorry continue i don't know like i i'm not about

01:46:36.620 the mansions i'm not about none of that i care about the lifestyle and i also want him to like

01:46:41.580 listen a little bit to day ramsey as well that'll be great okay there'll be a bonus i care more about

01:46:47.180 the prop like the net profit what we have i care more about lowering expenses and being able to have

01:46:53.180 some room to have a good life so right whether that's we can work with 80k whatever it means like

01:46:59.820 i don't want him to be super rich and i want him to be able to give me something that i can turn

01:47:03.580 into treasure like if you can give me a trailer that might be trashy me as a wife i'm gonna come

01:47:08.140 and oh yeah you're right um i'll fix that yeah yeah so i want someone who's able to provide give

01:47:16.620 something and then entrust me to me i feel like my job as a wife is to make it even better yeah like

01:47:23.100 if he gives me like a trailer it might not be the best i'm gonna turn it into treasure i'm gonna turn

01:47:27.340 it into yeah we multiply women yeah like i want to help steward what my man is doing so

01:47:33.260 do i want him to make thousands and millions no that's not what life is about for me i mean that's

01:47:39.180 why i said 100k after taxes because i can work with that i can multiply that i mean i plan on being a

01:47:43.580 multi-millionaire so you want to help your i need a base yeah and i'm also a minimalist like i live

01:47:49.100 of a small little room i don't own that much clothes like i want someone who isn't that materialist

01:47:55.900 when you say lifestyle what do you mean like would that entail well i'd like to go on a couple

01:48:00.540 vacations every year type of thing yes i like to invest money in experiences and memories versus

01:48:07.100 purses jewelry all this stuff no yeah so if you can if the men can give me that i'll take it okay and

01:48:17.020 question for all of you so once you get married and you start having kids because you guys currently

01:48:23.500 work right you work now but do you will you work up until the point when you start having kids is

01:48:28.860 that kind of the goal or you want to continue working or as soon as you have kids you kind

01:48:32.380 of want to take a step back and then let him be the sole breadwinner when i get pregnant i won't be

01:48:39.580 able to work i'll have to take a sabbatical anyways because i'm a plus size model i'm a fit model

01:48:44.540 so companies rely on my body shape to remain the same but what so if i get pregnant for let's say so i

01:48:51.500 do try to torch shoes i do true religion jeans if i'm gonna get pregnant then obviously um i'm going

01:48:56.940 to size out of the size of the jeans that i'm fitting so when you fit that means you make them

01:49:01.660 right for your size so once i then give my body to you for our child i won't be able to physically

01:49:07.340 work i could probably do some acting i might be able to do some attorney shoots but my main income

01:49:11.180 my llc will be i'll be giving it up basically for us to have a life got it okay and you're willing to

01:49:16.860 do that for the man that i love hell yeah i'm taking care of absolutely i'm getting on that ship

01:49:20.940 and remember i told you earlier if i get on the ship and it goes down we're going down together

01:49:24.380 but i want to make sure the ship i get on is not like a rowboat i want to make sure it's a freaking

01:49:28.860 yacht or something you know like if we're gonna go down i want to make sure that i'm giving up what i

01:49:33.180 have i want it's got to be better than what i got i want whatever my life is with this man to be

01:49:37.340 better than what i have right now it's not better than what's the point that's how i feel too

01:49:41.260 yeah this isn't the camera it still looks blue oh well i don't know maybe it'll fix itself later

01:49:48.140 we'll we'll check in on a bit so uh okay wait i had something here related to this

01:49:53.580 shit we were talking about patriarchy i guess we can come back to patriarchy really good so

01:49:59.500 why uh okay so question question so do we currently live yes in a patriarchy in my

01:50:08.380 i am oh yes okay all right um so what does that mean though to be living in a patriarchy

01:50:18.140 that means that i don't know that it has to mean something or not mean something it just always has

01:50:22.700 been this way well you'll often hear use you'll hear terms like oppression right so under patriarchy

01:50:28.300 do you think that women are oppressed in certain ways yeah certain ways yes yeah yes

01:50:33.020 it depends on the environment i feel like anyone can be oppressed it just depends on

01:50:39.580 other factors gender is one factor but there's other ones okay um and so you guys say yes are women

01:50:46.300 oppressed yes yes under patriarchy are men the oppressors if women are oppressed then are men

01:50:52.220 the oppressors i wouldn't call all men oppressors i just feel like they benefit from a system okay yeah

01:50:58.300 they benefit from a system that even if they're not just like when you talk about white and black

01:51:02.060 or people racist and all this other thing it's like you benefit from a system that has been built

01:51:05.740 to make you okay i mean just it's written in our in our in our amendments like all men are created

01:51:11.420 equal it just starts from the beginning you can say oh but it really started as they meant white men

01:51:17.420 they didn't even include black men when they meant that i mean when they say that for example when you say

01:51:21.340 human but that's not what they meant when they said it and they know that but okay and when you go down

01:51:26.060 the list of things for example when you say mankind that refers to both men and women it doesn't just

01:51:31.580 mean men you say that but at the same time they didn't mean that when they wrote it they didn't

01:51:36.620 consider black people i wasn't human even at that point i wasn't talking to george washington but we

01:51:41.180 know this from history well i don't when okay we're talking about the constitution i i that's not an area of

01:51:48.220 that i'm i have expert expertise in but my understanding is when it comes to language when it comes to

01:51:53.660 etymology when people are using like men or mankind for example they are they are referring to people

01:52:01.420 as a whole that's i mean that's what you're saying and that's what we have assumed now is as but when

01:52:05.580 it was written how it was based our our forefront our forefathers our country being built i mean it

01:52:11.340 wasn't thanksgiving dude like it started with a hierarchy and it was the white male and they wrote

01:52:16.700 themselves as the hierarchy well it doesn't say it doesn't say all white men it doesn't right it doesn't

01:52:21.500 say anything about white people even consider other people to be inclusive they had to decide

01:52:27.340 black people were one one-third of human considered to be one-third of human after we were emancipated

01:52:32.380 or what have you so it's like it's still written you can say it changed just like religion right now we

01:52:37.580 let certain people in religion and now you can't do this and you can do this and you can have many

01:52:40.940 wives and you can't just like things change sure it changed but when you look at how and why it's

01:52:45.580 because that's how it started okay but this is let's talk modern day right okay so because what

01:52:52.940 the constitution was i don't think you can get into modern day without it recognizing

01:52:58.620 250 years ago or something is i just want to say this i just feel like it is it's a battle between

01:53:02.620 good and evil and it can be anyone a woman can be really evil a man can be really evil there's history

01:53:08.220 you know of what uh and you know what gender might have had more power this and that but i feel like now

01:53:13.740 it's just it's really a battle between good and evil and it's your choice what you want to be

01:53:19.260 i know some women that are really really bad and guys are really really bad and the opposite

01:53:24.380 and some people get caught more some people don't and also media and all this stuff so but okay so um

01:53:32.460 are you oppressed um i know there are people that try to oppress me but my mind frame is i can do

01:53:40.220 whatever and i can do i can do it all so i don't feel necessarily but i know especially growing up

01:53:46.220 in in the background that i've had um i was very i'm very hyper aware to people when they try to

01:53:51.900 press me now because i wasn't raised with it necessarily but mine comes more in the form of

01:53:56.060 my skin color rather than in my gender because if you're already going to dislike me because my skin

01:53:59.740 color then i'm also my gender and then i'm also fat yeah so it's like you found all the reasons to hate

01:54:03.500 me okay so like interest you're talking intersectionality that's but that's my daily like i don't get to just be

01:54:08.620 like oh you don't like me because i'm fat oh you don't like me because i'm a woman it's like you

01:54:12.060 might not like me for any one of these reasons and you're still going to act that way to me no matter

01:54:15.580 what okay well we're speaking just within the confines of of gender here but okay um so oppressed

01:54:24.860 because the gender pressed um yes i feel like i've definitely missed out on things because of my gender

01:54:31.340 okay or have been treated away or fondled away or have even you know but also at the same time on

01:54:39.420 the systemic level is that kind of what you're talking about like systemic oppression i mean

01:54:45.180 because i hear that term a lot so

01:54:50.140 what it's just funny the way she got up

01:54:52.060 because i'm just trying to think okay when it comes strictly to gender right i'm just trying to

01:55:03.100 think like what right or privilege as a man do i have that that you don't or that women don't the

01:55:10.220 one thing you actually mentioned earlier and i agree with you is the shirt off thing but that's really

01:55:14.300 the and in some cities in some places it's legal other places it's not it's supposed to be legal

01:55:19.740 but people don't do it but yes there are there are definitely places where women can go share

01:55:26.300 lists in new york oh i thought only on the beaches i don't know i thought i saw like an ad campaign

01:55:32.300 where a lady was walking down the street with her free free the titty yeah free the titty yeah that's

01:55:36.700 the only right or rights that i can think of though when it comes to like a system like laws where

01:55:43.100 when it comes to rights that men have that women don't

01:55:45.740 do you think women should be able to have you know their titties out i'm down i'm with it because

01:55:56.780 i feel like that's that's a rule for i feel i understand why that's a thing i lived in france

01:56:01.340 for a while and they're not as i understand why women are not allowed to show everything because

01:56:09.980 obviously you know that has to be very sexual but that's why it's because we sexualize everything

01:56:15.100 yes especially in this country yeah but society's made up by the people right and it's it's true

01:56:19.580 like governed by the government though and and guys chess no one really gets turned on

01:56:23.900 but you'll see men who we're just talking about chubby men who've got bigger titties than i do

01:56:28.860 you know instagram like you know flags you if you show like a titty but i know some plus size guys

01:56:34.700 who have gotten banned from instagram or gotten their pictures taken off because

01:56:38.860 of their topless and instagram registers it as a woman's breast but it's a man

01:56:44.060 so they're they're discriminating against fat men there's another way instagram discrimination

01:56:48.540 there's another one wow not just there you have it there you have it folks what about women that um

01:56:53.580 are aren't allowed to breastfeed in public without being harassed by the public i think that's

01:56:57.660 oppression like you they well women you can't help but to breastfeed your child like wherever you are

01:57:02.860 and people have an issue with that i've seen videos online where people are being like

01:57:07.020 yelling and being aggressive while a woman's breastfeeding their child their baby and what

01:57:11.260 can she do she can't fight you she's literally a woman with a child breastfeeding and you're

01:57:16.220 don't you don't know how to mind your business you don't know how to walk away like you're in her face

01:57:19.500 like you so aggressively because you're so upset that she pulled out her titty to feed her child

01:57:23.820 it's because you're over sexualizing everything that a woman does just like how they say like oh

01:57:28.780 you know if you're bigger if you're a fat woman you shouldn't wear tight clothes you know

01:57:32.620 because it's too sexual yeah instantly okay on tiktok i you know you go through bands i don't

01:57:37.980 know if you know this but like like when you're on tiktok live they'll like ban you for a week if

01:57:41.500 you did something that they didn't like for example i'm like showing people like my outfits

01:57:45.420 or whatever in my closet i dropped something on the floor i just bent over to pick it up and i got

01:57:50.220 banned for a week but i see skinny girls shaking their butts in bikinis and they never get banned

01:57:55.660 and i just picked something off the floor like why i have too much ass for you like what are you

01:57:58.780 trying to say bigger bodies are sexualized you know like that's the reason people hate so much

01:58:02.540 they hate people hate sex like thicker women because our bodies are sexualized instantly if i

01:58:07.020 wear a tank top and if she wears a tank top she's okay i'm busty madison do you have a response to

01:58:15.980 i think she says you're flat that's what she's saying oh no i was but i i do get that no one was

01:58:21.260 definitely saying that but i was saying if i were to wear this shirt and if i had like way

01:58:25.260 bigger titties like i would be like holy shit yeah you know yeah i completely and you're and

01:58:30.060 on you it's like super cute and on me it's like she must be wanting to get paid you know that's all

01:58:35.820 i was saying he's over here yeah so do you guys think that bigger women should be dressed differently

01:58:41.820 to dress how you want to know i'm gonna continue my little crop tops and my little booty shorts and

01:58:46.540 my little mini skirts you're just gonna have the deal okay conservative now yeah you should be able

01:58:51.020 to wear what you want are you gonna get judged more probably yeah so you're gonna be okay with

01:58:54.940 that probably but what about what about the woman who don't like to get cat was it cat call listen

01:59:00.700 you have control of what you do if you wear that outside and you get cat called i get

01:59:04.540 cat called in sweatpants you have to be mad at someone else yeah you have to be you have to

01:59:09.980 expect that to happen yeah i agree like if we're gonna be you know flaunting what you have guys are

01:59:14.860 gonna want to admire it and if they can't call you that though i will we shouldn't really be that upset

01:59:19.660 we go we're as we're walking down the street getting cat called we're going into starbucks

01:59:22.860 and getting that free cookie yeah that's true i get free stuff all the time yeah all the time

01:59:26.380 all the time all the time so i guess it's a matriarchal society since we get free

01:59:31.820 girls getting free everywhere men have to pay 20 bucks

01:59:36.940 give me the money society works for us keep that up it does can you send us some more money even though

01:59:43.180 we don't get it i really liked when you guys wrote us little talk shit things i was enjoying that

01:59:47.100 oh yeah when they were like they were my bedroom dms are open don't make fun of the fat girl

01:59:51.500 something something they have a light paint to go back to what we were saying earlier though i feel

01:59:57.420 like a lot of like skinnier men do like bigger isn't that so funny i feel like i've seen like

02:00:05.020 it's like a fucking pair right yeah exactly it's so funny and like yeah i do i do attract a lot of

02:00:09.660 thinner guys also cut guys what she said but it's so funny and they know it they'll be like well you

02:00:13.900 know it's a skinny guy who's got to be with the thick girl they just have this thing yeah i don't

02:00:17.420 mind hard bodies attracting guys can like sometimes what do you think bigger guys attract more i see

02:00:23.900 them with petite women my thinner friends like bigger guys yeah yeah because they feel safe and

02:00:29.100 secure we have conversations about it like oh okay my big teddy bear and like you know i've heard that

02:00:33.500 big boy season is coming you know sizzle with the big boy like big boy season's coming so like

02:00:37.500 everybody's looking for a big boy to cuddle up with for the months of october november december yeah so

02:00:42.460 big boys um slide in my dms any boys live i'm not picky i'm not because i can read a vibe so quick

02:00:53.260 so i'm just like i'm not feeling you oh i'm feeling you and it has nothing to do with looks like it's

02:00:57.180 your energy is there anyone on your roster that you're like this this could potentially be the one

02:01:02.780 oh good question oh two of them yeah two really what do they have to do to be like good enough or

02:01:07.500 like what do they have to do what differentiates time and consistency huh what differentiates them

02:01:11.980 like a one is here and one is out of state so um i feel like for me it's all about like just the time

02:01:20.300 that i spend with you the consistency into getting to know you because it can be great in the beginning

02:01:24.620 but like i need to know that your uh effort and you're consistent in like pursuing me over a span of

02:01:30.380 time so that i understand that this isn't just you're just pushing for the cookie you know like i need i

02:01:35.900 need time to get to know you to see what kind of person you are so that's all i mean they're not

02:01:39.180 doing anything wrong with her it's just taking some time especially if there's distance i feel

02:01:42.620 like the guy that is farther away from you has to put in more effort you know than the guy that is

02:01:48.860 in your area for sure and they don't have money a little bit unfair do they know what to do like

02:01:53.500 are they sending you bouquets of flowers and like i don't like that you don't like i don't i don't

02:01:59.100 i like flowers if like you say you're picking me up for a date and you give me flowers that's

02:02:02.940 nice but to just show up with random flowers at my doorstep like have them sent to you let's

02:02:07.740 talk about it's so romantic what is your love maybe like chocolate wait yeah we can get to that

02:02:13.260 later okay yeah you can send me chocolate i like chocolate wait so you said that two of the guys who

02:02:21.020 are currently uh in your five-man roster there's some potential there yeah how long have you been

02:02:27.340 seeing both of those guys one guy a month the other guy was just my friend for a few years and

02:02:34.140 now he's stepping up his game so you know we'll see it's blossomed into a little more okay and how

02:02:41.340 long has it been kind of a bit more romantic would you say maybe a couple months a couple months okay

02:02:47.100 and are you like for either of these two guys that you're kind of a bit more interested in

02:02:52.220 like would you be ready if one of them was to say hey i want to be exclusive i want to just

02:02:58.940 be boyfriend girlfriend are you open to that or yeah i'm open to it so you're waiting for them to

02:03:02.780 initiate that conversation or step up right like they're both already at the point where you'd say

02:03:09.420 yes to either of them or they need to like prove themselves more oh okay i would okay that's a good

02:03:14.380 that's a really good question no no i'm not ready for that then because i don't think i don't feel like

02:03:18.380 it's been enough in-person dates and in-person time spent for me to say i feel comfortable being

02:03:24.060 exclusive and getting rid of all the other guys i feel like it i just need a little more time to

02:03:28.380 spend with you in person to really feel that connection to be like yeah i'll drop my roster

02:03:32.300 for you okay got it got it um so we're gonna do a couple chats then we have a bunch more videos to

02:03:38.300 react to okay so let me get the let's see here we have actually we'll do that one this has been

02:03:45.500 really fun by the way thanks for having us oh well thank you guys for coming i wish we had a

02:03:48.780 bigger chat panel like no it's better unfortunately although you never introduced me to this chick

02:03:53.900 oh that's kiki kiki yeah she's kiki she's cool do you love me oh are we allowed to sing on here

02:03:58.860 no yeah you can sing like copyrighted oh you sound just like drake let me get this off

02:04:03.660 no you're fine you can you can sing just like drake we like to sing drake a lot on here

02:04:10.460 i sound like adele well i'm tony braxton i do i would like to actually run it back like do another

02:04:18.620 plus size please do but like with some more more people you're gonna have to feed us though if you

02:04:23.100 want us to come all the way down here i gotta feed you guys we need strawberries right here

02:04:27.260 you're worse than our you're worse than our dates right now come come heavily fed i'm a jerk i am i

02:04:32.140 am a jerk have a hefty hearty meal telling us to go to a buffet before we come here is like

02:04:42.940 like he provided us but thank you for the celsius and the water i do that that message goes out to

02:04:48.140 everybody we tell people hey make sure you have a good meal before you come on we don't want people

02:04:52.300 getting too hungry i think you would have fed the legal if you had like a panel of little people i think

02:04:56.620 you would have thought that you know what i i actually uh a local hot dog chain reached out

02:05:02.940 to me today okay so we might have no hot dogs next time i like crab legs if you guys come back we

02:05:12.460 might have some hot dogs ready to go so i'll bring friends there you go all right we have marshall here

02:05:20.300 brian huge panel tonight nice beard question are you going to address the right counter

02:05:26.620 allegation of this podcast charging man 9500 for c while of girls are platform for free yeah so

02:05:33.180 basically um yeah basically uh this guy he dm'd me on instagram and he kind of he requested to be on

02:05:42.940 the show i forget the actually let me pull it up just so i i don't want to misquote myself or him

02:05:48.140 because i don't know i feel like being accurate with this sort of stuff is kind of important here in

02:05:53.180 any case uh you know look every single i'm going to try to find it and talk at the same time

02:05:58.700 pretty much every single uh week we get over a hundred requests from people to be on the show

02:06:04.460 we get a hundred requests for men to be on the show and the format of the show if you guys haven't

02:06:08.860 noticed we've done a hundred plus of these it's not really like get an equal amount of men get an equal

02:06:15.580 amount of women on the show it's kind of primarily based at like interviewing women now occasionally we do

02:06:20.700 have guys who come on the show they almost they almost more so fill the role of like kind of co-host

02:06:26.300 versus additional panelists but uh typically the format of the show is bring women on and we're

02:06:34.220 because it's interesting to hear the women's perspective on dating um and you'll notice even

02:06:38.780 the shows where i do bring men on i'm not really directing so many questions towards them uh it's more

02:06:45.340 so again the show the format of the show is interviewing women in the same way if i was to

02:06:49.980 have a fashion show and i had primarily female models and i was making women's clothing i would

02:06:59.420 predominantly be hiring women for the thing so the whole format of the show it's not like there's not

02:07:06.620 equality when it comes to the panel like we primarily bring women on and that's established

02:07:11.180 with the 100 plus shows we've had now we get despite the fact also that we say we're just

02:07:16.460 casting women we're again we get like 100 guys a week saying please put me on the show we only do

02:07:23.340 two shows a week we have limited size on the there's a limited amount of seats on the panel

02:07:29.900 it would be impossible for us to accommodate every single individual who requests to be on

02:07:34.300 the show so unfortunately just as a matter of practicality we have to turn down people we have

02:07:38.780 to reject people i don't like to use reject but we cannot again if if we would have to do a show

02:07:44.540 every single day of the week to accommodate every single person's request to be on the show so we have

02:07:50.460 to say no to some people in this guy's case i we we have like just a blanket thing that we send out

02:07:57.420 saying hey we're primarily casting women that's the format of our show what we do offer when it comes

02:08:03.340 to the 9 500 the 9 500 thing you you offered or you mentioned um first off uh no man we we haven't

02:08:12.060 had any guy on the panel um pay to be on the panel so far every guy that's been on the panel it's either

02:08:18.860 just somebody i know somebody you know chase or like another content creator right um in our messages

02:08:26.940 when we tell people hey we're primarily casting women um we are not really accepting applications

02:08:34.380 at this time that might change in the future we have sponsorship options so the sponsorship option

02:08:42.140 which is available to people who don't even want to be on the show if you want to sponsor the podcast

02:08:46.620 let's say you have a product we've we've only done like five sponsorships we've done 100 videos

02:08:52.940 so we did something with blue chew we did something with uh we've done like five sponsorships not not a

02:08:59.820 lot right so what we say is hey if you want like we can offer a sponsored seat option if you're really

02:09:08.460 really dead set on coming on the podcast let's say you have a product or listen okay madison stop

02:09:14.620 you can do it later but um let's say you have a product or you want to promote your social media page

02:09:21.500 then that is an option if again if you're dead set on being on the show we extend this opportunity

02:09:27.180 for people who want to sponsor the podcast and then we can get you on the show uh at the end of

02:09:32.540 the day again we have 100 people every single week who want to be on the show we have to be

02:09:37.020 somewhat selective when it comes to who's going to be on the show and then the other factor i would

02:09:40.540 point out the individual who messaged me here this is where i need to try to find it if i can you got

02:09:45.660 personal um his step one to being invited on the podcast don't insult the person who are you are

02:09:55.740 requesting to be on the podcast his messages were very aggressive um this guy's very entitled he feels

02:10:03.020 like my he seemed entitled like he was here's the thing right if i'm reaching out to somebody to do a

02:10:09.500 collab especially like i would not blow up joe rogan if i reached out to joe rogan and i said hey

02:10:16.860 joe rogan can i be on your podcast and he just ignored me or he just didn't respond or he turned

02:10:21.500 me down i would not publicly go proceed to put him on blast that's the name of the game man listen you

02:10:29.420 have a small platform i'm not saying that to insult you but there's just a there's a reality when it comes

02:10:33.900 to collaborations if i can't just ever there again a hundred people want to collaborate with me i have

02:10:41.820 to kind of move in a way where okay i'm you might think it's kind of like

02:10:48.220 scummy to do this but obviously people want to collaborate with people who have a commensurate social

02:10:53.260 media following you have a smaller social media following you're not a bad person for that there's

02:10:58.380 nothing wrong with that however it's just the name of the game man you should try to collaborate

02:11:04.620 with people that are around your audience size and at that point start building up and then you'll be

02:11:09.660 able to like okay for example it would be great who's like a really big who's really big on so

02:11:15.260 i would love to collaborate with aiden ross aiden ross gets 70 000 live viewers on his live streams

02:11:22.940 i'm a small fish compared to aiden aiden ross he's not going to collaborate with me it's just the

02:11:28.060 it's the name of the game man uh you need to try to find people to collaborate with who are on your

02:11:33.260 level it's not about being a dickhead and i've actually given some smaller i've given smaller

02:11:38.620 creators opportunities chances to come on the platform but you gotta it's just the reality of uh

02:11:44.700 social media man like and also when you're coming at me aggressively like i don't want you sitting next

02:11:50.300 to me man like you need to have some tact when you're like i okay let me actually pull it up do you

02:11:56.380 guys want to talk for a bit while i'm trying to find this sorry i'm rambling speaking of aggressive

02:12:01.020 oh i i'm gonna i'm okay so maybe i'm not with the times or whatever but you mentioned aiden ross and

02:12:08.140 i'm actually going to be on his show soon because he i know because apparently there's no plus size

02:12:13.020 black women in la or there's like a really small percentage but he's was specifically looking for

02:12:18.220 plus size black women to be a part of his show because i guess you know how he does that show where

02:12:22.140 like he hooks up his friends with like girls or whatever speed dating yeah so apparently one of

02:12:26.620 his friends only likes plus size black women i was the only one in la he is cute so um yes but i

02:12:33.420 don't know the only one in la hello i know that

02:12:40.940 so yeah and that i was like well who because i know my my brother my younger brothers like they know

02:12:45.980 about more streamer people or twitch people than i do so i asked about like yeah like we know him i'm like

02:12:50.540 like oh cool right but so really quick on the sponsorship thing so we when people message they

02:12:57.900 want to come on we mentioned that we do have like a sponsorship tier that like if a company reaches out

02:13:03.740 to us via email and they're like hey we want to sponsor the podcast sometimes people we haven't

02:13:08.380 set it up yet but we offer them hey we can do a 30 to 60 ad 30 to 60 second ad read but if you also

02:13:16.300 have someone that represents your company that you want them to sit like we had a we didn't set it up

02:13:20.940 yet but there's a dating app a conservative excuse me conservative dating app company and they're like

02:13:27.660 well let let's put our founder on the panel we can sponsor an episode so we have different sponsorship

02:13:32.380 packages um this isn't me like trying to milk money from people i haven't nobody's taken me up on this yet

02:13:41.100 it's just hey if you're really dead set on coming and being on the show we offer this as an opportunity

02:13:46.460 again if you're dead set and you want to be on the show um here's an opportunity otherwise it's just

02:13:52.380 that's the that's the option or it's just a flat out we have to we can't put you on the show so

02:13:58.940 it is what it is let me pull it up though um don't be modest listen he's got a great show

02:14:03.580 people want to be on it sorry not sorry i'm not like just to make something clear like if you're a

02:14:09.180 smaller creator there's nothing like some people like to uh oh you only have 10 000 followers you're

02:14:15.180 you're you're lame it's not it's not that it's just a practicality thing like how many people

02:14:19.900 would love the opportunity to go on joe rogan podcast and they have they're not particularly

02:14:25.660 notable and they have 5 000 followers you could line up a million people that would love the

02:14:30.140 opportunity to get that kind of exposure on joe rogan but the sheer fact that like joe rogan has

02:14:35.580 probably a screening process not everybody's gonna get to go on a major show who else is really

02:14:41.260 big i don't know who's mr beast i would love to collaborate with mr beast the reality is is that

02:14:47.900 my audience size is nowhere near approaching comparable to his like he would probably want

02:14:53.740 to collaborate with somebody who the whole point of collaboration typically is to you know you exchange

02:15:00.460 your audience a little bit um so and also you okay let me find let me try to find the dms okay i'm

02:15:07.660 just because sorry i had a question for you actually so yes oh do you said you were saving yourself till

02:15:15.180 marriage so does does saving yourself for marriage mean like doing nothing physically intimate at all

02:15:22.300 until you're married or hold on let me we'll come back to that i'll just read the messages so

02:15:28.460 he messaged me back in may saying he debated destiny and then he says it'd be cool to go on

02:15:35.260 and teach men to date with the intention of marriage and why the red pill guys are a bunch of cucks

02:15:41.340 okay i think he sounds great just kidding so but like if you're do you can see if you consider me red

02:15:51.740 pill if you are in your first message your solicitation your solicitation to come be on the show is by

02:15:58.460 calling me or people that i associate with cucks my dude like you need to have a bit of grace when you

02:16:07.260 are soliciting to come into someone's studio and be on their show you like step one of getting onto a

02:16:15.740 podcast do not insult the person who are you who you are asking to let you on the podcast it's it's

02:16:23.100 uh how to win friends and influence people very simple um let me read the rest here um and then

02:16:29.340 we were we gave you a response by the way we didn't just leave you on red we told you hey man and we

02:16:35.340 give a like when we turn people down it's a very polite hey thank you for your message unfortunately we're

02:16:40.380 just you know we get so many messages we can't accommodate everybody um so i said currently we're

02:16:46.140 not accepting accepting applications and then you started arguing with me about my polite rejection

02:16:54.540 brother you need to learn how to handle rejection way better um and then i didn't respond to you and

02:17:01.420 then in august you said i'm a dork who invites whores on your show for clickbait just continue to affirm

02:17:08.940 these type of whore women uh excuse me dorks are six feet so you've you've proceeded is it any

02:17:17.340 surprise i didn't give you a heartfelt invitation to the studio when you're calling me you're insulting

02:17:22.300 me at home and then you're calling the women listen i invite women on who i disagree with but bro if

02:17:29.020 you're like come on brother it's i don't want to invite a guy on who's just going to sit across

02:17:35.180 from women and call them you know let's see what else um and then you just continue you continue um

02:17:44.860 like these are the receipts this is the tea right here let's see what else um drama i think your

02:17:49.820 point is very cool i don't have i don't have any issues with this guy but look at the end of the day

02:17:58.060 when it comes to collaboration there needs to there typically there needs to be comparable level

02:18:03.340 or excuse me comparable audience size and again step one of getting on a podcast don't insult the

02:18:10.220 person who would invite you on the podcast very simple okay moving on sorry i ranted there for way

02:18:14.700 too fucking long um marshall oh okay this one wait did he send two they sent two okay see and he's like

02:18:22.140 he's publicly um okay we got it cool um

02:18:26.380 um let's see we have fdg obesity is a disease not an opinion a fact how do you justify to yourself

02:18:34.860 not only being obese but also perpetuating the situation you could lose 40 pounds and still be

02:18:39.580 fat enough to be plus size and keep your job are you just too lazy to have a healthier lifestyle do

02:18:44.380 you guys want to respond how do you know that i didn't already lose 40 pounds like you don't know

02:18:49.420 my weight well how much do i weigh do you know do you know how much i weighed two months ago like

02:18:54.380 i feel like a fat phobia is so insidious in our society um that people are like they want to say

02:19:00.860 it's about health but you just hate fat people you don't like fat people it's not about it's not about

02:19:06.940 what you're talking about like health and things like that you don't give a damn about my health

02:19:10.140 you don't care if i'm healthy or not you just hate seeing fat people win you hate seeing fat people

02:19:15.100 love themselves you hate seeing fat people have confidence and it's that's your problem not mine it's

02:19:19.500 giving a little obsession because for you to sit there and say that i'm not healthy i mean

02:19:24.460 respectfully i was a competitive figure skater for 13 years at 212 pounds and did that mean that

02:19:29.740 i was getting gold medals this entire time competing against girls who were half my weight just meant

02:19:33.500 i was twice as strong as they were we were doing the same jumps we were doing the same spin people

02:19:37.180 weren't considering me to be an athlete even though i was i still daily work out i hit the gym regularly

02:19:43.020 i observe a healthy healthy lifestyle i i've intermittent fast so the problem i think what you're reaching

02:19:49.420 at is assuming that just because the way you look equals to what your health is and i feel like

02:19:54.620 that's where we need to get away from it because wherever whatever tribe i was from they just they

02:19:58.620 carry weight just a little differently that's like assuming and i say this all the time that someone

02:20:02.220 from thailand is the same as someone from samoa those are two different body types and they they're

02:20:06.300 both justified you're not going to look at someone who's from small and be like well you should be smaller

02:20:10.380 why because someone else no we each respectfully are just a little different and i would love to

02:20:14.700 see what you look like yeah i would like sneakers i would like to reply mine's a little bit different

02:20:21.420 so obesity is a disease that is a fact um i truly believe that your size and your body is a symptom of

02:20:28.300 what is going on inside and other factors that kind of she said there's genetic factors there's also

02:20:33.180 influencing influencing factors or the factors that influence and maybe make the condition worse so

02:20:40.620 i truly believe that obesity is not just a cosmetic topic it is also a health topic and i also believe

02:20:46.860 that we should support and respect people who are obese but i truly believe that we shouldn't

02:20:52.380 necessarily advocate for people to become obese and big and big and big and have that be something

02:20:57.980 that's like super super celebrated but we also shouldn't disrespect people who are big because there's

02:21:03.100 a lot to their story there's a lot of factors um but yeah that's my take into it i disagree

02:21:09.340 because uh we're all so focused that's what i mean it stems from fat phobia and people hating fat

02:21:14.700 people because if people cared about health the people who are dying of anorexia dying of bulimia

02:21:20.700 having all these uh eating disorders are so thin they're celebrated for their sickness they're literally

02:21:26.460 dying because they're starving um and people are congratulating them because of how much weight they

02:21:31.820 lost how thin they look oh they're doing great like even doctors like our medical system is fat phobic

02:21:37.180 like every time i'll go in for i don't know an eye infection yes you know you need to lose weight

02:21:43.180 like okay but like but they don't say that to thin people who are literally dying of being too thin

02:21:48.940 they just assume but that's but that doesn't mean that being obese cannot put you in a higher risk

02:21:55.100 only because they don't concern the other end of the spectrum so me like i've i've had an anorexia

02:22:00.140 before i've been sick and i've been in a recovery and when i lost a lot of weight when i was 13 and

02:22:06.460 me being obese has cost me a lot of symptoms a lot of stomach issues so i'm not going to be here and

02:22:12.380 say that being obese is doesn't mean that you're not a higher risk you are in a higher risk

02:22:17.100 to put have joint pains have asthma um stretch marks you know those are symptoms that your skin

02:22:23.020 is going through trauma those are like there's facts there's signs behind it um fat phobia that's

02:22:27.740 a different topic right that's that is true there are people who treat you different because you're

02:22:32.220 fat i've or i'm fat i've had people treat me different because i'm fat look at me themselves

02:22:36.060 different because exactly and so there is like some discrimination because of how we look um but again

02:22:42.380 you are right like being anorexic is not healthy i've just how i feel like being

02:22:46.780 more morbidly obese is not healthy both of them are not healthy but only because they celebrate

02:22:51.820 those who are anorexia um doesn't mean that you know doesn't give us the wave room or like people

02:22:58.380 who are struggling with a lot of severe um issues for being obese doesn't mean that hey we're we we

02:23:04.140 should be celebrated too in that way we should be celebrated for who we are not just because we're

02:23:10.220 fat you should celebrate me no there's there's a lot more than our size do you have a quick response to

02:23:14.460 who um i i hear what you're saying but unfortunately the world that we live in uh it it's really not

02:23:22.220 about health people are not talking about your health because they don't care about you they

02:23:26.220 care about how you look and they're offended that you look that way they're feeling good about yourself

02:23:30.860 and feel good about if you're a fat person with confidence who loves yourself people are offended

02:23:35.340 because you shouldn't love yourself well yeah i'm forget but sorry about the curse but like what i'm

02:23:40.300 saying is like like people fat phobia is really ingrained in our society um it's insidious it's

02:23:47.820 destroying lives and it's people want to hide it under the disguise of you need to be healthy you're

02:23:53.340 a stranger on the internet you do not care about my health let's cut that cut the shit you're just

02:23:58.140 trying to justify your hatred towards fat people and i feel like our society and like yes some people may

02:24:04.220 have good intentions like oh you you know you should lose weight for your health fine but why is it that

02:24:08.860 nobody is even paying attention to people who are literally wasting away in silence like there are

02:24:14.140 women men talking like anorexia yes they're wasting away in silence because nobody's giving them any

02:24:18.860 attention because their looks don't severely offend society they don't care who's that girl she's like

02:24:25.420 a youtuber oh yeah what's her name she's uh no she's like proper anorexic and she has to like eat she

02:24:33.420 like does a journal of what she's gonna eat that day i don't i don't know but i saw a video recently

02:24:39.100 and like she got she was like yo that people were definitely not in favor of anorexia like people

02:24:47.180 have i don't think anorexia like you look people are pretty harsh on that too i think they are i think

02:24:53.420 but just to move keep things moving a little bit um we have a response to you guys she says no i'm a

02:25:00.540 doctor i care what does it mean you're not my doctor so you don't care about me that's the thing

02:25:05.820 though she just said that like we'll go into a doctor for something that's completely not related

02:25:09.260 to anything and they'll just assume by looking at you like i went to a doctor to become legal and he

02:25:14.780 was like to become legal to carry my medical card oh cannabis and um he was like it was like you know

02:25:22.940 he was like well have you considered diet have you considered exercise um yes sir i hit the gym every

02:25:27.420 day like i eat i'm a pescatarian so like him just looking at me he would make an assumption based on

02:25:33.660 my whole thing is like i don't promote obesity i think that you should be working out i think you

02:25:38.540 should be definitely trying to eat healthy and live a healthy lifestyle that being said what you are

02:25:44.140 today why hate yourself why can't you love yourself as you are right now no matter if it's obese no

02:25:49.100 matter if it's super skinny and continue to work to be a better person in general because that's what

02:25:52.940 we're here to do anyways on earth why don't we not work to be a better person but still love who

02:25:57.100 we are right now like i cannot sit here and hate myself because you guys don't like the way i look

02:26:01.900 and hate how i'm dressed and hate everything about myself now so you guys can be happy about a future

02:26:06.540 me i could die tomorrow and then what i hated myself i agree i feel like people need to like let people

02:26:12.380 have the space to live their life as they are now like yeah i may not be the ideal size for you to

02:26:18.460 like what how i look or whatever but that doesn't mean that i need to be bombarded every single day

02:26:23.020 about oh you need to lose weight you need to lose weight like what kind of life is that when everybody

02:26:27.500 has an unsolicited opinion about how your body looks and how you your body should be just because

02:26:33.100 they think it's not right like and it usually has to do with self-hatred just like when people

02:26:37.580 like when guys are not like cool with gay guys it's usually underlying facet like maybe you're actually

02:26:42.060 attracted to and i usually think it's a projection they don't like it in themselves so they're

02:26:45.340 going to sit there and make you feel bad about it and i don't feel bad and i don't either all

02:26:49.260 right we have a chat here austin smith brian you should do the same show in thailand for a special

02:26:53.100 episode you could easily get girls on tinder there what's stopping you also that boo hat is hilarious

02:26:59.100 madison turn to the side so they can see the super cute it's so cute i think other other way

02:27:06.380 majin boo this is madison vu oh that's cute there you go cool um thank you man uh thailand i i mean

02:27:15.100 i would love to i've always thought about taking the show on on the road on tour hit different

02:27:20.540 cities whether that's in the us take it to europe take it to uh what southeast asia but uh i mean

02:27:27.740 that's uh i don't know maybe in the future but it's it's already enough work and difficult enough

02:27:33.900 doing it locally here it'd be cool to do a tour bus though hit different cities get different

02:27:38.940 perspectives um also i mean do it in thailand specific do they do thai women are they fluent

02:27:46.780 in english i suspect not i mean most countries they have to learn english though so they might

02:27:54.780 know a little bit more than we would know thai language of money there's might be a language barrier

02:27:59.500 oh mad maddie over here is thai right oh are you wait do you speak it also i don't speak it

02:28:06.620 oh okay i don't like really understand i think i don't really understand i like literally english is

02:28:12.060 my only you're 100 percent thai i'm full asian wow cool good times all right we have brandon melz

02:28:19.660 what's up guys to the lady in front of brian if a man is going to financially support you completely

02:28:23.900 what exactly do you bring to the table i love that why would i want to pay for your life well

02:28:31.020 we actually have a video of you that may play first and then you can uh go gabby uh let it uh

02:28:37.900 hold on let's just wait okay go ahead go ahead okay oh nick can you move us up i love the natural

02:28:45.820 they just make sure they always get around oh yeah i do all my videos in bed

02:28:50.700 this is the broke boy anthem so what do you bring to the table babe if you're a grown man

02:28:58.220 and you're asking me what i bring to the table yeah you're broke you're a bum and you clearly are

02:29:07.020 saying that's like another way of saying but i need you to pay half the bills gabby i need you

02:29:12.300 to pull your weight around here but my thing is i only date providers i only date men who

02:29:19.820 can and is able to provide for me so a real man a man that i would be interested in he wouldn't be

02:29:27.180 asking me all that he wouldn't be asking me what i bring to the table i am the table i show up i be me

02:29:33.580 right this that's what i offer i'm there that's how you know i'm interested i don't need to show

02:29:39.260 interest by paying for half the date i just need to show up for you to know that i'm interested

02:29:46.140 okay and i'll know when you're interested when you're paying when when you're paying yeah do you

02:29:52.300 want to pay for things do you want to add anything to the video or does that pretty much i mean i just

02:29:57.580 feel like the only guys who have ever asked me what i bring to the table are guys who cannot afford

02:30:03.900 me and that's okay because guys when i date guys that can't afford me i never ever ever hear them

02:30:10.300 question what i bring to the table they just do and i like that sure i guess aside from dismissing

02:30:18.860 you know let's say these all these men that are asking you what you bring to the table they are

02:30:23.260 they're they're broke they can't afford you but i mean let's let's say the question's in good faith

02:30:29.820 right what what would you say you do bring to the table i can answer that if it's in good faith but

02:30:33.820 i'm used to answering boys and so this is not for the brook boys not for the brook boys yeah so okay i

02:30:40.060 i bring femininity i bring support i i am i make a house a home i'm a real renaissance woman

02:30:48.620 i cook i clean i love kids and babies i want to have a bunch of them i am uh i will make your life

02:30:55.580 better i will multiply which you bring like you multiply your money multiply your funds multiple

02:31:00.860 like you know have things together so that you feel more supported as a man like as you're going

02:31:06.220 out and breadwinning and taking care of our family financially i'm gonna make you feel better about

02:31:12.700 yourself and about your mission and what you're doing because we're together as a family we're together

02:31:16.940 as a team and i'm supporting it my 50 is my support as your woman your wife and i feel like that you

02:31:24.780 get so much more than just what you're giving like you you may be giving like the money part of the

02:31:30.620 finances financial party may be taking care of us in that way well i'm taking care of our family in

02:31:34.460 another way and i feel like that is in a set in a sense 50 50 because we're working as a team we're

02:31:39.740 getting all our needs done we're getting everything taken care of together but you have to come with

02:31:45.180 something i can't work with nothing so that was a great answer okay okay so she said she is the table

02:31:55.740 you are the table yep and we're sturdy too solid foundation

02:32:04.300 uh so we have so many more videos to get to so i'm going to try to run through it quickly are you guys

02:32:09.980 familiar with the delusion calculator have you heard about this tell me more so nick are you able

02:32:18.620 to pull up the uh calculator so it's a calculator you input and i'd be really curious to see what what

02:32:23.900 you put what all of you put in so uh let me read this really quick from plan life what does what does

02:32:30.220 the panel think about the toxicity of the body positive movement example number one adele lost a

02:32:35.980 great deal of weight and was subsequently labeled fat phobic by some of her fans uh your i guess your

02:32:42.300 reaction to the whole adele losing weight thing and then people are gonna say what they're gonna

02:32:46.060 say i'm pretty sure like personally i don't i don't mind it like whatever like you're gonna you're gonna

02:32:50.940 not like me because i'm this you're not gonna like me because of that there's always gonna be someone

02:32:53.900 to not like you that her real fans are not gonna sit there and not like her because she lost weight

02:32:58.300 they're gonna care about her vocals and their songs and i was just worried about her vocals to be

02:33:01.980 honest because you know they say it's it ain't over till the fat lady sings i was just worried about oh my

02:33:05.740 gosh can she say can she still sing can she still carry that baritone vibes and like her boys that's

02:33:10.700 all i was worried about i honestly didn't have a problem with her losing weight she's doing what's

02:33:14.300 best for her i don't think it's an issue i just think that people should not have like such a an

02:33:20.460 outrageous opinion on others bodies like if you do what you want with your body like who am i to tell

02:33:25.500 you how to live your life you want to be fat do that you want to be thin do that as long as you're

02:33:29.740 healthy you're not harming you're taking care of yourself that's fine you want to be broke do that but

02:33:35.500 he he asked about the toxicity of the body positivity movement and i would say that would

02:33:39.740 you guys consider yourselves like uh part of the body pot like do you i do do you think

02:33:47.180 being plus size or being overweight that's kind of part of

02:33:50.620 body positivity or no it's loving yourself yeah i think it relates a lot to fatter people because

02:33:57.100 you know body because like again we're not that phobic fat phobia is ingrained in our society so body

02:34:02.220 positivity came up so that you know we can accept and love our fat bodies when society has rejected

02:34:08.060 us yes for generations so it came in a point where we're like done feeling bad about our bodies and we

02:34:13.580 wanted something for ourselves and that's why the body positivity movement started so that we can have

02:34:19.500 that support group and i know when i first became a model first of all i didn't know that i could be a

02:34:23.580 model like i didn't know that there's one such thing as a plus size model so when that was uh like

02:34:27.900 that opportunity was afforded to me that's when i feel like i've joined a group of beautiful you know

02:34:33.420 big plus size fat women um where i felt supported in my uh body type without feeling bad about myself

02:34:41.100 and i feel like the body positivity movement has evolved into a point where it's now a fat acceptance

02:34:48.940 movement and uh you know people want to be you know fat liberated versus just body positivity because

02:34:56.300 again we're trying to get rid of this i this fat phobia that's been ingrained in our society so the fat

02:35:01.260 acceptance liberation movement is now where we're coming where we're like being unapologetic

02:35:05.660 about our body is that what it's called the fat acceptance liberation movement fat acceptance

02:35:09.820 liberation what's that abbreviation yeah liberate liberate from what's being liberate from from the

02:35:16.140 oppression from yeah i guess from the oppression of the the the diet the diet culture liberated from salads

02:35:22.780 well no like they they society deems what you can wear they deem what you can wear what you can

02:35:29.100 say where you can go like you don't even you can't go certain places like for instance on certain

02:35:33.980 rides yeah or in the plane you might be uncomfortable wait sir like you mean like carnival like roller

02:35:39.500 coasters you can't you can't be past like what 250 or something like that well i think that's like

02:35:43.980 probably for safety and i don't trust those rinky-dink rides anyways like i'm i wouldn't i don't

02:35:50.220 want to go on any of that shit either i've seen some crazy ass videos but i know i get but that's

02:35:54.300 probably don't you think that's just like a physics thing like it's not i mean they could make it

02:35:58.380 bigger because there are bigger people they should just redo the why not the ride america's getting

02:36:04.060 fatter by the day why not adjust to the times it's just like when i go to old theaters on broadway in

02:36:09.900 new york the seats are like child size i'm like there's no way a regular thin person could fit this

02:36:15.580 like it's like child size so and it was made back in like the 20s or something so like

02:36:19.580 you know people have gotten bigger maybe you should make the seats bigger especially on planes

02:36:24.060 and it's not for me i don't have an issue with like plane seats but i'm tall so my knees if you're a

02:36:29.020 tall person on a plane that sucks because your knees are like in the next person's chair you're

02:36:33.580 really uncomfortable and it's like it's you know height too so well i think we can all agree plus

02:36:39.340 size or not uh airplane seats suck yeah yeah they suck it's not a lot of space and they do suck over

02:36:47.740 the years they've gotten smaller and smaller so the service has gotten they used to give you meals

02:36:51.980 they don't even give you water anymore for free that's six dollars for water no that's six dollars

02:36:56.700 for a water bottle on a flight highway robbery yeah right all of them all of them i've been on that

02:37:03.820 that they charge no you got to get some water well i do so but when it comes to the body positive

02:37:09.980 positivity movement i'm pretty sure the origins of that movement were it wasn't about people who are

02:37:15.900 overweight or plus size or it was about people who had like body deformities and that were uh

02:37:23.020 not in their control disabled i didn't hear about it until like if you had a scar or something or you

02:37:28.300 had like a uh you were an amputee that was body positivity but i mean when i don't that's my

02:37:35.500 understanding of the origins of body positivity but then it my understanding it kind of got co-opted by

02:37:40.300 but i didn't know that i only knew it as a plus size because i was around plus size people yeah

02:37:45.580 so i didn't know that that wasn't a thing i think that was the origin story it was so liberating the

02:37:49.980 moment that you were taught the moment that i was what i got to learn that like i am beautiful as is

02:37:55.500 like that was like such an amazing feeling to know that like as i am i'm good enough for somebody

02:38:01.420 you know what i mean and before like no matter how much it worked out didn't matter what i did

02:38:04.860 i didn't feel like i was good enough because of what everyone else had opinion about what i was

02:38:08.940 doing never mind the fact that i was competitive as an ice skater it never mind that i was actually

02:38:13.420 physically an athlete didn't look we have videos other videos oh yeah go to my improv go to my um

02:38:17.740 instagram nick if you're able to pull that up i didn't pull it up i just went like to what last

02:38:22.700 week i go all the time cute yeah you were a professional ice skater i was professional well

02:38:27.500 professionally you mean to get paid actually i was on old navy you were a very good ice skater

02:38:30.940 i'm professional as well because i got paid in old navy too yeah so i was their chubby ice skater

02:38:35.660 i did t-mobile i did tinder what at what point do you guys think there was this shift where these

02:38:40.780 companies were more open to working with plus-size people is it like the demand 2016 the demand i think

02:38:46.380 when ashley graham hit the covers of um who's that sports illustrated ashley graham she's one of the

02:38:51.660 most famous plus-size models and she hit who the hook is that guy sorry i'm not she's the most famous

02:38:57.980 like not the most like one of the most famous you'd give her a chance she's one of the most

02:39:01.500 famous plus-size models um and she hit the cover of sports illustrated which is has been known for

02:39:07.820 like as a men's magazine for like decades and they only feature size zero women and she's a size 16 18

02:39:14.300 yeah she's sports illustrated my friend veronica poem is also on it shout out to veronica you did so

02:39:20.220 good you're on sports illustrated too she's also a lot of my friends are on sports illustrated well

02:39:24.540 ashley graham opened the doors and wow they feature a lot of plus-size women but i don't

02:39:28.620 know about the bankruptcy we have your ice skating video let's pull it up i've got a bunch of them

02:39:32.220 what you want there's one right there that third one right there that of me falling go up i like

02:39:37.100 i like the one indoor let's do both we'll do both yeah we'll do indoor and then the okay go ahead

02:39:41.820 this is for doja i love you baby if you can move it wait you gotta play the music x out x out

02:39:46.060 x out oh my god move us over move us over and let's get some music going this is for doja i love you

02:39:51.820 you're doing your thing yeah we love doja doja cat doja cat make mama proud to my head no no no no

02:39:58.140 nick mute it mute it mute it no don't mute it mute it mute it mute it oh just joking

02:40:05.020 so this is me doing a tick tock so obviously i'm not skating as much there but if you go to the one

02:40:09.100 above you can see that's impressive still okay all right hey what do you call that what move that's a

02:40:14.460 scratch spin a scratch what a scratch spin oh scratch spin okay nick play the play the one above yeah

02:40:20.460 that one that one's fun can you can't play the music of this one no we can't well they say um this

02:40:25.100 is why they don't let me play at weddings anymore and then it's like romantic music sometimes get in

02:40:30.300 the way you just want to show the feeling for you ding and then it goes where is this

02:40:38.460 that was downtown los angeles at the pike at the um at not pike it's um it uh metro the metro station

02:40:55.820 downtown i don't know it's the one they have outdoors not the la live one and i actually on

02:41:00.860 new year's this last year in the middle of the night i took my skates because i've got obviously

02:41:04.940 my own skates and i went skating for new year's yeah i've got that's also on my page but i went

02:41:11.020 skating in the middle of the night on new year's because i stole some ice time don't okay good good

02:41:16.700 times you're good you're very talented uh ice skater thank you i can dance too nick if you're able to

02:41:20.940 pull up the video one of the first videos from the uh trying to do you know what i'm talking about nick

02:41:29.820 this went viral like two years ago so this is a little dated but i think no no no no no no

02:41:37.260 oh i had a video go viral as well for ice skating they were all it's like the first video

02:41:42.860 they were all surprised they're surprised in fact we'll do anything

02:41:45.900 i get like 600 000 views on tiktok amazing they thought it pushed it on green

02:41:51.660 yeah here it is have you guys seen this video no okay go ahead hey bestie

02:41:57.980 you're wrong i think it's time for another adult pre-k lesson what do you think all right turn

02:42:06.620 your listening ears on you catch a bubble in your mouth good job okay here's the thing having a

02:42:15.740 preference is something like i'm looking for a partner who likes kayaking or wakes up early in the

02:42:21.900 morning or loves pizza but when your preferences exclude an entire group of marginalized people

02:42:31.500 that's problematic okay that's not nice that's not a preference if you love all fat people in

02:42:37.180 one group together as though they are not very different individuals that's fat phobic just like

02:42:43.660 lumping all black people in one group and saying i don't like black people is racist and lumping all

02:42:48.140 disabled people in one group and saying i don't think people in wheelchairs are hot is ableist do

02:42:53.580 you understand what i'm saying i disagree

02:42:59.900 i disagree i disagree no i don't think it's fair to have uh to kind of get down on people when it

02:43:06.460 comes to their preference in dating because this is a person that you have to live with you have to

02:43:10.540 sleep with you have to make meals with like if you're gonna have to ingrain this person into your

02:43:14.940 personal life they should be of the same mindset or same values of you are you gonna have problems

02:43:19.980 like how are you gonna be with someone that you're not attracted to that you don't get along with that

02:43:23.660 you have different uh religious beliefs things like that and i feel like it's okay to have a

02:43:28.140 preference or to discriminate when it comes to your dating preferences because you're ingraining your

02:43:33.820 whole life you're giving up your life pretty much to be with this person to create a life with this

02:43:38.540 person so no i disagree when it comes to dating when it comes to other things jobs you know things like

02:43:44.140 that yeah that's messed up you shouldn't discriminate when it comes to other things

02:43:49.100 but your personal relationship yes you can have a preference i agree gotcha so do you think for

02:43:54.060 example someone who didn't want to date somebody who was plus size or overweight you disagree that

02:44:01.420 uh you disagree that it's not discriminatory it's not fat phobic no because i if like i've had guys tell

02:44:10.540 me that i am uh that they're not sexually attracted to me and they wouldn't date me or be with me and

02:44:16.220 that makes me so happy because i can avoid them and i can use my time and my energy to guys that

02:44:22.300 actually like my body type and how i look and you don't have to change yourself just yeah and then i

02:44:26.460 waste less time like again i'm a time person don't waste my time so if you if you told me up front

02:44:30.860 i'm not your type and you don't like the way i look great thank you so much for being honest

02:44:34.460 up front and not wasting my time i'll go on to the next yes so i would like to talk about this so um

02:44:40.780 there's there's a way i organize attractiveness so think about a triangle right and there's three

02:44:46.460 corners the first one is appearances this is basically what is visible to the eye this includes

02:44:51.740 your body shape how you look your clothing your mannerism the other point is basically your character

02:44:58.780 involves who you are as an individual your personality introvert extrovert you know your

02:45:03.340 attitude stuff like that and then the third one is basically social status that that basically means

02:45:10.380 what is the amount of value you add to society and that includes your career how much money you make

02:45:14.940 the influences and then this circle this triangle of of attractiveness is within a circle and that

02:45:21.820 circle is called preferences within preferences there's the norm right like the beauty standards when majority

02:45:28.060 of the people would say thumbs ups too and then there's those like exceptions or outliers and this

02:45:34.460 is kind of like how i view attractiveness and you need to score high on all three of them within the

02:45:40.700 person's preferences in order for them to see as attractive and for them to want to pursue something

02:45:45.900 with you and everyone has a right to choose who they want to be because you're going to have intimate

02:45:51.100 intercourse with someone so how they look matters you know some people like people who are more like

02:45:56.380 chocolate some people don't like you know so i feel like everyone deserves to have that preference

02:46:01.580 and that's my take in it can i just ask what is there to be said with like i've had this happen

02:46:07.100 where i fell in love with a guy who i wasn't necessarily attracted to when i first met and then

02:46:12.460 over time getting to know him and his personality and whatnot i found him to be the most attractive

02:46:16.540 guy because i fell in love with him yeah that happens you know what i mean like maybe there

02:46:21.420 so i don't honestly all the time look for if i find them to be physically attractive there's going

02:46:26.540 to be things that obviously i'm going to be it's going to be a no-go but they're just like we're

02:46:30.060 men you've got a wider range i'm going to have a range of unattractive and attractiveness level

02:46:35.340 based on how you treat me because if you have a gorgeous guy who acts like a dick he's not going

02:46:39.420 to be attractive if you have a guy that's mediocre and acts amazing he's going to be fine as

02:46:43.020 fuck yeah like that's just and that's how i'm yeah yeah it's kind of like going back to those

02:46:48.140 three things right your appearances your character and your social status some people care more about

02:46:52.860 the social status do you make this amount of money okay then i can you know you're kind of ugly but

02:46:57.100 whatever the money the money takes the money covers that right so everyone has their preferences and

02:47:03.340 everyone kind of within those three they kind of choose which one is more important for them you

02:47:07.580 know and some people compromise some people choose not to some people are pickier some people are not

02:47:12.300 they're very open to anything so okay yeah we let's see so i would categorize it a preference

02:47:19.500 though to what she said i think that it is a preference and i think that that's okay right

02:47:24.060 um i think what that sounded like to me is i'm sad because i'm not in your preference yeah which is

02:47:29.340 that's a good point that i mean that's okay but you have to stop stop running after the person who

02:47:33.340 doesn't want you and stop so the people who want you can catch up and there's so many people who want

02:47:37.580 you i don't care how you look there is people who want you focus on them and i tell women on my

02:47:42.460 tiktok all the time date men who like you yes don't stop wasting your time with guys that don't

02:47:48.060 text you back don't call you back like or just stringing you off for what you look good girl go

02:47:53.660 find you a man that likes you and i will say only because you don't see yourself dating them you

02:47:58.140 still need to respect them as a human being right that's where fat phobia comes in and all the other

02:48:02.460 stuff coming racism and all that stuff just respect them yeah they're not your type then move on yeah

02:48:06.860 don't waste my time yeah i think kind of where she's kind of getting at the the video we just

02:48:12.220 reacted to it's kind it almost felt like a defense mechanism for trying to justify why she's lonely

02:48:18.300 yeah like it's she had some good points you know what i mean but the thing is is that it still came

02:48:23.820 from a place where it seemed like it was hurt and that's the problem was if once we get to a point

02:48:28.220 where i don't need to be hurt by these outside outliers i won't have to necessarily care if anyone's

02:48:32.140 judging me right yeah of course i think you were saying i don't know if it was if it was gabby or you

02:48:37.100 but um of course i think treating people who are overweight with either hate or disgust or calling

02:48:44.940 names shaming them um i think that's highly inappropriate um but on the other hand i don't

02:48:51.500 think like obesity should be glorified i agree yeah and that's the other thing the problem i have with

02:48:57.820 like self-love or kind of like the what you said is like is your body do whatever you want i

02:49:01.900 totally disagree with that because there is a limit like if i truly love one of my like my siblings

02:49:07.260 and i see that she's doing things to her body that might cause her a lot of risk um or something and

02:49:12.780 be like you know what let's talk let's have this conversation out of love so no i don't believe

02:49:16.780 that oh it's your body do whatever you want can you yeah you have the free will but with the people

02:49:21.180 that i love close to me that does not like if you want to cut yourself no don't do that like we're not

02:49:26.220 going to do that you know there's a limit to that and we we want to come in a place of like you need

02:49:30.860 help let's talk about it um but i feel like saying hey you know you're big keep eating more keep eating

02:49:36.060 more when you know that they're that they're struggling with that probably telling them oh

02:49:40.460 keep doing it might not be the best way to show them love it's like hey let's talk who's hurting you

02:49:44.860 what's going on what's going inside your heart your mind and and every and just kind of care about

02:49:49.660 them go to the root of the issue instead of just putting a beautiful band-aid on it and saying oh yeah

02:49:53.980 you look beautiful go do whatever you want or something like that but i also don't think it's

02:49:57.340 beneficial to hate yourself you shouldn't hate yourself because you're big you need to be yeah

02:50:01.340 there's a balance you need to be like love yourself i want to say something on that though as somebody

02:50:06.380 who currently needs to lose like 20 pounds i kind of want to be body shamed like i want my chat i

02:50:12.700 want the people in my chat me too to be like pudgy brian brian okay you're pudgy lose some

02:50:19.660 fucking weight tell me i need to lose weight because i'm probably listen i want to lose some

02:50:24.300 weight i got i used to have a six-pack i i used to have a six-pack now i don't i mean i want someone

02:50:31.340 to invite me like hey let's go let's go get some body shaming please siblings and close to you

02:50:37.740 sure that's my siblings yeah some random doctor i don't know in the chat who are you but no why does

02:50:43.580 your opinion matters on how of fdg she can fdg you can shame me anybody you can't shame me

02:50:51.100 i don't know who you are please body shame me i don't recognize you pudgy brian i want to see

02:50:55.180 pudgy brian in the chat i do want to say something about this i'm sorry i didn't mean to cut you off

02:50:59.660 but i was a obese child i'm not sure you guys were too and sometimes i do look back and i tell like my

02:51:07.420 parents i'm like you saw me this big like didn't you kind of like you know teach me about how to

02:51:14.380 eat better like i wish you could have done something when i was younger um i wish i couldn't learn more

02:51:19.340 i you know and i was like i felt like you just didn't care and i felt like i wish there was people

02:51:25.500 to tell you hey like you're not this is people didn't tell you that over and over again as a kid

02:51:31.340 you're the chubby kid literally that was my entire life i was on slim fast at age 11 i was an athlete

02:51:37.100 and then they're only calling me fat who puts an 11 year old on slim fast yes that's what is it jenny

02:51:42.940 craig weight watchers weight watchers that's like 10 i mean i ended up trying to go like on pills and

02:51:49.340 having shots in my ass trying to meet this standard because i'm an actor that's that phobia and my

02:51:53.180 teacher told me my teacher literally in college and i love him he's dear but he told me your face works

02:51:58.300 against your body your face says ingenue and your body says character so for you to be able to make

02:52:02.140 it or do anything in hollywood you're gonna have to make them match up so either i have to get uglier

02:52:06.220 i'd have to get thinner so at that point he was like ask one of the you know the one of the girls

02:52:10.380 in your class what she's doing she's lost a lot of weight i asked her she said i stopped eating

02:52:14.460 so i was like okay i'll stop eating so i stopped eating i lost some weight then the first time i ate i

02:52:19.100 gorged and i could not throw up okay so i'm over here now i'm gorging and i can't throw up yes i'm

02:52:23.740 binging and so that didn't work for me i wasn't able to be anorexic because bulimia doesn't

02:52:28.060 work and that's what they lead to so i wasn't allowed to do this but still negating the fact

02:52:31.820 that i'm in dance class every day i can do the splits like i'm dancing i've got more athleticism

02:52:36.380 than the next person that i'm being compared to how why should i chase that i'm not saying

02:52:42.140 that you should not try to be healthy but in today you need to learn how to love yourself in the day

02:52:48.700 you know what i mean and people who are coming they're not your family who are telling you hey look

02:52:52.380 at your weight look hey look at what you're doing these people are sitting there telling me these things

02:52:56.380 they have no idea what i'm doing day to day and just to assume that that's already a problem well

02:53:00.620 that's what i said from the beginning they were they wanted you to lose weight for cosmetic reasons but

02:53:05.180 that's the thing it's always good weight is not just about how you know they would have to be about

02:53:09.260 your health as well meanwhile on one leg i can go down and come all yeah that's what they would say

02:53:14.380 all my whole entire life so it's like it doesn't matter at the end of the day someone's still going

02:53:17.980 to judge you based on your look no matter what you actually do physically so i'm not promoting

02:53:21.820 anything i'm just saying i as i am want to love who i am today that's what yes i want to work

02:53:27.260 towards getting better yes i want to see where that goes but i just want to love who i that i

02:53:30.620 want to love who i am today i don't want to love who i am tomorrow i think self-love is loving yourself

02:53:34.700 with things you cannot control and the flaws you have but also self-love is not going into very

02:53:41.260 very bad yeah not going into bad habits that can have consequences whether that looks like

02:53:46.460 again you wait whether whatever that looks like because everyone's situation is different

02:53:50.860 that's self-love to me i would date a chubby asian woman yeah we know we said that is there

02:53:56.700 any chubby asian women on here writing you to write in the chat why not writing yeah we'll do the

02:54:03.260 calculator oh before calculator do twitch then we'll do calculator guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever

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02:54:29.340 pub test think for the five community subs man appreciate it uh pub test is the homie man thank

02:54:34.940 you so much uh spirited panda thank you for the resub with the prime really appreciate it three months

02:54:39.980 thank you man uh okay so let's do the calculator okay this is the delusional calculator okay all

02:54:48.860 right uh so what are the chances to find the man of my dreams so we're gonna scroll down here so we're

02:54:58.460 gonna start with actually i think we need can you put it on the other side yeah yeah perfect uh age for you

02:55:06.540 27 uh age range can you give us an age range of the men like the men you want that i want yeah yeah

02:55:13.180 like right now right from what age to what age i typically try not to date men under 30 so i would

02:55:19.260 say 30 to 46 45 okay yeah uh i assume exclude married i don't want them to be married okay i don't

02:55:29.180 know why that's even an option because some women don't care just like some men don't care yeah it's

02:55:34.060 gross i just feel like most women listen karma's a thing say exclude married um race i don't really

02:55:39.500 care i mean i i care when we get to the nitty-gritty and if you're like you have racist roots or

02:55:44.620 something i can't deal but like i'm not going to judge you in the beginning if i get to know that

02:55:49.100 you can't handle being with a black woman then it's over anyways but we'll just say any color or

02:55:53.180 shade in terms of what you want right your preference yeah this is your preference oh who am i more

02:55:58.220 attracted to like you you'll marry will you marry everybody okay everybody we'll keep it to any

02:56:04.060 color uh minimum heights six minimum height six feet gosh i really want to say well you're tall

02:56:10.060 right you're tall i'm five ten and in heels i'm six in heels she's six in heels i'm six three

02:56:15.900 really yeah do you have a nice pair of pumps at home i got some jimmy chews and some do you

02:56:20.780 red bottoms can we can we see a little picture of that of those on your feet i got some steve madden

02:56:26.780 can we see what i actually fit for them but for the other okay cool i am totally joking but uh

02:56:32.060 should we exclude obese no i mean what's considered obese because some people would consider me obese

02:56:38.380 so like what does obese mean like i know the bmi it depends on how you look do you look good can

02:56:43.260 you get up a flight of stairs yeah can you are you bedridden like i can't deal with bedridden like can

02:56:48.060 you can you walk can you you know what i mean like i'm gonna say that's a no to exclude you're

02:56:53.660 fine with obese yes i think she's okay with the the american version of obese sure okay yeah uh

02:56:59.900 minimum income uh looks about right yeah i would say 150 can i do 150 yeah okay we'll do 150 we'll do

02:57:07.900 yeah that's a good all right let's find out what uh my ideal man uh probability yeah it's zero

02:57:15.340 point three percent point three percent of men we want unicorns excuse me but we're not asking for

02:57:21.820 anything i'm not even i don't even go that strict on this calculator and it's point three how accurate

02:57:26.940 is this calculator yeah i question that so i would say uh when it comes to just height so granted you

02:57:33.500 are a tall woman but if you six feet and above that's only 15 percent of men so immediately just

02:57:38.220 if you need a guy who's six feet you've immediately excluded like 85 percent of men and then you factor in

02:57:43.900 income which is fairly high yeah you're looking at a very small proportion if i was a short woman i

02:57:48.860 wouldn't mind a guy who was shorter but i if i'm dunking on you bros like i don't know how

02:57:54.140 you know i just carry him over the threshold yeah i would just feel like oh like let me carry you

02:58:00.220 that could be romantic it could be it could be if he i mean i once dated a guy who was five eight and he

02:58:06.140 literally swept me off my feet not not physically but like short guys are hanging sometimes he has

02:58:11.180 charm like short guys have charm and they're funny and they they can get a you know because

02:58:15.500 they have to work a little bit harder on their personality because you know a lot of women like

02:58:19.260 tall men yeah so when you're shorter you have to work a little harder i feel like on personality so

02:58:23.820 there are some great short guys but i can't deal with little man syndrome you know like the napoleon

02:58:28.620 complex because i i feel like a lot of the times when i've tried to date shorter men they get so angry and

02:58:36.140 bitter when we're out and like people and i guess other guys are trying to talk to me other guys are

02:58:40.700 trying to like say something to me and they feel inferior because of that and then also like they're

02:58:45.900 like if i'm wearing a little bit of a heel like this much they'll be like why are you wearing heels

02:58:50.620 why don't you just wear flats and they get all angry about it i'm just like you're gonna be short

02:58:54.460 regardless if i'm barefoot or in heels so what do you care you know and then i see cute like

02:58:59.100 celebrity couples that are like the guy shorter like john legend and then his wife is like six

02:59:03.420 three or something like they're cute you know so i guess it just depends you have to have confidence

02:59:07.180 in yourself you can't be insecure so besides all the things that we listed there in the calculator

02:59:11.740 uh do you have like i know you said you date anybody but do you have like a type do you like

02:59:17.020 white boys i say i i typically date black and caribbean okay okay yeah because that's more of my

02:59:22.940 culture am i kind of your type you're my sister's type oh not a close-up on well actually her

02:59:29.740 fiance and you i feel like are similar there's hope there's hope for brian yeah i feel like my

02:59:36.060 sister's fiance kind of like favors you a little oh so i feel like yeah

02:59:42.380 all right um hopefully my percentage is better i don't know if i can compete with the five other

02:59:48.700 men on the roster though it might be are you like putting your application in i mean just a little

02:59:54.300 banter okay all right i don't know i don't know i have to get to know the thing is i feel like my

02:59:59.820 um if we go on a date though you have to pay for it oh god well then we've already not we've you've

03:00:04.140 already been bought bumped off the roster yeah she doesn't have to be done didn't even when i

03:00:09.260 say white boys they take extra care of me okay like so wait let me paint a scenario here gosh i take you

03:00:17.180 to red lobster why i'm allergic i can't i take you to benihana i love benihana and they crack a little

03:00:27.980 egg and they cook oh my god they cook in front of you they do the the uh the onion train the volcano

03:00:37.020 and then they throw the food in your mouth yes but you're paying for it girl so well here's what

03:00:41.500 what the check comes the waiter comes and i say two checks why like two chains i would do this

03:00:50.780 oh my okay sweetie i'm just gonna go to the restroom i'll be right back oh you dip you run out on me

03:00:55.420 you could pay it absolutely especially if you ask me on a date like you're gonna ask me out how am i

03:00:59.500 paying it you ask me out that's crazy why am i out on this date right now could we you know what

03:01:02.940 actually be fun what if we filmed a date we went on a date you're gonna lose though you're told he's not

03:01:09.820 but i'm gonna be the most obnoxious i'm not gonna pull your seat back for you i'm gonna tell you to

03:01:15.020 take the bus so average i'm gonna is that that's crazy you would be the first average man i did a

03:01:23.020 guy like that it was bad he came with his bicycle don't you think though it would kind of like because

03:01:28.940 you'd say most of the guys who you deal with like they they do all the things you want right like they

03:01:33.500 pay for you they get you your uber so i would almost be coming in like who's this mysterious

03:01:39.260 guy who's or not am i totally off base here clown i mean what it's not a mystery when you date me

03:01:45.900 because i bet you before i let you take me out okay so i feel like we're on we're on the same page

03:01:51.580 unless like unless i happen to like meet you out somewhere that's different if i met you online i'm

03:01:55.340 betting you a little bit more if i met you out it's a little bit more lax yeah um but i feel like before

03:01:59.500 even the first date i kind of know the vibe and i've been thrown for a loop a couple times i'm just

03:02:03.900 like wow i really thought you were different you know so i've been thrown for a loop okay you know

03:02:07.900 so so if i were to like take you to benihana but i didn't pay for the check you'd it's done no second

03:02:13.820 date what if i what what if afterwards i were to take you to uh you're not getting a second date

03:02:21.660 already it's like a nice restaurant oh god i mean we'd split for that day too

03:02:25.900 he doesn't know we'd still uh i i would uh five guys oh my god if you took me to five guys after

03:02:34.060 benihana's i'd be stuffed from benihana's gives you a lot of food no no no like a second not a second

03:02:38.300 date and it's at five guys what else are we doing for it we'd we'd split too why am i splitting at

03:02:44.300 five guys you don't have ten bucks you want to get know me for my personality

03:02:49.260 ew i mean i can get to know you over the phone before you want to take me if you if you feel like

03:02:53.180 you're you don't want to invest on a first date because you don't know if it's going to go

03:02:56.380 sideways that's fine let's talk if we're soulmates though we're not if you're not saying that if you're

03:03:02.060 not showing out the funds where's the funds run me my money like i don't understand you know like

03:03:07.900 where are the funds i was actually hoping that like i you could continue modeling and i'm kind of like

03:03:13.180 the stay-at-home dad do you think that could work can you also carry the baby i i you know a couple

03:03:18.540 of guys have approached me in that manner and you know i i'm not hating because i know some women

03:03:23.980 prefer that i'm just not that woman i do best at home me too like yeah and you just need a career

03:03:31.740 woman who's gonna whip you into shape a woman who wears the pants who controls the the you know

03:03:37.660 finances and all that like a boss ass babe and i am a boss ass babe but i can be very soft and feminine

03:03:42.380 with the right man i prefer that role but some women yeah they want to stay at home dad they want you

03:03:47.820 okay i'm just not her okay if a guy like go ahead no go ahead oh just random question if a guy like

03:03:53.580 came up to you and or if you were talking to this man for a while and he was like i'm going to fully

03:03:58.620 financially support you would you like quit your work and everything for that or would you continue

03:04:03.260 to work are we married let's just say dating but marriage possibly in the future um like you really

03:04:14.540 yeah it's a serious relationship i i feel like i wouldn't feel secure enough to kind of quit my job

03:04:20.940 unless i was married because i'm guaranteed your money half of everything you own and things like

03:04:25.500 that so i feel like i would feel more secure if we were married so that i know i'm protected and i'm

03:04:31.900 safe in case you want to leave or whatever um so i would i would yeah i would like i would be

03:04:37.580 comfortable letting go of a job being a stay-at-home mom stay-at-home wife if i knew that i was married and i was

03:04:43.340 guaranteed you know some help if things go awry i kind of think women should pay for the first date

03:04:49.660 why like not just split but i think the women should pay for okay why well obviously it's very

03:04:57.340 nice as a to be wined and dined as a man you know and i think the way you know i just have to show up

03:05:05.340 i just i just what i bring to the table like i am the table what do you bring to the table i am

03:05:14.140 the table listen listen okay can i get you pregnant we could try but you see how that wouldn't work

03:05:21.580 let's try do you see how that wouldn't work exactly my point exactly listen listen it's 2023 men can get

03:05:29.020 pregnant no they cannot oh my god you guys don't have the uterus oh my god you don't have hips to

03:05:34.860 expand excuse me you do not you guys cannot you guys cannot contain the chemicals it takes to feed

03:05:39.740 the baby while it's in your i'm offended that's science you could be offended all you want i'm

03:05:43.100 offended be offended i'm offended offended awesome men can get pregnant okay in 2023 oh my gosh are you

03:05:51.580 talking about transgender men there's x and there's x there's xx and there's xy okay unless you are the

03:05:59.500 kind that is a that can get the pregnant then i don't want to talk are you assuming no i'm just i'm

03:06:04.300 saying unless you are i'm i don't know where i'm going this conversation i don't know you do you want

03:06:09.020 to at this point you want to carry her baby that's all i'm hearing look some women i will carry i will

03:06:14.460 carry our child in fact oh god don't grab the brown one black baby is this is this racist no i

03:06:23.340 only have two colors grab the black baby look at this why not this could be our child okay

03:06:29.180 the computer why are you treated like that oh sorry sorry sorry that's like why would you

03:06:36.700 i'm already i'm a child yeah jesus child abuse that's why you don't carry a baby we're not getting

03:06:41.260 that's a newborn look how it's shaped it's really cute it's newborn it's like a health class baby

03:06:47.020 here can i tell you what i would consider paying for you on the first date but i'd like to see you

03:06:53.180 nurture this baby let's see let's see your motherly instincts here okay j jr

03:07:02.220 he's wrestling hold on j jr you can't hold my baby respectfully that is not it like my man

03:07:07.500 it's not the j let's just put it out okay you know like so j jr because he's a junior who's the

03:07:11.740 guy who was with the kardashian woman ray j ray j does that is he kind of like 10 years ago yeah

03:07:20.540 after he made the song i hit it first fixed i don't know how that happened

03:07:24.460 no i don't all right that's very motherly okay i love babies oh give me a million

03:07:30.860 oh okay i don't know where that okay um yeah you do just pay for the day but in any case here i'll take

03:07:37.100 it i'll take that back just not by the heck geez oh my god just threw it out there pay for the

03:07:43.420 i have a habit of throwing infants um okay so are you paying for the date was that nurturing enough

03:07:47.820 like what's going on you did say it was nurturing we're gonna have to brian if you're not willing to

03:07:53.180 invest in your love life just don't even don't even men are too broke to date these days that's

03:07:57.900 what's happening you're too broke today and dating is an investment yes you don't have the funds

03:08:02.300 stay single stay at your mama's house or stay in your lane you can date a girl who doesn't care

03:08:07.100 that's fine everyone's and they're getting where you fit in you know what's interesting though when

03:08:11.180 it comes i feel like it's a we're shaming men when it comes to this money thing you know we do the

03:08:16.220 same thing to women everyone's do we do we though i how is it shaming though you just prefer okay

03:08:21.740 let me uh bust out a couple musical bits and maybe i could you have a very lovely voice maybe you

03:08:27.260 you're familiar with a few of these songs let's go back to the 90s we have tlc no scrubs yep they

03:08:33.820 had no chicken heads they had no no 400 million views on youtube it was a good song what's the

03:08:38.540 lyrics go it's like i don't want no scrubs guy was the guy i can't get no love from me oh scrubs

03:08:43.260 scrubs hanging on the passenger side of his best friend's ride trying to holler at me i don't want

03:08:48.300 no scrub is checking me but his game is kind of weak and you know that he cannot approach me

03:08:52.140 hanging on the passenger side of his best friend's ride try to holler at me i love tlc

03:08:57.820 that's great yeah i know all the words of that song that was a hit um so you have that song you

03:09:05.660 have destiny's child bills bills can you pay my bills can you pay my telephone bills can you pay my

03:09:12.060 automobile i don't think you could so you and me are through she got it though she got in the bill

03:09:24.220 they had they had male songs too we have cardi b up she says broke boys don't deserve no

03:09:31.020 pussy i know that's right i don't feel that way all these anthems why do you know these broke

03:09:37.500 boy i'm about to come out with a broke boy anthem catch me on spotify i'm gonna have a broke boy

03:09:42.300 anthem come out let me rap on it see broke boy and then but see we got we got uh what what would

03:09:49.100 be the equivalent chicken head there literally was an equivalent what would be the equivalent like

03:09:53.180 the male version of chicken head they literally came out with the exact same song i ain't saying she

03:09:57.500 a gold digger but she ain't messing with no broke hold on just a second have on cleveland ground from

03:10:02.620 family god i love him that was a good one oh my goodness i love cleveland cool 99 for that

03:10:11.740 is that all you guys got can i get an insult but for a little bit more money a bender the defender

03:10:15.340 she wants the heat she wants but i want more money than 99 if you're gonna insult me i want like 150.

03:10:20.220 oh she wants the champagne pop i think pop that bottle baby send me the funds um okay wow all

03:10:25.820 right all right there you have it um let's do the calculator for uh let's do it

03:10:29.820 okay let's do it yeah go for it all right okay uh um i would also say 30 to probably 54.

03:10:41.420 okay all right um i don't care about the color however they need to be able to understand my

03:10:47.420 what i go through daily i don't want to be arguing with you about things height i'll go

03:10:51.340 um a cool 510 510 i have been known to do shorter but okay 510 is like if ideal if i could pick yeah yeah

03:10:59.500 exclude exclude obese um yes exclude obese yes um even no i'm um plus size and teach their own i'm

03:11:10.380 normally generally attracted to me being the soft one and then being the hard one that's just like

03:11:13.820 sexy to me what if he was like muscular a little bit underneath the yeah so that's like a football

03:11:21.660 player like like linebacker i like the ones that run or are a basketball player you prefer basketball

03:11:27.180 basketball player or the ones that run really like the ones that sprinters quarterbacks oh court oh

03:11:31.660 okay i see i see yeah receivers minimum income um ideal like if i'm just picking

03:11:40.380 yeah i don't know i want like this super nerdy like google guy like 200 200 okay we'll say 200 yeah but

03:11:48.140 yeah we'll say 200 okay all right so 0.18 percent that's less than gabby that's the probability

03:12:03.980 of a guy in that pop of that age especially in california that meets your standards even worse

03:12:10.940 yeah but to be fair i'm not need one i'm not asking for anything that i'm not giving like like i'm not i've

03:12:17.740 i've got things to that i that i that comes with me and so i'm not asking for anything that i'm not

03:12:22.300 giving like sometimes i'll do the speed dating thing on tiktok and i'll be like they'll be like

03:12:25.980 what's your type and i'm like well i want someone educated i want someone enjoys their career

03:12:29.500 i want someone who's stable in their career i want some like i'm listening to things i want he made this

03:12:34.140 face like oh my god what really but i also am educated i'm also cultured i've also i bring these

03:12:40.380 kinds of things to the table i just want someone to match me or be a little bit better because at the end

03:12:43.980 of the day with the kind of man that i want i'll end up emasculating them they will feel

03:12:47.980 emasculated if i present more than they have so i'd prefer them to have more than me that's a fair

03:12:52.860 point but you mentioned like ideal type would be like a nfl player no no no i'm talking about body

03:12:59.900 stature just body yeah no no i mean i i my ideal type is going to be a surgeon is going to be super

03:13:07.260 nerdy an engineer of some type something in cyber security just super nerdy like that's my ideal type

03:13:13.660 i want someone really intelligent okay all right because if you're intelligent what can stop you

03:13:21.420 you know what i mean sure but don't you think that those kind of men have like a lot of

03:13:25.980 optionality that's so funny someone else presented that to me and sauna they were like well this you

03:13:30.620 want this kind of man aren't you going to want a man who's want this here's the thing at the end

03:13:33.260 of the day you're there's still going to be a niche right there's going to be the men who make

03:13:36.300 a lot of money who want a woman who is maybe very petite she's not very smart she doesn't talk a lot

03:13:40.860 and she's just kind of pretty right there's also right but there's also those men who have a lot

03:13:45.660 of money who want a woman who's equally a leader and has all this and that and those sort of things

03:13:50.380 so i just feel like yes just the same way that people have these things who ends up wanting me is

03:13:56.140 going to be the person that i want as well and even if it is a 13 listen i've known to win smaller

03:14:02.300 lotteries so i'm i'm with the and like i said when you were had gone to the bathroom my life right now

03:14:07.900 i've i've accumulated and done everything from myself i'm living and i'm happy living i've

03:14:12.060 literally found a place where i really genuinely love myself and i'm working on myself to be better

03:14:16.460 i don't want anything that's going to take away from that so if you're coming into my life i need

03:14:20.380 you to be adding to that stacking up on that or don't come otherwise you know what i mean because

03:14:25.420 what's the point of even going into it and bringing a life into a family and doing all this stuff with

03:14:29.580 a man who then at the end of the day is not that thing yeah i just i mean i i i'm literally giving up

03:14:35.900 everything i got everything tight everything's good everything's up now i give all that away for

03:14:40.220 you i need to make sure that that's worth it and if it's not then i'm gonna keep being tight and

03:14:43.900 doing what i gotta do wait what do you mean by tight what are we talking about i'm just i'm talking about

03:14:48.140 just the whole body the body i'm chubby i'm chubby right but like i'm i'm i i'm i just know i'm

03:14:54.780 tight i'm tight i'm just i'm sucked in oh i'm of course i'm chubby but i'm i'm i'm untouched i'm not i

03:15:02.620 don't haven't had any sex i didn't say sex but like has it been a minute has it been a minute

03:15:08.860 celibacy i've reserved the right to sustain from that but um yeah i mean like i just i

03:15:16.300 haven't had any sort of babies and i feel like okay sure sure at the end of the day like and i

03:15:20.540 don't feel like that makes any woman less than a woman but i know that when you're talking about

03:15:23.740 what if a man sometimes that's something they also don't white so i'd be literally giving my all

03:15:28.380 yeah got it okay all right uh we're doing we'll do the calculator for you

03:15:36.860 and then better odds than all of us go ahead i don't know uh okay age range so let's do 25 to 35.

03:15:45.180 okay exclude married i'm assuming absolutely yep and then race i prefer chocolate black black men yes

03:15:55.660 yes okay and then so you just you don't have hispanic up there yeah yeah there's like just white

03:16:01.260 black i guess they they gotta rework it but okay you you you're a future husband you'd like him to be

03:16:07.900 a black man well um yeah i find them attractive and also people who have like fair skin but dark eyes

03:16:13.980 and dark hair okay yeah those two okay what about white guys you any interest in white men no

03:16:22.140 i've dated i work with a lot of them i just know not you working with a lot of them my only issue

03:16:29.580 is can the white man that i'm dating handle being in a society being married to a black woman because

03:16:36.620 we're gonna can he handle having black children yeah those are really important to me and there's

03:16:41.740 not many white guys who can or even have thought of all the societal things you have to deal with

03:16:48.140 yes here's a question too though can a black woman handle having a white child 100 we've been doing

03:16:55.260 it for 300 plus years respectfully and i'm half i'm mixed i was raised by my white side but it is

03:17:02.300 interesting like when if you're mixed right like it's very confusing over here if like you're white

03:17:08.620 but you're also black or you know what i mean yes i know exactly i was afforded a lot of luxuries

03:17:13.260 growing up with my white family moving out i was like oh shit i'm black people started like

03:17:21.500 parents would pull their kids away from me if i'm wearing sweatpants like it was just a little

03:17:25.020 small thing around malls or like if i go to a mall if i go into a restaurant and i order a steak let's

03:17:29.260 say i want it medium rare like with my grandpa if it's overcooked they're taking it out of his face

03:17:33.500 immediately he can't even if my steak is overcooked it's gone me they're questioning all right no

03:17:39.420 actually it's not okay because it was sixty dollar steak uh let's continue with the uh the thing

03:17:43.900 i remember yeah it's so true i would say i would a bonus would be if they can speak spanish but okay

03:17:50.380 yeah i'm half half guatemala i have mexican beautiful so height let's do i'm five one so

03:17:55.900 five two two really five five five two is fine okay that's just minimum height yeah just just higher

03:18:04.940 than me just a little wait be real though be real though five five two you i am five one right but

03:18:11.100 even in short guys are hung sometimes yeah okay i don't really wear heels but yeah i'm comfortable

03:18:17.500 all right she all right exclude obese excluded

03:18:21.260 okay okay let's do 95 95k early yeah but i didn't think about taxes

03:18:40.540 we're just gonna stay single forever okay this is rigged five two and it's only point two percent

03:18:45.740 this is rigged one colored is there anything else you mean oh it's black men oh okay that makes sense

03:18:52.620 oh it's because of black probably not to get down six of all black men in that age range scroll up

03:18:58.780 is scroll up a little bit a little more a little more it's because black men i just need one man so

03:19:07.740 that's plenty of percentage for me to get one i just need one right yeah that's but okay so each of

03:19:13.260 you are less are under one percent in terms of the men that you're looking for we're also very

03:19:19.420 special people we're not average i'm not running the mill but that's what they say delulu but i don't

03:19:23.740 care who is the salulu you're saying that you're special i am special what what makes me special well

03:19:33.900 no i mean like i mean i just this is a pretty average table myself included you might be average i'm not

03:19:41.340 average oh i'm not even wearing i mean how many how many figure skaters do you know how many people

03:19:46.700 do you know just no just come with me how many that's figure skaters that's a huge priority for

03:19:50.860 men she's a figure skater think about that that's i mean that's a that's that's original that's a

03:19:54.940 very unique talent how many people have you known that lived in france or studied abroad in france

03:19:58.940 i was born in france okay you might have been but how many people do you know with that

03:20:02.300 kind of do you know how to sing the marseillaise i can't even probably which one i know the french

03:20:07.420 elizabeth oh i know the tune

03:20:19.980 you know what's fucking you know what's dope about the french national anthem the lyrics if you translate

03:20:26.860 them or if you just speak french is we will oh how does it go we will fertilize the our fields with

03:20:36.220 the bloods of blood of our enemies i think that's in the the french national romantic hold on let me

03:20:41.900 let me just make sure i'm translating what they will do is build a wall for you to walk around

03:20:46.060 national anthem that's pretty badass you know what i'm saying marseille is marseille i can't pronounce it

03:20:50.700 mars marsay no no that's versa i i moved from france when i was five so unfortunately i lost most of my

03:20:57.580 but that's unique you know what i mean like that doesn't make someone average a lot of people in

03:21:01.340 america haven't even gone out to the country and i've gone to like seven countries same i know how

03:21:06.300 to set a table a lot of women don't know how to settle table respectfully like i think you need to

03:21:10.380 find something unique right and if each of us get to know each other yeah that would kind of

03:21:15.020 we'll find something so yeah we're average and i'm not average respectfully uh we're out and like

03:21:20.940 in a hole if it was if someone was to see the strangers right but we aren't i don't even look

03:21:26.620 average even when i'm in seattle no one assumes that i'm average like i already like hold myself

03:21:31.260 in a way that's not average and you do too thank you yeah there's no averageness going on here i mean

03:21:38.140 unless you accept that right because that's your own perception but the doctor's back

03:21:41.660 uh-oh here i'll read that chat really quick oh no no she's oh she's back i care about i don't

03:21:49.580 society normalizing obesity you're so entitled you want the world adjusting to your condition

03:21:54.060 and make seats bigger when you choose to be fat also my don't shoot the messenger here i'm just

03:21:58.780 reading also are you sure you can get pregnant without wow i know a 500 pound woman who got pregnant

03:22:04.860 and had a healthy birth find out and i'm nowhere near five but that might be the exception though

03:22:10.380 i mean here's the thing it goes back to it might be the exception but yeah here's the thing with

03:22:14.460 pregnant you know like men if they are bigger they have less testosterone right and then women when

03:22:21.660 they are bigger and and bigger it tricks it affects our estrogen and it can trick our body into thinking

03:22:29.180 that we're taking birth control with estrogen so it's harder for us to get pregnant and it's the same

03:22:33.820 thing in the other spectrum when someone is very very underweight they're not producing that much

03:22:37.420 estrogen so in both both you know extremes yeah but it goes back to problems to that it goes back

03:22:44.860 to this person who's looking at me through a screen just determining that i'm too fat for to get

03:22:50.460 pregnant or whatever but it's like you don't know my body you don't you're just looking at me and just

03:22:55.100 assuming because i'm bigger than what you would perceive as a normal size or whatever then you're turning

03:23:01.900 into oh it's a health issue and you can't do this and that and the other but it's like it's really

03:23:06.860 perspective uh when when you're talking about that because to some people i'm not that big to some

03:23:11.580 people i'm really big so it's really just you justifying your prejudice against me as a person

03:23:18.060 and you don't know my health medical history nothing about me you're just looking at me so that's really

03:23:23.660 just oh what you look like because you don't know me i once heard a story there was a woman who didn't

03:23:30.380 even know she was pregnant yeah yeah because she was chubby i've heard that too but you know skinny

03:23:35.500 girls can do that too skinny girls yeah they can do that too they can be pregnant not now i mean body's

03:23:40.220 amazing but i'm saying like they not just early on i'm saying full term they didn't know that's

03:23:47.020 happened didn't know and the baby came out and she's like i didn't know i was pregnant it's very

03:23:53.420 common for them to be preemies yeah but it also happens with it that's not a size thing that happens

03:23:57.660 also good times we have some more videos from our lovely guest gabby here oh yay uh nick if you're

03:24:05.900 able to pull up the subsequent gabby video oh do we have we we can play this wait uh play it really quick

03:24:14.780 but i don't know if yeah we'll just play it

03:24:25.020 hi jessica i don't know if that's your name but you seem like a jessica uh nobody cares who you're

03:24:29.580 dating i know that's a really hard pill to swallow but genuinely nobody cares who you're dating except

03:24:34.860 maybe somebody else who wants to date you thank you so when fat people are talking about societal

03:24:39.180 fat phobia and the way in which it informs beauty standards and then informs desirability and partners

03:24:44.460 we are simply saying that those preferences are not innocent none of them are so continue about

03:24:49.820 your day and love your boyfriend girlfriend who the fuck ever in all their skinny glory but when

03:24:54.220 your preferences are negative they are very clearly not preferences when your preferences reject entire

03:24:59.740 classes of people they are not preferences but most importantly the question i have for you at the

03:25:04.620 end of the day is why do you hate fat people so much that you needed to come on an app and scream

03:25:08.780 so loudly i hate i would never date a fat person when literally no one cares no one gives a who you're

03:25:15.420 dating never have oh yeah so i mean i feel like we've already kind of covered that with the previous

03:25:23.500 video but um she said what did she say she was saying that uh it's it kind of reminds me of of when if

03:25:34.060 you flip the script when uh there's a group of uh black men who only date what they call snow bunnies

03:25:39.100 which is white women um and when and i when they say like when you ask them okay why are you with your

03:25:46.300 girlfriend instead of saying oh she's pretty she's intelligent she's successful they'll say because

03:25:51.660 black women are too aggressive black women are too this that and the other so they're dating these

03:25:57.500 snow bunnies i'm using their term because they hate black women it has nothing to do with the white

03:26:03.020 woman that they're just dating and at the end of the day i don't care who you date but why do you

03:26:07.260 have to put me down just to make yourself feel better in your relationship i don't understand that

03:26:11.580 yeah i mean yeah that to that that's what that i think that's what she's saying you're like you

03:26:17.180 when that's what they're saying when they're saying a preference is i don't prefer but fat people but

03:26:21.180 you're assuming that all fat people are just the same thing where we're all different sizes but we're

03:26:25.260 all considered to be fat and so you're basically just saying all fat people know when in reality push came to

03:26:30.220 shove if she met the right guy and he became or was overweight chances are she wouldn't say no

03:26:35.820 it's when you're just blindly saying no to everybody and not thinking about any personality or anything

03:26:40.860 i mean i get what they're saying when they say that well i think it just ultimately comes down

03:26:45.500 back again to preferences i mean uh but you can't prefer i feel like you could have a preference but

03:26:51.100 don't put other people down for your preference go ahead with your point you can't just prefer

03:26:56.140 like a physique like that just like when she says like for instance if i'm like oh i don't date

03:27:01.660 white guys it's like you're then not even giving you're just grouping everyone in one thing when

03:27:06.940 in actuality it's like there might be you know exceptions to the rule and when you say when you

03:27:13.900 group at all you're not allowing for any exception and maybe it's maybe it's you know i don't know you're

03:27:19.660 not giving you're not leaving any room for exception i gotta say i don't know if this is gonna be

03:27:24.060 offensive but i think just for me blanket i wouldn't date an obese woman but you just said

03:27:32.300 you like chubby asian women there's a difference between obese who decides if you're obese when i'm

03:27:39.020 talking chubby i mean like you know there's a little little a little belly do you have a picture

03:27:45.740 that's that's because i don't know if we consider me to be chubby but then some people will consider

03:27:49.980 me to be fat and some people will consider me not even to be big at all but there are that's

03:27:53.820 because hold on let me just respond to her that is because chubby has been appropriated i'm chubby

03:28:02.220 and i like it i'm just saying chubby i feel like there's degrees you know yeah but that's all perception

03:28:11.020 when i think chubby i think like a little bit overweight you know what's a little bit like a little

03:28:17.180 belly like a little bit of a belly like chubby a little chubby like if she's 411 with a belly

03:28:21.740 she's looking like a oompa loompa let me i can google chubby let me google chubby i'm gonna google

03:28:26.140 chubby right now chubby but to be fair your algorithm is gonna be well what you usually look

03:28:31.020 i could be you know if we're going according you can to the dictionary definition of chubby the dictionary

03:28:37.340 that's consistently changing we have again this is a bit vague so i could be wrong here plump and

03:28:43.340 rounded that's me so maybe chubby isn't the right word i don't know what the right word is

03:28:51.420 but it also depends on like your age and what's the difference between chubby and thick well i feel

03:28:55.660 like thick is its own thing and it's all very it's all very confusing but then that's the same thing

03:29:01.020 people call me red bone or yellow bone like at the same time it's still perception what is that

03:29:04.460 like i thought i was dark skin my whole life it's a level of light skin so like it's usually their

03:29:08.860 undertone so like some people call me yellow bone some people call me red bone at the end of the day

03:29:12.620 it doesn't really matter and like same thing with this conversation like it doesn't really matter at

03:29:17.260 the end of the day like if you're chubby or not chubby it's really your perception so it's like are

03:29:21.740 you okay with it or not okay i would like to add on my preferences when you're done are you what what

03:29:27.420 kind of bone am i what kind of bone you're white am i a bone no green what does that mean a bone

03:29:32.220 well you said you have to be some sort of like like mixed yeah color can i be like

03:29:37.820 you're pink can i be white bone no you're pink you're gonna be pink

03:29:39.980 i'm yellow

03:29:43.340 let's go i'm red i'm pink

03:29:45.420 pink bone i consider myself golden what's madison i'm yellow she's asian so she

03:29:50.620 i'm yellow but also it's like your undertone right well yes but you don't even consider to

03:29:55.980 be yellow bone they would just call you yellow if we're doing that but that's

03:29:58.860 derogatory can i be ghost bone yeah we're gonna call you casper from here on out i'm super pale

03:30:05.420 yeah we'll call you casper i was gonna say i can see right through irish bone i'm translucent yeah

03:30:10.700 i was like i can see right through your head i know it's crazy how that works just mouth and teeth

03:30:15.420 but at least they look nice it's weird um cool uh okay where oh the video okay we reacted to the

03:30:21.020 video i think um i think can i add on preferences sure quickly yeah so uh it's exactly what she's saying

03:30:27.420 like a preference is something that i would like if everything was my way but we can always compromise

03:30:33.980 it right and for me for example me as someone who's a virgin i would love to marry someone else

03:30:39.420 who is a virgin kind of like apply the standards you have with someone else however however me as

03:30:46.220 someone who's a christian i am willing to i want to date whoever god has for me so if god wants me to

03:30:51.820 date someone who's not a virgin if god wants me to date someone who maybe even has kids even though

03:30:55.740 me in my flesh i don't want it i'm willing to surrender that and trust the lord on what he

03:31:00.060 wants for me so that's where i make some room for my preferences to be like mess around with it's only

03:31:08.300 if i know it's from from the lord for me to date this person even if they come with kids whatever it

03:31:13.420 is would i really want that no but if it's his purpose i'm gonna do it how do you know it's god's

03:31:18.940 purpose when you have a relationship with him it's you know you know because i i mean i'm a christian

03:31:26.060 too i go to church as well and i feel like um for a long time i used to have that mindset because

03:31:31.900 that's what i was taught in my church but what i feel like the the disconnect is when you're in an

03:31:37.820 environment of church where they don't really um like give you a an atmosphere of you know dating and

03:31:45.500 mating and getting to know people on a romantic level it feels like you have to look at everybody

03:31:49.420 as like a brother and sister in christ and things like that which i understand but like how do you

03:31:53.100 move from that kind of sibling relationship because you want to keep it pure to a romantic

03:31:58.460 one and and i don't feel like uh in general churches really support those kinds of relationships

03:32:03.500 so then you're kind of stuck in this kind of thing where you want to please god you want to have

03:32:07.580 that relationship with god but you're kind of stuck in this um id ideology that we all get from

03:32:13.100 churches that it's just like well i don't really know how to go about you know getting to that

03:32:17.660 person i guess so that's why i ask because like you have your values and your standards but you

03:32:21.820 said that if god told you that this person was right for you even though that person had was not

03:32:26.700 like your list of what you had you would say yes to him but that's what i want to know because like i

03:32:31.180 feel like you know god meets the desires of your heart and you and you have this desire to be with

03:32:35.900 a man that is in this preference or whatever so to go completely left left out of that preference

03:32:41.980 i wonder if like if you like how would you feel comfortable going with someone so outside of that

03:32:47.580 zone if you know if you if that wasn't on your heart sorry my bad yeah hold on let's let's try to

03:32:57.340 keep things moving a little bit i will let you do you want to respond or try to keep it quick um yeah

03:33:02.460 quickly okay so um yes it's all about surrendering so i have my preferences and obviously i would like

03:33:09.500 for god to check all of them do it all my way but at the end of the day he has the last thing i

03:33:13.980 surrender everything to him including my love life and i believe you know someone who might not be a

03:33:18.860 virgin or has kids they have a past they have a testimony i'm willing to extend grace to them

03:33:23.020 just a reflection of like the church and like to us and marriage i'm willing to extend grace to them

03:33:28.060 and look at them as a human being in their testimony and start something new because they're a new

03:33:31.820 person and not condemn them because they had a kid because of this and that i'm willing to be a

03:33:35.980 reflection of god's love towards that person and yeah having a relationship with god um hopefully

03:33:40.620 i'll be able to get confirmation that this is the guy yeah okay just to bring it back can nick do you

03:33:46.060 still have the calculator pulled up uh or did you did you close it out or so in addition to all the

03:33:53.500 things you want you also want the guy who's a virgin correct so not married black at least five foot

03:33:58.940 the height thing that's perfectly reasonable not obese earning at least 95 000 a year and has to be a

03:34:05.340 virgin what are your thoughts about that it's zero no i know guys that are virgin i know a lot of guys

03:34:11.180 that are i just need one i'll hook you up girl that are also not obese also over than that also black

03:34:15.500 also these things i mean maybe in other states well so when it comes when it comes to the calculator

03:34:20.540 right and when it comes to what we all want this is for both men and women so you know what you want

03:34:26.780 right but then you also have to think about well what does the guy that i want want what is he

03:34:32.860 looking for is he looking for you that's that's what you have to ask for me i had to do a reset

03:34:37.820 actually a good question yeah because the kind of man that i wanted um wasn't attracted to old misty

03:34:44.540 i was a little bit more promiscuous i dressed it addressed a little bit more um provocative um

03:34:52.300 because i was in this era of hating my body for so long that when i learned to love it i was ready to

03:34:56.460 flaunt it and so i went through that phase but now i realize that the kind of man that i want to

03:35:01.660 attract is more attracted to a woman who's going to be a little bit more um definitely submissive

03:35:07.420 but she's going to probably be a little more modest a little more modest excuse me um and so

03:35:12.220 i actually had to do a revamp about a year and a half ago where i literally changed myself and things

03:35:16.460 i was doing and saying and posting etc places i would go and be to attract the type of man that i

03:35:21.100 want so that being said for sure like that that's something to take into account um but that's that's

03:35:26.700 something that you decide to do like word it wasn't hard to do we have a couple chats here we

03:35:31.180 have fdg she says obesity is not in an opinion not an opinion excuse me please calculate your bmi can

03:35:38.620 you calculate it on screen please who does that help though that's the western standard of what our

03:35:42.620 body should be that's ridiculous yeah i'm from not my people isn't it i'm half black half white in the

03:35:48.540 tribe the black side of my tribe we were a little thick bottom like that's just what it is like the bmi who

03:35:53.660 does that who does that sit can i explain what the racist okay so the body mass index is a formula

03:35:59.420 it was invented by a mathematician right but um and yeah and it's it's basically weighing kilometers

03:36:05.180 over height and meters square so it only measures your weight and and it doesn't separate your weight

03:36:11.980 from how much of it is muscle how much of it is fat yeah um but people still use it but again it's

03:36:17.580 missing specific factors so usually what's best recommended to do is um i think it's called the dexa

03:36:23.660 scan and that is like measures everything so that would be the best thing to get if you really

03:36:29.100 want to personalize see how healthy you are but bmi that was basically made from a mathematician

03:36:35.340 and a researcher who studied obesity he used that formula in the research and that caught on within

03:36:41.740 the health and like who was he also well i i fdg will be pleased to know that we actually have a dexa scanner

03:36:49.580 in studio right now so we're gonna actually get up and okay just kidding okay let's go all right

03:36:55.260 bend to the offender i don't see i don't see how the term fat phobia came to be i highly doubt anyone

03:37:01.740 is fleeing in terror from a walking blob of lover yes you are you're in my dms you're in my comments like

03:37:08.780 you are obsessed with me it became like when you watch tv like if you watch old reruns of television

03:37:15.020 any the one of the biggest insults you could ever have was to be fat yeah like i re-watched girlfriends

03:37:19.580 i re-watched um golden girls i re-watched a bunch of old shows and the way and remember we were just

03:37:25.420 talking about how we don't have a name for fat but we don't have a name the n-word and we've got a name

03:37:29.580 for like but we don't have a name for that the worst thing you could be in any one of those shows

03:37:33.500 was fat oh my god you're getting fat oh you're looking fat your boyfriend dumped you because you're

03:37:36.540 fat and like so as a child that's all i'm being reiterated the worst thing i could be was fat

03:37:40.860 yeah meanwhile i'm literally living and surviving the doctor is like well i can't really tell

03:37:45.100 anything wrong with you but you are overweight exactly catching strays left and right just

03:37:48.700 because you don't like my body type like that's what it is we have some more videos we need to react

03:37:55.340 to let's do it nick if you were able to pull up the next video from gabby here i think finally

03:38:01.980 we got a lot we're gonna just go through all of them we got we got a lot to go through you have time

03:38:06.460 to go through my videos oh my gosh this is like a commitment i love it oh look at your hair yeah

03:38:12.620 that's when i was blonde just to be confirmed nick this is the third one from gabby just confirm

03:38:20.220 make sure you're sure that you're on what because okay we did the first one then we did the what you

03:38:25.580 bring to the table and then so this should be the third one i just want to make sure we're not

03:38:30.620 missing i was blonde guys we're good okay we're just gonna watch a whole bunch uh let's see

03:38:35.420 uh oh i just went on the world's cheapest date when i tell you i'm so sick of the brokies that

03:38:44.300 are coming through my dms but i just gotta get into the story time so this guy asked me out for a date

03:38:50.620 today and you know i pick a spot near me because what do i look like traveling on public transportation

03:38:56.060 for this date right so he comes the place happens to be closed so we're walking trying to find another

03:39:02.700 restaurant which is like my pet peeve he rolls up in a bicycle not a car a bicycle so i'm looking at

03:39:08.780 him like i'm in a skirt i'm dressed up he's in sneakers shorts and a bicycle what trying to work

03:39:14.060 out so of course i try to find the other restaurants every restaurant we go to on the street he looks at

03:39:18.380 the menu if it looks a little bit too expensive or too bougie he's making excuses like oh you know i'm

03:39:23.260 not really feeling pizza you know right now it's maybe a food truck let's try a food truck where are we

03:39:28.300 gonna sit in a food truck sir where are we gonna sit like for part two because i i have a lot to

03:39:32.700 say about this this did that so that he pulled up on a bike he pulled up on a bike with like bike

03:39:40.860 shorts and dirty sneakers and i was in heels and like a long skirt and makeup and hair and everything

03:39:45.820 i was like are we going on a date where are we going i was so confused was it like one of those bikes

03:39:51.180 with the little pegs on the back where you could kind of hop on like a cool bike like a regular bike

03:39:55.980 no cool features so did that date end there no should have it should have but i i know i was

03:40:02.060 like let's see where this goes so he has me walking all around the city in heels so you're walking and

03:40:07.260 he's biking next to you he's like walking his bike oh my god oh he's walking the bike he's walking his

03:40:11.580 bike next to me and every place he went to he was just like making excuses which i know obviously he

03:40:16.940 didn't come prepared to pay for date clearly or even to pay for himself because we went to like

03:40:21.020 reasonable he just like walked around the neighborhood once a reasonable spot we even sat down the waiter

03:40:25.580 like gave us our um our menus and walked away like i'll be back with your drinks and he's like

03:40:31.100 20 gratuity added let's get out of here i'm not paying 20 gratuity added i was like okay so then

03:40:37.580 we walk around the corner he's like oh there's like a milkshake shop let's go in there get a milkshake

03:40:41.340 so we're in line for the milkshake and he's like oh stay in line i have to go to the bathroom and

03:40:45.420 i was like okay as soon as he went to the bathroom i ran i ran like a half a mile away from there

03:40:50.940 because i was like terrified of like trying to tell him i'm not feeling this like i can't do i had

03:40:58.860 so much like anxiety at that moment i just ran that's all i could do and i ran and i ran away

03:41:03.580 i physically ran away

03:41:05.340 and then he and then i was like sorry i had an emergency i had to go and then he was like oh it's

03:41:16.140 all good and then like i don't know 20 minutes later he sends me um like a video of him at a

03:41:22.140 fancy restaurant like as if oh he just skipped the milkshakes and went to a fancy restaurant by

03:41:27.180 himself but quick tips ladies and gents if you save the video that someone sends you it'll tell

03:41:33.420 you the date that it was taken it was taken like three months prior so he tried to be slick saying

03:41:37.580 oh yeah i paid this money today no that was three months ago you probably didn't pay it but anyways

03:41:41.260 yeah that was a really awful date how do you wow get into these situations hinge yeah yeah i just

03:41:50.460 i don't know like that's what i mean like that's why i'm so particular about dates and my dating

03:41:55.260 standards because i'm running into foolish men and i just i don't have i think was the term broke

03:42:01.740 boys brokies yeah they're brokies sometimes brokies are like the sweetest the sweetest that's what they

03:42:07.980 god if i wanted to just like they will do anything to just except for take you on a date

03:42:14.140 i mean that but like i i're great for friends they can't pick you up question for you so i mean

03:42:20.300 you're 27 obviously look you're looking for something serious you're looking for something

03:42:23.660 long-term i don't think it's abnormal to want to find a guy who's i mean that was the traditional

03:42:29.020 order of things the guy's the provider get it right um when you were in college though for

03:42:35.260 example did you go to college i did um were you a bit more flexible winning because obviously guys

03:42:40.380 in college yes you know they're not a thousand percent okay if i were to find someone if i found

03:42:44.460 my husband in college for example i would be uh more than happy to build with to yes yeah because

03:42:50.700 we're both in college we're both starting our lives at the same level so he might be going to college to

03:42:55.900 be a lawyer doctor engineer and i have an education too and so it's very different when you're talking

03:43:02.220 about and you're in college because you're both starting at the same level and you're both on the

03:43:05.580 path to success because you both are you know getting at your education to further your goals

03:43:10.060 in your life and your career but i didn't find anyone in college and so my dating preferences had

03:43:15.740 to change with the times because now i'm an adult and i pay my own bills and things are a lot different

03:43:20.220 so i'm expecting a little bit more than i would if i was a college student so for sure if you're in

03:43:24.700 college i i would have different standards for that although i'm sure there's probably even women in

03:43:29.900 college that even then they don't want to deal with you'll date an older guy oh yeah of course

03:43:34.860 i mean that preference yeah sure if we were smart it would have been what i would have done earlier

03:43:40.380 in the show you you said you're uh i don't know if you said super traditional but you said so

03:43:45.580 traditional you're very traditional yeah gotcha i guess here from the guy's perspective right so

03:43:52.140 when it comes and i said and we didn't really get too much into it but like for example

03:43:55.740 and i think she mentioned it before i don't i don't like to pay on the first date obviously

03:44:01.500 look i'll split the bill i know a lot of women don't like that that's fine although i'm starting

03:44:05.820 to kind of slightly shift my view on it and i look i don't recommend men do it because a lot of women

03:44:12.860 you're gonna lose a lot of women yeah and for me it's not even a money thing for me it comes to

03:44:16.860 more a principle thing and this is why i brought up the traditional thing so you know you earlier in the

03:44:22.380 the show and look i get it you live in la this is the way a lot of people move nowadays you said

03:44:26.540 you have five guys on your roster so me if i went on a date with a girl and i knew that she was

03:44:31.740 entertaining like four or five other men i would not feel particularly inclined to fall into my

03:44:37.420 traditional gender roles like i don't i would be like okay you're talking to five other guys

03:44:43.420 like i don't i don't feel like being a gentleman in those circumstances he doesn't know that your

03:44:49.820 testosterone is broken he doesn't know that i have five other guys yeah because that usually

03:44:54.060 what do you mean like a competitive thing yeah well biologically like i mean obviously there's going

03:44:57.500 to be it's going to be a spectrum but biologically like that's what you guys are do you guys go you

03:45:03.660 compete you just you you you scavenge you find you solve like by nature that's what you do you may

03:45:09.340 not do that that's very much you but by well i think you're misunderstanding a little bit but okay

03:45:14.220 but it's to me it's not like if i find out or i learn that a girl is uh dating a bunch of other

03:45:20.860 men or she's i don't know what your situation is but if certainly if a woman is sleeping with other

03:45:26.780 men oh no i don't say that well but you so you're dating five guys i mean i don't know if you're open

03:45:32.780 to sharing this but there you said there's a one month guy there's a three month guy are you hooking up

03:45:38.140 with nope no three months nothing i mean because it's not well yeah a little something oh a little

03:45:45.100 something a little something a little foreplay um no because the bleachers underneath the bleachers okay

03:45:50.860 no i i i feel like um even though it's been three months i've only seen them a handful of times

03:45:56.300 so it's not like i'm seeing them every day like i'm on date three with one guy and i've been seeing

03:46:01.100 well the three month three month three month guy maybe five six times like it's still no uh bedroom

03:46:07.740 fun no nothing no you don't want it he doesn't want it i mean i feel like i at this point i'm

03:46:13.580 really is that too soon i think it's for me i like i'm not saying that obviously do what you want i'm

03:46:18.140 not really into being frivolous with my body when it comes to sex so i feel like i really do need to

03:46:23.180 be in like a serious commitment like committed relationship for before i would even like go

03:46:27.980 into that direction i guess um so i feel like for me it just yeah i want to be in like a solid

03:46:33.500 relationship before i like do all that kind of stuff let me ask you a question if uh

03:46:40.220 the three-month guy you said what you're on date five or six or something yeah

03:46:45.020 if he came to you he was like gabby i really like you you're awesome i love spending time with you

03:46:52.140 i feel like we have a good connection here this is date three right and he's like listen i want to

03:46:57.820 be exclusive i want to be boyfriend girlfriend would you would you go for that or is that you

03:47:02.620 you're still feeling or are you maybe i guess i guess it depends on like how how true that statement

03:47:08.380 is how honest this guy is like like i said because i've been through i i've like dated so many different

03:47:13.820 types of men i know that like i don't don't always believe what they say like kind of watch their

03:47:18.780 actions so like if i really believed him and he's shown and proven himself to me that he is like

03:47:24.460 consistent he's serious about being exclusive with me i don't need to date any other guys it's

03:47:28.780 really up to the guy and like if i haven't seen you more than five times in three months that's not

03:47:33.340 really on me i'm available when you're available but that's like you know we're we're working we're

03:47:38.220 you know we're doing things i get it like people are busy so i feel like it's just really up to him

03:47:42.540 when we get to that point the three-month guy though has he asked you on dates and you haven't been

03:47:49.980 available um yes and is that because you're dating five other men because i mean earlier

03:47:56.460 on in the conversation though you did say that you like you'll schedule out dates you know so i'm

03:48:02.060 wondering like could the fact that you're dating multiple people impact the ability for any one

03:48:11.980 because if a girl's busy and you don't have as much free time to like have a more consistent meetup

03:48:18.460 and you are dating multiple people i feel it it can while you are keeping your options open and

03:48:24.620 potentially trying to get the best guy that you can get i feel like when you are dating multiple

03:48:29.180 people it can make it difficult for any one situation to move forward because you're not able

03:48:36.700 you're not like giving as much time to that one guy because you're going on other dates you're busy yes i

03:48:42.620 agree and that is um that is a con or a dilemma to a roster when you do get too busy for a guy that

03:48:50.940 may be serious about you but i don't feel like i've really um i don't feel like a guy's been that

03:48:57.340 serious about me to where um i feel like i need to give all him all my time and energy a couple of times

03:49:02.700 i feel like a guy has you know swindled me into like not talking to the other guys as much because

03:49:08.380 he's talking to me every day facetiming every day making me feel like you know he's putting in all of

03:49:13.500 his eggs in in my basket and in that case i do kind of like neglect the other guys on my roster

03:49:19.260 because this guy's giving me so much so much attention but so much attention only goes so far

03:49:23.740 because if you're not taking me out on dates you're not trying to see me in person spend time with me in

03:49:27.820 person then i'm back to the roster life because this isn't going anywhere it's just all talk like

03:49:33.180 when are we actually going to do some action so i think that's why i kind of just okay well i'm going

03:49:37.580 to somebody else because like this isn't consistent i'm i'm available for you and i will make time for

03:49:42.140 you and back to your question when you were like oh well what if you know you're too busy to see this

03:49:46.780 guy who's really interested um i tend i i'm a very like uh organized person because you know i run my

03:49:53.580 own business i have my own brand i'm doing a lot of things so i don't really like same

03:49:57.660 day dates like of course i'll make exceptions if i can so typically i like to have at least 24 to 48

03:50:03.580 hours notice that you want to spend time with me so that i can give you my undivided attention

03:50:08.940 you know yeah i mean i agree with you there i definitely think some people are very spontaneous

03:50:14.140 which in some times that's fine if you're available but i do think it's best to try to at least have

03:50:20.700 a bit of a plan you know because if you have a busy life which it sounds like you do then

03:50:26.300 it's helpful to hey are you on a monday are you free this weekend are you free friday type of

03:50:32.860 thing so and i'll make time for sure but as far just to go back to like our little back and forth

03:50:37.580 kind of why one of my hesitations with paying for the first date is i i don't want to fall into my

03:50:45.740 traditional gender roles if a girl is like entertaining a whole bunch of options i i think it's it's not that

03:50:51.900 hard to date one person at a time and i think while there may be some negatives to that i certainly

03:50:59.500 think the positives outweigh it i think it's more likely to actually lead to a relationship if you are

03:51:07.100 you might you might feel a bit more upset when it when if you're just dating one guy and it doesn't

03:51:12.460 work out whereas if you've got three or four or five other guys or girls if the same with men

03:51:18.380 oh okay it didn't work out with her cool i'm already talking three chicks i see what you mean

03:51:22.620 i think but i do think it does restrict things from proceeding to more serious places um i almost

03:51:29.740 feel like you can uh this isn't exact but you can almost you can you can't smell it you can't smell

03:51:36.780 it but like if somebody's attention is divided it just you you feel that and it like i don't know

03:51:45.420 there's like a i think there's a something to be said about trial and error though so you've you've

03:51:50.140 reached something that works for you it works for you to date just one person um i don't know how

03:51:54.780 these ladies feel but normally women because the way that we are biologically made we will

03:51:59.420 date one person at a time and dating coaches now are telling us as women that we shouldn't be dating

03:52:03.900 just one at the one time we're putting all our baskets because the way our time clocks biologically

03:52:08.060 are different than yours so us giving you just like she had said earlier in the episode

03:52:12.220 giving three to six months to this guy three to six months this guy three to six months of the guy

03:52:16.380 that's now a year two years three years that our uterus is just getting older we have to protect

03:52:20.380 ourselves and if you want babies and you want a family the old uterus problem yeah i mean that i

03:52:24.780 mean but that's something we have to take into account you know what i'm saying and so i just that

03:52:29.420 was the way i used to date was one at one time but then what happens is i then i'm head over heels for

03:52:33.340 this guy i'm giving him my attention that's not how men normally date men don't normally date one

03:52:37.500 person they normally date many so now i'm head over heels for you i like you a lot you're dating a lot of

03:52:41.820 girls and now i'm giving you too much attention so now you back off because you already know you

03:52:44.860 got me you're not really interested in me anymore and now i'm stuck really liking you and i have to

03:52:48.700 pull myself back to you then when other people i'm not i'm not even thinking about them because

03:52:51.740 i'm focused into the mic sorry i'm focused i'm trying to make something work it's like if i pull

03:52:57.260 myself out of it a little bit and really allow people who are interested in me to step up and show

03:53:01.500 me that they're interested then no matter what i'm i'm the way i am i'm very monogamous i'm going to be

03:53:07.500 drawn to one no matter what that's why i said that i'm slightly different than having a roster

03:53:10.940 i'll let someone i'll entertain someone for a certain amount of time but once they reach a

03:53:14.940 point like there's a guy that i actually was really interested in um and he just stays in

03:53:19.420 my dms and he never wants to ask me out and the one time he ever asked me out he asked me out to

03:53:22.940 a general place it was a bar with a lot of people i come and i actually was bringing gabby he is on me

03:53:27.420 like white on rice white on rice he's like now i'm his girlfriend no one else can talk to me no one

03:53:33.020 else can holler at me he's basically and i even told him i was like why are you doing this like this is

03:53:36.380 literally our first time hanging out did you not get numbers before you rise here he's like yeah i got some

03:53:40.060 instagram okay so why are you doing this and i literally told him i was like you do all this

03:53:43.900 talking talking talking in my instagram you never ask me out on a single date but the minute you get

03:53:48.060 me out in public for people that i know okay in la is very small i know people i know that from left

03:53:52.860 and right you're hanging on me like a freaking wet wet rag and now i look like i got a boyfriend from

03:53:57.500 someone who literally can't even take me on a date and i had to restrict him you can keep talking to

03:54:01.580 yourself in my dms because you ain't about shit respectfully you want to waste my time good mornings

03:54:07.100 love the ice skating video looking sexy here you know i really like you i just saw him when he was

03:54:10.860 walking he was going to the gym an hour away from anyways he's going to the gym i'm leaving oh misty

03:54:15.180 i can't believe it's you you blocked me didn't you i have you unrestricted why'd you do that because

03:54:19.340 you don't talk about shit i told him that to his face i told you you don't talk about you you're

03:54:22.940 literally my dm saying hey how are you doing uh jazz night uh love that video that's not getting you

03:54:28.220 want to i even told him ask me on a date let's get to know each other let's get to know each other

03:54:32.700 i'm actually attracted to you too you're not about shit i gotta i gotta let it go you're wasting my

03:54:36.940 time that's not a roster that's an annoyance brian i think i think you need to be willing to take that

03:54:42.060 risk and also it can easily be fixed not easily but it can you can work all of that out if you

03:54:47.500 communicate with them be like hey these are kind of the standards i would like to date someone who's

03:54:51.420 just dating one where are you like that's something i want to go and fix you'll get her conversation

03:54:56.380 and that's a risk you're willing to take when you're investing your love like yeah it won't work out

03:55:01.180 let's here's the problem with that though i do feel like a lot of people let's say someone who

03:55:05.900 does have a roster you could ask up front like hey are you dating other people i people lie men and

03:55:12.860 women lie they're gonna downplay i would downplay for sure oh you would downplay i'm not gonna let

03:55:18.620 them know that i'm talking because i appreciate your honesty because the the fragile male ego if you

03:55:23.020 want anything from this man you can't let him know that because that's gonna it's not a fragile

03:55:27.180 male ego it's just but he's doing the same thing it is the ego well okay i think men are territorial

03:55:34.940 oh exactly territorial yes yeah but we don't we don't want okay here's my thing some guys you pop

03:55:41.660 the question doesn't make any sense there's degrees to it right some guys are not going to care if

03:55:45.740 you're seeing other men um i would say though like if a guy even very early on is not like

03:55:57.100 not like super jealous in a weird way where he's like let me look through your phone or being like

03:56:01.660 really uh really jealous but if he says or he knows hey i only hold on sorry i'm losing my train

03:56:10.540 of thought here there's too many conversational threads um i actually think it's an indicator that he's

03:56:15.500 actually genuinely very interested in you if he wants you to just be talking to him yes but what

03:56:22.380 have you done to deserve that well but here's the thing like if he doesn't really care here's the

03:56:26.140 thing if a guy really doesn't care about you that much he just wants to you he's not really like some

03:56:31.420 guys are not going to care yeah like okay fine you're seeing other girls i'm or excuse me you're

03:56:36.060 seeing other men i'm seeing other chicks i just want to you like but if a guy is almost demanding your

03:56:45.500 i don't know if loyalty is the right word demanding your exclusive attention that is to some degree an

03:56:50.940 indicator that he is looking at you for long-term potential brian you need to pop the question

03:56:56.300 i love that i love that that is that is love bombing that's a narcissist no this is brian you need to

03:57:01.900 ask the question hold on hold on this is that was the normal order of things up until i don't know the

03:57:08.380 sexual revolution up until very recently obviously we have social media we have dating apps which has

03:57:13.100 absolutely exploded people's optionality let's say people have way more options obviously look back

03:57:20.220 in the 90s people were 30 years ago you know people were obviously dating multiple people but i think

03:57:25.820 it's on steroids now because of social media because of the globalized sexual marketplace because in the

03:57:31.340 past if you were in a city your options were in that city but now you got the dms i'm sure you get dms

03:57:38.140 a guy in vegas a guy in miami a guy in i don't know amsterdam whatever just everywhere right going

03:57:44.940 back to what i'm saying that's why that dating isn't meant to be forever you should if you want

03:57:50.060 that from her then you need to pop the question and be like do you want to be my girlfriend and

03:57:54.380 she's gonna have to make the choice to leave everyone else and choose you or no and you move

03:57:59.260 on i think that's that's a question women should ask though what do you mean okay i think women

03:58:03.740 should broach the at what point date one date three like when i think when she has made the

03:58:10.700 determination that she sees uh she wants to pursue something long-term with that guy i think that's a

03:58:15.180 conversation that the woman should broach i don't think i feel like i already know that if i'm if i'm

03:58:19.660 dating if i'm going out with you i see long-term potential or else i wouldn't have dated you so i'm

03:58:24.220 ready now but these i don't feel like these guys are like giving me that i don't want to say some

03:58:29.740 of them are but like um i feel like that's determined by the man because i've already

03:58:33.740 decided if i'm going on a date with you i do see long-term with you if she showed up i'm not saying

03:58:38.140 yes to you on her part unless i'm conceived unless i'm trying to see you for my future

03:58:43.660 just pop the question so you're saying women should do it i should like on first date by the way

03:58:47.820 this is our first date but i think it doesn't have to be the first date but when it comes to

03:58:53.260 the exclusivity conversation when it comes to boyfriend girlfriend conversation i do think

03:58:58.220 women should initiate that conversation no i really i have five guys i'll listen to all five

03:59:02.620 and let's see what happens you guys hate that you guys hate that question what are we you guys hate

03:59:07.020 that question i'm gonna ask it well actually if you want to take out the market i think this is actually

03:59:12.140 some game for women and because a lot of women are uh frustrated with being in the situationships

03:59:19.100 being in the talking stage being frustrated with guys who aren't prepared to commit the reality is

03:59:23.980 like even very early on i'd say within the first couple let's say the first three to five dates right

03:59:30.140 if you drop the question and he's and he says oh i need more time oh yeah i've heard this or

03:59:40.060 i'm just having fun let's see how things go he's probably just honestly not that interested in

03:59:44.540 you he just wants to keep you around for sex nix that's why that's why i don't keep a roster

03:59:50.540 that's why i don't keep a roster i can't keep them around if they've honored if they're not showing

03:59:54.060 the consistencies that i need for a husband because i really want they are showing it because they're

03:59:57.340 taking me out on dates so i'm getting to let them go then but how long is the dating how long are you

04:00:01.500 going to be in the market until they ask you the question oh that's what i said the roster's always

04:00:05.500 week to week girl the roster's always changing week to week so what's the max amount of time that

04:00:09.980 someone can be in your roster like it's been three months where i'm cutting you off because you

04:00:13.660 haven't asked me i'm moving on the three months one it feels like one month because i've only seen

04:00:17.340 him five times and i haven't really spent a lot of time with him so i feel like that's that situation

04:00:22.460 is a little bit differently because it doesn't feel like three months it feels like one month and i'm

04:00:25.900 i'm doing other things i guess so i feel like but do you really need that much time to know that you

04:00:30.860 want to want them you're right i guess i don't need that much time yeah you're right you know what

04:00:34.940 do you believe in you're you're getting removed sir come on girl three months you're getting

04:00:39.500 removed do you believe in love in first sight no i believe lust at first i do too honey that's a

04:00:45.820 good one that's a good one but you're not gonna necessarily wife the lust guy i'm really making

04:00:49.980 me at the end of the day if i had to choose between an attractive man and a and a provider thank

04:00:54.700 you i'm gonna always choose a provider every time okay me too yeah so look ultimately just kind

04:00:59.740 of going back to the initial point um what was it well i think i was

04:01:04.780 responding to you and you said that oh that something about i'm lacking testosterone

04:01:12.700 no i said your testosterone was broken because see but i don't want like it's not

04:01:20.300 i actually think it's almost you can make the reverse argument that a guy who doesn't want

04:01:25.900 a woman who's dating a bunch of men like you just want to opt out of the competition like

04:01:30.300 that's actually some high t shit but what it is is when you think about it even in the base level of

04:01:36.460 sperm the ones that give up they don't make it to the uterus it's the one that keeps trying who's like

04:01:41.500 determined that's the one that makes the baby hey listen but are you a good swimmer wait literally

04:01:47.980 that's all i'm saying that's true facts he made it here but now that you're in the in the in the world

04:01:53.180 of today are you a good swimmer because what it's giving is i'm not making it to the uterus

04:01:57.580 she doesn't want to pay for the day it's giving because are you gonna win the race thank you that's

04:02:02.700 are you gonna win the race are you gonna put the time and effort to literally be so determined to get

04:02:07.340 to the top yes are you gonna pay for the day are you gonna pop the question in as as as semen you

04:02:13.500 already start off doing that your your masculinity already starts off doing that get there get there

04:02:18.780 the ones that are swinging around in circles that's what you're giving in like today's world

04:02:22.540 because you don't want to just like like do the chase like you gotta the person that's what it is

04:02:27.660 may the bet may the best man win that's what it is come on make the face this is almost like getting

04:02:35.580 into this like gang bang gang bang that's sex are you gonna all have sex with you swimmers you're

04:02:43.340 talking about swimmers like i don't want my sperm to be literally competing with other men's sperm

04:02:50.540 no but your sperm competes with itself what you are the sperm thank you you are the

04:02:56.940 race with a bunch of other men that's what she's trying to come yes yes but this is going to be no

04:03:02.940 i understand that there's obviously a competition but like when it because women are going to want to

04:03:09.340 find the best mate possible i get it i fucking get it but what i'm saying is despite the fact

04:03:15.420 that as a woman you are looking for the best guy doesn't mean that you need to be dating or sleeping

04:03:21.420 with multiple men at the same time and it doesn't mean that i as a man have to tolerate or engage with

04:03:27.260 a woman or date a woman who's dating or other men you don't have to want that but the fact that you

04:03:31.900 don't have the urge to want to win that is what i'm talking about just even at the baseline no i don't

04:03:37.740 want to that's not a game i'm gonna play but here's the thing that's that's just you but by nature

04:03:41.980 that is what you guys do like if you if you bring us back to neanderthrals the ones that are winning

04:03:46.620 are the ones that are doing the okay now we're about to fight and who's who's the bigger person

04:03:50.140 to win the love like it it's basic you need to put your armor up bro i need to you need to pursue

04:03:56.540 her you need to you know he doesn't have to do anything he doesn't want to but this is what i'm

04:04:00.140 saying exactly you not doing that makes you that sperm that's kind of swimming around in circles

04:04:03.660 that's why i have a roster i'm single because where's the where's the men that are fighting

04:04:07.420 to for the top fighting to win my love heroically where are they brian but there are people who

04:04:12.780 don't have a roster i'm not the type i'm not interested in pursuing a woman who's dating

04:04:19.020 multiple men and that's great there's no that i'm dating multiple women and i know you're dating

04:04:23.420 multiple women you're not talking to multiple women i know there are women for you there are

04:04:27.980 women who are not dating multiple men yeah so just look for them those are the women for me

04:04:32.460 yeah my dms focus on them that's why i said earlier if you're like attracting that then i

04:04:40.140 think that's great because that's at the ultimately that's all we're trying to say at the end of the

04:04:43.580 whole day is yeah you're gonna attract who's attracted to you and that's what it is so if

04:04:47.580 that's what you're into that's fine could you date someone like her no is that all right wait is

04:04:51.500 that a real question is that what i'm into women who aren't fucking other men you are yes you're

04:04:56.700 no it wasn't a question i was a it was an observation based on what you had said you're

04:04:59.660 right you guilty as charged i am attracted to women who are not currently other men but no

04:05:05.180 one's such as i'm not dating right that's great you said or dating even dating i'm not attracted

04:05:09.980 to women who are dating multiple men how would you know i know every woman you date is dating

04:05:14.300 another i can smell it no i am here girl i am here i would only date one person at a time

04:05:19.980 based but you don't date you said 11 years yeah but i would if someone was to ask me

04:05:24.700 unfortunately unfortunately i'm not a five foot three black man so what can i i can't you know

04:05:30.700 it's not going to work between us it's okay we can figure it out figure it out

04:05:38.780 oh no okay um the world is we have some more videos we have some more videos guys uh can you

04:05:44.620 pull up the next video oh who's that he's gonna say some bullshit i stitched him once he's kind of sexy

04:05:49.260 can we bring back the women that rub backs and pack lunches oh wait pause pause pause can we bring

04:05:55.500 back pause pause oh i did my bed nick start at the beginning video tab please

04:06:06.060 can we bring back the women that rub backs and pack lunches for hard-working men can we bring back

04:06:12.060 the men who pay for dates open doors bring us roses call us beautiful is loyal to us and not stringing

04:06:20.700 along three other girls in their roster can we bring back men with dignity and pride to do a man's job

04:06:27.180 which is to provide to pay our nails once twice a week to pay for our ubers to pick us up for dates

04:06:36.940 to pay our rent can we bring back men like that period both bring back dollars women need to also

04:06:44.620 do something for their men wait i'm packing lunch i'm loving back if you're in the middle of dinner

04:06:49.980 there was a question that was like okay if you're a man he's providing for you and in the middle of

04:06:53.180 the night he wakes up and he's like babe i'm really hungry can you make me like some

04:06:55.820 lasagna make me some lasagna i'm gonna be honest with you if i love that man and i'm completely provided

04:06:59.900 for number one when i wake up i'm gonna get that deed then yes you're getting your lasagna babe

04:07:03.500 and but you said in that video you said can something about i don't want a guy who has a

04:07:11.260 roster of three yeah if he's loyal to me and not to three other women but you have a roster

04:07:16.460 she's because i'm single i'm single now but like the next stage is what i'm talking about so like if

04:07:21.260 i like first of all i don't accept money from just any man okay i'm not accepting money from you unless

04:07:26.140 it i know that it's serious and i want something long term like i see marriage potential whatever i'm

04:07:30.860 not going to accept money from just any man what do you mean accept money like like i don't really

04:07:35.020 want a man to just pay my bills pay my upkeep things like that if we're not in a relationship

04:07:40.540 and it's not like i'm your woman and yeah dating and you're supposed to be providing me i'm not just

04:07:45.660 any rando you know i mean because that's not what i'm looking for i'm looking for a provider i'm looking

04:07:49.340 for a man who is dedicated and loyal to me as i would be to him in a relationship but i mean you certainly

04:07:57.100 for the first date though at least to that extent you want a guy to pay well dating that's just being

04:08:01.900 a gentleman that's being chivalrous like you're taking me out on a date be a gentleman like pay

04:08:06.940 pay for dinner okay okay sorry sorry continue my mind is exploding i mean like i'm like honestly i

04:08:14.220 thought everybody was taught that like that you know a man's gonna pick you up for a date take you

04:08:19.260 to a restaurant pay for dinner get to know you and drop you home and you know i mean i just thought that

04:08:24.220 that was normal dating until now i realize people just want you to come to their house for netflix

04:08:28.140 and chill so they can touch you and i'm just like what is going on in this world today like huh

04:08:32.460 but okay you talked about a gentleman and chivalry but how am i gonna go on the first date with a

04:08:38.140 girl and pay for the first date and you said earlier that you went on five dates in a week with

04:08:45.820 new guys yeah that's not being a lady how how am i am i just your point no we just want to i want

04:08:54.220 to hear what is why that's not you can have a roster but why can't he no what's not even that it's not

04:09:00.060 it's just like your your conduct so if you're dating but if you're dating multiple men a week

04:09:06.220 you're dating five guys in a week okay to me you're free to do it obviously it's you're allowed to do it

04:09:11.660 there's no laws against it you're single you can do it but in the same way that a guy can also not

04:09:16.860 pay for the first date this whole if you demand a guy be chivalrous she's i just let me just finish

04:09:24.460 my point if if you demand a guy be a gentleman and be chivalrous maybe it would be nice if you

04:09:30.620 weren't maybe you didn't sleep with the guy but the the night before our date you weren't kissing

04:09:35.900 another dude i don't kiss you don't kiss there's zero kissing where has your mouth been why was

04:09:41.100 there gotta be i've kissed a guy you don't kiss of course i'll kiss yeah but we're talking about

04:09:46.060 first dates right first days just meeting and getting to know each other i'm not giving you

04:09:49.660 anything but you say you got the roster so like yeah one of the one of the five dates you're kissing

04:09:55.500 the dude i see what you mean i'm i see what next next day i'm taking you on a date and i'm going to be

04:09:59.900 a gentleman i've been doing this for hundreds of years but men do that all men do men date like

04:10:04.860 that they were just with another girl i am do a background check you can even if you even go back

04:10:10.540 to like how people recommend men would call on the women and they would be multiple different men

04:10:14.860 from different households would call on these women would come and be entertained a date have a

04:10:19.020 coffee that was obviously supervised and that's what would happen so i don't see why that i mean

04:10:23.900 it's been going on for hundreds of years you can make the face if you want to

04:10:26.460 you yeah you're gonna be like i'm not calling on you you got to meet me outside but i think back

04:10:31.900 in the day when like okay you i don't know what i was thinking about pretty uh little women like

04:10:37.740 victorian so i mean the show virgin 10 when there's literally a line a line of men with gifts to give

04:10:45.420 it to her and now people don't even want to pay for the flower you're the bee i don't think i don't

04:10:50.540 think back in the old days oh god that women were going like there were lines and lines of men yes

04:10:57.500 there were no i don't think it was that but they literally show it they didn't have it's history they

04:11:04.300 don't have apps i get it like it's just trying to say no but it's it's just a new age nuance of that

04:11:09.580 i don't know think about like the the when did the same thing as sperm those uh poodle skirts or

04:11:15.100 whatever 50s was that the 50s right yeah i don't know i think like if you were you were going steady

04:11:22.780 and shit yeah and you were having a boyfriend and you had you had you went on a date with one guy

04:11:28.620 you pursued it and then no what do you mean she was obviously attracted to the jock and then the

04:11:33.420 nerdy guy got her and then they have you watched no movie yeah i mean have you watched none come on

04:11:38.140 now a lot of i watch movies like are are parallel to life in a lot of ways okay we get movies from

04:11:44.140 what we do with in real life i just think that oh billy ray is in the chat what's up billy ray oh

04:11:49.580 my gosh the singer no not different person cyrus look just to me it's like look okay we talk we

04:11:57.100 if you talk about chivalry right in order to be chivalrous you gotta like the woman has to be a lady

04:12:03.740 you have to look up the words you got a roster five dudes i'm not like we're not doing any of that

04:12:11.260 i'm just going so what's the difference between me having uh going out to dinner or lunch whatever

04:12:16.380 five times a week with guys i'm dating versus like going out to with a friend for lunch or dinner

04:12:21.580 five times a week what's the difference you are being pursued and you are pursuing romantic

04:12:26.300 relationships with multiple men yeah that as a guy makes me feel like oh okay i don't know about that

04:12:33.020 i would immediately drop my roster if i knew that the guy that i'm dating today was uh serious about me and was

04:12:39.660 giving me all of his attention and energy i would immediately like not even pay attention to anybody

04:12:44.860 else but that's not what's happening if a guy ask him text him right he would have to ask you to be

04:12:49.740 his girlfriend wait can i say the definition of chivalrous i just like to say the definition

04:12:55.500 because people use this word websters or i mean whatever it courteous and gallon especially towards

04:13:00.060 women typically used for man or his behavior relating to historic notion of chivalry which was actually

04:13:05.500 just like what knights would do so to be fair that's not even really the right word we want to

04:13:09.660 be courted there we go

04:13:14.780 yes please put that hey can i ask you a question how often do you think about the roman empire

04:13:18.860 oh that yeah um every day how often just be honest

04:13:24.140 like every day or like how often the roman empire how often do you think about it

04:13:27.900 this is a greek i'm just asking military helmet please be historically accurate okay you know

04:13:35.500 what i'm just asking about the roman empire um here i don't know where to put this but how often

04:13:39.980 for real they had that question on tiktok and i'm just curious as a man how often do you think about

04:13:43.340 the roman empire i'll just say this i watched the roman empire i mean is it like weekly a couple times

04:13:50.460 a week well i was listening to an audio book by marcus aurelius oh god meditations in fact i have the book here

04:13:57.740 let me see where it is uh okay we got uh where is where is it hold on one sec okay

04:14:03.100 meditations right now listen i think you would be a big fan of stoicism this is uh i don't know nick if

04:14:10.780 you're able to we'll put it up here um marcus aurelius uh meditations right he was i'd say one of the

04:14:18.300 the best uh emperors was uh right right emperor was it he was emperor right so is it daily though

04:14:26.380 like huh how often do you think about it i mean i think i'm more i every at least twice a week i'm

04:14:34.700 thinking about that is so i'm more of a zombie apocalypse thing i think about that too that's why

04:14:40.460 i like to jog so if i know that like if there's zombies that drag the leg i got a good like four

04:14:45.740 like a pace if i get it if i keep my rhythm for about two and a half miles which is what i

04:14:49.820 normally jog i can get away from a zombie enough to like get and be safe so unless they're the ones

04:14:54.060 that climb on walls and then i'm going to join them are you texting him right now oh i'm i texted

04:14:58.620 four i'm on the fifth one wait oh you're talking you're texting all of them might as well put it out

04:15:03.500 there so for those viewers who are just tuning in she has four men excuse me five men on her roster

04:15:10.860 who she would be i it sounds like happy to be in a committed exclusive relationship with she is now

04:15:18.540 currently texting all of them what did you say what's the message was a copy and paste to all of

04:15:24.060 them oh that's romantic whatever i get the point across it's communication right so what did you

04:15:29.660 say i said do you want to be exclusive with me boyfriend and girlfriend oh okay all right

04:15:38.220 i keep saying that you're gonna end up with someone who you don't like yet

04:15:41.820 i like all of them though yeah but not enough otherwise you would have sent this text a while

04:15:45.420 ago i've never thought honestly i've never thought about asking a guy that i'm dating she's been busy

04:15:49.980 do you want to be exclusive boyfriend and girlfriend i assume that they would let me

04:15:52.940 know when they wanted to be exclusive yeah i never thought to do it so this is my first time ever

04:15:57.580 asking a guy i'm proud of you i'm proud of you i didn't know that gabby this is gross

04:16:03.660 this is gross i'm so proud but that's so sad how us girls need to be the ones like asking this

04:16:09.500 question like that is not okay i didn't know i was supposed to ask a lot of men are scared to ask

04:16:14.700 the question oh my gosh they don't know how the women feel like are you calling the shots

04:16:18.780 for say if you were going to be in a relationship with the five men on your roster like are you

04:16:23.740 going to i assume are they waiting for you no they're not waiting for me i was waiting for them

04:16:27.500 but now we were going to clear the air yeah it should be i thought i thought that i feel like

04:16:32.540 i don't want to be in a relationship until he shows himself the things that i want to see in a

04:16:36.140 husband and the guys that are on my roster if that's the word we're using haven't shown

04:16:40.060 themselves to be consistent enough to be taken seriously i just never had a conversation

04:16:44.540 word word word to your mom uh oh uh what what oh flan life flan life um thank you very much for

04:16:52.860 all the membership sorry i missed them uh thank you so much man flan life you've been so supportive

04:16:59.260 with all the uh memberships throughout the months man appreciate it dude um sorry sometimes we miss it

04:17:03.980 because we uh we don't have the uh message or the sound notification we have more videos we have more

04:17:10.300 videos from gabby let's check them out we love this one they do this to you i mean when i'm in a

04:17:16.940 relationship i don't believe in spending my money on my man his money is for me my money is for me

04:17:25.020 okay so that means when we go out we go on dates we go shopping we do whatever we are using his money

04:17:33.020 my money does not get touched okay that is just the standard are you with your mama literally are

04:17:40.220 you with your mama i disagree wait no so your money in a relationship or in a marriage even your money

04:17:48.780 is your money yeah his money is also your money yeah okay this is why people get divorced because

04:17:58.540 if i'm a stay-at-home mom not working how am i going to give him any money anyways it's his money

04:18:03.020 it's our money yeah with that contact isn't there like a political compass meme about this like

04:18:09.420 it's uh you're very libertarian when it comes to your money but you're a communist

04:18:17.180 when it comes to his money i don't know if that's exactly how it goes but maybe somebody in the chat

04:18:22.380 i'm just saying like my money is not a factor here if he's the one providing financially for our family

04:18:26.700 if i'm a stay-at-home mom a stay-at-home wife why did why does my money even matter he's the one paying

04:18:31.340 the bills so he's the one where he has a job yeah i mean i'm my job is with my children and

04:18:35.980 she's not getting paid what is a 24-hour job what do you use your money to at least buy him something

04:18:41.500 give spoil him here and there or you don't even want to use your money for him at all she's saying

04:18:45.580 she's not making money she's not making money how would you do that yeah assuming you were like a

04:18:49.900 hustle yeah i mean i i'm not opposed to birthday gifts i've said that on my tiktok before i'm not opposed

04:18:54.860 to getting birthday gifts and making you feel special but i don't feel like my role and job

04:19:00.460 as a woman is going to make a man feel special just because i spent money on him that's how i

04:19:04.780 want to be loved spend money on me and i'll love you for sure but i don't think it's the opposite

04:19:08.780 because i feel like like the men just men in general that i've dealt with and dated they don't really feel

04:19:14.540 like especially loved if i'm spending money on them i don't think that's their love language i feel like

04:19:18.860 like when i cook for them if i kiss them give them hugs like be affectionate i feel like that's

04:19:23.900 what they feel loved for money is not really a factor in them feeling loved it's a factor in me

04:19:29.580 feeling loved so it's just different so i think you would just have to learn about the guy like if i

04:19:34.540 need to learn my man's love language but at the same time like man go through a lot of stuff he

04:19:39.260 needs to do stress and i don't mind using our money we're in a marriage our money for me to go and buy

04:19:45.900 him stuff even you know like and treat my man right and that includes spending some money on my

04:19:51.500 man too yeah when you're married my money is your money anyway and even if we're not married i and i

04:19:57.260 want to give him something give him something that he's like oh i really want this or you know help

04:20:01.660 him i feel like money is a resource to be able to do something for others it's not the only way to

04:20:07.820 give though money is not the only way to give but i think your love language has a lot to do with

04:20:12.780 this conversation excuse me sorry about that i think you know what i actually uh it's it's very

04:20:18.860 rare for a woman to want to simp in the same way that i guess guys will i kind of like it though if

04:20:25.420 a woman simps don't get me wrong like it's it's so rare that it's not something i'm ever looking for

04:20:31.580 like it's not like i'm disappointed if it's not there but it's kind of i don't know if i've really

04:20:36.540 encountered it really i mean there's different ways to simp you can kind of simp by the way you act

04:20:41.180 what does that mean but also to like simp i love a simp i'm gonna marry a simp i don't know what

04:20:46.300 we're not but um yeah if a woman just like came in and she's like brian let me fucking spoil you i'd

04:20:52.220 be like cool yeah that happens to like like i'll need it there are in la especially we've got a lot

04:20:57.660 of men who love that kind of thing yeah like i make my own money i'm good but if a chick just was

04:21:03.420 wants to let me fin dumb her like we're cool and then she's like you know what get on your knees eating

04:21:07.420 this freaking coach that's not happening oh well guess what you lost out on your sugar mama

04:21:12.540 but i'm willing to do that wait whoa you're willing to do what i'm willing to please my man in the way

04:21:18.540 he finds that he needs to be pleased if i'm in love with him and he's taking care of me if he

04:21:22.140 we're gonna work out whatever we need to do some money uh money does make me feel very sexy um if this

04:21:29.660 is my man and he's like here babe go buy one yeah i'm no issue on the way there road road

04:21:36.380 road business i'm oh but here's the thing like i'm i'm i simp in my own way like i might not simp

04:21:42.140 with money but i'm gonna simp with my entire energy you know everything i'm gonna give everything to

04:21:46.060 you like like i said if you wake up in the middle of the night and you need some food like babe

04:21:48.940 everything's taken care of for me i'm gonna do that you'll cook in the middle i love i love i love

04:21:53.340 catering and and giving to my man and loving on him maybe it's not necessarily economically although i do do that as

04:21:59.260 well i love i love that that makes me feel good to love on him yeah but money goes into buying those

04:22:04.300 stuff like sometimes it does but like what she says like so let's say i'm not modeling anymore and

04:22:08.300 now i have to live off of his stuff it's still gonna be his money that i buy stuff with oh yeah

04:22:12.540 i'll fix you up with your money for sure oh but i i don't find myself ever not making money like

04:22:17.820 did you hear back from any of the guys yet any it's on silent let's see what they said nope nothing

04:22:23.100 okay we'll check back in later we'll check back in later tell you what as a compromise

04:22:29.180 i will say this i will pay for the first date oh we changed his mind yes if

04:22:36.860 she has a large labia just saying and how are you going to know that you don't exactly

04:22:43.180 she's gonna have to all right great sounds good so ladies all you have to do is tell him

04:22:47.500 what your vagina looks like and he'll be happy i'll send you a google pic

04:22:51.740 it's gonna be someone else's a google pic oh we do that by the way i will tell send other pictures

04:22:57.740 of people i think women need to start getting revenge on men for the dick pics i don't i've

04:23:03.020 never sent a oh yeah revenge i think women should get revenge exactly that's what it is unsolicited

04:23:08.700 pussy pics my dms are open ladies you know what i do i take a screen video between the legs and the

04:23:14.620 revenge that i have is having now a video of your junk that i can now share it's not gentlemanly do

04:23:19.660 you want a lady but that's not done i'm not doing yeah no pussy pics no that's not like that's not

04:23:24.620 gentleman like you want a lady it's giving i want to pay half

04:23:30.540 i'm just saying i think i think you gotta act like a gentleman if you want a lady should start

04:23:34.940 sending pussy pics that's all i'm saying it's revenge though it should be a revenge thing

04:23:39.420 just to me you know what you can't send you can never have sent nudes to any other man you can

04:23:44.540 never after you meet me even if we break up you have to become a nun after you date me that's the

04:23:49.900 degree to which i demand that's what i demand from women you heard i love that even even after we break

04:23:56.140 up it's it's over for you you cannot date other men uh-huh you have to become a nun okay yeah i mean

04:24:03.420 maybe after dating you someone might want to become a nun that could be yeah they'll be

04:24:07.420 traumatized i know lord i give my life jesus at least you'll pay all the way i've seen the darkness

04:24:14.940 i don't want no more darkness it could be the case sometimes i also turn the women gay

04:24:20.460 you know what and then you have to look in the mirror about that one baby boy you know

04:24:24.540 because i i i it's probably because i refuse to eat pussy you saying that i actually had a woman

04:24:29.820 proposition herself as the man that i want but a woman recently and i had to think long and hard

04:24:34.460 about it oh like she was a breadwinning woman she owns a lot of stuff she's actually kind of a cute

04:24:39.740 girl i'm i'm heterosexual but we had a moment one time in a bar and i was just like oh well that was

04:24:44.220 kind of cute moment and she literally propositioned me like i want to take you on a date like i want to

04:24:49.180 take you out like i want to spoil you like i look out for my women i'm like i want you to have a

04:24:53.820 dick because that sounds great yeah but she doesn't and now i'm kind of conflicted yeah i'll

04:24:59.020 give you an example right so fdg the woman who's been like gifting all the subs or whatever thanks

04:25:03.900 fdg you don't agree with you i don't know if she's still watching but like if we're we're not like we

04:25:09.660 haven't met or anything but if we were to date if we were to meet like even if we only like i let her

04:25:17.820 like go buy me some five guys or whatever and i never talk to her again like she has to remain

04:25:22.700 committed to me for the rest of her life what are you talking about i'm saying she cannot move on

04:25:27.820 like she why why what are you talking once we've have that soul tie of having a first date she can

04:25:33.500 she has to become a nun you don't even believe she has to be she has to be this is this is this is

04:25:39.020 post breakup commitment okay she cannot remarry she cannot get involved with another man she has to be

04:25:46.220 fully committed to me this is what i don't know then get married you don't even believe in this is

04:25:51.580 this is like the ultimate that's what you wish that's that's like you're right i had someone in

04:25:57.180 the sauna tell me that same thing well what if you guys are married for five years and he's doing all

04:26:00.700 that but then he decides he wants to open the relationship and i'm like okay well then he's

04:26:04.620 gonna have to risk that i'm opening the relationship too well you can't go do stuff okay so what he wants

04:26:08.780 to open the relationship for him but i'm not going to because at the end of the day let's say we open the

04:26:12.220 relationship we meet five people i can all five you might one huh that's just the fact because the the

04:26:18.220 the chances of me being able to get some is going to be higher than that's true it's easy for so but

04:26:22.700 he wants to open up the marriage and be like well i can do whatever i want but that's why they cheat

04:26:27.740 instead of telling you let's be open let's watch another video we got another video we got so many

04:26:33.180 see if i can get i don't know if we're gonna get go we'll try to be quicker with it

04:26:36.700 so i'm going on a second date with a guy and the first date was dinner in a movie super respectful

04:26:43.740 really nice um makes at least three hundred thousand dollars a year which is definitely

04:26:49.500 around my range and tonight we're doing an activity and getting dinner and i just have to say though

04:26:57.100 like i don't know if i'm feeling jaded today or if i've just done this routine so much that at this

04:27:05.900 point i'm just like let's get to the point like let's get further along without you being an idiot

04:27:13.420 and messing this up for us but then it's like okay this is life you know this is literally part

04:27:19.820 of life and i want to encourage you if you're in a strong relationship um don't let petty problems

04:27:27.420 break you up because these streets ain't for everybody not everybody has the strength

04:27:34.060 to date in modern dating today and when i tell you the nonsense that i run into

04:27:39.260 dating guys it's just like i'm so over it so bored but this guy seems really nice so wish me luck

04:27:49.500 agreed how did that is that one of the roster guys yeah yeah he's on the roster he hasn't done

04:27:54.380 anything bad yet he's followed all of my rules for dating and he's been a perfect gentleman and he's

04:28:00.780 just text him i texted everybody he follows your rules honestly i didn't even tell him anything about

04:28:06.140 me this is just not what he just knew the rules yeah he's just a gentleman what what is the reverse

04:28:11.100 of that like what are the rules that you follow i guess um my rules i feel like well i don't go like

04:28:19.180 i don't want to hang out at my house or your house when we just started dating like i think that's a

04:28:23.020 little bit too much for you to be in my space um because i don't know you like that um you know i'm not

04:28:28.700 having sex with you like this like we're not doing all of that because i'm not into casual like

04:28:33.260 um you know i i want to preserve myself and save myself for someone who's ready to get married

04:28:39.820 someone who's ready for um a strong committed relationship so i prefer to date in that way

04:28:45.340 versus just kind of hooking up and things like that so um i think those would be like my rules

04:28:51.180 like just to be feminine supportive submissive and um you know being a pleasant day and honestly i'm a

04:28:57.180 i'm a great day like i'm i'm super funny super respectful you're always going to enjoy your time with me

04:29:02.220 i feel like i have a lot of great great qualities a lot of things to offer and um mostly it's it's good

04:29:09.100 unless you know it goes bad so okay good times good times did you hear back from any of the guys

04:29:20.940 while you do that we'll pull up the next video here how many of these are okay we'll only watch

04:29:27.260 a portion of this one go ahead nick ladies you have to train the man from the beginning to pay

04:29:33.900 for stuff for you no don't think it's cute being 50 50 in the beginning because you think he's going

04:29:38.860 to be grateful enough and show gratitude towards you later and pay for the whole thing he's not gonna

04:29:44.540 okay he's not gonna that man is going to continue to rely on you for the duration of your relationship

04:29:52.220 however long that is yeah i had a friend recently a good friend of mine basically tell me that her

04:29:59.100 man is pissed that she's not working because she's just had his child just had a baby and is breastfeeding

04:30:05.500 and wants to spend time with her baby before going to work and she doesn't want to leave her kid with

04:30:10.220 a stranger to have to go to work which y'all know that is like number one yeah you gotta train the man

04:30:17.740 how do you train the man though isn't it isn't it just like something the guy is gonna get you can't

04:30:21.900 keep like how would you train me train me go okay so the training stops when you're not willing to

04:30:28.220 do what it takes to please me you can't keep it when i so when i say train i mean um i am allowing

04:30:34.700 you i'm not gonna fit you know how some people some women like they'll go on a first date and they'll

04:30:39.020 fake pay like oh and reach in their i don't do that i expect you to pay so i'm sitting here like this

04:30:43.580 with a smile when the check comes i'm not going in my purse so that's the way i train so it's like

04:30:48.060 i'm looking at you i'm giving you a smile and you're gonna know this has to be paid i'm gonna

04:30:52.460 go into my wallet and pay this okay and so um another way i feel like i would train is uh you

04:30:59.820 know if i want and i'm not really a stickler on um men uh opening doors for me i like it it's nice

04:31:06.860 but if i wanted to do that i wouldn't if we like stopped and we were about to get out i would just sit

04:31:11.420 there and wait for you to get out and then walk around and then open the door for me yep okay you

04:31:15.740 know what i mean that's a training question can we role play a date okay sure so the end of the date

04:31:21.580 right end of the date um so can i be the waiter yeah sure here's your guys's check i hope you enjoyed

04:31:29.660 your meal oh thanks what is that your phone no that's that's the check oh

04:31:41.820 oh you you want me yeah oh okay um

04:31:47.900 oh you know what gosh let me go to the bathroom real quick i have to pee oh i gotta pee too

04:31:51.900 no it's a race um okay okay here's a different different scenario different scenario um let's

04:31:58.780 say okay the check's already come whatever it's in the middle of the table that's the check um and

04:32:03.980 i pull out my wallet here oh um oh uh i don't have any cash and i don't have any cards on me could you

04:32:15.900 get this one yeah for sure you'll never see me again buddy you'll never see me in that scenario i

04:32:23.740 i kind of would have pity on him because it must have been really embarrassing for him to tell me

04:32:26.940 that like a guy doesn't take out a girl that he likes and wants to say i don't have enough money to

04:32:31.340 cover this can you cover it i know his pride is like bruise his ego is bruised and in that case i

04:32:36.620 would definitely pay i wouldn't question it sorry sorry here's another scenario this is some gangster

04:32:42.060 shit right so the guy arrives or more often than not would you say you you arrive on time

04:32:48.620 to the date oh yes or okay so let's say the guy arrived early to the spot you ubered over

04:32:55.500 so he got there a bit early he goes to the waiter and he before the even the dates you don't know this

04:33:00.140 right but the he tells the waiter bring two checks at the end of the date so you don't know

04:33:05.580 but the waiter comes and brings two checks so the waiter goes here's a check for you and then

04:33:10.300 obviously the waiter gives you a check that's happened to me before now in that situation

04:33:15.660 what do you do because he has the check in his hand obviously for his

04:33:19.660 bill then are you gonna like are you gonna like do that no i wouldn't like because if that was the

04:33:28.620 case of that if they because no i've the only time that's ever happened where they split the check

04:33:33.020 when i'm with a man is because he went and told them but typically when a waiter comes to a table

04:33:39.020 and they see a man and a woman they're gonna give the man the check i've never ever been at a table

04:33:42.780 with a man and they've given me the check it's always been the man but but what would you do in

04:33:45.980 that situation i would still be upset if the guy i would be highly upset but i wouldn't show it i would

04:33:50.780 be i would end the date pleasantly and respectfully i'm gonna pay it because it's not about the money

04:33:54.940 it's about um you know him as a person i'm trying to get to know him as a person and he's that kind

04:33:59.820 of person i don't need a date i don't need a second date from him so yes i would pay and then i would

04:34:04.380 never see him again they can tell you even though it's kind of like what if it was the waiter's fault

04:34:08.380 you know oh then i would then he would already snatch it immediately exactly you wouldn't touch

04:34:12.940 it that's true but if that happened that's happened before like one time like the waiter that did

04:34:17.260 happen and i just like okay after the date or whatever it was kind of like a day out um i texted

04:34:23.340 him i was like oh i'm you know i'm sorry is everything okay like are you know are you going through

04:34:28.540 you know a financial strain or something going on with you like is everything okay and immediately he's

04:34:33.660 like what do you mean no i'm good he's like oh okay because i was like i thought that you

04:34:37.740 maybe didn't really have the money to cover dinner because you didn't you weren't i'm the one that you

04:34:43.500 know put my card down or whatever he's like oh no i i he made an excuse like oh i just forgot my

04:34:49.180 card in the car whatever and then he like zells me the more than enough to cover both of our meals

04:34:54.380 and i think again it's out of pride like a man who likes a woman who takes her on a date he doesn't

04:34:58.620 want to be like oh yeah can you pay this for me because i don't have enough money to to date you

04:35:03.500 or to take you on a date instead of that they'd rather save their pride unless they are the type

04:35:08.460 of brokey who's just like no i kind of like it when my mom my woman pays for a day i kind of like

04:35:13.660 it you know that's i think that's the difference okay well i have a couple questions so obviously i

04:35:20.060 think we agree the guy paying for the first date that's kind of him being a gentleman being

04:35:24.780 traditional right i have a couple questions for you guys and i think it sounds like all of you you

04:35:29.420 you would prefer the guy strongly prefer the guy to pay for the first date he's not even prefer like

04:35:33.980 that's that's the only answer it has to you don't pay for me you didn't like me um will you take a

04:35:40.380 last guy's uh excuse me will you take his last name yes of course thousand percent quickly yes okay oh

04:35:48.300 okay all right that's traditional um would you defer to his leadership yes if i if he's my man i trust him

04:35:54.780 him and yes yes can you just tilt the microphone down a little bit it's fine yes i would i think

04:36:01.580 that uh for so long i've been independent and kind of called my own shot so it might be an adjustment

04:36:06.140 period i'm not gonna lie it might be an adjustment to kind of learn to lean on his leadership it might

04:36:10.540 be a little bit more difficult for me in the beginning because i'm used to being an independent boss

04:36:14.620 babe uh what about this kind of relates to the last question would your husband have final say in

04:36:25.100 household matters yes depends which household matters for example let's say i'm paying all the bills i'm

04:36:33.900 i'm you're just doing what you do i guess um i'm really i'm the man i'm the man i'm i'm paying

04:36:44.700 i'm paying all the bills and i'm the breadwinner blah blah blah uh let's say i don't want our children

04:36:52.460 i want our our children homeschooled i don't want to send them to public school i love it i'm with it

04:36:56.860 i prefer that let's do that well okay so in this scenario you actually agree with that but like let's say

04:37:02.780 maybe you're like i don't know maybe i'd like to go have them in public school but my i was like no

04:37:09.420 i'm very firm with this i don't want them to go to public school if he had the money for a tutor

04:37:13.900 someone to homeschool the kids in case i didn't really want to whatever and he we had the money

04:37:18.460 to get help in that area then yes i'm going to trust what he said if i if i chose this man to be

04:37:24.060 my husband that means we already went through a vetting process that i'm going to trust whatever

04:37:27.900 he's saying is right if he's the type of man who's a breadwinner at the point that i'm expecting

04:37:31.980 then if he's saying you know i i think this i'm going to already assume that he's

04:37:37.180 already wagered either way and i'm going to trust him because i'm already in the relationship with

04:37:41.580 him so i'm going to know that he's not just going to have a no reason for it there's going to be a

04:37:44.860 valid reason and i'm going to trust him for that would i appreciate a conversation for sure but

04:37:49.100 ultimately i married you so i trusted you with my life and my body and who i am in my entire career

04:37:54.300 so i'm trusting him about other things shouldn't be a problem sure i would hope that he also trusts me

04:37:59.340 as his wife and his spouse to make uh good decisions and to and he would like he would

04:38:04.780 value my opinion because i am a smart and intelligent woman so i would hope that i married

04:38:09.820 a man that does respect what i have to say and what i think i would hope that someone who's considerate

04:38:15.980 of your thoughts okay working it out i mean i think in general though i mean i do want a leader

04:38:21.020 i don't i it makes me feel better to multiply what you're giving me rather than having to get it myself

04:38:26.700 okay good times and then sometimes it feels great to say you know what i was right you should

04:38:30.460 have listened to me yeah we have a chat here from fdg want to be my boyfriend yeah who are you asking

04:38:38.780 you he asked she asked him when we were making that those jokes she's into you are you short and

04:38:44.540 asian and chubby kinda she might be look no i'm kidding uh that's cute i don't think she's

04:38:51.100 this is like this is kind of like a love connection for you it could be yeah i'm with it she's my i'm

04:38:56.540 with it my sugar mom and no honestly she's giving you what you want she's paying more than half she's

04:39:00.220 paying for you to like exist right now i think she wants a green card to be honest i mean hey here's

04:39:04.380 the deal she might give you 10 grand for it too go for it well the argentina pays it so uh okay we have

04:39:10.460 a question here from stifler ask everyone to rate their looks on a scale of one to ten i'm a ten

04:39:18.620 say it louder for the people in bed i'm a ten um i think it depends on what city i'm in

04:39:25.980 um yeah i think it depends on what city i am i'm in um a number still like boise i'm usually a 10. okay

04:39:33.900 yeah what about you if i'm judging it based on beauty standards i am definitely a three oh okay all right

04:39:41.020 yeah an eight that was a very timid eight but okay i think she's a 10 too i give myself a six

04:39:51.020 six yeah i'm a six compared to who who are you comparing these to like

04:39:57.420 that's what i'm saying like when i answer that question i'm like according to beauty standards

04:40:00.460 if you ask me if i feel like oh i don't i disregard uh european centric like europe

04:40:07.020 euro centric beauty standards i don't even follow because i'm a queen where i come from so

04:40:13.500 you're a queen i'm a queen yeah i guess if we're to like

04:40:17.820 put everybody else's opinions into it they might rate me like a six or a seven oh

04:40:22.460 what would you say i i i every region is different are we talking about oh yeah

04:40:28.940 right and in the caribbean i'm a queen in africa i'm a new york like i'm a 10 so it depends on

04:40:33.500 like what people group we're concerned for like i just yeah you know some places yeah i may i may

04:40:38.860 not be as um attractive as they would like but in some places i'm top tier so it really just depends

04:40:51.020 um

04:40:56.060 so wait 10 and 10 you two three okay yeah all right according to beauty standards i think in my

04:41:01.900 group and my genre that yeah i'm attending my group in my genre like if you're attracted to

04:41:06.220 women who are plus size i think that i'm just like overall though that's why i said like if

04:41:10.620 you're talking about regular beauty standards as far as like western society i mean i'm already chubby

04:41:15.500 i'm black like my hair is curly like usually you know it depends on what people prefer some people

04:41:21.660 prefer curly hair but you know our society doesn't necessarily question are all women tens no why not

04:41:28.140 no because i um i think some women don't take care of themselves some women look raggedy when

04:41:34.700 they walk out some people look like the maid like what are we doing come on you know like

04:41:40.620 some people don't know about upkeep like they're not doing anything so yeah i wouldn't call every

04:41:44.940 woman a 10 and also how you feel about yourself i think has to do a lot with it and i feel high about

04:41:49.580 myself yeah you know what i mean gabby you're beautiful on the inside but come on nobody's a 10 at

04:41:55.580 this table there's no 10s there's no 10s i will say this the men that date me make me feel like

04:42:01.660 i'm a 10 like i they're constantly telling me how gorgeous everything about me is my curves my face

04:42:08.140 my skin like everything so i feel like a 10 with the men that i date so that makes me feel like a 10

04:42:13.020 everywhere yeah that's true good a man should make i posted that too i was like i don't need to be

04:42:16.780 pretty to everyone but i want to be fine as fuck to him yeah and that's that's fine for me so i'm

04:42:21.100 trying to be someone's 10 exactly are you judging us based on beauty standards you don't think we're

04:42:25.420 10s you are i well i think you the three that seems like a reasonable self-assessment i'd say that's

04:42:36.060 fair um i'm not saying i'm not trying to be mean i just don't think either of you are tens i don't

04:42:42.460 think i'm a 10 i'm not sitting over here thinking offended i don't think i'm not i'm hot okay i mean

04:42:47.900 it's coming from a someone who who's not paying for the day right like you call you too you ain't

04:42:53.660 paying for the day so i'm just like i'm not offended and we do that sometimes he looks good but he's

04:42:57.260 going half we went out one time and there was like this fine ass man he was like an nba player

04:43:02.540 level like fine and me and her like shit talking like you know he ain't paying for the day you know

04:43:07.020 he's going 50 50 which one oh i mean okay we go out wait let's get the t the t this guy looks like

04:43:14.860 sometimes yeah characters lebron is it lebron sorry doesn't lebron like have a wife and like

04:43:20.940 yeah three baby mamas i'm like no um but i just mean like we just go out and like you know you

04:43:27.500 would think that a really hot attractive guy we would want to have some kind of interaction with

04:43:32.940 but immediately i just know it's going to be because he's so fine he's used to women

04:43:38.060 simping for him and he's thinking like i don't really have to put much effort in because i'm super

04:43:42.620 tall i'm super handsome like i'm used to women even asking me out on dates and paying so like

04:43:47.820 a guy kind of guy like that i feel like he's just you know he's not gonna give it as much and like

04:43:53.180 i'm not gonna i'm not trying to like prejudge or anything i just mean like from experience i've

04:43:56.940 noticed that and i am not interested in that so i don't care how fine you are you're not doing

04:44:01.820 anything for me yeah okay and we're not for everyone yeah everyone's not for everyone you

04:44:07.260 gotta get in where you fit in yeah you know who's a 10. who this doll right here

04:44:15.580 yes actually she is uh men love her because she doesn't say anything

04:44:24.140 like a what a woman 10. yeah a woman 10. it's a tough one it's a tough one

04:44:29.580 i like to say kristen young kristen kruik who's that yeah i don't know if she's a 10 but she's

04:44:38.300 very attractive i think who's the 10. what's it like i feel like you're almost afraid to call

04:44:43.900 someone a 10. you're like reserving it for something i don't think well 10 is perfect so

04:44:47.100 i don't think anybody's perfect how are we not all perfect we're all exactly how we're supposed to be

04:44:51.500 we don't question you're gonna find you're all perfect there's no there's no perfect it doesn't

04:44:56.620 that all make us perfect in that way though like if you see a dog you don't be like oh you know the

04:45:00.860 tail's too short the tail's too long whatever you just accept it as being a dog and it's perfect in

04:45:04.060 that way how are we not humans the same thing it's different okay yeah people have flaws personally i

04:45:12.700 mean obviously we're talking about physical physical traits but people have flaws you know but so do

04:45:18.140 everyone how does that not make it like how is that not like for me i see that as beauty i love the

04:45:21.900 flaws i love the things that make us unique and different sure but you know when you find the one

04:45:29.180 she's gonna be a 10 for you no no she's gonna be a heavy six she's gonna be half and she's gonna be

04:45:34.300 a 10 for you i think no but it's it's not like you'll be surprised no because i i have there's a

04:45:42.460 there's a sort of almost an objective assessments that you can make of people's physical attractiveness

04:45:47.820 so me personally i don't think that i view myself as like pretty average looking average guy um

04:45:57.820 realistically i'll probably get with a girl who's comparable looks wise who's

04:46:04.140 plus or minus a point looks wise like it's five or six between five and seven i guess i think that's

04:46:10.060 within okay so you round it up what do you mean well you didn't you said you're you think you're a

04:46:15.660 what six six so instead of saying a three to four you round it up to a six to seven five to seven

04:46:23.820 wait well i said i mean you feel like i feel like it's fair you can you can probably go plus or minus

04:46:29.580 in either direction but i i there i'm not gonna land a girl who's a 10 i mean unless she has daddy

04:46:35.900 issues that your mindset you're absolutely right anything you think it's a self-limiting mindset i do

04:46:41.500 do you think or do you think it's just a realistic pragmatic no i do just i have my own experience

04:46:46.460 from when i didn't love myself to when i did and who i was attracting then and who i attract now

04:46:50.540 question for you i'm i'm 34 right now do you think that's uh yeah old man shit over here i'm a

04:46:55.820 fucking i'm a boomer um do you think if my mindset was strong enough i could become a professional

04:47:03.180 nba player if your mindset was strong enough at 34 do you think i'd hell no there's just i'm just

04:47:10.460 being realistic like i don't think i'm gonna get a woman who's uh like exceptionally like in the one

04:47:17.180 percentile believe me you're probably not gonna like her inside and her personality i honestly think

04:47:22.940 you could because in in today's society especially when you're thinking about girls we think are 10s

04:47:27.420 a lot of them like even her people consider to be her to be a 10 but she can rate herself a six

04:47:31.740 and so a lot of those women who society deems really beautiful they have are eight sorry eight

04:47:35.980 but a lot of them have low self-esteem so they'll be looking at me wondering why i've got higher

04:47:40.460 self-esteem than the girl who they consider to be prettier which means you actually probably could

04:47:43.900 pull someone who's better looking than what you think that's true that's why i said dm sometimes

04:47:49.180 you never know you never know i i think typically women i think typically women don't unless the guy

04:47:56.940 is bringing a lot of wealth or status women typically don't date down when it comes to

04:48:01.980 physical so you acknowledge that you don't have wealth and status i i have a youtube channel but

04:48:07.740 like when i'm talking like a guy who a guy has to have and then quite a high level of status

04:48:16.540 like if i tell a girl what i do that's not going to that's not going to elicit like a insanely strong

04:48:28.060 attraction response to the same way that someone who's like a top-tier musician or professional

04:48:34.540 athlete or actor i'd prefer your job description over any of those other ones personally yes but once

04:48:41.180 you got to you want to go have then you've lost me i like men that are good at good with no darn i

04:48:46.780 was really hope i felt like a spark i did i was feeling it too but now we just fucking and now it's

04:48:52.140 just the whole not gonna have to leave it where it's at but i'll miss you i also don't eat pussy so

04:48:56.620 that's kind of a yeah so that was a no-go that was a no-go immediately is that a deal break for

04:49:00.620 you guys if the guy doesn't eat pussy i've dated a guy who didn't before it was it was tough he was

04:49:05.020 a sounds like it was tough it was tough sounds like a cool dude i don't know i feel like after a few

04:49:09.660 years of marriage you'll just be like whatever no i'll be like whatever like i feel like you'd

04:49:14.860 go down you'd eventually go down eventually go down if i'm the only woman that you're sleeping

04:49:18.540 with and being intimate with you'll be like i'm bored let's try you don't want to take like how

04:49:23.100 do you not attracted i feel like that's a manly thing to want to be attracted to that like to be

04:49:27.740 attracted to i've never met a man that seems manly to me that's sexy i think if it wasn't the if we

04:49:35.660 weren't in this dating climate where people are dating and sleeping with a bunch of other people

04:49:39.420 that's the issue there's a high rate of infidelity it makes me very hesitant to uh engage in that

04:49:44.540 sort of behavior and look even with i mean there's a whole bunch of reasons but even with a girl who

04:49:49.340 you've been dating there's obviously you'd never fucking know there could be infidelity also it's

04:49:54.620 like look if you're it's kind of like look if you're fucking a girl and you're coming inside her

04:50:01.500 right ew why are you not using a condom what is happening hello birth control hello no hello

04:50:11.260 hello i don't well if she's your girlfriend you know but like i don't want to go down on a girl after

04:50:16.540 i've fucking why not do it before no no i'm not i'm just saying i like my men a little nasty that way

04:50:23.260 well okay what i'm saying is for example if we are having sex regularly throughout the throughout

04:50:30.300 the week and yeah nuts be busted yeah busting yeah nuts are getting busted right jesus i'm so

04:50:38.060 fucking vulgar okay uh like the next day it lingers yeah great it lingers it changes up the ph balance a

04:50:49.980 little bit but if that's your continuous girlfriend then you should be comfortable and familiar with

04:50:53.500 that because you're right it does we also form to your side that's it will drop out like a day later

04:50:59.420 sometimes i mean that's who you've been dating i don't necessarily deal with that issue would you

04:51:04.460 like kiss your girlfriend after she sucks your dick nope are you crazy sexual wait i wouldn't be honest

04:51:11.260 are you like a germaphobe hang-ups i would i would kiss a guy after he did that with me and i'm not even

04:51:17.580 gonna lie to just go further and respectfully this is probably a little too far but i actually like

04:51:23.340 i'm not gonna oh snowballing what no not snowball but if they if they go if my man goes down on me

04:51:28.460 and he kisses me i like oh that's different like feeling it i like myself i'm always make sure that

04:51:34.460 yeah yeah some girls like to taste themselves you know like if you're fingering a girl and

04:51:39.340 put them on what huh i didn't say that i didn't argue look look look look um

04:51:46.380 no honestly if a girl goes down on me i don't want to

04:51:50.780 because your dick is so gross that you can't handle it in your mouth yo i shower every single day i

04:51:55.980 shower before my girl comes over it's just like you don't like germs it's like it's i wouldn't suck my

04:52:02.220 own dick son so it's like so you wouldn't if you could huh you you wouldn't if you could no i wouldn't

04:52:08.140 suck my own dick what didn't what's his name what's that one singer oh marilyn manson yes removed too so

04:52:13.180 he could i think that's like a urban that's an urban legend but uh no look it's like she just like

04:52:20.460 like did i if i came in her mouth that's like for sure no but even if there was no you showered what's

04:52:26.620 the problem you showered why did you come there's pre-cum i don't know that's your own germs that's

04:52:31.980 your stuff yeah but i don't want to taste did you know that you have taste buds on your balls by the

04:52:36.220 way no what you've got taste buds on your balls and we have them in our vaginas too huh yeah listen

04:52:42.300 listen if you take your balls and dip them in soy sauce you can taste the salt swear to god

04:52:47.260 swear to god i'm randomly smart i saw that it was like a trend it's a lot of guys were doing and women

04:52:52.220 have it too we have it too if you we can taste like what what like let's say like ladies do not

04:52:58.780 put soy sauce in your pussy first off but if you did you would taste it but if you did you would

04:53:03.420 taste it wait actually that shit will fuck you up yeah yeah you'll taste the salt or like something

04:53:08.220 sweet you can taste it in them in your mouth what i don't think i'm gonna try that and vice versa i

04:53:12.380 mean they're connected hello in any case yeah i don't i don't want to kiss a girl after she went down

04:53:17.740 on me well i don't want to kiss a guy unless he's put his balls in the soy sauce so

04:53:20.940 word good times they were both being ridiculous times i don't know where how did we get to this

04:53:27.580 i don't even know we were talking about what the oh i don't know what we were talking about

04:53:31.580 uh oh the deal breakers right okay yeah that's right don't pay for the first date dude don't go

04:53:37.900 down on the girl yeah i got neck problems too so that makes it and you look like you have neck

04:53:42.620 problems it looks like i got wow i'm hurt i'm a little hurt it looks like never mind okay um

04:53:51.260 where where was i going with this uh clap back

04:53:56.940 what does that even mean it looks like you have it didn't mean anything sometimes i say random somebody

04:54:01.020 it looks like you have looks like you have a hand problem yeah or like sometimes i just say your mom

04:54:05.420 your mom yeah it's always your perception you can be insulted okay no i'm deeply hurt and offended

04:54:11.500 wait we have uh sorry i'm trying to pull up my notes here you never told fdg whether you want

04:54:17.100 to be her boyfriend or not she's avoiding you he's avoiding you it's not i think it's it sounds like

04:54:24.780 bullshit i had my boyfriend do it when i dated my last boyfriend i asked him to do it and he he could

04:54:29.500 taste it he was surprised then he had his best friend do it oh my god yeah but couldn't

04:54:33.820 couldn't you also say that he was like smelling no so it's not that you taste this specifically

04:54:38.620 soy sauce you'll just taste the salt you know what i mean like you'll have the salty flavor in your

04:54:43.740 mouth it's why don't you give it a try and let me know how you how it goes i think this is just a

04:54:47.900 ploy to get me to put my balls in soy sauce this is a ploy to see if you've got balls at all

04:54:53.500 i'd rather just not put my balls in soy sauce you know just not it doesn't seem like a great

04:54:59.020 wednesday afternoon to me maybe it's a tuesday activity i'm gonna pass on that but uh you know

04:55:04.780 what think about it i'll i'll consider it i'll think about maybe if fdg pays you to do it listen

04:55:12.300 i'm i'm open-minded if that's her kink i i love that if yeah you know like listen if your girl

04:55:19.020 she's got a little something interesting that she likes to do like get some head huh oh no no no not

04:55:24.380 time not that but look if if my girl if if this girl that i love and care about she's got a little

04:55:31.660 something kinky that she wants to do maybe she's got now obviously there's just some golden showers

04:55:37.100 what about pegging you and whipping you that's a that's a no what about calling you her little

04:55:41.500 boy and step on that that is definitely a no what about peeing on you nope oh my goodness i might be

04:55:47.500 willing to pee on a woman what about choking you nope oh do you have the hand puffs here's the thing

04:55:53.420 right i don't think i could be it would be like anything where i'm submissive i don't think i

04:55:59.580 would like that and yet you want to go half make it make sense jesus christ and and he wants her to

04:56:12.220 get a zoom in on that that's exactly what we need thank you that was the most

04:56:16.300 i want you to go have him in something i wish you would that's actually

04:56:29.500 zoom in give him the zoom in

04:56:34.220 oh ladies and gentlemen look at the face right there who wants you to submit but wants you to pay

04:56:39.340 also we're having a ball with you this was so funny that was so funny

04:56:59.660 yeah i mean it's people are also laughing people watching are also laughing

04:57:04.540 laughing too yeah they're laughing look

04:57:10.860 i'm not even making a face exactly nothing to be said here's the thing right you could actually

04:57:16.220 argue that it's the most dominant thing you could do oh god please that's some dominant

04:57:21.900 shit you pay for the date you pay for the bro boy that that is like that's

04:57:35.740 it's fandom what where's fandom where do i feel that i can be submissive to you the reason why someone

04:57:42.300 might submit is because they feel protected and they feel safe how do i protect it and feel protected

04:57:46.700 or safe to be submissive to you here's the thing right it's almost like

04:57:51.660 here's the social order right the social order is tradition man should pay for the date

04:57:57.820 however you view me in a way you want me so bad that you're gonna pay for the date that's

04:58:05.260 what i'm talking about when it comes to this level we stopped dating those guys i know i have

04:58:09.500 i'm pretty sure she has we've stopped i don't know she's not been dating no but do you see what

04:58:13.740 i'm talking about but we've stopped you see what i'm talking about there are men like you want me

04:58:17.660 so bad that you are willing to break your desire for this and i've done social it never works out

04:58:24.140 it never works out because at the end of the day that's the spaces of our relationship and now when

04:58:28.460 i want to go out can you afford it or you want to go half or i don't really want to go because you

04:58:31.900 want to stay inside and play video game because you don't have money to go out see but this is

04:58:35.020 that's not dominance that's control thank you come on for generation whatever that's the man's

04:58:43.580 problem where's your little bump on that message come on put the bomb message put the bomb but the

04:58:51.500 person who's dominant has control yeah but at the same time you're saying it's very control

04:58:57.740 yeah what's that i'm glad sorry like i was uh what did you just say about sort of missing control

04:59:03.980 no she said her me or her her yeah what what did you just repeat what you just said i don't remember

04:59:09.660 what i was just said i don't remember i like lost my thought we were talking about a man who wants to

04:59:16.700 have dominance but then wants you to go half and i said how can you feel safe or protected and want to

04:59:22.300 be submissive in a place where a man's not making you feel like you're taken care of that's my point was

04:59:27.740 i don't know where we were going from there but i liked what you had to say but we lost it

04:59:31.500 well you know what's interesting though is it's almost like you know if we're talking about

04:59:35.260 dominance submission etc it is women have a lot of soft power when it comes to relationships

04:59:41.660 and you kind of wish to hide the fact that women like women have a lot of soft power i don't want to

04:59:47.740 hide it i want to i want to embrace it i want to use it no but but good not evil but the fact that men

04:59:53.580 have to pay in this way it is like a soft power that women have you have a lot of control over men

04:59:59.820 i mean to be fair you also came wearing your sweatpants and your button up to the date

05:00:04.860 disrespectfully men don't think about as much what we put it a lot into going on these dates yeah

05:00:09.980 like i've already spent i've already spent the 60 to show up makeup i'm thinking a little more

05:00:18.220 more than that but i'm just makeup is expensive it is but not all women put all that much but

05:00:22.700 we end up putting up more because we our brands require us to have show more but as a woman who i

05:00:28.060 mean we did our hair our nails what if i brought my ccw you're what my concealed carry what does that

05:00:35.180 have to what huh then i that shit costs money son but what does it have to do with the date you

05:00:41.900 didn't need it for the date what what what do you mean i'm as you didn't need the gun as a traditional

05:00:47.180 man i need to protect traditional man does not have anything to do with a gun what you have a

05:00:51.740 you could have a steel cane get your little steel cane yeah get your um what's his name from um

05:00:58.540 ann annie doctor you can get your daddy warbucks on with the cane you don't need to have a gun

05:01:03.020 protect us with your pure brute strength wait i have a question for you guys what for do you guys

05:01:10.700 for gun ownership kind of against where do you fall on that for i feel yeah i against i have never

05:01:18.940 touched a gun i i'm a pacifist i would prefer not to touch a gun but i do feel like people uh in some

05:01:26.380 scenarios should have the right to a gun i personally wouldn't they should have more

05:01:33.260 restrictions on them but i think the reason why we originated having guns is so we could protect

05:01:37.340 ourselves against the government so in that case i do but i think there should be just like with

05:01:40.940 cops they should have more regulations and they should do a mental test etc more heavy restrictions

05:01:45.580 on having but i shot one and it was cool so here's here's the scenario right so you're dating a guy

05:01:50.300 you're living with him and uh your apartment that you're living at your house you're living at gets

05:01:57.660 broken into by three men would you prefer your boyfriend in that scenario to have a firearm

05:02:03.980 or to fight defend you in some other way with his firearm or steel can i've dated guys with firearms

05:02:09.660 so i wanted to pop a cap in all of their asses i don't like violence but okay you broke into my

05:02:16.380 house what you doing to my house the guy that i'm dating probably doesn't live in a place that's

05:02:20.700 easily accessible that's exactly like we don't okay i'm not worried we have one more video from

05:02:24.700 gabby then we're going to wrap up the show yay there's still there's actually wait tinder match

05:02:30.380 gone wrong do we do this is this a good one or a different one it's just a story it's like

05:02:34.860 let's go to the next one nick if you can tab over over oh god we love some dating you can keep the

05:02:41.500 window juice oh uh dating men los angeles loser oh this is yours okay yeah yeah sure sure we'll play

05:02:49.420 yeah we'll play a little bit of this i have been wasting no time on the dating apps with these la

05:02:54.220 player loose i've been hitting them with this is my annie is so beautiful so smart how come she can't

05:03:00.460 find a man just like the rest of us she makes very good points in like all of her videos and for all

05:03:07.820 the haters in my comments saying that i don't look good enough and i don't fit the european

05:03:13.500 beauty standards or whatever annie sure does she's a beautiful skinny thin white woman blonde hair

05:03:20.140 blue eyes i hope you don't mind that i'm just pause it pause it but she oh actually let it go for a

05:03:25.420 little bit let me just hear the rest like gorgeous inside and out pause it she has very

05:03:30.060 annie's pretty average looking you think she's average i think she's not ugly but she's pretty

05:03:41.020 average looking i think she's an average looking girl i love that you haven't shown me a 10 what a

05:03:45.660 10 looks like yeah so i don't really know what average i don't think he cares about what they

05:03:49.100 look like he just wants to make sure they can pay for half well i i don't know what a 10 looks like

05:03:53.660 i think she would be considered euro centric beauty standards i'll give you i'll give you what i think

05:03:58.860 is a nine okay nick if you can find young kristen krueck for a show or something smallville never

05:04:06.300 seen it uh let me let me see it might there might be a photo of her in the dropbox folder and you

05:04:12.460 love love her why you gotta have it ready to go he's shooting his shot you gotta have it ready to go

05:04:18.460 sorry fdg don't get jelly right she is really pretty that's a 10 to you hold up i'm trying to find

05:04:25.900 scroll down there's like a i disagree young kristen krueck this is why types are so great

05:04:32.380 that's because i think it's a great thing it's definitely a type thing she's pretty but she's

05:04:36.540 not a 10 in my head when i'm thinking about the one in the middle there uh to the yeah that one

05:04:44.540 uh can you move us over it's not gonna be 16 he might be into that oh my gosh dude she's okay

05:04:54.140 18 year old kristen krueck how about that 18 to 21 year old kristen krueck she looks like a child to me

05:04:59.580 i mean there's more photos scroll down yeah she's really pretty here oh the one actually no no back go

05:05:06.700 back to click uh the one down she has like no makeup on click uh yeah down down a little bit

05:05:13.260 i give her a nine i think she's a nine i think you're into that what would make her so it makes

05:05:17.100 sense that you would give her nine there is no ten there is no ten that's your that is your your ideal

05:05:22.460 nine yeah if i asked the next guy he probably wouldn't if there is no ten then your nine is your

05:05:26.620 ten that's how a curve works so that's that's what you're in she's not a ten she is if that's all you've

05:05:32.860 got is a nine i give her a solid nine i give her and i think but if there's no time it exists you

05:05:36.860 can't that that's that's not logical if there's if a ten does not exist then a nine is the highest

05:05:40.940 and nine then it's an out of 90 well nobody's perfect right nobody's perfect do you think she's

05:05:44.940 like the closest woman attractiveness is not about perfection i don't know if she there's probably i i

05:05:49.500 would say i could probably find other women who i think are probably more attractive than kristen

05:05:55.660 krueck however like i think she's a very attractive woman how about megan fox

05:06:00.300 um when she was younger yes i'd say she's very attractive you think she's less attractive

05:06:07.820 because she's older yeah i mean that's just reality no i think she still does the same botox

05:06:13.660 facials all the things that you do when you have money i think she was more attractive what i don't

05:06:18.220 know how old she is uh oh i don't know so the older you get the lower in and scale and that's how

05:06:25.900 the rate that's why they know it's just it's reality about our time and they don't it's reality

05:06:30.460 look i think even i mean you can make the case that perhaps some men can age gracefully and look

05:06:36.060 more attractive i would argue that for both men and women that as you get older you become less

05:06:42.060 physically attractive it's just that's reality i think you become more of a woman and i feel like

05:06:48.860 the the girls that you've like presented here they look like they're 16 so yeah if men are

05:06:53.580 attracted to more prepubescent women i would say yeah then that's like yeah not a grown woman

05:07:00.060 i'm not saying that like she's not grown but i'm just saying that looks very very young it looks like

05:07:03.660 my my high school brother's friends yeah they look very young they're very under they're undeveloped

05:07:09.020 which is fine but that is something that you're showing that you are attracted to this is why it's

05:07:13.740 important to know that beauty fades there's a biological basis for this men are attracted to

05:07:18.540 youth and fertility i got better with time men won't even say that like guys from high school

05:07:22.140 and stuff they think i look better let me ask you a question do you think you're going to be more

05:07:24.620 physically attractive in 10 years or now depends what i do day to day if i could if i go hard in

05:07:29.820 the gym i think i'll probably be more attractive no in 10 years you're not going to be more attractive

05:07:35.020 in 10 years than you are now okay that's a bet i'll see you in 10 years okay i don't i think i'm

05:07:40.940 i'm not going to be more attractive in 10 years that's because you are respectfully a white male

05:07:44.540 i'm going to get better okay all right i mean look it's just it's just the reality we we age

05:07:50.940 our skin but people age differently they do you're telling me you there's like no woman that's 40 years

05:07:59.980 old right now that you would not like be attracted to that's different though okay so i'm not saying

05:08:04.220 that you can't be attractive in your 30s or even your 40s i i've dated women i did the 45 year old

05:08:11.500 um okay granted she didn't have children she was half an asian woman so uh but what i'm trying to

05:08:19.900 say is for example i think jen like in the vast majority of cases probably all cases you take a

05:08:27.500 woman at 21 compare her to to herself at 31 she was more attractive at 21. i'm not saying she's not

05:08:35.980 attractive at 31. i'm just saying like i feel like part of the attraction is that you're gonna get

05:08:42.140 away with more with a 21 year old than you are with like a 31 year old yeah so i feel like part

05:08:46.780 of the attraction is the control that you would have on her because she's a young experience yeah

05:08:50.940 so it's like that is more attractive to a man that wants that kind of control because yeah she's gonna

05:08:55.580 like let me get away with things that maybe a 31 year old wouldn't no it's not even that because

05:08:59.740 i could even make this assessment with women i have no chance of dating you could just show me a photo

05:09:04.700 it's just physical that's 21 versus a woman who's 31 and i have no there's there's no

05:09:10.620 relationship dynamic it's just purely looking at her physical attractiveness i would almost

05:09:16.140 ultimately almost always say that the 21 year old is more attractive than the third 31 year old based

05:09:21.500 purely on physical appearance okay but how much does that uh play into who you actually date and who you

05:09:27.340 actually get because i see a lot of gorgeous 21 year old women with not so gorgeous men so like you

05:09:33.420 know what i mean obviously yeah they may be gorgeous but they're not exactly dating someone

05:09:38.060 who's just as gorgeous as them all the time like how much does that play into what you actually date

05:09:46.460 so you're wait okay very little tell what your type is based on what you actually accept to date

05:09:53.260 yeah because you just said you dated a 45 year old well if you're if you are saying that like 21

05:09:58.140 year olds are more attractive than that 45 year old you dated then why why would you even give that

05:10:03.020 45 year old a chance because she's not attractive to you the younger they are they're attractive so

05:10:07.260 like if she's 45 and she's older than you why even date her like why even like pursue that no but i

05:10:12.380 already said that you obviously like you're if you're 30 35 40 45 you can still be physically attractive

05:10:20.780 but just in terms of argumentation since we're talking about it yeah a woman like 10 years later

05:10:29.980 i think across the board you're just going to be more attractive at 21 versus 31. he's not wrong

05:10:39.260 it's not perception it's just biological reality let me ask you a question i agree about 30 years

05:10:44.140 in 30 years are you more attractive now or in 30 years it depends what my idea of beauty is

05:10:48.540 i hear what you're saying but what i'm saying it has very little impact to dating and relationships

05:10:53.980 and marriage because you can see any random lady off the street who's 21 years old that's gorgeous

05:10:59.660 dropped it gorgeous and beautiful but you end up marrying someone who's a complete opposite of that

05:11:04.380 type that you deemed beautiful so like just men thinking that women that are younger are beautiful

05:11:08.860 does not lead to them in a marriage and a healthy relationship getting all the things that come with

05:11:14.220 long term you can admire eye candy for sure right but that doesn't have any impact on your

05:11:19.820 relationship marriage dating life oh i'm not saying i'm not saying because i'm i find women who are like

05:11:25.260 21 more attractive than 31 year olds that that necessarily means that i can get them or that they're

05:11:32.140 going to be attracted to me but just if we're purely having a uh conversation about it then i would say yes

05:11:38.380 like i do think women are more physically attractive at 21 versus 31 okay or at 25 versus 35 okay yes

05:11:47.340 because it's just like biology the body starts the skin everything and you get wrinkles yeah that's

05:11:54.620 why i got it's a new beauty i wouldn't have to deal with i think there's beauty in aging i think that like

05:11:59.340 women accepting and embracing their age as they grow older i think that's beautiful but also you know i don't

05:12:05.820 know no i'm not look i'm not saying we're talking about that earlier i'm not saying i'm not saying

05:12:11.660 at 30 or 35 or 40 as a woman there aren't men that are that men are going to find you attractive

05:12:18.620 but just from a purely uh conversational point of view from a purely argument like if we're having a

05:12:25.500 debate on it yeah then you want you want to hit them out on the peak of attraction i have conversations

05:12:31.660 in the sauna like daily and when i talk to men like that like they don't express the same thing

05:12:36.620 that you're expressing that you prefer a woman to be younger or like she said a little prepubescent

05:12:41.020 where they don't have no it's kind of okay you're saying okay hold on because the women you're saying

05:12:44.940 prepubescent is a very specific thing we're talking about this conversation the framework is adult women

05:12:51.820 right but what makes prepubescent you're talking about like 12 year olds but we're talking about the

05:12:55.820 way they look like we've highlighted that for a while like when you think about and obviously all

05:13:00.860 women come in different shapes and sizes but when you think about a woman you think about curves you

05:13:05.580 think about the fact that their hips their hips are that used to be a thing oh her hips are child

05:13:11.740 birthing hips it was well now you're shaming women who don't i'm not shaming no no but you're you're

05:13:16.620 saying that a woman who doesn't fall in line with a particular curvature of her body no she's less of

05:13:22.780 a woman no i'm not saying what i'm saying is what you're attracted to is not necessarily the standard

05:13:27.820 for a woman well i have a wide range of what i'm attracted to i a woman who's got big tits and a

05:13:32.940 fat ass that's great but also like a woman who's a bit more petite that's great too that's why i said it

05:13:38.380 has no impact on who you date who you marry and what your lifestyle is yeah you can but but you're

05:13:43.180 trying to pathologize men who are attracted to women who if a if a woman doesn't fall into big

05:13:50.220 fucking titties big ass curvy body that that's somehow like he's like a pedo or something

05:13:56.700 that's not at all like there are there are there are mature there are mature adult 25 30 35 year old

05:14:04.460 women it doesn't matter what age they are they don't have that for sure for sure but what i'm

05:14:09.340 saying is your standard wait but let me ask you a question let me ask you a question what so a guy

05:14:13.500 who's attracted who finds a 35 year old woman attractive who doesn't have a curvy body that is

05:14:19.900 that more problem like is that problematic compared to a guy like there's some 18 19 20 21 year old

05:14:25.740 women who are thick as fuck who've got the womanly men too it's confusing right but like at these body

05:14:33.820 types can at any age can be the case my only quarrel was that you saying that because they were younger

05:14:39.660 that they're beauty right what you were basically saying younger adult women all i'm saying is that

05:14:43.660 you're you right now are deciding the staple of what is beauty and not beauty and i come into contact

05:14:49.740 with men daily who don't agree with you i mean they're probably just telling you that because they

05:14:54.940 want to fuck you they they they have nothing to do with me it could be my brother it could be my friend

05:14:59.580 this is just randoms in the sauna who got wives but here here's the thing right i can sit here and

05:15:04.940 tell you i find women who are 35 or 40 or 30 i find them attractive but i it also happens to be the

05:15:12.860 case that i find women who are 21 attractive for sure and comparatively speaking i can sit here and

05:15:19.580 say generally speaking i think women are more attractive at 21 than they will be at 31 it's just

05:15:25.100 it's just reality i'm saying that's your opinion in the same way in the same way that i i think a 31

05:15:30.940 year old is more attractive than a 61 year old it's just aging i literally just talked to a guy

05:15:35.980 in high school would be like leonardo dicaprio for some or i don't know why he came to my head but a

05:15:41.340 lot of women would think that he's a he was a lot more attractive when he was younger than he is now

05:15:46.460 100 okay that's what i'm saying is it's just a preference because i literally just yesterday had

05:15:51.340 a conversation with this guy who was really cute from high school hi um he i was like he was like wow

05:15:56.300 you're looking so fine i was like different from high school he was like yes he's like you've you've

05:16:00.700 aged well and so and this is but this is something continuously from a lot of high school kids that

05:16:06.140 i've known and like you would claim that i was probably better looking then or even in college

05:16:10.700 they claim that i am better looking now and it most i mean if you can show me a photo and i can

05:16:15.100 give you an honest opinion i mean i guess but at the end of the day i think it's really more how i

05:16:19.660 carry myself i think brian is talking about like the norm but what is the norm he's he can't

05:16:25.500 no they've done studies they've done studies on this like like they've done no they've done studies

05:16:31.900 men are like across most age demographics like if you like younger if you do an analysis of like if

05:16:38.060 you show men pictures of women at like various adult women here we're talking about adult women yeah

05:16:43.420 across various ages they typically say they this is across men from 18 to i don't know i forgot exactly

05:16:51.740 they they did a study on this i think 40 50 men it's like 21 22 that's the age range where

05:16:58.460 men find women to be the most attractive yeah that's the peak that doesn't know that's not saying

05:17:02.700 yeah that's not saying that you can't be attracted to a woman who's 30 35 40 but the women are 21 22

05:17:08.460 they're still single so what's what is it to say about that oh i don't know about that but that's

05:17:12.300 what i mean so it doesn't matter if she's really attractive at 21 she's not getting married at 21 so

05:17:16.380 what are we doing here yeah that's true word let's let's do the dating app reaction then we're going to wrap up

05:17:21.580 the show we'll do uh the two dating apps and then we'll maddie can you read this really quick

05:17:30.140 before nick oh actually uh yeah i've enjoyed listening to you ladies but you exhibit significant

05:17:35.740 denial bmi over 35 increases risk by 130 for heart failure 60 for heart attack 107 for diabetes among

05:17:44.540 other issues acceptance is fine but please don't kid yourself about your health risks another internet

05:17:49.580 doctor thank you for your solicited actually i hit the sauna daily which lowers your heart attack

05:17:53.900 risk of 80 percent if you're hitting the sauna daily if you're hitting it for 15 minutes i think it's

05:18:04.860 like a certain amount per week i'd try to hit at least 30 a day but hitting the sauna reduces your

05:18:09.900 risk of heart attack 80 percent also increases your blood flow and circulation which also decreases your

05:18:14.780 chances of getting diabetes and other things um so i guess it just depends on what you do i know

05:18:19.740 thin people that don't work out and they'll eat a whole a whole box of oreos and sit at home and watch

05:18:25.580 netflix all day but nobody's telling them nothing uh let's pull up the uh okay so this is from your hit

05:18:34.060 this is from your bumble um nice ass thank you is it's meant to be if you make sure i eat and make me

05:18:42.060 laugh yes okay i like to be fed and i like to jokes i like uh next oh okay um okay this one uh yeah all

05:18:51.180 right um i'm a scorpio if you wanted to know i already got people loving next there you go

05:18:57.020 okay oh this is misty's profile now next misty

05:19:03.260 okay next i have a video of my body so they're not confused when they go on the date with me

05:19:08.620 uh have a special skill or super knowledgeable on something show me life is an adventure i'm here for

05:19:13.100 the journey okay like so uh super knowledgeable on something so um do you play world of warcraft at

05:19:21.420 all because look uh here's the thing right i like to think that i'm very knowledgeable when it comes

05:19:27.260 to world of warcraft as somebody who had four level 60s in classic get this right 60 rogue 60 60 warrior

05:19:35.100 60 warlock 60 mage son wow that's right world of warcraft world of warcraft classic you know we

05:19:44.700 i'm very familiar with all the boss mechanics and molten core i know the like and we also my guild

05:19:52.220 we not only did we do instance raids but we did outdoor raids so like the world bosses so lord

05:19:58.540 kazakh azergos we had that shit on farm and we were competing with other guilds for like tags on the world

05:20:04.860 bosses and shit but we were constantly getting we got the tags all the time we were scouting like hardcore

05:20:10.700 we would within a minute of the world boss spawning we would get the tag we would have 40 people in

05:20:18.940 ashara 40 people in blasted lands the tainted scar we would get kazakh we would get azergos we're getting

05:20:25.500 that crystal adorned crowns we're gonna get the fucking loot we're gonna get empyrean demolisher

05:20:31.100 from kazakh even though we were horde maces aren't that great for horde like because human like alliance

05:20:36.620 it's usually like a little better for for human warriors right human warriors human rogues because

05:20:44.060 they got the mace and the sword skill right passive racials of course now here's the thing right here's

05:20:49.180 what you gotta understand then green dragons comes out in like phase four or whatever we were getting

05:20:54.300 the four dragons too that's really impressive i don't think you're are you turned on right now i'm

05:20:59.420 not gonna lie your passion and your knowledge and the words that you're using that i have to ask about

05:21:03.660 what they mean if you're my man i'm so about it let's world and warcraft together i'm about it

05:21:08.220 here's the thing you wouldn't get to the point to be able to talk about world and warcraft because

05:21:12.540 you already are asking for half on the first date so it doesn't matter oh period respectfully oh

05:21:22.220 okay yeah cool um

05:21:25.340 you know what i mean like i do like i love that you got nerdy like i've you know i've dated guys with

05:21:29.580 anime we got we got uh travel i go crazy for travel generosity water also i'm in my 30s hello

05:21:35.420 wait next one yes also i'm in my 30s not 28 but i can't change it now yeah they won't let me change

05:21:40.940 it you just you just put it lower so that you could match with uh no actually i tried to change it but

05:21:47.580 they wouldn't allow me to because i don't want a man who accidentally put your agent wrong well no i

05:21:52.700 put well here's the thing is i could change it before and i wanted to show it to someone and

05:21:56.380 they wouldn't let me change it back so that's just wait you're in your 30s i thought you said

05:21:59.340 you were 28 forever yeah do you want to reveal you want to google

05:22:05.900 do you do you feel like i don't like people judge you if you say in my career specifically

05:22:12.140 i literally had an agent say thank god you're not 30 otherwise i don't know if i'd be able to sign

05:22:16.220 you meanwhile that agency has been with me for three years and we've booked three at least three

05:22:20.780 projects yeah big one so you know yeah i'm definitely judging this industry and i don't i'm not gonna

05:22:26.140 i'm not gonna let my money slip because someone wants to know my age yeah i feel you're willing

05:22:30.380 to like compromise and be like you know the one thing i told myself because i don't like lying

05:22:34.300 yeah the one thing i told myself when i moved to california is i moved out here for my career

05:22:37.500 i want to find these other things as well but i'm gonna lie about one thing i'm not a good liar i

05:22:41.500 don't like to keep track of lies one thing i'm gonna lie about is my age and i'm gonna be honest

05:22:45.420 with the fact that i'm lying about it if you can't settle with that then you know that's you thing okay

05:22:50.620 all right well yeah there you have it folks uh go to twitch.tv slash whatever guys before the

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05:23:04.140 sub if you have one uh a thing for the prime thank you guys thank you for the primes i do have to wrap

05:23:09.260 up here so thank you guys so much appreciate it if you're on twitch i'm gonna raid somebody let me get

05:23:14.220 that going i got some haters too on my instagram no don't say that they love you they love you

05:23:20.540 shaming we will stop fat shaming that's what this guy x famous said so guys last call please hit the

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05:23:30.540 but you're here with me yeah i appreciate that thank you to everyone who soup chats donate supports

05:23:35.900 the show thank you to the panel thank you to our chat mods uh let's see any women who want to be

05:23:41.980 on the show dm at whatever on instagram uh any women who are considering getting a labia place d my

05:23:47.740 dms are open i will talk you out of it uh bd underscore alice we'll see you again we'll be live

05:23:54.140 again tuesday at 5 p.m pacific uh let me see who i'm gonna raid really quick on twitch before i wrap up

05:24:00.220 the show here what does that mean what does what mean raid oh it's like you're hosting uh let me see who's

05:24:07.500 live we got ampi i don't know if she hold on let me just check what ampi's up to um do we do ampi or

05:24:17.260 do we do bobca i'm gonna raid it might be his girlfriend though i don't know who uh one sec guys

05:24:24.860 i'm gonna see who else i oh shit hold on sorry guys or do i do i could raid bobca and let's do uh

05:24:33.340 we're gonna raid ampi all right so on twitch we're gonna raid ampi he's world he's the guild

05:24:38.140 leader of frontier uh hardcore classic hardcore um so i'm gonna send the raid over on twitch to ampi

05:24:46.300 tell him what's up tell him to come on the whatever podcast all right guys raid scent okay guys

05:24:54.140 tuesday 5 p.m pacific we oh wait body count body count zero zero wait really i mean i just mean

05:25:03.660 that i'm not like gonna say it okay i'll know okay all right guys see you next time good night

05:25:09.980 thank you for tuning in guys

05:25:12.380 bye

Whatever Podcast - September 25, 2023

Obese Girl Would NOT Date Obese Man？! PLUS SIZE BBW PANEL! ｜ Dating Talk #103

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